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MISS CHASITY ROSS BOEN
Publisher/Executive Editor: David Vandygriff publisher@cityxtramagazine.com
HALLOWEEN GAY HOLIDAY
Editor In Chief: Harvey Carr editor@cityxtramagazine.com
-David Vandygriff
-Jake Russell
Creative Designer: Jason Smith designer@cityxtramagazine.com
BE RESPONSBILE -Dr. Harvey Carr
Sales Department: Carlos Martinez sales@cityxtramagazine.com
I DON’T WANT TO BE RUDE -Tyler Curry
5 LEGAL THINGS CREDIT CARDS -Atty Gordon T. Nicol
IN LOVE WITH A BAD BOY -Michael Smith
cityXtra Magazine is published by cityXtra Magazine, LLC. 2941 Plum Street Jacksonville, FL 32205 (904) 410-9592 www.cityxtramagazine.com Like us on Facebook/cityxtramag Twitter/cityxtra
Contributing Writers Laura Riggs, Dr. Harvey Carr, Attorney Gordon Nicol, Meredith O’Malley Johnson, Tina Vaughn, Jake Moore, Tyler Curry Editor HIV Equal Online, Sebastian Fortino, David Vandygriff, Joey Amato Publisher Unite Magazine
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MISS FLORIDA F.I. 2015 CHASITY ROSS BOEN By David Vandygriff
The etymology of the term "drag queen" is disputed. The term drag queen occurred in Polari, a subset of English slang that was popular in some gay communities in the early part of the 20th century. Its first recorded use to refer to actors dressed in women's clothing is from 1870. Queen may refer to the trait of affected royalty found in the personalities of many who do drag (whether this is their normal personality or a character created for the stage). It is also related to the Old English word "quean" or cwene, which originally simply meant "woman", then was later used as a label both for promiscuous women and gay men.
talents of what at cityXtra would call “old school” drag, is what the art of female illusion, drag, or female impersonation is all about. Her perfect score in Talent for the Miss Florida F.I. is a testament to Chasity’s true abilities to entertain you and the masses.
Chasity’s smile and piercing eyes will warm your heart and take your soul to another universe, all while enjoying one the best female illusionist in Another term for a drag queen, female the business. A true ICON that most have taken impersonator, is still used—though it is sometimes for granted in North Florida, but now the newly regarded as inaccurate, because not all crowned Miss Florida F.I. 2015 is getting the contemporary drag performers are attempting to recognition she truly deserves. pass as women. Female impersonation has been and continues to be illegal in some places, which The new venues that will now experience her art inspired the drag queen José Sarria to hand out form, will no doubt be blown away by her pure to labels to his friends reading, "I am a boy," so he magic entertain. could not be accused of female impersonation. hope American drag queen RuPaul once said, "I do not We the rest of impersonate females! How many women do you Florida know who wear seven-inch heels, four-foot wigs, and skintight dresses?" He also said, "I don't appreciates Chasity as dress like a woman; I dress like a drag queen!". much as we Celebrity drag couple "The Darling Bears" go so have in far as to sport full beards for their performances, North Floriwhich could also be referred to as genderfuck. da and fall Going in drag while retaining clearly masculine in love with features is referred to as skag drag. Some her as we performers draw the distinction that a female all have impersonator seeks to emulate a specific female over the star or celebrity, while a drag queen only seeks to years. A create a distinctive feminine persona of his or her true artist, own. true Chasity Ross Boen is a staple within our local humanitarian, and true North Florida Community. She can be seen friend to performing from Bo’s Club, InCahoots, thousands. Hamburger Mary’s, to Metro. A true lady of excellence with the most stunning costumes. The
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HALLOWEEN GAY HOLIDAY By Jake Russell
To understand the global appeal of the Halloween holiday, go back to its origins. Those origins are found not in mystic Celtic folklore, but in modern gay culture. Halloween is overwhelmingly an adult holiday. This year, for example, Americans spent an estimated $800 million on costumes for children, $1 billion on costumes for adults. Where did that adult dress-up party begin? As best we can tell: in San Francisco's Castro neighborhood. In the 1970s, that neighborhood emerged as the heart of a new home-owning, bourgeois, coupled gay community. A local variety store had long sponsored a Halloween street festival for kids. In the 1970s, the street festival transitioned into an adult party of lavish costumed theatricality. The "Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence" -- a troupe of transvestite nuns -- got their start here. The Castro Halloween party spread to other gay neighborhoods in the 1980s: Greenwich Village, West Hollywood, Key West, Florida. In 1994, University of Florida anthropologist Jerry Kugelmass published a book on the new trend, "Masked Culture," describing Halloween as an emerging gay "high holiday."
Christians forget how much of the modern Christmas music they enjoy was written by Jews, starting with the most popular of them all, Irving Berlin's "White Christmas." The majority culture forgets what the minority culture has produced. The "masked culture" first developed by the gays of San Francisco has reached across the lines of orientation -- and now jumped across the boundaries between nations and languages. It's not just a party. It's an ideal of personal emancipation, self-expression and self-fulfillment -- an ideal that loses none of its power when it takes the form of a sexy nurse's outfit. In hindsight, the marriage between Halloween and the LGBT community feels obvious: Halloween is a holiday so perfectly suited to queer culture, it feels like it was made just for us.
Halloween is the one night a year when all people, regardless of sexual orientation, participate in the campiness that characterizes so much of queer culture. And after a while -- the straights imitated. “Camp” is a complex, plurivalent term that’s From the spread of disco in the 1970s -- to typically used to connote a certain “artificial, the habit of paying money for sparkling affected,” and “exaggerated” style of behavior waters such as Perrier -- culminating in that “fuses elements of high and popular Halloween, gays have incubated and culture.” Drag queens are classic camp, developed major cultural trends. Straights because they reduce queens and pop stars adopt, and then ungratefully forget whom alike to the same level playing field of they are adopting from -- just as American hyperfeminine gestures and mannerisms. www.cityxtramagazine.com 9
BE RESPONSIBLE By Dr. Harvey Carr The USS Astoria (C-34) was the first U.S. cruiser to engage the Japanese during the Battle of Savo Island, a night action fought 89 August 1942. Although she scored two hits on the Imperial flagship Chokai, the Astoria On board the was badly damaged and sank shortly after transport, Staples, for the first time, closely noon, 9 August. examined the life belt that had served him so well. It had been manufactured by Firestone About 0200 hours a young Signalman 3rd Tire and Rubber Company of Akron, Ohio, Class Elgin Staples, of the Midwest US, was and bore a registration number. swept overboard by the blast when the Astoria's number one eight-inch gun turret ex- Given home leave Staples told his story and ploded. Wounded in both legs by shrapnel asked his mother, who worked for Firestone, and in semi-shock, he was kept afloat by a about the purpose of the number on the belt. narrow life belt that he managed to activate She replied that the company insisted on perwith a simple trigger mechanism. sonal responsibility for the war effort, and that the number was unique and assigned to only At around 0600 hours, Staples was rescued one inspector. Staples remembered everyby a passing destroyer and returned to the thing about the lifebelt, and quoted the numAstoria, whose captain was attempting to ber. It was his mother's personal code and save the cruiser by beaching her. The effort affixed to every item she was responsible for failed, and Staples, still wearing the same life approving. belt, found himself back in the water. He was picked up again, this time by the USS Presi- When we always do what is right, the person dent Jackson (AP-37), he was one of 500 we help the most in many ways is most likely survivors of the battle who were evacuated to to be our own self and that of our loved ones. Noumea.
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I DON’T WANT TO BE RUDE By Tyler Curry
“I don’t want to be rude, but I just don’t want to date a guy with HIV. How can I turn him down without hurting his feelings?” It is one thing to talk about this issue with your supposed HIV-negative friends, but it is quite another to ask an openly HIV-positive person such a question. The truth is, it is your prerogative to date whomever you wish and no one has the right to shame you for your decisions.
undetectable viral load through treatment is probably your safest bet for two reasons. One, because they gave you the information you need to take the proper steps to protect yourself, whatever your method of protection may be. Two, However, you asked how you could reject because there has never been even one reported someone because he is HIV-positive in a polite case of a person with an undetectable viral load manner. In order to do so, you need to inquire transmitting the virus. about a person’s status during the first meeting if not sooner. It is not up to the person to disclose If, however, the reasons you don’t want to date an their status to you before sex enters into the HIV-positive person have nothing to do with the equation, so if you are trying to weed out HIV- safety of your sexual health, then by all means, positive folks, you need to screen your date as avoid them. Maybe you don’t want people thinking early as possible. Ask what their HIV-status is in a that you are HIV-positive. Maybe you are too text or give them a call so that you can turn the afraid to be with someone who has dealt with situation into a friendly vibe before letting the such hefty life issues. Don’t feel bad about it; you romantic feels set in. do you. It doesn’t matter, because any self-respecting person with HIV probably wouldn’t But before you relax and proceed to your dating want to be with you either. life as normal, it is important to figure out why you are against dating someone who is HIV-positive. If There is one thing, though, that you may be it is to protect yourself from getting HIV, it’s my surprised to find. As more people become obligation to warn you about your false sense of educated about HIV and invested in fighting the security. The truth is, 91 percent of new infections stigma that comes with living with it, you may find stem from a person who is either unaware of their HIV-negative guys who are turned off by your HIV status or has yet to begin treatment. And from “negative only” mentality. someone who knows a thing or two about reading into statistics, it would be safe to assume that a But I digress… Find out their status right away person who has yet to start treatment would also and end things before they begin. That way, you be hesitant to disclose their HIV status when save yourself from getting to know someone who asked. It’s not science, but I’d put 20 bucks on it has a disease that has nothing to do with the anyway. person he is, and he can find someone who is worth his time. You may think this next thing I am going to say is just a ploy to convince you to date poz guys, but you and your sexual health would be remiss to dismiss it. A person who willingly discloses their HIV status to you and who has achieved an
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5 LEGAL THINGS ABOUT CREDIT CARDS By Atty. Gordon T. Nicol
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IN LOVE WITH A BAD BOY By Atty. Gordon T. Nicol
Lets face it we all love bad boys; they “seem” to have qualities that we “seem” to lack. They “appear” confident, they “appear” rebellious”, they appear “hyper” masculine, they “seem” to challenge us, they “appear” mysterious as well as appearing like they do not need anyone or anything. They are the brooding artist, the poet, So what’s happening here? the daredevil. In reality they are nothing more than Put in the simplest of terms, when we fall in love our own projection. with someone, we raise them in our esteem often When pushed or challenged, they fall depleting our own. Their opinion, their behavior, apart, choosing to run away than face things, what they say, what they do in relation to us when held accountable, they deflect in order to becomes all-important. Why? Because their protect a very fragile ego. They fear intimacy and returned love is what raises our own esteem back closeness because they are afraid of being to normal. The pain of unrequited love or worse, trapped and constrained, they want their freedom criticism, put downs, and various other kinds of yet are prisoners of their own making, and theirs distancing behaviors or even still worse, the mixed is not a choice but a compulsion. They are not so message variety, is that our esteem is lowered, mysterious they just don’t want to be seen for who our sense of self and self-worth is shaken and the they really are and of course, the more you chase, only way to get it back is to do whatever we can to the more they run. get them to love us in the way we need to be loved and we will do whatever it takes. But They are sensitive mostly to themselves and often because we are in a regressed state, our use this sensitivity to manipulate others into emotions unstable, we will do things that will have getting what they want. They are often seen as the reverse impact and cause more problems and charming, thoughtful etc., but in reality this not more distance. some altruistic behavior on their part. No, for This kind of love turns us into beggars, begging to them, it is about their needs met and giving you, be loved, willing to do almost anything to get the at least in the beginning a good ole narcissistic love object to love us back. Making you a pathetic rubdown! creature. Your anger, that should be directed at Now here is the real kicker, the proverbial icing on the cake! You already KNOW this. That’s right, instinctively you are aware of their fragility and it compels you to protect them, care for them, cater to them as well as forgive them over and over again. Now forgive is not really the right word here, it is more like condone their behavior over and over again. This of course just traps you in a catch 22. The reality is that we have projected important parts of ourselves onto the other person. Our strength, our confidence, our independence and our vulnerability.
them is directed at you instead trying endlessly to figure out what you did wrong or what you could or should do to make things right.
You may even find yourself talking to anyone who will listen and when they side with your frustration, you will find yourself defending the one you love. This merry go round is not so merry. Getting off is not easy if you don’t have the right kind of support and the right kind of help. Yes, it will run its course and eventually the relationship will fizzle out, but then you always have the ability to start all over again with another version of the same guy, unless you have done a major overhaul on your own psyche!
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