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CONTENTS VOL. 4, ISSUE 6

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Legal Corner Religious Corner

PROFILE 08

IN EVERY ISSUE

Murder In Riverside

DOWN TO BUSINESS 03 10 16 20

Content Community Divided: Personal Vendettas Legal Corner: Opening a New Business Religious Corner: Love

COVER STORY 13

SELFIES: The New Sex Thing

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Murder In Riverside Written By: Michael Brayson

A 20-year-old Villa Rica man was found murdered in Camden County, Ga. Jan. 30 leading to the arrest of 34-year-old Jeremy Christian Pittman, of Jacksonville, Fla. Jacksonville police say Robert Glenn Hucks was murdered by Pittman after the two left a Jacksonville bar, together. The two got into an argument and Pittman allegedly murdered Hucks that night before dumping his body in the woods in southeast Georgia.

Adam Brown said during a press conference that police did a wellness check at Hucks' apartment during the investigation but found nothing amiss and no signs of foul play. Brown also said Hucks has ties to Kansas, though he did not say exactly what those were. Brown said the case was upgraded to a missing person's case and a homicide team was brought in later as evidence mounted. Pittman had agreed to a voluntary interview with Jacksonville police on Jan. 30, and was arrested once the remains were found.

“He was very gentle, very honest, and very southern,” Boycrush Studios director Andy Kay told cityXtra, a publication dedicated to LGBT news. “I can't think of a single negative Evans and other family members refused to thing about him.” give up hope until that point. Evans even Misty Evans, a cousin who still lives in Villa drove to Jacksonville to distribute fliers lookRica, told the Florida Times-Union Hucks was ing for infomation on Hucks' whereabouts. excited about his move to Florida. Friends held a vigil for Hucks in Jacksonville's "I could see Glenn being happy there,” Evans Christ Church of Peace on Feb. 8. Hucks' told the paper. "He just always wanted to live body was autopsied at the Georgia Bureau of in Florida. He was gay and he felt like he fit in Investigation crime lab in Savannah. Neither the suspect nor the victim had previous there.” criminal ties. Hucks was a graduate of South Paulding High School and also went by the names Ryan Ray Gibson and Ryan Morrisson. He was first reported missing by his mother on Jan. 16. His remains were found several days later by Camden County Hunters and Pittman was arrested just hours after the discovery. Pittman is now awaiting trial in the Duval County jail. Jacksonville police did not release a cause of death. Pittman’s arrest report lists his address in the 2200 block of Lake Shore Boulevard in Jacksonville and his employer as the U.S. Postal Service in St. Marys, Ga. Jacksonville Sheriff's Office Chief Investigator 8

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Community Divided: Person Vendettes Written By: David Vandygriff

As we have seen over the past 3 years in Jacksonville our LGBT clout has grown. From politics, straight allies, local acceptance, and over whelming victories on the nation stage, we have come a long way baby. However, with that being said we cannot say the same about some local individuals, businesses, and organizations that just can’t seem to stop the blame game. One says it was his or her fault it failed. One gay business owner telling staff not to go here or there. Another gay business owner saying his/her staff cannot participate in that event at another venue. All the way to I hope they dress appropriate or I hope that group does not show up for this community rally. Geez Louise! Stop it already! Well dear Xtra’s we are here to call bullshit and say grow the f-up. We as a community

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must learn to appreciate and tolerate our differences in a way that sets the example for the rest of the World. Instead of looking at the bad parts or mistakes a person may have made, why not look at all the good? Stop and ask yourself today this simply question, “Does the person’s good outweigh the bad?” In most cases the answer is YES. Drop the conditions you and I have placed upon our brothers and sisters and simply learn to accept one another as we seek to be accepted by the World.

HUG. We are all in this fight together and at some point will need each other like NEVER before.

I’m writing today in order to help bring about closer in some small way and help push our wonderful community forward. Sometimes we all need a gentle reminder to not be so harsh and judgmental upon our brothers and sisters. Instead lend a hand, gentle ear, firm advice, and a BIG

None of us are without mistakes in our past, present, and future! It’s how we deal with those mistakes that defines us an individual and ultimately as an emerging LGBT Community to the World. Go forward into the light Carol Ann and do us PROUD!

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SELFIES: The New Sex Thing Written By: David W. Vandygriff

In 2013, the word “selfie” was entered into the Oxford Dictionary, after years of people taking self-portrait pictures with their mobile devices and sharing them with others mobile-to-mobile and online. Instant transmission and unlimited data plans have made it much easier to snap a picture, upload it, and share it with a friend, lover, or the entire Internet-connected world.

picturesque adornment. Find a color that compliments your skin tone and really makes your boobs stand out, and pick an alluring texture, like a peek-aboo lace. If you don’t want to cover up, consider setting the camera’s timer and playing

The process is so easy that many of us out here take naked pictures and share them with folks we either deeply trust or don’t know from a can of paint. There are pros and cons to sending “nudes,” of course, and here are some etiquette tips on taking the best pictures and avoiding major embarrassment.

The absolute worst things I see in selfies are filthy mirrors and messy backgrounds with clothes and trash thrown all over the place. If you’re habitually messy and don’t clean regularly, you have other priorities that come before taking naked pictures. If you’re in the moment and feeling yourself, make sure you don’t completely ruin the whole picture by posing in front of dirty underwear or a mirror filled with toothpaste splashes and hard water stains. It takes less than five minutes to get it together, so put in some effort to not come off around with how you hold them. as trashy, literally. Lift them, grab them, or pinch the nipples—get familiar with Some may disagree, but I recommend leaving your face your body and have fun with it. out of your pictures, and if you If taking pictures of your penis, have any uniquely identifying let’s keep it real—you likely want marks (such as tattoos), I to show off your size. If you can recommend doing what you can brag about length, you want to to cover those up or crop them make sure it translates in out of the picture. You might be pictures. Some men line up their thinking, “Well, how will the junk next to remote controls or recipient know it’s me?” If lotion bottles, and while it sharing with an intimate lover,

Know Your Angles A picture is worth more than 1,000 words, so pay special attention to capturing the most flattering image possible. Start by practicing taking your selfies from different angles and in various poses. You’ll likely find that some angles come across better when captured than others, and you’ll feel more confident about how you look in the image. No one has to know it took you 50 tries to get the perfect picture; all that matters is that you put your best body part forward. If taking pictures of your breasts, for example, a sexy bra makes a 12

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sounds cheesy, some people are actually turned on by being able to connect with a common household object. If girth is your strong point, point your camera downwards and maximize the width in the frame. I believe erect is best for these selfies, but some guys get by with flaccid penises because they’re packing like stallions. I’m not judging. Consider the Bigger Picture

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chances are great that the person can recognize your body in a picture. If you’re sending it to a new boo with whom you’ve been building a textual relationship, he or she is simply going to have to take your word for it, because it’s too soon to send all-inclusive pictures. Besides, snapshots of body parts play up the alluring mystique, and the suggestive nature leaves them wanting more.

We see a lot of “exposing” on social media, usually after relationships turn sour, particularly in a phenomenon called “revenge porn.” This is when someone takes sexually explicit images and shares them publicly, usually online, without consent. And guess what? It’s against the law in an increasing number of states. Even if you can bring charges against someone for

Proceed With Caution Here’s where things get tricky. You must know that any and everything you put online is forever, and can absolutely come back to haunt you. I think most Internet users have regretted something they’ve written or posted online, wishing they can take it back. A naked picture can either ruin one’s career or launch it, so vetting the recipients is extremely important. How well do you know this person? How comfortable are you on this social media platform? How secure are you in your sexual agency that you can handle the picture ending up in your mother’s inbox or as a Tumblr meme? It’s worth having conversations with the intended recipient about your apprehension and getting a verbal agreement to keep things private. Is this a guarantee? Absolutely not, but the person can’t pretend you didn’t say, “Don’t leak my nudes!”

leaking your nudes, however, chances are the damage has already been done, and you will be forced to deal with the aftershocks. So what should you do if your nudes are leaked? Well, you could simply refuse to comment or deny, especially if there are no identifying markers in the picture. That can backfire if the person proceeds with screenshots that prove you sent it though, so be mindful.

Remaining silent and not dignifying the revelation with a response forces attention back onto the person who leaked them. Most people agree that leaking nudes is a violation, so you’ll likely have a lot of support. You can claim the nudes, explain that you sent them in confidence, express your feelings of betrayal, and ask that people stop spreading them. That’s a tough pitch, but there are still some decent people out there. You can also own them and let them run—hey, some of us don’t feel bad with people seeing us naked. Many folks post naked (or nearly naked) pictures on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook anyway, so what’s another? No one likes to feel “exposed,” but some are better equipped to wade the tide of jokes and backlash. So if that’s you, run with it. If you take away anything, let it be that you control your image, you set the stage, and you decide who is invited to your show. Always consider what’s at risk and what you have to lose should your naked pictures get out. Even if you feel no shame about your nudity, your employer might take issue with how that reflects upon the company, for example. If you’re free to let your freak flag fly, heed my earlier advice and make your naked selfies images that rival the best centerfolds. cityXtraMagazine.COM

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Starting a New Business: Part One Written By: Gordon T. Nicol, Atty

To start a new business there an idea – What steps should are significant legal issues. This have been taken in advance to topic is crucial and will have sev- limit potential liability? The Intereral parts. This is the first part of the series.

based on what you wish to accomplish. If you pick the wrong type, or don’t follow up when it is necessary you would have wasted your time and money.

For the initial concept formation and research: You may think you have a wonderful idea that is unique and are ready to move forward. You get money from friends and family; you begin working on the “product” or “idea” spending weeks, months or possibly years perfecting. You are now ready to launch your product or idea. A week after you have begun your business you get a letter in the mail called a “cease and desist notice.” The notice informs you that your business is in violation of some or many specific issues and that you must stop or the other party may file a law suit. You have no idea what happened, you have to hire an attorney asap and get involved in a very expensive legal battle. By this time, you have spent all of your friends and family money, mortgaged your house and have no way of funding the potential litigation.

Understanding the differences in what sort of Patent, or if one is necessary, is critically important. The price of a Patent is also varied, based on the type acquired. Protect your investment and consult with a lawyer knowledgeable about all facets of business to help you decide what is necessary. Our shared goal is not too spend your money but help you make money. We want to develop a long-term, rewarding , business /legal relationship with all our clients.

In developing a product or idea there are a number of critical legal concerns, including but not limited to, the following. You had developed a product -What could you have done to protect yourself in advance from this happening? You had developed 16

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net is not the answer to your questions. Regardless of what anyone says, “if it is on the internet it is NOT always true.” Or you have developed a product and don’t want anyone to “steal” it and use it for themselves; so you get a Patent. Everything is moving along and someone comes out with an identical product and is taking away your clients. You had a Patent so what has happened? There are many types of Patents

The above article is general in nature and should not be relied upon for specific legal advice. Every legal situation is different. Gordon T. Nicol, Attorney at Law Your Jacksonville Lawyer 7545 Centurion Parkway, Suite 108 Jacksonville, FL 32256 E-mail : helpdesk@yourjacksonvillelawyer.com Ph : 904-384-4911

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Religious Corner: Love Written By: Dr. Harvey Carr

I was Content to accept Grey skies of sadness, Turbulent seas of loneliness, Cold days of gloominess, Long nights of emptiness. Content to accept Unfulfilled life without love, Unfailing marriage to work, Unending pain of being alone, Undeniably dying within. Until you! I have Contentment in Blue skies of happiness, Calm seas of peacefulness, Warm days of cheerfulness, Starry nights of loveliness. Contentment in Committed life filled with love, Confidence in the strength of “us,” Continuous joy of sharing together, Concertos of life anew. Because of you! ---Harvey Carr, February 2011 ©2011, Harvey Carr

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