KO Magazine, Summer 2011

summer 2011

KO magazine

on a mission:

Newly adopted statement guides school community

inspires students to excel and to lead lives of integrity and involvement by nourishing their talents in a community of Kingswood Oxford

teachers, friends and families.

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

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letter from the head of school

18 commencement

2 on a mission

24 advancement

11 Dale was ‘always ready to help'

27 class notes

12 Dudek helped guide students to next step

42 in memoriam

13 Anderson took care of us all

43 tribute

14 varsity fall sports

44 KO classic

16 varsity winter sports on the cover The Kingswood Oxford School mission statement, adopted in June 2009

contact information

Kingswood Oxford School, 170 Kingswood Road, West Hartford, CT 06119; 860-233-9631 Please address general comments to Sonya Adams, ext. 2815, e-mail adams.s@k-o.org. Send information for Class Notes or In Memoriam to Meghan Kurtich, ext. 5013, e-mail kurtich.m@k-o.org. Send address changes to Patricia Laros, ext. 5016, e-mail laros.p@k-o.org.

Editor: Sonya Adams | Class Notes Editors: Meghan Kurtich, Rob Kyff | Copy Editor: Rob Kyff | Graphic Design: Ford Folios Inc. Photography Credits: Audrey Adu-Appiah, Richard Bergen Photography, Debby Hyde, Amy Omana, Chris Troianello Notice of Nondiscriminatory Policy As to Students Kingswood Oxford School admits students of any race, color, or national and ethnic origin to all the rights, privileges, programs and activities generally accorded or made available to students at the School.

It does not discriminate on the basis of race, color, or national and ethnic origin in the administration of its educational policies, admission policies, scholarship and loan programs, and athletic and other school-administered programs.

KO Magazine is published by Kingswood Oxford School. Š 2011 by Kingswood Oxford School Inc. All rights reserved.

letter from the head of school Kingswood Oxford alumni have thrived and excelled for more than 100 years because the School’s mission has been clear and alive from the very beginning. Although the language within our mission has changed over time to better reflect the here and now, our core raison d’être, our fundamental purpose, our unique focus and expertise, our vital and inviolate characteristics, and indeed our educational, genetic makeup have not.

KO to this day provides a rigorous, broad and deep college and life preparatory education within a uniquely relational culture of opportunity in which students advocate for themselves and others and ultimately become confident, ethical, global citizens at home in the world. We are a day school and fully understand and appreciate the strong bonds among school, home and the ko s u m m e r 2 0 1 1

extended learning community. It is through this foundation that we help our students realize their talents, passions and goals.

The latest rearticulation of our mission statement was crafted during our reaccreditation and strategic planning in 2009 and has since been our anchor and the lens through which the board and the School plans, evaluates, thinks and measures itself. Strong students; strong learning, teaching, and innovation; and strong relationships are at the very core of our success.

Dennis Bisgaard Head of School

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on a mission Newly adopted statement guides school community The entire KO community strives to live by the School’s mission statement: Kingswood Oxford inspires students to excel and to lead lives of integrity and involvement by nourishing their talents in a community of teachers, friends and families. In the pages that follow, KO Magazine offers insight into a few of the “teachers,” “friends” and “families” who have made KO such a special place throughout the years.

Goodwin's ‘great wisdom' has lifelong effects By Andrew Chapman ’73 Editor’s Note: The author of this piece, Andrew Chapman ’73, had been asked to share highlights of his relationship with James A. Goodwin ’28 before Goodwin passed away April 7, 2011, at age 101.

Chapman’s words serve as both a glimpse into the veracity behind KO’s mission statement and a fitting tribute to an alumnus and longtime teacher.

Jim Goodwin ’28 helps a student during one of many trips outdoors.

Finally, I had found a class I liked. I was in 7th grade, which at my new school with its British origins, was Form 1. After 12 years of memorizing multiplication tables and reading “See Spot Run,” here was a class about rocks, streams and mountains – things I saw all around me – taught by this patient man with an engaging smile and a gentle demeanor. Jim Goodwin went on to become a very important person through my adolescence and remains a guiding light now.

Adolescence is a risky time for a boy.

Performance expectations ratchet up. The pressure to prove physical prowess can encourage risky pursuits. Parents – guides in earlier stages of life – become persona non grata. The potential for a bad outcome is high, particularly for those who do not excel at, or aren’t interested in, organized sports.

“Mr. G” showed many boys a different path, in the Earth Science room in the basement of the Nicholson Building, on countless Saturday outing club trips and in the Adirondacks.

The Earth Science course, while not heavy

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science, was fun and interesting to a boy who had spent any time outdoors. Mr. G started with basic geology (igneous, sedimentary and metamorphic rocks, the difference between a rock and a mineral …) and moved through the basics of hydrology, mountain building, landform evolution and even the then-new theory of plate tectonics. A demonstration of Old Faithful provided good theater. Each student made a clay relief map of the United States, thereby embedding the physical geography of his country into his student brain. Mr. G taught us budding outdoorsmen how to read a U.S. Geodetic Survey contour map and how to navigate with a handheld compass.

I certainly learned life skills in that class. My compass, which I carry everywhere, recently proved more useful than my colleague’s iPhone when navigating London’s Underground. I can read a landscape, which proved very helpful during my 20 years in the water-utility business.

On Saturdays, Mr. G made the bookwork come alive on countless hikes and bicycle trips around

Greater Hartford and Southern New England. I recall, as a 7th-grader, signing up for the Talcott Mountain skyline bike trip. I was the only student who showed up, but Mr. G didn’t cancel the trip for lack of interest. He commandeered his son Tony Goodwin, and the three of us left Kingswood, rode north through Bloomfield, up Simsbury Road to the pass over the ridge, and then pushed our bikes up a gully to the ridge above King Philip’s Cave. I was exhausted.

Mr. G was not. South we rode along the ridge, past the Heublein Tower, across Albany Avenue, along Deercliff Road, and then east on a series of trails through the Hartford reservoirs back to school.

Another trip took us to the rock pile on the side of Mount Frissell, where the borders of Connecticut, New York and Massachusetts intersect. And then there was the winter climb on skis with Mr. G and my father up the Thunderbolt Trail on Mount Greylock in Massachusetts, and a hard run down through deep, windpacked snow.

This was all so much fun that several of us petitioned Headmaster Bob Lazear to create an organized sport called “Mountaineering and Cycling” with Mr. G as our leader. With the merger of Kingswood and Oxford during the early 1970s, Oxford students began participating in the program as well.

The program was so popular that we had to split into two groups. One group headed off with Mr. G to learn rock climbing. I can see him now, on his three-speed Raleigh bicycle with a pack on his back and climbing ropes over his shoulder, riding up Farmington Avenue, and up further still, to Kilkenny Rock.

The rock-climbing instruction was serious and safety oriented. We all wore helmets; we NEVER tossed anything off those cliffs. We learned our knots; we NEVER stepped on a rope. The commands were consistent and unambiguous – “Belay on?” ko s u m m e r 2 0 1 1

“On belay.” “May I climb?” “Climb away!”

Meanwhile, the others rode bikes to the Hartford reservoirs and used map and compass to find “registraria” (aka tobacco cans) hidden in the woods by Mr. G. over the prior weekend. Accordingly, we were the first to practice orienteering, which later became popular among the outdoor set. The program was physically rigorous and taught lifelong skills, along with a respect for risk and the outdoors.

The high point of the year was our winter trip to the Adirondacks, an adventure that included both Kingswood boys and Oxford girls. In the 1940s, Mr. G built a cabin at the trailhead for the Great Range (the Wolfjaws, Gothics, Saddleback, Basin, Haystack, Mount Marcy) and Porter, Cascade and Big Slide. Woodstoves heated the kitchen and living room; there was no running water in the winter. It was really cold – the nights were rarely above 0 degrees Fahrenheit, and daytime temperatures were in the single digits. The climbing conditions were severe – deep snow required snowshoes, and crampons were necessary at the higher elevations. Make a mistake, and you’re in big trouble.

As always, Mr. G was undaunted, fully prepared, patient with us and very careful.

He equipped us with snowshoes and crampons, and ensured that we brought suitable winter gear. He always seemed to have extras if needed. He carried a pack with a sleeping bag in case we were caught out. Off we trudged through the snow, led by a veteran of the 10th Mountain Division, first ascender in the Canadian Rockies and member of the American Alpine Club. While we spent most of our time down low because it was safe, we climbed Porter and Cascade one year and the col between Gothics and Basin another. He taught us that there was no honor in taking stupid risks. He had hiked these trails and climbed these peaks countless times, so this was not

challenging for him. However, he was our teacher, and he was there to present us with a suitable challenge.

And there was a fair amount of fun. I recall him breaking out in song from his days at Camp Hale with the 10th Mountain Division as we shuffled along – “Give me skis and poles and klister And let me climb way up on Alta Vista!

You can take your snowshoes

and burn them, sister.

And everywhere they went,

they gave their war whoops!”

Civility was always practiced. The table was set for all meals. Mr. G always served himself last. He never raised his voice.

Always the Kingswood master, he wore a tweed jacket and tie somewhere under those layers of winter gear, even on the mountain.

I revered him. He chose to spend his time with us. He imparted great wisdom about the outdoors and about life. He taught us that a life properly underpinned by commitment and respect for others and the outdoors was of great value. Because he cared so deeply about us, we learned to respect ourselves. Even though he was leading us, he constantly sang our praises.

After six years roving around the hills of New England and the Adirondack Mountains, we felt well along on the journey to adulthood and confident that we could handle what came before us.

Andrew Chapman ’73 oversees utility investments for Macquarie in New York City. He is a director of Puget Sound Energy, Duquesne Light Co. and Aquarion Water, which are Macquarie investments.

He lives with his wife, Lise, and their three children in Millburn, N.J. In his spare time, you will find him hiking or out in his boat with his family, or in his workshop. KO 3

trust develops between mentor, students Creative arts teacher Mark Kravetz is an ardent Yankees fan, and senior Ryan Marinelli is a diehard Red Sox fan. But that hasn’t stopped them from developing a powerful master-apprentice relationship.

backstage production. He designed and built sets for several productions, ran the follow spotlight and even volunteered to sweep the stage floor.

“When you get a kid who wants to sweep the stage, that’s a special kid,” Kravetz said.

Taking Kravetz’s technical theater courses and working with him on student productions for the past four years, Marinelli has immersed himself in the world of stagecraft – building sets, hanging lighting fixtures, engineering sound.

But what Marinelli loved most of all was audio engineering – arranging the placement of microphones before a performance and then using a complex mixing board to blend and balance speech, sound effects and music during the show. “Ryan likes music, and he likes computers,” Kravetz said, “and he quickly saw what computers and audio have in common.

Audio is the hardest thing in technical theater to learn, but Ryan is always up for a challenge, and he was eager to learn it.”

It’s a relationship based on affinity, respect and mutual passion. “He’s like another father,” Marinelli said of Kravetz. “We share a love of the craft. After an afternoon rehearsal, we’re still there in the booth, making a list of things we can improve. We’re happy to be there and really enjoying working with each other.”

Kravetz sees it as a partnership between equals. “I almost feel as if Ryan is a colleague of mine,” Kravetz said.

“We push each other to improve our skills and knowledge. As an audio engineer, he’s gone beyond anything I can do.”

Mark Kravetz and Ryan Marinelli upstairs in the booth in Roberts Theater

Marinelli’s career in stagecraft began with a bang. Literally. After suffering a concussion during freshman soccer practice, he was forced to find another fall activity. So he scrambled up to the lighting booth in Roberts Theater and asked Kravetz if he had an opening on the fall technical crew.

“He was much more mature than the average freshman,” Kravetz said. “It was like a gift to me.” Soon Marinelli was exploring all areas of

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During the School’s performance of the musical “Into the Woods” last February, Marinelli sat behind a soundboard in the back of the theater mixing the input of 21 wireless microphones.

“He ran it flawlessly,” Kravetz said. “As an audio engineer, he has an incredible ability to equalize, to balance highs, mediums and lows. He can hear feedback before it happens.”

And he’s unflappable. In the middle of the 2010 school musical, for instance, the stage lift jammed in the raised position, leaving the pit orchestra stranded up in the air. Marinelli immediately ripped off his headset, jumped into the pit and pressed the reset button on the lift’s control box. Problem solved.

Marinelli has expanded his passion for audio beyond theatrical productions. He now DJs at local dances and selects the music for KO’s morning assemblies. Last fall, he engineered the audio for a West Hartford Symphony Orchestra performance featuring several live narrators, including Kravetz.

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girls form special bonds through good times and bad the five girls soon became inseparable. “We have fun doing literally anything,” Gottlieb said.

For the first time, Glover felt comfortable enough to talk with someone outside her family about the experience of being ill. “All of them were very kind and wanted to hear all about it,” Glover said. “They said, ‘You’re so brave. I can’t believe you went through that.’ ”

Julia Rosenthal, Lauren Marchetti, Chloë Glover, Emily Gottlieb and Emily Gutermann, all members of the Class of 2011, are what Dean of Students Carolyn McKee calls “a wonderful example of true friends.”

In September 2004, a week after completing her last round of cancer treatment, Chloë Glover entered KO as a 6th-grader. She had been in the hospital for nine months and knew no one at the Middle School. During the first few weeks at KO, she couldn’t walk up the stairs or carry her backpack; she wore a wig and a hat to hide the fact that she had lost all her hair. “She was deathly afraid that someone would take off her hat or make fun of her,” her mother, Marilyn Glover, remembered.

But at KO, the young girl would be sustained by two lifelines of support – and soon by many others. Her brother, Paul, was a KO senior, and her sister, Abbey, a KO sophomore. Both mobilized their Upper School friends to keep an eye out for Glover, to say “hi” to her on campus and even to let her walk across the Senior Green.

“Their friends reached out to me and made me feel very included in the KO community, plus, it made me feel really cool,” Glover said.

By the end of March, Glover’s hair had grown back and so had her confidence. During the next three years, as her siblings graduated, Glover forged strong bonds with four classmates whose friendship would support her throughout her KO career: Emily Gottlieb, Emily Gutermann, Lauren Marchetti and Julia Rosenthal.

Sharing classes, sports teams, extracurricular activities, sleepovers and trips abroad together,

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When the discussion in a sophomore biology class turned to the aggressive multiplication of cancer cells, Glover was overwhelmed. In tears, she rushed out of the classroom. Realizing what was wrong, Rosenthal immediately left the class to comfort Glover in the hallway. “I told her things would be fine,” Rosenthal said. “I was patting her back and holding her hand. Talking isn’t always best. Hugging helps her a lot.”

Likewise, Glover has also supported her friends through their own difficult times. “She’s consistently there for me,” Marchetti said. “She’s good at listening.” When Gottlieb was seriously ill, she turned to Glover for support. “She was definitely the person I could relate to,” she said.

“She knows how to deal with it.”

Glover says her experience with cancer gives her a useful vantage point. “When I was so sick,” she said, “I didn’t really worry about the little things that a lot of my friends do, so I’m able to provide them with a wider perspective on their problems. … I can be goofy, and serious, but I always try to make them laugh.”

The five girls, now seniors, say their deep friendship is based on their similarities as well as differences. “We each bring something unique to our friend group, but also share many of the same interests, which has helped us become closer and bond over the years,” Marchetti said. They also share a quirky take on KO and the wider world.

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time at KO helps forge true friendships By Keith Wolff ’91 As I look back on my five years at Kingwood Oxford, I have so many fond memories of the School and the friends that I developed. I was fortunate enough to be in an exceptional graduating class (1991), which had a strong group of students, and we all helped one another at various times throughout our KO years.

KO Class of 1991 members Keith Wolff, Matt Kaplan, John Gillies, Gordon Hamilton and David Mitchell hang out during their days at KO.

One particular friend was Gordon Hamilton.

Gordon’s nickname – “G-Love” – was so fitting because he got along with everyone. He brought a smile to everyone’s face and made us all laugh.

Both Gordon and I grew up in Manchester, Conn., and we competed in sports for many years prior to KO. We came to KO and played basketball together along with Scott Farrell and many others, but Gordon, Scott and I played together each year, our first year on the junior varsity team and the next three years on varsity.

Gordon and I were the last two players cut from the varsity team our freshman year. I will never forget coming to Coach Andy Thomsen’s homeroom to check the updated player lists. The last time we went up, Gordon looked at the list first, turned to me, gave me a big hug and said, “We got cut, but at least we’re together.” Our J.V. team ended up going 16-1 that season.

We had four great years of basketball together, finishing up by winning the Class B New England Prep School Championship in our senior year. In fact, in that game against Cushing Academy, we had not led once during the entire game until,

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with a few seconds left, Gordon hit a layup off my pass to win the game. We all joked that was my only assist all season, but it was an important one.

As I look back on my years at KO, Gordon and I shared a special bond with many of our closest friends. We would spend almost every weekend hanging out at Matt Kaplan’s house, and other times we would go over to David Mitchell’s house for a special pasta dinner that Mrs. Mitchell would cook for me, Gordon, Mitch, Matt, John Gillies and Josh Caley. Those times together were very special because we were all facing similar challenges as we were getting ready for college, but we were able to help one another get through difficult times, whether these were personal or academic.

As part of a wonderful group of prefects, Gordon and I had the opportunity to oversee the incoming freshman class. We enjoyed those times as school leaders, and Gordon epitomized what a role model for KO should be.

We had plenty of laughs as well, and one particular memory sticks out. During our senior year our parents gave me, Gordon, Mitch, Kaplan and Gillies a graduation gift: a Caribbean cruise together. One day on the cruise, Gillies and Kaplan went out on a Jet-Skiing trip, but Mitch, Gordon and I decided we would go snorkeling.

As we started to head out a ways in the water, Gordon and I were both watching each other’s back because of our inherent fear of sharks, while Mitch went ahead of us. When we finally caught up to him, another snorkeler swam by and said that, if we followed the piping along the bottom of the ocean, we would find a barracuda a little ways out. Mitch and I looked at each other, agreed that it would be great to see a barracuda, and decided to go out.

All of a sudden we realized that Gordon wasn’t behind us. Gordon hadn’t said a word but had

swum so fast toward shore that he was almost walking on water. By the time we turned around, he was already on the beach. Mitch and I laughed so hard we almost drowned, but, needless to say, the two of us swam out and saw the barracuda.

A true sign of friendship is how one reacts when faced with adversity.

Gordon sadly passed away more than six years ago, and since then, we have lost three more classmates: Larry Norman, Chris Conrad and Tara Savin.

In each instance, the outpouring of love and support from classmates for one another as we coped with these losses was tremendous. We are celebrating our 20-year reunion this spring, and, although Gordon, Larry, Chris and Tara will not be there, they will certainly never be forgotten. That is why KO is such a great school.

Keith Wolff is an insurance and investment advisor and owner of Wolff Financial Group LLC in Manchester, Conn. He lives in Ellington with his wife, Kris, and two sons, Jackson and Devin. His greatest joy is coaching his boys in sports, particularly basketball. KO ko S u m m e r 2 0 1 1

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Marinelli attributes his skill and discipline to the master. “He sets clear guidelines for what he’s looking for in your work,” Marinelli said of Kravetz. “There’s a strong rubric.”

Moreover, the group provides a zone of safety and comfort. “When we’re together,” Gottlieb said, “I’m so myself.” And it’s also a source for honest feedback. “They give me a nonbiased view,” Rosenthal said. “I trust them to tell me if I’m being ridiculous.”

When guiding or correcting students, Marinelli said, Kravetz is kind and supportive. “He’d say, ‘Ryan, I noticed you brought up the wrong mic at that point. Try to keep an eye on that next time,’ ” Marinelli said. “I never felt like I was shot down, self-esteem wise.”

Marinelli especially appreciates Kravetz’s willingness to let him learn for himself through hands-on experience. When Marinelli grew flustered during his first attempt to run the mixing board, he expected Kravetz to jump in and take over. But he didn’t. Instead, Kravetz told him, “Ryan, I’m going to stand next to you, and we’ll do it together.”

Creative arts teacher Lud Baldwin, who has worked closely with the pair during the past four years, said their strong affinity is based on their similarities. “They’re both very smart, hardworking and self-effacing,” he said. “They really enjoy figuring it out, and they love it when they get it right.”

Even the Red Sox-Yankees rivalry has brought Marinelli and Kravetz closer. “I love talking about baseball,” Marinelli said. “Before March break, we sat down in his office and chatted about spring training.”

Dean of Students Carolyn McKee has been close to the girls for four years. “These girls are a wonderful example of true friends,” she said.

“They have supported each other through all of the drama of high school. They have laughed and cried together – sometimes doing both at the same time.”

On March 17, 2011, the seventh anniversary of Glover’s cancer diagnosis, she sent a text message to her four friends thanking them for their support during the years. “Becoming so close to them and being so comfortable with them,” Glover said, “has helped me grow and mature. I don’t know if that would have occurred if I hadn’t had such a good group of friends in our close KO community.”

Graduation from KO will be bittersweet for the girls, but they’re confident their ties will endure. “We don’t think our friendship will end,” Gutermann said. “We’ve created a bond and will stay close for a long time.” KO

Marinelli said the bond he’s forged with Kravetz has changed his life. “It’s been a special four years,” Marinelli said. “A trust has been built up.

He’s been a mentor, a friend and a buddy through it all.” KO

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they feel a love of school, family

Yearbook photos show Louise Galt Pease ‘50, Joan Erdman St. John ‘46 and Sally Erdman Newell Belding ‘43 during their days at Oxford.

It was the late 1940s. World War II had ended, West Hartford was booming in population and prosperity, and teenagers from all over town flocked to the home of Oxford student Louise Galt (Louise Galt Pease ’50) on North Quaker Lane, just a few blocks from Oxford School.

Pease’s parents had turned a screened porch into a second living room and furnished it with big couches, a record player, a radio and a piano to create the perfect teen hangout.

And hang out they did. Students from Oxford, Kingswood, Loomis, and local public and parochial high schools gathered there often on weekdays and weekends. The room was filled with talking, laughter and music as the kids spun records and danced to Frank Sinatra, Tommy Dorsey and Harry James.

Pease loved it. “It was the center of everything,” she said. “The kids started referring to it as ‘Galt’s back room.’ On some days we had as many as 28 kids there. I wasn’t counting, but my parents were!”

Being able to retain and nurture her friendships with childhood friends and enjoy a rich social life outside of school, Pease said, was a prime advantage of attending a day school like Oxford.

“You get much more of a feeling of cohesiveness if you live at home,” she said. “There’s a sense of belonging – to a family, a neighborhood, a community.”

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During her years at Morley School and Oxford, Pease cherished everything about life in West Hartford – swimming at Fernridge pool, skating and hot chocolate at Elizabeth Park, watching “National Velvet” at the movie theater in the Center, piling with her friends into the rumble seat of a neighbor’s car for a cruise on Mountain Road. “West Hartford was friendly and warm and had good stores,” she said. “The people were nice, kind and considerate.”

Many of Pease’s Morley friends moved on to Oxford with her – Leita Abbott ’50 from Auburn Road, Anne Buckley ’50 from Foxcroft Road and Margaret Landry ’49 from Fern Street. But she also spent time with her elementary school friends who had gone on to Plant Junior High School and Hall High School. “I liked everyone I knew from West Hartford,” she said.

And that included her two cousins and fellow Oxford students, Sally Erdman (Sally Erdman Newell Belding ’43) and Joan Erdman (Joan Erdman St. John ’46), who lived nearby on Concord Street, just a block from Oxford. In fact, Pease and her Erdman cousins shared a strong Oxford heritage. Pease’s mom (Eleanor Williams Galt ’24) and Sally and Joan’s mom (Sally Williams Erdman ’20) were sisters, and both had attended Oxford along with a third sister, Betty Williams Carter ’18. continued on page 10

siblings, parents value their relationships After school one day two years ago, KO 8th-grader Victor Rosas-Granda Jr. climbed into his father’s waiting car.

schoolwork. “My parents knew I was involved in many activities at KO,” Melody said, “and they didn’t want me spreading myself too thin. ‘You have so much going for you here,’ they told me.

‘Make sure you balance things.’ ”

“Dad, I have something to tell you,” he said.

“It’s a daily conversation,” Victor Sr. said. “We can share our feelings face-to-face every day. The love we pass to them is so important.”

“What happened?” asked his father, Victor RosasGranda Sr. “I won the election for Middle School Student Government president,” Victor Jr. said.

His father’s face broke out in a wide smile.

The Rosas-Granda family – Silvia, Melody ’10, Victor Jr. ’14 and Victor Sr. – vacation in Washington, D.C.

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“That smile made me even happier than being chosen,” Victor Jr. said. “I was able to see that he was really proud of me.”

Victor Sr. and his wife, Silvia, cherish being able to share such personal moments with their children. They’re delighted that their son, Victor Jr., now a KO freshman, and daughter, Melody, a 2010 KO graduate who has just finished her freshman year at Providence College, have enjoyed the benefits of a KO education while still sharing a rich life at home with them.

On Friday evenings, with no pressure to complete homework for the next day, Victor Sr. would take a meandering route home through Hartford so his children could savor the sights and sounds of Spanish and Chinese neighborhoods and the aromas from Italian and Portuguese bakeries. When one of Melody’s and Victor Jr.’s favorite songs popped up on the radio, their dad would crank up the volume so they could sing along.

When Victor Sr. first emigrated to the United States from Peru in 1982, he couldn’t have imagined a school like KO existed, let alone that his future children would attend one.

After working in New York City for 10 years, he eventually saved enough money to bring Silvia, his childhood sweetheart, to the United States.

They married, started a family and moved to Connecticut, where Victor Sr. took his current job as a state corrections officer.

“We can see them every day and share their thoughts and their experiences,” Silvia said.

“There’s always a lot of communication about school. We’re always talking about it.”

The family first learned about KO from one of Melody’s teachers at St. Christopher School in East Hartford. Melody enrolled at KO as a freshman in 2006, and Victor Jr. entered the school as a 7th-grader in 2008.

Much of that talk has occurred during the 20-minute commute to school from their home in East Hartford. “During the car rides, we talked about everything and anything that came to mind,” Melody said.

Though Melody was at the Upper School and Victor Jr. at the Middle School, they always made a point to check in with each other.

“Lunch was a great time to talk with Melody,” Victor Jr. said.

Sometimes the conversation involved serious discussions of world events, friends and

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siblings, parents continued

Melody Rosas-Granda ’10 and Victor Rosas-Granda Jr. ’14 take a break to read in front of the Chase · Tallwood Science Math Technology Center.

“I’d tell her about my day, ask her what she was doing, tell her not to get into trouble. She was always telling me to be a good person, to respect people and to keep working hard.”

The Erdman girls enjoyed living in West Hartford with their friends and families just as much as their cousin did. They regularly spent time with their elementary school pals, who were now at Hall High, and with both sets of grandparents, who lived in town. Their brother, Tony Erdman ’47, who attended Kingswood, kept them in touch with the Kingswood boys. “We all loved each other fiercely as siblings,” St. John said. “I’m glad that we were there at home together.”

And the advice flowed both ways.

As a senior, Melody sometimes turned to her 8th-grade brother for help with calculus.

At home, Victor Sr. and Silvia supported their children in any way they could. “Even though my parents didn’t have the educational benefits my brother and I have,” Melody said, “they were able to teach us about life. They couldn’t help me with certain parts of my homework, but if I ever needed someone to quiz me for an exam, mom and dad were there.”

St. John said she felt lucky to live at home as she attended Oxford. “I had the physical freedom of the day,” she said. “I felt like a free and happy person. I loved my school, and I loved my family, and I was lucky to have all of them there within a few blocks.”

Victor Jr. says that his family is the most important thing in his life. “I love living with my parents,” he said. “Open communication is really important to us. You can’t compare that face-toface, personal conversation with communication over the phone, computer or Internet. Feelings are actually seen, and they can be really understood and expressed. I get to go home, tell my parents about my day and things that didn’t go well. They will talk about it, and they will understand.”

Melody says that her close relationship with her parents has provided a secure foundation for her independence in college. “Having that strong bond really prepares you to be alone,” she said.

“The togetherness, the shared experience as a family has allowed me to grow.

“Our parents want only the best for us,” she added. “They’re behind us 100 percent in whatever we do. That’s what parents do.” KO 10

love of school, family continued

Because Belding was three years older than St. John, each orbited around a different set of friends and activities. But they nevertheless counted on each other for support. “Sally was always just there,” St. John said.

During World War II, Belding met and married Bob Newell, a 1941 graduate of Kingswood. All five of their children graduated from Oxford, Kingswood or Kingswood Oxford: Sally (Huss) ’63, Helen (Douglas) ’66, Robert ’70, Katherine (Chiodo) ’72 and William ’81.

“Having lived at home during our own school years,” Belding said, “it seemed so right and fitting to have our children do the same. It speaks glowingly for Kingswood Oxford.” KO

Dale was ‘always ready to help'

By Scott Dunbar

Photos left to right: Dick Dale Dick Dale as teacher, one of his many roles at KO

Dick Dale is what my father called a schoolmaster, a term of significant praise in my independent school teaching family. Each year when the duties list came out, Dick’s name was all over it. In an age of increasing specialization, Dick continued to teach, coach, advise, administer and do a myriad of other tasks that were not on the sheet.

He preferred teaching single sections of multiple courses. In his 40-plus years at KO he taught nearly every course in the history curriculum, as well as all levels of mathematics.

The story was the same for athletics; he coached Middle School, thirds, intermediate, J.V. and varsity in various sports, in every season, as well as made the intramural basketball finals a spectacle that couldn’t be missed. He was an advisor, form master and dean. He coordinated the buses, and he was up at 4:30 a.m. checking the weather to help the head of school make the call on snow days. And he was the only one who could set the bells (after Dick left in the fall, on the first special schedule day there were no bells or they rang at the wrong time).

My encounters with Dick invariably involved questions. “Got a question for ya’,” was a frequent starting point. Dick usually knew the answer already – most schoolmasters do – but I soon learned that it was his way of offering help. His questions were designed to start a dialogue, an opportunity to discuss ideas and possibilities, always with the intent to include others in the process. His questions weren’t always welcome, but usually because they posited an alternative that others didn’t wish to consider or acknowledge. Dick came from the Socratic school of asking the questions that made you think, not simply recite. His method of assessment, what seemed like endless essays to his students, was a course in research and reflection. I could always tell which students had been in Dick’s classes before mine (unfortunately, for him and them, he could do the same for me). He went through each of the papers with care, offering suggestions, always encouraging more from his students than they thought they could do. Only later did some realize how fortunate they had been.

Beyond the classroom, Dick was always ready to help new programs get started, usually by doing the little things that make them work. He administered the community service program, tracking down those with hours still to complete, helping them find opportunities to help others. Before the Brayton Athletic Center was built, Dick picked up hockey players in his own car for predawn practices at various rinks (although there was the morning he knocked on the wrong house’s window, on the second floor). If help was needed to offer another opportunity for students, Dick volunteered.

Dick’s enthusiasm for a challenge, be it athletic or intellectual, modeled the traits in the School’s core values – curiosity, hard work, caring beyond self. He would return each fall having traveled and read extensively, ready to help a new group find their way.

They still haven’t figured out the bells. KO

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Dudek helped guide students to next step

By Kathleen Moriarty Skiff

Max O’Brasky ’09 receives his boutonniere from Carol Dudek before his Commencement.

May 27, 2011, began like many other graduation days at Kingswood Oxford.

The members of the Class of 2011 gathered in Alumni Hall. They were both excited and sad as their secondary school days drew to a close. What many of them did not know was that for the past three decades Carol Dudek has distributed the flowers and boutonnieres to the graduating class. It is symbolic that Carol has played this role, since she presents the last gift from the School to the seniors as they line up for that traditional walk behind the bagpipers along the Senior Green. Shepherding the classes to their next educational home has been Carol’s role at KO for the past 33 years. As the administrative associate for the Office of College Advising, Carol has been the one who has ensured that the colleges have everything needed to support the students’ applications.

Since 1978 when Carol began her career at KO, there have been six directors of college counseling (I was fortunate to serve in this role from 19942008), but Carol has been the one constant.

Imagine college applications before computers, voice mail and e-mail; Carol saw it all. With a constant smile on her face and a kind word for everyone she encountered, Carol managed the

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countless applications and supporting documents for more than 3,300 KO alumni. What makes Carol so special is her disposition and upbeat view on life. How many people in stressful roles, like hers, choose “smile” as their first computer password? Many nervous parents and students have been calmed by her wonderful perspective that everything will follow its natural course and all problems can be solved. Every fall as the college representatives would visit the campus to speak to the seniors, Carol was the first person they would meet. During the years she has become quite close with many of the “regulars,” going so far as to know about their families and keeping track of their milestones. Attention to detail, a sincere desire to help the students achieve their dreams, a strong commitment to community and a vigorous work ethic have been hallmarks of Carol’s tenure at Kingswood Oxford. Students quickly realized that her innate maternal sense made her a natural resource when the pressure of college admission became too much. In her office they found a kind word, reassurance, confirmation that good news from college would indeed arrive, holiday decorations throughout the year and a well-stocked candy bowl.

When Carol arrived at KO, her daughters, Danielle and Christine, were 7 and 5 years old.

They now have their own children, providing her with her favorite role of all – grandmother.

Carol’s retirement will be a gift of more time with her husband and travel partner, Richard. After 33 years, it was time for Carol to take her own last walk around the Senior Green and begin her new role as administrative associate emerita, forever welcomed back to Kingswood Oxford School. KO

Anderson took care of us all Carole Anderson has served as a school nurse at Kingswood Oxford for the past 13 years, and it is with very heavy hearts that we send her off into retirement.

Carole has taken great care of students and faculty, always doing what was necessary to make us feel better. She has guided us through medical situations such as the H1N1 virus scare, drafting letters and updating protocols, speaking to students about how to prevent the spread of germs, and answering questions from parents and faculty. She has also served as an important member of the Upper School Student Life Team, a group of faculty who meet weekly to look at students through the different lenses that each member brings to the table.

Perhaps the most memorable story about Carole was when she performed CPR on faculty member Jim Cahalan in 2003.

Jim was teaching physics and had just distributed a test when he collapsed.

When Carole arrived at the classroom, Jim was unconscious and was not breathing. She immediately began CPR, and one of the students dialed 911. Carole continued to perform CPR, for what felt to her to be a long time. Another member of the science department joined her and helped until the ambulance arrived. Jim was taken to St. Francis Hospital, where he made a full recovery … thanks in large part to Carole’s efforts.

KO Magazine asked Carole’s colleagues for their thoughts and memories of her, and here are sentiments from two of them: Sue West, former KO counselor: “My memories of working with Carole Anderson are plentiful, some hysterical

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and others bittersweet. As the school counselor who worked alongside Carole for several years, I had the opportunity to really see how Carole redefined the role of school nurse. I also found a friendship I treasure to this day even though I no longer get to work with her. She has served as a confidant, nurse, health advocate, educator, friend and lifesaver (literally) to students and faculty at KO for many years.

“Carole had the ability to make students and adults feel comfortable enough to tell more than just their medical issues.

Because of that she learned about the whole person sitting in front of her.

Most school nurses treat the physical symptoms presented and might not have a complete picture of the person. This is where Carole redefined ‘school nurse’ so beautifully. Due to her involvement in weekly meetings across disciplines, she had a snapshot of students, events on campus, hot-button issues on campus at any given time. She could then help the administration plan, write health curriculum, offer a nonacademic perspective of the overall health of the community. All of this informed her work with students she saw on a regular basis.”

out of the parking lot to go shopping at T.J. Maxx or the mall. … You might find her at Home Depot picking out paint or fixtures for the bathroom she just did over two years ago, but has decided it is time to change again. Her husband, Eric, might ask her why he is being asked to change the tile, and all she says is ‘because I need a project.’ ” Carole does enjoy projects, and many await her as she heads into retirement.

She is looking forward to decorating and redecorating, traveling to Europe and spending time with her children – Jessica, Jeffrey and Kristin – and her four grandchildren. She imagines herself becoming a bit of a gym rat, making time to exercise regularly, and is hoping to take art history and/or French classes, as she has always wanted to do. She warns that she may show up in Mrs. Rosoff’s class next year, and she promises to stop by for lunch. We wish Carole the very best as she heads to the many adventures that await her. KO

Director of College Advising Amy Swords: “If there is anyone who can laugh at herself, it is Carole. She has this wonderful ability to not take anything too seriously, and it makes people migrate toward her. You can laugh at her, and she will laugh right along with you! …

“Carole will drop everything to help anyone who needs it or just wants to chat with her. But don’t get in her way at the end of the day when she is screaming

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football

girls' soccer

Coaches: David Hild ’80, Garth Adams, Christian Hyde ’02, Joe Johnson, Matt Kocay Captains: Tyler Blake ’11, Steven Hild ’11, Adam Sykura ’11, Dan Turner ’11 Seniors: Blake, Hild, Sykura, Turner Record: 0-8 Joseph E. Gargan Award: Hild Joel Lorden Award: Sykura, Turner M.I.P.: Brandon Best ’12 Captain next season: T.B.A.

Coaches: Tracy Deeter, Reeves Livesay Captains: Kara Gardiner ’11, Emily Gutermann ’11, Lauren Marchetti ’11 Seniors: Kristen Barry, Savannah Berger, Casey Calkins, Liz Dietz, Gardiner, Gutermann, Marchetti, Brenna Merola, Victoria Stoj Record: 12-1-5; New England Prep School Athletic Council Class B champion Girls’ Soccer Award: Gutermann M.I.P.: Mary Shimkus ’12 Captains next season: Paula Hagopian ’12, Shimkus, Nicole Wetsman ’12

boys'’ soccer Coaches: Peter Jones, Travis Rains Captains: Mike Deffley ’11, Matt Gaston ’11, Zach Punt ’11 Seniors: James Barlow, Tenzin Bhumba, Louis Boisvert, Deffley, Gaston, Alex Gitlin, Alex Goldsmith, Aaron Paley, Punt, Tom Romano, David Veronneau, AJ Volpe Record: 5-10-1 M.W. Jacobus Award: Punt M.I.P.: Mark Toubman ’13 Captain next season: T.B.A.

field hockey Coach: Casey McCullion Captains: Claudia Silvers ’11, Jenn Townsend ’11 Seniors: Emma Glickstein, Chloe Glover, Emily Howard, Suzanne Jacobson, Charlotte Olson, Silvers, Townsend Record: 1-14-1 Field Hockey Award: Townsend M.I.P.: Taryn Braz ’14 Captains next season: Michele Ruffee ’12, Kim Spring ’12, Katie Morgan ’12

volleyball

girls' cross country

Coaches: Scott McDonald, Carolyn McKee Captains: Hannah Fiske ’11, Caroline Meade ’11 Seniors: Fiske, Clara Hyland, Ola Koza, Meade, Julie Rome, Julia Rosenthal Record: 6-9 Volleyball Award: Meade M.I.P.: Kaleigh Cannon ’12 Captains next season: Cannon, Zarah Mohamed ’12

Coaches: Lisa Loeb, Lisa Bailey Captains: Caroline Lange ’11, Haleigh MacCloy ’11 Seniors: Lange, MacCloy, Marion Stack Record: 1-3; ninth at New England Prep School Track Association Division III championship Girls’ Cross Country Award: Lange, Brittany Vose ’13 M.I.P.: Siobhan McIlhoney ’12 Captains next season: Eva Stys ’13, Vose

boys'’cross country Coaches: Fritz Goodman, Emory Mort Captains: Matt Gauthier ’11, Sam McKeown ’12 Seniors: Gabe Banevicius, Gauthier Record: 6-0; fifth at New England Prep School Track Association Division III championship Mark Doyle Boys’ Cross Country Trophy: Ben Washburn ’12 M.I.P.: Spencer Murray ’13 Captain next season: McKeown

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Boys'’ Basketball

Boys'’ Ice Hockey

Coach: Garth Adams Captains: Mike Deffley ’11, John Jackopsic ’11, Tylon Smith ’11 Seniors: Deffley, Jackopsic, Conor Maloney, Tom Romano, Smith, Dan Turner Record: 20-6; New England Prep School Men’s Basketball Association Class B champion O.F. Peyser Award: Deffley, Smith M.I.P.: Elijah Foreman ’13, Zack Resifo ’12 A.V.A. Marsden Trophy: Deffley Captain next season: T.B.A.

Coaches: Josh Brandwene, George DeVita, Alex Holmes Captain: Nick Gehris ’11; Assistant captains: Will Baron ’11, Kevin DeVivo ’11 Seniors: Baron, Jared Blake, Tyler Blake, Connor Bouthot, Chris Boyes, Brett Buccigross, Kyle Chapman, DeVivo, Gehris, Alex Gitlin, Ben Kantor Record: 7-15-1 Boys’ Ice Hockey Award: Anthony Giordano ’13 M.I.P.: Brandon Vigliatura ’13 Captain next season: T.B.A.

Girls'’ Basketball

Girls'’ Ice Hockey

Coach: Ron Monroe Captain: Jade Brown ’11 Seniors: Brown, Liz Miller Record: 4-17 Girls’ Basketball Award: Brown M.I.P.: Brittany Vose ’13 Captain next season: T.B.A.

Coaches: Casey McCullion, Jen Weeks Captains: Emily Howard ’11, Meg Sequino ’11, Jenn Townsend ’11 Seniors: Howard, Sequino, Townsend Record: 5-12-2 Girls’ Ice Hockey Award: Howard M.I.P.: Caitlin Hettrick ’14, Katie Morgan ’12 Captain next season: T.B.A.

Boys'’ Squash

Girls'’ Swimming & Diving

Coach: Tom Keidel Captain: Mike Coscarelli ’11 Seniors: Ben Andaya, Louis Boisvert, Coscarelli, Alex Goldsmith, Josh Paldino Record: 4-8 Boys’ Squash Trophy: Boisvert M.I.P.: Mark Toubman ’13 Captain next season: T.B.A.

Coaches: Clay Miles, Alex Kraus, Kata Franczyk, Elizabeth Tredeau Captains: Kristen Barry ’11, Casey Calkins ’11 Seniors: Barry, Calkins, Valerie Courtney, Liz Dietz, Caroline Lange, Haleigh MacCloy, Marion Stack, Victoria Stoj Record: 9-3 Girls’ Swimming & Diving Trophy: Barry M.I.P.: Stack Captain next season: T.B.A.

Girls'’ Squash Coach: Andy Carr Captain: Hannah Fiske ’11 Senior: Fiske Record: 5-11; New England Interscholastic Squash Association Division C champions Girls’ Squash Trophy: Mary Shimkus ’12 M.I.P.: Carolyn Mitchell ’12, Claudia Udolf ’14 Captain next season: T.B.A.

Skiing Coaches: Stefan Korn, Jeff Perlis Captains: Nat Bedford ’12, Samantha Udolf ’12 Seniors: Kenneth Smith, Noah Zemel Larkin Trophy: Udolf M.I.P.: Zemel Captains next season: Bedford, Udolf

Boys'’ Swimming & Diving Coaches: Alex Kraus, Clay Miles, Kata Franczyk, Elizabeth Tredeau Captains: Chris Miles ’11, Jake Van Loon ’11 Seniors: Miles, Ned Miller, Van Loon Record: 9-3 Boys’ Swimming & Diving Trophy: Miles Captain next season: T.B.A.

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‘Listen to your heart' The following are excerpts from the commencement address given by Kingswood Oxford Middle School Sports Coordinator Matt Kocay Friday, May 27, 2011.

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We share many common bonds. … We both love our Wyvern Nation: our community, our sports and our school. My smiles and excitement are met by yours day after day, and that’s why your class is so special to me. I’ve had the unique experience of working with you and watching you grow from the Middle School all the way till now – your day of graduation. …

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In talking about our connection of school spirit and your accomplishments, I must of course talk about your time in athletics. I might even go as far as to say that there is nowhere else that love of school and of school spirit manifests itself more than the realm of athletics. It has been an amazing run for you as athletes, Class of 2011. You dominated during your years in the Middle School and took your lessons learned and your drive to excel to the next level in the Upper School. Victory has been your constant companion, Class of 2011, and you have culminated your run with an unprecedented number of championships.

In winning all these championships you have in fact made all Wyverns champions this year, and we should applaud you for this. I would like to take a moment to recognize these teams for their amazing work. Girls’ soccer: New England champions. Boys’ basketball: New England champions. Girls’ squash: New England champions. Boys’ lacrosse: league champions.

Girls’ tennis: league champions. Boys’ golf: league champions and New England champions.

And many other teams have had great seasons as well. It has been a true pleasure to work with you and to watch you achieve these impressive accomplishments.

Along with remembering these great triumphs, I expect you to utilize the character traits you developed in order to attain these victories: teamwork, self-sacrifice, sportsmanship, determination and, above all, confidence. It is without a doubt these character traits that have brought you victory as much as innate ability. More often than not we see teams and individuals fail because of a lack of character or inability to make the most of their talents. This was not the case for you, Class of 2011, and I hope our younger Wyverns will remember this about you. What I do know for a fact is that they will remember you as champions – and so will I. Class of 2011, take with you the lessons learned in athletics and a thirst to excel as you move forward, and I can promise you will meet with success in whatever endeavors you pursue. I have come to believe as an adult that no matter what you are doing, you must do it to the best of your ability, and you, Class of 2011, embody that notion – and not just in sports. Your drive to excel has led you to become accomplished in every aspect of the student experience. …

Of all your many accomplishments, one stands out above all the rest and is incredibly important to me and for you in your lives moving forward.

When it came time to write this speech, one theme jumped out at me more than any other.

Class of 2011, your greatest accomplishment by far has been your journey of self-discovery.

During your time at KO, you have come to know who you are and what you’re about, and in doing so, you’ve garnered the confidence to be who you want to be. …

As you move forward, Class of 2011, keep your expectations high, for you have accomplished so many great things while at KO, and in so have garnered here at KO all the tools necessary to do great things in life. Though some of you may still not believe that you know who you are,

I want to reassure you that you do. Stay true to yourself and know what you want, and life will have a way of making it all come together. You will face obstacles just as I have, and the choices will not always be easy, but if you listen to your heart, you will never be wrong. Good luck and congratulations, Class of 2011, and know you will be missed but never forgotten. KO

Aaron Paley and Hayley DeBerry

Conor Maloney and Savannah Berger

Julie Rome and Liz Dietz

Charlotte Olson and Michael Coscarelli

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Matt Gauthier, Louis Boisvert, Steven Hild, Clara Hyland, Gabe Banevicius and Alex Goldsmith

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Liz Miller, Kendra Bunting, Suzanne Jacobson, Molly Wallace and Marion Stack

Kenny Smith, Kara Gardiner, Tylon Smith and Matt Gaston

Meg Sequino and Hannah Fiske

Adam Sykura and Alex Gitlin

Pat Freeman, Austin Simons and Dylan Florian

Jade Brown, Keri Ohlheiser, Emily Howard and Brenna Merola

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Lexi Vecchio and Emily Gottlieb

ChloĂŤ Glover and Dan Turner

James Barlow and Eric Kravetz

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Faculty members Patricia Rosoff and Lud Baldwin, with Ted Levine, Scott Dunbar and Rob Kyff following

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Dennis Bisgaard with Kevin DeVivo

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Raveena Khanna, Caroline Meade and Claudia Silvers

Julia Rosenthal

Ola Koza and Nicole Barlow

Tom Romano with grandfather David C. Warner ’56

Chris Toppi and Emily Gutermann

Dan Turner, Molly Wallace, Tenzin Bhumba, Tylon Smith and Winston Neal

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supporting KO Ever since Bruce Mandell graduated in the spring of 1982, Kingswood Oxford School has held a special place in his heart. In 2008 he was presented an opportunity to give back to the institution that has meant so much to him when he was invited to join the School’s board of trustees by Head of School Dennis Bisgaard and thenboard Chair Agnes Peelle.

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“That meeting with Agnes and Dennis really jump-started my interest to reconnect with the School and increase my level of participation,” Mandell said. “KO has a strong board, with a lot of talented trustees from different backgrounds, and I am in sync with the current leadership, their philosophy. And they do great work.”

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He added that he has been honored to have the opportunity to make an impact and serve on several other committees at the School, including the Executive Committee, where he works very closely current board Chair Les Tager and Bisgaard.

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Mandell said that he ultimately decided to serve on the board because of how thankful he is for all that the School gave him as a student. He said the experiences he had in the classrooms at KO more than prepared him to succeed in college.

“I don’t think I ever received anything higher than a B+ in all of the English classes I had at KO, but they helped me get my first A in English when I got to college at Tufts.”

In addition to the lessons he learned in the classroom, Mandell said that the lessons he learned on the playing fields also helped shape the person he is today. He said his coaches taught him more than just how to be a better athlete, instilling in him life lessons that he still uses today.

“The academic-athletic balance I learned at KO gave me the confidence and foundation to build on and be successful,” he said. “Dennis Brennan, my former basketball coach, taught me more than just basketball; he taught me how to treat people and be competitive the right way.”

Mandell credits his parents for teaching him, his brother, Mark Mandell ’85, and sister, Meryl Mandell Braunstein ’87, the importance of giving back when they were young and said that they took those lessons to heart.

“We try and live up to the example our parents have set for us by giving back to this great school which has done so much for us,” he said.

The Mandell family’s commitment to giving back to the School was made clear through a transformational family gift to the Chase · Tallwood Science Math Technology Center as well as through Bruce Mandell’s own generous gifts to the Hewett Gymnasium renovation project and the KO Fund.

“The School needs the support of everyone in the KO community to maintain and improve the KO experience and ensure that future generations of students can have the same enriching education that I did.”

KO is very lucky to have Mandell’s support as an alum, donor and volunteer. KO

a conversation with… Caroleen Hughes Mackin ’81 Where did you go after Kingswood Oxford School?

I went to Connecticut College in New London and graduated with a B.A. in government in 1985. I spent part of my junior year at London School of Economics and a part of senior year in Washington, D.C., at American University to work for a political consultant on the Reagan-Bush campaign.

What is your favorite song, or who is your favorite artist right now?

“Firework” by Katy Perry; I am a shameless Katy Perry fan!

What did you do after college, and what are you currently doing?

I worked in media and advertising, at Young & Rubicam Inc. here in NYC. I had received some wise counsel from the political consultant I interned with in Washington, D.C., that I needed to “specialize” in an aspect of political consulting if I wanted to continue to work in that competitive field as a career path. I decided that political advertising was the part of the business that I would focus on.

I discovered that I truly loved advertising and the marketing side of the businesses that I worked on while at Y&R, and after a few years, I ended up transitioning to the consumer side of advertising and marketing in the Ralph Lauren Fragrance division of L’Oreal USA. I spent almost 15 years happily helping to create, market and advertise the Ralph Lauren fragrance brands for a global audience. It was a tremendous experience to work with such a visionary designer and marketer as Mr. Lauren, and also to have the ability to travel (throughout the United States and Europe) and work with L’Oreal executives in Paris. Currently, I write occasional articles for a local magazine and spend most of my time working on various boards and charitable organizations here in NYC.

Who were the KO teachers who had the greatest influence on you?

Hands down, I would have to say Dr. Ann Serow. I majored in government in college because of the passion that she shared with us as students. She made me want to understand politics and government, and what motivated people to behave the way they did. The concept of what motivates people also translated to helping me understand consumers, and their purchasing patterns and habits, as I gravitated to marketing products.

What’s the last book you read?

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What’s your favorite KO memory?

My favorite memories are of attending varsity basketball games in Hewett Gym and of some of the entertaining things that happened on the Senior Green.

What message do you have for the KO community?

Kingswood Oxford offers a very strong educational foundation to each of its students – it is up to each student to go out into the world and maximize the knowledge they have received.

What is one piece of advice you’d give to current KO students?

No matter how tempting technology is to help shortcut things in the world today, it is so important to know how to write well and to be able to speak persuasively in front of an audience – no matter what your future profession or career path is. It could be an audience of one (i.e., trying to convince someone to hire you for a job) or an audience of 250 to motivate a sales force for the introduction of a new product.

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I would also suggest that it is important to try to find a job or a career that you have a passion for; when you are passionate about what you do, you will go the extra mile, do the extra research, make the presentation more compelling, etc. When I interviewed potential candidates for jobs at L’Oreal USA, I would always try to get a sense of the candidate’s passion for, and genuine interest in, our brands and our products.

What was the most satisfying moment in your professional life?

Creating and launching fragrances in the U.S. marketplace that went on to become No. 1 brands and being able to do it with a tremendous team of creative people What was the most satisfying moment in your personal life?

Being a parent to my two daughters, with my husband, John What is your next goal in life?

Helping my daughters navigate through their Middle School years! continued on page 26

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in the warmth of the sunshine state

head's advisory council

Head of School Dennis Bisgaard’s annual trip south to meet with alumni and friends of the School was, as always, a great success. KO

Trustee emeritus Dick Cuda P ’79, ’80 and Head of School Dennis Bisgaard at the Boca Bay Pass Club in Boca Grande, Fla.

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How have you changed since graduation?

I’m much more of a city girl. After college, I came to NYC and haven’t thought about living anywhere else since. I believe that I am much more aware of the world around us than I was back in high school because of entering the workforce, traveling to other countries and living in such a diverse city as New York.

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What is the most important lesson in life?

1. Always be kind – the world is smaller than you think! 2. Your example is even more important than your words.

Who influenced you the most? My parents What is your favorite spot on campus? Dr. Serow’s classroom Who would you want to play you in a film version of your life?

I can’t begin to imagine that my life would be “film worthy” at all!

What do you look forward to most in life?

Summer, vacations and spending time with my family and friends

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Jessica Hild Collins ’91, President John J. Alissi ’89 Terri Alpert P ’10 Jeffrey Azia ’89 Eric D. Batchelder ’89 William C. Bigler ’80, P ’05, ’09, ’13 Jay M. Botwick ’76, P ’04 Brewster B. Boyd ’63 John M. Budds ’56 Andrew M. Chapman ’73 Lynn Mather Charette ’82, P ’14 James W. Eatherton ’79, P ’11, ’14 Eric D. Eddy ’93 Robert M. Elliott II ’91 Scott C. Farrell ’91 Lee A. Gold ’90 James Goldberg ’76 Gregory A. Hayes ’80 Charna Bortman Kaufman ’85, P ’14, ’17 Gilbert E. Keegan III ’88 Tyler B. Polk ’99 Ann Coolidge Randall ’73, P ’13 Mary Pallotti Russell ’73, P ’06, ’09 Robert S. Sarkisian ’84 Andrew G. Satell ’79 Glenn M. Shafer ’85 Stacey L. Silver ’91 Saeed O. Singletary ’92 Harold A. Smullen Jr. P ’10 William J. Stack Jr. ’72, P ’07, ’11, ’12 Faith McGauley Whitman ’86 F. Scott Wilson P ’06, ’09 Keith J. Wolff ’91 Carla Do Nascimento Zahner ’97

CLASS CORRESPONDENTS WANTED! We are looking for alums to reach out to their classmates twice a year for news and updates to run in Class Notes. You can make calls, send mass e-mails or FacebookKOmessages, text or tweet. For more information, please contact Meghan Kurtich at kurtich.m@k-o.org or 860-727-5013.

KINGSWOOD 1935 The Class of 1935 was saddened to learn that Jack Boyd passed away at his home Dec. 20, 2010, after a wonderful and fulfilling life.

He had many accomplishments, and he leaves four children, seven grandchildren and seven greatgrandchildren.

OXFORD 1942 Carroll O’Brien Kane reports that she has five great-grandchildren.

KINGSWOOD 1942 David Thornton writes from Duncaster in Bloomfield, Conn., that he would like to hear from anyone in the Kingswood Class of 1942. Classmates can e-mail him at jobiejada@aol.com.

hopes not to see that again. Her activities at Waverly and in the community keep her busy and are fun to boot.

Our alumna in Cincinnati, Bobby Allen MacLeod, mentions that her winter was snowier than ever but “tolerable.” Bobby’s husband, John, was the one-and-only male escort at our 65th class reunion.

We “girls” were honored. The MacLeods will be in Sunapee, N.H., this summer.

Accumulating great-grandbabies is high on Joy Holman Pond’s list of happy events. She and Fred now have four, and the oldest starts school this fall. Fred has reached a milestone; he is now 90 years old.

Your class secretary had her share of snow this past winter. When the roofs were shoveled, I was suddenly in the Alps. Bud is called on to sing with the residents at Woodcrest Village. He knows all the words to all the verses. I am involved with several groups in this area and go to classes associated with Colby-Sawyer College. Mainly, I play bridge pretty much as I once did in the lounge at Oxford, by guess and

by God. Thanks to Mary Crary, Cornelia Dickinson, Emmy Hartley, Marilyn MacLeod, Joan Kenney and Bobby MacLeod for coming to our 65th reunion. Happy days! Debby

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Debby Fogg Lambert Class Correspondent

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Joan Tilton Kenney returned from her Duncaster digs to discover that her Canton home, except for some stained wallpaper, survived the winter storms very well. She has forgiven all the trespassers spotted in her woods: moose, bears, coyotes, bobcats, turkeys and deer, but not the beavers who damaged the trees along her brook. Joan continues her work as a docent at the Atheneum. Thanks to Joan for opening up her house for her classmates who attended their 65th reunion in June 2010.

Emmy Lu Walsh Hartley is happy to say that she is a proud grandmother of two granddaughters, who are 20 and 15 years old, as well as a 13-year-old grandson. As for this past winter of multi-blizzards, she

Mary Jane Pratt Wheeler hopes to sell her villa in South Carolina and townhouse in Vermont. So far the market has not been favorable.

Dorset, Vt., is not far from New London, N.H., so perhaps your secretary can give her a buzz this summer.

A note arrived from Bet Rockwell Marshall. Bet made mention of the fact that she turned 83 in February. As has always been the case, Bet is the youngest in our class, and I am the next to youngest.

Jim Hudner writes that Flossie (Florence Hatch Hudner) is doing well in the assistedliving facility near their home in Westport, Mass. Jim says her sense of humor has made her a favorite of the staff. The oldest of their eight grandsons graduated from Connecticut College this spring.

Peyton Mead reports that he’s in good health due to his pacemaker and new hip and that he’s now a bionic man!

OXFORD 1946 Joan Erdman St. John writes, “All is great here. I love The McAuley. Family all fine, too.”

OXFORD 1948 Carolyn Black Underwood reports that granddaughter Kelly Weirner, 19, is enrolled at the Youth With a Mission-based University of the Nations in Kona, Hawaii. Her twin grandsons, Scott and Erik Underwood, attend Jacksonville State University in Jacksonville, Ala., on basketball scholarships.

OXFORD 1949 Anne Harvey Kulak writes, “My husband, John, passed away in May 2009. I keep busy with farm and family, especially Marcia, our youngest. She and I manage 27

this year. One is a pharmacist, another a radiologist and another a member of the financial community. We are very proud grandparents.”

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Five Oxford 1954 classmates - Roxanne Richards Stringer, Pamela Connolly Bartlett-Little, Sherry Banks-Cohn, Sheila Hirshfeld Jacobs and Marge Harvey Purves - gather in February.

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her competitive performance horse training-teaching facility here in upstate New York and go to Florida with the horses for winter. Local son John and his wife have a flourishing nursery and landscaping business. Our daughter Cynthia is a practical nurse. Son Dan is with UBS Global in Virginia, and daughter Anne is a successful sales representative in the animal health care industry.

Seven grandchildren and five great-grandchildren round out the clan. I take a no-credit, no-homework seminar at Union College twice yearly with some friends – stimulating. I volunteer weekly at our local food pantry.

Life is fulfilling both mentally and physically. Thankfully, my wits are still mostly with me. Cheers and my best to all classmates. Some updates: Elizabeth Brainard Glassco ’48 was running regularly when we last spoke and was very active, along with her husband, Jim. My sister Mary Louise Harvey Willey ’47 is teaching poetry in Vermont, and my other sister Marge Harvey Purves ’54 is very active in community services in Worcester, Mass. A sad aside, I/we miss our classmate Carol Hanson Ericson.”

KINGSWOOD 1949 Tom Finley writes, “Three grandchildren completed college

A telephone conversation with Cinny Brewster Clifford revealed the following information: A mini-reunion was held New Year’s Day at the Town and County Club in Hartford. Cinny, Louise Galt Pease, Esther Spafard, Sylvia Holman Newton, Rachael Thompson de Rham, Charlie Simmons, and Betsy Stedman Russell and her husband, Peter Russell ’44, attended. This has been an annual event for many years.

Cinny reports that all are well and that she keeps in shape with yoga at McAuley. Esther is busy with many activities for the residence and her church. She will be going to California to attend services for her sister, who died recently.

The class extends condolences to Esther and her family. Sylvia still works part time for Simsbury’s public schools.

Sandy “Alex” Felty Hansen sends me a Christmas card every year. She reports that she is doing volunteer work and some teaching (Spanish). She enjoyed a national parks tour with Elderhostel last year, and she goes to the Felty family cottage on Lake Ontario each summer.

My husband, Paul, and I took a trip to Scotland last fall. We

welcomed the sun twice, but no rain as we toured many castles. I continue my interest in community theater and played a part in “Witness for the Prosecution” in January in which I needed a Scottish accent.

Please send news to me by e-mail: Jovanness@aol.com or friend me on Facebook!

OXFORD 1951 Sallie Barr Palmer Class Correspondent I hope all our classmates are planning to make the effort to attend reunion – our 60th! Peter and I have already made our reservations and are looking forward to seeing everyone.

Pemmie Schultz says she will be coming. And Dick and Dinny Duffield Whiting are also hoping to make it. In the meantime, the Whitings are looking forward to a visit from daughter Amanda and her husband, Victor, who are coming from Switzerland. They hope to take a family trip either to the Florida Keys or possibly Bermuda.

Cookie Stout Johnson says that unfortunately she will not be able to come and will miss seeing everyone. The Johnsons spend their winters in Florida and their summers in Kentucky.

Pam Kingan Lillquist and husband Rich had an outstanding time with the family in Hawaii the week after Christmas. “Grandkids (ages 5-13) entertained us with awesome Boogie boarding and Wii playing.” In January the Lillquists used their air miles for a wonderful weekend in Rome.

Maud “Sunny” Cary Schultz is still playing golf five days a week.

She has two granddaughters in college this year!

Annzie Bartholomew Hansen and husband Munk were hoping to take a trip to Egypt in March, but probably opted for the alternative, the Canary Islands, instead.

KINGSWOOD 1951 Bill Dominick writes, “One of the highlights of 2010 occurred in mid-March when all five of our children joined Phyllis and me in Nags Head, N.C., for just under a week. No in-laws, no grandchildren – just the seven D’s hanging out! What a wonderful experience! We really hadn’t gotten together as a family unit for well over 25 years, so it was all the more remarkable that we could all assemble for that length of time. What fun – hours spent walking the beach, reminiscing about the old days as they were all growing up, rehashing some of the rules that Mom and Dad had laid down – some fair, some maybe not, the many achievements they all accomplished, both in

the classroom as well as the athletic fields, sending each one off to college and the mixed emotions involved, their individual academic and athletic achievements in college, and then their ultimate graduations followed by their eventual weddings and the attendant thrill (in my case) of acting as best man or walking with great pride down the aisle with each daughter, etc. I could go on and on! Needless to say, it really was an amazing and wonderful experience that we hope to repeat in a couple of years. We were especially pleased and truly grateful to our in-laws for allowing their spouses to be able to be with us.

“Another highlight occurred in early June when Phyllis and I attended my 55th college reunion at Swarthmore College. Our class, once again, won the highest participation trophy, which I accepted as our class agent. Also, I received the Joseph Shane Award that goes to a member of the alumni body for “outstanding service and commitment to Swarthmore.” I was obviously extremely

flattered to receive this coveted award. Our class has consistently broken all existing records in giving to and participation in the Swarthmore Alumni Fund during the past 16 years that I’ve served as our class agent, so it was all the more gratifying to be the recipient of this esteemed honor.

“Hope to see a lot of you at reunion and catch up on all your news.”

OXFORD 1953 Page Phelps Coulter writes, “Look for my new book of poetry (‘A River Called Bearcamp’) coming out in April 2011.”

OXFORD 1954 Pam Connolly Bartlett-Little Class Correspondent The Class of 1954 has the best sense of humor – what a way to age! I just had a wonderful visit with Sandy Solly Utz. She said that after Leonard quietly slipped away last June, she thought she would spend the winter in Estes Park, Colo. However, by late October there was so little sun, she returned to Longmont, Colo., and is glad she did. She

said she is feeling peaceful and contented, but will be glad to put all the paperwork behind her and is enjoying not gadding about and getting busy. She goes to David’s children’s events. Connor is 13 and plays the tuba, while 11-year-old Shane is an athlete.

Sandy Harris writes: “Our families (David’s and mine) are all fine…thank heavens. I tend to talk in the present these days, a getting-older symptom. My son Seth works in New York City, which is a blessing as we get to see him often. He is still with Tiffany & Co., a real bonus for me. David’s grandchildren are now spread out among Michigan, Ohio, Massachusetts and South Africa. He always seems to have one grand time living abroad.

Sarah traded China for the Kennedy School of Government, and Anne traded Harvard for a wonderful husband and life in Cape Town, South Africa, where they are both working and pursuing graduate degrees (he a doctorate and she a master’s) at the University of Cape Town.

Grandson Tim lives in Michigan and has provided David with three great-grandchildren, and

New York Times features piece on Barstow

An obituary for Robbins Barstow ’36 appeared in Nov. 13, 2011, edition of The New York Times. In December, Times columnist Frank Rich wrote, “Of the many notable Americans we lost in 2010, three leap out as paragons of a certain optimistic American spirit that we also seemed to lose this year. Two you know: Theodore Sorensen, the speechwriter present at the creation of J.F.K.’s clarion call to “ask what you can do for your country,” and Richard Holbrooke, the diplomat who brought peace to the killing fields of Bosnia in the 1990s. … But a third representative American optimist who died this year, at age 91, is a Connecticut man who was not a player in great events and whom I’d never heard of until I read his Times obituary: Robbins Barstow, an amateur filmmaker who for decades recorded his family’s doings in home movies of such novelty and quality that one of them, the 30-minute ‘Disneyland Dream,’ was admitted to the National Film Registry of the Library of Congress two years ago. That rare honor elevates Barstow’s filmmaking to a pantheon otherwise restricted mostly to Hollywood classics, from ‘Citizen Kane’ to ‘Star Wars.’ ” To view the entire piece, please visit www.NYTimes.com.

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they are GREAT! I am still involved with volunteer activities and have taken up bridge to keep my mind challenged, as my feet are still moving and still tapping. Tap has helped give me a sense of balance on the city’s slippery, sloshy streets this winter.”

Kristi Norstrand Witker now lives in Southampton, N.Y., full time.

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Priscilla Cunningham writes, “My husband has taken watercolor classes and is a very good artist. I have the same role (as class scribe) for my Westover class. I resigned as secretary, as I had been the class secretary for 56 years, but no one will take it on, so I guess I will be doing it for quite a while. Still, it’s fun to hear what people are doing.

CJ (Caroline January) and I enjoy going to chamber music concerts together.”

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Caroline sounds so lovely on the phone with that same happy chirp.

She is sans cat for the first time and has the dilemma we who have pets all have now – do we get a new one and risk it? (I say, “Go for it!”) We talked books and music, and she reports that her youngest niece, Meagan, is a nurse practitioner, practicing in Salem, N.Y. She has a 3-year-old daughter and recently had twins, one of each! Busy.

Ann Whitman Hackl writes, “We and our children bought a house in Maine overlooking the harbor, as well as a lobster boat to explore the many outlying islands. It seems crazy – as all our contemporaries are looking into retirement homes – but we

are off on a new adventure and loving it! For the last five years I have chaired the nonprofit Castle Preservation Society, which is restoring and managing the Castle in the Clouds in Moultonborough, N.H. It is an iconic piece of architecture perched on a mountaintop overlooking Lake Winnipesaukee and surrounded by 5,500 protected acres. Its integrity is remarkable; it retains most of its original features, furniture and an uncompromised setting. It is a candidate for National Historic Landmark designation. Since we took over the property in 2006, we have addressed the most urgent restoration priorities and have brought the business back to selfsustaining financial stability. This past season 52,000 people visited the mansion. As I step down as chair at the end of next summer, I am optimistic about the Castle’s future. My successor is an awardwinning preservation architect whose professional skill and preservation contacts will take the organization to its next stage of its development. What will I do with this sudden leisure?”

“How I love to find the treasured KO Magazine in the mail each season,” Rocky (Roxanne Richards Stringer) writes. “All’s well here, albeit SNOWBOUND in central Connecticut! Reports say there’s more snow here than in the ski areas of central and northern New England! Believe it! Family is fine, Cali (cat) is fine, and my bridge leaves something to be desired! If it’s March (almost), one knows that my nose is into seed catalogs and the eyes are following basketball on the tube.

I’d like to say I’m aging reasonably gracefully … alas, it’s happening

so fast, I can’t be sure! Love to everyone … happiness is remembering good times.”

Gail Myers Rider writes, “I am interested in your having a grandchild at Bryant, since we do, too. Tim Beckert, our daughter’s son, is a sophomore and has just returned from a three-week trip to China with other classmates and professors – a great experience for him and for us, as he e-mailed us a 300-word journal he had to write each day. (Good for them!)

Other grandkids are at Union College and one at Northeastern in the five-year School of Nursing program. We are busy at the moment selling our house in Naples and moving to a nearby senior-living community, Bentley Village. We feel fortunate to be able to still travel; we took a trip to the southwest United States last November and will be taking a river cruise from Prague to Paris in May with our son and his wife.”

Gail, I do have a grandson, Taylor Neighbours, who is ending his junior year at Bryant studying money stuff. He was awarded a paid internship for this summer with a large firm, and he is thrilled. His brother, Robert, who majored in Chinese and history, graduated from Hamilton last June and works in the financial arena in New York. He is also an excellent musician (not my genes!). Sarah is successfully battling it out in the real estate business, working 24-7 and on the Chamber of Commerce board. I am writing, baking bread again, playing some bridge and in a great book club of very smart and wise women and a needlework group called the “Juliets” (the Romeos do lunch!).

Best of all, I am spending happy times with Ted’s and my children and grandchildren. – Pam Betsy Sisbower Bush writes that she and George were working and living in Rocky Mountain National Park in Colorado and all the roads were closed this winter due to heavy snow. They had two inches of ice that completely covered most of their motor home. Betsy writes, “Thank goodness for generators!

We are now in Houston visiting friends; however, the snow has followed us!”

Lois Delaney writes, “I am doing really well – still lecturing at The University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and super busy doing simultaneous interpreting and written translation, in addition to generally supporting the Hispanic ministry here. I’m still living and working in the same place. Que Dios te bendiga.”

Patricia Hibbing Loring and I get together frequently for laughing and book talk. She has an incredible mind; she remembers details about the arts and literature that cover every spectrum. Miss Gibney would be proud! She and Thomas have sold their apartment house in Boston and, in preparation for retirement, are adding a large addition, mostly book space, to their gorgeous house overlooking the harbor and marshes. They hope to be moved in by late spring.

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granddaughters (ages 9-18) and kids in Italy, Oregon and New England. Betsy visited her beloved cousin Lucy in Connecticut, where they found a treasure trove of old letters and pictures. Betsy writes, “Ah! Teeth! A bridge after much $$$; house repairs, much $$$!”

Then, under “theater/acting,” Betsy writes of performing and directing a cabaret to benefit “Adoption Means Love”; a revival of “Only Connect…Letters from My Aunt Betsy”; a staged reading of her friend’s brilliant play “Adorabelle Fidget Gets Her Fairy Power Back” (guess who was Adorabelle?); 22 appearances as “Peace Angel” at the Palace of the Governors museum (“I am a museum piece!”); and a retelling of “The Gift of the Magi” on Christmas Eve. Wow, Betsy!

Bravo!

Marge Harvey Purves wins the prize for prompt reply! And her wit still abounds! (It is so wonderful that we can all still laugh despite life’s vicissitudes.

What a great group to have as lifelong friends!) Marge’s grandson Rodeo is 4 and had a thrilling Christmas. Marge says that he moves very fast and that, if she lived with him, she’d weigh much less than she does now.

Marge is very involved with a new organization in Worcester, Mass., The Center for Nonviolent Solutions (CNVS). Its aim is to create a culture of nonviolence by teaching conflict-resolution skills to young people in schools and communities to help people understand that violence is NEVER the answer. CNVS will also offer mediation services.

Marge had Christmas with

Mame, her sister and their family.

Anne, who lives in New York, went to see sister Marcia, her family and horses in Florida for a good ride and muck out.

Sheila Hirschfeld Jacobs and Bud celebrated Bud’s retirement by going to Deer Valley during tax season! They had a perfect five days of skiing – crisp and sunny.

At dinner, Sheila recognized the legendary skier Stein Eriksen, whom she had met years ago at Sugarbush. So it was a thrill for her to see him again at the Deer Valley Lodge. They both continue to ski; they will be meeting Molly Fluty Roraback and Charlie, Sue Safford Andrews and Bob, and Sherry Banks-Cohn and Bud in Vermont for a winter weekend. Sheila works with her daughter on her cookbooks, and they help with the grandchildren.

I had a great visit with Ellie Brainard Randrup and Pete.

El and her friend Kathy Kenny have just brought out their second book about 18 historically significant Maryland women.

Pete has been hiking the Appalachian Trail in pieces for several years. This year, he was joined by a granddaughter, who is also a scholar. The Randrups’ daughter, Muffin, teaches science and math in a Catholic elementary/middle school, where she and Sister Mary test each other’s mettle – that would make a good movie, and I am sure who would win! Muffin’s husband, Bob Hein, is a U.S. Navy captain and has been given his heart’s desire – to command another ship; this time, he’s the skipper of a cruiser. They will be based

in Jacksonville, Fla., and Bob will join his new command in midsummer. The Randrups are now a family with four U.S. Naval Academy appointees: Pete, Bob, son Matt, who is in his third year at Annapolis, and son Christopher (Hopper), who is entering the academy this fall.

Congratulations, Randrups/Heins!

Mimi Ford Stahler writes, “I was just sitting down to do this when up popped your e-mail! We are having a non-winter with our snow having come in December and none now for a month. So downhill skiing is only fair, and this is a major part of our winter fun as we do not go South.

The family is all fine. Chris still works part time – some weeks a lot, though he still loves it!

Hope all is well with you and the shoveling is done!”

Dixie White Kaslick writes, “I moved to Danbury, Conn., last November after 40 years in Harvard, Mass. Will died in 2007.

I am retired now.”

OXFORD 1956 Nancy Austin Reed Class Correspondent

Mary Ellen Blumenfeld Doyle: “In 2010 I had a painting acquired by the Mississippi Museum of Art. I also had a second work acquired by Vassar College. (Go to www.artnet. com, click on “Artists” and then search for “Mary Ellen Doyle” to see some of her most recent paintings and sketches. FAB!) I saw Sally David Ardrey at a New York Vassar Class of ’60 lunch. The winter has been very cold with snow and ice at 31

times, making walking in the city hazardous. So far we are OK. Best in 2011.”

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Eunice Strong Groark: “In February we got back from South America. We spent a little better than two weeks in Argentina and Chile. We went to Patagonia, around the Horn (which is 1,500 miles farther south than is the Cape of Good Hope in South Africa), and we climbed up to the lighthouse there. Also were in Tierra del Fuego and went to the Iguassu Falls on Northeastern Argentina. It was a fabulous trip with great guides and a good group. Other than that it is the same old, same old…which at our age is a good thing! No big trips planned. Busy with garden club and a couple of corporate boards.

We are well, and life is good.”

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Heidi Wood Huddleston: (The following is condensed from Heidi’s Christmas newsletter.)

“In July and August, we flew to Vienna, Austria, to visit Kristina, Sophia and Kurt. Although we did some sightseeing, this trip was primarily devoted to doing the grandparent thing. The five of us took a three-day trip to the Austrian Alps. Our son-in-law, Kurt, forgot how old we are and took us on a 6 ½-hour alpine hike.

The mountains and waterfalls were indescribably beautiful.

Surprisingly, we were able to walk the next day! After two weeks in Austria, we flew to Berlin, where we stayed for five days with our “Dutch son,” Peter, an exchange student who lived with us in his senior year of high school. He is presently the naval attaché at the Dutch embassy there. After our visit, Joe and I took the train

to Amsterdam for a brief stay and then flew home. Our three grandchildren are all growing up too fast! Sophia entered 1st grade in an Austrian school this fall and amazes us at how quickly she can switch between German and English. Kristina, too, is becoming proficient in German after taking a year of intensive language instruction. They love living in Austria, although it is too far away from family. Alezandra, our oldest grandchild, just celebrated her 21st birthday and will graduate from college in May. She plans to work for a year and then attend graduate school. Our grandson Ryan will complete high school in May and start college in the fall. Their mother, Lisa, our middle daughter, has an exciting new position in the local school system as curriculum coordinator and additionally is teaching gifted and talented students. She and Kenny celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary in October. Our eldest daughter, Johanna, and her husband, Gil, celebrated their 25th in 2010.”

Sandra Martin McDonough: “Flurry had puppies to start the year, and she retired from shows and puppies. Powder, Flurry’s daughter, championed against stiff competition. One more point and she is a Grand Champion. Little Miss Ice joined us in November from Vancouver. In May, I was sworn in to practice before the Supreme Court of the United States. The Connecticut Bar Association handled applications, interviews, supporting paperwork and scheduling for 48 of us. We were all silenced by the formality with almost 150 lawyers sworn in that day. Justice John Paul

Stevens read a précis of one of his last decisions, an astonishingly strong and clear voice at 90.

Chief Justice John Roberts gave a history of Oliver Ellsworth of Windsor, the only chief justice of the United States from Connecticut. I am knitting a coat from Samoyed hair – softer than cashmere. A long task for sure.

And I went back to gardening last year – fresh vegetables and wonderful flowers. Granddaughter Caroline and Danny Golub announced their engagement at a family reunion, a big barbecue and New York Yankees game.

Toby is in Hawaii teaching music and playing with several groups.

He loves the warmth of Hawaii, such a change from his youth in the Adirondacks. Andrea, Steve’s daughter, won a Presidential Early Career Award for Scientists and Engineers, one of dozens of honors she has. She and Deniz continue their work in applied physics in Southern California.

Lora continues to teach. She is a bundle of energy and has done much to her house, grounds and outbuildings since becoming sole owner of the campus. I will live in the old shop (looks like a Cape Cod) when I retire in a couple of years.”

Alice Butler Mendell: “The news is similar to previous news.

We are off to Florida for the month of March. We plan to see Lucy and Dick in Fort Myers and Heidi and Joe in Hilton Head on the way home. Our families will all arrive for a visit. Kelsea, our granddaughter, is now 5 and so enjoyable. I love some of the things she comes out with. Her mother was not paying attention to her, so she came up under her

Mom’s nose and asked her what the meaning of “ignore” was – then she laughed. Anyway, I think this should be a fun time at the beach. Seth and I both volunteer around here and keep busy. Our 37-foot sailboat, Hekate, that Seth built and launched 40 years ago in 1970, is up for sale. Too much age on our part and too much care on her part, so she has to go. We will miss her and our trips to Cuttyhunk. This getting older is not for sissies, but I hope to see everyone at our 55th.”

Beatrice Lodge de Oyarzabal: “To think it will be 55 years! I’ll aim for the reunion and hope I can make it! We are delighted with a new granddaughter, Valeria, born Dec. 23 in Santiago, Chile, where our son Juan works.

I spent most of January in that picturesque and seismic country.

Antonio and I will be celebrating our 50th anniversary in July … and our wish is that our six children and families, strewn all over, can come!”

Edith Wilcock Patrick: “I am flying to New Zealand to visit Martin and Carole and their children, Zora, 9, Oki, 6, and Dune, 5. Martin and his family have received approval to become permanent residents of New Zealand. I hope to be at reunion with pictures and bragging about all three ‘Lake Wobegon’ granddaughters.”

Barbara Deeds Schaus: “I am in Colorado having a great time skiing. The snow is perfect, and I have many friends to ski with.

Nick is loving it in Florida. He does not want to ski anymore. I also had a fabulous four days at ko S u m m e r 2 0 1 1

Alta with my three daughters and daughter-in-law. We had so many wonderful laughs and an equal many runs. So much for my news.

Yup, I’m still loving the cold wind and the fresh powder! And all 13 grands love it, too!”

OXFORD 1957 Elizabeth Abel Lane reports that she still practices dermatology part time and enjoys traveling with her husband, Barton Lane, and being with her grandchildren – Charlotte, 6, and Delaney, 4, in Baltimore and Aidan, 2, and Nadia, 5 months, in California.

OXFORD 1958 Sue Mather Dabanian Class Correspondent Thanks to some of my loyal supporters and notes on Christmas cards, I DO have a few things to report.

Ellie Haggard Baldwin and Dave had several long visits to the Santa Ynez and Solvang area and love it. For those of you outside of California, Solvang is a Danish town near Santa Barbara.

Greg and I also love to go there.

Liz Sexton Sgro seems to alternate Christmas with the boys between Torino, Italy, and Connecticut – one year there, one here.

Betty Ann Lange Leon reported that Christine is now in New York City at Macy’s corporate in charge of Estee Lauder for 680 stores. She lives in SoHo with her dog and cat. Grands Hannah and Henry are now 7 and 5, still living in Florida. Betty and Hayden were

there for Christmas. Betty’s dad celebrated his 100th birthday in July! I wonder if any other class members have a parent still living.

Sad news from Betsy Swinehart Riel. Her husband, Dave, passed away in December.

I’m sure that the class joins me in extending our sympathy to Betsy and her family.

Penny Hoffman McConnel reports that she house-sat for Mart Moore ’59 on the Vineyard for a week in February and had dinner with Gay Moore and her husband, Art. It was great to be there in the off-season, but it was cold.

Anne Van Winkle-Denne is happy and healthy but going nuts with the recent rains (in March) that we’ve had and no tennis.

Her daughter lives in Colorado and gave birth to her first little girl, Anastasia. She joins older brothers Michael, 7, and Dmitri, 3. Their dad works two jobs as a Russian Orthodox priest and high school science teacher.

Katherine, Annie and the baby came to San Francisco in January, stayed in the city and went to excellent restaurants, and the baby was an angel.

Sarah Duffield’s daughter Caitlin is coming home from Africa (something that should make Sarah happy!) and plans on doing half her job here and half in Ghana.

I had an e-mail from Toni Carvalho Slifer. Some of you may be aware that her sister, Sue, died late last year. This

reminded her (and should all of us) to live each day to the fullest. Toni is still adjusting to now being the eldest sister.

She still does freelance editing and volunteers with the Georgetown County Museum, organizing its archives, and with two organizations helping disadvantaged children. They had a really cold winter in South Carolina with three weeks of below-freezing temperatures.

Toni anxiously awaits the warm weather.

As for your secretary, like Anne, I am tired of all the rain that we’ve had. January was gorgeous, in the 70s, and I got a head start on pulling weeds, working in the yard – glorious. Then came March – in like the proverbial lion. I sure hope that it goes out like a lamb. Greg and I spent 12 days in Florida in mid-March on the Gulf side. Highlights were seeing Bruce’s house, friends, a seafood festival where we ate alligator (tasted like chicken) and seeing some gorgeous beaches.

Bruce bought a foreclosed house in Englewood, south of Venice, so we wanted to check it out. This will be his retirement home (he lives with his girlfriend in Quincy, Mass.), and they’ll go down there to work on it when he is in between jobs. It has lots of land, is in a rural area eight-tenths of a mile from a nice beach and has great potential. I have a feeling that we’ll be going down every year. Our next trip will be to Cabo San Lucas, Mexico, which is a safe area (I hope!) in April.

Notice a pattern here? Heading for the sun! Don’t forget to e-mail me anytime – sdabanian@gmail.com.

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Several members of the Oxford Class of 1959 celebrate Debbie Mahoney Swenson’s birthday while in Florida last winter. Clockwise from bottom left: Susan Harris ’59, Jack Swenson, Zélie Tourais ’59, Julie Peck ’59, Michael Durkee, Ellen Wood ’59, Tony Harris, Debbie Swenson ’59 (with birthday crown), Charlotte Miller ’59 and David Miller

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OXFORD 1959 Zélie Calvocoressi Tourais Class Correspondent Polly Merritt O’Leary writes, “Just got back from taking my daughter and her two boys on a cruise to the Bahamas. Great fun for all. The oldest learned to snorkel and loved the reefs, and the youngest loved the huge waterslides. I loved the warm weather. Glad to get away from the feet of snow we have had in Massachusetts. Quite the winter.”

Janice Cianci Castillo reports, “When I was younger I heard that the years would be going by faster and faster as I grew older.

Well, I’m finding a lot of truth to that. Anyway, I continue to fill my days to the brim. I’m in the throes of cleaning, replenishing and rearranging my gardens and going to various Florida garden festivals with my gardening buddies to find different plants. Repotting all my orchids is another job in itself. The garden clubs I’m in like to share cuttings and tour one another’s gardens. I was excited to win our city’s Beautification Award for our condo. I’m still playing lots of tennis, but don’t look for me

on the circuit. I’ll be going down to watch the Sony Ericsson Open in Miami next week to watch how the pros do it. Then there’s bridge, birding, boating, art shows, art museum briefings, condo board director duties, etc., that keep the rocking chair at bay. Our travels this year took us on a Bahamas cruise with friends; a drive to North Carolina to see a relative graduate from Elon University and a stay in Savannah on the way back; a tour though all six New England states to see the fall colors and historical sites; another trip out west where we stayed at the Ahwahnee in Yosemite (snowed the whole first day!); Thanksgiving with the family of Dawn, Makenzie and Pat in Fresno; and then a stay at the Fairmont resort in Scottsdale, Ariz., seeing the sites including a pink Jeep ride in the Red Rocks of Sedona…what fun! Long weekends around Florida fill in the spaces. Richard has finally fully retired, and our kids, grandkids and cats keep us on our toes.

Son Jay’s girls’ basketball team at Florida Air Academy made it to the state championships, and our granddaughter Makenzie’s California All-Stars cheer team won first place at the nationals in Texas. Finally, we ended the year 2010 with an early celebration of our 50th wedding anniversary with family and friends while Dawn and Makenzie were here for Christmas! It was a blast!”

To celebrate Debbie Mahoney Swenson’s birthday and all of the rest of our upcoming birthdays, six of us with some of the husbands got together in Florida the last weekend of February. We all had a wonderful time, and the weather was perfect. We had a delicious and relaxing meal at Susan McClure Harris and husband Tony’s condo in Boca Grande on Friday night. Saturday night was drinks and hors d’oeuvres poolside at the Boca Grande Club, where we watched a glorious sunset. We went inside for dinner. On Sunday we met again for a breakfast at the Manasota Beach Club courtesy of Julie Peck. Also joining the festivities were Charlotte Buck Miller, Ellen Jones Wood and your secretary. Who would have thought that turning 70 could be so much fun?

On a personal note, Patrick and I welcomed granddaughter No. 3, Lauren Danielle Harris, Dec. 15.

KINGSWOOD 1959 Bill Fenn reports that he’s retired and serving a three-year term on the board of incorporation at New England Kurn Hattin Homes in Vermont, a residential home and school for children at risk.

OXFORD 1960 Jane Anderson Innerd Class Correspondent Hello everyone. My thanks to all who sent news. Once again Jennifer Ripple Akridge and her husband spent the winter in Arizona enjoying the beautiful weather. In April they will return to Washington state.

Prilla Smith Brackett writes that she and George now “have three grandchildren, as Ethan and Dave are in the process of adopting Marley, Yandel’s 8-month-old half-sister. Our whole family is enjoying a February vacation week at our time-share at the Trapp Family Lodge in Stowe, Vt., with crosscountry skiing, showshoeing, sledding, indoor swimming, outdoor hot tub and lots of hanging out. In May George and I will be traveling with Overseas Adventure Travel to the Galapagos and Machu Picchu, with a stop in Bogota to see our former exchange student and his parents. In between all this I’m working away on pieces for new exhibits.” Prilla’s work is wonderful, and I am delighted to have two of her pictures in my living room along with two of Jane Keller Herzig’s pictures.

Jane enjoys having her two granddaughters close by in New York City. She and Ed visit them frequently.

October,” writes Mary Lew Sterns Kelly. “It was truly the trip of a lifetime. We had PERFECT weather, and it was shirts and shorts at the Arctic Circle. One of our guides said that in all of his 27 years as a ranger, he had never experienced a trip like ours. The clouds lifted the day we traveled to Denali.

We saw Mount McKinley in all of her glory.”

“Bill and I vacationed in Alaska for three weeks last September

In Australia Virginia Lee Luxton (Ginnie aka Sandy) lives in Victoria but not in the area that experienced flooding. Her daughter, Julia, and son-in-law, Andrew, have three children: Amy, 12; James, 8; and Ashleigh, almost 6. Once, when Ashleigh was 3, she woke up to teeming rain on the roof and was terrified because she had never heard rain before! Many years ago Ginnie took up botanical painting and is “totally absorbed by it.”

Mary Lew Sterns Kelly ’60 and her husband, Bill, stand at the Arctic Circle during their trip to Alaska last September. ko S u m m e r 2 0 1 1

In her fourth year in Paris, Barbara Hartman Tucker says that she loves living in “this magnificent city.” She visits the United States several times a year, but in Paris, she said, “every day there is something new to see, each one more beautiful than the last. I am still a member of the Democrats Abroad Executive Committee, the political director for Capitol Voice and chairman of the Energy Committee of Democrats Abroad.

Both children are grown and doing beautifully. My best to everyone.”

Sue Matorin is running for a national position in her professional organization. She says that her “real joy” is her

family. Her husband, Richard C. Friedman, has been honored internationally and by his college for his scholarship, and her son, Jeremiah Friedman, with his writing partner, sold a script to Warner Brothers (“Family Getaway”), and they have been hired to rewrite “The Bodyguard.”

Sue and Richard live in New York City.

Friends of Ann Faude Newbury will be glad to know that she still lives in Farmington and not in Wethersfield, as I erroneously noted in the last KO Magazine.

Ann would like to have a gettogether before 2015, perhaps in Boston. She says, “Just to get together would be nice.”

In Vermont Gay Willcox Squire writes that, although she enjoys the winter, “this one seems especially long!” She and her husband continue to enjoy their bed-and-breakfast business but took a break for two weeks in Florida. She is delighted that her younger son, Bill, is home after 11 years in New Zealand.

Thanks to Prilla we have more news from Pitircik Acar Uler.

Her 19-year-old grandson is living with her and her husband in Girne, Cyprus, for his final year of high school. Next autumn he will start university in Girne. Her other grandson lives in Geneva with her daughter, Asli. Pitircik is still teaching law, and her husband, Yildirim, heads the law school and also teaches. Prilla and George hope to visit Cyprus, perhaps next year.

Nancy Sunderland Brown writes, “Fun to see so many back

for reunion and so generous of Ann (Ann Faude Newbury) to entertain us.”

This has been a busy winter for us. I am teaching a course at the university in the English department, and my “retired” husband is chair of our hospital board. We enjoy visiting with our grandsons on Skype. They live with our elder daughter and son-in-law in St. Louis. We also see our other two children on Skype, our daughter in North Bay, Ontario, and our son in Sault Ste. Marie. I am always pleased to hear from classmates; please write, call or e-mail anytime.

KINGSWOOD 1960 Paul Eschholz of Naples, Fla., writes, “I really enjoyed our 50th reunion in June!”

OXFORD 1961 Lois Williams Arnold Class Correspondent For those of you who like to armchair travel, Yvonne Chabrier writes of her September 2010 trip to Santa Fe and Taos, N.M. This was her first trip with Elderhostel, and she said she wouldn’t hesitate to take another one with this organization. She wrote that she loved the “knowledgeable and agreeable tour guide and speakers” as well as “the lively, intellectually curious people” in her group. Included in her trip were visits to various pueblos and national parks. In February 2011 Yvonne had a solo exhibit in Newburyport, Mass., of her collages and photographs. She writes, “I am looking forward to our class’ 50th reunion in June 35

Hartford with his wife, Debra, and two daughters, Lily and Ava.

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and to sharing stories of how we have each pursued life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.”

Lois Arnold ’61 rides a camel during her recent trip to Egypt.

Jane Anderson Lentz writes that her husband retired about two years ago, but that “the adjustment has been easy, as college professors have lots of time off so they and their spouses have lots of ‘rehearsal time’ for retirement.” Her travels included a trip to Hawaii in late 2009 and to Rome in 2010. Jane is helping out a lot, trying to find times for all of us to get together at our 50th reunion in addition to the dinner on Saturday night that KO will host for us and our Kingswood classmates.

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Photos left to right: Brewster Boyd ’63 and his wife, Helen, with their family at Grand Lake, Colo.

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Last Thanksgiving I spent 10 days in Luxor and Cairo as part of a contract working with UNICEF to improve care of preterm infants in the neonatal intensive care unit (NICU). My colleagues who had been there before were really concerned with the political tensions and were worried about whether we would get out of Egypt before politics erupted and Mubarak was ousted. Many of the news crews during the January revolution stayed in our hotel, around the corner from Tahrir Square. The photo provides proof that I was there!

OXFORD 1962 Elizabeth Nicoll Walker writes, “Medical issues continue to be a problem, but after 60 years of being a diabetic, that’s not surprising! Still active and enjoying our eight grandchildren, though none of them are currently living in Richmond.”

KINGSWOOD 1963 John W. Bartosz writes, “‘Rev. John’ continues to counsel patients at local hospitals daily.”

KINGSWOOD 1966 Edward Forand has been elected chair of the nine-member, volunteer board of directors of the Hartford Foundation for Public Giving, the community foundation for the 29-town Greater Hartford region. Edward served as president and CEO of The Children’s Museum in West Hartford from 2001 to 2007 and from 1995 to 2000 was executive vice president and chief operating officer of the museum. Edward served from 1993 to 1995 as Connecticut’s deputy state comptroller and as Connecticut’s deputy state treasurer from 1987 to 1993. He also served as press secretary for Connecticut Gov. Ella Grasso when she was a member of Congress. A graduate of Yale University, Edward lives in West

Dave Watters was re-elected last fall as a state representative serving Dover, N.H., in the New Hampshire State Legislature. Gov. John Lynch has appointed him as a commissioner representing New Hampshire on the Atlantic States Marine Fisheries Commission.

Bill Bulkeley left The Wall Street Journal after 37 years as a reporter and is now a freelance writer for several scientific and technology magazines. He recently returned to KO to speak to current editors of the KO News at the Warren Baird Journalism Dinner.

OXFORD 1970 Betsy Rockwell Booth Class Correspondent After all the hoopla of our 40th reunion last June, there isn’t a great deal to report this time around, but I did have a nice e-mail from Brooke Breckenridge Morton, who wrote: “The Morton clan is either working or studying. The working folks are paying for the studying folks! Our son, Breck, is in 8th grade at a military boarding school, Randolph-Macon Academy, in Front Royal, Va., which is about 70 miles from D.C., so he is often home on the weekends. We’re thrilled that he has improved his grades as a result of the small classes and structure there, and he’s made some great new friends. He went out for football last fall and has been weightlifting this winter.

Our daughter, Lily, is in 7th grade at the Connelly School of the

Holy Child, which is a day school about 20 minutes from our home.

This is a brand new school for her as well this year because she graduated from National Presbyterian School in June 2010.

She is excelling academically and making new friends. Lily is also in her third year of singing and performing with the Children’s Chorus of Washington. Bill and I keep working away. In April, Bill begins year two with Capgemini Government Solutions, an IT consulting firm based in Herndon, Va. He spends all of his time working on a U.S. Army contract, which means most days he’s either at the Pentagon or Fort Belvoir. Somehow he finds time to coach Little League baseball and be a deacon at our church. I continue to work three days a week (with Robin) at Breckenridge Design Group, which is about to celebrate 30 years in business! I remain very involved in my garden club and will soon become first vice president next fall for two years to be followed by a two-year term as president. This is most amusing, since I hardly find time to garden (!), but I do enjoy the women in this organization and we’re involved in a number of community projects. Last year around this time, my husband gave me a great birthday gift.

He sent to me China with my dad for about 10 days. We had such a memorable experience, and it was so special to be able to travel alone with my father. A lifetime treat!”

As I write this, spring is trying to make its appearance. It has been a long, cold and snowy winter for those of us here in New England. ko S u m m e r 2 0 1 1

The sun and warmth can’t get here soon enough. I can only hope there’s some of it around for the second weekend in April when Nan Putnam, Nancy Wood and I head up to Freeport, Maine, for a visit with classmate Kate LeRoyer. We are all looking forward to the visit. I will give you the details next time around.

Meantime, have a great summer everyone, and, please, keep in touch! (Betsy Booth, 2 Coventry Lane, Harwinton, CT 06791; Ebooth01@snet.net)

OXFORD 1972 Mavis Donnelly writes, “All’s well on my ‘ranch’ in Tucson with my 26 rescue dogs, who all sleep with me and bring endless joy.

I continue my private practice as a psychiatrist and my expert witness work as well.”

KINGSWOOD 1972 The National Geographic News Service reports that a research team led by Martin Nweeia, a Connecticut dentist and Harvard School of Dental Medicine clinical instructor, has announced several new findings about the small Arctic whale known as the “narwal.” They learned that the narwhal’s oversized tooth is much stronger and yet more flexible than anyone had suspected.

Martin said that the tusk’s unusual qualities could have profound implications for modern dentistry and biomaterials science. “Everything about this tusk is built not to break,” he said. “To find a material that is flexible and strong – that is kind of the grail for restorative materials. This guy’s got it.”

Martin’s team also found compelling evidence that the tusk may be a hydrodynamic sensory organ that contains an extensive nerve system and gathers valuable information for survival in Arctic waters. Researchers say the tusk’s nerve system could detect temperature, pressure, motion and chemical-solution gradients, such as differences in salinity and water particles that would indicate the presence of certain fish prey. Martin founded the Narwhal Tooth Expeditions and Research Investigation in 2000, bringing together scientific experts from a variety of disciplines and members of the region’s indigenous Inuit population.

OXFORD 1973 Kathy Sherts Civitillo writes, “I am traveling, visiting friends, painting, volunteering since ‘Civi’ [her husband, Bill Civitillo] and I are empty nesters. Whitney is working in New York City.

Martha is a senior at St. Lawrence, and Wiggs is a sophomore at Colgate. We just did a trip to Antarctica, which was our seventh continent!”

KO 1974 John S. Masker is an associate professor of political science at Temple University, where he teaches international relations (U.S. foreign policy, environmental politics, war and peace theory) and political philosophy (pre-Socratics to Machiavelli). John recently won the College of Liberal Arts Merit in Teaching Award. He is the author of four books, most recently “Introduction to Global Politics” and “Anthology of

Global Politics,” which will be published by Oxford University Press this fall. John’s wife, Sharon White, recently published her fifth book of poetry, “Eve & Her Apple,” which was published

by Harbor Mountain Press this spring. Their son Graham has been accepted early decision at the University of Pennsylvania and will begin his studies there this fall.

Jon Marvin writes, “Things are still good in New Hampshire.

Ran the Boston Marathon for the second straight year and set a personal best and qualified to run it again, but unfortunately was not able to sign up in the eight hours that registration was open this year, so I will have to find some other fun location to run 26 miles. Two of my children, Daniel and Emily, are at St. Lawrence University. Both play varsity soccer, and Daniel is a co-captain this year. My youngest is still at Holderness School, which won the Class C soccer championship this fall, and he was the starting goalie.”

KO 1976 Linda Rockwell writes, “We had a lovely dinner at our house a week or two ago with Jim Waldman and his fiancée, Angela. Jimmy looks exactly the same (as we all do, of course!).

It was fun looking back through our yearbook and catching up.

I hear there’s a 35th Reunion coming up this year and will do my level best to appear. I moved to Florida in 2007 after my divorce and name change to live in the same town with my ‘first love,’ whom I dated in 1976. Living in the Orlando area 37

Photos left to right: Class of 1978 classmates Nina Grody, Gretchen Dinucci, Pam Dowling, Julie Zyla, and Teri Bayer tour the Hill-Stead Museum in Farmington and later enjoy a luncheon at the museum.

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U.S. Marine Corps Brig. Gen. Steven Rudder, a member of the KO Class of 1979

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has been a blessing and a curse.

I’ve completed my undergraduate degree (finally) and am taking classes at a local community college with the plan to pursue my teaching certification. The curse part is Central Florida’s crummy job market and being away from family and friends. I’ve been ‘forced’ to be creative and frugal. I have opened a business called Queen Bee Knits and have begun the process of designing high-end, hand-knit garments for small dogs. I will be marketing these to boutiques around the country and selling them in an online shop. (The site, www.etsy. com/shop/QueenBeeKnits, is now only selling human garments but will be changing over in the next few months.) My first design, the Senorita Lolita, won second place in an online contest recently – a good start! My kids are all healthy and happy – Kate, 26, is an actor in New York City. She’s appeared in the Broadway musicals ‘Legally Blonde’ and ‘HAIR’ and in their national tours; ‘Sex and the City’ (the movie, very briefly in the first five minutes as the young Samantha); and ‘Grease: You’re the One That I Want’ (a TV reality show). She is currently in a new show that opened in Atlanta called ‘Bring It On: The Musical.’ I

have a beautiful grand-dog, Mabel, of whom I’m very proud!

Libet, 23, is front-of-house manager at the Steppenwolf Theatre in Chicago and also works at DePaul University, which is her alma mater. She is also a foster mother to countless kitties from a no-kill shelter in Chicago, where she volunteers. Bear, who is way too close to being 21, is a junior at the University of Cincinnati’s conservatory, where he is majoring in lighting design and behind-the-scenes theater management. He spends his time hanging off scaffolding and playing with electricity. Ned and I are renovating a home in Longwood, Fla., with the plan to sell it and move back toward New England within the next couple of years. We have been very lucky in that we’ve been able to spend the majority of the summer months in Belgrade, Maine, at his family camp. This year, we’re hoping to get up there in April – a new season record!”

KO 1979 Brig. Gen. Steven Rudder of the U.S. Marine Corps has been appointed as the Marine Corps liaison to the U.S. Congress.

After graduating from Boston University in 1983, Steven joined

the Marine Corps and served as an officer in Operations Desert Shield, Desert Storm and Iraqi Freedom. He earned a master of military studies degree at the Marine Corps Command and Staff College in 1997 and a master of strategic studies degree from the Army War College in 2003.

In 2004, as a lieutenant colonel, he was assigned to U.S. Central Command as the lead planner for Afghanistan, Pakistan and Qatar in support of Operation Enduring Freedom. In June 2007, Steven assumed command of Marine Air Group 26, deploying them to Al Asad, Iraq, in support of Operation Iraqi Freedom 9.1. After being named a brigadier general, he transferred to the Office of Legislative Affairs at Marine Corps headquarters, where he currently serves as legislative assistant to the commandant. He and his wife, Holly, have two children: Brittany, 22, and Dean, 18.

Gerald W. “Gib” Brady has been named vice president of marketing at SPARTA Insurance in Hartford.

A graduate of Brown University and Northeastern University, Gib previously worked for The Benfield Group and General Reinsurance Corp.

Bill Demarest is working as a senior financial analyst with Xerox in Orlando.

KO 1984 Bob Weintraub writes, “Fifteenplus years in Seattle, and all is well. I had a great time at our 25th reunion last year. I’m approaching five years with ING Direct – ShareBuilder.”

Amy Shiller Brown writes, “Life is wonderfully chaotic in the Shiller-Brown household. Liam Isaac was born July 28, 2010. Big brother Owen has been delighted ever since. We’ll see how long that lasts! So far, so good.”

KO 1985 Rachel Faulise reports that she is living and working in Washington, D.C., and enjoying her new job at National Geographic in book publishing.

J. Christopher Naftzger writes, “I recently became vice president, general counsel and chief compliance officer of Unilife Medical Solutions in Pennsylvania. Our family relocated to Lancaster, Pa., in September, and we love it here.

The town reminds us a lot of West Hartford, and the school our daughter, Dory, attends is very much like KO.”

KO from 7th grade on and was a member of the soccer and tennis teams. He had a tremendous heart and a generous spirit, and was forever loyal, selfless and kind. He was passionate about music and was an avid fan of the New York Giants, the Boston Red Sox and the UConn Huskies.

He cared deeply for his friends and family, as indicated by his signature sign-off, “Be safe,” at the end of every conversation.

Chris was dearly loved and will be forever missed by all his friends and family. He is survived by his sister Jennifer Conrad Wedeles ’94, brother-in-law Thomas Wedeles ’94, niece Lila Wedeles, nephew James Wedeles, brother Mark Conrad ’96, sister-in-law Kimberly Fernandez Conrad ’96, and parents Jeanne and Bill. The Conrad family would like to thank the KO community for its kind and generous support during this difficult time.

KO 1990 Michelle Epstein Hollander lives in West Hartford with her husband, Josh, and three boys.

She is a Prudential real estate agent.

KO 1991 The class mourns the loss of J. Christopher Conrad of West Hartford, who passed away in December 2010, at the age of 37. Chris was born in WinstonSalem, N.C., but grew up in and was a lifelong resident of West Hartford. He graduated from Trinity College in 1995 with a degree in history. After graduation, Chris worked in the insurance industry in the Hartford area, most recently for Travelers. Chris attended ko S u m m e r 2 0 1 1

KO 1993 Lance Lee is a biologist and faculty member at Sanford Children’s Health Research Center and the University of South Dakota School of Medicine, and he lives in Sioux Falls, S.D.

from Norwich, Conn., to Virginia for the 2010 season. Ben enjoyed being a part of the team that led the Richmond Flying Squirrels to the Eastern League attendance championship as well as the 17th overall attendance figure and top logo in all of minor league baseball. He was reinvigorated by the excitement and energy that surrounded the return of baseball to Richmond and looks with joy to his hometown to see the newly branded Connecticut Whale’s success as a community leader in Hartford.

Steve Kraus married Sarah Tudryn on Cape Cod last August.

Mike Grossman served as one of Steve’s two best men. Steve earned his bachelor’s degree from Yale University and his master’s degree in business administration from Harvard University. He is a partner with Bessemer Venture Partners in Wellesley, Mass. Sarah earned a bachelor’s degree from the University of Pennsylvania’s Annenberg School for Communication and a master’s degree in business administration from Harvard University. She is

a management consultant with Bain & Co. in Boston. Steve and Sarah enjoyed a honeymoon trip to Hawaii.

KO 1996 Melissa Shlien Moritz and her husband, Mark, welcomed their son Mason Dec. 21, 2010. Mason joins sister Mailey, 3. The Moritz family lives in Chicago.

KO 1998 Elida Terry Mullarkey is assistant director of development at the University of Connecticut Foundation.

KO 1999 Ian Zweig married Melissa Noon Aug. 7, 2010, in Boston.

Ian, who works in online advertising in Boston, writes, “We met in Boston on Christmas Eve ’04, and she couldn’t resist my charm.”

Tripp Hyde was a member of a team of Duke graduate students that won the $50,000 first prize in a national entrepreneurship contest last April. Tripp’s team, HyTower Energy Storage, which

KO 1994 Jennifer Conrad Wedeles and Tom Wedeles recently moved back to West Hartford and welcomed their second child, James Adler. He joins big sister Lila.

KO 1995 Ben Terry reports that he returned to Richmond, Va., to help the minor league baseball team Connecticut Defenders transition

Tripp Hyde ’99, standing next to the Duke Blue Devil, poses with the team that won the $50,000 first prize in an entrepreneurship contest in April.

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Rob Hawkins writes, “I just joined DoSomething.org, an awesome organization that gives money and support to teens so they can rock causes they care about. Afterwards, I found that our CEO Nancy Lublin ’89 went to KO, too! Although we graduated 11 years apart, we had a lot of the same fond memories.”

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Alex Kuzyk ’05, right, and her business partner, Lucia Vera, have opened Gesamtkunstwerk, a new store selling jewelry and other projects by local artisans in New York City’s SoHo neighborhood.

bested more than 100 other teams in the 11th annual Duke Start-Up Challenge, presented a business proposal to convert abandoned water towers into power-storage units. The $50,000 prize will be used to develop the venture. Tripp is a first-year candidate for dual master’s degrees in environmental management from Duke University’s Nicholas School of the Environment and in engineering management from Duke’s Pratt School of Engineering.

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Lynn Blanchette began her studies this spring at Pepperdine University for a master’s degree in psychology.

Matt Ritter had quite a year.

Last August, he married Marilyn Katz at The BALSAMS, a historic resort in Dixville Notch, N.H., the town famous for casting the nation’s first votes in presidential elections. His groomsmen included KO classmate Ben Cruse. In November, Matt, who has served as a Hartford City Council member for several years, was elected to the Connecticut General Assembly from the 1st District.

Josh Paller is working in London as a technical director for the special effects company Double Negative.

KO 2003 From New York City Danielle Turano reports that her band Carte Blanche performed on “Martha Stewart’s Holiday Open House,” which aired in December 2010, and on Stewart’s “Winter Weddings Show,” which was taped on Danielle’s birthday (Jan. 13) and aired a few weeks later. As a result of the latter performance, Carte Blanche was featured in the Winter 2011 edition of Martha Stewart’s Weddings magazine. Martha Stewart first took an interest in Carte Blanche when the band performed for her nephew’s wedding at her home in upstate New York. Danielle plays violin and cello for the six-piece group, which also features a vocalist, accordionist, bassist, guitarist and percussionist. The band recently recorded its first full-length album, which will be ready for release later this spring. Danielle writes, “The music includes Edith Piaf, some Manu Chao, old-time Dixieland and everything in between, from break-yourheart ballads to lift-your-spirits swing.” Anyone who wants to find

out more about the band’s live performances and TV appearances or is interested in booking the band for an event, festival, wedding or party can check out the band’s Facebook page, Carte Blanche, or its Web site at www.carteblanchesamples.com.

U.S. Navy Lt. j.g. Christopher Kofoed graduated with honors from the University of Virginia in 2007. He earned his wings in August 2009 from the U.S. Navy flight school and is currently living in San Diego. He is assigned to the USS Ronald Reagan and is flying the SH-60 (Seahawk helicopter).

KO 2004 John Sommers writes, “I was recently promoted to the position of vice president, marketing communications at Allied Printing Services Inc. We are located in Manchester, Conn., and provide print communications services on a national scale to businesses of all sizes.”

KO 2005 Alex Kuzyk and her fellow Cooper Union graduate Lucia Vera have opened “Gesamtkunstwerk” (aka “Werk”), in New York City’s SoHo neighborhood. It features avant-garde jewelry and other projects by local artisans. “Gesamtkunstwerk” (pronounced “guess-amt-koonstverk”) is German for “complete artwork.” Alex and Lucia sell everything from embossed leather cardholders to Lucia’s own line of plastic trash-bag necklaces.

The store is located at 9 Clinton St., between East Houston Street and Stanton Street. The magazine and Web site Time Out New York

recently named Gesamtkunstwerk the best new indie shop for locally produced goods. You can check out the shop’s Web site at www.cantspellit.com.

KO 2006 Liz Van Loon earned her bachelor’s degree in nursing science from the University of Pittsburgh April 30. She will spend a year studying public health at the University of Nairobi in Kenya through an Ambassadorial Scholarship for Overseas Study sponsored

by Rotary International. While a student at the University of Pittsburgh, she became active in SLIM (Student Leaders in International Medicine) and twice traveled to the Republic of Malawi in Southeast Africa.

Working with Rotary International there, she raised money for community-based organizations helping people with AIDS and HIV. After graduating from KO, Liz took a gap year in 2006-07 to perform humanitarian work in Bolivia.

Sarah Kofoed graduated from the Honors College of the University of Alabama, where she majored in foreign studies and French and minored in art history and Italian. She is living in San Diego and seeking employment.

Sarah Mather graduated with a B.A. from the College of the Holy Cross and is now attending Suffolk Law School.

Pat Cronin writes, “The KO community is a special place. I am so grateful for the presence it will continue to have in my life.”

Student Government Association, president of Kappa Sigma fraternity, and former president and former vice president of scholarship and programming of the Interfraternity Council. He is also a member of UVM roller hockey and distribution manager for the student publication The Vermont Cynic.

goal and four assists. Ainsley also plays on Susquehanna’s women’s varsity basketball team.

Cordelia Brady, a sophomore at New York University, is headed to Madrid next semester to study abroad. “I may only be a Middle School graduate,” she writes, “but KO had an amazing impact on my life.”

KO 2010

KO 2008 Kyle DeVivo, a junior majoring in engineering management and management information systems at the University of Vermont, has been appointed as a student trustee to the university’s board of directors. Selected by the board’s associated directors for the appointment of student trustees, Kyle will serve a two-year term on the board.

Kyle is a member of UVM’s

KO 2009 Ainsley Rossitto, a sophomore at Susquehanna University, was named women’s lacrosse defensive player of the week by the Landmark Conference last March. Through the first seven games of the lacrosse season, Ainsley amassed 12 ground balls, seven caused turnovers and five draw controls in addition to one

Emily Courtney, currently a sophomore majoring in mechanical engineering at Rochester Institute of Technology, continues her softball career with the R.I.T. Tigers.

Kenton Adeyemi, a 6-foot-5inch, 255-pound defensive end for Fork Union Military Academy in Virginia, will play football for the University of Connecticut this fall. “I always wanted to go there since I was a little kid growing up,” Kenton told The Hartford Courant. “The fact they’ve made it to the BCS this fast is just an added bonus. You know they do things right up there. I’m just really impressed with UConn right now.”

Rachel Moote reports that she is in her freshman year at Sarah Lawrence College and is loving it.

IT’S A WYVERN WORLD Gillian Ritter ’05, who is currently living in Spain and teaching English in a high school there, reports a surprising “worldwide wyvern” moment on a weekend trip to Marrakech, Morocco.

“I was in a small village right outside the city, taking a cooking class,” she writes. “We were walking back from the community bread oven when I saw a small, 10-year-old boy wearing a KO basketball jersey. At first I was stunned and shocked, and even a little bit timid about asking for a picture. But the boy was more than happy to take a picture, and I began to realize how happy I am to be a part of the KO community. It is absolutely apparent how much Kingswood Oxford does to help the entire world – from Paraguay all the way to Morocco. I couldn’t communicate with him because he spoke only Arabic, but I had someone ask him where he got the KO shirt. Sadly, he didn’t know, but he said that he was wearing the jersey because he loves basketball.”

Gillian Ritter ’05, right, meets up with a boy wearing an old KO basketball jersey on the streets of Marrakech.

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IN MEMORIAM Matilda Babin May 15, 2010 Receptionist at Kingswood School, 1955-1960 Mother of Peter J. Babin ’61 Louise Steiner Blossom ’45 Feb. 3, 2011 John L. Bonee Oct. 26, 2010 Father of Andrew Bonee ’79 Marcia Bourne ’49 Feb. 28, 2010 Jack F. Boyd ’35 Dec. 20, 2010 Sherry F. Broder Oct. 17, 2010 Mother of Kimberly Broder Levine ’91 Donald Lamont Brown Jr. Oct. 27, 2010 Father of Deborah Brown ’69, Kathryn Brown Morris ’75 and Christina Brown Ripple ’67; uncle of Barbara Wyper Pettus ’65 and John S. Wyper Jr. ’69; father-inlaw of Ezra H. Ripple IV ’65 Pamela Shattuck Burleigh April 19, 2011 Assistant in the Office of College Advising at Kingswood Oxford School J. Christopher Conrad ’91 Dec. 5, 2010 Brother of Jennifer Conrad Wedeles ’94 and Mark D. Conrad ’96; brother-in-law of Thomas Wedeles ’94 and Kimberly Fernandez Conrad ’96 42

Marjorie Howe Scott Doty ’37 Nov. 29, 2010 Mother of Carol Doty Kalauskas ’63 Stewart Ward Dunning ’51 Feb. 27, 2010 Bernard Dworkin Nov. 24, 2010 Grandfather of Eamon Dworkin ’08 and Molly Dworkin ’02 Susan Carvalho Efinger ’54 Nov. 14, 2010 Sister of Leslie Carvalho Barlow ’63, Tonia Carvalho Slifer ’58 and Wendy Carvalho Johnson ’61 Benedict Devine Flynn Jr. ’36 Dec. 1, 2010 Father of Benedict D. Flynn III ’72 and David M. Flynn ’60; brother of Edmund W. Flynn ’51, George B. Flynn ’39 and Jean Flynn Kellogg ’42 Michael X. Fryer Jan. 22, 2011 Father of Christopher J. Fryer ’94, Paul Fryer ’89 and Michele Fryer Theriault ’84 Please see page 43.

Isabel Kerswill “Kay” Felty Gililland ’55 Dec. 29, 2010 Sister of Alexandra Felty Hansen ’50 and Dr. Jean Felty Kenny ’49

James A. Goodwin ’28 April 7, 2011 Father of James A. “Tony” Goodwin Jr. ’67 and Peter H. Goodwin ’69; Kingswood and Kingswood Oxford teacher 1932-1975 Please see page 2.

Robert L. Hadley ’47 Jan. 11, 2011

Harvey C. Pond Jr. ’36 Dec. 29, 2010 Husband of Cynthia Stout Pond ’37; father of Harvey C. Pond ’68 and Andrew D. Pond ’69; brotherin-law of Joy Holman Pond ’45 Clarence Rush ’33 Nov. 28, 2010 Father of Janet Rush Just ’68

Robert Knowlton ’36 March 28, 2011 Father of Peter M. Knowlton ’73; brother of Elizabeth Knowlton Smith ’33

Tara Savin ’91 Dec. 4, 2010

Linda M. Lebovitz May 23, 2009 Mother of Charles Lebovitz ’99

Gloria Brown Stone Oct. 13, 2010 Grandmother of Max P. Hoberman ’10

Gilda Lebon Lerner Feb. 16, 2011 Grandmother of Brett Lerner ’08 Joan Sullivan Linton ’34 Jan. 1, 2011 Iona Ann-Marie Lord Nov. 27, 2010 Mother of Dayna S. Lord ’13 and Melissa R. Lord ’15 Ralph H. Martin Oct. 15, 2010 Father of Elizabeth Cooper-Martin ’71 and Jeffrey S. Martin ’73 Lonny Myers ’40 Feb. 19, 2010

John T. Stewart ’62 Feb. 21, 2011

Margaret P. Willis June 15, 2010 Mother of Peter Willis ’62 Clinton B. Yeomans ’39 Jan. 15, 2011 Uncle of Benjamin C. Terry ’64, Christopher B. Terry ’70 and David Y. Terry ’62; father-in-law of Mark R. Madden ’65

Michael X. Fryer The following are excerpts of eulogies given during the funeral service for Mike Fryer held Jan. 28, 2011.

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Greg Thierault: As I sat down to write this, I was aware that no matter what I said, I could never do justice to the legacy Mike leaves behind. To say that he had a profound effect on me and my direction in life is an incredible understatement. If I took a straw poll of the people here today, I’m willing to bet that not one of you would have anything negative to say about him. He touched so many lives, affected so many people, and was universally loved by all who knew him. …

TRIBUTE

His devotion to KO was unsurpassed. He spent 44 years as the backbone of the School, from day-to-day maintenance, to new construction projects, to helping coordinate every event on campus. I can still see him behind that old desk, sitting in that ratty old chair, going over some paperwork or blueprints. He usually had someone else’s glasses on, or a magnifying glass in his hand, and a whole bunch of papers and notes taped to the wall next to the desk. He knew that campus intimately, and his knowledge will be sorely missed.

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Mike had a way of getting what he wanted out of you without your even realizing it. He treated everyone with respect, and because he went that extra mile to help all the time, people would do anything for him. Contractors would drop everything to solve a problem or crisis. He lived for that. His eyes would brighten and you could see him working out the solution. …

He was modest to a fault. He loved to give and do for others, but hated receiving accolades. He always avoided the spotlight if he could, instead preferring to move quietly behind the scenes and let others be recognized. When he did accept praise, it was as if he was forced to at the point of a gun. The very thought of it was embarrassing to him. …

Ann Fryer: What do I know about Mike Fryer?

He was my father-in-law, he insisted on “lots of lemon, lots of sugar and a glass of ice” with his tea when went out to eat, he hated seafood, and he would drop anything to help you in an instant, no questions asked.

He was my second dad. He was my gardening buddy. We shared an ongoing quest to grow (and eat) as many tomatoes as possible each summer. One afternoon in 2004, I pulled into the driveway to find my tomato plants covered in beautiful, red fruit. As I walked closer and saw the stickers and green tape, I realized the joke was on me. He had gone to Stop & Shop, bought a pound of tomatoes and tied them all to my plants! Mike never ceased to surprise me.

We spent many hours together in that yard.

Mike: raking and bagging, or sitting on the front deck in his faded baseball cap and New Balance sneakers, feet propped up on the railing, “supervising,” and me in the beds pruning, spraying and cursing whatever disease or insect was again attacking our precious tomatoes. I wouldn’t trade those hours for anything. …

When I think of Mike, and when I speak to someone who knows him, the common theme is generosity. Mike gave constantly. He served Kingswood Oxford School for 44 years, going well beyond his responsibilities because he cared about the students, teachers and the institution itself. …

To say Mike is a well-loved and respected member of this community is a huge understatement. … I will miss my buddy Mike more than words can say, but when I look at my husband, Paul, and our own children one day, I will see that tiny piece of him that’s with me always. His legacy is the wonderful children he and Pauline raised, and the way they continue to give in the same effortless way that he did. How thankful am I for this man. He touched my life, and will always be a part of my heart. KO

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board of trustees Katherine Keegan Antle ’96 Dennis Bisgaard P ’16, Head of School Jessica Hild Collins ’91, Head’s Advisory Council President Pamela J. Dowling ’78, P ’08 Laura Estes P ’98 Frederick S. Farquhar ’59, P ’83, ’86 Christopher G. Gent P ’03, ’08 Carolyn Wolfe Gitlin ’85, P ’11, ’13, ’17, Parent Association President Marilyn Glover P ’05, ’07, ’11, Secretary Cheryl Grisé P ’99, ’02 Stephen B. Hazard P ’89, ’92 I. Bradley Hoffman ’78 Timothy A. Holt P ’99, ’02, ’07 Baxter H. Maffett ’68, P ’02, ’06 Bruce A. Mandell ’82 Didier Michaud-Daniel P ’10 Mark Paley P ’07, ’09, ’11, ’14 Francis P. Pandolfi ’61 Michael J. Reilly P ’04, ’08 Avery Rockefeller III P ’00, ’02, Vice Chair Paul F. Romano P ’06, ’08, ’11 Les R. Tager P ’00, ’03, Chair Alden Y. Warner III ’76, Treasurer R. Ashley Washburn P ’08, ’10, ’12, ’15 Paula Whitney P ’02, ’04, ’06, ’07

trustees emeriti Sherry Banks-Cohn ’54, P ’78, ’82 Thomas J. Collamore ’77 Allen V. Collins P ’75, ’79, ’82, ’88 Richard S. Cuda P ’79, ’80 George L. Estes III ’67, P ’98 Karen K. Gifford ’62 Richard C. Hastings Jr. ’40, P ’78, GP ’09,’12 J. Gregory Hickey Sr. ’47, P ’73, ’75, GP ’04 Lance L. Knox ’62 Eileen S. Kraus P ’84, ’95 Thomas D. Lips P ’93 James B. Lyon, Esq. ’48 E. Merritt McDonough ’51, P ’79, ’81 Louise Galt Pease ’50 Agnes S. Peelle P ’01, ’03 Anne Rudder P ’68 Peter G. Russell ’44, P ’77, ’80, ’82 Frederick D. Watkins P ’71, ’72 John A.T. Wilson ’56, P ’84, ’86 Martin Wolman P ’80, ’82, ’84, ’88

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continuing the tradition Alumni parents celebrate with their 2011 graduates. Standing: David Hild ’80, Don DeVivo ’80, Jim Eatherton ’79, Chuck DeBerry ’76, Bill Stack ’72, Carolyn Wolfe Gitlin ’85, Jeff Gitlin ’85 and Robert Waskowitz ’78; seated: Steven Hild, Kevin DeVivo, Victoria Eatherton, Hayley DeBerry, Marion Stack, Alex Gitlin and Jackson Waskowitz