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Cover Photograph by Maya Konings All Rights Reserved Š 2016 Comeback Magazine
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Job Recommendations
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The Teentrepreneur: Correction: NOT A Failure
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Take Care
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Career Day - Nikki Vargas
Issue No. 2
Tough Times & Powerful Lines
Andrew Plant: The Extraordinary Life of Ordinary People
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Dreams to Destiny
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JOB RECOMMENDATIONS In the age when people are carving out their own jobs, there are more diverse career options than ever. Here we share some that we find interesting and you may as well.
1. Packaging Designer
You are: an original and visual thinker, with a love for creating amazing brand experiences. Tasks: Design eye-catching as well as useful ways of product packaging. Create trend boards, fabric boards, and other presentation materials to share those designs.
2. Project Manager
You are: a self-starter who loves collaborating and understanding. Tasks: Develops and leads the planning around a project. Works across a multitude of departments to create a new/upgrade an existing product.
3. Design Planner
You are: an organization fan and flexible multitasker with an attention to detail. Tasks: Design of store interiors and window installations. Develop design, diagrams, maps and photographs.
4. Bike Messenger
You live in a biggish city and are a really (really) good bike rider Tasks: Zip around the city delivering food/papers/packages to impatient people.
Great Websites for Jobs: 1. Indeed.com 2. Careerbuilder.com 3. Monster.com
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his is a story for those who aren’t sure if they’re doing the right thing. This is a story for those who are afraid to fail. Bonjour. I am Sophia: a teenager, lover of desserts, Christian, entrepreneur, blogger, and writer. I guess I’m supposed to tell all of you a super inspirational story about my life: my struggles and victories and how you can be the same. Plot twist! I’m not that inspirational, and you probably don’t want to be the same as me, but I have had struggles and victories, especially in the blogosphere, so I guess it’s time for me to share my story. First, have you ever felt like something just isn’t quite right? You keep doing something, but it doesn’t feel like what you’re supposed to be doing. You keep doing something, but you feel like you’re constantly being judged. You keep doing
something, but you don’t like it. Can anyone relate? For me, this was lifestyle blogging. I started writing on the lifestyle blog I created in December of 2014. It was fun for a while. However, by spring of 2015, it became a chore. I was spitting out 12 posts a week, and yet it was dragging me down. Looking back, I’m still not sure what I was doing. Oh well, *cue Elsa from Frozen* “the past is in the paaaaaaaast!” However, even though I wasn’t really loving lifestyle blogging, I kept doing it. Why? Why would I do that. The nice answer is that I was hopeful that my blog would turn around and become a huge honking success or maybe that I didn’t want to let my followers down. The honest answer is that I didn’t want my blog to be labeled as a failure. The honest answer is that I didn’t want to feel like a loser, a quitter, a wasteroftime. That’s the honest answer. So I kept blogging. and blogging and blogging and plodding and plodding. The blog continued to grow, which was great, but I continued to 15
unlike it, which was not so great. Finally, late one night in November, I decided that I was going to stop blogging. Period. Maybe I was fed up, or maybe I was just finally letting myself do what I’d wanted to do for a long time. I wrote a quick email to let my collaborators know what I was doing and sent it out. That was probably one of the best decisions I made for the blog. I wrote a little blog post the next day and boom. The blog was over and done. Some may call it impulsive, but I call it finally letting myself free. But that’s not where the story ends! In the midst of closing down my blog, I started brainstorming random website ideas. I would seriously get ideas for blogs all. the. time. Like, I would be watching a commercial about pasta and be like, “oh! I could start a blog about pasta!” Haha. But one idea stuck. The idea that teenagers have the capabilities to become great entrepreneurs but they just don’t know it. So, after a bit of brainstorming and an awesome Christmas break (side note: breaks are awesome, aren’t they?!) The Teentrepreneur was born! Basically it’s a website to to connect and inspire teens to become entrepreneurs. Why did I start The Teentrepreneur? First, one of the main reasons why I didn’t love my lifestyle blog was because I didn’t feel like it was unique. Therefore, since no one even knows what the word “teentrepreneur” means (probably because I made it up), I thought it was definitely a unique idea, a voice that wasn’t really heard in the blogging world. Second, it feels right. I’m okay sharing my posts with my “real life” friends. such 16
as on Facebook, something I didn’t feel okay with on my lifestyle blog. Finally, I felt like The Teentrepreneur was founded on my passion for teen entrepreneurs since I love the idea of teen entrepreneurs and I am a teentrepreneur. So, enough about me. Now it’s about YOU. Are you the person who isn’t sure if you’re doing the right thing? Take my advice: (or don’t if you don’t agree, I guess) It’s okay to stop doing it. It’s okay to be a “failure”. Because it’s not failure if you learn from your mistakes. I don’t think my lifestyle blog was a failure. After all, I learned much more about myself from it. It’s okay to stop doing something. If your only reason for continuing somethinga sport, an instrument, a project, whatever is that you don’t want to be a failure, you should stop. Because beautiful things can come from your ability to fail. Out of failure can grow something greater than whatever you were doing in the first place. If you’d like to connect with me, you can visit my website at theteentrepreneur. com, or email me at sophia@theteentrepreneur.com. I’m also on instagram, twitter, and pinterest under @tteentrepreneur.
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While you’re busy researching and trying to find (or make) that hidden opportunity, it’s easy to get lost in the work. Figuring things out is hard. But, as important as the future may be, it’s just as important to take care of yourself in the present. As a reminder to relax the mind and body, here are my thoughts on self-care. By Iris Zhou
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1) Take care of your body first. Most of the time, stress and work come in the form of mental pressure. That pressure can be slightly relieved when you feel calm physically. Whether that’s taking a hot shower, wrapping yourself in a big blanket, or drinking a lot of water. Feeling healthy and clear in your body makes your mind clearer as well. That makes the whole decision-making and problem-solving thing quite a bit easier too.
2) Schedule time to chill. You can never fully unwind when there are still tasks on your list looming over your head. That’s why picking a day or an evening to take care of yourself works; not only can you fully relax, you also have a motivation to get your work done early. Seems like a win-win to me.
3) Make an accomplishments list. Kind of like the anti-to do list, the accomplishments list highlights the little successes you’ve already done. Some things you’ll find on my list: answered all the emails, cleaned my room, made some new food, participated in class, and went to bed early. These items aren’t big achievements. However, they are things that give me a sense of achievement that doesn’t come from crossing something off a list. And finally,
4) Take more time.
Wake up earlier, slow down, give yourself time to think. Whatever you need.
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Leaving 9-5:
How I Became A Travel Writer by Nikki Vargas
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Iing am sitting at a coffee shop in Astoria, Queens weara faded navy blue t-shirt and sipping on a cinnamon
dusted cappuccino as I bounce my foot in rhythm to the Spanish jazz playing. A mere two years ago, my life looked very different; I was very different. I was living in a co-op building on the Upper East Side of Manhattan with a demanding advertising career that often kept me locked away in an office until late at night. I was engaged to be married to a wonderful man and in the midst of planning one of those circus-sized weddings that utterly consume you. I was stuck in the 9-5 cycle--wake up, go to work, sit at a desk, go home, repeat--then I suddenly did the unthinkable and flipped my life upside down to become a full-time travel writer & blogger. From Corporate America to Travel Writer I had studied journalism in college, had always wanted to pursue writing and then one day it clicked: I want to be a travel writer. The idea was wickedly delicious, like indulging in a dessert when you’re supposed to be sticking to a diet. I lost myself to day dreams of globetrotting the world, of typing in Parisian cafes along the Seine, of being virtually anywhere but a stressful, fluorescent-lit office that had caused me to find my first gray hair. As they say, the first step of any journey is the hardest and so I pressed publish on my blog, The Pin the Map Project (www.thepinthemapproject.com), both named for my own personal project to prioritize seeing the world and a pushpin map my mother had given me that inspired the idea. My first blog post went by unnoticed as the sinking realization dawned that my only readers were directly related to me. How would I ever turn this passion into a career? I rationalized that the best way to help my site grow in readership was to have it featured on other, more prominent websites. I began freelance writing for various publications; starting with small, unpaid 23
jobs with high-traffic sites like Thought Catalog and Elite Daily, and eventually gaining enough experience to land paying gigs with VICE, FOOD & WINE and Matador Network. Each article I posted allowed me to tie it back to The Pin the Map Project in my author bio and so grow my traffic. My passion for travel writing had grown into a steady flame that I kept sustained while working in advertising and planning a wedding. Soon enough, I landed my first free hotel in exchange for a review, which led to my first press trip, which led to my first assignment abroad, which led to a jump in readership; before I knew it my side project began to grow 24
and consume my time and energy in the most wonderful of ways. Flipping My Life Upside Down As The Pin the Map Project caught fire, it started to clash dramatically with my routine-based life. I tried to balance a full time job with travel writing, tried to stretch my 10 vacation days enough to enjoy complimentary press trips andstretch my 10 vacation days enough to enjoy complimentary press trips and personal trips abroad. I tried to keep up with my blog and update it
daily while also carrying a full workload, as I would notice that each day either my work or my blog suffered depending on which needed my attention. If I had a slow day at the office, my blog and travel writing flourished as I updated the design, published posts and completed freelance writing assignments, but if work proved busy then my blog and stories remained untouched. In the midst of this push-pull between my passion project and career, my personal relationship seemed to be dwindling as my fiancé and I clashed over our mutual futures. He pictured us settling down, having children and moving to suburbia; while I imagined us
backpacking around South East Asia and traveling the world. He hoped The Pin the Map Project and my travel writing was a phase, while I hoped his desire to settle down could be negotiated. Our futures did not align as we both stood stubbornly on opposite sides of the fence unable to find a happy compromise between growing roots and having wings. On a grey, September afternoon my fiancé and I decided to call off our engagement and upcoming wedding. With our eyes red rimmed and tired, our cheeks streaked with tears, we had spent the better half of two weeks fighting for a future we realized didn’t exist anymore. Our relationship ended in the slow, painful way that most great romances do and 25
by the end of the year my life looked very different from what it once was--my ex-fiancé moved to Chicago to pursue a new job opportunity and live with his good friend, while I left the Upper East Side for Astoria and began to rebuild my life in a way that better reflected who I am. Having flipped my life upside down, I promised myself that I would earn the tears, pain and struggle and give my travel writing and The Pin the Map Project a real shot at becoming a career. With my wedding called off, my relationship over and my home moved to Astoria, I cut the last rope that tied me to my old life--my advertising career. I decided to switch to freelance work, allowing myself more control of my schedule and flexibility in terms of when I worked and where. Rather than limit myself to a set amount of vacation time per year and a rigid 9-5 schedule, I opted for short-term freelance gigs in between trips. I balanced freelance work for advertising agencies with travel, realizing quickly that going freelance meant having multiple revenue streams and projects happening simultaneously. Today, my life is very different. I admittedly started my day a bit late today, having opted to stay warm at home with my new freelance, filmmaker boyfriend and our rambunctious tabby kitten, Peeps. I don’t mind the late start, as I’ll be headed out of the country soon for a 10-day assignment throughout Mexico that will take me away from home. I have just finished an advertising gig at a large company in midtown Manhattan and am looking forward to traveling abroad in Mexico then backpacking from Rome to Venice, Am sterdam to Paris with my boyfriend in March. It’s 3pm now, on a Wednesday, in a city synonymous with work, but like someone sitting on the sidelines of a game I am relaxed and happy in my freedom as I watch the rest of the world spin around me--rushing to offices, hurrying through lunch breaks, inhaling salads at their desks, counting down to 5 day vacations--as I sit here writing, finally doing what I love.
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THE MANTRA: Empowering Wisdom For Strength in Heart and Mind.
How else do we learn and grow other
than through a little darkness and challenge? There are very little other ways, and a lot of the time there is no other way to properly learn than through some darkness. I know it’s not fun to hear, I’m sorry to report it, but it’s true. As someone who has learned to truly appreciate and accept her darkness and her messy times needed for education and personal growth, I am here to tell you that there are ways to calm the storm... Or at least calm your mind as you go through the storm. So, how does one find peace in the midst of the chaos? In words. Quotes, sayings and words strung along impeccably be30
tween pages of a book. It could be from words of compassion and encouragement from a meaningful mentor. What about that line in that one movie that tugs on your heartstrings in all the right and wrong ways with truth and wisdom? A mantra is a phrase or saying implemented to aid the person using it during a certain situation. Similar to a motto, however you can (and should) choose new mantras whenever a new physical or emotional issue comes up. The mantra is a powerful line chosen specifically and used to aid you through your tough time. That favorite line of yours, the one that resonates so greatly with your soul and most likely fits what you need in this
lessons in who we are, and what we’re made of. We all know these experiences are no fun to go through, I feel though that it is these experiences that truly help make us the best versions of ourselves when we are aware and open to the lessons.
chapter you’re going through in the book of your story, that is your new mantra. Use your mantra in times of worry and despair to calm your nerves and remind yourself of what rings true. In the times that are tough---no matter the size of the issue---find yourself some empowering, powerful lines and use them to move through your problem with grace and wisdom, you beautiful being, you. You’re powerful and magic and capable and deserving of beauty and light within your life. Yet still, balance is needed. You cannot have light without dark or dark without light. We should appreciate and accept our tough times because they bring us the most beautiful
The power of the mantra is more than helpful in working through tough times as well. Mantras are also awakening to personal power that lies within. By repeating mantras of empowerment and positivity and believing in them to get through we see what truly lies within. We find more compassion, tolerance, strength, resilience, and light among many other things. We find our personal power. From realizing these truths we are better equipped for anything that wishes to present itself in the future. Many of us are doubtful and overly critical of ourselves over an array of things like worthiness, capability, possibility, whether or not we’re good enough, etc. These insecurities are learned and unlocking our true personal power is a huge step toward big magic. You’re going through a new chapter and you’re lost, scared, and unsure. Let me tell you though, you are incredibly capable and you’ve been prepared whether you realize it or not. This experience is here to teach you, not hurt you, so long as you are open and aware of the lessons being presented before you are golden. It won’t always be fun, but if you take note and allow growth it will always be worth it.
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Extraordinary Lives of Ordinary People Written by Talha A. Khawaja Photos by Iris Zhou
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Talha: What motivated you to pursue journalism as a career? Andrew Plant: There are some motivations for my career that I did not realize were influening me at the time! I used to sit on my granddad’s lap as a small child and watch the news with him every evening. There were always lots of newspapers in my home; always lots of discussion at the dinner table about what was happening in the Big Wide World. But I didn’t hold a burning desire to be a journalist. I loved to write at school, loved English lessons, but I also enjoyed math and science. I still do. But when I got to A levels, and needed to decide where my interests really lay, it was obvious then that I wanted to do something that involved writing and reporting. And after
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some work experience in newspapers, I narrowed it down; a newspaper office was not for me. But TV on the other hand… that, I found very exciting. Breaking news; live reporting; the deadlines, the pressure, the variation. So it was a process rather than a certain destiny. How did you get your start in the field? I got a degree and then worked for a year in a call center for a major energy company to save up enough money to pay for a Master’s Degree in journalism. All the way through my education I had parttime work; supermarkets, petrol stations, clothes shops, bars and nightclubs. I did lots of different things to pay for my rent and food. Eventually I took out a loan to pay the final semester of my master’s
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tuition. By the time I finished, I was completely penniless. I worked for free at weekends in a newsroom in Birmingham, a place I’d done a week’s work experience during my course. Eventually I had to move back in with my mum. Things were bleak. Then I had an email that changed everything. A roster person in that Birmingham newsroom emailed me to say someone had suddenly gone sick, and could I fill in for a week? I stayed there for 6 months. It gave me the experience and skill I needed to move to a permanent job afterwards. Thank you for that email, roster person! (Then I spent 10 years paying off the debt I had run up trying to get a job. 38
Your efforts are truly admirable and that’s quite a struggle you had to go through to get where you are. How difficult was it for you at the start of your career in comparison to now? I don’t think the job gets any easier. At the start of my career, I worried about everything from script writing to interview questions, creative storytelling, how to cut news packages, accuracy, rights-ofreply, defamation and libel and contempt of court and dozens and dozens of other legal issues. I fretted about how to do live reporting (which can be very tricky at first), how to keep cool presenting in a
studio, how to generate original journalism, plus technical things like using cameras and editing software. Things have not changed. I am better at those things, no doubt, but I still worry about them. Plus now we have social media so I worry about Twitter and Facebook and Vine, and we have new technology so I worry about that too (such as being able to send pictures and packages straight back from wherever we are – something that has only become (cheaply) possible in the last few years). In terms of difficulty, the job does not change that much – stories come and go, and I report on them, whether that be for TV, for social media, or for radio. In many respects, there are now far more outlets for our journalism. But the hours are VERY long, the pay is not very great, and the deadlines just keep on coming. That’s a very difficult routine to maintain. Given this routine, what has been the most difficult single part or memory of your career so far? Along with that, what is your single favorite memory from the job? I have lots of great memories from my job so far. I’ll give you a couple of examples:
Both happened in 2014. Just as everyone was waking up to the New Year, villages in parts of Somerset in the UK were having a very soggy start to 2014. Constant rainfall meant that the flood plains on the low-lying Somerset Levels had reached capacity. The waters had continued to rise; rivers had burst their banks, and hundreds of homes and businesses had flooded. It was a big national story that I covered every day for a full four weeks. It was hard to get around (lots of roads were blocked), hard to operate in the constant rain, hard to stay dry and warm – and very, very busy. Every news outlet from online to TV to radio wanted the latest on the story. The scenery was like an ongoing natural disaster. The personal stories of people being forced to abandon their homes were heartbreaking. The rain kept on coming. It is a story I will never forget. That same year, a local court case took me to Cape Town in South Africa. Shrien Dewani was a Bristol businessman who had gone on honeymoon to the city with his new wife Anni in 2010. Their taxi had been hijacked and Anni had been killed. Shrien had survived after being dumped by the roadside. After he was flown back to the UK, a grieving widower, the South African authorities named him as a subject in the case. After 4 years attempting to extradite him, he was flown back in 2014
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STEP 2: TELLING YOUR FAMILY While discovering where your passions lie is the root to finding your dream career, once you know what to pursue, a lot of other factors have to be considered. Complications such as perhaps having to go back to school to finish your education or not having the means to follow your dream career start to emerge. Before worrying about any of these, however, the most important factor to have on your side is support. It is due to support that you can withstand continuous setbacks. It is support that brings you back when you are down or suggests solutions in time of crisis. It is support that is there for you when you most need it. Without this support, the path to success, while not impossible, becomes much harder. That’s why, before thinking of any of the other hurdles you face, it is imperative to tell your family or loved ones about your choice and have the ability to know how to best tell them. Telling your family about your decision can be a huge task, especially if you fear they won’t be easy to have a conversation with. So, before ap42
proaching your parents directly, consider whether they are the right people to talk to straight from the start. While parents can provide the greatest support, talking to them immediately about your choice can have some repercussions as they may be hesitant to embrace it, particularly if what you want is not something they are familiar with. In this case, it might be better to consider talking to any loved one or friend that you think will be the most accepting of your choice and will give you a favorable response. Opening up to even one or two people will also help to relieve built up stress of not having anyone to talk to about the problems ahead. Once you have confided in a few people about your decision, from there, it would be advisable to gradually let others know. The more people you tell, the more confident you will be and the happier you will be with your selected field. However, telling people can be, in many cases, easier said than done. This does not, although, mean that it is undoable. While you may think that knowing what to say is the hardest part of telling others, most people in fact, find it more difficult to have the courage to simply speak their minds. The only solution to
such fear is actually trying to do what you are afraid of. The longer you put off doing it, the larger the task will seem to you. Therefore, doing it now will mean you do not have to worry about it later. As previously stated, a good option would be to start by confiding in people who are most likely to support your decision, regardless of whether the person listening is a friend or the next door neighbor you haven’t spoken with very often. What matters is that you tell someone, be confident that you can get your point across to them and have faith in their willingness to listen to you. So, open up to others and as you feel your confidence rising, push yourself to talk to more people about your decision of following your dream. When you feel that you are ready to approach your parents, think about how you plan on doing so. Is talking to them without giving much thought, beforehand, to what you need to say really the best option? Or is it better to consider what particular phrases they may or may not be more responsive to? It might be better to do some research on your field first to study the types of job opportunities that are available. By doing this and presenting the information gathered to your parents, they will have a better grasp of the career you have picked for yourself. This will be very helpful in making a good impression in favor of your future path. Additionally, you could also bring a loved one that you have already told, with you, if you feel that they can convince your parents with more ease than you can. However, it may be preferable to talk to your parents alone, as the topic of discussion is very
private and sensitive. After having talked with your parents, now would be the time to focus on the other hurdles you face in achieving your dream. A huge advantage of having some support in your corner is that, now, collectively, all of you can have brainstorming sessions on trying to resolve the issues at hand. Therefore, it is advisable to sit down with anyone and everyone that has encouraged your choice and use their help to decide the next best possible course of action. However, if your friends and family prove to be of little assistance, seek further help from the internet. Possibilities of what you can find online are endless; ranging from solutions in your particular position to those with regards to your desired career. Support groups are available online to encourage people to follow their dreams as well. Whatever the case, with the wealth of information available on the web, you are bound to find something relevant to your situation. While some people will find success in convincing their loved ones to support their cause using the methods described above, the advice may not have been useful for everyone. For those who, despite implementing the above steps, have had difficulty in finding approval from others of their preferred field, it is strongly advised that you do not lose hope. Keep trying to convince your parents and your friends. Work on your other problems at the same time as well. Focus on managing both side by side. Be persistent, keep yourself motivated and keep pushing yourself as hard as you can because, ultimately, these are the ingredients that will lead to your success.
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To describe my life at the time - I was living on my own in NYC about to graduate and pursue my career. I had just met a man and began dating him after a few years of being single. In March of that year, I had to make what seemed to me at the time like a life decision. The state of NY changed the law for my profession, requiring me to spend another year at school. Twenty-three year old me asked myself, “Would it be worth it?” I had other plans for my life, the life I had imagined that would be perfect. hroughout the years, we see the rise and fall of things, people, and even places. One trend might be considered “hot” at the moment. Before you know it, it is lost, forgotten, and replaced by something else. Trends, success, and failure are parts of the circle of life. Accepting them when they occur is one thing, but what happens when what’s failing is you? Just like anyone existing in this world, I have had my reign of good times and fall of bad times.
With hopes of keeping my life goals in that perfect state, I decided to sign up for the extra year of school. I felt beaten down by the law. I wanted to spend more
Somehow the bad times always speak more to me in my memory. Negative times? Yes. With a positive outcome in the end? That all depends on you. With a positive outcome in the end? That all depends on you. We should always try to control what we can in life, for the positive and the better. When times are hard, a comeback can always be made.
time with my peers and the new man I had met. I wanted to continue to reside on my own, but had to retract to moving back in with my parents. That was the moment I realized I was living my life in reverse. Things should be getting better, not worse.With that mindset, something changed.
It all started about six years ago for me. I was 23, on my last semester of graduate school, believing I knew exactly what I wanted to do with my life. That, I have learned with time, is always bound to change and is not a bad thing.
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living as survival and not enjoying my life like I should have been. So, I began to spend more time with others. I began experimenting with new hobbies I never imagined I would be interested in. I started to use those vacation and personal days and do something productive with them. Jump forward a few years - I left my field of study altogether. I now work on projects that I choose. I don’t miss needing my future to be all figured out. I’m happier giving myself more time to enjoy life. I’ve made many more friends. I keep better relationships with others. That man I had mentioned turned out to be my husband and living with my parents had turned gigging conversations with wine about my fun adventures. Everything came together in the end. If I was jobless tomorrow or the world ended, I know I would be ok. I know what I like to do, what makes me happy, and I have plenty of other things I want to try in life. Going back to school or worrying about sticking to one career is not one of them. I turned my life into what I wanted it to be, and there is no other way I will have it, no matter what may come at me.
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