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Meet Kim and Vicky Smith, the Monmouth Mavens of Pickleball
BY LILIANN PARAS
Pickleball is everywhere. The phenomenon has captured casual players and fierce competitors alike, young and old and all ages in between. Courts pop up in public parks, private clubs, and in more than a few driveways. Celebrities are hooked, tennis pros are converting, pickleball influencers are a thing, and ambassadors promote the sport. Pickleball is played in schools, at charity events, and is featured in advertisements.
Despite what might seem like a new fad, pickleball was started nearly 60 years ago in 1965 by three fathers in search of a new game to occupy their children. And despite a somewhat slow start, in recent years the sport has swept the country, media, and of course, Monmouth County. What accounts for this popularity? The rules are simple, the equipment is minimal, and most importantly, it is a lot of fun!
If you are a player in Monmouth, chances are good that you had the pleasure of meeting Kim and Vicky Smith, the well-known and well-liked mother-daughter pickleball duo. They each have deep roots in the area. Kim lives in Fair Haven with her husband, Dave, in the same house where they raised their three children. Vicky, her daughter, resides in Atlantic Highlands with husband Joe, their two young boys, Joey and Cooper, and their two energetic dogs.
Kim and Vicky work together at The Fort Athletic Club in Oceanport. They also host recreational clinics in various towns, organize tournaments and charity events, and can be found playing for fun at area venues.
They travel to play, too, and recently returned from the US Open tournament in Naples, Florida, where Vicky competed and won gold in her age group and division.
It is no wonder one of their favorite sayings is, “I don’t always play pickleball… Oh wait yes I do.”
Community Magazine had the pleasure to hear how it all began for the Smiths and to learn their views on this very popular sport.
Community Magazine: How did you get involved in playing pickleball?
Vicky: My mother discovered pickleball through an article in an airplane magazine. She looked for local opportunities, eventually becoming an instructor and ambassador for the sport. She was the first to get hooked, and soon got our family involved. Initially, I played just to humor her on Mother’s Day and her birthday, but soon realized if I wanted to spend time together, I needed to start playing more. It took a few tries before I got hooked myself. Now we get to work and play together and get to see each other all the time.
What started as a seemingly silly game soon became a passion and a career!
CM: We learned you even were a pickleball ambassador in Antigua.
Kim: Ambassadors promote the sport, do a lot of volunteering, and help to grow the pickleball community wherever we can. I went on vacation in Antigua and ended up doing a free clinic to teach the resort activity coordinators ‘How to Teach Pickleball.’
CM: What has changed since you began?
Kim: In 2016, as an ambassador, I introduced the sport at New Shrewsbury and Colts Neck Racquet Club by offering free clinics. Back then, all the tennis courts had to be taped every time we went to play, and all the nets had to be put together and broken down each time. It was a lot of work, and too much for one person, so I, along with some of my pickleball buddies, formed Monmouth Pickleball Club to help in order to have open plays and play as a larger group. It is rewarding to go back to those clubs now and to see so many pickleball players, along with so many new faces.
CM: What are some of the advantages of playing pickleball?
Vicky: Great aspects of pickleball are its portability and health benefits. Whenever we travel, we bring our sneakers and paddles and use an app called “Pickleheads” to find local places to play, which is a fun way to meet new people and get some exercise. We’ve played in California, South Carolina, Vermont, New York, Florida, Antigua, and the Cayman Islands.
Kim: It’s also gratifying to witness the health benefits. We have seen people lose weight, lower their cholesterol and get off insulin. It’s also helped people with depression. This past year, the US Surgeon General recommended pickleball to combat the public health crises of loneliness, isolation, and lack of connection in our country.
CM: Has anything surprised you about the sport and the players?
Vicky: An interesting phenomenon is the formation of friendships and relationships. We’ve even seen couples who met on the courts end up having pickleball-themed weddings.
Kim: What’s also surprising is how
inclusive pickleball is. Anyone can play, regardless of athletic ability, age, or background. One of the best female players in the world is just 17 years old and started playing professionally at age 12. This diversity and accessibility make pickleball such a unique and enjoyable sport.
CM: What changes in the sport/players have you noticed?
Vicky: The style of the game is constantly evolving, and it’s fascinating to watch as professional athletes continue to improve. The game used to focus more on slowing down the pace and soft shots, but now it involves more speed and power. Many tennis professionals are transitioning to pickleball, bringing their advanced skill sets. Watching pro pickleball today, you’ll see long, strategic points that resemble a game of chess with a cardio workout.
CM: What do you think are the biggest misperceptions about pickleball?
Kim: A major misperception is that pickleball is a brandnew sport, but it has actually been around since 1965. Another common misconception is that it’s a sport for older people. While many retired individuals do play, pickleball is gaining popularity across all age groups. More people in their 30s and younger are getting involved, and many colleges now have teams. Children are also playing it in gym class.
CM: What have you found most rewarding about your involvement?
Vicky: The friendships we’ve seen develop — and those we’ve developed ourselves — have been overwhelming. Our pickleball friends are like family. We love seeing groups of players, who started as strangers a few years ago, still getting together to play and even spending time together outside of pickleball. We know a group of about 20 women who met playing at The Fort Athletic Club and recently took a pickleball “girls trip” to Mexico to play and take a clinic together.
Kim: It’s also incredibly rewarding to see how the sport positively changes lives. We’ve taught people who moved here from across the country and struggled to meet others. Now, through pickleball, they’ve found a new group of friends. The fantastic team of instructors and coaches, and players that we get to work with every day are also some of the best parts for us.
CM: And the most frustrating?
Vicky: The shortage of courts, although more are being added all the time. On many weekends at some of the local pickleball courts we will have 40 to 50 people waiting to play.
Kim: It is also frustrating when there are courts, but towns do not supply enough open play time to meet the demands of all the players out there. The spirit of the sport is that everyone plays with each other in large groups. Some towns are doing a great job, but others need to step up and supply the court time needed for the growth of the sport.
CM: How do you balance playing for fun and playing competitively?
Vicky: We both love a good competitive match, but maintaining a positive attitude and mindset ensures that every game is enjoyable. The primary goal is to have fun and get some exercise. We also love introducing new players to the sport, so it’s important to play games with people of all skill levels.
CM: What advice do you have for someone who wants to get involved in pickleball?
Kim: Just do it! Find an intro clinic and get started. It’s so much fun, and you’ll be glad you did!
CM: What do you enjoy doing other than pickleball?
Vicky: We love spending time with our families. We enjoy going to the beach, taking boat rides, reading, and traveling.
CM: Is there anything else you want readers to know?
Vicky: Pickleball can be a great way to network and host team-building events. One of our favorite things to do at The Fort is to run pickleball networking or company team-building events. Instead of another boring work happy hour outing, why not host a work pickleball event (and then happy hour)?
TLooking for a Local Pickleball Court?
BY LILIANN PARAS
owns are scrambling to keep pace with their enthusiastic pickleball playing residents. A selection of popular local places to play are highlighted here. This list is not exhaustive and new courts continue to crop up. You may find additional courts in lesser-known parks, or, if you are lucky, in your neighbor’s yard! Many courts have all-day open play, others offer limited open play times with reservations required for the remaining time periods. The Monmouth County Park System (MCPS) courts do not take reservations for its outdoor courts and so play is available on a first-come, first-
served basis. Town facilities vary on this access issue. Courts are generally available from 8 AM to dusk unless otherwise indicated. The courts with designated open play times are noted below but are subject to change, so be sure to check each town website for play times, ways to reserve a court, and in some cases, for lessons. If you prefer to play indoors, many of the private clubs offer a daily usage fee for non-members. A great tool for finding courts nearby and throughout the country is Pickleheads, the official USA game finder app. Grab your gear and start playing!
PUBLIC COURTS
Atlantic Highlands: Harbor Park- 2-hour time limit
Belmar: Maclearie Park- open play Mon. for adult non-beginners, 4:30 PM-dusk
Bradley Beach: Recreation Center- open play Tues. & Th. 5 PM; Sat. 10 AM
Colts Neck: Dorbrook Park (MCPS)
Eatontown: Wolcott Park
Fair Haven: Fair Haven Fields-open play Wed. 9 AM-11 AM
Freehold Township: Michael J. Tighe Park
Hazlet: Veterans Park, Freedom Park
Holmdel: Holmdel Park (MCPS)
Lincroft: Thompson Park (MCPS)
Long Branch: Manahasset Creek Park- open play daily 8 AM-12 PM beginner open play, Sun. 12 PM-2 PM
Middletown: Normandy Park
Ocean Township: Dave Dahrouge Park, Wayside Park, & Oakhurst Fireman’s Field-8AM-dusk; Community Pool and Tennis Facility-8 AM-10 PM
Oceanport: Fort Monmouth Recreation Area (MCPS- indoor & outdoor)
Blackberry Bay (Pass purchased from town required)open play Fri. 6 PM-8 PM, Sat. and Sun. 9 AM-12 PM.
Red Bank: East Side Park- open play Tues. 9 AM-12 PM
Rumson: Victory Park- open play: all ages Wed. 6 PM-8 PM; 20 and 30 year-olds Wed. 8 PM-10 PM.
Sea Bright: Community Center Gym- indoor, reserve for 50 min.
Tinton Falls: Wardell Park- opens at 8:30 AM
PRIVATE INDOOR PLAY, ALLOWS NON-MEMBERS
Colts Neck Raquet Club - open play, court rentals
The Fort Athletic Club, Oceanport - open play, court rentals
New Shrewsbury Raquet Club - court rentals
Park Ave. Tennis Club, Ocean Township - court rentals, open play.
BIZBEAT
The Ross Maghan Agency
The Ross Maghan Agency is proud to celebrate their 88th year serving Monmouth County. They continue to help residents with all of their home, auto and business insurance needs from their new office in Lincroft. www.MaghanInsurance.com
Full House Kitchen and Bath
Full House Kitchen and Bath recently opened their doors for business. The shop provides one-on-one attention from the initial design brainstorming and mood boarding until your renovation is complete. Stop by the showroom at 315 Route 35 in Eatontown (next to Pastosa’s) to see the latest cabinets, tiles, countertops, faucets, vanities, sinks, handles, and more. Appointments are not necessary but recommended. Turkish tea provided always. For more information, go to www.FullHouseKitchenDesign.com.
Icarus Brewing Co. 2.0
The grand opening of the new location for Icarus Brewing Co. will be taking place Saturday, July 20 at 12 p.m. The popular brewing company from Lakewood will now be located at 2045 Route 88 in Brick. With a rotating list of 25 beers on tap at any given time in their taproom, Icarus offers a fabulous experience to the craft beer connoisseur. www.IcarusBrewing.com
Monmouth Park
Join 107.1 The Boss at Monmouth Park in Oceanport from 12 p.m. to 2 p.m. July 27 for their Italian Festival & Wine Tasting. Enjoy mouth-watering Italian food from over a dozen of the area’s top restaurants and food trucks and sample from a variety of Italian wines while enjoying live music and much more. www.MonmouthPark.com
Chocolate Carousel
On the third Saturday of every month, head to Chocolate Carousel in Wall for “Cake Slice Saturday.” There will be five different cakes to choose from in this open house style event. Flavors will be announced in the week leading up. Stop by any time between 11 a.m. - 2 p.m. that day to enjoy.
$6 = a slice of cake and a cup of coffee/tea
$7 = two slices of cake and a cup of coffee/tea
$15 = a cake flight (a slice of each flavor) and two cups of coffee/tea
No reservations are necessary. Not available for carry out. This is an eat in only event. 21+ guests can feel free to BYO. www.ChocolateCarousel.com
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Board of Education President Jessica Groom sees her vision through
BY BILL CLARK
Jessica Groom first ran for the Shrewsbury Borough Board of Education in the middle of a tense campaign to pass a referendum.
The mother of two young sons at the time, she wanted to get involved in some capacity. Former Board member Don Sweeney encouraged her to gather her signatures and appear on the ballot. Sweeney himself was in the middle of attempting to convince the community that the small school was worthy of some big upgrades.
Groom’s quest was ultimately successful. She easily garnered enough support from residents to secure a spot on the nine-member board.
The referendum, however, was not. Its failure was felt by stakeholders in the school’s future. Groom believed in the vote but thought that there were better ways to promote the ask. She was sworn in and years later, when the time came to ask the township for their support for a new referendum, took on the role of Board President.
The Colts Neck native settled in the small borough in 2006 with an eye on the K-8 school district. As the Board President, she would be front and center when it came to promoting the new referendum which went up to voters in October 2022. Before leaving the workforce for a time to raise her family, Groom worked in financial services, using skills she acquired from her studies in
International Relations to build connections in the industry. She would leverage that experience with the Shrewsbury community, some of which questioned the value of passing a referendum that would directly impact their tax burden.
Groom’s family had a direct impact. Her mother also lives in the small borough.
“I think at first she was a little nervous, but she came to an information session with one of her friends and they left so grateful to be informed and were able to share information with their friends,” Groom said. “We actually ended up doing an informative event in the community in town where my mom lives.”
Though the district had taken modern approaches to informing the public by creating a website, hosting Zoom sessions and loading up their social media feeds with information, the best value may have come from being directly in front of the people they were lobbying.
“When you get to put people’s faces and their intent to a project, it helps,” she said. “Otherwise, it’s flyers and mailers and websites, and it can be a little daunting trying to digest all the information.”
The second referendum passed easily. The strategizing based on the lessons learned from six years prior secured funding for a new lunchroom, multipurpose room, three new classrooms and other infrastructure improvements. As of April, the construction
began clearing away space and laying the concrete which will eventually provide the foundation for the building addendum. With summer break looming, the expectation is that students will come back in the fall to see substantial progress.
Groom sees it as the perfect time based on the changing nature of the town. The improvements are “going to make the educational experience richer for the kids that are coming down the line,” Groom said. “I see so many people pushing baby strollers around town and it makes me giddy.”
Groom looks forward and is happy with the work she has put into her role in her two terms. With the referendum construction started and expected to wrap up in just over a year, Groom will step aside and not run for reelection.
Until then, she and the other board members will be monitoring the progress and keeping the community informed. That communication objective is also a point of emphasis in general. The school is finding new ways to share what happens during the day and after. Parents receive monthly newsletters that detail field trips, guest speakers, concerts, athletic events and more. The community can follow postings on each of the major social media feeds where students are highlighted visiting the Statehouse in Trenton, the beach in Sandy Hook, memorials in New York City and museums in Washington, D.C. Groom approves all of these functions with her other board members each month. Groom said that the members have a positive relationship amongst themselves. As with any other governing body, there may be a disparate vision and philosophy when it comes to the group as a whole, but Groom is happy to say that friction results in positive outcomes.
“We work well together,” she said. “We don’t always necessarily agree but we all have the same goal in mind of making things better for the kids. Maybe another unique thing about us is we’re not mired in egos. We all want the same thing. Not everyone needs to agree for things to improve.”
Groom understands that she also represents the interests of the community. Although Shrewsbury Borough is small, it holds a diverse array of opinions and perspectives. Groom doesn’t brush off any concern that parents or community members have, nor does she consider comments to be frivolous.
“I’d like to think for the most part when there’s frustrations, I hear about them. And that’s expected,” she said. “I think we could always improve our outreach and communication. It is something we are working on as a board.”
When difficult times hit, people have questions. Groom understands how those can be fielded and addressed.
“Shrewsbury is a great place to live, and I think the residents here get it and appreciate it. A lot of people volunteer regularly because they want to keep this great thing we have going,” she said. “We really take care of each other in town. We’ve had some tough things that have happened in this little community, and everybody rallies and really holds each other up. That is a wonderful thing about Shrewsbury.”
Groom points to Mayor Kim Eulner and Monmouth County Commissioner and former Mayor Erik Anderson when it comes to the loyalty that residents of the borough have. Each graduated SBS and chose to settle back down in the town with their families.
The hope for the future is based on Groom’s own experiences with the district.
Her younger son will attend Biotechnology High School, a Monmouth County specialized vocational school, next year. Her older son is finishing his sophomore year at Red Bank Regional. Each had different needs throughout K-8 for which Groom said the school exceeded expectations.
“I have two different children with different educational needs and both of their needs were met and actually surpassed by the educators in this building.”
Groom and her husband try to provide enriching experiences for their children at home as well. The family is well traveled both abroad and at home. When her sons were younger, she would frequent the various Monmouth County parks. All four ski, hike and utilize the other outdoor recreation of the area, even if it is just sitting on a beach.
Groom will also have the responsibility of addressing the eighth-grade commencement, which she has done twice so far. Each time she has admittedly become emotional at watching the students go off to their chosen secondary schools. She fully expects to choke up knowing that her youngest son will be walking across the stage just moments after she finishes her remarks this year.
But the promise that each of the fifty students hold is what keeps Groom invested in her role as Board President. The school has provided the foundation for her children and others to succeed at the next levels of education.
“When I think about it, practically speaking, everything these graduates will learn is built on building blocks that teachers gave them here,” she said. “I am eager to see the different paths these children choose.”
Four-legged Fun!
A roundup of pet-friendly events happening in Monmouth County this month
FRIDAY NIGHT BITES
A free event for dog owners and their furry friends. Bring your pup and your friends to this double-gated dog park, where you can relax and listen to music while mingling with other pet parents. Enjoy complimentary snacks, soft drinks, and treats from a sponsoring pet food manufacturer. This event is BYOB. 4-7 p.m. Fridays through October
The Hungry Puppy, 1288 Rt 33, Farmingdale
PATRIOTIC POOCH POOL PARTY
Bring your pup for a fun celebration of our nation!
Saturday, July 6, 11a.m. – 2 p.m.
The Hungry Puppy, 1288 Rt 33, Farmingdale
YAPPY HOUR AT THE WAVE
Bring your pooch and enjoy special dog-themed cocktails and food and drinks for humans and pups alike. A portion of the proceeds from cocktail purchases go towards the Monmouth County SPCA.
Fridays, 5:30-7 p.m.
Carousel Bar at The Wave, 160 Ocean Ave. N. Long Branch
YAPPY HOUR AT WONDER BAR
Wonder Bar’s much-loved dog-park-meets-happy-hour event returns this year. Grab your pup and head down for one of the most fun activities in town. Schedule varies by week. Check www.facebook.com/WonderBarYappyHour/ for updates. 1213 Ocean Ave in Asbury Park. WonderBarAsburyPark.com
EVENTS CALENDAR July
WEDNESDAY, JULY 3
The E Street Shuffle presents: the 40th Anniversary of ‘Born in the U.S.A.’
Asbury Park’s own Springsteen tribute The E Street Shuffle performs The Boss’ legendary 1984 album “Born in the U.S.A.” in its entirety, plus classics, hits and deep cuts. 8 p.m
1213 Ocean Ave. Asbury Park www.WonderBarAsburyPark.com
THURSDAY, JULY 4
Independence Day Celebration at Historic Longstreet Farm
Celebrate America’s birthday with an old school flair. Bring the family and enjoy games, music and more!
12-3 p.m.
44 Longstreet Road, Holmdel
For more information, visit www.monmouthcountyparks.com.
Atlantic Highlands Fireman’s Fair
Join Thunder 106 at the Atlantic Highlands Fireman’s Fair at Municipal Harbor in Atlantic Highlands. Check out the sights on the Ferris Wheel, enjoy delicious
cotton candy, groove to some live music and have your chance to win awesome Thunder 106 swag/prizes!
6-10 p.m.
2 Simon Lake Drive, Atlantic Highlands
SATURDAY, JULY 6
Thompson Park Canoe Rentals Canoes will be available for rent on Marlu Lake in Thompson Park, Lincroft
10 a.m.
For more information, visit www. monmouthcountyparks.com
Red, Whites and Blueberries at 4 JG’s Vineyard
Enjoy plenty of blueberry surprises and award winning wines to celebrate New Jersey’s blueberry season.
12-5 p.m.
127 Hillsdale Road Colts Neck
For more information, visit www.4jgswinery.com.
Independence Day Light Show Light Show and Fireworks at the Taylor Pavilion
8:30-9:45 p.m.
512 Ocean Ave. Belmar
For more information, visit https://tourism.visitmonmouth.com/ events.
SUNDAY, JULY 7
The Classic Car Show & Oldies Day at Monmouth Park
Bring the whole family as you travel back in time and see over 150 antique cars and enjoy entertainment for the whole family. 11 a.m.- 5 p.m.
Monmouth Park Racetrack, 175 Oceanport Ave, Oceanport
For more information visit, www.tourism.visitmonmouth.com.
TUESDAY, JULY 9
Under the Summer Stars
Bring a camp chair and flashlight as you search for constellations in the night sky.
10 p.m.
Dorbrook Recreation Area
353 County Road 537, Colts Neck
For more information, visit www.monmouthcountyparks.com.
THURSDAY, JULY 11
Lerner & Loewe’s My Fair Lady 7:30 pm
Spring Lake Theatre 300 Madison Ave. Spring Lake. For more information, visit www.springlaketheatre.com.
Swiftie Dance Party on the Bay Dance to your favorite Taylor Swift songs. 5-8 p.m.
Keyport Waterfront, American Legion Dr. Keyport
Summer Jazz in the Park – Mike Kaplan’s Nth Degree
Bring a picnic and enjoy some world-class music in a beautiful park setting with the picturesque Navesink River backdrop.
7-8:30 p.m.
Riverside Garden Park, 40 W. Front St. Red Bank
SATURDAY, JULY 13
Saturdays in the Park - Pat Roddy Band
Enjoy classic rock faves from Pat Roddy 5 p.m.
Riley Park – 615 Main Street Bradley Beach. For more information, visit www.allevents.in.
Big Bang Mile & Science Festival
The Shore Athletic Club (New Jersey’s oldest running club) dedicates the Big Bang Mile Race to the scientists of Bell labs and everywhere.
7 a.m. – 12 p.m
101 Crawfords Corner Road, Holmdel. For more information, visit www.bellworks.com
Long Branch Run/Swim/Run
The 2nd Annual Long Branch Run/Swim/Run will feature an 800-meter beach run followed by a 400-meter ocean swim and a second 800-meter beach run. Participants must register in advance, by July 12. Cost is $30.
6 a.m.
Pier Village, 66 Centennial Dr. Long Branch. To register, go to www.trisignup.com
THURSDAY, JULY 18
Summer Jazz in the Park – Wallace Rooney Jr. Quartet
Bring a picnic and enjoy some world-class music in a beautiful park setting with the picturesque
Navesink River backdrop.
7-8:30 p.m.
Riverside Garden Park, 40 W. Front St. Red Bank
SATURDAY, JULY 20
Christmas in July
Enjoy Christmas in July with live music and holiday vendors.
12-5 p.m.
127 Hillsdale Road, Colts Neck
For more information, www.4jgswinery.com.
Haskell Day!
Come support the premier event of the summer at the shore’s biggest party. 11 a.m.-7 p.m.
Monmouth Park – 175 Oceanport Ave. Oceanport
For more information, visit www.monmouthpark.com.
FilmOne Fest
Come see the best short films from around the world against the backdrop of the Atlantic Highlands Marina. Enjoy this free, family-friendly event.
5-11 p.m.
Atlantic Highlands Marina
54 First Ave. Atlantic Highlands
For more information, visit www.aharts.org.
THURSDAY, JULY 25
Summer Jazz in the Park – Vince Ector Organatomy
Bring a picnic and enjoy some world-class music in a beautiful park setting with the picturesque Navesink River backdrop. 7-8:30 p.m.
Riverside Garden Park, 40 W. Front St. Red Bank
WEDNESDAY-SUNDAY, JULY 24-28
49th Annual Monmouth County Fair East Freehold Showgrounds 1500 Kozloski Road, Freehold
Bring the family to this annual event and enjoy rides and games for all!
For more information, visit www.monmouthcountyparks.com.
Boardwalk & Summer Events guide
Frankly Speaking
We
check out the
top spots for hot dogs in Monmouth County
BY RYAN LOUGHLIN
Without question, one of the most beloved summer traditions in America is gathering together with friends and family and firing up a backyard grill loaded with hot dogs. This ritual has found itself to be the star of many a 4th of July celebration, graduation party or summer barbecue and we look forward to it each year.
But sometimes you find yourself craving a hot dog when a full-fledged summertime cookout just isn’t an option. Luckily Monmouth County has quite a few solid options.
Windmill (Long Branch, Red Bank, Asbury Park, Belmar)
Arguably the only true Jersey Shore hot dog dynasty, Windmill specializes in giant-size, natural-cased Sabrett franks expertly prepared on a flattop grill. Aficionados know to ask the grill sergeant to throw these famous pork/beef blend dogs on the open flame char grill for a little extra flavor. The free stable of self-serve toppings includes standards like ketchup, mustard and onions in addition to a sweet and spicy red pepper relish that’s worth a taste. Chili and cheese options will cost you a bit more, and while they can be great atop the dog, they pair even better spilled over an order of their excellent crinkle-cut French fries. Locations are plentiful throughout Monmouth County, but for the most fun experience (complete with giant windmill-shaped exterior and outdoor deck) be sure to visit the original location at 586 Ocean Boulevard in Long Branch. WindmillHotDogs.com
Local Smoke (Neptune City, Sea Girt, Red Bank, Monmouth Park Racetrack)
Sure, when most people think of Local Smoke, they pic-
ture pulled pork, brisket, ribs, chicken and some of the tastiest cornbread north of the Carolinas, but what many might not realize is that the hot dogs here are top notch too. They use a flavorful, all-beef skinless dog served on a brioche bun, which adds a subtle touch of sweet to balance the smokiness of the dog itself. I recommend ordering the Porkin’ Doggy, which introduces bacon into the mix. Top it with one of their famous BBQ sauces for a unique combo you won’t find at every hot dog stand. And if you want to expand your hot dog horizons even further, try the Wagyu beef sausage which comes stuffed with jalapenos and cheddar cheese. Is it a hot dog? Eh, not exactly, but who cares? LocalSmokeBBQ.com
G & G (Red Bank)
Those in search of the ultimate old-school lunchtime experience need look no further than G&G, a humble hot dog truck parked in a small lot just off of Shrewsbury Avenue in Red Bank. The business has been in operation since 1972 and owner George Leboussis serves up tasty pushcart-style natural-casing Sabrett hot dogs to hordes of hungry customers each week. This is about as close as you can get to a classic New York City hot dog in New Jersey – but with better prices. Two dogs (one with mustard and one with chili and cheese) came in at just $7, and more than filled me up. Where else are you going to find a lunch for under $10 these days?
Max’s Bar & Grill (Long Branch)
Neighbor and semi-friendly rival to Windmill, Max’s opened up shop nearly a century ago, all the way back in 1928. Originally known as Max’s Famous Hot Dogs, this beloved space is an excellent spot for those looking to pair a beer with their dog, Max’s serves footlong natural-casing Wenning’s brand hot dogs, which come straight off the grill. They did a large-scale refurbishment a few years back and were also featured on an episode of Gordon Ramsay’s Kitchen Nightmares last year, adding to the local lore. The menu was greatly expanded during the refurb and even features a long list of excellent bar food faves to satisfy any wiener-haters in your group.
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Olde Heidelburg Inn (Keansburg)
A long day spent riding rides and beating high scores at Keansburg Amusement Park is a surefire way to work up an appetite, and there may not be a finer way to satisfy that hunger than with a hearty dog from Olde Heidelburg Inn. A summertime tradition for generations (they opened in 1934), Old Heidelburg still produces one of the tastiest grilled hot dogs around (do yourself a favor and have it topped with their fabulous spicy onions). The fact that they are only open seasonally makes the entire experience all the more crave-worthy. A summer night at one of their outdoor picnic tables with a few dogs, some crinkle-cut fries and round of beers – now THAT is what summer is all about.
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Silverball Retro Arcade (Asbury Park)
To Get Your Game On This Summer
BY RYAN LOUGHLIN
By its very nature, the summer is all about playtime, (and that goes for adults as well as kids). Everything from the games of chance on the boardwalk to the video-game classics and pinball machines at the arcades offer up a fabulous opportunity to release some stress and feel like a kid again. And with that in mind, we present to you the best places to get your game on this summer!
There is a reason Asbury Park is known as the cool kid on the block, and spots like the Silverball Retro Arcade illustrate that point perfectly. Located right on the boardwalk, this effortlessly hip spot features the largest and most impressive selection of vintage pinball machines you will find anywhere at the Jersey Shore, each labeled with their date of production. Throw in a few skeeball lanes, a duo of air hockey tables and a rotating gaggle of classic old school video games (think Frogger, Galaga, Tapper, Space Invaders and more) and it all adds up to one of the most enjoyable summer afternoons imaginable. SilverballMuseum.com
iPlay America (Freehold)
Who says you need to travel to the beach towns to have a little fun? iPlay America offers up all of the boardwalk-style good times you know and love in the decidedly suburban location of Route 9 in Freehold. The latest video games are all in house, but that really only scratches the surface, as iPlay offers everything from indoor go karts and the incredible XD Dark Ride to a mini ferris wheel, laser tag, balloon darts and more. Onsite food choices include boardwalk-style snacks at Sonny’s, slices from Rob’s Pizza as well as robust menus at The Loaded Spoon and Topgolf Swing Suite. iPlayAmerica.com
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Keansburg Amusement Park (Keansburg)
From a visual perspective, arcades and games of chance seem most at home when the aesthetic of the environment that surrounds them is a bit rough around the edges. The arcades in the ’80s always had a bit of an edge to them as did the traveling circuses where this type of entertainment’s roots lie. Keansburg Amusement Park, has a few bumps and bruises, but that ultimately adds to its charm. A sort of boardwalk-without-boards, the park offers a full lineup of rides as well as games for all ages. Spinning wheels, frog bogs, basketball shooting challenges and traditional arcade classics are all in the mix. KeansburgAmusementPark.com
JENKINSONS BOARDWALK (POINT PLEASANT)
If there is a more quintessential “summer-at-the-JerseyShore” experience than strolling the boards in Point Pleasant, we have yet to find it. Your options for fun and games are all but endless, with all the boxes being checked off at nearly every turn. Kiddie rides like fire engines and jumping motorcycles, big kid rides like the Super Himalaya and Pirate’s Plunge as well as nostalgic faves like bumper cars and the Tilt-a-Whirl all live side-by-side with some of the best arcades and boardwalk games of chance you’ll find anywhere at the shore. The crashing waves and whiffs of cotton candy and funnel cakes just add to the intoxicating nostalgia of the entire experience. Jenkinsons.com — Photos provided —
Bored? Hit the Boards!
So it’s the heart of the summer, and you are looking to indulge in the kind of seaside fun that can only be had right here at the Jersey Shore? Whether it’s the rides, the slides, the games, the funnel cakes or a simple peaceful trek down the boards to take in the sights, sounds and smells, here’s a list of some of our favorite boardwalks to spend a few hours at (and what you’ll find at each).
Long Branch: Long Branch’s boardwalk and pavilion is built around its centerpiece, Pier Village, a modern, multi-use space housing everything from oceanfront apartments and The Wave hotel to surf shops, pizzerias, bookstores, both casual and high-end dining options and so much more. The recent addition of a mini golf course in Festival Plaza adds a new fun element for 2024.
Asbury Park: Years ago, Asbury Park’s boardwalk was a fairly traditional mix of bumper cars and tilt-a-whirls, all accented by a not-so-typical backdrop which featured the jaw dropping architecture of the Carousel House, Convention Hall and the Casino. While the rides may have been torn down long ago, the rebirth of Asbury Park has brought with it a more grown-up boardwalk, which now features a collection of trendy restaurants and shops alongside classic options like giant pizza slices at Maruca’s and foot-long hot dogs at Mayfair. The Silverball Pinball Museum tips its cap heavily to your favorite arcades of the ’70s and ’80s, while the splash park gives the kiddos a place to run wet and wild on a hot summer day.
Ocean Grove: The boards are not made of actual wood on Ocean Grove’s boardwalk, which makes them both more durable and easier to walk on. Note: the town’s recently constructed pier sustained damage during a recent storm, which has limited access to it temporarily.
Bradley Beach: Mostly boards, save for the occasional food truck or mini golf course, Bradley Beach is very much a local’s town – with a local’s boardwalk. What does that mean? Well, let’s just say you have virtually no chance of bumping into any member of the cast of “Jersey Shore” here, and that is one of the best things about it.
Avon- By-The-Sea: Nothing but gorgeous sand and sea to look at on this short stretch that runs through the length of this short (but beautiful) beach town. A great place to go for a quick and picturesque jog without a ton of crowds in your way.
Belmar: Gorgeous direct views of the ocean that are visible both from the boardwalk and Ocean Avenue thanks to the lack of any dunes on Belmar’s beach. Unlike many boardwalks, the shops, bars and restaurants are mostly located across the street, giving Belmar’s boardwalk a clean and unobstructed vibe, perfect for exercising or just casually moseying down.
Point Pleasant: A magnet for almost anyone who visits the Jersey Shore on vacation, Point Pleasant’s boardwalk checks just about every box there is, with everything from classic midway and kiddie rides to arcades, mini golf courses, iconic bars like Jenk’s and Martell’s Tiki Bar as well as plenty of spots to grab a Kohr’s custard. This is the fabric of childhood memories and even if you have been a thousand times or roll your eyes at the tourists, it’s worth the trip every single time.
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What do you find to be most rewarding about this kind of work? The most rewarding aspect is making a positive difference in the community. It’s great to be able to build trust and help others within the community. Most jobs don’t provide that opportunity.
What is the hardest aspect of the job? The hardest aspect is the irregular hours. I work part-time and am a full-time student pursuing a bachelor’s degree in Homeland Security at
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Do any aspects of the job ever scare you? Dangers come with the job, but I’ve never been scared. You cannot be scared when people are relying on you to do the job you’ve signed up to do.
What was your most memorable experience on the job so far? The most memorable experience for me is becoming a part of the water rescue team. I love to surf, swim, and really anything that has to do with the water, so the water rescue team is something I’m very passionate about.
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RFH Girls Dominate the 2024 Outdoor Track Season
Girls Achieve Wire to Wire Wins in the County, Conference, Sectional and State Championships
The Rumson-Fair Haven girls track team completed its season sweep of major meets and remained undefeated on the outdoor track. The team had a successful winter track campaign but came up short, placing second in the NJ State Group tournament. The girls avenged that ending to the winter campaign by rattling off a series of emphatic wins in the Monmouth County championship, the Shore Conference meet, the Central Jersey State Sectional meet and the Group 2 NJSIAA championship on June 8 to run the table, despite facing perennial stalwarts Willingboro and Haddonfield on its way to complete the perfect season.
A host of team members from seniors all the way to freshman contributed across multiple events both on the track, in the field and over the hurdles. Along the way, the RFH, girls track team faced adversity and stiff competition at every turn. This team exemplified what it is to be disciplined and focused on a singular goal, striving for excellence and following through on commitments to their championship run. The unwavering culture of excellence drives the RFH girls track team.
The team also benefited from a strong showing from its freshman and sophomore ranks, including Maren Kennedy, Kaitlyn Hathaway, Riley Sullivan, and many more emerging stars.
A few of its athletes will continue competing at the elite NJ invitational reserved for the top finishers at the Group meets, the Meet of Champions. Clemmie Lilley will toe the line at the prestigious Brooks PR Invitational and still more will compete at the New Balance Nationals hosted at the University of Pennsylvania where Clemmie will rejoin the team in the 4 x 400 with plans to challenge the RFH school record of three minutes fifty seconds set by the stellar 2019 squad.
The program is as strong as it has ever been and has reason to be excited for 2025 with the core of its team being underclassmen all returning. The 2024 NJ State Group 2 title was the third in five years and is the basis for talk of a dynasty brewing on the peninsula.
The 2024 spring team was led by a trio of 800-meter athletes all ranking in the top 10 in New Jersey including junior Clemmie Lilley, sophomore Reese Reynolds Malone, and junior Izzy Rodriguez, complemented by a group of gritty seniors: Lucy Devlin, Ryan Malone, Katie Murray, Kate Hennen, and Quinn Cushing.
The team also had strong junior support from distance specialist Logan Rettino, middle distance focused Hannah Nitka and sprinter Cassedy Stypul. Throughout the year, sophomore star Anna Applegate generated many points in the pole vault event.
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This month, we want to tell you about The Monmouth Museum. The Monmouth Museum is a great place to bring the kids for a day of fun activities with an engagement in history and science. The museum is open to all ages!
ABOUT THE MONMOUTH MUSEUM — The Monmouth Museum serves as a center for education and culture and is one of the largest private Museums in New Jersey. They serve as a cultural center of the arts, history, and science to all ages and abilities. The museum is located at Brookdale Community College, 765 Newman Springs Road, in Lincroft.
WHAT TO DO — On June 4, 2023, the Monmouth Museum officially opened the Garrett Reisman Center for Air & Space! Garrett Reisman is a New Jersey native who is a NASA Astronaut, Senior Advisor at SpaceX and Technical Consultant for Apple TV+’s For All Mankind. The exhibit, which has been carefully de signed for all ages, features Reisman’s NASA flightsuit as well as his Russian flightsuit, which was from STS-124 as part of Expedi tion 17 on the International Space Station. In addition to NASA artifacts, the exhibit has an impressive collection of Lego models. Children can also create at the constellation tables, go inside a replica Friendship 7 capsule and learn about John Glenn’s orbit around the Earth in 1962, try an astronaut simulator in a newly constructed “spaceship,” take an astronomy quiz at the iPad table, learn about gravity with an interactive apples display, and more.
The Wonder Wing is a children’s play and educational area de signed for children ages 6 and under. The Wing, which has an “under the sea” theme, features a puzzle corner, treehouse to climb, a stage area for imaginative play, a lighthouse to explore, a ship to steer, rope bridge, whale slide, arts and crafts room, and reading nook.
The Meyer Art & Nature Area is a multifaceted outdoor art area that serves as a classroom for the appreciation of art and nature. This area has encouraged the educational programs at the Museum to spill out into a “nature learning center” where the sky is literally the limit! The Meyer Art & Nature Area features an Art Area, Gathering Area, Butterfly Garden, Wildlife Area, Bird Watching Area, Picnic Area, Photo-Op and the famous “Stella”, a large magenta dinosaur created by the late Monmouth County sculptor Jim Gary, made from a collection of auto parts. ADMISSION AND DETAILS — The cost is $14 for General Daily Admission (for all guests ages 2 - 64) and $10 for Senior Admission (for guests ages 65+ with valid ID) and Military Veter ans (requires valid Military ID). The Museum is free for children under the age of 2, Brookdale employees, Brookdale current stu dents, and Active Military. Families with SNAP/Family First also receive free admission.
Rumson 5th Graders Hit a Home Run with Culmination of LEAD Program
Agroup of 5th grade students from Forrestdale School in Rumson recently celebrated the culmination of their LEAD program. LEAD – which stands for Law Enforcement Against Drugs – is a police officer-driven curriculum where students get to learn firsthand from officers about the dangers of alcohol, drugs, and nicotine. Additionally, students learn how to communicate effectively, make smart decisions, and become aware of the dangers of giving in to peer pressure.
The guest speaker at the event was Minnesota Twins pitcher, Anthony DeSclafani, who delivered a great message to the kids, highlighting the values of hard work and perseverance in order to achieve personal goals.
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The Little Silver Police Department participated in the annual Student Government Day with the 8th grade class at Markham Place School. This day allows students to interact with members of the Police Department and other members of town government to learn how these groups work collaboratively to serve the residents of the borough. The school sends out a special thank you to the Monmouth County Sheriff’s Office for their participation, along with K-9 Mack.
Fair Haven Fire Co. Celebrates 120 Years of Service with Weekend of Fun and Games
On Saturday, June 1 2024 – exactly 120 years to the day when the Fair Haven Fire Company was incorporated on June 1, 1904, more than 100 members of the full company (Fire, First Aid, Fire Police, Auxiliary, Social and Cadets) met at the firehouse for a celebratory anniversary photo session.
Photographer Robert “Tyler” Breckenridge, son of ex Chief Darryl Breckenridge, modernized the photo approach with his use of a drone. It was a beautiful morning which featured “seasoned” members and “newbies” standing side-byside in celebration of this momentous occasion.
On Sunday, those same seasoned members proved once and for all that age is but a number, as the “Old Timers” boasted a win, beating the “Young Guns” by one run at the traditional yearly Old Timers Day softball game.
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quick roundup of must-do events happening at local restaurants this month
TUESDAY, JULY 2
Restaurant: Donovan’s Reef
Location: Sea Bright Sandy Mack – 6 p.m. DonovansReefBeachBar.com
FRIDAY, JULY 5
Restaurant: St. Stephen’s Green Location: Spring Lake Billy Hector - 9 p.m. SSGPub.com
THURSDAYS, (JULY 11, 18, AND 25)
Restaurant: The Cabin Location: Freehold Country Night 5 p.m.-10 p.m. (Live music begins at 7 p.m.) TheCabinNJ.com
THURSDAYS, (JULY 11, 18, AND 25)
Restaurant: The Columns Location: Avon Lobsterpalooza – 5 p.m. Live music and chances to win lobster dinners. TheColumnsNJ.com
FRIDAY, JULY 12
Restaurant: Tim McLoone’s Supper Club Location: Asbury Park
Paradi$e – The Eddie Money Tribute – 8 p.m. TimMcLoonesSupperClub.com
MONDAY, JULY 22
Restaurant: Tim McLoone’s Supper Club Location: Asbury Park
Catch a Wave- Beach Boys Tribute – 8 p.m. TimMcLoonesSupperClub.com
Ranney School, an age 3 through Grade 12 college preparatory school in Tinton Falls, has a strong commitment to STEAM and hands-on learning is evident in all three academic divisions—from early childhood’s exploration of scientific concepts in the school’s community garden to international travel and other unique experiences as part of the Upper School’s two-week-long Maymester. Ranney is also home to state-of-the-art spaces including a finance lab with Bloomberg terminals, a new ColLABoratory for Lower Schoolers to engage in interdisciplinary projectbased learning, an observatory, and a new Lower School library and learning commons.
Not All Roads Lead to the Courthouse:
Alternative – and More Productive - Ways To Resolve Custody and Parenting Time Disputes
BY LEIGH OLIVER – ANSELL GRIMM & AARON
For parents, few things in life are as important as their child’s health.
But parents also know that not every scrape, bruise, cut, fever, or other problem warrants a visit to the hospital. While you wouldn’t hesitate to drive your child to the ER in a split second if needed, why endure the cost, time, and stress involved if a less extreme approach could be just as effective?
The same principles apply to custody and parenting time disputes that may arise between divorced parents. While the courthouse and the judges who work there are sometimes necessary to resolve serious or repeated transgressions or issues which put the child’s health, safety, and well-being at risk, other ways of resolving parenting conflicts are often better suited to the situation and can lead to more positive, enduring outcomes for all.
Mediation
Mediation is one alternative dispute resolution method that lends itself to custody and parenting time conflicts. This process can keep parents out of court and lead to a faster, more amicable, and less costly resolution than litigation. Mediation can foster an atmosphere that lowers the temperature and keeps the parties’ emotions in check while also allowing each parent to have their position, concerns, and goals heard and considered.
Though styles and procedures may differ depending on the mediator, the process generally involves a neutral third party, usually trained in negotiation and dispute resolution, who meets with the parties both together and separately to get a sense of the particulars of the dispute and the views of each parent. The mediator then works with them to find areas of common ground and develop compromises acceptable to both sides, often conducting “shuttle diplomacy” between the parents throughout the session.
To encourage open and honest dialogue, mediation’s general rule is what happens in mediation stays in mediation. Unless both parties agree otherwise, everything said, proposed, rejected, ex-
pressed, or shared during mediation is privileged and confidential and cannot be used in any pending or future legal proceedings pursuant to New Jersey Rule of Evidence 408.
The key difference between mediation and litigation is that mediators, unlike judges, cannot impose solutions or enter orders that bind the parties. Mediators also cannot force the parents to reach an agreement. It is entirely up to the parents to either resolve or not resolve their dispute, meaning they are in control of their destinies rather than at the mercy of a judge who has never met them or their child and who may enter an order that leaves one party feeling they got the short end of the stick.
The ability for parents to maintain control over major decisions affecting their children, by working together with their attorneys and a neutral mediator to reach an agreed-upon solution rather than a dictated one, is one of the biggest reasons mediation leads to more durable and satisfactory results for both parents, which in turn makes things better for the child.
Co-Parenting Therapy
As noted, one of the characteristics of mediation that makes it so effective and widely used is that it allows each par-
ent to openly and honestly express their feelings and points of view without judgment or repercussions. That is also one of the defining features of “therapy.”
Co-parenting therapy is essential in most high-conflict custody cases and aims to help parents learn how to effectively communicate to address their differences in a productive manner. As with mediation, parents who work with a co-parenting therapist to help them navigate custody and visitation disputes, whether separately or together, have a chance to have their position and any concerns heard by a neutral party. Given their specialized education and training, as well as their professional objectivity and distance, co-parenting therapists can also offer constructive or insightful observations about a parent’s conduct or perspectives. More than that, however, co-parenting therapists are better suited than lawyers, mediators, or judges to address the underlying causes of these conflicts and work with parents to develop long-term strategies and approaches to help parents work more effectively together when future issues arise. This increases the odds that parents can resolve matters on their own without the need for outside intervention which can prevent unnecessary stress and legal expenses down the road. More importantly, co-parenting therapy can facilitate a more collaborative and civil parenting relationship which benefits both parents and their children.
The child’s best interest is the prime consideration in all custody and visitation matters. High-conflict custody cases invariably involve unresolved disputes that have the potential to linger for years, causing parents and their children ongoing stress and tension. Few things benefit a child of divorced parents more than a mom and dad who can work productively together to raise them. Mediation and co-parenting therapy can help moms and dads do precisely that.
About the author: Leigh T. Oliver is an associate at Ansell.Law, focusing her practice on matrimonial and family law.
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Shrewsbury 2nd Grade Students Visit Reservoir
Second graders recently traveled to the Manasquan Reservoir where they got a firsthand look at a local environmental center. Through interactive activities and an educational tour, the students learned all about wetlands ecology, wildlife and habitat protection.
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What do you love about teaching, and what keeps you coming back each day? Getting to see my students, hearing about their lives, helping them navigate their teenage years, and preparing them for whatever path they choose to take after high school is one of the most rewarding parts of teaching.
What is the most challenging thing about working with kids? The ever-changing technology, especially A.I. Trying to teach a balance between using technology to enhance learning while not letting it take the place of meaningful work is challenging, especially when teenagers tend to be a couple of steps ahead in terms of knowing what the newest apps and resources are.
What was your own school experience like as a kid? Did you enjoy school? I loved school. I always loved reading, learning, and organizing my school supplies.
If you could add one new subject that every kid would have to take in school, what would it be and why? Current events and media literacy - As social media has become the main source of news and information for so many people, I think it has become increasingly difficult for people to discern fact versus fiction. Being able to understand that all news contains some sort of bias, identifying it, and figuring how out how to find balanced sources is vital for everyone to learn.
What is the most important thing that your students have taught you? To never stop learning and to always remember that everyone has different perspectives on nearly everything.
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Rumson-Fair Haven JV Boys Lacrosse Team Wins Shore Conference Tourney
Rumson Fair Haven High School sends out a big congrats to the Rumson-Fair Haven’s JV Boys Lacrosse Team for winning the Shore Conference JV Tournament!
(Photo and Caption Credit: Rumson-Fair Haven School District)
Rumson-Fair Haven Girls Lacrosse Takes Shore Conference Title
Congratulations to the Rumson-Fair Haven Girls Lacrosse team on a huge 17-6 victory over Trinity to win the Shore Conference title. Well done ladies!
(Photo and Caption Credit: Rumson-Fair Haven Regional High School)
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