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Home for the Holidays

Habitat for Humanity & IBEW 400

Bring a True Christmas Miracle to a Monmouth County Family

T ucked away on a quiet residential street in the heart of Atlantic Highlands is a brand new house belonging to the Rivera family. This two-story, multi-family home was constructed with over a year’s worth of sweat equity from volunteers, Habitat for Humanity construction staff, and even the Riveras themselves. The family of five will soon move into the first floor while the second floor will be occupied by rent ers, a unique model created to provide both homeownership and an income stream for partner families.

Melinda and Johnny Rivera - parents to thirteen-year-old Jaden and two-yearold twins Johnny Jr. and Lulu - are moving from Freehold. The small bungalow they currently rent and occupy was originally a one-bedroom home but, soon after the Riv eras moved in, the landlord reconfigured the space to include two tiny bedrooms. Despite these changes, and with a growing family, the house was no longer suitable for them and the rent remained high. “Just before COVID, we found out we were preg nant with twins,” said Melinda. “We had already been saving and planning to either find a better rental or buy a house, but af ter searching through the options out there and taking into account all of the factors, including student debt, it seemed like it would be very difficult or even impossible to move.”

The Riveras decided to apply to Hab itat for Humanity in Monmouth County (HFHMC) and were elated to be selected

for their new home in February 2022. Kim Stulb, President of the Board of Trustees for HFHMC, knew from the start that the Riveras would be a great partner family. “They were very excited about finally being able to own a home in Monmouth County. It’s something they may never have been able to do otherwise,” she said. Owning this home with an affordable mortgage guarantees that the Rivera family can con tinue living in Monmouth County for a long time while contributing to the Atlantic Highlands community.

The new home’s construction was ardu ous and took longer than usual. Work be gan during the pandemic, which lessened the number of eligible volunteers. On top of this, a national supply chain crisis made ob taining the necessary materials much more difficult. “This is one of the houses where everything that could’ve delayed us, did,” said Stulb.

Through the work of dozens of volun teers throughout the year, the house slowly but surely began to look more like a home. Rob Shimko, Business Manager of IBEW Local 400, is passionate about volunteer ism and instills this belief into the IBEW’s apprentices, who participated in the con struction. “This is our third home with HFHMC and we will continue to work with them throughout Monmouth County,” said Shimko. “We try to give back to the com munity as best we can.” Local 400’s first year instructor Rob Baumgartner coordi nated with HFHMC to treat this volunteer

work almost like a class, where apprentices were briefed on the blueprints and direct ed on how to go about starting the job of performing electrical work throughout the house.

F inally, the house was completed in Oc tober and a “Welcome Home Celebration” was in order. Members of HFHMC, Local 400, elected officials, and many others joined the Rivera family in early November to celebrate their new home. “Thank you to everyone who took the time and effort to help build this home,” said Johnny Rivera from the porch, holding his son in his arms. “We were so excited when HFHMC select ed us to purchase the house. We’re still on cloud nine.” As their children played out side, Melinda and Johnny posed with a local artist’s framed drawing of their new home and received an abundance of gift baskets filled with housekeeping supplies.

W ith a living room that’s the size of their current bungalow, this home will pro vide the Rivera family with the space they need to flourish. “Above anything, we’re most excited to get the kids in this house. That’s been our number one priority,” said Melinda. “They need the room. Our home right now doesn’t even have a tub. For them to have space to explore, play, and grow is truly a blessing.”

Many hearts and hands participate in Habitat for Humanity construction proj ects. HFHMC builds a house so someone else can make it a home, and the Riveras will certainly do just that.

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Lincroft Lightning Hit the Ball Out of the Park

T he Lincroft Lightning closed out its fairytale season with a 16-5 win in their championship game against the undefeated Manchester Pirates. High lights of the game included pitchers Ted dy Valentino and Jason Spallin, catcher E van Mutto, and a homerun by Alec Stil litano. This game followed an exciting s emi-championship game where they ousted the Wall Knights 5-4 in extra in nings with a walk-off single from Gar rett O’Hara.

B ut this win was even more spe cial than simply the title of 2022 15/16U S hore Division USABL Champions. Al though their record was W9-L3 this sea son, the boys are no strangers to defeat. D espite many losing seasons, the Light ning have stuck together year after year for the simple love of the game and play ing together. In fact, some teammates a re friends who have been playing to gether since the second grade. They had

not won a championship since 2017.

T he team will return in the Spring, but without these seniors who are no longer eligible to play. The Lightning looks forward to seeing how the younger players step up to become leaders on this team and keep the winning alive.

T he Champion Lincroft Lightning Team Includes: Lefran Borges, Quinn

Curley, Sean Decker, Anthony Laquide ra, Ryan Limekiller, Luke McGrath, Alex M iller, Evan Mutto, Nick Nerau, Garrett O’Hara, Sean Sanpietro, James Sisler, Ja son Spallin, Kevin Spallin, Alec Stillita no, and Teddy Valentino

C oaches Joe Valentino, Rob Mutto, Paul Miller, and Mark Sanpietro

CBA Seniors Recognized by National Merit Scholarship Program

S eventeen members of Christian Brothers Academy’s Class of 2023 were recognized in the National Merit Schol arship Program for their performance on the National Merit Scholarship Qual ifying Test (NMSQT), which is taken in c onjunction with the PSAT during junior year. These 17 CBA students were in the top-four percent of all students who took the NMSQT, earning these impres sive designations.

“ Congratulations to our Class of 2023 National Merit scholars,” Principal Neil Begley said. “Your accomplishments testify to your hard work and dedica tion, bringing honor to yourself and to C hristian Brothers Academy. Each of you exemplifies what it means to be an Academy man and we are proud of your success.”

T wo students qualified as National Merit semifinalists, Thibaut Fabricant and Malcolm Ferguson, meaning that their performance on the test was in the top 16,000 of 1.3 million students who took the 2021 PSAT/NMSQT. They will

now be eligible to receive one of 7,500 National Merit Scholarships, which will be announced in the spring.

F ifteen more seniors were recog nized as National Merit commended s cholars: Jake Adams, Brian Askin, An drew Chiles, Hayden Friend, Matthew Herman, Mathias Lazewski, Evan Lustig, Aidan MacManus, Stephen Makin, Miles

McFarlane, James Prunty, Ryan Stefko, Logan Vitanzo, Quinn Walsh, Bryce Wilkens, and John Woolf. This group of 15 exceptional students recorded within the top 34,000 NMSQT Selection Index scores, which is calculated by doubling the sum of the Reading, Writing and Language, and Math test scores.

Two Holmdel Seniors at Ranney Commit to Play Collegiate Sports

R anney School recently celebrated 10 members of the Class of 2023 who have committed to continue their athlet ic careers in college. Among them are Holmdel’s own Sofia M oskowitz, who signed a letter of intent to join the eques trian team at Baylor University and Luke Zaslow, who will c ontinue his rowing career at Cornell University. Eight oth er Panthers committed to continue their baseball careers in c ollege.

“ We are incredibly proud of these ten student-athletes for all of their hard work over many years to make their dream of becoming a college athlete a reality,” said Ran ney School Athletic Director Natalie Gorman. “To have this m any students go on to play at the next level is amazing. These achievements are a testament to their dedication, dis cipline, love for their sport, and the support of their family, f riends, and coaches. This is a special group of students and we look forward to the time we have left with them as Pan thers. When their time at Ranney is over, we know they will c ontinue to be incredible ambassadors for their universities just as they were during their time as Panthers.”

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Call For Entries Into The Monmouth County Park System’s Tactile Exhibit

C alling all artists! The Monmouth County Park System is seeking entries into its upcoming Tactile Exhibit. Held from February 17-April 15 at the Gallery in the Thompson Park Cre ative Arts Center, Lincroft, this exhibit will feature artwork i nspired by the sense of touch. All mediums are eligible for sub mission, from paintings that explore surface quality to textile works and fiber sculptures. Work should reflect an emphasis on tactile quality; whether smooth or highly textured. Addition al information and entry form are available on “The Gallery at T hompson Park” page at www.MonmouthCountyParks.com. Entry deadline is Friday, February 3. To learn more about the exhibit, the Thompson Park Cre ative Arts Center, or the Park System, please visit www.Mon mouthCountyParks.com or call 732-842-4000. For persons w ith hearing impairment, the Park System TTY/TDD number is 711. The Monmouth County Park System, created in 1960 by the Monmouth County Board of County Commissioners, is Mon mouth County’s Open Space, Parks, and Recreation agency.

‚ Go Sledding or Tubing at Holmdel Park

‚ Shop the Holiday Markets at Bell Works

‚ Take a ride on the Seastreak Ferry for a Holiday Brunch Cruise

‚ Make a gingerbread house of a famous landmark of Monmouth County

‚ Go on a winter hike on the Henry Hudson Trail

‚ Enjoy a holiday hayride through a dazzling light display at Allaire Community Farm

‚ Attend a Kwanzaa Celebration at Jumping Brook Country Club on December 10

‚ Share a holiday meal out at one of our local restaurants

‚ Go ice skating at The Red Bank Armory or Pier Village

‚ Volunteer at a local soup kitchen or food bank like Fulfill

‚ Visit the County’s Holiday Made in Monmouth on December 10 at Brookdale

‚ Go on a Holiday Scavenger Hunt to find the Elf in downtown Red Bank

‚ Visit the “Magic of Lights Show” at PNC Bank Arts Center

‚ Listen to Holiday carolers in downtown Freehold on December 15

‚ Try a new winter beverage at one of Monmouth County’s best establishments

‚ Attend a holiday concert or play at a local theater - maybe Holmdel Theater or Count Basie Center for the Arts

‚ Participate in Wreath Across America on December 17

‚ Help a veteran through The Fir Farm’s Trees for Troops program

‚ Attend a Menorah Lighting - try the Monmouth County Hall of Records on December 19

‚ Read a holiday book with a child - Try Norman the Christmas Dog, proceeds go to the Monmouth County SPCA

‚ Make marshmallow snowmen - decorate them with candy from Suzi’s Sweet Shoppe in Middletown

‚ Submit artwork to the Monmouth County Park System Tactile Exhibit

‚ Make snow angels on the beach

‚ Knit or crochet a winter scarf or hat in Monmouth County’s colors representing green fields and brown furrows

‚ Donate coats or winter gear to a Monmouth County local charity

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Park System Hosts The Creative Arts Center Exhibit & Sale

T he Monmouth County Park System is pleased to an nounce it will host The Creative Arts Center Exhibit & Sale f rom Saturday, December 3-Saturday, December 10 at the Thompson Park Creative Arts Center, 805 Newman Springs Road, Lincroft. Hours are 11 a.m.- 4 p.m., daily. This exhibit celebrates the original artwork of the Creative Arts Center’s students and instructors. With many pieces available for purchase, this is the perfect place to kick off your holiday shopping or find the perfect piece for your home.

T hroughout the year, the Creative Arts Center hosts an array of fine art and craft classes including drawing, acryl ic, oil and watercolor painting, jewelry making, knitting, s ewing, basket weaving, photography, hand-building, raku, ceramics and more. To learn more about these classes, the Creative Arts Center, or the Monmouth County Park System, please visit www.MonmouthCountyParks.com or call 732842-4000. For persons with hearing impairment, the Park System TTY/TDD number is 711. The Monmouth County Park System, created in 1960 by the Monmouth County Board of County Commissioners, is Monmouth County’s Open Space, Parks, and Recreation agency.

See the works of the Creative Arts Center’s students and instructors during this exhibit and sale.

County finalizes Belford Ferry service contract; Seastreak to begin providing services on December 5

T he Monmouth County Board of County Commissioners has announced that a contract has been finalized with Seastreak to begin offering ferry ser vices between the Belford Ferry Termi nal and Manhattan starting Dec. 5.

“ The new contract between the County and Seastreak will provide sig nificantly more options to residents t raveling to and from New York City,” said Commissioner Director Thomas A. Arnone. “Seastreak will have vessels dedicated to the Belford Ferry Terminal, offering six morning departures from Belford to Manhattan and seven eve ning departures directly from Manhat tan to Belford. These new routes will be i n addition to those already offered by Seastreak between Highlands, Atlantic Highlands and Manhattan, with all ter minals utilizing the same tickets.”

Under the new agreement, the Seastreak’s terminals in Highlands and Atlantic Highlands will be connected to the Belford Ferry Terminal via a free SeaStreak shuttle bus service.

“ Commuters leaving Manhattan will have a total of 22 departure options per day and the flexibility to return to their vehicles from any of the terminals locat ed in Monmouth County,” said Commis sioner Director Arnone. “As the need for ferry services has increased, the County wanted to make sure that travelers had a multitude of safe, reliable options to travel between Manhattan and Mon mouth County, especially during peak tra vel times.”

S eastreak plans to expand its sea sonal excursions to include departures f rom the Belford Terminal, and Mon mouth County residents will be able to

t ake advantage of seasonal weekend fer ry services starting in Spring 2023.

“ Our team looks forward to work ing with Monmouth County to serve t he County’s residents and provide the Belford commuter community with the same high level of service and commit ment that the Company has provided to its riders for over three decades,” said Seastreak Vice President of Operations John J. Bevins. “We are committed to providing safe and reliable transporta tion in the years to come and thank our r iders for their continued support.”

“ Monmouth County is committed to a smooth transition between our previ ous partner, New York Waterways, and S eastreak to guarantee travelers will not be impacted by the change in service providers,” said Commissioner Director Arnone.

Message from the Holmdel Mayor

T he holiday season is upon us! I hope all of you had a wonderful Thanks giving and are anxiously getting ready for the Christmas and Hannukah sea son. I would like to provide you with an e nd-of-year update from the Township of Holmdel.

L ast month, the Holmdel Veterans Program had the privilege of receiving a private tour of United States Weapons Station Earle. I was joined by about 25 of our local veterans as we got an insider look at an important base that prepares all of the Atlantic fleet as it heads out to sea. Our tour was guided by none other than the installation’s commander, Cap tain Edward Callahan, who provided our

v eterans with his insights and history. I am proud to see how much our Veterans Initiative has grown since its inaugura tion at last year’s Veterans Day ceremo ny!

I a m also pleased to report that over the last six months, Township Engi neers met regularly with key members of Holmdel Township on a proposal to de velop a plan for construction of new ten nis, basketball, multi-purpose courts, fencing, lighting and upgrading draining issues at the Holmdel Township Swim Club location. It is anticipated that the Township will be going out to bid in ear ly December to award a contract for the c onstruction of this project.

O n behalf of my Township Commit tee colleagues and our entire Town Hall s taff, I want to wish each and every one of you a Merry Christmas, Happy Han nukah, and a very happy and healthy new y ear to come. Thank you for always help ing to move Holmdel Forward!

G reg Buontempo Mayor of Holmdel

Newcomers and Neighbors Give Back

O n November 10, the Newcomers and Neighbors Club of Colts Neck, Holmdel and surrounding areas held a general meeting at the Colts Neck Community Church. The theme of the meeting was “Giving Back”.

C ommunity Outreach, which includes the “Calico Cat” food pantry and thrift shop, and “Project Paul” were the recipients of the generosity of the club.

T he club will hold a beautiful holiday luncheon on December 8 at the Eagle Oaks Country Club. “Cher”, “Tina Turner” and “Lady Gaga” will en tertain the members and guests! Members and guests will enjoy a delicious 4 c ourse lunch and a wonderful start to the holidays! Cost is $65 per per son. For information call: 908-309-1602 or 908-510-3255.

L-R: committee members, Elaine Curry, Leila Broad, Barbara Matuscak, Ginger Priore, Jo Ann Ferrante

ON THE MOVE

While their mission remains unchanged— The VNACJ Community Health Center has a larger space to do the same incredible work

One of the first things you notice about Chris topher Rinn, CEO of t he VNACJ Communi ty Health Center, is his p assion for public health. It may have started years ago when he spent time as a paramedic working in the Jersey City area and bearing witness to the strug gle the residents had finding affordable h ealthcare. Or it was born after hear ing the devastating story of Deamon te Driver; the 12-year-old Maryland b oy who died of a toothache after his mother was turned away for being un insured. Bacteria from the abscess in h is tooth spread to his brain and killed him. This and other stories like it had an enormous impact on Christopher and he vowed to be a part of the solu tion.

W ith over 30 years in the sector,

his knowledge and experience have prepared him for the myriad of issues that come up in his role overseeing the Community Health Center, which serves at-risk and high-need families in the community. (The Center is an affil iate of the nonprofit organization VNA Health Group’s Children and Family Health Institute)

H is belief that all residents of our state should have access to quality health care services is one that has nev er changed. Before taking on this role four years ago, he was appointed by then-Governor Christie as New Jersey’s Acting Health Commissioner. While there were plenty of proud moments, one that stands out is the integration of the Division of Mental Health and Ad diction Services from the Department o f Human Services, one of the largest governmental reorganizations in de

cades. A proud graduate of Columbia University, he oversees all aspects of the Community Health Center, offering primary care, prenatal and dental care. This month, the organization will be relocating to Bridge Avenue in the heart of Red Bank. Serving those that don’t have access and removing barriers are what continue to drive Christopher.

CM: How did your former role in the public health sector inform you for your current position?

Christopher: Before my stint as Act ing Health Commissioner, I was the A ssistant Commissioner of the New Jersey Department of Health, oversee ing the Division on Public Health Infra structure, Laboratories, and Emergen cy Preparedness. As you can imagine, t his role (which I held for nearly eight years) was instrumental in providing

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experience in leading critical programs that safeguard public health in New Jersey and save lives, it was also invaluable in preparing me for the COVID-19 pandemic. I am proud to say that during my current tenure here, we completed and opened the Freehold Family Health Center and will be opening the new Red Bank center in the downtown section – giving more Monmouth County res idents a high-quality, afford able option for their healthcare n eeds.

CM: What was the driving force behind the relocation to Bridge Avenue? How will this benefit your clientele?

Christopher: Previous ly, our Red Bank space was i n a 2,500-square-foot, sec ond-floor office on East Bergen Place. The size of the build ing and its location outside of downtown Red Bank created accessibility challenges for the local community. Recogniz ing the need for a larger, more ce ntralized space, we sought to relocate to an area in town. Our new 4,800-square-foot space is blocks from downtown Red Bank and because it is on the ground level, we are able to provide increased access. An other tremendous benefit is t he addition of dental care, as well as increased primary care services, chiropractic, behav ioral, and mental health care s ervices. The downtown prox imity enables us to work closely w ith partner organizations like Lunch Break, Red Bank Fam ily YMCA, and St. Anthony’s C hurch.

CM: What remains the greatest challenge to those

who are homebound and in need of care?

Christopher: There are sev eral challenges we still need t o address for our homebound residents. Many of these indi viduals face significant health c hallenges, including pain and restricted mobility due to their physical conditions, as well as lack of transportation. These are major barriers to social out ings and access to health care. W hen they do leave the house, they usually need assistance and need to make timely ap pointments. We recognize that d ifficulty and need for care. Once they make an appoint ment with us at the VNACJ lo cation closest to them, we can t ake care of all their healthcare needs. Additionally, we go out into the community through our outreach team to make it easier to access testing and learn about our important ser vices.

CM: What are some of the more pressing changes you would like to see implemented in 2023?

Christopher: We are in a continuous state of working on ways to improve so we can better serve our clients. In addition to opening the larg er health center in downtown R ed Bank, we are working on expanding services and hir ing qualified people. We want to make sure the community knows we are here. We have some of the best physicians and staff working with us. Howev er, one of the key challenges f acing healthcare organiza tions is bringing that patient i n. Only once they come in, can we take care of them and begin improving their future health

outcomes. Preventative care is one of the best ways to prevent and treat chronic health issues, such as diabetes and hy pertension. I would like us to be out in t he community more to let people know what we do and how we can help.

CM: How did the idea of the pop-up vaccination sites come to be?

Christopher: When we expanded deliv

ery to all four of our sites, plus five ad ditional centers, we reached a milestone o f administering over 100,000 vaccines throughout the community. This was a result of two years of intense outreach and educational efforts by our incredible physicians, nurses, and staff. However, there remained a significant number of folks that could not access our locations. To reach them we partnered with local

officials and the NJ EMS Task Force to facilitate a mobile vaccination program that ran throughout May of 2021. We had spots at the Asbury Park Senior Center, Bell Works, and the Red Bank YMCA. We remain all about giving Monmouth County residents a high-quality, afford able option for their health care needs. I ncreasing our space will inevitably translate to helping more people.

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Holiday Made in Monmouth coming December 10

More than 150 vendors will participate in event at Brookdale

T he Monmouth County Board of County Commissioners is proud to announce that a Holiday Made in Monmouth will take place on Saturday, Dec. 10 from 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. at Brookdale Community College in the Robert J. Collins Arena.

“ The Holiday Made in Monmouth is a one-stop shop with a variety of vendors and products for everyone on your holi day shopping list,” said Commissioner Director Thomas A. Ar none, liaison to the Division of Economic Development. “This f ree event helps promote and support our small businesses while encouraging visitors to shop local as they prepare for the holiday season.”

T he event is free for both vendors and visitors. All ven dors who participate in the event manufacture their products i n Monmouth County. More than 150 vendors will showcase a wide variety of jewelry, art, food and drink, accessories, home decor, and much more.

M ade in Monmouth is organized by the Grow Monmouth team within the County’s Division of Economic Development. Grow Monmouth officials meet regularly with business, civic

and government leaders to help identify and deliver business resources. It has become a major public-private project to cre ate and retain jobs in Monmouth County.

To learn more about the Made in Monmouth program and to view a directory of over 200 vendors that have participated in program events, please go to www.MadeinMonmouth.com.

Megan’s Mindful Minute . . .

FESTIVE FREAKOUTS

You’re at a holiday party with your family having a great time, when from a distance you hear your toddler tantruming for no apparent reason. Does this sound familiar? This is a fun event, why is my child freaking out? For adults the holidays are fantastic times to be with our friends and family. For children they can be troubling, over stimulating experiences. Children love structure, it fosters feelings of safety and security. Any disruption of this structure, while joyous, can cause distress ing feelings and reactions.

W hat can you do:

1. P rep. Several days before the event, talk it through with your child. Talk about the sequence of events for the day, who will be there, what the environment will look/sound/ smell/taste like. Use books and shows as visual aids

2. Va lidate. If your child is having a hard time, hear them. Instead of “Come on, it’s a party, this is fun.” Use words like, “I understand this is different, and different expe

riences can be upsetting, I get that. Remember, I’m here a nd you are safe.” When we validate and secure, the child is able to move through the feeling faster.

3. Bre aks. At some point during an event, take your child aside, into a quiet room or outside, and do a quick ‘checkin’. The constant stimulation of noise, people, activities and social interaction can be draining on a little one . Give them some time in a quiet space to regroup, remem ber you are there with them, and then return.

4 . L ove. Finally, know and understand that if your child struggles during these events, you are not a bad parent and there is nothing wrong with your child. These reac tions are developmentally appropriate. So love yourself a nd your family.

Stay safe, have fun, and love each other.

And remember, in the wise words of my father, “People want to help more than you think, you just have to ask.”

Megan Baker, LAC holds a Masters degree in Mental Health and Marriage & Family Counseling. She is a therapist with AbleTo. Have a situation or issue you need help with? Direct message Megan on Instagram @megansmindfulminute.

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Sylvia’s Children Makes Great Nonprofits List Again

S ylvia’s Children is a 501(c)3 organization based in Holmdel celebrating almost 20 years in existence. Established in June 2003 its work consists of supporting all the children and orphans at the Mbiriizi Advanced Primary and Daycare School in Uganda Africa, as well as the orphans that continue on to high school and college. Over the last 20 years the school has grown dramatically and currently has 1,002 children in primary school, 87 in high school, 57 in college and 66 that have already graduated from college (teachers, nurses, beauty operators, etc.).

G reat Nonprofits is a 501(c)3 registered nonprofit organization based in the United States with a website where donors, volunteers, and clients are invited to review and share their personal experiences with charitable organizations, essentially providing crowdsourced information about the reputability of these organizations.

S ylvia Allen, Executive Director and Founder, says “I am thrilled with the quality of the reviews we have received.”

Following are some of the comments: “I went with Sylvia on her November 2019, trip and was totally awed by the whole experience. I have never seen a school so well run, children so well behaved, and teachers so well prepared.”

“ She uses 100% of donations to support the children’s education, healthcare, and future, build infrastructure, purchase farm animals among many projects and has changed lives! A worthy charity indeed!”

“I was blown away by the children who put on dramas, concerts, and a debate for us. Clearly, they are encouraged to make the most of their talents and are receiving a quality education.”

To see all the reviews go to GreatNonProfits website.

For more information about Sylvia’s Children visit the website www.sylviaschildren.org send an email to Sylvia@sylviaschildren.org or call 732 946 2711.

Community Fair and Family Day Benefitting Local Volunteer Fire Department and First Aid Squads

Volunteers of Holmdel, Little Silver, Red Bank and Tinton Falls were among the dozens of others who benefited from The Vin Gopal Civic Association 2022 Community Fair & Family Day recently held at Joe Palaia Park in Ocean Town ship. The event was free to enter and h osted multiple volunteer organizations, community groups, sponsor tables, free

rides, boardwalk games and live music. Funds were raised from sponsorships through organizations and donations from community members.

“ Over 2,000 Monmouth County Res idents joined us this year at our Family D ay and we raised over $50,000 after ex penses to be given directly to Monmouth C ounty volunteer first aid squads and

fire departments,” said Vin Gopal, Pres ident of the Association. “This year we a re honored to highlight and donate to 33 local Volunteer Fire Departments and First Aid Squads.”

T he Vin Gopal Civic Association is a 501(c)3 non-profit organization. For more information, please visit www. vingopalcivic.org

Wreaths Across America 2022

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I n December 1992 in Harrington, Maine, when wreath maker Morrill Worcester found himself with a surplus of 5,000 wreaths during the holiday season. Worcester saw the surplus as an opportunity to pay tribute to our country’s veterans and with the help of Maine Senator Olympia Snowe, arranged for the wreaths to be placed at Arlington National Cemetery. This annual tribute to our country’s veterans has continued ever since, touching the lives of millions of veterans’ families and volunteers and growing in scope through the years. In 2007, the Worcester family along with veterans and volunteers formed the non-profit organization Wreaths Across America to continue and expand their efforts at Arlington National Cemetery and to support those around the country who wished to do the same. Morrill’s wife, Karen, has served as the organization’s volunteer Executive Director since the non- profit was created and today oversees what has become a massive volunteer organization that continues to grow. This year’s ceremony will be Saturday, December 17, 12 noon unless noted. Join by sponsoring a veterans’ wreath at a cemetery near you, volunteering or donating to a local sponsorship group.

T his year’s ceremony will be Saturday, December 17, 12 noon unless noted. Join by sponsoring a veterans’ wreath at a cemetery near you, volunteering or donating to a local sponsorship group.

2022 Escort to Arlington

Will arrive on Wednesday, December 14 9:30am Thorne Middle School, 70 Murphy Road, Port Monmouth 12 noon Vietnam Veterans Memorial, 1 Memorial Lane, Holmdel

Veterans Rememberance Tree Program 1-877-385-9504 DOGTAGS@WREATHSACROSSAMERICA.ORG

Monmouth County Wreaths Across America Events

Ceremonial Only Locations. A meaningful ceremony will be held and placing wreaths on veterans graves will not take place. You may sponsor a wreath by clicking sponsor wreath. Proceeds will go to a location in need.

Greenwood Cemetery (NJGDCB) 701 Schoolhouse Road, Brielle •••

Historic Osborn Graveyard (NJHGYB) 644 Union Lane, Brielle, Ceremonial Only •••

Wampum Veterans Memorial Park (NJWVMP) West Street & Highway 35, Eatontown •••

Farmingdale Evergreen Cemetery (NJFECF)

Rt 524 and West Farms Road, Farmingdale •••

Adelphia Cemetery (NJACMR)

581 Wyckoff Mills Road, Freehold

Ardena Baptist Church (NJABCF)

593 Adelphia Road, Freehold

Elk Point Memorial (NJEPMF) 73 East Main Street, Freehold •••

Hendrickson Family Burial Ground (NJHHFB) Beau Ridge Drive, Holmdel, Ceremonial Only •••

NJ Vietnam Veterans Memorial Museum (NJVVMM) 1 Memorial Lane, Holmdel

Cedar Lawn/Southard Cemetery (NJCLSC) Corner of Kent and Church Road, Howell Memorial Park Little Silver (NJMPLS) Prospect Avenue, Little Silver, Ceremonial Only •••

Old Tennent Cemetery (NJOTCM) 454 Tennent Road, Manalapan •••

Atlantic View Cemetery (NJAVCM) 49 Forest Avenue, Manasquan

Fair View Cemetery (NJFCRB) 456 Hwy 35, Middletown •••

Rotary Club of Asbury Park (NJ0146) Rotary Club of Asbury Park (NJ0146) Held at Veterans Memorial Park, 703 Old Corlies Ave, Neptune Wreath laying immediately following at Mt Calvary NJMCVY) 2500 Rt 66, Neptune Twp

Presbyterian Church at Shrewsbury (NJPTCS) 352 Sycamore Avenue, Shrewsbury, 11am

Old Free Church Cemetery (NJOFCC) Monmouth Road, West Long Branch, 11am

Wreaths Across America wants to feature YOU, our volunteers, each day on Wreaths Across America Radio! We would love to share the work you are doing to prepare in your local community for National Wreaths Across America Day. Includes scheduling a short, live phone interview with Morning Show host, Michael W. Hale and sharing a social media post on the Wreaths Radio Facebook page. Our team has developed a press release template and social media graphics that can help promote your local participation.

Please contact the Wreaths Radio team TODAY to schedule your interview via email waaradio@wreathsacrossamerica.org

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PhRMA Awards STEM Talent Pipeline Grant to STEAMPark, Inc.

Earlier this year, we featured Rumson’s own Leigh Dym and her initiative to create STEAMpark, a nonprofit organization ded icated to helping children in kindergarten through eighth grade reach their full potential regardless of income or zip code. As we wrap up 2022, we wanted to highlight a new development for this fantastic program.

Leigh and her amazing team recently accepted a STEM Tal ent Pipeline Grant from the Pharmaceutical Research and Man ufacturers of America (PhRMA) to help continue STEAMPark’s efforts to support age-appropriate STEM educational activities for students. The STEM Talent Pipeline grant program was cre ated by PhRMA to help fund opportunities for students to pursue STEM-related education so they can be prepared for successful careers in the modern workplace. PhRMA represents the coun try’s leading innovative biopharmaceutical research companies, who are devoted to discovering and developing medicines that en able patients to live longer, healthier, and more productive lives. Since 2000, PhRMA member companies have invested more than $1.1 trillion in the search for new treatments and cures, including $102.3 billion in 2021 alone.

“ When you unlock learning opportunities, you give people the keys to a better life. The companies of PhRMA allow the US to be a leader in innovation while drawing from a range of STEM fields and having a tremendous impact and footprint in New Jersey,” said Stami Williams, spokeswoman for PhRMA. “PhRMA is proud to support STEAMpark as well as Monmouth County’s Sisters Academy, a pioneer in opening a brighter pathway for young girls. We applaud these organizations’ commitment to offering students quality STEM education opportunities.”

Recently, New Jersey State Senator Vin Gopal, who serves as Chairman of the Senate Education Committee, along with PhR MA representatives, visited Sisters Academy to meet with students who will benefit from the STEM Talent Pipeline Grant. “I am com mitted to supporting innovative nonprofit organizations such as STEAMpark that enhance the education of youth. Organizations like PhRMA who provide direct support to these nonprofits help ensure that learning continues, especially in our most vulnerable communities.” said Senator Gopal.

Way to go Leigh and STEAMpark! Partnerships like this re mind us that when we work together, great things can be achieved in our community and beyond!

Magic of Lights

Through December 30

Sun – Thur: 5-10 pm | Fri - Sat: 5-11 pm

PNC Bank Arts Center, Holmdel

Magic of Lights is a dazzling, drive-through holiday lights experience at PNC Arts Center in Holmdel featuring favorite holiday scenes and characters of the season using the latest LED technology and digital animations. Visit magicoflights.com/ newjersey for pricing

Asbury Park Holiday Bazaar at Asbury Hotel

Every Sun through December 18, 1-6 pm

Asbury Hotel, 210 5th Ave, Asbury Park

The Holiday Bazaar will take place at the Asbury’s indoor hall and lounge spaces & outdoor tented & heated terrace event space. Located in the middle of Asbury Park’s entertainment district, just steps from the boardwalk and beach

Holiday Harmonies

Sat & Sun through December 18

Downtown Red Bank

Get into the holiday spirit as you shop and enjoy performances throughout downtown on Saturday and Sundays, November 26 thru December 18! Traditional carolers, choirs, brass bands, handbells, rock, folk and jazz musicians bring their individual flavor of holiday tunes to the sidewalks of Red Bank. Performers will be stationed at various locations throughout the Red Bank business district. More information at redbank.org

2022 Bell Works Holiday Markets

Sat through December 21

Bell Works, 101 Crawfords Corner Rd, Holmdel

Visit Bell Works in Holmdel for a series of holiday shopping events featuring a curated collection of 75 local handmade artists. Times vary. Visit bellworksfresh.com for details

Colts Neck PTO Frosty’s Holiday Shop for Kids

Sat December 3, 9am- 1pm

Conover Road Primary School Cafeteria, Colts Neck

Frosty’s is an indoor event at the Primary School where kids can shop for loved ones in a safe and comfortable environment with the help of friendly elves. Children can select from a variety of gift options like mugs, keychains, magnets, ornaments, jewelry, etc. Prices range from 50¢ to $12 with most items priced at $5 or less. Gift wrapping available for an additional cost.

The Creative Arts Center Exhibit & Sale

Sat, December 3 through Sat, December 10, 11am- 4pm

Thompson Park Creative Arts Center, Lincroft

Celebrate the original artwork of the Creative Arts Center’s students and instructors during this exhibit and sale. Admission and parking are free.

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Century Christmas Ballads at Historic Longstreet Farm

Sat, December 3 and 10, 1-3pm

44 Longstreet Road, Holmdel

Enjoy 19th century Christmas ballads played on the piano at Historic Longstreet Farm, Holmdel. FREE!

The Sounds of Christmas at Historic Longstreet Farm

Sun December 11, 1-3pm

44 Longstreet Road, Holmdel Celebrate the holidays taking a stroll on Longstreet Farm with the backdrop of wistful music as Larry Moser and Mary Nagin play Christmas carols on the hammered dulcimer and fiddle.

The Wag’s Christmas Spectacular

Sat December 17, 7pm

The Middletown Arts Center, 36 Church Street, Middletown

There’s nothing like a good old-fashioned holiday special, and The Wag’s Christmas Spectacular is just that! Steeped in the traditions of holiday TV shows of the past, The Wag brings back the memories of these specials while putting their own unique stamp on them. Their show has all of the holiday songs that you know and love, plus dance numbers, costume changes, and comedy sketches, along with some fun surprises - including a few original Christmas/Holiday songs! Tickets are$15.00. Proceeds will be donated to The Monmouth County SPCA. Tickets available at thewagband.com/store.

Monmouth Civic Chorus’ Joy to the World Sun December 18, 3pm

Hackensack Meridian Health Theatre, Count Basie Center for the Arts

The highly acclaimed annual performance of Artistic Director Dr. Ryan James Brandau’s Suite is Monmouth County’s can’tmiss musical event of the holiday season.

Accepting event listings at info@communitymagazinenj.com. Please check the website prior to attending to ensure accuracy.