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CHEERS TO OCTOBER! As the leaves start to turn the vibrant shades of autumn, fall festivals and Oktoberfests become an every weekend event (check out Eventful, starting on page 42). Each town in Monmouth County has its own way of celebrating, whether it be an apple festival, a pumpkin picking party, or a parade of costumes for Halloween. Here at CM we thought it would be fun to tap into the spirit of Oktoberfest and bring you, our favorite readers, features focused on libations...or as they’re often called in many shore town bars, grog.

Our cover this month is of none other than Monmouth County’s own Jon Bon Jovi and his son, Jesse, with their new wine venture - Hampton Water. Our exclusive interview on page 33 captures the relationship between father and son, as well as their journey of hard work and dedication to finding the right blend of grapes to produce a world-renowned rosé. We think you’ll enjoy “Diving In” and seeing a little-known side of a world-famous rock icon.

To keep with our theme, we asked an NYU professor, who lives in Asbury Park and teaches a course on the history of drinking alcohol, to share her insights and wisdom on the subject. On page 58, you’ll learn the true meaning of Oktoberfest, as well as get a glimpse inside Diana Pittet’s classroom teachings as she explores “Our Love/Hate Relationship with All Things Alcohol.”

As we head to the pumpkin patches and begin our holiday shopping lists, we at CM wish you all a safe and fun-filled Oktoberfest and Halloween!

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MCSPCA Announces 2018 Fur Ball Gala

The MCSPCA’s first Fur Ball Committee meeting was held at the home of Fran Turner, co-Chair and MCSPCA Board of Trustee member.

From left to right, standing: Bill Arnold, Normand Savaria, Nelson Kuperberg, Mariam Savaria (Board of Trustees), Dr, David Giffler, Judy Falese, Dr. Maria Cubina O’Hara (BOT), Carol Stillwell, Vito Cardinale, Jennifer Beck, Sean Byrnes, Esq. (BOT), Susan Waxman, Warren Waxman, Carol Brockreide, Allison Grossman, Andrew Grossman (BOT), Laura Demeo, Dr. Jon Brodsky (BOT), Dr. Tom Trotter, Janet Trotter, Laurie MacArthur, Heather Licitra, Ross Licitra (MCSPCA Executive Director). Seated from left to right: David Nussbaum (BOT), Fran Turner (BOT), Sheldon Vogel (Event Chair), Anne Vogel (Event Chair), Dr. Nicole Feddersen (Event Honoree, MCSPCA Medical Director)

The Monmouth County SPCA (MCSPCA) announces the organization’s Annual Fur Ball Gala to be held on Saturday, November 10th at the timeless and elegant Shadowbrook at Shrewsbury.

To mark this year’s occasion, the event’s Chairs, Sheldon and Anne Vogel along with co-Chair Frances Turner, will be formally announcing the establishment of

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the Vogel Veterinary Care Center to the every appetite and culminates with expublic. The Vogel Veterinary Care Center citing entertainment at the classic venue (VVCC) is a new program designed to en- with romantic décor overlooking priscourage responsible pet ownership and tine landscapes. prevent neglect by providing high qual“It is a pleasure to co-chair this year’s Fur ity, low cost, veterinary care to the resiBall with Anne and Sheldon,” said Fran dents of Monmouth County and beyond.

Turner, who is also a MCSPCA Board of Along with presenting the new program, Trustee member. “The Vogels have been the Monmouth County SPCA is pleased generous advocates for the MCSPCA, and to be honoring Dr. Nicole Feddersen who many Monmouth County organizations, will be overseeing the critical work of the for decades and we are especially excited VVCC and who has provided many years to be introducing their newest program, of valuable veterinary care to the abused the VVCC. Additionally, this year we are and neglected animals as the MCSPCA’s proud to honor the extraordinary comMedical Director. mitment of Dr. Nicole Feddersen, for her The annual gala is an opportunity for work in elevating shelter medicine and the community, supporters, and friends for the inception of the VVCC. This will with an interest in animal welfare to give be a very special Fur Ball!” back to the MCSPCA’s lifesaving work For sponsorship opportunities, tickets or and community programs. The evening information regarding the event, please will begin with specialty cocktails and a visit the MCSPCA at monmouthcounhighly coveted auction selection. A fortyspca.org or email events@monmouthmal dinner will follow with options for countyspca.org.

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Fair Haven Oktoberfest a Huge Success

By Susan Murphy

The Foundation of Fair Haven held its annual Oktoberfest on September 15 th at Fair Haven Fields. This family-friendly community event welcomed close to 2500 people this year! There was a fun game for all children no matter what their ages. “The amazing Key Club members from Rumson-Fair Haven High School kept the children entertained all day,” said one of the Event Chairs, Susan Sorensen. Delicious food was served by Tony’s Sausage, Readies, You Scream for Ice Cream, Coffee Surf, Surf BBQ, & Lighthouse Italian Ice, to name just a few vendors who participated. The adults had their choice from several breweries on hand, such as Asbury Brewery, Belford Brewery, Birravino’s, Carton, Dark City, Jughandle, Ship Bottom, and Wet Ticket.

Dr. Chris Storti, D.C. provided free massages. Live music was performed by Bar

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Car, 10-String, and Juke Box Criminals throughout the six-hour event.

Susan said that this year the Fair Haven Information Booth was added. “It was manned by Jacquie Rice and provided tons of useful information. The Grove raffled a gift card. We also had a Beer Stein Holding contest for which our Mayor Ben Lucarelli was the referee.”

The amazing committee had multiple chairs for different functions, noted Susan. Committee members included Jacquie Rice, Betsy Koch, Mike Borneo, Mark Mancuso, Mary Friedman, Nicole Rice, Adam Ludman, Lauren Porter, Marie Noglows, Amanda Lynn, DJ Breckenridge, Allyson Cinquegrana, as well as Susan Sorensen.

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from our community come out and have a great day and really enjoy themselves.

Our committee is a hard-working group of bi-partisan volunteers who work very hard all year long to be able to have such a great event like our Fair Haven Days and Oktoberfests. We truly try to ask all of those that participate to not bring politics or campaigning into these events. These events are all about unity and community,” shared Susan.

Susan Sorensen gratefully acknowledged those who helped, “We would really like to thank all of our volunteers who come out and support our many happenings – without them we would not be able to continue doing such events. If you would like know more about our group (The Foundation of Fair Haven and the many committees) or to donate, please go to foundationoffairhaven.org.

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Pictured from left to right, Laura Grunin, Toms River, The Jay & Linda Grunin Foundation; Kelly Servodio, Barnegat, CG Healthcare Solutions; Kimberly Clark, Ship Bottom, Pinelands Regional School District; Jessica Easton, Manasquan, St. Denis D.O.V.E.S & Seabrook; Sarah Snell, Toms River, Holman Frenia Allison, P.C.; Frances Keane, Board of Directors president, Girl Scouts of the Jersey Shore; Eileen M. Higgins, chief executive officer, Girl Scouts of the Jersey Shore; Erin Chiaravalloti, Middletown, The Rumson Country Day School; Jamie L. Sheridan, Shrewsbury, UBS Financial Services; Shani Love, Howell, YMCA of Western Monmouth County; Michelle J. Casserly, Belmar, Hackensack Meridian Health / Meridian Health Foundation; Samara Porter O’Neill, Jackson, PorterPlus Realty, and Meghan Kane, Neptune, Clean Cheats LLC.

Girl Scouts Honor Outstanding Female Role Models The Girl Scouts of the Jersey Shore raised more than $30,000 while honoring 11 amazing women under the age of 40 at its third annual Phenomenal Women Under 40 event on September 13th, at Crystal Point Yacht Club, Pt. Pleasant.

The Phenom Award recognizes young women under age 40 in Monmouth and Ocean counties not just for who they are, but for who the community thinks they’re poised to become. “Phenomenal Women Under 40 is our way of celebrating young women professionals while they’re still ascending to the full height of their accomplishments,” said Eileen M. Higgins, chief executive officer, Girl Scouts of the Jersey Shore. “These leaders are making

a difference in the world today, and they’ll continue to make a difference for a lifetime.”

The 2018 Phenom Award honorees are: Michelle J. Casserly, Belmar – Hackensack Meridian Health / Meridian Health Foundation; Erin Chiaravalloti, Middletown – The Rumson Country Day School; Kimberly Clark, Ship Bottom - Pinelands Regional School District; Jessica Easton, Manasquan - St. Denis D.O.V.E.S & Seabrook; Laura Grunin, Toms River - The Jay & Linda Grunin Foundation; Meghan Kane, Neptune - Clean Cheats LLC; Shani Love, Howell - YMCA of Western Monmouth County; Samara Porter O’Neill, Jackson - PorterPlus Realty; Kelly Servo-

Eileen M. Higgins, left, chief executive officer, Girl Scouts of the Jersey Shore, and Frances Keane, right, Board of Directors president, Girl Scouts of the Jersey Shore, with Girl Scout Ambassador Carmela Apostle, a senior at Colts Neck High School. Apostle shared her Girl Scout experiences with the more than 250 guests who attended the Girl Scouts of the Jersey Shore’s third annual Phenomenal Women Under 40 event.

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dio, Barnegat - CG Healthcare Solutions; Jamie L. Sheridan, Shrewsbury - UBS Financial Services; and Sarah Snell, Toms River - Holman Frenia Allison, P.C. Every Phenom Award recipient was nominated by a resident or business leader in Monmouth or Ocean County. In addition to being successful, young professionals, they’re also exceptional role models for young women who are just now starting to prepare for college and careers.

For more information about the Phenom Awards or program opportunities offered by the Girl Scouts of the Jersey Shore in Monmouth and Ocean counties, visit jerseyshoregirlscouts.org.

Eileen M. Higgins, left, chief executive officer, Girl Scouts of the Jersey Shore, and Frances Keane, right, Board of Directors president, Girl Scouts of the Jersey Shore, are joined by the honorary chairwomen of the Girl Scouts’ third annual Phenomenal Women Under 40 event, Monmouth County Freeholder Deputy Director Lillian G. Burry, second from left, and Ocean County Freeholder Virginia “Ginny” Haines, second from right.

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Holiday Express

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Sunset Benefit Clambake

Honored Bob & Leslie Sickles of Sickles Market

Left to right: Tom O’Brien, Tori Sickles, Sasha Sickles, honorees Leslie and Bob Sickles, Carol Stillwell and Gina Petillio

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iday Express with a picture-perfect day for the 11th Annual Holiday Express Sunset Benefit Clambake on September 16th, on the beach at McLoone’s Pier House. The evening, which honored Bob and Leslie Sickles of Sickles Market, raised money to support Holiday Express’ mission, which is to deliver music, food, gifts, financial support, and friendship to those with the greatest need for the gift of human kindness during the holiday season and throughout the year.

The Grinch and Carol Stillwell

Holiday Express volunteers Diane and Bob Meserlin

More than 400 guests were treated to an evening of ocean breezes, a lavish buffet, dancing, silent auction items and opportunities help support the 26th season of Holiday Express. The night was a huge success made possible by generous individuals and companies who donated money, time, and auction items.

This year Holiday Express will be visiting 100 locations during the holiday season. Proceeds from the Clambake will improve the quality of life for the 27,000 adults and children being served

by Holiday Express during the 2018 holiday season. Holiday Express visits the mentally and physically challenged, the isolated, individuals in addiction and recovery programs, the poor and the homeless and children with serious illnesses.

Holiday Express founder and band leader Tim McLoone

Established by Tim McLoone in 1993, Holiday Express is a non-profit organization comprised of 2,500 volunteers, including 150 professional rock, jazz, folk, gospel and pop musicians.

Holiday Express delivers music, food, gifts, financial support and friendship to those with the greatest need for the gift of human kindness during the holiday season and throughout the year.

For more information and ways to support Holiday Express, visit holidayexpress.org or call 732.544.8010.

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VNA’s 31st Golf Classic & River Bash Raises Record Amount to Support Community-Based Health Services for At-Risk, Vulnerable Populations 1

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VISITING NURSE ASSOCIATION HEALTH GROUP hosted golfers,

volunteers, supporters, and friends at the 31st Golf Classic and River Bash on August 15th at Rumson Country Club. Golfers enjoyed a beautiful day on the course and a fun party in the evening at the scenic Riverhouse, raising more than $125,000 to help sustain VNA’s vast portfolio of mission-driven safety net public health care programs and services for vulnerable populations including children with special needs, mothers and babies, the disabled, mentally ill, frail elderly, homebound, and the terminally ill.

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The event honored longtime VNA supporters Marilyn and Robert Broege of Oceanport, for their dedication to giving back to our community. Mr. and Mrs. Broege have been actively involved with the VNA for many years, where Mrs. Broege has volunteered for nearly a decade serving on the Holiday House Tour event committee and all of VNA Show House committees. Mr. and Mrs. Broege have also been members of the VNA’s Golf Classic committee for the past three years. In addition, the Broege’s are involved with several other charitable organizations in Monmouth County including the Two River Theater and the Monmouth Historical Association where Mr. Broege is currently a member of the Board of Trustees. He has previously served as Trustee and Chairman of Riverview Medical Center Foundation, Meridian Health Foundation Board and the Oceanport Planning Board.

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“Without this generous support from the community, many of VNA’s community-based programs would be cut back or eliminated,” said Bridget. Murphy, Chief Philanthropy Officer for Visiting Nurse Association Health Group. “We are very grateful to Bob and Marilyn Broege, the committee, volunteers, sponsors and participants who made this event so successful.”

For more information about Visiting Nurse Association Health Group programs and services, visit vnahg.org.

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Photos by Marcella Shook Photography 1 - (l to r) Doug Ross (Rumson), Ashish VNA Health Group Board of Trustees; Patel (Rumson), Brett Sealove (Holmdel), Steven H. Landers, MD, MPH (Little and VNA Health Group Trustee Kenny Silver), President and CEO, VNA King (Rumson) 2 - Honorees Robert Health Group; Frank Vigilante (Fair and Marilyn Broege of Oceanport 3 Haven), Secretary, VNA Health Group - (l to r) Matt Thees (Rumson); Tom Board of Trustees 5 - (1 to r) Visiting Thees, interim Executive Director of Nurse Association Health Group’s VNACJ Community Health Center 31st Golf Classic and River Bash and VNACJ Community Health Center Committee Members Michael and Board Member (Monmouth Beach); Nancy Del Priore (Rumson), Pat and Ted Smith (Monmouth Beach); and Greg Sullivan (Rumson) 6 - Visiting Steve DeFeo, VNA Health Group Nurse Association Health Group’s 31st Trustee (Haddonfield) 4 - (l to r) Golf Classic and River Bash Presenting Brian Griffin (Allenhurst), Chairman, Sponsors Bonnie and Ron Klein, both

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of Locust 7 - (l to r) Chris and Claire LCSW also of Rumson (right), 10 - (l Broderick (both of Rumson); Tony and to r) John Jakubecy (Sea Bright) Ann Gargano (both of Westfield), and and Molly Kroon Jennings (Rumson), Andy Polansky, VNA Health Group member of the VNA of Central Jersey Trustee and his wife Maria Polansky, Children’s Auxiliary; Mary Jane Kroon VNA Health Group Foundation Trustee (Rumson); Lynn Spector, LCSW, VNA (both of Rumson) 8 - (l to r) Kenny Health Group Foundation Board King, VNA Health Group Trustee and Chair (Rumson); and Richard Kroon his wife Nora King, member of the VNA (Rumson) 11 - (l to r) Bridget Murphy, of Central Jersey Children’s Auxiliary, CFRE, Chief Philanthropy Officer, VNA (both of Rumson) with Jesse Spector Health Group (Sea Girt); Gary and (Rumson) 9 - Geri A. Skirkanich of Karen Puma, VNA Health Group’s 31st Rumson (left) with VNA Health Group Golf Classic and River Bash Committee Foundation Board Chair, Lynn Spector, Member (both of Shrewsbury)

Bernie, Baseball...and All That Jazz

BY LILIANN PARAS

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The Show: Last month, CM featured an interview with Bernie Williams, a New York Yankees four-time World Series Champion and now a Latin Grammy-nominated guitarist and composer.

Bernie grew up in Puerto Rico where he discovered his love for baseball and music at roughly the same time. At a young age, he fell in love with the sounds of a flamenco guitar his merchant-marine father brought home from Spain, and also felt the same exhilaration when he first picked up a baseball bat. His passion for muBernie Williams with CM’s sic never waned, and the sound LiliAnn Paras of his guitar was often heard in the clubhouse and team flights during his 16-year career as a centerfielder for the Yankees.

Bernie, along with his All-Star Band, filled the Grunin Center with an evening of music, featuring fusions of jazz, rock, and the tropical rhythms of his Latin heritage. The band played many original songs composed by Bernie and also put a spin on old favorites from Van Morrison, Joe Cocker and others. After the show, there was a meet and greet where Bernie, warm and friendly, met with his many fans taking time to chat with each one. There was a real feeling of joy in the audience that night.

Master Class: Bernie believes in collaboration and sharing music and so prior to taking the Grunin Center stage on September 8th, the Ocean County College Jazz Band had the unique opportunity to have a Master Class and jam session with him.

The Grunin Center offers Master Classes to local high school and college students. It invites professional artists who are in town performing to help students hone their crafts and skills.

Bernie observed and listened to the Jazz Band play, offering his professional feedback, before jumping in and jamming along with the group on several more numbers. He of course had special tips for the student guitar players in the group.

The Interview: Check out CM’s September interview with Bernie online at CommunityMagazineNJ.com.

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Medical Acupuncture Neck and back pain. Chronic pain. Intervertebral disk disease. Hip dysplasia. Degenerative joint disease.

Osteoarthritis. Urinary incontinence.

Nerve disorders. Cancer pain. Dental pain. Gastrointestinal disorders. Kidney disease. Inflammatory conditions. Side effects from chemotherapy or radiation treatment. Wobbler syndrome and cervical issues. What do these conditions have in common? All of them can be helped with medical acupuncture.

Medical acupuncture relies on a knowledge of anatomy, physiology, pathology, and evidence-based medicine and research to effect a change in the body. A medical acupuncturist starts with a history and physical exam, including a special type of exam called a “myofascial exam.” During a myofascial exam, the practitioner examines the muscles, joints, tendons, and connective tissues that unite all of the body structures, and identifies the sources of pain, discomfort, and dysfunction.

Once these sources are identified, a treatment plan is created to correct the dysfunction through neuromodulation. Neuromodulation involves activating nerve pathways through stimulation of acupuncture points, both at the primary site of the problem and across the patient’s body. When a needle is inserted into an acupuncture point, the nerve fibers near the point are activated and send a signal from the “periphery” (the acupuncture point) to the central nervous system (the brain and spinal cord) and autonomic nervous system (which governs processes like glandular activity, immune functions, digestion, mood, and more). Acupuncture needles also interact with muscles and the connective tissues that surround them to release tension, trigger points, and pain.

Acupuncture is very safe and there are no negative side effects when administered by trained professionals. Possible contraindications include pregnancy (certain points should be avoided), open fractures, bleeding disorders, low white blood cells, and extremely weak or debilitated animals. Placing needles close to tumors is also avoided. Rarely, acupuncture patients may experience a temporary worsening of their conditions. Most side effects are mild and pleasant and include relaxation, improved sleep, and improved digestion and gastrointestinal motility. Most pets do not mind the placement of needles. Some points can be sensitive, but few animals react negatively to the treatment. At Red Bank Veterinary Hospital in Tinton Falls, we distract the animals with treats- frozen baby food is a hit, or for one discerning cat, bird videos!

The number of treatments needed varies from patient to patient. For long-standing or severe conditions, a patient may need multiple treatments per week for a few weeks; less severe cases often need fewer treatments spaced further apart. Usually, there will be obvious changes within the first 4-5 treatments that indicate if acupuncture will be a meaningful treatment for that pet.

Our doctors who perform medical acupuncture are also specialists in other disciplines and bring that knowledge and experience to their acupuncture treatments. Dr. Michelle Morges is a board certified veterinary medical oncologist; Dr. Alison Smith and Dr. Melina Zimmerman are both board certified veterinary anesthesiologists.

All have undergone extensive training through Curacore Integrative Medicine and Education Center for veterinary medical acupuncture.

(Dr. Smith has also received training through the International Veterinary Acupuncture Society.) This training includes extensive review of anatomy and physiology, focusing on nerves and muscles, and the relationship of acupuncture points to these structures. We have appointments available for consultation and treatment seven days a week.

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Beauty and the Beach Run for Women 10th Annual Beauty and the Beach Run™ November 3, 2018

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WHO: Aslan Youth Ministries a nonprofit organization headquartered in Red Bank.

WHAT: This race offers a 5 mile run or a 2.5 mile walk option and was designed by women for women, to raise funds for at-risk disadvantaged children, served by Aslan Youth Ministries. Over 1,000 runners/walkers are expected to attend. Also, runners, walkers and guests are invited to attend the EXPO held inside the Convention Center at the Ocean Place Resort & Spa. WHEN: Pre-Race Day Packet Pickup Friday, November 2, 2018 Road Runner Sports, 490 Broad St. Ste 1, Shrewsbury, NJ 07702 From 3 PM to 7 PM the day before the race Race Day - Saturday, November 3, 2018 Expo Opens ~ 7:30 am Runner’s Start ~ 9:30 am

For over 21 years, ASLAN has also operated a vibrant center in Northeastern Haiti offering a medical clinic, camp programs, a school, a church and global mission training opportunities. Through our stateside programs and in Haiti we regularly impact the lives of over 400 children and countless adults! ASLAN’S work has been recognized from the Statehouse to the Whitehouse. George H.W. Bush named ASLAN as one of his One Thousand Presidential Points of Light!

Walker’s Start ~ 10:00 am Awards Ceremony ~ 11:00 am WHERE: Convention Center at the Ocean Place Resort & Spa, 1 Ocean Blvd., Long Branch, NJ WHY: ASLAN is currently in its 43rd year of service to urban, atrisk children in Monmouth County, New Jersey. Through mentoring, tutoring, recreation, enrichment and educational programs, ASLAN helps children, ages 5 to adult, overcome their difficult circumstances and become contributing members of society. ASLAN graduates have faced adversity and have established successful careers such as a Navy 22 COMMUNITY MAGAZINE www.CommunityMagazineNJ.com Captain, several PhDs, engineers, systems analysts, pastors, teachers, nurses and more.

Annual Fall Ladies Night Kick-Off Event Thursday, October 11, 2018 from 6-8 PM To commemorate the Beauty & The Beach Run™ 10th Anniversary Run, Aslan is designing a commemorative medal which will be given to all race participants. The design for the medal will be unveiled at our Annual Fall Ladies Night to be held on Thursday, October 11, 2018 from 6 to 8 PM at Road Runners Sports, located at 490 Broad St. Ste 1, Shrewsbury, NJ 07702. This event serves as a kick-off to raise awareness about the race and the start of a training program in preparation for racing.

Refreshments will be served and Jen Vieth of She Runs will be there to speak about how to properly train for a 5-mile race. Road Runner will offer great store discounts like VIP 20% savings and 10% savings to non-VIP as well as great raffle prizes from multiple vendors.

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Grand Opening Although we’re already open for business, keep your eyes out for our Grand Opening on October 6th that will include free classes, food, drinks, and door prizes throughout the day.

You’ll be able to tour the facility and get a flavor for our classes.

A portion of the proceeds from the membership registration that day will be donated to Mental Health Association of Monmouth County in honor of National Suicide Prevention Month.

Call now to take advantage of our fall specials that are ending soon. I can’t wait for you to make this fall the start of a new you and for you to become part of my treasured fitness family.

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Celebrate the Fall at Thompson Park Day Get ready to celebrate the season during Thompson Park Day on Sunday, October 14th from 11:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. at Thompson Park, located at 805 Newman Springs Road in Lincroft. Thompson Park Day is the quintessential fall festival with activities that include canoeing on Marlu Lake (weather permitting), kids’ races, pie-eating contests, archery, pumpkin painting, wagon rides, and so much more.

Highlights of the day include a scarecrow contest and the Friends of the Parks’ annual Strut Your Mutt doggie costume contest. Details for both contests are available online at MonmouthCountyParks.com.

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BAYSHORE M E D ICAL C E N TE R FO U NDATI O N TO H OS T

Third Annual Oktoberfest Celebration fore to making an exciting announcement that will truly impact emergency care for our community. The funds raised from this event will contribute greatly to our plans.”

This year’s signature event will once again be co-chaired by Dr. and Mrs. Asaad and Dima Samra, along with honorary chair, Carol Stillwell, and will feature an Oktoberfest inspired menu, décor and entertainment. Carol Stillwell and Asaad Samra, M.D., a board certified plastic surgeon, are also Bayshore Medical Center Foundation trustees.

“Dima and I are thrilled to once again chair this festive event,” said Dr. Samra. “Bayshore Medical Center is seeing unprecedented growth and the community is beginning to take notice of its incredible services and quality. Not only am I excited to be part of the medical staff, but also to help rally the community and inspire them to support the medical center at events such as this one.”

Asaad Samra, M.D., board certified plastic surgeon, Bayshore Medical Center Foundation trustee and event co-chair, addresses the crowd at last year’s Oktoberfest.

The Benefit for Bayshore Oktoberfest Celebration is supported by capstone sponsor, Stillwell-Hansen, Inc. Registration is $250 per person, 50/50 raffle tickets and many sponsorships opportunities are available, including advertisements in the virtual ad journal.

Hackensack Meridian Health Bayshore Medical Center Foundation will host the third annual Benefit for Bayshore: an Ok- “I am so proud of Bayshore Medical Center and the tremendous toberfest Community Celebration on Friday, October 12 from strides it is making both in terms of patient safety, technology 6:30 to 10:30 p.m. The outdoor, tented reception will take and services,” said Serena DiMaso, Esq., New Jersey Assemblyplace on the medical center’s campus at 727 North Beers Street woman and chair of Bayshore Medical Center Foundation. “In in Holmdel and will support the expansion of emergency ser- just a few short years, the hospital has made significant upvices at Bayshore Medical Center. Tickets and sponsorship op- grades to many areas, and events like this help to make those portunities are available to the public. possible. The surrounding community needs and deserves the best care, particularly for emergent situations, and funds “This is the third annual Benefit for Bayshore Oktoberfest Celraised from this event will specifically benefit the much-needebration and we are thrilled to once again host this exciting ed expansion of emergency services.” event on the Bayshore campus,” said Timothy J. Hogan, FACHE, president of Bayshore Medical Center and Hackensack Merid- To register, or to learn more about the event, visit Hackenian Health Riverview Medical Center. “Last year’s event raised sackMeridianHealth.org/BMCOktoberfest or contact Meagan more than $175,000 in support of the expansion of emergency O’Flaherty, special events officer, at 732.751.5101 or meagan. services on the campus, and we are now closer than ever be- oflaherty@hackensackmeridian.org.

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RCDS Celebrates Restoration of

Chad Small Family Dining Room

Left to right: Director of Finance, Facilities and Operations Michael Mannino; Trustee Nikki Alpert; Trustee Jennifer Crowell; Student Council Vice President Dominik Goldberg; Board of Trustees President John Devlin; and Head of School Jayne Geiger

Students, faculty, administrators and board members gathered on The Rumson Country Day School lawn on September 4th to participate in two ribbon-cutting ceremonies – one for Lower School students and one for Upper School students – to celebrate the official opening of RCDS’s restored Chad Small Family Dining Room.

“We are excited to reveal the updated space that has such a significant impact on the RCDS experience,” said Head of School Jayne Geiger. “The Chad Small Family Dining Room is a place where we reinforce our sense of community and nurture long-lasting relationships. It is also where we foster life lessons, manners and take a break from the academic day. The work completed over the summer will enhance the dining experience for years to come while preserving the aspects that make it so unique.”

RCDS keeps a number of long-held traditions sacred. One of the most memorable takes place every school day in the historic dining room, which is named after former Head of School Chad Small and his family to honor his 25 years of service. Lunch is served family-style at tables where students of all ages are mixed and joined by a teacher or administrator. Students are assigned specific roles to help to serve, clear and clean during their meal.

“Family-style dining has been an integral part of the RCDS history for 92 years,” said Board of Trustees President John Devlin. “The dining experience is one of my fondest memories from when I was a student at RCDS. It is one of the traditions that we will always preserve because it creates such a special community.”

“We are so grateful for the support from the RCDS community,” said Director of Development Missy Falkenberg.

“Our families understand that the dining room is much more than a place to have lunch. I am delighted that we could use the ribbon-cutting ceremonies as an opportunity to educate our students about the history of the dining room, the importance of family-style dining and the philanthropy that made the restoration possible for them to enjoy and for generations to come.”

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Beyond the Brand

Jeffrey Delano Davis

By LiliAnn Paras What a joy it is to discover the unknown facets of the lives led by our neighbors, beyond the local businesses they are known for. I met Jeffrey Delano Davis at the Navesink Business Networking Group. He always has a compelling presentation, and rightly so, as he is the founder of Speak Clear Communications located in Red Bank and New York City, a boutique company to help executives, actors and others to deliver presentations, speeches, lose accents, acquire accents- anything required to deliver “killer presentations.” Recently, Jeff off-handedly invited the group to catch him on Rachel Dratch’s comedy show, Late Night Snack, on truTV. This sparked a great deal of interest in Jeff’s “other life”. It turns out he earned an MFA from Rutgers University and is an accomplished actor, director and screenwriter, with credits ranging from television and film to regional and off- Broadway theater. He is in the process of wrapping up his original screenplay, Three Sonnets, being filmed in his hometown of Red Bank where he lives with his wife, Maria and daughters Vera, 3 and Josie,1. CM sat with Jeff recently to learn more about his background and upcoming film.

CM: HOW DID THE ACTING ALL START? Jeffrey Delano Davis (JDD): I grew up in Boston and I come from an old New England family. (Jeff traces his roots to FDR and the Quincys.)

As a little kid, I was always making up imaginary worlds with my twin brother. He was my first scene partner. We would disappear into another room and make up scenes together. It was always great to make him laugh, and hearing that laughter was my first hook, feeling, “Yeah, this is good stuff.”

CM: AND YET, ONE OF YOUR FAVORITE ROLES WAS PLAYING A PSYCHOPATH. JDD: (Laughs) About two years ago, I originated the part of Arnold in an Off-Broadway play called Troll at Secret Theater, one of my favorite theaters in NYC. He was an internet troll outed and fighting for his life and was something of a psychopath. In another Off-Broadway play, Pavilion, I played a love-sick psychologist who was making up for past wrongs. It was a beautiful play, and well received. He had done something terrible as a teen but was a really sweet guy. He was the opposite (of the other part) so it was really interesting to play these messy guys who were at two different ends of the emotional spectrum. But, I was also in Late Night Snack, a comedic sketch show. And recently I have gotten a little more interested in filmmaking and I wrote, directed and shot a film called Three Sonnets, which definitely has a strong comedic element.

CM: WHAT WAS YOUR PATH FROM BOSTON TO MONMOUTH COUNTY? JDD: I moved to NYC in my twenties with $75 in my shoe. I survived the first few years, acting and performing and working at a coffee shop. I would get up at 5:00 a.m., run from the apartment in the East Village over to a coffee shop on 5th Avenue, serve coffee until 2:00 p.m., go to rehearsal for a show, and then perform it at night. I was part of a couple of theater companies including Expanded Arts which started Shakespeare in the Parking Lot. Seven years ago, I came to Monmouth (laughs) “kicking and screaming” but I’ve come to really really love it.

Directing “Three Sonnets”

Jeffrey Delano Davis with his daughers, Vera & Josie

I’ve realized there are so many creative things and creative people here.

I attended the Monmouth Film Festival, I‘ve been to Two River Theater a bunch of times- I even auditioned for John Diaz at TRT, I auditioned for New Jersey Repertory Theater, and I’ve seen excellent shows at Count Basie.

CM: IS YOUR FOCUS MORE ON ACTING OR ON FILMMAKING? JDD: Recently I have gotten a little more interested in filmmaking. I’m editing Three Sonnets right now and hope to submit it to the Tribeca Film Festival in December. It’s about an actor who takes his dream job acting in a Shakespeare play, but unfortunately takes it at the wrong time- it’s three days before his wife’s due date. He gets kicked out of the house and has to find a way to get back in her good graces. He falls back on his acting skills to do so and it’s really about the tension between trying to be creative and be a family guy at the same time. I did a lot of work to find sonnets (for the play) because I didn’t want to just use Shakespeare sonnets. I found American sonnets by Conrad Aiken, a southerner and Pulitzer prize winner.

(Note: You can view the script on line at jeffreydelanodavis.com.)

CM: WHERE CAN PEOPLE SEE “THREE SONNETS”?

JDD: I was thinking about approaching the people at BowTie Cinema in Red Bank and asking, eventually when the film is done and it goes the festival route, if they want to show it before the movies. It’s ten minutes and shot in Red Bank.

CM: WHAT IS YOUR DREAM PROJECT? JDD: (Laughs) Working with Lin Manuel Miranda would be great. Right now I am really focusing a lot on filmmaking. I would like to write something that is Red Bank specific. I’d like to write a short film or feature that addresses issues this community faces in terms of socioeconomic tensions in the town.

There seems to be a railroad that goes through the town that literally divides the town- “the other side of the tracks.” When I go to the park with my kids and see other kids playing, and see issues they are facing and the different communities that are trying to coexist in this town, ideas percolate in my head but are very unformed right now. I am still auditioning, usually for television.

I’ve auditioned for The Blacklist a number of times and Bluebloods. Any time they need tall lawyer types, or goofy guys. I’ll do whatever they need.

Jeffrey Delano Davis in “The Pavilion” written by Craig Wright at the Producer’s Club in New York City, directed by Michael Kostroff.

CM: I KNOW SPEAK CLEAR COMMUNICATIONS HELPS ACTORS, CORPORATE SPEAKERS AND SPEECHMAKERS. WHAT SHOULD READERS KNOW ABOUT YOUR SERVICES? JDD: I started Speak Clear Communications in 2005 when I was just coming out of drama school and thinking that I have a lot of secrets about performing. It seemed that performers held on to those secrets- about how to perform, how to stay relaxed while you present, how to project your voice - a lot that doesn’t get shared with the corporate world. So, I decided I would try to share that.

One success story was with a woman giving the commencement address for Columbia University in NY. We worked a really long time crafting a speech that had a strong call to action about homelessness. She had this one moment in the speech where she asked the audience to look around the Beacon Theater, and she pointed out that the homeless in New York could fill the theater up three or four times. It was so powerful that she received a standing ovation and she was hooked on speaking. And I was hooked.

Right now, the focus is on HR executives who can spot the employees who may be geniuses with technology, or brilliant managerially, but just can’t articulate. Or they stumble with their words or struggle with their PowerPoints or clam up or get really nervous.

I also help with accents. When I was in drama school I learned the International Phonetic Alphabet, a phonetic system you can apply to any language. I learned to do accents for acting and I also reversed the process to help with accent reduction and articulation for my clients.

CM: HOW CAN READERS REACH YOU? JDD: CM Readers can find out more about Speak Clear Communications at speakclearcommunications.com. I have a blog offering tips on Public Speaking and Accent Reduction, blog.speakclearcommunications.com. Also, I am always looking for new scripts and for a project to direct. My acting and screenwriting information can be found at jeffreydelanodavis.com.

CM: ANY ADVICE FOR THOSE STARTING OUT IN SHOW BUSINESS? JDD: I think it is really important to do your own thing in the industry because it can be really hard and unfair. And it can be easy to get down about the odds of finding work, but if you create your own projects and stay positive, then I think it is possible to continue on and make it into a long term thing.

Focus on the marathon rather than the short sprint.

Jeffrey Delano Davis performing in the play “Troll”, written by Ken Greller at The Secret Theater in New York City

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Family Fall Bucket List

BY HOPE DANIELS

It’s official! Autumn is in full swing and now is the time families need to amp up their outdoor itinerary before the weather goes from dreamy to dreary. From miniature golfing to apple picking to crab hunting - here are some adventurous go-to-and-do goals to check off your fall bucket list.

GRAB A MAP Discover the marvels of nature in your town and encourage the family to go on a biking tour or hiking trail. There are so many parks in the area that have open fields to run in, environmental programs to explore and miles of paths to navigate through. Holmdel Park and Sandy Hook’s five-mile paved Multi-Use Pathway (MUP) are perfect family meeting spots for hours of talking and walking.

PACK A PICNIC BASKET Who wants to eat indoors when you can reserve a seat anywhere in Mother Nature’s kitchen?! Roll out the blanket and host an old-fashioned picnic soirée in your backyard, at a park or even on the beach. Want to make the experience more daring? Make it a ‘No-Tech Allowed’ party.

GEAR UP FOR TEE TIME Practice your swing under the sun or stars as you enjoy hitting a few balls with your brood. From mini-golf courses in Oceanport to Tinton Falls, check out the new fall schedules of these PuttPutt hot spots.

SNAP A SELFIE Whether you are attending a festival, rocking out at a concert, shopping at a farmers’ market, running or watching a local marathon, cheering on your town’s winning football team - be creative and document your exciting excursions. Plus, it will be a perfect fall throwback when the winter blows in.

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SEE THE SEA Too cold to swim? No problem! Families can still enjoy living by the water in the fall by renting a boat, going fishing, setting up crab traps or overlooking the bay from a quiet bridge. Whether you want to set sail on the Navesink or paddle on the Shrewsbury, check out the marina locations and schedules in your area offering these seasonal opportunities.

PLAY TAG WITH THE DOG Don’t forget just like you, your furry family members desperately want to frolic in the fresh air for as long as they can. Thompson Park in Lincroft and Hartshorne Woods Park in the Atlantic Highlands offer miles of trails to walk or dash with your best doggie friends.

HOP ON A HAYRIDE Kids love this joyride to scout out the biggest pumpkin or find the ripest apple tree.

Even though the whole experience is done in minutes the memories will last for years.

Then test their problem-solving skills by completing a corn maze and fulfill their thrill-seeking spirits by venturing on a haunted trail.

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WEforum Presents Health & Wellness Conference Eat For Life: How the Power of Food Can Heal Your Body

The WEforum Health & Wellness Conference returns for a life-changing event on November 14th at Bell Works in Holmdel. The focus of this year’s conference is Eat for Life: How the Power of Food Can Heal Your Body. In partnership with Monmouth Medical Center, RWJBarnabas Health, the conference will feature a health and wellness vendor fair, break-out lectures and a series of interactive roundtable sessions with renowned health and wellness experts.

The conference’s keynote speakers include, Chef David Bouley and Dr. Susan Blum, MD, providing a collaborative chef and doctor perspective on food and hormones - The Food-Immune Connection; Joel Salatin, The Lunatic Farmer of Polyface Farms, a leader in food sustainability and the grass farming movement - Folks, This Ain’t Normal; and, the California Urban “Gangsta Gardener”, Ron Finley, a L.A.based food activist who’s made it his life’s mission to build community gardens and eradicate food deserts plaguing impoverished communities across the country - Change Your Food, Change Your Life. Event proceeds will help our local partner organizations ensure that vital nutrition and health information is available and accessible to all in our community.

Food, where it comes from, what you should be eating, and how it affects YOUR health is at the heart of the 2018 WEforum Health & Wellness Conference. Leading experts will headline breakout lectures on a variety of topics to educate, enlighten and inspire you to make healthier choices for you and your family. Attendees will learn how food and nutrition choices can maximize health, reduce the risk of chronic disease, and increase energy and vitality.

WEforum’s Health & Wellness Conference will motivate and inspire attendees to take action in their lives and communities. To purchase your tickets, agenda and more information, visit weforumgroup.com.

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Turning Wine into Water STORY CATHY PADILLA

JESSE & JON BON JOVI PARTNER WITH FRENCH WINEMAKER GÉRARD BERTRAND Hampton Water. It could be a reference to the beautiful beaches of Long Island, or maybe a new brand of fancy spring water, but instead it’s something entirely unique.

Take one-part award-winning music icon, one part acclaimed French winemaker, and two parts ambitious college student and what you’ll have is the new premium rosé wine company that has been named among the five best rosé wines in the world.

Conceived and run by Jesse Bongiovi, the second of Jon Bon Jovi’s four children with his wife Dorothea, Hampton Water was announced in January and launched by Jon

Bon Jovi and Gérard Bertrand this past February.

Jesse, a recent Notre Dame football player and graduate, grew up in Monmouth County and spent his summers in the Hamptons with his family. Rosé was always the drink of choice for the Bongiovis, with Jon referring to the wine as ‘pink juice’.

“We’ve been going out to the Hamptons my whole life, and rosé is basically all anyone drinks out there,” said Jesse. “My parents are big rosé drinkers, it’s my dad’s drink of choice. So once I turned 21, my junior year of college, one night sitting on

the porch with my dad he offered me a glass of pink juice. I looked at him and was like, listen Dad, you’re sitting in the Hamptons, you’re sitting on the beach, you’re not drinking pink juice anymore you’re drinking Hampton water. And the idea was born. The next day I was still bugging him about it, and he was like ‘go figure it out and if you have a serious idea, bring it back to me.’ Six months later I had met with everyone including distributors and had put together a concept and told my dad I wasn’t messing around and wanted to know what he thought. And he loved the idea.”

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on and Jesse began exploring options to create a new wine as a real enterprise, designing bottles and building on concepts.

They were introduced to Gérard Bertrand by a mutual friend and the three quickly developed a shared vision to create a unique rosé, uniting the essence of the relaxed lifestyles of the Hamptons and the South of France.

“We’d tried rosé from everywhere,” said Jesse. “But when we visited Gérard, we realized that there is an entire coastline in France that is producing some of the best-kept secrets on Earth.”

Coincidently, Jon Bon Jovi and Gérard Bertrand, both giants in their respective fields, had a lot in common.

“We just hit it off immediately,” Jon says of their first meeting. “We found that we shared a love of family, food, friends, and of course, great wine and great music.” Gérard Bertrand hosts a jazz festival at his main wine estate, Château l’Hospitalet, each year. “For me the connection between wine and music is organic,” says Gérard Bertrand. “I want to create a link between the emotions that spark off a great song and good wine.

They elevate each other.”

Wanting to produce the best possible product, Jon and Jesse were very hands-on in the wine-making process. They took a number of visits to Gérard Bertrand’s wineries in the South of France, as well as numerous blending and tasting sessions, before they felt the wine was ready. The wine is described as a fresh and lively rosé, with distinctive minerality, featuring Grenache, Cinsault and Mourvèdre, grape varieties characteristic of the French Mediterranean region.

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An entrepreneurial young man, with a strong work ethic and an impressive college record, Jesse takes little for granted. His parents taught him to grit his teeth, do his best, and show up every day to work his hardest toward success. Feeling as though he needs to put in twice as much effort, Jesse sees himself as separate from his father’s fame.

“It’s not that people don’t expect me to work hard, but they’re still surprised when I do,” said Jesse. “They don’t expect me to do things. They say that I don’t act like I have a famous dad. At the end of the day, it’s great and amazing. But it’s not me. He’s my dad, and

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LISTEN DAD, YOU’RE SITTING IN THE HAMPTONS, YOU’RE SITTING ON THE BEACH, YOU’RE NOT DRINKING PINK JUICE ANYMORE YOU’RE DRINKING HAMPTON WATER

he’s had a crazy life, and he has worked hard for all of the things he has been able to do. But that’s my dad, and this is me. I’ve always felt in my head that I have to do things, I have to work twice as hard, I have to be twice as much, to make a name for myself because I have all of this in the background.”

Having planned to have a career in finance for most of his life, when Jesse graduated he took a job for a small start-up for nearly a year then threw himself headfirst into the wine industry and his new company.

“Basically, ‘company’ is kind of a strong word that I laugh at,” said Jesse with a chuckle.

“Right now, it’s me and my college roommate, Ali Thomas, who handle the day-to-day business.

All of the sales, a lot of the logistics, some of the social media and marketing, getting things to places – which is unbelievably stressful. My dad is obviously there, and he helps us for what we call the ‘big boy’ meetings when me and my buddy can’t be the ones who walk in. Places like Fontainebleau down in Miami. It’s nice when two young guys walk in, and the wine is really good, and they like the story, but my dad is there to help with the wow factor. So at a place like Fontainebleau they’ll talk to us as opposed to telling us to wait in the lobby.”

Learning as they go, bottle design was an area where Jesse and his roommate, turned business partner, faced some challenges.

“We hadn’t had any formal marketing training, but we knew we wanted something timeless,” said Jesse. “Our original concept was to have the bottle shrink wrapped and we wanted the top half white and the bottom half to be clear shrink wrap so you would see the pink wine. It would create an illusion of the woman diver on the bottle diving into the rosé. She was turning water, the white top, into wine. So that was the original idea. And when we met with Gérard he looked at us as though we had ten heads. Then he explained all the reasons why that wouldn’t work and basically said, no shrink wrap, what else you got?”

Once things got rolling, both a public relations team and social media expert were hired to help. But learning the trade and building a brand has required long days and more work, travel, and learning than anticipated. He calls it a “sprinter’s education” and Jesse seems content to spend sixteen hours a day working whenever necessary, which is necessary seven days a week.

He credits generations of Bongiovis with giving

him the drive for success and enjoys that he is part of a legacy of business owners.

“Working with my dad is cool,” shared Jesse.

“It’s great because it’s a new experience for both of us. It’s not like I’m trying to get into the music industry and he’s directing me what to do. This has been a good way we can both work and learn together, face different problems, and look at each other and kind of go – what do we do now?

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(l to r) Jon Bon Jovi, Jesse Bongiovi, and Gérard Bertrand

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It’s awesome to look at my dad, who has been in many different businesses over 35 years, and to be able to say, what do we do now? It’s been super helpful having him around. And it’s been a lot of fun.”

Jon calls working with his son an “amazing experience”. And as Jesse exudes gratitude for the beliefs his father and mother raised him with, one can see the lack of pretension or entitlement in a young man who perhaps would be expected to have both.

“Growing up with my dad was just normal. As a little kid I remember not understanding why my friends’ dads didn’t go on tour,” laughed Jesse. “It just was normal to me. And as I got older I started to realize that someone who can have that big of a career is incredibly rare. All the lessons he’s taught me as a dad teaching his son, I realize it ended up being a master class in business. To be able to watch him, and the things that he does, and the lessons that he taught me throughout my life…those aren’t things that maybe every other person is hearing. And if you’re able to really implement what he’s shown me, you realize those are the traits that make a great business man and a truly successful individual. I got to do things growing up that most kids don’t get to do, and you don’t realize that until you’re a little older. There were parts that were really normal and now at 23 I realize I have a dad who is amazing. To make it to the hall of fame of anything is a serious lesson. And to be able to have my dad as a mentor has been unbelievable.”

IT TAKES THREE JON BON JOVI Global rock icon Jon Bon Jovi has built a legacy leading one of the most successful rock bands in the world for over three decades. With over 130 million albums sold and more than 2,900 concerts performed in over 50 countries, Jon has earned a place in the Songwriters Hall of Fame (2009) while his Grammy winning band, Bon Jovi, was inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame in April 2018.

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GÉRARD BERTRAND Gérard Bertrand began his life in the vineyard with his first harvest at the age of ten. As a winegrower and owner of flagship estates, he has since acquired a unique expertise of his native Languedoc wine region of southern France. Gérard Bertrand is committed to producing high quality wines and is a passionate advocate for environmental conservation. He is among the leaders in biodynamic wine production.

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JESSE BONGIOVI Jesse Bongiovi is a recent graduate of the University of Notre Dame, where he received a degree in Political Science, as well as a minor in Business Economics.

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A beautiful day greeted Big Brothers Big Sisters of Monmouth & Middlesex Counties (BBBSMMC) as they held its 12th Annual Beach Volleyball Tournament on September 16th on Main Street Beach in Manasquan. The event was presented by Starbucks, Surf Taco, and Gee Gee’s Pizzeria.

The tournament included 28 teams, each raised at least $75 in order to participate. There were two divisions; one competitive and one recreational. Each division had its own set of prizes and trophies, including a $1,000 prize for the competitive division winner generously donated by Surf Taco. Prizes were also distributed to the highest fundraising team, and highest fundraising individual.

“Our Volleyball Tournament continues to grow each year and we are grateful for the support of the community that helps us raise funds for our 1-to-1 mentoring programs. The event was a fantastic day on the beach and the result is more volunteer Big Brothers and Big Sisters being matched with children in our community,” said William A. Salcedo, Executive Director of BBBSMMC. “Thank you to everyone who sponsored, participated and volunteered for this incredible event.”

The tournament goal was to raise money to continue to enhance the quality and expand the programs that BBBSMMC provides. Its mission is to provide children facing adversity with strong and enduring, professionally supported 1-to-1 relationships that change their lives for the better, forever. Currently there are over 700 children ages 6-18 building relationships with their Bigs that will help them develop personally, socially and academically. The program is solely run on the support from the community through individual gifts, grants and special events.

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The Two River Ramble, slated for October 14th, is the inaugural event of the season. The Two River Ramble (TRR) will be held from 3:00 p.m. to 6:00 p.m. on the front lawn of the historic Parker Homestead-1665, located at 235 Rumson Road in Little Silver. This beautifully restored property, with portions that date back to the late 1600s, is the perfect setting for a fall afternoon filled with great music and community spirit.

The event was inspired by The Midnight Rambles, a series of concerts held in 2003 by legendary drummer from The Bank, Levon Helm, at his home in Woodstock, New York.

The Two River Ramble will showcase its house band, The Honey Badgers, who will serve as backup for local musicians Regina Goldy, Tim Coyle, Kim Boyko, and Jonathan Tea. A suggested donation of $20 will be collected at the show, but attendees are free to give whatever they can. Bring your own blankets, chairs and coolers. Food and beverages are encouraged.

The event is being produced by Dave Ballard in conjunction with the Parker Homestead-1665, Inc. and Bob Sickles of Sickles Market. Ballard has several goals for The Two River Ramble. First, he wants to make TRR into a semi-annual event that will be held in spring and in fall. He wants to carry the spirit and inspiration of the original Midnight Rambles to this area as a way to showcase the tremendous pool of talent around us. Dave wants TRR to provide a showcase event for local singer/songwriters. “I want to get calls from performers asking if they can participate in the next Ramble. I want those who participated to call their colleagues and tell them what a great gig this is and that they should look to get on board.” He wants to utilize the Parker Homestead site as a live music venue. “It is a beautiful location and setting that has had a lot of work go into it, so creating a new use for the space helps the return on that work and the investment made to bring it to its current condition.” And Dave noted, “The event should be self-supporting, i.e., production costs should be covered by donations collected during the show. Any extra will go to a small, local charity. The Ramble is not a fundraising event per se - it is a musical event during which we may raise some money for a local group that can use it.”

Those who attend this event will also have the opportunity to tour the Parker House. The Parker Homestead-1665 is the original residence of Little Silver’s founding family.

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Fall activities including a hay wagon, pumpkin patch, hay bale pyramid, hay bale maze, harvest back drop photo set, petting zoo, face painting, pony rides, and new seasonal games. More info at dearbornmarket.com.

From 11am to 4pm, enjoy a fun-filled fall family event with crafts, games, live music, local food samples, and an antique tractor display! More info, visit deliciousorchards.com

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Red Bank Restaurant Week

The best Polka Bands, delicious pig roasts, traditional games with prizes, best selection of import biers in New Jersey. More info at celebrateoktoberfest.com.

A bevy of local eateries will be offering tantalizing menus, sweet treats and savory cocktails for local gourmands to sip and sample. Various establishments throughout Red Bank’s downtown will feature $25 and $35 menus that include a selection of appetizers, main courses, and dessert.

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The day includes food vendors, crafters, beer/wine, live music, wagon rides, pony rides, inflatables, Ferris wheel, and touch-a-truck from 12 to 9 pm .

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4th Annual Infinity Event “The Hunt on the Beach” Edgewater Beach & Cabana Club, Sea Bright

To benefit Tigger House Foundation, which is dedicated to achieving a positive impact by reducing the death rate of heroin and opiate addiction from 6:30 pm to 12 am. Visit tiggerhouse.org

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Fall Festival in Belmar Main Street, Belmar (Pyanoe Plaza)

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Brookdale Haunted Theater Weekends Friday thru Sunday

A terrifying trip through interconnected mazes haunted by creatures, phobias, and images ripped from your worst nightmares. A 20-minute walkthrough maze. No scares allowed Kids Tour available (10/20, 10/21, 10/27, 10/28), More info, visit BrookdaleHauntedTheater.com.

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Tavernfest Allen House, Shrewsbury | 7 to 10 pm

Monmouth County Historical Association’s annual event with full buffet dinner, beer & wine, entertainment by The Sam Sims Band, silent and live auction. Tickets are $85 and bought online at monmouthhistory.org.

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Electrified: Live Storytelling & Celebration Project Write Now Annual Fundraising Event Two River Theater, Red Bank

Join in as teen and adult writers share personal stories on the theme of empowerment. Celebrate the writing community with food, drink, and live music from songwriter artist Austin Vuolo. Tickets: $175, 7:00 to 11:00 pm.

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Changing Lives Meredith O’Brien & Affiliates, LLC teams with Shore House (l to r) Meredith O’Brien, LCSW (founder), Carianne D’Oriano, LPC, Tatiana Grant, LPC, NCC, Barbara Tatum, LPC, Jessica Lupon, LPC, John Muldoon, PHD, LPC

The first week in October is Mental Illness Awareness Week- a time when we educate the public, fight stigma and provide support for those living with a mental illness.

Approximately 1 in 5 adults in the United States experiences a mental illness each year and for some it substantially interferes with or limits one or more life activities. This month Meredith O’Brien & Affiliates, LLC is teaming up with Shore House, a community that builds recovery through work, education and socialization. Located in Long Branch, it is a vital resource for those with mental illness.

Here is a story from one of its members: My name is Dan Pineiro, aka Danny Rocker. For the last 30 years I have lived with bipolar disorder. I had a pretty typical childhood. I played sports and got good grades, even graduated with honors. I went off to Rutgers and that’s when things started to unravel. Two months into my first semester I suffered from severe depression and started seeing a psychiatrist.

I was diagnosed with clinical depression. Two months later, I experienced the first of many psychiatric hospitalizations. I was placed on medications but they made me feel worse and I stopped taking them.

The next decade was a blur of manic episodes, two suicide attempts, hospitalizations and jail. I was not taking any medication and was very unstable. I got into an argument

with a stranger over using a pay phone and I threatened people I thought were going to harm me. I crisscrossed the country, couldn’t hold a job and was broke and homeless. I spent six months in Spain with family until I wore out my welcome. I returned home, still unstable and wound up in prison for making terroristic threats. I was found not guilty by reason of insanity. I was monitored by a judge and transferred to Trenton Psychiatric Hospital. I spent two and a half years there and was monitored every six months. I realized it was important to take my medication, even if the side effects made me tired and gain weight.

I was now stable, but sleeping almost 15 hours a day. My peer support specialist recommended Shore House as a way for me to connect back to my community. I started in April of 2015 and have been a member ever since. Shore House isn’t your typical day program. They believe work is restorative and peer support is the best form of rehabilitation. The members run the house. For the first time in my adult life I felt needed, wanted and someone was expecting me to be there. I have made many friends who I see outside of Shore House. I am participating in the Transitional Employment Program and have a job working at Supplies Masters Inc. in Long Branch. I work part time from 10-2pm and go to Shore House when I am finished for the day.

The most important thing to know about those living with a mental illness is that mental health consumers who are medication compliant, go to therapy and most importantly have a support system such as Shore House can be functional members of the community and should be treated just like everyone else.

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October 13 - Jimi Hendrix at 8 pm October 19 - Terry Ilouis and The Vagabonds at 8 pm October 26 - The Hunts at 8 pm More info by calling 732.263.6889 or visiting monmouth.edu/mca

With a NEW and spook-tacular route along the winding paths of time, nearly 20 different “scenes” greet visitors of all ages... Your ticket includes not only the haunted hayride, but admission to the village grounds and historic buildings from the 18th and 19th centuries...visit with our ghosts, ghouls, and monsters.More info, visit allairevillage.org

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10/20

The quintessential fall festival (11 am to 5 pm) with activities that include canoeing on Marlu Lake (weather permitting), kids’ races, pie-eating contests, archery, pumpkin painting, wagon rides and so much more. Highlights of the day also include a scarecrow contest and the Friends of the Parks’ annual Strut Your Mutt doggie costume contest. More info, visit MonmouthCountyParks.com.

Join in for Two River Theater’s annual benefit bash and explore the secret lair of unsound scientists, diabolical doctors and evil geniuses. Costume attire highly recommended. Tickets $200 pp, starts at 7 pm, visit tworivertheater.org

Monmouth University Center For The Arts Pollack Theater at Monmouth University

Thompson Park Day

Haunted Allaire Hayrides & Village

Two River Theater’s Halloween Ball III

10/20

A Taste of Spring Lake Kitchen Tour

10/14

19th Annual Fall Car Show Fair Haven Fire Department – 9 am to 3 pm

Hosted by Fair Haven Police and Auxiliary, featuring DJ entertainment, door prizes, 50/50 drawings, vintage cars, breakfast and tasty fair-type lunch selections. Free event for spectators. More info, visit fhfd.org.

10/14

The Two River Ramble Parker Homestead-1665, Little Silver – 3 to 6 pm

Showcasing its house band, The Honey Badgers, who will serve as backup for local musicians Regina Goldy; Tim Coyle; Kim Boyko; and Jonathan Tea. A suggested donation of $20 will be collected at the show, but attendees are free to give whatever they can. Bring your own blankets, chairs and coolers. Food and beverages are encouraged. More info, visit parkerhomestead-1665.org.

10/16

10th Annual Women’s Success Summit The Grand Lake Chateau, Woodbridge

Presenting international award-winning entrepreneur and best-selling author Sandra Yancey – summit will help you move farther and faster than you could ever do alone! Starts at 10:30 am. More info, visit ewomennetwork.com

A self-guided tour experiencing the charm of Spring Lake. Sample delicious cuisine from local top chefs, get inspired by the creative talents of interior designers and stores. More info, visit springlakekitchentour.com

10/20

3rd Annual Tricky Tray Hosted by German Shepard Rescue of NJ

VFW Post 2179, Port Monmouth, Doors open at 4 pm $20 at door, admission includes coffee and door prizes, guests may bring outside food, cash bar available. More info at gsrnj.org.

10/20

Frances Foundation 14th Annual Gala Ocean Place Resort, Long Branch - 6:30 pm to 12:00 am

Open bar and dancing, gift baskets, silent auction, grand prizes and more.

Tickets are $185 p/p. More information at francesfoundation.net

10/21

Red Bank Food & Wine Walk

Three hours (2 to 5 pm) of top tastings from many of Red Bank’s popular dining spots…Must be 21+ to purchase wristband. Hosted by Red Bank River Center, visit redbank.org.

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Lunch Break freely provides food, clothing, life skills and fellowship to those in need in Monmouth County and beyond. More info, lunchbreak.org

This race offers a 5-mile run or a 2.5 mile walk option and was designed by women for women, to raise funds for at-risk disadvantaged children, served by Aslan Youth Ministries. Runners, walkers and guests are invited to attend the EXPO held inside the Convention Center at the Ocean Place Resort & Spa. Expo Open at 7:30 am. Visit beautyandthebeachrun.org

Lunch Break’s Fall Gala | Battleground Country Club, Manalapan - 6:30 to 11:00 pm

10/27

Detour Gallery Presents UNPRECEDENTED Opening Reception - 6 to 9:30 pm Detour Gallery, Red Bank

Free event featuring new paintings and sculptures by Julia Rivera. Exhibition runs through December 1. More info at detourgallery.com.

Beauty and the Beach Run for Women Convention Center at Ocean Place Resort, Long Branch

11/3

The Westminster Choir Tower Hill First Presbyterian Church, Red Bank

10/27

In a rare Monmouth County appearance, the famed Westminster Choir will present a concert by conductor Joe Miller. The ensemble will perform a program that ranges from Johannes Brahms’ Songs of Destiny to American folk tunes and contemporary classics. 7:30pm (doors open at 7:00 p.m.)

More info, visit towerhillchurch.org.

Presented by Colts Neck Lions Club, families treated a pancake breakfast ($5/adult & $3/child) to family fun with prizes, raffles, and as always children are encouraged to come dressed up in their costumes. More info, coltsnecklionsclub.us

11/4

24th Annual Halloween Pancake Breakfast Colts Neck Reformed Church - 8am to 12 pm

10/27

Joan Jett and the Blackhearts Count Basie Red Bank – 8 to 10 pm

Joan Jett is an originator, an innovator, and a visionary. As the leader of the hard-rocking Blackhearts, with whom she has become a Rock and Roll Hall of Fame inductee, she’s had eight platinum and gold albums and nine Top 40 singles. Tickets: thebasie.org

13th Annual Run with Dennis Memorial 5K Run/Walk PNC Bank Arts Center - 7:45 to 11 am

In honor and memory of Army Lt. Dennis W. Zilinski II. Lt. Zilinski was assigned to the 1st Battalion, 187th Infantry Regiment, 3rd Brigade Combat Team, Company B of the 101st Airborne Division. Lt. Zilinski was deployed to Iraq where he was killed in action on November 19, 2005. Lt. Zilinski graduated from Christian Brothers Academy in 2000 and The United States Military Academy at West Point in 2004. More info at runwithdennis.org

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10/28

Monmouth County SPCA Fur Ball The Shadowbrook at Shrewsbury - 7 to 11 pm

Award-winning novelist and author of Gateway To The Moon is a vivid novel that travels from 15th Century Spain when Jews and Muslims were forced to convert or be expelled - includes brunch, discussion with author and book signing. Tickets: $15 or $20 at the door. More info, visit torat-el.org.

11/11

Meet The Author Series – Mary Morris Congregation Torat El, Oakhurst – 11 am

10/29 & 10/30

Spooky Tales/Ghosts of Historic Fort Hancock

Beginning at 7 pm, get into the Halloween Spirit on this moonlight walk around Historic Fort Hancock where ghosts have been known to linger.

Cider and fall snacks will be provided. Meet at building 18 (18 Harshorne Drive, Highlands) Cost: $5 per person. More info, visit littoralsociety.org

Celebrating the opening of the Vogel Veterinary Care Center and honoring Dr. Nicole Feddersen. Specialty cocktails and a highly coveted auction selection, formal dinner. More info, visit monmouthcountyspca.org

Monmouth Civic Chorus Presents Free Concert Triumphant Life Church (500 Malterer Ave, Oceanport)

On the exact 100th anniversary of the Armistice of World War I at 4 pm, Monmouth Civic Chorus will pay tribute to our nation’s veterans with an emotional and stirring presentation of wartime-inspired music. More info, visit monmouthcivicchorus.org.

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Prove It! A SAFE DEPOSIT BOX full of rubber bands? That’s what was left of the stashes of cash my client said her husband kept (bound with rubber bands) in several banks in New York City. He either got a warning and cleaned out the cash before we got there (leaving the rubber bands as a wink), he thought rubber bands were valuable enough to keep in a vault, or my client was wrong about the cash. I doubt she was wrong.

Whatever the real answer, we were left without cash and only rubber bands for evidence. This was a sad story when it happened, but has come to illustrate, for me, how important proof is. The husband’s response was, “What cash?

I never had cash.” And how were we to now prove otherwise?

Over the years clients have often told me they believe, they think, or they know their spouse is hiding money.

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an admission by the spouse, the court will require evidence to prove these contentions. That’s why it is important to gather evidence early, before it disappears.

Electronic access to bank account records can disappear in the time it takes to change a password. Paper documents can be shredded almost as quickly.

This doesn’t necessarily eliminate the evidence altogether, but can make it harder, more time consuming, and more expensive to find. Without some records as a starting point, finding hidden accounts is like finding a needle in a haystack. You can find it, but it will take keen eyes and a lot of time. That is why, if divorce becomes a possibility, preserving whatever records are available before they disappear is so important.

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So, gather what you can and share it with your lawyer.

Together you will decide whether what you have is enough or only a beginning. Will you need a private investigator, a forensic accountant, or just a tech savvy friend to help you with your online search?

Each case is different so it is vitally important to start early in tandem with your attorney. This will increase your chances of finding the cash, not just the rubber bands.

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Lucy Kalian resides in Rumson with her husband Mazin and their therapy dog Oliver. Lucy and Mazin have four grown children who visit frequently. Lucy is known for her work as a fine artist. She has held juried exhibits, shows and events at Beauregard Gallery in Rumson, D & R Greenway in Princeton, Pollack Gallery at Monmouth University in Long Branch, and Salmagundi Club in New York. This past spring she held a solo show at The Copley Society in Boston, Massachusetts which featured her “Witnesses” series. Over the years Lucy has also been recognized for her ongoing community involvement, which include being a member of the school board, a member of the Garden Club, and working with Clean Ocean Action.

CM: Were you inspired by something or someone that triggered a yearning to create art?

Lucy Kalian (LK): I was born with the yearning; it must be genetic. As far back as I can remember, I was fascinated with the tactile, with visual imagery, and with both historical and creative story telling.

CM: You consider yourself an unintentional activist.

Why? LK: It is not enough for the viewer to see the finished work. My goal is for the observer to feel the work, to understand why it was painted. I feel that visual art explains a story. (Lucy hopes that when someone views her paintings of the ocean they will see its beauty and want to focus on caring for it.)

CM: Do you paint or draw daily?

LK: My typical work day is from six to nine hours and more when I have a show pending. This summer, after producing large-scale graphite drawings and oil paintings for three shows back to back, I tried, unsuccessfully, to take time off. I just can’t take time off from creating. I am wired to do it. I am goal-driven and am now ready to produce for a new show.

CM: How would you describe your creative process?

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LK: I begin by staging a composition that tells a story. Regardless of the quality of actual painting execution, composition determines whether or not a painting will “read”.

That set, I draw a loose sketch. Once I have settled all compositional issues, I make a careful rendering, remaining as true to the subject before me as possible. When satisfied with the drawing, I transfer it on to canvas. At this point, I often paint a small value study to further familiarize myself with the subject(s). I lay in my painting with an ebauche, the first of many layers of paint. Subsequent

layers, usually five or more are added. The final layers introduce the subtle visual nuances. These finishing touches are my dessert. I spend countless hours experimenting, making errors, repairing, rethinking and moving forward. I expect and welcome frustration during a project; without it, there is no learning. I am constantly being educated by my tools, my subjects and my trials.

CM: Explain the idea of the mural outside of the K. Hovnanian Children’s Hospital in Neptune.

LK: I was asked by members of the hospital’s PICU staff and administration to help develop an idea to soften the dismal view of building mechanicals that are seen through the windows of the patient rooms. It was relatively immediate to link the name of the hospital and the fact of close geographical proximity to the shoreline. Children love the beach. Making the graphics interactive is a good diversion and also a way to educate a bit. The mural designates towns, landmarks and bodies of water that patients and visitors can find on any map application of their computers or handheld devices. On another piece of outdoor industrial equipment is painted a sequence of nautical flags from left to right and children can use key cards to decode a secret message. This is an ongoing project. The more surfaces that are covered, the more ideas come up for another section.

A side by side mural, “Sandy Hook Home,” was created by Lucy from collected beach trash during Clean Ocean Action’s beach sweep event.

CM: What other community-minded projects have you done?

LK: A few years ago, I was commissioned by the NYC Dept. of Transportation to participate in a barrier beautification project near the Navy Yard in Brooklyn, New York. There were 150 volunteers who showed up for a one day blitz to paint designs that I had developed and drawn on a quarter mile of Jersey barrier as part of the newly developed bike path. I also created a mural for Clean Ocean Action using the debris gathered from one of the group’s ‘Beach Sweeps’.

I also asked a dear friend and fellow artist, Stella Ryan, to create one from Sea Bright beach trash. All of the images in my ‘Witnesses’ solo show, which was hung in D and R Greenway Land Trust’s Johnson Gallery in Princeton, New Jersey, were created from trees and pods on land preserved by the Greenway Land Trust. My solo show ‘Swells and Soundings’ held last September, was to raise awareness of marine and coastal science for Monmouth University’s Urban Coast Institute.

CM: Where have some of your public collections been displayed?

LK: I have done work for Clean Ocean Action in Highlands, the Jacqueline Wilentz Comprehensive Breast Center in Long Branch, Hackensack Meridian, the Brooklyn Greenway bike path for NYC Dept. of Transportation, and the Seven Bridges Foundation in Greenwich, Connecticut.

This oil on canvas painting titled “Anchorage, Sea Bright North End” brings out the beauty of the ocean.

Part of an ongoing series, “Grading Day,” is one of several works by Lucy that shows eggs in a humorous way.

Lucy’s drawing of the lower half of a tree and its title “Gracefully Turned Out” demonstrates her ability to “see” the tree in a new light.

This painting, titled “Thompson Park Reservoir Trail,” beautifully captures that area.

CM: How can our readers contact you?

LK: I will do private commissions on request and can be reached through my website at lucykalian.com. I am currently represented by Beauregard Gallery in Rumson and Copley Society in Boston. In the fall, I will be teaching a color workshop at Colorest Art Supply in Red Bank.

Lucy’s drawing of “Huber Woods” shows a soft, quiet part of the woods.

Oceanic Free Library Held Garden Party Fundraiser

BY SUSAN MURPHY

Oceanic Free Library held a garden party on September 9th at the Seabright Lawn Tennis and Cricket Club in Rumson. The event is held biennially in order to raise funds for operating expenses and improvements of the library.

Left to right: Students who assisted at the Garden Party were Paul Sperber; Claire Kennedy; Reece Jones; Avery Boyle; and Brad Miller.

Entertaining music by Andy McDonough was enjoyed, as was the delicious food by Brennan’s. Another feature of the evening was a silent auction, which included items by local artist and tickets to events at local theaters.

liam Henry who was killed during WWI in France. The 100th anniversary will be celebrated in 2020. For more information on what the Oceanic Free Library has to offer, please visit its website at www.oceaniclib. org.

Upcoming on October 24th at 7:00 p.m. is guest speaker Greg Caggiano, who is a published author and historian. He will be bringing some Halloween spirit in with his lecture titled “Witchcraft from the Inquisition to Salem: History, Myth and Folklore.”

This is open to ages 16 and up.

On November 14th at 7:00 p.m. will be Board President Carolyn Miller introduced “Prohibition and Bootlegging on the Jersey Honoree Ann Rossbach. “Ann has given Shore.” These events are $10 per person her time not only to the Oceanic Library and include a donation to the library. serving as Treasurer and past Board President, but with many other non-profit or- And keep watching for information on the ganizations as well,” she commented. The very popular “Holiday Cupcake Decorating event was attended by community support- Techniques” with Kim from Wilton Cake ers, the library staff, the library board, and Company, coming in early December. This class is for teens and adults. It fills up fast the library trustees. so visit the library’s website often for deThe Oceanic Free Library was donated to tails. For further information about these the Rumson community by the Meeker events, call the library at 732.842.2692. family in 1920 in memory of their son Wil-

Phil Keaggy to Play Live at Tower Hill Church

Phil Keaggy is one of the most admired guitarists in music today.

His fans range from those who aspire just to be able to play his mistakes, to professional musicians who have been strongly influenced by his style. On October 11th at 7:30 p.m.

he will perform live at Tower Hill Church, located at 255 Harding Road in Red Bank.

Phil has won multiple Christian music Dove awards, and for three years in a row was voted one of the top fingerstyle guitarists by Guitar Player Magazine readers.

Phil’s solo career has spanned more than 45 years and has included over 60 solo albums. Phil is aware that God gave him a calling to deliver the Gospel through his music, and he does just that, at sold-out concerts across the U.S.

Tickets for the concert are $30 for VIP Premium Seating, $20 for General Admission; and may be purchased at towerhillchurch.org/events. Doors will open at 7:00 p.m., concert begins at 7:30 p.m.

Tickets will also be available for purchase at the door. General Admission will be $25 at the door and VIP Premium tickets will be $35, if available.

Additional information is available at TowerHillChurch.org.

Garden Club of Fair Haven Upcoming Events The Garden Club of Fair Haven will have its regular monthly meeting on November 7th at the Community Center in Fair Haven, located at 29 Fisk Street in Fair Haven. This meeting will feature two design classes entitled “Novices on Parade.” The designs, which will be judged first, second, and third place are for members who have never received a Blue Ribbon in a Flower Show. Themes are around Veteran’s Day: “Thanks for the Memories” and “Our Vets Remembered.” The Public is invited to attend. Lunch is served at 12:00 noon and there is a $5 fee for non-members. The business meeting follows and the designs and awards will be reviewed at approximately 1:30 p.m. Guests are asked to sign in to be welcomed. For further information, contact Richard Biernacki, Publicity Chair at 732.787.2217.

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Join in on October 19th from 7:00 to 10:00 p.m. to help raise funds for the Parker Homestead-1665. Attendees will be invited to one of six local homes in Little Silver where they will enjoy drinks, food and share the spirit of coming together to help their community.

These intimate and casual events at Little Silver homes are reminiscent of a social organization that existed in our area years ago. The Parkers and their friends created the “I Tappa Kag� club to continue the spirit of social organizations that many people had experienced in their youth. The group appointed officers, planned social events and outings and gathered at local homes for themed parties and cocktail socials. The comradery and fun continued for 30 years in and around Little Silver and was documented in local newspaper articles.

Your support of this event will help complete the restoration of the unique Sweet Potato Frame Project, partially funded by a grant from the Monmouth County Historical Commission.

Ticket prices begin at $100 per person for the event but there are also sponsorships available. Please visit parkerhomestead-1665.org for further information about purchasing tickets and sponsorships.

After purchasing a ticket to this event, the ticket holders will be sent an invitation with the name and address of their host for the evening, one week prior to the event. Ticket sales will close on October 12th.

The mission of the Parker Homestead-1665, Inc. is to preserve the unique 330-year history of the Parker Family through the restoration and maintenance of the Homestead lands and buildings and promote their use for educational, historical and cultural exhibits. Its goal is to continue to host free Open Houses and programs for the public throughout the year to enrich and increase the knowledge and appreciation of local heritage.

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2nd Annual 5K & Kids Fun Color Run on November 4th in Fair Haven ward the FHEF's mission to bring new state-of-the-art technology to Fair Haven schools.

Kids enjoying the color spray station at the 2017 “Color Me for Technology Color Run” in Fair Haven.

Early $35 registration, available thru October 15th includes a race bag, color packet and t-shirt. Registration after that date is $40. Online registration ends November 1st or until the event sells out.

“The Color Me for Technology Color Run is all about fun and community,” says Kelly McCann, president of the FHEF. “Last year’s event was a great success bringing in 400 participants.

We can’t wait to enjoy the fun again, while also raising money for technology in our schools.”

Early packet pickup available November 3rd at the Fair Haven Youth Center from 4:00 to 6:00 p.m. Check-in starts at 8:15 a.m. the day of the event, at Fair Haven Fields (Dartmouth & Ridge Road intersection) in Fair Haven.

The second annual “Color Me for Technology” Color Run is scheduled for November 4th in Fair Haven Fields. Sponsored

by The Fair Haven Education Foundation (FHEF), the event features a 1-loop Kids Fun Run/Walk & 5K USATF Certified Course (non-chipped).

The Kids Fun Run/Walk starts at 9:00 a.m.; the 5K starts at 10:00 a.m. Throughout the course participants will experience 4 color splash zones where they’ll be doused in color and end with a final color toss celebration. All proceeds raised go to-

Both 5K and Kids Fun Run participants will be doused in color at four color stations throughout the course, manned by Fair Haven teachers and school staff. Sponsorships are available starting at $100. To volunteer or sponsor this event, email FHEF.info@gmail.com.

The FHEF is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization. Since its creation by parents and residents in 1999, the FHEF aims to enhance the academic experience of Fair Haven children with state-of-the-art technology. All money raised by the Foundation funds technology programs and tools for the Fair Haven public schools which are not covered by state programs. FHEF is entirely volunteer-led. More info can be found at FHNJEF.org.

Fair Haven Fire Company to Host 19th Annual Fall Car Show In Fair Haven, good times at the fire house don’t end with the Firemen’s Fair. The fun continues on October 14th at the 19th Annual Fall Car Show hosted by the Fair Haven Fire Company’s Auxiliary and Fire Police. And just in case the weather doesn’t cooperate that day, there’s a rain date of October 20th.

The car show will take place on the Fire Department grounds (corner of River and Battin Roads) from 9:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m. This fun, annual event features DJ entertainment throughout the day, door prizes, 50/50 drawings, and more than 50 trophies that will be awarded by judges. Many beautiful vintage cars of all ages and types will be showcased. Delicious breakfast options and tasty fair-type lunch selections will be available for purchase at the Fair Haven Fire Company’s Outback building. Registration fees are $10 per car in advance and $15 on the day of the show. All car show registrants will receive a beautiful commemorative dash plaque. In addition, businesses and individuals may sponsor a trophy for $30 and select their own winner.

Admission to the car show is free to the general public.

For further information, to pre-register your car for the show, or sponsor a trophy, contact Lew or Donna at 732.741.1662 or visit fhfd.org.

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The Boondocks Fishery Presents Strut Your Mutt On September 16th, The Boondocks Fishery hosted Strut Your Mutt benefitting The Brodie Fund in Red Bank. This event was attended by dogs/dog owners and animal lovers alike all to help raise money and awareness for pets fighting cancer.

Guest Judges Bryan Reisberg, (Instagram star Maxine The Fluffy Corgi’s dad); Dr. Scott Kilcullen, co-owner Little Silver Animal Hospital; and Chris Covert, comedian and host of The Men Zone had the difficult job of picking the winners!

The dogs were judged in fun categories such as Best Tail Wag, Goofiest Personality and Least Obedient. All of the dogs were awarded ribbons as they are all winners.

Grand Prize winner, and returning contestant, Sheldon Cooperdoodle was a crowd favorite with his big smile and big personality to match. Emcee Matty Giuliano kept the crowd entertained while the dogs strutted their stuff on stage.

A very special thanks to the The Boondocks Fishery owner Kelly Ryan for hosting the day and supporting The Brodie Fund. The Brodie Fund is currently offering grants in New Jersey, New York and Connecticut but has plans to expand throughout the United States. For more information about The Brodie Fund and how you can help, visit thebrodiefund.org.

Left to right: Sally Williams of The Brodie Fund with Sheldon Cooperdoodle and owner, Kerry Bollenbach Photo credit: Heather Wallace.

Hundreds of Walkers Remember Loved Ones at Inaugural “Mourning Walk”

Stephy’s Place, a support center for grief and loss recently hosted its inaugural “Mourning Walk - A Journey In the Light.”

The event began at Seven Presidents Oceanfront Park in Long Branch, following a short meditation and butterfly release.

Nearly 300 participants walked to Pier Village and back, while remembering their deceased loved ones. The event signified the walkers’ intentions to move forward although grieving, and to continue their life’s journey of living with loss.

All funds raised at the Mourning Walk will be used to grow and maintain the grief support services that Stephy’s Place provides to hundreds of people. For three years Stephy’s Place, lo-

cated at 210 West Front Street in Red Bank, has provided (at no charge) support services to anyone enduring grief and loss. All the providers affiliated with Stephy’s Place have experienced significant personal losses. This qualification, and their belief that community supports healing, embodies them with a compassionate desire to help others journey through grief and mourning. Stephy’s Place is a non-profit 501(C)3 charitable organization that relies on the generosity of others to provide 28 free support groups that are all loss-specific: spouse, child, parent, sibling, addiction, suicide and divorce. For more information about Stephy’s Place, or to make a tax-deductible donation, visit stephysplace.org or call 732.614.1142.

Little Silver Garden Club Begins Fall Activities The Little Silver Garden Club kicked off its new year with the President’s Tea on September 13th. The Tea was held at member Cathy Goldberg’s home and members and guests heard about exciting plans and upcoming events for the coming year.

In addition to its monthly meetings involving guest speakers and hands-on projects, the Club is involved in several community activities. Evergreens is its youth club, open to 2nd graders in the Little Silver Schools, and each month the students learn about a variety of nature and environmental topics, including bees, butterflies, hummingbirds, recycling, flower design, and more. Club members also serve the older members of the local population by participating in garden therapy at the Meridi-

an Nursing and Rehabilitation facility in Shrewsbury. Garden Club members assist residents in creating a simple design using fresh flowers which then brightens the residents’ rooms.

Club members continue to weed and water the plantings at the Little Silver Library and at the train station throughout the fall season.

The next regular meeting will be held on October 11th at 9:30 a.m. at the Women’s Club on Church Street in Little Silver.

Master Gardener Bernard Dickman will present a program explaining some lesser-known trees and shrubs that can be incorporated into our gardens. Guests are welcome to attend!

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“Dance for Kindness” on the Streets of Red Bank dance is a part of the global celebrations that inspires, empowers and educates people of all backgrounds to lead a life of kindness, showing that regardless of the differences in race, religion, ethnicity culture and background - the common thread that unites us all is kindness!

Life Vest Inside, a non-profit organization on a mission to empower and unite the world with kindness, is organizing its 7th Annual World Wide “Dance for Kindness” event to take place on November 11th in Red Bank. This flash mob

On November 11th, more than 300 local participants will unite with over 20,000 worldwide participants from 120 cities and 50 countries, to dance under the banner of kindness!

Life Vest Inside’s viral Kindness Boomerang video – “One Day,” originated

on Broad Street in Red Bank eight years ago. Reminding us of how a simple act of kindness can change the life of another, this YouTube Video has over 29 million views today.

The Dance for Kindness flash mob will take place at Broad Street and White Street at 2:00 p.m. in Red Bank. The event will open at 1:00 p.m. with kindness chalk drawings and messages written in the streets by participants, along with a drum circle followed by a dance party! Join in and celebrate kindness! For more information, visit LifeVestInside.com/ DFK.

Red Bank Regional Receives a Rating of “A” from Niche Red Bank Regional (RBR) once again received a high rating of “A” from the Niche, as one of the best high schools in the state.

Additionally, Niche ranked RBR as 59 out of 404 for Best Public High School Teachers in New Jersey; 66 out of 411 for Best Public High School in New Jersey. See all the stats at niche.com/k12/red-bank-regional-high-school-little-silver-nj/.

According to the Niche website, “The Niche 2019 K-12 rankings are based on rigorous analysis of academic and student life data from the U.S. Department of Education along with test scores, college data, and ratings (surveys) collected from millions of Niche users. Over 100,000 school districts received a ranking for 2019.”

The Niche website is used as a research tool for parents locating schools all over the country. Visit the website at niche. com for more information.

Holy Cross School Scores Grant from United States Tennis Association Holy Cross School’s After School Tennis Program recently scored a big win.

Net Generation, the official youth tennis division of the United States Tennis Association (USTA), awarded the school $5,000 to further its program.

Mrs. Nory Martinez, Director of the After School Care Program, has an extensive background in tennis and brought her knowledge and talent to her students in After Care. Initially, it was just another activity for kids to enjoy after finishing their homework. But soon, she began seeing real talent and love for the game developing in her students. To foster this enthusiasm, she acquired her first grant from USTA in 2016, which provided Holy Cross School with portable nets and better rackets and balls for use in the school gym. More recently, Martinez became a Ten and Under-certified and Net Generation- approved instructor. This

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propelled her to acquire a new grant from Net Generation for $5000, which will provide Holy Cross students access to year-round indoor court time at Little Silver Tennis Club.

Mrs. Martinez explains her tireless energy for this project. “Choosing a life sport for their children is the best way to promote the love of the game at an early age; to foster discipline, creativity, focus, concentration and not to mention the etiquette of the sport.

Fortunately for me, working with this wonderful group of parents is a dream come true - a winning match!”

In spring of 2018, Mrs. Martinez stepped up to coach the Holy Cross Tennis team as well. Now there is continuity of coaching from the youngest learners to the experienced athletes.

Holy Cross is eager to gain a bigger and more successful tennis team each school year.

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Members of the Holy Cross After School Tennis Program thank the USTA for their generous grant.

Standing, left to right, Patrick Bindler, Alexandra Bosi, Ella Kelly, Colin Bindler, Margot Morris, John Morris, Peter Calistri, Alexander Bindler, Samuel Mago, Luca Guarna. Seated, left to right, Clarissa McGuinness, Ava Rosario, Vance Howard, Paul Rosario, Thomas Walsh, Reese Bosi, and Devin Howard.

A Magical Evening of Entertainment with JOE PISCOPO & FRIENDS

On September 22nd, it was Lights! Camera! Action! as more than 300 attendees arrived at the magnificent Colts Neck estate - Abbey Farm, for an exquisitely entertaining, elaborate and very unique ‘dress your best’ event. As guests stepped onto the red carpet, they walked right into a movie as part of the launch of a motion picture titled ‘Joey Benefit’ starring ‘Joe Piscopo and Friends.’

Photo Credits: Tom Zapcic Photography

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Our Love/Hate Relationship with All-Things Alcohol

By Diana Pittet

AS THE CREATOR OF A GRADUATE SEMINAR AT NEW YORK UNIVERSITY ON THE “HISTORY, CULTURE, AND POLITICS OF DRINKING,” I LOVE THAT THIS ISSUE OF CM IS DEVOTED TO OKTOBERFEST AND OTHER LIBATIONS. This annual, beer-centric celebration in Munich has become a global phenomenon outside of Germany. Note that Wiesn, as it’s often called in Germany, is chiefly limited to its city of origin and mainly happens in September, not October. But Oktoberfest is a fun, engaging way to give craft, European-style beers their due here in New Jersey and to acknowledge Germany’s enduring legacy in shaping the way we consume beer in the U.S., transforming our nation back in the mid-19th century into a country of lager drinkers. Until then, whiskey, cider, and ale were the ways that we whetted our whistle.

What other annual festivity has the power to place something alcoholic front and center? Maybe New Year’s Eve for sparkling wines and seasonal tipples.

Otherwise, for most of the year, booze takes a back seat in print media. And then there’s the sticky issue that alcohol is a sticky issue. I understand why. Whereas most foods can be consumed by most people, alcohol is restricted to those over 21 years old in the U.S. Everyone must eat, no one needs to drink anything but water, and thus many choose to abstain from alcohol or be moderate in their consumption. Let’s not blame the Puritans for our complicated feelings about alcohol.

For them, beer and wine were a necessity, for nutrition, hydration, and good cheer. Instead, let’s acknowledge that alcohol has been a loaded issue throughout the world despite the fact that we humans have been intentionally drinking alcohol for at least 9,000 years.

For the most part, we’ve enjoyed a long love affair with fermented and distilled beverages. What’s not to love?

Alcohol has been there for us, as it was for the Puritans, for nutrition and hydration, as well as for medicine, celebration, solace, rituals, social gatherings, and income.

In short, it’s been a dutiful partner.

In truth, however, it’s been a rocky love affair. Our coun-

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try even tried to call it quits for good on the relationship by passing the 18th Amendment in 1919 which prohibited the production, transport, and sale--but not consumption--of alcohol. We weren’t the only ones. Around the same time, Russia instituted a prohibition that lasted from the last czar of the Russian Empire in 1914 to the despotic rule of Stalin in 1925, a period of 12 years.

A full-time resident of Asbury Park, Diana Pittet is an adjunct professor at NYU, where she teaches a graduate seminar on the History, Culture, and Politics of Drinking, from the neolithic period to the present day. Outside the classroom, she owns Night Owl Hospitality, a cocktail catering company in Asbury Park, and leads cocktail and prohibition tours in New York City.

Ever since we humans transitioned from hunter gatherers to agriculturalists and figured out a way to grow crops, grains and grapes, that can be fermented into an intoxicating beverage, some sort of institution, either religious, cultural, or political, regulated who gets to drink what, where, and when. Never has there been a society with completely free license to produce and consume alcohol.

That control is an effort, often executed in vain, to mitigate alcohol’s duality. Since alcohol can be both salubrious and deleterious, depending on whether it’s drunk moderately or is abused through overconsumption, balance is enforced through an institutional power. As Rod Phillips writes in his engaging, comprehensive book, Alcohol: A History, “Alcohol has been ascribed complicated, often contradictory, set of values that have varied over time and place, and that are interwoven with the complexities of power, gender, class, ethnicity, and age in the societies in which it is consumed…. Most authorities have historically tried to mitigate the worst effects of alcohol by surrounding its production, distribution, and consumption by regulations.”

It is this intersection of alcohol and power that lies at the center of my course at NYU. It is here where one can analyze how intoxicants have shaped human history and expressed cultural values. Taking an interdisciplinary approach that incorporates a variety of academic disciplines, including sociology, anthropology, economics, ecology, history, and politics, this full-credit, semester-long seminar explores such topics as religion and alcohol; alcohol’s role in the spread of civilization; coffee, tea, and colonialism; the link between taxation and alcohol; slavery and rum; and, of course, prohibition.

So what’s the problem with alcohol?

I don’t need to tell you. We all know, some of us too well, the painfully negative side of alcohol. It can ruin lives, relationships, productivity, and communities. And yet we, as a global society, can’t quit it. Yet, we nevertheless always try to control it.

As you raise a pint of New Jersey-brewed beer, or a glass of fine wine, or choose not to, during Oktoberfest, consider all that’s represented in your glass or the person’s next to you: the cultural, historical, and political forces that created that fermented beverage and encouraged you to drink it...or not.

- Cheers!

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