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The Brutal Truth In our relationships - marriage, work, children - we always say we want openness, honesty and truth. What is it about truth though, that often as soon as we hear it we get offended? Many times we'll "excuse the truth" by saying it was said because of a bias, hatred or jealousy.
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Husband’s Illuminations Sometimes, a person thinks that he's already properly made teshuva. If his wife is upset with him, then he's far from teshuva. If he becomes upset with her, he only shows that he is still full of arrogance and anger and lacks emuna.
Rabbi Shea Hecht
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Leaving Home - For Good! Today, we see this phenomenon playing out on a lesser scale when families emigrate or move from city to city. Displaced from their spiritual support systems, they flounder. The bulk of their efforts are directed at just resettling and reorganizing their lives. Putting religious infrastructures in place often comes last -- at great cost in the long run.
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the honesty in it and other women looking for nannies saw the obvious too.
e all put great value on the truth and demand honesty from others. Many times our biggest criticism to others - especially people in the political arena - is that people are not being honest. In our relationships - marriage, work, children - we always say we want openness, honesty and truth. What is it about truth though, that often as soon as we hear it we get offended? Many times we'll "excuse the truth" by saying it was said because of a bias, hatred or jealousy. The Talmud tells us that one of the pillars that the world exists on is truth - yet we so often fight it. The other day I came across a fascinating ad that was a parody of our dishonest quest for honesty. The Craig's List nanny ad was called brutally honest or unusually honest by many. My kids are a pain... Just in the past hour, I have had to tell each one to do something more than once. oldest: can I have soda? it's just a sprite? please? can I? no, no and no. the next one...don't even get me started. seriously. The ad describes everything the mother expected from a nanny - in completely honest terms - everything the woman feels she can give to a nanny and everything in between. the twin six year olds: one wanted dessert before her dinner was over, one kept wanting to know why I wouldn't let nine year olds swing her around by her limbs. (the fear of a dislocated shoulder did nothing.) Please help me. The "brutally honest" ad got lots of attention because of one tiny little fact - it was honest. I can be a tad difficult to work for. I'm loud, pushy and while I used to think we paid well, I am no longer sure. I work from home, so you get the pleasure of being hounded by me all day long. and, you get to pretend to like me, because I am deeply sensative. (but well dressed and a know it all, a winning combination I assure you.)
If you cannot multi task, or communicate without being passive aggressive, don't even bother replying. If you are the type who doesn't notice crumbs on the table, skip to the next post, because crumbs are a deal breaker. they put me over the edge. What's most amazing about the honesty of this 1,000 word ad is that people were amazed by the honesty! They were refreshed by the truthfulness of ad. I am not looking for Super nanny, or anyone who wants this job because they will love my kids as if they are their own. you won't. really. they are infinitely lovable, but trust me, they're mine and you will move on when your journey with us is over, and save for some funny stories and a delightful email every now and again, you won't grieve. Nor will we. (okay, we did all grieve a few of our past sitters, oddly they were all named Sarah or Kate, or Nikki. And Leah. Leah was delightful, even if she did drop my twin babies off our couch during a family gathering. Good times. Have we become a nation of liars? Are we so jaded by the lies that people tell and write that honesty has become brutal? Unusual? Refreshing? I need a team player. I need someone to back me up when it comes to remembering when the library books are due, and whether I have rsvped to that birthday party yet. Rebecca Soodak, the 40-year-old mother whose husband owns a wine store, eventually hired a 25-year-old University of Virginia graduate, to take care of her children. I guess the honesty drew her to the job. Help me dear G-d keep track of our skim milk supply and also, also, also, what should I make for dinner tomorrow night? In the end, Soodak's honesty was almost a joke - on her! As Soodak told the Times: "I hope she likes it here. I sent the ad to one of my old sitters and she said she felt it was pretty accurate, which sort of stung a little bit."
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Reflections on the Holiday Experiences:
How My Life Was Saved By a Sukkah This article is dedicated to the memory of Irving Wilshinsky, noted philanthropist and a great man, who left this world in the days before Yom Kippur. Irving helped bring about a course of history which greatly impacted the Rome family. With his passing, it is important to share the story of how Irv helped to save my life and the lives of my wife and daughters. We could have no better intercessor in Heaven on our behalf! May he rest in peace. Our Rabbi, Rabbi Mordy Einbinder, shares a story about a follower of an earlier Chabad Rebbe in the days in Russia just after the Russian Revolution. In those times, open celebration of the Jewish holidays was prohibited by the government. Officers of the agency which preceded the KGB went through the Jewish communities and arrested those who defied the government orders. This follower of the Rebbe had his life saved by a Sukkah. This is how it happened: This saintly man followed the Chabad custom of not
even drinking water outside of the Sukkah during the holiday. Late one evening, he woke up and found himself thirsty. He told his wife that he was going to go outside in the cold wintry air to have a drink of water. His wife reminded him that Jewish law does not require drinking water in the Sukkah. But the saintly man stated that he would keep the custom and go out to the Sukkah. His Sukkah was hidden in the woods behind his house. From a distance, this small, cramped Sukkah could not be seen. The man went through the branches and entered the Sukkah for his water. While he drank the water in the Sukkah, Soviet agents came to the door of his house to arrest him. His wife reported to the agents that the man had left home. The disbelieving agents searched the house and could not find him. As the man left his Sukkah, he observed the agents leaving his house. Saved by being in his Sukkah, the man realized that he had to flee the Soviet Union. He traveled to America where his wife and family were soon able to join him. A Sukkah saved this man’s life. I identify with this story because a Sukkah saved my life as well. When we first became part of the Chabad of Tarzana community 22 years ago, we lived in a condo where the only patio had an overhang which did not permit the building of a Sukkah. The following year, we bought a home closer to the Shul. In our first year in the Shul, while still in the condo, I remembered eating one evening in a lovely wood-paneled Sukkah at the home of Steve and Nancy Wilshinsky. When it came time to build our own Sukkah the following year, I asked Steve how he had built his Sukkah. He shared with me that it was his father, Irv, that had constructed the Sukkah. Steve encouraged me to call Irv. I did. Irv not only said he would help me, but he asked when I wanted him to come over to build the Sukkah. Irv gave me a list of items to buy, including 4 X 8 panels of my choice, nuts and bolts, and 2 X 4 beams. I purchased all that was necessary and looked forward to the Sukkah building. Irv came over with so many power instruments. I had never seen a Jewish man with so many tools!
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Systematically, he built, as I watched, the most beautiful 8’ by 12’ wooden Sukkah I had ever seen. Trained as an engineer, Irv’s Sukkah was strong and sturdy. Used the first time for Sukkot in 1987, the Sukkah would be rebuilt each year thereafter. After the Chag, we would store the Sukkah panels on a shelf just inside our door from the house to the garage. We stacked the four by eight sections from the shelf deck to the ceiling of the garage. Then, at 4:31 a.m. on January 17, 1994, the Northridge earthquake shook our house. There was broken glass everywhere. With cracks in the walls and in the ceiling supports, we slept the first night after the earthquake in a tent in front of our home. The next morning, an inspector from the city’s Department of Building and Safety came to inspect our home. He entered the garage and showed shock on his face. He asked, pointing to the Sukkah, “What is this?” I told him about the Sukkah and the Feast of Booths. Then he asked, “But what is it doing here?” I explained that this was the only available shelf for storing it. He then asked me to step forward as he showed me that our water heater which had been secured to the wall had broken free. The water heater gas tubing stretched as far as it could, to the point of breaking when the water heater hit the stored shelves of the Sukkah. The inspector said, “I have inspected already thousands of homes. The only other home where the water heater had broken away in this manner was a home in Granada Hills on Balboa Boulevard where when the gas pipe broke away and the leaking gas hit the pilot light of the water heater, the entire house blew up. Your house would have surely blown up had it not been for this Sukkah.” The Sukkah saved our lives. It was Irv’s engineering and expertise that had created this strong Sukkah. Irv, we will be forever grateful. This was a man of such tremendous talents. We will miss you, Irv. May his soul be bound up in the bond of life. Amen. Robert J. Rome, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in clinical practice in Encino, California. He can be reached at RJRome@aol.com.
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The Chofetz Chaim once taught,
"Success with children is 100% based on Divine help. All the efforts we expend are only so that when we come before the Heavenly tribunal we can claim that we tried. But ultimate success is in G-d's hands. Therefore, my friend, remember - one must really pray for his children." The Steipler Gaon noted, "There are two ingredients to raise wonderful children: fifty percent tefillah and fifty percent shalom bayis." What is your initial reaction when reading each of these quotes? Have you developed a "recipe" of your own for success in raising your children?
“Every parent in this room is a juggler,” Rebbetzin Rivka Marga Gestetner told a gathering of neighborhood parents a few months ago. “The mistake we all make is that we tend to think we are juggling a few balls: career, marriage, children, and home, let’s say. But, the reality is that every parent in this room is juggling thousands of balls. Raising children, for example, on its own is thousands of balls: keeping track of the dentist appointments, who prefers which sandwich in his or her lunch bag, helping your daughter with her math homework and your son with his reading. “It can be overwhelming because it IS overwhelming. The reality is that some of these thousands of balls are going to crash to the ground. Your main job as a parent is to make sure that none of the important balls in your life hit the ground.” When we choose which balls must never ever fall on the ground, among them must be Shalom Bayis, in accordance with the sage advice of the Steipler Gaon. I recommend that every married couple set aside time for a weekly date, for example, to laugh and communicate
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with their spouses without the distractions of children and ringing phones and urgent emails. Another ball that we must never ever drop, in accordance with the wise teachings of the Chofetz Chaim, is our connection with Hashem. We should make Hashem our partner in our lives, talking with Him and requesting His guidance and assistance as we drive our children to nursery school and sit down at our desk in the office and sit down with our family for dinner. In other words- at all times. Another ball that I believe should absolutely never ever fall to the ground is our own happiness. I believe that after Shalom Bayis and Prayer, there is no other single factor that has a greater impact on our children. When parents are happy, the home can be a happy one. When parents are happy, the children can be happy. When parents are happy, that creates the vessel for Shalom Bayis and Divine assistance. The first step towards becoming a happier person and parent is self awareness. Once every year or so, I find myself slipping. The morning rush suddenly seems so stressful that the thought of the thousands and thousands of morning rushes ahead of me feels like an impending landslide. The afternoon with the children is colored in gray and stretches on into eternity. By the time the children are in bed, the mess and clutter that await me make me start dreaming about a trip on my own to Bali for the next…well, decade. When this happens, I know that I have been juggling too many balls. I know I’m going to have to let some balls crash, so that I don’t. That is when I sit down and write up a “10 Things I Need to be a Happy Mother” list. Over the years, these lists have changed, because I have changed, and the needs of my family have changed as well. My most recent list included: -2 more hours of cleaning help a week. -Babysitting help in the mornings for my 9-month-old so I can work. -Going on a walk by myself every Monday evening -A visit every Rosh Chodesh to the Kotel. -Bedtime at 10:45 every night This list involves handing a cleaning lady one housework ball. It means passing a babysitter a babycare ball. It means handing my husband the Monday bedtime ball. It means dropping the last minute emails that usually get sent off between 10:45 and midnight ball. After I made up my last list of 10 happiness requirements, and made the arrangements to put them into action, the impact on my attitude and my home and my children was revolutionary. The morning rush suddenly seemed not so rushed. The gray afternoons transformed into technicolor. The clutter all of a sudden seemed not so awful. Who cares so much about a little mess, anyway? We are raising a growing Jewish family here! As devoted parents who want to do the best for our children, we tend to think that by taking time out to take care of ourselves and our needs, we are neglecting our children. But the opposite is true. When we neglect ourselves, our children suffer. When mom and dad are happy, everybody can be happy. When we are thriving, we enable our precious children to thrive as well. Chana Jenny Weisberg is the author of the book One Baby Step at a Time: 7 Secrets of Jewish Motherhood and the creator of the popular website http://www.jewishmom.com/
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n this week's portion, Hashem challenges his loyal follower Avram to a most difficult task.
"He took him outside and said, 'Gaze up at the heavens and count the stars if you able to.' Then G-d said, 'thus shall be your children'" (Genesis 15:5). Hashem says count the stars if you can, and then concludes that thus shall be your children. What is this referring to? If it is a reference to the amount of stars, then why did Hashem tell Avram to attempt to count them? Surely they both knew it was an impossible task for a mortal being. In addition, from the sentence structure it would appear that the word thus may actually refer to the impossible attempt to count the stars? Many people assume that Hashem assured Avram that his children will be as numerous as the stars, but those words were never spoken. After all, there may be more stars in heaven than people on earth! Perhaps then, it is not the actual number of stars that personify the Jews but the attempt to count and understand them. The constant curiosity and mystery that surround the galaxies are the metaphor for the Chosen People. Rabbi Yosef Weiss, in his recently published work Visions of Greatness, tells the story of one Sam Goldish, an observant Jew who lives in Tulsa, Oklahoma and works for the United States Department of Defense. Working on a major government contract, Sam was involved in a major project that needed constant defense department scrutiny. Huddled with a dozen co-workers examining structural modifications for a tank, one worker mentioned that there was a string hanging from Sam's pants. He offered to remove it, and Sam, eyes fixed on the schematics, nodded his approval. What happened next was more significant. The co-worker tugged innocently at the string and it did not yield. In fact, seven other strings followed. Sam's tzizit were revealed. The startled workers gasped. They had never seen that sort of sartorial ornament. For the next hour, a debate among a dozen gentile workers ensued - in the heart of the Christian Bible belt - all about whether or not Jews must wear fringes. Each worker claimed to be an authority on Jews, each said they knew the religion and were well versed in its customs -- yet no one had heard of tzizit! They refused to return to the meeting until Sam showed them, in a King James edition of the Bible, that one of the workers had on hand, exactly where in the Bible it stated that Jews are to wear fringes on the corners of their garments.
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The fascination with the little strings far surpassed their interest in the army's latest tanks. Perhaps Mark Twain asked it best: "If the statistics are right, the Jews constitute but one percent of the human race. It suggests a nebulous dim puff of stardust lost in the blaze of the Milky Way. Properly the Jew ought hardly to be heard of; but he is heard of, has always been heard of. He is as prominent on the planet as any other people, and his commercial importance is extravagantly out of proportion to the smallness of his bulk. His contributions to the world's list of great names in literature, science, art, music, finance, medicine, and abstruse learning are also away out of proportion to the weakness of his numbers. He has made a marvelous fight in this world, in all the ages; and has done it with his hands tied behind him. He could be vain of himself, and be excused for it. The Egyptian, the Babylonian, and the Persian rose, filled the planet with sound and splendor, then faded to dream-stuff and passed away; the Greek and the Roman followed, and made a vast noise, and they are gone; other peoples have sprung up and held their torch high for a time, but it burned out, and they sit in twilight now, or have vanished. The Jew saw them all, beat them all, and is now what he always was, exhibiting no decadence, no infirmities of age, no weakening of his parts, no slowing of his energies, no dulling of his alert and aggressive mind. All things are mortal but the Jew; all other forces pass, but he remains. What is the secret of his immortality?" G-d assures Avram that the interest in his kin will rival man's fixation with the starry worlds that he will never reach. The intrigue that surrounds the Jew is inversely proportional to the space he fills in the universe. No matter how tiny the glow of Judaism may seem, civilizations study it, societies try to imitate it, and mystified as they are, some nations try to destroy it. The proverbial Hubble telescopes of the gentile world will be just as fascinated, fixated, and constantly occupied in utter mystery of the immortal and indestructible lights that twinkle past the dark clouds of civilization - the Jew. And though those gentile observers may never discover the answer to our immortality, nor understand the reason of or resilience, one thing they will surely understand - we shine. • by Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky
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A Husband's Illuminations
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Translated and adapted by Rabbi Lazer Brody
Respecting Your Wife
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Jewish husband must act like Hashem he must show his wife patience, compassion, and understanding.
Once a husband internalizes the fact that his wife is his own mirror, he saves himself a lot of grief. When a person without marital peace goes around blaming his wife, or the matchmaker, or his in-laws for his problems, not only is he constantly angry and without inner peace, his entire life is purgatory. What's worse, as long as he lacks emuna and tries to blame his problems on others, he'll never succeed in correcting himself. Not only is a wife a mirror, she's a magnifying glass. She exposes the problems in our character and behavior that need to be improved. In that manner, an angry wife is essentially a message from Hashem that the husband hasn't overcome and uprooted anger from his life. With emuna, the husband utilizes the wife's negative stimuli to ask himself, "What does Hashem want from me?" In that way, a wife facilitates her husband's relationship with Hashem, for in order to keep peace in the home, a husband must always look for Hashem within his wife's negative reactions. That way, the husband avoids the pitfalls of anger and negative reactions which only destroy his home. With emuna, he is free to love, respect, and cherish his wife no matter how she acts. Once he does so, he triggers a powerful upward spiral of love and peace in the home. The Zohar teaches us that on a spiritual level, the husband resembles the sun while the wife resembles the moon. She has no light of her own, only the light that he shines on her. Positive emotions - happiness, respect, patience - all come from light, or spiritual illumination. Negative emotions - anger, disrespect, tension - all come from darkness, or lack of spiritual illumination. Therefore, what a husband gives is what a husband gets. The wife is his true mirror. Rav Lazer Berland once said that the minute he learned
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from Rebbe Levi Yitzchak Binder that a wife is the mirror of a husband, he entirely changed his life. Rather than trying to educate her, correct her, or criticize her, he put all his efforts into educating, correcting, and criticizing himself. Right before I got married, Rav Lazer Berland grabbed me by the lapels and said, "Don't ever criticize or make make a negative remark about anything your wife does. Rather than criticizing her, go make teshuva!" Those words were probably the most important words I ever heard in my life. Sometimes, a person thinks that he's already properly made teshuva. If his wife is upset with him, then he's far from teshuva. If he becomes upset with her, he only shows that he is still full of arrogance and anger and lacks emuna. A real "Ben-Torah", a Torah-observant Jew, respects and cherishes his wife. He no sooner criticizes his wife that he would criticize Hashem. Our sages teach that when a person is truly humble and sincere in the service of Hashem, his wife is automatically enamored with him. Eliahu HaNavi (Elijah the Prophet) teaches in "Tana DeBai Eliahu" that a person should be humble, and especially humble at home. Why does Eliahu HaNavi put so much emphasis on humility? Humility is a true sign of tikkun haBrit - proper kedusha and personal holiness, the opposite of licentiousness. Arrogance and tikkun haBrit don't go together. The logical outcome is that a wife will react favorably to a husband that is bound in holiness, for true holiness and true humility go together. Many unaware husbands try and throw the ball of responsibility to their wife's side of the court. They say, first let her respect me, and then I'll respect her. We've already shown why that's a misguided attitude in our example of the sun and the moon. But even more so, a wife's respect of a husband is an outcome of his behavior; a husband's respect of a wife is an absolute halachic obligation that's written specifically in the Ketuba, the Jewish marriage contract. For those who've never read their ketuba, it would be a good idea to do so. Eflach, okir, afarness - the husband unilaterally commits to love, cherish, and work for his wife. The Gemara says, that if a husband so merits, he gets a helpful loving wife, but if he doesn't merit, she'll be an enemy.
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A certain patient was so weak that he could not utter a single syllable. Even his doctor feared the worst. He called the man’s anxious wife aside and said gently, “I’m afraid there is nothing more I can do for him.” It so happened that the Baal Shem Tov (founder of the Chassidic movement and a profound healer) was passing through the town at the time. He came to visit the ailing man. He sat quietly with the patient for a while, and then instructed the man’s wife to prepare some meat broth, which she did dutifully. As soon as the steaming broth was ready, she held it to her husband’s parched lips. Slowly, he took sip after careful sip, until at last the bowl was empty. A little color returned to the man’s cheeks, which only minutes earlier had been deathly pale. Then, to the amazement of the wife and doctor, the man opened his mouth and began to speak. The Baal Shem Tov continued attending to him until he was completely restored to health. Bewildered by the miraculous events he had witnessed, the doctor asked the Baal Shem Tov what he had done. “There is no logical explanation for my patient’s recovery,” he claimed. “I know that the poor man’s blood vessels were diseased beyond cure.” The Baal Shem Tov replied, “You comprehended the patient physically, whereas I comprehended him spiritu-
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ally. Our bodies contain both organs and blood vessels. We have 248 organs, which correspond to the 248 positive precepts of the Torah. We also have 365 blood vessels, and these correspond to the 365 negative precepts. When a person disobeys one of these precepts, the organ or blood vessel corresponding to that mitzvah is affected. If he transgresses many negative precepts, a large number of vessels are impaired. This has a detrimental effect on his blood circulation, putting the man’s life is in danger. This is why I spoke to the soul of the patient. I appealed to it to do teshuvah, and it agreed to do so. As a result, all the man’s organs and vessels began to function efficiently once more. In this way, I was able to heal him.” There are three aspects to the Baal Shem Tov's healing: • comprehending the spiritual source of the patient's illness • changing the patient's behavior • attending to the patient's physical wellbeing Torahpractic healing always focuses on three aspects of the individual: • Spiritual • Behavioral • Physical
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he story is told of an encounter between two famous rabbis of yesteryear -- Rabbi Elijah, the famed "Gaon" (prodigious scholar) of Vilna, and Rabbi Yaakov Krantz, known as the "Maggid" (preacher) of Dubne. Apparently the Maggid of Dubne once visited Vilna and went to pay a courtesy call on the great Gaon. The Gaon asked the Maggid to preach to him, as was his specialty. "Give me mussar (words of rebuke). Chastise me," said the Gaon. "G-d forbid that I should have the chutzpah to chastise the great Gaon of Vilna," replied the Magid, quite horrified at the suggestion. "No matter, that is your forte and I want to hear mussar from you," insisted the Gaon. So the Dubner Maggid thought a while and then most reluctantly acceded to the wishes of his illustrious host. Said the Maggid, "Is it a great achievement to be a Gaon sitting in Vilna in your little secluded kloiz (small study hall)? Go out into the world, mix with the people, and then let us see what kind of Gaon you will be." Indeed, it is much easier to be scholarly and pious in a sequestered ghetto than it is outside in a world that is often oblivious, or even hostile, to Torah and its values. This, in fact, was more or less the test of Abraham in this week's Parshah. "Go from your land, from your birthplace, from your father's house, to the land I will show you." And it was there -- far from his natural environment and comfort zones -- that Abraham accomplished his divine mission. He spread the truth of the One G-d to a pagan world and, in the process, his own name and reputation was established for eternity. It was only after leaving home that Abraham became the founding father of the Jewish people. A hundred years ago, an entire generation of Yiddish-speaking, Torah-observant Jews migrated from Europe. They came to America, the golden land of opportunity, to escape pogroms and persecution. With blood, sweat and tears they raised themselves from rags to riches and soon came to personify the American dream -- an amazing and inspiring success story. But the fact is that, for the most part, as their businesses succeeded their religious lives failed. Unquestionably, Judaism took a severe body blow. Most were unable to sustain their old world values in new world America. The transition from shtetl to suburbia proved too formidable and children and grandchildren grew up ignorant of and alienated from their own sacred traditions. Today, we see this phenomenon playing out on a lesser scale when families emigrate or move from city to city. Displaced from their spiritual support systems, they flounder. The bulk of their efforts are directed at just resettling and reorganizing their lives. Putting religious infrastructures in place often comes last -- at great cost in the long run. And on a more subtle level, a similar test of conscience faces us when we take our annual vacations. Away from home and our habitual norms of behavior, we are challenged to maintain the code of conduct we are committed to all year long. It's like the story of the shadchan (matchmaker) who suggested a young lady to a fellow and absolutely raved about her. After their first date, the fellow calls up the shadchan and gives him a piece of his mind. "How dare you introduce me to such a girl, didn't you know she limps!" Quite unflustered, the shadchan retorts, "But, what's the problem, it's only when she walks." It is when we walk away from our comfortable spiritual cocoons of home and community into the wider society that we may find ourselves limping somewhat, losing our Jewish equilibrium. It is then that our faith, our values, our morals and beliefs are truly challenged. May G-d help that the children of Abraham will emulate their forefather, who left his land and remained strong in faith, going on to achieve remarkable success, both spiritually and materially. By Yossy Goldman
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A person was looking to purchase a used car. He approached a friend of his who has a reputation to have expertise in cars to ask advice regarding one specific car. The friend inspected the exterior of the car visually, and advised the potential buyer to buy it. Based on this advice, the car was purchased. After driving the car for a few days, the buyer realized that there were severe problems with the engine of the car. Had there been a thorough evaluation of the car before purchase, these defects would have detected. He has tried to find the seller to demand a refund, but the seller is no where to be found.
Is the friend who advised the purchaser to acquire the car liable for the loss caused by his advice?
What is the Halacha?
Hilchos Choshen Mishpat LIABILITY FOR BAD ADVICE
a. If the friend received payment for his advice, he is obligated to pay for any direct loss that resulted from his advice. This is true even if the purchaser did not tell the adviser that he is going to buy the car based solely on his advice.
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b. If the adviser is not getting paid for his advice, we make the following distinction. If he really is an expert on cars but happened to make an unintentional mistake this once, he is not liable to pay for the loss. However, he must provide proof that he is an expert. However, if he is not an expert on this subject, and offered his advice anyway without telling the buyer that he has no expertise, or without telling him not to rely solely on his advice, if it was clear that the buyer was going to solely rely on his advice, the adviser must pay for the loss caused by his advice. This is because this case goes into the classification of Garmi (see below), in which a person is held liable for causing damage.
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• 2 CUPS PEELED AND DICED POTATOES
• 1 TO 2 TEASPOONS FRESHLY SQUEEZED LEMON JUICE
DIRECTIONS Heat the olive oil in large, heavy-bottomed stockpot over medium-low heat. Once hot, add the leeks, garlic, and a pinch of salt and cook until they begin to soften, approximately 7 to 8 minutes. Add the carrots, potatoes, and green beans and continue to cook for 4 to 5 more minutes, stirring occasionally. Add the stock, increase the heat to high, and bring to a simmer. Once simmering, add the tomatoes, corn kernels, and pepper. Reduce the heat to low, cover, and cook until the vegetables are fork tender, approximately 25 to 30 minutes. Remove from heat and add the parsley and lemon juice. Season, to taste, with kosher salt. Serve immediately.
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n what must be one of the greatest transitional scenes in the entire Biblical narrative, this week the Torah transposes us from the gracious home of Avraham in one scene and to the evil city of S'dom in the next. Avraham's home was one of kindness. It was a home where the master of the house would run to greet nomadic wanderers, and invite them into his abode only three days after a bris milah! It was a home in which Sora had opened a door in every direction, ensuring that there was an unrestricted invitation to any wayfarer, no matter which direction he or she came from. The scene switches to S'dom, a city in which kindness and charity were unheard of. A city in which a damsel who committed the terrible crime of feeding a pauper, was smeared with honey and set out for the bees. Sdom was a city where visitors who had the audacity to ask for overnight lodging were treated to a special type of hospitality. They were placed in beds, and then, if they were too short for the beds, their limbs were tortuously stretched to fit the bed; if they were larger than the beds their limbs were chopped off. How does the Torah make the transition from the world of kindness and charity to the world of evil? The Parsha tells us the story of three angels who visited Avraham. Each had a mission. Rashi tells us, "one to announce to Sarah the birth of a son, one to overthrow Sodom, and one to cure Abraham." You see, three were needed as one angel does not carry out two commissions. "Raphael," explains Rashi, "who healed Abraham went on to rescue Lot, as healing and saving may be one mission." And so the scene moves from Avraham in Eilonai Mamrei to Lot in S'dom, where the angels posing again as wayfarers were graciously invited. They saved the hospitable Lot and destroyed the rest of the city. I have a simple question. Why did the angel who was sent to destroy S'dom make a stop at Avraham's home? Two angels could have gone to Avraham's home, one to heal Avraham and the other to inform Sora of the good news. The third could have gone directly to S'dom and waited there for the others to catch up. Why make a detour to Avraham? Traditionally, young children who start learning Talmud, are introduced to Tractate Bava Metzia in general and the chapter Eilu M'tziyos in particular. The tractate deals with
property law and emphasizes respect for other people's possessions. Eilu M'tziyos stresses the laws of returning lost items and the responsibilities of a finder of those objects. Some wanted the boys to learn about the blessings, but Rav Moshe Feinstein insisted that the custom not be changed. He wanted to imbue the youngsters of the enormous responsibilities that they have to their fellow man. One cannot be a Jew only in shul where he can sway, pray, and recite blessings, but one must also be also be a Jew in the outside world, where the tests of honesty arise each day. I heard the story of one of those youngsters, who found his way off the beaten yeshiva path. His college-years search for spirituality found him studying with a yogi in Bombay, India who railed against Western comforts and derided the culture of materialism. He preached peace, love, and harmony while decrying selfishness and greed. The young man was enamored with his master's vociferous objections to Western society, until he was together with him on a Bombay street. A wallet lay on the ground. There was cash and credit cards sticking out from it. It was clearly owned by an American tourist. The Yogi picked it up and put it in his sarong. "But it may belong to someone," protested his young charge. "It is a gift from the gods," he answered, "heaven meant it for us . . . ." The young man's protests fell on deaf ears. At that moment, the words of his Rabbi back in fifth grade rang in his ears. "These are the items that must be announced for return; any item with an identifying sign . .." He was stirred by truth of his traditions, and the purity of his past. He left the Yogi and the wallet, and eventually returned to a Torah life. It is easy to rail against others. It is easy to talk about loose morals and unethical behavior. It's even easy to destroy Sdom. But Hashem did not let the angels do just that. He told them all to them first visit Avraham. He wanted them to see what kindness really means. See an old man run to greet total strangers. See a 90-year-old woman knead dough to bake you fresh bread. Meet the man who will plead for mercy on behalf of S'dom. And then, and only then can you mete the punishment that they truly deserve. Because without studying the good, we cannot understand the true flaws of the bad. Without watching Abraham commit true kindness, we should not watch the inhabitants of Sdom get their due. •
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BRAUM REAL ESTATE Residences for Lease 1121 S SWALL ST, 2 BED HOME + OFFICE, $2895 1104 S WETHERLY DR, GUEST HOUSE, $1095 1108 WETHERLY DR, 5 BED HUGE LUXURY HOME $4595
Daniel Braum / Braum Real Estate Phone: 818-205-9000 Cell: 310-925-9972 Fax: 818-205-9000 Newly remodeled room for rent in Pico/Robertson for a young, clean, independent orthodox woman. Private bathroom and entrance. Starting in September. Walking distance to shuls and restaurants. 310-204-6161 ••• Beautiful new one and two-bedroom apartments available in Pico-Robertson area for lease. Granite counter tops, dishwasher, stove, washer and dryer, microwave, private security system. For info. call Jacob Shadrooz (broker) 310-777-0436 •••
Small frum family has a furnished room with private bathroom & entrance in our spacious home in Pico/Robertson. We prefer a frum, young female student who is clean, neat and independent. Plentiful parking; close to bus, shops, shuls. $800 incl. utilities. For more info, please call Gila: (310) 204-6161 ••• Looking for a Nice Quiet Place to Live? Back house available, centrally located near Pico Blvd. Close proximity of all the Shuls, restaurants, transportation services and Freeway. If you are interested, Please Call Vicky at (310) 277-5167.
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Male Educational Aide/shadow/caregiver needed for male part time college student with physical and vision challenges. Assist with school work and basic needs at home including: feeding, mobility, transfers, exercises, and bathroom. Training provided, but experience helpful. Need to be patient, strong (some lifting is involved)and computer literate. Hours 8:30 a.m. to 5 p.m. (some flexibility may be possible). References required. Must be legally able to work in the U.S. Please call 818-424-4612 ASAP. ••• Yeshiva High School has positions available in English and Social Studies. Our secular program starts after 2:30 p.m., Monday through Thursday. We are looking for qualified & experienced teachers who may be working in the public sector and wish to add to their income with a
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