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FOUNDERS TIFFANY SAUNDERS AMANDA HENLEY SABRINA BROWN
PRESIDENT & EDITOR-IN-CHIEF TIFFANY SAUNDERS VICE PRESIDENT & EXECUTIVE OFFICER AMANDA HENLEY VICE PRESIDENT & EXECUTIVE OFFICER OF MARKETING & COMMUNITY OUTREACH SABRINA BROWN ____________________________ EDITORIAL EDITOR-IN-CHIEF TIFFANY SAUNDERS VICE PRESIDENT OF EXECUTIVE AFFAIRS - JARED HENLEY SENIOR PHOTO EDITOR - DYAN STOKES SENIOR WRITER - BELLA ALEXIS ENTERTAINMENT DIRECTOR - MARCUS BLACKSTON
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Photography - Fred Staten (@fredstatenstudio) Wardrobe Stylist - D. NiCole - Style by D. NiCole (@stylebydnicole) Hair - King Kenny K. (@kingkennyk) Makeup - Mz. Fancy Face (@mz_fancyface) Black Jumpsuit Style Me Now Tuxedo Blazer - Forever 21 www.forever21.com Rittany Anderson Lifetime TV’s “Bring It”
Shoes - Nine West $79 www.ninewest.com
“With this love
created a bond between Crystianna that NO ONE can break.
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Model - Denise Lubom @deniselubom88 Photographer - Dyan, Bella D. Photography
My eyes tell a story of struggle and pain. My struggles define my confidence...and my pain defines my strength. My story is mesmerizingly beautiful. Just look into my eyes and see! T. Saunders
Behind
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OH NO! AN ORGASMIC VIRGIN’S DILEMA
In Every Issue
11 CR Mail 12 From The Editor 48 Curvy Quiz: What Type of Lover Are You? 65 Percy’s Raw Talk 17 MUA of the Month BERTINA BAILEY 81 CR Transformation ANYCE BANKS 43 Sucessful Person SHARITA TUCKER 15 Contributors 7 Behind the Scenes - Cover Shoot 72 Curvy Bedroom Confessions
CR Beauty Revival
27 Bertina Bailey’s Top 5 Beauty Must Haves 39 Get Cover Rittany Anderson’s Hair
Fashion
54 Flats vs. Heels, A Plus Size Struggle 61 5 Days of @Mac_ionista
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“Mississippi Red”
Enough Said
Rittany Anderson Lifetime’s Hit TV Show “Bring It”
Features 23 Tameka Raymond - Style Theory Tour 37 Hairstylist of the Month King Kenny K. 55. The force behing Style by D. NiCole - D. NiCole
Relationships
Model - Sharita Tucker Photographer - Kisha Franklin Dress - Limitless Couture
63 Forgiveness - Bella Alexis 67 Condition of a Woman 73 Oh NO! An Orgasmic Virgin’s Dilema
Fitness
77 Healthy Eating Plate 83 Nutrition is Key
A Rebirth in the Making The cover story of Ramona Rizzo had me looking at her in a different light. She is an amazing woman. He strength and love for her family was inspirational! Tammy, FL
Curvaceously In Love The body issue is exactly what I needed! It encouraged me to feel good about my body. The women were beautiful and I am looking forward to many more issues! Penny, AL
We want to hear from you!!!!! Let us know how we are doing! A Child Support Letter
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From The Editor
It’s raining in our lives right now. Our bodies are being cleansed of the evilness and confusion that is residing within. I use to hate rain, but now I welcome it with open arms, because I know that my life is about to shift gears as soon as the skies clear up. In life, we create our own thunderstorms and then sit and complain about how wet and damp it is. What we fail to realize is that if we are patient and obedient, the less storms there will be. I challenge you this month to embrace the rain. Learn to appreciate your cleanse. Life is all about making choices. Some choices lead to bright sunny skies and others lead to thunderstorms and substantial down pours. The key thing is understanding why it’s raining and to learn not to repeat the offense so that next time, you will see sunny skies instead of the rain. Remember – April showers, bring May flowers. Whatever you are going through, let the rain come. For a flower never blossoms without its water.
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Today I broke free. I am no longer held captive behind bars. I love me! I love my stomach rolls, slightly imperfect eyebrows, swollen ankles and all! It is time to live life to the fullest. I’m not looking back.
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Model - Denise Lubom @deniselubom88 Photographer - Dyan, Bella D. Photography
CONTRIBUTORS
T. Saunders
Tiffany has a passion for writing and a vivid imagination. She is an upbeat female with a mission in life to be a motivator for the curvy community. Remember confidence begins within. Never rely on anyone to make you happy. Once you reach happiness, you can conquer the world. I am a walking testament to that! She can be reached at tsaunders@mycrmag.com and IG - @butteercupp and FB - Tiff Happy Tiff Saunders
Marta Kupisz.
My name is Marta Kupisz. I have studied at Medical University of Lodz. I have master degree in dietetics. Healthy eating is not only my profession but also a passion. I am the author of the blog Healthy plate by Lady Martusha.
Eric Ferguson
AKA JerzyKid was born and raised in Essex County NJ. As a 14 year US Army veteran and family man, he is dedicated to helping others accomplish their fitness goals. He is certified as a Fitness Nutrition Specialist and a Personal Trainer and is working on his Exercise Therapy certification. JerzyKid started bodie-by-e to invite everyone who is serious about accomplishing their fitness goals to and do so in a comfortable environment where help is readily available. Bodie-by-e is opening it’s first facility in Sicklervile,NJ in April. Online plans are available now. JerzyKid offers everything from meal plans to workout plans to kitchen dumps and will even take you shopping to show you how to shop for an healthier living. When you are serious about changing your life to accomplish your fitness goals come see JerziKid at the BBE training facility in NJ or contact him online at bodei-by-e.com. 15
Dyan
Dyan currently resides in Boise, Idaho with her husAmanda Henley Amanda has learned to embrace the pen and paper. band of 14 years and 3 beautiful daughters. She has dedicated her adult life to being a homemaker and As co-owner of CR Mag, she has been given the opportunity to engagge in many different avenues. raising her daughters. It wasn’t until a year ago she felt God calling her to branch out with her passion Her love for writing has begun and the sky is the limit. Look out for more writings and quizes from of making women feel beautiful and has developed a very successful cosmetics team, along with that her in the near future. she put her hobby of photography into her passion. She can be reached at amanda@mycrmag.com and Her heart was to show Plus size women just how incredibly beautiful and valued they are. She is eager FB - Amanda Henley to change the views and standards of how the world views beauty. Dyan is a strong believer in Jesus Christ and relies on his favor and blessings to guide her life. Her message in life is simple, “Just LOVE”
Bella Alexis
I’m a makeup artist & a writer with credits in psychology, theology, & good old fashioned common sense. Writing is my passion but self awareness is my lifestyle.
Another Statistic Writing about real life issues is what motivates Another Statistic. All writings are based off of her real life situations. She hopes that she connects with each of you. She can be reached at anotherstatistic@ mycrmag.com
Are you a writer and would like to contribute to CR Mag? Email your work to info@mycrmag.com
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MUA OF THE MONTH
How long have you been in the beauty business? What has been your biggest downfall and your most memorable moment? I’ve been doing makeup professionally since 2012. I wouldn’t necessarily call it a downfall, but I know for sure I could do a better job with marketing myself to the masses. I’m getting better at it. My most memorable moments are many. Every time I hand someone the mirror once I’m done, & their face lights up from their transformation makes what I do all too worthwhile. What makes a “Bertina Make-Up Creation” different from other MUAs? My brows are always flawless. I understand the frame that makes the face are the brows. I also understand each individual shape they should hold. I pride myself on my brow sculpting. Also, I consider myself the ‘Beauty Supply MUA’. My products are the top brands such as NYX, Ruby
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Kisses, L.A. Girl, ELF and Kiss cosmetics that come from beauty supply stores. My looks are flawless and holds up perfectly.
greens, yellows, turquoise, lavender, & white. I love a crop tops! I’ve nicked named myself the ‘Crop Top Queen’ because I have so many! Lol! But you can never go What are some common wrong pairing them with mistakes women make when high waisted skirts or pants. applying makeup? Flowing over sized tops with ash washed fitted jeans or Sometimes women can be leggings. Maxi dresses fitted disrespectful when it comes or flowing. I’ve found myself to highlighting & contouralso getting into bold prints ing. Your highlights should this season. Don’t forget to only be 1 shade lighter than style up with unusual, colorful your skin tone and contouraccessories. ing should be no more than 2 shades darker. I also see What is in store for Bertina some women contouring with Bailey? Is there any special blush. In my book, that’s a big projects or secret creations no-no. I also feel that women you have up your sleeve? should understand that they don’t always have to use every The sky is the limit for me. I color in the palette to achieve still model from time to time a flawless look. Sometimes while continuously working less is best. And at the end of actively as a MUA. I’m althe day, blend, blend, blend. ways seeking bigger ventures That’s pretty much the number & enjoy working with my 1 rule in makeup application. everyday clients as well as my industry clients. There’s no What Spring looks would stopping me and I plan to take you recommend for a plus Bella Sugar & Spice to the size diva? next level!
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As a woman who was able to break through adversities and fulfill your dreams, what was your hen we think about style, we think of biggest accomplishment throughout your confidence, our heart skips a beat and we get this sensation that we can conquer the fashion career? world! For Tameka Raymond, style is what she lives I had a lot of great moments! I was blessby. It is her outlet. But most of all, it is her niche. A ed to style a couple of big named muveteran in the competitive fashion world, her knowl- sical tours. I had the honor to work with wonderful, powerful women; edge and professionalism keeps her at the top of the fashion icon lists. Years of hard work have paid off, such as, Lauryn Hill and Patti LaBelle just to name a few. as she has worked with many big named celebrities During award ceremosuch as Jay-Z, Patti LaBelle, Toni Braxton and the nies, I had clients list goes on. Now she is excited to give all of her accepting awards and fans what they have been longing and asking for. thanking me for all of my She is presenting the Style Theory Tour, which was hard work. The recognition designed to educate and empower men and women on the ins and outs of fashion styling and beauty tips. that they gave me made me feel like my work wasn’t in vein, I felt much appreciated. We recently had a chance to talk to Tameka RayAs a stylist, I was asked to teach a fashion mond about the history behind Style Theory and a styling class at American InterContinental little bit about her life. Here is what the Queen of University™ (AIU) here in Atlanta, Georgia. I Wardrobe Styling had to say: was very honored and humbled to be offered such a position, as I am a strong believer in education.
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You are a very beautiful and intelligent woman. Were there moments in your life where Tameka faced insecurities? Yes! Of Course! When I was married, and right after the birth of my son, I gained weight. Being in the spotlight, you have a lot of people looking at you and expecting you to be and look a certain way. So due to listening to the daughter of naysayers and fans I became very nervous and unsure about myself. I had to learn to ignore the negativity and keep pushing on. Style Theory is a uniquely designed tour. It’s like no other tour that I’ve seen, where did the concept come from? Style Theory was one of my “brain children.” I always come up with one hundred and one brilliant business ideas in my head, but I never really executed them. Believe it or not, I get many of my ideas from my fans.
In regards to the concept of Style Theory, I constantly get so many request via letters and social media asking me to come to different cities to teach a styling class. So being the visionary I am, my brain had a light bulb go off. I said to myself – “what if I put together a tour that educated people on the aspects of styling and incorporate beauty into it?” It was what my fans wanted, so I said why not, and immediately the planning of Style Theory Tour was underway. One thing I can say, is that I am a HUGE investor in myself. I live by the motto that “if you don’t believe in yourself, how can you expect others to believe in you?” Style Theory caught my attention because it was designed to teach individuals that style not only comes from a fashion side, but it also comes from your inner mental side as well. How are both the fashion and mental sides related to each other? How can people with self-esteem and body confidence issues benefit from attending your event? 24
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Photographer - Fred Staten @fredstatenstudio Model - @stylebydnicole
(Cont.) Style is not just about having confidence in the designer; it has to come from within. No matter what label you put on your body, YOU have to have confidence! I don’t care if it was Jackie Kennedy in one of her killer dresses or James Dean, who wore a pair of denim jeans and a plain white tee, it came off as swagger, because their confidence was on ten!
Makeup Artists will be busy educating on how to put on a perfect eyebrow. Eyebrows are my pet peeve. You don’t want your brows to look like punctuation marks lol. Style Theory will teach the proper applications for contouring and how to avoid what I like to call the “Sharpie brow”.
One thing our attendees will notice is that I talk to them on a one on one basis. My staff and I ask about their strengths and weaknesses and we consult What would be some advice you would give to up them. We connect with our attendees. You will not and coming stylist? leave Style Theory uneducated! The importance of professionalism and punctuality. If a stylist is not early when meeting a client, then Besides fashion, what else can our readers exyou are considered late in my eyes. I advise them pect to become educated on while attending your to not follow trends so closely. You have to find out tour? what works directly for your client’s body type. A Your readers can expect to gain knowledge on proper fit is what is most important not just what is beauty and hair care. In each market, we recruitin style. ed well known and experienced teachers, example, Derickus Crawford who worked with R&B singers Ashanti and Fantasia. Derickus talked about hair care and the right and wrong way to apply a sew-in or quick weave. We also have natural hairstylist that teach you how to stimulate growth for your hair and edges. 26
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Photographer - Sabrina Brown Hair - King Kenny K @kingkennyk Makeup - Mz. Fancy Face @mz_fancyface Necklace - Fantasy Accessory Box (@fantasyacessorybox).
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secret threat, is what I like to call Rittany Anderson. She’s a beautiful and exquisite intellectually correct African American female who is unstoppable. Never in a million years could anyone tell Rittany that her lifelong dreams of traveling the world, meeting new people and having the ability to touch many lives would come true. As a matter of fact, her realities have overshadowed her dreams, because what she is currently experiencing is something larger than what she ever dreamed of. But all of this fame and opportunities didn’t come easy. Rittany has faced many head on collisions along the way. She wasn’t always the voluptuous diva that you see displayed on your televisions and social media outlets. Growing up her body was perfectly proportioned. She had small breast and an hour glass shape. “I was a social butterfly-the most popular girl in school. I was the one that everyone wanted to be,” she said. Throughout her teenage years, she found herself slipping through the cracks. After the death of her teenage friend, boys and having fun started to dominate her world. Until she found herself experiencing more of an adult life than her peers. These experiences lead into an abusive relationship with an older man and lost visions of what
UGH SAID!
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her goals in life were supposed to be. Goals that consisted of getting a good education, going to college and just enjoying life as a juvenile. “If someone would have fought harder for me, I would have stayed on the right track. I slipped through the cracks. I feel like my mom didn’t fight for me.” Stated the red headed beauty. As Rittany entered into adult hood, her past mistakes lingered throughout her lifespan. “If you would have asked me six years ago, what I wanted to be in life, I would have told you that I would be a millionaire,” stated Rittany. Instead of those millionaire dreams, Rittany stumbled upon a career in retail management. Even though her life didn’t lead her down the path that she always thought she would travel; she accepts her mistakes and is content on where her life has lead her. However, these mistakes that caused her life to shift directions, are mistakes that she fights hard to make sure her niece, Crystianna doesn’t repeat. Many see Rittany as the official “mother” for Crystianna. But what the world doesn’t realize is that Crystianna’s mother is highly involved in her life. Growing up under the roof of her mother and with a working sister, Rittany had no choice but to help with the upbringing of her niece. Even though Crystianna has parents that are able and willing to take care of her, Rittany states “I’m a strong believer that it takes a village to raise a child.
I love her a little more than an Aunt should. With this love created a bond between Crystianna that NO ONE can break.” When Crystianna was around four years old, Rittany noticed that her niece was quiet and timid. However, she possessed a talent and love for dance. Rittany can remember always seeing little girls in red and white outfits who were persistent and number one. She asked Dianna what was the starting age for the Dancing Dolls and when Dianna replied five years old, she knew this was where Crystianna was meant to be. Until Dancing Doll’s age requirements were met, she took her to every competition. Then at the age of five, Crystianna was officially a Dancing Doll. “I felt like if I was going to sign my niece up, it was going to be on the best dance team in Mississippi. Never in a million years did I think the Dancing Dolls would have become a television series,” says Rittany. “All I knew was that parents nowadays, don’t want to invest in their kids, but in my eyes, kids are like parent’s stock.” One thing for sure is that Rittany will stop at nothing to invest in her heart’s life to make sure that she has every opportunity to succeed in life. So when Rittany was approached with the opportunity to be a part of the hit Lifetime TV Show – “Bring It”, she jumped on the opportunity. Rittany knew that doing the show would bring good and bad into her life, however, she did it for her niece. “I was so nervous
and excited at the same time. I put so much time into the Dollhouse Factory and my niece that I thought that God was answering all of my prayers.” Explained Rittany. With television, Rittany realized quickly that it is bitter and sweet. There was no longer time for Rittany. Her life has become solely focused on her niece, Crystianna. As for her love life, there is a major drought. It is hard for this beauty to find true love. She believes that if you did not have a relationship prior to fame, it is hard to find someone who wants you truly for who you are and not what you can do for them. Men approach her all the time with the thoughts of her being rich. Or when she finds someone half decent, it falls apart because she doesn’t have time. She either works full time or is taping the TV show. “I sleep alone many of nights, because a man never knows if I am coming or going!” she says. As an adult, she started to gain weight. She no longer possessed the proportioned shape that she once had. Even though her body changed, Rittany was still the most confident woman in the whole state of Mississippi. So therefore, moving into the airing of the show, she never thought that her body size would be an issue. The only issue that she did encounter was the interaction of other casts members
who were smaller than she was. But she grew to understand that just because you are a couple of sizes bigger than others, it doesn’t mean that you are not beautiful. People seem to love Rittany because of her realness and her bubbly personality. “I said that if I go on the show, I would be “Rittany”, stated the Queen herself. Being true to herself, is the main reason why people gravitate towards her character more so than others. Rittany remembers getting a few comments from people stating that she was big and fat, but her confident response was; “Tell me something that I don’t know.” Her role on the show is vital to the plus community, because it showcases that no matter what your size; confidence is beautiful. One thing Rittany dislikes is the fact that people have this perception of how they believe her life should be. This is her pet peeve because people think that just because you are on TV, you aren’t supposed to work. Rittany receives negative feedback because she has a full time job working in retail. “I love working in retail! I feel like women are strong; we go through so much from the day we are put on this earth. It is hard to break a woman. I work a full time job and I still manage to maintain a vital role on “Bring It”. People can walk through the mall and see me working hard to provide
for myself. I fight the same battles! We deal with the same hell; just a different devil!” states Rittany. In life, she believes that there are a million women in the world that look better than she does. Therefore, she strives to make sure she has more to offer than just her appearance. When asked what advice she would give to her fans, she stated; “If I could tell my fans anything, it would be to stay true to you, because when you stay true to the person you are, you have no regrets and you can go to bed good at night. Always believe in you. I’m Rittany’s biggest fan. If no one likes an Instagram picture or tells me I am beautiful, I still get in that mirror every day and tell myself that I am beautiful. The best thing I ever did was believe in me. We believe in man so much, but when you believe in yourself, the sky is the limit and no one can take that from you. For my plus size women – Be confident. Confidence sticks out, so why not do it in style?” With all of the fame that has been bestowed upon Rittany, she still remains humble. What she hopes to gain from this experience is the birthing of a nonprofit organization for at risk teenagers. She is a firm believer that the more involvement you have in a child’s life; the more successful they will become. “I just want one child to say… because of you I didn’t give up,” dreams Rittany.
Rittany gives hope to the plus community. She represents for the curvy women and has a bright future ahead! If she could change anything about herself, she wouldn’t change a thing. She is Rittany, a woman with bad grammar and a beautiful woman who doesn’t take any s**t – and that right there is.......
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believer that it takes a village to raise a child.
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Rittany currently resides in Jackson Mississippi. She can be reached through her social media sites..... IG - @rittany_no_b FB - Rittany Anderson
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What inspired you to become heavily involved in the beauty business?
I always loved doing hair! I grew up watching my Great Grandmother and God-Mother do hair and ever since then I’ve been interested in it!
What present day hairstyles do you love the most?
I love a clean and natural sew-in. I’m a HUGE weave connoisseur, so I love all styles using weave.
What are some hair styling tips you can give to curvy women? What hairstyles look best on them?
It all comes with confidence! I’m a fan of voluptuous women and think that big hair is perfect for plus size divas.
Do you feel that hair relates to a person’s personal style? Does a person’s hairstyle play a part with a person’s confidence?
It does; However, we live in an era where everybody is following the “monkey see-monkey do” effect. That is fine, however, the style can and should be tweaked for the client. Confidence does play a role in bringing the styles to life. But HAIR GIVES CONFIDENCE!
What are some of the mistakes you see people making when they create weave sew-ins? The biggest mistakes is using oils and not doing quality foundations and protecting the client’s real hair.
What advice would you give up and coming hair stylists?
Be true to it. Make sure doing hair is what you really want to do in life. Study the craft and master it. Never be afraid to ask for advice. We all have to start somewhere!
Tell our readers what they can expect from a King Kenny Hair Experience?
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The road that I’m on has been a journey. It hasn’t been easy. But I know that I will overcome all obstacles. Defeat is not an option. I will grow from within! This is my rebirth hour! T. Saunders
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Being a successful woman in today’s society takes drive, determination and thick skin. For Sharita Tucker, victory did not come easy. Throughout her entrepreneurial journey, she was hit with doors closing, relationships ending and the devastating death of a child. But through it all, she managed to stick with it and is now the proud owner of a daycare center and an online boutique. She also traveled down an unexpected road which aided into her evolving into one of the “Curvy” community’s prominent plus size models. We had the chance to connect with and get inside the intellect of this beautiful mastermind. What we found was so compelling and motivating, it’s sure to blow you away! So sit back and prepare to get inspired, as we introduce you to the “Most Successful Woman” - Sharita Tucker:
Sharita Tucker
I WILL PREVAIL By: T. Saunders
Describe how you came up with the concept of your business?
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eing self-employed was something that I always wanted. I began my daycare in 2002 because I wanted to be able to stay at home with my 4 year old daughter who was disabled. I didn’t want her to have to attend daycare and put myself in a situation where I had to depend on another person to be accountable for her intense needs. I wanted to be able to be at home with her and still make a good living. Once I made the decision to open a daycare, it was a very good career move and I must say has been a great fit for my life. After my daughter passed away in 2003, I still continued my daycare business, because it gave me someone to care for, which was very therapeutic for me. My boutique business came to life from the lack of stylish plus size clothing being readily available to me. Many women would message me asking where I bought my garments from and inquiring about fashion advice. It hit me one day, if I am sending all these beautiful women to different establishments, making the next person rich; I could start my own fashion empire. I could direct them to my own site and collect money on top of helping my fellow curvy women. So in 2012 I launched LimitLess Couture. As far as modeling, I started modeling for myself at first. I just wanted to promote my boutique. From that point, I started getting offers to do other projects and the modeling kind of took on a life of its’ own. The entrepreneur in me has ventured off into photography. Just a little here and there. I’m interested in learning all that I can and possibly add that title to my list. You never know…lol
PHOTOGRAPHY - Victor Harris of Versatile Photography Hair, Make-up, Wardrobe Styling done by Sharita Tucker Clothing and accessories provided by LimitLess Couture
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I must say that being successful at anything takes a lot of work! I ALWAYS have so much going on, which can be good and bad. Since I am blessed enough to hold the title of self-employed; I am able to spend a lot of time with my daughter, who is 9 years old. She is a Girl Scout and I am a volunteer with her troop. So we do lots of projects in the community, camping, day trips and lots of fun activities that I participate in with her. I try not to let my business affect our mother-daughter relationship, as I spend as much time as I can with her. I also teach her verbally and by example that she can do anything she wants to do, as long as she works hard and stays dedicated. As for my marriage, for the past five years, it has been pretty rocky. After being together for over 8 years, we finally got married and turned around and got divorced not even 6 months later (crazy I know! LOL). But after our divorce, we did reconcile and got remarried. Now it hasn’t been easy. We were almost divorced yet again, yes we filed papers and everything, but we decided to really give it a try. I love him to death and if I can excel in other avenues within my life, I know that I can make my marriage work. I know that my busy lifestyle is something that causes conflict at times, but I love it, not the conflict but the business.
How was your childhood? What events lead you to become the confident woman you are today?
Throughout most of my childhood, I was raised by my grandparents. My grandmother was a very hard working woman and she was pretty hard on me. Throughout elementary and middle school, I was teased a lot and I was pretty shy. As I entered high school, things began to change. This is the time where I discovered that I was kind of cute. I had a pretty small frame until after I had my first daughter and then I just gained weight over the years; and I felt really bad about myself. I never showed it much because I mask emotions pretty well, but deep down, I felt very unattractive. I was always trying some fad diet to try to lose weight. But majority of them didn’t work. I took being in the company of other positive and encouraging women to help me really break out of my shell. It wasn’t until around 2011 that I began to truly accept my size and feel good about it. I have developed the attitude now that I am as sexy as I wanna be and I will always be no matter what the scale says.
What is the one thing that keeps you striving?
I get so much motivation from women who message me just to tell me how much I inspire them or how something I said helped or uplifted them. But I think the main thing that keeps me striving is knowing that my daughter is watching me closely and that she thinks very highly of me. I want to always be a good provider for her. Maintaining her respect and having her proud to have me as a mother is always the key factors for me striving to be the best Sharita I can be.
If you could give advice to your daughter, what would it be?
For my daughter, I recently signed a copy of a book entitled, “Curvy and Confident, Inspiring Women to Love Themselves” by Khari Toure. This book has a lot of wisdom and
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1. Sex on the first date? A. 90% of the time B. If I really like him/her C. I am waiting for marriage D. Never I am not that Easy 2. What song describes the kind of love you desire? A. Drunk In Love –Beyonce B. I Will Always Love You- Dolly Parton C. My Little Secret-Xscape D. Part time Lover-Stevie Wonder 3. What are your relationship goals? A. Dating nothing serious B. Marriage C. Casual Sex D. A serious monogamous rela tionship but not quite ready
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d? Are you a part time lover? Are you a player? This test will help you uno re-evaluate some of your relationship choices. 4. What is your idea of a Romantic Date? A. Staying In watching a red box or Netflix movie B. Going out for Dinner and a movie C. Meeting up at a hotel for wild Passionate Sex D. A couples massage, dinner pre pared by a private chef and a long walk on the beach to end the night 5. What best describes how your last rela tionship ended? A. Peacefully-We both agreed to separate. There was a lot of love for each other but we were moving in different directions B. It was a disaster, I was devastat ed he/she cheated on me, I am still trying to get over the heartache C. We are no longer together but every now and then we have sex . D. I was the cause of the break up. I tried to stay faithful but it’s hard. There are too many options and I am not ready to settle down yet. 6. What couple best represents the relation ship you want to have? A. Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith B. Bobby Brown and Whitney Houston C. Bill and Hillary Clinton D. Ike and Tina
7. What Best Describes your current priorities A. I am extremely buried in work. I am con stantly working and I have very little time for myself B. God, Family, and work in that exact order C. It’s all about me and if it does not benefit me I don’t have time for it D. I just want to have fun. I like to live in the moment and see where it takes me. I have no major responsibilities and I am content with my life. 8. What TV couple do you find most appealing? A. Olivia Pope and Fitz-Scandal B. Cookie and Lucius-Empire C. Stevie J and Joselyn Hernandez-Love and Hip Hop Atlanta D. Derek and Meredith-Grey’s Anatomy 9. Which Restaurant is most appealing for a first date? A. Red Lobster B. Ruth Chris C. McDonald’s D. Chinese take-out and eating at home in a more intimate setting 10. What is the first thing you notice on a member of the opposite sex? A. Body B. Smile C. Clothes/Shoes D. Personality
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Being a plus size woman means not every shoe is made for you. In fact I am convinced that most shoes and boots are made for a size 2 model because even woman who do not fall into the plus size category still have some of the same shoe dilemmas. Whenever I am shopping for boots it always amazes me at the amount of woman in general that have the problem of zipping boots up to their calves. As a full figured woman you should never feel like you have to be limited to flats. There are some beautiful pumps waiting for you and just because a shoe looks like it may not fit does not mean it won’t work. Below are my top 4 tips to help guide you through your curvy shoe shopping dilemma:
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er eye for fashion has her killing the styling world one Polyvore at a time. We had a chance to sit down and talk to D. NI’Cole on a personal level. Here is what she had to say..... Describe the events that lead you to start Style by Di’Nicole? How did you come up with the concept? Style by D. Ni’Cole started out initially as a concept. In 2012, I got the calling on my life to be a wardrobe stylist for the plus size community. I hated to see that way plus size women were being labeled and viewed through the eyes of Skinny Society. Therefore, I felt that shining positive light on imperfections plus stylista. I began styling local friends and plus models in Jackson, MS with the clothing I purchased from Forever 21, Asos Curve, Fashion to Figure,
and Ross Department Store. I honestly didn’t know what I was doing; for me, I was just styling and creating a portfolio. That was in 2013. Fast forwarding to 2014, I hit rock bottom. I can laugh about it now because God is so good, but at the time it wasn’t a laughing matter. I was a newly graduate of Jackson State University with a Master of Arts in Political Science with no job, no clients, and no possibility of getting out (in my mind at that time). I wanted to so badly give up on fashion because I honesty didn’t have the support that I needed at the time. Highly depressed and constantly fighting waking up the mornings, I knew something had to give. Luckily for me, my parents were there to help me with my living arrangements and God put it on my heart to start my @stylebydnicole on Instagram. At the time, I thought
God was high on something. I was like, “Lord, I’m sitting in my room crying my eyes out and borderline suicide, and you gone tell me to start a style page?” I didn’t understand it then but I’m grateful that I was obedient. Honestly, my styling using the Polyvore system (polyvore.com) has been a blessing. Now that 2015 has already arrived and settled in, I’m hoping to be able to push away for what I’ve been doing and start back with my street style, styling more clients and editorials, attending more fashion events and networking, and doing a lot of traveling. What are some adversities that you encountered building your brand? Overcoming opinions. Everyone has one. It’s inevitable. I remember someone telling me that I was stupid for having such faith in
myself. It’s interesting how people will honestly despise you for being authentic to your personal decisions. It’s not always hating but the desire to distract you from your greater goal. If I allowed people’s opinions to rule me, It might as well had been/be dead. I had to learn that when a person dedicates so much negative appeal on you, you must be doing something amazing. I just ignore it. I’m too fabulous of a woman to allow the booing of cheap seats to be louder than the applause up close. When things got hectic and weren’t going in the direction that you wanted it to go, what were some things that kept you going. Why did you not give up? Why give up? I mean, I want to see my glory days. What if this shit works? What if I can help change someone’s life by simply being consistent. In ANYTHING in life, everyone will experience tough times. Guess what? We all eventually find our sweet spot and we become grateful for the doors that were shut, names that we’ve been called, money that we missed out on, and all the failures that lead to our own success levels. I’m going to be successful, period. No doubt in my mind. It might not happen today, tomorrow, or even next year. But when Style by D. Ni’Cole becomes a worldwide brand name, people can refer back to this interview and say, “damn, that girl made it!” What makes your brand different than any other plus stylist out on social media? I’m a brand ambassador/wardrobe stylist, and what makes me different is that I’m putting all of me in everything and allowing God to lead my path. I honestly didn’t want to be stylist. I attended my beloved HBCU in hopes to getting into a law program. When God called me to styling, it initially was all about the plus size community. Now, I’m all about every size! However, because of my full figured body shape, I give my plus audience a bonus to see what I’m wearing, who I’m wearing, and how I’m wearing it. What are all of the divisions that make up Style by Di’Nicole? Style by D. Ni’Cole is a 3-part component that consists of brand marketing and promotions, street style, and style boards using the Polyvore software. As a brand ambassador, it’s my responsibility to promote the brands that acquire my service. I infuse their products in my style boards which gives my audience a variety of ideas as to how to wear a particular item or items. The street style is my rawest form of style through my eyes. It allows me to be more creative in how I dress my body and what colors I pair together. Was it always your dream to become a fashion stylist? Not at all. I wanted to be an attorney; which form of practice, I wasn’t quite sure. I had dreams of living in Washington, DC and attending Howard University’s law school. God had other plans. Lol! What advice would you give to up and coming stylist who are striving to reach the status that you have fought so hard to establish? Honestly, do shit from the heart. If you’re doing it for money and popularity, you’re foolish. If you wake up each morning thinking only of being a stylist or brand ambassador, that’s what you should do. Never let people talk you out of your dreams. Live boldly. Live true to yourself. The possibilities are endless. If you became a Fashion Ambassador of the World, and could change one thing about the plus fashion world, what would it be? As it relates to fashion, I would honestly love to see more plus size designers, fashion lines, and shoe collections for women much larger than a 22 or 26, size 11+ shoe. I’m a 18 slowly getting into a 16, so as my weight loss journey continues, I know I’ll be in the size 8, 10, or 12 within the next 6-8 months. However, I’ll have those clients and audience members who will still be 18+ and I would love for them to have their choice of stylish, sexy, and affordable apparel and footwear that doesn’t have to cost them an arm and a leg. No pun intended for anyone who’s already on the scene; I just would like to see more of it! But good job to brands who are freakin’ helping plus women to SLAY because boy, oh boy they SLAY.
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ike most women, I grew up without a father around. My mother and father were married but his continuous infidelity was something my mother couldn’t abide by. She didn’t want me to grow up believing that’s how relationships had to be. My father was not around like he ought to have been. He made promises to do things and be there and for whatever reason he never showed or did what he said he was going to do. This went on for years. Throughout my childhood and into my teenage years I had various vulgar and angry conversations with my father. I never held back a single emotion I felt. He never stood up to be the man he needed to be for me. So like many other women I looked towards men to solidify me and make me whole. Did I know what I was missing? No. Did I know what it was I was doing every time I made the wrong decision regarding a man? No. Did I know that I was dating my father over and over? No. Interestingly enough in my early twenties my mother revealed much about her relationship with my father. What I noticed about her talks was that my mother never fell out
of love with my father. She still loved him and more than ever. She never let him go. She never forgave him for what he had done to her. Because she never forgave, she never moved on. My mother never met another man that she held a relationship with. Years later my mother developed pancreatic cancer and passed away. She was all I had. All I knew. All I ever wanted to know. When I delivered the news to my father he sent flowers. Did he show up? No. I had it. I was angrier than ever. Something happened months later. It was like a voice said to me, “You’ll never find true happiness in a man unless you forgive your father.” I have a horrible, and I do mean horrible track record with men. I’ve made every mistake under the sun it feels like. In the process of my self-discovery and enlightenment, I saw the root of the choices I made resonated with the issues of my absentee father. Dots I never connected. As I discovered that I saw how the past 10 years of my romantic life had been dictated by a man who wasn’t even in my life. I let someone inadvertently control how I lived. Let alone the man I held all this hate for in my heart. He was in and out
of my life, horribly inconsistent, a liar, and furthermore callously unreliable. Guess what? Every single man I dated was the same. The men I was with ranged from white to black to biracial with interests that ranged from photography, drug dealing, hunting, and philanthropy. They were all the same man. They were my father. So the man I swore I would never date, be anything like, or give the time of day to is the only thing I gave my energy to for 10 years since I’ve been dating from age 18 to 28. Alright, what’s the point? Why is forgiveness so important? When I forgave my father it was a choice I made to stop blaming him for how my life turned out. It was a choice I made to speak to my father about my issues, to have him acknowledge me, and to listen to my father talk about his life growing up without making it about me. In the midst of my listening all the questions I had about why, what, when, where, and how were answered in the telling of his childhood. Hurt people hurt people. Damaged people who are unhealed will pass on their troubles to those they encounter. It’s pathology. And unless self-aware, you can’t stop it. He couldn’t. He didn’t seem like a deadbeat father anymore. He seemed like a child who had been damaged
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and had repeated what had been done to him unknowingly. So I stopped looking at him like he was obligated to me. Instead of a father I saw a man. I understood him and his pain and realized I was more like him that I knew. It was that moment of clarity, understanding, and self-awareness that I realized it was time to let it go. We hold people accountable to personal expectations and societal norms. But how can we hold someone responsible for something they were never taught to do? And then get angry because they didn’t hold up an end of a bargain they didn’t even know they made? Yes, we make choices that hurt people. There is a ripple effect most people aren’t even aware of. However assumptions and expectations of what we think other people need to do for us ultimately end up hurting only ourselves. We are all different and come from different walks of life no matter how similar. We as people have images of how we assume one should act, and then when they don’t do what we think they should, we play victim and hold grudges for years, even a lifetime. Forgiveness allows you to let go of the expectations you had for someone. It also is something that prepares you in life for the responsibility of loving others. I promise you that you cannot be a loving
partner, mother, father, friend, or anything without being forgiving. You mess up. I mess up. People you meet mess up. Your friends mess up. Your lover messes up. Your children will mess up. What are you teaching if you are living with an unforgiving heart? The pain we encounter that requires us to forgive also teach us how to create standards for how we need to be treated to survive in healthy relationships. Sometimes you forgive and try again. Sometimes you forgive and leave someone behind. Either way you make sure your forgiveness is organic, because when you force the action of forgiveness yet continually punish someone for their past crime against you; you are only punishing yourself. Resentment will eventually set in and you create a larger
circle of people who end up being hurt. Often times if you’ve moved on from a situation you don’t even have to let someone know you forgave them, unless it’s part of your personal process. It has to happen in your heart though. Use scripture if you must. Take a hint from Buddha or Gandhi, even Martin Luther King, Jr. if you need to. Forgiveness is you understanding yourself enough to truly understand someone else. When you understand yourself, you know all the good and bad characteristics you possess. You forgive yourself and you can forgive someone else. Because. You. Simply. Understand. When you forgive you can live. 64
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I am a woman who dresses in sweat pants, jeans, oversized T-Shirts. Could this be the reason why I’m single? Shouldn’t men see my inside attributes before my outside appearance? Linda B. Phoenix, Arizona Men are men! They will always be attracted to the physical before the mental! We like to see women in things that will excite us; sweats and tees are never good in the beginning... that’s comfort clothes. Very rarely will a man look at a female and say, “hey she looks like she has a great personality, let me talk to her”
My girlfriend was “talking” to a guy that I know for a fact that she was NOT interested in. I have been secretly talking to him and now we had sex. He is more made for me than her. How do I go about telling her that he and I are soul mates? Do you think that he will run off with one of my friends next? Alexia, Z Tampa Bay, Florida If that’s the way you got him, there is a strong possibility that will be the way you can lose him! You have to have self-respect out here. Before talking to him, you should’ve said to your friend; “girl why are u playing with his emotions”? If you respected the friendship you and her had, this situation would’ve been avoided. I suggest being upfront with her and don’t waste time. If the friendship is strong, she will get mad and then forget about it! But watch your other friends that he might be checking out.
My husband recently started playing drums in a band that tours regionally. Since he started, he now comes home and insists that I play with his backside. I’m not comfortable sticking things in his you know what, but I feel pressured because I know that now I’m not enough to get him off. I don’t want to think about the possibility that he is gay or bisexual. Is this normal? Do guys actually like this kind of stuff? Tamika B. Scranton, Pennsylvania There is something wrong with your husband! It’s not normal for any man to want anything to go into the exit!! Are there other suspect members in this band? Something is definitely wrong with that.
I think my man is cheating with the girl we occasionally have sex with. I found several text messages they have shared in his phone. The last time we had a threesome, he was more involved with her then me!! Is it my fault for introducing another vagina into the relationship? I was just being a “good girlfriend”. How do I fix is? Valeriencia C. Jacksonville, Florida A threesome is always a “great adventure”. It’s like kids with new toys. If a kid has played with a toy already, they are curious to play with the new toy. If the laws of respect aren’t set at the beginning, there will always be problems. I don’t think this can be fixed. You put in his mind that it’s an open relationship by introducing another woman into it. Only thing I would suggest is a sit down with all three parties to let them know this was a one-time deal. If they wanna continue to engage in overfriendly conversations, it is time for you to move on.
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here’s this thing we women do. We stick around and give more and more of our love when the person we are with is hell-bent on taking more and more of our spirit. Why? Why are we bent on giving up a part of ourselves we cannot get back to be everything a man needs? Is it really the love we have? Let’s go deeper... Is it the love we have for them or is it a need to prove that we are the women we say we are? Let’s go deeper... Is it that we have a nurturing spirit about us? Is it the training we’ve been given all of our lives as women? I want you to think on this. Simply because I want you to understand the root of our behavior towards many things involving men. First, I need you to
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understand it is not your fault. Second, I need you to comprehend that you are doing the best you can with what you know. Third, I need you to get that you are what you are and I am not asking you to change it. What I want you to just listen to and think long and hard on is that we as women have been conditioned to second guess our own intuition, and have been traditionally taught to create our lives to center around the idea of a husband and children. Period. The easy bake oven you got as a child? The baby doll you had to take care of like you were its mother? Conditioning. Your job not holding as much importance as a man’s? He can stay at work all day and night and be hardworking. If you do it, you’re a bad mother. He can leave for his son’s basketball game and be a good father, if you leave, it’s the unfortunate side effect of hiring a woman. Maternity leave? Girl, please. They want to replace you as soon as you go. Conditioning. It was important that you learned how to cook, clean, wash clothes, & iron but those were never issues a boy growing up had to deal with.
They wanted him to go outside and play sports. You had to stay inside because it was dangerous to be playing with boys because they are too rough. Conditioning. Coddle his ego because men are fragile. Have all the necessary attributes of a good woman so you can be appealing to him. You were raised to compete with other girls for men. He was raised to get an education and a high paying job. You were conditioned to be ready for a man so you could be his wife, stay home, and take care of the kids while he went off to work. Conditioning. The way it is. That’s how the work works. That’s the role of a woman. We’re supporters so it’s our job to give. It’s our job to be better than men because they don’t know better. Conditioning. There are books educating you on how to deal with a man. What questions to ask him? What are your short term goals? Long term goals? What do relationships mean to you? What do you think about me? What do you feel about me? But wait...why aren’t men told to ask us that? So in all things we do, we find a man who isn’t quite right but he’s right
enough? Right? And then...we will try to make him our one and only soulmate even when the universe is trying to pull him away? Why? Because if not him, then there won’t be anyone else. I know the feeling. I’ve had it. Several times. He treated me good enough. He was doing the best he could with me. He just needed time to develop. If I was there to support and nurture him, he would eventually see me and then grow to love me. Then everything would be okay. We all have the same thoughts. We may not be the same women but we have the same thoughts because at such a young and tender age we have been conditioned to treat our lives as second to men. Now, don’t get me wrong. The love of a good man will in effect change a woman completely. It will empower her. Strengthen her. Revive her. And sometimes the love of a good man will direct a woman where she may have been lost. Husband and children are awesome staples in life to desire. I mean after all, what’s the point in your own existence if not to pass that down and have it become better? You have to join with another.
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A yin to your yang to create a new idea of yourselves. Children. They aren’t just financial burdens. They are your future when you die. So, I’m not saying that women shouldn’t aspire to be in love, one day marry, and have children. I’m telling you to watch who you assign power to in your life. Watch what man you assign such responsibility when he hasn’t even earned it. A man you’ve known for a few months, 6 months, hell even a year? And you’re job is to save him? No. No... the job of a woman has never been to save a man, no matter what your religious belief system. We support my beautiful women. We do not give him vision. We have our own. The goal is does his vision match ours. What I am telling you however is that when you decide to attempt to save someone else by loving them, what you are doing is motivated by pre-birth conditioning that you don’t even realize. What I’m telling you is that while you are trying to save someone else with your love what you are in effect doing is sacrificing yourself to fix someone else’s self-inflicted pain. A pain in which was created before and cultivated without you. What you have happened upon is a man who is broken and because your mom, dad, family, or the world told you as a woman you have to second guess yourself to nurture a man, you decide to let him continue to abuse you in hopes that your “nurturing love” will save him. It won’t. Your love is not powerful enough to save someone.
That’s what our creator is meant for. Otherwise what’s the point of our belief systems? That Godly love or universal love, whatever you’d like to label it as is what saves us individually. We are not saved by women or men. We are supported by one another through the process of being saved. What we decide to do is change and our creator changes us, while those that love us stick around. That’s a beautiful process. I’ve been subject to it myself. I urge you to look towards your creator to guide your heart. People have left me in times where I was less beneficial to them as I changed. People maybe I wish had stayed, but am glad they are gone because they deserved a love I was unable to satisfy. Should you find yourself in a position where you are everything to a man and continuing to love him through unchanging phases of himself, then do yourself a favor and fight the conditioning you’ve been raised to believe. Leave. We are never meant to be everything to someone. Our creator is. If he leans on you for everything he needs, then he could never love you the way God loves you. Because he doesn’t know God himself. You are complete as a woman. You will find another. Hell, you may even find yourself. Now wouldn’t 68 that be interesting?
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y husband wa s obsessed with the MiMi and Nikko sex tape. So I said , I’ll get his attentioin and h ave us re-enact the shower scene. I’m a big woman but we had a thick shower rod. Let’s just say that $2,200 later, ou r new Bath Fit te r’s tub is quite nice. # O h my!!! Amber Z., Atlan
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t was holloween and me and my husband (boyfriend at the time) decided to dress up as a Priest and Nun. We decided to spice up our sex life by having sex in back of a Catholic Church. Well little did we know it was filled with a church event that let out during our experiment. All the little kids were screaming FATHER there’s sister somebody and father Jeffry’s hugging each other. It was so embarrassing. Heather R., San Bernadino, CA 72
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An orgasmic virgin’s dilema
By: Another Statistic anotherstatistic@mycrmag.com
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eing single in a world full of ignorance is not a position I would wish on my worst enemy. But when you throw in the fact that I have never had an orgasmic experience makes this single life not only awful, it makes it down right pathetic. Yes – you heard me right, I’m a 33 year old orgasmic virgin. I know many of you are like… WOW! Is that possible? Oh my fellow CR Readers, let me be the first to tell you that YES – there are women out here who have NEVER experienced the “BIG O”. I often question my bedroom skills. I questioned myself day in and day out. Maybe it’s my weight? Maybe I need to sharpen up my riding skills! Every question known to man I done asked! Role playing, dress up, naughty talk, oral stimulation, you name it, I DID IT! I even went as far as studying and mastering the sexy, sensual moves from Ciara’s “Ride It” video; to listening to Luke’s explicit lyrics to learn a thing or two. But then I realized that it’s not me. It’s these men. But then I had to be true to myself and dig deep.
Then a bright light went off in my head and I saw that it’s not my sexual partner, it’s indeed me. See I believe (YES, I just diagnosed myself) that I’m not reaching my sexual peak because I’m not emotionally connected to these sexual candidates. I did some soul searching and I strongly believe that certain women will not reach their orgasmic peak unless they are emotionally attached to their sexual selections. Hmmmm... there you have it. My problem is that I wanted to be loved or to feel needed so bad that I put my sexual desires to the side and I pretended that my sex lives with my ex mates were the best thing smoking. But now I have a voice and I’m threw pretending. Instead of OH NOOOO… I want the OH YESSSS! I’m tired of being sexually cheated, defeated and downright disrespected. But the problem that I’m currently experiencing is now that I know what I’m lacking, I don’t know how to go about finding that man that will reach my secret spot. One that will have me shivering down below all while exploding my
mental side that will more than likely have me falling in love and in ecstasy. Women today have a huge problem with being submissive in the bedroom (It’s OK! Really! I was one of those women too!). We know what we want, but we are so afraid to go after it because we are petrified that our sexual partner’s feelings will get hurt. Well, I’m here to tell you that I don’t give a da**about no one’s feelings. This woman right here is letting it be known. Amateurs need to be put in their place. It’s simple; fellas, don’t go near the sink, if you know you can’t unclog the pipes. Don’t expect what you can’t dish out. If you are a lame sexual partner, then you will get lame sex! IT’S JUST THAT SIMPLE! From this moment on, I want all men to be true to themselves. If you don’t have what it takes, if you have a little “Captain Winkie” and If you only last 5 minutes; don’t run around town telling women you will knock their socks off or that you will give them multiple orgasms. Because nine times out of ten you were made aware that your
your bedroom skills were lame by past sex mates. Listen to them!!! You and I both know that it’s probably true! It’s called being IN DENIAL! This topic makes me angry. But even so, I still have hope. I hope I find that one person who not only electrifies my Elizabeth (vagina) but also stimulates my mind as well. But until I get him, I have to sadly end this article……
Did yo u of wom know that 62% e that t n sur veyed he st satisfie y are at lea ated st 75% d with mates t h eir sex ? ual
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WHAT TYPE OF LOVER ARE YOU CONTINUED Answer Scoring: Question 1 A. 1 B. 2 C. 4 D. 3 Question 6 A. 4 B. 2 C. 3 D. 1
Question 2 A. 3 B. 4 C. 1 D. 2
Question 7 A. 3 B. 4 C. 1 D.2
Question 3 A. 2 B. 4 C. 1 D. 3
Question 8 A. 2 B. 3 C. 1 D. 4
Question 4 A. 2 B. 3 C. 1 D. 4
Question 9 A. 2 B. 4 C. 1 D. 3
Question 5 A. 4 B. 3 C. 2 D. 1
Question 10 A. 1 B. 3 C. 2 D.4
Add your score up and see your results below 10-13 If you want true love you are looking in all the wrong places and going about it all the wrong way. Your guard may be up and expectations low due to past experience. You don’t take relationships or people’s feelings to serious. This is okay if you are not looking for serious relationships but you can’t expect to have anything long term with your current habits. 14-26 You are ready for love. Sometimes you make your mistakes in love and go about showing love all wrong but you are trying and headed in the right direction. If its love that you want you can have it but you have to stop 2nd guessing everyone. It’s important to make good decisions and remain emotionally open in your current or developing relationships. If you have not found love it is right around the corner. 27-40 When you love you love hard. You understand that love is not just about sex and know your self-worth. You are willing to wait to find love with the correct person and not sell yourself short or waste time with someone who is not compatible. If you are currently not in a relationship keep pressing you have a great heart and once you find that person who is equally prepared for a relationship everything will fall into place. For those currently in relationship’s it will continue to flourish because you are truly ready for love that will last a lifetime.
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By: Marta Kupisz http://lady-martusha.blogspot.com/
It is well known that reasonable nutrition should supply various food groups as proteins, fats, carbohydrates, vitamins and minerals. Their well-balanced supply is essential for the proper functioning of the body.
The Healthy Eating Plate by Harvard
• ½ of your plate - vegetables & fruits: Choose different and colorful vegetables and fruits, preferably raw. They are the source of many vitamins and minerals necessary for the proper functioning of the body. • ¼ of your plate - whole grains: Choose whole and intact grains as: whole wheat, barley, wheat berries, quinoa, oats, brown rice, and foods made with them, such as whole wheat pasta. They do not cause a sharp increase in blood sugar levels as white bread, white rice, and other refined grains. • ¼ of your plate - proteins: Choose lean chicken (especially breast), turkey, fish (esp. cod, salmon, trout and tuna), beans, peas, Limit red meat and avoid processed meats such as bacon and sausage.
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This is how your eating plate should look like:
• In moderation - plant oils: Choose healthy vegetable oils such as rapeseed, linseed, soybean, sunflower, olive oil rich in unsaturated fatty acids. Avoid partially hydrogenated oils, which contain unhealthy trans fats. • Drink water, coffee, or tea: Avoid sugary drinks, limit juice from store to a small glass per day (choose self-made juice or smoothie), limit milk and dairy products to one to two servings per day. • Stay active!
• Chicken with spices (red mild and hot pepper, garlic, oregano, basil, thyme, rosemary) roasted in the oven; • Brown rice; Vegetable salad (mixed salad, red and orange pepper, cucumber, pumpkin and sunflower seeds, vinaigrette sauce); • Vinaigrette sauce (cider vinegar, extra virgin olive oil, lemon juice, herbs de Provance- basil, oregano, thyme,
marjoram, rosemary, savory).
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By: Marta Kupisz http://lady-martusha.blogspot.com/ Don’t forget about proper hydration which is necessary for good operation of many organs such as the kidneys, heart or circulatory system and acid-base balance. Here is your sample option of healthy drink to complete meal. Instead of juice you can choose water or green tea.
Green Juice:
passion fruit, blended kiwi, blended mango, blended apple juice pineapple juice kale, blended spinach, blended 79
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Your highest weight was 421 pounds, describe what your life was like at that weight. Were you confident? How was your love life? My life at 421lbs was awesome. I did Plus modeling in NYC, print and runway so my confidence was very high... My love life was fine as I had my daughter at my highest weight.
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While you were overweight, you were pregnant for roughly 9 months and didn’t know it. Do you think that your weight was the cause of you not knowing you were pregnant? What were your initial thoughts when you found out you were pregnant? I believe that my weight played a huge part in me not knowing for almost my entire pregnancy. I also didn’t have a menstrual BUT that was normal for me since I was so overweight... I blamed myself, I went through all types of emotions... I told the doctor he was lying and he needed to do another pregnancy test. I rejected my child but then I came to terms that this was happening and I would be a woman and own it! Now I know that even
some smaller women don’t know they are pregnant so it can happen to anyone. What event prompted you to decide that it was time to fight your weight loss battle? The delivery of my now 2 1/2 year old daughter. She was born November 2012 and I started my research in January 2013. I wasn’t mentally ready to change until May 1, 2013.
“I believe that my weight played a huge part in me not knowing for almost my entire pregnancy.”
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What activities and changes in eating habits did you adhere to, that aided to your significant weight loss? How much weight have you lost so far? I saw a dietician for a year straight, once a month and I still see her when I need to. I went on a high protein and veggies lifestyle for 90 days. NO CARBS OR FRUIT in that period. 5 small meals a day and half my body weight in oz. per day. DIET was 90% of my success! I am currently 193lbs down.
Proper, Preparation, Prevents, Poor Performance! NEVER GET COMFORTABLE, YOU can easily go back but you have to stay focused and determine on your motivation... WHAT’S YOUR WHY??? THIS journey is MOSTLY MENTAL... IF YOUR MIND ISN’T ON BOARD YOU ARE NOT READY. ALSO THIS JOURNEY IS LONELY BE PREPARED TO LOSE PEOPLE. If they leave your side they didn’t want the best for you and it’s okay!!! They would only hinder your progress!
Since your weight loss, did your confidence rise or do you still see the old Anyce Banks when you look in the mirror? Since my confidence was always high, I’d say things are the same. I do more though, I now love to shop lol... I sometimes see the old me or not what people see so I do a lot of side by sides. What advice would you give to anyone battling their weight?
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What do you mean you don’t need to eat healthy? Oh you still think that eating a lot of “whatever” and lifting heavy will still make you big. In a sense you are correct, that method will make you gain weight and get big. The problem with that is the weight you gain will not be healthy AT ALL!!! As a matter of fact, for each pound of that weight you gain, you will also gain more risk for heart disease, more risk for stroke, more risk for depression... shall I go on? Ok, one more example, you put all those hours in the gym, all that hard work, dedication, early hours, different training techiques etc... but no gains, no results just frustration. Sounds familiar? Guess what, it all means nothing if the work you put in the kitchen does not match!!! The same effort you put into training in the gym should match the work and discipline you have in the kitchen. If you have no plans on eating healthy, not dieting or starving
yourself, then you need to just stop what you are doing in the gym and go back to wishing for a better body because you are waasting your time. This does not mean you have to jump full force into this but if you start today it will be easier tomorrow. Just remember “you deserve to accomplish your fitness goals”. Bottom line is that you have to feed your machine (body) the correct fuel. Think about it, would you put regular car gas into a jet? Hopefully, the answer is no and you shouldn’t. Your body is your machine. You use your machine for everything from walking to running to performing your everyday job. Why not take care of it and make it the best machine it can possibly be? I can go on all day about this and will if you let me. They call me the JerzyKid, I am a certified Fitness Nutrition Specialist. Check me out
on my website: www.bodie-by-e.com for more tips, meal plans and workout plans. Follow me on: instagram.com/ jerzykidjk facebook.com/ bodiebye twitter.com/ JerzyKid
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