Dainty Obsessions Planner & Vendor Guide 2018 by Dainty Obsessions

PLANNER + VENDOR GUIDE

THE COMPLETE 2018 GUIDE FROM THE INDUSTRY'S BEST + DAINTY OBSESSIONS

PLANNER + VENDOR GUIDE 2018

CONTENTS

Before You Start

Checklist + Planner

Letter From Dainty

10 to 16 Months

Dream Day

6 to 9 Months

Important Dates

3 to 5 Months

4 to 6 Weeks

2 Weeks

Week of the Wedding

Day of Wedding

After the Wedding

Here to Help

Vendor Advice

Budget Breakdown

Bridal Survival Kit

Final Timeline

Engagement Party Gift List

Bridal Shower Gift List

Bachelorette Party Gift List

Wedding Gift List

Jane Rae Event Planning

Blue Barn Event Floral

Gorecki Alumni Center

Glasser Images

Pinnacle Productions

Prairie Berry Winery

Bethany Melvin Photography

D'Amico Catering

Kristina Barker Photography

Holiday Inn Sioux Falls-City Centre

Prairie Lane Vintage Rentals

L'Atelier Couture Bridal Boutique

Vanessen's Hair Design

Tip Top Tux

Stephanie Marie

Borsheims Fine Jewelry

Annie Otzen Photography

Riddle's Jewelry

Penny Tree Events

Washington Pavilion

Meg Cooper Photography

Timeless Wedding & Event Rental

A LETTER FROM DAINTY Whether or not you are the asked or the askee, the word "yes" has been uttered, which starts your exciting future together as a married couple. There is so much planning to be done, but don't worry! We're here with some of the best professionals in the Midwest to walk you through each task with oodles of advice along the way. Things to remember right away before planning even begins: Your wedding is your wedding with your partner. You can make it whatever you want it to be with the help of your friends, family and wedding professionals. Want to elope? No worries. Want to have a giant, glamorous affair? It could happen. Just don't feel pressured to have your day be something you're not feeling. HAVE IDEAS ALREADY IN YOUR HEAD, BUT FEEL OVERWHELMED ON WHERE TO START? ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE WITH THE RIGHT HELP, ORGANIZATION AND DIRECTION. Know this is going to be a stressful time, but also know you and your partner are in for such a fun ride that ends in celebrating your commitment to one another. The groom has the wrong boutonniĂ¨re? You'll have so many fun memories when you look back at photos. Aunt Lisa had one too many cocktails at your wedding shower? Your family will be chuckling about it still during the holidays. The wrong song is played during your first dance? You'll keep on dancing and remember that song for the rest of your life with a smile on your face. Everything is meant to be. So sit back and relax as you go through the checklist, and we'll do the best we can to help make your day yours. And when in doubt, a glass of champagne never hurts while you're checking things off the list! Happy planning!

DEAR DIARY. . .

MY D REAM DAY

B E F O R E YO U S TART YO UR O F F ICIAL CH EC KL I S T, F IL L IN T HE BL ANKS TO T HE S E A N S W E RS. We want our wedding at (answer best fit): o

Our hometown

Where we currently live

A destination

Three most important elements/vendors for me are (i.e. DJ, photographer, venue, catering/beverage, flowers):

______________________________________________________

My ideal wedding is (mark with an √) o

small

medium

large

Who is paying for the wedding ? (mark with an √) o

Bride's parents

Groom's parents

We are

Combination of us and ____________________________

______________________________________________________

Three least important elements/vendors for me are (i.e. DJ, photographer, venue, catering/beverage, flowers):

______________________________________________________

Who is paying for the rehearsal dinner ? (mark with an √) o

Bride's parents

Groom's parents

We are

Combination of us and ____________________________

______________________________________________________

These first decisions will help point you in the right directions with the checklist, budgets, and vision.

IMP OR TA N T DAT E S Engagement Party DATE ________________________________________________________________ TIME _____________________________________________ HOSTS _______________________________________________________ LOCATION _____________________________________________

Bridal Shower DATE ________________________________________________________________ TIME _____________________________________________ HOSTS _______________________________________________________ LOCATION _____________________________________________

Bachlorette Party DATE ________________________________________________________________ TIME _____________________________________________ HOSTS _______________________________________________________ LOCATION _____________________________________________

Rehearsal DATE ________________________________________________________________ TIME _____________________________________________ HOSTS _______________________________________________________ LOCATION _____________________________________________

Rehearsal Dinner DATE ________________________________________________________________ TIME _____________________________________________ HOSTS _______________________________________________________ LOCATION _____________________________________________

wedding planner

(605) 342-8966 // www.timelessweddingandevents.com "Renting a tent for a wedding reception is essentially an outdoor DIY venue. Think of a tent as a clean white canvas that can take on any theme with the right lighting & dĂŠcor. We love working with couples to plan a tented wedding in the Black Hills because they have complete creative freedom to create their wedding, wherever and however they like." â&#x20AC;&#x201D; Miranda Kuruvinda, Timeless Wedding & Event Rental

N OTES + TH O U G HT S :

www.bluehavenbarn.com // (605) 661-4394

"Take advantage of all the spaces your wedding venue has to offer. Beautiful outdoor spaces, bridal suites, and landscaped grounds can make your wedding and ceremony unforgettable." â&#x20AC;&#x201D; Amanda Nelson, Blue Haven Barn

HOW A R E YO U FEELIN G ? +

BRIDEZILLA STRESSED NERVOUS

o SE T T H E DAT E ____________________

_____

HAPPY

EXCITED

READY

Compare schedules with important family & friends.

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DAINTY TIP: Consider weather & travel expenses

o CELEBRATE YOUR ENGAGEMENT

Celebrate your engagement with friends & family either with a casual get together(s) or an engagement party. HAVING AN ENGAGEMENT PARTY? _______________________________________________________________ WHEN AND WHERE? _____________________________________________________________________________ WHO IS PAYING FOR IT? ____________________________________________________________________________

o BOOK A PHOTOGRAPHER

Hire a wedding photographer &

schedule your engagement session. OUR BUDGET FOR PHOTOGRAPHY IS $ __________________________________________________ OUR PHOTOGRAPHER IS __________________________________________________________________ OUR ENGAGEMENT SESSION IS WHEN? ____________________

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GL AS SER IMAGES

(701) 250-2190 // info@glasserimages.com // glasserimages.com/contact

"It's one of the most import days of your life, and choosing the right photographer is a very important decision. From the engagement session to the last last dance at the wedding, choosing the right photographer that uses great light, color, clarity, composition, and an artistic eye all leads to amazing and high quality photography. It is a decision you will not regret. They are images you will have forever. - Jack Glasser, Glasser Images 10

o WEDDING PARTY Choose your wedding party and inform them of important dates as soon as possible.

MAID OF HONOR ___________________________________________________________________________________________________ PHONE _____________________________________ EMAIL __________________________________________________________________

MATRON OF HONOR _______________________________________________________________________________________________ PHONE _____________________________________ EMAIL __________________________________________________________________

BRIDESMAID/MAN _________________________________________________________________________________________________ PHONE _____________________________________ EMAIL __________________________________________________________________

BEST MAN __________________________________________________________________________________________________________ PHONE _____________________________________ EMAIL __________________________________________________________________

GROOMSMAN/WOMAN ___________________________________________________________________________________________ PHONE _____________________________________ EMAIL __________________________________________________________________

EAT DRINK AND

BE Married

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homesteadevents@prairieberry.com

"Using a planning calendar can be very helpful in staying organized. Keep all your to-dos, questions, meetings, payment schedules, and deadlines in one place." â&#x20AC;&#x201D; Colby Smith, Weddings and Events by Prairie Berry 12

10 TO 16 MONTHS

F IN A L BUDGE T IS $

_____________________________________

$22,000 IS ROUGHLY THE AVERAGE COST TO HAVE A WEDDING IN THE MIDWEST. 14

BU DGE T B R E AKDOW N

We love when clients bring in their binders full of images and can vocalize their vision for their wedding; however, there seems to be a disconnect with one’s budget and one’s vision. The vision does not always match the percentage breakdowns of one’s budget. We developed very generalized categories of weddings: the modest wedding, the moderate wedding and the comprehensive wedding broken down in three (3) types of weddings into “per person costs”. This is merely intended to be a guideline, and naturally people will float between the categories based on items that are more/ less important to them. The costs figured in for each type of vendor is based on Midwest/ non-metropolitan vendor price averages. As a generalization, though, if a bride were to say that she is anticipating 300 guests to attend her wedding and her overall budget is $20,000.00 – the breakdown of categories would assist in determining a different approach to planning the wedding and vendor selections.

—The staff of Sadie’s Couture Floral & Event Styling

THE MODEST WEDDING AVERAGE COST PER PERSON: $61.88

VENUE

Community space where the rental charges is less than $500. Chairs and 8’ rectangular tables are provided. Limited or no on-site catering is offered. Linens likely not offered.

FOOD

Buffet-style. Typical to see BBQ or pasta offering. Otherwise, 1 meat, one side, salad, rolls. Limited to no

COST FOR A 250 PERSON WEDDING:

serving staff. BEVERAGES

$15,470.00

Cash bar only (bride and groom are not hosting complimentary alcohol). Punch provided.

BRIDAL ATTIRE TUXEDOS

Gown and all accessories total no more than $1500.00 Tuxedo rental at no cost with rental of groomsmen tuxedos.

CEREMONY

COST FOR A 400 PERSON WEDDING:

FLOWERS

No charge for ceremony space. No floral décor. Bridal party flowers only. For the reception, do-ityourself centerpieces budgeting no more than $25.00

$24,752.00

per table to make. MUSIC CAKE PHOTOGRAPHY

Friends at ceremony. I-pod for reception. Small bridal cake with sheet cakes for guests. Newer photographer building their portfolio or family/ friends.

VIDEOGRAPHY BRIDAL PARTY GIFTS INVITATIONS

Family/friend providing. No cost. Less than $30/person. Do-it-yourself from pre-made kits. Postage included for save-the-dates, invitations and thank you cards.

TRANSPORTATION WELCOME GIFTS FOR

Limousine for bride and groom only. None

OUT-OF-TOWN GUESTS FAVORS

None

THE MODERATE WEDDING AVERAGE COST PER PERSON: $151.13

VENUE

Hotel ballroom. Facility offers round tables, chairs and cloth tablecloths and napkins. Catering is on-site.

FOOD

Offering of standard chicken or red meat, potato, salad, rolls, coffee, tea, punch. Full serving staff.

BEVERAGES

Bride and groom host complimentary drinks for cocktail hour. Cash bar for remainder of reception.

COST FOR A 250 PERSON WEDDING: $37,782.50

BRIDAL ATTIRE TUXEDOS

Gown and all accessories total no more than $2000.00 Tuxedo rental at no cost with rental of groomsmen tuxedos.

CEREMONY FLOWERS

Fee for officiant/organist. Bridal party flowers. Two floral arrangements for ceremony for altar. Modest, low profile centerpieces for

COST FOR A 400 PERSON WEDDING:

reception guest tables. MUSIC

$60,452.00

Hired vocalists/musician for ceremony. Hired DJ for reception.

CAKE

2-tier cake for bridal party with sheet cakes for guests. Hired photographer with at least 2-years experience.

PHOTOGRAPHY VIDEOGRAPHY BRIDAL PARTY GIFTS INVITATIONS

Videographer newer in industry building portfolio. Less than $50/person. Ordered through invitation company, but simple in design. Postage included for save-the-dates, invitations and thank you cards. Limousine for bridal party.

TRANSPORTATION

Something simple and modest.

WELCOME GIFTS FOR OUT-OF-TOWN GUESTS

Less than $1.00 each

FAVORS

THE COMPREHENSIVE WEDDING AVERAGE COST PER PERSON: $418.25+

VENUE

Elegant or non-traditional venue (which would include outdoor receptions). Elegant venue would offer tables, chairs, cloth tablecloths and napkins and fullservice catering. Non-traditional venue would require rental of basic items such as tables, chairs, linens; which are budgeted in the per person cost.

FOOD

Butler passed hors dâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;oeuvres, champagne and wine. Dinner would offer multiple choices and higher end options (filet mignon, prime rib, seafood, etc.). Full

COST FOR A 250 PERSON WEDDING: $104,562.50

service staff on-site including an event manager. BEVERAGES BRIDAL ATTIRE

Bride and groom provide complimentary hosted bar for entire reception. Couture gown and accessories. Bride would have a hair and make-up artist onsite for her bridal party.

TUXEDOS CEREMONY

COST FOR A 400 PERSON WEDDING:

FLOWERS

Couture tuxedo rental or suit purchase. Hired musicians and vocalists. Fee for officiant/organist. Bridal party flowers. Altar floral arrangements and pew dĂŠcor. Guest table centerpieces customized. Both low and tall profile floral arrangements incorporated.

$167,300.00 LINENS/CHAIRS CUSTOM LIGHTING MUSIC CAKE

Floor-length linens rented. Chair covers and sashes or rental chairs rented. Subtle up-lighting rented. Cocktail hour musicians hired. Live band hired for dance. Custom bridal cake to serve all guests or custom desserts/cupcakes.

PHOTOGRAPHY

Experienced photographer (more than 4 years).

VIDEOGRAPHY

Experienced videographer (more than 4 years).

BRIDAL PARTY GIFTS

Personalized gifts for all bridal party members.

INVITATIONS

Custom designed save-the-dates, invitations, menu cards, and place cards. Postage included for save-the-dates, invitations and thank you cards.

TRANSPORTATION

Limousine or custom vehicle for bride and groom. Additional limousine for bridal party.

WELCOME GIFTS FOR OUT-OF-TOWN GUESTS FAVORS

Welcome bags/baskets for all traveling out-of-town guests to be presented when they check in t hotels. Personalized favors for all guests. 18

o GUEST LIST

Start developing your guest list.

DAINTY TIP: Create your guest list in a spreadsheet. Later on when you send out save the dates, invites, and thank you's, you can print addresses on the envelope the addresses in any font you want with "mail merchant," or simply use it for reference for addresses. Also, buy a book of stamps a week. That way the cost of postage will not ding your wallet .

o CEREMONY TRADITIONS

Select and book your clergy or

officiant and discuss ceremony ideas/traditions.

Of f ici a n t

__________________________________________________________________________________________________

Ide a s ________________________________________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

T r a di t ions

________________________________________________________________________________________________

T he l ook a nd f eel of our w edding is ________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________________

Our fav or i t e c ol or s a r e

____________________________________________________________________

Our c ol or s cheme is

M a in C o l o r s

Accent Colors

ORDER SAVE THE DATES If opting for printed stationery. 19

o DREAM TEAM Book your dream team: the photographer, band/DJ, florist, hair stylist, makeup artist, videographer, venue, baker, and caterers (meet with several to compare costs and find the right fit). Find a wedding coordinator at this time as well, if applicable.

V enue ______________________________________________________ P hone # __________________________________________________ B a k er _____________________________________________________ P hone # __________________________________________________ C at er er __________________________________________________ P hone # __________________________________________________

DAINTY TIP: If you believe a vendor you are passionate about is in high demand, book them as soon as possible.

W edding C oor din at or ______________________________ P hone #

__________________________________________________

H a ir S t y l is t ___________________________________________ P hone # __________________________________________________ M a k eup A r t is t

________________________________________

P hone # __________________________________________________ P ho t ogr a p her _________________________________________ P hone # __________________________________________________ B a nd/ D J ________________________________________________ P hone # _________________________________________________ F l or is t ___________________________________________________ P hone # __________________________________________________ V ideogr a p her __________________________________________ P hone # __________________________________________________ 20

(612) 238-4444 // damicocatering.com // eventmanagers@damico.com

“Don’t be afraid to take a fun, creative approach with the menu and bar! Worry less about trying to please everyone and more about delighting them with a fresh, new experience.” — Christie M. Altendorf, D’Amico Catering

HOW A R E YO U FEELIN G ? +

BRIDEZILLA STRESSED NERVOUS

HAPPY

EXCITED

READY

o SEND SAVE THE DATES

Alert out-of-town guests about the date and send a save the date (physical copy or electronic).

o HOTEL ROOM

Reserve a block of rooms at the hotel(s) for out-of-town guests. Book your wedding hotel room accommodations at the same time.

Gue s t Ho t el _______________________________________________ P hone # _____________________________________________________ Our Ho t el __________________________________________________ P hone # _____________________________________________________ DAINTY TIP: Try to block and book hotels close to the reception venue. Also consider blocking hotels with different price points so your guests have options.

Nikki Lopez // nikki.lopaz@sfcchotel.com

TIP S FO R A H OTE L W E DD ING ++

Know what’s included with your wedding reception package. At the Holiday Inn City Centre, we offer complimentary table linens, linen napkins, china, flatware, centerpieces (just to mention a few), as well as helping you eliminate stress by setting up those wedding items for you. Save on those extra expenses with a venue that will go the extra mile for your wedding reception!

If you really are looking for a deal, then be flexible on the day of the week or time of year for your wedding. You can save costs based on the day of the week. Did you know booking a Thursday reception can save you on average 20% from a Saturday night affair?

Book your wedding suite the night before your reception

in order to guarantee early check-in. At the Holiday Inn City Centre, we offer a special rate for all of our couples! ++

Know your guest list. Have a good estimation of how many guests will be attending. Many hotels offer multiple ballrooms with different guest capacities. The Holiday Inn City Centre can create a beautiful-small intimate reception for 90 guests or a large-dramatic wedding for up to 400 guests. It’s great to have options!

Ensure your guests have a place to stay. Typically hotels will offer a discounted rate for a room block to accommodate your guests. Although hotel procedures vary, we can provide a custom URL for you to provide to your guests to make booking a breeze. Located in the heart of downtown and the largest hotel in SD, your guests will always have an amazing experience at the Holiday Inn City Centre!

— April McCormick, Event & Meeting Manager 24

6 TO 9 MONTHS

$1,281 THE AVERAGE AMOUNT BRIDES SPEND ON THEIR WEDDING DRESS, ACCORDING TO A NATIONAL SURVEY BY THEKNOT.COM.

Our C at er er _______________________________________________

Budge t $

______________________

A p p e t izer s ________________________ __________________________________________________________________ ^ En t r ée ________________________________________________________________________________________________ T re at s + S w ee t s __________________________________________________________________________________

Our F l or is t ____________________________________ Budge t $________________________________________

o Br ide's B ouque t

o Bou t onnières

o Br ide sm a id s' B ouque t s o Cen t er p iece s o F l ow er Crow ns o Cer emon y Déc or

o Corsages

o o o o o o o

Groom Groomsmen Fat h e r Fat h e r - i n - l aw S t e p - Fat h e r G r a n d fat h e r s Ushers

o o o o o

Mother M o t h e r - i n - l aw, Step- Mother Grandmothers P e r s o n a l At t e n d a n t s 25

lateliercouturebridal.com// (612) 367-8120 // info@lateliercouturebridal.com

B RIDAL T I M E L I N E … ++ We recommend purchasing your gown 6-8 months in advance to account for time for alterations. Honestly it is never too soon to purchase your wedding gown as it can help you set the tone for your wedding day knowing what you are wearing! All of our gowns are custom order and made for you at the time of purchase, which is why we recommend ordering your gown so far in advance. It is helpful to also purchase accessories such as a sash or veil at the time of your wedding gown so that there is not a delay in their arrival, as many of these items can also be special order and need a minimum of 4 months to produce. ++ We recommend starting your alterations 2 months prior to your wedding day with your final fitting 2 weeks prior to your big day. You need to have your shoes before your fittings so

that the seamstress knows how long to pin your hem length. ++ Having difficulty choosing your wedding shoes? Have fun with them! Your shoes are only visible as you are stepping forward and only peek out slightly from beneath your hem. This is why we encourage our brides to find a shoe they love and would want to wear again! Same with your jewelry — purchase accessories you truly would wear again! Traditionally you should be wearing your shoes and jewelry for your anniversary. ++ Shopping at a bridal boutique is special because we want the entire process to be joyful for you as a bride and hope to make your gown purchase and experience as seamless and memorable as possible! —Madeline Bergeson, Store Manager 26

Bride [Budge t $______________________ ]

Groom [Budge t $______________________ ]

Dress

T u x / S u i t [ C o at, s h i r t, v e s t, p a n t s ]

Veil

Shoes / Socks

Shoes

Tie/ Bow Tie

Hair Piece / Jewelry

C u f f- l i n k s

Bride sm a id s [Budge t $______________________ ]

Groomsmen [Budge t $______________________ ]

Dress

T u x / S u i t [ C o at, s h i r t, v e s t, p a n t s ]

Veil

Shoes / Socks

Shoes

Tie/ Bow Tie

Hair Piece / Jewelry

C u f f- l i n k s

o REGISTER R egis t er ed at:

Begin to register.

_______________________________________________________________________________________

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DAINTY TIP: Choose at least two stores. The best bet is to choose one online store and one brick and mortar store. 27

(605) 361-9745 // Sioux Falls: 2425 S. Shirley Ave. // www.tttux.com "The watch, the cufflinks, the bow-tie and even the socks you wear on your wedding day have the amazing gift of bringing your personality into the picture. Don't be afraid to get creative, especially if your wedding is on the more informal side of things!" â&#x20AC;&#x201D; Jenni Newton, Tip Top Tux 28

o PLAN HONEYMOON

Plan your honeymoon if you will be taking

one right away.

Dr e a m hone y moon ?

____________________________________________________________________________

DAINTY TIP: If you do not take your honeymoon right away, consider staying a couple nights in your hotel for a mini getaway or drive to a nearby city or cabin for a few days.

o HEALTH ROUTINE

Start an exercise and health routine.

DAINTY TIP: Write up a calendar so you know what day to focus on what.

P h ysic a l F i t ne s s

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_________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Be au t y Rou t ine

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Men ta l F i t ne s s

__________________________________________________________________________________________

Borsheims.com // 1 (800) 642-GIFT "We encourage all couples to be true to themselves when they register. Don't be swayed by others opinions or trends, because in the end it is you who will be enjoying all your new items!" â&#x20AC;&#x201D; Jacquelyn Bevilacqua, Borsheims

HOW A R E YO U FEEL IN G ? +

BRIDEZILLA STRESSED NERVOUS

HAPPY

EXCITED

READY

o STATIONERY Choose your wedding stationery and verbiage and get

them ordered. Hire a calligrapher if desired.

Invite

R . S .V. P.

Place Cards

M a p o f L o c at i o n s

Program

Ta b l e N u m b e r s

OTHER

DAINTY TIP: While evites are becoming more common, paper invites set an elegant tone. Decide on your stationery's wording based on the theme or style of your wedding day. ie. Casual, religious, black tie, etc.

o WEDDING RINGS

Shop for wedding rings.

Ring Budge t $______________________________________________

1 (800) 741-7609 // www.riddlesjewelry.com // sales@riddlesjewelry.com

"Stackable ring styles paired with an engagement ring can add character unique to you, or they can be stacked up on their own to create a fun and eclectic look." â&#x20AC;&#x201D; Riddle's Jewelry 32

CON T INUE T O CONF IRM V ENDORS

170 ROUGHLY THE AVERAGE AMOUNT OF WEDDING GUESTS AT MIDWEST WEDDINGS.

Ho s t + Ho s t e s s ________________________________________________________________________________ Gue s t B ook + Gif t s ___________________________________________________________________________ R e a der s ___________________________________________________________________________________________ C a k e Cu t t er _____________________________________________________________________________________

washingtonpavilion.org // (605) 367-7397 ext. 2345 // events@washingtonpavilion.org

O U R TO P 5 TI PS FO R P L ANN I N G YOU R WEDD I N G ++ SET A BUDGET + STICK TO IT. As uncomfortable as it may be, sit down with all parties involved to find out what everyone is contributing. Once you have a set budget, stick to it. Nothing will create more stress than being over your budget.

++ DRAFT A GUEST LIST BEFORE LOOKING FOR A VENUE. When shopping for a venue, the first question you will be asked is, 'How

many guests are you expecting?' Have a concrete idea so that you don’t end up with 300 guests in a 100-person venue or over paying for the 300-person venue when you could have saved money on a smaller space. It doesn’t have to be exact, but it needs to be close.

++ PICK A DATE RANGE BEFORE LOOKING FOR A VENUE. Do not settle on a date and then go shopping for your venue, entertainment, and other aspects of the event. Pick a season or a range of dates. Know that your venue books many events every year, so you may need to be flexible if your venue is where you absolutely want to be.

++ PRIORITIZE WHERE YOU WILL SPEND YOUR MONEY. Create a list 1-5 of what is most important to you as far as food, bar, entertainment, photos, and décor. Then apply your budget to this list accordingly.

++ GET ORGANIZED. Create a timeline so you know when tasks need to be accomplished. Get all your important phone numbers in one place. Create a checklist and worksheets. Do whatever you need to do to be as organized as possible. Nothing says 'I’ve got this' like checklists and bullet points. —Allyson Kasch 34

L oc at ion

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Dat e + T ime

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F ood + Drink

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Or der ed a nd/or P urch a sed o

Dishes

P o r ta b l e T o i l e t s

Chairs

Ta b l e s

Tents

Napkins

Linens

F l at wa r e

Wedding Part y

Parents

Spouse to be 35

Jane Rae EVENT PLANNING

(605) 201-5043 // kjmurphy@janeraeeventplanning.com // www.janeraeeventplanning.com

"There are so many fun wedding ideas out there for you to choose from, it's hard to know where to begin! My advice, remember what the day is about - you and your fiance are getting married! Create a day that is a reflection of the two of you. Also, it's not just about the big day but it's enjoying the journey getting there!" â&#x20AC;&#x201D; Katie Murphy, Jane Rae Event Planning

3 TO 5 MONTHS

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thegorecki.com // (701) 777-2611 // events@UNDalumni.net

"Choose a venue that offers a Wedding Coordinator. They will save you stress during your planning process and especially on the day of your wedding. They will likely think of the small details that you would have not considered. You worked so hard on your wedding day details and a Wedding Coordinator will make sure all those details come to life!" â&#x20AC;&#x201D; Keeley Gregoire, Gorecki Alumni Center

3 TO 5 MONTHS

Cer emon y Mu sic S ol o s

Our En t r a nce

____________________________

___________________________________________

F ir s t Da nce

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Mo t her + S on Da nce

______________________

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R ecep t ion En t r a nce

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Fat her + Daugh t er Da nce W edding Pa r t y

__________________

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A lt e r n at i v e

Blues

Classical

Dance

Folk

Hip Hop / Rap

Indie

Jazz

New Age

Pop

R&B / Soul

Reggae

Electronic

L at i n

Rock

other

pinnacleprodj.com // (605) 376-5716 // info@pinnacleprodj.com

T IP S O N CH OO S ING TH E R I G HT M US I C FO R YO UR CE L EB RAT ION … ++ Understand that different styles should be used to signify and differentiate the vibe from the cocktails to the dinner to the dance. Wedding receptions have typically the largest demographic represented than almost any other type of entertainment function. Familiarity is KEY. We certainly want the music to reflect our personal preferences, but we must bear in mind that we want our guests to connect with music. ++ Choose music that pays homage to those we love. Music has the power to take us back to a beautiful memory. Find some of the songs that were influential to your

parents, grandparents, or other family songs that hold special meanings. Music that doesn’t connect is just background noise. Take some time to ask these questions before the wedding during the holidays or family gatherings. ++ Decide on your formal dance songs. We’re here! We’re sharing our first dance and our dance with our father or mother! For years we wondered how this moment would play out. Picking THE song that pays tribute to these relationships is a beautiful way to say “thank you” for all that you’ve done and for loving me. ++ Create Must Play and Do Not Play lists. No two wedding receptions are exactly the same, so it should not come as a surprise that the playlists can vary greatly from weekend to weekend. However, there are several “core” songs that get most crowds going and will be sure to pack a dance floor. Must Play lists should be songs that

are totally about you and your crew! The songs that we went crazy over in high school and college and take us back to prom night, homecoming, or that road trip with our besties. On the contrary, Do Not Play lists are songs that we clearly despise. Whether it’s the "Chicken Dance" (deservedly so) or "Sweet Caroline," some songs just don’t work for us, and that’s completely okay. ++ Requests. There are some good ones, and some songs that make the DJ cringe. We’ve been asked to play songs about infidelity ("Before He Cheats," "Gunpowder & Lead," etc.) and drug use ("Cocaine," etc.) and guests are dumbfounded when we say no. If the song is appropriate and if the songs fits in with the vibe the couple wants, absolutely we will play it! —Chris Hintz, Owner 40

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++ Use battery-operated candles. Even the slightest breeze will extinguish the flame of your votives. The flameless candles will ensure a warm glow throughout the evening.

Follow the ABC Plan for your outdoor wedding: ++ A. Absolutely perfect day: Plan for warm sunshine, slight breeze, and no precipitation. ++ B. Back-up plan: Think about the what-ifs; rain or wind. ++ C. Contingency: Is there room to move the ceremony and reception indoors?

++ Plan centerpieces that are low profile and weighted to avoid being blown over. ++ Always have plenty of water available for your guests on those extremely hot summer days. ++ Notify your guests in the invitation that they will be attending an outdoor wedding so they may dress accordingly. â&#x20AC;&#x201D;JoAnn Weller

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o HAIR + MAKEUP Have hair and makeup done. DAINTY TIP: Try to be 10 minutes early to delegate bridal party.

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o OPEN GIFTS TOGETHER Open gifts together or with family

and friends the next day. Delegate someone to write down gifts and names for thank you notes.

o THANK YOUR PARENTS

Before you leave or after you get back from your honeymoon, write a thank you note to your parents and possibly send them a gift, like flowers.

o HONEYMOON Go on your honeymoon!

o WRITE THANK YOU NOTES

Write remainder of thank you

notes promptly. Three months is the very latest.

o FINISH REGISTRY + EXCHANGE

Finish registry and

exchange any duplicates or unwanted gifts.

o WEDDING DRESS CLEANED

cleaned and/or preserved by a reputable company.

o CHANGE YOUR LAST NAME

Have your wedding dress

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as soon as possible! If applicable.

o KEEP IN TOUCH Keep in touch with photography and/or videographer for albums, DVDs, etc.

o ENJOY Enjoy being married!

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