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to be released this year. The pint-sized New Zealander, who BeeTeeDubs is only 19 years old, doesn’t have a release date set but it’s supposed to be the first half of the year. Nine Inch Nails Frontman Trent Reznor tweeted back in December that there will be “New NIN coming in 2016. Other stuff, too.” That’s enough reason for me to get excited about it all. This new album will be the follow up to 2013’s Hesitation Marks. Sia This Is Acting January 29 Sia’s This Is Acting is the only album on this list with a release date and a title. Her newest work heavily includes songs written for other artists that they rejected. Clutch the pearls! Who wouldn’t want a Sia song?! Bunch of skanks, that’s who! Her lead single, “Alive”, was originally written for Adele, but she said, “No Fanks!” Lady Gaga Whether you love or hated her in American Horror Story: Hotel, you gotta admit: Bitch did her thang! And her critically acclaimed collabo with Tony Bennett, Cheek To Cheek, was an unThe New Year has barely started, and we’re already looking expected little gem. forward to what 2016 will bring in terms of albums from some Now heading back into the studio with favorite artists. her early-in-her-career producers like RedOne, we can expect Before we get started, though, a heads up: A lot of these albums Lady G’s triumphant return to dance-pop. are still speculative. Either the artists on this list have hinted that they will be dropping a new album this year, or they stated Rihanna that they specifically plan to release one. Some already have Anti It’s 2015 all over again! The Queen of Shade and Tease, is set to release dates and album titles set, but the majority don’t. release her eighth studio album, Anti. Again. This time around So don’t get mad if the year goes by and your favorite artist on though, with a worldwide tour. Rihanna better get her shit tothis list still hasn’t released an album, kinda like what Rihanna gether and actually release the album – though I don’t think I can did in 2015. So let’s hop on The Hot Mess Express Train of be anymore #overit. Speculation and get this list underway. Honorable Mentions Of course, David Bowie’s album Blackstar is already out. It’s Macklemore and Ryan Lewis, Gorillaz, Paramore, Katy Perry, beyond poetic that it dropped on his birthday and just 48 hours Tove Lo, and Missy Elliot all have hinted that they will release an before his death. True to form, it’s weird, it’s dark, it’s eccen- album in 2016. Cross your fingers! tric, and perhaps it’s David Bowie’s most “Bowie” album ever. The first single is almost 10 minutes long and is definitely worth DJ Marc J Cubs checking out. Trust me, it’s good. DJ Marc J Cubs is a beat bandit and columnist living in Atlanta. Watch for him spinning various events and venLorde ues around town. Send your musical questions and comIt’s been three years – count ‘em, three! – since “Royals” domiments to him via this magazine. nated every radio station on the planet. Everyone’s favorite little goth chick has already picked out a title for her new album
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This was truly one rewarding experience. It was one of the first times I had actually watched the entire parade since the early 2000s. Working with the 11Alive crew was a treat. … I look forward to doing this year again. What motivates you as a person? Motivation comes from deep inside me. I just know when I support something I give 110 percent. No half ass anything with me. It’s all about that organization shining not me. That’s when I feel completely satisfied. When I was chosen as a pride grand marshal in 2014, I was totally embarrassed. It was something I never expected. I am one who doesn’t do anything for the spotlight…but the love I felt from our community riding down Peachtree and 10th streets will be one I take with me forever. Will we see Wild Cherry Sucret in the near future?
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She sometimes gets the itch and it has to be scratched. April is Boybutante Ball in Athens and June is the East Point Possums Show, so she will have to dust that wig off soon enough.
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ony Kearney has donned many hats over the years. Perhaps the one he is best known for is the colorful headdress of Wild Cherry Sucret, his alter ego who is also a member of Atlanta’s Armorettes and Athens’ infamous Sucret sisters of Boybutante.
How does it feel to be selected Being an emcee, people have heard a lot of my story. I’d have to say as Tony January 2016’s David Hero? that I am very shy. With my friends I am It’s very exciting to be recognized. I am certainly not. Throw me in a bar where I weekly reader of David magazine, and know no one, I will become the quietest I’m glad there is a publication to engage wallpaper you will see. And maybe anthe LGBT community on what’s going on other surprise is that I am tired of being in our city. David seems to represent all single! Any takers? facets of the Atlanta LGBT community, which makes them superior to all others. So yes, I am beyond ecstatic that you guys chose me.
Beyond Cherry, Kearney is a man of great heart and unyielding compassion. For decades, he has devoted his time in and out of drag to countless charities and organizations including Atlanta Pride, the MISTER Center, and Lost N Why do you volunteer for the causes Found Youth. He has been particularly you choose? active in the fights for gay rights and against HIV/AIDS. I was raised to give back to my community and not worry about recognition for it. You While honoring Kearney as our first give from the heart. I choose things where David Atlanta Hero of the New Year, I know I can make an impact. I love to get we were able to catch a deeper glimpse others excited as well about the cause so into this man of many talents. Get to that they can engage and excite others as know more about him as he opens up well. Kinda like a chain reaction. about his love for life, what he holds dearest, and if Wild Cherry will rise How was it sitting in the Channel 11 booth at the 2015 Pride Parade? from the grave once again. 24 | 1.27.16
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Beating back winter blues
by Mike Fleming
IF YOUR POST-HOLIDAY SLUMP TURNED INTO FULLON WINTER BLUES, YOU’RE NOT ALONE. FOLLOW OUR GUIDE TO NOT JUST SURVIVE, BUT STRIVE AND THRIVE, ALL THE WAY TO SPRING. The holly-jollies of December and your celebration of nips in the air are long gone. Netflix and pornhub are endless, but their entertainment value isn’t. You don’t care if you never see another sweater, and it’s basically too damn cold to do anything but hole up under a blanket and pray for the sweet relief of spring.
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Wake up and get up. We’ve all been there, and there’s actually a reason for Yes, really. Throwing back those covers may feel like the those wintertime doldrums. Shorter days with less sun last thing you want to do in the morning, but sleeping cause the brain to spend more energy producing melatonin, too much makes you even more tired. Short winter days which regulates sleep patterns and is directly linked to de- already give you less time to soak in revitalizing sunlight, so expression. You get the “sads,” but SAD is actually a thing – tending your night’s sleep just exacerbates the problem. Seasonal Affective Disorder – and it affects only 1 percent of Floridians but more than half of people above the MasonGet out. Dixon line. Because science. Now that you’re up, leave. Even a few minutes of fresh air a day can make a huge difference. Take part in the world, But who cares why you feel this way, right? You just want put yourself around other people, and remember there’s it to stop. Make the most out of the colder months and be more to life than your office, your bed, and your sofa. The cold ahead of the game by springtime. Here are the steps that isn’t going to kill you, and getting bundled up for a wintery outing actually work. can keep you sane. 26 | 1.27.16
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Daydrinking Speaking of getting out, Atlanta’s friendly neighborhood gay bars are open and pouring with activities throughout the cold months. Keep an eye on their ads in David Atlanta for fun stuff worth leaving home for.
Cocktail by night for sure, but you can also combine it with your wintertime need for sunshine by bar hopping during daylight hours. Sunday funday isn’t just for patio weather anymore, and the 10th Street bars, as well as Ansley II, are ready for you. Here’s to your health!
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Work out. Getting the blood pumping warms you up. Duh. But more than that, it keeps your mind sharp so the sads (and the SAD) don’t eat you alive. One study found that simply walking 35 minutes a day, three times a week, can stave off mild to moderate depression.
If you need even more motivation to get off your butt and move a little, remember your efforts on your fitness now will pay off when swimsuit season returns.
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Make it public. Doing your workout at a gym, park or track also affords you the winter advantage to be around other humans, and yes in this case, hot ones working on their bodies. Last week’s issue of David highlighted some of Midtown’s favorite gay and gay-friendly gyms. Check out davidatlanta.com if you need a recommendation.
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Brighten up to lighten up. OK, so it sounds like pop psychology, but surrounding yourself with light and color really helps you feel better. Wear bright colors, and your mood will follow. Research and the 2016 runways say so.
You can also use light therapy. Since your body is literally craving more daylight, sit by window, or just throw open the shades during the day. Lightboxes are also pretty affordable (Google it), and one study goes as far to say that sitting by one for half an hour is as effective as an antidepressant. 28 | 1.27.16
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Eat smart and love the D. This is your go-ahead to eat dark chocolate and drink coffee, in moderation. They elevate the mood and ease anxiety. But don’t be fooled; other candy, carbs and any processed sugar ultimately increase despair after an initial euphoria. Avoid them especially during winter. Yes you should always eat well and take your vitamins. You knew that. But did you know that your body gets most, if not all, of its Vitamin D3 from the sun? During winter, you could literally be starving for it. It helps with everything from digestion to the immune system, and 90 percent of Americans don’t get enough of it. Some people who don’t get outside much take D3 supplements all year ‘round. Consider adding it or upping it until the planet tilts back toward the big D3 supply in the sky.
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Crank the tunes. They don’t add soundtracks to movies because it’s pretty; they do it to enhance the mood. Create a playlist that does the same for the movie of your life this winter.
Hint: Not Adele. It may look like a movie and sound like song, but that shit is depressing.
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Make plans. Looking toward the future can be one of the best spirit lifters that there is. Find something to look forward to when the days are short and the nights are long and lonely. Plan a vacation, a weekend, or just a night out on the town.
Flip to Datebook in every issue of David Atlanta to see what’s up this week and make plans, and of course check out the ads for bar and venue happenings. And remember, spring is coming. Just visualizing what you’ll do when it gets here can help.
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Act on your resolutions. So you gave up on your New Year’s promises to yourself already, and it’s got you down. Take a look at our posts on setting good New Year goals, as well as easy resolutions you can totally keep, in our online archive at davidatlanta.com. Beyond that, it’s never too late to take a babystep toward a goal. In fact, the CDC found there’s a powerful connection between healthy behaviors and overall happiness. You feel better about life if you make even the smallest strides forward and celebrate them.
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Why do gay men cheat?
by Dustin Shrader
A LOOK AT THE KEY CAUSES FOR WHY HE SAYS HE LOVES YOU BUT IS SLEEPING WITH HIM. OR THEM. AND WHY YOU MAY BE DOING THE SAME THING TO HIM.
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tereotypes abound concerning gay men, but there is one that flies further than most others: Why is it so difficult for gay men to maintain a faithful, monogamous relationship?
This one can all too often be all too true.
madly in love with our partner or boyfriend. These guys may be hard-pressed to resist the willing stud who just walked by and gave them the nod. With today’s technology, these simple encounters are right at a gay man’s fingertips. All the apps like Grindr, Scruff, Jack’d and Tinder ease the process of sexual rendezvous. You can have a warm masculine body on top of you in minutes if he lives close by. Easy anonymous access isn’t very conducive to your otherwise healthy relationship.
Physicality isn’t the only reason your man may be stepping out. According to psychologist Dr. Weston Edwards, an expert on inSome men may get huffy about that little piece of honesty, but fidelity, men may cheat for the following reasons: hey, facts are facts. Too many gay brothers have felt the sting of betrayal or actually been the stinger. We’re men, and that can GOAL ORIENTED. mean we’re animalistic creatures with a formidable sex drive. Men are fixers, conquerors of the unattainable. “Sexual behavior can often times be a means to an end. This might be around Consider the way of life that so typical of so many. There are survival sex; ‘I need a place to live,’ for example. It can include thousands, even millions of gay men out there, all with a randy the “badge of honor” when a person can brag, ‘I had sex with libido. Some may control it better than others, yet is it really that that hot guy.’” It can also be about getting revenge or use of surprising, pardon the pun, that the body count of gay relation- money and/or drugs. ships is high? EMOTIONAL VALIDITY. So many of us can remove emotion from sex all for sheer physi- Sex is designed to bring partners closer, solidifying love and cal pleasure, even if we’re also simultaneously head over heels, commitment. Dr. Weston says, “In our society, monogamy 36 | 1.27.16
emphasizes this reason for having sex. So then, the lack of a satisfying emotional relationship may lead to sexual contact outside the primary relationship. To be fair, in some cases, having an emotional connection isn’t limited to monogamous sexual relationships, and you will find plenty of men in so-called open relationships who do have emotional connection and satisfaction.”
INSECURITY. Confidence and self-esteem is undeniably important to any man, and perhaps especially a gay one. We all know how judgmental we queens are, and if you catch your guy cheating these may be the excuses he throws out: “I feel so insecure, I needed to feel wanted.” “This hot guy was chasing me.” “I couldn’t say no.” Every scenario is different, of course. These are just some of the common factors that plague most cheating relationships. When the right motivation presents itself, he or you may pull the trigger and act on the “what if” feelings you have been harboring. So breaking it all down, instead of asking why we gay men cheat, maybe we can look internally and see if the real question is, Why do you cheat? davidatlanta.com | 37
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process it and the foundation can turn from concrete to crepe paper in a blink. The most difficult moment was when the person responsible for the sexual abuse was caught red-handed, right in the act. The family member who caught us just looked for a moment then quietly closed the door. They did nothing. My feelings were marginalized with quips of, “Don’t be a sissy. Grow up,” and my dreams were dashed as unrealistic. The structure that housed my soul had a foundation of crepe paper, walls of cloth and a roof of absence.
House of the soul
by Chris Vizzini
REVISITING THE PAST IN ORDER TO CLOSE THE DOOR ON IT. HERE’S PROOF THERE’S HOPE AFTER A CHILDHOOD ‘MASS OF CONFUSION AND DARK EXPERIENCES.’ FIRST I WANT TO THANK YOU for reading and for your feedback. It seems I’m not alone in this strange candlelit land where we wander about trying not to trip over ourselves, each other or our experiences. I’ve been asked by some of you, what exactly lead up to the misadventures that landed me in the soup?
extra challenges that most kids skirt, like bullying, internal homophobia and lack of family acceptance.
My formative years were a mass of confusion and dark experiences. My mother married many times, and we moved around quite a bit. I’m a small guy, and other kids could sense that something Some people’s formative years go as was “different,” making me an easy tarplanned, and we get a well-adjusted hu- get for bullying. I simply gave up in the man living with a firm foundation. Not 9th grade and quit school. that their lives are always rainbows and good blowjobs, but they have a founda- FROM THE AGES OF 5 to 14, there tion that affords them a vantage point was also sexual abuse from an older into make solid, well thought-out choices. house family member. This is a controversial topic even today, and I mention For others, the foundation isn’t as it because it’s the story of far too many sturdy. This may be a bit more prevalent gay men. When a child is introduced in the gay community, as we shoulder to sexuality, they’re not equipped to 46 | 1.27.16
I went on to choose poorly in relationships, learned to drink away the pain, and ostracized people. I formed a titanium exoskeleton, and nobody was getting in. Beyond that were poor choices, and the biggest was choosing to reside in the poorly constructed house of my soul for way too long. IF YOU CAN RELATE to any of this, here comes the good part! In the physical world, we can move residence whenever we like. Thankfully, this also applies to the house of your soul. You have the freedom, choice and right to get the fuck out of there, no matter what people say or how badly they try to keep you there. It is possible and entirely within your reach. Whatever the circumstances that lead to making the ramshackle house in which your soul resides, think about this: Where you came from and what happened to you does not define who you are, nor does it dictate how you have to live. You do. You are the one with the power. The scars will always be there, but we don’t have to live in the time when we received them. No matter what happened in the past, staying there only keeps you frozen in time. Acknowledge it, just try not to live there. All it takes is the choice to build a new house for your soul. You deserve it. So pack up and kick yourself out. There will be tough times, but stay focused. Trust me, once your hard work starts to gel, you will enjoy the journey more than you can imagine. Chris Vizzini is a freelance writer living in Atlanta. Reach him via this magazine.
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the D list David Atlanta’s weekly list of truths all gay men have come to know
He doesn’t ask about your life but does ask about your car.
Your religious, political or sexual proclivities don’t match. Run.
Lack of flirting: casual touching, smizing, etc.
He hasn’t looked you in the eye for an hour.
He keeps talking about how much the date is costing.
You’re each scrolling through your phone.
He says you’d really like this blood ritual he’s been practicing.
At the end of the night, you now know more about his ex than you do him.
10 signs this date is so over
There’s no discussion of getting together again.
Racism, ageism or other douchebag-isms. #aintnobodygottimeforthat
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10TH & PIEDMONT Half Price Happy Hour Menu 5-7pm BLAKE’S TGIF with Doug & Brent 3-9pm • “Deadly Vixens” Drag Show 11pm • Bill Berdeaux Spins Street Level BURKHART’S FEMME FATALE with Destiny Brooks and Justice Taylor at 11PM CLUB RUSH “Got Leche” Free entry until 11pm 18 & up - Open until 4am EAGLE DJ Dance Party FELIX’S Pour It On Me Rock Party w/DJ Darlene and our Sexy Shot Bois- 10pm FRIENDS Happy Time Friday Kelly & Ken 6 pm G’S Friday Night Dance Party with DJ Ryan Baker 10PM HERETIC PUMP featuring Atlanta’s hottest deejays - Occasional special events. No cover b4 11 HIDEAWAY $5 Smirnoff drinks & Martinis DJ Marc J. Cubs @10pm in back room JUNGLE The Other Show with Edie Cheezburger 9:30pm LIPS ATLANTA Glitz & Glamour Las Vegas Style MODEL T Texas Hold’em Poker 9pm MY SISTER’S ROOM Dance Party upstairs featuring Drag, DJs & Hosts OSCAR’S Music Video Night SWINGING RICHARDS T-Shirt Review,$10 TEN ATLANTA Music & Videos by DJ Daryl Cox 10pm
Tuesday BLAKE’S Latin Night with Guest DJ’s • 1/2 Priced Menu ‘til Midnight BURKHART’S DRAG-EOKE with Angelica D’Paige at 10PM CLUB RUSH “Tipsy Tuesday” 18 & up - Open until 4am FELIX’S Karaoke with Darlene - 10pm HIDEAWAY Game night: Poker and blackjack 7:30 Trivia with Jason Walker 8:30 LAS MARGARITAS Cuban Night - $12.95 All You Can Eat Cuban Buffet & $5 Mojitos MODEL T Texas Hold’em Poker 7pm MY SISTER’S ROOM Industry Night OSCAR’S Show Tune Tuesday with Chad- 8 pm SWINGING RICHARDS 1/2 Price cover
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BLAKE’S Party Pop wth Doug 3-9pm. “Voyeur Wednesday” Go-go guys, 10 p.m. BURKHART’S HUMPDAY KARAOKE with Darlene at 10PM FELIX’S Wild Out Wednesday w/Nicole Paige Brooks, Mychelle LaCroix DuPree & Mo’Dest Volgare - 11pm FRIENDS Hump Night with Regina Simms HERETIC WarpZone Video Game Night 7pm - Pig Dance Black Out Party DJ Stan Jackson 10pm-3am NO COVER HIDEAWAY Beauty and the beat! Ruby Redd Charity Bingo @8:30 free to play. karaoke W/ Tyler @ 11:00 $ 3.00 well drinks all day long LIPS ATLANTA Bitchy Bingo MODEL T Wonderful Wednesdays 7pm MY SISTER’S ROOM Karaoke
10TH & PIEDMONT Bottomless Mimosa Brunch BLAKE’S Open at 1pm • “Glitter Bomb” w Edie Cheezburger, Shavonna Brooks • Guest DJs Upstairs 10pm-close. BURKHART’S SYNERGY with Shawnna Brooks and Monica Van Pelt at 11PM CAMPAGNOLO Legendary Musician Robert Ray on the piano 10pm-1am EAGLE DJ Dance Party FELIX’S Superstar Karaoke w/Diva Darlene and our Sexy Shot Bois - 10pm FRIENDS Free Pool with Bryan 2-6 pm; Let’s Make A Deal with Ken 6-10 pm HERETIC Varies. EARLY COUNTRY (8pm-12:30am) & LATE NIGHT DANCE with Billboard DJ MIKE POPE @12:30-close. No cover except special events. HIDEAWAY $2.50 All Well Drinks JUNGLE Fantasy Girls 9pm; Club Night, Various Guest DJ’s LIPS ATLANTA Glitz & Glamour Las Vegas Style MODEL T Texas Hold’em Poker 3pm MY SISTER’S ROOM Brunch 11:30am-4pm - Dance Party upstairs featuring Drag, DJs & Hosts OSCAR’S DJ Christopher Kind SWINGING RICHARDS T-Shirt Review $10 TEN ATLANTA Music & Videos by DJ Rob Reum 10pm
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10TH & PIEDMONT Bellini Brunch BLAKE’S Open at 1pm - Bloody Mary’s with Robin. Texas Hold em Poker Upstairs 2pm. High Energy with DJs Will Bryan & Bill Berdeaux. BURKHART’S Tossed Salad hosted by Brigitte Bidet - Music & Drinks 8pm - Showtime 9pm CLUB RUSH Hip Hop and R&B - 18 & up - Open until 4am FELIX’S Bloody Mary & Mimosa’s All Day FRIENDS DJ hosts Sunday Delights 2 pm-closing HIDEAWAY $3.50 wells the Armorettes @8:00 LIPS ATLANTA Gospel Brunch w/ Bubba D. Licious LAS MARGARITAS Papi’s $17.95 Unlimited Brunch & Choice of Mimosas, Sangrias, Bloody Maria’s, & Mojitos MODEL T Karaoke for a Cause 8pm MY SISTER’S ROOM Brunch 11:30am-4pm - T Dance Party featuring $3 Mimosas & $5 Bloody Marys TEN ATLANTA Brunch 11am & music by DJ Rob Reum inside and DJ Robert Ansley on the patio 4pm
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advice Dear BOB: Like I told CRAZY, preferences are valid until they’re in the way. It sounds like your narrowly defined hankerings are keeping you from what you really want. That’s where preferences turn into challenges. Don’t worry. We got this. There are steps you can take to broaden your sexual horizons. You might not learn to prefer chicken over your all-beef diet, but a nice leg and thigh sometimes can become fun. Rather than relegating him forever to the friend zone because you didn’t pop a boner when you first met, open your mind to the possibilities that the things you love about him could eveutaully sweep you off your feet. Meanwhile, watch porn and fool around with decreasingly hairy guys. Start with moderately hairy, then lightly hairy, etc., until you bust a nut with a smooth one.
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Hey, Daddy! I got bombarded with hateful messages just because my Grindr profile says, “No Fats, No Femmes, No Blacks. No Browns.” I have nothing against these people, but I don’t want to have sex with them. Is that so wrong? – Bitch Isn’t About to Suck Everybody’s Dick
Dear BIASED: In bed, I just want to give head while he whacks me off. While most guys see it as a precursor to drive to- There is a line between preference and prejudice, and you ward the booty, I’m headed downtown to 69th Street, crossed it. Every guy has physical “types,” but writing off entire demographics is shortsighted and rude at best, bigand that’s where the train stops. Am I a freak? oted at worst. —Can’t Resist A Zealous Yank You’ve left zero possibility to ever, under any circumstance, be attracted to one of “these people” as you call them. Dear CRAZY: Knowing what you prefer is one thing; judging a person on There’s only one rule in life: People are freaks. The trick is realiz- one trait without seeing him is another. There’s a word for it, ing that you’re one of them, because the ones who think they’re and I imagine your profile detractors used it. normal are the biggest sideshows of all. Instead, imagine a world in which you usually go for a cerSo yes you’re a freak, but not for this. Everyone has sexual pref- tain type but stay open to the chance that an off-type hottie erences – and I don’t mean your sexual orientation, which is your might turn your crank unexpectedly. Most of us have fallen penchant for penis. In fact, you enjoy the D so much, you want for a guy who initially didn’t interest us. it in your face when you blow your load. Makes perfect sense. In your profile, try praising things you like instead of profiling Never assume “most guys” are doing any one thing. You’ll find things you don’t. You don’t have to announce why you swipe guys to join you. You can learn to enjoy other positions and de- left. Then again, if conscious bigotry is motivating you, keep velop other predilections, but if you’re satisfied, stay the course. your profile as is – so the rest of us can swipe left on you. Hey, Daddy! The greatest guy is interested in me, but he’s lean and nearly hairless. I can only cum with a big, hairy guy. He’s perfect, but the smoothness is a total turn-off. Help! --Brawny Obviously Better 56 | 1.27.16
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fairyscopes ARIES (Mar. 20 – Apr. 19):
LIBRA (Sep. 23 – Oct. 22):
TAURUS (Apr. 20 – May 20):
SCORPIO (Oct. 23 – Nov. 21):
GEMINI (May 21- Jun. 20):
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22 – Dec. 20):
CANCER (Jun. 21- Jul. 22):
CAPRICORN (Dec. 21 – Jan. 19):
LEO (Jul. 23 – Aug. 22):
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20 – Feb. 18):
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You’ll need to come up with unique ways to approach a hectic workday. Drinking plenty of coffee is one solution, as is exercising before heading to work. But your best tactic could be staying in bed, and leaving the mountain of headaches for your coworkers to deal with.
You will be turtle-like today, slow moving and meticulous. Too bad the day will start in overdrive and only get faster from there. You’ll have to ramp up as quickly as possible. You know what happens when the turtle tries to move into the fast lane.
Curb your enthusiasm if a friend approaches you with an interesting business proposition today. Look at his plans from all angles, but remember that business can be like dating. You may find someone who looks attractive, but you’ll only wind up getting screwed, and not in a way you’d like.
Difficulties will arise at work today, but you’ll handle them with the poise of a miracle worker. It’ll be like you have a magic wand and those problems will instantly disappear. Now where was that wand when you needed it last week?
You’ll try to make a good impression with a new acquaintance today. But your massive ego may have him running in the other direction. Toning it down a bit could have you figuring out how to lure him back, and why it is you have so few friends.
The dating game can be played anywhere, even at work. Fix your eyes on coworkers who may be looking at you. Hopefully those colleagues will be guys who play for the same team. Otherwise you may have some ‘splainin’ to do.
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Repeatedly striking out with men recently may have you feeling depressed. Cheer up mate, because it’s the dawning of a whole new day. If you act like a desperate jerk, you’re only going to attract desperate jerks, so accentuate the positive and see what happens.
The boss will be in a good mood today, an opportune time to sell him some of your ideas. You’ll be amazed at how easy that will be, and he’ll give you the green light on all of them. But hopefully it wasn’t the Prozac speaking, and he remembers it tomorrow.
Recent overspending may have left your finances in a weakened and pitiful state. Tighten that belt strap today, and get frugal. You may have to return some favors if you want people to help you out, and hopefully some of them won’t involve taking off your pants.
The high energy with which you’ll greet the day will be countered by slow moving coworkers. You won’t have the patience for their sluggishness, and you’ll tell them so. This won’t make them work any faster, and will cast you as the office pariah for the remainder of the day, if not the week.
Despite your best laid plans, today will be one disaster after another. You won’t be able to figure out why that is, but don’t try to fight it. Go with the flow and you’ll get though this difficult day, but expect frustration and a headache that will feel like your brain is caught in a vice.
You may have to rely on favors from friends in high places today. Being beholden to others is not a comfortable place for you, because there’s no telling what they’ll expect in return. So keep your integrity intact, and don’t do anything that involves farm animals, a leather thong and a blender.
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S E S S I O N You know you’re a mess when your own sister won’t claim you long enough to walk you out of the bar. Rewind back to when I told you how my ex played me and you acted shocked like you weren’t going to do the same thing.
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Don’t be writing comments on Facebook that you can’t back up in person.
When you keep justifying everything with ‘but he’s just so cute.’
Maybe someday you’ll find yourself and wish you hadn’t like the rest of us.
News flash! As a 50+ gay man, home owner, business owner, employer and mentor to several younger gay men I could care less about your assessment of my hair color.
Shut up about New Year’s Eve and finish my W2.
Without fail, you always order the most expensive entree. Enjoy that octopus you still don’t know is coming.
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I’m good enough to forgive you but not stupid enough to trust you again.
After that NYE midnight kiss, I hope you and the floor will be very happy together. Drunkass.