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wild with desire, salivating a wild desire is now easier than we think. The best part is knowing you don't have to step outside your sexual comfort zone to do any of this. Simply start the thought process of being with your partner, you have to admit, thinking about sex is sexy all by itself. While we don't like to admit it, it's not hard for us to do either, right? Bring back the simple stuff to rekindle a lost yearning: ♥ Reverse Striptease
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By: Sheleta Moore
Too many times, we reserve most of our romantic interactions for the initial part of a sexual relationship and often neglect to continue them outside the 'chase' or 'courting' period. Remember the things that it took to gain his attention will be needed to keep his attention. Remember days of old and focus on you and your relationship together, and jump in and go for it. Tease him and rekindle a little “hotness” within your relationship. Make it fun and both of you will be laughing and enjoying each other. Be sassy and scandalous, use what you've got, and be as intimate as you know you can be. Tease his mind and you will be amazed at the amount of heat between the two of you. Stroke his ego, and find the thing that makes him…..hmmm….you know. It's so much easier now to drive your lover
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While the mere act of strip teasing may be time's most tested version of teasing, getting dressed can be just as sexy and doesn't require any rhythmic skills or a seductive setting. In fact, it's one of the easiest and most effective ways to make a great start to any morning and send your mate's mind reeling all day! Whether you start fresh out of the shower or at any stage while undressed, be sure to let your lover see you before your morning outfit is complete. Whether you iron in your birthday suit or simply pass by him as you begin to button your shirt, take a moment to make eye contact. After all, the eyes are the mirror to the soul and if your soul is feeling sexy at that moment, he won't miss it - or soon forget it! ♥Acknowledge His Assets There's nothing better than a simple compliment, especially one of a sexual nature. However directly or indirectly it's a sure-fire way to spark up some chemistry between you and your mate. Let him know you like the way their (fill in the blank) looks in those jeans, or in whatever he may be wearing or not wearing at the time. You can be nonchalant about it, or make it a point of letting him know what seeing him that way does to you. Either way, he will either inquire further, prompting you to give more detail or actually demonstrate. Or he can simply save that information for
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use at a later time. ♼Savor the Silence When things are quiet, we often think the right thing to do is to start chatting. Don't allow your mouth to be the only conversation starter you have. The most profoundly sexy and intimate moments can be found in sheer silence. Whether you're at dinner, on the beach or in the car, resist the urge to fill that quiet space. Let the silence linger. A gentle touch, a hand on his hand or leg, your head on his shoulder, a look into his eyes, or simply a soft smile, PRICELESS. It's the mere acknowledgment that you're both present and caught up in the moment that fans the flames. And while it may not lead to sex right then and there, you will likely experience a moment that the two of you will surely think about from time to time. Remember, sometimes the best way to seduce your lover is to take a simple, thoughtful course - without too much effort. Then let the heat between the two of you do all the talking. ♼Maintain Control Men love it when a woman is able to maintain sexual control and heighten his sexual experience to depths he never thought he could experience. In order to perform this task, you have to have a great amount of self-control yourself. If your mindset is to drive him mad with passion, then that's what you need to intend on achieving. Although a language with an accent can seem to be sexy all by itself, you don't have to have one to obtain his attention, and you don't need a bunch of props, although some may be an added feature. What you do need is a vivid imagination and the will to get your way. Give him a great visual about what's going to take place. Tell him how you plan to undress him slowly while caressing each body part as you unveil it. Tell him about how you plan to use your tongue to arouse certain areas of his body. Begin with places like his neck, back, the back of his knees (oh, trust me!), and inner thighs. Look deep into his eyes and tell him everything that you would love to do to him and for him. This will stimulate his mind, as well as his body, but whatever you do, maintain control of the situation and him. ♼ A Slow Tease It's time that men stop being in control of sexual whims and time for us to start driving them crazy for a change. Be a challenge; don't give in when he begins to make your juices flow. Okay, give in, but not right away. Learn to pleasure his mind before allowing him to thrust your body. Awaken his senses and your own by taking the time to drive him and yourself wild with desire. And if you want to become the ultimate lover, taking things slowly will always do the trick.
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Join Dear Coffee as she spills the tea on relationships, love, lust and the things you want to say but just can’t! Have a question, comment or concern you want her to speak on, email: coffee@diamonddivamag.com
Dear Coffee, Why does he think it is okay to look at other women when we are together? If he was out with his homeboys or something, I wouldn't care but I was standing right there. Now don't get me wrong, this chic was bad. Nice boobs, nice butt, nice teeth and a banging little haircut. But don't be down right disrespectful. I felt like I should have asked her to come and sit with us so he could get all he needed from her so we could finish our evening. I noticed her when she walked up and thought damn she is fine but I got jealous when he noticed her. I am not a bad looking woman. I have all those nice assets too and men approach me all the time but for her to catch his eye that really pissed me off. But I felt his attraction to her all over me. Does that make sense? I have seen women before that are pretty and I have never been with a woman before but do I have to give him what all men dream about in order to keep his attention? Am I curious enough to ask him if he wants another woman in our bed and confident enough to take his answer and not flip out about it? I've never had to share my man and I don't want to accept that I may have to but honestly speaking sometimes we catch each other looking at the same women at the same time but each other looking at the same woman at the same time but neither of us will admit what we really may want. Please tell me what to do with his wondering eyes and my wondering thighs! Signed, Double My Pleasure
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Dear Double My Pleasure, Some women can openly admit they are curious when it comes to being with a woman. Some men never have been with two women and some don't care to ever be with two women. Don't assume he wants to bring a woman to bed with you guys and asking him can open up a few unexpected doors. He may accuse you of being a lesbian instead of being curious. Or if you do bring another woman in, then he may get it twisted and think you “need” another woman in bed with you guys all the time and that may not be what you want but you opened that door. Admiring women is natural for men just like it is natural for women to admire men. But there is a fine line between admiring and being down right DISRESPECTFUL; be careful on how you let him walk that line. Do you two watch porn? If not, maybe you can see what kind of porn he likes. If he grabs tons of it that have two women and a man, then that's clue number one that he would like a ménage à trois. While you two are watching it then you can casually ask him about it. But I am telling you now; you have to be ready for what he may or may not say. And trust me it will come up again if he EVER sees you looking at a woman when you guys are out together. Whether you are looking at her shoes or her a** he will want to know “what you think about her?” Sex is fun, tricky, full of pleasure and even dangerous at times; given the relationship you may be in at the time. But only adults can handle what comes with it. Are you THAT grown? Let me know who liked what? Enjoy! And there is nothing wrong with being curious. Hell you may want to explore that part on your own before you bring a woman into your bedroom, you may not even like it then he's the only one getting all the pleasure. But if you do, is that considered cheating…? I'll let you decide! Holla at ya girl ~ Coffee
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1. Holding hands, or even a subtle kiss on the back of the hand especially in public. 2. Giving your partner a much needed foot or full body massage with aromatic oils and scented candles. 3. Sending little love emails, cards, notes or texts with 'I Love you!' written is great. 4. Share a romantic dessert together. 5. Organize a romantic picnic either at sunset, or in the moonlight. 6. Midnight or late night walks together can be very romantic. 7. A simple dollar movie together and a shared bucket of popcorn, drink or candy. 8. Cooking a romantic candlelit dinner, together never fails to impress. 9. Looking into their eyes and speaking the qualities you most love about them. 10. Occasionally making a point of bringing something home if even if it's nothing but a card. 11. Booking a couples massage just for the two of you. 12. Planning a special trip or holiday get away. 13. Sending him flowers just because. 14. Buying something you remember hearing him say he would love to have and it's not his birthday or a holiday. 15. Have a rose petal bubble bath together by candle light with champagne, strawberries and chocolate.
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enhance the room by adding flowers such as rose petals. Scent stimulates areas in the brain that affect the way we feel and react. Invest in some aromatherapy products such as scented soy candles. Wear his favorite perfume or essential oils to bed. If you are not sure what he likes, ask him.
RESTORING the
ROMANCE
By: Robin Bennett
Remember when you and your spouse were dating? Romantic candlelit dinners with sensuous music in the background were a necessity and expressing love to one another was a daily priority. Your relationship evolved and soon after came the vow of holy matrimony. But fast forward a few years and you'll find all too often ‌ROMANCE HAS LEFT THE BUILDING!
Sound can enhance romance by creating a soothing and relaxing environment. Whether it is sweet sensual pillow talk or soft music playing in the background, the music you choose is important so make certain it's a genre you both enjoy. It could be soothing jazz, sounds of nature or your favorite oldies but goodies. Music also sets the atmosphere for dancing so feel free to slow dance in the bedroom or wherever you choose. It has been said that the best way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Sometimes nothing inspires a man more than a mouthwatering meal and sweet treats. You can prepare or order from your favorite restaurant a simple yet elegant meal for two or a tray of scrumptious desserts. Do not forget the dark chocolate, which is said to be an effective aphrodisiac. Chocolate-covered strawberries are delectable and can most times be purchased in the produce section at your local grocery store.
As an intimacy and wellness coach, I find that although many couples understand romance and intimacy are important, it gets lost in the shuffle of life. Due to job schedules, children, household duties and church obligations we are exhausted. Quality time turns into collapsing into bed with little or no energy to nurture the intimacy that once existed. But, we must learn to schedule time for physical intimacy When you take time to touch, you let go of the day and truly focus on each other. A as it's key to any successful relationship. caress, a hug, or a kiss arouse the tiny blood vessels located beneath the skin in our During my romance parties I educate bodies. In marriage, touch forms a women on intimacy products and how to incorporate all five senses in romance: connection between husband and wife. One way to touch is through the art of Sight, Smell, Sound, Taste and Touch. massage. Massage each other with Sight plays an important role in romance as massage oils that are formulated with a we know men are visual creatures. Wear blend of essential oils and herbal extracts. some sexy lingerie to bed or whatever he Don't know anything about massage; finds attractive on you. Make sure the purchase a book that teaches erotic bedroom is free of clutter and change the massages. This will show you how to find lighting by adding candles. You can those pressure points and areas of
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concentration for a romantic, relaxing evening. No matter how you choose to restore the romance in your marriage, communication is very important. Communicate honestly with your spouse to learn his wants and needs and revive the romance in your relationship. Robin Bennett is an intimacy educator and consultant for Pure Romance.
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From a Males Perspective Ok Ladies, we all have tried to figure out, "What was HE Thinking".Well, now here's your chance to find out. Have a burning question, that needs a male’s touch, or you just want to know why men do what they do, then get it from A Males Perspective. Send all questions, comments and even your concerns to info@diamonddivamag.com, subject “Male’s Perspective” and let's find out what indeed he was really thinking. Hello Ladies, I'm going to tell you 5 very important details that we men look at when we are actively looking for a woman. To start this out we will go from the outside in, as a guy I find myself looking at women this way too. By the way, this list isn't in any particular order. Okay let's begin with one that is very important, which is HYGIENE. Ladies...I can't express how important this is, we want our women to be clean! Clean teeth, fresh breath, lotioned skin, a pleasant smell, combed hair, soft feet because we don't like the feeling of thorns scraping us, this goes for hairy legs too please shave them, clean nails, lips that look soft no crust please the only crust we would like press our lips against is at Pizza Hut. Health, a healthy woman is a sexy woman. Ladies please don't mistake this for skinny, anorexic is not healthy. Take care of yourself health wise, and SMILE!! We love a full beautiful real smile, show off your healthy white teeth! Style would have to be next, men love a nicely dressed woman and no I'm not talking about half naked. Find a style that fits you and dress accordingly, have it fit your personality. Dress NICELY, there is nothing wrong with showing off some curves but not too much, have us do some guessing. If you put those above three together you have already caught our attention. But to close a "real man" you will need much more than looks, so next is a woman's personality. Make us laugh, make us think, make us cry. Be a lady with character act alive and act like you enjoy our company, but have some maturity about yourself. We will close this with the touch of a woman's heart. We love when a woman is down for her man. When she loves him so much she does what she can to please and take care of him. Overall ladies, love life, others, yourself, and most importantly love God, and we will love you for that.
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required to sustain a truly loving relationship? Are you comfortable enough with yourself to know your limits and be able to accept those of the person you choose to be with? An accepting person will find acceptance no matter what. Rather than looking for a man to fill that emotional or spiritual void within you, you should be looking at what you have to offer him. When you have your own act together then it's time for a duo! Be realistic about yourself, your needs and the man you would like to have as that special someone in your life. Each person is a unique and complete person with his own style and personality. A truly meaningful relationship is a beautiful blending of two souls, not a band aid trying to patch up shortcomings or past relationships. And here is a tough fact romantic relationships and unconditional love, are not a match. Almost all relationships are conditional and intimate relationships even more so. The conditions will vary from couple to couple but if unconditional love is your aim romantically, nobody will ever be able to live up to your expectations. The best relationships combine the spiritual and the practical. You need the flexibility to be both. Keep the passion alive but don't forget to pay the bills! Remember all relationships are a work in progress?
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By: Sheleta Moore
Relationships, particularly the ones with our intimate partners, tend to be one of the most important and often the most complicated aspects of our lives. Many of us struggle for years just to find “the one� and then can't find the mythical satisfaction this person should provide on all levels. With so many willing to open up and share their lives with another, why are there so many issues within our relationships? We must all remember, we are all a work in progress. That applies to relationships as well as the people that we deal with on a daily basis. If you want an intimate connection with another that is both meaningful as well as lasting, then your relationship needs to begin on a solid foundation. Both parties need to be open, honest and willing to share on all levels physically, emotionally, materially and spiritually. Finding the connection within your relationship to give it depth and longevity is not as difficult as people make it seem!
A loving spiritual relationship has some very simple attributes: Be kind to each other. A sharp tongue and thoughtlessness towards your mate does nothing but undermine him. Don't expect your partner to be perfect because you're not. Be playful. Laugh together. Surprise each other. Experience new things and grow together. Strive to be the person you would want as a mate.
Whether you are looking to attract a fly by night fling or are already in a meaningful relationship, the first thing to look at is you. Are you in a position to give what is
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You should not expect your mate to instinctively know your needs or your mood at any given time. If there is enough honesty and respect within your
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relationship, you should be able to tell him that you are tired or in a bad mood and not face rejection or sulking. Many relationships don't last because someone eventually becomes exhausted from trying to keep up the faรงade of constantly pleasing the other at their own expense. They fear that if they disagree or show their true feelings they will be rejected. Fear, of course, is the antithesis of love and soon causes resentment. Suddenly the pleaser in the relationship no longer has the desire to go on and the other is left stunned and wondering what happened and where did they go wrong! If you want a deep satisfying relationship with a meaningful connection, you have to invest in it. Spend time with each other just talking and touching. Turn off the TV! Cuddle, light some candles put on some soft music and enjoy each other. Give each other some hands on attention. Talk about anything and everything, even your dreams the obtainable ones as well as the ones that seem to be unobtainable. Dreams are a great window to the subconscious and can often highlight spiritual issues or fears and insecurities. And of course make love often! Physical intimacy is what distinguishes your special bond from the other relationships in your life. Keep it alive! Your relationship should be your first priority. Don't let others undermine or come in between what you have. Know you are stronger together than apart. Keep your relationship healthy and a sprinkling of mystery and mischief. Have secrets that only you two share. This builds trust and a strong spiritual and emotional bond. And maintain privacy, the public couple and the intimate private one should be kept separate. Your private mental and physical bond is what makes you a couple!
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