A Mass of Christian Burial was celebrated Oct. 31 for Monsignor Arduino “Edward” Puleo, pastor of St. Elizabeth and St. Brigid Parishes, Peapack-Far Hills, who died Oct. 25. Father John G. Hillier, homilist for the Mass and long-time friend, described Msgr. Puleo as “always a priest, always present, always with a pastor’s heart.” For story and photos see pgs. 6, 7. —Hal Brown photo
Dear Sisters and Brothers in Christ,
You might have heard me share this before, but we are entering one of my favorite times of year. Even though I prefer the warmer weather, I always love the time of year around Thanksgiving Day, as it is a wonderful time of gratitude for our country but also a time to catch up with family and friends more often.
Although those responsible for putting the meal together for Thanksgiving have much to do, this holiday is simpler in many ways and not so commercial, allowing us to focus on one another and our gratitude for those in our lives, too.
Right after Thanksgiving we begin the Advent Season, which is a wonderful time of hope for us all. We are particularly aware of this theme of hope this year as we prepare to start the great Jubilee Year of 2025 with the theme of “Pilgrims of Hope.”
Pope Francis once spoke about the opportunity Advent offers us like this: “The time of Advent that we begin again today returns us to the horizon of hope, a hope that does not disappoint because it is founded on the Word of God. A hope that does not disappoint, simply because the Lord never disappoints! He is ever faithful!” the Holy Father emphasized.
Indeed, Advent offers us a time to re-anchor our hope in God alone, who never disappoints and never lets us down! Yes, things, events, and even people in this world can let us down at times, but God never does, so we need to keep
our true hope always in Him.
So this Advent is a time for us to open our hearts more widely to Christ as we prepare for His coming into the world, so that it is always His love that directs all of our words and actions, who directs our desires, wants and wishes.
By allowing Christ to break into our lives more fully, by making some extra time with Him in prayer during Advent, we keep ourselves from letting all the many daily activities of life, even the things we do during this season of Advent in preparation for Christmas and Christ’s coming, from actually getting in the way of His coming more fully into our lives.
The busyness of getting ready for Christmas can be a temptation and distraction for us during Advent that we have to be attentive to. God never tires of waiting for us, so let us emulate His patience in our own prayer this Advent.
The priests of our Diocese recently had our annual convocation, and you will read about it in this edition of the Catholic Spirit. It was a wonderful time for us to be together in fraternity and prayer. It is always good to be with them and I am always so grateful for our generous priests who work so hard to shepherd those entrusted to their care.
For us priests, Advent is a beautiful time of prayer, but also a busy time as we try to host and help one another at penance services, which are a hallmark of Advent, and prepare for the great celebration of the Incarnation of our Lord. So, pray for our priests, if you would, that Advent may be
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a time of our own deepening of our friendship with Jesus as we prepare for him to come anew at Christmas.
This edition of the Catholic Spirit is also highlighting Vocations Awareness. So, I ask you to also pray that God may call more young men from our Diocese to serve as priests here. We need more priests to make sure we have enough shepherds for our parishes.
Pray for vocations to religious life, as well, so we have the witness of consecrated life in our Diocese. We are currently putting together another class of permanent deacons, so please pray for this too, as our permanent deacons are a blessing for our parishes and so many different ministries in our Diocese.
As we begin this time of Thanksgiving and, then, Advent, may we all make more room for God in our lives. He is the One who offers us a secure place to hope! Know that I will be thanking God for all of you this Thanksgiving too. I am so grateful to Him for putting us together on this road to back to Him as we build up His Kingdom here in our Diocese.
Why not pick someone particular whom you know needs God, needs hope in their life, and pray for that person
for them, maybe invite them to pray with you or to come to Mass with you on a Sunday to prepare for Christ coming more fully into their lives this Christmas. What a gift that would be for someone to celebrate this Christmas.
The “Walk with One” initiative of the Eucharistic Congress we celebrated this past summer is going on now, and Advent and Christmas is a perfect time to join in this evangelizing effort.
Know of my love, prayers and gratitude for you. And I pray that this is a wonderful Thanksgiving and Advent season for you all! God bless you.
Most Reverend James F. Checchio, JCD, MBA
“If we are bearers of gratitude the world itself will become better, even if only a little bit, but that is enough to transmit a bit of hope.” Pope Francis
Corrections:
On pg. 27 of the October issue, the name of Mount Saint Mary Academy’s assistant directress for faculty, curriculum, and planning, Jacqueline Muratore, was spelled incorrectly. Also, on pg. 3 of the same issue, Felician Sister Mary Antonelle Chunka was incorrectly identified as a Franciscan Sister. The Catholic Spirit apologizes for the errors.
Rutgers University’s Catholic Center recently held their Fall Retreat, entitled “Work of His Hands,” at Camp Tecumseh, Pittstown, drawing 60 students Oct. 11-13 for three fun and faith-filled days which included talks, games, Adoration, Mass, Eucharistic Procession, and, of course, food.
Jay Donofrio, diocesan director, Office of Youth and Young Adult Ministry, accepted an invitation from Brother Jordan Parker, BH, director of The Catholic Center, and spent some time at the retreat.
“I went up to the retreat Sunday morning and got to experience breakfast, witness talks, a game, small group work, Holy Mass, and Eucharistic Adoration,” he said, recalling, “It was amazing to see so many students on fire for Jesus Christ. I was fortunate enough to experience Holy Mass celebrated by Father Tom Lanza, and Eucharistic Adoration on Sunday. The hunger and love for Jesus I witnessed was very encouraging for the state of our youth and young adults.”
The chaplains, staff, missionaries, and a lead team, comprised of the Catholic Center’s most experienced student leaders, welcome new and returning students to a place they can call home away from home.
Also serving The Catholic Center are Father Mike Tabernero, pastor, St. Peter the Apostle University & Community Parish, New Brunswick, and Father Matt Marinelli, parochial vicar at Visitation in New Brunswick, who leads OCIA (formerly RCIA). Campus chaplains include Jesus Our Hope Sisters Lorraine
Doiron and Anna Palka, Brother Jeffrey Crock, BH, and Brother Brennan Robinson, BH, who also serves as SPO (St. Paul’s Outreach) chapter leader. SPO is a missionary organization in the United States that serves college students and young adults,
For more information about The Catholic Center visit https://rutgerscatholic.org/contact-us. To learn more about the Brotherhood of Hope visit https://brotherhoodofhope.org.
By Mary Morrell, Editor-in-Chief
—Brotherhood of Hope photos
OCTOBER 20
THE SOCIETY FOR THE PROPAGATION OF THE FAITH A PONTIFICAL MISSION SOCIETY
By Deacon Patrick Cline Correspondent
Since 1926, the Catholic Church has celebrated World Mission Sunday each October. The day, sponsored by the Society for the Propagation of the Faith, is set aside annually to remind Catholics worldwide of the command of Jesus to feed the hungry, give drink to the thirsty and clothe the naked. It allows everyone to participate in the Church’s missionary activities through prayer and sacrifice. A special collection is taken up in every Church worldwide.
This year the diocesan World Mission Sunday was celebrated on Oct. 20 at the Cathedral of St. Francis of Assisi, Metuchen. Beginning in the Cathedral Hall, Father John G. Hillier, diocesan director, Pontifical Mission Societies, welcomed the young people and their families who were participating and offered an opening prayer. He then introduced Father Mhonchan Ezung, parochial vicar at Immaculate Conception Parish in Somerville.
Father Ezung is originally from Nagaland, a state in the northeastern region of India. He explained that his grandfather, who was the chief of his village, was not a Christian initially. It was only when a Catholic missionary priest visited the area to spread the message of Jesus Christ his grandfather was baptized, along with all the members of the village. Father Ezung went on to say that it was only due to another missionary priest that he discovered his vocation. “Without his presence and example, I would not be a priest today,” he said.
After the Rosary was prayed, led by five students from Catholic schools and religious education programs throughout the Diocese, the young people processed to the entrance of the Cathedral carrying signs and posters depicting the work of Catholic missionaries around the world. Bishop James F. Checchio greeted the procession on the steps of the Cathedral where he thanked them for their missionary efforts and led them in praying the Hail Holy Queen.
Bishop Checchio was the principal celebrant at the Cathedral’s noon Mass. Concelebrants included Father Hillier, who served as the homilist; Father Timothy A. Christy, Cathedral rector, and Father Anthony M. Sirianni, pastor, St. Helena Parish, Edison.
In his homily Father Hillier expressed his gratitude to all the young people who are following in the footsteps of Jesus. He expressed, “How grateful I am for you and your service. You are the Church of the present, you are the Church of the future.”
At the end of the Mass Mila C. Dionisio, assistant director, Office of Pontifical Mission Societies for the Diocese, recognized the work and contributions of all the principals, parish catechetical leaders and missionary coordinators to support the Missionary Childhood Association.
Three schools and three parish programs received awards for their outstanding commitment to the work of the Missionary Childhood Association in the Diocese: St. Helena School, Edison; St. James School, Basking Ridge and
St. Matthew School, Edison, and the religious education programs of St. Elizabeth-St. Brig id-Peapack; Our Lady of Mount Virgin, Mid dlesex and Most Holy Redeemer, Old Bridge.
Each Advent Season the MCA sponsors a Christmas Card Contest for children in grades kindergarten through eighth grades. They are asked to depict a theme related to the season. Twenty-four winners have their artwork dis played in the National Shrine of the Immacu late Conception in Washington, DC, during the Christmas Season.
One of the winners for 2024 is Axele Sanz, second grader in Our Lady of Lourdes Parish, Whitehouse Station. He said it was a family affair to help select his topic, the Annunciation. He depicted the Angel Gabriel announcing to the Blessed Virgin that she was to be the mother of the Messiah.
Axele’s winning artwork will be used for this year’s Christmas card for diocesan Office of Pontifical Mission Societies. Artistic talent obviously is present in the Sanz family as his brother was also selected as a winner when he was in second grade.
Coordinating all the activities necessary for the World Mission Sunday celebration required assistance from many people, including Jordan Coellar, a senior at Immaculata High School in Somerville. She has been involved in the Mis sion Sunday observation for 10 years. She said that her family has always been active in service to the Church and the community, and, “I guess service is just part of my DNA.”
1- Bishop James F. Checchio (right) served as principal celebrant of the annual World Mission Sunday Mass Oct. 20. At left is Deacon Rick Fortune, who serves at the Cathedral.
2- Father Mhonchan Ezung, parochial vicar at Immaculate Conception Parish, Somerville, spoke in the Parish Hall before Mass, sharing his family’s conversion in India after the visit of a Christian missionary.
3- Students carrying crosses representing the countries where missionaries spread the Good News process along Metuchen’s Main Street.
4- Bishop Checchio and Father Hillier congratulate Axele Sanz, second grade student in Our Lady of Lourdes Parish, Whitehouse Station, for his winning entry into the 2024 MCA Christmas Card Contest.
5- St. Elizabeth-St. Brigid, Far Hills – Peapack, religious education program, receives first place Children Helping Children Award from the Missionary Childhood Association.
6- St. Helena School, Edison, ranked first among Catholic schools of the Diocese for their generous donation to the MCA missions, as this young man’s smile attests.
7- From left, Immaculata High School seniors Jordan Coellar and Helena Centolanza man the information table for the Pontifical Mission Societies.
‘Always a priest, always present, always with a pastor’s heart’
By Mary Morrell, Editor-in-Chief
“We are here because we love this priest of God.”
The words of Father John Hillier resonated with a congregation of hundreds, gathered for a Mass of Christian Burial for Monsignor Arduino “Edward” Puleo, who died Oct. 25.
Scores of mourners filled the church, the hall, and the outdoor plaza of St. Brigid Parish, Peapack, Oct. 31, to give witness to their love, appreciation and gratitude for a beloved priest and pastor.
The Mass was celebrated by Bishop James. F. Checchio and concelebrated by numerous priests of the Diocese. Father Hillier, long-time friend of Msgr. Puleo, and diocesan director of both the Office of Pontifical Mission Societies and the Office for Persons with Disabilities,
served as homilist.
On the day prior, Oct. 30, a Mass of Commemoration was celebrated by Bishop Paul G. Bootkoski, Bishop Emeritus, in St. Elizabeth Church, Far Hills. Msgr. Ronald T. Marino, pastor-emeritus, Basilica of Regina Pacis, Brooklyn, served as homilist. The Mass was preceded by veneration which drew some 1,000 mourners over the course of a few hours
In his homily, which brought the congregation to both tears and laughter, Father Hillier recalled Msgr. Puleo’s sense of humor, and the struggles he had faced during his illness, and how, through the prayers of his family, his flock and the Knights of Columbus, his three-month prognosis became three years. Many prayers “sustained him on the silent pathway before eternity,” said Father Hillier.
Father Hillier reflected on the Gospel Reading for the Mass, the Disciples on the Road to Emmaus, as one of Msgr. Puleo’s favorites. … The Blessed Lord, himself, had died, but the disciples didn’t recognize him. “He was made known to them in the breaking of bread,” recalled Father Hillier.
“The familiar Scripture summarizes well the daily focus of Msgr. Puleo’s life,” said Father Hillier. “For him, Our Lord’s presence in the Eucharist is not just one aspect of priestly life, Holy Communion was everything – everything along the way of life, as well as all the other sacraments … especially the most beautiful sacrament of God’s mercy – Holy Confession.”
Like the disciples on the road to Emmaus, we are left to the limitations of physical sight, Father Hiller stressed. “We could never really see our Risen
Lord in our midst nor could we perceive the presence of Jesus in the people before us in our line of vision. Only in the precious gift of the Holy Eucharist, Holy Communion, are we given the optical assistance we need to see Christ clearly in ourselves and in others.”
Father Hillier spoke warmly about Msgr. Puleo’s ability to see Christ in others, his profound care for his parishioners and the relationships he forged through his love of the priesthood. He shared the fruit of Msgr. Puleo’s gifts through some cards presented to Msgr. Puleo when he moved on from his pastorate in St. Joseph Parish, Carteret.
“Thank you for welcoming me back to the Church and [helping] me to know that God has a special place for me,” wrote one parishioner.
“Your departure will leave a hole
difficult to fill for our church, our community, our heart,” wrote another.
And yet another, “I can never thank you enough for restoring my mom’s faith in Jesus. You may not know it, but you have touched the lives of so many people as a priest, we are all better Catholics for knowing you.”
And one more, that sounded like it could have been written last week. “I always knew this day would come and I’ve always dreaded it for years. Sorry for the tears.”
He was, said Father Hillier, “Always a priest, always present, always with a pastor’s heart after the example of Jesus.”
At the closing of Mass, Bishop Checchio spoke with gratitude for Msgr. Puleo, with whom the Bishop worked closely upon his arrival in the Diocese in 2016, and as he got to know and care for all the priests in the Diocese, saying “I’ve been so grateful to him over the years for his guidance and assistance …There were few priests who made as large of a contribution to the Diocese as he did, through his work and the positions he held,” describing him as “energetic, faithful and loyal,” in serving Jesus Christ and his Church.
Bishop Checchio recalled his visit with Msgr. Puleo on his last day, “when I could thank him myself for all he has done for me.” Msgr. Puleo shared his
own gratitude for all those who had taken care of him during his illness, especially Father Hillier. “We can all hope we have friends like that,” said Bishop Checchio.
The Bishop noted the last text he received from Father Puleo was one expressing his love and concern for his parishioners. He said he felt good that they were being taken care of and loved during this difficult time, and being who he was, he finished the text saying, “And I think we’re going to make the Bishop’s Appeal!” Laughter rippled through the congregation.
Bishop Checchio shared that he always asks the deceased to “reveal a bit of Heaven to me, so I may keep Heaven before my eyes, motivating what I do each day and encouraging me to be more generous in my love of Jesus.” Speaking of Msgr. Puleo, he suggested “we look to his legacy … and then examine our own legacy.” He posed the questions, “What do I want to leave as my legacy? … and with Heaven before our eyes, what do we need to do better?”
Bishop Checchio then incensed the casket which hundreds of hands had touched earlier in fond remembrance of Msgr. Puleo as they passed to receive Eucharist from Bishop Checchio and Father Hillier.
As the casket left the church, Msgr. Puleo was greeted outside by all his brother priests as a fitting farewell for someone who so loved his vocation.
Reverend Monsignor Edward C. Puleo, pastor of the parishes of St. Elizabeth, Far Hills, and St. Brigid, Peapack, died on Oct. 25. He was 67 years old.
Msgr. Puleo was born in Elmhurst, Queens, the son of the late Salvatore Puleo and Silvana (nee D’Amico); devoted brother of the late Anthony; uncle to Steven, Taryn, and Joseph; nephew of Maria DiVerde, Johanna D’Amico and Peter Puleo; cousin and relative to many.
Upon graduation from McClancy High School, Msgr. Puleo entered the Brothers of the Sacred Heart and, after his profession, served as a teacher in several of his community’s schools in New York and New Jersey. Upon discerning a call to diocesan priesthood, he attended Immaculate Conception Seminary, South Orange, and was ordained to the priesthood by Bishop Edward T. Hughes on May 29, 1988. He served at St. Bartholomew Parish, East Brunswick, the Cathedral of St. Francis of Assisi, Metuchen, and Our Lady of Victories Parish, Sayreville.
In 1995 he became pastor of St. Joseph Parish, Carteret, before becoming pastor of St. Elizabeth and St. Brigid Parishes in 2007. In 2011, he was named a Chaplain to His Holiness, with the title of Monsignor. Msgr. Puleo served as episcopal vicar for Clergy and Consecrated Life, as well as in various diocesan roles and on many committees: director of the Office of Priest Personnel, dean of the Arthur Kill Deanery, College of Consultors, Presbyteral Council, Priest Personnel Board, Seminary Education Board, Synod Preparatory Committee, and Committee for Future Staffing of Parishes.
A Mass of Commemoration was held on Oct. 30, in St. Elizabeth Church, Far Hills, with public visitation preceding Mass. Bishop-Emeritus Paul Bootkoski presided at the Mass and Msgr. Ronald T. Marino, Pastor-Emeritus, Basilica of Regina Pacis, Brooklyn was the homilist. Bishop James F. Checchio celebrated the Mass of Christian Burial on Oct. 31, in St. Brigid Church, Peapack, and Rev. John Hillier, Director of the Office of the Pontifical Missions, served as homilist.
Interment followed at St. Bernard Cemetery, Bridgewater.
Let us be joined in prayer that Monsignor Puleo will find the fulfillment of his faith and the reward of his priestly labors in the presence of the Risen Lord. May our prayerful support be a source of comfort to his family, friends, and parishioners. May he rest in peace.
Pomp, Pageantry and Prayer Diocese celebrates law enforcement at annual
By Christina Leslie Contributing Editor
Looking across a sea of blue-clad law enforcement personnel seated before him Oct. 30 in the Cathedral of St. Francis of Assisi, Metuchen, Bishop James F. Checchio spoke for the hundreds of indebted citizens also present, declaring, “It is a privilege and honor to gather here. We are grateful for all you do for peace and harmony in our communities.”
Those men and women who swore to keep that peace and harmony were lauded at the annual diocesan Blue Mass which honors active, retired and deceased law enforcement personnel serving in the four counties of the Metuchen Diocese. Local and state dignitaries, citizens and students sat shoulder to shoulder in the pews; representatives of the Somerset County Prosecutor’s Office, this year’s host agency, served as honor guard members, readers and gift bearers at the liturgy.
Small-town Metuchen was transformed into a major law enforcement hub that warm autumn morning: a long row
of police motorcycles lined Main Street in front of the Cathedral, while scores of police cars added their swirling red and blue lights alongside a fire truck which suspended a colossal American flag fluttering in the breeze. An honor guard assembled on the plaza, then marched into the Cathedral, followed closely by tartan-clad musicians of the Middlesex County Police and Fire Pipes and Drums.
Bishop Checchio served as principal celebrant of the Mass and was accompanied at the altar by priests of the Diocese who serve as police department chaplains. Father Jason Pavich, pastor of Our Lady of Lourdes Parish, Whitehouse Station, and the son of a former police chief in South Amboy, served as homilist.
“As we gather on this sacred morning, those in law enforcement, in whatever roles [you] play, the Church prays that you in your service and dedication show us the Father,” said Father Pavich, “and that in your courageous daily witness you reveal truth, mercy, commitment and a love of service that never fails.”
Admitting their profession is a “great challenge”, nonetheless, he ad-
vised them there were three places they might turn for help.
“First is each other,” Father Pavich began. “You are not alone. Always turn to one another. Second, look at all the people in the back [pews of the Cathedral]: your family, friends and community. Be a sign of God’s justice in the world. Pray each day for all who paid the ultimate sacrifice, and their widows and orphans. Pray for steadfastness, humility and respect.”
The priest said, “Third, pray to God, turn everything over to God. The God of justice feeds us with his very self. Be courageous. Bring his justice and his mercy into a world that so desires it.”
Father Pavich concluded, “What a grace, what an honor we have to pray for you this morning. May your prayers support you daily. Through the intercession of St. Michael, may you show our world who our Father is.”
At the conclusion of the Mass, Sgt. Michael Grosso led the assemblage in the Police Officers Prayer which beseeches St. Michael for “protection from all mental, physical and spiritual harm [and] be
courageous and not reckless in carrying out my duties.” A golden statuette of the warrior archangel were presented to the families of four law enforcement personnel who gave their lives since last year’s celebration.
Somerset County Sheriff Darrin Russo read the names of the officers who had died in the line of duty since the inception of the diocesan Blue Mass as Watchung Police Chief Scott Anderle tolled a bell in solemn reminder of the sacrifice. The drums and bagpipes played their sonorous rendition of “Amazing Grace,” followed by the traditional 21gun salute and bugler’s “Taps.”
Following the liturgy, Bishop Checchio surveyed the troops which lined the street and plaza, sprinkling them with holy water as a law enforcement helicopter buzzed the Cathedral. Det. Michael Harris of the Woodbridge Police Dept., who served as a Blue Mass Committee member and emcee for the Mass, shared his thoughts on the auspicious event.
“Regardless of your faith or religious beliefs, the annual Blue Mass held
by the Diocese of Metuchen is a necessary reminder of the unwavering support that we receive from the people that we are happy to serve,” he said. “It’s the one day out of the year that puts the Police Officers first - even if just for a few moments. Between the presence of the Bishop, the always enlightening Homily, the relatable readings or those chilling bagpipes ringing throughout the Cathedral, the Blue Mass is an incredible experience that we always look forward to.”
Students and staff from numerous Catholic schools in the Diocese were present to show their support of their brothers and sisters in Christ serving in law enforcement, including youngsters from adjoining St. Francis Cathedral School. Its principal, Dr. Jay Locquiao, explained the motivation behind their presence.
“The diocesan Blue Mass is a profound experience where we give thanksgiving and honor to those who serve our communities. Year after year, our school has the privilege of witnessing, meeting and being with the men and women who protect us and honoring those who gave
their lives for others. This annual event is a great reminder to our students, families, and staff members of the sacrifices our officers and their families make for us and how Jesus, in giving his life for our sake, does the same. The Christian heroism of our police officers witnesses to our community what Jesus desires of us: to protect one another, care for one another, and lay down our lives for the sake of the common good,” he said.
Representatives from St. Thomas Aquinas High School, Edison, also shared what prompted their attendance. Senior Jack Valenzuela said, “I think it’s important to honor those who serve us every day and put their lives on the line. It was also nice to see some police officers that I know be honored for their service.”
STAHS Associate Principal Mark Fiore added, “As a school community, we feel that it’s important to stand behind those who risk their lives every day to keep us safe. Many of our parents and alumni serve in law enforcement, and we’re proud to honor their courage and dedication.”
1- Bishop James F. Checchio served as principal celebrant of the annual diocesan Blue Mass, held Oct. 30 in the Cathedral of St. Francis of Assisi, Metuchen. Joining him at the altar are concelebrating priests of the Diocese who serve as police chaplains.
2- Members of the Somerset and Middlesex Pipes and Drums corps provided a mournful version of “Amazing Grace” to honor the fallen.
3- Bishop Checchio presented golden statues of St. Michael the Archangel to family members of the four police personnel who made the ultimate sacrifice since the prior year’s Mass.
4- Chief Scott Anderle of the Watchung Police Department tolls a bell as the roll call of the deceased is read.
5- Representatives of police departments from throughout the Diocese and state sat shoulder to shoulder, listening to Father Jason Pavish’s homily during the Mass.
6- Bishop Checchio reviews the troops lining the sidewalk of Metuchen’s Main Street, blessing them with holy water.
7- The Bishop bestows a plaque of appreciation to representatives, left, Michael J. Rogers, assistant prosecutor, and John P. McDonald, prosecutor, of the Somerset County Prosecutor’s Office, host agency for the 2024 Blue Mass.
8- Students of St. Francis Cathedral School gestured excitedly at mounted officers, police motorcycles and the pomp and circumstance of the event. The children presented thank you cards to the officers for their work in the community.
9- A colossal American flag suspended from a fire truck fluttered in the breeze in front of the Cathedral as ambulances and a vibrant pink police vehicle stood nearby.
— Mike Ehrmann photos
Sunday, December 8 at 4 PM
A special presentation on the upcoming Jubilee Year, given by Father Timothy A. Christy, Rector of the Cathedral, and by Father Jonathan Toborowsky, Vicar General of the Diocese of Metuchen. Fathers Christy and Toborowsky will speak to the special nature of the Jubilee Year, commencing this Advent, with special remarks on the spirituality of the Year, and special events that will be happening around the Diocese and around the world.
Saturday, December 21 at 7:30 PM
Come join the Saint Francis Chamber Orchestra and Chorus for their annual presentation of George Frederik Handel’s timeless oratorio. Under the direction of Maestro Christopher M. C. Deibert, conductor, the Advent/Christmas portion of this work will be performed in its entirety, along with excerpts from the second and third parts. Don’t miss this delightful candlelit concert, set in beautiful Gothic Revival architectural surroundings. A wine and cheese reception will follow the concert. Suggested donation $20.
Feb 15, 2025, 7 PM, Terzetta – A Flute, Cello, and Piano Trio
March 15, 2025, 7 PM
American Guild of Organists Annual Member’s Recital
May 17, 2025, 7 PM
FEATURED SOLOISTS:
Jessica Stanislawczyk-Nappa Soprano
Jody Velloso Mezzo Soprano
Christopher Nappa Tenor
Vaughn Lindquist Bass
Christopher Deibert Conductor
Saint Francis Chamber Orchestra’s Annual Mozart Festival, Christopher Deibert, conductor: Symphonies 25 & 29, plus Flute Concerto in D, Crispian Fordham, flutist.
By Liz Dransfield, Special Contributor
A blighted area on the grounds of St. Bernard of Clairvaux parish is seeing new life through a multi-phase reforestation project coordinated by the parish’s Green Team. On Oct. 20, parishioners and parish youth executed phase two of the project, planting native trees and shrubs to replenish the area, which is next to a streambed that lies within the Raritan River Watershed.
Phase one, in which 53 trees and shrubs were planted, happened last fall, and the plantings are thriving. This year’s addition of 59 trees and shrubs will bring the total planted thus far to 112.
The project was funded in part by a grant from the Victory Noll Sisters Small Grants Program, made possible by the generosity of the Our Lady of Victory Missionary Sisters, also known as the Victory Noll Sisters. These sisters have generously worked with Catholic Cli-
mate Covenant to offer $100,000 in the form of small grants to applicants with plans to advance the spirit of Laudato Si’ and promoting creation care projects around the U.S.
Spearheaded by Green Team member Rosemary Pfreundschuh, the St. Bernard Green Team applied for the grant and was excited to learn this past June that it had won an award to aid with the reforestation.
Announcing the recipients of the 2024 awards, Dan Misleh, founder and interim director of Catholic Climate Covenant, spoke to the purpose of the grant program: “We’ve awarded several innovative solutions that honor our sacred duty to protect and preserve God’s creation while building bridges in Catholic communities. Through their inspiring initiatives, these grant winners embody our shared commitment to stewardship and sustainability, growing hope for a brighter, more sustainable and just future.”
The group of volunteers consisted of Green Team members, confirmation candidates and their parents, and Bold Youth Ministry members, who answered the call to care for creation and dug, cleared, planted, staked and set up deer protection for the newly planted natives.
The plantings, which include hollies, oaks, dogwoods and other species, will make up a “riparian buffer” that will play a vital role in providing habitats for birds and wildlife, controlling and filtering runoff, capturing carbon to battle climate change, and removing contaminants from the air we breathe.
The project was envisioned by St. Bernard pastor, Msgr. Randall J. Vashon, who noticed that the church property had lost numerous trees to the emerald ash borer. He suggested to the church’s Green Team that they investigate planting and restoring the property.
With advisement from Robert Lucas, a restoration coordinator at the Rar-
Members of St. Bernard of Clairvaux Parish Green Team, Somerville, clear the land and plant new native species on the parish grounds for a multi-phase reforestation project made possible through a grant from the Victory Knolls Sisters Small Grant Project. —Courtesy photos
itan Headwaters Association, the Green Team planned the four-phase project, which involves the clearing of invasive species from the land, and then planting of natives. All four phases are slated to be completed by 2026.
Along with the Office of Catechetical Formation at the parish, Mark Dransfield, St. Bernard youth ministry leader, helped coordinate the teen volunteers, saying, “Caring for creation is what God calls us to do. I love that the kids have the opportunity to answer that call through service right on our own parish grounds. They will be able to see the impact of their efforts for years to come.”
To learn more about the Catholic Climate Covenant, a national nonprofit based in Washington, DC. and inspired by the USCCB’s 2001 statement on climate change, visit https://catholicclimatecovenant.org.
Liz Dransfield is a parishioner of St Bernard Parish.
By Christina Leslie, Contributing Editor
With a congregation dressed in gaily colored ethnic costumes and bearing symbols of their shared Catholic heritage, Our Lady of Peace Church was a significant image of our multicultural Catholic Church.
Bishop James F. Checchio served as principal celebrant of the Oct. 13 Mass held in the North Brunswick church. Members of the Indian and Sri Lankan communities joined with those of Bangladeshi and Pakistani ancestry to create a richly diverse liturgy which reflected the numerous dialects and faith traditions of those whose Catholic ancestry stretches back to the apostle Thomas in the year 52 A.D.
In his homily, Bishop Checchio thanked those present for their faith and their dedication to the Eucharist and the Church, stressing the importance of the Eucharist in helping them live as disciples to the world today. He offered words of encouragement to them as immigrants, expressing gratitude for what they do for the Church and reflecting on the newness and “freshness” they bring to their communities.
Following the liturgy, the congregation shared an ethnic meal and enjoyed a diverse presentation of cultural music and folk, traditional, even dancing in the Bollywood style.
The Indian and Sri Lankan Apostolate has been in existence for more than 15 years, said Sister Miriam Perez, diocesan coordinator for the Office of Multicultural Ministry.
“[We] minister to a culturally diverse population throughout the Diocese by accompanying each unique cultural group, meeting their needs and promoting an understanding and celebration of the rich cultural diversity of the Church,” Sister Miriam explained. “As with any other cultural Mass, [the liturgy] is celebrated in their native language which speaks to the heart, bringing a sense of belonging.”
Sister Miriam observed that the multilingual liturgy’s music, prayers and symbolic offerings each represent the congregation’s particular culture, assuring “each of the different ethnic groups make up a rich and beautiful mosaic picture of the Diocese.”
In addition to the Indian and Sri Lankan apostolate, the Diocese of Metuchen ministers to Catholics who worship in the African American, African and Caribbean; Brazilian and Portuguese; Chinese; Filipino; Hungarian; Indonesian; Korean; Polish, and Vietnamese faith traditions. The needs and concerns of the diocesan Hispanic community are addressed by the Office of Hispanic Evangelization and Pastoral Ministry.
Further information, including contacts and a listing of Masses sponsored by the apostolates, may be found at diometuchen.org/multiculturalministry.
Scenes from the Indian Multicultural Mass. —Hal Brown photos
By Susan Odenthal Correspondent
Nearly 300 people gathered in the Immaculata High School gymnasium on Nov. 10 to celebrate the 21st Spartan Memorial Mass and honor alumni, faculty and staff, religious and family members who have passed away.
Against the backdrop of blue and white flowers and symbols of generations of Spartans passed, Msgr. Joseph Celano, pastor and director of schools, was joined in celebrating the liturgy by three parish deacons, themselves graduates of the high school – John Czekaj and Frank Quinn of the class of 1966, and David Lang of the class of 1983.
Colleen Paras, an alumna and now director of campus ministry at the school, welcomed the assembly, noting that “much has changed, yet so much has remained the same” in the years since many of the guests walked the school’s halls. “Our school provides a soft landing for young men and women as they begin to take those difficult but necessary steps into adulthood,” she said. “For those reasons, and so many more, Immaculata remains as important and necessary today as it ever has been.”
She continued, “Today, we remember your loved ones who shared this time in life with us…friends who brought joy and laughter to these halls, teachers and colleagues who taught with love and conviction, coaches and athletes who glorified God with their talents, artists and musicians who provided color in our daily existence, and servants who worked among the least of us to lead others to Christ.”
Paras reminded the gathered of the Guardian Angel Scholarship Fund, which honors the memories of deceased family members, beloved teachers and coaches, and cherished classmates. Gifts to the Fund perpetuate the memories of fallen Spartans by providing tuition assistance to current students and those entering the school.
In his homily, Msgr. Celano recalled St. Teresa of Calcutta, who took a fourth vow – beyond the traditional religious vows of poverty, chastity and obedience – to deny Jesus nothing, even her suffering. Mother Teresa, he said, understood
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that without suffering, work would be merely social work, good and helpful, but not part of the redemptive work of Jesus.
Recalling the day’s Gospel, Msgr. Celano held up as an example of trust the poor woman who offered the only few cents she had to God. “Many things threaten trust – loss and grief among them,” he said. “We must look to Jesus, who took to Himself our agony and even death, and see the redemptive love that is rooted in him, and which transforms suffering into compassion. Jesus saw here a woman who, despite despair in her life, denied God nothing.”
“If we wish to know redemptive mystery,” he concluded, we ought to reflect on the lesson of this event: “Generosity is measured not by what we give, but by what we hold back.”
Closing the service was Terry Lavin Kuboski, a member of the class of 1969 and one of the team who first established the memorial Mass in 2005. “The Blessed Mother is the patroness of this high school, serving as a model of kindness, patience and goodness,” she said. “But for this community, she fulfills another important role: that of teacher. By her example, she demonstrates how to mourn with grace and faith.” An impressive number of the gathered rose as alumni were invited by Kuboski to stand in support of the grieving families, remembering that “once a Spartan, always a Spartan.”
Guests walked the halls and reminisced before and after the Mass. Stephanie Shaffer, now of Kendall Park but a Manville resident as a student at Immaculata and a member of the class of 1979, was on hand to remember a number of classmates who had passed. She photographed plaques commemorating friends as “Spartan athletes of the year” to share with those unable to be at the Mass. “I’m here for fallen Spartans,” she said.
In the school cafeteria, family and friends gathered to flip through countless volumes of yearbooks that froze moments in time gone by. Among the memories captured in the books were words from the class of 1966: “Besides the subjects of mathematics, science and languages, we are educated in our faith – we are ‘whole men’ – we have a soul.”
VATICAN CITY (CNS) – Ar tisans, tradespersons and crafts persons make the world more beautiful and are collaborators in God’s creativity and desire for peace, Pope Francis said. “We need your talent to restore meaning to human activity and to place it at the service of projects to promote the common good,” he said during an audience at the Vatican Nov. 15 with members of Italy’s National Confederation of Craft Trades and Small- and Medium-Sized Enterprises. The Pope praised their work because it “makes the world beautiful. We live in times of war and of violence. The news is like this everywhere, and this seems to make us lose trust in the capacities of the human being.” But their work is a source of consolation and hope, he said, because “to beautify the world is to build peace.” God calls all men and women to be like artisans and work on building up his project of peace, the Pope said. “That is why he distributes his talents in abundance, so that, unlike the wars fomented by the enemy of God, they may be placed at the service of life and not buried in the barrenness of death and destruction.”
A painting of St. Joseph and Jesus is seen as Pope Francis arrives for an audience at the Vatican with members of Italy’s National Confederation of Craft Trades and Small- and Medium-Sized Enterprises Nov. 15, 2024. —CNS photo/Vatican Media
The Tim Keyes Consort will perform O Magnum Mysterium, ‘A Christmas Oratorio’ composed and conducted by Tim Keyes, Sunday, Dec. 1, 4 p.m. in the Crescent Avenue Presbyterian Church, 716 Watchung Ave., Plainfield.
Also premiering will be new works by Charles Banta and Amelia Cunningham.
Keyes, who serves as pastoral associate for music and liturgy in St. Charles Borromeo Parish, Skillman, is an accomplished church musician and choral director who has composed sacred music oratorios: Res-
urrexi (1996), Nativitas (1999), Crucifixus (2000), Meditation on the Passion of Christ (2005), St. Patrick’s Breastplate (2006), Requiem (2008) as well as a Psalter, In Psalmis Davidis (1997-2004).
The Tim Keyes Consort is directed by Tim Keyes and is composed of both professional and amateur singers and instrumentalists.
There is no charge for the concert but a free will offering is welcomed.
For more information on the Tim Keyes Consort, visit www.timkeyesconsort.org.
By Adriana Molina Correspondent
An atmosphere of joy and reverence filled the Cathedral of St. Francis of Assisi as parishioners of all ages from the Diocese’s Latino communities gathered for the annual Hispanic Heritage Mass and celebration.
Many congregants dressed in traditional attire. Before the Oct. 11 Mass, members of the Charismatic Renewal movement led a procession through the cathedral, carrying images of Mary that honor various Marian devotions throughout the Americas. Father Gustavo Rodríguez-Perez, coordinator of the diocese’s Hispanic lay formation, guided the recitation of the Chaplet of Divine Mercy.
Bishop James F. Checchio, principal celebrant, welcomed everyone to the cathedral and expressed his appreciation for the presence and contribution of the Hispanic community to the Diocese. He reminded attendees that they were called to grow together as one people of the Lord, united in fruitful faith.
The Mass celebrated “the invaluable contributions of Hispanics to this country: their traditions, history, art, and many other cultural expressions that have enriched it,” Father Gustavo Amell, a Colombian member of the Missionaries Servants of the Most Holy Trinity, said in his homily. Father Amell is part of the pastoral team at the Shrine of St. Joseph in Stirling and teaches in the Metuchen Diocese’s Hispanic Bible School.
“As a deeply religious Hispanic community, we also cherish the legacy of our faith,” Father Amell said. “This is a living and vibrant faith that has been passed down from generation to generation, bringing us closer to God and uniting us as one people. We are a people of faith, recognizing the Lord as our shepherd ... who has never abandoned us, who cares for us, strengthens us, and protects us. Indeed, this is reason enough to bless and praise the Lord! The Hispanic people are also a people who love God and feel His love in return.”
Referring to the Gospel, Father Amell highlighted Peter’s journey from
denial and isolation to reconciliation and identity. He related this experience to many newcomers who may feel uprooted and disconnected in a new land and assured the congregation that encountering the Lord brings healing, love, and restoration. He also invited them to rejoice in their shared faith and in their spiritual heritage that he said continues to strengthen and unite them.
Willys and Ana Cabas, a married couple for 26 years and parents of three children, presented the Offertory gifts. The Cabas family belongs to St. John the Baptist Parish, New Brunswick. Together, they emphasized that moments like the Offertory procession enrich their lives, reminding them of God’s presence in a world that often overlooks the beauty of feeling loved.
Bishop Checchio concluded the celebration with a blessing for the community, thanking Deacon Edgard Chaves and the Office of Hispanic Evangelization and Pastoral Ministry for their work in organizing the event. Deacon Chaves thanked Bishop Checchio for presiding,
noting his presence reflects God’s love and underscores the Diocese’s commitment to support and accompany the Hispanic community.
Deacon Chaves expressed his appreciation for Father Jonathan S. Toborowsky, vicar general of the Diocese, and Father Timothy Christy, rector of the Cathedral of St. Francis of Assisi, for their ongoing support of the Hispanic community. He recognized all the priests and deacons who serve the Hispanic community, as well as Hispanic leaders, parish representatives, the choir, and the Charismatic Renewal movement. He thanked all those present for their expressions of gratitude for the many blessings in their lives.
At the end of the Mass, everyone was invited to a reception with traditional dances from the Americas. The community enjoyed appetizers and performances that included a Colombian dance, a Guatemalan folk group, and the “A lo Tico” Group. Each presentation highlighted the cultural heritage of the Hispanic community.
El 11 de octubre, se celebró la Misa de la Herencia Hispana en la Catedral de San Francisco de Asís, la celebración anual que refleja el creciente entusiasmo y anticipación de la comunidad hispana en nuestra Diócesis.
A medida que la congregación se reunía, se respiraba un ambiente de alegría y reverencia. Los representantes de las parroquias, vestidos con atuendos tradi-
cionales, crearon un espacio vibrante de unidad. El Movimiento de Renovación Carismática lideró una procesión de Devociones Marianas, portando imágenes de Nuestra Madre María que honran diversas advocaciones marianas en toda América. Con reverencia y alegría, avanzaron por la catedral, celebrando la riqueza de la cultura hispana que los une.
Familias—jóvenes, adultos y ancia-
nos—llenaron la Catedral para comulgar y celebrar juntos. Antes de que comenzara la Santa Misa, el Padre Gustavo Rodríguez, coordinador de la Oficina de Evangelización Hispana, guió la recitación de la Coronilla de la Divina Misericordia.
El Obispo James Checchio dio una cálida bienvenida a todos, expresando su aprecio por la presencia y contribución de la comunidad hispana a nuestra Diócesis multicultural. Recordó a los asistentes que están llamados a crecer juntos como un solo pueblo del Señor, unidos en una fe fecunda.
Los diáconos Francisco Jauridez y Noé Cortez sirvieron como diáconos de la Palabra y de la Eucaristía durante la Misa.
El Padre Gustavo Amell, ST, sacerdote colombiano de los Misioneros Servidores de la Santísima Trinidad, fue ordenado diácono en Chicago y luego como sacerdote en Colombia en 2019. Ha estadoa cargo de Director del Ministerio de Formación Laica en Mississippi. Actualmente, forma parte del equipo pastoral en el Santuario de San José en Stirling, NJ, y es profesor en el programa de la Escuela Bíblica Hispana de nuestra Diócesis. En su homilía, expresó su gratitud y reflexionó sobre la alegría de la vida cristiana.
“Hermanos y hermanas, cada momento es un tiempo propicio para alabar y bendecir al Señor. Hoy, lo hacemos reunidos como comunidad, celebrando nuestra fe y las invaluables contribuciones de los hispanos a este país: sus tradiciones, historia, arte y muchas otras expresiones culturales que lo han enriquecido. Como comunidad hispana profundamente religiosa, también atesoramos el legado de nuestra fe. Esta es una fe viva y vibrante que se ha transmitido de generación en generación, acercándonos a Dios y uniéndonos como un solo pueblo. Somos un pueblo de fe, reconociendo al Señor como nuestro pastor, tal como lo describe el profeta Ezequiel y el salmista—uno que nunca nos ha abandonado, que se preocupa por nosotros, nos fortalece y nos protege. De hecho, ¡esta es razón suficiente para bendecir y alabar al Señor! El pueblo hispano también es un pueblo que ama a Dios y siente Su amor a cambio. Esta relación amorosa es precisamente lo que el Evangelio de hoy nos invita a reflexionar.”
Refiriéndose al Evangelio como la expresion de la restauración de Pedro, el Padre Gustavo destacó su camino desde la negación y el aislamiento hasta la reconciliación y la identidad. Relacionó esta experiencia con muchos recién llegados que pueden sentirse desarraigados y desconectados en una nueva tierra. El Padre Gustavo aseguró a la comunidad que el
encuentro con el Señor trae sanación, amor y restauración, invitándolos a regocijarse en su fe compartida y en su herencia espiritual que sigue fortaleciéndolos y uniéndolos.
Tras la inspiradora homilía del Padre Gustavo, la celebración continuó con Willys y Ana Cabas, una pareja casada durante 26 años y padres de tres hijos, quienes fueron honrados al presentar las ofrendas de pan y vino durante la Misa. La familia Cabas ha sido parte de nuestra Diócesis durante los últimos 11 años, sirviendo en la Parroquia de San Juan Bautista en New Brunswick.
Mientras Ana se acercaba a presentar las ofrendas, agradecía al Señor por brindarle la oportunidad de llevarlas al Obispo y por compartir este momento con Willys a su lado. Willys compartió sus sentimientos, expresando que era más que un privilegio; se sentía elegido, como los apóstoles, para participar en la celebración de la Misa, un momento tan significativo dentro de una catedral llena de fieles celebrando la herencia hispana. Llevar al Señor en sus manos hoy y presentar las ofrendas a nuestro Obispo ha sido una bendición.
Juntos, enfatizaron que estos momentos enriquecen sus vidas, recordándoles la presencia de Dios en un mundo que a menudo pasa por alto la belleza de sentirse amado. Reconocer y honrar esa presencia divina dentro de su comunidad es un regalo muy apreciado para ambos.
El Obispo Checchio concluyó la celebración con una bendición sincera para la comunidad, agradeciendo al Diácono Edgard Chaves y a la Oficina de Evangelización Hispana por su excelente trabajo en la organización del evento. El Diácono Chaves expresó en sus palabras de clausura su gratitud al Obispo Checchio por presidir la Misa de la Herencia Hispana, enfatizando que la presencia del Obispo refleja el amor de Dios y subraya el compromiso de la Diócesis en apoyar y acompañar a la comunidad hispana.
El Diácono Chaves expresó su aprecio por el Padre Jay Toborowsky, Vicario General de la Diócesis, y el Padre Timothy Christy, Rector de la Catedral de San Francisco de Asís, por su apoyo continuo a la comunidad hispana. Reconoció a todos los sacerdotes y diáconos que sirven a la comunidad hispana, así como a los líderes hispanos, representantes parroquiales, coro y el Movimiento de Renovación Carismática. Agradeció a todos los presentes por sus expresiones de gratitud por las muchas bendiciones en sus vidas, enfatizando que su apoyo continuo es vital para hacer de esta celebración algo verdaderamente especial.
Al finalizar la Misa, todos fueron invitados a una recepción con bailes tradicionales de las Américas. La comunidad disfrutó de aperitivos y actuaciones que incluyeron una cautivadora danza colombiana, el animado Grupo Folclórico Guatemalteco y el vibrante Grupo “A lo Tico.” Cada presentación destacó la rica herencia cultural de la comunidad hispana, fomentando un sentido de alegría y unidad entre todos los asistentes.
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We may be called to be God’s Grace at the foot of someone’s cross
In 2020, as the world grappled with the global pandemic, the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith issued “Samaritanus bonus,” a letter on how we, as Catholics, should care for persons in critical or terminal phases of life. Approved by Pope Francis, Samaritanus bonus is an important document for healthcare professionals, pastoral care workers, caregivers and families, as well as the sick themselves.
Essentially, the letter is an invitation to imitate the Good Samaritan, who not only draws nearer to the half-dead man he passes on the side of the road, but then takes responsibility for him (Luke 10:3037). Samaritanus bonus proclaims the sacredness of every human life regardless of stage in life or condition.
Concerning the sick and dying, the letter reaffirms the Hippocratic maxim, “first, do no harm.” It reiterates the Church’s prohibition on euthanasia and assisted suicide as intrinsically evil acts because they directly cause the death of an innocent human life. It also addresses the “cultural obstacles,” namely “quality of life,” which is a false understanding of compassion and individualism that obscures our sense of the profound value of each human life and leads us to accept the practice of hastening death as a solution.
Rejecting the notion of what Pope Francis refers to as a “throw-away cul-
ture,” the letter instead presents a beautiful pastoral vision and concrete guidelines on how to “remain with” the sick and the dying when a cure is unlikely or impossible. Just as the Good Samaritan looks at his neighbor with a “heart that sees” with profound compassion, so too, we are called to convey an attitude of love to those we love who are near death.
Samaritanus bonus speaks about the importance of palliative and hospice care as well as administering the Sacraments when death is near. The letter describes the different stages of suffering for those in the process of dying – physical pain, psychological pain, moral suffering and spiritual suffering – and reminds us that Jesus, too, endured this suffering in His life and on the cross and that His suffering was used to open heaven.
In a very personal way, reflecting on Samaritanus bonus has provided me with some consolation. A number of years ago, my father became very ill with Parkinson’s disease. His physical decline left him in a wheelchair and eventually daily tasks such as feeding himself became impossible.
His mind became clouded with dementia and his words were few-and-far between. Thankfully, he always recognized me. In his last year, he lived in an assisted living facility in the Memory Care section because of his dementia and the level of care he required. It was during this time that God reorganized my life.
Each day I would leave my office at lunchtime to visit my dad for an hour and feed him lunch as best I could. On the weekends, I would go and just sit with him or bring him to the Sunday Communion service in the community room. Mostly, he would just sleep. Sometimes I would get a half smile.
Being present to him became the most important part of my life and God showered me with graces during this time. I learned how to sit in quietness and simply be present. Time spent with my dad became like a prayer for me and it helped me to learn how to be still and to listen to God’s heart whispers. I learned to see my dad, not as a burden or a project, but in all of his vulnerability - as a gift.
God blessed me with a “heart that sees” as I helped him to navigate the different phases of his suffering. In his final days, my family and I were able to bear witness to his unique and unrepeatable
value by keeping vigil and by ‘remaining” by his bedside until God called him home. November is National Hospice and Palliative Care month. In a culture that increasingly devalues and even threatens the lives of the elderly and the terminally ill, perhaps it is a good time to reflect on and live out the principles of love, compassion and care outlined in Samaritanus bonus. After all, we never know when we will be called to be instruments of God’s grace by sitting at the foot of the cross. To read the complete document and for additional resources, visit: https://www.usccb. org/prolife/catholic-care-sick-and-dying
By David Karas, Correspondent
With the goal of supporting a growing number of homeschooled families across the Diocese of Metuchen, Bishop James F. Checchio has formed a new ministry.
“It is my hope that this ministry will provide homeschoolers across the Diocese the opportunity for connecting and collaborating in the Catholic formation of their children,” said Father Gilbert Starcher, parochial vicar, St. Joseph, North Plainfield, who has been appointed to serve as the ministry’s coordinator. “In addition, the program will also serve as a resource for pastors and catechetical leaders, assisting homeschoolers as they provide for their children’s formation in the faith and for the reception of the sacraments.”
Father Starcher, who along with his siblings was homeschooled himself, conducted research on the prevalence of homeschooling throughout the Diocese. He presented his findings to the Bishop, who has had the opportunity to meet many homeschooled families in parishes he has visited.
“He finds their faith and devotion truly edifying,” he said, “and it is his hope that this new ministry will provide them support as they educate and form their children in our Catholic faith.”
The ministry will be hosting a kickoff event in January in St. Theodore Parish, Port Murray. The initial event will introduce families to the Franciscan Catechetical Institute’s program that the Diocese has made available as a tool to support spiritual revival and enrichment.
By Christina Leslie Contributing Editor
Celebrating the day they chose to cleave together as husband and wife, forsaking all others, some 88 couples stood before family, friends and God to reaffirm their marriage vows during the annual diocesan Silver and Gold and Five Year Wedding Anniversaries Evening Prayer Service, held Oct. 20 in the Cathedral of St. Francis of Assisi, Metuchen.
“Blessed are you, Lord, for in the good and the bad times of our life you have stood lovingly by our side,” the couples recited as they gazed deeply into the eyes of their beloved spouses. “Help us, we pray, to remain faithful in our love for one another, so that we may be true witnesses to the covenant you have made with humankind.”
Bishop James F. Checchio presided over the annual event, sponsored by the Office of Family Life, congratulating each married couple in turn as they posed for a picture with him. Hundreds of congregants craned their necks and held camera phones aloft to capture the public profession of love by their parents, grandparents or friends.
For more than 25 years, the Diocese has honored those celebrating 25 and 50 or more years of marriage; two couples recognized for especially-long marriages this year were Thomas and Patricia Gallo of Immaculate Conception Parish, Spotswood, 68 years, and Anthony and Mary Virrazzi of St. John Vianney Parish, Colonia, 70 years.
Cristina D’Averso-Collins, director of the Office of Family Life, reflected on the benefits of the event for couples and onlookers alike.
“The Silver and Gold Prayer Service is always an inspiring experience, especially given the many cultural threats to marriage and family life,” she said. “There is, sadly, a deep cultural cynicism, insofar as many do not believe that lasting marriage is even possible anymore. The witness of these couples clearly demonstrates that with Christ at the center, marriages can and do last.”
D’Averso-Collins noted this year the office expanded the group of invitees to those couples earlier on the road to wedded bliss by including those celebrating their fifth year as man and wife, calling it “inspiring.”
“Research has shown that these early years of marriage are particularly divorce-vulnerable, so it is essential that we keep these couples connected and help them to see effective witnesses of lasting marriage,” she said.
In his homily, the Bishop thanked the couples for their faithful witness and allowing the Creator to take a prominent place in their minds, hearts, homes and families. He shared Pope Francis’ observation that marriage is a gift to our Church and our society, both benefiting and being enriched by that sacrament.
“Marriage calls you to steer a tiny boat, wave-tossed yet sturdy, across a sometimes stormy sea,” Bishop Checchio said. “Let us never forget by the virtue of the Sacrament of matrimony, Jesus is present in your boat. Whenever your marriage is buffeted by rough winds or storms, welcome Jesus into your boat just as the apostles did when they encountered rough seas.
“Marriage is a way God reveals himself as love… [and] your spouse is your road to heaven. The secret is seeking the well-being of your spouse,” he concluded.
“In sickness and in health” are words that are often spoken in Christian wedding vows. For this anniversary celebrant, the words were a reality as she celebrated the anniversary of her marriage during the Silver and Gold Evening Prayer Service held in the Cathedral of St. Francis of Assisi without her husband who was sick and unable to attend, except by virtue of her cell phone.
• Top photo, celebrating 70 years were Anthony and Mary Virrazzi from St. John Vianney Parish, Colonia.
• Bottom photo, celebrating 25 years were Donna Marie and Joseph Ortuso, from Barnegat. Donna Marie is the daughter of Anthony and Mary Virrazzi. —Michael Erhmann photos
Since we first met, God’s presence among us has been a bright light shining down upon us, helping us to navigate good waters, as well as difficult ones. Every challenge that we overcame and all the happiness that we shared, was a testament of the blessings knitted into our relationship by God. God’s protection and care will carry us through the next 25 years and beyond! We look forward to celebrating our 50th with St. Francis Cathedral in 2049!
David and Ana Irizarry, St. Francis Cathedral, Metuchen, 25 years
The celebration was a total pleasure. This is our 40th year of marriage and our second to have attended. Both times were great. Our advice to all married couples is sharing. Share every aspect of your love for God and each other every day. Share your thoughts, finances, and challenges as a continual growing experience.
Lisa Jane & Christopher McManemin, St. James, Basking Ridge, 40 years
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70th Anthony and Mary Virrazzi, St. John Vianney, Colonia
68th Thomas and Patricia Gallo, Immaculate Conception, Spotswood
60th Raymond and MaryJane Koperwhats, St. Matthew, Edison
55th Robert and Linda Rosso, Nativity of Our Lord, Monroe Twp. • James and Carol Trenchard, St. Bernard of Clairvoux, Bridgewater
51st Robert and Karen Hahn, St John Neumann, Califon
50th Oriel and Gloria Adiao, Immaculate Conception, Spotswood • Michael and Doreen April, Immaculate Conception, Annandale • Joseph and Theresa Atanasio, Nativity of Our Lord, Monroe Twp • Deacon John and Lucy Bertrand, Nativity of Our Lord, Monroe
• Thomas and Claire Bierman, St Augustine of Canterbury, Kendall Park
• Thomas and Arlene Botti, St. Andrew, Avenel • James and Virginia Brogan, Blessed Sacrament Parish, Martinsville • Conrad and Barbara Cardello, St. Francis Cathedral, Metuchen • Charles and Deborah Chamak, St. Joseph, Hillsborough
• Nicholas and Virginia Cocco, Sacred Heart, South Plainfield • Bryan and Denise Crocker, St. Bartholomew, East Brunswick • Manuel Joaquin and Doris Santana De La Cruz, St. Joseph, Carteret • Deacon Lawrence J. and Denise Errico Duffy, Our Lady of Perpetual Help, Bernardsville • Robert and Kathleen Faillace, St Charles Borromeo, Skillman • Thomas and Diane Falato, St James, Basking Ridge • Robert and Susanne Fassold, St. Bartholomew, East Brunswick • Thomas and Linda Frech, Visitation, Edison • Joseph and Maria Fulmino, Mary Mother of God, Hillsborough • Gabriel and Mariana Grados, Transfiguration of the Lord, Edison • Edmundo and Olga Halili, St. Cecilia, Monmouth Jct • Dennis and Cathy Hammer, St. Joseph, Hillsborough • Richard and Ginny Jennings, St. Thomas the Apostle, Old Bridge • Keith and Mary Kebel, Our Lady of Perpetual Help, Bernardsville • Edwin and Gwendolyn Kolbeck, St. Thomas the Apostle, Old Bridge • Leon and Debra Kubeck, St. Frances Cabrini, Piscataway • James and Frances Kupko, Transfiguration of the Lord, Edison • Edward and Carol Kwiatkowski, Our Lady of Lourdes, Milltown • Ludovico C. and Anicia R. Lausin, St. Augustine of Canterbury, Kendall Park • Stanley and Joy Lega, St Bartholomew, East Brunswick • Robert and Barbara Lowry, Our Lady of Fatima, Piscataway • James and Josephine McCarthy, St. Barnabas, Bayville • Joseph and Marianne McGrath, St. Jude, Columbia • John E. Tiger and Patricia N. Nemecek, Our Lady of Perpetual Help, Bernardsville • Felix and Mildred Perez, St. Ambrose, Old Bridge • Angelo and Anne Ramos, Jr., St. Joseph, Carteret • Caezar and Maria Victoria Rasalan, St. Matthew, Edison • Deacon John and Nancy Raychel, Our Lady of Peace, Fords • Paul and Janice Rippas, St. Bernard of Clairvaux, Bridgewater • James and Yvonne Rude, St Mary’s Stony Hill, Watchung • Anthony and Barbara Sasso, Mary, Mother of God, Hillsborough • John and Janet Scordinski, St. Joseph, Carteret • Joseph and Florence Shwereb, St. Augustine of Canterbury, Kendall Park • Robert and JoAnn Tierney, St. Jude, Blairstown • Robel and Norma Valladares, St. Francis of Assisi, Metuchen • Timothy and Nancy Wilson, Saint Mary, Alpha • Robert and Elaine Yunker, St. Helena, Edison
40th Christopher and Lisa Jane McManemin, St. James, Basking Ridge
30th Eliot and Shirley Rodriguez, St.Stanislaus Kostka, Sayreville
26th Bryan and Victoria Baber, St. Bartholomew, East Brunswick
25th
Dennis and Suzanne Blum, St. Bartholomew, East Brunswick • Nick and Rosemary Brando, St Jude, Blairstown • Peter and Gina Capizzi, St. James, Basking Ridge • Brian and Laurie Clemintone, St. Matthew the Apostle, Edison • Nicholas and Elizabeth Di Prospero, Blessed Sacrament, Martinsville • Robert and Karen Dolan, St John Vianney, Colonia • Vito and Catherine Fabrizio, St. Francis Cathedral, Metuchen • Kennelm and Larissa Fonseca, St Augustine of Canterbury, Kendall Park • David and Ana Irizarry, St. Francis Cathedral, Metuchen • James and Niurka Johnson, St.Bartholomew, East Brunswick • Fred and Regina Kustowski, St. Francis Cathedral, Metuchen • Jose and Algin Lagdameo, St. Francis Cathedral, Metuchen • Joel and Belle Lumauig, St. Francis Cathedral, Metuchen • Francisco and Alicia Marin, Mary Mother of God, Hillsborough • Robert and Debra OConnor, Sacred Heart, South Amboy • Daniel and Lisa Pawelek, St. Stanislaus Kostka, Sayreville • Edward and Joanne Petrow, Immaculate Conception, Spotswood • Norman and Felita Real, Our Lady of Victories, Sayreville • Manuel and Maria Natividad Sadaya, St James Church, Woodbridge • Deacon Anthony and Linda Scarpantonio, Sacred Heart, Manville • Jay and Cheryl Sharbaugh, St. Joseph Parish, Millstone • Raymond and Lysiane Sternick, St.Elizabeth-St.Brigid, Far Hills • James and Maryann Stives, St Brigid St Elizabeth, Far Hills • Giuseppe and Gaby Terracina, St Francis Cathedral, Metuchen • Robert and Nicole Wright, St. Thomas the Apostle, Old Bridge
20th
10th
5th
Michael and Amy Wendel, St. Lawrence, Laurence Harbor
Jerry and Stephanie Black, Mary Mother of God, Hillsborough
Calvin and Yeny Ang, Our Lady of Mercy, Hicksville, NY • Lazaro and Samantha Becerra, St. Andrew, Avenel • Andrew and Cathleen Brenycz, St Magdalen de Pazzi, Flemington • Stephen and Jessica Krupski, St. Lawrence, Laurence Harbor
• Michael and Laura Munczenski, St. Anthony of Padua, Hightstown • Keith and Anastasia Stryker, St. Augustine of Canterbury, Kendall Park
In just a few days, we will gather around the Table of the Lord for the last Sunday in ordinary time, the Solemnity of Jesus Christ, King of the Universe. We –incarnate spirits–created in the image and likeness of God–will gather to proclaim our desire to remain faithful subjects of Jesus, King of the Universe. Despite the temptations which we face by the exaggerated lure of freedom, packaged by society in those who speak about the sovereignty of the human condition and the infinite rights that we have by virtue of our being human, we, like Christians before us, concur that Jesus Christ is Lord.
We may be free but we know that our freedom has its limitations. We can
surf the web 24 hours a day but even the wireless world of the internet comes at a cost which sometimes reduces us, humans, to “point and click” idiots, undermining the dignity of who we are.
We can fly, we can float, we can transcend time and space. We’ve been to the moon and to the four corners of the Earth but we will never be totally free from disease, freak accidents, natural disasters, debilitation from aging or the fact that we enter this world alone and we’ll leave it the same way.
Aware of our sinfulness, our powerlessness, the limitations of politics, psychology, sociology and a self-centered existence, our humanity by nature points us toward Him for whom we were created, through whom we were redeemed and to whom we look as the ultimate object of our desire in quest of integral human fulfillment.
Yes, on the Solemnity of Christ the King, we will opt to ratify our submission to a higher power, to a being who,
through the invisible reality of grace, allows us to participate in the life of God and gives meaning to our seemingly incomprehensible world. We will choose to remain subjects of Jesus, the One whose Kingship grounds true freedom, the One whose Kingship guarantees the reality of eternal life–the One, whose Kingship keeps the Church afloat and hope alive.
In just a few days, we will once again gather around the dining room table and give thanks for our blessings by sharing a prayer, a bountiful feast and the company of loved ones. Afterwards, maybe we’ll enjoy a nap, some football and, top off the meal with pumpkin pie, a kiss goodnight and a sigh of relief that we survived another turbulent week on Wall Street. The truth is, we may not possess as much money as we had last year at Thanksgiving. But what matters most has not changed: Jesus is King.
We have to keep our priorities in proper perspective. We have the love of our spouses, children and grandchildren.
We have a roof over our heads and food on our tables. Maybe we’ll have to scale back this year’s Christmas shopping. Maybe we’ll have to settle for driving a Toyota instead of a Mercedes. Maybe we’ll have to vacation on the Jersey Shore instead of Cape Cod. Maybe we’ll have to send our kids to state colleges instead of Ivy League schools–but what matters most has not changed: Jesus is King.
This Thanksgiving is no less important because the economy is topsy-turvy. We still have reason to give thanks to Almighty God for all that we do have–our health, the use of our faculties, clothes on our backs, heat in our homes, the laughter of children, the excitement that comes from learning, the warmth of our pets, good books to read, a parish that cares and a God who loves us unconditionally in and through Jesus. Yes, what matters most has not changed: Jesus is King! Father Comandini serves as diocesan coordinator of the Office for Ongoing Faith Formation.
‘That is what we are here for,’ to walk through the fears
November is the month when we remember those who have “run their course” here on earth, who have “finished the race” in this world and who have passed on to their eternal home. On Nov. 1, we honor those who have fulfilled their journey and now rejoice in the infinite love of God. On Nov. 2, we commemorate those who have still some preparation to accomplish in order to share fully eternal life in heaven.
In addition, here in Carmel, we also celebrate our brothers and sisters in the Order who have preceded us beyond time. On Nov. 14, we honor all the saints of Carmel, and on Nov. 15, we commemorate the holy souls of Carmel still in purgatory.
In November of this year, we have a special celebration: Nov.14 is the month’s-mind of our Sister Mary Magdalen of the Cross, who died on Oct. 14, the 75th anniversary of our Foundation. In the October edition of The Spirit, you were able to read about Sister’s life, so here I will add some thoughts about her Carmelite vocation.
Bishop Manuel Cruz, together with several of her Sisters from the Monastery, were with Sister Mary Magdalen in the hospital when she died. Bishop Cruz later told us that, when one of the Nuns saw him and heard of Sister’s death, she
said to him, “That is what we are here for.” Religious men and women are reminders in the Church that “here we have no lasting home”. When each nun makes her solemn profession of vows, she prostrates herself on a pall on the floor expressing the total gift of herself to God. As Jesus proclaimed to his Father on the cross, she, too, says in her heart, “Into your hands I commend my spirit.”
This is no mere ritual. Death has been vanquished and swallowed up by Jesus’ Resurrection, but its terrors remain. Josefina Magno, the doctor who introduced Hospice to the United States, wrote that dying people have three great fears: they fear pain and suffering, they fear losing control over their lives and their bodies, and they fear the loneliness that comes with death. These fears remain, even with our faith in Jesus’ power over death, and they rise up in our minds as we approach our last hour.
By our religious vows of poverty, obedience and chastity, we religious accept to walk through those fears already in our youth, before any shadow of dying falls upon us. Trusting in God’s grace to enable us to follow Jesus through the shadows and fears of death, with our vow of poverty, we accept discomfort and pain in whatever form God may allow to come upon us. With our vow of obedience, we surrender control over our life and our body, and we place our will in God’s will as expressed through our superiors. With our vow of chastity, we recognize that only God can fill the spaces of our heart, and we face the loneliness of living in him alone. By living our vows, we can face death before death comes to us.
Sr. Mary Magdalen trod this path in peace and joy. At the hospital, the doctors, nurses and technicians were amazed at her in her last hours. Though unable to
speak, she repeatedly mouthed at them, “You are wonderful, all of you!” She was alert and aware until the end, joining voicelessly in the prayers and making sure that those who took care of her had enough to eat.
Afterwards, there was a continual line of visitors during the viewings at the monastery to say goodbye before her funeral. Several of the nurses who took care of her, and who were not Catholics, came to her funeral, and they said, “None of us have ever seen a death like that. It was the most beautiful death we have ever experienced.” Sister Mary Magdalen came to Carmel to walk through the fears of death, and, trusting in God’s loving support, she victoriously accomplished that journey.
Sister Gabriela of the Incarnation is a member of the Discalced Carmelites order in Flemington. Learn more at www. flemingtoncarmel.org.
The Flemington Carmel chooses to maintain strict enclosure, wear the full habit as a sign of poverty and consecration to God, and preserves many of the traditional monastic observances. The lifestyle is simple and austere, but not excessively so. Two daily hours of recreation enrich and enliven community living. In the words of Saint Teresa herself… “Lord, deliver us from gloomy saints!”
Carmel is the Order of Our Lady. She is the Mother and model for our life of joyful obedience and service. The ancient traditions of the Order begin with the Prophet Elijah. His ardent cry, “With zeal have I been zealous for the Lord God of Hosts,” is Carmel’s inspiration.
Saint Teresa of Avila inherited Elijah’s burning zeal for the glory of God and of His Church. Her unique charism was to instill this spirit of totality in her Carmelite daughters.
For more information about contemplative nuns, visit https://seekingthefaceofgod.org.
By Robert Christie Correspondent
To revive interest in the Catholic faith, parishes must be more attractive to men, said Adam Carlisle, diocesan Secretary for the Secretariat for Evangelization and Communication.
Speaking to more than 60 men from 10 parishes in Hunterdon County, Carlisle said the Catholic Church has a “man crisis” and noted that one in three baptized Catholic men have left the faith. He said of those who remain, up to 60% are “casual Catholics,” men who don’t know and don’t practice the faith.
Carlisle hosted a men’s leadership summit – the third in the Diocese in the last two years – at St. Magdalen de Pazzi, Flemington, Oct. 25-26.
“I am hosting these leadership summits because I believe that, now more than ever, our society needs men. Men like you. ... fathers who might lead their families back to the active life of faith,” Carlisle said.
He added he hoped that by coming together, men “can support one another in the important task of renewing our culture. At a time in our country’s history where we are under attack ... where the very idea of a husband, a father, a man is being questioned, men need to step up. But there is strength in numbers, men. There is strength in Jesus Christ.”
John Edwards, founder and executive director of Pew Ministries, a Catholic apostolate whose mission is bringing the person of Jesus Christ to the person in the pew, was the event’s featured speaker. Edwards also hosts the podcast “Just a Guy in the Pew.”
Edwards said that, by age 24, he had a wife, children and was the top national salesman for NAPA Auto Parts with a six-figure salary. Grounded in what he described as a “father problem,” he mirrored the alcohol and drug-laced habits of his alleged friends, until his life collapsed. For more than a decade his life and that of his family were pitched into the netherworld of substance abuse, trouble with the law, and all of the personal
suffering that caused for himself and his loved ones.
He said a major turning point came upon his release from jail when he faced his father, a strict no-nonsense Baptist. He expected to get ridiculed, but his father hugged him and told him he loved him. Now 40, Edwards has dedicated his life to working nationally to help men build groups in which they can discover their spiritual identities, enabling them to be better fathers, husbands, and Christian evangelizers in the world.
During one session, Edwards said all people are given gifts, but often cannot find their purpose until they identify and discover how to apply them.
“Why are we here?” he asked, then answered: “For others.” He cited research that found that 93% of families follow the father’s behavior as part of the need for the conference.
“Men want to be seen, heard, loved, and known, but often end up being ‘silent sufferers,’” he said.
Edwards laid out what he called “The Four Pillars of a Thriving Men’s Group”: formation, worship, service and fellowship, and participants from the various parishes discussed the pillars.
He also stressed practicalities when starting a men’s group and directed men to his website for resources.
“For example, try to partner with the local chapter of the Knights of Columbus. Approach your pastor for support, but pray and prepare a plan, and ask for suggestions about men who might be good leaders in the parish,” he advised.
Following the final presentation, Dan Amabile, leader of the men’s group at St. Magdalen’s, reported that his men’s group meets weekly, with every other week on Zoom.
“We’re open to men of all denominations seeking discipleship, not just Catholics. We’re looking for men seeking to develop a relationship with Jesus,” Amabile said.
Representatives of other men’s groups spoke of programs such as Communion breakfasts and a Theology on Tap program.
From top (1), John Edwards, founder and executive director of Pew Ministries, served as featured speaker during the Men’s Leadership Summit Oct. 25-26 in St. Magdalen de Pazzi Parish, Flemington. (2) Some 60 men from 10 parishes in Hunterdon County learned about the four pillars of a thriving men’s group – formation, worship, service and fellowship – and interacted with Edwards (3) as they discussed discovering their spiritual identities. At bottom (4), Steve Phillips of the host parish makes a point during the group discussion. —Hal Brown photos
The Diocese of Metuchen’s first graduating class of the Hispanic Bible Study Program gathered Oct. 11 in the St. John Neumann Pastoral Center, Piscataway, for a day of celebration and gratitude.
Leading the event were Bishop James F. Checchio and program leaders including Deacon Edgar Chaves, director, Hispanic Evangelization Office; Father Gustavo Rodríguez, coordinator, and Father Ronal Pastrana, assistant coordinator, of Hispanic Lay Formation. Professors from the Hispanic Bible School – Father Gustavo Amell, Father Lucio Nontol and Father Fredy Triana – were also present to honor the graduates’ accomplishments.
Father Rodríguez opened the ceremony with an introductory prayer and led the recitation of the Liturgy of the Hours. With congratulations, he celebrated the graduates’ dedication and commitment to studying the Holy Scriptures. Bishop Checchio then addressed the graduates in Spanish, sharing his joy at seeing them reach this significant milestone and applauding their commitment to deepening their faith.
Deacon Edgar Chaves reminded graduates of the Church’s ongoing mission, as called by Pope Francis, to walk together in faith, saying, “In 2021, responding to the call of the Holy Father, the Catholic Church worldwide began a synodal process. Through this journey, we engage in prayer, active listening, and discernment, seeking ways to walk together as a Church and fulfill the mission of spreading the Gospel.”
the Hispanic Bible School, noting that some graduates had actively participated in the synodal process and other initiatives like the V Encuentro, where they voiced a need for structured Bible formation as a foundation for evangelization. He shared how the school evolved from a single Bible workshop into a comprehensive program, crediting the Holy Spirit and the commitment of the diocesan Hispanic Evangelization Office:
“Over the past two and a half years –nearly three since we began this initiative – the Hispanic Evangelization Office has worked diligently to create a space where you can encounter the Word of God in an environment that is academic, pastoral, and spiritual.”
Deacon Chaves emphasized, “Although our human resources are limited, the Lord has not left us on our own. We are blessed with dedicated priests from our Diocese and neighboring dioceses who, with patience, love, and commitment, prepare, present, and evaluate the classes offered to you. We’ve also received unwavering support from Bishop Checchio and the vicar general, Father Jonathan Toborowsky, who have supported each decision over these nearly three years of the Bible School project. Every person involved – from maintenance staff to building security – has extended their hours on Mondays and Thursdays at the Pastoral Center, making it possible to hold these sessions for you.”
Reflecting on the program’s impact,
photo, graduates from the parishes of St. Joseph, Bound Brook; Our Lady of Mount Virgin, Middlesex, and St Joseph, North Plainfield gather for a memorable photo with Bishop Checchio. Graduates include, from left to right Father Lucio Nontol T.O.R, Father Gustavo Amell S.T., Julián Mahecha, Alvaro Cascante, Sara Olvera, Norma Barreto, Leda Mora, Bishop Checchio, Margot Chaves, María del Pilar Valens, Deacon Edgar Chaves, María Gabriela Alpizar, Christopher Alpizar. Kneeling Cecilia Villacis.
Bottom, from left, Deacon Edgar Chaves, director of the Office of Hispanic Evangelization and Pastoral Ministry, and Father Gustavo Rodríguez, coordinator of Hispanic Lay Formation, highlighted the commitment and perseverance of this group of 39 lay people from our Diocese, who worked hard for more than two years to study and reflect on the Word of the Lord.
he added, “Today, as we look back, our hearts are full of joy because this Hispanic Bible School is a testimony to what the Holy Spirit can accomplish in our community when we listen attentively to God’s will, work diligently to fulfill it, open our hearts, and allow him to move in our lives. Yet, we know this is not the
end for any of us. We are not the same as when we first gathered over two years ago for that introductory course on the Sacred Scriptures. Beyond the words, our call to you now is to live out the teachings you’ve received and inspire others to join our school.”
Father Amell, a faculty member in
graduate Julián Mahecha and his wife Luz Escobar, administrative assistant of the Office of Hispanic Evangelization. —Hal Brown photos
the program, encouraged the graduates to live out the teachings they’ve learned, referencing the Sermon on the Mount:
“You are the salt of the earth and the light of the world (Mt 5:13-16). You are called to bring joy and flavor wherever you go, to be bearers of peace, hope, mercy, and compassion.” He urged them to be a “medicine in a wounded world” and to be preservers of unity and love in their families, parishes, and communities.
Speaking on behalf of the graduating class, Julian Mahecha from St. Joseph Parish, North Plainfield, reflected on the journey, noting that the program had taught us how to recognize Catholic doctrine in Scripture, understand the context
of the Bible’s origins, and approach biblical interpretation thoughtfully. Above all, he emphasized that the Bible is “a Living Word,” guiding our lives as Catholics and connecting us with God’s will.
“Through this journey, we have opened our souls and hearts, discovering that in God’s Word, we find guidance for both good and challenging times. And above all, we find the love for our neighbor and for God.”
Mahecha concluded by reminding his classmates of their duty to share what they had learned with others, especially in evangelizing and helping those who feel distanced from God.
In closing, Mahecha thanked Bishop
“Through this journey, we have opened our souls and hearts, discovering that in God’s Word, we find guidance for both good and challenging times. And above all, we find the love for our neighbor and for God.”
Checchio for supporting the creation of this program, the professors for their dedication and approachable teaching style, and Luz Escobar (his wonderful wife) from the Evangelization Office for her exceptional dedication and logistical and documentary support to all the students.
The group, which began their journey in September 2022, enhanced their formation by also participating in Bible seminars offered through the program.
Many of the graduates are active in their parishes as catechists, in prayer groups, or other ministries like the Misioneros del Santísimo and charismatic groups. Among the 39 graduates were six married couples who attended the entire
program together, including: Alberto Valdez and Yadira Madera; Christopher and Maria Gabriela Alpizar; Santos Perez and Denise Santiago; Moises Pacuara and Jenny Navarro; Jose and Rosa Vasquez, and Orlando and Maria Barcenas, Carmen Peralta, a catechist and member of the Misioneros del Santísimo group from Visitation Parish, New Brunswick, celebrated her graduation with the support of her four children, grandchildren, and husband – 19 family members in total were there to honor Carmen’s completion of her studies. She expressed her gratitude to God, the professors, the Hispanic Ministry Office, and her family for their support and for accompanying her through these years, despite obstacles and health issues.
Iluminada Alberto, from the Holy Name of Jesus Parish, Perth Amboy, was deeply moved and thankful for the opportunity to study the Holy Bible within her own Diocese, without having to travel to another. She shared how the Scripture has become a living part of her daily life, and that she looks forward to sharing these insights with her 10 grandchildren.
Telma Mancilla, from St. Mary Parish, New Brunswick, 81 years old and a mother of two, was also present with her sons, celebrating from Visitation Parish. She thanked her classmates who took turns accompanying each other to the pastoral center. Studying together, preparing for exams, and supporting each other in this “wonderful, sleepless” effort, Telma noted with a big smile.
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Our belief and faith in God is very strong. We believe He is in control, knows what is best for us and we have always trusted him with our lives in good times as well as the difficult ones… Our relationship started as young neighbors, friends then best friends. We believe that young couples need a foundation of friendship first. Respect, dedication and honesty are also necessary for a long-lasting marriage.
Deborah & Charles Chamak, St. Joseph, Hillsborough, 50 years
Our faith has always been a part of our marriage and our family life … Early in our marriage, we experienced a tragedy (the death of our infant son). I believe it was only through our faith that we were able to move forward, have another child, and enjoy life to the best of our ability.
Richard and Ginny Jennings, St. Thomas the Apostle, Old Bridge, 50 years
First and foremost is to place God in the center of your relationship and you cannot go wrong. Also, acceptance and forgiveness play a vital role in maintaining our married life. We have been married for 50 years now and hoping to reach more blessed years to come.
Ludovico C. & Anicia R. Lausin, St. Augustine of Canterbury, Kendall Park, 50 years
Our advice for a couple desiring a long-lasting, strong marriage would be to be truthful to each other, spend time with each other and keep God in your life together.
Jim and Ginny Brogan, Blessed Sacrament, Martinsville, 50 Years
As a couple we have always tried to listen to each other and usually end up agreeing on various issues. We usually attend Sunday Mass and try to be good Catholics. We also try to instill beliefs to the members of our family.
Nicholas & Virginia Cocco, Sacred Heart, South Plainfield, 50 years
The best advice we can offer is that love is built on trust. Our mutual strong Catholic belief has carried us through the Blessings and the Challenges!
Deacon Lawrence J. and Denise Errico Duffy, Our Lady of Perpetual Help, Bernardsville, 50 years
Our Catholic faith aided us by prayer and inspiration in good and bad times.
Michael and Laura Munczenski, St. Anthony of Padua, Hightstown, 5 years
The only advice I can give to other couples is to stay steadfast in your love for each other in good times and in rough times because of your faith and love for Jesus Christ and each other.
James and Yvonne Rude, St. Mary’s Stony Hill, Watchung, 50 years
We were so happy to be able to be part of this prayer service to celebrate our 55th anniversary. Together you can face whatever life hands you as long as you keep moving forward with love, patience and faith in God. And never go to bed angry!!
Robert and Linda Rosso, Nativity of Our Lord, Monroe Twp., 55 years
We were privileged to attend both Marriage Encounter and Retrouvaille which were available through the Catholic church. Advice is to be in it for your spouse first if you want to get the most out of your marriage for yourself.
Tom and Pat Gallo, Immaculate Conception, Spotswood, 68 years
Men from various parishes in the Diocese of Metuchen recently attended a Cursillo Weekend, Oct. 17, in the Loyola Retreat Center, Morristown. The purpose of Cursillo is to live the fundamental tenants of being Catholic by the power of the Holy Spirit and to learn to share in small groups, both during the
The primary benefit of a Cursillo weekend is found afterwards, as new “Cursillistas” (those who lived a Cursillo weekend) form small friendship groups that fortify on a regular basis their individual growth in three core areas of our faith journeys: piety, study and action as a Christian leader and disciple.
The Cursillo Movement is a vital part of the “New Evangelization” called upon by Pope Saint John Paul ll, which requires all of us to proclaim the Good News. Bishop James F. Checchio, has referred to the Cursillo “as a blessing for one to grow in their own faith and share one’s faith in Jesus Christ.” During a Cursillo weekend, those attending live, pray, and work together while listening to various talks by priests, deacons and lay people. Each talk is followed by a small group style discussion period.
Men and women who attend Cursillo weekends leave fully inspired, gain a new direction for evangelization in their environments and develop a strong follow up to the weekend itself. The Cursillo is often referred to as the “Leaven” of Christian growth and awareness in one’s natural environment. Those looking to strengthen and maximize their spiritual growth and relationship with Christ will benefit greatly by living a three-day Cursillo weekend.
The Diocese of Metuchen will host other Cursillo weekends in the year ahead. Please email: contact@metcursillo.org for further information.
Contributed by Bill Grippo, diocesan coordinator, Metuchen Cursillo Movement.
Top, men from a variety of parishes across the Diocese gather for the Men’s Cursillo Weekend in Loyola Retreat Center, Morristown. Left, Deacon Peter J. DePrima, who serves in St. James Parish, Basking Ridge, and as Spiritual Advisor to the Metuchen Cursillo Movement, delivers a message on Grace during the Cursillo retreat. Right, Cursillo weekend rector, Ken Wolfram from Our Lady of Peace, Fords, opens the Closing Ceremony of the Men’s Retreat Weekend. —Bill Grippo photos
By Susan Odenthal Correspondent
“The heroism of your hidden life is an imitation of the 30 years that Jesus spent hidden in Nazareth, and it is as valuable to our redemption as the three years of his life that followed,” said Discalced Carmelite Father Michael Berry, speaking to the Discalced Carmelite nuns of the Carmel of Mary Immaculate and St Mary Magdalen, Flemington.
Father Berry, past provincial of the Carmelite Washington Province based in Brighton, Mass., served as principal celebrant and homilist for the 75th Anniversary Mass honoring the foundation of the Carmel in New Jersey. He noted that it was fitting that the anniversary was celebrated Oct. 14, the eve of the feast of St. Teresa of Avila, who founded the order in the 1500s.
The Sisters celebrated the Mass from the choir – a screened alcove to the side of the main sanctuary. More than 60 visitors joined the sisters, Father Berry and priests from around the Diocese concelebrating the Mass. The anniversary celebration began with a Triduum on the nights of Oct. 11, 12 and 13, with Exposition of the Blessed Sacrament and a homily and Benediction by Father Berry.
In his homily, Father Berry said in many ways, the existence of contemplatives “is a mundane existence, hidden in a monastery, interceding for God’s church and the world.”
“The existence of contemplatives has always been a mystery, as humans are biased toward doing, and the value of what one does is what commands respect,” Father Berry said. “Contemplatives don’t fit that mold. They don’t exist to be useful. Their value is their witness to the Living God, who is wholly worthy of devoting one’s life to worshipping him. …
“Today, we give thanks first to God,
but also for the gift of our nuns, who have offered their lives in service to this monastery. What a blessing it is to have you here, in this Diocese, in this ‘city on a hill,’ testifying to the importance of prayer. We pray that more will be drawn in the future. We give thanks to our benefactors and friends who have supported us through the years.”
Those benefactors and visitors lined the hallway following the Mass, enjoying a small reception and patiently awaiting a moment to see the nuns at the “speakroom.” where they could personally extend their prayers and best wishes.
Among them were a handful of members of the Secular Order of Discalced Carmelites, laypeople who live in fraternal communion with the Carmelite friars and nuns, following the example and teachings of the Carmelite saints.
Wearing the brown scapular of the Secular Order, Melinda Ruiz Walters of Branchburg stood in line to greet the sisters.
“I had never heard of St. Teresa of Avila until 2017, when I went to Avila, Spain, on a religious pilgrimage,” she said. “I knew I wanted something more in my faith, but I didn’t know what it was. I researched, making many calls, with much prayer. Someone sent me here to the Carmel monastery, and I began my journey on my wedding anniversary in 2019. It was meant to be.”
Concelebrating the Mass with Father Berry were Father John Primich, chaplain at the monastery; Father Anthony Sirianni of St. Helena Parish, Edison, a confessor at the monastery; Opus Dei Father Joseph Thomas, chaplain at Mercer House, Princeton; Father Larry Magdasoc of St. Bernard of Clairvaux Parish, Bridgewater; Carmelite of Mary Immaculate Father Sebastian Kaithackal, of Our Lady of Peace Parish in Fords; and Father Dawid Malik, parochial vicar of the Cathedral of St. Francis of Assisi, Metuchen.
Father Michael Berry, past provincial of the Carmelite Washington Province based in Brighton, Mass., and concelebrants from both the Metuchen and Trenton Dioceses, stand at the altar adjacent to the choir room from where the Discalced Contemplative Carmelite Nuns participated in the 75th Anniversary Mass honoring the founding of the Carmel in New Jersey. The small chapel was filled with faithful for Mass and, later, enjoying a reception and waiting for an opportunity to speak with the Sisters at the “speakroom.” Among them was Father Dawid Malik, parochial vicar of the Cathedral of St. Francis of Assisi, Metuchen. —Hal Brown photos
The original Carmel was established in 1949 on the outskirts of New Brunswick in what was described by Father Berry as a “dilapidated” house, whose living room was transformed into a chapel and dining room into the nuns’ choir after days of cleaning by the sisters. The first Mass was offered there Oct. 15, 1949, the feast of St. Teresa.
The community moved to a location outside of Flemington in 1956. A large monastery had been planned, but as vocations to religious life dwindled, the large property became a heavy financial burden for the community. The current site in Flemington was identified in 1969 and the owner, a Catholic widow, sold the property
to the nuns for a price below its value. The sisters moved to their present monastery on Harmony School Road in 1972.
The Flemington monastery is open for prayer from Monday through Saturday from 6:30 a.m. to 4 p.m., and on Sunday from 7:30 a.m. to 4 p.m. Mass is offered on weekdays at 7 a.m., on Saturdays at 7 a.m. and on Sundays at 8 a.m. The community is supported by benefactors and by proceeds from their handmade items sold in their gift shop, including distinctive books and note cards.
The Carmel of Mary Immaculate and St Mary Magdalen is located at 26 Harmony School Road, Flemington. Visit their website at https://flemingtoncarmel.org.
$7.3 Million Goal, $8.1 Million Raised, 18,000 Donors
Dear Brothers and Sisters in Christ,
Thank you! You’ve done it again! With your overwhelming support, we have exceeded our Bishop’s Annual Appeal Goal for the eighth consecutive year. With a 2024 goal of $7.3 million, together we raised over $8.1 million from more than 18,000 households. Your generosity has made a significant impact on the lives of so many and will provide the necessary resources as we continue our efforts to be truly people on fire with God’s love.
Through the tangible services and programs we offer, together we bring the reassuring presence of the Lord to those who are suffering today–the poor and vulnerable, the ill and fearful, and those struggling with addictions or mental health issues. Among many other vital ministries, your gift to the Appeal helps to provide the formation of our seminarians, the future shepherds of our parishes. As a bonus, many of our parishes have taken advantage of the parish rebate incentive to raise additional funds for local needs.
After distributing over $300,000 in parish rebates, we had approximately $550,000 of additional funds. This will help to offset some of the rising costs for the formation of our seminarians and the care of our retired priests. It will also allow us to enhance our efforts in the areas of communication and evangelization, sharing the Gospel message and making His love known to all.
I am most grateful for the enthusiastic support of our clergy, lay leaders and all the generous parishioners whose contributions made our success possible. Your unwavering faith and ongoing support are an inspiration to me and give me great hope. On behalf of the thousands of men, women and children who will experience the love of Christ through your generosity, I thank you. Know of my heartfelt love and gratitude for you, and I ask that God abundantly bless you.
With renewed best wishes, I remain Yours in Christ,
Most Reverend James F. Checchio , JCD, MBA Bishop of Metuchen
Top 5 – Percent to Goal
Our Lady of Victories, Baptistown
Saint Elizabeth Ann Seton, Three Bridges
Saint Magdalen de Pazzi, Flemington
Saint John the Evangelist, Lambertville
Most Holy Name of Jesus, Perth Amboy
Top 5 – Highest Rebate
Saint Elizabeth Ann Seton, Three Bridges
Saint Mary-Stony Hill, Watchung
Saint Magdalen de Pazzi, Flemington
Saint John the Evangelist, Lambertville
Our Lady of Victories, Baptistown
Top 5 – Amount Raised
Saint Mary-Stony Hill, Watchung
Our Lady of the Mount, Warren
Saint James, Basking Ridge
Cathedral of Saint Francis of Assisi, Metuchen
Saint Magdalen de Pazzi, Flemington
Top 5 – Number of Donors
Cathedral of Saint Francis of Assisi, Metuchen
Saint James, Basking Ridge
Saint Magdalen de Pazzi, Flemington
Saint Thomas the Apostle, Old Bridge
Saint Bartholomew, East Brunswick
Top 5 – Highest Increase in Donors over Prior Year
Holy Family, New Brunswick
Saint John Neumann, Califon
Our Lady of Fatima, Piscataway
Saint Joseph, Bound Brook
Saint Joseph, Carteret
Top 5 – Highest Increase in Dollars
Raised over Prior Year
Saint Mary-Stony Hill, Watchung
Saint John the Evangelist, Lambertville
Our Lady of Victories, Baptistown
Saint Helena, Edison
Saint James, Basking Ridge
Thank you for your extraordinary effort
“Transformed by Christ, We are Eucharist Alive”
Sister Mary Antonelle Chunka, CSSF Special
Contributor
Before TV, computers and social media, I was hooked on comic books. My hero was Superman and it was my dream to become like Lois Lane, a reporter in love with Clark Kent whose true identity I got to know as Superman.
Since God does not give us a childhood dream without the possibility of making it come true, I became a Felician Sister, worked as a journalist and fell in love with the greatest superhero of all times, Jesus Christ, our Savior.
Growing up in the heart of the pre-Vatican II Church, I was uniquely blessed. All of my teachers for all of my classes (except gym) from kindergarten to grade 12 were Felician Sisters.
Their joy in the Lord was contagious. They were smart and holy, caring and prayerful and very much in love with Jesus far beyond the fictional Superman.
Also, my local parish of Our Lady of Czestochowa in Jersey City, was rich in Marian and Eucharistic devotions.
In the months of October and May, we, the school children, would attend daily rosary services and walk in Eucharistic processions drenched in incense, singing
courageous Felician Sisters whose mission takes them wherever there is a need especially among the poor.
Our Foundress, the Blessed Mary Angela Truszkowska, challenged us to read the signs of the times and to respond. In recent years, Sisters have answered this call by opening ministries in Haiti and in “little Haiti Florida,” seeking out migrants lost in crossing the desert into Arizona, bringing hope to prisoners in solitary confinement, working on projects to end human trafficking, organizing activities to implement Laudate Si and sustainability, and many more.
Inspired by the Holy Spirit to, “Widen our tent for charism and mission,” I have a deep appreciation for the devoted lay men and women who covenant with us as Felician Associates.
Despite dwindling numbers, age and illness. I am grateful that my sisters and associates still have a vibrant vision to be “Eucharist, Sister and Servant to all.” In the spirit of synodality, we con-
tinue to meet, pray, discern, listen with a wholehearted commitment to God and the Church.
The province of North America is under the patronage of Our Lady of Hope. We entrust to her our “Future of Hope.” In the Immaculate Heart of our Mother Mary, together with all my Felician Sisters and lay associates, I am privileged to proclaim… “Transformed by Christ, We are Eucharist Alive.”
I humbly ask you to continue to pray for me and for all the women and men who have totally consecrated their lives in love to Jesus Christ. May we faithfully embrace our mission to make God known, loved and glorified in all and by all.
In addition, please ask the Lord of the Harvest to open the hearts of other young people to discern a vocation to consecrated life and the courage to pursue the call. The Felician Sisters are ready to welcome women who would like to explore the possibility of a calling to religious life.
the traditional hymns while gazing upon the monstrance.
With the loving support from my parents and the inspiration of their Catholic faith, I, at age 17, entered the Felician Sisters, an international Franciscan community dedicated to cooperating with Christ in the spiritual renewal of the world.
Unfortunately, unlike my times the paradigm has shifted. Young people now grow up in a very secular environment making it difficult to hear God’s call to consecrated life. Yet. God in his wisdom, keeps calling forth the gifts of each person to serve Him according to His Holy Will.
In my 70 years as a Felician Sister, I was given countless opportunities to see the face of Christ in countries throughout the world. Whether in the classrooms or the board rooms with scholars or scoundrels, with celebrities or felons, the abiding presence of Christ was among us.
Both the wise and the foolish, the wealthy and the poor all reflected for me the powerful and merciful love of Christ. All ministries became Eucharistic.
As our religious congregation is now celebrating its 150th anniversary of its founding in Poland, I have been nurtured by generations of saintly and
"THE MORE TIME I SPENT WITH THE BROTHERS AND PRAYED WITH THEM, I BEGAN TO EXPERIENCE SOMETHING VERY DEEP IN MY HEART. IT WAS AS IF THE SAME MELODY OF THE BEAUTIFUL SONG I HEARD IN MY ENCOUNTER WITH JESUS WAS BEING PLAYED AGAIN."
By Brother Parker Jordan Special Contributor
Have you ever experienced a song so beautiful that you didn’t want it to end? Or a sunset that seemed to speak right to your heart, tapping into a deep longing that made you feel like it was made just for you? Words are incomplete but these are the closest images I can give for my encounter with Jesus.
I was 14 years old, one of 3,000 high-schoolers at a Steubenville youth conference, but as the priest processed out with Jesus in the Eucharist, I felt as if I was the only one in that crowded stadium. I felt God stirring deep within my heart and it made me want to respond with my whole life. I didn’t know what it all meant but I became overjoyed at the thought that God had a plan for my life!
I remember getting back home and having a conversation with my dad in the car: “Dad, I think God might be calling me to be a priest.” That's probably not the best way to 'break the ice' for a vocational conversation – and I think the skid marks on the road are still there to prove it!
Thankfully, I have been blessed by a very encouraging family who have always supported me in God’s call for my life. This call to give my life to God would be tested and doubted during my years of high school, but it never went away.
As I attended college at Florida State (FSU), I became very involved in the campus ministry, my life of faith deepened, and I began to experience a desire for prayer and community life. I realized that God was calling me to leave behind a boring life of relying on myself and worrying about what my future would be. Instead, I experienced that the more I prayed, the less I worried and the more I felt joy in His plan for my life.
He was teaching me that I could trust in Him! It seems so simple, but this humble life of prayer was really the thing that opened me up to say “yes!” to Him. From there it was simply taking the steps He showed me in His time and in His way.
During my college years I got to know a solid community of Brothers who served the campus ministry at FSU: the Brotherhood of Hope. During the summer of my freshmen year, I lived with
them along with a group of other college men. I can remember leaving their house after that summer and thinking, “There’s no way I could live this!” I was so struck by their authenticity and the way they lived their lives wholeheartedly, but I didn’t think I could do it.
These, however, were my thoughts – and God’s plan for my life was bigger than any of my fears. The more time I spent with the Brothers and prayed with them, I began to experience something very deep in my heart. It was as if the same melody of the beautiful song I heard in my encounter with Jesus was being played again.
I knew so deeply in my heart that this was the place He was calling me to. I began to see that Jesus had an invitation for me and that He wanted to satisfy the deepest needs of my heart. The questions and the fears that I had were steadily overcome by a much deeper knowledge of Jesus’ personal invitation and love for my life.
As a Brother in the Brotherhood of Hope I have been called to live a life fully given over to Jesus through vows of chastity, poverty and obedience. We
Brothers live as men consecrated for prophetic union. This union is firstly with the Lord and is a prophetic sign to the whole world that Heaven is real and that Jesus has prepared a place in His Father’s house for you and I!
This union is also a prophetic sign to the world through the living out of relationships, our communal life and mission. The deep bonds of Brotherhood that we Brothers share in our communal life overflow into our mission to the spiritually poor, those who do not yet know the Lord.
It is a great gift that God has called me to serve the students at Rutgers University as Director of the Catholic Center. I am so blessed that they have become such a part of my heart.
The life of a Brother is a great treasure, knowing that He has called me to be totally His. It’s a summons to hold nothing back from Him, and to give everything to the One who gave everything for me. I consider it the greatest joy of my life.
Brother Parker Jordan serves as director of The Catholic Center at Rutgers University, New Brunswick.
Clergy from throughout the Diocese of Metuchen gathered to refresh body and soul while celebrating their fraternal bonds during the priest convocation held Oct. 15-17 in The Breakers on the Ocean, Spring Lake. The convocation addressed both the spiritual and the sacred, with the priests participating in Morning and Evening Prayer, Eucharistic Adoration and the Sacrament of Reconciliation.
Bishop James F. Checchio concelebrated Thursday afternoon Mass in the town’s St. Catharine Church, with
Interviewed by Msgr. Joseph Curry, pastor, Mary Mother of God Parish, Hillsborough.
Father Stanley Walega, a retired priest of the Diocese, is celebrating his 60th anniversary of Ordination to the priesthood this year.
He reflected on his gratitude for his priesthood and how happy it has made him. He talked about people from Poland, sharing with him the experience of having the public practice of their faith taken away from them and when it was returned, how happy they were and how they traveled great distances to attend the Mass.
Reflecting on the priest convocation this year, Father Walega said, “I am hap-
py to attend, because it builds fellowship among our diocesan family of which I am so grateful to be a part!”
He said, “The speaker touched my heart and mind, and I look forward to receiving transcripts of his talks to go over them.”
He mentioned how wonderful it was to be with priests of all different ages and how good it was to get to know each other, He shared how impressed he is with the younger priests and their love of the Lord.
Father Walega believes the priesthood has given him an opportunity to help others follow the Church’s teachings and advises new priests not to get discouraged. He said that sometimes the challenges of the priesthood can cause
the jubilarians of the Diocese. Honored during the Mass for their 25 years in the priesthood were Father Mark Kehoe, St. Lawrence Parish, Laurence Harbor; Father Slawomir Romanowski, St. John Paul II Parish, Perth Amboy; Father Stanislaw Slaby, Christ the Redeemer Parish, Manville; Father Peter Tran, Our Lady of Czestochowa Parish, South Plainfield, and Father Andrzej Wieliczko, Holy Trinity Parish, Helmetta. Father Robert Lynam of St. Augustine of Canterbury, Kendall Park, was recognized for his 40 years of priestly service.
Celebrating 50 years as a priest were Father Joseph Desmond, retired; Father Joseph Kubiak, St. Helena Parish, Edison; Msgr. Richard Lyons, St. Joseph Parish, North Plainfield, and Father John Stec, St. Mary of Czestochowa Parish, Bound Brook.
Retired priest Father John Polyak marked 55 years since his ordination, and three retired priests were recognized for their 60 years of ministry: Father Charles Kelly, Msgr. Eugene Prus, and Father Stanley Walega.
impatience, but in the long run, it’s worth it, even to save one soul.
Still today, Father Walega loves to preach about the priesthood and encouraging young men to find the joy he has
found. The convocation is one opportunity to share that joy with his brother priests. He summed it all up with, “I love the priesthood!”
By Father Jose Lim Special Contributor
Being a new priest is an experience that is both intimidating at times as well as incredibly humbling. Whether it be walking into the home of a sick parishioner, encountering a new parish with its various blessings and challenges, or learning from my pastor the tricks of the trade on how to live the day-to-day life of a priest in the field of ministry of souls, being a priest has been a whirlwind of learning new things. One of those new things is learning about the presbyterate itself and spending time with other priests – and the annual diocesan priestly convocation is a beautiful opportunity for that.
The convocation, held every year, is a time where all the priests of the Diocese of Metuchen are encouraged to come and enjoy time together, share meals, celebrate Mass and pray together as brothers. In attendance were priests from all the different areas of our diocese, from different assignments ranging from responsibilities in the local hospitals and nursing homes to the diocesan center in Piscataway, and coming from various countries such as Poland, the Philippines and Colombia, just to name a few.
There were priests who had over 40 years of pastoral experience, and there were also the new guys having only been ordained for a few months and just beginning this journey of priesthood. In short, it was a rare opportunity for the entirety of our presbyterate to come together as a brotherhood of priests.
For me as a recently ordained priest, it was an encouraging and refreshing time away to be around my diocesan brothers, share about how things were going in our various assignments and responsibilities, and to encourage each other for the road ahead. It was also a unique opportunity to learn from more experienced priests about what this life entails, and reminded me that as long as I live, in many ways I’ll be a student.
When I was a nurse, learning from the experience of the older staff on the unit was not only essential to safe practice, but it helped form me as a healthcare professional in how I interacted with my patients, prioritized my workload, and how to see the big picture in ways that I just didn’t know how.
Although my textbooks and lab experiences were important for my foundation, it was learning in real time from the seasoned doctors and nurses where the lion’s share of learning came to fruition. I would venture to say that life as a young priest has many experiences like this – learning from my more experienced brothers in order to perform better my little part in this big spiritual hospital that is the Church. And there’s always going to be more to learn.
A particularly touching moment during the convocation was the memorial slideshow on the final day we were together, during which the names and photos of all the deceased priests of our Diocese were shown. For me, many of these men were simply names and maybe a story or two. But for many of the priests sitting around me that morning, these priests shown on that screen were old pastors, first assignments, mentors, friends, and above all – brother priests sharing this mission of sharing the good news of Christ wherever we might go.
It was an incredibly moving experience and made me incredibly grateful to God and to His Church to be part of this presbyterate. Spending time together at this convocation helped me to experience the blessings of simply being with my brothers, to enjoy a good meal and plenty of laughter, to pray alongside them at Mass, and to savor walking this journey with them on the road back to the Father.
Father Jose Lim serves as parochial vicar in Immaculate Conception Parish, Annandale.
1- Priests of the Diocese gathered with Bishop James F. Checchio on the steps of St. Catherine Church, Spring Lake, for the annual priest convocation Oct. 15-17. Clergy participated in Morning and Evening Prayer, Eucharistic Adoration and the Sacrament of Reconciliation in addition to sharing insights into their various types of ministry assignments.
2- Priests gathered for prayer and, in the words of Father Jose Lim, to “sharing the good news of Christ wherever we might go.”
3- From left, Father Jonathan Toborowsky, vicar general, and Father John N. Fell, director of the Office of Priest Personnel, walked in procession during the convocation.
4- Jubilarian priests gather in the sanctuary of St. Catherine Church to celebrate decades of service to the people of God in the Diocese.
5- Father Jose Lim prays during the priest convocation. —Michael Ehrmann photos
By David Karas Correspondent
In observance of All Saints Day, students at St. Matthias School, Somerset, participated in a quarter-century old tradition of delving into the lives of saints.
Starting in September, students in the fifth grade begin to prepare for the school’s annual All Saints Mass by selecting a saint and researching their background. They create a visual presentation like a poster or slide that highlights important life events, pen a two-three page report and even prepare a costume representing their selected saint – which they don at the Mass and also while delivering an oral presentation about what they learned.
“At Saint Matthias School, it is a rite of passage that each student brings to life a chosen Saint at the All Saints Day Mass,” said fifth grade teacher Adele Szczenia. “It helps students gain a deeper understanding of the lives and virtues of the saints. By researching, presenting, and dressing as their chosen saint, they develop a personal connection to these figures. This experience helps them reflect on how
they can live out virtues like kindness, courage, and faith in their own lives.”
During the Mass, students participate as readers, cantors and altar servers, while a few recite their oral presentations and others present gifts. Following the Mass, the fifth-grade students who hosted the service are joined by their grandparents for a special celebration in the cafeteria.
“The best part of the year so far was doing the All Saints project and Mass,” said fifth grader Jacob P. “I learned a lot from the All Saints Mass. I learned that Saint Bridget of Sweden was the mother of Saint Claire of Sweden, and that is really cool that a mother and daughter are both saints.”
Eighth grade student Aaliyah L. enjoys the annual tradition, as well.
“The All Saints Mass is important because it brings the saints to life,” she said. “It connects us to our Church.”
The November 1 tradition is just one way that the school community embraces its Catholic morals and values.
“We have students of varying faiths and beliefs attending St. Matthias. How-
ever, the morals, values and life skills that are integrated into our academics are invaluable to our students, no matter what faith they practice at home,” said Christopher Igneri, who teaches in the third, fourth and fifth grades. “Our students are engaged spiritually, morally and academically. Lastly, our families, faculty and administrators reinforce the mission of St. Matthias, extending our practices into every aspect of our students’ lives.”
Igneri shared that teachers and administrators also work to engage students in new and exciting ways throughout each school year.
This includes an expansion of extra-curricular clubs, to include Szczenia’s cooking club and Igneri’s flag football club, not to mention dozens of other clubs and after-school activities for students. The school also spotlights a classroom and teacher each week on social media to help spread the word about what’s going on around the school.
Igneri said they are also bringing back hands-on learning opportunities through field trips, including a middle-school trip to Washington, D.C. to
learn about civic duty and the structure of government.
Aaliyah shared how much she enjoys the activities offered to her and her classmates.
“Being in the eighth grade, there are a ton of special activities,” she said. “I appreciate everything the teachers, principal and our families do to make our last year at school special. The teachers are pretty great and it’s always very welcoming.”
Igneri said that students develop special bonds with their teachers, and genuinely enjoy being at school.
“We also do our best to try to make the school day as exciting as possible,” he said. “Of course, we work on our essentials in a faith-based environment, but everyone from our administrators to Father Abraham and Father Lance, to each and every faculty member, are excited and happy to be a part of the family at SMS.”
He added, “I have worked in both the public school system and a few different private schools, and I can honestly say that St. Matthias truly is family in every sense of the word.”
By Susan Odenthal Correspondent
What was planned as a fun learning experience for the littlest students in St. John Vianney School, Colonia, was just as rewarding for their teenage mentors from St. Thomas Aquinas High School, Edison, in a “Reach Out and Read” event this month.
Fourteen high school football play ers and cheerleaders, dressed in their varsity uniforms, boarded a bus on Oct. 8 and headed to the kindergarten through third grade classes in the Colonia school to read aloud to rapt audiences seated on carpets in their classrooms. They had been “coached” by St. Thomas Aquinas athletic director Jerry Smith in “how to present themselves – how to be performers,” he said. “Kids know when you are sincere, so be entertaining, have a sense of humor, take turns, show them the pictures!”
“On the bus back to school, I saw the effect the young kids had had on our high school kids,” Smith continued. “They created a memory they will never forget. The football players were amazed that the kids thought they were professional football players.” He reminded them that they are role models whenever they represent the school.
Nancy Tannucilli, principal at St. John Vianney, shared that the day had a big impact on her students, too. “I knew our children would get a lot out of the story time,” she said. “But the love and respect that the high schoolers showed them was touching,” and left a big impression. “The high schoolers didn’t want to leave, and our kids didn’t want them to go.”
One of the high school boys was late returning to the bus – he was engrossed in a craft project with children related to the book he had read. Smith said his explanation for his tardiness was that “he was gluing!”
Junior football player Anwar Witherspoon said he came “because I remember when I was their age and people came in to read for us. I wanted to give them that joy.” Tabitha Appolon, a senior cheerleader, enjoys “brightening someone’s day, especially a child’s.”
“Reach Out and Read” is a national effort to leverage the pediatric well-child visit to foster early literacy, a love for reading by children, and healthy relationships between parents and young children. It is one of the childhood liter-
acy programs supported by the Marisa Tufaro Foundation, a non-profit organization founded in memory of a Middlesex County child who died in 2017 after a courageous battle against a rare form of cancer that developed after a heart transplant.
Marisa’s father, Greg, a sports writer in Central Jersey, first brought the concept of bringing the two schools together in support of the reading initative to Amanda Cleveland-Miller, a language arts teacher at St. John Vianney School and coach at St. Thomas Aquinas.
Greg and his wife, Cyndi, provided a tutorial for the student athletes to prepare for the reading session with the children, Amanda said, and she delivered the books to St. Thomas Aquinas in advance
Top, St. Thomas Aquinas football players and cheerleaders and St. John Vianney K through third grade students are all smiles after their “Reach Out and Read” experience, a children’s literacy program supported by the Marisa Tufaro Foundation. —Courtesy photo
Left, St. Thomas Aquinas High School cheerleader Andrea Asare and football player Chukwuma Odoh talk to students at St. John Vianney Elementary School, Colonia. —Ed Pagliarini photo
so the teens could practice their ‘readaloud’ skills.
“As a coach, my teams at St. Thomas Aquinas have participated in multiple Marisa Tufaro Foundation initiatives,” Cleveland-Miller said. “The student athletes always embrace the opportunity to serve others.” She introduced the students and teachers to the Foundation and held a number of events in support, including a dress down day and a book drive conducted with St. Joseph High School in Metuchen on the day of their rival football game.
“My relationship with Greg Tufaro goes back twenty years,” Smith said. “When we learned about the foundation and literacy program, I said, ‘We’re in.’”
On Oct. 25, students at St. Helena School, Edison, continued a decade-long tradition of participating in a Living Rosary for World Missions. More than 60 students in grades five through eight became the “beads” of the Rosary, lining the aisles around the perimeter of the church and holding candles with ribbons that represented world continents. The tradition began with older students leading prayers, teaching younger students about praying the Rosary. In addition to dedicating prayer to World Missions, the school community has also prayed together in times of tragedy and unrest, including prayer following terrorist attacks in Paris and for the people of Ukraine.
The students love the experience, and younger students want to be included, said vice principal Lynn Jurscek: “Catholic or not, students want to be part of this tradition. Our non-Catholic students enjoy the quiet time for reflection, as meditation and reflection is an integral part of their faith too.”
By David Karas, Correspondent
For members of the Vocations Ministry at St. Thomas the Apostle Parish, Old Bridge, celebrating and supporting vocations among faithful is a year-round mission.
“Our Vocations Ministry strives to nurture vocations in our parish by helping our young people discern and answer God’s call in their lives to priesthood, consecrated life or marriage,” said Father Jerome Johnson, pastor. “We want to give them the tools needed to be well-informed about what a vocation is and how God is uniquely and personally calling them to a specific vocation. It all starts with prayer and education.”
This fall, the parish observed Priesthood Sunday during the weekend of
Sept. 28-29. In the weeks preceding this occasion, the ministry created a “know your priest” questionnaire, devoted to encouraging parishioners to learn about the lives of their clergy. Additionally, Pre-K through eighth grade students in the parish school and CCD classes colored in photos and wrote thank-you notes to the parish priests.
During the weekend itself, parishioners prayed especially for their clergy, and were invited after each Mass to gather in the auditorium to sign cards and enjoy refreshments as they celebrated and expressed their gratitude for their priests.
The parish also observed Deacon Sunday during the weekend of Oct. 1213, and a member of the ministry created a poster with photos of their parish deacons. At each Mass, deacons spoke to parishio-
ners about their journeys to the deaconate.
“It is important to recognize our priests and deacons for their commitment to the Church and to their ministry that we can so often take for granted,” said Father Johnson. “In addition, it also helps parishioners to see their priests and deacons as ‘real people’, just like them, who said ‘yes’ to God in a unique way.”
Throughout the month of September, the ministry also published bulletin announcements recognizing each vocation –including not only the priesthood, but also religious life and sacramental marriage.
Next year, the parish will also celebrate World Marriage Day on the second Sunday in February, as well as National Marriage Week from Feb. 7-14.
“We hope to help our parishioners to be supportive of their children’s vo-
cation, not just to marriage, but also to priesthood and religious life,” said Rosemarie Gentile, who is part of the Vocations Ministry. “God calls everyone to a vocation He has chosen just for them.”
For Father Johnson, activities like these are critical to nurturing vocations among youth, and supporting families as they nurture the faith of their children and help them discern God’s call in their lives.
“We hope to give our parish families, especially our parents, the vocabulary and knowledge needed to pray and discuss with their children what vocation God is calling them to,” he said. “Parents can then support their children and help them to remain open to God’s call so that they can say ‘yes’ to priesthood, consecrated life or marriage.”
Prior to Priesthood Sunday, celebrated the weekend of Sept. 28-29, children in St. Thomas the Apostle Pre-K through eighth grade in both the parish school and CCD classes colored in pages and wrote thank-you notes to the parish priests. One young artist turned the letter into a work of art. Do you recognize this priest? —Courtesy photos
This Sunday the Church celebrates the Solemnity of Christ the King, the final Sunday of our liturgical year. Pope Pius XI instituted this feast in 1925 to combat the progressive secularization of Western culture. The Holy Father was dismayed by the increasing influence of anti-Christian values in the mainstreams of society, morality, and government; his hope was that increased attention to Christ the King would “hasten the return of society to our loving Savior” (Pope Pius XI, Quas Primas, 1925). The late Holy Father’s observations remain even more of concern in our own day, and thus our readings this weekend attempt to rekindle our own religious ardor by portraying Jesus’ kingship as a matter of loving service poured out for the sake of the truth, that is, his progressive revelation of his Father’s Heavenly Kingdom.
Almost ironically, the Gospel reading chosen for this feast of Christ’s kingship presents us with Jesus, scorned and beaten, on trial before Pilate. This harsh setting points to the fact that Jesus’ kingship did not rely on the usual royal trappings. Pilate’s first words to him are a very direct question, “Are you the King of the Jews?” (John 18:33b). Jesus responds by asking Pilate whether that is his own insight, or whether he is merely repeating the charge made by the crowds. Pilate’s response makes it clear that he had little prior knowledge of Jesus; his entire concern was to ascertain whether Jesus was likely to be a political trouble maker. Pilate was only interested in the possibility of Jesus’ inciting an insurrection against the Roman occupational government.
He then asked Jesus, “What have you done?” (John 18:35c). Sensing Pilate’s real motivation, Jesus ignored the question, but sought to assure Pilate that he posed no political threat. His answer, “My kingdom is not of this world” (John 18:36a), serves as the clearest of statements that he had no political designs. Partisan intrigue and the power of armies would have nothing to do with the kingdom Jesus sought to establish. He emphasizes the truth of his assertion by pointing to the fact that there were no soldiers trying to release him from arrest. Those who were expecting a political Messiah had gotten it wrong.
Pilate, understanding neither the basis of the charge nor Jesus’ response to it, asked further, “So, then, you are a king?” (John 18:37a). Jesus replied, “It is you who say I am a king” (John 18:37b); in this, Jesus does not deny his kingship, but emphasizes that he had not come to be an earthly celebrity, a status desired by the crowds and feared by the authorities. He then revealed the purpose of his mission, “The reason why I came into the world is to testify to the truth” (John 18:37c). He makes it abundantly clear that entry into his kingdom could come only through truth- the truth he had revealed in his proclamation of God’s Kingdom, which was manifested in his person, his message, and his miracles. Jesus was uniquely qualified to testify to this truth for he was the only one who had come down from heaven (John 3:13), who had seen the Father’s work (John 5:19), and who had heard the Father’s message (John 8:26). Because Jesus belonged to what was above (John 8:23), he himself was the fullest manifestation of truth (John 14:6). And so, Jesus’ every word and work offered a revelation of God’s desire and plan for humanity. The truth to which Jesus testified was oriented to uniting all people with God and one another. Christ’s kingship is supremely displayed in his cross and resurrection, the chief moments in which he achieved the reconciliation of humanity and divinity.
By his testimony to the truth, that is, by the way in which Jesus lived out his sovereignty, he has “made us a royal nation of priests in the service of his God and Father” (Revelation 1:6). Christ desired to appoint all his followers as heirs to his kingly dominion. This dominion is to be exercised, of course, in the same manner as Jesus, by testifying to the truth of God’s dynamic Lordship over all. Each of Jesus’ followers is given the royal power to transform the world by our exercise of virtue over vice, compassion over condemnation, and service over selfishness. Christ’s followers rule, as Jesus himself did, by recasting a world of darkness into God’s kingdom of light.
As we come together to worship our God entering into this Thanksgiving week, our grateful hearts testify to the goodness which the power of Christ our King has brought into our world and our lives. May we seek to respond to that goodness by manifesting the truth of God’s kingdom in the way that we serve him and each other, our determination and hope always uplifted by the heavenly assurance that Christ’s “kingship shall never be destroyed” (Daniel 7:14).
Msgr. Fell is a Scripture scholar and director, diocesan Office for Priest Personnel.
For pilgrims of hope We pray that this Jubilee Year strengthen our faith, helping us to recognize the Risen Christ in our daily lives, and that it may transform us into pilgrims of Christian hope.
When? Tuesday evenings, 7:00 pm until around 8:00 pm. November 26, December 3, December 10, December 17 (These are the Tuesdays before each of the four Sundays in Advent)
Where? Upstairs Meeting Room of St. John Vianney Church (420 Inman Ave., Colonia, NJ 07067) unless otherwise posted on the Church doors.
If you plan to join us as we prepare for His coming, please contact Ellen DeRosa by email or by phone at ederosa@sjvs.net or 732-423-5735.
Gospel for November 24, 2024
Revelation 1: 5-8 / John 18:33b-37
Following is a word search based on the Second and Gospel readings for the feast Our Lord Jesus Christ, King of the Universe, Cycle B. The words can be found in all directions in the puzzle.
CHRIST FAITHFUL WITNESS WHO LOVES US BLOOD GLORY FOREVER BEHOLD EVERY EYE PIERCED PILATE ARE YOU THE JEWS JESUS ANSWERED YOUR OWN OTHERS ABOUT ME NATION EVERYONE VOICE
By Jeanette Land Special Contributor
For Christians, Advent, meaning coming or arrival, is a special season to prepare for the birth of the Christ Child. Like Mary, we are called to be pregnant with faith as we look forward with anticipation and great excitement to bringing to life the life of God within us.
For us, the Annunciation is a familiar story. For Mary, the Annunciation was a moment of great decision. Although she was a young teenager, Mary, in silence and solitude, already had prepared her heart to be open to God’s will - the eyes of her soul were constantly focused on God.
Hence, the visit of an angel didn’t seem to disturb her, although she was
deeply troubled by the angel’s message and wondered what his words meant (Luke 1:29). After all, she was a maid and espoused, promised in marriage to Joseph. The notion of a virgin birth was not only perplexing, but impossible! Mary had to decide between the rational and intuitive, i.e., between a knowledge based on trust, as opposed to a reasoned conclusion. Mary chose the better part. She trusted. She rejected reason and fear and embraced faith with courage.
Mary trusted that God would keep His word. In humility and obedience, she uttered her fiat: “I am the Lord’s servant, may it happen to me as you have said” (Luke 1:38). In faith, Mary received the gift of God’s own Son in her willing womb.
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social. Christ comes to us in our sorrows and bears our burdens. He comes to us through others as we see God’s love reflected in them. And, if we are looking, we can often find God in unexpected places, for God is a God of joyful surprises!
At the Nativity, Mary, in perfect adoration, contemplated Jesus and found joy in God. Like Mary, we are called to adoration and worship, to come to the stable with Mary’s obedience and humility. There, we can offer Jesus our unique gifts and talents. We can think of creative ways to be of service to family, friends, and community during this Holy Season.
As Pope Francis stated in his Oct. 2014 reflection: “Believing in Jesus means giving him our flesh with the humility and courage of Mary…. so that Jesus can act in the world through us.”
During Advent, let us wait with Mary and exclaim, Maranatha! Come, Lord Jesus, come! Let us be pregnant with faith as we prepare to bring to life anew, the life of God within us.
Did she understand? No. Mary didn’t always understand fully what she had been chosen to do, yet she was always waiting and willing to submit, humbly and obediently, to God’s will.
Mary’s “Yes” is a lesson in faith for us.
We, too, are called to trust in God always – even when we don’t understand the hurts, losses, sufferings woven into the fabric of our daily lives. In this season of expectancy, let us watch for and be aware of Annunciation moments in our lives – those times we can surrender and say “Yes!” to God, no matter how perplexing or impossible the circumstance seems.
We can prepare ourselves spiritually to give birth to Jesus in our hearts, even though we may be heavy-laden with burdens – financial, physical, emotional, and
Advent begins on Sunday Dec. 1. Begin your Advent journey by blessing your Advent wreath. Light the first violet candle and sing “O Come, O Come, Emmanuel.” For reflections and suggestions on what to do each day of Advent check out the USCCB Advent calendar at https:// www.usccb.org/resources/2024-advent-calendar.
By Jay Donofrio Special Contributor
October’s Youth Ministry Meet-Up and Formation Day brought together youth ministers, parish catechetical leaders and religious for a day focused on reaching the hearts of teens.
Presenter for the day was Chris Bartlett, president of Ablaze Ministries based in the Diocese of Austin, Texas, who shared his years of experience, focusing on the impact of small groups in youth ministry.
Held on Oct. 19 in the St. John Neumann Pastoral Center, Piscataway, topics included challenges that small groups face and ways to overcome these common issues; why these groups are needed in the first place, and what exactly are small groups. Throughout the day Bartlett demonstrated how each student has their own reason for being there in ministry and that understanding the students on an individual level can help cultivate important relationships.
He also shared that by involving the parents of the youth, showing the teens that you care, and narrowing down the focus in these small groups’ sessions that filling the hearts and minds of youth needs to be done on a personal level.
Bartlett started off the event with a de-stressing ice breaker which allowed the youth ministers and everyone involved to learn a bit about each other.
The event was broken down into two main presentation sessions on small group dynamics, and included Mass celebrated by Father Timothy Eck, diocesan director, Office of Worship, and lunch. Participants were brought into the conversations on many occasions, demonstrating the experience of a collaborative gathering rather than a lecture.
The ministers were reinforced in the notion that involving participants (like their own youth) and making participants feel important in the conversation, leads to a more positive environment for ministry. Using his experience involving youth in his own ministries, Bartlett was effective in making participants feel like contributors.
The day was a blend of story sharing, skill developing and a productive collaboration. The goal was to have youth ministers leave equipped with practical methods to better help connect to their youth, along with a knowledge of the practical use of small groups within youth ministry. Another goal was to have individuals go back to their parishes and use what they have learned, to hopefully provide a fresh perspectives with their youth.
Bartlett, who has a long history of youth ministry, has put all he has learned into equipping youth ministers with the ability to connect to their groups. He reinforced that leaders in youth ministry have an important role in these teens’ lives when it comes to helping lead them to Jesus Christ.
Chris Bartlett, president of Ablaze Ministries, was principal speaker of the Oct. 19 workshop in the St. John Neumann Pastoral Center, Piscataway, for youth ministers, parish catechetical leaders and religious focused on reaching the hearts of teens. Bartlett shared his experience in the challenges small groups face and ways to overcome them, as well as why these groups are needed. —Jay Donofrio photo
Bartlett emphasized that actually showing up for youth in predictable and reliable ways is a necessity. He also made it clear that showing up randomly in lives of youth expresses a message that they are genuinely cared for. It is precisely these moments that makes a teen feel like they are thought and about and cared for, in a world that seems pre-occupied with so many other tasks.
An important take-home message from the Meet-Up day centered on
having a personal relationship with the youth, and that letting youth know they are being heard helps to build trust between the teens and the leader. The more that the ministers heard about Bartlett’s personal examples and how his relationships strengthened his youth groups through active listening, the more it was clear that the youth just want to be heard and understood.
Jay Donofrio serves as diocesan Director of Youth and Young Adult Ministry.
For Jason Cordova, diocesan administrative assistant for the Secretariat for Family and Pastoral Life, faith has always been an important part of his life.
Cordova grew up in Kendall Park and continues to attend Mass at his home parish of St. Augustine of Canterbury where he was an altar server from the age of 11 throughout his teen years. He further cultivated his faith during his time attending Rutgers University, New Brunswick, continuing his ministry as a server and becoming active in the cam-
“My faith has been a big part of my life since I was young, but really became the foundation of my life in college,” he said, adding that campus ministry was “extremely influential” in developing his spiritual life.
He later went on to spend a year teaching religion to middle schoolers at St. Augustine of Canterbury School.
“It was in this position, where I saw up close how the youth interact with faith — both the good, and the parts that could use improvement,” said Cordova, who also had opportunities to work with
youth through eight years of umpiring baseball and softball.
In his new role, Cordova supports the diocesan Office of Youth and Young Adult Ministry, the Office of OCIA (Order of Christian Initiation for Adults) and the Office of Discipleship Formation for Children. He also provides assistance with social media for the Office of Communications.
“I am very excited as all of these fit well into my passion for spreading the faith,” he said. “While my role is primarily administrative, I really look forward to learning more about the big picture aspect of these ministries and providing input where I can.”
As someone who has taught in a Catholic school and who has been part of young adult ministries for several years, Cordova hopes to leverage his background and experiences in this position.
“I feel that I can bring a youthful, yet experienced, perspective to the table,” he shared. “Ultimately, all three offices that I support are tasked with, in some way, making the faith more accessible, which is what I care most about. Furthermore, I really hope to be able to incorporate social media in a way to engage with the youth and young adults in the Diocese.”
Cordova also has a military background, having participated in the ROTC program at Rutgers for all four years –training to be an Army officer while enlisting in the New Jersey Army National Guard. While he had planned his future around this ambition, unforeseen circumstances put him on another path.
“It was through my faith that I knew God had other plans for me,” he said.
“With a then-uncertain future, I knew that ultimately, my greatest passion was serving the Church in whatever capacity I could.”
As he started looking for job openings in the Diocese of Metuchen, he found the posting for the job he now holds and jumped at the opportunity.
“Immediately I applied, knowing that if it was the Lord’s will, this job would suit my talents perfectly,” he said. “Thankfully, God’s hands were all over it, and I was hired shortly thereafter.”
Cordova also has a passion for studying theology and hopes to pursue further studies in the future.
“I think that studying the faith is extremely important in order to strengthen our own faith,” he said, “as well as to be able to effectively evangelize others.”
By Peter Jesserer Smith, OSV News
BALTIMORE – The U.S. bishops’ annual fall assembly in Baltimore saw the shepherds of the Catholic Church in this country make intentional steps toward integrating their work with the synodal missionary style called for by the global Church’s recently concluded Synod on Synodality.
At the outset of the Nov. 11-14 plenary assembly, Archbishop Timothy P. Broglio of the U.S. Archdiocese for the Military Services, president of the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops, delivered a homily in the Basilica of the National Shrine of the Assumption of the Blessed Virgin Mary – “the mother church of the synodal activity of the hierarchy in this country” – where he called upon the bishops to beg for wisdom “because we recognize that we are servants of the truth and charged to find ways to help those entrusted to our care."
At the opening public session, Cardinal Christophe Pierre, the papal ambassador to the U.S., told the bishops that Pope Francis’ recent encyclical “Dilexit Nos,” on the Sacred Heart of Jesus, is a call to “return to the heart” of Jesus – and key to understanding the Church’s call to synodal evangelization, Eucharistic revival and the upcoming Jubilee 2025.
"The deeper we go into his heart, the more strengthened we will be to proclaim the Good News together,” he said Nov. 12.
Over the course of the assembly’s Nov. 12 and 13 public sessions, the bishops voted to approve a new “mission directive” for 2025-2028, which commits USCCB committees and staff to prioritize in their work “evangelizing those who are religiously unaffiliated or disaffiliated from the Church, with special focus on young adults and the youth."
Regarding the global synod that concluded in October, a majority of the U.S. bishops in a voice vote Nov. 12 called for the USCCB’s Committee on Priorities and Plans to discern developing a task force to help the conference and dioceses implement the final synod document approved by Pope Francis.
Bishop Daniel E. Flores of Brownsville, Texas, who has led the USCCB’s involvement in the synod process, briefed the bishops on the synod’s October meeting. He said that more theological work needs to be done alongside efforts to develop a synodal missionary culture among Catholics.
"If it doesn’t reach the parishes, it hard-
Bishop A. Elias Zaidan of the Maronite Eparchy of Our Lady of Lebanon of Los Angeles, chair of the U.S. bishops’ Committee on International Justice and Peace, speaks during a Nov. 13, 2024, session of the fall general assembly of the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops in Baltimore. —OSV News photo/Bob Roller
ly reaches the people of God,” he noted.
The bishops also decided to go ahead with drafting a new document on lay ecclesial ministry in the U.S., that would take into account what Bishop Robert E. Barron of Winona-Rochester, Minnesota, chair of the Committee on Laity, Marriage, Family Life, and Youth, called “the experience of co-responsibility in the Church, the evolving nature of parish and diocesan workplaces, and above all the call to greater synodality."
They also approved a final draft of “The Order of Crowning an Image of the Blessed Virgin Mary,” Spanish texts for the Liturgy of the Hours, and the revised New American Bible for use in liturgy.
The conference also saw exemplars of American holiness promoted. The bishops affirmed two new causes brought to them for consultation: Benedictine Sister Annella Zervas of Moorhead, Minnesota, and Gertrude Agnes Barber, a laywoman from Erie, Pennsylvania.
Auxiliary Bishop Roy E. Campbell of Washington, president of the National Black Catholic Congress, who presented on the NBCC’s 2023 congress and resulting pastoral action plan, called on the bishops to promote the canonization causes of Black Catholics known collectively as the “Holy Six” – Venerable Mother Mary Lange; Venerable Father Augustus Tolton; Venerable Mother Henriette DeLille; Venerable Pierre Toussaint; Servant of God Julia Greeley; and Servant of God Sister Thea Bowman.
Bishop Stepan Sus, head of the Ukrainian Greek Catholic Church’s Pastoral and Migration Department, received a standing ovation from the bishops after sharing with them Ukraine’s plight under Russian occupation and thanking the U.S. Church for its continued solidarity.
"As a church we cannot change all
realities of the world,” he said. “But we can be next to those people who suffer and wipe their tears."
Bishop Andrew H. Cozzens of Crookston, Minnesota, and board chair of the National Eucharistic Congress Inc., discussed the NEC’s next steps after the overwhelmingly positive feedback from the 2024 national Eucharistic pilgrimages and congress, saying the organization would support dioceses in their own events, “especially helping to form and send Eucharistic missionaries."
The bishops also discussed how to mark the 10th anniversary of the release of “Laudato Si’,” Pope Francis’ encyclical on integral ecology. Ukrainian Catholic Archbishop Borys A. Gudziak of Philadelphia, chair of the Committee on Domestic Justice and Human Development, suggested the encyclical could be “integrated into our core mission of evangelization,” and that bringing back fasting practices, such as regularly abstaining from eating meat on Fridays, “would be good for the soul and for the planet.”
The bishops also heard a presentation offered by the committees on Laity, Marriage, Family Life, and Youth; ProLife Activities; and Catholic Education in relation to implementing the Vatican declaration on human dignity, “Dignitas Infinita,” released in April.
The looming potential of President-elect Donald Trump implementing his campaign promise to enact mass deportations also shaped the bishops’ conversation. Bishop Mark J. Seitz of El Paso, chair of the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops’ Committee on Migration, encouraged his brother bishops and their priests to speak loudly and unified on the issue of migration, especially in light of recent rhetoric from public figures, saying the lay faithful have a “real
hunger ... for leadership from their priests and bishops alike on this issue."
The conference also passed an operating budget for 2025 with no increase in diocesan assessment.
They elected bishops to several USCCB leadership positions. Archbishop Bernard A. Hebda of St. Paul and Minneapolis was voted in as treasurer-elect and chairman-elect of the budget committee. Auxiliary Bishop Michael G. Woost of Cleveland was elected chairman-elect for the Committee on Divine Worship; Archbishop Shelton J. Fabre of Louisville, Kentucky, was elected chairman-elect of the Committee on Domestic Justice and Human Development; Bishop Edward J. Burns was elected as head of the Committee on Laity, Marriage, Family Life and Youth; and Bishop Brendan J. Cahill of Victoria, Texas, was elected chairman-elect of the Committee on Migration. The prelates assume their positions at the conclusion of the bishops’ 2025 fall assembly.
The bishops also confirmed two bishops to the board of directors of Catholic Relief Services, the international relief agency of the Catholic Church in the U.S.: Bishop Donald J. Hying of Madison, Wisconsin, and Auxiliary Bishop Evelio Menjivar-Ayala of Washington.
The USCCB concluded its annual plenary assembly Nov. 14 in executive session, but released a statement of pastoral concern that day of “firm solidarity with our immigrant brothers and sisters who live and labor in these United States.” It stated, “Together, we must speak out on behalf of the ‘huddled masses yearning to breathe free’ and ask our government to provide fair and humane treatment for our beloved immigrant brothers and sisters."
Peter Jesserer Smith is the national news and features editor for OSV News.
By Tiffany Workman Special Contributor
Catholic Charities, Diocese of Metuchen’s Unity Square Community Center in New Brunswick has services that help community members with food insecurities, social concerns and housing resources.
OceanFirst Foundation, a nonprofit organization, recently awarded Unity Square a grant in the amount of $7,500. Unity Square applied for this grant on the Foundation website and connected with Ocean First Foundation after meeting with a local branch manager in New Brunswick with whom they had collaborated.
“We applied for the major grant application which supports General Operating/Flexible Support of the program,” said Krista Glynn, service area director for Unity Square. “We will be using the funds to not only support general operating costs but also to expand our outreach efforts and programming through additional marketing and purchasing of supplies and technology.”
“We are incredibly grateful to the OceanFirst Foundation for their generous grant and ongoing support, which will play a vital role in supporting our programming and Choice Food Resource Center,” said Michelle Gil, director of Community Outreach for Unity Square. “This funding enables us to continue empowering our community by providing individuals and families with access to healthy, nutritious food, while honoring their ability to make their own choices.” She continued, “We also deeply appreciate them for volunteering their time and making a significant impact at our Trunk or Treat event, distributing over 900 coats to children in need! Together, we are working towards a stronger, more resilient Unity Square where everyone has the resources to thrive.”
Since 1996, OceanFirst Foundation has built a solid reputation as a good neighbor providing grants that help families, organizations, schools and communities in central and southern New Jersey. They empower organizations to think bigger, solve more problems, and make life better in the neighborhoods they serve.
Pictured from left are Michael Jaggernauth, residential loan officer, OceanFirst; Tania Lopez, AVP branch manager, OceanFirst in New Brunswick; Michelle Gil, director of community outreach at Unity Square; Krista Glynn, service area director for Unity Square; Julio Coto, executive director at Catholic Charities Diocese of Metuchen, and Helen Stblecki, CRA officer, OceanFirst. —Photo courtesy of OceanFirst Foundation
OceanFirst Foundation’s priorities include health and wellness, housing, improving the quality of life, and youth development and education.
Since 1996, OceanFirst Foundation has awarded more than 10,000 grants totaling more than $49 million to nonprofits across the OceanFirst Bank footprint. Learn more at oceanfirstfdn.org.
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When I recently had the pleasure of speaking at the Rosary Society Communion Breakfast in my parish, I began by asking why the Qu’ran, the holy book of Islam, pays so much attention to Mary, the mother of Jesus.
Mary is mentioned seventy times in the Qu’ran; she is the only woman mentioned by name; and she is described as the greatest woman who ever lived.
Answering my own question, I said that Mary was the example par excellence of a principle of Islam–submission to the will of God. The word “Islam,” in fact, means “surrender” or “submission.”
I cited the Qu’ran because I figured it would get attention, but I really wanted to focus on the passage in Luke’s Gospel that describes Mary’s encounter with the archangel Gabriel.
Luke describes that meeting in 266 words –at least, in the New American Bible version – and it takes less than a minute and a half to read his account.
Considering the elements present, it seems to me, it must have taken longer than that for the drama to reach its denouement.
The appearance of the angel Gabriel to Mary proclaiming that she is to be the mother of Jesus is depicted in a stained-glass window at St. Therese of Lisieux Church in Montauk, N.Y. —OSV News photo/Gregory A. Shemitz
Luke is talking about an angel, a supernatural being, visiting a young woman in an obscure village in ancient Palestine, telling her that she, although a virgin, is going to conceive and bear a son. This, Gabriel tells her, is to be the work of the Holy Spirit, and the child that will result will inherit the throne of David and rule forever.
And Luke or his translators would have us believe that Mary’s response to this news—inside of two minutes – was, first, “How can this be?” and then, in effect, “OK, whatever you say?”
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I don’t think so.
More likely, Mary reacted first with shock, perhaps some incredulity, and took time to, first, believe, and then, accept what Gabriel had told her.
She probably thought about what people would say about her unexplained pregnancy and what she and her son were getting into if he was going to present himself as the “son of the most high.”
To imagine otherwise would be a disservice to Mary.
Her greatness consists in the fact that, faced with these astounding announcements, she chose to submit to the will of God.
To imagine that Mary made that choice without contemplation and prayer, perhaps even without interior struggle, is to make her into a marionette—a prop in the unfolding of God’s plan.
A question that often comes up with respect to Mary’s answer to Gabriel is, “Could she have said no”?
After all, the Church teaches that Mary was conceived in her mother’s womb without original sin. She was, as we say in the prayer, “full of grace.” As Pope Francis has put it, there was no room in her for sin.
But that doesn’t mean that Mary could not sin, as though she had no free will.
It means that she would not sin and did not sin – not before the angel’s visit and not after.
No, Mary was no robot being manipulated by God for his own purposes. She was free – free not only to say no, but free also to say yes.
She was a strong woman who knew her own mind, a mind in love with God and on fire with the Holy Spirit.
She was strong and free, and because of her strength and her freedom to say yes, she is the mother of our savior, the mother of the Church, the mother of us all, and the greatest woman who ever lived.
Charles Paolino is a permanent deacon in the Diocese of Metuchen, retired from active ministry at Our Lady of Lourdes Church in Whitehouse Station. He is managing editor of RENEW International, a Catholic association providing faith-sharing resources and leadership training for small Christian communities.
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By Mike Kowalczyk Special Contributor
For the St. Thomas Aquinas High School, Edison, gymnastics team, the gymnasium is where tradition meets te nacity, and this season they proved it once again. The team clinched its third con secutive Greater Middlesex Conference (GMC) Championship, setting a statehigh mark of 111.80. But they didn’t stop there: STA went on to win the NJSIAA North II State Sectional Championship with a new state-high score of 111.975, se curing the top seed in the upcoming state team championships. This is STA’s third straight sectional title, adding yet another chapter to a story of hard work, history, and a program that consistently builds remarkable athletes.
For Head Coach Brant Lutska, the GMC win marked his 18th champion ship title and the school’s 23rd overall, underscoring his leadership in crafting a legacy of excellence. “The 2024 gymnas tics team performed incredibly at both the county and state sectional champi onships,” Coach Lutska said. “Everyone worked together as a team, and their ef forts paid off in a big way.”
At both championships, junior Supriyha Moore led the way, dominating the All-Around competition and earning titles that captivated spectators and judges alike. Moore claimed 1st on vault and floor and placed 2nd on beam and bars at the GMCs, followed by another outstanding performance at the state sectional,
where she won the All-Around title once more. Joining her on the podium at sectionals were junior Shelby Reno in 2nd place and junior Sofia Bertocci in 6th, with all three advancing to the Individual State Championship. Aquinas gymnasts swept all five event titles at the state sectional, claiming a staggering 19 out of 25 possible medals at the GMC and 10 titles at the sectional event.
By Mike Kowalczyk Special Contributor
St. Thomas Aquinas High School, Edison, is proud to announce that junior Samantha Villacis, one of the nation’s top high school swimmers, has verbally committed to Florida State University to further her academic and athletic career. Villacis, a celebrated member of the STA swimming team and school community, chose Florida State from among five prestigious offers, which included Indiana University, Georgia Tech, Rutgers, and Northwestern.
“I am beyond excited to announce my commitment to FSU!” shared Villacis. “I want to thank my family, teammates, and coaches who’ve supported me every step of the way. Special thanks to the FSU coaches Neal and Steve for this amazing opportunity, my Peddie coaches Emmet and Heather, and my STA coaches Amanda, Brian, and Claire. I can’t
wait to see what the future holds.”
A standout both in and out of the pool, Sam has achieved All-Conference, All-State, and All-America honors in a single season while maintaining an impressive 3.7 GPA. Her dedication has made her a top recruit, recognized among the top three swimmers in the state and ranked in the top 100 nationally. Her choice was guided by her excitement over FSU’s welcoming team culture, the support from their coaches, and a strong business program aligned with her career goal to work on Wall Street.
“My goal going into the GMC tournament was to build on my progress,” said Moore. “I’m proud that I and my teammates were able to do better than we’ve done before.”
This isn’t just a team; it’s a legacy built on discipline, resilience, and the supportive environment STA provides. With the state team championship ahead, STA Gymnastics is ready to bring its best, em-
The gymnastics team poses with its NSJIAA sectional championship plaque after achieving a state-high score. —Emma Aly photo
bodying the unmatched St.
spirit that leaves audiences in awe and competitors inspired.
Head STA swimming coach, Amanda Cleveland-Miller, remarked on Villacis’ outstanding accomplishment, “FSU is very lucky to have been chosen from the prestigious group of offerings she received. It is a school rich in academic and athletic excellence and Sammy will thrive in Tallahassee.”
Villacis’ journey to success reflects the invaluable support of the STA com-
munity. Her family extends deep gratitude to her STA coaches, teachers, and staff for their unwavering encouragement during her recruitment journey, which saw interest from 53 top-tier programs worldwide, including seven overseas universities in Canada, Switzerland, and the United Kingdom. Her achievements underscore the strength of STA’s athletic and academic programs, which empower
students to excel at every level. Mike Kowalczyk serves as STAHS communications director.
Joseph Marinello and his St. Joe’s soccer teammates had an inkling when the school year began that this might be a special season.
Many of the starters from the Edison high school’s last year’s team had grown from sophomores into juniors. They were wiser, stronger and more physically fit. And with each passing game, the Falcons became more battle-tested and determined to make history.
That came to fruition on Oct. 29 when St. Joe’s won its first Greater Middlesex County Tournament title since 2010 by defeating South Brunswick in a thrilling penalty shootout, 4-3, after the game was tied at one following a pair of overtimes.
“The atmosphere was intense, especially since we lost to them in our first game of the season,” said Marinello, a junior forward from Colonia who led the team in scoring (as of Nov. 7) with seven goals and five assists. “The GMC, it’s always a battle. No game is just clean. It’s always scrappy.”
St. Joe’s learned to navigate those environments so dominantly after falling to South Brunswick by one goal in the season opener that the Falcons went undefeated from that point onward, winning 13 games while tying in two other contests.
When it came time for redemption against South Brunswick, the biggest goal of the season fittingly came off the foot of Mason Atkins. The junior defender wasn’t even in the starting lineup when the season started and hadn’t netted a goal until then, but St. Joe’s is one of the state’s deepest teams with 15 players who have contributed at least one goal or an assist.
“There is no real, I’d say, overarching ego amongst the guys,” said head coach Sam Roca, whose team earned a No. 4 seed in the Non-Public A South state playoffs.
“Everybody’s happy for each other.
bration. Each man is super excited, super happy, and they really do feel like our every goal, though ‘X player’ scored, it was really the team that produced that goal-scoring opportunity, and we all finished it.”
Roca describes what has transpired this fall as a “long time coming.” When the Wayne native was hired in June of 2020, St. Joe’s was fresh off a pair of losing seasons. But Roca had a strong senior class to establish a reinvigorated culture that first year, and then the next few years were about rebuilding and promoting the program through camps and clinics.
While St. Joe’s attracts players from all over New Jersey, Roca says the recruitment is not simply about soccer. His staff seeks youth who fit the school academically and spiritually as well.
“I really think the school has actually helped me,” said Marinello, who remembers bonding with Roca and players on the team during one of the school’s Dark Stars summer camps when he decided to attend St. Joe’s. “I think it’s even just the way I see things in life, too – not just soccer. There’s a level of maturity that all the guys at St Joe’s develop, and it’s thanks to the teachers and all the mentors that we have.”
It becomes a perfect equation when the student-athletes can thrive on the field together, and that has culminated this fall with a dream season in soccer.
The team features a good mix of juniors and sophomores along with eight seniors. Sophomore forwards Noah Charnecky (six goals) and Xavier Welbeck-Taveras (five goals) were among the top scorers as of Nov. 7. Senior goalie Troy Boucher made two saves during the shootout of the GMC final and will continue his academic and athletic career at the Coast Guard Academy.
“All the credit to the players, because they’ve been working hard over
Left, St. Joe’s won the GMC Tournament for the first time since 2010 by defeating South Brunswick on Oct. 29 in a penalty shootout.
Below, Senior goalie Troy Boucher helped St. Joe’s win the GMC Tournament with two saves during the penalty shootout in the final.
Bottom, Sophomore forward Joseph
the last few years to breathe this out,” Roca said. “Now finally, the fruits have come to bear, and they’re starting to reap the rewards of all that hard work.”
It also helps to learn from one of the state’s most accomplished soccer minds. Roca played in high school at Wayne Valley; in college at the Division I level with South Carolina and High Point; semi-professionally in Newark; and professionally in Sweden and Canada. He has coached since 2015 with pro clubs as well as at Wayne Valley before coming to St. Joe’s.
Roca has connections to help his student-athletes reach the next level if they make the year-round commitment to soccer. R.J. Allen, a St. Joe’s alum and former MLS player, runs the school’s winter offseason program. Numerous college coaches visit over the summer to work directly with the players as well.
“It’s definitely cool because he has a deeper knowledge of the game, and then he understands all of our problems,” Marinello said of Roca. “It’s not just him telling us to go do something tactically. He actually was in the same position as us, and we’re learning from someone
who did it already and who did it at one of the highest levels. It’s just really cool, and we learn a lot from him.”
Roca believes that he was a product of hard work because he didn’t grow up with God-given abilities, so he’s able to connect and instill that same mentality in his pupils at St. Joe’s.
It has resonated deeply with the team’s versatile roster, which doesn’t have a star player, yet knows how to strike fear in opponents because the Falcons play unselfishly and unpredictably.
Roca emphasizes that he isn’t married to a particular formation or playing style, and the ability to adapt to his players’ skills from year to year is why the school is set up for long-term success in soccer.
“We have guys coming from all over the place. I always call it a melting pot,” Roca said. “That’s one of the things I like, too, because everybody’s bringing something different. Everybody has a different playing style, different background, different club levels. So, it’s nice to try to put the puzzle together, so to speak, and give us a little bit of different flavors from all over.”
By Greg Johnson, Correspondent
If you look around at high school sports teams throughout New Jersey, you’d be hard-pressed to find a greater transformation of a program than Somerville’s Immaculata girls soccer.
The Spartans have often been ranked among the state’s top 20 teams this fall after spending most of the millennium as one of the weakest teams on opponents’ schedules. Immaculata posted only one winning record from 2002-17 including a 24-78-12 record for those last six years.
Then everything changed when Immaculata athletic director Tom Gambino hired Jeremy Beardsley, a two-time state champion while coaching Montgomery for 15 years, to become the head girls’ soccer coach in 2018.
“The biggest thing I wanted to do, with the support of Mr. Gambino, was establish a culture,” Beardsley said. “Once we established that culture, we worked on having high-quality kids look at our school and be invested in our school and see what we were doing. And we got great kids to look at Immaculata. The school has been very supportive of my vision.”
That culture shift started with the Spartans having pride for their shield by setting traditions and standards. They aimed to achieve more and more every year, whether it be advancing further in the county tournament or the state tournament. Each senior class has topped the
the past six seasons.
“It’s been amazing,” said Amari Manning, a sophomore forward from Flemington who led the team in scoring (as of Nov. 7) with 18 goals and seven assists. “At Immaculata, you have the type of culture that I don’t think you can find in many other places, and the team works so hard. Just everyone trying to get better and for each other. It’s a really special environment.”
While Immaculata has had a winning record for six straight years, the Spartans are now maintaining it with a more challenging schedule. They earned a No. 2 seed – their highest under Beardsley – in Non-Public A South division this season and have become a legitimate state title contender.
“They’re great kids, and they’re so together and we’re so united, and it creates three months of just fun,” Beardsley said. “It’s competitive, and we’re serious. We have high standards, high expectations, but we have so much fun, too. That’s the exciting part of it.”
Along with the change in mentality, Immaculata has been able to recruit more talented players because Beardsley is a knowledgeable club soccer coach for the local Players Development Academy in Franklin Twp. Manning is a PDA product who played this summer with the U-15 Women’s Youth National Team as well.
“Amari is as special as they come,” Beardsley said. “She’s also just an amazing
Other standouts on the team include sophomore forward Rosalie Ramos, who had 11 goals and three assists (as of Nov. 7) and senior midfielder Devin Reeves, whom Beardsley describes as the heartbeat of the team with her hustle and passion.
Reeves and Manning are also Marian Scholars at the school.
“It’s been really special for me,” Manning said. “This school is a great school, and then also including my faith [factoring] into that, just growing stronger with God while also growing stronger in my soccer and my academics and preparing me for college. It’s amazing.”
When it comes to soccer, Manning says the Spartans are difficult to play against because they’re an aggressive team that won’t let you run past them. They work hard for every ball and pass, and they have sharp technical skills and the ability to finish goals, all evident in their first state tournament game on Nov. 7 when they won 9-0 over Our Lady of Mercy.
This all stems from Immaculata’s developmental environment. The girls undergo intense training and play a more organized brand of soccer than many other schools.
“You’re going to be surrounded by really good players, so I think people are attracted to that,” Beardsley said. “There’s so much investment from a lot of these club parents in club soccer. They don’t necessarily want an environment where their kid regresses, or it’s not the best lev-
Top, Sophomore forward Amari Manning has led Immaculata in scoring in games played through Nov. 7 with 18 goals and seven assists.
Far left, Sophomore forward Rosalie Ramos has been another top scorer for Immaculata with 11 goals and three assists in games played through Nov. 7.
Left, Senior midfielder Devin Reeves has been a leader for Immaculata on the field as well as a Marian Scholar in school.
—Valentina Agostino photos
el of soccer. They know they could come here, and yeah, we win a fair share of games, but we try to play good soccer, and our training sessions are unbelievable.”
The process works because Beardsley says he has strong support from Gambino and Immaculata principal Edward Webber when it comes to the team’s logistical needs.
“He really teaches us hard work, determination, how to be mentally and physically strong, and just push through everything and adversity,” Manning said of Beardsley.
While the future is certainly bright on the field with Immaculata’s top-two scorers being only sophomores, the Spartans also cherish bonding together off the field. All of the student-athletes live within 30 to 45 minutes of each other, Manning said, and that has fostered their unflappable culture as well.
“We’re all really close,” Manning said. “I’ve been to almost everybody’s house, and we have pasta parties before every game which is really special. Different people host every time. After practice the team gets together, and it’s a big way that grows our bond, which also translates on the field. And even in school, you see everybody at school, everyone says hi. It’s a really strong family.”
In 2020, the Vatican’s Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith released the letter Samaritanus bonus (The Good Samaritan), “on the care of persons in the critical and terminal phases of life.” It explains Church teaching on care for the seriously ill or dying and includes pastoral guidance for end-of-life decisions. The USCCB article, “The Witness of the Good Samaritan: Palliative Care and Hospice” summarizes the document’s key points.
The article begins: “The ultimate foundation of human dignity lies in the reality that God became man to save us and call us into communion with him. The Good Samaritan, who goes out of his way to aid an injured man, symbolizes Jesus, who encounters humanity in need of salvation and cares for our wounds and sufferings. Despite our best efforts, it can sometimes be difficult to recognize the profound value of human life when we see its full weakness and fragility. Yet, the faithful care of human life until its natural end is entrusted to every person.
“In the face of challenges that affect the very way we think about medicine, the significance of the care of the sick, and our social responsibility toward the most vulnerable, the Church reminds us of our obligation to readily accompany those in the critical and terminal stages of life, for all are called to give witness at the side of the sick person. Sadly, the request for death through euthanasia or assisted suicide is often a symptom of disease, aggravated by isolation and discomfort. Care for life is therefore the first responsibility in our encounter with those who are sick. This responsibility exists not only when health may be restored, but even when a cure is impossible. Only human warmth and evangelical fraternity can reveal a positive horizon of support to the sick person in hope and confident trust.”
To read the full article visit www. usccb.org/resources/samaritanus-bonus-witness-good-samaritan.pdf.
Access additional resources at usccb.org/prolife/catholic-care-sick-anddying.
Saint Peter’s University Hospital’s Robert and Joan Campbell Adult Emergency Department has been selected as a recipient of the Emergency Nurses Association’s 2024 Lantern Award for demonstrating excellence in leadership, practice, education, advocacy, and research performance.
The Lantern Award showcases Saint Peter’s emergency department’s accomplishments in incorporating evidence-based practice and innovation into emergency care. As part of the application, emergency departments are
encouraged to share stories that highlight a commitment to patient care, as well as the well-being of nursing staff. The award serves as a visible symbol of our commitment to quality, safety, and a healthy work environment.
“Receiving the Lantern Award from the Emergency Nurses Association is a significant achievement for our team. It reflects our pursuit of excellence in emergency care and our dedication to ensuring the safety and well-being of our patients and staff,” said Sharon Haskins, director of Medical/Surgical Services, Adult Critical
“Heavenly Father, thank you for the precious gift of life. Help us to cherish and protect this gift, even in the midst of fear, pain, and suffering. Give us love for all people, especially the most vulnerable, and help us bear witness to the truth that every life is worth living.”
USCCB Secretariat of Pro-Life Activities
Care, Emergency Services, Physical Medicine and Rehabilitation, and Bed Management at Saint Peter’s University Hospital.
Saint Peter’s Adult ED was recognized for several initiatives focusing on enhanced communication, patient safety, employee engagement, and clinical programs. Among them is BrainScope, a cutting-edge technology that assesses individuals with head injuries for brain bleed and/or concussion. This innovative tool helps to reduce a patient’s exposure to radiation and decrease hospital stays. Early results show a 65 percent reduction in computed tomography (CT) scan usage and a decrease in hospital stay length by 72 minutes.
In addition, Saint Peter’s adult emergency department developed strategies for prevention, intervention and sustainment in caring for patients experiencing withdrawal, misuse, or overdose. Saint Peter’s partners with a local recovery center to provide immediate support for overdose patients and introduced the Clinical Opioid Withdrawal Scale (COWS) to enhance treatment – initiatives that have significantly improved patient retention
for detox and rehabilitation placements from 35 percent to 60 percent.
“This recognition from the Emergency Nurses Association is a testament to the commitment and hard work of our emergency department staff. We are all devoted to providing exceptional patient care and maintaining a supportive and collaborative work environment,” said Deep Desai, DO, chair of Emergency Medicine at Saint Peter’s University Hospital.
This is the first time Saint Peter’s adult emergency department has received the Lantern Award (2024-2027). The Dorothy B. Hersh Pediatric Emergency Department at The Children’s Hospital at Saint Peter’s University Hospital became New Jersey’s only pediatric emergency department to earn the Lantern Award for the 2022-2025 term.
For more information on this year’s Lantern Award recipients, visit www.ena. org/about/awards-recognition/lantern.
For more information about Saint Peter’s Emergency Department, visit www.saintpetershcs.com/services/emergency-department.
Veteran’s Day was Nov. 11: Veteran is grateful for God’s guiding presence in a life of faith and service
AURORA, Colo. (OSV News) – Edward “Eddie” Maurer III embodies a deep understanding of faith and connection. A naval veteran and retired engineer, he recently celebrated his 81st birthday, reflecting with gratitude on God’s guiding presence throughout his life. His military service, steeped in his Catholic faith, was a testament to shared beliefs among the armed forces. “God and country, that was pretty much a common belief, not just with Catholics, but anybody that was a person of faith and was part of the military,” said Maurer, who belongs to St. Michael the Archangel Parish in Aurora. The Marian medal he wears “symbolizes both God and country to me.” Born and raised in Detroit, Maurer grew up as an only child. After high school, he earned a bachelor’s degree in architecture from the University of Detroit in 1967. He enlisted in the Navy and attended Officer Candidate School in Newport, Rhode Island, before being commissioned into the U.S. Naval Reserve on March 8, 1968. He served in the Gator Navy, specializing in amphibious warfare, and received additional training at the Philadelphia Navy Base, including Damage Control and SERE (Survival, Evasion, Resistance and Escape) School. Maurer served on the USS Sandoval, an attack transport ship in the Mediterranean, before the ship’s decommissioning in 1970. After the Navy, Maurer worked as an architect for 35 years in Michigan and Colorado.
‘Someone suffers’ every time Russia attacks Ukraine, says Basilian nun in Zaporizhzhia
ZAPORIZHZHIA, Ukraine (OSV News)
– As Russia intensifies its strikes on Ukraine, Basilian Sisters in the southeastern city of Zaporizhzhia are asking for prayers and charitable support for those they serve. “Every time we are attacked, someone suffers,” Sister Lucia Murashko of the order’s Holy Trinity Province told OSV News via text message Oct. 22. The Basilian Sisters – who have communities in the U.S. and the order’s native Ukraine, as well as in Argentina, Croatia, Poland, Romania and Slovakia – have become known for their tireless efforts to aid Ukrainian refugees and internally displaced persons amid Russia’s brutal aggression. Since Russia’s February 2022 full-scale invasion of Ukraine, Sister Lucia along with fellow Basilian Sisters Yelysaveta Varnitska and Bernadeta Dvernytska have remained in place at their monastery less than 40 miles from the front line. OSV News visited the monastery in September while traveling in a delegation led by Metropolitan Archbishop Borys A. Gudziak of the Ukrainian Catholic Archeparchy of Philadelphia. Since OSV News’ visit, Russia has doubled down on targeting the city of Zaporizhzhia, located in the Ukraine-held area of the oblast, or province, of the same name. While the sisters’ monastery has so far been spared, the strikes, which are routinely aimed at civilian buildings, have directly impacted the Basilians’ loved ones. Cellphone pictures Sister Lucia shared with OSV News show Zaporizhzhia-area homes and civilian structures completely demolished by Russian weapons.
This combo photo shows Edward “Eddie” Maurer III of Aurora, Colo., left, a Navy veteran and retired engineer, now 81; Mauer as a commissioned officer in the U.S. Naval Reserve, center; and young Eddie at his confirmation at St. Brigid Church in Detroit in 1955, right.
—OSV News photo/ courtesy Edward Maurer
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Foundress of Franciscan Sisters of the Renewal remembered for inner light,
NEW YORK (OSV News) – Mother Lucille Cutrone, foundress of the Franciscan Sisters of the Renewal, was remembered as a “devoted daughter of the Church” during her funeral Mass celebrated Nov. 4 in St. Patrick’s Cathedral in New York. Mother Lucille died Oct. 27 “surrounded by the love and prayers of her sisters” at the Convent of San Damiano in the New York borough of the Bronx, where she resided, according to her community. She had been recently diagnosed with acute myeloid leukemia, which affects the blood and bone marrow. Mother Lucille was 77. “How grateful we CFR sisters are for her persevering ‘yes’ and faithfulness in living and imparting our charism to us over the past 36 years,” said Mother Francis O’Donnell, current general servant of the religious community. Clergy, family, friends and men and women religious came to St. Patrick’s from far and wide to pay their respects to Mother Lucille, including Bishop Den nis J. Sullivan of Camden, New Jersey, who prayed with the community during solemn vespers the evening of Nov. 3. The community has a mission in Atlantic City, New Jersey. The next morning’s funeral Mass was celebrated by Cardinal Timothy M. Dolan of New York. Several bishops sprinkled Mother Lucille’s cas ket with holy water as it left the church, bound for St. Raymond’s Cemetery in the Bronx.
Sainthood cause to open for beloved Irish actress turned nun, parish priest confirms
DUBLIN (OSV News) – The sainthood cause of an Irish nun killed in an earthquake in Ecuador in 2016 is to open early next year, it has been revealed. Derry-born Sister Clare Crockett was a promising actress with little interest in religion when she went on a Holy Week retreat in Spain in 2000 that changed her life. The then 18-year-old self-confessed “wild child” felt a profound call to religious life, and entered the convent of the Servant Sisters of the Home of the Mother. Following her death in the 2016 Ecuador earthquake, stories soon began to spread of her holiness of life and devoted pastoral service. Her grave in her native Derry soon became a place of pilgrimage, and devotion to her intercession has grown. She has been credited with bringing many young people back to the
Women react next to their house Oct. 12, 2024, in Zaporizhzhia, Ukraine, damaged by a Russian airstrike.
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Mother Lucille Cutrone, foundress of the Franciscan Sisters of the Renewal, is pictured in an undated photo. She died Oct. 27, 2024, “surrounded by the love and prayers of her sisters” at the Convent of San Damiano in the New York borough of the Bronx, where she resided. She was 77.
—OSV News photo/courtesy Franciscan Sisters of the Renewal
Sister Clare Crockett, a member of the Servant Sisters of the Home of the Mother, is pictured in a 2011 photo. A sainthood cause for the Irish sister, who was killed in Ecuador during an 2016 earthquake, is to be opened in early 2025. —OSV News photo/courtesy Servant Sisters of the Home of the Mother
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QPlease explain what an indulgence is and how it can reduce or eliminate the time a soul must spend in purgatory.
AIndulgences are perhaps one of the more misunderstood parts of Catholic practice. But indulgences are deeply rooted in several key Catholic theological concepts, such as the nature of purgatory, the Church’s authority, the spiritual power of prayer and sacrifice and the communion of saints.
The Catechism of the Catholic Church gives us a quick working definition of an indulgence when it states: “Through indulgences the faithful can obtain the remission of temporal punishment resulting from sin for themselves and also for the souls in Purgatory” (CCC, No. 1498).
Canon 992 of the Code of Canon Law further tells us: “A member of Christ’s faithful who is properly disposed and who fulfils certain specific conditions, may gain an indulgence by the help of the Church which, as the minister of redemption, authoritatively dispenses and applies the treasury of the merits of Christ and the Saints.”
Breaking this down into more practical terms, an indulgence is a spiritual benefit attached to certain pious acts specified by the Holy Father – such as, for example, visiting a designated pilgrimage site during a Jubilee year – which can eliminate (in the case of a “plenary indulgence”) or reduce (with a “partial indulgence”) the amount of time a soul spends in Purgatory.
In addition to devoutly completing
This is a bronze coin titled “Dante before the Mountain of Purgatory [reverse], late 15th century.” —CNS photo/Samuel H. Kress Collection via National Gallery of Art
the pious act in question, the one seeking to earn a plenary indulgence must also: 1. Pray for the Pope’s intentions; 2. Make a good confession and receive Holy Communion close to the time of earning the indulgence; and 3. Be sincerely repentant of their sins, to the point of no longer having any sense of attachment to sin.
While the process of earning an indulgence is relatively straightforward, the spiritual mechanics of how and why indulgences work can be a bit more subtle.
First of all, it’s important to keep in mind that souls in purgatory are all destined for heaven, and thus that they have already repented of and been forgiven for their sins. We also need to understand that, strictly speaking, purgatory is a state outside of linear time as we experience it on earth. So even though we speak of purgatory as a time of “temporal punish-
ment,” this does not mean that purgatory is akin to a jail sentence with indulgences being like a sort of parole.
Recalling the catechism’s reminder that “every sin, even venial, entails an unhealthy attachment to creatures, which must be purified either here on earth, or after death” (CCC, No. 1472), we can more accurately understand purgatory as a phase of spiritual purification to prepare souls still affected by the spiritual consequences of their sins to enter eventually into the full presence of God in heaven.
Just like our prayers and sacrifices can help ourselves and others grow closer to God in this life, the Church teaches that we can help the souls in purgatory move farther along on their spiritual journey even after their deaths. While our simple prayers can always help the souls in purgatory, indulgences are an especially powerful means of providing this kind of spiritual assistance.
Indulgences work because we believe that many of the Church’s saints already prayed, sacrificed and patiently suffered enough during their earthly lives to have already have been purified enough to enter heaven; and that all their additional good deeds on top of what was needed for their own salvation created a kind of “surplus” of grace which the catechism refers to as “the Church’s treasury” (CCC, No. 1476).
Because the Holy Father, as the successor to St. Peter, shares in St. Peter’s power to “bind and loose” (Mt 16:19), the Pope therefore has the power to distribute the extra grace in the church’s treasury to souls that need it. Indulgences are essentially the means by which the pope distributes these spiritual goods.
Diocesan ministry recognizes growing homeschooling movement
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Regular events – bi-monthly, to start – will be held after the kick-off, and organizers already have a wide range of activities in mind. These include homeschool curricula reviews and exchanges, an art contest, robotics competition, Our Lady of Sorrows devotion and procession, and architectural tour of diocesan churches.
The diocesan Homeschooling Ministry will be part of the Secretariat for Family & Pastoral Life – led by Secretary Jennifer Ruggiero – and will include collaboration with the Office of Discipleship Formation for Children and the Office of Family Life, with director Jill Kerekes.
“This new ministry will serve as an important bridge between families and their parishes, fostering a deeper understanding in the parish of the goals and realities of homeschooling families,” said Ruggiero. “We also hope to provide opportunities for increased connection among homeschool families of the Diocese and with the diocesan Church, especially in the areas of devotional life and faith formation.”
Kerekes will support the Homeschooling Ministry by introducing families to the Franciscan at Home formation platform, which she said includes a multitude of resources and tools that can assist homeschool parents.
“Homeschooling has become much more common in the last several years for a variety of reasons and continues to be a growing movement,” said Kerekes. “Diocesan outreach serves to acknowledge the growth of the movement and provides for an additional level of community support for the homeschooling families.”
She added her hopes that families will learn about the new outreach and take advantage of the support.
“I hope the faithful become aware that the ministry exists and that those homeschool families in need of support and community will reach out,” she said.
The event in St. Theodore Parish, Port Murray will take place on Tuesday, Jan. 14 at 6:30 p.m. Those interested in attending can visit https://diometuchen. org/homeschool-ministry-1 to register online.
“When I was a child,” Saint Paul writes, “I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became a man, I gave up childish ways” (1 Cor 13:11). This distinction, and the transition from boyhood to manhood, does not seem as easy for us today. Our society, with its increasingly grotesque masculine identity crisis, cannot define “the things of a man.” In this revised and expanded edition, author Jason Craig, cofounder of Fraternus, a Catholic mentoring program for boys, demonstrates how we can actually do something to address this crisis. Leaving Boyhood Behind resets our understanding of the gift of manhood and the wisdom of traditional rites of passage. Men have what it takes to change the tide of confusion, insecurity, and immaturity. Especially in the Church, we have everything we need for true and authentic masculinity, because we have the true man and true God, Jesus Christ. This book is a call to action. You can understand these principles and enact the simple ideas in your own life in ways that are natural and effective.
These books are available at www.osvcatholicbookstore.com
In the midst of a culture that is increasingly confused about sexuality, love, life, and our very identity as persons, the Church offers us the truth of who we are. For women, this truth is rooted in motherhood – not just biological but, even more, spiritual – because women are the bearers and nurturers of life. Yet it’s difficult to understand and defend the true value of motherhood when the lies that permeate secular culture have seeped into our own way of thinking, even in the Church. Reclaiming Motherhood from a Culture Gone Mad helps Catholics to peel back societal assumptions to understand the fundamental misconceptions fueling our culture’s attacks on marriage, motherhood and the family. Examining current practices in light of these faulty assumptions will empower women in their own motherhood and equip Catholics to combat the culture of confusion by boldly proclaiming God’s vision for our lives.
This book offers a deep dive into what the Church teaches on motherhood and its dignity, equipping us to understand the WHY behind those teachings. It is only by living within a vision that honors the selfgift of motherhood as the pinnacle of womanhood that love, and not self-interest, can begin to reorder our lives.
By John Mulderig, OSV News
NEW YORK (OSV News) – Fans of the 2017 film “Wonder” may recognize the character of Julian Abans (Bryce Gheisar), a student on whose adjustment to a new school the opening scenes of the touching wartime drama “White Bird” (Lionsgate) focus. Julian was the bully who persecuted the facially deformed but heroic-hearted protagonist of the earlier movie.
Having been expelled for his misconduct, Julian is navigating his present environment and wavering between the proffered friendship of an outsider and the somewhat reluctant patronage offered to him by a callous member of the private academy’s elite. Opportunely, Julian’s grandmother, Sara (Helen Mirren), decides to intervene at this decisive point.
A celebrated artist visiting Julian’s native New York from Paris for a retrospective of her work, elderly Grandmere believes that Julian will profit from her own life lessons. So, in a series of flashbacks that make up the bulk of the story, she recounts to him for the first time the travails she endured as a young Jewish schoolgirl (Ariella Glaser) in occupied France.
Initially pampered at home and popular among her peers, youthful Sara
By John Mulderig, OSV News
Gentle, moving drama about a 10-year-old boy (Jacob Tremblay) born with facial deformities and his struggle to win acceptance from his peers as he transitions from being educated at home to attending the fifth grade of his local middle school. His sympathetic parents (Julia Roberts and Owen Wilson) offer support as does his older sister (Izabela Vidovic), despite the fact that his emotional needs have left her feeling overlooked by Mom and Dad. The attitudes of his fellow students (most prominently Noah Jupe, Bryce Gheisar and Millie Davis) range from open friendliness to cruel hostility with Jupe’s character representing a case study in moral subtlety and the negative effects of peer pressure.
In adapting R.J. Palacio’s best-seller, director and co-writer Stephen Chbosky has created a winning and memorable film about the significance of ordinary life and the lasting impact of everyday choices. Despite a few mature elements, the movie’s ethical lessons make it appropriate and valuable fare for most teens. A scene vaguely referencing married sexuality, fleeting scatological material, a couple of fistfights, one use of profanity, a single mildly crass term. The Catholic News Service classification is A-II – adults and adolescents. The Motion Picture Association of America rating is PG – parental guidance suggested. Some material may not be suitable for children.
is gifted but selfish and ethically neutral. Thus, although she refrains from joining in the persecution of her school’s main outcast, partially-crippled polio victim Julien Beaumier (Orlando Schwerdt), neither does she come to his defense. In stead, like most of those around her, she simply shuns him.
As the domination of her homeland progresses, however, Sara’s life and out look change dramatically. Soon German soldiers are rounding up local Jews, both adults and children alike, and Sara is suddenly separated from her loving parents – Max (Ishai Golan) and Rose (Olivia Ross) – and forced to flee into the woods.
Desperate to stay one step ahead of her pursuers, Sara finds that the only person willing to come to her aid is Julian. Not only does he put himself at risk by helping her evade those hunting her down, he also provides her with long-term shelter in his family’s barn.
With the active help of his father (Jo Stone-Fewings) and mother (Gillian Anderson) – who eventually come to regard Sara as their adoptive daughter –Julien succeeds in concealing Sara over the weeks and months that follow. As the two youngsters mature, meanwhile, their bond of friendship is gradually transformed into a burgeoning romance.
A paean to kindliness and the power of imagination, director Marc Forster screen version of R.J. Palacio’s 2019 graphic novel – “Wonder” was also based on Palacio’s work – lacks subtlety at times. Yet, as scripted by Mark Bomback, “White Bird” effectively tugs at the heart by showcasing altruistic heroism in the face of dire evil.
The picture’s formative moral impact, moreover, outweighs its few problematic elements, making it a valuable experience for teens as well as grownups. Both age groups will find themselves rooting enthusiastically for the central
pair and joining in the screenplay’s recurring slogan: “Vive l’humanite!”
The film contains mostly stylized violence with a few brief images of gore, mature themes including ethnic persecution, a single crude term and a couple of crass expressions. The OSV News classification is A-II – adults and adolescents.
The Motion Picture Association rating is PG-13 – parents strongly cautioned. Some material may be inappropriate for children under 13.
John Mulderig is media reviewer for OSV News. Follow him on X (formerly Twitter) @JohnMulderig1.
Black Catholic Gathering – 9 a.m. – 12 noon, St. John Neumann Pastoral Center. Service Hours will be awarded for attending. No Fee. For more information contact Sr. Miriam Perez, SSC at 732529-7933.
Advent Seminar – The Gospel of Luke – 9 a.m. – 3 p.m. Rev. Gustavo Amell S.T. will explore aspects of the Gospel of Saint Luke, and help participants reflect on its message for their faith life. For more information, and registration visit https://diometuchen.org/hispanicevangelization or contact us at Lescobar@diometuchen.org.
Evangelization Workshop – 9:45 am – 3 p.m. Immaculata High School, 240 Mountain Ave., Somerville. Prior to workshop, 9 a.m. Mass with Msgr. Joseph Celano, Immaculate Conception Church, 35 Mountain Ave., Somerville. During this Year of Mission, the Diocese is hosting this workshop for all parishioners. The day will include presentations, small groups, exercises, breakfast, lunch and all training materials. Cost, $25. Online registration required at stpaulse.com/somerville. If you have questions, contact Adam Carlisle, Secretary for Evangelization and Communication at acarlisle@diometuchen.org.
Professional Development Opportunity for PCLs. Laurel Marchesini from Sadlier to speak on “Jubliee 2025” For more information contact Jill Kerekes, director, Office of Discipleship Formation for Children, at 732-5297930 or email, jkerekes@diometuchen.org.
Blood Drive, Most Holy Redeemer Parish, 133 Amboy Road, Matawan. New Jersey Blood Services will be conducting a blood drive at Most Holy Redeemer Parish from 1-7 p.m. in Desmond Hall. At this time, the blood supply is critically low. Donors should wear a mask and must be 14 days symp tom-free if recovered from COVID-19.
2025 St. Timothy & St. Theresa of Calcutta Awards Nominations and seniors from the Diocese. Awards will be distributed by Bishop Checchio at the Cathedral of St. Francis of Assisi, Metuchen, Jan. 25. For more information contact the diocesan Office of Youth and Young Adult Ministry at 732-243-4575; jcordovadiometuchen.org.
Adoration and Mass at Pastoral Center – The faithful are invited to Eucharistic Adoration at the St. John Neumann Pastoral Center, Monday through Friday, from 9 -11:45 a.m. As St. Pope John Paul II noted. “The Church and the world have a great need of Eucharistic adoration.” Anyone interested in signing up should contact Angela Marshall at amarshall@diometuchen.org.
Bible Study in a Year – This virtual women’s group will be following Father Mike Schmitz’s “Bible in a Year” podcast and meeting each Sunday at 2:30 p.m. on Zoom to discuss insights from the week. For details or to participate contact Cristina at: cdaverso@ diometuchen.org
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EMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNITY - FREELANCE PHOTOGRAPHER
The Diocese of Metuchen is seeking a freelance photographer to cover important events throughout the diocese, particularly the Bishop’s pastoral visits. The ideal candidate will have knowledge of how to appropriately photograph liturgical events in the Diocese and assist the Office of Communications and Public Relations, as well as The Catholic Spirit. Interested candidates should contact Adam Carlisle at acarlisle@diometuchen.org.
The Catholic Spirit, the official newspaper of the Diocese of Metuchen, seeks a Graphic Designer to assist with the layout and design of its publication. The ideal candidate will have Adobe InDesign and Photoshop experience in a PC environment, be familiar with all aspects of electronic publishing, be well-organized and reliable, and have a proven track record of meeting deadlines. Interested candidates should forward their resume to hr@diometuchen.org.
Lectio Divina for Couples & Families This virtual program for couples and families is held two Thursdays per month at 6:30 p.m. on Zoom. The program includes praying a meditative reading of a short scripture passage. For questions and more details, contact cdaverso@diometuchen.org
Immigration Talks – The Office of Hispanic Evangelization and Pastoral Ministry will be resuming immigration talks in coordination with Catholic Charities. If your parish is interested in hosting an immigration talk, email: lescobar@diometuchen.org and indicate the best day for an immigration talk to your parish and community.
Oct. 26, 8 p.m. – Our Lady of Lourdes Knights of Columbus, Council 6930, Whitehouse Station, presents: Twelfth Annual Comedy Night, Oct. 26, 8 p.m. Featuring Jim Dailakis, Joey Novak and Steve Shaffer. Three accomplished comedians come together for a night of fun and laughter! Venue: Our Lady of Lourdes Parish Hall, 390 County Road, 523 Whitehouse Station. $50 per person. Doors open at 6:30 p.m. Dinner
service runs from 6:30 to 8 p.m. Show starts at 8 p.m. For reservations and information contact: Jim Siessel at 917-903-2174; email: jimsiessel@yahoo.com or Bill Murphy at 908-500-2999, email: wkmurphy@att.net.
Dec. 1, 3 p.m. - The Orchestra of St. Peter by the Sea, Church of the Sacred Heart, South Plainfield. To be conducted by Rev. Alphonse Stephenson. General Admission, $40; Seniors, $35; Students, $20. Buy tickets at: www.churchofthesacredheart.net or call: 732-742-5034 or 908-756-0633, x110
To pay by credit card, call Mary at 732-529-7934, or simply mail a check for $30 payable to The Catholic Spirit: Circulation, The Catholic Spirit, PO Box 191, Metuchen, NJ 08840 We’ll take care of the rest.
Location:
St. Magdalen de Pazzi Church 105 Mine Street, Flemington, NJ 08822
Dates:
Tuesday | December 3rd, 2024 | 7:00pm
Wednesday | December 4th, 2024
5:30pm - 7:00pm | Sacrament of Reconciliation 7:00pm | Mission Start
Thursday | December 5th, 2024 | 7:00pm
