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On the cover In Malawi. Doney and her son, Junior, collect water from the borehole built by Caritas and her community.

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How do you ‘future proof’ your child?

Striving for mercy sans frontières

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Communication is key to school success Meet the publican and the nun who make a great team!

Featured  Putting Compassion into Action

 Frankly Spoken

 Mercy Evident in Changes

 Missionary of Mercy on his Way

 Communication is Key to Success 8

The Year of Mercy decreed by Pope Francis was announced in the December edition and each month different facets of mercy will be considered. It seems to me that the Pope is calling for – in fact pleading for – mercy sans frontières among all the peoples of the world. To ground your developing understanding of, and response to, this call, you may like to participate in #150ActsOfMercy via the website of the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle. Please visit mn.catholic.org.au/150actsofmercy. Those

 Assessing and Supporting Autism 11  Searching for The Sentinel 12  Adult Comboys and Indians

 The Way We Were

 Dominicans Celebrate 800 Years

 A film every adult Catholic should see 17  Can We Give up on the Perfect?

 Knitting Nannas

 Creating a Little Human

who are parents might like to encourage your children to ‘take on’ the Year of Mercy.

You will I am sure notice a fresh new Aurora look to begin 2016, courtesy of our in-house designer, the gifted Geraldine Williams. This is the twentieth year of Aurora and the members of the Editorial and Communications Teams are working hard to ensure that its content continues to be informative, thought-provoking and encouraging.

Just before Christmas, Kevin Bates sm wrote, “Mercy is not for wimps or cowards. It requires courage, the ability to name, face and engage with the division and pain that grips people’s lives. It is never a matter of smoothing things over. Likewise, withdrawing in fear from the reality of our world is no act of mercy.” Good luck! Our regular page ‘Seasons of Grace’ (which began during the Year of Grace, 2012) is this year ‘Seasons of Mercy’ – for obvious reasons! If you have a story of mercy to share, please don’t hesitate to contact me.

a few hundred words – and a photo if possible – will help to unpack a vibrant and engaging history. The many events and invitations included in Aurora each month are extended to all who read the magazine. While many are specifically church-focused, and that may not be your focus, if something captures your imagination, please don’t hesitate to enquire by contacting the organiser or me. Likewise, I am always grateful for your response to Aurora stories and your suggestions for the magazine.

I’m also hoping to receive many stories of “The Way We Were”, capturing moments in the 150 years since Bishop James Murray claimed St John the Baptist Church, Maitland, as his cathedral. Just

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The Bishop of Maitland that wasn’t This year we are celebrating the 150th anniversary of the diocese, dating its beginning from the arrival of Bishop James Murray in 1866. There are, however, many erudite readers of Aurora who are aware that Bishop Murray is generally accounted the second bishop of Maitland. Indeed, in the corridor outside my office, the small gallery of portraits of my predecessors begins with English Benedictine, Charles Henry Davis osb, the first to bear the title of ‘Bishop of Maitland’. So who was he, and when did the diocese really begin?

When did the diocese really begin?

First, let’s note that the Reformation of the 16th century had swept away the Catholic hierarchy in England and this was still the situation when the British arrived in Australia. There were no ‘bishops of’ any place in England or Scotland since there were no dioceses, only ‘vicars apostolic’. Accordingly, when Bishop John Bede Polding osb was sent to Sydney in 1833, he came as ‘Vicar Apostolic of New Holland and its adjacent islands’. On the other hand, as the ancient discipline of the church was against having bishops floating around as free agents, Polding had to be at least nominally bishop of somewhere, and so he was by title ‘Bishop of Hierocaesarea’, an ancient town in Turkey that had its own bishop until the Muslim conquest. Its site is now lost, but it retained a titular bishop as late as 1994. In 1839/40, when Bishop Polding and his vicar-general, William Bernard Ullathorne, journeyed back to England via Rome, they had a radical plan to put to the Roman and British authorities. They wanted to establish a formal Catholic hierarchy in Australia. Amazingly, they

succeeded. Polding returned to be Archbishop of Sydney and other bishops were established in Hobart, Adelaide and Perth in the following years. In that context the idea of the Diocese of Maitland was born. In 1847 Polding was in Rome again, urging the establishment of dioceses in Melbourne and ‘Victoria’ (now Darwin). In April he became aware that the Anglicans were proposing to set up a diocese in Morpeth. He quickly wrote to the Cardinal Prefect of Propaganda Fidei, in the third person, “Therefore he requests that another Bishopric be set up in Maitland, a short distance from Sydney and Morpeth, the site of one of the proposed Anglican Bishoprics; and that, without fixing any definite boundaries for the time being, the new bishop be named as Coadjutor of the writer.” The idea was a curious hybrid. A coadjutor bishop required a ‘titular’ see, but rather than an ancient bishopric that no longer existed, Polding proposed as a ‘title’ a diocese that did not yet exist. And he proposed establishing a new see without any territory and with a bishop who lived in Sydney. Yet the plan was approved in two months. Oh well, there was a new young pope of perceived modern ideas (Pius IX) and Rome was in negotiations with the British government about re-establishing a hierarchy in Britain itself. Perhaps anything seemed possible. When Bishop Davis arrived he took up his duties in Sydney, as expected. He was a likeable, capable young man of 33, a great organist and choir master and a good contributor to the early days of St John’s College at the university and to Lyndhurst, the Sydney Benedictines’ grammar

school. But he never came to Maitland. In fact, I have been told by a much later auxiliary bishop of Sydney that the rules are that a titular bishop must not go to his titular see, lest he try to establish himself as a local bishop. Perhaps something of that understanding was also in Davis’, or Polding’s, mind. Nevertheless, in 1854, with Polding once again in Rome, it was proposed that the anomaly of the titular see should cease. Boundaries of the new diocese of Maitland were discussed, and apparently settled. At that point, however, news arrived from Sydney that Dr Davis had died, aged just 39. Polding thereupon advised that Maitland should continue to be administered from Sydney. Polding had already been told that his scheme for Australia to be a Benedictine mission was dead, following a great deal of agitation from both Sydney and Ireland. Very probably, by not suggesting a new bishop of Maitland or a new coadjutor for himself, he was seeking to avoid having an Irish bishop, not of his choosing, thrust upon him. And so for ten years Maitland had no bishop. Then, in 1866, the boundaries of the diocese were established and Dr Murray, former secretary to Cardinal Cullen of Dublin and relative of the new bishops of Brisbane and Bathurst, was appointed. The age of Irish Catholic hegemony in Australia had begun, and with it the real beginning of the Diocese of Maitland.

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By NICOLE CLEMENTS

50 years of putting compassion into action 2016 marks 50 years of Project Compassion, Caritas Australia’s annual Lenten fundraising and awareness raising campaign and one of Australia’s largest humanitarian appeals. Each year Project Compassion, which runs during the six weeks of Lent, brings together thousands of supporters across the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle in solidarity with the world’s poor to help end poverty, promote justice and uphold dignity. The members of the Diocesan Caritas Australia Team, Louise Roach, Teresa Brierley and Patricia Banister, have all expressed their gratitude to the parish and school communities for their generous contributions to the work of Caritas Australia through Project Compassion, emergency appeals and regular contributions. Project Compassion last year raised a record $11.57 million, including $258,000 from the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle. Money raised goes towards Caritas Australia’s humanitarian and longterm development programs in more than 40 countries across Asia, Africa, the Pacific, Latin America

and with First Australian communities. This year Bishop Bill Wright will officially launch Project Compassion at a liturgy at 10.30am on Shrove Tuesday, 9 February, at the Sacred Heart Cathedral. There will be representatives from the Catholic schools across the diocese as well as parishioners joining in this special Jubilee celebration. All are welcome! “Lent is the time of year when we put our faith into action through prayer, fasting and almsgiving,” explains Patricia, a member of the Caritas Team. “The changes I’ve seen in communities with whom we work in partnership through the generosity of supporters have also shaped and inspired me. “Project Compassion has transformed millions of lives and every year since 1965 we have demonstrated our faith, our compassion and our generosity towards the most vulnerable members of our global family. “This year I encourage you to be a part of Project Compassion, as every individual, school, parish or community makes an enormous difference.”

Pope Francis has said, “Education is an act of hope.” The theme for this year’s Project Compassion, “Learning more, creating change,” celebrates the power of learning, and the many ways in which Caritas Australia is working with local partners around the world to provide vital learning and renewed hope to those most marginalised. One of the stories highlighted during the appeal comes from Malawi, one of the world’s least-developed countries. It’s the story of Doney, a mother from Malawi who, thanks to involvement in Caritas programs which map an individual and community’s assets, education and training, now has hope for the future. Malawi has a largely rural population and its economy is based heavily on agriculture. Communities face poverty and isolation and food shortages many times during the year. Doney had only completed primary school, but her passion for education was recognised as one of her strengths. Today education has brought Doney new

skills and new stature and influence in her community. She’s now teaching literacy and numeracy to adults in her village. “In the past the people I’ve been teaching didn’t know how to read and write,” Doney says. “They didn’t even know the direction of the bus as they didn’t know how to read the signpost. Now many are able to read and write.” Doney is determined that her five children will complete secondary school. Although just 7 per cent of 15-24 year-olds in Malawi do so, she has strong hopes. “I encourage my children to attain education so that they can be independent in the future,” she says. “This would make me proud.”

Nicole Clements is Media Advisor, Caritas Australia. To donate to Project Compassion, or for fundraising ideas, please visit www.caritas.org.au/projectcompassion or P 1800 024 413.

Frankly Spoken What is love? Sometimes we can think of the love in the soap operas but that doesn’t appear to be love. Or else love can seem like having a crush on a person but then it fades away. Where does true love come from? Whoever loves has been created by God because God is love. Don’t say: ‘Every love is God,’ No, God is love. Morning Mass, 8 January 2016.

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Mercy evident in marriage tribunal changes By JANE DUNN

You may be wondering what those changes might be. Nothing that Pope Francis has said changes the Church’s teaching on the indissolubility of marriage; rather, the changes relate to process.

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Recalling his recent declaration of a Year of Mercy, once again we see revealed the compassionate and loving heart of Pope Francis. He writes of his concern for the “salvation of souls” and tells us that his desire to reform has been fuelled by the “enormous number of faithful who, while wishing to act with their consciences, are too often separated from the legal structures of the Church....charity and mercy therefore require that same Church, as a mother, to make herself closer to her children who consider themselves separated”.

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Missionary of Mercy is on his way to the Hunter

By LOUISE GANNON rsj

Father Richard Shortall is a familiar face to many in the local community, thanks to his ‘retreat in everyday life’ offered in several parishes and his accompanying the relic of St Francis Xavier back in 2012. Now he’s returning in the role of ‘Missionary of Mercy’ as Pope Francis’ Year of Mercy unfolds.

Pope Francis had in mind. I spent time sitting with my wish to offer myself as a Missionary of Mercy in the Maitland-Newcastle Diocese and then took that desire to my annual retreat in June. I then made the offer to be considered as a Missionary of Mercy – and so I begin my role in February!”

In December, Bishop Bill opened the Door of Mercy at Sacred Heart Cathedral, Hamilton, following the Pope’s opening of the Holy Door at St Peter’s in Rome. On that occasion, the enthusiasm of members of the community to embrace Pope Francis’ call to “Be merciful as God is merciful” was evident.

Fr Richard will travel independently in a motor home to places where there are communities and churches but no resident priest. While Fr Richard will base himself around churches as a practical necessity, he will also visit significant places where mercy is sought and given. He stresses that “each day I will be available to anyone who wishes to chat” in ways which echo Pope Francis’ “desire that the year…will be steeped in mercy, so that we can go out to

Speaking recently, Fr Richard said that in reading the papal letter detailing the Jubilee Year of Mercy, “I became entranced by what

every man and woman, bringing the goodness and tenderness of God!” (Papal Letter #5). In each place, Fr Richard will welcome all who seek mercy, a listening ear and forgiveness. In fact Fr Richard will soon be in Rome to gather with Missionaries of Mercy from all over the world. He says that “Pope Francis will welcome all the missionaries and speak further about the sensitive nature of their service. On the following day, Ash Wednesday, there will be a solemn Eucharistic celebration, during which he will confer the mandate to the Missionaries of Mercy.” Pope Francis and Fr Richard are both members of the Society of Jesus – Jesuits – so Fr Richard naturally feels a special connection: “He is my brother – fratello mio!”

Bishop Bill is enthusiastic about having a Missionary of Mercy in the diocese. “I would be delighted if we could lead people to realise that religion is mostly about God and God’s goodness to us, not about us and our morality.” Bishop Bill will commission Fr Richard for his mission of mercy on Saturday, 20 February, at the Vigil Mass, 5pm at St Joseph's, New England Highway, East Maitland. All are welcome. To learn more about the Year of Mercy, and the plans for the Missionary of Mercy, please visit mn.catholic.org.au/yearofmercy or P 4979 1134.

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Open communication is key to success at school

By BRIAN LACEY

At the beginning of each school year, parents experience myriad emotions that come with sending their child off for his or her first day of kindergarten or high school. This year, to help ease some parents’ concerns, Aurora has invited former K-12 principal and current Head of RE & Spirituality Services (Catholic Schools Office), Brian Lacey, to answer some common questions. Brian’s key piece of advice is, “Parents and teachers should walk arm in arm for the good of the child, even if we don’t always see eye to eye.” Q If I have questions or concerns about my child, who’s the best person to ask? When is it appropriate to request a meeting or escalate an issue to the assistant principal or principal? Sometimes parents feel entitled to go straight to the principal, but the teacher’s the one developing a relationship with the child, so begin the conversation there. Principals have a big agenda and their first step in gaining accurate information is speaking to the teacher.

lunch at home and ensuring your child’s having the right foods at the right time (like a sandwich for lunch) are important. Many schools will have ‘crunch and sip’, so cut up some of the fruit and vegetables at home before school begins and watch your child to ensure they are comfortable. Can your child hold a pencil and paintbrush and use scissors? Also, when you’re walking your little one to school, let him or her carry the school bag so you can see if it’s too heavy or too big.

As parents, it’s important to make sure we develop a good relationship with our child’s teacher/s. Talk to them, support them, build them up and affirm them in front of your child. If you’re not happy with the response you get from a teacher, go to the assistant principal. He or she works directly with the teachers and would know more intimately what’s going on with eg transition programs like kindergarten commencement. In a bigger school, approach a student coordinator. Never, especially with kindergarten students, bad mouth a teacher in front of your child. Kindy children love their teacher and they also love their Mum and Dad. Don’t put them in an awkward position.

Q What’s the best way to deal with crying if my child doesn’t want to leave me? Don’t hang around! Most teachers have experienced dealing with the anxiety of Mum and Dad leaving and quite often it can be the parents’ concerns that actually rub off onto the child. So if you can drop them off happily and confidently and leave, my experience is that kids quickly settle into their activities. Develop a routine for the beginning and the end of the day. Say to your child, ‘Tell me all the wonderful things you learned at school today’ and ‘What was different from yesterday?’ Once you begin those conversations, you’ll soon learn what the teacher’s doing at school and you can mirror that routine at home. Young people’s learning improves when there’s a strong positive relationship between what’s happening at school and what Mum and Dad talk about at home.

As a principal, I hope a parent would see me if the issue’s become serious. Make an appointment or communicate initially via email. In my experience, the first meeting with the teacher usually resolves the issue. Q How can I best prepare my child for kindergarten? Toileting is big! A lot of kindy kids can be reluctant to use toilets at school so that’s something for parents to talk about at home. Tying shoelaces teaches independence. Something that adults may take for granted is the ability to open lunchboxes. That can be really hard for little ones so ‘practising’ 8

Q How will the school help my child transition to school/a new school? It’s important to attend information evenings and read the information provided. Many schools appoint older students as ‘buddies’ to show younger students around and help them feel more confident. Older students will often hide their anxiety and the last thing they want is Mum and Dad hanging around. One of the worst things you can do is give your child a mobile and say, ‘Text me if it’s not working out.’ Mum and Dad turn up in the foyer and the school has no idea that the child is anxious. Instead, name the Year Co-ordinator or class tutor and encourage your child to let that person know if there’s a problem. Transitioning is tough, especially from a small school to a big one. As teachers, we want the child to tell us if there’s a problem so we can help. Remind your child that he or she need not feel alone.

Parents and teachers should walk arm in arm for the good of the child, even if we don’t always see eye to eye.

Q This year, my child will be in a multi-age grouping class. How can I be guaranteed s/he won’t be disadvantaged if the teacher’s time is divided between classes? Your child will benefit. As adults, we don’t go to work with everyone the same age and ability and we bounce off each other. When a child is in a multi-age environment, he or she is able to gain from the teacher and other students in the class and there are great learning opportunities. If you have concerns, contact the teacher. Q How much homework should I expect my child to be given? Homework is a big issue and each school

is different. Enquire about your school’s policy. As a principal, I would say some form of home engagement with students’ learning reinforces positive learning habits. So, whether a child’s reading with Mum and Dad or playing Scrabble, school learning is being reinforced. But don’t hesitate to ask, ‘What value does this homework have for my child?’ No school would want a child to continue struggling without help, or indeed to try to keep up with homework if there are family difficulties. Again, communicate with the school! Q How are Catholic schools different? Catholic schools are distinctly and authentically Catholic and ask that the child (Catholic or not) participate in the whole life of the school − religious celebrations, liturgies, assemblies and Religious Education programs. I’ve always found that children enjoy those opportunities, Catholic or not. It’s certainly not the school’s intent to create ‘new Catholics’ but a number of our students do so because they’ve been involved in that environment. If parents are worried, they can go to the RE teacher, studies or ministry co-ordinator to learn more about the Catholic identity of the school. Teachers are only too happy to engage in these areas. If the practices of the school conflict with your family’s values, it’s probably best to send your child elsewhere. Many students find their Catholic education enriching, giving them knowledge and skills to be able to cope better with life’s demands and pressures within a Catholic context. To learn more, visit mn.catholic.edu.au and search ‘Catholic Identity’. The website of the Catholic Schools Office offers information on many aspects of Catholic education.

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CareTalk: Permission to grieve Q By TANYA RUSSELL Registered Psychologist

CatholicCare's Counselling Team Leader, registered psychologist Tanya Russell, will address an issue each month.

One of my dearest, lifelong friends died by suicide recently. Although we know he was struggling, there were never any signs that he would take his own life. In fact he was making travel plans for the future. It seems so sudden and I am devastated. How do I help myself get through this awful time as well as support his family?

The advice provided is general in nature and does not replace ongoing support and advice from your health professional. To talk to someone about counselling support, P 4979 1172. Call Lifeline 24/7 on 131 114.

When someone we love dies suddenly, it can be so hard to know how to deal with this loss, especially when our loved one dies by suicide. All loss creates pain and grief, but in the case of suicide, there may be many unanswered questions; especially when there were no signs that suicide was being contemplated. Unfortunately, we know that many people who choose to end their life don’t show any signs, because they don’t want us to know. Even trained health professionals may not see signs for the same reason.

Do you have a question for Tanya?

Everyone grieves differently, and there is no right or wrong way, unless there is concern for your own safety, or someone else’s. Feelings of sadness, fear, guilt, anger, loneliness, helplessness – as well as experiencing physical concerns such as exhaustion, poor sleep and reduced appetite – are all considered “normal” when you are grieving.

Email your question to aurora@mn.catholic.org.au or write to Aurora-CareTalk PO Box 756 Newcastle 2300.

your mind and body. Also, be present in your friend’s family’s life. You don’t need to have the right words: just be there with them and let them know you are available for them; to talk, or to help with anything, whether in terms of the funeral or practical support. You may never be able to make sense of why your friend chose to end his life but with time, it is possible, through grief, to find ways to create further meaning in life. Here are some suggestions:  Express your grief: many people cry and

many do not. Some people find other ways to connect with their sadness: through music, art and other creative means. You can do this alone or choose to be with others.  Talk to someone you trust: don’t be afraid

The best advice I can give you is − allow yourself to express your grief and look after

to talk about your friend’s life and death and the impact it has had on you. If you can’t think of a friend or relative you feel comfortable with, perhaps you could talk to a counsellor or join a support group.

 Find ways to connect with your friend, even

though he is no longer physically here: you could visit his favourite places, read his favourite books, create a photo album of shared memories, visit his place of burial or cremation, write down your thoughts about him or spend time with his family.  Stay physically and mentally healthy: try

to go for walks, get some fresh air; eat well, try to sleep. Expressing grief does not mean you do not have good mental health: in fact, allowing yourself to do this means you are not bottling things up and avoiding the pain of your loss. This is better for your health in the long term.  Give yourself permission to just ‘do

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Two by Two

By JOANNE ISAAC

A special relationship, bar none Steph Woolf and Sr Helen Anne at the Holmesville Hotel.

A nun and a publican forming a deep and abiding friendship might seem unlikely on paper, but not when the nun is Sr Helen Anne Johnson rsj, founder of Mums’ Cottage, and the publican is Steph Woolf, proprietor of the historic Holmesville Hotel. Both women work and minister in the sleepy Newcastle suburb of Holmesville and their mission is the same – to provide a second home for people. “This pub is different from other pubs. What we try to be is a second lounge room – a place where people can walk in the door and feel completely safe and comfortable,” said Steph. Steph’s philosophy for the pub aligns exactly with Sr Helen Anne’s vision for Mums’ Cottage. “We have the same reason for being – we’re both fulfilling a need,” Sr Helen Anne explained. Mum’s Cottage is a charitable community service committed to empowering and improving the potential in the lives of families. Community members walk with families as they take the first steps in moving from difficult times towards brighter futures. Mums’ Cottage offers access to mentors, disability services, case co-ordination, legal and financial guidance, health care, education services, parenting programs, workshops and family events. Steph and her husband Geoff bought the hotel in 2007 in partnership with another couple, but more recently they became licensees and now run the pub themselves. “I cannot explain why we bought the pub. It’s inexplicable really! We have had a major learning curve getting used to having a 24 hour-a-day job and looking after staff and customers, which is by far the most timeconsuming part,” said Steph. 10

The two women met when Sr Helen Anne walked into the pub one day to see if the hotel might help Mums’ Cottage with a weekly raffle. “I was working behind the bar and the door opens and this little lady walks in. There were all these hard core regulars sitting at the bar and she walked over and said, ‘Hello, I’m Sr Helen Anne Johnson from the Order of St Joseph and I couldn’t believe it because I had been taught by the Josephites and eventually taught with many of them as a teacher myself,” Steph recounts. The patrons and Steph knew they had met someone special immediately and that meeting was the beginning of a beautiful friendship − and increased community support for Mums’ Cottage. There are raffles, a Saturday night number board and help with catering. “A helper built a wooden cottage that sits on the bar and customers put their change in it. This raises much‑needed funds for Mums’ Cottage throughout the year,” explained Steph.

and completely. There is a wide variety of people here at the pub but everybody without fail responds to Helen Anne. She has a real sense of goodness and people respond to that. I think she’s amazing. She disarms everyone. People know that she is here to do good things for others – it’s obvious to everyone. She walked in here and immediately earned respect. “Mums’ Cottage is coal-face stuff. The customers know that their money, all of it, goes straight to someone who needs something in the community and they get behind that,” said Steph. Sr Helen Anne is equally effusive about Steph and all that she and Geoff do for Mums’ Cottage.

We have the same life values. You can’t be taught them, you have to live them.

“I’ve got the greatest admiration for Steph, not only for the person she is, but the way she is with people, her friendliness. Steph sends people to the Cottage if they need help. They are not just customers to Steph, they’re people,” said Sr Helen Anne.

Steph has no doubt as to why the community supports Mums’ Cottage.

2014 saw the 110th anniversary of the Holmesville Hotel and Steph wanted to come up with an event that celebrated the pub’s history and importance in the community and at the same time provide an opportunity to showcase and raise some funds for Mums’ Cottage.

“Helen Anne is a totally unique person because she just absolutely, passionately lives her dream and mission so honestly

“I wanted it to be a family and communitybased event so settled on a Billy Cart Derby. In our second year about 1000 people

“In this community we find that people take ownership of the Cottage because it’s theirs,” said Sr Helen Anne.

attended, up from around 350 in 2014. It is a fabulous day but very expensive to coordinate. We are trying to get it to a stage where we can cover costs and benefit Mums’ Cottage more substantially,” said Steph. The hotel has hosted meetings for the Tenison Woods Education Centre, a ministry of the Sisters of St Joseph. A sacred space was set up on the table and the group gained an extra participant, one of the customers. “Of course the bar is not a sacred space, but while the meeting happened I remember thinking how wonderful it was that they were meeting here. One of the customers was fascinated and kept asking questions and I thought ‘This is so weird, but wonderful’,” Steph remembers. Both women agree that their friendship is based on a shared background, influenced heavily by their Josephite education. “The reality is we have the same culture. We understand each other and speak the same language,” said Steph. “We have the same life values. You can’t be taught them, you have to live them,” adds Sr Helen Anne. At the end of our chat Steph concedes that she may now know why she and Geoff bought the pub. “Perhaps we were meant to meet Helen Anne. That’s probably why we bought the pub without knowing why – it was God’s greater plan!” laughs Steph. To learn more about Mums’ Cottage please visit www.mumscottage.org.au or P 4953 4105.

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By TANYA RUSSELL Registered Psychologist One in 100 Australians has autism – and we have much to learn. Autism is a lifelong developmental condition that affects, among other things, the way an individual relates to his or her environment and interacts with others. It can be a condition of ‘extremes’ where an individual can experience ‘too much’ of something (eg extra sensitivity to noise) or ‘too little’ of other things (eg social understanding). Learning that you have, or your child has, autism, can be confronting. For some, it is traumatic as they realise the future they had envisaged may now be affected by limitations. For others, a positive diagnosis can signal relief, as it provides clarity and understanding around difficulties being experienced. An autism diagnosis opens doors to services that support an individual’s ability to interact socially and improve understanding and

functioning in personal relationships, school and work. As Manager of CatholicCare’s Counselling, Family and Clinical Services Team, I am proud to offer Autism assessment services for children, adolescents and adults. CatholicCare’s assessment aims to determine whether an individual meets criteria for autism and to provide information about his/her presentation and support needs. Not only do people with autism need support in difficulties, they also have many strengths due to the unique way they see the world. We work with families in enhancing these strengths. CatholicCare’s assessment process involves approximately four face-to-face sessions. The initial consultation provides an opportunity to gather background information from caregivers and child/adult client and if appropriate, ask

questions as part of a screening process. Questionnaires may also be provided to give to a child’s teacher – allowing us to gain an idea of the child’s functioning outside the home. The second session centres on a more formal diagnostic interview with parents/caregivers. Thirdly, when assessing the child or adult client, we incorporate a structured play observation, using the Autism Diagnostic Observation Schedule. Finally, we invite the client, and if appropriate, caregivers, to a feedback session to review the results of the assessment. Copies of the report, which includes recommendations for further support, will be provided. With the client’s permission, the report can be used by government agencies, schools, respite care and other services to determine eligibility for funding or other support. Further support may include counselling or social skills training through CatholicCare or referral to one of

our partner agencies, perhaps for speech or occupational therapy. CatholicCare also provides review assessments for individuals who already have a diagnosis of autism when information is required − at times of transition, to review progress and guide interventions, to support funding applications and to access the NDIS. We understand that autism not only affects the individual, but also loved ones. Accordingly, CatholicCare is committed to supporting families develop an enhanced understanding of autism. This assists families to build stronger relationships and provides the individual with greater support. To learn more about CatholicCare’s autism and other assessments, please P Counselling, Family and Clinical Services Team, 4979 1172.

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Searching for The Sentinel

By GABRIELLE LYNCH We take photographs to record moments because the moment is precious. Photographs evoke memories from the past; memories of meaningful people, decisive events and significant places. Along with memories come stories and often these stories create identities. This became clear to me as I found myself engrossed in the final edition of The Sentinel; the official journal of the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle, published for 37 years from 1931 to 1968. Much like Aurora today, its content included information and photographs about the diocese as well as news of Newcastle and surrounds, international news and editorial content. As I flipped through the pages of the July 1968 issue recently located in Father Reg Callinan’s garage, I realised that The Sentinel is a souvenir of our diocese’s

past. Advertisements for charity stores that still open their doors today captured my attention as did the unusual editorial on the matter of alcoholism written by a psychologist. Thankfully, it was certainly a different perspective from psychologists’ understanding of alcoholism today. Photographs of schools in the diocese renovating their buildings and upgrading classrooms were also included. Some familiar faces even made the journal, including Father Reg who wrote a column on the last page for several years. The Sentinel holds the answers to many questions for our diocese. Not only does it record the dates of significant events such as the changing of Mass from Latin to English or the names of secondary school bursary winners, it reminds us of how far the diocese

Fr Reg Callinan and Frances Dunn peruse the final edition of The Sentinel.

has come, the memorable events that have taken place and the people who have made it all happen. As part of the Diocese of MaitlandNewcastle’s 150th year it would be wonderful to locate all the issues of The Sentinel. Local historian, Frances Dunn of Morisset, has initiated ‘the search for The Sentinel’ and has determined that the Mitchell Library has the only (almost) complete set. It is missing issues from October 1964 and May 1968. Those members of the diocesan community planning events to celebrate 150 years would also like to see this important piece of history digitised and added to Trove Newspaper so that members of the public could easily access The Sentinel. However, the National Library in Canberra has advised that as The Sentinel is a considered a journal and not

a newspaper, it cannot be funded by the Australian Newspaper Digitisation program. The diocese is now looking to raise $12,000 for the digitisation of The Sentinel. Anyone who may have copies of The Sentinel hiding under boxes and dust in their garage − or an idea for a fundraiser for the digitisation of The Sentinel − is asked to contact Tracey Edstein, Editor of Aurora. The Sentinel should not be left in the shadows of our diocese’s past. Ultimately, The Sentinel blends our diocese’s collective history with people’s personal memories to allow members of today’s diocesan community to connect with events and the people in the diocese throughout time. If you can help, please P Tracey Edstein 4979 1288 or E tracey.edstein@mn.catholic.org.au.

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Are your children future proof?

By KATHY WALKER OAM

“The beginning of something is always most important, especially when it is young and just beginning.” (Plato) This principle is one I often write and speak about, particularly with parents at presentations. Childhood is the beginning of life. It is the foundation of all that is to come. My latest book, Future Proofing Your Child, attempts to provide a range of practical tools and strategies to assist parents in these formative and foundational years. The theory is that if we can prevent rather than cure, be proactive rather than always reactive, if we can build strong skills for life early in life, then our children are more likely to develop into adults who can:  Think and act with resilience  Believe in themselves with a realistic

and strong sense of self  Communicate their needs and ideas

effectively and respectfully  Form healthy and meaningful

relationships with others throughout their lives  Make good decisions that will keep

them safe  Think creatively and laterally to

solve problems. When parents are interviewed about what they want most for their children throughout their lifetime, the top answers tend to be “healthy, happy and successful”. When we unpack what it might mean to have each of these attributes, it is “successful” that is most variable. Does it mean a particular career path, or income, or address?

rushed and often overscheduled society much of the Western world has become, it is at times difficult for children in their early years to practise becoming resilient, being creative, discovering themselves. Picture a family arriving at a restaurant. Within minutes, every family member is switched on to a device. No one needs to become impatient, experience the boredom of waiting, hold a conversation or interact. The life skills of patience, learning to be bored, learning to hold a conversation − the social norms of life − are lost to all because every one is looking at a screen. According to many pre-school educators, children arrive already worn out by the busy, adult-paced lifestyle they lead on weekends and during the week. There are parties for two-year-olds with some 15-20 children as guests! Children who still require up to 11 hours sleep a night are averaging perhaps only eight due to adult-paced, rather than child-paced, lifestyles where bedtimes are later and later.

In Future Proofing Your Child I place a strong emphasis upon the fact that within the very

Children need to learn, sadly but inevitably, that you can’t always have what you want when you want it. Sometimes bad stuff happens. That is how resilience is learned. Future proofing our

We wonder why their behaviour is labelled oppositional, when in fact most of them are simply overtired. There is a perception out there that unless parents pay lots of money, early in their young child’s life, for swimming and gym and tennis and music and ballet, all in the same week, their child will suffer or not keep up with everyone else. In some cases this is happening before the child has even started school!

Future proofing is giving time and imagination and resilience to children.

It can of course be a very subjective interpretation. However, many social researchers and others state that a successful life is measured by one’s sense of self, resilience, communication skills, ability to interact with others in productive ways and to make decisions and choices that keep oneself and others safe and healthy.

everything does not go exactly as it might have or should have or could have, every day.

Future proofing is about ensuring that as a society, family, community, we ensure we get our priorities right. We need to remember that there is evidence out there to remind us that children are not miniature adults, their brains are different and children become tired. Children are born to relate to adults more than other children in their preschool years. Children need time to play and create and make and paint and play and use their imaginations. They need to build resilience by rebuilding what just fell down. They need not to be given a ribbon at the age of 10 if they ran last in a race. They need not to be over-compensated when

children for the challenges they will have to face is about allowing children a childhood. Not rushing, not falling into the trap of giving them everything now, means they will be better equipped for everything in the future. The reason our species has a childhood is so we can take time to build relationships, to play, to investigate, to create, to bounce back, to try again. We need to put the screen away sometimes, to get children back outside, to re-embrace play that costs nothing and gives children time to create and imagine and entertain themselves. Future proofing is giving time and imagination and resilience to children. Time and resilience and relationships for the future are what we all need. Kathy Walker OAM is the Founding Director of parenting and education consultancy, Early Life Foundations. Please visit kathywalker.com.au and earlylife.com.au/info/home.

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Adult cowboys and Indians

By MICHAEL O’CONNOR

Regular contributor Michael O’Connor highlights an uncomfortable truth. Your response is welcome. As a kid I loved to play cowboys and Indians.

take from the cathartic experience I relished.

observed to my dismay.

I also loved the movies that fed my imagination. I savoured the vicarious experience of tension and terror. Red savages could materialise from any frame, lusting for scalps.

Nothing was shown of injustice. Nothing was revealed of the warriors’ human qualities or gentle side, their love for family, their affinity with nature and land. Nothing told of the impact on wives, children, aged parents, of killing these men. It was all just left out.

The film rapidly advanced toward sexual consummation, as today’s cinema romances do. We were not to be deprived of that climax any more than we could have borne the frustration of an averted massacre of the Indians.

Prior to the film Little Big Man in 1970, I had left behind those black and white days. The Indians had become humans too.

Shame and incredulity at my moral ineptitude was only matched by reluctant admiration for the sheer cleverness of the film makers. They had manipulated me emotionally, and no doubt countless others, just as many similar films have done.

I especially loved it when, down to our last bullets, we heard the distant bugle and saw the rapidly approaching cloud of dust from the mighty cavalry. The film would cut to the galloping ponies thundering to the rescue. Then the incredulous, terrified faces of the Indians; their headlong flight in panic; their massacre before our delighted eyes. It felt good. I jaunted home from Hoyts New Lambton totally satisfied, eager for next Saturday’s matinee. They knew how to give us a consummate emotional experience – even in black and white. They would bring us to the edge, and then to elation as all was resolved as it should be. The cowboys always killed the Indians. Our emotions demanded it. Cowboys were people like us. Indians were savages. There was no portrayal of their humanness on the silver screen. That would

That film, however, had shown what the black-and-whites had not – the Indians were people who loved and suffered and bled like us. The other side of the story! In showing this it had demonstrated how manipulated, de-sensitised and skewed we can become. My childhood experience came to mind some little time ago when I realised with revulsion that I had an adult substitute. Perhaps that should be ‘adultery substitute’. I was watching a standard man-meetswoman movie which was progressing in typical fashion when it emerged that one was married. An unexpected turn, but not one to interfere much with their developing relationship. Nor, emotionally, would an audience want it to – myself included, I

And it was done with the same simple technique used by the old fashioned cowboys and Indians movies. Don’t show the other side! Don’t show the destruction of other relationships. Don’t show others suffering. Don’t show the others as real humans. The spouse and children of an unfaithful leading character – don’t even show them! If you want your audience to feel good, that is. Show the victims in their human sufferings and you compromise the vicarious pleasure of cinematic infidelity. Audiences don’t want that. They may feel cheated.

We would not now make or tolerate a film about Native Americans in the old style. We are alert to the deficits, imbalance and distortions of that genre. We see the incorrectness. We are in tune with the injustices. We know the other side. We are alert to human suffering behind the source of our erstwhile pleasures. We would be embarrassed. Will the same maturity emerge one day concerning our response to adultery in movies, I wonder? Will we get to a stage where we don’t want ourselves manipulated to desire the on-screen consummation of adultery, because adultery has victims? Will we overcome indifference to the pain of the betrayed – even in movies – just as we have developed sensitivity to the sufferings of others which were not projected onto the screens of my childhood? I suppose something in us will always want to cheer the cavalry.

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The Way We Were Contributed by Shirley McHugh

Is there anyone around who was a student at St Joseph’s College, Lochinvar in 1941? Can you remember the palm trees that lined the driveway between the boarders’ quarters and the school, where this photo of the College Orchestra was taken? Are those palm trees still there, I wonder? And can you remember the string orchestra? Being 1941 and wartime, the orchestra was frequently called upon to play for the soldiers at the Singleton Army camp, as well as other concerts that took place in

the area. Sr Mary Annette was the conductor and the formidable Mother Angela gave us the once over, twice, before we dared venture out through the College gates. Hats, gloves, blazers, long-sleeved blouses and hot, hot stockings. We survived, but most important of all, can anyone recognise the faces of the musicians? I can recall some names – who can help me out? If you can help Shirley, please contact the editor. Shirley’s on the far right, back row!

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The Catholic Thing

Living with Complexity John Cavenagh offers a few reflections on the contemporary relevance of scripture.

By JOHN CAVENAGH

Uncertainty in life seems to be the norm. At times the ‘noise’ of the everyday is overwhelming. The speed of change in society can cause us to become despondent, as we increasingly feel we are being left behind. Many of us feel a bit lost. Everything is so complicated. We yearn for a slower pace, less noise, simplicity, to help us feel in control of our lives. We want to know who we are and where we are going, yet we often experience frustration, inadequacy, rejection and never quite ‘getting there’. We want answers to myriad questions, most involving the question ‘why?’. In recent years, I have begun to realise there will not be answers to my many questions, and I’ve begun to accept a deep uncertainty in life. This has been a freeing experience and I’ve found myself becoming more tolerant, less critical, less rigid – and here is the real bonus – more peaceful and contented. Karl Rahner, who was appointed senior theological advisor to Vatican II by Pope John XXIII, wrote, “In the torment and insufficiency of everything attainable, we learn ultimately in this world there is no finished symphony” (Rolheiser, 2014, p 32). Rahner was suggesting this life cannot give us everything we yearn for, and we will always be frustrated, unfulfilled, out of rhythm and restless, as we struggle with the complexities of life. Jesus refers to this yearning for fulfilment in the parables. The writer of the book of Ecclesiastes suggests that from the beginning of life to its end we remain ‘out of sync’ because of a ‘timelessness’ within us (Ecc 3: 10-11).

building process until the Lord intervened and “confused their language” making it impossible for the people to communicate effectively. The building process came to a halt and everyone wandered off. The implication here is that the population yearned for security and stability. God wanted the people to open their minds, embrace change, welcome complexity, seek new horizons and grow (Davies & Rogerson, 2005, p 122). God seemed to be promoting chaos in the world but perhaps his desire was for us to strive to be our best − and this would only be possible by embracing difference, diversity and complexity. The catalyst was the confusion of language, requiring extra effort to understand each other through active listening, sharing feelings, embracing new ideas and most importantly, taking time to hear each other. God wanted us to embrace a spirituality of reaching out rather than one of insularity (deClaissé-Walford, 2006, pp 406, 413). Another way to consider the Babel story is as a critique of empire building with its accompanying passivity and security. Hiebert suggested ‘pride’ was equivalent to imperial domination of a colony and the inevitable result of dilution, even suppression, of local customs and languages. The ‘punishment’ was the collapse of an empire when a colony exerted its own independence, broke away and embraced self-government (Hiebert, 2007, p 30).

Our country continues to build towers of Babel with political parties invoking the fear of difference in a misguided appeal for votes.

In trying to make sense of this yearning for completeness and to understand why complexity seems to be our lot, a story from the Hebrew Scriptures, the Tower of Babel (Gen 11:1-9), is worth considering. On a plain in southern Iraq, the people decided to build a city and a tower, in order to make an impressive name for themselves. The population had one language. This attribute facilitated the

Humankind felt comfortable with one language and one location in the Babel story. Hiebert called this “cultural homogeneity” but it has also been described as an “ant colony”, very different from a gathering of people in true freedom (Hiebert, 2007, p 39; Lacocque, 2009, p 41). All this demonstrates humanity’s resistance to change. The people didn’t grasp the principle that all human development/ improvement involved change, but instead were inclined to think ‘not all change results in improvement’ or ‘why bother?’ or ‘we’re comfortable as we are, thanks very much’ (Crump, 2008, p 47). This has

such a contemporary feel! In the Tower of Babel story, humankind resisted change and this could only be overcome by divine intervention (Hiebert, 2007, pp 40-41). There was fear, anxiety and the need to cling together (deClaissé-Walford, 2006, p 41). God was urging heterogeneity and not homogeneity. My experience of a loving, affirming God suggests we look at the Babel story as an inspiration to grow and be more creative. It also affirms our uniqueness and our gifts and how our differences should be celebrated, not criticised (deClaissé-Walford, 2006, p. 414). The story also affirms multicultural development throughout the world. Here in Australia our culture is so much richer than it must have been in the days of the White Australia Policy (Willard, 2008, pp 260265). Our improving attitude with respect to our Indigenous brothers and sisters gives cause for hope that we are evolving as God wanted, albeit slowly. As a 6 year-old child living north of Rockhampton, my ‘good mate’ was an Aboriginal lad. He taught me much about goannas and how to make a slingshot. I found him one day on the bush track, crying; another boy from our state school had ‘bashed him up’ because he was Aboriginal. We cried together. To his great credit he simply forgot about it and told me I was not to tell my Dad, who was the head teacher. He taught me how to see things differently, how to forgive and move on. Our Australian attitude to immigrants has been poor. Our country continues to build towers of Babel with political parties invoking the fear of difference in a misguided appeal for votes. Jesus embraced cultural diversity and enlisted the help of those who were different, eg the Good Samaritan (Lk 10: 25-37) and the Samaritan Woman (Jn 4: 7-30). I am much less fearful of diversity, complexity and difference now. I try to embrace them because it makes me less defensive and more open. I also try to see the other person’s perspective and have realised, soberingly, that my perspective is not the only one! This openness has helped me get closer to the God within me. I slow down and stop for a while each day and be with God. Centring prayer and Christian meditation nudge me toward this goal.

References: Crump, B. (2008). How can we make improvement happen? Clinical Governance: An International Journal, 13(1), 43-50. Davies, P., & Rogerson, J. (2005). The Old Testament World (2nd ed.): Westminster John Know Press. deClaissé-Walford, N. (2006). God Came Down…and God Scattered: Acts of Punishment or Acts of Grace? Review and Expositor, 103(Spring), 403-417. Hiebert, T. (2007). The Tower of Babel and the Origin of the World’s Cultures. Journal of Biblical Literature, 126(1), 29-58. Lacocque, A. (2009). Whatever Happened in the Valley of Shinar? A Response to Theodore Hiebert. Journal of Biblical Literature, 1(March), 29–41. Rollheiser, R. (2014). Sacred Fire: A Vision for a Deeper Human and Christian Maturity (pp 346). Willard, M. (2008). History of the White Australia Policy. In D Gare & D Ritter (eds), Making Australian history: perspectives on the past since 1788 (1st ed, pp 260-265). South Melbourne, Victoria: Thomson Learning Australia.

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Seasons of Mercy

Confronting cancer A loving daughter shares a story of life and hope, unwittingly echoing Pope Francis’ call for mercy.

By JENNIFER BYRNE

On October 7, 2015, my Mum, Lauranne Byrne, became one of seven women in Australia who die of breast cancer every day. I want to put an absolutely beautiful face to the statistic to inspire women who, like me, are overwhelmed and frightened, to be more like her: positive and courageous, intelligent and strong, right to the end. She knew her body so well, she knew herself so well. She was always vigilant and aware of what was happening to her and determined to be in control, to do everything in her power to overcome her health issues. She battled them with vitamins and minerals and healthy eating, with (albeit moderate) exercise, with enthusiasm and optimism and with her unwavering faith in a loving God. She always ate the ‘right’ things and stayed away from the ‘wrong’ things. Even guilty indulgences were kept at moderation. She was the poster child for health and wellbeing − except she had breast cancer. My mother was 51 when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. She took the diagnosis in her stride with grace and optimism. She had a mastectomy and underwent chemotherapy. She had the ability to make the best of any situation and meet every hurdle with a beautiful smile and a sense of humour. She harnessed her own pain and struggle and used it to support, educate and inspire other people struggling with illness and grief. She became an integral part of the many breast cancer awareness campaigns within the Great Lakes and Manning Valley community. For four years she lived in the positive assurance that cancer was behind her. She was a pillar of strength for other women diagnosed with breast cancer, as they were for her. When she was 55 she was told the breast cancer had metastasised and spread to small pockets in her lungs, liver and sternum which the doctors would treat with chemotherapy. They had also found a tumour in her brain which they were to operate on and treat further with radiation. Throughout the surgery, even after recovering from brain surgery and undergoing radiation and chemotherapy, her smile never wavered. Her optimism waged war and as the odds continually stacked against her, she kept climbing above them, until she was standing valiantly on top of it all. At 57 she was diagnosed with yet another brain tumour as a result of the breast cancer. Faced with her situation I would have cashed in my chips long ago. I would have been locked in a padded room screaming all sorts of profanities and questioning, ‘Why me?’ I’d be feeling completely forsaken. Surely I’d had my share, surely it was someone else’s turn? 16

But Mum wouldn’t wish it on anyone. She showed us how to live with cancer without complaint, she showed us how to fight against all the side effects of the treatment which began making her sicker than the cancer itself. At 60 she walked from Tuncurry to Cape Hawke Surf Club to raise money and awareness for breast cancer. She walked even though it pained her; she walked even though she was supposed to be resting in preparation for a hip replacement because the radiation had destroyed her joints. She walked for the women who couldn’t, she walked for the friends she had lost to the disease she was fighting. At 61, with a new lease on life after her hip replacement, she underwent surgery to address a tumour on her spine. The surgery was a success but she would never walk again. With her usual resounding determination and optimism, she disregarded the doctor’s diagnosis, talked of dancing at weddings, and believed she would once again prove them wrong and walk again. And as she had proved them wrong repeatedly, the doctors shared that hope. Still in hospital recovering from spinal surgery, the cancer had spread to the lymphatic glands in my mother’s groin. There was nothing doctors and nurses could do but manage the pain, and my beautiful mother’s final days were filled with strength, love and laughter. For ten years breast cancer had thrown everything it could at her but still it could not beat her. Still her love, strength and optimism radiated from her, and the darkness stood no chance. As she said, “I may die from breast cancer but it will never kill me.” My mother always remained strong in her Catholic faith and in her commitment to her parish of Forster Tuncurry. Throughout her suffering she was aware of being accompanied by Jesus and particularly by his mother, Mary. She always reminded us of the “coincidence” that she was diagnosed with breast cancer on 15 August, the feast of Mary’s Assumption; she underwent her mastectomy on 22 August, the Queenship of Mary and she began her chemotherapy treatment on 8 September, the Nativity of Mary. It was fitting then that she died on 7 October, the day dedicated to Our Lady of the Rosary. On that final day, as she struggled for breath, our family held hands and recited a decade of the rosary. As we finished praying her eyes opened and she stared into space. Whatever she saw gave her great peace and enabled her breathing to soften, slow and finally stop as she let go of this life. Jesus, or perhaps his mother, had come to take her home.

Although her peaceful departure has assisted in my grief, the somewhat shameful truth is that I didn’t think a tragedy like this would ever happen to me. Even after witnessing everything my mother went through, part of me, away from reason and logic and medicine, still couldn’t comprehend reality without her. Part of me still believed in a way out where we all lived happily and healthily ever after. I thought tragedy was a fate for someone other than me. I thought a tragedy like this would just be something I’d read about, or hear about, not something I would actually live. What a shameful truth to acknowledge, what a selfish feeling to admit, especially as I wasn’t the one living it, I was watching someone I love live it. It continues to feel so surreal; is this really happening to me? I guess we’re at the shock stage of grief; the answer in

my head in my mother’s American accent tells me, ‘Yeah, so what? Get over it!’ She would never trivialise my grief but she would accept the deal she was given, look for ways to heal and encourage me to do the same. What’s the alternative? Lock myself away in a dark room cursing the world for its cruelty? I guess in order to heal I have to acknowledge the pain in the first place, hence this little exercise. Perhaps instead of fearing a future without my mother, I should praise the past and be grateful for the time we were fortunate enough to have. So here’s to you, dearest reader, chin up buddy, the world is pretty wonderful, even when it isn’t.

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Dominicans celebrate 800 year Jubilee

Contemporary Dominican theologian, Edward Schillebeeckx, is quick to remind us that to be faithful to the Dominican story today we are called to live life contemplatively, critically appraising what is happening in our society and engaging in the quest for truth that leads to justice, peace and freedom. Our response to this challenge will determine whether the charism bequeathed to Dominic is kept alive in the church for future generations.

As Dominic travelled with his bishop through southern France he became acutely aware that the Word of God was not being preached well. He had to change direction and begin a new way of life.

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Importantly the present Catholic Archbishop of Boston, Cardinal Sean O’Malley, said, “Spotlight depicts a very painful time…in the Archdiocese of Boston….The media’s investigative reporting on the abuse crisis instigated a call for the Church to take responsibility for its failings and to reform itself − to deal with what was shameful and hidden − and to make the commitment to put the protection of children first, ahead of all other interests. We have asked for and continue to ask for forgiveness from all

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The team increasingly becomes aware that the stakes are escalating, that it’s “going after the system” with connections to nearly every other powerful city institution. From June to December, 2002, The Globe

Spotlight’s screenplay is richly dramatic and the acting is universally compelling.

It may once have been possible for Catholics to argue that this shameful and criminal chapter is “a media beat-up from an antiCatholic press” or “it’s just a few sick individuals”, but the Royal Commission into Institutional Responses to Child Sexual Abuse puts paid to those claims. Even though we now know there is a pandemic of sexual abuse of minors − in family homes, in every religious group as well as all welfare and government institutions that have had long-lasting dealings with children − that affords us no comfort or excuse.

The team begins believing it is looking at isolated, criminal individuals; “rotten apples”. Within a year they discover there have been credible or accepted allegations against 90 priests, 6% of the archdiocesan clergy.

This film not only casts its forensic gaze against the Catholic Church and other civic institutions, but also on itself. Since 1976 victims, their families and lawyers had been telling The Globe about the crimes, the criminals and the scale of the cover-up. The editorial staff could not or would not see what was in front of them.

those harmed by the crimes of the abuse of minors…”

The film’s title refers to the team of investigative journalists at The Boston Globe. In the late 1990s they become aware of a number of Catholic priests who had been accused of child sexual abuse. In the early days they unearth evidence that the Archdiocese of Boston has gone to extraordinary lengths to cover up the activities of these paedophile priests, and silence victims through payoffs, legal threats and personal intimidation.

published 13 reports about the crimes and their cover-up, culminating in the resignation of Cardinal Law as Archbishop of Boston.

Spotlight is an occasion for holy, righteous anger and every adult Catholic should see it − not because it is easy, but because it is necessary.

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By TRACEY EDSTEIN

Can we give up on the perfect? Picture a two-storey timber house flowing out of a wild garden, largely open to the elements, crammed with everything from vintage suitcases to mismatched china and joyful bunting to driftwood, and offering many spots to sit, read, chat, contemplate or simply be. In fact, it’s not a house, but a very homely home, and several times a year it welcomes dozens of neighbours for an evening called LIFEgig. 18

Chanteuse Grace Turner and Anne‑Marie and Dave Richards.

The LIFEgig website promises:  Presentation: three guests giving

presentations on their area of expertise.  Local live music: Grace Turner (the night

I attended)  Wholesome home-cooked food: the

Kitchen Crew  Guided meditation: Annette Nathalia

(ditto)  Rich community experience: YOU.

The last is crucial: LIFEgig arises out of the fact that, as ‘host’ Dave Richards explains, “Anne-Marie and I have always valued community or the 'sharing of life' in some way; we've even lived in an intentional community for 14 years. Those experiences have been the richest of our lives, because of the relationships. We've come to realise that the establishing, growing and sustaining of relationship is at least equal to the actual purpose or goal of any group. “So LIFEgig is one way we contribute to the vibrant and active community of Tighes Hill and Newcastle. It seems that bringing good simple food, local musicians and interesting discussion together in a conducive atmosphere allows for a relaxed, fun and even stimulating evening. Of course the secret ingredient are the 100-150 people who come to join in with us!” The fact that the home Dave and his wife Anne-Marie share has no ‘fourth wall’ is a

metaphor for the couple’s openness to the wisdom the neighbourhood has to offer. LIFEgig nights are ‘full on’ for Anne-Marie, Dave and their enthusiastic helpers, and yet Dave wafts through it all, acting as master of ceremonies, serving and delighting in this ‘extended family’. Mark Toohey is a regular at LIFEgig. “Coming along gives me a strong sense of connection to my local community and an opportunity to meet and chat with people from diverse backgrounds, interests and experiences. Without opportunities like this, we could pass each other in cars for years and not have an opportunity or reason to meet! Dave and Anne-Marie have created a relaxed social space where the richness of lived experience and ideas can be shared (or not) and savoured, no strings attached. I leave thinking what a lot of interesting lives are being lived around my suburb and wondering what focus is planned for discussion next time!” As a non-resident of this inner city neighbourhood, I was struck by the warmth and joie de vivre that prevailed. Clearly there is an appetite – for tasty food, a convivial glass and music − but underscoring all these, a deep appetite for conversation and sharing of ideas. Each LIFEgig is different but the principle seems to be ‘Hold it and they will come’. Anne-Marie is unfazed by having her home regularly fall victim to a benevolent invasion. “Dave and I have always enjoyed an open

home. Each Sunday we serve good coffee to whoever rolls in. Sometimes 15, sometimes 50. LIFEgig is a bit bigger, but it's only every second month. It does take a bit of organising to serve over 100 people, but the kids and some friends usually chip in and help. There are definitely costs to the family in having people around 'all the time', and we try to remain mindful of this. There may come a time when we have to pull the pin, but we are always reminded of the fact that good and beautiful things are usually costly in one way or another.” I attended LIFEgig during Advent, the season of preparation for Christmas, and Sophia Lamont sang a seasonal song she had composed. Although wind chimes competed for earspace, the line, “Can we give up on the perfect? Nothing real is perfect” stays with me. As someone for whom regularly gathering as church is important, I was fascinated by what drew these people whose major connection was geographical. It seemed that the crowd ranged from determined atheists to devout Christians, with some agnostics thrown in for good measure. The religious aspect is irrelevant to the event, but so often we are told that people are unwilling to commit to supporting an event, and that ‘cocooning’ is all the rage. The church is imperfect, like LIFEgig, but it’s amazing how inviting a simple formula can be. Hold it and they will come?

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Knitting nannas or sisters in arms?

By GREG DOEPEL

“I think it is interesting that you can`t un-see something once you have seen it.” So said Sarah Gavron, director of the movie Suffragette; the story of Emmeline Pankhurst and other women activists who in the 19th century took up the fight for women’s suffrage; “political equality and equal rights with men”. She was of course speaking of the revelation which dawned on those who were prepared to listen and acknowledge the truth of the inbuilt prejudice and injustice of a social system which discriminated against the female half of the population in almost every way. This recognition has led to improvements, but to this day, is often honoured more in the breach than the observance. Gavron goes on to say that once this state of affairs is seen, “it is almost untenable to keep living the way you are − or not to join in the fight once you realise there is a fight you can join”. Is there a fight Aussie women can join today? Are they doing so? It is a question

easily answered if you live in places like Gloucester, the Manning Valley, the northern rivers of NSW, many parts of Queensland. Here you could hardly miss the powerful female presence in the fight raging across the country. No longer is this a fight for suffrage, but for the soul of this country where the struggle is between the forces of exploitation of our natural resources at any cost, and those who have an alternative view of how to live in and with the natural world in a harmonious and sustainable way.

the persistence of our sisters in arms. This takes many forms, from the leadership of community organisations like Groundswell Gloucester, which takes delegations to both State and Federal ministers and works tirelessly for the wellbeing of the Gloucester Valley and its people, to the ubiquitous ``Knitting Nannas`` who, perhaps, personify this powerful grassroots force working for a more just and intelligent way of regulating the way we live in, and care for, our world. These strong women have seen where our present culture of exploitation has led us and will not rest till we mend it.

These strong women have seen where our present culture of exploitation has led us and will not rest till we mend it.

This female force is something to behold, and while we men are certainly equal partners in the struggle, we are somewhat in awe of the dedication, the intellect and

We came to this land as conquerors, who saw it and its people as things to be subdued

and brought under subjection, failing to recognise an existing culture which had sustained its people, and the environment, for many thousands of years. While we have much to be proud of in what we have built in little over 200 years, there is no doubt that many parts of Australia have been, and continue to be, savagely exploited with little regard for the sustainability of their soil, water resources, sacred sites, flora and fauna and the physical and psychological wellbeing of the people who live there. We could do well to acknowledge the wisdom of the First People of this land, and learn to tread more lightly upon it. And these women are leading the way in doing just that. Greg Doepel is a parishioner of St Joseph’s Parish, Gloucester.

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KYLIE COOPER

Creating a little human

My family and me. Photo courtesy of Angela Hardy Photography.

Friends visited recently to meet my newborn. We got to talking about the current trend to delay starting a family in favour of travelling, purchasing a house and establishing careers. We talked about how we remembered sex education at our public high school − mostly as a scare campaign to have us believe that if we had unprotected sex we would almost certainly end up pregnant or contracting a sexually transmitted infection. We couldn’t recall being advised about our fertility, and how it begins to wane after a certain age. Three years ago, I watched with bemusement as close friends in their late 20s struggled to conceive their first child. It was a most agonising time for them as they faced disappointment every month despite all their efforts to achieve pregnancy and a variety of invasive medical tests. Eventually, polycystic ovary syndrome was found to be the problem. The syndrome had probably always been present but had been masked by taking birth control pills.

With the knowledge that my partner and I wanted to start a family of our own in the not-too-distant future, it occurred to me I knew nothing about my own fertility because I, too, had been using the pill as a means of contraception for a number of years. I became curious about fertility and conception.

The body produces different hormones during certain stages of the menstrual cycle. Using this information you can plan or abstain from intercourse during the time you are fertile, depending on whether you want to prevent or achieve pregnancy. Another way of describing this method is “women cycling naturally”!

I came across the Billings Ovulation Method – a natural method of fertility management − online. No hormones, no barrier devices – nothing but simply taking heed of the fertility signs of the female body. Certainly sex education at school did not highlight the fact that females are only fertile for quite a small window each month, and our body tells us when that is!

We took the decision to switch to this method very seriously, conscious of the potential outcome. Ultimately, we decided we were at a stage in our lives and relationship that, while it was not in our plan to have a baby just then, if we did misinterpret the signs and fall pregnant, it would not be catastrophic.

So how does the female body signal its fertility? The cervix produces mucus, which can be seen and felt when it reaches the vulva. It varies in appearance depending on the hormones being produced by the body.

We practised the Billings Ovulation Method as a way of understanding our fertility as a couple for two years, abstaining from the intimacy of intercourse when my body indicated I was fertile (and in the beginning, whenever I wasn’t sure!). I kept a daily

record of my fertility symptoms on a chart and over time noticed a distinct pattern. I found it remarkable that the symptoms were so obvious and yet, as an educated woman, I was totally unaware. In my schooling this topic was never explored, and yet every woman would benefit from knowing. When we were ready to start our family, the tools we had applied for two years helped us to improve our chances of conceiving. Knowing when I ovulated also allowed me to know how soon I could take a pregnancy test and pinpoint my baby’s due date. We welcomed our son in October. It was so empowering and amazing to learn about and become one with my body and to create a little human as a result.

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Community Noticeboard Youth Mass On the last Sunday of each month, the 5.30pm Mass at St Patrick’s Church, Macquarie St Wallsend, while open to all, has a youthful flavour. Everyone is welcome. Before We Say I Do Program Course 2: 12 and 19 March at Maitland Course 3: 14 and 21 May at Singleton Course 4: 23 and 30 July at Newcastle (Toohey Room, Diocesan Offices, Newcastle West) Course 5: 10 and 17 September at Newcastle Course 6: 5 and 12 November at Newcastle All courses are on Saturdays from 9.30am4.30pm. Please P Robyn 4979 1370. Christian Meditation: Introduction Meditation is a wonderful way to begin 2016! It is helpful in times of spiritual crisis and physical stress. Newcomers and anyone who wishes to renew the practice of meditation are welcome. A four-week introductory course begins on Tuesday 2 February (then 9, 16 & 23 Feb) at 6.30pm at St Philip’s Church, Vista Parade, Kotara. Cost is $20. To learn more, E annecuskelly@hotmail.com or P 0407 436 808. Christian Meditation: The Art of Living How do we achieve a balance between doing and being – action and contemplation? There will be reflection on the story of Martha and Mary. Come to the Chapel of Newcastle Parish Centre, 25 Farquhar St, The Junction, (enter via laneway) on Saturday 6 February, 9.30am – noon. Cost is $5, morning tea provided. To learn more, E annecuskelly@hotmail.com or P 0407 436 808. Lenten Reflections Mercy Spirituality Centre, 26 Renwick Street, Toronto, is offering times of reflection on Wednesdays throughout Lent, commencing Ash Wednesday, 10 February. Sr Helen Baguley rsm will facilitate. Reflection commences at 9.30am and concludes with lunch at 1.00pm. Themes are “The Season of Lent - to see or not to see! An invitation to ‘look again’ at our lives in God and with God”; “We are OF God: our place in the grand scheme of things!”; “The Humanity of Jesus Calling us Today”. Cost is $20 per session and bookings are required. P 4959 1025 or E mercytoronto@mercy.org.au.

Art Journalling Mercy Spirituality Centre, 26 Renwick Street, Toronto, is offering a two-day workshop in art journalling on 19 & 20 February, 10.00am 3.00pm. Anne Ryan rsm will facilitate using Touch Painting process to create a meditative experience of noticing emerging patterns and developing insights with written journalling. Cost is $100 with all art materials supplied. Bookings are required. P 4959 1025 or E mercytoronto@mercy.org.au. TWEC: Looking forward, looking back The Diocesan Liturgy Council is repeating the Triduum Formation Day held in 2015, on Saturday 13 February, 9.00 for 9.30am, until 3.30pm at the diocesan offices, 841 Hunter Street, Newcastle West. Please register by 5 February, by contacting Sharon Murphy. P 4979 1134 or E sharon.murphy@mn.catholic.org.au. Reference material available at www.mn.catholic.org. au/catholic-faith/liturgy/liturgical-formationopportunities. TWEC: “I desire mercy, not sacrifice” Michele Connolly rsj will lead a day’s exploring of the theme of mercy as revealed in Scripture at the Tenison Woods Education Centre, New England Hwy, Lochinvar on Saturday 27 February, 9.30 for 10.00am, until 3.30pm. Cost is $20, concession $10; morning tea provided, byo lunch. Cheque payable to TWEC or direct deposit to Greater Building Society, BSB 637 000, a/c 716 489 760. Rsvp 22 February, P 4930 9601 or E twec@ssjl.org.au. Seasons for Growth Companioning Training Children & Young People’s training: Newcastle 16-17 March, Taree 26-27 July & Newcastle 16-17 November. Adult training: Newcastle 6-7 April & 17-18 August. This training is essential for those wishing to facilitate the Seasons for Growth program with children/young people or adults. Please P Jenny or Benita 4947 1355 to find out more about becoming a Companion. Enrolments for training are completed at www.goodgrief.org.au. Parent Program: Supporting your child following separation and divorce. This short program offers parents the opportunity to explore ideas and strategies that might assist in supporting their child/ren through the changes

happening in their family. Edgeworth Heights Public School: 3 & 10 March, 12.30-2.30pm. To register please P the school, 4958 1180. St Catherine’s College Singleton Reunion This event will be held at the College for the class of 1970-75 on 4-6 March. Please P Joanne Paget 0438 671 959. International Women’s Day Celebration Since 1911 International Women’s Day has been celebrated as the global day connecting all women around the world and inspiring them to achieve their full potential. This day is an opportunity to reflect on the dignity and role of women, in the family, society and the Church. We pray that we, the Church, ensure that women are encouraged to flourish within the Catholic Church in Australia and that all women are appreciated for the contribution they make to the fullness of the life of the Church. International Women’s Day 2016 will be celebrated at the Sacred Heart Cathedral, Hamilton, commencing with the celebration of Mass at 9.30am on Sunday, 6 March. Morning tea and sharing by a panel of local women speakers will follow in the Toohey Room. An invitation is extended to all. For further information P Patricia Banister, 0409 300 192 or 4932 5601. St Patrick’s Women’s Guild St Patrick’s Women’s Guild, Singleton, will be celebrating 50 years of ministry in April. If there are past members living in other parishes who would like to know more, please P Elaine Thomas, 6573 2966 or 043 2870 012. Date claimers The Francis Effect II You are invited to a colloquium on Laudato Si’ on Saturday 14 May, 9.00am-4.30pm. For details, watch this space! Walk the Camino! 20-day 2016 Pilgrimage Catholic Mission’s pilgrimages from Leòn to Santiago de Compostela balance walking and simple hospitality with silence, personal reflection and prayer. First pilgrimage 15 May – 3 June, second pilgrimage 15 September – 4 October. Small groups will be led by an experienced guide, Sr Veronica Rosier OP. Inquiries: Sr Veronica P 0451 387 901 or visit www.catholicmission.org.au.

For your diary February  6 International Day of Zero Tolerance of Female Genital Mutilation  9 Bishop Bill launches Project Compassion at Sacred Heart Cathedral; see page 5. Bishop Bill presides at Called to Serve Mass, Sacred Heart Cathedral.  10 Ash Wednesday  11 World Day of Prayer for the Sick  13 Apology to Stolen Generations by Australian Government (2011)  14 First Sunday of Lent Bishop Bill presides at Rite of Election, Sacred Heart Cathedral. Feast of St Valentine  15 Aurora deadline for March edition  20 World Day of Social Justice  21 Second Sunday of Lent  28 Third Sunday of Lent

March  1 International Death Penalty Abolition Day.

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Aurora on tour Don’t you hate it when others try to read over your shoulder? Aurora appears at the Dragon Bridge, Ljubljana, Slovenia.

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Review By Anne Millard

During my orientation as a new professor at a small liberal arts college in America’s Midwest, a colleague cautioned me not to use the “f” word in class. In response to my raised eyebrows, she expanded the contentious “f” word as feminism. Sure enough, I was soon to discover that many women in my classes do not align themselves with the feminist movement. This experience played over in my mind as I watched the film Suffragette. Like the young women in my classes, the fictional character Maud Watts (played beautifully by Carey Mulligan) complains two or three times that she is not a suffragette. However, as each of Maud’s civil rights is stripped away, she realises she has no choice other than to fight for the rights that should be hers and, indeed, the rights of all women. And thus, she becomes a suffragette. Suffragette is a masterfully crafted movie. The story unfolds in delicious detail with a balance of characters to support and abhor, and just the right degree of pathos. There’s no postmodern gratuitous artistry, violence, special effects or sex. It’s just good oldfashioned storytelling, plain and simple. Using a combination of created and historical characters, the story is both

familiar and new. I remembered enough of my history classes to dread the outcome of the race meeting, but other events unfolded in unexpected ways. While the film is obviously rooted in its period, its message is surprisingly contemporary and quintessentially Christian. Emmeline Pankhurst (Meryl Streep with 90 seconds of screen time) urges her followers to employ “Deeds, not words”. Sadly, the suffragettes felt forced to break windows and burn things, “because war is the only thing men listen to”. I wonder if we’d be plagued with fewer problems today if we took every opportunity to listen to each other, to walk in another person’s shoes? Maud explains women cannot be stopped; after all, women form half the human race. And, as Genesis tells us, male and female alike are made in the image of God. The lyrics of Joyce Johnson Rouse’s song, “Standing on the Shoulders” say, “they lift me higher than I could ever fly, carrying my burdens away”. I appreciate the women upon whose shoulders I stand. I think I owe it to them to stand tall and take my place in society with pride.

Mulberry and Frangipane Tart Method Ingredients Sweet pastry  170g plain flour  75g unsalted butter  45g icing sugar  Pinch salt  1 egg

Frangipane  125g unsalted butter  125g icing sugar  115g ground almonds  20g plain flour  3 eggs, lightly beaten  1 punnet mulberries

To make sweet pastry: Sieve flour into a large bowl. Rub in butter, icing sugar and salt until mixture is the consistency of breadcrumbs. Add egg, knead together and rest in the fridge under plastic wrap for 1 hour. To make frangipane: Cream butter and icing sugar. Beat in almonds and flour until mixed through. Add eggs gradually until combined. Leave in bowl and place in fridge for an hour.

Place into oven on tray for 15–20 minutes. Allow to cool slightly in tins before turning out. Serve with a generous dollop of cream and garnish with berries. Enjoy!

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Los Angeles, Grand Canyon, Las Vegas, Yosemite National Park and San Francisco. 2 night stopover in Hawaii.

Flying

28 Day Tour Qantas

into

New

Dep. May 8

York

and

out

Los

Angeles.

An incredible 24 day coach tour right across the USA from east to west visiting all of the most interesting places in this extraordinary country, a 2 night stopover in Anaheim situated nearby to Disneyland, prepaid gratuities.

Flying and

20 Day Tour into

Zagreb

with

Turkish

Airlines,

award

winning

tour

Saigon,

Hanoi,

visiting

Assisi,

Rome,

Sorrento,

Dep. June 7

for travellers requiring a single room.VIETNAM

Dep. Jul 25

Flying

and

out

Hanoi.

GOLDEN

TRIANGLE

ADVENTURE 19 Day Tour

Phnom

Penh,

northern

Thailand,

nights

Dep. Mar 14 in

seven

Chiang

Mai

Singapore, days

and

plus

flights

Cambodia

four Laos

Airlines within

tour

$4,995

into

Asia.

with

Hanoi .18

day

Angkor

out

Vietnam

Wat,

the Arctic Circle & Norway.3 days Thailand at a beachfront resort hotel.

LAOS, NORTH VIETNAM & GOLDEN TRIANGLE 24 Day Tour

included.

SPAIN, PORTUGAL & MOROCCO

Siem

$5,195

tour,

Reap 4

day

Singapore.

Dep. July 15

Twin

available

for

anyone

Flying

including

Bangkok

plus

Chiang

day

South

into

Rai,

flights

Chiang

within Mai

Thailand. Phuket.

Flying Singapore Airlines into Jakarta & out of Denpasar Bali. 11 day coach &

Flying

Capetown

African

Pacific

18 Day Tour

Islands of Mykonos, Patmos, Rhodes, Crete & Santorini. 2 nights Dubai stopover.

2 Week Tour

China. 4 day Yangtze cruise. Tour visits Chongqing, Xian & the Terra Cotta Warriors, Shanghai & Beijing. Tipping included.

and

tour

out

including

of game

into

Rome

18 Day Tour

Flying Singapore Airlines into Istanbul, plus a flight within Turkey. 15 day tour of eastern Turkey & the Black Sea coast. Optional extension to West

viewing

Turkey 7 Gallipoli. Tipping included.)

VIETNAM LUXURY TOUR $4,999 and

out

20 Day Tour

Flying Singapore Airlines into Saigon & out of Hanoi, plus 2 flights within

Vietnam. 19 day tour of the coast of Vietnam plus the Sapa hill tribe area.

Madrid.

CAPE TOWN TO VICTORIA FALLS

NEW ZEALAND GARDEN TOUR & FESTIVAL

BALTICS, RUSSIA & SCANDINAVIA

$6,985

Flying

Thai

into

Copenhagen

Dep. May 18 and

out

16 days touring Northern Europe, 2 day Bangkok stopover.

Stockholm,

Dep. Oct 10

Dep. Sep 1

Tipping included.

24 Day Tour

Dep. Oct 5

Johannesburg.

Superb 4-5 star accommodation. Tipping included.

20 Day Tour

Dep. Sep 7

Flying China Eastern into Shanghai & out of Beijing, plus 3 flights within

19 day tour of Italy, France & Spain. 2 days Hong Kong.

rail tour from Jakarta to Bali. 2 days South Kuta, Bali. 2 day Singapore stopover.

Dep. Oct 7

Flying Emirates into Athens. 11 day Greece tour, 4 day cruise of the Greek

$5,985

23 Day Tour Cathay

$5,785

Dep. Aug 23

ITALY, FRANCE & SPAIN Dep. Mar 9

2 days Dubai.

EASTERN TURKEY & THE BLACK SEA

6 game parks. Tips included.

$5,995

Dep. Oct 5

Flying Emirates into Madrid. 16 day tour of Spain, Portugal & Morocco.

$3,535 Dep. Aug 3

3 Week Tour Qantas

3 Week Tour

CHINA WITH YANGTZE CRUISE

SOUTH AFRICA

days

Dep. Sep. 2.

GREECE & THE GREEK ISLANDS

2 Week Tour into

4 Week Tour

U.S.A. & 15 day tour of N.E. U.S.A. & Canada.

First class accommodation.

$6,975

JAVA & BALI

$5,995

Dep. Sep 1.

Flying United into Los Angeles & out of New York. 12 day tour of western

THAILAND MOUNTAIN & BEACHES $3,275

$6,995

Dep. Sep 1

day

13 Day Tour

Tipping

tipping included.

16 Day Tour

Flying Thai into Stockholm & out of Oslo. 17 day tour of Finland, Lapland,

$4,590

Tips included

out

Mekong River, five days in Cambodia including Angkor Wat,

$2,995

Lakes.

Dep. Aug 18

ADVENTURE TOUR

24 Day Tour Singapore

LAOS,

into

Italian

VIETNAM & CAMBODIA ADVENTURE TOUR

Bangkok,

Airlines

the

2 days Rome, 2 days Hong Kong.

Thai

Singapore

3 Week Tour

Visits

Flying

Caprice,

Venice,

EUROPEAN WATERWAYS

Flying

$4,295

Lugarno,

2 day Hong Kong stopover.

20 day tour of the coast of Vietnam.

CAMBODIA

Isle

Milan,

requiring it.

OVERLAND

3 Week Tour Saigon

the

Florence,

Flying Qatar Airways into Zurich. 11 day tour of Switzerland.

18 day coach & air tour of Vietnam. For this tour there is no extra charge

into

Pisa,

SWITZERLAND

Flying Singapore Airlines into Saigon and out of Hanoi.

Airlines

Italy

22 Day Tour

U.S.A. & CANADA

nights

20 Day Tour

Singapore

Flying Cathay Pacific into Rome. 14 day first class tour of

$7,265

outside state room aboard the modern & luxurious Avalon Illumination.

Dep. Mar 9 & May 13 nights

Dep. June 3

visiting Holland, Germany, Austria, Slovakia & Hungary, in a hotel-style

INSIDE VIETNAM

Flying

18 Day Tour

Airlines

4 nights Hoi An,1 night Halong Bay with cruise.

$3,815

SCANDINAVIA & THE ARCTIC CIRCLE

Montenegro,

Flying Singapore Airlines into Saigon and out of Hanoi plus

$3,985

ITALY

$4,670

15 Day Tour Vietnam.

parks and Las Vegas.

day North Vietnam tour including Halong Bay cruise.

VIETNAM EXPLORER

within

to the Galapagos Islands and to the Amazon.

Triangle, 7 day Laos tour including 2 days cruising the Mekong River, 10

passengers.

flights

Yellowstone, Grand Teton, BryceCanyon, Zion & Grand Canyon national

flight from Budapest to Rome. A deluxe 15 day European River cruise

Seoul. This is a special group tour with a maximum of approximately 25

America. Visit Chile, Peru, Bolivia, Brazil & Argentina. Optional extensions

Flying Thai into Chiang Mai and out of Hanoi. 5 day tour of Golden

Bosniz Herzegovina, Serbia, Bulgaria & Turkey, 1 night stopover in

$2,625

Dep. July 19

Dep. July 5

Asiana

Croatia,

18 Day Tour

Air fares with Cathay Pacific into Amsterdam and out of Rome, plus a

Dep. May 12

day

$4,925

Flying Qantas & Latam Airlines into Santiago plus 6 flights within South

$9,995

BALKANS AND THE DALMATIAN COAST $6,985.

Dep. Mar 13

Flying United into Denver & out of Las Vegas. Visits Deadwood,

$6,985

TRANS AMERICAN ADVENTURE $6,985

22 Day Tour

Dep. Sep 19

$4,139

11 Day Tour

Dep. Oct 26

Flying Qantas & British Airlines into Capetown & out of Victoria Falla.22

Flying Air N.Z. into Auckland & out of Wellington. Visits 7 outstanding

day tour of South Africa, Namibia, Botswana &Zimbabwe. Game viewing

gardens & Taranaki Garden Festival. Tour lead by a gardening expert.

in 2 national parks. Small group tour.

The prices listed mainly include return air fares from Sydney, Melbourne & Brisbane, airport taxes & fuel levies, good twin share accom., many meals, all transfers, Australian tour leader & local tour guides. AW1867151

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