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Get Smart about training your dog You might think your dog is a perfect little poopsiekins, but everyone else thinks they’re an asshole. Let Traci Moriarty CPDT-KA, owner/founder of Durango Dog College, tell you a bit about how to get Schnookums under control.

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Trump plays on our insatiable appetite for entertainment

an you imagine if Donald Trump had the same ideas, had the same barbarically bulbous personality and the same comically orange hair and face but he was a mailman or schoolteacher and had only a few thousand dollars in the bank instead of his (alleged) billions? Would we still be listening? Trump supporters, the press and nearly everyone else – at least at first but even now – listen in part because Trump is wealthy and he is famous. Take that away and what do you have? Too often in our culture we equate wealth and fame as virtues. These people have climbed two ladders that our society has placed the upmost importance on. And, the logic goes, anyone who has managed to become rich and/or famous must have done something to get there. They are intelligent; they are good leaders worthy of following; their words and ideas, whether in their field of expertise or not, are relevant and meritorious. We see this, intentionally or not, in movies and TV – the Kardashians, “Real Housewives” – and become fixated. We may not like them as people, but, my, isn’t their wealth something to gawk at and envy. We see it on the religious right with the gospel of prosperity, where wealthy “preachers” claim that you too can become rich if faithful enough (and willing to part with a notable amount of your own money first). The ubiquity of riches and fame, in reality TV especially, gives wealth and fame outsized status and even makes it seem attainable. This phenomenon, of course, is not new to Trump. Successful people in any field can and do make great leaders and politicians, and fame and fortune do not disqualify someone from having a brain with decent ideas (or in Trump’s case, “a very good brain,” according to him, producing gems like “I know words, I have the best words.”) But the alarming thing here: Few have risen to the level of potential power that Trump has, and rarely, if ever, has someone in his position drummed up so much xenophobic, demagogic, racist, misogy-

nistic, bigoted, fear-mongering support as Trump has. At his base, Trump is little more than an entertainer, and his press conferences follow suit. While handing Trump a free megaphone, reporters fawn over his boorishness and off-the-cuff tendencies, drooling over the chance to spread Trump’s latest tack because people will lap it up. Ratings shoot up and readers come back for another fix. With the help of a starry-eyed press, many of Trump’s flimsy policies get a passing glance, and Trump himself is rarely pressed on the truth (the Pulitzer prize-winning website PolitiFact has labeled just 23 percent of Trump’s statements as true or somewhat true). If the media were less interested in being entertained, less apt to get caught up in the day’s horse race, perhaps the insanity would be easier to remember. And that’s all a part of the problem, I believe, this confusion between entertainment and real life and a desire to be entertained over everything else. Showmanship and cartoonish feats of power work well on reality TV but how about negotiating trade deals with China or nuclear pacts in the Middle East? How about domestic policies on higher education or health care, real issues that could have a serious effect on millions of people, where clear us-against-them solutions are not always available? That real life/entertainment confusion is alive on the left as well. In a New York Times article last week, a Bernie-or-Bust Sanders supporter, Victor Vizcarra “said he would much prefer Mr. Trump to Mrs. Clinton. Though he said he disagreed with some of Mr. Trump’s policies, he added that he had watched ‘The Apprentice’ and expected that a Trump presidency would be more exciting than a ‘boring’ Clinton administration.” This is the presidency, people. Many of us would like to see real change. But this is all becoming realer and realer each day. It’s time to discard the mistaken notion that this is all some entertaining game without consequences. It’s time to sober up and get real.

Carnivals Love it

Carnivals are aesthetically vibrant. I love the noises, sights and smells. The twinkling lights of a Ferris wheel spinning in the dark; a carousel’s band of candy-colored horses with children clutching their necks; the distant shrieks of people high above the crowd on some rickety, whirling ride. All blending together in the warmth of a summer’s evening. Carnivals bring out the best of small towns. Residents fetch their prize pigs, pies and vegetables they’ve worked all year to perfect, hungry for local competition. There’s always livestock you can feed or pet. Several years back, I even saw a giraffe at the fair, enclosed inside an enormous tent with his head bobbing down every few seconds to slurp carrots from people’s hands. There are insipid games to play (the only stakes being who will win an enormous stuffed animal) and endless carnie treats (cotton candy, deepfried Oreos, funnel cakes, curly fries, candy apples). Strange, sickly foodstuffs you wouldn’t normally touch – but at a carnival, who’s going to notice? The equipment and rides tend to be old-timey and charming. They seem awfully dilapidated, probably not serviced in the last decade, but the thrill of possible death is half the fun. Two summers ago, I got bad whiplash from a ride on Coney Island. Good memories. The ephemeral nature of the thing is nice, too. A carnival isn’t a year-round event. It’s a special encounter, reserved for balmier weather when the kids are off school and the days seem like they go on forever. — Anya Jaremko-Greenwold

Hate it Here’s my idea of an amazing time on a summer’s night: Ascending a hundred feet in the air on a contraption named The Whirrlee Wheel, a machine built in the late ’60s – heaven knows how many times it’s been maintenanced (is more times good or bad?) – and wrenched together in a mall parking lot by a collection of people making minimum wage who ramble through so many towns and parking lots on the carnie circuit that Durango might as well be Heehaw, Arkansas. And if you get really lucky, enough times around on the Circle of Doom, you might deposit the contents of your stomach, especially if the kid riding next to you deposits first. And when you get hungry, there’s an assortment of freakishly processed cured meats, or candy bars, or potatoes, all battered and fried, of course, (just the way you like it) and a variety of high fructose corn syrups in alarmingly bright colors, in frozen and liquid form, to perpetuate your thirst. And since the rickety rides will certainly not be enough entertainment, there are the games, many which look so easy but are designed specifically to ensure you lose. But on the off chance you get the ring around the bottle or the pingpong ball in the fish bowl, you’ll be awarded a giant stuffed panda worth $2 that you paid $15 to win. But at least it’s a good time. — David Holub

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Training Your Dog You might think your dog is a perfect little poopsiekins, but everyone else thinks they’re an asshole. Let Traci Moriarty CPDT-KA, owner/founder of Durango Dog College, tell you a bit about how to get Schnookums under control. What are the most common problems you see?

that time, then you’re looking at another six to eight months of training to help the dog understand that what it’s been doing is not what it should be doing.

We get a lot of calls about barking, bark lunging on a leash, not acting appropriately in front of other dogs; [and] issues in house, you know, “They jump on my guests when they come over!”, “They won’t come when I call!”, or “They’re peeing everywhere!”

What’s most rewarding?

Is there a time table for training? Every dog is different, just like every person is. We have levels – Manners 1, 2 and 3. Just like kids go through school, first, second, third grade and so forth. You know, some kids fly through second grade, struggle with third and then do really well with fourth. Dogs are the same. Some will fly through certain commands and then struggle with others. We stress making a big deal about what the dog knows as opposed to what the dog doesn’t know. I might have a dog whose stay isn’t great, but their coming when called is fantastic. We focus on that so that we’re not constantly saying “no” to the dogs.

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»» Traci Moriarty, owner/founder of Durango Dog College, hikes with her dog Dodger at Vallecito Reservoir.

So it’s about positive reinforcement than – YES! Absolutely! We use a tool called a clicker – it makes a clicky noise and it basically marks or captures the behavior. If we’re saying “sit” and the dog puts its butt on the ground, we click and treat. The reason we use a clicker is because it’s consistent. For example, the way you and I say “yes” are two different tones and the dog picks up on that, but the click is always the same click. The clicker can go away as the behaviors become learned. Dogs pick up on things we can’t process ourselves? Absolutely. Our body language, our tone; we always say that whatever we’re feeling goes straight down

the leash. [Dogs] pick up on our anxieties, our body language. They sense cancer or they sense a diabetic seizure before it comes on because they sense us, they’re smelling something different in us. Speaking of leashes ... The first thing I tell people is that the leash is not a steering wheel and we don’t use it to jerk the dog around. We want the dog to realize that when they feel a tightness on the leash, they have to come back to us. We may do a lot of stopping and starting until the dog understands, “Hey, if I don’t feel that tightness, I get to go forward to the next thing, so I’m going to walk nicely because then I get to go where I want to go!” It can be a bit age-dependent. Puppies can learn it quickly if you get them started right away. You can have a beautiful walking dog within a few months, but if you wait until your dog is 6 or 7 months and they’ve been pulling all

The bond between people and their dogs. I do a lot of the basic manners classes and get that person who comes in and loves their dog, but may not like their dog very much. They’re struggling. It’s a lot of “No’s,” a lot of groans. But by the end of class, they’re walking with the leash loose and they’re comfortable walking up to another dog because they’re no longer worried about what their dog is going to do. Watching that relationship build, for me, is the best. I love group classes especially because the rest of the group will notice it. You’ll hear people saying, “God, your dog is so much different from the very first class!”

You’ve met and helped a lot of dogs. Is there one that sticks out? My favorite, and I still borrow him and use him as an example, is Jack. Jack is a Border Collie/Australian Shepherd mix and was basically feral when his owners found him. Now he’s a therapy dog! He plays nicely, he walks downtown with great leash skills. Jack showed me that dogs can forget and forgive, which is probably the best thing that we can learn from them. They don’t care if you had a bad day or if you put on 10 pounds. They don’t care if just got into a car accident or if you did the wrong thing. All they care about is that you came home. “Yay! You’re home! Yay!” Cyle Talley would encourage anyone looking for a pet to visit La Plata County Humane Society’s upcoming “Adopta-Thon” June 3 and 4. If there’s anything you’d like to Get Smart about, email him at: cyle@cyletalley.com

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Moreland and Arbuckle pack a lot of blues into their roots

n paper, call them a blues band. But that serves as a catch-all and easy way out to define Moreland and Arbuckle, the Kansas-based trio that in 11 years and six albums have managed to explore Chicago and Kansas City, Texas and Mississippi Hill Country blues while letting country and American rock ’n’ roll influence what is now their sound. It makes sense, because blues has been at the source of just about every style of modern music for the last 70 years. Chuck Berry, Bill Monroe and Deep Purple all have the blues at their source. Moreland and Arbuckle, (Aaron Moreland on guitar, Dustin Arbuckle on harp and vocals, and Kendall Newby on drums) is one of six acts performing on the Blues Train, a rolling train ride of rocking blues music happening Friday and Saturday on the Durango & Silverton Narrow Gauge Railroad. The trio recently put out “Promised Land or Bust,” a record exploring traditional American blues with undertones of big rock; it was produced by studio wiz Matt Bayles, who is most known for producing

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metal bands Mastadon and The Sword. “We are continuing to try to push ourselves outside of the box, try to break some new ground and do some new things. One thing that was different, we made a point of intentionally coming back and doing some more traditional/roots/ electric blues kind of stuff like we hadn’t done on the last couple of records,” said Arbuckle. “It was at the same time consciously more rootsy but also still continuing to push forward. It was a lot of fun to make this record.” Pushing forward means making a record that’s a reflection of record collecting, and enjoying a wealth of sounds whether it is cocktail crooning or big ’70s rock riffs. It’s coming from an honest and unpretentious place void of gimmick like the

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and more of that to flow into what we’re doing as we move forward” said Arbuckle. “There are aspects of heavier rock in what we do, more of that as we’ve gone forward. We’ve occasionally let some country music get into what we do, and soul and funk. On this record there’s even almost a jazz tune. I think the important thing is doing everything you can to understand all those genres so everything can sort of tastefully come together and it doesn’t feel like a contrived thing where you’re trying to be eclectic. For us, it’s all happened organically; this is the stuff you love so it finds its way into your music.” Bryant Liggett is a freelance writer and KDUR station manager. liggett_b@ fortlewis.edu.

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What’s the deal with essential oils? People are nuts for essential oils right now. Some Durangoans even carry little vials with them wherever they go. Essential oils are highly concentrated aromatic extracts derived from plants. They’re harvested from various plant parts by distillation, a process that produces some ingredients in the oil that are not present in the living plant. People love scented candles, but those are mostly artificial scents, mimicking natural ones – these oils are the real thing. They can change your mood and even improve bodily ailments. We spoke with Debra Swanson, trained herbalist and founder of Dancing Willow Herbs in Durango, about why people are so obsessed with essential oils and what their magical properties are. How do you use them? The way essential oils are typically used is on your skin, your biggest organ, which can receive and absorb a lot. But there’s this movement, presently, with a number of the larger multilevel marketing companies, where they’re recommending you take essential oils internally. The internal use is NOT something any layperson should do! If I was to take a drop of essential oil and put it in my water, does it disperse? No. You wind up having a drop of oil sitting on top. If you drink it, that oil is going to stick to your mucus membrane and not disperse. That can burn your skin. We have people come in all the time and ask about taking the oils internally, and I say “I can’t advise you to do that!” If you’re ingesting oil, it’s recommended that you put it on a medium, so that it makes it into your digestive tract. It could be put on a fat like butter or coconut oil, or on a sugar cube. But just drinking it in water can create a hazard. Are there differences in quality of essential oils?

tive chemical stuff is, the carcinogenic. What we put on our skin has a deep effect on our whole physiology. People are attracted to using these oils because it’s not only the olfactory, but it takes us back to something natural, the wildness of our world, a connection with the earth.

What kind of oil is good for what ailment?

Where on the skin should you put oils?

First aid kit: Tea tree oil (it’s incredibly antimicrobial and antiseptic, so it kills bacteria)

On the spot that’s two or three fingers up from your wrist, a pulse point, where you absorb stuff well (like perfume). The soles of your feet are also one of the most therapeutic places. If it’s a respiratory infection you’re treating, put it between your shoulder blades or on your chest. You should first dilute the essential oil to maybe 10 percent into a “carrier oil” like jojoba, almond, apricot or even olive oil. Especially if you’re using eucalyptus, Continued on Page 9

Headaches: Peppermint and rosemary (put on your temples) Blemishes: Tea tree oil and witch hazel

Bug bites: Lavender Digestive problems: Peppermint (nausea), ginger (rub these on your abdomen) Skincare: Frankincense and sandalwood for wrinkles Tooth pain: Clove oil, good for numbing abscess tooth infections Colds and flus, respiratory infections: Thyme Stress relief: Lavender

There’s different grades of oils. The best ones are made from organic material, which means you’re extracting out these oils from organically grown stuff. Or “wild-crafted,” which means you’ve collected the plant material from the wild. If I’m not able to obtain an organic essential oil, I’ll only get steamdistilled, because there’s no chemicals involved. [Organic Infusion is the brand Dancing Willow carries and recommends]. Why are EOs so popular? Essential oils have really come to the forefront, and part of that is because our world is so mechanized. We live in a beautiful area here, where we have access to nature; but in the broader sense, there’s a lot of people who live in Middle America and the suburbs and the city, without access to wild things and natural smells. They’re surrounded by chemicals. So the resurrection of this is about people starting to wake up to how destruc-

»» Essential oils at Dancing Willow Herbs in Durango. Jerry McBride/BCI Media

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Durango’s best IPAs, explained If there’s one place in town that seems to knock it out of the park each time with its rolling menu of IPAs, it’s Carver’s. Their recent string of IPAs – Main Ave., Twilight Peak, Vapor Trail and Bike Bike double to name a few – have hit an unparalleled level of balance and drinkability. We talked with Carver’s head brewer Patrick Jose about his process, what he looks for in an IPA, what he thinks about when tasting beer and how we can all enjoy beer more.

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»» Debra Swanson, owner of Dancing Willow Herbs in Durango. From Page 8

thyme or peppermint oil on your skin – those are all very strong. The exceptions are tea tree and lavender, which can be used directly on the skin without diluting. How does conventional medicine compare to the oils? I get a lot of people who come to me as the last ditch. They’ve gone to every specialist there is, now they’re so desperate they go to the herbalist. In terms of allergies, we treat people all year long with success. Colds and flus, digestive, hormonal problems, no brainer. But if you have a ruptured appendix or cancer, I can’t help. We do supportive therapies for folks going through cancer treatments. For general health and well-being, that’s where I can help. For the heroic type things, modern medicine is amazing. Is any of this the placebo effect? Where your mind is at affects how well you receive chemo or how well you respond to anti-depressants. Our frame of reference and belief systems have the most profound effect over our health. But even if you don’t believe in herbs, they will still work. Same with antibiotics. Can you overdo it and use too many oils? Yes, you should prioritize. Treat acute first, then go to chronic. If you’re doing chronic, you probably won’t be taking anything too strong, since you’ll be taking it over a long period of time. You don’t want to cover your body in essential oils. —— Anya Jaremko-Greenwold This interview has been lightly edited for space and clarity.

What are you doing that no one else around here seems to be doing with IPAs? I don’t know if we’re doing anything different than anybody, we just try to make sure we’re using the freshest hops for our IPAs so that’s coming across. Drinking it on tap is the best way to maintain those aromas and flavors. Once you start packaging it and it starts sitting out for a while, that definitely starts to calm down, But we’re right here on tap and our tanks last maybe three weeks on an IPA. It’s really, like literally, the freshest IPAs you can get in town. What do you look for in an IPA? I try to find and look for the new and interesting flavors and aromas that you don’t get in most of the IPAs that come around. I tend to stay away from hops that are kind of on the grassy side, like a Columbus. Sometimes when you use Columbus to dry-hop, it tends to comes across as a little more grassy than it does piney. And I try to avoid using things like that and when I seek out IPAs, I’m seeking out things that are using new hops and that are using flavors that we haven’t had yet. In particular the Main Ave. we used – twothirds of the hops in that were from New Zealand. So we used Rakau and Nelson. And the Twilight uses a significant amount of Nelson. And they’re pretty new on the market so most of those flavors we haven’t really had any experience with in the last few years. It’s interesting because their hops tend to be more on the tropical fruit side. We used – it doesn’t even have a name. It’s called XP7270. Makes you feel like a secret agent or something. What do you not like in an IPA, as a drinker and as a brewer? Sometimes you get some pale ales that breweries like to just over-hop too much. I like a little bit more even-hand with them. There’s a time and place for a heavily-hopped beer, and a lot of the times, people are hopping it because they can, because they had a lot laying

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»» Carver’s head brewer Patrick Jose. around of something and they can just throw a bunch in there and really cram it in. I mean, we put a lot of hops in our pale ales for sure, especially in the dryhopping, but some people are taking it to that level beyond and it’s a point of diminishing returns for me. You get to that level and it’s like, “Yeah, it’s hoppy but why is it this hoppy?! Does it really need this?”I think a lot of times, if those guys just scaled it back just a little bit, it would be that much better because then you’re just blowing out the beer with hops. It’s a hard way to describe pale ales, but like a juicy IPA, it tastes like you took a hop flower that had been soaking in beer and just wrung it out. Those can be really good. But that’s kind of a technique, I guess. It’s a learned thing when it comes to making good pale ales. What are some things you hope people think about the beer before drinking? I guess, above all, I want people to respect what we do as craft brewers and not as large, blown-out macro breweries. Like the big three: Bud, Miller, Coors, those guys and their attempt to get into the craft beer industry. They’re buying up breweries left and right. It is a bit important for me for people to come in and recognize that we are independentlyowned and everything we sell in house is made right back there. We

don’t sell guest beers; we don’t bring beers from anywhere else. We try to keep things simple and delicious. What advice do you have that would help us enjoy beer more? Take the time with the beer. Get to know it. Start breaking it down. When I drink beer, we start with how it looks in the glass, how it’s presented to you at the table. Is it in a nice clean glass with a nice head on top and looks delicious? Is it cloudy like it’s supposed to be or cloudy and it shouldn’t be? Those are things I like to know. And then beyond that, take advantage of the aromas before you actually start drinking it because the perception’s a little bit different after you start putting it in your mouth. I take a distance, sniff from about the chin to the nose and try to get those aromas that are real light and like to float up high. Then you can get a little closer and start getting different aromas, different flavors and really try to put those with something. It smells fruity. OK, what kind of fruit? OK, what kind of citrus? Keep taking it down and really home in, like Meyer lemons. Why not? You can absolutely do that. It’s a fun part of the beer. —— David Holub This interview was lightly edited and condensed.

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[beer]

First Draughts | Robert Alan Wendeborn

A primer on one of summer’s great beers: The saison

ne of the most diverse and varied styles of beer is the Belgian style of saison. It’s a beer style that was almost extinct, kept alive by Brasserie Dupont, and resurrected by the craft beer movement worldwide. Saison means “season” in French and refers to the seasonal farm workers (saisonniers) who would be given daily allowances of beer by the farmer employing them. Historically, the beer was brewed in the winter and stored until the summer months. The diversity in the style derives from the varied approaches the farmers took in the production of their own beer, and in contemporary breweries, the diversity comes from the brewer’s own philosophy regarding the style. When reading different recipes, and reading interviews with brewers about saisons, there are two or three variations on how to achieve the complexity. The first is through multiple yeast strains and fermentations with a simple malt and hop bill. The idea is to let the yeast do all the work in bringing out the flavors. The second is sort of a mill room floor or “everything but the kitchen sink” approach. The idea is to have a very complex grain bill, do interesting mixes of hops, fruits and/or spices, and that will lead to the desired complexity. And the third is all of the above, the idea being to mimic how rural farmers would brew beer: a little wild, a little slap-dash, a little improv, and this is the root of the other name for the style: farm-

house ale. Even though there are different processes, the philosophy behind the creation is the same, creating interesting rustic beers for easy summer drinking. The epitome, the gold standard and the savior of the saison, is Saison Dupont. Founded in 1950, Brasserie Dupont is a small regional brewery in Tourpes, Belgium, that brews around 17,000 bbl (barrels) of beer a year (roughly half the size of Ska Brewing here in Durango), but its saison has been turning heads worldwide since the 1980s when the American market discovered this unique take on beer. It has won countless awards and been named the best beer in the world by Men’s Journal, mostly because of its singular representation of the style. It’s simplicity in creation (only hops, water, yeast and pilsner malt), but with complexity in flavors, aromas, texture and appearance it is set apart from the rest of the crowd. A good beginner saison from a price point and in availability standpoint is Collete from Great Divide. Available in cans, Collete pours a nice yellow straw color with a soft white head. Subtle peppery and floral aroma notes are foregrounded by melon and soft fruit flavors with almost no hop bitterness. It almost comes off as a high fermented wheat beer. Because it’s in a can, you can take it anywhere. Carver’s has another readily available saison in the Sagan Saison. Pretty straightforward in style, Sagan Saison is yellow straw in color, with floral, and an almost alfalfa-like grassy aroma,

with black pepper and sour dough bready flavors and a slight amount of residual sweetness. On the other side of the spectrum, more of the kitchen sink model, is Almanac Brewing’s Elephant Heart de Brettaville, a farmhouse ale dry hopped with El Dorado hops, fermented with brettanomyces and aged on elephant heart plums in oak barrels. This beer pours a lovely pinkish orange color with effervescent foam, tart and fruit forward, with a little funk and hoppy bitterness hiding in background. A strong, almost perfume-like, floral aroma with a hint of tropical hops there, too. This beer is very intense, but also quite refreshing. I’d add that I haven’t had a bad beer from Almanac and most of their beers available here in Durango are along the lines of Elephant Heart: adventurous and strange. I think the best thing about the style is that it achieves summer refreshment without being bland. It’s supposed to be a beer a farmer could enjoy on a hot summer day. As Marc Rosier, owner and head brewer of Brasserie Dupont, puts it, a saison “must be a good, honest beer. It should have character. It is essential that it has soul.” That is, I think, something we can all drink to. Robert Alan Wendeborn puts the bubbles in the beer at Ska Brewing Company. His first book of poetry, “The Blank Target,” was published this past spring by The Lettered Streets Press and is available at Maria’s Bookshop. robbie@skabrewing.com

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Style Fetish | Heather Narwid

»» A story of a breakup, a mother’s glasses and an unwanted letter of betrayal

‘Secrets of unimaginable disloyalty’ My last weeks have been full of stories. I wrote my column on books about sartorial storytelling and was inspired by the honesty of my editor David Holub’s show “We Are Broken and We Are Whole” and the Raven Narratives storytelling event. All of these tales got me thinking about stories of my own. Only my stories are not that great, more like amorphous musings that ask questions and try to answer themselves by pulling anything remotely related into their orbit, streams of consciousness tangle with the tangential threads of emotions, facts, incidents and histories. This particular musing is sort of about how I got a pair of my eyeglasses. It is a sad story where some questions were answered, but in an unthinkable way. These glasses are 1950s-era cat-eyes with red-andwhite stacked plastic layers and silvery fans at the corners, made by American Optical. They are kind of “a look,” not my everyday specs. They were gifted to me in 2002 or so by an ex-boyfriend. He had a vast and varied collection of vintage toys, action figures, robots and weird objects arranged on several shelves in his apartment. This man had an intense appreciation of and fascination for the now-vintage accoutrements of his childhood. These frames were displayed among this “kid” stuff and had belonged to his deceased mother. When I needed new frames, he offered me this red pair; I was delighted with the useful gift but wondered to him if the frames had too much sentimental value for him to let them go. He replied that he enjoyed seeing them on me, and was glad they were being used. But when we broke up a year later, he wanted them back. At the time I was aghast and offended at the request: The frames had been a gift that now contained my $200 prescription! I used them to see, so refused to return them and got all self-righteous and pissed at such selfishness and fickle gift-giving. A few weeks after we broke up, I received a two-page letter from my ex’s father explaining in detail how he was positive that the breakup was in no way my fault. This man, a veteran of World War II, had on a previous visit been likable and told me stories of the pet leopard he kept while in North Africa and explained how to tell the difference between a loblolly and a short leaf pine tree. Now in this letter, the father explained that his son, being selfish, childish and weak, was incapable of a relationship. He told me that his son’s tendency toward crippling depression made him difficult to be with, just as difficult as his depressive mother had been, and that I had been wise to have left him. I was shocked, saddened and felt an acutely sympa-

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»» Heather Narwid in her storied 1950s-era cat-eyes. thetic humiliation for the son, who I had cared about, and his mother, too. Reading it made me feel complicit in their betrayal. Her glasses were now telling secrets of unimaginable disloyalty, secrets I did not want to know and didn’t deserve to know, either. I got angry and wanted no part of these glasses or the people they had seen. I regretted not having been forgiving and selfless enough to return them when asked. I hoped his father was not as ashamed of his son as he had let on to a virtual stranger. At the same time, I hoped he was terribly ashamed of himself. I hope my ex has proved his father wrong, and is happy with someone. After receiving that letter, I knew much more about why my ex had been so sad. The letter situation connected me to his mother, this woman who had picked out and worn these striped red-and-white cat-eyes. I felt glad she chose these for herself instead of a tame, unadorned tortoiseshell pair. I like to imagine she had felt well and confident frame-shopping on that day, wife to a happy husband,

mother to happy children. I still have and wear the eyeglass frames. I love them and am grateful for their still-perfect prescription lenses, comfortable design and flashy styling. In my exboyfriend’s dead mother’s glasses I am trying to see beyond the visible to discern hidden reasons and motives. They still remind me to have mercy, and to be loyal. Post-script: My ex lives in another part of the country. Last time I saw him he surprised me with a visit at work while wearing a Mexican wrestling mask and told me I was about to be robbed. I have no reason to expect him to read this column but still hope he doesn’t. I never told him about the letter. Heather Narwid owns Sideshow Emporium,, a vintage and modern clothing store for men and women. Sideshow is located in Durango at 208 County Road 250 (at 32nd Street). Sideshow is open Tuesdays through Saturdays from 10 a.m. till 6 p.m. and swears to you everlasting loyalty. Got a style question? Ask her anything at sideshowdolores@gmail.com.

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[savage love]

“Sometimes people get upset about what’s IN my column. I’m like,

‘Oh my god … You should see what didn’t get into the column!’” »» After 25 years of ‘Savage Love,’

weekly The Stranger. In the 25 years he has been writing “Savage Love” which spawned the wildly popular “Savage Lovecast,” one of the 20 most popular podcasts on the planet, his celebrity has ballooned. He has become an outspoken critic on a range of political issues, many involving sex, sexuality and LGBT rights, appearing regularly on shows such as HBO’s “Real Time with Bill Maher,” public radio stalwart “This American Life” and a number of cable news shows, including MSNBC’s “Countdown By David Holub DGO Editor with Keith Olbermann.” He also hosted a Q&A-style show on ince the inaugural issue of DGO last fall, when Dan Savage’s “Savage MTV in 2012 called “Savage U.” And at every turn, Savage has drawn sharp criticism, especialLove” column first hit the streets of Durango, a conversation started ly from the political right and conservative Christians. about what is appropriate when discussing sex publicly, especially when it comes to free publications available to anyone on the street. DGO reached out to Savage to get his take on how his colWhile there has been a swell of positive feedback, suffice it to say, Savage’s umn and views have been received over the years. Savage column has been at the top of criticisms DGO has received from the comspoke about how the public conversation about sex has munity, both from people who have read “Savage Love” and from businesses changed over time, the nature of the criticisms he rethat refuse to carry the magazine because of its inclusion. ceives, his process as an advice columnist, the value of advice columns and what he hopes to achieve through This type of reaction is nothing new for Savage, who in the early 1990s “Savage Love.” first began writing for and is now the editorial director of Seattle’s alt-

controversy is nothing new for sex columnist Dan Savage, nor are the issues voiced over his column in Durango.

I was curious to get your perspective on how your column has been perceived over the years, positive and negative. These days there’s a funny, hypocritical schizophrenia about how the column’s received or perceived because the idea that by pulling the column from a print paper, you can keep frank or even sometimes really explicit conversations about sex out of your community is ridiculous. There’s this thing called the internet [laughs] and anyone with a phone in their pocket, which includes most 12-year-olds, can find in an instant, my column on other sites, and much, much worse things than my column. My column discusses sex in the language that people use when they talk about sex with their friends. Some people aren’t used to seeing that kind of language or discussion in print. But if they think for a second, it’s exactly the kind of discussions that they’re used to having. There’s been this convention that my column has helped to erode, that there’s one way you discuss sex in print and then there’s the way you discuss sex basically

anywhere else - with your friends, with your colleagues, on television, everywhere else – but in print you have to switch into this kind of sexual Sanskrit and you’re not allowed to use the language people use when they talk about it. Which is crazy. Everything else in newspapers, everything else in print, you’re allowed to be conversational. A sports columnist doesn’t discuss sports with sort of high-minded, academic language. They discuss sports conversationally. And I think that’s hard for some people. They see that conversational discussion of sex and they’re shocked. Because that’s not how we talk about sex in public where other people can see it. So the reception of my column over the years, I’ve been writing it for a long time. Twenty-five years ago there was an effort in San Francisco to get my column thrown out of the paper there because I used the word ‘faggot’ and my column was called a hate crime. It didn’t matter that I, myself, am a faggot [laughs] and comfortable with the word. There were a few years where the Village Voice wanted to pick it up but they thought they

couldn’t or didn’t want to because I talked too much about anal sex and [that] my column was too out there for New York City – this was when it was running in Vancouver and Seattle and San Francisco and a few other places – and it was just too dirty for New York, which is crazy. That was 20 years ago. The column these days is a lot less crazy than it used to be. Because I used to get a lot of questions about how to do something. “How do you fist?” for example. [laughs] And now fisting has a wiki page. So anybody who wants to learn how to fist will find a much more detailed answer with diagrams and sometimes pictures with a Google search than I could ever provide

Illustration by David Holub/DGO

Want to hear this interview? Go to dgomag.com

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[savage love] them in the column. So I don’t get those questions anymore. The questions tend to all be about relationships: This happened, that happened, this is who I am, this is who the other person is, what do I do? So to me, the column today is a lot milder for that reason. It’s not, “What’s a cock ring?” “What’s a butt plug?” “How do I do this, how do I do that sex act?” It’s all relationship stuff. So when people are angry or shocked by the column now, I just always wonder, “Under what log are you hiding? And what is it about the complexities of human relationships that unnerves you?” As your column has grown and progressed, and with the prevalence of the internet in the last 10 years, why do you think what you do is important? [laughs] That question assumes that I think what I do is important. I think what I do is fun. And I think what I do is titillating, and I think what I do is interesting. And advice columns, broadly, it’s not an honored genre in the media. There is no Pultizer Prize for advice columns. So it is kind of a low-rent corner of writing and publishing. But I do think it has an impact. People want to know what’s going on in other people’s lives so they can measure their own against them. There’s some rubber-necking with readers of advice columns who read other people’s problems and go “Wow, my life’s a mess but at least I’m not THAT person.” The benefit of advice columns, the good that they do, is that they can set social norms, and I think a lot of my column is setting social norms around consent and dialogues about sex and discussing sex, broadly but also within a relationship. And, you know, something will come up in advice columns ... when you think about it, who is the advice column for? Is it for the person with the question? Well, no. Because millions of people, in the case of a column like mine, are reading the answer, so all the questions are a good hypothetical for every reader but one. The benefit of reading an advice column – and I know this from doing it for such a long time and hearing from people years later – is that they’ll read a question and answer that has nothing to do with them at the moment, but then 10 years later they find themselves in that exact circumstance and they recall the advice. It comes to mind, and it helps them out. So I think there’s some filing away that people do with advice columns that is a benefit. So that when someone finds themselves with a person who seems like a lovely person but engages in certain behaviors that make them uncomfortable or feel unsafe, they’ll recall a column where you unpacked the red flags of an abuser. And they realize, “Oh I’m getting into a relationship with someone who’s abusive” because they’ve benefited from the experience the other person had and shared and the advice that was given to that person, 10 years ago. So do I think what I do is important? Ehh. I think what I do is helpful. I think what I do is entertaining. I think what I do has an impact. But it’s not curing cancer and it’s not rebuilding our nation’s infrastructure [laughs] or anything like that.

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... if you put them all in stockpot on the stove and boiled [my columns] down to their essence, what you’re left with is Do Unto Others as You Would Have Them Do Unto You. Now there’s more things in my universe that can be done unto a person [laughs] but you’re left with “Is this consensual? Is this pleasurable? Is this healthy? Is this respectful?

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Unpack your approach. When you get a letter, how do you read it and start to formulate your response and think about the questions? Oh my. This is where advice columnists are exposed as the frauds they are [laughs]. You’re not really trying to help because if you were really trying to help, you’d run the same question basically week after week. Because you get very similar questions week after week from people who are in terrible situations and what they need is someone to run around with their hair on fire saying “Call the police. Call the police. Get outta there. Get outta there.” But you don’t run those questions week after week because that would be a very boring advice column. So you look for questions you haven’t answered before. You look for questions you haven’t answered recently. You look for new situations and circumstances to address. And then you address those, which means you often set aside really good questions from people who may be in real pain or in real dire circumstances and you just think, “Well, can’t answer that one because I JUST answered that one.” [laughs] And hopefully, they’re reading the column. They can’t write you if they don’t read you. Hopefully, they’ve seen your advice for someone in their circumstances. So, it is a bit crushing writing an advice column, especially – if I may say so myself – a successful one, where you get a lot of questions. Because you get a lot of questions you can’t answer; you don’t have time to answer every question that you receive, which makes me feel a little bit like failure. And you have this window into sometimes really dark parts of people’s lives. And you get a lot of questions from people who can’t be helped, which makes you feel useless. People sometimes say there must be a bias at play in the advice business, giving advice publicly like this, performing advice. “You must choose letters that you think politically or advance some sexual agenda that you’re on the side of.” And that’s just not true. If there’s a bias at work in advice racket columns like mine, it’s a bias towards a solvable problem, where there’s something that could be done, something that can be done, where there’s actually some advice

you could give this person. Because so many of the letters are like “Well, you’re fucked, there’s nothing you can do. That is an un-unscrewable pooch. You have screwed the pooch and there is no unscrewing that pooch.” So you might want to have a funeral for that dog, because it’s over. But you couldn’t run those questions week after week. I could fill the column with them but people would then just read your column in despair and then would stop reading your column. I think one of the things you’re supposed to traffic in when you write an advice column is hope. And you get so many letters from people whose situations are just hopeless, where there’s no solution and no way out. And readers don’t want to read those questions, week after week after week. I think subconsciously, all of the people I know who I’ve talked to, everyone who writes advice columns, is subconsciously just looking for that question where there’s something you can say to that person that might help. That rules out probably 40 percent of the mail. Forty percent of the email is like, “Yeah, I can’t help you. You need a police officer and a priest and a fireman. You don’t need 300 words in the back of the paper.” How and when should we push people’s comfort zones? Where is that line for you? You know, I don’t know where that line is. When I talk to people who are offended by my column in the back of the paper – and that passes usually after a while; people can get used to anything. But when I talk to them, often it’s this hypothetical person that they’re concerned with: “What about a child who reads or finds this?” “You can be very rough on people and sometimes you’re very dismissive. A vulnerable person could read that and be harmed by it.” And it’s always – they’re reading it or they’re fine or they’ve read it but they’re not bothered. But they create some person who might be bothered in their imaginations. And to protect that person, who may or may not exist, the column has to go. And usually Continued on Page 15

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[savage love] From Page 14

it’s a cover just for sex negativity and discomfort with any discussion about sex that acknowledges that sex is a thing that people have and it’s not a thing that everybody has in the exact same way. Because I would always hear from people, like, “Someone is going to read about what you said about X and be harmed by it,” but I never hear from that person who read about X and was harmed by it. And when it comes to protecting the children, again, your child has a phone in her pocket. The age at which a child would be interested in reading my column [or] might be interested in reading my column, correlates very strongly with the age which a child has complete free access to the internet, and there’s nothing you’re going to read in my column that is worse than what you can read on the internet [laughs]. Sometimes I talk to people who are religious who object to the column and I challenge them to read a hundred of them, and if you boil them down to one idea, if you put them all in stockpot on the stove and boiled them down to their essence, what you’re left with is Do Unto Others as You Would Have Them Do Unto You. Now there’s more things in my universe that can be done unto a person [laughs] but you’re left with “Is this consensual? Is this pleasurable? Is this healthy? Is this respectful? How do you do this in a way that is human and humane and nonexploitative and in your best interest and the other person’s best interest?” It’s just that sometimes those discussions of the Golden Rule of doing unto others as you would have them do unto you involves genitals and sex toys. You would want, considering the trauma

that can be inflicted on a person in a sexual situation that made them feel devalued or uncomfortable or dehumanized – you want a conversation about sex that emphasizes the Golden Rule, that puts the Golden Rule in the middle of that encounter, considering how vulnerable people are at that time. I think there are just some people who are uncomfortable with the idea that there are people out there having sex, or who are turned on by things that aren’t missionary position-, heterosexual-, within-the-bounds-of-matrimony, open-to-procreation intercourse. And for a long time, that sex – missionaryposition, heterosexual, marital, opento-procreation – was held up as normal and natural and good. And it ain’t normal. It’s actually – some religious people will say, “Being gay isn’t normal.” And you have to say, “Well, OK, it’s not normative.” Alright, we’ll concede that. It’s not the norm. Normal sex is not the norm. Most of the sex people are having on a given Saturday night is not that. But some people have a problem with that truth, and some people have a problem with seeing that truth laid out so explicitly and barely in front of their eyes. They want the conversation in public to be a conversation [about sex] we all agree everyone ought to be having, not a conversation about the sex people are actually having.

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I don’t think there’s any question that shouldn’t be able to be asked.

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and taboo fantasies. And sometimes what gets people’s juices flowing are things that just are so transgressive, so taboo. And then what do you do with that? How do you live with that? How do you incorporate those impulses and those fantasies into your sex life in a healthy way? And I went and got Mark Oppenheimer, who’s a prominent Jewish author, to field that question for me, and he pivoted right away from sex to politics. Because the politics in that question was much more interesting and much more problematic – her politics. Her self-loathing as a Jew was much more interesting than what turns her on.

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Twenty years ago ... if I was in a paper and lost a paper I’d be really morose, because, Oh my God, oh my god, you know; it felt very perilous. And now, if I’m in a paper and lose a paper, I think, “Well that’s how it goes.” [laughs] The column isn’t the perfect fit for every publication.

So, you know, I don’t think there’s any question that shouldn’t be able to be asked. And I’ve never gotten a question and thought, “I can’t answer that.” The only ones I think, “Oh, I can’t answer that,” are the ones where I think, “Oh, that’s bullshit.” That’s just somebody making something up to be disgusting or for attention. And I have a lot of enemies on the religious right; they’re always coming after me and there are some questions I think, I sometimes read them, and “Oh, this is a trap. This is a trick question. This is somebody from Family Research Council wanting me to give my blessing to something insane so they can then run around waving it over their heads like a bloody shirt to prove that I’m a monster.”

But the reaction, you know, I’m bemused by it, particularly now with the internet. Because I started writing the column 25 years ago. Twenty-five years ago when I wrote the column, there was no Google, there were no blogs, there was no wiki, there was no Tumblr, there was no online pornography. And in some communities, really “Savage Love” was one of the only places you could read about something like whatever it was I wrote about that week. Or you could be forced to contemplate a sexuality or kink or a sex act or type of relationship that you’d never really given any thought to, really would be my column; that would be the place where you’d read about people peeing on each other for pleasure or people in dom/ sub relationships. Where else would you hear about that before “Sex in the City,” right? “Sex in the City” famously did an episode about people peeing on each other and everybody kind of lost their minds. In the same way when I first answered those questions, people kind of lost their minds. But now with the internet, my column, it might as well be a bridge column in the back of the newspaper. It’s so tame in comparison to what is instantly accessible everywhere by everyone, including the people who someone says they’re trying to protect by getting my column removed from a newspaper or publication. Do they know my column’s on the internet, too? [laughs] Do they know the internet, unlike Jesus, is everywhere?

Has your attitude changed

This interview was edited and condensed lightly for clarity.

So is there a question that’s too out there? Yeah, sometimes. But I feel like those questions are the ones that are fake. You know, people who read the column, you aren’t seeing what’s coming into my email inbox [laughs]. Sometimes people get upset about what’s IN my column. I’m like, “Oh my god ... You should see what didn’t get into the column!” If what’s in there is upsetting you, holy crap. You would die if you spent a day in my email inbox.

R M E D C

over the response your column gets as the column has grown over the years?

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[movies] Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles: Out of the Shadows Playing at Stadium 9 (Also available in 3-D with surcharge) Rating: PG-13 Genre: Action

& adventure, science fiction & fantasy, comedy Directed by: Dave Green Written by: Josh Appelbaum, André

Nemec Runtime: 1 hr. 37 min. Rotten Tomatoes Tomatometer: 17% Synopsis: The Ninja Turtles comes

into conflict with T.C.R.I. scientist Dr. Baxter Stockman with the association of the Foot Clan and the return of the Shredder, who has hired Stockman to create mutants of their own in the form of Bebop and Rocksteady and an unknown invasion above New York City. To prevent the end of the world, the turtles and their human friends April O’Neil and Vern Fenwick come to the aid with vigilante Casey Jones.

Love & Friendship Playing at the Gaslight Rating: PG Genre: Drama Directed by:

Whit Stillman Written by:

Whit Stillman Runtime: 1

hr. 34 min. Rotten Tomatoes Tomatometer: 99% Synopsis: Beautiful widow Lady Su-

san Vernon visits to the estate of her in-laws to wait out the rumors about her dalliances circulating through polite society. While there, she decides to secure a husband for herself and a future for her reluctant daughter, Frederica. In doing so, she attracts the simultaneous attentions of the young, handsome Reginald DeCourcy, the rich and silly Sir James Martin and the handsome, but married, Lord Manwaring, complicating matters severely.

‘Popstar’ gets faux-doc right

Me Before You Playing at Stadium 9 Rating: PG-13 Genre: Drama Directed by:

By Richard Roeper

Thea Sharrock

The Chicago Sun-Times

Written by:

Jojo Moyes As was the case with the incomparable “This Is Spinal Tap” and the equally sublime “A Mighty Wind,” The Lonely Island trio’s satire “Popstar: Never Stop Never Stopping” clearly has a genuine admiration and affection for the very subject it hilariously skewers. It’s funny because it gets it right without ever being too mean-spirited. Friends since junior high school and zeitgeist favorites online and on TV for the last decade, The Lonely Island guys Andy Samberg, Akiva Schaffer and Jorma Taccone have collaborated on a pitch-perfect take satirizing modern-day pop stardom: the sometimes ridiculous but often infectious music dominating the scene in the 21st century, the voracious celebrity media culture and the vacuous nature of some of our most worshipped showbiz stars. Schaffer and Taccone co-directed. Samberg, Schaffer and Taccone wrote the screenplay. And the three star as the boyhood friends who struck boy-band gold as the Style Boyz, taking the world by storm with catchy hits such as “The Donkey Roll” and “Karate Guy.” Shot in faux-documentary style, “Popstar: Never Stop Never Stopping” introduces us to the Style Boyz through “archival footage,” including YouTube-style video of baby Conner (Samberg) killing it on the drums at the age of 1 (!), and early performances by the boys when they had yet to hit puberty. (These are the first of many, many scenes and jokes with close parallels to Bieber’s career ups and downs, though “Popstar” also has fun poking fun at all-white boy bands such 98 Degrees and ‘NSync, not to mention more than a dozen celebrities, many of whom appear as themselves, poking fun at themselves. Good for you, Mariah Carey, Adam Levine, Carrie Underwood, Usher, Snoop Dogg, et al.) The thing about Samberg and

Runtime: 1

hr. 50 min. Rotten Tomatoes Tomatometer: 67% Synopsis: The story of the unexpect-

ed relationship between a small town woman and the wealthy, paralyzed man who hires her as his caretaker.

Sing Street Playing at Animas City Theatre Rating: PG-13 Genre: Drama

Popstar: Never Stop Never Stopping

Directed by:

John Carney

Playing at Stadium 9

Written by:

Rating: R

John Carney

Genre: Comedy Directed by: Akiva Schaffer,

Jorma Taccone Written by: Andy Samberg, Akiva

Schaffer, Jorma Taccone Runtime: 1 hr. 26 min. Rotten Tomatoes Tomatometer: 88%

his buddies is they’re talented enough and charismatic enough performers to believably portray pop stars – and while their songs and their videos are deliberately, insanely dopey, the material isn’t all that different from some of the real songs that have hit No. 1 and some of the actual videos and performances that dominate YouTube and the endless parade of music awards shows. Front and center, carrying the film, is Samberg in what is easily the most winning film performance of his career. Yes, Conner is a dim-bulb fool with an out-ofcontrol ego, but there’s something endearing and sweet and likably pathetic about the guy – and his heart is in the right place, if only he can remember exactly where he placed it.

Runtime: 1 hr. 46

min. Rotten Tomatoes Tomatometer: 97% Synopsis: Conor is looking for a

break from a home strained by his parents’ relationship and money troubles while trying to adjust to his new inner-city public school.

A Bigger Splash Playing at the Gaslight Rating: R Genre: Drama Directed by:

Luca Guadagnino Written by:

David Kajganich Runtime: 2 hr.

4 min. Rotten Tomatoes Tomatometer: 88% Synopsis: Rock legend Marianne

Lane is recuperating on the island of Pantelleria with her partner when record producer and old flame Harry unexpectedly arrives with his daughter and interrupts their holiday.

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[ weed ] Seeing Through the Smoke Christopher Gallagher

Being high in public: Start with these places

eing high in public isn’t for everyone. The cottonmouth alone can destroy a lovely spring afternoon about town: You find yourself walking down the street or, gods forbid, at the register of a store that doesn’t sell liquids ... Not Good! Chewing gum is your friend if you decide to embark on this sort of adventure. There’s the issue of strain choice, too. A strong sativa might have you a bit tweaky as you deal with unforeseen variables; a killer indica, all the sudden you’re the Wicked Witch of the West after that mop bucket incident: “Melllllltttting.” I recommend a nice balanced 60/40 hybrid, either indica- or sativadominant. It’ll be fine either way. Pro tip: Don’t sleep on a strain change; if you’re used to smoking something specific for a few weeks, the “new” buzz could catch you off-balance. I’ve been high pretty much everywhere; some places are better, some worse. Restaurants: pretty great; worst case scenario, you address your munchies, pay and bounce. Places of worship: underrated; very nice places to sit, especially when empty; they often have a very pleasant low-toned vibration; being high can also be a really good state of mind for a funeral. Police stations: not great, for a lot of reasons. Let’s take a look at a couple of the best places in town to be high. One is no surprise; the second is an underrated gem. The movie theater may be the best indoor place to be high. With the summer releases almost upon us, now is the time to begin mapping out a few movie days. I swear, sometimes I believe that the entire industry is geared toward the cannabis demographic. Theaters are one of the few places I would recommend edibles to anyone, even the less-experienced weed-eating crowd. The crashes and booms and CGI hijinks of the

action blockbusters are infinitely heightened within the cozily-wired, 360-degree experience of the modern movie theater. The fart jokes and other shenanigans of comedies will have you crying as you laugh without the censor of a sober mind. The heightened emotionalism of a drama or a love story can carry you away to those places inside that you rarely visit in the course of your normal day-to-day routine. The real hidden-winner genre are movies marketed to children. As you watch and absorb, you realize the jokes are packed with double meanings and subtext, actually geared toward adults. Anything is possible in an animated film. Inanimate objects grow legs and faces to walk and talk; the rules of nature are suspended in the most useful ways; song and dance numbers lose the interruptive annoyance (sorry, musical lovers). It’s a veritable Xanadu for fans and the sum total of what takes place on the screen encompasses every possibility of the moviegoing experience. And don’t forget the snacks. If a gallon and a half of soda and a bucket of popcorn the size of your torso doesn’t scream “stoned to the bejeezus,” well, I don’t know what does. One note to file the back of your mind: Exiting the theater during daylight hours may be a vastly different experience than exiting to darkness. Another great, but possibly underrated, place to be high: the grocery store. Ginsberg had it right about supermarkets. Aisle after aisle of sensory delight! The bottles, cans and jars all fronted, their Madison Avenue focus group-approved logos star-

ing back at you with every color known to man just begging to be picked and placed in your cart. And the cart itself, you can be a slalom racer choosing your line between the patrons and potato chip displays or a giant asteroid floating through space. You can also climb, balance and ride the thing like you wanted to as a kid without getting scolded (within limits. Find a quiet corner or that aisle with all the weird stuff that nobody ever buys and do your thing). The best part of being high at the grocery store is probably the limitless possibility (maybe they’ll even be giving out samples, which would be pretty dope). Throw caution to the wind and go without a list. You might go in with the vague idea of “grabbing some dinner” and leave with some ground beef, eggs, an avocado, two red onions, three varieties of cheese, four different rolls, five jars of pickled vegetables and a commitment to broaden your culinary horizons. Throw in a gallon of milk, a couple boxes of cereal, some fruit, some juice, a bag of those fancy blue tortilla chips and some ice cream and you’re fed through the weekend. And grab some whipped cream while you’re there. You’re welcome. Be aware that the spell may be broken as you approach the register. Last time I was high in line at the market, I swear I heard the words, “I love ninja porn.” After processing for a moment and realizing that my ears must have been deceiving me, I looked up to a very sweet looking 88-ish-year-old lady giving the bagger instructions for packing her seven ears of corn. Should something of this nature occur, take a deep breath, pay and get mobile. Have a great week, and find some time to catch a flick and grab some grub. Christopher Gallagher lives with his wife and their four dogs and two horses. Life is pretty darn good. Contact him at chrstphrgallagher@gmail.com

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[review]

[Netflix and chill — 420 edition]

‘Cosmos’ reboot

White Girl What is it? White girl is a seriously powerful sativadominant punch in the face that should only be consumed by professional smokers. At almost 30 percent THC, these naturally-tiny nugs pack enough trichomes to push even the most seasoned tokers to the edge of their ability to stay grounded. White Girl is the breeding result of two already great strains, Barry White and Girl Scout Cookies, but usually takes on more of the characteristics of the latter. The effects This is one of those verities that affects people differently. About half of the people who smoked it found it to be relaxing enough to sleep on, and the other half found it too mentally stimulating to sleep. I felt like it took about 10 minutes to peak, and when it did, the lift was amazing. The high is unbelievably strong yet still pleasant. There was some nice relaxing body buzzing going on, but the psychoactive sativa side was definitely more noticeable.

There’s a series on Netflix called “Cosmos: A Spacetime Odyssey,” narrated by astrophysicist Neil Degrasse Tyson (NDT), and it will blow your freakin’ mind. Or possibly you’ll try watching and give up, because the show has cheesy, outdated “Dr. Who-”style graphics and the whole thing is basically just Degrasse Tyson talking ceaselessly about science. But if you’re stoned and you have any interest in the universe, the evolution of our species, black holes, the Big Bang, stars or NDT’s smooth and sassy baritone, then you’ll enjoy. The show is a sequel to “Cosmos: A Personal Voyage,” a series that was hosted by celebrated scientist Carl Sagan in the early ’80s. Picture a scientist. What does he look like? Probably a wizened, white, frail guy like Albert Einstein, right? Well, NDT isn’t wizened, frail or white. He is Cool. He was a frequent guest on “The Colbert Report.” In response to those who debate the merits of scientific discovery (the evidence of climate change, for example), NDT has responded, “The good thing about science is that it’s true whether or not you believe in it.” “Cosmos” presents the foundations of our universe with a healthy blend of wonder and practicality. It’s kind of like, “Damn, isn’t all of this incredible? But here’s a detailed explanation of how it actually went down.” The show uses a narrative device vividly titled “Ship of the Imagination” (it’s a little CGI spaceship) to explore the past, present and future of the universe; NDT simply climbs aboard and

cruises through time. Christian fundamentalists weren’t happy with the series’ opposition of the creation myth and dismissal of the Bible. Don’t worry about the science jargon going over your head. NDT breaks it all down in layman’s terms, using pop culture references like Pixar’s “A Bug’s Life.” If you’re the kind of stoner who likes to puzzle over intellectual pursuits while blazed, you’ve found your new thing. One of NDT’s favorite pastimes is correcting misrepresentations of science in popular culture; at one point he took to Twitter to explain the mistakes made by the director of “Gravity” starring Sandra Bullock. He’s doing hero’s work. But most of all, he is attempting to encourage interest in space exploration and education. NASA needs more funding and we’ve barely just begun to explore outer space. Vast technological and scientific advances could be on the near horizon, and NDT doesn’t want to miss a moment of it. Neither should you. — Anya Jaremko-Greenwold

The smell The aroma is very earthy with some heavy, woody undertones. The look Like most cookie strains, the buds are very small, but covered in white crystals. The taste It tastes like it smells, with more of the natural earthy flavor on the exhale. The final verdict This could be one of the best strains I’ve ever smoked. The head high is phenomenal and it also relaxes the body while making you feel uplifted. It’s an extremely potent plant, so use with caution. I can see this as an amazing strain for social gatherings, or just hanging out with friends. I really enjoyed it while creating some artwork, but I honestly think it would be great for going out to the local hot spots with friends. —— Patrick Dalton Durango Recroom

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[love and sex]

Savage Love | Dan Savage

Should The Cougar sever ties with The Kid? There’s this boy – he’s 29; I’m 46 and female. We met when we were 23 and 41. I was not and am not into little boys. The Kid chased me, and I turned him down for months – until I got drunk one night and caved. It was supposed to be a one-night stand, but it isn’t anymore. We’ve never been “together,” because the Kid wants kids and happily ever after and all that horseshit, and I don’t (and I’m too old even if I did). The Kid has been in several relationships over the years, looking for The One, and I genuinely hope he finds her. In my wildest dreams, I’m invited to their wedding and their children call me auntie. But in the meantime, the Kid runs to me when he hits a hiccup in a relationship, and I let him – meaning, he gets mad at her and [bleeps] me madly. Afterward, I get him to talk about it – he tells me what happened, and I always try to advise him how to make it better, how to make it work. But so far it hasn’t, and we’re “us” again until he meets another girl. I do love this Kid, for what it’s worth. But I’m afraid I’m ruining his chances. I’m afraid that by being an escape hatch, I’m giving him a reason not to work on these relationships and he will never find the kids/forever thing he’s looking for. Should I let him go for his own sake? If I tell him honestly why, he won’t accept it, so I’d have to just vanish. I’d hate that. It would be worth it if I knew he met someone and got to live happily ever after. But I’d spend my life feeling bad for disappearing on him, and I’d always wonder if the Kid wound up alone. Don’t Call Me Cougar I don’t see any conflict between what the Kid says he wants in the long run – kids and happily ever after and all that horseshit – and the things his actions indicate he wants now, i.e., your rear and your ear. He’s young, he hasn’t met a woman he could see himself with for the long haul and he appears to be in no rush – he can have his first kid next year or 20 years from now. And the meantime, DCMC, he has you. Here’s where I detect some conflict between statements and actions: The fact that you keep [bleeping] the Kid while he’s technically still with other women – first you [bleep] him (madly) and then you advise him (sagely) – is a pretty good indication that you’re not ready to let go of him, either. If you really wanted to encourage the Kid to work things out with whatever woman he happens to be seeing, DCMC, you would offer him your make-it-

work advice without [bleeping] him first. [Bleeping] someone who has a girlfriend – especially someone who has a girlfriend he’s supposed to be with exclusively – doesn’t exactly telegraph “I think you two should work it out.” So going forward, maybe you should offer the Kid your advice when he’s seeing someone, [bleep] the shit out of him when he’s single, and don’t waste too much time worrying about whether [bleeping] you incentivizes being single. Because single/you may be what he wants right now. If I first met someone on a hookup site or at a sex party and then we start seeing each other, what’s the best way to explain how we met when we’re at a social event and people ask? Torrid Revelations Undermining Totally Honesty

away her consent. Somewhere between a third and half of women have been sexually assaulted. Would it be possible for most of them to suck it up and sleep with someone they had no desire for without ending up resenting or hating that person? Even if LIBIDOS won life’s coin toss on sexual assault, she would most likely come to resent her husband if she had passionless sex with him. From the husband’s perspective – assuming he’s not a piece of shit who thinks he’s entitled to sex but rather just wants a sexual connection with his wife – wouldn’t being lied to in this way ruin him? I also don’t think you would’ve given this advice to a gay man – to let his husband [bleep] him the ass, even if he didn’t want to get [bleeped]. The truth is really the only solution here. The road you set this woman down leads only to bitterness and divorce. Seriously Horrified About That

The truth is always nice – and in your case, TRUTH, telling the truth about your relationship could be constructive. There are a lot of people out there in loving committed relationships (LCR) that had crazy sleazy starts (CSS). But very few people in a LCR with a CSS tell the truth when asked how they met. A couple that met at a sex party will say they met at a dinner party, a couple that met inside a cage in a sex dungeon will say they met doing a team-building exercise at a work retreat, a couple that met during an impulsive, drunken threesome will say they met at a riotous protest outside a Trump rally. These lies are understandable: People don’t want to be judged or shamed. But when a CSS couple lies about how they met, TRUTH, they reinforce the very shame and stigma that made them feel like they had to lie in the first place. And they play into the sex-negative, self-defeating and superhypocritical assumption made by singles who attend sex parties, spend time in cages and have impulsive threesomes – these single people who do sleazy things often refuse to date the people they meet at sex parties, etc., because they believe no LCR ever had a CSS. If couples that had sleazy starts told the truth about themselves, single people would be less likely to rule out dating people they met sleazily. I despised your advice to LIBIDOS, the poly married woman who you counseled to have sex with her husband even though she has zero desire to do so. You came close to telling her to throw

LIBIDOS, a poly woman with a boyfriend (who she’s [bleeping]) and a husband (who no one is [bleeping]), asked me if she should “force” herself to [bleep] her husband. She also mentioned having a kid and not wanting to get divorced. And it was my opinion – an opinion she sought out – that she might wanna [bleep] her husband once in a while. Advice isn’t binding arbitration, SHAT, and if [bleeping] her husband is a traumatizing ordeal, as opposed to a dispiriting chore, she should ignore my advice and keep not [bleeping] her husband. And seeing as LIBIDOS asked me if she should [bleep] her husband, it seemed safe to assume that she was open to the idea. You weren’t the only reader to take me to task for my advice to LIBIDOS. Apparently, there are lots of people out there who don’t realize how many long-marrieds – men and women, gay and straight, poly and mono – [bleep] their spouses out of a grim sense of duty. It seems a bit extreme to describe that kind of sex as a consent-free/sexual-assault-adjacent trauma. Choosing in the absence of coercion to go through the marital motions to keep your spouse happy is rarely great sex – for either party – but slapping the nonconsensual label on joyless-but-traumafree marital sex is neither helpful nor accurate. Dan Savage is a nationally syndicated sex advice columnist writing for The Stranger in Seattle. Contact him at mail@savagelove.net or @fakedansavage on Twitter and listen to his podcast every week at savagelovecast.com

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[happening] Thursday First Thursdays Art Walk, 5-7 p.m., participating galleries, http://durangoarts.org. The Pete Giuliani Band, 5-8 p.m., James Ranch for Burger and a Band Night, 33846 U.S. Highway 550. Tim Sullivan, 5:30-10 p.m., Diamond Belle

Saloon, 699 Main Ave., 247-4431. Lisa Blue Trio, 5:30-8:30 p.m., DoubleTree Hotel, 501 Camino del Rio, 259-6580. Black Velvet Duo, 6-8 p.m., Dalton Ranch

Golf Club, 589 County Road 252. Alex, 7 p.m., Office Spiritorium, 699 Main Ave.,

247-4431. Karaoke with DJ Crazy Charlie, 9 p.m.,

Wild Horse Saloon, 601 East Second Ave., 3752568. Karaoke, 9 p.m., 8th Avenue Tavern, 509 East Eighth Ave., 259-8801

Friday Radical Dimensions in Glass Mosaic with Kelley Knickerbocker, 9 a.m.-5

p.m., Mt. Lookout Grange, 680 Grand Ave., Mancos, www.schoolofthewest.org. Andy Janowsky, 5:30-10 p.m., Diamond

Belle Saloon, 699 Main Ave., 247-4431. Hello Dollface, 6 p.m. to 9 p.m. Moe’s, 937

Main Ave., 259-9018. Dustin Burley, 7 p.m., Office Spiritorium, 699 Main Ave., 247-4431. Open mic, 7-11 p.m., Steaming Bean, located

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»» Pack up the camping gear and head to Pagosa Springs this weekend for the 11th annual Pagosa Folk ’N Bluegrass festival.

downstairs at the Irish Embassy Pub, 900 Main Ave., 403-1200, theirishembassypub.com.

It’s a folk’n bluegrass weekend

DJ Icite, 9 p.m., Moe’s, 937 Main Ave., 259-

Summertime is festival time, and this weekend is no exception as the 11th annual Pagosa Folk ’N Bluegrass takes place Friday through Sunday. This promises to be a full weekend of music, featuring artists such as Caravan of Thieves, Tony Furtado and Rob Ickes & Trey Hensley. You can catch music during the day and into the evening from the festival’s main stage, and then spend the rest of the night dancing to music from the late night stage. And if you need a break from just listening to music, you can also take in the music workshops the festival offers, from band arranging to banjo to vocals. And if you’re bringing the kids, there will be stuff for them to do. Camping is also available. For more information, or to grab tickets, check out www.folkwest.com.

9018. Karaoke, 8 p.m., 8th Avenue Tavern, 509 East

Eighth Ave., 259-8801. The Black Velvet duo, with Nina Sasaki &

Larry Carver, 6 p.m., St. Clair Winery & Bistro, 5150 E. Main Street, Farmington.

Saturday Animas River Days, 8:30 a.m. to 8 p.m., Santa Rita Park, 2700 Main Ave., www.animasriverdays.com. Radical Dimensions in Glass Mosaic with Kelley Knickerbocker, 9 a.m.-5

p.m., Mt. Lookout Grange, 680 Grand Ave., Mancos, www.schoolofthewest.org. Henry Stoy, piano, 10 a.m.-1 p.m., Jean-Pierre Bakery, 601 Main Ave., 385-0122. Donny Johnson, 5:30-10 p.m., Diamond

Belle Saloon, 699 Main Ave., 247-4431. Greg Ryder, 7 p.m., Office Spiritorium, 699

Main Ave., 247-4431. The Black Velvet duo, with Nina Sasaki

Irish Embassy Pub, 900 Main Ave., 403-1200, www.theirishembassypub.com. Blue Moon Ramblers, 5:30-10 p.m., Dia-

mond Belle Saloon, 699 Main Ave., 247-4431. Jazz church, (experienced musician drop-in

& Larry Carver, 6 p.m., Seven Rivers at Sky Ute Casino.

session), 6 p.m., Derailed Pour House, 725 Main Ave., 247-5440, www.derailedpourhouse.com.

DJ Noonz, 8 p.m., Moe’s, 937 Main Ave., 259-

Rob Webster, 7 p.m., Office Spiritorium, 699

Monday

Tuesday

Four Corners Arts Forum, 9 a.m., KDUR

Ace Revel, 5:30-10 p.m., Diamond Belle Saloon, 699 Main Ave., 247-4431.

91.9/93.9 FM, www.kdur.org. Happy Hour Yoga, 5:30-6:30 p.m., Ska Brewing Co., 225 Girard St., yoga and a pint of beer for $10, www.skabrewing.com. Spoken Word, 7-9 p.m., Steaming Bean, located downstairs at the Irish Embassy Pub, 900 Main Ave., 403-1200, theirishembassypub.com.

Tim Sullivan, 7 p.m., Office Spiritorium, 699

Main Ave., 247-4431. Open Mic Night, 8 p.m., Moe’s, 937 Main

Ave., 259-9018.

Wednesday

9018.

Main Ave., 247-4431.

Karaoke, 8 p.m., 8th Avenue Tavern, 509 East

Eighth Ave., 259-8801.

Sunday

Contiki, 8 p.m., Moe’s, 937 Main Ave., 259-

9018.

Chad MacCluskey, 6-9 p.m., Cyprus Cafe,

Jeffrey Richardson, curator of exhibits at the Farmington Museum, presents “1873: The Guns that Won the West,” 1:30 p.m. Center of Southwest Studies, Fort Lewis College.

Henry Stoy, piano, 10 a.m.-1 p.m., Jean-Pierre Bakery, 601 Main Ave., 385-0122.

The Black Velvet Trio, with Nina Sasaki,

725 East Second Ave., 385-6884.

Bluegrass Jam, 6-9 p.m., Irish Embassy

Larry Carver & Dave Oz, 4 p.m., Balcony Bar & Grill, 600 Main Ave..

Ace Revel, 7 p.m., Office Spiritorium, 699

Irish music jam session, 12:30 p.m.,

Dustin Burley, 5:30-10 p.m., Diamond Belle

Saloon, 699 Main Ave., 247-4431.

Main Ave., 247-4431.

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Where should we

DGO tonight?

Courtesy of Tim Kapustka

»» “Feathers and Fur” a new show at The Recess Gallery in Studio & will open Thursday.

New show at Durango’s tiniest art gallery

Your #1 source for what’s going on around Durango dgomag.com/calendar

There’s no shortage of art galleries in Durango, but there’s only one that can boast being the smallest. Coming in at a little over 8 cubic feet, The Recess Gallery inside Studio & features a rotation of artists that changes every month. Tim Kapustka will be the latest artist to exhibit his work in The Recess Gallery, with his new show, “Feathers and Fur” that will open Thursday. “Feathers and Fur” is a series of vector illustrations inspired by Kapustka’s interest in fly-fishing. The 5x7-inch prints are in very limited edition, so if you want to get your hands on one, you’d better get on it. An opening reception will be held from 5 to 7 p.m. Thursday at Studio &, 1027 Main Ave. For more information, call (773) 263-1279.

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Main Ave., 403-1200. Pingpong and poker tournament, 8

Pub, 900 Main Ave., 403-1200, theirishembassypub.com. Open studio figure drawing, 6:30-8:30

p.m., $15/$10, Durango Arts Center, 802 East Second Ave., www.durangoarts.org. Two-step and waltz dance lessons,

6:30-7:30 p.m., $10, Wild Horse Saloon, 601 East Second Ave., 799-8832.

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Geeks Who Drink trivia, 8:30 p.m., BREW Pub & Kitchen, 117 W. College Drive, 2595959. Pub quiz, 6:30 p.m., Irish Embassy Pub, 900

p.m., Moe’s, 937 Main Ave., 259-9018. Karaoke with DJ Crazy Charlie, 9 p.m., Wild Horse Saloon, 601 East Second Ave., 3752568.

Submissions To submit listings for publication in DGO and dgomag.com, go to www.

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Horoscope ARIES (March 21 to April 19)

politics, religion or long-distance travel.

SCORPIO (Oct. 23 to Nov. 21)

This is a good week for financial negotiations, but guard against extravagance. Nevertheless, look for ways to boost your income and get value for your money.

LEO (July 23 to Aug. 22)

Relations with others, especially partners and close friends, are warm and friendly because people are upbeat. Make plans to have fun in the future.

TAURUS (April 20 to May 20) This is a strong week for you. The Moon is in your sign dancing with lucky, moneybags Jupiter. Financial speculation might interest you. GEMINI (May 21 to June 20) You will enjoy relaxing at home if you get the chance. You want to cocoon and be by yourself. In any case, this is an easy-going week. CANCER (June 21 to July 22)

Bizarro

Time spent with a female friend will be rewarding. This person might encourage you to explore new ideas about

You make a great impression on others this week, and this impression ultimately might bring you more money in the future. Don’t hesitate to be generous to someone. VIRGO (Aug. 23 to Sept. 22) Shake things up a little because you need some adventure this week. You want to do something different. A short trip or an interaction with someone unusual will please you. LIBRA (Sept. 23 to Oct. 22) Be open to the offers of others because you can benefit from the wealth and resources of others this week. In turn, you might be generous to someone at work. (What goes around, comes around.)

SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22 to Dec. 21) It will be easy to get the cooperation of others at work. If you do this, something will happen that makes you look good in the eyes of your boss. (This is always a good thing.) CAPRICORN (Dec. 22 to Jan. 19) This is a playful day for your sign! Make room for some fun activities with romantic interests, friends or children because you will enjoy yourself. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20 to Feb. 18) Home and family are your primary

concerns. In fact, this is a good week to look into real estate possibilities or how to improve your home. PISCES (Feb. 19 to March 20) Because you are in such a positive frame of mind, others want to be in your company. Everyone likes to be with someone who is upbeat and happy. BORN this week You are a problem-solver. You also are entertaining (never dull). This is why you like intriguing, complicated people. Great news! You are now heading into one of the most powerful years of your life – a time of accumulation. This is a good year to buy and sell. Whatever you have done in the past will now ripen because it’s your time of fruition. At last! © 2016 King Features Syndicate, Inc.

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