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A NEW TRIP

DESIGN BY LING LI

BEING SINGLE IS A SPECIAL NEW TRIP IN MY LIFE.

THIS IS HOW THE STORY BEGINS...

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I DREAMED ABOUT YOU AGAIN.

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WHAT’S WRONG WITH US?

EVERYTHING CHANGED FROM THE NIGHT.

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We both deserve to be happy.

We both realized that something was wrong between us. You didn’t speak, and I was silent. The way you looked at me, the way you held me were the same, but I knew something was different. On Dennis’ birthday, I saw you smile like a big boy not with me, but only with your friends. That moment I needed to talk to you, and I guessed there would not be a happy ending waiting for us.

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IT’S A BRAND NEW DAY.

After the conversation, you left. I drank a little wine to calm down.

I took a shower, and went to bed without any thoughts.

I thought I wouldn’t be sad or disappointed about the decision to break up. When I woke up at 4 o’clock in the morning, I remembered every happy moment together and I started to cry. I wanted to count the stars at night with you. I tried my best not to bother you anymore, and I fell asleep again. In the dream, we were holding hands as usual. I woke up with more tears.

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HEY! HI!

I MISS YOU! TAKE CARE!

I REALLY MISS YOU! YOU ARE JUST NOT GET USED TO LIVE WITHOUT ME. I REGRET, CAN WE BACK TOGETHER AGAIN?

I REGRET, CAN WE BACK TOGETHER AGAIN? PLEASE ANSWER ME, I CAN GIVE YOU A FEW DAYS TO THINK ABOUT IT. OK!

I AM HUNGRY, DO YOU? I WANT TO GO TO THE RESTAURANT WE BOTH LIKE BEFORE. SORRY, I AM BUSY NOW.

I WAS WAITING LIKE FOREVER. IN FACT, IT JUST ONLY ONE DAY. HEY! ARE YOU THERE? BUSY! OK, TAKE CARE.

A FEW DAYS PASSED...

HEY! ARE YOU THERE? BUSY! OK, TAKE CARE. CAN YOU CATCH ME LATER WHEN YOU ARE FREE?

SORRY. WHY? PLEASE! SORRY!

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WITHOUT YOU, LESS STARS, FOR ME.

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HI, KIKI, ARE YOU THERE? YES, I AM HERE. WHAT’S UP? ARE YOU MISSING ME? HAHAHAHA. YES, I AM MISSING YOU. DO YOU HAVE A MOMENT? SURE, ANYTIME.

WHAT HAPPENED? YES, I HAVE SOMETHING TO TELL YOU. I BROKE UP WITH JASPER. I AM REALLY FEELING BAD RAIGHT NOW.

DO YOU WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT? NO, I WANT TO GO TO HAWAII IN SPRING BREAK, COU YOU WITH ME TOGETHER? SURE, ANYTIME!

THANK YOU! SURE, WE BOOK FILGHT RIGHT NOW. BE HAPPY, OK? YOU KNOW I REALLY LOVE YOU, YOU ARE THE BEST. LOVE YOU TOO, THANKS!

ALL SET. I ASKED MY BOYFRIEND AND ANOTHER FRIEND TO COME WITH US. LOVE YOU TOO, THANKS! MY FRIEND LIKES PHOTOGRAPHY, AND HE CAN TAKE GREAT PHOTO FOR YOU. WOW, THAT’S AMAZING!

SPRING BREAK IS COMING.

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“We wander for distraction, but we travel for fulfillment.”

— Hilaire Belloc

That’s why I am on my way.

Travel is the best medicine. Traveling keeps you young.

Or at least healthier.

That’s the finding of a new study linking travel to decreased risks of heart attack and depression and even the promotion of brain health.

The Global Commission on Aging and Transamerica Center for Retirement Studies, in partnership with the U.S. Travel Assn., has released research that shows travel offers the same sort of physical and cognitive benefits as crossword puzzles or museum visits.

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THE NIGHT OF HAWAII MAKES ME FEEL QUIET.

It was 2 AM. in Hawaii, the lights are bright, but I feel quiet.

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THANK YOU FOR BEING MY SIDE ANYTIME, AND MAKE ME HAPPY.

When I told you I was unhappy, you never asked why. You were there.

When I cried, you never asked why. You were there.

When I laughted, you never asked why. You were there.

When I was quiet, you never asked why. You were there.

Anytime, you are there by my side.

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WATCHING SUNSET BY THE BEACH, BUT THIS TIME, I AM NOT WITH YOU ANYMORE.

Kiki and my other friends drove me to different beaches to watch the sunset. (We found one that was especially beautiful, and settled there.) I sat from noon until 6 in the evening to see the sunset.

I saw the sky turn from blue to yellow, and then to pink. I saw the sea go from blue to dark green, and I saw the sun sink from upon the sea to below it. I listened to music, and took these photos to remember this moment without you.

AFTER THIS SUNSET, TOMORROW IS ANOTHER BRAND NEW DAY.

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HOW IS YOUR TRIP? GOOD, BUT I MISS YOU! YOU WILL BE FINE.

YOU KNEW THERE WAS SOMETHING WRONG WITH US, SEPERATE EARIER IS GOOD FOR BOTH OF US. YOU PROMISE ME TAKE CARE YOURSELF, OK? I ALWAYS WISH YOU HAPPY EVERYDAY.

“Love doesn’t hurt.

Expectations do.”

— Pushkaraj Shirke

I PROMISE YOU, I ALWAYS WISH YOU HAPPY.

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IT’S TIME TO BACK HOME TO FACE THE TRUTH. THERE IS A NEW TRIP WITHOUT YOU IS WAITING FOR ME, AND I BELIEVE I AM STRONG TO TAKE IT.

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It is morning, I cannot sleep all night long. Open my eyes, I look the window that we suppose to look everyday. It’s still there, and it’s the same one, but I think it’s totally different. I was looking at it for all night and listening to the music we love. Every word

and smile appeared like a movie.

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My brain is empty except your face. I thought I can be fine after traveling, but I thought about you when I lied on my bed. I cannot fall asleep. I really miss you, while I know I have to have my own life without you. Yes, it’s a new trip for me.

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What’s so bad about being single? It depends on who you ask.

Kelly Clarkson asserts that it “doesn’t mean I’m lonely when I’m alone,” but many people view single women as chronically lonely, depressed, and ultimately bereft of a chance for happiness and security (Anderson & Stewart, 1994). This myth that single women universally suffer in their singlehood is deeply entrenched in the hearts and minds of many parents, co-workers, and friends. The consequences are serious. Read on all you singletons: don’t let the fear of being single guide your romantic life.

LEARNING TO LOVE, NOT FEAR, BEING SINGLE R. Skip Johnson

The fear of being single reflects an anxiety and concern that you’ll never find a romantic partner (Spielmann et al., 2013). Helping to support this fear is the idea that people typically view love and social connection as a fundamental biologically-based need (Baumeister & Leary, 1995). Further, in American culture, not only do we promote the idea that romantic relationships are central to well-being (Baumeister & Leary, 1995), but we often stigmatize single individuals (DePaulo & Morris, 2005), falsely equating being single with failure or a personality problem. In addition, navigating our social world as a single person can lose its appeal quickly when individuals are made to feel like a “third-wheel” or to endure the maitre d asking yet again if anyone will be joining them. The fear of being single is fueled by social and cultural expectations.

How does the fear of being single affect someone’s romantic life?

The finding, keeping, or leaving of a romantic relationship requires decision making, and these decisions are not always simple. Ideally, the choice to begin or maintain a relationship might reflect a careful weighing of responses to such questions as: Does he add joy to my life? Do we share the same goals? Will she give as much to this relationship as I will? These factors are tied to important predictors of relationship quality and stability, such as satisfaction and commitment (Rusbult, Martz, & Agnew, 1998). While relationship quality contemplations certainly factor into relationship decisions, people also rely on heuristics and emotional reasoning to make choices (Joel, MacDonald, & Plaks, 2013). This means that the fear of being single may influence individuals’ relationship decisions.

Indeed, Spielmann and colleagues (2013) uncovered some fascinating ways in which the fear of being single affects people’s love relationships. It turns out that women who are scared of

being single tend to be more dependent upon unhappy romantic relationships as compared to women who are okay with the idea of being single. Moreover, the fear of being single acts like an adhesive, keeping people in relationships that they might otherwise leave.

When looking for love, the fear of being single has a profound influence on the types of choices people make. On one hand, evidence suggests that men and women who fear being single report maintaining high standards for those whom they might date (Spielmann et al., 2013). But what people say and what people do can be quite different. When asked about the dating desirability of different partner profiles, women with a strong fear of being single are quite the opposite of selective. Instead, they appear to be fairly non-discriminating, perceiving less caring and less considerate dating prospects as attractive as more responsive candidates (Spielmann et al., 2013). Further, while they might say they would date only highly attractive people, the more men or women strongly fear being single the more they tend to show romantic interest in unattractive partners. Finally, during a speed-dating scenario, people with a stronger fear of being single indicated interest in a larger number of potential partners, which was motivated by the desire to avoid being alone.

In sum, the fear of being single can lead people to settle for less ideal romantic partners and less ideal relationships. Such settling reveals a sad paradox: those who most closely link happiness with being in a relationship may, out of a fear of being single, reduce their ability to find happiness within a romantic relationship.

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IT’S A NEW TRIP.

I AM ON MY WAY

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COLOPHON DESIGNER Ling Li 415.866.7381 elaineeeeell@gmail.com TYPEFACE Avenir, Archer PAPER MOAB double sided paper CLASS GR613_Experimental Typography Professor_Stan Zienka Spring_15

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