Why Won’t He Commit? Is Being Pushy The Only Way To Make Him Want To Commit?

Why Won’t He Commit? Is Being Pushy The Only Way To Make Him Want To Commit?

Why Won’t He Commit? Is Being Pushy The Only Way To Make Him Want To Commit?

Why Being Pushy is a Huge Mistake Women don’t begin relationships with the intention of becoming pushy and issuing a bunch of uncomfortable ultimatums (many of which end up backfiring anyway). Instead, ladies want the perfect relationship…one that is truly romantic and inspiring.

After all, if someone really loves you, it really should not be necessary to make them do what you want them to do; however, sometimes, certain circumstances, such as the desire to marry or to have children before it is too late, trigger pushiness that damages relationship.

Learn how to Avoid Pushiness In a nutshell, being pushy is a huge mistake, so you need to know how to avoid pushiness that doesn’t help your cause one little bit. Usually, pushiness begins because a woman feels a man becoming more distant or otherwise pulling away. Since she doesn’t know quite how to handle this painful and confusing situation, she begins to act out, asking for explanations, pleasing her case, and otherwise pushing the entire relationship towards a confrontation that leaves her alone, disillusioned, and heartbroken.

If you’ve experienced negative consequences from being too pushy, or if you’re mulling over giving him an ultimatum because you really want him…and the ring…it’s time to change your thinking and behavior. While he may not be worth the effort and worry that you give him, there is the possibility that he is your one true love.

If this is the case and you know that you want to spend your life with him in matrimonial bliss, it’s time to learn how to get what you want without pushing. You don’t need to manipulate, yell or plead to move him towards a love commitment that lasts forever. There is a better way....

For a free report that shows you the right way to move him closer to a lasting commitment, grab a copy of Coleta’s “How to Get Engaged to the Guy of your Dreams” ebook. It’s yours free and will save you plenty of heartbreak and other relationship problems down the line.

©Copyright 2012  C Stewart http://www.emotionalaffairadvice.com/getring.html

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Why Won’t He Commit? Is Being Pushy The Only Way To Make Him Want To Commit?

Learn the Right Way to Move Him Closer to a Lasting Commitment First, consider the potential consequences of pushing him too hard, too fast. One possible outcome is that he may capitulate to your desire, but not out of love. He does it to pacify you. Is that what you really want? If you grew up dreaming of a beautiful wedding and happily ever after, do you really want to drag him to the altar like a caveman carrying his latest kill back to his lair?

No, of course you don’t!

You deserve better…so much better than that. Not to mention that capitulation sets the stage for a lot of other relationship problems down the line. If he feels trapped into capitulating, it’s not a good thing, and resentment will fester inside of him. He’ll take it out on you later, and it will hurt you very badly, whether he gives you a ring or not.

Pushiness May Lead to Heartbreak The other consequence is that the relationship will die. In some cases, it may be the best outcome, but, in other situations, it’s just a terrible waste of love. You should understand that he can love you without wanting a commitment. Men feel things in their guts and hearts, but they ultimately “go with their gut”. When you start pushing, even if he really loves you, his gut will tell him to run away, because there is a new problem and he doesn’t know how to handle it.

Think of traffic lights in red, yellow and green; when a man loves you, he’s glowing green and he’ll probably do what it takes to move towards a commitment. His gut is sending him positive signals. However, when his light is yellow, he wonders if there might be trouble ahead, despite the warm feelings that he has in his heart for you. When he’s “red”, he senses danger or relationship problems that make him shut down emotionally.

Understand the Way That he Thinks and Feels Sometimes, men set up traps for themselves and make their own problems with women.

When you download and read the “How to Get Engaged to the Guy of your Dreams,” you'll learn of a system that will help you understand how men process emotions and how you can understand your guy and his “gut” reactions. You’ll learn how to soothe his fears and turn his heart light from yellow or red to bright, glowing green. And you won’t need to push or manipulate to do it.

©Copyright 2012  C Stewart http://www.emotionalaffairadvice.com/getring.html

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Why Won’t He Commit? Is Being Pushy The Only Way To Make Him Want To Commit?

You can be happy and you can get the ring. First, you need to stop pushing, because it’s self-defeating behavior that keeps his heart light a bright, angry red. You need to stop feeding into his doubts and negative gut reactions by asking for commitments that he isn’t ready to give.

Instead, you need to approach things from the opposite angle by giving him the sense of love, security, hope and friendship that he needs to glow green every single day. By learning what mental traps men fall into, and how to help him pull out of these relationship tailspins, you’ll solve the secret of the male mind without manipulating him, being dishonest, or playing a sneaky game. All you’ll really be doing is learning how to love him the way he’s always wanted to be loved… even if he’s only aware of his deep-down desires in a very subconscious way.

You don’t need to pretend to be another person, and you don’t need to lose your sense of self to please him. All you really need to do is understand that he thinks differently than you do, and act accordingly.

You won’t be pushing…he’ll do it of his own free will, and that’s the best way to enjoy an honest, healthy relationship that is built to last. There’ll be no simmering resentments, no feelings of capitulation, no doubts; he’ll be ready to love you forever, and he’ll feel proud and happy whenever he sees the ring that he gave you on your finger.

Ready for the next step? Grab a copy of Coleta’s “How to Get Engaged to the Guy of your Dreams” ebook. Find out why becoming pushy and issuing a bunch of uncomfortable ultimatums is not going to make him want to commit.

You can get your free ebook at: http://www.emotionalaffairadvice.com/getring.html

©Copyright 2012  C Stewart http://www.emotionalaffairadvice.com/getring.html

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