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Editor in Chief
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The Divine Purpose of a wife
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Melinda Walker
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Kim P. Carroll: Educate, Equip, & Empower
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Sukaena Callander
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Tanya DeFeritas
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The health of the family ultimately lies in the hands of the cook
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Tiffany Overby
Sukaena Callander, overcomer strategist, intercessor, and emerging author, is a passionate woman of ...
My name is Tanya. I have been married four years to my husband, Rafael, and together we have three ...
“The health of the family ultimately lies in the hands of the cook.” This is the statement that The Lord ....
Total Care: The Spirit, The Body, The Soul
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5 Ways to a healthy spiritual life in Christ
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Skin care routine
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YOUR SKIN TYPE
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A Woman's Beauty
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Puzzle
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7 Practical Ways To Start From Today!
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I am a native of Southeast Alabama. I am a wife, mother, outreach ministry leader, artist, author, & entrepreneur. ...
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Melinda Walker, widely known as “Lynn” she was born and raised in Bogalusa, Louisiana. She is the youngest ...
Healthy International Dishes
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The position of “Wife” was established from the beginning of time. When God placed the female on the earth, ...
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Hello to all you wives that have decided to make Empowering Wives your source of information.
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Letter from the
Editor in Chief Hello to all you wives that have decided to make Empowering Wives your source of information. I am happy and honored to be given the opportunity to have captured your attention. I believe that it is by no mistake that you were drawn to glaze your eyes upon the pages of this magazine. If I may, let me take a moment and introduce myself. My name is Meltoria Woodside, I am happily married to Yocasta Woodside Sr. Whom I have been graced to have been with since high school. Together we have 3 handsome, smart, and intelligent sons Yocasta Jr, Carlisle and Mateo. In addition, I have 2 bonus sons Jermaine and Tagem. Over 10 years ago, I was faced with infidelity in my marriage. It was one of the toughest seasons of my entire life. Although I had reason and right to leave, I decided to stay and push through. Along with infidelity, I endured verbal, emotional and physical abuse.
I believe that it is by no mistake that you were drawn to glaze your eyes upon the pages of this magazine.
“However, with the help of the Lord, I was able to fight through all of that, and conquer what many would consider a lost cause. Now, my husband is saved and delivered, and my family is now experiencing what I believe are some of the best days ever. In 2016 the Lord spoke to me and said, “It is time to tell your story”. Now at that time, I had not idea what He was referring to because I did not think that I had a story to tell nor worth telling. However, Holy Spirit took me back down memory lane and directed me to teach Wives how to fight. He said When Wives Fight Families win. Since 2016 to this present time, my life has been dedicated to what Holy Spirit has commissioned me to do. Since the time that I have been commissioned, I have obtained my bachelor’s degree in theology and became a certified Marriage coach. I have also written four books When Wives Fight Families Win, Fight to Win a battle plan to fight for your marriage and family, Healing and Deliverance for the broken wife and the praying wife an introduction to effective prayer. I am also an instructor at Empowering Wives Academy. The Lord has empowered me to be a resource center for wives. In 2017 I had a vision of launching a magazine, which I tried to execute at that time with no success. For a moment I felt like a failure because I was not able to get it going. However, many times since the initial vision I kept seeing this magazine. In addition to that others have mentioned seeing me create such. 2017 may be the time that the vision was given but 2021 is the year of execution. Empowering Wives Magazine is a magazine that is done for wives by wives. We will be publishing 8 issues per year with 2 issues each season!
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OUR VISION Our vision is to build a world class media institution, that will be a positive source of Information, Education and Empowerment for wives from all walks of life.
OUR MISSION Our mission is to publish an informative, educational and an inspiring magazine that will empower wives around the world. Through this magazine we want to share practical wisdom and experiences that will change the lives of our readers.
It is our mission to provide a holistic approach to all facets of everyday living which would include segments such as Health, Beauty & Wellness, Home and Garden, Marriage & Family, Business & Entrepreneurship and last but not lease Christian Faith. It is our mission that Empowering Wives Magazine will not only be a media outlet but also a ministry tool. Where we can share the heart and will of God through our material providing sound faith-based knowledge to help wives fight for their marriage and family to grow in Christ and be the Woman, Wife and Mother that God has intended them to be. EMPOWERING WIVES
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The Divine Purpose
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he position of “Wife” was established from the beginning of time. When God placed the female on the earth, He placed her in the position of a “Wife”. So as a woman you must understand that you are valuable to a man, and important to the maintenance of the earth. From the beginning God not only placed you here to be alongside your husband but also together He gave us a mandate.
The Bible tells us, “[A woman] is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the coming days” (Proverbs 31:25). Without the need for a doubt, God gives women strength,
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especially in our marriages. As we become wives, we become the stewards of strength. We are fully accountable for the way in which we have our power. A Christian wife is a woman with power.
She’s unfazed from those who say that anything can’t be done. Her God-given purpose and passion has a strong intent, profound compassion, and a daring spirit that has the power to change her marriage. But even a powerful woman has challenges on her path. Often her persistence and strong will cause misunderstandings and rifts in her relationships, and God is the only one that can help her resolve them. Like Proverbs 31, a good Christian wife is a woman of noble character, wisdom and courage, which she uses to lift her marriage. Here
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are a few divine purposes of wife in marriage.
Loves Her Husband Titus 2:4 calls for wives to “love their husbands.” A wife is called to embrace her husband as he s – an imperfect man. Since Paul tells husbands to love their wives and wives to honor their husbands in Ephesians 5:33, there are also those who believe this means that a Christian wife doesn’t have to love her spouse, and that’s not true at all. As Christians, we are commanded to love our brothers and sisters in Christ, which is especially true in marriage. When a husband and wife get married, they make a promise before God to stay together until they die. If you’re in a one-sided relationship, you’re heading for trouble.
In Proverbs 31:1031, we read about a wife of noble character. In verse 10, we discover that she’s worth more than rubies. Wives are told of their worth in Christ. Be a Woman of Noble Character In Proverbs 31:10-31, we read about a wife of noble character. In verse 10, we discover that she’s worth more than rubies. Wives are told of their worth in Christ. Then we read in verse 11 that her husband has complete faith in her. Our husbands ought to be willing to trust us, which means that we have to have our heads in the position they need to be. A wife must have the best interest of her family in sight. She lives unselfish, too. Her husband loves her and he can trust her. It is necessary for wives to be truthful with their husbands in any and all matters, to act wisely, and to seek the direction of God in all things.
Himself wrote it – not with ink, but with God’s living Spirit; not chiseled into stone but carved into human lives – and we publish it.” Christ’s wife impersonates Christ in her everyday life. She gives glory and honor to God and to her marriage. Your work ethic, your honesty and your mission are all manifestations of Christ and His love. This woman of strength and purpose is going to live her life for God, no matter what they are doing or where they work. Its aim is to raise up Christ, to represent His character and actions. If you’re a strong-willed wife, your family is going to follow you.
Cares For The Family Proverbs 31 makes it clear that the home is the primary sphere of influence and responsibility of wife. Her family is very well cared for. That is not always simple, especially with shared responsibilities and work outside the home. Women are very often stressed out and pushed to a breaking point. One way of avoiding tension is for both husbands and wives to rearrange
their objectives and follow the Bible’s directives on their positions.
Be a good companion. The Christian wife is called to be the best friend of her husband. When God put the first man, Adam, in the Garden of Eden, he said, “It is not good for a man to be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him” (Genesis 2:18). She does not even have to participate in any activity her husband takes part in, but she does enjoy the time she shares with him. A married couple is having a lot of fun, enjoying the time they spend together. A Christian wife is a woman of strength and purpose who leads a life of honesty. If you live all out for God, your motivations and acts will be in line with His Word. If you are a wife, representing these values, you have the foundation for a rock solid marriage. Take stock of the power that God has given you. The Lord has clothed you with power, and in your marriage, you can use it for good. Never silence your strength. Use them to the glory of God, and also to make your marriage stronger.
Be Clothed in Strength and Dignity Proverbs 31 also shares that a biblical wife is clothed in strength and dignity. Wives are also responsible for managing multiple activities in and around the house. They can be a homemaker, a full-time employee, and they can also maintain relationships with other people outside the family. Their plates are full, and yet they still depend on the Lord’s power to raise them up. In the end, she’s wise. Her power and wisdom spill out, and it influences those who are in her care.
Imitate Christ Second Corinthians 3:3 tells us, “Your very lives are a letter that anyone can read by just looking at you. Christ
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TIFFANY OVERBY Entrepreneur | Brand Coach | Speaker | Author
Wife, mother, corporate trainer, entrepreneur and youth dance instructor, Tiffany Overby is passionate about living her best life and helping others do the same. 8
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MEET THE CONTRIBUTORS Tiffany is the owner of TKOverby Business Consulting, a marketing agency for small businesses looking for assistance in brand and business development. She specializes in website design, social media management and graphic designs. She has an MBA in Organizational Leadership, Master’s in Marketing and Bachelor’s in Business Management. With over 12 years in management in the corporate world, she took all this experience and education and stepped out on faith to become a full-time entrepreneur. “I am so excited for the opportunity to write for this magazine. I love the message it will convey and the audience of wives we will be speaking to. In this season of my life, I have overcome many trials and tribulations while maintaining my business. To say this year has been tumultuous is a great understatement;
bankruptcy, moving, living with my mother-n-law, experiencing a fourth miscarriage and testing positive for Coronavirus, I’ll be glad to see the clock strike midnight on December 31st. We are blessed to have our one miracle child, but experiencing this kind of tragedy four times in a lifetime would be traumatizing for anyone. We have managed to maintain our sanity, marriage, careers, and businesses despite the challenges that have been thrown our way. This year alone has taught me resilience, determination, focus and most importantly how to love and appreciate the people that love and appreciate you. My responsibilities as a wife, as a mother and as a full time entrepreneur no longer feel like neverending obligations but are now Godgiven opportunities for me to love life, seek wisdom and thrive while I become the woman God is called me to be”.
Tiffany is the owner of TKOverby Business Con-sulting, a marketing agency for small businesses looking for assistance in brand and business development.
Wife, mother, corporate trainer, entrepreneur and youth dance instructor, Tiffany Overby is passionate about living her best life and helping others do the same. Born in Brooklyn, New York and raised in Jacksonville, Florida, she embodies the fast-pace lifestyle of a bustling city girl, with the charm of an old-fashioned southern girl. Her unique upbringing led her down a path of self-discovery, where mediocracy and settling for the status quo were not tolerated.
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MELINDA WALKER Melinda became certified as a purpose life coach, happiness coach, and a health and wellness coach all in June of 2017.
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elinda Walker, widely known as “Lynn” she was born and raised in Bogalusa, Louisiana. She is the youngest daughter out of two girls. She graduated from Bogalusa High School in 1991 and completed two years of college. Later, she moved to Mississippi. She is the proud mother of 3 children and has been married to her husband for 27 years. Melinda’s life purpose is spreading the good news of Jesus Christ as an Evangelist. She was a speaker on WJDR 98.3 for over a decade prior to them closing their doors in 2018. Melinda co-authored a book on March 27, 2017. She is the spiritual compiler of 2 anthologies: Breathe and Right When The Caterpillar Thought Her Life Was Over, She Became A Butterfly. Melinda wrote her own book and released it July 31, 2020. Melinda had the opportunity to ghost write an entire book in 90 days. Melinda became certified as a purpose life coach, happiness coach, and a health and wellness coach all in June of 2017. Currently, she is a Licensed Insurance Agent with PHP agency (People Helping People). As a financial services consultant, she helps families by showing them how make and save money. Melinda founded Finally There, LLC in 2020, where she offers a variety of services to women that can catapult them into entrepreneurship. What the readers will expect from me You as the readers will get the tools you will need to become a successful Entrepreneur, while balancing work and life as a wife, mother, and a businesswoman. Below are the many services Melinda Walker employs to help you achieve your goals and find your purpose.
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LIFE Provide tools to build your confidence back up and help you discover your potential.
HEALTH & WELLNESS Coach you through making a lifestyle, diet, or health changes.
VISION Help direct your path for writing a book from start to finish naming book & chapters, helping you get inspired, etc.
GHOST WRITING From just a few chapters to an entire book, Finally There has you covered through ghost writing. Get in contact to get started.
MARKETING STRATEGIES An important part of publishing a book is marketing the book. Melinda can guide and assist you with this.
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Kim P. Carroll
Educate, Equip, & Empower
I am a native of Southeast Alabama. I am a wife, mother, outreach ministry leader, artist, author, & entrepreneur. As a wife to one loving and supportive husband for over 5 years; I placed God first in my marriage and chose to put in the work that it takes to maintain a strong, loving, & healthy marriage. As a mother, I cover my child with daily prayer, and I strived to be aware and intentional about my parenting style and behaviors. Being a wife and mother has its challenges, but when God is the head and center of it all, it becomes easier and very rewarding. Growing up, I was a very sensitive child. When I say, “sensitive”, I mean to my surroundings, inner thoughts, people’s intents, moods, and motives. The feelings felt very strange, and I did not understand it. As a result, I felt insecure and a bit weird at times. This “sensitivity”, caused me to be drawn to the things of God. Over the years, I started to discern God’s voice clearly, and with every spiritual nudge that He gave me, it led me to gain more knowledge and understanding of who He is. One of the ways I gained more knowledge and understanding was studying to receive my B.S. Degree in Biblical Studies and Theology,
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which opened the opportunity to teach in an accredited Bible College for over 3 years. I taught partitioners, laymen, licensed ministers, and Church leaders. God has graced me to be able to serve in many ministry leadership roles over the years, such as worship leader, assistant church administrator, women’s ministry leader, & intercessory prayer leader. In every role, I learned a lot about God and myself. Those roles produced levels of growth in me that are irreversible. After many years of serving in ministry, my community, & teaching, I stepped away for a while to seek God’s direction for the next phase of my life. After some time, I received the direction that I was looking for, which lead me into a new journey and purpose. And that purpose was to educate, equip and empower individuals so that they will be able to move forward into the lives that God has for them. The first way I started this new purpose was by starting my nonprofit, Kim P. Carroll Ministries Inc. Through this ministry, we have helped over 100 families in the areas of finance, parenting, home ownership, & entrepreneurship. We also host an Annual Christmas Blessing event to help families in
need during the holiday season. Serving in this capacity has been one of the greatest joys of my life. I also work alongside my husband in business, which has been a challenging personal growth experience. He is the owner of a construction & masonry company. I am the owner of two online businesses: KimmyTees and Accessories Boutique and Kimmy’s Art Gal. We have very different types of businesses, but we make an effort to support and help the other person to be successful. Our motto is when one of us succeeds, we both succeed. As entrepreneurs, we endeavor to bring our love for God, family, and helping others into everything that we do. We strive to build a better life for ourselves, family, and others. When I said yes to God’s call on my life, I had no idea what path or how many directions it would take me on. To venture into the unknown can be scary, but if you never take the leap, you will never know who you are, who God is, or what you can do. So, I decided to take the leap again by becoming a Certified Nutrition Educator. Initially, it was not my desire, but God led me to it. I believe wholeheartedly that He led me there because of my own struggles with
health. When I began to understand basic nutrition and how it contributes to overall health and wellness, I immediately became conscious of all the foods that I put in my body. I started to make healthier choices for myself and my family, and now I teach people in my community how to do the same. As a contributor to this amazing magazine, I will make sure to provide everyone with up-to-date Health and Wellness information that will help to transform your lives from the inside out. I know that you have heard many times that, “it’s a lifestyle change not a diet”. That statement is very true. Health and Wellness is not all about body size or weight. Your health and wellness is all about you being whole; mind, body, and soul. In my articles, I will discuss the best ways to accomplish that task. I am excited to be on this journey of wholeness with you. I know that together we can be the best version of ourselves, Healthy-Well-Whole! Website: www.kimpcarroll.com Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/kpcarroll38 Kim P. Carroll
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Sukaena Callander S
ukaena Callander, overcomer strategist, intercessor, and emerging author, is a passionate woman of faith. She is also the CEO of S and S Global Services and the host of Sukey Saturdays and Sukey Soars. On these programmes, she shares stories, struggles, scriptures, and successes to encourage people around the world with God’s faithfulness. Whilst doing this, she gives the utmost glory to God by activating keys to unlock and lock doors for His kingdom. She is a lover of Christ and will proclaim the name of Jesus around the world at any cost. Sukaena is the wife of Shane Callander and a mother of 5: 4 boys and 1 girl. Hailing from London, UK, she has a strong passion for helping others overcome obstacles she once faced. Thus, she tells bold, life-changing stories about overcoming family issues and her son’s miraculous healing from stage 4 cancer. Sukaena is a motivated empowerment speaker with a sincere heart for seeing people overcome what they believe is impossible. Through many years of preparation, praying, and seeking the Lord for her own overcomer’s strategy, she is now helping others conquer their battles. Sukaena is the author of Overcoming the Destiny Stealer, a powerful tool for breaking
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“Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate” (Proverbs 31:31, NIV).
generational curses and living the life of an overcomer. At its finest, this book will push readers to pursue God, break curses, and walk in their destiny unashamed. Overcoming the Destiny Stealer will be used as an essential resource in Sukey’s newly designed 10-week training program. This programme was developed to empower and equip individuals, as well as families, to overcome their obstacles and hardships through prayer and motivational strategies. At the end of this training, individuals will be equipped with their own overcomer’s strategy to win every battle that arises. Sukaena is determined to fulfil her destiny and help others accomplish theirs. Her excellent services have assisted many individuals who
Overcoming the Destiny Stealer will be used as an essential resource in Sukey’s newly designed 10week training program. are hungry to consistently live victoriously. She refuses to let anyone suffer in silence when God has given her kingdom keys to unlock destinies.
Join Sukaena on Sukey Saturday’s weekly on Facebook at 5 p.m. GMT. Experience the powerful presence of God. Get parenting tips and strategies to help wives and families reach their full potential using biblical principles and Sukaena’s wealth of experience. Visit Sukaena’s website http://www. sandsglobalservice.com/home.html to book her for your next motivational speaking engagement, one-on-one consulting services, workshops, and to purchase empowerment resources. Sukaena not only enjoys empowering people, but she also has a passion for cooking and baking. She is the owner of Sukey’s Kitchen: Scrumptious Caribbean Cuisine. Some of her delicious signature dishes are Escovitch fish, curry goat, rice and peas, coleslaw, and red velvet cake.
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TANYA DEFERITAS www.tanyadeferitas.com My name is Tanya. I have been married four years to my husband, Rafael, and together we have three children. This is my second marriage. I am a California native. I grew up in Southern California and graduated from high school in Los Angeles, California. I met my husband in 2016 while training for a new job in Florida. After a date lasting more than 14 hours, we prayed together, and we were inseparable from that point on. My husband, Rafael, relocated from Florida to California to marry me. It seemed impossible to easily bring our families together from two sides of the United States. So, within six months of meeting, after getting permission from my grandfather and mother, we eloped in Las Vegas, Nevada. Making our home in California, we initially experienced marital bliss. It wasn’t long before real life happened, and challenges arose. I had to put my faith to work and apply prayer as a regular antidote in my marriage in order to not give up or lose hope. Prior to getting married to Rafael, I was a single mother for nearly 18 years. I experienced all sorts of struggle throughout the duration, including welfare, domestic violence, and divorce. Upon entering a new union and partnership, I had to unlearn some of the independence I worked so hard to gain and it was no easy task, yet the journey would be one to strengthen my walk with God. I accepted Jesus Christ as my personal Lord and Savior at a young age. I was baptized as a young girl, again as a teenager, and later as an adult, in effort to recommit myself
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Making our home in California, we initially experienced marital bliss. It wasn’t long before real life happened, and challenges arose.
to God. I have a gift of faith that has often been labeled radical and stupid. The truth is, I simply take God at His word. I have a deep, heartfelt passion for marriage, and I enjoy offering hope, inspiration, and encouragement to wives. In 2018, I created Love Wins Publishing and I became a self-published author. I believe God gave me the name of the company, Love Wins, after my husband and I returned from a marriage retreat that changed our lives. It is my belief that because the Bible says love covers, love conquers, and love never fails, then in the end and always LOVE WINS!
I accepted Jesus Christ as my personal Lord and Savior at a young age. I was baptized as a young girl, again as a teenager, and later as an adult, in effort to recommit myself to God.
I currently serve as an author, publisher, speaker, writing coach, & anthologist. Writing is a gift I have and use to express my own and the heart of God based on my knowledge, experience, and understanding. I am a compassionate, Godfearing woman who has been writing since I was a little girl. I write without inhibition and my words are often firm, crisp, yet appetizing, beneficial, and inspirational. I hold a Bachelor of Science degree in Communication and I am pursuing a master’s degree in Clinical Counseling Marriage & Family Therapy. My heart is after God’s own heart concerning marriage. I have been named the Silent Warrior in my quest to pray & fight for marriage.
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THE HEALTH OF THE FAMILY ULTIMATELY LIES IN THE HANDS OF THE COOK By Kahteela Euseary
Author of The Godly Household Manager
“The health of the family ultimately lies in the hands of the cook.” This is the statement that The Lord dropped in my spirit concerning diet. He was calling me to change my family’s diet. My family once ate the Standard American Diet. The acronym of which appropriately spells SAD. I cooked everyday but we also ate from fast food restaurants when we were out. I
depended on the convenience of instant oatmeal and juice boxes. I thought we were doing pretty well but I was slowly learning the truth. We were not eating healthy at all. Sugar, Artificial dyes and chemical additives; genetically modified produce and meats from animals raised on unnatural diets that included hormones and antibiotics. I would hear new information about the American food supply all the time- information about foods that promote diseases such as the dreaded cancers. I learned about how sugar was in foods that didn’t even taste sweet. It was overwhelming. I simply was not ready to deal with the reality of what was happening to our bodies every time we ate something that was toxic. Over a period of years, the Lord took me down a path of knowledge, wisdom and correction. I must admit. I did not make changes immediately upon learning things. It was overwhelming to me. Avoiding toxic foods seemed impossible. I simply did not have enough money to buy superior foods. I didn’t know where to start so I did nothing.
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More and more I felt lead to do better. I began to feel guilty every time we ate something that I knew we should not have. I just put it all in the hands of the Lord. The Lord taught me to change my entire way of thinking about food. Romans 12:1-2 tells us two things that we can apply to our diets. 1. We are to present our bodies a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable unto God 2. We are not to conform to the ways of the world but to be transformed by the renewing of our minds. We apply this scripture to many areas of our lives but many of us forget about what we eat. The Lord has demanded a living sacrifice. He wants the best. Under the law He demanded the best animal to be offered up to Him. He would not accept a sickly little goat or a ram with a limp. No! He wanted the best because it had to be a sacrifice. They had to give up something precious and valuable. Now that Jesus has fulfilled the law and offered Himself as a perfect sacrifice, we no longer have to offer up blood sacrifices. We are to offer up ourselves as living sacrifices. If God wanted a healthy animal, surely, He wants a healthy human being. We are to sacrifice our desires for rich foods, convenience foods and overindulgences. We are to present ourselves to the Most High God as hydrated, nourished and full of energy. He wants to use us in a mighty way, but we are unfit for service. We fail to realize that our poor diets are having a negative effect on our relationship with the Lord. I used to have a difficult time connecting to God in prayer. I would begin to pray and my mind would drift. I couldn’t seem to focus on what I was petitioning the Lord for. My brain was foggy. It was like my prayers weren’t getting past the ceiling. I didn’t understand why it was so difficult for me to pray. I blamed it on the enemy trying to distract me. I later learned that it was my diet. High levels of sugar can put your brain in a fog. When your body is not expelling waste as it should, toxins build up in your body. Those toxins cause you to be sluggish and unable to focus. Since I have changed
my diet, I do not have that problem. When I pray it’s like picking up where I left off and not trying to fight my way back into His presence. I have had sickness in my body that I asked the Lord to heal me of. I struggled for years not understanding why He had not yet healed me. I fasted regarding the issue. Nothing happened. I prayed “By your stripes we were healed”. I reminded God that He was a healer. I said, “John 14:14-You said whatsoever ye shall ask in my name I shall do it. Do it God!” All along I her the softest, deepest, most gentle, yet, firm statement in my spirit. “Change your diet”, He said. We don’t serve a God of temporary fixes. When you ask Him for healing, He does not just cure symptoms. He reaches down to the depth of the brokenness and fixes the real issue. So, He’s saying forget about the sickness and let’s look at your diet. Better, yet, let’s renew your mind concerning food and nourishment. He wants His people to enjoy the variety of foods that He has created but He never intended for us to destroy ourselves with it. God is telling us to stop letting food impede our relationship with him. We waste our money, overindulge, destroy our bodies then we can’t connect with Him or be used by Him. This sounds like an idol to me. We must change. I had already had the knowledge so when I began to say “yes, Lord”, He started moving in my life. I was healed of my rebellion and refusal to give up what I liked and the outward manifestation was healing in my body. I am changed forever. Now, if I have a slip up or I try to return back to my old ways I get sick in that hour. I actually began repenting for eating things that I know I should not eat. Additionally, I feel guilt, shame and defeat because I know better. Now, I say to myself all the time,” it’s not worth it”. Don’t get me wrong, I have not arrived. My diet is far from perfect, but the difference is my heart. I desire to eat the way that the Lord would have me to. I am willing to make those hard changes. For those reasons the Lord sends me people to teach
me, resources to help me, wisdom to manage it all followed by the money to finance it. Maintaining a good diet is not always convenient. My mind has been renewed so convenience is no longer my first priority. I have gone as far as taking all of my children in a grocery store to get fresh food to avoid buying fast food. It was hard doing that so I began to take planning seriously. I invested in materials necessary to take food on the road. I purposefully plan to buy foods that keep well and are easy to transport. However, convenience does not supersede health. So, sugary drinks were replaced by water; chips were replaced by nuts; apples and oranges reclaimed their rightful position as fruit snacks. God has brought me from a
I used to have a difficult time connecting to God in prayer. I would begin to pray and my mind would drift. I couldn’t seem to focus on what I was petitioning the Lord for. My brain was foggy. long way and I feel like I have only just begun. Like I did, you may feel like it’s just way too much for you. How will you overcome this mountain of Frankenfood? Not easily, but simply. You shall speak to that mountain and it shall be removed. All you have to do is say, “Yes, Lord.” Accept teaching from the people who He has sent you. Manage your finances wisely so that you can afford better foods.
It’s more than just buying the organic version of your current diet. An organic label does not negate the sugary content of the imposter fruit snacks. You can grow your own potatoes and press your own oil but too many French fries will still grow that belly. It’s about doing away with all that you have done and re-engineering your diet. First you need a system that will support the new kingdom diet. This system includes budgeting, meal planning and overall kitchen organization. I have a culinary degree and I am a chef. I worked in commercial kitchens long before I knew that the Lord had actually called me to help people in their home kitchens. Since the Lord taught me so much through my own struggles at home, He is using me to share the information. I started a business called Great Cooks where I train people on how to run their home kitchens. I wrote a book that will help you to develop a system that will support eating well; from reducing waste to what foods to avoid; how to write a thorough grocery list to how to select kitchen equipment. It’s titled The Great Cooks Kitchen Efficiency Manual. https://thegodlyhm. com/checkout/ If you need help getting started, I highly suggest that you purchase this book. As godly household managers, we must feed our families as best as we know how. We should never remain in the same place but constantly seek ways to improve; pray, research and learn from others. If anyone in the house is sick, we must examine our diets and even search for a cure through food. Medication can be helpful but should not be the ultimate solution to our ailments. God is able to heal miraculously but He does not supernaturally intervene in situations that we can change ourselves. Our diets must reflect His holiness. You can do it! Philippians 4:13- I can do all things through Christ which stregtheneth me. 1 Corinthians 10:31 Whether therefore ye eat or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God. https://thegodlyhm.com/ EMPOWERING WIVES
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HEALTHY INTERNATIONAL DISHES
MOROCCAN FISH WITH MANGO & COUSCOUS
While many white fish recipes tend to taste unoriginal or bland, this rendition calls for spices like cumin and ground coriander, which inject the dish with exotic Moroccan-inspired flavor. Ripe chunks of mango and wholewheat couscous round it out and, as a bonus, lend tons of wholesome fiber.
Makes 3-4 servings.
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1 c. dried whole-wheat pearl couscous 1 lb. fresh wild-caught white fish Salt and pepper 1 tsp. ground cumin 1/2 tsp. chili powder 1/2 tsp. ground coriander 1 1/2 tbsp. butter 1 ripe, soft mango, peeled and diced 1/2 c. fresh cilantro, chopped + extra for garnish 2 tsp. fresh-squeezed lime juice 1/4 tsp. salt 3 garlic cloves, minced 1 boneless beef chuck roast (3 pounds) 1/2 teaspoon pepper 1 tablespoon Worcestershire sauce 1/4 cup butter, cubed 1/3 cup all-purpose flour 1/4 teaspoon salt
DIRECTIONS
Cook couscous according to package directions. The “pearl” version usually takes about 8-10 minutes to cook. In a small bowl combine the cumin, chili powder, coriander, and a pinch of salt and pepper. Evenly rub the spice mixture on all sides of the fish and set aside (in the fridge if you’d like). Peel, core, and dice the mango. Chop the cilantro into small pieces. Put the mango, cilantro, and lime juice together in a medium-sized bowl and set aside. Heat the butter in a large sauté pan over medium heat. Add the seasoned fish to the pan and cook on both sides until it’s white all the way through. For thinner pieces this might only take a few minutes. Once the couscous is done transfer it to the bowl with the mango, cilantro, and lime. Add 1/4 tsp. salt and mix together thoroughly. Divide the couscous mixture evenly among plates. Top with pieces of fish and extra pieces of cilantro. Serve warm with a salad or vegetable on the side and enjoy.
Nutrition Facts 332 calories, 7.8 grams sugar, 6 grams fat, 43 grams carbohydrates, 27.1 grams protein
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AMERICAN MODERN TUNA CASSEROLE
Makes 3-4 servings.
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3 tablespoons butter, divided 4 medium carrots, chopped 1 medium onion, chopped 1 medium sweet red pepper, chopped 1 cup sliced baby portobello mushrooms 2 cans (5 ounces each) albacore white tuna in water, drained and flaked 2 cups fresh baby spinach 1 cup frozen peas 3 cups uncooked spiral pasta 1 tablespoon all-purpose flour 2/3 cup reduced-sodium chicken broth 1/3 cup half-and-half cream 1/2 cup shredded Parmesan cheese 3/4 teaspoon salt
DIRECTIONS
In a large skillet, heat 1 tablespoon butter over medium-high heat. Add carrots, onion, red pepper and mushrooms. Cook and stir until tender, 8-10 minutes. Add tuna, spinach and peas; cook until spinach is just wilted, 2-3 minutes. Meanwhile, cook pasta according to package directions for al dente. Drain pasta, reserving 1 cup pasta water. In a large bowl, place pasta and tuna mixture; toss to combine. Wipe skillet clean. In the same skillet, melt remaining butter over medium heat. Stir in flour until smooth; gradually whisk in broth and cream. Bring to a boil, stirring constantly; cook and stir until thickened, 1-2 minutes, adding reserved pasta water if needed. Stir in cheese, salt and pepper. Pour over pasta; toss to coat.
Nutrition Facts 1-3/4 cups: 372 calories, 11g fat (6g saturated fat), 47mg cholesterol, 767mg sodium, 44g carbohydrate (7g sugars, 5g fiber), 23g protein. Diabetic Exchanges: 3 lean meat, 2-1/2 starch, 1-1/2 fat, 1 vegetable.
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PAN-FRIED TROUT WITH GARLIC AND LEMON This recipe for pan-fried trout uses simple ingredients—garlic, lemon juice, and a little butter—to let the subtle flavor of this delicious fish shine through. All the fillets need are buttery mashed potatoes and roasted cherry tomatoes for a stellar meal. Luckily, the two sides are included in this recipe, creating a perfect dinner for two.
Makes 3-4 servings.
INGREDIENTS For the Tomatoes: • • • •
1 cup cherry tomatoes 1 teaspoon olive oil (to drizzle) Dash sea salt Dash black pepper (freshly ground) • 1/4 teaspoon lemon zest
For the Potatoes:
• 4 large potatoes (yellow, peeled and quartered) • 1/4 cup milk • 1 tablespoon butter • 1 teaspoon of sea salt • Pepper to taste
For the Trout:
DIRECTIONS
1. Gather the ingredients. 2. Preheat oven to 375 F/190 C. 3. Wash and pat dry the cherry tomatoes. Place them in a small baking dish. 4. Drizzle with olive oil and sprinkle on salt and pepper. Sprinkle on the lemon zest and then cover the dish with foil. 5. Roast for 25 minutes, remove from the oven and set aside.
Make the Potatoes. 1. Add the peeled and quartered yellow potatoes to a pot of cold water. Boil the potatoes until soft, about 20 minutes, then drain. 2. In a large bowl, mash the potatoes well. 3. Add the milk, butter, sea salt, and
• 2 (7 oz./200 g) trout fillets (skinon) • 1 tablespoon olive oil • 2 cloves garlic (finely chopped) • 2 tablespoons lemon juice • 2 teaspoons butter • 1 tablespoon parsley (finely chopped)
Nutrition Facts 931 Calories, 62g Fat 65g Carbs, 32g Protein
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pepper. Combine well, cover, and set aside.
Make the Trout. 1. Meanwhile, in a medium skillet, heat 1 tablespoon olive oil over medium heat. Add 2 cloves finely chopped garlic and sauté for 30 seconds. 2. Fry the fish, skin side down, in the skillet for 5 minutes. 3. Turn the fillets over and fry for 2 minutes. Turn them over—skin side down again—and turn off the heat. 4. Squeeze 2 tablespoons lemon juice over the fillets and add 2 teaspoons butter. Sprinkle on 1 tablespoon finely chopped parsley. Adjust the seasonings with salt and pepper. 5. Plate the fish with the sides of mashed potatoes and roasted tomatoes. 6. Serve and enjoy!
Tips
Pay attention to the timing needed to cook each of the three elements so they're all done at about the same time. Start with the tomatoes, but get your potato water boiling right away, too. About 5 minutes before those are done, begin warming up your skillet. Keep both warm while you finish the trout. • If you want to fire up the grill, you can make this meal with a couple of adaptations. Either make the mashed potatoes in the house or grill the potatoes rather than mashing them. You can also skewer cherry tomatoes or grill large tomatoes directly on the grate. • Bring more flavor to the trout by adding 1 teaspoon of onion powder and a few fresh sprigs of dill. A pinch of paprika is also a nice touch for trout.
Note: while there are multiple steps to the recipe, this trout meal is broken down into workable categories to help you better plan for preparation and cooking.
Total Care
The Spirit, The Body, The Soul
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oday, we otherwise healthy women could find ourselves exhausted at the end of the day. Sometimes, we are asked to do more with less, to give more than we have, and to build more than is actually needed. The twenty-four hours of each day clearly do not suffice between what is expected of us and what we expect of ourselves. It seems like there’s so little left at the end of the day to help us recover, and for most of us, slowing down is not a choice. What is the answer, then? Most women practice what used to be called Holistic Wellbeing or Alternative Medicine, which is now called Complementary and Integrative Medicine. Similar symptoms of fatigue are identified by both stay-athome wives/moms who manage major companies. The experiences and emotions that women report are the same no matter how they spend their days. Their bodies and minds appear to be in constant overdrive, and they are overwhelmed. It doesn’t need to be like this.
The spirit Few persons, since they are born spiritually dead, are conscious of the faculties of the spirit (which are conscience and communication with God). As far as the almighty is concerned, your soul was basically dead before you embraced Christ and got baptized. God has “quickened” the spirit, then. (Ezekiel 36:26 and John 3:5 as well) Communication with God, conscience and intuition are the faculties of the human spirit. A nagging conscience, or when God is attempting to call them, is about the only contact with God with which unbelievers have experience. It’s like that. Their insight will be sharpened as a believer matures. Some people would not pass, such as the late Watchman Nee, until he learned from the Holy Spirit. Other than us, to get our attention, God has to use a baseball bat. (Speaking figuratively, of course)
By simply paying attention to the three fundamental areas of our wellbeing, any woman can equip herself with what she needs to handle the demands, responsibilities and commitments that fill her days and nights, no matter how busy she is or how much money she has in her checking account. Those three fields include: • Soul (Mind the will and the emotions) • Body (Physical being our connection to the earth) • Spirit (Supernatural being our connection to the spirit realm)
The soul Your mind, will, and emotions are the soul. “These are the abilities of your soul. Your “self” (Joyce Meyer likes to say, “I want, I think, I feel.”). The bible says that we must work out our salvation with fear and trembling. Salvation is deliverance, deliverance is the process of cleaning out the soul.
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Two distinct elements of human nature are contributed by Spirit and Soul. While the soul gives us our virtues, the spirit creates our passions. Another basic truth is that the driving force of human nature is the spirit. And the soul serves the characteristic feature that our humanity preeminently constitutes. The supreme role of both spirit and soul is that our divine nature is reflected. And when we ignore the higher portion of our existence, we thwart or prohibit our progressive passage through life. This ultimately adds to constant struggles with the challenges, hardships and frustrations of life.
human body, divine energy provides the raw material from which the soul functions. For any efficient achievement, it offers the resilience that the soul needs. And in addition to stimulating our hearts, the will to live is also granted to us by spirit.
The intrinsic life force which keeps us alive is the human soul. It gives the body life. On the other side, the spirit gives the soul strength. In the
Often we can lose touch with some deep and significant part of ourselves as we pass through life.
Everywhere, human beings are united in spirit and soul. Understandably, such unity exists because the soul is life’s universal essence. We are closely and fundamentally connected with the entire world by spirit and soul. We are part of the entire mass of human society, inextricably bound by these great forces.
We women will take charge of our own wellbeing and be the very best versions of ourselves by concentrating on these three fields, helping us to accomplish our goals, while actually having the freedom to take a breath and enjoy the blessings of our lives, our children, careers, friends and personal time. It is so necessary for wives to awaken to their highest selves and the incredible creative forces that reside inside them and to realize that it is more than getting a lot of assets, a physically fit body and great relationships to succeed in life. Thriving is an experience of spirituality. It’s understanding who you are and why this is where you are. Know that you are not too broken that you cannot be repaired. Understand that to be happy and safe, you must abide under the shadow of the almighty. Strive to be physically, mentally and spiritually well. In the 21st century, this is certainly where we are headed. It is our destiny to
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succeed in our lives on all levels and in all respects. And it is up to us in our lives to initiate this development. Everyone has it at their disposal and it is time.
CARE OF THE SPIRIT, BODY AND SOUL One way to understand it is that we have a material body and an immaterial spirit. We can think of the mind and the “soul” as one object and the “spirit” as another. People suggest our immaterial nature has two distinct components – a soul and a spirit. It is a tripartite view. We prefer to lean towards those who hold a tripartite view and the following is my interpretation of our spirit, soul and body. We are very complex creatures fearfully and wonderfully made by the Lord. We are all effected by the tension that life gives us. The repeated mental stress of daily life causes our bodies to break down. Our values and attitudes will be decided in large part by our religion. How we think will affect our emotions and feelings, and our emotions and feelings will have an effect on our behaviors. We are influenced by our thinking patterns on our mental and physical wellbeing. However, we are to take control of our thoughts, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthythink about such things Here are some ways to take care of the mind, soul and body
Take care of your body. You are a transient resident of a physical body. You should take care of your body to stop hurting it. The most critical part of your treatment is maintaining a balanced interaction with the possibilities of physical health. Be sure to rotate your body every day
Practice gratitude. A perfect way to communicate is to express gratitude. Gratitude helps you make life’s ups and downs more resilient. If you’re less reactive, you can remain more linked to Source. A perfect way to practice appreciation is waking up in the morning. Sometimes, the first thoughts when you awake are messages from your soul. When you start waking up, note your thoughts and take a moment to write them down as they come to you. Then say “thank you Lord for waking me up”. When you’re out of bed, stand in front of the mirror, scan your body, and say, “Thank you Lord for health and strength or I am fearfully and wonderfully made by the Most High God” This is a perfect way to understand the bond between your body and soul and remember to treat them with compassion and kindness during the day.
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to help your wellbeing. Eat all-natural foods, including many grains, fruits, nuts, and legumes. Animal protein can be a condiment, like grass-fed beef, naturally raised pork, and wild game. Limit sugar and grains. And be sure to feed your body with supplements as needed, including good multivitamin / mineral, iodine.
Own your story. Owning your story gives you the strength to turn your guilt into believing in yourself in order to reconnect with your true self. Usually, shame is transferred from generation to generation as suggested laws and regulations. Stepping out of your shamed role––victim, persecutor, rescuer––is important for physical, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing.
Start by recognizing what you need, and take action to implement your needs. This will help break the shame-based blame/guilt knot. For example, if you usually don’t allow some time for yourself and your everyday needs.
Say affirmations. For several purposes, affirmations may be included, like coming into agreement to who God has created you to be. One affirmation you could say is “I am blessed, I am the righteousness of God, I am anointed, I am seated in heavenly places.” The bible declares that you shall decree a thing and it shall be established for you. You may not believe all of this as you begin to affirm yourself but if you be consistent in making the declarations eventually you will believe what you have said.
Call it to pray, speak to God, or whatever you want to call it, but asking the Lord for guidance will help you settle your soul’s signs and messages and direct you to live your reality. Asking for help isn’t hard and doing this often will help you feel more secure knowing what messages come from the Lord. The Lord told us that if we call unto Him, He will answer and show us great and mighty things that we do not know. It will also help in cases you are not sure how to deal with something.
Build your Spirit. Take time to feed your spirit man. Feeding your spirit man is just as important as feeding and nurturing your physical being. Prayer, Fasting, Worship and meditating on the word of God will help you to tend to your spirit man. When you take care of your spirit your soul and your body, you will find that living in this world of trials and chaos will be more manageable.
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Pray every day - pray continually 1 Thessalonians 5:17 Meditate on the Word of God - Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful. Joshua 1:8 Prophetic Declarations over your life - Thou shalt also decree a thing, and it shall be established unto thee: and the light shall shine upon thy ways. Job 22:28 Listen to God’s word - Consequently, faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word about Christ. Romans 10:17 Practice doing God’s word - But solid food is for the mature, who by constant use have trained themselves to distinguish good from evil. Hebrews 5:14
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SKIN CARE ROUTINE
kin is the most important part of yourself; it’s the projection of your inner self which is visible to the world. The importance of healthy and beautiful skin can never be more over emphasized in today’s fast paced life. As difficult as it seems to maintain a healthy and glowing skin at the end of the day it’s not that difficult, all we need to do is to follow ritual of skin care as a part of our lives. Here is our recommendation of daily skin care routine in order as advised by a group of dermatologists.
category. Dab on eye cream using your ring finger (your weakest finger) so you don’t unintentionally cause damage to your eye area.
5. Sunscreen
3. Eye cream
THE MORNING RITUAL
This is the most important step in your skincare routine. “If you don’t wear sunscreen, it’s like you might as well not do any of those other steps. “The sun is the number one reason why people’s skin will age prematurely.” Heads up: Protecting your skin from the sun is important even if you’re spending your days indoors, as UV rays can still come in through the windows. You should at least wear a sunblock of SPF (sun protection factor) 40 or higher, if your skin is oily you should go for a sunblock with sebum control quality.
Aside from addressing crow’s feet and dark circles, eye creams can also serve to protect your delicate eye area from your other skin care products.
Mornings are considered to be the most important part of the day. If you start your day the right way it end the right way too. You should start taking care of your skin as the day kicks in, so here is our correct order of morning skin care routine.
1. Cleanse Cleansing is the first step of any good skincare routine. The type of cleanser you use matters more than you think it does , gentle face washes are the way to go, particularly if you plan on using more active ingredients down the line.
4. Moisturizer After you’ve treated your skin, it’s time to moisturize. Moisturizer keeps your skin hydrated and helps strengthen your skin barrier. For daytime use, opt for a lighter moisturizer that will soak in quickly and won’t cause pilling under makeup.
2. Tone
THE NIGHT TIME RITUAL
Toner is an optional step, but if you have a toner you like, you should absolutely use it. A toner can be a great way to balance your skin’s PH. If you have acne-prone skin, look for a toner with ingredients like salicylic acid to calm breakouts. If you have dry or sensitive skin, opt for a hydrating toner to soothe.
As your skin naturally repairs itself at night, your nighttime routine should be all about treatment and giving your skin what it needs. If your skin is looking dull, exfoliate. If it is irritated, hydrate and protect. Here’s the best order of skin care products to make sure you get the most out of them
3. Eye Cream Eye creams fall into the “treat”
1. Cleanse We still recommend going for a gentle cleanser, but at night, you can use
a cleanser that helps take off your makeup, like an oil-based face wash. If you want to go the extra mile, you can even try “double cleansing” by using a water-based face wash after an oil cleanser to clean any lingering dirt and oil out of your pores.
2. Tone If you’d like to use a toner, apply it the same way you would in the morning. This will go before you start applying serums and treatments
4. Treatments, serums and Peels Like the rest of the body, skin does the bulk of its repairing, restoring and regenerating as we sleep. This is why most targeted skin care treatments like prescription meds (tretinoin, acne and rosacea creams), retinol creams, exfoliating treatments (peel pads and masks) and antiaging serums (infused with peptides, growth factors and other biologically active ingredients)are better used at night.
5. Moisturizer or Night creams Some people use the same moisturizer for day and night. However, night moisturizers or night creams are generally thicker and heavier and designed to be absorbed over the course of several hours. Moisturizer, particularly the heavier ones used at night, create a protective coating on the skin to prevent water evaporation while you sleep.
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YOUR SKIN TYPE
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id you know that every skin type reacts differently to each ingredient in a skincare product? Products made for the entire population may not really be the best for your skin! Which is why knowing your skin type is extremely essential for your skincare. There are five different types of skin type.
1. Normal Skin Type Normal skin is neither too oily nor too dry. It has balanced sebum production and good blood circulation.
2. Oily Skin Type Oily skin is characterized by a greasy appearance and big pores. This skin type is prone to acne breakouts. Oily skin is the result of excess sebum production. Avoid using greasy and cream based skincare products.
3. Dry Skin Type Dry skin is determined by flaky and rough texture. It can at times feel tight
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and cause irritation. Use moisturisers frequently. Avoid over cleansing with face washes that dries the skin out.
4. Combination Skin Type Combination skin is a mix of oily skin and dry skin. Usually in combination skin types, the T-zone is oily and the cheeks are dry.
5. Sensitive Skin Type If your skin flushes with spicy food and adversely reacts to new products, you may have sensitive skin. Always do a patch test before using a new skin care product.
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HOW TO KNOW YOUR SKIN TYPE
Take a sheet of blotting paper and gently pat it on your face. Hold it against a bright light. If you see little to no oil, you likely have dry skin. If the sheet picks up some oil from the T-zone, you have combination or normal skin. If it picks up oil from all parts of your face, you likely have oily skin.
A Woman's Beauty A Woman’s Beauty Is Measured By Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. (Proverbs 31:30 KJV) Don't be concerned about the outward beauty that depends on fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should be known for the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. That is the way the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. (1 Peter 3:35 NLT) In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with braided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. (1 Timothy 2:9-10 KJV) And I want women to be modest in their appearance. They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes. For women who claim to be devoted to God should make themselves attractive by the good things they do. (1Timothy 2:9-10 NLT)
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Why Is It Important To Take Care Of Your Body?
7 PRACTICAL WAYS TO START FROM TODAY! Hey, you amazing Wife! You always say such cheering things to others. Do you find time to adore yourself for the goodness in you? In this hyperconnected age, where life has become a movie, scene after scene, from mesmerizing to daunting flashbacks and endless struggle, we barely find time for ourselves. But at the end of the day, what matters the most is our inner satisfaction. We have become so busy in our jobs, studies, family, friends, and responsibilities that almost all of us neglect our bodily needs. “Bodily needs!” Interestingly, many of us don’t give them the due importance that our body deserves. That’s why having a keen understanding of this holistic approach is a must-have in this busy life. So, let’s dive in to learn why it is important to take care of your body and what that truly means?
Why is it important to take care of your body? What do the experts say? Maintenance is the key to the smooth running of anything in this world. Either it’s a part of our body or machine, care keeps it alive and energetic. Self-care includes doing anything that soothes your body, mind, and soul. According to health care experts, gratifying your body acts as a mood booster and helps build up confidence. Well, that’s more like wearing a new dress gives you perks of selfconfidence. Similarly, taking proper care of the body helps you flaunt your inner beauty and wear your regal confidence. It’s normal to feel down some days, and of course, everyone goes through this phase in their lives. But it’s not right to stay in bed all day long in your sweatshirt with messy hair, and un brushed teeth to do nothing but fight
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with your disturbing thoughts. Preparing yourself to face the challenges is the best escape from all those exasperating feelings. Nonetheless, the best way to do this is to get ready with a new spirit, relaxed mind, and hang out with friends.
Benefits of Proper Self-Care in Life- Things you need to opt for a healthy living It’s very important to take care of your body no matter whatever the situation is. Not only it lifts your mood but also has the following benefits. • First off, taking care of the body fortifies your energy level so you can better focus and accomplish your goals. • Secondly, caring for your bodily needs helps build up positive pride for healthy growth and personality development.
Top 7 practical ways to take care of your bodyLet’s start from today! 1. Take proper sleep- For doing something bigger you need to sleep better Our body requires at least 7-8 hours of sleep a day, the deprivation of which can cause serious issues in life. Ever noticed, when you don’t get enough sleep, you feel slow and lazy. Besides, sleep deprivation also impacts mood, concentration, attention, weight gain, and even serious health problems. Try to schedule your sleep time, especially clearing out negative thoughts. Avoiding caffeine, sugar treats, and cell phone verily improves the quality of sleep. 2. Keep yourself hydrated- After all, water is the essence of life
• Furthermore, our emotions intensify when we don’t bother with our care. That’s why care and attention help us brace the true meaning of life and helps going through ups and downs.
Stop and ask yourself, are you hydrated? It should come as no surprise that water keeps our skin alive and youthful. According to specialists, you need to intake at least 2 litres of water a day which equals eight full glasses. But the amount may also change concerning your lifestyle and bodily needs.
• A healthy body nurtures a healthy mind and a healthy mind, in turn, guarantees wellbeing and success.
Keep yourself utmost hydrated because this is the simplest thing that you can do for your body.
• Champions are those who know how to knock out stress and anxiety from their lives. Verily, stress-free life is all that we want, and living healthy is the gist for a longer life.
3. Be more conscious about your diet
• Finally, improving our body care helps us buttress the pace and quality of our life in recovery.
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Eating healthy and nutritious food is the key to a healthy life. What goes in is what that shows on the face and the body. Of course, when you eat right, you can see the results in the form of better health, brainpower, and immunity. What’s more important is cutting down fats, junk foods,
step ahead in life and give you mental peace which is very important for your body care.
What should be your plan of action for the next 15 days? An expert guide Well, all the above-described aspects emphasize why it is important to take care of your body. Of course, these are honest suggestions from dedicated health care specialists who devote their services to this field.
and alcohol, though not totally but partly. Eating right and healthy maintains the working machinery of the body and is the basic in body care.
Following these ways can help you enjoy the true bliss of a healthy body, mind, and soul. But thanks to our eventful routine, we can’t find time to implement them in our lives practically. Here making an action plan and strictly working on it can be a great help. So, here is your action plan for the next 15 days that you can apply to take care of your body with the least effort.
4. Dress up properly- Make your signature style statement
The 7 Step action plan for the next 15 days
Much like you care for other needs of your body, proper dressing deserves the same vital position. You might observe that you feel a flow of energy and confidence every time you dress up well. Besides, another important thing is to dress up in a style that suits your body and personality. Always opt for the body comfort that makes you feel happy in yourself. Rock every meet up with your signature style statement, and you will feel a cascade of confidence pouring inside you.
• Minimize the use of cell phone and blue light strictly while you go to sleep. Make your bed at least an hour earlier than your routine.
5. Devote your fresh mornings to Exercise, Meditation on God’s Word, A time of Worship. Exercise, meditation on God’s Word, etc. are some of the physical activities that play a great role in our body care. It is always difficult to leave your cozy bed for the workout or exercise but trust me once you get used to it, it’s the best body care routine of all. Moreover, adding the miracles of meditation on God’s word has a magnificent positive impact on your mood, body, and soul. 6. Get yourself involved in a healthy activity or hobby for a healthy mind
• You may find it onerous to drink eight glasses a day, but at least you can add one glass to your daily water intake. • Start with cutting at least one unhealthy thing from your diet and gradually couple others with it. For instance, start with avoiding alcohol, gradually quit smoking, and similarly cut-off junk food from your diet. • If you can’t make it up for jogging, try starting from a morning walk in your nearby park. Gradually, switch to brisk walking, and finally, you can go jogging like a pro. • Start flossing, and take great care of your teeth, i.e. brush twice a day no matter how busy you are. • Moreover, the best option is to devote at least 5 minutes to talk to Holy Spirit and begin to cultivate or maintain a relationship with Him. Meditate on God’s Word in a calm environment and let the scriptures come alive as you read.
Once you start thinking about your proper body care, you can never neglect the importance and influence of a healthy hobby. Of the countless amazing hobbies out there, choose the one that you find most appealing. Devote your leisure time to your favorite activity, it will ease your tired mind, and you will feel much like your hectic busy life has got a restart.
• Say Hello to your neighbors as it boosts your mood and fills your body with positive energy vibes. Spend quality time with your friends, family, and colleagues as social help revitalizes your inner confidence.
7. Surround yourself with people having a positive attitude and approach
Being true to your body is to take great care of your bodily needs. Small changes in your routine can work wonders, especially if proven to have miraculous benefits. Devote your time to personal grooming and care because you only get your life and body once.
Last but not least, try to keep a distance from the people having ill vibes and opinions. Surround yourself with the most optimistic, open-minded, inspiring, and most importantly, positive people. It will, in turn, motivate you to
Bottom line
Remember your body is the Lord’s temple. EMPOWERING WIVES
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