The Energiser With Chris Lee

By: Aria de Lima

I was raised in a very Christian household and I was always taught anything that didn ’t have to do with church, anything that was spiritual, was from the devil. So that was pretty much the way I grew up looking at things. That all changed for me because of a car accident I was in where I sustained a traumatic brain injury in 2007. After the accident I went through the recovering phase and there were two things that I noticed. That’ s when I became aware of the law of attraction, I became aware of emotions and I knew that emotions play a bigger role than we think that they do. That was when I learned about a thing called EFT or Emotional Freedom Technique. I also began noticing intuitive abilities, which kind of created an internal conflict for me because being intuitive or as some people say, psychic, that is something from the devil being raised in a strict Christian household. It created a conflict and it made me question things. If I have been this loyal servant of God all this time, why would I suddenly after this brain injury start having intuitive abilities? It just didn ’t add up for me. Depending on how you look at it, things either went really downhill or really uphill from there as far as my spiritual journey. That was the beginning of the end of my relationship with the church. Having people that were part of the church that I was close friends with and having them know. All of these things started to happen around the same time. Being able to talk to spirit, understanding emotions, becoming intuitive, becoming a healer, I learned a healing modality called tappology and EFT. That combined with my intuition and my emotions really allowed me to do some amazing things. People having their arthritis go away, helping people clear the negative emotions that come along with things like fibromyalgia or even having a miscarriage. All of these things have emotions, very strong emotions tied to them and clearing those emotions was helping people to get better all around. Even physical things were going away, back pain, and things like that.

So in the eyes of a lot of the people at church, I became a witch doctor. People would joke around behind my back and say, ‘Chris is a witch doctor. ’ Just because I was able to help a couple of people feel better. That gift kind of became a scarlet letter. People from the church were kind of like ‘I don ’t know what he ’ s into or what he ’ s on but leave him alone. ’ At the same time, because of having a connection with spirit, I started having conversations and realizing that religion was more so about indoctrination and education than actual connection with God.

Most of the time I would get information while I was sitting in church. Initially, without being aware of it, being able to tune into people ’ s energies that were close by. I could feel the energy. Another thing that I very rarely talk about is that on this journey, first it was the intuitive abilities and then there was a connection with what is called the underworld that I did not realize I had the ability to do as well. One of the things that really stuck with me, and I didn ’t get it until years later was when I had a conversation with God. In that conversation God told me that I don ’t need a church to be close to him. We are connected, we can never be separated, we are one. At the time, that didn ’t resonate with me but as I began to travel down this road, that began to resonate with me quite a bit. My daughter, when she was a kid, we lived in a really big house and her room was way on the other end of the house. At night she would always come running to our bedroom and she would say she ’ s having nightmares and stuff. But the look on her face, as a parent, you know that this is more than just being scared to be down there. There ’ s something else going on. So I switched spots. I let her sleep in my bed and I slept in her bed for a few nights. I felt the hairs on the back of my neck stand up on the second night and there was a spirit there. So I started talking to the spirit and we had a conversation. You know, ‘Why are you here? What do you want?’ The spirit was my next door neighbour ’ s mother. She had been murdered in the house. What I’ ve learned is, when a person passes on from this realm, they can kind of get stuck because they ’ re living on a plain where time and space don ’t matter. My neighbour was in his 60’ s at the time, so his mother had been roaming the area for over 50 years looking for her son. So we had a conversation. I told her that my daughter was not her son and that her son was grown and all this time had passed. After that the spirit never came back but even that created more questions in my mind. Like, ok what the heck is going on here? Because like I said, the way I was brought up, this is evil. I spoke to someone at church and they said, ‘ no you weren ’t talking to the spirit of your neighbour ’ s mother, you were talking to one of the demons. The devil sends them to trick you. ’ So in my mind it was still kind of creating a conflict.

One of the main things that helped resolve that conflict was actually meeting Priya Ali in 2010 in Vancouver at Law of Attraction facilitators. Priya is super duper connected. Being close friends with her over the years, especially early on, really helped me to navigate through that and understand that this is indeed something that is normal and that there are those of us that are connected to spirit in that way. I think the first time I went to visit Priya, we kind of did some work around that. We spoke to some other relatives of mine that had passed on and that went a long way towards making me feel better. But initially, excuse my language, I was scared shitless.

I don ’t feel like I was afraid of the spirits but talking to spirit kind of freaked me out and just the fact that I was able to tune into that energy. What really really scared me was that I didn ’t know about the murder until I asked. When I was talking to the spirit I asked her name and she told me her name. I had spoken to my neighbour and initially he was like ‘ ummm, I don ’t know what you ’ re talking about. ’ But then later on he was like, ‘ we need to talk. Ya that’ s my mother. ’ When he was six or seven years old they had a party at the house, things got out of hand and she ended up getting murdered. He was telling me how he misses her and thinks about her everyday and sometimes he could feel her presence. But he wasn ’t tuned into spirit like that so he just said he could sense her presence. Again, it was kind of a mixed bag because he was happy to get a message but it also made him kind of shy away from me as well. Getting information and having it come true [can be kind of freaky]. I had worked at AT&T for like 12 or 13 years and I got this message. I just kept getting a number in my head and the number was 531. I was looking up what that means in the angel book and all this stuff and a few months later I found out that my job

was offering a buyout and I was ready to go. And I was just curious and I asked “ when ’ s my last day?” and the lady said “ oh your last day will be May 31st. ” I thought, there ’ s the 531, I get it now! That buyout was really important because my job was so intense that we didn ’t get very much time off but the buyout was my pay for the rest of the year, one year ’ s salary and my leftover vacation. That gave me the cushion to launch everything. The number started popping up in my head in November and I didn ’t get that phone call til April. For months I’ m like, what is this 531? 531! I was looking for it everywhere.

My daughter has been developing the gift as well, having really good insight and perception and occasional visits from the spirit world as well. She actually came to me one day in the middle of the night. She came to me and got me out of bed and was like ‘there ’ s someone here. ’ So we kind of sat and talked and had a conversation about it, and since then we have had conversations about it. I think because of my experience and my abilities, she was more comfortable with it. One of the biggest things I had to learn being an intuitive and a parent was if I get information, don ’t judge the information. If someone is not feeling well, if they are feeling anxious or depressed, I can usually pick up on that information. As a parent, sometimes you can see things coming and if there ’ s no danger involved you kind of let it kind of play out. Sometimes you just got to trust spirit. I’ ve learned to, as a parent and just in life when you have intuitive abilities, take people at their word, even if you think that they ’ re lying, because the thing that I’ ve learned is, if there is something where I have an attachment to the outcome, then my intuitive feelings could be off. The times when I’ m really really on is when I don ’t have any attachment to the outcome. Sometimes you have to learn to separate what’ s ego and what’ s actual intuitive information. [When I feel someone is lying,] most of the time I leave it or try to find a different way to get to the same thing. I’ ve learned that we all have an inherent protection mechanism where we try to protect ourselves and save ourselves from being embarrassed or being humiliated or being shown up or even sometimes from vulnerable moments. Sometimes there ’ s a way to get there without calling them out. Part of it for myself, is balancing or finding the best way to call them out.

She [my daughter] is one of those people that’ s judgement free. A lot of times, we have really really really open and vulnerable conversations about things. I opened up and told her about my experience as a youth. She opened up about some things that she had experienced that I was unaware of. Because of our connection to the spirit world, we were able to do a lot of healing work for generations in our family through her and I talking to each other, from me having conversations with my mom, my grandmother and different relatives. As with many families, every generation seems to have had someone who experienced some type of abuse. Mostly sexual abuse, some physical abuse, some verbal abuse but that was an energy that we had been carrying for generations. I don ’t know that we ’ ve totally gotten rid of it but we ’ ve cleared a lot of that energy that comes along with that. The energy of most of those experiences carry the vibration of shame.

I kept quiet for a while [about my gifts] because the first few people I told, it was not a good conversation. After that, I kind of kept that to myself and a lot of that stuff I still do keep it to myself. I do intuitive readings but I don ’t tell people that’ s what we ’ re doing. I kind of just say ‘it seems like this or that is kind of going on ’ and then we talk about it. I don ’t brand myself as intuitive though. Only for a select few that are open to it, I will call it an intuitive reading. I grew up in Detroit. I was a hip hop head growing up. Between having the knowledge that I do of emotions and spirit and things like that, I’ m careful about what I listen to. Having a daughter also really has an influence. With Spotify, all the music ever made is available so all the music of my childhood is there. There ’ s been so many times where I’ ve gone back and said ‘ oh I remember that album!’ Then I go back to the

album and I’ m like ‘Oh! No! No! No! No!’ I grew up on Ice Cube and N.W.A. I was listening to this song that I used to like when I was a teenager and the song is by N.W.A and they talk about picking up a hooker, having sex with her and then killing her. I was just like ‘ ...what!’ But I had never really thought about it. I liked the beat, the rhymes, but I never really thought about it and now 20 years later I’ m listening to this thinking ‘ oh my god I can ’t believe I used to ride around and play this all the time.

There ’ s a Japanese doctor and scientist, his name is Masuru Emoto, and he has done extensive research on water and how water carries a vibrational frequency. He did experiments where he played different types of music or said different types of words over water and looked at the molecules. It was amazing how the high vibrational words like love and hope and healing, had very pretty crystal formations, whereas words like stupid or hate or things like that turned out just like blobs. It was interesting that he did that with water. Our bodies are made up of 80 percent water. So you could come to the same conclusion that the same effect that the music and the words had on the water have the exact same influence on us because we ’ re 80 percent water.

I used to be a DJ. I used to do weddings and parties and school events and stuff. This was before any of my spiritual awakening but I started to notice the effects that different types of music have on people and how it would change the mood of the party. I was DJing a party for an elementary school and we were playing pop songs and then the kids wanted to hear some rap songs. It changed the entire vibe of the event. What really drives the point home is, a kid that was dancing and twirling when I was playing Justin Beiber now he wanted to hear a song called ‘Stanky Legg. ’ So this kid walks up to me and balls his fist and he says, that was having a great time listening to Bieeiber, now I’ m playing this rap and he ’ s like ‘GRRR.

The two things I’ ve been listening to a lot lately are jazz and a lot of world music. I’ ve been listening to a couple of artists from Africa and you know, this is funny because I feel like her music is not necessarily for me, but I’ ve been listening to a lot of MIA. Especially a lot of her old stuff.

It’ s something right now especially in the African American community where a lot more people are on board with crystals and energy healing and stuff like that than there were before. I’ ve actually heard a couple of artists mention things in their songs about spirituality or crystals and things like that. It seems to be that society wise and music wise too, that we

seem to be headed in totally separate directions. There are the people that get made fun of all the time for being “ woke ” or kind of having that connection with spirit. Then there is also music wise…and I hate to use this as an example but it’ s the only thing that comes to mind, but things like what happened at the Travis Scott concert a few weeks ago. You have an artist or a group of artists that have all of this cult imagery in their music and videos and things like that. I don ’t necessarily have a problem with that, it’ s just that I can feel the ill intent. I don ’t know if it’ s the artist doing it or someone behind the artist but it’ s something that is there.

and you get that many people somewhere and you show them these images and they’re all on the same vibrational wavelength, people are influenced to do things they wouldn ’t normally do that might be harmful. It seems like those are the two totally different directions that people are moving in.

So [my most recent book] is my second book and it covers some of the same subject matter as my first book from 2012, which chronicled my recovery from my brain injury in depth. This new book talks about addiction and it’ s kind of a play on words because in the past I’ ve dealt with addiction to opioids and alcohol and food, but the real addiction was my toxic mindset. That was the real addiction. This book chronicles my journey to becoming the most authentic version of myself. The addiction was not actually the problem, the addiction was a symptom and what needed to take place was for me to become the most authentic version of myself. I was in relationships and friendships that I didn ’t like, I was heavily involved in a religion that I didn ’t even believe in, and I had a job and career that I hated. I was a fake it til you make it kind of guy and after the accident I didn ’t have the brain capacity to fake it anymore. So it kind of chronicles that and my upbringing. For example, chapter one starts with me sitting in church at the age of seven and hearing the preacher say 'sex is only for people who are married. If you ’ re not married and you ’ ve had sex before, you ’ re going to feel the full wrath of God. ’ I was sitting there thinking, I didn ’t mean to have sex, I didn ’t even want to have sex, someone else made me do it. That was kind of a starting point at a very early age of being confused about who or what God is. I was wondering if God was going to kill me. As a kid, being molested, that wasn ’t anything I had asked for, that was just something that happened. In the book of bible stories, I was seeing unfaithful people getting their head chopped off, getting eaten by animals. I thought that’ s what was going to happen to me at some point.

At the same time, where I was living in Detroit was going through a transition. All the white folks were being terrorized and getting chased out and replaced with different people. As a kid, I thought all of this was part of my punishment from God. That carried on into my adult years with my addiction and then I talk about various events that led to the spiritual awakening and the emotional healing that took place that healed those addictions. The book also has a tool box, a list of tips and tricks that helped me and that people can use to help themselves get on the right track.

I went through a process where I wrote the book in just a few days believe it or not. I got the initial manuscript out in the first few days and then for some of the passages I went and rewrote them and added stuff. I would say the most emotional part was writing about the death of my father because it was still so new. When I started the book, he had passed about a year prior. Recounting some of the abuse stuff was painful and uncomfortable but the chapter about my Dad’ s passing was the most difficult because of us having kind of a complicated relationship. It’ s interesting because you ’ll have someone in your life where you think, this person really grates my nerves but then when they ’ re gone it’ s like ‘ oh man.

There was a revolving cast of people [in the spiritual journey for me.] One of those people was my driver after the accident. I had had a seizure and had my licence taken away for six months, so I had a driver that would drive me to therapy and physical therapy and all that stuff. He was just considered a common man. You know, he retired from the assembly line at the plant. At the time I had all these different therapists and specialists I was seeing and I ended up getting the most out of my conversations with this “ common, unlearned” man. He was someone who had practiced sobriety for like 30 years and at that particular point, that was something I needed. The thing that I learned from him and so many other people was that these people aren ’t necessarily going into these situations knowing what the outcome is going to be. They know what they want, they know what they believe and they know what they believe in so they rely on that to kind of get them through. That was probably one of the biggest lessons. What’ s helped the most a lot of times is having someone around with a listening ear that can listen without judgement.

To me, and it could be because I’ m a man, but to me, women are way way way more open to this and to some of the suggestions. The other thing is that women are, to me, more open to change than men are. So I could say something to a female client, she may or may not like it but she ’ll think about it and later on she ’ll say, "ok I’ll try. " However, it’ s been my experience that men are immediately more defensive. What happens with my clients is we are more than likely going to hit upon that one thing you don ’t want to talk about. You might come to me and say you are sabotaging your relationships or your business is failing or you just don ’t feel good. Being an intuitive I know that usually what comes out of their mouth is about five percent of what’ s really going on. For men, when you hit on that one thing they don ’t want to talk about, that’ s when shit gets real. I was working with a guy and he was working in sales and wanted to do better in sales and his issue was that growing up he saw his mother being beat by his father. That affected his self esteem which in turn was affecting his sales. When I brought that up, when that came up intuitively, he did not want to touch that. So I was limited as far as the assistance I could offer him because the thing came up and he didn ’t want to talk about the thing so we had to kind of just leave it where it was.

There ’ s another wrinkle too. This wrinkle is the amount of pride that men of colour tend to have above caucasian men. Working with caucasian men and working with men of colour are two totally different things. The caucasian men that I have worked with are generally a little more open to hearing things and a little more open to change. For men of colour who are maybe feeling marginalized or have experienced some bad things in their life, their pride is something that they really hold on to because in some cases a lot of men feel like that’ s all they got, their image and their pride. When I was taking the classes and stuff and I was working with the “ gurus, ” what I found out was…and I had to be open enough to accept this, when you go through a training and they say do this, this, this and that, a lot of people of colour aren ’t there yet. They may not be able to make this big giant leap so you have to do baby steps. I would say, for me, what breaks it down is showing the ugly parts of my own story as well as results from healing. Also, something that I always stress when talking to men of colour is, we are influencers. Whatever work that we do, whatever healing that we do for ourselves, we are not only healing ourselves, we are healing our significant others, our kids, our nephews and nieces and whoever else we come in contact with. Healing is not just for us and really, healing is all about letting go. Whatever it is you can let go of, even if it’ s just a teeny tiny bit, you ’ re switching up the energy and you ’ re letting something else in. The belief system has a lot to do with a lot of different things. With a belief system we have the things that we believe and then there ’ s the things that have been our experience. You keep repeating this stuff

and believing this stuff and watching this stuff and that becomes a part of your beliefs because a belief is really just a thought you think over and over again until you believe it’ s true.

The number one tip I would give someone is change your focus. My go to questions are, how would I rather feel in this moment? What would it take to make me feel better in this moment? That kind of helps to switch my focus up because naturally we get stuck in these mindsets of this is going to happen, that’ s going to happen, this is going to suck. Even if you ’ re not mentally in a place where you can switch it up and think the opposite, I tell people, ‘just be open to the possibility that it might be better than you think it’ s going to be.