MARRIAGE ADVICE
The Path
There they stand. 2 young adults full of promise and possibilities. They have spent many months and many more dollars planning for this moment and there they stand. Of course, they are excited. Of course, they are “in love.” Of course, they have a path of mystery open before them. The path is truly a mystery because...well, life. No matter how perfectly a plan is laid life happens. That is not a bad thing. It just is the plain unvarnished truth. Life deals the cards, but how you play what you are dealt matters in ultimate ways. As I meet with my engaged couples I marvel at the energy they have, the hope they radiate, and the love they feel for each other. Most know exactly how they want their wedding day to look, feel and be. They have planned it down to the last stamp on the SAVE THE DATE cards. They are, quite naturally, thinking about the day, the event, the cake, the dress, the dance, the music, the memories. Most, if any, have thought about all of the days ahead. I don’t mean to imply the couples are shallow or self-absorbed. Most enjoy rewarding careers and full lives. But the hard part of “happily ever after” is not on the front burner. Jobs lost, babies born, forced moves, deaths, disappointments, dreams upended, all of this and more couldn’t be further from their minds. Of course. I think it is fair to say we are, as
ENGAGED! RIVER VALLEY
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