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TABLE OF CONTENTS About Equality Illinois . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 Welcome . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6 Wedding Checklist . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8 Hotels . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10 Legal Status of Same-Sex Relationships . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12 Picking An Officiant For Your Wedding . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 14 Bakeries . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15 Wedding Planners . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17 Getting A Civil Union . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19 Florists . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21 Caterers . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 22 DJs and Entertainment . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 23 Photographers and Videographers . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24 Planning Your Honeymoon . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 25 Invitation Designers and Printers . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27 Tuxedo and Dress Shops . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 28 Notes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 29 2012 SAME SEX WEDDING PLANNING GUIDE
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A B O U T
EQUALITY ILLINOIS OUR MISSION The mission of Equality Illinois is to secure, protect, and defend equal rights for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people in Illinois.
OUR VISION We envision a fair and unified Illinois where everyone is treated with dignity and respect and where people live freely regardless of sexual orientation, gender identity, or expression.
OUR VALUES Inclusiveness. Equality Illinois belongs to all those who believe in our vision and mission and we will be accessible to and proactively engage others in our statewide community as owners of our vision and mission. Respect. Equality Illinois believes in the value of others—their opinions and their work. It is our respect for other that builds our collaborations and partnerships. Fairness. Equality Illinois believes that everyone should have the same rights, responsibilities and opportunities afford to them regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity expression. Effectiveness. Equality Illinois believers that success comes from the highest impact approaches to achieving our vision and mission. For more information about EQIL’s efforts, or for opportunities to get involved, visit: http:// www.eqil.org
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WELCOME Congratulations on reaching this amazing milestone in your relationship! This is a major step in your lives, and we at Equality Illinois are so happy for you! Your wedding day is as special as your love. You’ve decided to make your bond official and share your happiness with the friends and family who love you. Your story as a couple has been full of romance and memories, and your beautiful partnership will continue to grow and flourish from this momentous day onward. Whether you’ve dreamed of this day since childhood, or you’ve found the only person on earth you could imagine walking down the aisle with, wedding bells are finally ringing, and the next chapter of your lives together begins now. Enjoy making your dream wedding a reality! Your ceremony and reception can reflect your style as a couple, bringing the story of your love to life. Rustic chic, upscale flair, themed or simple: your wedding will be one of a kind, and the memories will last you and your guests a lifetime. With a world of options for each aspect of your wedding, planning can get overwhelming. Don’t let the stress of logistics get in the way of the joy of your celebration. We’ve compiled a guide that features businesses that have been affiliated with and supportive of the LGBT community. All of these businesses want to make your day memorable and cater to your needs as a couple. They would be happy to accommodate you as you plan your wedding. We hope this guide can assist you as you walk down the aisle to celebrate your everlasting love. At Equality Illinois, it is our pleasure to help you and serve the LGBT community of Illinois. Once again, congratulations on your upcoming wedding,
Bernard Cherkasov Chief Executive Officer
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WEDDING
CHECKLIST WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN YOU ARE EXPECTING A WEDDING
AT LEAST 6 MONTHS BEFORE WEDDING DATE q q q q q q q q q q q q q q
Choose and announce the wedding and date Decide on wedding basics - type, style, budget Book location for ceremony, reception, and officiant (see pgs. 10 & 14 for ideas) Select caterer (see pg. 22 for ideas) Select florist (see pg. 21 for ideas) Consider booking entertainment or DJ (see pg.23 for ideas) Draft a guest list Consider booking a photographer/videographer (see pg. 24 for ideas) Decide on a list of family and friends to participate in the ceremony Create a wedding registry for gifts Consider honeymoon options (see pg. 25 for ideas) Reserve hotel rooms for out of town guests Order invitations (see pg. 27 for ideas) Consider hiring a wedding planner (see pg. 17 for ideas)
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Buy wedding rings P urchase tuxedos and dresses for the wedding party (see pg. 28 for ideas) Choose wedding cake (see pg. 15 for ideas) Arrange transportation for the wedding party on wedding day Book your honeymoon
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S end invitations 6-8 weeks before event and make RSVP date no later than 3 weeks before event Meet with potential photographer Meet with officiant to finalize ceremony W rite vows and encourage those speaking at ceremony/reception to write speeches Choose music and meet with potential DJ or band
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Confirm hotel arrangements for out of town guests Call guests that have not RSVPed Obtain license- remember, they are only valid for 60 days! Arrange for any wedding day stylists, if you choose Purchase wedding accessories (ring pillow, baskets, decorations, place cards, favors etc.)
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Finalize all details for honeymoon Finalize menu with caterer and all other details Complete seating plan Reconfirm with all vendors and give them a final head count Compile emergency list of vendors Create your own checklist so that you won’t forget anything on your wedding day
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Prepare emergency kit with needle, thread, safety pins, band aids etc. Pickup wedding clothing Pack for honeymoon Hold any pre-parties
DAY BEFORE q q q q
Have everything in place for ceremony Make sure guests have arrived Confirm flights for honeymoon Get a good night sleep!
WEDDING DAY q q q q q
Eat breakfast (unless your tradition is to fast) Get styled and dressed up Remember the rings, and check everything on your list Take a deep breath and stay calm Say “I Do!”
AFTER WEDDING q q q q
Go on honeymoon Meet with photographer to go over pictures, if hired Send thank-you notes Enjoy your new adventure together!
HOTELS Take the worry out of your weeding weekend. These hotels provide LGBTfriendly service whether for your banquet reception, your wedding night, or the lodging for your guests. Mention this guide for special recognition! Marriott Hotels Chicago
Hyatt Regency
The Marriott Brand is a world recognized brand with 7 affiliated hotels in Chicago that would be perfect for your wedding day.
Our AAA Four Diamond rated hotel offers everything you need to ensure your special day is exactly as you envisioned it, from exquisite downtown Chicago wedding and event venues and creative catering services, to stylish accommodations for all your event attendees.
(312) 660-8200 www.marriott.com/chicago
Hilton Chicago
(312) 922-4400 www.hilton.com/chicago From delightful meals, to polished service, to posh guest rooms the Hilton Chicago will provide you with some of the most dedicated service in Chicago
Intercontinental Hotel
(312) 321-8735 www.icchicagohotel.com Featuring breathtaking venues evocative of magnificent eras gone by, this exquisite Chicago wedding location is one of the most sought-after in the city.
Palmer House
(312) 726-7500 www.palmerhousehiltonhotel.com Having been itself a wedding gift from Potter Palmer to his blushing bride, Bertha Honoré, the Palmer House continues to be an inspiring symbol of romance and spectacular venue for wedding receptions, as well as other social events.
Peninsula Chicago
(312) 573-6760 www.peninsula.com/chicago Voted “Most Romantic Hotel for Weddings” by Travel + Leisure Romance Magazine, The Peninsula Chicago fulfills every wedding dream like no other venue.
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(312) 565-1234 www.chicagoregency.hyatt.com
Courtyard Chicago Downtown Magnificent Mile (312) 573-0800 www.courtyardchicago.com
Steps from the world-famous Michigan Avenue, with breathtaking views of the skyline and lake, our hotel offers a quiet and intimate venue for Chicago events in the heart of the city
Pine Manor
(847) 873-7463 gayweddingchicagosite.com Relax and feel at home while you say your vows in front of the charming fireplace or in the beautiful backyard garden of historic Pine Manor, private home of Illinois Wedding
Officiant Rev. Pamela.
Park Hyatt
(312) 335-1234 www.parkchicago.hyatt.com Create memories to last forever in our Grand Ballroom, sophisticated Art Gallery or NoMI private dining rooms with stunning views of Lake Michigan and Water Tower Park
LEGAL STATUS OF SAME-SEX RELATIONSHIPS
Can we get married? Illinois does not yet recognize committed relationships between persons of the same sex as marriages. Instead, same-sex couples are able to enter civil unions. What is a civil union? A civil union is a legal relationship granted by the State of Illinois. Partners who enter into a civil union in Illinois are entitled to the same legal obligations, responsibilities, protections, and benefits that state law provides to married spouses. However, civil unions entered into in Illinois are not recognized under federal laws. Partners to a civil union in Illinois are entitled to almost none of the obligations, responsibilities, protections, and benefits that federal law provides to married spouses. Should we wait for marriage equality or should we enter a civil union? This is up to you. A couple that enters a civil union will be entitled to nearly 650 state rights and protections afforded heterosexual married couples, including: emergency medical decision-making power, hospital visitation rights, state spousal benefits, equal tax treatment at the state and local level, the right to make funeral arrangements, inheritance rights and equal estate tax treatment, the right to share a nursing or hospital room, and the protection of domestic relations law and procedure. While Equality Illinois and our allies are fighting for marriage equality here in Illinois, you can choose to enter a civil marriage in another marriage equality jurisdiction (e.g., Iowa, New York, Washington, etc.). Your civil marriage will be recognized in Illinois as a civil union for the time being and, most likely, as a marriage when we secure marriage equality, without any additional action on your part. Are civil unions only for gay and lesbian couples? No. Both same-sex and opposite-sex couples who are in committed relationships can enter into a civil union in Illinois. Who can enter into a civil union? You can enter into a civil union in Illinois if you are a same-sex or opposite-sex couple in a committed relationship. You and your partner must both be at least 18 years old and neither of you can already be in a marriage, civil union, or substantially similar legal relationship. Illinois also does not allow civil unions between close relatives. You cannot enter into a civil union with your parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, niece, nephew, first cousin, brother, sister, child or grandchild – whether by full-blood, half-blood, or adoption. What if we come from a state that does not recognize civil unions? Illinois law provides that parties seeking to enter into a civil union must not be prohibited from entering such unions in their home jurisdictions. While many states have laws on the books purporting to deny recognition of validly performed unions between persons of the same sex, no state prohibits a person from actually entering such a union.
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PICKING AN
OFFICIANT FOR YOUR WEDDING
Every wedding ceremony requires some sort of officiant, and selecting one is a very important task. They will be leading the day’s ceremony for you and your partner. You can choose between a religious, nondenominational, or secular officiant. If you already have a good relationship with someone, they might be the best choice because they know you and your partner best. Most importantly, you’ll want to find someone you are comfortable with, and who will get to know you and your partner. Equality Illinois has identified over 150 ordained clergy who will perform civil unions throughout the state of Illinois. Before meeting with them, it’s important to consider how much you want the officiant to be involved in this process, in order to find the most comfortable style for you and your partner. The next step is interviewing possible officiants. Besides your involvement in the ceremony, make sure that your views are ideologically compatible with theirs. They should be open and flexible, and most importantly, have performed an LGBT wedding or are open to performing LGBT weddings. Your officiant should also be able to help personalize your ceremony for you as a couple. Make sure that they have an idea of who you and your partner are as people and that they will provide an original ceremony. Below is a list of a few LGBT friendly officiants and their contact information that would be more than happy to perform at your wedding ceremony: Michele Rose (847) 215-7715 www.roseweddingceremonies.com
Rev. Pamela Magnuson (847) 873-7463 http://gayweddingchicagosite.com
Rev. Marian Hale (847) 491-0603 www.revmarian.com
Rev. Rebecca Armstrong (847) 707-1781 www.chicagoceremonies.net
Full list of gay affirming houses of worship that perform civil unions at: http://bit.ly/OQToip Full list of faith leaders who perform civil unions at: bit.ly/LYCGgr
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BAKERIES “LET THEM EAT CAKE!” Whether homemade or store bought, square or round, symmetrical or asymmetrical, traditional or non-traditional, a cake is the perfect dessert for the wedding. The cake can make big statement, so let your style as a couple shine through!
Central Continental Bakery (847) 870-9500 www.centralcontinentalbakery.com A Chicagoland tradition since 1922, Central Continental Bakery in Mount Pleasant offers a variety of wedding cakes for your special ceremony. They make your standard round layered cake to something more original and customized.
La Petite Sweet (630) 719-1111 www.lapetitesweet.com Allegretti's Bakery (708) 453-4412 www.allegrettisbakery.com Amy Beck Cake Design LLC (312) 545-3655 www.amybeckcakedesign.com
Lutz Pastry Shop (773) 478-7785 www.lutzcafe.com Sugar Hills Bakery (847) 658-8765 www.sugarhillsbakery.com Swedish Bakery (773) 561-8919 www.swedishbakery.com Sweet Miss Giving's (312) 255-8470 www.sweetpsweets.com Take The Cake, Inc. (312) 850-4530 www.takethecakeetc.com
BTrue Bakery (773) 961-8276 www.btruebakery.com
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WEDDING PLANNERS If you are feeling overwhelmed with the wedding process, then a wedding planner may be a good option to consider. Wedding planners are a carefree solution to your worries, and although not a necessity, may be able to take some stress off your back. You can even get your friends or family involved by assigning one of them the role of wedding planner. SQN Events (773) 469-6095 www.sqnevents.com By providing 3 different levels of service, the planners at SQN will make sure that everything runs smoothly and seamlessly from start to finish.
Liven It Up Events (773) 727-4929 www.livenitup.com
Jane Allen Events (847) 721-2563 www.janeallenevents.com C&C Event Planning & Mgt. Inc (312) 962-1988 www.eventplanning-info.com Honey Bee Weddings (773) 412-7358 www.honeybeeweddings.com
LOLA Event Productions (773) 942-6172 www.lolaeventproductions.com Jane Allen Events (847) 721-2563 www.janeallenevents.com Frank Event Design (773) 275-6804 www.frankeventdesign.com Red Letter Event Planning (773) 266-0601 www.redlettereventplanning.com LK Events, LLC (630) 747-8688 www.lkeventschicago.com 2012 SAME SEX WEDDING PLANNING GUIDE
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“Extraordinary events call for extraordinary places, and the Courtyard by Marriott Chicago Magnificent Mile provides the perfect setting for your special day.�
Courtyard by Marriott Chicago Magnificent Mile 312.573.0800
Civil Union Ceremonies/Wedding Receptions 165 E. Ontario Street Chicago, IL 60611 www.courtyardchicago.com
GETTING A
CIVIL UNION Same-sex couples can enter into a civil union by obtaining a license from a county clerk, exchanging vows before a secular or willing religious official, and then registering their unions. All of the current rules governing annulment, divorce, and property division that apply to couples in marriages would equally apply to couples in civil unions. DO WE NEED A LICENSE TO ENTER INTO A CIVIL UNION? Yes. To obtain a license to enter into a civil union, you must submit an application to a county clerk’s office. You may submit the application to any county clerk’s office in the state. A license is valid only in the county where it was issued, and thus must be certified in that county. The application requests basic information about you and your partner such as your names, sexes, occupations, address(es), social security numbers, dates of birth, and places of birth, as well as the names and addresses of your parents or guardians. You must also state whether you and your partner are related to each other and, if so, your relationship to each other. In addition, if you or your partner were previously married or in a civil union or substantially similar legal relationship, you must provide the name, date, place, and court in which the marriage, civil union, or other legal relationship was dissolved or declared invalid, or the date and place of the former spouse or partner’s death. You may also need to provide proof to the county clerk that you and your partner are not prohibited from entering into a civil union. Illinois prohibits you from entering into a civil union if you or your partner is under 18 years old. Proof of your age may include your birth certificate, passport, driver's license, or an employment certificate. You are also prohibited from entering into a civil union if you or your partner is already married or in a civil union or substantially similar legal union that has not been dissolved. Proof that your prior marriage, civil union, or substantially similar legal relationship has been dissolved may include a certified copy of your divorce or dissolution decree. If your prior spouse or partner died, you may be asked to provide a certified copy of his or her death certificate. You may also be prohibited from entering into a civil union if you and your partner are too closely related to each other. Once you and your partner have submitted the application, the filing fee (described below), and any required proof that you are not prohibited from entering into a civil union, the county clerk will issue you a license to enter into a civil union. 2012 SAME SEX WEDDING PLANNING GUIDE
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WHERE DO WE GET A LICENSE AND HOW MUCH DOES IT COST? Licenses are issued by a county clerk. In most counties, the license costs $30. The license becomes valid in the county where it was issued the day after it is issued and is valid for 60 days. During that time, you must have the civil union certified in that county by an authorized person or the license becomes invalid. Once you have the civil union certified, it becomes and will remain valid until it is dissolved. DO WE BOTH NEED TO BE PRESENT AT THE COUNTY CLERK’S OFFICE TO APPLY FOR A LICENSE? Yes. Both you and your partner must appear at the county clerk’s office to apply for a civil union license. You must each present proof of your identity, such as a current driver's license or state-issued photo identification. In addition, both you and your partner must sign the application in the presence of the county clerk. A representative cannot sign on one or both of your behalves, even if you have a power of attorney or notarized affidavit giving the representative authority to sign the application for you or your partner. WHAT DO WE DO WITH THE LICENSE? You must deliver the license to the person (referred to as an officiant) who will certify your civil union during the period of license validity. After the ceremony, the officiant will complete the date, place and officiant information and will sign your license. Your license then becomes a civil union certificate. The officiant must return the certificate to the county clerk’s office where it was issued within 10 days of the ceremony/certification so that it can be officially registered by the clerk. The certificate is not a complete legal document until it has been recorded in the county clerk's office where it was issued. WHO CAN CERTIFY OUR CIVIL UNION? Your civil union may be certified by a judge or retired judge of a court of record, a judge of the Court of Claims, a county clerk in a county having 2,000,000 or more residents, or a public official whose powers include solemnization of marriage. You may also have your civil union certified in accordance with the rules of any religion, Indian Nation or Tribe or Native Group, provided that any required officiant is in good standing. DO WE NEED TO HAVE A RELIGIOUS CEREMONY IN ORDER TO ENTER INTO A CIVIL UNION? No. Illinois does not require a religious ceremony to enter into a civil union. Your civil union may be certified by a religious official, but can also be certified by nonreligious officiant such as a judge or retired judge of a court of record, a judge of the Court of Claims, a county clerk in a county having 2,000,000 or more residents, or a public official whose powers include solemnization of marriage.
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FLORISTS Bouquets and boutonnieres are the typical flair at weddings. Whether you want to include these touches on the members of the wedding party, or sprinkle flower petals across the aisle, flowers add a touch of nature’s beauty to your ceremony. If you or a friend has a green thumb, why not select a one of a kind bouquet from the garden?
Anna Held Florist (773) 561-1940 www.annaheldflorist.com
Mount Prospect Flowers Inc. (847) 956-6000 www.mpflowers.com
City Scents Floral & Home (312) 836-0211 www.cityscents.com
Ashland Addison Florist Co (312) 432-8958 www.ashaddflorist.com
Flaire Design Studio (773) 632-7192 www.flairedesignstudio.com
Phillip's Flowers (630) 719-5200 www.phillips-flowers.com
Instincts Design Studio, Ltd (630) 665-8960 www.instinctsdesignstudio.com
Julia's Blooms (630) 639-6678 www.juliasblooms.com
Zuzu's Petals (708) 407-8976 www.zuzuspetalsfloral.com
All Flowers By Marisa (630) 690-2809 http://allflowersbymarisa.com
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CATERERS
Food at a wedding is always a focal point of the event. Some venues provide a list of caterers for you, while others will let you hire your own. Whether you choose to serve hors d’oeuvres or a five course meal, nosh on wedding classics or comfort food favorites, splurge or keep an eye on the budget, your guests will get a taste of perfection at your wedding.
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Hearty Boys (773) 244-9866 www.heartyboys.com
Kenmare Catering & Events (312) 787-0190 www.kenmarecatering.com
The Hearty Boys Caterers is one of Chicago’s best known and most sought after catering companies whose secret is no secret… they just love a party!
CORK Catering & Special Events (888) 932-3233 www.corkcatering.com
Conn’s Catering (773) 262-2666 www.connscatering.com
Food For Thought (847) 982-2608 www.fftchicago.com
J & L Catering (312) 280-7900 www.jandlcatering.com
Food Evolution Catering (847) 678-3663 foodevolutioncatering.com
Jewell Events Catering (847) 367-7400 www.georgejewell.com
Froggy’s Catering (847) 433-1560 www.froggyscatering.com
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DJs
& ENTERTAINMENT Different wedding receptions may call for different entertainment. Whether you want a DJ at the reception or a harpist at the ceremony, the type of entertainment can customize your special day. For the couple with a musical style all their own, one option is to make a playlist with suggestions from friends, songs that commemorate landmarks in your relationship, or tunes that make your guests want to get up and dance. Stax O Wax (847) 639-7829 http://www.staxowax.com
Elle Musique (773) 234-1885 http://ellemusique.com
Stax O Wax have over 28 years in the business and have won multiple awards for their customer service. They are experts at turning your wedding plans into a dream come true from the beginning of your wedding ceremony to the last song of the night, your plan for entertainment will be followed perfectly.
Artists, Events & Entertainment LLC (312) 832-1100 www.artistsandevents.com Music By Design (630) 262-0432 www.mymusicbydesign.com Show on the Road Productions (630) 357-4697 www.showontheroad.com
Stitely Entertainment (847) 866-8002 www.stitely.com Parkwest String Quartet (773) 412-7753 www.parkweststrings.com Matt Stedman Band (312) 981-8875 www.mattstedman.com Innocenti Strings LLC (773) 360-5405 www.innocentiquartet.com The Classic Harpist (877) HARP-578 www.theclassicharpist.com
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PHOTOGRAPHERS & VIDEOGRAPHERS When the party is over and you and your partner have wed, you may want something to commemorate your special day. Booking a wedding photographer and videographer to capture your wedding will ensure that you never forget your incredible event! If you don’t want to go this route, you can personalize your reception by providing disposable cameras for your guests to document the festivities from their own perspectives, getting a range of photographs for a fraction of the price. You can also designate a talented friend or family member as the photographer. Julia Franzosa (773) 342-1280 www.julia-franzosa.com Julia is an on-location, natural light fine art wedding photographer known for taking beautiful images throughout the Chicagoland area and to destination weddings worldwide. She is known for her relaxed style and photojournalistic approach that makes clients feel comfortable and creates the best outcome.
Borrowed and Blue (630) 965-9234 www.borrowedandblueprods.com Borrowed and Blue is a Chicagoland based production company specializing in high-end wedding videos. They have over 30 years of experience and an assortment of package options at competitive prices.
Dartise Photography (773) 255-5221 http://www.dartise.com
Joe Gallo Photography (708) 203-0379 www.joegallophotography.com Lisa Howe-Ebright Photography (708) 771-5162 www.lhephoto.com r3mg (312) 493-7413 www.r3mg.com Real Life Weddings (773) 509-9393 www.reallifeweddings.com Rick Aguilar Studios (773) 478-6607 www.rickaguilar.com The Artful Photographer (773) 495-0228 www.artfulphotographer.com Photography by Larry Burrows (708) 308-6583 www.burrowsphotography.com
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PLANNING YOUR
HONEYMOON
Many couples decide to take a honeymoon after they’ve said their vows. Some have fantasized about a dream destination for years, while others establish their honeymoon itinerary during the wedding planning process. We’ve compiled a list of LGBT-focused, or just LBGT friendly destinations. Whether you and your partner see yourselves strolling hand and hand down a sandy beach, through an eclectic art gallery, or past ancient ruins, you’ll find a location that fits your idea of paradise. Bon Voyage!
UNITED STATES OF AMERICA Key West, FL: Sophisticated yet spunky, Key West is a unique tropical destination for LGBT couples. Bask in the sun by day and take in the vibrant entertainment options by night, while partaking in LBGT focused excursions and attractions. Don’t forget the sun block! Fire Island, NY: Fire Island has a rich LBGT vacation history, and remains popular among artists, actors, and musicians. Stay in The Pines, with hotels, nightlife and gorgeous beaches, or rent a home in Cherry Grove, which attracts couples of all ages. If you and your partner are allergic to gridlock, look no further: this car-free beach getaway provides a tranquil alternative, with vacationers biking their way past the lighthouses and boardwalks. Provincetown, MA: For a New England honeymoon, set your sights on the Cape. With natural beauty, a rich arts scene, and a vibrant LGBT community, Provincetown provides a peaceful, engaging atmosphere. Lose hours as you and your partner explore the three-mile stretch of town loaded with art galleries, shops, restaurants, and spas. Rehoboth, DE: “The Nation’s Summer Capital,” Rehoboth is a stunning ocean side destination with a dynamic LGBT scene. Blissfully stroll down the mile-long boardwalk of this Mid Atlantic gem, and avoid the crowds of more well-known beach towns. Located less than 2 hours away from Washington D.C., Boston and Philadelphia, Rehoboth provides a quick getaway for local couples. Saugatuck, MI: Priding itself on being one of the most LGBT friendly small towns in the country, Saugatuck is nestled on the
shores of Lake Michigan. Whether sailing, sunning or sipping wine by the shore, Chicago couples will find a getaway— without airport security or hours in the air— that feels worlds away. Ft. Lauderdale, FL: Consistently ranked one of the most LGBT friendly U.S. cities, Ft. Lauderdale is known for its tropical location and beautiful beaches. The city prides itself on having over 100 gay owned businesses, as well as a calmer location then Miami or other Florida getaways. If you and your partner crave sand between your toes and sunset strolls along the water, jet over to Ft. Lauderdale! Miami, FL: Miami: the city with the beach. If you are looking for some of the best LGBT nightlife, coupled with a friendly atmosphere and environment, amazing cuisine, and a retro vibe, then Miami is the place for you! See and be seen with the beautiful Miami residents, and have a honeymoon you’ll never forget. Palm Springs, CA: If you’re California dreamin’, Palm Springs may be the perfect honeymoon spot for you. Boasting 330+ days of summer, Palm Springs is located in the southern California desert. Known for amazing hiking, biking, and breathtaking scenery, Palm Springs allows couples to take a walk on the adventurous side, and come back with stories and memories to last a lifetime.
INTERNATIONAL DESTINATIONS
Want to get away to a country that recognizes marriages between same-sex couples? Here are destinations across the globe that will recognize your nuptials and give you the trip of a lifetime.
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Buenos Aires, Argentina- Shall we dance? Buenos Aires is the home of the tango, and it has been called the Paris of South America. Buenos Aires is as cosmopolitan as they come, renowned for its film, music, fashion and culture. Pick up vintage trinkets at a street market or designer goods, enjoy Galician cuisine, and brush up on your Spanish as you and your partner take in the sensual, incredible city. Belgium- Split into three language communities, depending on where you are in Belgium, you could overhear conversations in Dutch, French, or German. The multicultural country provides historical sites and is a perfect site to visit from France or the Netherlands. Chocolate lovers? Indulge yourselves on authentic Belgian chocolates! Montreal, Canada- Montreal, in Quebec, is a Francophone city with nightlife to die for. Its eclectic mix of cultures provides for fantastic cuisine and historical sites, and the cosmopolitan couple could wander the streets for hours, sampling chic pastries while ducking into spas and galleries for rest, relaxation, and culture. Snuggle up in the winter or hit the town in the summer in Montreal for the honeymoon of a lifetime. Vancouver, Canada- With the Pacific to the West and the sprawl of the North Shore Mountains to the East, Vancouver is a modern city with much to offer. Skiiers will delight in the three nearby ski areas in the winter, while in the warmer months, adventurous types can partake in whitewater rafting and hiking. After a long day in the wilderness, allow yourself to be pampered in a spa downtown, or take in a massage for two with your partner. Iceland- Tour Iceland with your loved one! From small villages like Vik (only 291 year-round inhabitants!), one of the ten most beautiful beaches in the world, to hot springs, mountains, and breathtaking waterfalls, the small country is a hotbed of natural wonders for the nature lover in you. A tranquil, peaceful alternative to more urban honeymoons. Israel- Take your honeymoon in the birthplace of Western religions, and take in sites of religious and historical significance a world away from the United States. SCUBA dive in the Dead Sea, or just take advantage of the therapeutic properties of the Dead
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Sea’s resources at one of the pampering health spa resorts. Amsterdam, Netherlands- Upscale hotels, hip, relaxed nightlife and sharp boutiques sit alongside impressive landmarks, homes and haunts of the famous, and riverside cafes. Amsterdam is an essential stop on any Euro trip, but you and your partner could spend the entirety of your honeymoon exploring the side streets and quirky offerings of this famed city. Bergen, Norway- Featuring Norway’s famous coastline fjords, Bergen is a storybook town with stores and galleries to explore, as well as a trolley to the top of nearby mountains to take in an incredible view of the sea side town below. Walk down cobblestone streets to the harbor, and nosh on the catch of the day: the lobster and fish are world renowned! Lisbon, Portugal- Exquisite architecture, rich history, and seaside bliss await you in Portugal. Lisbon is the perfect intersection of a metropolitan city and a beach side resort, giving you and your partner the best of both worlds to explore during your romantic getaway. Cape Town, South Africa- A hotbed for expats and cosmopolitan travelers, Cape Town provides an exotic, picturesque honeymoon spot where the mountains meet the sea. Travel during your vacation up to Kruger National Park, sleeping in a safari lodge with giraffes and elephants as neighbors. Granada, Spain- Nestled at the foot of the Sierra Nevada mountains, Granada boasts beautiful and historic architecture, chic European boutiques, and delectable eats (the sangria is not to be missed!) Stroll through the gardens at the Alhambra and take in the breathtaking panoramic views of the city, or enjoy world class skiing mere miles from the city! Sweden- Begin with bistros, bars, and Baltic views in historic Stockholm, and make your way across the country, taking in the Northern lights in Lapland: “the land of the midnight sun,” and home of the world famous Icehotel, where you can sleep in a room made of ice and snow. A couple’s sauna keeps the chill away, and the wonders of Sweden will keep you talking about this honeymoon for years to come.
INVITATION DESIGNERS & PRINTERS
Whether you want to do it yourself or hire someone, everyone needs to know when and where the event will take place. These are your guest’s first impression of your event. Throw an invitation party with your friends, and involve them in your special journey, laughing over memories and creating unique invitations. For the green couple, consider an e-vite or a paperless alternative. Don’t forget postage! Noteworthy Notes (773) 661-1333 www.noteworthynotes.com
Spilled Ink Press (773) 754-7331 www.spilledinkpress.com
Carnelian Creative (708) 406-9520 www.carneliancreative.com
Erickson Design Unique Invitations (773) 283 4988 http://ericksondesign.com
DBY Custom Invitations (847) 755-0861 www.designedbyyouinvitations.com Jack Sprat (815) 988-5918 www.jackspratparties.com
Invitations Etc, Inc (630) 326-9546 www.invetc.com
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TUXEDO AND DRESS SHOPS Whether you want to go fancy or casual, wear a suit or a dress, or spend an hour or five preparing, you will definitely be looking good on your wedding day with some of these options. Unleash your passion for fashion, or accentuate your look with special touches like heirlooms from family members or nostalgic tokens from your relationship.
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Dimitra's Bridal Couture (312) 787-0920 www.dimitrasbridal.com
Dame Couture (847) 866-7599 www.damecouture.com
A L'Amour (847) 381-5858 www.alamour.com
Shelley's Bridal (847) 426-5806 www.shelleysbridal.com
Reddington Bridal (847) 692-4600 www.reddingtonbridal.com
Kathryn's Bridal (815) 385-7330 www.kathryns-bridal.com
Savvi Formalwear (847) 965-5565 www.savviformalwear.com
Royal Bridal & Tuxedo (630) 516-0050 www.royal-bridal.com
Kasia's Bridal & Special Occasion Boutique (773) 286-0320 www.kasiasbridal.com
Black Tie Formalwear (866) 425-2280 www.blacktietuxes.com
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THE PERFECT COMMITMENT CEREMONY RIGHT AT YOUR FINGERTIPS. Chicagoland JW Marriott®, Renaissance® and Marriott® Hotels provide magnificent venues for ceremonies honoring you and your partner. You’ll experience impeccable service, attention to detail and certified planning experts who will stop at nothing to make your dream ceremony a reality. JW Marriott Chicago 312-660-8200 Renaissance Blackstone Chicago Hotel 312-447-0955 Renaissance Chicago Downtown Hotel 312-372-7200 Renaissance Chicago O’Hare Suites Hotel 773-380-9600 Renaissance Schaumburg Convention Center Hotel 847-303-4100 Chicago Marriott Downtown Magnificent Mile 312-836-0100 Chicago Marriott O’Hare 773-693-4444 For more information, visit MarriottCeremony.com or contact the hotel directly to speak with a Certified Wedding Planner.
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