Contents THE PERFECT DAY: PLANNING CALENDAR Page 4
CREATING A WEDDING TIMELINE Page 10
INVITATION WORKSHEET
ENGAGEMENT PARTY GUEST LIST
THE REHEARSAL DINNER
DANCE WITH CONFIDENCE
THE WEDDING REGISTRY
REHEARSAL DINNER GUEST LIST
MUSIC MOMENTS
WHAT'S A WEDDING PLANNER?
THE FINAL FLINGS
DON'T STRESS THE DRESS Page 20
DRESS TRENDS AND SILHOUETTES Page 22
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PREPARATION BUDGET LIST Page 27
HOW TO BUILD A BUDGET Page 28
MODERN & RUSTIC BOUQUETS Page 49
FLORAL SAVINGS Page 50
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CHOOSING A VENUE Page 56
PERSONALIZE YOUR CEREMONY Page 58
UNITY CEREMONIES Page 59
WEDDING TECHNOLOGY
RELIGIOUS CEREMONIES
PRESERVING YOUR DRESS
ETHNIC WEDDINGS
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CRAFTING WEDDING KEEPSAKES THE RIGHT DRESS FOR MOM Page 32
MAKEUP TRENDS Page 34
HAIR TRENDS Page 36
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WEDDING CAKE TRENDS WEDDING CAKE PLANS
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WEDDING PARTY ROLES
WEDDING COSTS
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FLORAL TRENDS
BRIDAL PARTY ATTIRE Page 25
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WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHY
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ORDERING ALCOHOL
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DON'T SACRIFICE COMFORT
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ENGAGEMENT PARTIES
Terri Leifeste
BOONVILLE DAILY NEWS
WEDDING TRANSPORTATION
THE SIGNATURE COCKTAIL
PUBLISHER
For more information or to receive a copy of the 2019-20 Wedding Planner, contact Aaron Consalvi at aconsalvi@ columbiatribune.com or 573.815.1903.
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DRESS CODE
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Erin Chambers Paul Dziuba Nisan Harlow Devan Kirkpatrick Jake Lichman Mackenzie Philippe Wanda Rholfing Ryan Shiner
RENTING A TUXEDO
OUTDOOR WEDDINGS
THE GROOM'S RING
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DESIGN & PRODUCTION
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HOW TO MAIL THE INVITES
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James Bailey Kathy Dugan Ellie Ferrell Jill Gates Hailee Hansen Tara Oberlag Derek Teter Lisa Wells
THE GROOM'S CALENDAR
THE DO IT YOURSELF RECEPTION
GROOMSMEN ATTIRE
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SALES
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STAFF
SHORT HAIRSTYLES
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CEREMONY NOTES Page 63
THE SECOND WEDDING Page 64
PERSONALIZING YOUR VOWS Page 66
WEDDING RECEPTION TIPS Page 68
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WEDDING DAY PACKING LIST Page 84
TIPPING YOUR VENDORS Page 85
TOASTS: DOS AND DON'TS Page 86
CHOOSING THE RIGHT CATERER Page 87
CATERING TIPS Page 88
THE RECEPTION MENU Page 89
HONEYMOON TIPS Page 90
HONEYMOON PACKING LIST Page 91
AFTER THE HONEYMOON Page 92
WRITING THANK YOU NOTES Page 94
MAKING IT OFFICIAL Page 95
NOTES Page 96
BUSINESS DIRECTORY Page 98
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The Perfect Day Finally! The moment you have dreamed of your entire life: the man of your dreams has popped the question and you said YES! Now you can begin planning the wedding you’ve always wanted. What better way to celebrate your love and commitment to your partner than a beautiful wedding? Of course, there is plenty of work that must go into planning a wedding. But don’t fret! It’s your wedding, which means you and your groom choose how large or small it is. Don’t feel pressured to have a huge, over-the-top wedding if it’s not in your budget, or if you just aren’t a fan of that. Smaller, more intimate weddings can be just as lovely; it’s all in the planning. First of all, take a moment to imagine your wedding ceremony. Brainstorm about how you’d like your reception to be. Think about the things you want to include to make your big day truly special to you and unique to your guests. Once you have mentally envisioned an ideal wedding and reception, the next step is to take action! Here is a timeline checklist to help you take care of business in the months, weeks and days leading up to your big day.
9-12 M ONTH S before the wedding
SET THE DATE. If you plan to be married in a church, temple, mosque or in a religious service at home, clear the day and time with your clergy.
ANNOUNCE YOUR ENGAGEMENT. Place your engagement announcement in your local newspaper.
SET THE BUDGET AND STYLE. Consider your wedding, reception and parties. Establish who pays for what.
ENLIST HELP. Consider hiring a bridal consultant. If your budget won’t stretch that far, ask relatives and close friends to assist you in specific tasks — selecting a dress, interviewing caterers, locating a reception site — especially in areas where you feel you need support.
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COMPOSE YOUR GUEST LIST. Let out-of-town guests know your wedding is in the works so they can make travel plans.
RESERVE YOUR RECEPTION SITE. CHOOSE YOUR ATTENDANTS. DECIDE ON ATTIRE. Select your gown, shoes and accessories, as well as bridesmaids’ dresses, tuxes, flower girl dresses, etc.
DETERMINE THEME/MOOD. This is reflected in the food, table settings, decorations, flowers and entertainment.
INTERVIEW VENDORS. Meet with vendors, such as caterers, musicians, florists, photographers, videographers and bakers. Get cost estimates from each.
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S IX M ONTHS before the wedding
SELECT YOUR COLOR SCHEME. SHOP FOR WEDDING RINGS. DECIDE ON YOUR HONEYMOON DESTINATION.
SELECT A BAKER AND ORDER THE WEDDING CAKE. CHOOSE YOUR FLORIST.
SELECT YOUR INVITATIONS. Don’t forget to purchase personal stationery for the thank you notes.
CHOOSE YOUR CATERER. Remember to get a written contract.
CHOOSE YOUR MUSICIAN(S). BOOK YOUR PHOTOGRAPHER AND/OR VIDEOGRAPHER.
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F O U R M ONTHS
T H REE MO N T HS
REGISTER FOR GIFTS AT ONE OR MORE BRIDAL REGISTRIES.
C AREFULLY PREPARE DIRECTIONS.
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HELP BOTH MOTHERS COORDINATE AND SHOP FOR WEDDING DAY ATTIRE. SELECT MUSIC FOR YOUR CEREMONY & RECEPTION.
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Include maps, if necessary, to help guide guests to the wedding reception and hotels. Consider assembling an information package for guests traveling long distances.
BEGIN ADDRESSING INVITATIONS AND ANNOUNCEMENTS. Invitations should be mailed 6-8 weeks before the wedding day.
CHOOSE AND RESERVE A REHEARSAL DINNER LOCATION.
PROVIDE FOOD VENDORS AN ESTIMATED NUMBER OF GUESTS.
ARRANGE ACCOMMODATIONS FOR OUT-OF-TOWN WEDDING PARTY MEMBERS.
ENSURE HONEYMOON TRAVEL RESERVATIONS ARE PLACED.
Reserve a block of rooms for other out-of-town guests, and let them know the hotel information.
RESERVE WEDDING DAY TRANSPORTATION AND ANY OTHER RENTAL NEEDS. MAKE APPOINTMENTS FOR GOWN FITTINGS. CHECK THE REQUIREMENTS FOR A MARRIAGE LICENSE. ENSURE CONTRACTS AND ARRANGEMENTS ARE COMPLETE WITH ALL SERVICE PROVIDERS.
ENSURE BRIDESMAIDS HAVE ACQUIRED & TAILORED GOWNS. SHOP FOR BRIDESMAID GIFTS. Offer to help your fiancé select gifts for his attendants.
SELECT A "GOING AWAY" OUTFIT AND SPECIAL TROUSSEAU ITEMS. MAKE AN APPOINTMENT TO HAVE FORMAL PORTRAITS TAKEN. Have your hair done just before your portrait session and again on your wedding day. Consider including your bridesmaid in a "beauty day" before the wedding with manicures, hair styling, massages and makeup sessions.
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O N E MO N T H before the wedding
OBTAIN YOUR MARRIAGE LICENSE. HAVE A FINAL GOWN FITTING. CHECK THAT ALL ATTENDANTS HAVE THEIR ATTIRE. ENSURE MENU SELECTIONS, PLANS AND NUMBER OF GUESTS ARE COMMUNICATED TO CATERERS.
T WO M ONTHS before the wedding
KEEP TRACK OF WEDDING GIFTS AS THEY ARRIVE. Purchase a book for this purpose, and write those thank you notes on a daily basis!
MAIL OUT WEDDING INVITES AND ANNOUNCEMENTS. HAVE BRIDAL PORTRAITS TAKEN. SEND BRIDAL PORTRAIT AND WEDDING ANNOUNCEMENT TO LOCAL NEWSPAPERS. MEET WITH MUSICIANS TO FINALIZE CEREMONY MUSIC. Convey precisely what you want and when. Don't be shy to voice your preferences from mood to volume; point out songs you don't want played!
PLAN REHEARSAL DINNER AND A BRUNCH FOR YOUR OUT-OF-TOWN GUESTS. PLAN A LUNCHEON FOR YOUR BRIDESMAIDS. MAKE APPOINTMENTS WITH A HAIRDRESSER, MAKEUP ARTIST AND MANICURIST. FINALIZE HONEYMOON PLANS. If you are traveling overseas, check again that your passports are current and that you have acquired any necessary visas.
GATHER ANY BAPTISMAL OR BIRTH CERTIFICATES NEEDED FOR YOUR MARRIAGE LICENSE.
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DRAW UP A SEATING PLAN. Create place cards in the event of a formal reception.
CHECK WITH YOUR FLORIST TO CONFIRM DATES AND TIMES OF FLOWER DELIVERIES. REVIEW YOUR WEDDING DAY TRANSPORTATION PLAN. Make sure drivers are clear about addresses, times and the number of passengers.
PREPARE FOR NAME AND/OR ADDRESS CHANGES. Including driver's license, social security forms and financial accounts. Fill out change-of-address forms at the Post Office.
ARRANGE GIFT DELIVERY. Ask a friend or family member to coordinate wedding gift delivery to your home or another safe location following the wedding reception.
WRAP GIFTS FOR ATTENDANTS. PURCHASE TRAVELERS' CHECKS & CONFIRM HONEYMOON PLANS. CONFIRM THAT OUT-OF-TOWN GUESTS HAVE ACCOMMODATIONS, TRANSPORTATION & DIRECTIONS. MEET WITH PHOTOGRAPHER. Specify formal shots you want taken of bridal party as well as candid shots to be taken during the reception.
TH RE E W E E K S before the wedding
CONTINUE WRITING THANK YOU NOTES FOR WEDDING GIFTS. PICK UP WEDDING RINGS. BEGIN PACKING FOR YOUR HONEYMOON TRIP. TOUCH BASE WITH ALL YOUR VENDORS AND PREPARE A CHECK FOR EACH.
ONE DAY
before the wedding
ELAX! R Take time to enjoy a massage, manicure and pedicure.
ATTEND AND ENJOY THE REHEARSAL CEREMONY AND REHEARSAL DINNER.
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Creating a Wedding Timeline Wedding timelines can be confusing when you’ve never created one — even if you’ve attended a lot of weddings, you probably haven’t paid much attention to how long each individual aspect lasted. The best way to keep your wedding day moving and on schedule is to work it out ahead of time. Below is a worksheet you can use to estimate and schedule each event of your big day.
TIME
EVENT
SAMPLE TIMELINE MAKEUP & HAIR 9:30 a.m.
GETTING READY, PHOTOS BEGIN 10:00 a.m.
SET UP STARTS, VENDORS ARRIVE 10:00 a.m.
COUPLE'S PORTRAITS 10:30 a.m.
FAMILY PHOTOS 11:15 a.m.
GUESTS BEGIN TO ARRIVE 11:30 a.m.
WEDDING START TIME PER INVITATIONS 1:30 p.m.
CEREMONY BEGINS 2:00 p.m.
CEREMONY ENDS 2:30 p.m.
SOCIAL HOUR, FAMILY PHOTOS 2:40 p.m.
LUNCH SERVICE BEGINS 3:30 p.m.
TOASTS 4:00 p.m.
FIRST DANCE 4:30 p.m.
CUTTING THE CAKE 6:00 p.m.
COUPLE DEPARTS 7:15 p.m.
GUESTS DEPART 7:30 p.m.
BREAKDOWN BEGINS 7:30 p.m.
ALL VENDORS OUT 8:30 p.m.
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Invitation Worksheet INVITATION OPTION ONE INVITATION SHOP: CONTACT PERSON: ADDRESS: PHONE NUMBER: ORDER DATE:
ARRIVAL DATE:
STYLE: PAPER COLOR:
INK COLOR:
QUANTITY:
PRICE:
INVITATION OPTION TWO INVITATION SHOP: CONTACT PERSON: ADDRESS: PHONE NUMBER: ORDER DATE:
ARRIVAL DATE:
STYLE: PAPER COLOR:
INK COLOR:
QUANTITY:
PRICE:
INVITATION OPTION THREE INVITATION SHOP: CONTACT PERSON: ADDRESS: PHONE NUMBER: ORDER DATE:
ARRIVAL DATE:
STYLE: PAPER COLOR:
INK COLOR:
QUANTITY:
PRICE:
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How to Mail the Invites YES, IT'S MORE THAN JUST AN ENVELOPE AND A STAMP! There’s a method to the madness in putting together your wedding invitation package. Here are some steps that will make this task much more efficient — possibly even fun — and hopefully less time-consuming.
1. STAMP AND ADDRESS YOUR RESPONSE CARDS & ENVELOPES. You’re helping your guests to respond when you allow them to easily reply by simply dropping the stamped reply card in the mail. The benefit to you and your wedding is that you get a much more accurate head count for the reception. It is perfectly acceptable for you to write these out or use printed labels.
2. STUFF ENVELOPES WITH THE WEDDING INVITE PACKAGE. • Place your wedding invitation down with the wording side up. • Place your reception card, also wording side up, on top of the invitation. • Place your response card, wording side up, under its envelope flap and place on top of the reception card. • If you have other items like directions, accommodation details, any other enclosures, repeat the process — like things go with like things. • Place your invitation package (all wording facing up) inside the inner envelope — this envelope holds the invitation package. Next, place the inner envelope inside the outer envelope.
3. HAVE ONE INVITATION PACKAGE WEIGHED AT THE POST OFFICE. Better safe than sorry. Take the envelope in to the post office and find out how much postage you need on the envelope. Buy some pretty stamps for your invitation.
4. STAMP & MAIL OUTER ENVELOPES. • Place your stamps on the envelope and send them out 8 weeks prior to the wedding — a few weeks earlier for a destination wedding. • Take your invites to the post office; they’re ready to send out!
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Engagement Parties Engagement parties are held two to four months after the engagement. If your engagement is going to be a short one, do not have an engagement party. Instead, let your friends know, send save-the-date cards for the wedding, and plan for that wonderful day.
sitting down to a good meal. For a formal party at a country club or other upscale location, match the invites to the food and make it grand with a cocktail hour, musicians or a DJ, dancing and dinner.
If your engagement is long, you have an opportunity to introduce your future in-laws, family members, and friends — everyone gets to know each other. The party can be backyard casual, a meal at a favorite or sentimental restaurant, or a more formal affair at the club. The good news is the choice is yours — no worries about etiquette, invite the people you love who love you right back. The party should reflect the style of the bride and groom.
While some parties are theme-based, one of the nicest and most meaningful moments in an engagement party is to have a compilation of home movies, slides, or photos of the bride and groom from babyhood to adulthood.
The hosts of the party are the bride’s parents, the groom’s parents, a combination of the two, a family friend, or the bride and groom host and throw this soirée for themselves. Only invite people you are inviting to the wedding.
Make sure that toasts to the couple are prepared. Start the toasts about two-
THE CHOICE IS YOURS. DON'T WORRY ABOUT ETIQUETTE; INVITE THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE WHO LOVE YOU RIGHT BACK.
Your venue will set the tone for everything: invitations, food and décor. The number of guests will determine the expense. Decide who will attend (the number of people will help determine your party location) and then reserve a space that can accommodate everyone. Make that reservation at least a month prior to the party, then decide on a menu, drinks and timeframe. If you’re having a backyard barbecue, everything from the invitations to food and décor will be casual and personal. You can play games, have music, dance, talk, get to know each other. If you’re having a brunch, think about having a golf time for the guys, and perhaps a spa day for the women — just make sure everyone gets a chance to mingle at breakfast. Maybe you want a dessert party — everything you do sets the tone and the theme. If you’re at a restaurant, order a menu in advance that accommodates all tastes and decide what wine pairs with these foods (beer and soft drinks should also be available.) Doing this in advance keeps your costs in line. The invites can reflect the restaurant — perhaps it’s where you met or a favorite spot you frequent, perhaps it reflects your ethnicity — this sets the tone for your invitations. Consider a cocktail hour for restaurants so people have time to mingle before
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thirds of the way into the event. If friends are the hosts, they make the first toast. If the parents are the hosts, the father of the bride goes first, then the father of the groom goes next. After that, anyone can toast and roast the happy couple. Make sure you have champagne flutes and plenty of bubbly for all the toasts to come. At the end of the party, be sure to thank the hosts and guests!
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The Wedding Registry The first thing to do when registering for your wedding gifts is to take an inventory of both your homes to see what you need or want. If you're just starting out, the list below will suffice. If you have an established household, you may not need new china or a food processor. If so, you may want to edit the suggested list below and add some unique items.
FOR T HE
B AT H R OOM 2 bathrobes 1 bath mat 1 bathroom rug 2 bath sheets 4-6 bath towels 4-6 hand towels 4-6 washcloths 1 shower curtain 1 shower liner 1 soap dish 1 toothbrush holder 1 water glass 1 lotion dispenser 1 soap dispenser 1 laundry hamper 2 waste baskets 1 hair dryer
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EXTRAS Candlesticks & vases Extension cords Luggage Stereo system Christmas ornaments Holiday dĂŠcor Fireplace tools Vacuum cleaner Garden shovel & shears Weed eater & lawn mower Toolbox & tools Patio furniture & furnishings Barbecue grill
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B EDR O O M 1 comforter/duvet cover 1 duvet 1 dust Ruffle 2 blankets (cotton or wool) 1 mattress 1 mattress pad 1 box spring 2 sets of sheets 2-4 pillows Shams
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DINING ROOM 1 large salad bowl 1 set serving utensils 8-12 cups and saucers 8-12 drinking glasses 8-12 mugs 8-12 wine glasses 8-12 cloth napkins 8-12 napkin rings 8-12 china place settings 8-12 casual place settings 8-12 steak knives 8-12 silver place settings 8-12 everyday place settings 2-4 serving platters/trays 1 set salt & pepper shakers 1 set covered dishes Flatware 1 teapot 2 tablecloths
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K I T C HE N 3 baking sheets 1 air fryer 1 coffee maker 2 cutting boards 1 Dutch oven 1 pizza plate 1 crock pot 1 food processor 1 knife block Knife set 1 microwave 2 oven mitts 2 round cake pans 2 set pots and pans 1 electric skillet 1 pasta pot 1 strainer 1 set measuring cups 1 pitcher 1 pizza cutter 1 standing mixer 1 set mixing bowls 1 toaster 1 toaster oven 1 ice cream maker 1 whisk 2 wooden spoons 3 spatulas 1 soup tureen 1 picnic basket 1 insulated cooler 1 broom & dustpan Barware Tupperware, assorted sizes
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What's a Wedding Planner? As the bride, you want to take special care and linger over your hair and makeup on your wedding day, but instead you are decorating the reception hall dressed in sweats and a ponytail. Not what you always pictured? What you need is a wedding planner. Wedding planners are experts in the details and schedules involved in weddings. These coordinators can help plan the vision from the beginning, get you started, or take responsibility for a smooth event on the big day. They have contacts with other service providers, and they should be familiar with costs and current trends.
WHEN TO HIRE A WEDDING PLANNER TIME-WISE
Optimally, a wedding planner should be the first service to book when brides actively begin planning a wedding, even if that is a year or more in advance. However, planners can work with short turnaround too. Some brides may want to do much of the legwork themselves and only have the planner actively involved in the last few weeks before the wedding.
MENTAL HEALTH-WISE
Planning a wedding is stressful and emotional, with dozens of decisions to make. Brides with full-time careers may want to hire out some of that stress. Also, indecisive brides who aren’t sure how to bring their ideas to fruition may want assistance. Wedding planners are enthusiastic supporters, sympathetic listeners and a neutral person when clashes of opinion occur with relatives or bridal party members.
TIPS FOR PICKING A WEDDING PLANNER Keep these things in mind when selecting your planner. •T here is no official qualification to become a planner. •R eputation is key. Other than personal references, planners can hold memberships in organizations that require a credible reputation to join, such as the Better Business Bureau or Angie’s List. •E xperience is the most valuable credential for an event planner. •P lanners must be extremely organized, coping with many stressful situations with a calm exterior. •U ltimately, it’s about rapport and trust. The most important question to answer is whether you can work cohesively and intimately with this individual on one of the most memorable events of your life.
WHAT TASKS A WEDDING PLANNER TACKLES Approaches and prices vary by wedding expert. Planners may charge a percentage of the total wedding budget, by the hour, or offer service packages. One of the most popular coordination packages is for the professional to take charge the last four to eight weeks before the wedding, allowing the bride to focus on pre-wedding festivities. Here are the services most planners offer. •P rovide ongoing consultation for all things wedding. •D evelop a customized budget plan. •P rovide a schedule and month-to-month planning checklist. •A ssist with vendor selection, providing a list of suitable and reputable vendors as needed. •A ccompany bride to vendor meetings and review contracts. •C oordinate all vendors in advance and on the day of the wedding. •A ssist with selecting the design/style of the wedding and/or reception. •B e a resource on wedding etiquette and traditions. •D irect attendants, rehearsals, processionals, recessionals and receiving lines. •C oordinate wedding day decorating, vendor deliveries and services, ceremony and reception. •E nsure all post-event tasks are taken care of after the couple leaves — gifts secured, rentals returned, gratuities paid, clean-up completed.
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Don't Stress the Dress The wedding day is the time when all attention is on the bride. She is the beautiful princess marrying her knight in shining armor — bejeweled and bedecked in a glorious gown. You want to look your very best. How do you achieve this? Add fitness training to your wedding to-do list.
TRY ON GOWNS FOR MOTIVATION Sometimes all it takes to get motivated to start a fitness program is trying on a few wedding dresses. Do you look a bit lumpy under that tight-fitting bodice? Do you want to go sleeveless but not until your arms are toned up? Pick the dress you love and then get to work!
STICK TO YOUR FITNESS PLAN If sticking to a healthy diet and a fitness program is hard for you, consider getting in shape with a buddy or hire a personal trainer. Sometimes being accountable to another person helps. Ditch the junk food in your fridge and pantry and restock with healthful foods and snacks. It’s harder to be tempted by sugary and fatty foods when they are not within easy reach. Keep a cooler filled with healthy choices in your car when you’re traveling to keep on track with your nutrition goals.
BRIDAL TRAINING
Many personal trainers recommend starting a fitness plan at least six months in advance of the wedding date. If the bride has more than 20 pounds to lose, budget more time. Good, basic exercises include lunges, squats and kettle-bell swings. For the arms, try tricep kickbacks where you lean over holding threepound to five-pound weights at the chest and extend the arms back toward the rear. With the shoulders, keep the weight light. Form, technique and movements must be slow and precise to avoid injury.
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For the midsection, reverse crunches work well. Lie flat on the floor with your palms facing down. Lift your legs up in the air with knees bent until your butt comes off the floor.
EAT FRESH ALL DAY Forget three square meals a day, most trainers advise. Eat five to six small meals a day from the time you first wake up and then every two to three hours. The meals should include lean proteins such as turkey, chicken and fish. A little bit of lean beef is acceptable too. Roughage is important so salads are a good choice. Fresh fruits and vegetables can fill you up and satisfy a sweet tooth. And you still need some carbohydrates, which are essential for muscle recovery, according to health experts. Hydration is important too, so up the water intake.
Sodas are off-limits, even diet sodas because of the unhealthy ingredients and bloating. Limit caffeine, a diuretic, to two cups of coffee or tea a day. Also avoid processed foods, fast foods and fried foods.
REST AND RELAX!
In this state of increased pressure, stress may build and health could falter. According to a Cornell University study, more than 70 percent of brides-to-be have weight loss on the brain, but shedding pounds shouldn't be the only factor to consider. Those who go full-throttle may burn out. Stress can weaken the immune system and make people vulnerable to illness. Schedule some time for date nights with your fiancé, and don't overlook the benefits of hanging out with friends and getting away from wedding planning for a bit.
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Dress Trends & Silhouettes Many brides-to-be visit bridal shops with specific goals in mind regarding the style of their wedding gowns. Some women come equipped with magazine tear-outs or pull up ideas on their mobile phones. Others may have an entire scrapbook filled with various ideas they've been compiling for years. Ultimately, you buy the dress you love – the dress that makes you feel like a bride. In the process, you pore over magazines and tear out photos of the gowns you like. You search websites until you’re bleary-eyed. You watch ‘Say YES to the DRESS’ and cheer when the bride finds the YES DRESS. You want to say YES! Along the way, you note the trends you like, the ones you don’t, and those you find (surprisingly) that attract you. On the following pages are some samples of style trends for 2019.
PLUNGING V-NECK
A V-neck empire dress is flattering for most women, but specifically flatters a fuller figure. The V-neck draws attention to the neckline and the empire dress flows cleanly over the body.
EMPIRE WAIST
An empire waist dress is a forgiving style and appeals to many brides. It is especially complimentary for a pear-shaped figure and covers problem areas. The silhouette also creates balance by flowing over the body.
BALL GOWN
A ball gown is a dress that most brides admire and is ideal for both slender and pear-shaped figures. A fitted bodice and a full skirt can flatter many body shapes depending on the style of the top of the dress. A corset top flatters the bustline, but can make a large bust look too large
2019 Trend: 2019 Trend:
Silhouette:
FLIRTY BACK
E M P I R E WA I S T
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SIMPLE ELEGANCE
Silhouette:
MERMAID
if the V-neck is too deep. A sweetheart neckline enhances an hourglass figure. A dropped waist ball gown flatters a small waist. Beware the ball gown because it can overwhelm a small frame.
TRUMPET GOWN
The Trumpet gown is flattering on a tall and slender figure. If you are evenly proportioned, it works well on your body too. The neckline you choose can determine the creation of curves or the camouflage of problem areas.
A-LINE DRESS
An A-Line dress is flattering for most women, but is a good choice for a larger body. The shape elongates the body creating a slimming effect. For a thin body, it creates an illusion of curves if you add a belt.
2019 Trend:
LACE BACK
SHEATH DRESS
The Sheath dress is a timeless and elegant style. This style suits a petite figure and small framed women. The style elongates the body. Because the simple style flows neatly over the body, problem areas can be accentuated.
THE BOTTOM LINE
Know what to highlight and what to cover up! No two body types are the same, and many women feel certain parts of their bodies are their best assets while they want to downplay others. Try on gowns that play up your best features. If you have shapely legs, consider a dramatic gown with a slit to show them off. Certain gowns can enhance the chest or show off an hourglass shape. Remember, many gowns can be modified so that you feel secure and confident. Sleeves can be added or fabric placed to cover up any perceived flaws.
2019 Trend:
2019 Trend:
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Confidence and pride are vitally important factors. Consider your ‘go to’ dresses you reach for time and time again. Why do you love them, and how do they flatter you and my figure? What were the style aspects that drew you to them?
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Don't Sacrifice Comfort Much consideration is given to wedding gowns. The cost and silhouette of the dress may garner the bulk of that consideration, but brides might want to spend more time considering comfort. Depending on the time of day their weddings take place, brides can spend 12 hours or more in their wedding gowns on their wedding day. However, when shopping for their gowns, brides may prioritize beauty over comfort, even though it's entirely possible to find a gown that's both stunning and comfortable. When staff and friends or family who have come along to offer advice start to blush over wedding gowns, brides-to-be may feel pressured to downplay any discomfort they feel. To make sure brides look flawless and elegant but are still comfortable in their wedding gowns, consider the following tips.
GET SIZED CORRECTLY
Bridal gown sizes do not coincide with street sizes. Depending on the manufacturer, brides may have to select gowns that are several sizes larger than they would normally wear. This should not be a cause for alarm. Brides should go by their measurements. Attempting to squeeze into a dress that is too small will only lead to discomfort on the wedding day.
FIND THE RIGHT UNDERGARMENTS Improperly fitting bras, shapewear and other undergarments can lead to discomfort as well. Some seamstresses can sew in supportive cups to remove the need for separate bras. Brides can explore various options to reduce the visibility of certain undergarments. Remember to bring along the exact shoes and undergarments you will wear with your gown. A change in shoes or bra/corset can result in the alterations fitting poorly the next time. Bring these along to all subsequent fittings.
DON'T GET DISCOURAGED
Brides should not just stand in front of the mirror and smile when trying on gowns. Put them through their paces. Try sitting, bending and even a little dancing. Make sure the dress is comfortable to move around in.
Most sample sizes will not be the size you wear every day, so expect them to be ill-fitting. Do not be discouraged. Once a gown is chosen, the dress shop will take your measurements and order the gown according to the manufacturer's sizing guide. Again, this can be shocking, since the size will likely be larger than what you wear in street clothes. Some shops will also order a little larger to allow for adequate tailoring.
TRY DIFFERENT OPTIONS
CHECK THE DETAILS
MOVE AROUND IN THE GOWN
The gown brides have in mind may not be the one they ultimately go home with. Explore different styles and materials. Choose cooler, breezier fabrics and lightweight gowns, like crĂŞpe, georgette or organza, for summer weddings. Heavier fabrics, such as brocade, may be more comfortable in the winter.
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The second fitting is designed to check that all issues from the first fitting have been addressed, the gown is comfortable and you can move freely. At the last fitting, ask the maid of honor to come along so that she understands how to bustle or help you handle complicated straps or closures.
Bridal Party Attire STORE NAME: ADDRESS: PHONE:
CONSULTANT:
THE BRIDE GOWN DESIGNER/MANUFACTURER:
GOWN STYLE:
GOWN SIZE:
FABRIC:
COLOR:
FITTING DATE:
DATE GOWN ORDERED:
PICKUP DATE:
VEIL DESIGNER/MANUFACTURER:
VEIL STYLE: DATE VEIL ORDERED:
VEIL LENGTH: MISCELLANEOUS ATTIRE:
Shoes
Necklace
FLOWER GIRL
Earrings
PICKUP DATE:
Slip
Hosiery
Bra/Bustier
Garter
MAID OF HONOR
NAME:
STYLE:
NAME:
STYLE:
GOWN SIZE:
SHOE SIZE:
GOWN SIZE:
SHOE SIZE:
WAIST:
LENGTH:
WAIST:
LENGTH:
FITTING DATE:
COST:
BRIDESMAID 1
FITTING DATE:
COST:
BRIDESMAID 2
NAME:
STYLE:
NAME:
STYLE:
GOWN SIZE:
SHOE SIZE:
GOWN SIZE:
SHOE SIZE:
WAIST:
LENGTH:
WAIST:
LENGTH:
FITTING DATE:
COST:
BRIDESMAID 3
FITTING DATE:
COST:
BRIDESMAID 4
NAME:
STYLE:
NAME:
STYLE:
GOWN SIZE:
SHOE SIZE:
GOWN SIZE:
SHOE SIZE:
WAIST:
LENGTH:
WAIST:
LENGTH:
FITTING DATE:
COST:
BRIDESMAID 5
FITTING DATE:
COST:
BRIDESMAID 6
NAME:
STYLE:
NAME:
STYLE:
GOWN SIZE:
SHOE SIZE:
GOWN SIZE:
SHOE SIZE:
WAIST:
LENGTH:
WAIST:
LENGTH:
FITTING DATE:
COST:
FITTING DATE:
COST:
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Wedding Costs Newly engaged couples may experience an array of emotions when they sit down to plan their weddings. Some couples cannot wait to jump into planning and want to catalog every aspect of the process, while others may proceed with caution because they don't know what to expect - particularly in regard to cost. Many couples find it difficult to create their wedding budgets because they have no previous experience to draw on. The wedding planning advisor CostofWedding.com indicates the average wedding cost in the United States is $26,720, with most people spending between $20,000 and $34,000. Seventh Heaven Event Catering states that, in Canada, the average wedding costs around $30,000. Such costs can vary greatly depending on couples' preferences, including where they hope to tie the knot. By breaking down wedding expenses, couples can get a clearer picture of how much they may need to pay for their weddings and where they may need to cut costs.
RECEPTION SITE
According to The Knot, a premiere wedding planning resource, couples can expect their receptions to eat up the largest chunk of their wedding budgets. Wedding reception venues may cost between $10,000 and $15,000. The average price for catering per person is roughly $70. Bar service may be around $2,000 for a three- to four-hour party. Some reception sites combine the room cost with the food and beverage costs, while others have Ă la carte fees.
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WEDDING CAKE
Wedding cakes tend to be multitiered intricate designs, so they will cost more than birthday cakes. According to Statistics Brain, wedding dessert will come in around $390.
MUSIC
The Knot says wedding bands cost around $3,500, which is more than twice as much as hiring a deejay ($1,200). Soloists or ceremony musicians may cost around $650.
WEDDING PLANNER
Many couples employ wedding planners to make planning their weddings easier. Wedding planners cost an average of $1,300, says Thumbtack, a company that matches professionals with people who require their services.
TRANSPORTATION
Limousines and other transportation prices vary depending on the vehicle(s) couples choose. The Knot notes that budgeting between $400 and $500 for transportation might be wise.
WEDDING GOWN
Brides-to-be should expect their gowns to cost around $1,100 and the veil or headpiece to be roughly $120, according to the Association of Bridal Consultants.
PHOTOS & VIDEO
Preserving wedding memories typically costs around $2,800 for video and photography services, based on data from Statistics Brain.
Preparation Budget List BRIDE:
GROOM:
WEDDING DATE:
LOCATION:
NO. OF GUESTS:
NO. IN WEDDING PARTY:
ATTIRE
BUDGET
ACTUAL
BUDGET
ACTUAL
GOWN & ALTERATION HEADPIECE & VEIL LINGERIE BRIDAL ACCESSORIES HAIR & MAKEUP GROOM'S TUXEDO GROOM'S ACCESSORIES MISCELLANEOUS
CEREMONY
SAVE-THE-DATE CARDS INVITATIONS PROGRAMS PLACE CARDS THANK YOU CARDS POSTAGE MISCELLANEOUS
BUDGET
ACTUAL
BUDGET
ACTUAL
BUDGET
ACTUAL
BRIDE'S RING GROOM'S RING
ENTERTAINMENT
BUDGET
ACTUAL
TRANSPORTATION
ACTUAL BUDGET
ACTUAL
GIFTS/FAVORS GUEST FAVORS WEDDING PARTY GIFTS MISCELLANEOUS GIFTS
BUDGET
ACTUAL
CEREMONY FLOWERS RECEPTION DECORATIONS LIGHTING MISCELLANEOUS
PHOTO/VIDEO
BUDGET
BRIDE AND GROOM WEDDING PARTY OUT-OF-TOWN GUESTS
CEREMONY MUSIC RECEPTION ENTERTAINMENT EQUIPMENT RENTAL
FLOWERS/DECOR
RECEPTION VENUE CATERING BEVERAGES CAKE RENTALS/SERVICES
VENUE FEE OFFICIANT FEE MARRIAGE LICENSE
RINGS
STATIONERY
BUDGET
ACTUAL
AFTER HOURS WEDDING NIGHT HONEYMOON
BUDGET
ACTUAL
BUDGET
ACTUAL
EXTRAS
PHOTOGRAPHY VIDEOGRAPHY
GRAND TOTAL
BUDGET:
ACTUAL:
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How to Build a Budget Once couples know what they can contribute, they can then consult their parents to determine if their mothers and fathers are intending to contribute.
DEVELOP AN INITIAL GUEST LIST
A preliminary guest list can give couples an idea of how large and expensive their weddings will be. According to the Real Weddings Study, the average cost per wedding guest in 2015 was $237. While that cost can vary greatly depending on geography and other factors, couples should keep that figure in mind when drafting their guest lists. If need be, keep costs down by trimming the guest list so it includes only close family members and friends.
DON'T COUNT ON GIFTS Couples engaged to be married have a lot on their plates as they begin planning their weddings. Whereas tradition once demanded parents of the bride pay for a couple's wedding, nowadays more and more engaged couples are completely or partially financing their own nuptials. That means prospective brides and grooms must develop wedding budgets that won't ensure their first act as Mr. and Mrs. is paying down debt. In its 2015 Real Weddings Study, online bridal resource The Knot found that many couples still receive substantial financial support from their parents to pay for their weddings. The survey found that, on average, the bride's parent's contributed 44 percent of the overall wedding budget in 2015, while couples financed 43 percent (the remaining 13 percent was financed by the groom's parents and additional sources). Couples who hope to follow that formula or pay for their weddings on their own can heed the following tips to build wedding budgets that won't break the bank but will still ensure a day to remember forever.
EXAMINE YOUR JOINT FINANCES
Few couples know the details of each other's finances before getting engaged. While some may still hesitate to share their personal financial information upon getting engaged, an open and honest discussion and examination of each person's finances is the only way to develop a realistic wedding budget that both partners can live with.
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Many couples justify runaway wedding budgets by telling themselves that they will ultimately get the money back via wedding gifts. While many guests will give financial gifts, counting on such windfalls is a recipe for accruing debt. Do not build potential wedding gifts into your wedding budget. If you do so and your expectations fall short, you could be facing considerable debt upon returning home from your honeymoon.
GATHER COST QUOTES
Where couples get married will have a great impact on how much money they will spend on their weddings. For example, the Real Weddings Study found that, in 2015, the average wedding in Manhattan cost couples slightly more than $82,000, while the average Alaskan wedding cost just over $17,000. Venues within the same city can vary greatly with regard to pricing and offerings as well, so couples should give themselves ample time to gather quotes and find an affordable venue they like.
BUILD IN SOME WIGGLE ROOM
When determining a budget you can live with, remember to include a little extra for unforeseen costs. Weddings are large undertakings, and it's reasonable to expect some unforeseen costs to arise. Building such costs into your initial budget will make these unforeseen circumstances that much easier to handle.
Wedding Technology Ensuring an event goes on with minimal hiccups takes patience and thorough planning. This is especially true for weddings, when many elements must merge for a memorable day. Today's couples have a bevy of resources at their disposal to facilitate wedding planning. The internet makes vetting vendors and reading reviews that much easier, but wedding-related apps also can simplify wedding planning. The following are some top picks as culled by Wedding Shoppe, Inc., The Knot and Lifehacker.
WEDD ING S P OT With Wedding Spot, couples can search for their ideal venue based on location, budget, style and capacity. The site enables users to plan an ideal wedding and get cost estimates based on guest list and options. Users also can access discounts and exclusive deals.
A P P Y COUPLE This app and website helps couples manage their budgets, timelines, wedding parties, and seating charts, while also allowing them to share photos. There is a free version and basic packages that allow access to more features.
HIT CHSWITCH Brides or grooms who may be changing their names can do so in one convenient place. Three different packages cater to various namechanging needs.
WEDDING LO O K B O O K This helpful app enables couples to browse through thousands of dresses, accessories, jewelry, and much more. Wedding LookBook will help customers find products in their area.
TH E K N O T' S M A R K E TP LA CE
iW E D D I N G D E LU X E
With the click of a button, couples can search for wedding vendors in all different categories, read reviews, and directly connect with those businesses.
In addition to managing timelines, to-do lists and vendors, this app offers inspiration ideas for gowns, manages and tracks gifts, and offers first dance suggestions from iTunes. However, it is only available to iPhone users.
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V I STA P R I NT
This tool can help couples figure out seating arrangements by creating 3D floor plans of the event, and couples can pull contacts from email and social networks to establish a guest list. If floor plans are unavailable in their database, they can be drawn.
These stationery specialists offer an array of services, from cards to invitations to personalized envelopes. Once a design is chosen, Vistaprint will offer add-on suggestions for coordinating items, helping to create a cohesive look for the festivities.
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Preserving Your Dress When you bought your wedding dress, you made a big investment in perhaps the most important dress of your life. Now that the wedding is over (and you looked amazing) what do you do with the dress?
OPTION ONE:
HIRE A P R O FES S I O N A L Find a dry cleaner educated in wedding gown preservation or a wedding gown preservationist. You want the dry cleaner or preservationist to clean the dress first, using gentle solvents and chemicals that match the materials and are safe to use (harsh chemicals can ruin the fabric); any shoulder pads, perspiration shields, or foam inserts must be removed (they can break-down with time and ruin the dress). The gown is then stuffed with clean, acid-free tissue. Tissue is also placed between the folds of the dress (this prevents permanent wrinkling of the dress). The gown is then wrapped and boxed (a museum-quality archival box) for storage in your home. The box is not hermetically sealed because the gown requires proper air circulation. Avoid placing the box in a hot attic or a cold cellar. You’re allowed to open and check on your dress periodically (use white gloves to avoid oil marks). Repackage for proper storage. Some dry cleaners will store your dress for years for a yearly fee.
OPTION TWO:
D O IT YO U R S E L F Get the dress professionally cleaned. Get a large museum-quality box (not a brown box and not a plastic box, but a cedar chest can work), tissue paper, and a cotton liner. Place the tissue paper in the bodice and folds of fabric, trying to avoid creasing or wrinkling the gown. Place in the box, seal while letting air to freely enter the box, and store.
OPTION THREE:
R E S T YL E T H E D R E S S Reusing a wedding gown is a cost-effective and earth-friendly idea. Many women choose to restyle their dress and wear it more frequently. Go to a tailor and have them look at the dress to see if hemming, restyling, or designing anew will work for you. Keep in mind, however, that once it’s altered, the dress can’t return to its original look.
OPTION THREE:
TRANSFORM THE DRESS One of the primary reasons to preserve a wedding gown is to save the dress for a daughter, granddaughter or another relative to wear at her own wedding. There are also a number of different occasions when wearing white is acceptable. Religious ceremonies such as baptisms and communions qualify, and a wedding gown in the hands of an experienced seamstress or tailor can be transformed into a baby's Christening ensemble or a beautiful dress for a youngster about to receive First Holy Communion. Some brides also choose to create a keepsake from their gown. Cut a small piece of the fabric and put it into a pendant or locket. A piece of tulle or lace also can be placed inside a clear Christmas ornament and hung on the tree for years to come.
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Crafting Wedding Keepsakes Couples' wedding days are momentous occasions, and couples want their memories of the day they tied the knot to endure long after the final guest has departed. Weddings can be amazing, but they only last a few hours. Memories can be forever if they are effectively documented. The following are some ways for couples to permanently memorialize their wedding days.
TRANSFORM A TEDDY BEAR
Have tuxedo fabric or wedding gown material turned into a keepsake teddy bear. Bowman Bears produces such bears, which can be passed down to future generations.
FRAME THE INVITATION
Display the wedding invitation in a beautiful frame with custom matting.
MAKE AN INVITATION ORNAMENT DRY THE BOUQUET
Wedding bouquets can be freeze-dried and/ or chemically preserved so that the colors, textures and the volume of the blooms can appear just as vibrant as they were on couples' wedding days. After preservation, the bouquet can be displayed in a vase or in a specially prepared shadow box with other mementos.
CREATE BOUQUET JEWELRY
Encapsulate favorite wedding flowers into a resin pendant, bracelet or earrings.
CREATE A CUSTOM LOCKET
Brides can wear a piece of their wedding gown day after day with a custom necklace or locket. All they need to do is trim a small piece of the lace or other embellishment from the gown and enclose it in the locket. Jewelry designers also may be able to convert a section of the gown pattern into metal through a casting process.
Cut the wedding invitation into strips and place it inside of a hollow glass ornament. Seal the top and hang with a ribbon.
REVISIT THE SITE
On their anniversaries, couples can visit their ceremony site or have brunch or dinner at the venue where the reception took place. Take an "after" picture to display with the "before" shot from the wedding day.
DESIGN A CARD SCRAPBOOK
Turn all of those special handwritten messages and well-wishes into a scrapbook so that memories can be revisited time and again.
The planning may take months and the wedding mere hours, but well-documented wedding day memories can last forever!
HAVE GUESTS SIGN A LABEL
Purchase a special bottle of wine or champagne and ask guests to sign the label or the bottle itself. Store the bottle until a special occasion, such as a memorable anniversary, and then toast to a happy marriage.
MAKE A CAKE REPLICA
Ask an artist to make a miniature replica of the wedding cake out of pottery. Put the clay cake out for display or ask for it to be made small enough to serve as a Christmas tree ornament.
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The Right Dress for Mom Perhaps the second most important dress a woman will wear (after her own wedding dress) is her mother-of-the-bride or -groom dress. The selection process is fraught with pressure to look and feel pretty while also blending with the bridesmaids and wedding colors. Follow the bride’s lead regarding style, color and degree of formality. The days of blending in are gone. The mother-of-the-bride’s dress complements the wedding party’s colors. It’s a good idea to look at styles early on because you won’t be buying a dress until your daughter chooses the bridesmaid dresses (complementing color, of course), but knowing a style that works for you is half the battle. Once you’ve chosen your dress, you share your dress color and style with the mother-of-thegroom. She’ll coordinate a complementing color and style. Remember — you’ll both be in the photos, so why not look great?
MOTHER-OF-THE-BRIDE ETIQUETTE • The mother-of-the-bride chooses a dress first. •T he bride should provide a swatch of the bridesmaids’ gown so the mother's dress complements the color. •T he bride's mother and groom's mother should not wear the same color dress. •N either mother should wear a dress the same color as the bride’s dress — not even remotely close! •T he length of the pantsuit, dress or gown is a personal choice. •M ake sure the dress is church, venue, color and age appropriate. •B lack is appropriate for weddings as long as the outfit doesn't signify mourning. •O nce the bride’s mother has chosen her dress, she should let the groom’s mom know and show her the dress and/or color.
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GENERAL SHOPPING TIPS • You’ll have a better selection at a specialty store, though do check out the department stores for ideas and options. • Alterations are important. • Proper undergarments are important. • Order your dress (if it needs to be ordered) at least three to four months in advance. • Allow time for those important alterations. • Consider if you’ll need a wrap for the church or because of weather. • Bring proper shoes when trying on dresses, especially when at an alteration appointment.
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Makeup Trends On your wedding day, you’ll have more pictures taken than any other day in your life. Men have it easy, but women tend to pull out all the stops when selecting makeup — often hiring professional makeup artists to create a signature look. Hiring a makeup artist ensures your photos (and you) look like a million bucks. The first step is to find the right artist. Get recommendations from friends whose style you like, whose wedding photos you loved, then start interviewing artists. Make sure your vision is clearly communicated.
PLAN AHEAD
Summer brides may prefer up-dos to keep hair off of their necks and allow for breezes to cool their bodies. Rely on makeup primers and powdered foundations so that makeup does not melt in the heat. Above all, invest in waterproof cosmetics. Women in the bridal party, including the bride, can ask their makeup artists to use durable, waterproof products. In addition to ensuring perspiration won't cause makeup to run, this can help salvage beautifully composed looks should some drops begin to fall. A bride must also determine how much time is needed for hair and makeup. Weddings with big bridal parties will require more time than ceremonies with small parties. Brides with big parties may need to book two or more hair and makeup artists so everyone can get done on time. Sessions can last several hours for large bridal parties, so brides should schedule their sessions early if their wedding parties are big.
TRENDY STYLES
You pore over magazines and see styles you love, but will these looks work for you? As your makeup artist consults with you, let her know about your personal style, your dress color, the flower shades, the wedding party, and the venue. Your makeup artist
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will make suggestions for you and provide tips for long-lasting makeup with a flawless finish.
PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT
It’s a great idea to schedule a trial makeup session about three months in advance of your wedding — you want no surprises on your wedding day! This is the time for the artist to experiment with those makeup styles you’ve liked from the magazines. Nix anything that isn’t comfortable and ask questions. If you like a look, make sure your artist is taking notes, choosing the right foundation, blush, and an appropriate lip color be it natural or bold, glossy or matte.
This is advantageous when hugging and kissing on one's wedding day. Plus, some airbrush makeup can last up to 16 hours. Alcohol-based options can be used to cover tattoos or birthmarks. Touchups are minimal with airbrush makeup, and the formulations can be layered to cover blemishes. Airbrush makeup is compatible with well-moisturized skin, but dry skin may flake, crack and look flat. Brides shed tears of joy might find that airbrush makeup will streak. Keep in mind that because it requires a certain skillset and equipment, airbrush makeup tends to be more expensive than traditional makeup.
YOU PORE OVER MAGAZINES AND SEE STYLES YOU LOVE — BUT WILL THESE LOOKS WORK FOR YOU? Your makeup artist will know what makeup lasts from the walk down the aisle to the last dance of the evening.
AIRBRUSHING
Airbrush-applied makeup is an option women may want to explore. According to The Knot, airbrushing is popular in movies, modeling and now among brides-to-be. When applied correctly by a professional, airbrush makeup can have a number of perks. Airbrush makeup is comprised of a very thin liquid applied with the use of an air gun. This produces a thin, even layer of foundation, often creating a matte finish. Artists can custom-blend shades to match customers' skin tones. And because the fine mist of airbrush makeup enables true skin tone to show through, it can appear more natural. Many airbrushed formulations are silicone-based, enabling long-lasting wear and water-resistant properties.
THE FINISHING TOUCH
Certainly a bride's makeup receives its fair share of attention. But another part of the bride's ensemble will be scrutinized — her hands. Guests will be anxious to see the wedding ring, and photos of the couple holding hands are often included in the wedding album. A bride's hands need to look as polished as the rest of her wedding day ensemble.
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Hair Trends
As with fashion, hair trends change with the seasons. How your hair looks on your wedding day is of primary importance. Is the wedding inside, outside, formal, casual? Is your vision to be romantic, elegant, modern, vintage, boho, or carefree? One thing is definite — you want to look good both coming and going (front and back). Your choice of style, what suits you, and what complements your bridal gown are very important. After all, this is YOUR vision of your wedding day! • THE PONYTAIL: As dresses become more elaborate, you’ll find that hair is the exact opposite, and a sleek pony can be sophisticated and beautifully simple. • HALF & HALF: Air half up and half down is always popular and attractive on many face shapes. It can be simple or adorned with pins and clips that add sparkle; it can be straight or curly.
•B IG HAIR: This might be a regional (Southern) thing, but big hair is back for weddings and it makes a bold statement. • SIDE STYLES: With or without a part, many brides are going with swept to the side styles held in place with lovely pins, combs or barrettes. •R OMANTIC BRAIDS: Feminine, stylish, up or down, braids come with a multitude of variations and work on all hair types. •F LOWERS: Crowns, flowers woven in your hair, an entirely Bohemian styling. •U PDOS: If the dress is elaborate, a simple updo can complete the entire look. A bun, a twist, a chignon — you cannot miss with this style. •L OOSE: Perfectly undone is totally in; can't go wrong with natural and effortless.
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• HAIR BLING: Pins, barrettes, beads, pearls and crystals are in. Wearing an heirloom, flowers, a crown, a headband — many brides are making a statement. • KNOTTED UPDO: Less traditional than a chignon, a top knot or a twist are contemporary and stylish. • SLEEK AND EDGY: Slicked back, a sharp part, a sidepony — these styles are perfect for the modern bride. • COLORFUL TRESSES: Many brides are adopting dyed hair for a head-turning look. If you plan to get your hair colored, professionals recommend doing so about three weeks in advance of the big day so it looks natural and any potential snafus can be remedied beforehand.
Short Hairstyles On a day when all eyes and cameras will be trained on them, it's natural for brides and grooms tying the knot to want to look their best. As a result, many couples invest a portion of their budgets into spa and beauty treatments, with many even hiring salon stylists to ensure their wedding-day looks are flawless. Women with short hair may lament that they do not have many options when styling their hair for their wedding days. Some may even consider growing out their locks. However, plenty of creative styles exist for ladies without long locks.
EXPERIMENT WITH COLOR
One way to "tress to impress" is to experiment with some color. Well-placed highlights, balayage treatments, ombre, or peek-a-boo underlights can add an extra spark to a bride's normal hairstyle. Speak with a qualified stylist about what you plan to achieve with a wedding-day look, so color can be applied correctly.
RETRO GLAMOUR
Brides may want to harken back to an era when glamour reigned supreme. Replicate one of the short styles of the 1940s or 1950s, paying homage to Audrey Hepburn, Marilyn Monroe, Lauren Bacall, or Judy Garland.
BRAIDS AND PLAITS
Braids can add whimsy to shoulder-length or shorter hair. In addition, braids can anchor short locks when an up-do is desired. Braids can be placed into the front or rear crown of the head to look like a hair halo or crown.
USE EMBELLISHMENTS
If short hair cannot be gathered into a braid or bun, you can opt for adorned pins, barrettes or headbands to add a touch of sparkle to the look. Ask a stylist to tease the crown of your hair to achieve a little more height and impact.
HALF-UP STYLE
Many women with short hair find that using bobby pins to pin up select areas of their hair can help achieve a partial up-do look without the need for longer locks. Experienced stylists will know how to manipulate hair effectively to create this look. Small tendrils of hair can be left free and curled for a less structured, more natural effect.
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The Groom's Calendar Though the groom's role is typically more relaxed than that of the bride, he's got a lot on his plate as well! Here is a timeline to help your groom take care of business in the months, weeks and days leading up to your wedding.
10-12 MONTHS BEFORE THE WEDDING • Pick out the engagement ring if you haven’t already done so. •A nnounce your engagement. •D iscuss wedding plans and budget with fiancée and all parents. elect your best man, groomsmen, •S ushers (one usher per 40 guests). • Help plan the engagement party. •D iscuss ceremony and reception sites with your fiancée.
8-9 MONTHS BEFORE THE WEDDING • Meet with officiant (minister, priest, rabbi, etc.) to discuss the ceremony. •S tart compiling your guest list. •B egin making your honeymoon travel plans.
6 MONTHS BEFORE THE WEDDING • Visit gift registry with fiancée. • Arrange for transportation for the wedding party to ceremony and reception. • Complete your honeymoon plans. • Pick your tuxedos and accessories. • Select your attendants including Best Man, Groomsmen, Junior Groomsmen, Ring Bearer, Fathers, Grandfathers, Ushers (one per 40 guests), etc.
3 MONTHS BEFORE THE WEDDING • Send size cards to any out-of-town members of the wedding party. • Complete the guest list. • Choose and order wedding rings. • Choose and order groomsmen gifts. • Plan rehearsal dinner with parents. • Choose gifts for your bride and wedding party. • Update passports for yourself and your bride in the event of a honeymoon abroad.
1 MONTH BEFORE THE WEDDING • Ensure all men have been measured for tuxedos. • Obtain your marriage license. •M ake appointments for personal grooming.
2 WEEKS BEFORE THE WEDDING • Attend bachelor party. •A djust insurance policies, bank accounts, utilities, etc.
THE WEEK OF THE WEDDING • Pick up your tuxedo. Remember to try it on in the store to ensure a proper fit! •P ack for the honeymoon. •G et cash for gratuities and officiant’s fee. •E njoy your rehearsal and dinner.
WEDDING DAY • Double-check all details: wedding rings, transportation, marriage license. •G et to the ceremony on time. •R elax and enjoy your big day!
THE DAY AFTER THE WEDDING • Return the tuxedos. •D rop off the bride’s gown to be cleaned and preserved.
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Renting a Tuxedo
Brides-to-be may invest thousands of dollars into their wedding day ensembles. According to The Knot, that the average wedding dress costs $1,469. Grooms generally have a much easier and less expensive experience with their wedding day attire. In fact, grooms often rent their tuxedos for minimal cost. Renting a wedding tuxedo has its advantages, namely in the cost savings. However, it's easy for a guy to fall into the trap of renting something that will not help him look his best if he isn't educated about the process. Looking sharp involves more than just showing up to the shop and picking a tux off the rack.
PICK A RETAILER WISELY
Many stores sell or rent suits and tuxedos. As is the case with many aspects of wedding planning, getting a recommendation from friends or family members can help grooms identify the shops that offer exemplary service. When attending others' weddings or special events, pay attention to the look of the groom and his groomsmen. Find out where they got their tuxes. Price alone should not dictate where to shop.
Once bridesmaid dresses have been selected, the groomsmen can begin to shop around for tuxedos. This way ties and vests will coordinate. Initial tux selection should begin between four and six months before the wedding
GET A PROPER FITTING
It is vital to be fitted for a tux or suit properly. Professionals can handle the measurements, or men shopping elsewhere can use a tailor of their choosing. Shoulders should be close to the body in the jacket but not restrictive. Sleeves should fall so that they show a quarter- to a half-inch of shirt sleeves when arms are at the sides. An ill-fitting suit or tuxedo can make a groom look sloppy on his wedding day. It is key to pay attention to sizing and use a shop that has a variety of styles that fit various body types.
PICK A CLASSIC STYLE
No one wants to look outdated in their wedding pictures! By choosing a classic cut and color in a suit or tuxedo, guys will look stylish no matter the year. Fun can be had with vest colors or bow ties.
CONFIRM YOUR ORDER IN ADVANCE
The entire wedding party can visit the tuxedo shop for selections and fittings. The groom should call the store at least a month prior to the wedding to ensure that everyone has been fitted. Tuxes should be picked up a few days in advance of the wedding and tried on to ensure that everything fits and all accessories are included. This way last-minute alterations or substitutions can be made.
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The Groom's Ring Wedding bands shouldn’t be an afterthought. They are a sign of your partner’s promise you will wear every day. Think of your groom’s lifestyle and interests when choosing his ring. Whether you choose a traditional ring or edgy look, thinking about your groom’s interest and lifestyle will help you choose a ring that’s both personal and perfect for him.
LET HIS STYLE DICTATE THE METAL Different types of metals offer varying weight, comfort, durability and personalization options. • PLATINUM: This is one of the earth’s rarest elements (30 times more rare than gold to be exact). With its soft white hue, not only is it extremely durable, it’s also hypoallergenic. Platinum is scratch-resistant and never tarnishes. • GOLD: Both classic and traditional, gold is often the most popular choice for wedding bands. Customizations are possible with karat type, weight of the ring, and types of finishes. From rose to yellow to white gold, a timeless look is guaranteed. • ALTERNATIVE METALS: Because of their sleek look and variety, alternative metals are quickly becoming go-to metals for men’s wedding bands. Titanium, the hardest natural metal in the world, is both hypoallergenic and lightweight. It is also available in various colors and finishes, allowing for personalization. Tungsten is a new technology metal. Incredibly popular, tungsten has a heavy feel; however, it is important to remember that these rings are not able to be resized and are difficult to cut off the finger in emergency situations. Other options include cobalt, stainless steel, ceramic, wood, and even meteorite (yes, it is what you’re thinking — a ring made from space rock!)
LET HIS HOBBIES DICTATE THE STYLING What are your groom's interests and normal style choices? Would he appreciate a classic look or some fun personalization? • Does he like to hunt or fish? How about a tungsten camouflage ring or engraved antler ears? • Does he enjoy dressing up? If he already sports diamonds or gemstones in his watch or cuff links, he could definitely pull off this polished look with gemstones in his new band. • Does he normally go for a more casual look? Try a high polished titanium band with a genuine wood inlay. Is he a mechanic? A zirconium band with a tire tread imprint will make the ring personal. Tungsten rings conduct heat and electricity, making them a possible safety risk depending on his occupation.
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Dress Code Wedding invitations do more than merely announce that a celebration is on the horizon. Invitations provide key information about the ceremony and festivities to follow. Details including the location, time and date of the wedding are spelled out — however, invitations can sometimes leave guests confused about the appropriate style of attire for the occasion. All eyes are on the bride and groom on their wedding day, but your guests want to look their best too. Here’s a list of options to help you determine the dress code for your special day.
CASUAL ATTIRE
Everyday casual is different from wedding casual. Jeans, shorts and tank tops are unacceptable unless otherwise noted. Guests should err on the side of caution and go with business casual, which includes chinos, slacks, a polo shirt or button-down shirt for men. Women can wear a sundress or slacks or a skirt and an attractive blouse.
BEACH WEDDING
If the bride and groom are on the beach saying their vows, both men and women can go casual. Linen is a good; a sundress/maxi dress and sandals for her and linen or cotton pants and a dress shirt for him. If the invitation mentions beach casual, shorts and even sandals are likely acceptable. If it’s a resort beach, step it up a few notches — think casual cocktail hour.
COCKTAIL/SEMI-FORMAL
Think party style, chic and fabulous, a little black dress, a flirty frock at an appropriate length, and great shoes or sandals with a heel. Don’t forget an evening bag, a fresh face, and jewelry; your guy should wear a suit and tie.
BLACK TIE OPTIONAL/FORMAL Formal attire is the default dress code for the majority of weddings. When the invitation does not specify a dress code,
it is safe to assume formal attire is expected. Men can choose among a dark suit and tie or a tuxedo. Women can opt for a cocktail-length dress (knee or ¾) or a floor length frock, a classic suit or a long dress. Stick with tones that are gray, black or brown. You’re going for the total look here, with an evening bag and jewelry to complete the ensemble.
BLACK TIE
Black tie typically goes hand-in-hand with an evening wedding. Black tie is more rigid for male guests, who should wear a tuxedo, black bow tie, cummerbund, and patent leather shoes. Women have a more leeway with their attire at such gatherings. A long evening gown might be preferable. However, a chic cocktail dress also can be acceptable, and darker, neutral colors are most appropriate. Heels, updos and
attention to detail are key. Some invitations may reference "Black Tie Preferred" and, in this case, a black suit also can be worn.
WHITE TIE
The most formal of occasions will request white tie attire. Ball gowns and tuxedos with tails are the norm, as are dramatic jewelry and hairstyles. White tie attire is akin to what celebrities wear to award shows. Think glamorous as it gets — rent or buy a fabulous gown, gloves and jewels.
THE BOTTOM LINE
When attending a wedding, it is always better to be overdressed than underdressed. Guests can consult with fellow guests or the bride and groom if they are unsure of the dress code.
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The Rehearsal Dinner Rehearsal dinners are customarily held after couples and their bridal parties walk through the wedding ceremony. They tend to be less formal than wedding receptions, but couples should still prioritize planning to ensure their dinner goes off without a hitch.
REHEARSAL DINNER FAQ WHO’S INVITED TO THE DINNER? Four weeks before the wedding, send out the rehearsal dinner invitations. The following people are typically invited to the rehearsal dinner: every member of the wedding party (bridesmaids, groomsmen, ushers and their spouses or dates); flower girls and ring bearers (and their parents); the parents of the bride and groom; grandparents, siblings and their spouses or dates; close family friends; the officiant, pastor, or special clergy; and out-oftown guests and relatives. WHAT ABOUT THE OTHER GUESTS? Have those who are not invited to the rehearsal dinner meet up with the group after the dinner at the restaurant’s bar for a drink and some toasts to the couple. This is a nice way to include more people — they won’t even know the dinner occurred. Another idea is to send an e-vite to everyone saying the bride and groom will be at a certain bar, restaurant, hotel, or house from 8 to 10. WHERE IS THE DINNER HELD? Make it personal, perhaps a favorite restaurant (with a private room for your party) or maybe something casual like a brewery with a have a beer tasting. The dinner could be catered and held under a large tent in a nice backyard – a family friend’s, or at the family home. WHO FOOTS THE BILL? Tradition once suggested that the groom's parents pay for the rehearsal dinner while the bride's parents foot the bill for the wedding. If couples are financing their own weddings, parents of both the bride and groom may want to pay for the rehearsal dinner. If parents are splitting the cost of the wedding, then couples themselves may want to pay for the rehearsal dinner. Confirm who is paying and if there is a budget to work with before booking a restaurant. This way there is no confusion once the bill is brought to the table.
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TIPS AND TRICKS DON’T FORGE THE TOASTS The groom’s father goes first (if he’s the host). He welcomes the guests. Next is the best man. Then the floor is open to any who wish to toast the couple. Rehearsal dinners also afford couples the chance to thank their closest friends and family for their love and support. Plan to give a brief toast to loved ones at the dinner. Grooms may also want to use this opportunity to toast their brides, thanking them for all their efforts planning the wedding. GIVE OUT YOUR GIFTS The rehearsal dinner is the perfect time to give presents to bridesmaids and groomsmen. As you distribute them, make note of a special moment the person has brought to your life. Thank/gift any other special people (grandparents, etc.) and let them know how much their support has meant to you both. PERSONALIZE THE EVENT Rehearsal dinners are the perfect time for heartfelt entertainment. Tech-savvy parents or wedding party members may put together a presentation with videos or photos chronicling the couple's lives separately and together. THINK AHEAD! If you are hosting the dinner at a restaurant, booking a reservation should be near the top of your priority list. It's not easy to find restaurants that can accommodate large parties or cater to the unique diets of your guests. Reserve your spot 3-6 months in advance. If you are getting married during a popular month to tie the knot, such as June or October, try to make the reservation earlier.
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The Final Flings When planning a bachelor or bachelorette party, there is only one thing on the agenda: lots of fun! From a night on the town to a weekend getaway, bachelor and bachelorette parties have long been a traditional component of wedding festivities. Meant to serve as a last good-bye to single life, the bachelor and bachelorette parties should be tailored to the tastes of the honoree. No longer just a night of heavy drinking and wild strip clubs (unless that’s your thing), bachelor and bachelorette parties can be anything you want them to be.
BETTER TOGETHER?
Couples are increasingly bucking long-established trends to make weddings uniquely their own. One of today's more popular traditionbusting trends is couples choosing to forego separate bachelor and bachelorette parties in favor of a joint bash. Couples will celebrate with each other and all of their wedding party and friends. This could be a laid-back barbecue, an overnight stay at a nearby destination, or even a cruise or vacation. Couples who choose a combined bachelor and bachelorette party may have a lot of shared friends, or just prefer spending the time together rather than on separate experiences.
SUNSHINE AND RELAXATION
Not everyone is a night owl, and some future brides and grooms opt for bachelor and bachelorette parties that take place during the sunlight hours. Daytime bachelor and bachelorette parties offer lots of time for the bride and groom to enjoy experiences with their wedding party or friends. Spa days are a very popular choice for many brides, and offer the chance to take a break from the hectic wedding planning and spend downtime with friends. Some may prefer to get in touch with nature by enjoying a camping trip, complete with a campfire and a few brews. Spending time in the wilderness can restore focus and let stress melt away. Grooms might choose a day of golf, beer-tasting, or bike touring. They could also opt for a poker or
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game night where the boys gather around the poker table to test their skills card games. With some free-flowing beverages and snacks galore, games can get pretty animated.
AFFORDABILITY Taking into account gifts, wardrobes, makeup, bridal showers, and travel, including getting to and from the bachelor/bachelorette party, bridal party members are on the hook for a lot of money when their friends or family members tie the knot. Many men and women like to travel for their bachelor/bachelorette parties, and cost-conscious bridal party members may be concerned about how expensive such parties can be. Pulling out all the stops can be exciting, but there's no guarantee these types of parties will be more enjoyable than simpler soirÊes. Taking steps to control costs can help costconscious couples and their friends. The following are some affordable ideas that can be fun for all involved. •B AR OR WINERY CRAWL: Partygoers typically want to enjoy a night out on the town, and traveling from one establishment
to another can be a fun way to do just that. Everyone invited can set themselves apart with a signature item (hat, T-shirt, or colored clothing), and make the rounds. • BELT OUT THE TUNES: Open mic nights at restaurants, bars and other establishments around town may make for a fun way for friends to share a few laughs together. Participants need not be professional singers to join in on the festivities.
•D INNER PARTY: Hire a professional chef to visit your house and prepare a meal for guests. Serve a signature cocktail and let the conversation flow. •A TTEND A GROUP EVENT: Group events include sporting events, concerts, theater shows, or a night at a comedy club. For the extrafrugal, investigate discounted tickets for large groups.
Floral Trends One of the most important components of a wedding is the flower arrangements. Bouquets, centerpieces, nosegays, arches and other styled floral décor help to pull the wedding theme together. To help bring your vision to life, consider the following floral trends when meeting with your florist.
FLOWER-HEAVY KING’S TABLE
Multiple floral designs per table are in—way in, especially given the increased popularity of extra-long King’s tables. The trend away from round tables means re-configuring not only the shape of the centerpieces, but also the spacing and quantity on these long tables. To provide visual interest, larger, longer centerpieces — typically elegant, slightly raised compotes interspersed with short vases with a few flowers or even single stems.
WATERCOLOR THEME
Soft lines and blending define this theme. You'll find brides using hand-painted votive holders. This whole theme is based around a handcrafted look. DIY brides aren't going away and this is a favorite for their weddings. The primary colors of choice in this theme are blues, purples, and pinks, but couples can experiment with any color combo.
VINTAGE VIBE
Brides seeking an elevated rustic look for their florals are able to achieve it with eye-catching vases, including mercury glass and antique mismatched vessels, paired with rich textiles. Oldfashioned flowers such as carnations, mums, zinnias and chrysanthemums are also back in style.
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BLUSH & BERRY TONES
Rather than a simple pastel pink palette, modern florals often incorporate soft peachy pink hues paired with soft sunset orange, coral, warm sherbet hues and even rust colors. Blush tones can be paired with deeper, moodier colors like berry-toned blooms, darker foliage and earthy merlot-browns.
RIBBON ACCENTS
We’ll continue to find lots of long, fluttery ribbons flowing from bridal bouquets, especially multiple layers in complementary colors. Look for ultra-luxurious natural plant-dyed silks alongside other subtle finishing touches on hand-held bouquets.
SYMBOLIC FLOWERS
According to TheKnot.com, a multiplatform resource for all things nuptial, roses have long been considered a symbol of beauty and love. Writers and poets alike have long relied on roses as metaphors for emotion, beauty and true love. Lily of the valley is another popular flower that's more than just a natural beauty. Though lily of the valley is one of the more expensive flowers couples can choose for their weddings, some legends link the flower to happiness, while followers of England's royal family no doubt remember that lily of the
valley was the flower chosen by Duchess of Cambridge Kate Middleton for her 2011 wedding to Prince William.
WEARABLE FLORAL ACCESSORIES
Many modern brides opt for delicate floral headpieces and subtle vines woven into wedding day hair styles. Ask your florist to weave small flower buds, berries and vines to a headband, wreath or piece of twine so you can wear these flowers the way they were worn by ancient Greeks and Romans. Flower wearables definitely turn heads and are also incorporated into jewelry such as necklaces, rings and floral bangle bracelets in lieu of traditional wrist corsages.
EDIBLE FLOWERS
Some brides choose to extend their floral theme into mealtime. Ask the caterer to make meals flower-friendly by including some edible blooms in the salad or as a garnish on meals.
Many florists welcome brides who bring in ideas
from Pinterest. This can be costly — but it can be done. Be prepared to pay for the magnificent creations you find on Pinterest, and don't be afraid to ask your florist for similar options that don’t break the bank!
LOOSE FLOWERS
Loose flowers in a vase are easier to sort and transport home for guests who want a memento. Make precut butcher's paper or cellophane available to make bouquets.
ELEVATED BOUQUETS Almost every bouquet is hand-tied — flowers are gathered together and the stems are wrapped in a wide satin ribbon. Consider incorporating something to elevate your bouquet like a family brooch, jeweled pins, pearls, rhinestones or natural elements such as shells and starfish. According to superstition, bells chime at Irish weddings to keep evil spirits away and ensure a harmonious family life; thus some brides also will tuck small bells into their bouquets.
Modern & Rustic Bouquets Looking for some inspiration? Terrified of being a bland bride? Incorporate one of these two twists on the traditional bouquet and you'll be sure to turn heads.
RUSTIC BOUQUETS Coordinating a rustic wedding means letting go of how everything from food to favors to flowers "should be." In fact, one way to describe rustic weddings, and the floral arrangements that adorn them, is "purposely imperfect." Today’s brides want bouquets with bulk. But rather than tightly bunched balls, today's bouquets take a freshly gathered from the garden look, offering visually interesting lines defined by arching branches, and unusual vines and foliage that cascade down the side. Rustic wedding bouquets may seem like they were plucked right out of the garden or grabbed during a stroll in a meadow. Rarely are they symmetrical or comprised of customary formal flowers. When crafting rustic bouquets, florists keep the stems of wildflowers untethered for a relaxed feel. Long stemmed arrangements are quite popular, and trends point toward bouquets loosely tied with raffia, twine, vines and other natural materials rather than ribbon. Another way rustic bouquets set themselves apart is with the introduction of other elements. The rose continues to be the most popular flower — but add lilies, peonies, hydrangeas, tulips, and orchids and your bouquet becomes a trendy, loose, casual bouquet. Not merely blooms and greenery, rustic pieces may feature twigs, vines, berries, scabiosa pods, ivy and ferns. The heights of elements in the bouquet are also varied to create an asymmetrical look. A woodland wedding might also feature ferns, vines, moss and other unexpected flora and fauna. Couples who are attracted to rustic weddings should consider using these touches throughout their wedding – think floral crowns, ferns and other earthy touches.
MODERN BOUQUETS The bouquet toss is a wedding tradition that may benefit from a little personalization. In a 2015 Jezebel poll of about 4,500 readers, 19 percent supported having a bouquet toss, but 81 percent were against it, suggesting that this tradition is ready for some updating. The bouquet toss traces its origins to Olde English times. In those days, women used to try to rip pieces of the bride's dress and flowers in order to obtain some of her good luck. To escape from the crowd, the bride would toss her bouquet and run away. The bouquet is tossed to single women with the idea that whoever catches it will be the next to marry. Today, however, some single women are no longer interested in finding matches at a wedding and view the bouquet toss as an archaic tradition. Others dislike the expectation that they stand on the dance floor with the hopes of finding a spouse. For couples who want to embrace the traditional bouquet toss while giving it a more modern twist, consider the following suggestions. •G IRLS-ONLY DANCE: Invite all the women out on the floor — not just the single ones — and play a female-centric empowerment song or one that mentions ladies having a good time. This puts the emphasis on having fun rather than finding a spouse. •G IVE A PRIZE FOR THE CATCHER: To encourage people to participate, explain that the bouquet- and garter-toss winners get prizes - and that the prize has nothing to with finding a partner. Keep the bouquet for yourself and reward the catcher with a gift card or other fun prize. •A NNIVERSARY COUNTDOWN: Invite all of the married couples to the dance floor. The DJ or band can play a beautiful love song and count up the years as the song plays. As each year is mentioned, couples leave the dance floor after their most recent anniversary has passed. The last couple on the dance floor marks the couple who has been married the longest. That couple gets to take home the bouquet.
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Floral Savings One of the hurdles couples face when planning their big day is ordering floral arrangements. The right floral arrangements won't break the bank but will add substantial aesthetic appeal to ceremonies and receptions. It can be difficult for couples to achieve that balance of cost and look on their own, so the following are a few helpful hints for couples when choosing their wedding day floral arrangements.
PICK THE RIGHT FLORIST Work with a florist you trust and like. All florists are not the same, so finding one you can trust and will enjoy working with can make all the difference. Florists with significant wedding experience will no doubt make a host of recommendations based on couples' budgets and preferences. Ask relatives, friends or coworkers if they can recommend any florists whose wedding work they are familiar with.
KEEP FLOWERS FRESH
Potted plants can serve as both favors and reception centerpieces. Live plants also can be an eco-conscious decision for couples who are interested in incorporating "green" elements into their weddings. Couples tying the knot in the autumn can place mums inside of a hollowed pumpkin or gourd. Spring and summer weddings can be enhanced by miniature rose bushes. Winter weddings may be dressed up with small evergreen trees or potted holly. Cost-conscious brides can also incorporate
feathers, wheatgrass, herbs, succulents, vines, branches and leaves in lieu of traditional florals.
REPURPOSE ARRANGEMENTS Another way to save on floral arrangements is to repurpose flowers throughout the day. Once bridesmaids no longer need their bouquets, use them to decorate gift tables or cocktail areas. Floral arrangements on display during the ceremony can be removed once you have both said "I do" and moved into the reception area
Although advice varies on how to keep cut flowers fresh the longest, veteran florists suggest keeping vase water clean. ProFlowers advises keeping cut blooms in a cool room away from direct sunlight and heat.
CHOOSE IN-SEASON AND NATIVE FLOWERS Couples working with tight budgets may want to choose in-season flowers or those native to the area where they will be tying the knot. In-season and native flowers won't need to be ordered or shipped in from afar, which can be costly. In-season and native flowers tend to be more abundant — and the greater their availability the less couples are likely to pay for them.
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where they can be enjoyed through the night. Go over any repurposing you plan to do with your reception hall manager prior to your wedding day so he knows where and when to move the arrangements.
BIG BLOOMERS Some flowers simply bloom larger than others, and choosing such flowers may help you save money since you won't need to buy as many flowers as you would if you were to go with smaller blooms. Once you find a florist to work with, discuss your options with regard to doing more with less. Many florists embrace the challenge to be creative within a budget, so you might just be surprised and impressed by what they come up with.
LONG-LASTING BLOOMS Flowers may look beautiful in gardens and even when snipped and brought inside to brighten up a mantel or dining table. Unfortunately, cut flowers have a finite shelf life. While cut blooms can't live forever, certain varieties will outlast others. Choosing flowers wisely for wedding centerpieces or keepsakes
can help couples enjoy their flower arrangements and bouquets longer. • PEONIES: Peonies can last for about a week or two when brought indoors. HGTV says to snip the stems when the buds are tight, wrap them in newspaper and store them in the refrigerator until you're ready to arrange. • ZINNIAS: These bright blooms can last for three to four weeks and are best harvested in summer. Related to the sunflower, zinnias are available in a wide range of colors. • LILIES: Lilies are traditional flowers that are beautiful to behold. Lilies are available in various sizes and colors and can be bought fresh year-round. Lilies often last longer than a week after being cut. Look for lilies with tight buds, as such flowers tend to last the longest. • CONEFLOWER: The purple coneflower variety is popular, but coneflowers are available in many colors aside from purple. Coneflowers attract butterflies and are beautiful in cut displays.
HRYSANTHEMUMS: Referred to •C as "mums," these midsummer to latefall flowers can last between three and four weeks after being cut. Mums can be used to fill out floral displays because they tend to be inexpensive but durable flowers. •R ANUNCULUS: Ranunculus mimic the look of roses and display layer after layer of silky, crepe-like petals. These blooms can last a week or more in vases if they're put in water right after being cut. •C ARNATIONS: Another budgetfriendly flower, carnations are popular from early spring until late summer. Available in many hues, they can be used in conjunction with other blooms to create well-rounded floral displays that may last between two and three weeks. •G LADIOLI: The lovely flowers of the vertical-growing gladiolus, which is sometimes referred to as the "sword lily," are available in yellow, peach, pink, white, and other hues. These bulb-based plants can last up to two weeks after being cut and add variety and texture to floral displays.
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Wedding Photography Photography is a great way for couples to capture all the special moments that occur on their wedding days. Long after the final piece of wedding cake has been consumed, wedding albums remain to remind couples of all those moments that made their big day so special. Follow these photography tips and tricks to make your wedding day photos a success.
CHOOSE A RELIABLE PHOTOGRAPHER • Book a professional photographer early. • Check references, portfolios and prices. • Expect to spend 10-15 percent of your total wedding budget on photography. • Find a photographer who meshes best with your personalities and vision for the wedding. • Discuss your photography goals, whether you want a record of the day, traditional poses or artistic concepts.
CRAFT A PHOTO SCHEDULE Allow time for your photographer to capture magic moments forever. Allot plenty of time to take your photographs; below is a sample timeline. • 5 minutes: Getting ready, detail photos • 30 minutes: Bride and groom getting dressed, final touches • 1 hour: First look, bride and groom portraits • 30 minutes: Wedding Party photos • 30 minutes: Family portraits
IMPROVE THE ODDS OF GETTING GOOD PHOTOGRAPHS • Provide the photographer with a wedding schedule and shot list. • Designate an outgoing photography helper. Enlist a boisterous friend or family member to wrangle guests for photo opportunities. He or she can be the photographer's helper and give the happy couple one less thing to do. • Couples using professional photographers should share their image preferences with their photographers, especially if outdoor photography is desired. Photographers may have to do a little more work to achieve great outdoor photographs, even visiting a site in advance of the big day to scout backdrops.
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•P rioritize what is most important to you on your wedding day shot list. • Keep a clean space in the get-ready areas for photography. •H ave all the wedding details assembled and ready for photography: shoes, the dress, special jewelry, garter, gifts to your wedding party, mementos, the invitation. •B uild as much as two hours of time into the wedding schedule for portraits and group shots. If doing photography before the ceremony, brides will need to be onsite or ready approximately three hours before the ceremony. •B ring along some powder or makeup to touch up between photos. A light dusting of powder can tame shine, while any remaining moisture can be blotted away with a towel.
LIGHTING AND LOCATION • Lighting is crucial for great photography. Most photographers prefer natural light when at all possible. When booking venues, consider the natural light available for the ceremony and rooms designated for getting ready.
PHOTO CHECKLIST BRIDE B ride close-up & full-length B ride with groom B ride with mother B ride with father B ride with parents B ride with brothers/sisters B ride with groom’s parents B ride with grandparents and other relatives B ride and groom hands GROOM G room close-up & full-length G room with mother Groom with father G room with parents G room with brothers/sisters Groom with bride’s parents G room with grandparents and other relatives PRE-CEREMONY B ride arriving at church B ride getting ready M other assisting bride B ride and attendants B ride and father G room getting ready G room with best man
• Time of day matters for the best natural light, a consideration for working photography into the wedding schedule. Noon day brightness can cause harsh shadows, so a shaded area is best. The ideal hour for photography is the hour or so before sunset. • Not every family member will be able to join the happy couple for standing photos. Elderly relatives or those who have mobility issues may find it difficult to or make their way around. Arrange for indoor seated photos with elderly guests. • When weather permits, many brides and grooms prefer to take photos outdoors. Mother Nature can provide some awe-inspiring backdrops, and such beauty comes at no extra cost. The most stunning wedding pictures often have gorgeous natural backdrops.
PRE-CEREMONY PHOTOS Another way to improve your prospects of great wedding photos is to take the majority of the photos before the ceremony. Though some brides want to save the “wow” moment for the aisle, there are numerous reasons preceremony pictures work best.
• The bride will look her best when she is fresh and hair and makeup are also fresh. •T he relatives and bridal party will be contained and easily rounded up for the photos. •E veryone will be free to go directly to the reception and begin celebrating.
FIRST LOOK SESSION A “first look” session is when the bride and groom meet for a few minutes before the ceremony for some alone time (with the photographer.) Photographers love this opportunity for candid, emotional moments. For the couple, it provides a measure of privacy to share this special occasion and connect before the ceremony. First look can be a short session, but if the schedule allows, this is also a window for getting the wedding portraits posed and directed by the photographer. Allow up to an hour. Alternatively, wedding portraits of the couple can be taken after the ceremony when the pressure is off, but the session will need to be abbreviated if guests are waiting at the reception. Allow 20-30 minutes.
WEDDING PARTY B ride with bridesmaids B ride with maid of honor G room with groomsmen G room with best man E ntire wedding party F lower girl and ring bearer B ride and groom with flower girl and ring bearer CANDIDS F ront of church G uests arriving A ttendants walking aisle B ride’s mom walking aisle G room’s mom walking aisle F ather giving away the bride W edding party at the altar E xchange of vows T he kiss L ighting the unity candle B ride & groom recessing B ride & groom leaving church RECEPTION B ride and groom arriving at the wedding reception W edding cake and buffet tables B ride and groom’s first dance B ride dancing with father G room dancing with mother B oth sets of parents dancing C utting the cake B ride and groom’s toast B est man’s toast T ossing the garter T ossing the bouquet C ouple exiting reception
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Wedding Party Roles
Roles can vary, but most couples want their bridesmaids and groomsmen to perform traditional tasks associated with their roles. The following are some of the tasks bridesmaids and groomsmen can expect to perform in the months leading up to the wedding and during the ceremony itself.
MAID OF HONOR
The maid of honor serves as the bride-to-be's right-hand. Maids of honor typically go gown shopping with the bride and may offer suggestions about the color and style of the bridesmaids' dresses. The maid of honor will then make sure everyone is fitted on time. A maid of honor will also plan the bridal shower, sending invitations and arranging for lodging for outof-town guests. Many brides want the details of their showers to be a surprise, and maids of honor should honor that when possible. A maid of honor also plans the bachelorette party, though many brides do not mind being involved in the planning of such parties. The maid of honor may be asked to help address savethe-date cards and envelopes as well. On the wedding day, the maid of honor will ensure the bride is as stress-free as possible, helping to address any last-minute issues. Maids of honor may be asked to serve as the legal witness to the wedding and sign the license before the reception. At the reception, the maid of honor will toast the bride.
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BEST MAN
The best man is the maid of honor's counterpart, helping to plan the bachelor party and toasting the groom at the reception. The best man also tends to hold the rings during the wedding ceremony, and during the day of the wedding, he will coordinate the groomsmen to make sure everyone is ready to go on time. The best man may arrange transportation for the groom and groomsmen on the day of the wedding and may also return the groom and groomsmen's attire the following day if the newlyweds are departing on their honeymoons.
BRIDESMAIDS/GROOMSMEN
Members of the brides wedding party. Usually close friends or family members. The bridesmaids and groomsmen serve similar functions, acting as sources of support as couples plan their weddings. Bridesmaids and groomsmen help to plan the bachelorette and bachelor parties and may also be asked their opinions as couples make decisions regarding their weddings. Bridesmaids and groomsmen must be prepared to take pictures once couples have officially tied the knot. They also must help the brides and grooms with issues that arise in the hours before couples become husband and wife.
FLOWER GIRL & RING BEARER Flower girls and ring bearers are often young relatives of the couple, whether they are a young brother or
sister or a niece or nephew. The responsibilities of the flower girl and ring bearer are typically limited to the ceremony, during which they will walk down the aisle, either together or individually, before the father of the bride escorts his daughter to the altar or stage.
FATHER OF THE BRIDE
The father of the bride walks his daughter down the aisle during the ceremony, and, along with his wife, may pay for the wedding, though many couples now finance their own nuptials. The father of the bride will dance with his daughter during the reception, and some fathers may even share a special toast for the newlyweds during the reception, though such a toast is not traditionally required.
OFFICIANT
A marriage officiant is a civil officer who performs acts of marriage by witnessing the consent of the intended spouses and to ensure the legal validity of the marriage.
USHERS
Ushers seat guests, distribute programs at the ceremony, and escort the groom’s parents and bride’s mother to the front row.
GUESTBOOK ATTENDANT The guest book attendant looks after the guest book and accepts gifts on behalf of the couple.
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Choosing a Venue One of the first decisions a newly engaged couple needs to make is deciding where to hold the ceremony. No longer exclusive to houses of worship and courtrooms, modern weddings happen in many different places in many different ways. The Real Weddings Study found that couples spent an average of $16,107 on their wedding venues in 2016. That figure easily dwarfs the next biggest expense ($6,163 for the engagement ring) for couples tying the knot. Because the wedding venue comes with such a potentially high sticker price, couples should give ample consideration to a host of factors before choosing where to get married.
SIZE MATTERS Until they can agree on a guest list, couples might want to delay even looking for venues. However, some couples might want to first look at some venues so they can determine just how many guests they can afford to invite. Whether they're hosting small affairs or large parties, couples should choose venues that can comfortably accommodate all of their guests. If possible, look for venues with multiple reception areas, which might allow for
some wiggle room if the guest list grows or dwindles during the planning process. Guest comfort can be compromised if everyone is packed into a reception room that is much too small. Everyone should be able to sit and move around freely. This notion also applies to the dance floor. Be certain guests can dance comfortably and have a good time.
VENUE AVAILABILITY
Some couples might have an ideal time of year they hope to get married - some even know the exact date. While that can help with the planning, it can also limit couples with regard to their venue options. Some venues may be booked for as much as a year or more in advance during peak wedding season. The Real Weddings Study found that the most popular months to get married in 2016 were October and September. Those who can be more flexible regarding their wedding dates may find it easier to book their dream venues.
RELIGIOUS OR SECULAR?
Many couples still opt to get married in the traditional setting of a church or other religious house. However, more and more, brides and grooms are choosing non-traditional locations. Wineries, restaurants, warehouses,
beaches, forests – anything is fair game. Before you make the decision to marry in a church or outside of one, consider your own beliefs, as well as the ideals and traditions of your families. A church has the benefit of being set up for weddings, with seating provided, officiant at the ready, and appropriate facilities for guests. However, the music and rituals of the ceremony may be restricted based on the church’s guidelines. Alternatively, a non-religious venue will be more flexible and allow you to have any kind of wedding you choose, but may require more work to make it guestfriendly, and you will have to obtain an officiant to perform the ceremony.
VENUE CONSIDERATIONS • How many people can be accommodated? • I s there nearby parking or will a shuttle be required? • I s the officiant a separate fee? •C an I have any music/readings/ rituals I want? •A re paths easily accessible for those with mobility issues? •A re restrooms located close enough to seating areas so elderly guests won't have to walk far to use the bathroom? •A m I required to use a designated florist and other vendors?
A WEDDING IN PARADISE
Does the idea of getting married on vacation appeal to you? You aren’t alone. Destination weddings are more popular than ever. Whether a tropical beach or lush winery is your idea of romance, most resorts and venues offer wedding services at a set price. In the case of a remote locale, a wedding planner on-site is an absolute must, as you will need someone familiar with the venue and businesses who contract with it. Make a plan to visit your wedding location at least once in advance of the wedding to make plans and troubleshoot problems before the big day.
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Personalize Your Ceremony The wedding ceremony is the culmination of all your planning, and the reason for the party afterwards. It’s the focal point of the event and the beginning of your new life as a married couple. Because the ceremony is so important, it makes sense to put some thought into how to make it as meaningful and unique as possible. Steeped in tradition, weddings have featured many of the same components for centuries. In the past, most couples have followed the traditional route and chosen music and scripture readings that were suggested by their officiants. Today, brides and grooms are more passionate about tailoring each aspect of the wedding to their personal taste. Those about to tie the knot may feel limited in their ability to shape their weddings into unique celebrations of their relationships and love for one another. Though it may not seem like there are many opportunities to put your own stamp on the wedding, there are plenty of ways to do just that.
WEDDING VOWS
Vows are one of the easiest ways to put a personal touch on your wedding. You can select the words you want to exchange during the ceremony as well as any readings during the service. Work with your officiant to narrow down particular phrasing or sentiments that fit with your vision of the wedding and relationship.
PARTICIPANTS
Wedding party members fulfill certain roles during the ceremony, but they are not limited to those tasks alone. Consider asking wedding party members or other friends or family members to take on specialized roles in the wedding. They may be able to do certain readings, escort guests to their seats, light candles, or sing and participate in other ways.
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Couples who wish to honor their parents, grandparents and other family members can do so using keepsakes. Including lace from your mother’s dress in your bouquet or have your groom wear your grandfather’s cufflinks. You can also make your family’s presence known by displaying photos of previous weddings as part of your décor.
MUSICAL INTERLUDES
Choose music that connects with your personalities as a couple rather than selecting standard songs merely because they are the easier route. Work with the organist or other musicians and request that they perform or play musical pieces that you enjoy. Walk down the aisle to the first song you danced to, or have a friend sing the piece that was performed at your parents’ wedding. Hire live musicians or feel free to play recorded popular music. Anything that is meaningful to you will be the perfect choice.
READINGS
Similarly, don’t feel constrained by the traditional scripture readings. If there is a poem, quote or passage from a book that speaks to you, opt to have that read during a key moment in the ceremony.
PRINTED MATERIALS
A wedding is the culmination of a love story, so don’t be shy about telling yours. Use your program to add a personal note or tell a story. Even the décor and flowers can contain elements of design that make the wedding more personal. For instance, wine connoisseurs might incorporate corks or empty bottles in their décor; travel-lovers might include the names of past destinations or even airplane ticket stubs.
SOMETHING OLD, NEW, BORROWED AND BLUE
This good luck saying dates back to Victorian times. Something old represents the bride’s link with her family and past and is often expressed with the wearing of an heirloom. Something new could be anything representing the hope for success in her future. Something borrowed reminds the bride to rely on others, her family and friends that surround her. The borrowed object could be a handkerchief or her grandmother’s rosary to put around the bouquet. Something blue represents faithfulness and loyalty. The bride could wear a blue garter, paint her nails blue, wear blue heels to walk down the aisle or incorporate blue jewelry into her wedding look.
Unity Ceremonies At their core, weddings celebrate the joining together of two hearts, families and homes. Likewise, unity ceremonies represent the magic of two individuals coming together as one. Unity rituals may be built into traditional, non-traditional, religious and secular wedding ceremonies as a normal part of the couple's traditions and festivities. Couples seeking creative options for unity rituals to incorporate in their wedding can explore the following unity ceremony trends. • CANDLE LIGHTING: The lighting of a unity candle is one of the more recognizable and traditional unity rituals. During this ritual, the bride and the groom each light an individual candle and then together light a larger candle, which celebrates them coming together as one. • SAND POURING: The pouring of sand into a vessel also is a popular unity ritual. In this ritual, couples choose two sands of different colors and then pour their respective colors into a vessel, allowing the different hues to mix together. This ritual can be expanded to include other family members, with a rainbow of colors for the joining multiple individuals; sand pouring lends itself particularly well to blended families. NITY CROSS: Christians •U may enjoy a unity cross ritual at their ceremony. A unity cross is a decorative cross with a holder, and the cross is held in place by three pins, which symbolize the Father, Son and the Holy Spirit. During this ritual, the bride, groom and their pastor or priest will each set a pin in place.
• TREE PLANTING: Planting a tree or shrub that can grow with the marriage is a green idea and one that takes unity rituals to a different level. Couples can place the sapling in a decorative pot and then take turns watering it. Later the tree can be planted outside the couple's first home. •T YING THE KNOT: The phrase "tying the knot" is synonymous with getting married. In some cultures, getting married actually requires tying a knot. The custom is an ancient Babylonian tradition in which threads from the clothes of the bride and groom were tied together to represent the couple's union. Other cultures have embraced this tradition, and couples tie ceremonial knots on their wedding day. •L ASSO CEREMONY: This ritual is traditional in many Spanishand Filipino-speaking countries. After vows are exchanged, the officiant wraps a floral garland or rosary around the couple. At the end of the wedding ceremony, the garland is saved as a symbol of unity and love. ANDFASTING: This ritual •H comes from an ancient Celtic tradition that bounds the bride and groom's right hands together during the wedding ceremony. Handfasting symbolizes couples' commitments to one another. LOWER CEREMONY: In •F this ritual, couples exchange a flower then place them in a vase or basket. Family members are invited to place a single flower into the vessel, which ultimately results in a beautiful display. AKE YOUR OWN: Feel free •M to create your own unique unity ceremony. The blending of any two materials, such as wine, glass beads or paint will convey the symbolism of joining as one.
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Religious Ceremonies
Weddings can be as unique and varied as the couples tying the knot. Quite often couples like to include certain twists on the ceremony and celebration to personalize their big days. But just as there are surprises at weddings, there also are many traditions that will be adhered to during ceremonies.
CHRISTIAN WEDDING CELEBRATIONS Christian celebrations are similar among the various denominations. Such ceremonies typically involve a processional, though the groom is typically not included, instead standing at the altar. Christians typically hear various scripture readings, and the officiant will explain the significance of marriage in this faith. Many Catholic weddings feature a full Mass during wedding ceremonies, and this Mass includes the transubstantiation of the Holy Eucharist. After vows and rings are exchanged, the couple kisses and is pronounced husband and wife in the eyes of God. The bride and groom sign the marriage document with two witnesses on hand.
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HINDU WEDDING CELEBRATIONS
JEWISH WEDDING CELEBRATIONS
A Hindu wedding celebration is an elaborate affair that includes extended family and community members. The wedding ceremony is called vivaah sanskar and can be a very colorful celebration that lasts for days. The couple and guests will be wearing traditional dress. The bride usually wears body art produced with a mixture of henna and turmeric.
The world's Jewish population is divided among distinct denominations and classifications. Although there may be subtle differences in wedding ceremonies between the sects, Jewish wedding traditions tend to be consistent across the groups. Conservative and Orthodox Jews may not hold weddings on the Sabbath or other holidays. Couples will sign the Ketuba, which is a marriage document affirming their connection to each other and to God.
Hindu rituals may vary widely, but some key things are shared. According to the "Encyclopedia of Hinduism," many will include the Kanyadaan, or giving away of the daughter by her father; Panigrahana, or holding one's hands by a fire to signify the union; and Saptapadi, which is taking seven steps and making seven promises to each other before the fire. The couple may have their clothing tied together during the seven promises ritual to represent their lifelong bond.
The wedding ceremony starts with grandparents seated first, followed by a procession of the rabbi, cantor and groomsmen. The groom and bride will be escorted by their parents. The wedding party gathers beneath the chuppah, a canopy that signifies a house and represents the couple's future together. A solid gold ring is given only to the bride according to Jewish law, though liberal rabbis may allow a ring for the groom as a gift. The groom smashes a wineglass with his foot after vows are exchanged.
INTERFAITH WEDDING CELEBRATIONS Cross-cultural marriages are on the rise. If the bride and groom come from different faith traditions, it is important to sit down early and talk candidly about the role religion will play in the wedding ceremony. If you decide you would like to incorporate both faiths, there are several considerations for planning a ceremony. • CEREMONY LOCATION: Some faiths or officiants may have rules about whether a mixed-religion marriage will be sanctioned, and whether involving elements of a different religion in the ceremony will be allowed. Some religions may require premarital counseling or classes. If you are considering a religious house of worship for the ceremony, plan a meeting with the officiant to see whether it is a good fit. Alternatively, choose a neutral site for the ceremony, such as a hotel ballroom, country club, park or other venue. • TWO SEPARATE CEREMONIES: If the couple or their families want to fully embrace each religious tradition, two ceremonies can be an option. The ceremonies can be held on different days or the same day. One may be short and sweet, and one can have all the trimmings — or go all out for both. Obviously, two ceremonies will mean double the planning and a bigger budget, but may be the best solution for couples and families who feel deeply about the ceremony rites of their separate religions. • ONE BLENDED CEREMONY: Wedding ceremonies in most faith traditions have unique elements that make them special, from what the bride and groom wear to how the families are included. Working with your officiant, create a wedding program that includes explanations of the specific religious customs performed and a translation if a foreign language is used. This way, family and friends can understand, appreciate and participate in unfamiliar traditions. Be sure to offer to include both sides of the family in rituals.
• HONOR BOTH CULTURES AT THE RECEPTION: If a couple determines that the important aspects of their separate wedding traditions are cultural rather than religious, a neutral ceremony can be followed by a reception that honors both family histories. Culture can be represented in attire, food, décor, favors, music and dance. The bride may wear a sari while dancing the hora, or a mariachi band may play while the couple jumps the broom.
• ACCEPT SOME DISAPPROVAL: Even if parents are prepared to go along with your interfaith ceremony plans, chances are someone in your extended family and friends may harbor some negativity about mixing beliefs and rituals. Couples should be respectful of others, but keep a united front against disapproval. A blended ceremony that honors both faiths can show that love and respect for family lie at the core of almost all wedding rituals — no matter how unfamiliar they may appear on the surface.
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Ethnic Weddings Couples are more culturally diverse than ever before. Engaged couples are embracing that diversity by incorporating elements of their heritage into their ceremonies. Global-infused details are a growing trend in ceremonies and receptions. Multicultural touches can help make weddings unique.
TRADITIONAL DRESS With many countries embracing the tradition of wearing "wedding white," couples are once again tapping into ethnic dress to add that wow factor to their weddings. Fashion can impart elements that borrow from ancestral homelands and tried-and-true wedding tradition. Distinct attire, such as henna designs, sarees, kimonos, khmers, and kilts, may be center stage at ceremonies and receptions. Some couples opt to have a change of clothes so they can wear traditional dress for the ceremony and wedding gowns and tuxedos for the reception.
ETHNIC ENTERTAINMENT In addition to a band or DJ, couples may want to incorporate some sort of ethnic entertainment into the festivities. Caribbean couples may want a steel drum band. Japanese weddings may be enhanced with the addition of a Taiko group that showcases the art of ensemble drumming. Although bagpipes are often associated with Irish or Scottish heritage, they're included in folk music from different regions of Europe, Africa and the Persian Gulf as well.
MULTICULTURAL DANCE Some of the most entertaining parts of a wedding involve dancing. With the right music and a few cocktails, guests' inhibitions may relax. Couples can even increase the fun factor by incorporating ethnic dance customs and music into their playlists. If budget allows, hire a dance troupe to guide guests with the proper steps. Otherwise, ask the band
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or DJ to play the music that inspires the tarantella, salsa or Bollywood moves and learn as you go.
ETHNIC CUISINE According to New Jersey Bride magazine, millennials have long been exposed to multicultural cuisine and have exotic palates. Food can reflect the couple's culture or simply harken
to cuisine they enjoy the most. The New York Times predicted that food inspired by Africa and the Philippines is hot for 2017, so couples may want to opt for flavors from these areas of the world. When exotic offerings are presented, it's a good idea to also have some traditional wedding food to satisfy less adventurous guests.
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The Second Wedding Taking a chance on love and marriage for the second (or third) time is certainly worthy of celebration. The Pew Research Center reports that at least four in 10 new marriages include at least one partner who has been married before, a trend that is on the rise. Roughly 42 million American adults have gotten married a second time — up from 22 million in 1980. Planning a second wedding can be challenging, as individuals may be worried about proper etiquette, superstitions or meeting the expectations of others. But there are no hard rules governing second weddings. Now that couples are older and a bit more experienced, wedding planning may be met with greater enthusiasm and patience. These tips can help the process along.
FIRST THINGS FIRST While basking in the glow of your happy future, there are a few things you need to do quickly. The very first thing you do is tell the children. The next thing you do is tell your ex-spouse – in person, by phone, in a letter, etc. Even if exes will not be included, make sure they know about the nuptials in advance of others. It's common courtesy, and it can help head off feelings of ill-will.
BE PATIENT WITH LOVED ONES You’ll get a lot of innocent-sounding comments from friends and family. Forgive them as they mean no harm. Things like: So soon? Can you wear white? Is your ex okay with this? Getting a pre-nup? I thought you said you’d never get married! You get the general idea. Your friends and family love you. Don’t let their insensitivity rain on your wedding parade.
KEEP IT SMALL — OR GO BIG! Don't feel beholden to tradition. Second weddings tend to be more intimate, as guest lists tend to be smaller and couples tying the knot again may prefer less hustle and bustle. But couples should not avoid inviting people simply because second weddings are typically small affairs. Invite as many friends and family as you want and as your budget allows. Some couples who are taking another crack at marriage are tying the knot with renewed vigor and with weddings that may rival some first-timers'. Lavish second weddings were once uncommon, but that trend is shifting.
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DO IT YOUR WAY The details should be relatively easy. You have done this before and while you may have been planning with a mom or sister or mother-in-law looking over your shoulder, this time it’s just about you and your groom. You can have a formal wedding, you can get married at the court house, you can throw a big party, you can get married at your home, you can get married on the beach, you can have a wedding in a barn, you set the tone as a couple. The rules for second weddings are that almost anything goes! The beauty is that couples marrying for the second time know what they want. Couples can use experience to draft vows that have personal meaning to their unique situations and make the wedding ceremony even more special.
GET DOLLED UP Brides need not eschew white if they prefer to wear it for their second weddings. White, cream, ivory, or other shades are perfectly acceptable. Also, brides can make their gowns as lavish or as simplistic as they desire. The length and style of the dress should reflect the formality and scope of the event. You can also
wear a colorful gown, a cocktail dress or a snappy suit. In fact, this can be a time to let loose and select something festive or even funky. This also may provide a great opportunity to choose clothing styles from different cultures or ties into one's heritage. Grooms may opt for something more casual than a tuxedo or coordinate with their brides-to-be so they are on the same creative page. Colored tuxedos and vintage suits are acceptable, even though such attire might have raised a few eyebrows the first time around.
MAKE IT UNIQUE Couples who have been married before may want to set this new occasion apart from their previous weddings. Experts suggest discussing previous celebrations and what can be done differently this time around. Couples can use this opportunity to get to know each other more intimately by personalizing their festivities.
SET UP A REGISTRY Established couples may have the household basics already in place, thus showers are not normally thrown for a second marriage. But many couples still create registries; these can include
fun or entertaining gifts that speak to couples' interests such as home theater systems, fancy cookware, athletic equipment, or even funds for honeymoon travel. You can certainly register for gifts, but if your friends were at the first wedding they are not obligated to buy a present. Most couples on their second marriage do not receive gifts. Still, some folks are used to gift-giving, so register for some fun things that you like as a couple, or ask your friends to donate to a charity.
INVOLVE THE CHILDREN Involve the children. Couples who have children can make them a special part
tradition is to light a family candle as part of the ceremony. However you choose to do so, involve and encourage children to participate in the planning of the wedding.
BE PREPARED The marriage application process is similar the second time around, but additional documents, such as a divorce decree or death certificate, may be necessary. These legal documents also will be needed for men and women who intend to change their last names after getting married. If you wish to be married in a church, you should check to see
DON'T FEEL BEHOLDEN TO TRADITION. COUPLES TYING THE KNOT AGAIN MAY PREFER LESS HUSTLE AND BUSTLE. of their second wedding celebrations. Kids can play any role in the ceremony, depending on their age. If the second marriage comes after an amicable divorce, couples can invite their former spouses to provide support to their children so they can feel comfortable in the wedding. A common second wedding trend is to have step-parents say vows to their step-children about being a family. Another oft-included
what steps must be taken so you can be married in the particular faith. You might consider speaking to an attorney about a prenuptial agreement if you have a lot of money, have property you wish to keep in the family, or want to protect your children’s future. It’s also a good idea to consider premarital counseling to make sure you’re on the same page and that your expectations are similar.
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Personalizing Your Vows Couples who choose to write their own wedding vows recognize how special such personal gestures are. Writing one's own vows can impart a personalized and special touch to the ceremony. But as anyone who has stared down a blank piece of paper or blinking cursor can attest, a case of writer's block may encourage couples to abandon the idea of writing their own vows. Writing vows can be nervewracking. Many couples are unaccustomed to speaking in front of crowds, and then there is the challenge of turning lifealtering feelings into language that will appeal to the masses. But couples struggling with their vows need not throw in the vow-writing towel. With some practice and guidance, anyone can write cherished vows that will be remembered for all of the right reasons for years to come.
SKIP THE SCHTICK
Jokes may pop up in speeches throughout the evening, but wedding vows can be your chance to truly speak from the heart. Humor may come across as insincerity. Rather, list the words that describe your feelings for your future spouse, and build on that.
TELL A STORY
If you need inspiration, look to a moment in your relationship when you really knew this was the person with whom you wanted to share your life. Relay the story, but keep it brief. Try to be as specific as possible, and recognize that it's acceptable to be playful with your words. When it's really coming from the heart and not the head, you'll know it.
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BE TRADITIONAL
Take traditional vows and tweak them to make them your own. This works especially well for those who have trouble getting started or are unsure of which format to follow. Incorporate key words, such as "partners," "love," "friends," "joy," and "forever."
ASK THE OFFICIANT
Depending on the type of ceremony, the officiant may have final say over what can or cannot be included in your vows. Religious ceremonies, for example, may be limited to certain scripture readings and traditional vows. Before you devote any time to writing vows, ensure that it's alright to include them. Otherwise, save personalized sentiments for a special toast at the wedding reception.
MATCH YOUR PARTNER
If you and your spouse will not be writing the vows together, agree on a format that you both will follow.
Otherwise, you might be writing about your unending love, and he or she may be promising to keep updated on favorite sports teams or television programs. You want the tone and style of the vows to be cohesive.
DIG DEEPER
Look into the future and project how you hope your life to be in 10 or 20 years. Explain all of the reasons you want to be together for the duration.
READ AND RE-READ
Read over your work aloud and make sure the language is clear and there are no glaring errors. It may take a few versions to get the final version right where you want it.
GET A SECOND OPINION
Ask someone you trust to listen to the vows and offer feedback. This needs to be a person who will be honest and not just tell you what you want to hear.
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Wedding Reception Tips When it comes to planning your wedding reception, the sky is the limit. From small and homespun to large and lavish, your reception is the ultimate expression of you and your groom as a couple. With careful planning and an eye for detail, you can plan a party that will delight your guests and ensure fond memories for a lifetime. 1. Consider selecting your reception venue before setting the date for the wedding in order to be flexible in securing the desired location. 2. Book early. Do your research and site visits early in the wedding planning process, so that you can make a timely decision. Depending on the venue, some may be taking reservations a year or more in advance. 3. Guest list size can determine location options, so have your headcount ready before shopping for a venue. 4. Be flexible about the reception date. This will open up many more options; try to avoid June and September as they are some of the most popular wedding months. 5. Visit venues. Stay within your budget, and never book a venue without touring it first! 6. Settle on a style or vibe before shopping around for venues. Are you going casual or formal? Indoors or outdoors? Rustic, urban or elegant? 7. Do your out-of-town guests a favor and book a reception venue close to your ceremony space if at all possible. 8. Many venues require you to use inhouse caterers and other vendors. Ask yourself, do you want an all-inclusive venue? If you opt for more flexibility, are you prepared to take on additional coordination responsibilities?
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9. If the venue is outdoors, is there a backup if the weather goes south? Rain can be a spoiler, but so can heat and insects; so consider the time of day and season. 10. W hat services and equipment do you need from the venue? If you want to have a live band, they will need a stage and sufficient power for audio equipment. 11. W hen you’ve narrowed your selections, don’t hesitate to ask lots of questions. For example, will there be more than one wedding in the venue on your day? Are there any décor, construction or landscape changes anticipated before your date? When can you get in to decorate — and is that time included in the price or extra? 12. C reate a checklist of all your questions, and make sure they’ve been answered satisfactorily before signing the contract. ead the contract! Be sure 13. R you are aware of all fees. Most locations have deposit requirements. Many have additional charges for extra tables, linens, dance floor, AV equipment and tents. oes the venue have food and 14. D beverage minimums or service fees for staffing and cleanup? These extra fees can bust a budget, so it’s important to know what you will need and what it will cost at the end of the day. 15. W hat are the restrictions? Each venue will have its own rules about noise, décor, parking, alcohol, security and much more. Ask directly what restrictions exist. 16. N ote the venue’s cancellation policy before you sign. Many businesses have nonrefundable
deposits, so be sure you know the commitment before signings. 17. Give your guests a warm welcome. Show your most honored guests just how much they mean to you by writing a brief, personal note welcoming them to your reception. Place the note on top of their place setting at the table and they will instantly feel at home. 18. Consider providing a photo booth at your reception. Include silly props and costumes. If you upgrade to a video booth, guests can record personal messages for yourself and your groom. 19. Don’t just rely on your wedding photographer — provide some disposable cameras for the guests to snap photos! Set up a designated location to drop the cameras off so you can develop the film at a later date. 20. Love donuts? Cupcakes? Chocolate chip cookies? There’s no reason that you have to stick to the traditional wedding cake. Alternative dessert tables are all the rage as couples seek to make their reception more personalized to their own tastebuds. 21. Modernize your guest book. Choose something for guests to sign that has staying power, like an art print, stuffed animal or serving plate that can be displayed and enjoyed for years to come. 22. Hire a food truck. Food trucks are a fun, trendy way to inject flavor into your reception at a relatively lower cost than hiring a traditional caterer and waiters. 23. Play games. Encourage guests to mingle by creating games for them to play during cocktail hour.
You might have a scavenger hunt list asking guests to find someone who fits a particular description, or give guests a puzzle piece and encourage them to find the fellow guest who has its mate. 24. Remember the kids. If you expect to have kids at your reception, it’s a thoughtful and smart idea to organize some entertainment for them. Coloring books, crayons, candy and special child-friendly menu items are good ideas to keep your youngest guests happy and occupied. 25. Craft a designer drink. Choose a cocktail that you and your fiance enjoy, give it a special name, and serve it as a signature drink during cocktail hour. 26. Consider giving guests favors that will come in handy during your event, like flip-flops to replace high heels when the dancing starts, fans
to cool off guests on a summer day, or matchboxes to light sparklers for the bride and groom’s exit. 27. You’ve gone to great lengths to make sure that every detail of the reception is perfect, so don’t forget the facilities. Set out a basket of perfume, lotion, breath mints, and other niceties for guests to help themselves to when they take a break from the dance floor. 28. After a long night of dancing, your guests will be famished as the party comes to a close. Serve a delicious midnight snack, such as milk and cookies, for them to munch on as they prepare to see you off. 29. Have a hashtag. Post visible signs in various gathering areas highlighting your wedding hashtag so that you can enjoy all the posts your guests make on social media in the days to come.
30. Make an entrance. Think of a fun way to join the reception when the DJ or band announces you for the first time as husband and wife, such as a theme song or choreographed dance routine with your wedding party. 31. Book some memorable musicians. Even if you opt for a DJ for most of the reception, nothing makes an impact like live musicians. Consider hiring a jazz trio or single guitar player to serenade guests during cocktail hour. 32. If there’s a lull on the dance floor, break the ice and boogie. When your guests see how much fun you are having on the dance floor, it won’t be long before they join you to get the party started. 33. Leave in style. Make a splash on your dash to the getaway car as guests shower you in confetti, blow bubbles, release butterflies, wave sparklers, blow horns or ring bells.
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The Do It Yourself Reception As the cost of the average wedding continues to rise, it's understandable that couples ready to tie the knot may be seeking any and all ways to save money. While some aspects of the wedding day are better left to the professionals, others are prime for a little do-it-yourself cost cutting. A DIY wedding reception is within your reach. You’ve found the perfect place for your reception — a great space just waiting for your creative touch.
KNOW WHAT YOU'RE GETTING INTO First things first – be willing to take on this job, make plans ahead of the wedding to make sure everyone helping you is on the same page and agrees to carry out your vision. Have friends willing to do the work that you can’t on your reception day. These are special take-charge friends or family who are invested in helping you have a wonderful reception; they may have to ruffle a few feathers on your behalf!
DESIGNATE A SETUP LEADER Find dependable friends who are willing to help set up the space and decorate. You’ll need a takecharge, detail oriented leader you trust, who will see the project through from start to finish. Have a plan, a check-list, a look (include photos if you want the room to look a certain way) and a realistic timeline in which to accomplish the setup. Make sure the setup leader has the names of everyone you are doing business with; have him or her handle payments if you haven’t done so in advance.
DESIGN YOUR OWN CENTERPIECES While floral bouquets and boutonniéres are probably best left to professional florists, couples may want to try making their own reception table centerpieces. Such centerpieces can be simple displays of fresh flowers in vases or more intricate designs. Test out any ideas prior to the reception. Remember to keep arrangement height in mind. You do not want to obscure the view of seated guests!
MAKE YOUR OWN WEDDING FAVORS Design favors that work with the theme of your wedding and make them yourself. These can be candles, fruit preserves, soaps, baked goods or anything else that appeals to you. The cost of making them in bulk will turn out to be less than purchasing manufactured items. Plus, guests get to take home something handcrafted by you.
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Outdoor Weddings Weather is perhaps the biggest factor couples must consider when planning an outdoor wedding. Outdoor weddings are best held during those seasons when the threat of precipitation is insignificant and temperatures are mild, but it's still necessary to have a backup plan just in case Mother Nature does not want to cooperate.
EXTREME HEAT
Have solutions for sun and heat. Couples don't want their wedding guests or bridal party members passing out due to heat exhaustion. Make sure to offer shade if the ceremony or reception is outside. Stock the area with cold bottles of water or a chilled lemonade stand. Have fans and umbrellas available just in case guests need a way to protect themselves from the sun. In fact, you THE BOTTOM LINE: GUESTS CAN SENSE NEGATIVE may consider investing in ENERGY, AND COUPLES SHOULD SET THE TONE. golf umbrellas, STICK THROUGH IT DESPITE A LITTLE ADVERSITY. which tend to be larger than the average umbrella, and windy, cut your losses and move your and keep them stationed in decorated stands to wedding celebration indoors. ease transitions between wedding sites and keep everyone as shaded as possible. If need be, bring in • KNOW VENDOR RAIN POLICIES. a portable generator to keep the reception room Some live musicians will not play in damp cooled by fans. weather. Florists may need to make accommodations for arrangements blowing STRONG WIND in the wind. Couples need to understand Coastal outdoor weddings present beautiful what they're responsible for and what backdrops for weddings. But being near the shore may be covered if a weather event occurs. may mean accepting windy conditions. Tie down Wedding insurance may help cover the tents and use weights to keep wedding programs or costs of nonrefundable cancellations. other papers from catching a current. In notoriously • RISE ABOVE THE RAIN. It is okay to get windy climates, bride and her wedding party should upset if the weather turns for the worse. opt for free-flowing tresses so they needn't worry But don't dwell on it. While a couple about intricate updos coming undone. probably won't wish for rain, there are some benefits to overcast skies, say the RAINY SKIES wedding professionals at Brides magazine. Brides and grooms fear the prospects of rainy Flowers are less likely to wilt in rainy wedding days. How couples handle potential conditions. Plus, overcast conditions can precipitation can affect how happy the festivities actually contribute to better photos. A will weather the storm. healthy blanket of cloud cover can produce • HAVE A RAIN GAME PLAN. Have a rainy day richer colors and pleasing shadows, making game plan. Rain affects outdoor weddings more the photos of your big day even more than any other type of ceremony or reception. If appealing. The bottom line is, guests will the goal is to exchange vows outdoors, work with sense negative energy. Stick through it the venue to make this possible with a tent or despite a little adversity; this is a good gazebo. However, if the weather is especially foul lesson for the marriage as well!
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PITCH A TENT Whether you’re having a small wedding in the backyard or a formal affair at a fabulous location, tenting and canopies provide a great way to create an event space while enjoying the beauty of the outdoors. Tents are available in a variety of sizes and styles – many that can weather any season. Some more elaborate models come equipped with peaks, walls and windows! It is important to measure the space for the tent, provide photos of the space including trees, the ground, overhangs
— any obstruction that could impede an installation. Most people want structures that are quick, safe, and easy to install. It is wise and often necessary to make an appointment with a tent rental company in advance of the big day. The professional will inspect the location for ground stability, will assess underground hazards (sprinkler systems, wells, septic systems); this ensures the safety of both your guests and your structure. There are installation fees no matter where you place the tent, and trickier locations typically cost more.
Do the legwork, ask the questions, then select the tent that’s right for your needs. In addition to the added space and convenience tents offer, tents can bring an air of romance, and the grace of a bygone era to your wedding celebration. And then there are those extras: heating, cooling, lighting, special effect lighting, misting, floor covering, stages, columns, arches, latticework – make sure you are crystal clear with your tent provider so you have no surprises on your big day!
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Wedding Transportation Get me to the church on time! A simple line from a wedding song — but if you’re not at your wedding venue and your guests aren’t either, the wedding cannot happen! According to The Knot Real Weddings Study 2016, roughly half of all engaged couples will hire a transportation service such as a limousine or party bus for their weddings. Hiring transportation for the bride and groom, the wedding party and the wedding guests can make your wedding day run both on time and smoothly. Here are some important tips to help you get to the altar on time.
DETERMINE YOUR NEEDS
Before a transportation plan can be made, couples must first map out their needs. Determine what transportation you can afford. Will you need a limo, a town car or a shuttle for your guests? Will there be a lot of out-of-towners? Will the bridal party need a limo? What about the groomsmen? Will you need separate transportation for leaving the church and traveling to the reception venue.
BOOK IN ADVANCE
Crack open a calendar. April, May and June are demanding and busy times – weddings, proms and graduations occur during these months. Book your transportation at least 6 months in advance – this secures your reservation and since it’s not ‘last minute’ your price will be better.
ESTABLISH A BUDGET Find an option that won't bust your budget. When choosing transportation for your guests, do not feel pressured to book lavish buses. So long as buses are safe and on time, guests won't mind if they ride in a school bus or a fancy bus worthy of a touring rock band. If you are concerned about the appearance of a bus, ask if you can decorate the bus before the wedding to make it more inviting.
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Expect to pay from the time of the first pickup to the end of your reception. Most companies require you to book a minimum number of hours and pay for the wait time in between — ask about the minimum time requirements, ask if there are any mileage charges, or any additional fees you may have to pay. Receive formal estimates from several companies before making your final decision, and speak to companies about matching offers. Don’t forget to ask if the gratuity is included, as many companies will add a 20% fee to your bill for the chauffeur — if it’s not added to the bill, generally a 15% tip is standard.
PLAN YOUR TRIP
When planning your shuttle or limousine routes, allow for a cushion of 20 to 30 minutes. Unexpected delays often occur. Be cautious and take a test drive of your route. If you are ordering a shuttle, be aware that many buses may drive slower than your own car. Allow several minutes for loading and unloading guests.
WORK WITH ONE COMPANY
Find a company that can service all of your needs. Whether you need multiple limos or limos and shuttles, it makes sense to do business with one company, one
person, and one bill. To make sure you are choosing the right company, visit the office and talk with them. You want to ensure you have an amazing day that goes exactly how you have envisioned.
READ THE RULES
Read your contract. All limo companies have rules – different rules. Make sure you know what those rules are in advance so you know what to expect. Questions like how much will they charge for fuel or mileage? What will they charge you if a glass is broken or 1 of your guests damages something? Do they allow you to decorate the limo or shuttlebus? What is allowed and what is not allowed? When are monies due? Is there a deposit? Reading the fine print will save you a hassle later if something does go wrong.
SHUTTLE SERVICES
Investing in the guest experience means couples are seeking ways to provide comfort and convenience for their guests and wedding party members. Rather than asking guests to get themselves to and fro, couples may employ buses or shuttles stocked with amenities to transport a greater number of people. A shuttle to the rehearsal dinner, the wedding venue, and the reception can make
navigating the area much easier for your out-oftown guests. It’s a lot safer too should there be any celebrating with alcohol. If you order shuttle services for your guests, start your shuttle service early as many guests like to arrive early. Designate a person (a friend or relative) to be the shuttle coordinator – this is who the chauffeur(s) should take orders from. Make sure the company knows who this person is so there are no mistakes. If multiple parties are telling the chauffeur or driver what to do and where to go, chaos ensues.
CONTACT YOUR CHAUFFER
Most companies will give you the name and number of your chauffeur in advance. Call them, introduce yourself, and make sure they are up to date and understand all of your needs and expectations. Communicate the timeline you have created for your special day. One week prior to the wedding, contact the company to double-check that all details are in order.
PHOTO OPPS
Have your photographer ride along with you in the limo. Both pre- and post-ceremony shots are becoming the new standard.
SPECIAL REQUESTS
Be specific when placing your reservation. Special requests like the type of champagne you like, your music needs, availability of auxiliary cords, dress code for your chauffeur — these items are
often easily accommodated. You can usually request your favorite songs to be played or a DVD with a slide show during your trip. Chilled refreshments and other items like a box of chocolates or strawberries are often available. Ask your company to add these requests to your contract.
DIRECTIONS
Decorations can play a key role in making every last detail tie together. Ask your company about decorations. Some companies have policies against decorating and some companies will go all the way and accommodate your desires. Ask in advance so you are not disappointed later. Some companies will
even decorate their shuttle buses to make them more appealing to your guests. Want that extra touch? Ask about ‘red carpet’ celebrity treatment packages.
something more trendy, such as limos built upon sports cars. SUV-based limos are still popular, with Hummers, Escalades and Navigators offering the wow factor.
End your ceremony with an amazing final experience. Go out in style. Your exit transportation is an excellent way to put a beautiful cap on your beautiful day. Your exit from the church should be an unforgettable moment. Be creative and work with your transportation company to make your departure unique.
For that A-list look right out of a classic movie, stepping out of a vintage vehicle creates red-carpet moments. Dream cars for this type of glamorous arrival and departure include Rolls Royce, Bentley, Aston Martin and others. Many private companies rent classic vehicles. Couples also may contract with those who attend classic car shows.
To set their weddings apart, couples are trending away from traditional stretch limousines and renting
Some brides opt to take a page out of a favorite fairy tale and leave their weddings in a horse-drawn
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carriage. Carriages can typically fit between two and six passengers. Others go eco-friendly, choosing to depart on horseback or even pedaling a bicycle. Such options are eco-friendly and, in the case of bicycles, may be free. Pedicabs or bicycledrawn buggies are also an alternative. According to The Knot says, couples spend around 6.5 months researching their wedding day transportation options and will make their decision and reservation five months before their wedding. The more exotic the transportation option, the earlier couples should make their decisions to ensure they can book their first choice.
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Ordering Alcohol When planning your wedding reception, one of the trickiest things you’ll have to calculate is how much alcohol to buy. Of course, the number of guests, how your family and friends tend to drink, the day of the week, the time of day — these factors must be taken in to account so you can order the proper amount of wine, beer, and spirits while staying on budget.
A case consists of 24 cans or bottles, 12 oz each. A half keg consists of 15 gallons (160 servings of 12 oz each) of beer.
The rule of thumb for a party or reception is that most people will have 3 glasses of wine or champagne and 2 to 3 cocktails or beer per person. Now, take these numbers and factor in the environment of your wedding — is there an open bar? Is there a cash bar? Are you serving only wine and beer? Is the occasion formal or casual? The choice is yours. Do you want to have a special cocktail for each person and then serve just wine and beer? Is the wedding a formal affair that requires an open bar? See the handy chart at right for serving portions as you navigate the ordering process.
SPIRITS AND CORDIALS
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BEER
WINE AND CHAMPAGNE BOTTLE 375ml 750ml 1.0L 1.5L 3.0L 5.0L
BOTTLE 375ml 750ml 1.0L 1.5L
OUNCES 12.7 25.4 33.8 50.7 101.4 169.0
OUNCES 12.7 25.4 33.8 59.2
4 OZ GLASS 12.7 25.4 33.8 50.7 101.4 169.0
1 OZ POUR 12 25 33 59
servings per bottle
5 OZ GLASS 2.5 5 6 10 20 33
6 OZ GLASS 2 4 5 8 17 28
servings per bottle
1.5 OZ POUR 8 16 22 39
The Signature Cocktail The ceremony is over. People have headed to the reception venue. How can you welcome your guests in a most personal way? Try a signature cocktail created by the two of you. Can’t decide on just one special cocktail, create two — one for her and one for him! Signature wedding drinks can be served during the cocktail hour or throughout the entire reception. They can be wine- or champagne-based, or alcohol, mixers and trendy flavors. Start with a recipe search and make the drinks at home first. Consider having friends over to help make and taste
your concoctions as a great stress reliever for you, your groom and your friends. Make your selection(s) and stick with it! This is a fun part of personalizing your wedding. Consider making a non-alcoholic version of your drink for those who are nondrinkers or designated drivers. Can’t decide on your cocktails? Meet with a mixologist and let a professional guide you and suggest options that reflect the theme or ‘feel’ of your wedding. A mixologist will incorporate your menu and help to pair wines, champagnes and liquors with the food you are
serving. In addition, they can suggest drinks that appeal to a wide variety of people, namely your wedding guests. Is there a local winery, brewery or distillery in your area? Consider contacting someone at one of these locations and creating a hyper-local signature drink or cocktail. Don’t forget to come up with a clever name for your cocktails. This personalizes your drink. Use your sense of humor and your creativity to come up with a name that fits you and your relationship!
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Dance With Confidence During a wedding reception, most of the focus is on the first dance of the evening when the newlyweds take to the dance floor for the first time after tying the knot. Not only does the first dance give the couple an opportunity to shine on the dance floor, but it also can help set the tone for the reception to follow. Here are some pointers to keep in mind, whether you are looking for dance routine to go viral on YouTube or you simply don’t want to look like a fool with two left feet.
START EARLY
Most studios recommend beginning dance practice three to six months before the wedding, depending on whether you hope to master a classic box step or a choreographed routine. Starting sooner allows for less stress and more time to get comfortable with new skills, so that you feel relaxed when dancing rather than counting steps.
SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP
If you desire something more intricate for the first dance and you have the budget to pay for some dance lessons, go for it. An instructor can take you through dance basics or help you choreograph a more polished piece. Depending on what the goals are, most couples can learn respectable skills within three to five lessons. If one partner is reluctant, remember that all eyes will be watching and that most songs last three to four minutes. Plus, it will all be captured on video forever! A good dance instructor will listen to your “first dance” vision and go through options to achieve it.
dance” song is selected, but the music will influence the dance style. Remember your first dance song will forever be linked to your life as a couple. Pick something meaningful and representative of you as a couple, preferably with a steady beat. Read over the lyrics to make sure it's an appropriate wedding song.
PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT
Tame those nerves. Practicing is a way to feel more confident in your steps, and that will help keep nerves at bay. Make time to dance together leading up to the wedding. Dancing, like marriage, is a team effort. Many couples experience a bit of stage fright. Just keep in mind that these friends and family are at the wedding to support you and not judge your dance moves.
GET CREATIVE
more memorable. Traditionally, the first dance was performed to a slow waltz, but now the first dance is not governed by any rules. In fact, some couples enlist the help of choreographers to ensure an epic opening dance number. Social media is full of videos of innovative couples performing spot-on dance routines from classic dance movies like "Dirty Dancing" or beautifully choreographed dances to popular first dance songs such as "At Last" or "Can't Help Falling in Love."
KEEP IT SIMPLE
If dancing is not your strong suit, select an easy, romantic song that allows you to simply sway back and forth and move around minimally. Choose an uncomplicated routine. Dancing takes practice, but with practice even the self-professed "worst dancer" can cut an impressive rug.
If dancing is your strong suit, push boundaries or get creative with your first dance. This can make the wedding even
SONG SELECTION Learning steps and practicing can begin before a final “first
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Music Moments Your wedding day is filled with music — music that sets the tone, tugs on the heartstrings, conjures memories, defines relationships, and sends you on your way. This list of musical moments will help you to decide on what to play and when. The following is a list of the moments you’ll need to select music throughout your wedding day.
THE GETTING READY PLAYLIST Have romantic, upbeat tunes as you get ready for your wedding.
THE PRE-CEREMONY TUNES
This is the music played as guests arrive.
THE PRE-PROCESSIONAL
This is the music played right before the wedding party enters.
THE PROCESSIONAL
This is the music played as the wedding party heads down the aisle.
THE BRIDE'S ENTRANCE The bride walks down the aisle.
THE CEREMONY
Any music you use during the ceremony.
THE RECESSIONAL
This is the joyous music played as you head up the aisle (after the ceremony).
THE CHAMPAGNE HOUR This is the music played after the ceremony as guests arrive at the reception location.
THE RECEPTION
"Thinking Out Loud," Etta James' "At Last," John Legend's "All of Me," and Elvis Presley's "Can't Help Falling in Love" filled out the remaining top five spots on Spotify's list.
This is the music played as the guests head in to the reception. Music typically starts when the bride and groom and their wedding parties enter the reception.
THE FATHER-DAUGHTER DANCE
THE FIRST DANCE
THE MOTHER-SON DANCE
A first dance song at the wedding reception often sets the tone for the upcoming festivities and can exemplify just how newlyweds feel about each other. According to a Spotify survey, the most popular wedding song for 2018 was "Perfect" by Ed Sheeran. Sheeran's
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This is your dance with your Dad — hearttugging, emotional music that expresses your relationship with your Father.
This is the groom and his Mom — hearttugging emotional, music that expresses his relationship with his Mom.
THE LAST DANCE
This is the music that sends you and your guests off into the night.
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Wedding Cake Trends
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The cake is an essential part of your wedding. Cakes tend to be multi-tiered intricate designs and must both taste amazing and look flawless. Wedding cakes are usually priced by the slice, and prices can range anywhere from $1.50 per slice and upward. Couples can budget around $300 to $500 for moderately priced wedding cakes for parties with 150 to 200 people. With so much at stake and too many options to count, here are some trendy cake ideas to personalize the centerpiece of your big day. • TALL CAKES: Impressive to look at, these multi-tiered creations are all about the wow factor. • UNIQUE FLAVORED CAKES: Vanilla? Yawn. Modern brides are opting for carrot, citrus, cinnamon and other outside the box flavors. • TOPSY-TURVY CAKES: These gravity-defying desserts are fun, creative and visually interesting. • CASCADING FLOWERS: This popular decorative style employs a waterfall effect, with delicate fondant rosettes cascading down and around the cake. • NAKED CAKES: An exposed dessert in which the baked
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product is visible. Each layer features delicious fillings and decorations like fresh blooms, gum paste-molded flowers, edible pearls and gems and fresh berries. These simplified desserts showcase texture and filling. Just because they are short on exterior buttercream doesn't mean they fall flat on flavor or visual appeal. • WHITE ON WHITE CAKES: Traditional white cake with matching white decorations and embellishments like ruffles, flowers, petals, and pearls. • PAINTED CAKES: One-ofa-kind pieces of artwork, these dramatic cakes feature hand-painted scenes, Tiffany designs, Impressionist paintings and more. • LACE CAKES: A trend recently popularized by Kate Middleton, today's brides have taken this trend to another level by paring pastel bases with lace overlays.
• WOODLAND CAKE: A perfect cake for a more casual wedding, this style incorporates nature, camouflage and country living in its decoration. • OMBRE CAKES: Though white is the preferred color of wedding cakes, couples may opt for hues that evoke the color schemes of their weddings. These cakes come in all colors and are light at the top and increase in intensity all the way to the bottom. • NO CAKE: When it comes time for dessert, some couples opt to avoid or downplay wedding cakes in favor of something simpler. A milk and cookie bar, donut holes, soft pretzel stations, pie pops, or dessert shot jars push creativity and sweetness to new levels. Do-it-yourself dessert stations, such as s'more-making and ice cream sundae stations can also be big crowd pleasers.
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Wedding Day Packing List F O R T H E GR OOM PERSONAL T ravel bag with toiletries Watch, cufflinks and/or tie bar Sunglasses glasses, contacts Copy of wedding vows, if
writing your own Gift or card for bride Wedding band(s) P rescription medication, if any T ote/suitcase if departing immediately for honeymoon
ATTIRE P re-wedding clothes
Tuxedo or suit U nderwear W hite T-Shirt M atching socks and shoes T ie and handkerchief S uspenders or belt
TECHNOLOGY C ell phone and charger P ersonal camera, charger and memory cards
Personal devices needed before or
after the wedding (ex: razor) U SB or sync cables for devices
DOCUMENTS & MISC C ash, checkbook and/or credit cards (expect the unexpected!) M arriage license E nvelopes with tips for vendors D river’s license and/or passport A irline flight tickets, if leaving soon after the reception for honeymoon D igital or printed copies of itineraries, confirmation codes, reservations (hotels, limos, bookings, etc.) C ar keys, if needed
PRIOR TO CEREMONY, DISTRIBUTE OR DELIVER THE FOLLOWING: W edding party gifts, parent gifts, thank you cards
Wedding programs (give to venue
coordinator or wedding planner) W edding favors O ther personal items; accessories for ceremony and reception C opies of readings for the ceremony D irections to the reception
F O R T H E B R I DE ATTIRE P re-wedding clothes, such as a jogging suit or simple dress Robe W edding dress, veil and headpiece S hoes, hosiery and undergarments B ridal slippers or flats H andbag or clutch G loves, if wearing K eepsake garter, toss garter, handkerchief D eparture outfit, if changing
WEDDING FOLIO C opies of vendor and bridal party contact list, timeline for the day
Copies of guest list, meal choices,
and seating diagram C opies of photography shot list
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TECHNOLOGY C ell phone and charger S ongs or music (for ceremony, or to
PERSONAL C osmetics, perfume and toiletries J ewelry and accessories S unglasses, glasses, contacts S omething old, new, borrowed
photos, watch the weather radar, and keep track of time
Copy of wedding vows, if writing
keep you relaxed) and headphones A planner/friend to take candid
DOCUMENTS M arriage license E nvelopes with tips for vendors D river’s license and/or passport A irline flight tickets, if you’re leaving soon after the reception for your honeymoon D igital or printed copies of itineraries, confirmation codes, reservations (hotels, limos, bookings, etc.)
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your own G ift or card for groom W edding bands and clean engagement ring P rescription medication, if any T ote/suitcase if departing immediately for honeymoon
Tipping Your Vendors Though you may think you’ve accounted for every wedding expense, there is one fee that might escape you — the tip. Tipping vendors (from photographers and florists to caterers and DJs) is expected, and it serves as a thank you for a job well done. But how much do you tip these folks? Below are suggested tip amounts for wedding vendors to help navigate whom to tip, how much to tip, and when to offer your token of gratitude.
THE CATERER
If your contract doesn’t include a gratuity, you should tip 15 to 20 percent of the total bill. Another way to tip is offering $50 to $100 for each chef and $20 to $50 per server.
THE WEDDING PLANNER
Wedding planners won’t expect a tip, so this is optional based on service. If you were given a huge discount or the planner went far above and beyond her contracted services, offering a tip of 10 to 20 percent is a nice way of saying “thank you” for the efforts.
THE PHOTOGRAPHER AND VIDEOGRAPHER
You’re not required to tip them if they own the studio. If they don’t, then giving them an extra $50 to $200 is a nice gesture. If there are two or three photographers, giving a $50 to $100 tip to each person (who doesn’t own the business) is optional.
THE CEREMONY AND RECEPTION STAFF
It’s not mandatory to tip the ceremony staff, reception staff and delivery staff, but if you’d like to, then you can offer them $20-$50 each.
THE OFFICIANT
Often officiants won’t accept tips, but a $100 donation to their church is a great way to thank them. If the officiant is nondenominational, consider giving them a $100 tip, especially if they aren’t charging for your service.
THE TRANSPORTATION
A 15 percent tip is optional if it isn’t included in the contract.
THE HAIR/MAKEUP ARTISTS A 15 to 20 percent tip is expected, just like it would be for any other regular salon visit, but it isn’t required.
THE BAND OR DJ
Offering a 10 to 15 percent tip is a nice gesture to your band or DJ, especially if they have to carry a lot of heavy equipment from one location to the next. For musicians, a $25 to $50 tip per band member is appropriate.
THE FLORIST
The florist doesn’t expect a tip. However, if they do an outstanding job, you can consider offering a 10-15 percent tip once services are rendered.
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Toasts: Dos and Don'ts Wedding toasts and speeches tell a love story, with a dash of humor and sentimentality, all in under five minutes. It’s the moment to reflect on the wedding couple, their journey to this day and the future that awaits. The bride and groom may designate a special friend or relative for this honor, or it may be part of the best man’s or maid of honor’s roles. Parents of the couple and the bride and groom themselves may also want to contribute a few words. Whoever is speaking, it is an important role that will have the full attention of the guests. DO keep it short. This is a toast, not a monologue. Be brief so that the audience doesn't lose interest. Set a five-minute limit. DO introduce yourself to the crowd, state your role in the wedding and/or relationship to the couple. DON’T make inappropriate comments. A fun joke can lighten up any crowd, but remember someone’s grandmother is probably attending. Choose your jokes with care. DO hook people in with an appropriate joke or anecdote. DO wrap it up. Conclude the toast by tying the story back to the introduction and make sure to include the audience. This will help you get the biggest laughs and applause. DON’T be too verbose. While personal anecdotes that shed humorous light on your relationship are great additions to wedding toasts, avoid going into too much detail when telling such stories. Focus instead on the parts of the stories that illustrate your feelings and generate a few laughs. DO share some sweet or humorous memories of the bridal couple.
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DO offer a nugget of wisdom or advice, leading to wellwishes for their future. DON’T procrastinate. This is no time to wing it! Start a month or so in advance to assemble your thoughts about special memories, qualities you love about the bride and groom individually and as a couple. You may want to ask others to contribute memories or anecdotes to incorporate. DO thank the couple and acknowledge the families and others who planned and participated in the wedding. DO your homework. Consider short poems, quotes or song lyrics to include. If more than one person is speaking, compare notes to avoid duplicating each other.
DO practice your speech. Write down your remarks or make a bullet-list on a notecard. DO test your toast in front of your spouse, friends or co-workers — any willing audience you can find. Record your practice and review for improvements. Are you shuffling your feet, staring down or talking too quietly? Time your practice to make sure you are keeping it short and sweet. DON’T drink too much before your speech! You may say something regrettable.
SAMPLE TOAST OPENER: I met Jake in our first year at MU. I quickly realized that Jake is a great guy. He's the type of person who will offer to meet you at your dorm room at 2 a.m. with pizza and beer to get you through a study session. Too bad he has a horrible sense of direction and often shows up at the wrong door!
DON’T make it about you. This toast is about the person you are honoring. Therefore, do not put any self-congratulatory messages in the toast. Make it all about the person, maybe even begin the toast with that person's name.
DO make copies of your notes or put them on your phone so you won’t forget them at home. DON’T embarrass anyone. People will be expecting some funny stories about the wedding couple, but don’t let any secrets out or humiliate either person with a bawdy story! When in doubt, leave it out. DO make sure everyone can hear and that any audio equipment is working. DON'T stare down at your notes. Make eye contact and engage with the crowd. DO be who you are. You were asked to speak for a reason. Don’t try to force a style that isn’t natural to who you are, whether that is a comedy routine or a deeply serious introspection.
Choosing the Right Caterer Weddings are memorable for a host of reasons. While couples remember their weddings because they mark the day they officially tied the knot, guests may remember weddings for other reasons, including the food served at the reception.
CHOOSE THE RIGHT CATERING SERVICE Catering a wedding is often the largest cost you’ll incur when planning your wedding. The good news is there’s a caterer out there for almost any budget. It is important to decide on your budget and stay within those confines. It is also important to know what you want. It is very important to be ready to compromise. When choosing your caterer (and you’ll do this fairly early in your wedding planning), get recommendations and referrals from friends and family who have had experience with the food of a particular chef or service. In addition, look into their reputation; read online reviews and get a feel of how they work and how their customers feel about them. Narrow down your list and then meet with the top contenders to determine if they’re a good fit both, financially and aesthetically.
KEEP IT LOCAL Local vendors are often a go-to choice when couples are planning their wedding ceremonies and receptions. As the "shop local" movement grows in popularity, weddings present a prime opportunity to embrace this movement. Proximity is a plus, as local caterers can meet with brides and grooms more readily throughout the planning process, offering tastings and making things less stressful on the happy couple. This also makes it easier to drop off deposits and attend wedding planning meetings.
Working with local vendors will also often translate into receiving more personalized service and attention than mass retailers or merchants can provide.
CONSIDER MOBILE CATERING With a mobile kitchen, your caterer travels to your event location and serves from the venue kitchen. Mobile on-site catering has become one of the hottest and most popular
trends thanks to a mobile caterer’s incredible capacity and versatility. Great food is the foundation for every successful event and with the right mobile caterer and consult, you can design a custom wedding menu with delicious cuisine perfectly suited to the budget, style and guests on your special day. From formal dining to casual snacking, a caterer with a traveling state-of-the-art kitchen can fulfill whatever dream you’ve envisioned for your wedding day.
Catering Tips Some venues are known for their stunning landscapes, while others build their reputations on unique interiors that provide unforgettable ambiance. But regardless of where weddings take place, guests are liable to discuss the food served at the reception. Guests might rave about the flank steak or complain that the fish was too flaky, but couples who choose wedding reception menus wisely can go a long way toward ensuring there are more compliments than complaints when the dinner bell rings.
DON’T BREAK THE BANK
Be honest about your budget. Ask for the caterers’ opinion of your wedding reception vision. According to The Knot, couples can expect their receptions to eat up the largest chunk of their wedding budgets. The average price for catering per person is roughly $70. Bar service may be around $2,000 for a three- to four-hour party.
KEEP IT SIMPLE
Don't zero in on specialties. According to The Knot’s 2017 Real Weddings Study of nearly 13,000 brides and grooms, the average wedding hosted 136 guests. While couples might be tempted by specialty dishes when choosing their wedding menus, those who are hosting dozens if not hundreds should keep things simple.
SERVE A FAVORITE FOOD
While specialty entrées might not be a great choice, especially at large receptions where lots of mouths must be fed, a couple who has a favorite food that's symbolic of their relationship should not hesitate to offer it during the cocktail hour. For example, a couple who met in Thailand may want to offer a favorite Thai dish.
OFFER A WIDE VARIETY
Receptions tend to be large, and within your party you may have guests who are vegetarian or on gluten-free diets or those who need to avoid certain foods.
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Common foods that cause the majority of allergic reactions are peanuts, soy, sesame, and shellfish. Allergies to wheat, milk and eggs are also common in children. While such foods can still be served at wedding receptions, make sure to also include foods that are unlikely to trigger allergic reactions. The more versatile the menu, the more capable an establishment is likely to be with regard to meeting the dietary needs of your guests.
DON’T FORGET BRUNCH
Recognizing that daytime weddings can be much less expensive than evening affairs, couples may want to have brunchthemed weddings, featuring omelets, pancakes, French toast, and other tasty breakfast foods.
FAMILY STYLE DINING
Some weddings are now served "family style" where guests can share from larger passed plates. This serves to connect everyone at the table and encourages conversation, helping to establish a warm atmosphere.
THE LAST BITE
The last bite guests will take is dessert, so couples who want their guests to go home raving about the food should offer something special after the entrées have been taken away. Some may not indulge so, if the dessert is especially unique, offer something more traditional alongside it for hesitant guests.
The Reception Menu Traditionally, one of the more memorable aspects of wedding receptions is the food. Whether it was fun, tasty or something entirely new for guests, food tends to leave a lasting impression. The experts at Boho Weddings say that, more than ever before, couples are seeking menu ideas that reflect their personalities as a couple as they seek to make a statement at their events. Celebrating with delicious, unique foods can make receptions that much more amazing.
BITE-SIZE BURSTS
Tapas and a movement toward small bites has started to take hold at wedding receptions. Such a choice allows guests to try many different flavors without filling up too quickly. From sliders to mini grilled cheese to soup shots to bite-sized pizzas, many of these small bites feature flavors borrowed from familiar comfort foods — just presented on a mini scale.
CHILDHOOD FAVES
When it comes time for dessert, some couples opt to avoid or downplay wedding
cakes in favor of something simpler. A cookie-andmilk bar, donut holes, soft pretzel stations, pie pops, or dessert shot jars push creativity and sweetness to new levels. Do-it-yourself dessert stations, such as s'more-making and ice cream sundae stations, also can be big hits.
COMFORT STATIONS Couples who love comfort food can put it on display with a crostini station, a mashed potato or macaroni & cheese bar, a chicken and waffles station, a gourmet
popcorn snack station, or a ramen noodle bar.
FOOD TRUCKS/CARTS Outdoor weddings can be enhanced with the addition of trendy food trucks. These restaurants on wheels can inject burgers, sandwiches, international delights, crêpes, noodles, and so many more flavors into a wedding.
FANCY FINGER FOOD Couples can give guests a lavish lunch with olive oil and vinegar tasting, whiskey bars, French hors d'oeuvres, beef sliders, lobster tails or risotto stations.
CATERING AND MENU WORKSHEET CATERER NAME: ADDRESS: PHONE:
CONSULTANT:
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Honeymoon Tips The 2017 Real Weddings Study found that the average engagement length in 2017 was 14 months, and many couples are no doubt ready for a getaway after spending more than a year planning their weddings. Adhere to the following tips and tricks to help your first trip together as newlyweds be a vacation to remember. 1. Start planning early. 2. Make sure you know what you both want in a honeymoon. Rest and relaxation? Adventure? All inclusive? Out of the USA? Europe? A road trip? The islands? Exotic? A cruise? Make sure you consider what you both like to do and agree on both the location and activities you’ll both enjoy. 3. Set a budget. Stay within that budget. Around 1.4 million couples in the United States depart for honeymoons around the world each year, spending an average of $4,466 on the trip. 4. Know how many days you have for both travel and honeymoon. 5. When planning their honeymoons, couples can take steps to save money. Consider delaying your trip until a few months. This can help you get back on your financial feet and enjoy a dream getaway. 6. Once you decide on a location, do your research. Get air prices, hotel options at various price points, rental car costs, food estimates, and incidentals. 7. Set an itinerary keep it interesting, but also loose enough to allow for some sleep and relaxation. 8. Consult a professional travel agent or travel planner. 9. Consider your departure day. Do you really want a morning flight the day after your wedding?
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10. Consider your return day. Returning a day or two before you have to go back to work will allow you to be fresh at home and at the office. 11. Consider trip insurance just in case there are weather woes, delays, flight cancellations, etc. 12. Plan what outfits you’ll need based on activities and location. Consider the following: swimsuits, skis, formal dress, hiking boots, wraps, coats, sundresses, shorts, jeans, sneakers, coat and tie. 13. Make lists of clothing that can layer, mix and match. 14. Make lists of toiletries for both of you as well as additional items appropriate for your destination. 15. Brides who want to get a few extra days out of a wedding hairstyle should pack a hair refreshing spray to tame static. Dry shampoos also allow for a little refreshing of hair between daytime adventures and evening dinner. 16. Get a waist or neck wallet for valuables or cross-body shoulder bag (to discourage theft). 17. Have a tote for daytrips and extra items you’ll want to carry home. 18. Pack in advance. 19. Arrange for pet care in advance. 20. Have someone retrieve your mail and check on your house or apartment. 21. Book a dinner or two in advance for less stress. 22. Book a tour or two in advance if appropriate. 23. Make sure you have a medical kit for every possible mishap: allergies, irregularity, cuts or bruises, bug bites, headaches. 24. Don’t forget to bring along any medicines you may take daily.
25. Bring batteries and chargers for your phones, laptops and cameras. 26. Bring converters (electricity) for those countries with different electricity. 27. Bring an umbrella. 28. Layer clothing, bring a wrap or hoodie just in case. 29. Take lots of photos. Make sure you get photos of the two of you. Bring a selfie stick. 30. Buy souvenirs that mean something to both of you: a painting, ceramics, mementos that will forever remind you of your wonderful honeymoon. 31. Always use the safe in your hotel room. 32. Be on time to the airport. Be earlier than that. It’s good to have an early flight so you can have a Plan B if Plan A goes off schedule. 33. No trip is without a few hiccups. Manage your expectations. Recover from a disappointment easily. It’s these things that shape how you deal with problems. 34. Sunscreen is a must whether you're traveling to the beaches of a tropical island or the slopes of a ski resort. Sunscreen will help prevent damaging and painful sunburns that can adversely affect a trip. 35. Check and re-check your packing list. 36. Pack a light fragrance. Heavy perfumes have no business on breezy honeymoon escapes. Find a light, flowery scent or something tied to nature like citrus. 37. Pack a travel brow kit. Keep brows tamed and looking great with minitweezers, brow filler and gel. 48. Relax. Enjoy. Be safe and have fun!
Honeymoon Packing List Though not nearly as pressure-filled as wedding planning, honeymoons do require some planning to ensure a fun and memorable trip. In a Bridal Guide survey, wedding couples indicated they were most likely to worry about wardrobe, swimsuits, sunglasses, sunscreen, and luggage when getting ready to depart. Save yourself a last-minute scramble by preparing ahead of time with this helpful honeymoon packing list.
P assport and/or picture ID
T ravel documents
A irline tickets
H otel confirmation
C ash (even if you’re visiting an all-inclusive resort!)
P rinted directions (just in case!)
O ne or two major credit cards
T raveler's checks
C amera and accessories
C amera charger
E xtra camera batteries
E xtra memory card
P hone and charger
E xtra eyeglasses or contacts and case
T oiletries
F ace wash
H air products
E lectrical converter (if traveling internationally)
M akeup remover wipes
H air refreshing spray
S olid-colored pants, shorts and skirts
D ry shampoo
B lotting papers
T ravel brow kit
T oothbrush
T oothpaste R azors
V ariety of tops and layers S hawl (some landmarks restrict access to women who aren’t “modestly” covered)
A t least one dressier option
A t least two swimsuits
S having cream
S andals if visiting the beach
L otion
M edication(s) in original container(s)
C ontact lens solution
F eminine hygiene products
C otton swabs
C omfort products
S unscreen
A spirin
S unburn soothing cream
M otion-sickness medication
I nsect repellent
F old-up travel bag
N eck pillow for air travel
U mbrella or rain poncho
W ork-out clothing (if you plan on visiting the resort’s fitness center)
Z ipper-top bags of various sizes (great for storing wet swimsuits or for protecting and sorting different items)
C ross-body bag or neck wallet to deter theft
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After the Honeymoon Couples who plan their own weddings might enjoy a satisfactory exhale once the knot has been tied and the last rug has been cut. Once guests head home and couples depart for their honeymoons, much of the work is done. But there are some lingering tasks for couples once they return from their first trip together as husband and wife.
REVIEW YOUR PHOTOS.
Review photo proofs and any wedding videos. Choose photos for your wedding album and order prints for yourself, family and friends.
SEND YOUR WEDDING ANNOUNCEMENT TO YOUR LOCAL NEWSPAPER. WRITE THANK YOU NOTES.
Hand-write each note, personalizing it by mentioning the gift and how you will use it. Thank you notes should be sent within a month of the wedding. Such notes should be sent to all guests who attended your wedding as well as those who could not attend but still gave gifts. Mail them all at the same time so guests do not feel slighted if their note arrives weeks after another's.
PAY ANY OUTSTANDING WEDDING INVOICES. CLEAN/PRESERVE YOUR GOWN. Take your gown to a professional cleaner to have it dry-cleaned and preserved. This should be done as soon as possible. The earlier you do this, the easier it is to remove any stains that might have developed during your wedding.
RETURN ANY REPEAT GIFTS.
Newly married couples often receive repeat gifts or gifts they never put on their registries that they simply have no use for. Return such gifts as soon as possible so your home is not overwhelmed with clutter. Upon returning gifts, you also can do a little shopping, as you will have money to spend. In addition, many stores give newly married couples discounts on registry items that went unpurchased, and the day you return gifts is a great opportunity to cash in on such discounts.
DEPOSIT WEDDING-GIFT CHECKS, BONDS, STOCK CERTIFICATES, ETC.
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PICK UP LEFTOVER CAKE.
If you were unable to do so before leaving on your honeymoon, return to your wedding reception venue to pick up any leftover cake. Many venues will store leftover wedding cakes in their freezers for a reasonable amount of time until couples return from their honeymoons, but make it a point to pick up your cake as soon as possible. It's customary to eat leftover cake, if you have any, on your first anniversary.
RETURN ANY RENTED OR BORROWED ITEMS. REVIEW YOUR VENDORS.
Many vendors now rely on Internet reviews from past customers to help grow their businesses, and it's a nice gesture for couples to offer their reviews once they have returned from their honeymoons. Chances are you relied on such reviews when choosing vendors for your wedding, so return the favor by writing reviews and helping future couples find reliable vendors who can help make their weddings special.
CHANGE YOUR NAME.
If the bride and/or groom have chosen to change their name, make sure to update the following official documents and accounts. • Automobile registration • Bank accounts • Credit cards • Doctor and dental records • Driver’s license • 401(k)/retirement plans • Health, dental, life & auto insurance • IRS documents • Investment accounts • Legal contracts • Memberships • Mortgages • Passport • Property titles or leases • Social Security card • U.S. Postal Service • Utility bills • Voter’s registration • Wills
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Writing Thank You Notes So many friends and family members have showered you with gifts for your wedding. Now it’s time to write a proper thank you — to SO MANY friends and family! While your guests have a full year to send a wedding present — you have essentially only two weeks from the time you received a shower gift and three months for gifts received on or right after your wedding. Time is of the essence. The following are some tips for making the thank you note process as painless as possible.
• I f the gift was a registered item such as plates or glasses, tell them that your set is now complete and you look forward to having them over when they are in town, or for the holidays, any upcoming occasion you’ll be sharing with them. • I f the gift was not on your wedding registry, mention the gift and just how you’ll use it.
• Order your thank you notes early. Buy something nice, on fine stationery, such as a monogrammed note card featuring your new name. Try to be as consistent as possible so each gift-giver receives a similar card. Be sure to order a large quantity depending on how many people attended the wedding. • Ask and ye shall receive. Friends with a flair for organization can be in charge of keeping a running list of gifts given at various parties and special events so thank you notes can be sent in a timely manner. • Set up an area in your house that allows you to sit down comfortably and get the job done, be it a desk or a tabletop. Make sure your space allows you to do the work, think the thoughts and put pen to paper in a meaningful way. • Have plenty of stamps — love stamps with hearts or something fitting your wedding theme to add flair to the envelope. • You’ll never get all your notes written in one sitting, so designate 30 minutes to an hour each evening to get those thank you notes done.
• Thank them for attending your wedding and express how much it meant to you for them to come and celebrate your special day.
• Make your note personal. Be specific about the gift; tell them how you’ll use it and why it means so much to you.
•S ign both of your names as the gifts were for both of you.
• If the gift was monetary, tell the gift-giver what you and your husband/wife are saving for.
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• I f you can get your spouse to help with the thank you notes, definitely do so. Share the work and the expressions of love toward friends and family.
Making it Official While laws may vary from state to state, getting a marriage license generally involves filling out the application and paying a fee at the county clerk's office. In Missouri, a marriage license is issued by the Recorder of Deeds in each Missouri County. This license is only valid in Missouri. You do not have to be a resident of Missouri to apply for a marriage license. NOTE: A license is not the same thing as a marriage certificate! The certificate typically becomes available after the ceremony has taken place and the witnesses and officiant have signed off on the proceedings.
MARRIAGE LICENSE REQUIREMENTS • Both applicants must appear in person before the recorder of deeds or a deputy recorder and present valid identification such as a driver's license, passport or birth certificate, along with a Social Security card, to apply for a marriage license. • Applicants for a marriage license must be 18 years old. • Applicants who are younger than 18 must have consent from a custodial parent or guardian. • Applicants who are younger than 15 must obtain a circuit court order. • Applicants cannot be already married. • Applicants may not be related by blood – through and including first cousins. • Couples can pick up the license or have it mailed to them. There may be a waiting period between submitting the application and the license being issued. The license must be picked up prior to the marriage ceremony. • The officiant performing the marriage ceremony must have the license prior to performing the ceremony. • The officiant/person performing the marriage ceremony will return the license to the issuing Recorder of Deeds within 15 days of performing the marriage. • If a marriage does not occur, the license will be void 30 days after date of issue.
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