Five Common
Divorce Mistakes
Made by American
Couples
Statistics indicate a decline in marriage over the last few years. At 44%, divorce rates in the United States remain consistent nevertheless. From dividing assets to settling child custody arrangements, the stakes are high in the divorce process. It also makes a lot of room for mistakes. Some experts share the most common blunders made by American couples during the legal process.
Seeking Legal Advice from Non Experts According to one expert, divorce advice should not be treated equally. By way of showing support, non-legal experts offer advice with a divorcing spouse. The only reliable source of legal advice is the divorce attorney handling the case. While their guidance is not beyond question, they are the most credible and authoritative source available.
Disrespecting the Ex-spouse in front of the Children One expert says bad-mouthing an ex or putting them down in any way will cause the children to feel guilt, sadness, insecurity, and sometimes depression. If one spouse puts down another, the children are “likely to interpret it as a put-down of a part of them,� leading to an unconscious belief of personal fault. Anger, bitterness and indiscriminate remarks are the things to avoid.
Keeping Quiet According to this expert, fear or guilt often lead people to commit mistakes in marriages, as well as in divorces. Letting these negative feelings dictate the process will lead to the feeling of helplessness and undue acceptance of the situation.
Not Having Financial Plans for the Future Divorce often leads to financial and emotional crisis. The inability to think beyond the present often leads to unmade critical financial decisions around issues such as property, life insurance investment and child support.
Keeping Children Uninformed Mostly, parents refrain from discussing divorce and expressing the emotions involved in it to protect the children. Failure to share real emotions and stories with them can result in extreme worry, which the child tries hard to hide as well. This creates a viscous cycle of untold feelings and perceptions.
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