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WORDS BY Dilshi Perera @dilshi_perera ART BY Gabrielle Poh @gee.poh
Issue 02/2021: Growing Pains
Someone once asked me to list some of the greatest joys in life, and waking up and not thinking about them anymore is easily in my top 10 — aside from kissing in the rain and other main character-esque qualities. There’s no denying that breakups are one of THE MOST tumultuous journeys that a human can go through, but the process of healing and overcoming pain is monumental. So much so, I almost can’t put it into words, but in the case it might resonate with someone else, I’ll try. Let’s be real, when it comes to getting over someone there is no definitive ‘move’ that determines whether you are completely over them or not. You can take all the classic steps of getting over someone — deleting their number, spending every weekend screaming ‘Thank U, Next’ at the club, or jumping into another relationship — and yet still subsequently text them that you’re in love with them the next day. For me personally, getting over someone comes in waves. I like to divide this emotional shit storm into three lovely stages: I love them, but I love myself more; familiar settings, unfamiliar emotions; and glow up and grow up.
