InterpersonalProject
MyfriendsandIplaypokeronaregularbasisOneofmyfriends,let'scallhimTim,constantly playsbadhandsandoftencatchesluckybreaks.TimandIhavebeenfriendssincemiddleschool, butonenightwegotintoaverybigargumentwhichalmostbecamephysical.
Inoneparticularhand,Timmadewhatwasinmyopinionahorriblybadcall.Askmostpoker playersandtheywilltellyouthattheywouldhavefoldedinthissituation.Nonetheless,hegot incrediblyluckyandendedupknockingmeoutofthetournamentHavinglostmymoney,Iwas extremelyupsetandIveryangrilyaskedhimwhyhecalledmyraises.Hegaveaweakshrug,a half–smirk,...showmorecontent...
Perceptualconstancy,or"thetendencytomaintainthesameperceptionofpeopleovertime"(73), mayhavealsoplayedanimportantroleinthebreakingoutofthisargument.Myperception,or "processofassigningmeaningtosensoryinformationandexperiences"(66),ofTimasabadplayer whooftengetsluckymayhavemademejudgehisactionsquickerandwithmorescrutiny.IfI wouldhaveperceivedTimassomeonewholikestotakerisksandoftengetspaidoff,Iprobably wouldnothaveblownupsomuchIt'snotasmuchofablowtoyourpridetobebeatbyafortunate gamblerthanitistobebeatbyasubstandard,butverylucky,player.IfIwouldhavesimplymadea different,andprobablymoreaccurate,perceptionofTim,IwouldnothavereactedthewayIdid. IfIhadpracticedacoupleofthesuggestionsforbettercommunicatingthebook,Communicationin aChangingWorldbyDobkinandPace,makes,theoutcomeofthisconflictwouldhavebeenmuch differentHadIusedperspectivetaking,or"theabilitytoconsiderbehaviorfromsomeoneelse's pointofview"(30),Iwouldhavereacteddifferently.Sometimeswhileplayingyoujustgetagood feelingaboutahand,youreallyfeellikeyou'regoingtowin.Thisinstinctmaycauseyoutomake badcalls,andsometimesyoumaygetluckyandwinthehandThiscouldbethereasonTimplayed thehandthewayhedid,hemayhave
InterpersonalConflictEssay
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Conflictisininevitablepartofoureverydaylives.Sincenotwopeopleviewthingsintheexact samemanner,disagreementwillmostcertainlyariseatsomepointintime.Conflictissimplya differenceofopinionandisconsideredtobeanormalpartofoureverydaylives.Thereareseveral differentformsofconflictandnotallofthemareconsideredtobebad.Thispaperwilldiscussthe causesofconflict,thedifferenttypesofconflict,andbarrierstoconflictAccordingto CommunicationResearchAssociates,conflictisaconditionofimbalancewithinanindividual (CommunicationResearchAssociates,2005,p.178).Keepinmindthatjustasthereare disadvantagestoconflict,therearealsoseveraladvantages Inorderto...showmorecontent...
Forexample,ifyouareatworkandwalkbysomeone'sdeskandaccidentlyknocktheirpenonthe floor.Allofsudden,thepersonlashesoutandstartstocurseatyou.Knowingthatthisisnotthe normforyourcoworker,itwouldsafetoassumethattheyareundersomeformofstressorhave otherthingsontheirmindByknowingthis,itbecomeseasiertorespondinamoreresponsible, tempered,andappropriate,manner.Sometimesegocanbecomeacauseforconflictaswell.There maycomeatimewhensomeoneiswrongaboutsomethingortheymayhavemadeamistakebut theyrefusetoadmitit.Becausetheyhavesuchahighego,theymaybecomeself–protectiveoftheir situation,thereforecausingconflictbecausetheyrefusetoadmittheywerewrong.Insteadtheymay choosetobecomepersistentinstandingtheirground,whethertheyarerightorwrong Duringcommunication,iftheintendedgoalsarenotclearlyidentified,thereisagreaterpossibility forerroranditcouldfurtheraggravateasituation,causingconflict.Becauseeachindividualis differentthereareboundtobeclasheswithincertainpersonalitytypesForexample,ifsomeone preferstodiscusseverythingindetailandIprefertogetstraighttothepointthenwecouldhavea personalityclashbecausewearenotseeingthingseye–to–eye.Theymayviewmeasbeing incompetentorirresponsiblewhileIwould
HowtoResolveConflictEssay
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DealingwithConflict
1.1
Potentialconflictcanarisewhentwopartiesorpeoplehaveadisagreementona particularsubjectForexample,apersonmayhavesaidhewasgoingtocompleteataskwhichhe failedtodowhichcausedconflictwithanotherpersonorparty,ormaybetwopeoplewhohave differentideasonwhotoaccomplishataskmaybecomeheated.
Stagesofconflictarehardtodescribeindetailbutitusuallystartswithraisedvoices togetanopinionacrosswhichcanescalateintoayellingmatchasonepersontriestogettheother personorpartytoagreewithwhatheissaying.Basicallyconflictwillstopwhenbothpartiesor peopleagreeonsomething,asconflictwon'tusuallyendifthereshowmorecontent
Thispersonisabletohearbothsidesoftheargumentandthereforeabletooutlineoptionsonhowto handlethesituation
3.1–FactorsEffectingTiming&EnvironmentForCommunication
Careshouldbetakenincommunicatingwithotherintheworkplace.Factorssuchasangerand stresscouldbedangerouswhencommunicating,aspeopleareoftenverytemperamentalwhen affectedbythesefactors.Anotherfactorcouldbetheenvironment,suchasameeting,couldhinder communicationasreputationsandevenjobscouldbeatstakeifinappropriatecommunicationis usedBasically,thereisatimeandaplaceforallvarioustypesofcommunicationandcareshould betakenwhentalkingtoourpeersandourbosses.
3.2–EffectiveNon–VerbalandVerbalCommunication
BodyLanguage–ThisisimportantaspeopleusuallytakenoteofhowapersonactsandmovesFor example,ifapersonsometimesscratchestheirnosewhenspeaking,itcouldmeantootherpeople thatheistryingtocoversomethingup.
Questioning–Neverbeafraidtoquestionapersonforthesakeofyourownbetterunderstandingof asubjectItisdifferentwhenquestioningaperson'sabilityorunderstandingofasubject,which couldresultinconflict.
LanguageStyle–Peopleinworkenvironmentsneedtobeabletounderstandeveryoneclearly,so correctlanguageandvocabularyneedstobeusedincommunicatingwithother
DealingWithConflictEssay
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IntrapersonalConflict
Intrapersonalconflictrevealsitselfthroughdifferentindividualattitudesandbehaviours.Mostof theseattitudesandbehavioursmayoriginatefromself–induced,emotionalorinnerfeelingswhich mayincludefrustrationandemotionalinstability.Theseattitudesorbehavioursmayleadto absenteeismanddestructivebehaviouramongindividualsinanorganization(Hughes,2001).Poor attitudesandbehaviourswhichresultfromintrapersonalconflictusuallydecreasetheperformance andefficiencyofanorganization.Ontheotherhandwhenitismanagedintherightmannerithelps individualspromotecapacitytoadaptandattainabalanceintheworkingrelationswiththe organization
Themanagementofintrapersonalconflictscanbeachievedthroughtheimplementationoftwo strategieswhichincludecognitivestrategiesandbehaviouralstrategies.Cognitivestrategies,often referredtoasdefencemechanisms,helpanindividualtofalsify,distortordenyaparticularconflict. Cognitivestrategiesrepresentanattempttocontrolormanagenegativeanddisturbingfeelings associatedwithconflictandtoallowanindividualtocarryonwithhisnormalactivitiesCognitive strategiesincluderepression(anattempttopushconflictoutofexistence),rationalization(hidingthe truthfromoneself),fantasyorevendenialofreality....showmorecontent...
Anadministratorshouldknowwhenheisfacedwithinterdepartmentalconflictandbeinformedof theprocessesforcopingwithitorresolvingit.Whenitcomestothemanagementof interdepartmentalconflicts,methodssuchasconflictavoidance,regulatingaconflictbyintroducing newrulesandprocedures,seekingaformof"legalistic"solution,usingdepartmentalrepresentatives toreachacompromiseagreementorseekingmediationorarbitrationfromanoutsidebodyare
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11/30/07LifeChangeImaginestartingabookthatyouhavetoreadforclass,onethatreallylooks interestingandyoucan'twaittogetintothemiddleofittofindoutwhodies,whocheats,orwho solvestheworld'smystery.Alloftheanticipationisfornothing.Youcan'treadit,yourmind wandersandthinksofeverythingelsebutconcentratingonthestory.Somepeoplecallitlaziness, buttoothersitisaseriousmindproblemthatjustwon'tletyouconcentratenomatterhowhardyou try.Icanrememberrereadingparagraphsmultipletimesbecausemymindwouldwanderintosome otherworld;Iwouldstillbereading,butunabletoabsorbthecontentofthetext.Mylifechanging eventwaswhenIwasfinallyabletositdownandshowmorecontent Whilewritingthisit'salmostlikeI'mcompletelyzonedout,butzonedinatthesametime.Inother wordsI'mbasicallyinmyownlittleworldjustsittingherepeacefullywritingmyessayforEnglish. Doyourememberwhenyoureadyourfirstbookandwhilereadingityoucouldn'tputitdown,for whoknewwhatwouldhappennext.Irememberitclearasday,IhadtoreadanovelforEnglish classSenioryearanditreallylookedlikeabookIwouldjustlookaton"SparkNotes",butI decidedtogiveitatry.WhenIreadmyfirstbookwithoutbeingdistractedbyspacingoutorany littlesoundthatIheardIlovedit.ThenovelwasaTailofTwoCities".Mostofmyclassmates dislikesthisbook,butIfounditveryinteresting.Icouldneverwaitforwhatwouldcomenextandit hadsomehistoricalsignificancetoitaswell.Iwasamazedonhowcomplexsomecharacterscanbe injustasimplestoryThewaythewriterwasabletodetailthesettingandgivethereadersucha clearpicturewasperfect.ItwasasifIwastherewiththatcharactersthroughoutthewholeperiodof timethatthenoveltookplace.ReadingbecameoneofmyhobbiesafterIobtainedpillsforADD,I couldreallyputmyselfrightinthestoryanditbecamemyownlittleworldIwasneverbeforeable toreadabookwithoutreadingthechapteracoupleoftimes.Myhomeworkwouldtaketwiceas longasmanyotherstudents,somostofthetimeIwoulduse"SparkNotes"andnotevenbother getting
PersonalConflict
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PersonalConflictStrategies
Conflictmanagementaretypesofstrategiestohelppeoplethroughargumentswithanyone.Thishas affectedmylifebyhelpingmegettingthroughargumentswithmyfriends,familyorreallyanyone whoIcomeinconflictwith.Theonetechnique,AMPP,hashelpedmealotbecausesometimesme andmyfriendsargueandtheydonottellmewhatIdidwrong,soIusethattechniquetohelpus resolveourproblem
OnetimeIstartedtextingmyfriendandshewouldnotreplytomeatfirst,soIkepttextingback andaskingherwhyshewasn'tanswering,andshefinallyrepliedbackthatIdidsomethingandshe doesnotwanttotalktome.Usuallywhenwegetintofights,wejustjokearound,butthistimeI couldtellshewasseriousandIdidnotknowwhyshewasmadandshewouldnottellmewhy.
WhileIwasthinkingofwhattosayoraskher,thesubjectofpsychologycametomymindandI thoughtIcouldusehelpfulstrategiestogetmethroughthisSoIrememberedAMPP;ask,mirror, paraphraseandprime.AMPPisapowerfulstrategyskillthathelpsbuildupsafetytoencourage otherstosharewhattheyarefeeling.Isuddenlythought,thiswouldbeaperfecttimetousethis skilltoseeifitactuallyworksinareal–lifeexperience.showmorecontent
Sinceshedidnottellmewhy,Iusedmirroringtostatehowshewasfeelingbacktoher,andIsaid, "youseemtobeveryangryatme",whichwaskindofagiven,butIneededmoreinformationasto whyshewasmad.Next,Icouldnotreallyuseparaphrasingbecauseshehadnottoldmeanyreason forwhyshewasmad,soIhadtojumptoprime,whichisthelasttechniquetouseonlyifnothing elseworkedSofinally,IaskedherifshewasmadatmeforthereasonIthoughtshewasmadatme for(whichIdonotneedtomention),butIwasnotsure,andIdidnotwanttojustaskherthat
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Bydefinitionaconflictisadisagreementbetweenpeopleorteamsduetodifferentopinionsor perspective(CambridgeDictionaries).Itistheresultofmisunderstandingsoralackof communication.Conflictissomethingwehavetodealwithonadailybasis.Unfortunately,conflict isaninevitablepartofhumanrelationships.Conflictscanhappenatanytimeoranywhereatwork withco–workers,athomewithourfamiliesorfriends,forinstanceIamawarethatinsomepointI willhavetohandleaconflictandevenmorewhenIwillbemanager.Infact,managermustbeable toidentify,understandthesourceoftheconflict,andresolveanykindofconflictocurringwithinthe teamthathemanagesBecauseeachindividualhavestrenghtsandweaknesses,teamworkscan sometimestriggersparksandcreateconflicts.Itisnaturaltohavediscrepencieswithinateam.Thus, Theriskofconflictaremany.Thisisthereasonwhythemanagerhavetofacedifferenceswithout gettingintotheemotionalprocessandwithoutlosingsightoftheobjectivesandprioritiesofthe team.
IpersonallyhadafewconflictsthroughoutmylifebecauseItrytoavoiditasmuchaspossible However,IcouldnotalwaysescapefromitandIhavetohandlesome.Moreove,Iconsidermyself proactive.Ialwaystrytomonitor...showmorecontent...
Also,conflictsallowedmetolearnhowtoresolveefficiencyaconflictandgavemesomeinsight abouthowtobeagoodleader.Infact,thoseexperiencestaughtmethataleaderissomeoneableto motivate,inspire,teachhisteamhowtoworktogether,andresolveconflictswithinhisteam Handlingconflictsisoneofthemostimportantcharacteristicsnotonlyinthebusinessworldbutin ourdailylivesaswell.Thischaracteristiccanmakelifelessstressful,producehappiness,andputa smileonthefaceinsteadofagonyandlow
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PersonalNarrative:SocialConflict
Itwouldhavebeeneasytoresolvehadeitheroneofuswantedtoendthesquabble.Lookingback,it isunbelievabletomethatIactedthewayIdid.Againandagainthesituationrunsthroughmymind, unveilingnewendstotheargumentItwasaperfectexampleofsimilarscenesplayingthemselves outallovertheworld–themostbasiclevelofsocialconflictwehave,theeasiesttoresolve. I'dchallengeanyonetospeakoutifheorshehasnotarguedovertrivialmatterswithhisorher lovedonesandclosestfriendsTheserelationshipscannotbebroken,justlikeacoastlinenever reallydisappears,eventhoughbotharesubjecttoterriblepressures.Ihadbeenstudyingforthe pastshowmorecontent
Peoplewithwhomwesharemutualloveandtrustarewillingtoresolveconflictsthatdonotinthe longtermmeantoomuch.
ThatscenariodoesnotrepeatitselfeverywhereSocialconflictscanoccurwhenneitherpartycan seenorwantstoseetheresolution.Somefightsarenotbasedontrivialmatters.Forexample,we havetheunresolvedblack–whitesupremacybattle.Ithasnotbeenmadeanybetterintwohundred years,whenwecanestimatethecontactbetweenthetwotohavebegun.Effortshavebeenmade, buttheconflictbetweenwhiteandblackisnotsomethingthat,Ithink,willeverevaporate.Itisa deep–rootedculturalconflictThistypeofconflictcanmanifestitselfinmanywaysWeseeitevery dayinAmerica'strulycosmopolitansociety:skincolor;accentdifferencesandsoonandsoon.I myselfhaveplentyoffirsthandexperiencewiththisparticularcategory,asIhavelived'abroad'for overnineyearsOnethingthathasdoggedmyfamilyandmeisthefactthatIndiancooking generatesalotofsmoke.Thick,filmysmokethatalwaysfillsaroom,nomatterthelengthoftime cookingwasdone.Often,culturalconflictsbringaboutracialslursinoureverydaylanguage. WhetheritistheBritishderidingthefoolishIrishman–ortheFrenchdoingthesametoa remarkably'Irish'soundingBelgian–theseslurscanbecomearoutineandtheconflictcan
PersonalNarrativeOnSocialConflict
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UnderstandingConflictHandlingStylesInadispute,it'softeneasiertodescribehowothersrespond thentohowwerespond.Eachofushasapredominantconflictstylethatweusetomeetourown needs.Byexaminingconflictstylesandtheconsequencesofthosebehaviors,wecangainabetter understandingoftheimpactthatourpersonalconflictstylehasonotherpeople.Withabetter understanding,youthencanmakeaconsciouschoiceonhowtorespondtoothersinaconflict situationtohelpreduceworkconflictandstress.
BehavioralscientistsKennethThomasandRalphKilmann,whodevelopedtheThomas–Kilmann ConflictModeInstrument,haveidentifiedfivestylestorespondingtoconflict–competition, collaboration,compromise,...showmorecontent...
Ifyouconstantlysplitthedifferenceor"straddlethefence,"gameplayingcanresultandthe outcomecouldbelessthanideal.
5Collaborating
Valueofownissue/goal:High Valueofrelationship:High Goal:Iwin,youwin
Thecollaborativestyleviewsconflictsasproblemstobesolvedandfindingcreativesolutionsthat satisfyalltheparties'concerns.Youdon'tgiveupyourselfinterest;youdigintotheissuetoidentify theunderlyingconcerns,testyourownassumptions,andunderstandtheviewsofothers.
Collaborationtakestimeandiftherelationshipamongthepartiesisnotimportant,thenitmaynot beworththetimeandenergytocreateawin–winsolution.However,collaborationfostersrespect, trust,andbuildsrelationships.Tomakeanenvironmentmorecollaborative,addresstheconflict directlyandinawaythatexpresseswillingnessforallpartiestogetwhattheyneed.
Althoughalloftheapproacheshavetheirtimeandplace,youneedtoaskyourselfthebasic question,"IsmypreferredconflicthandlingstyletheverybestIcanusetoresolvethisconflictor solvethisproblem?"
FocusonInterests(Needs),NotPositions(Wants)
Understandingpeople'sinterestsisnotasimpletaskbecausewetendtocommunicateourpositions –thingsthatarelikelytobeconcreteandexplicit.Itishelpfultolearntorecognizethedifference betweenperson's
EssayaboutConflictHandlingStyles
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