The Express Tribune hi five - July 7

Ms JULY 7, 2013

ISSUE NO. 55

Blingy designs for the shaadi season

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Red lips:

The secret to mastering this make-up classic page

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inside the buzz—

So what if someone is teased a little?

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Our very own Greek god

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the buzz

Eve Teasing: The Power Game

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is almost a recreational activity. It is ‘fun’ for the boys.

It is a difficult crime to prove and the eve-teaser takes advantage of his gender. Finally, in sexual harassment, the harasser and the victim tend to have an established contact, for example boss and employee, uncle and niece, whereas in eve-teasing, it is often their first and only encounter.

You know you’re being eve-teased when you hear those wolf whistles behind you when you go out shopping or are jabbed while getting on a bus. There are hundreds of ways to do it: whistling, ogling, making kissing sounds, sexist and sexual comments, vulgar gestures, stalking, inappropriate touching. In extreme cases, there can be outright flashing, assault or extremely

"You know you’re being eve teased when you hear those wolf whistles behind you when you go out shopping

Despite the jocular connotations the term carries, eveteasing is a serious issue by Tehniya S Afridi

Our chivalrous Pakistani bhais would have us believe that they are too shareef to be guilty of sexual misconduct, but the Pakistani behns would beg to differ. Take an average trip to the bazaar. The smooching sound, the brush past, and the outright poking are complemented by a high dose of gawking. While the rest of the world calls it sexual harassment, in our ‘virtuous’ part of the world it is euphemistically referred to as ‘eve-teasing’. This term stands for public or sexual harassment on the street that encompasses any act or words by which a man makes a woman feel uncomfortable and anxious.

There is considerable overlap between sexual harassment and eve-teasing, with the main difference lying in the intensity of the acts, eve-teasing being milder. While sexual harassment can be preceded by a history of interaction and usually involves a known target, eve-teasers zone in on their target on the spot and look for random opportunities. In a majority, but not all cases, sexual harassment tends to take place in closed spaces and the identity of the culprit is usually known; eve-teasing is generally experienced outdoors, usually in the marketplace or on the streets, and the teaser is an unknown male. In sexual harassment the harasser usually takes advantage of a higher rank, powerful position or physical strength. On the other hand, eve-teasing

inappropriate acts in public.

The target can be any age and of any social background, as can be the culprit.

Given the short time span in which it can be experienced, eve-teasing is not taken as seriously as it should by women. Actually, it has far-reaching consequences. After all, something that has been labeled ‘little rape’ by certain feminist writers cannot be mere pestering.

In Bangladesh, the non-profit organisation The Hunger Project found that eve-teasing not only harms women, it actually has a negative effect on human and social development. According to their findings, eve-teased girls often drop out of school to avoid their tormentors, and because parents fear for their ‘honour’. These girls are then forced into early marriages, which has a deep impact on maternal nutrition and health. These girls become mothers at a younger age and give birth to babies with lower birth

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weights. So, this form of harassment contributes to maintaining the low status of women. In the book Sexual Harassment: Contemporary Feminist Perspectives, Barbara Bagilhole, who has researched and published extensively on gender, diversity and equal opportunities, says that eve-teasing in India reflects a gender bias in society, proving that males are dominant while females are helpless. In eve-teasing, a man, knowing that he is stronger than the opposite sex, uses his power to bully women. It is a power game in which the man is the predator and the woman is preyed upon. Perhaps the most alarming thing about eve-teasing is that it is the first rung on the ladder of sex crimes.

An eve-teased female feels weak and frustrated and may experience depression and low self-esteem. Being harassed on the streets can prompt her to withdraw or become constantly anxious. Dozens of girls have committed suicide in India and Bangladesh on account of eve-teasing. These findings were corroborated by the telecommunications company in Pakistan when it asked a research firm to explore the common problems faced

by Pakistani youth, which were then addressed in its ad campaigns. The company discovered that eve-teasing was

"Any woman who reports harassment always mentions what she was wearing the most serious and widespread issue faced by young women in Pakistan and that it hinders their chances of progress by limiting them to their homes.

At the same time, the seriousness of the issue is downplayed by the ‘playful’ connotations associated with the term ‘eve-teasing’. By referring to the victim as ‘Eve’, it is almost as if women were temptresses bent on inciting innocent men into improper conduct. This appears to be a chronic problem in harassment cases — the victim

"In Bangladesh, the nonprofit organisation The Hunger Project found that eve-teasing not only harms women, it actually has a negative effect on human and social development

is often made out to be culpable. When I started talking to women — and men — about eve-teasing, I found that women change their attire in response to being harassed. However, despite the generally modest attire that is observed on the streets, there doesn’t appear to be any decline in harassment. “Any woman who reports harassment always mentions what she was wearing,” says Ambreen Ajaib, who is a psychologist at the NGO Bedari.

Bedari handles the issue of sexual harassment but only about 50 to 70 women contact them per year.

In Pakistan, no proper research studies have been carried out on this topic. It is hard to even estimate figures for sexual harassment cases. “It’s difficult to get exact figures because few women have access to us and because many women believe that the fault lies with them — that a woman normally lures the man and that if she is dressed a certain way she will be harassed,” says Ajaib.

In India, organisations such as the Blank Noise Project, an anti-street-harassment initiative, and anti-eve-teasing laws in Bangladesh are successfully playing their part in curbing this menace. An ‘Anti Eve Teasing Day’ is celebrated in Bangladesh every year to highlight the issue.

In Pakistan, there’s a ‘Protection against Harassment at the Workplace Act 2009’ and Dr Fouzia Saeed, a founding member of the Alliance Against Sexual Harassment (Aasha), is hopeful that this law will help fight sexual harassment.

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en vogue

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Eastern Regalia Take a journey down history with Mughal-inspired apparel from Mifrah Gul, ideal for those summer shaadis

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Coordination: Umer Mushtaq Photography: Munna Mushtaq Designer: Mifrah Gul Hair and Makeup: Sab’s Salon Models: Rubaab Masood, Marvi Sarfaraz, Sadaf Kanwal, Maha, Omer Shahzad, Tabish Oza

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Code Red

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How to pick the perfect shade for your lips by Amna Hashmi

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ed: the colour of passion and a longstanding fashion favourite! Red lips don’t just look glamourous, they also have a teeth-whitening effect that we all love. If you’ve always wanted to try out this lip colour but been too afraid, have no fear. Ms.T did some homework to help you find the Shade best suited to your skin tone. Get ready to look glam!

The number one rule for wearing red lipstick is:

1 Fair: If you have naturally fair skin, matte and warm reds and almost-oranges are most likely to liven up your look. Mahira Khan wears it best. ‘Red Lizard’ by Nars works great with porcelain skin.

The colour is unforgiving to mistakes in application so you have to take your time to put on red lipstick.

Make sure you use a good-quality lip liner and give your mouth the sensual shape we see on celebrities (to prevent the lipstick from bleeding). Don’t try picking a liner in a matching shade of red — you’re better off lining your lips in a shade that’s closest to your natural lip colour. Apply concealer in the corners of your mouth so that the colour doesn’t budge later on. Then apply the lipstick. Blotting and layering now will ensure that the colour lasts.

3 Dark: Dusky beauties like international supermodel Iman can use matte oranges or warm, almostmaroon shades of red for a brighter complexion. mplexion. Ms.T recommends commends Mac’s ‘Viva va La Glam’ for this skin n tone.

Warning: Those with thin lips should avoid deep red shades since they make the mouth appear even harsher.

Medium: Bronzed-babes like Sanam Saeed look best in shiny, pinkish-orange hues that accentuate their healthy glow and brings out the eyes.

Revlon’s Colourburst in ‘Coral’ should do the trick.

Make sure you have a soft, smooth pout! This means exfoliating and moisturising your lips and applying lip balm regularly. Matt red lipstick in particular accentuates your mouth and you don’t want to draw attention to dry, flaky lips.

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If you are wearing red lipstick, your mouth should remain the centre of attention so make sure you go light on the eye make-up and blush. A bright blush with a red lipstick is a sure-fire way to look like a clown. Skip the eyeliner and just dab some beige eye shadow; add a coat or two of mascara and you’re done.

It’s the quickest way to get ready for a night out!

Our advice would be to avoid colourful clothing to make your mouth stand out: black and white clothes look super classy with red lips.

If you are afraid of the heavy look of red lipstick, simply stain your lips for a lighter look. Use your finger tip to apply lipstick to the center of your pout then blend outward. Alternatively, you can use the many lip markers or sheer-textured lipsticks that are available in the market.

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Still not ready to go red? Try a rich berry with a blue undertone which will still give you the ‘dressed up’ look of red and make your teeth appear whiter.

While we believe red lipstick looks great on everyone, there are a lot of people who feel otherwise! Surprised?

Here is what some people had to say about this daring look.

Mishal, 45: “Thing is, red lips look great on those who can pull them off but they tend to be associated with a ‘sharp’ personality so I wouldn’t advise anyone to wear it too much.”

Sarkhail, 22: “Only if the person wearing it 18+.”

Sundas, 24: “Love it! So bold and edgy, why would anyone not like it?”

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Recipe

Mixed Salad Zeenat Iqbal is a stay-athome mother of three. In her free time, she enjoys devising new recipes and writing short stories for children

Method • Slice the tomato and yellow capsicum into thin strips.

• Tear the lettuce leaves into 3 or 4 pieces.

• Peel the tangerine, remove its seeds and cut it into pieces.

• Add the vinegar, sugar, salt, pepper and red chili powder to the above ingredients and mix well.

Ingredients:

• Decorate with olives if desired.

Tangerine 1

Yellow capsicum 1

Salt and pepper to taste

Olives 2

Red chili powder to taste

Lettuce leaves 2

Vinegar to taste

Tomato 1

Sugar to taste

hottie of the week 8

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Status Born

Married Peshawar, Pakistan

Birthday

29th April, 1980

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Emmad Irfani

Body

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Who is he?

Ladies, brace yourselves! We are bringing to you the devastatingly good-looking Emmad Irfani, an ex-model and our nation’s answer to male fashion.

Really, it does not get any better than this guy! Back in 2000, Emmad was practically forced into modelling by his aunt — God bless her — and went on to become one of Pakistan’s most prominent male models. In 2005, he won the ‘Best Male Model’ title at the Lux Style Awards. With an impressive line-up of designers backing him up, including Khaadi, Hang Ten and the much-coveted HSY, Emmad is now taking a hiatus from modelling and focusing on acting for a while. So ladies, keep a look-out for this drop dead gorgeous man’s next gig. Trust us, you won’t regret it!

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Why we love him In an industry obsessed with face value and 6-pacs, our gaze seldom goes past physical appearances but Emmad is pleasing to both the eye and the mind.

With exceptionally great genes, booming sex appeal and charisma to match, Emmad is the sort of eye-candy Pakistan rarely gets to nibble on. This guy is living proof that sometimes, God does give with both hands and we just can’t wrap our heads around how beautiful he is!

Mind you, behind Emmad’s Greek god facade lies a deeply intellectual and dedicated man who has a need to excel in everything he does. Emmad is constantly in competition with himself, setting new goals and working towards them to mould himself into his own best version. Loyal, genuine, scrupulous and family-oriented by nature, Emmad is the complete package.

What you didn’t know about him Emmad’s hates insecurity in people. He feels everyone is beautiful, one should pay no attention to others’ opinions and love themselves no matter what.

He has walked the ramp for various international designers as well, including Armani, Versace, Dior and Prada.

His favourite actor is Arjum Rampal. This make us wonder who would win if they’re pitted against one another on the ramp.

Emmad is an ardent sportsman! Though football and cricket are his personal favourites, he enjoys playing all sports and says he would’ve liked to be a sportsman had it not been for modelling. We don’t mind... so long as he maintains that killer body.

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