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Happy New Year to all our readers! The beginning of the year can bring so much optimism – it's a time to try new activities, ideas, and ways of doing things. I always find the time just after the holidays a good time to reflect on the way we live as a family; what's working and what's not! It's a great time to expand your knowledge by starting a new class or a new programme. This goes for both you and the kids!

For so many of us, we think of the New Year as a time to take better care of ourselves.

Our feature "New Year, New You" may give you some good ideas.

If you are looking at nursery options for your child, then you will find our Nursery feature invaluable. Don't forget to check our website directory for full listings of nurseries in West London. And of course, we have pages full of family friendly events in and around West London in our What's On. Do get in touch if you want to promote any local events – if we get the information in time we are always happy to include it. See you again at the beginning of March.

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News & Views Amanda's Action Club introduces new, healthy-option party bags Amanda’s Action Club is now producing healthy option party bags for children’s parties. The menu available is suitable for very young children and includes soft berry fruit, crunchy vegetable sticks with dip, canape size sandwiches and mini iced oatcakes. All delicious without the e-numbers, additives or extra sugar.

Find out more by contacting Amanda e: info@amandasactionclub.co.uk or call 01895 623999 www.amandasactionclub.co.uk

Base Camps bring affordable, quality childcare to the South East At only *£20 per day (9:30am-4:30pm), Base Camps offers piece of mind for working parents and a packed day where children can play and experience new activities at a venue near you. With the option to extend the day from 8am-6pm for only an additional £5, it’s convenient and value-formoney too. Base Camps provide safe, stimulating holiday childcare based on team work and fun. All of their staff are over 18, CRB checked and qualified (or training to be qualified) in a relative field of teaching and coaching. They guarantee 80 minutes of sports and games in their programme as well as signature team building challenges plus a varied timetable of arts and crafts activities. Venues are within easy reach of local communities and locations include: Berkshire, Essex, Hertfordshire and Oxfordshire with more to be confirmed across the South East.

Register now on their website and *save 10% by taking advantage of Early Booking Rate (discounted rate ends: 30/04/13). www.basecamps.org.uk

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News & Views 3-4 New Year New You: New Year Fitness Regime Motivation 6-7 Alexander Technique 8-9 Nurseries: Is a nursery right for your child?

10-11 The personal, social and emotional development of children 12 Nursery News 14-17 Education: 18 Education News 20-21 What's On in West London 22-27 Health: Gluten Sensitivity & Coelic Disease 28 Parenting: Mediation Advice 29 Travel: Top five secrets to having the best holiday ever 30 Classifieds 31

If you are waking up in the New Year still struggling with the constant juggling of being a mum, working and personal commitments, you may want to think about starting your own business with Kiddikicks. They have franchise opportunities across the UK. Being part of a Kiddikicks franchise will mean less work, less stress, more exercise, more support and more quality time with your children. Work for yourself and run your own successful franchise business with Kiddikicks toddler and child footballthemed and football skills classes, sporty merchandise and cool clothing. You could be the manager or the coach if you have a sporty, supervisory, managerial, sales, marketing, or recruitment background.

Call them to find out more on 020 7937 7965 or e:sarah@kiddikicks.co.uk www.kiddikicks.co.uk (Quote “Families” in your enquiry for a 5% discount.)

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News & Views Five things you need to know about the changes to child benefit 1. Child Benefit is not being stopped for high earners. Anyone receiving Child Benefit, regardless of their income, is entitled to carry on receiving it. But from 7 January 2013, high earners may have to pay a tax charge on any Child Benefit payments they or their partner receive. This applies whether they're married or not.

2. The tax charge increases in line with your income.

For every £100 of income you or your partner have between £50,000 and £60,000, there is a tax charge of 1% of your total Child Benefit. Once your annual income is £60,000 or more, the tax charge is equal to the Child Benefit payments. It's the higher earner who pays the tax.

3. Your income is based on your adjusted net income. Even if you or your partner have an income of £50,000 a year or more, you may find that the tax charge doesn't apply. This is because the tax charge is based on your adjusted net income. This is your income less any payments you make to a pension scheme, donations to charity through Gift Aid and reductions due to membership of salary sacrifice schemes (such as childcare vouchers and the cycle to work scheme). You could even consider increasing payments to your pension, for example, to bring your annual adjusted net income down.

4. You can choose to keep or stop receiving Child Benefit. If you or your partner's adjusted net income is over £60,000, it could make sense to stop receiving Child Benefit as the tax charge will wipe out any financial gain to you and you won't have to complete a tax return. But if you don't know exactly how much your income will be, or you're under the £60,000 threshold, it's best to carry on getting it.

5. If you decide to keep Child Benefit, you'll have to do a tax return. If either you or your partner has an adjusted net income of £50,000 or more then the highest earner must complete a tax return, declaring the Child Benefit as income. It's that person's responsibility to make sure they're registered for self-assessment by 6 October 2013 or they'll face a penalty. They then have until 31 October 2013 to file their return with HMRC (or 31 January 2014 if filing online).

More information. This information was provided to Families by MoneyVista; a free online service that provides access to financial experts. By entering your information, Money Vista works out what tax and national insurance you pay, your projected state pension and what your savings, investments and property might be worth in the future.

Joining all these elements together lets you see the impact on your overall plan of financial decisions you are considering.

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Legal Aid cuts for divorce, cohabitees and childrens matters are just round the corner The introduction of the Legal Aid, Sentencing and Punishment of Offenders Act 2012 which comes into force on the 1st April 2013 means the end of legal aid for all divorce and children cases relating to residence, contact, prohibited steps orders and specific issues that may arise in respect of children. Legal aid will also cease for financial cases relating to matrimonial assets and assets owned by cohabitees. Legal aid will continue on these types of cases if the person is a victim of “domestic abuse.” The definition for “domestic abuse” has been widened to include emotional and psychological abuse, financial abuse, coercion or control. However for victims to fall within the exemption of the domestic violence, they will have to show a conviction or a caution or evidence either from a doctor, a health professional or domestic violence support organisation. There is huge concern for those who do not fall within this exemption but have limited means as there will simply be no legal aid available to deal with applications in respect of children and financial applications after April 2013.

Duncan Lewis have always maintained that legal services should be available to everyone in society. They are avid supporters of Legal Aid and have helped many clients. Their family department has 85 staff (with most of them being accredited Panel members) spread over 7 sites across London. They have the expertise to help those considering or in Savita Sharma the process of separation and can offer speedy advice and if required secure legal aid before the 31st March 2013.

They are open 24 hours and can be reached on 020 7275 2010.

Great value marketing workshops

Marketing consultancy Mumpreneur Marketing offers monthly training workshops to give business mums the necessary skills to promote their businesses. “It is hard to be creative when you are faced with the daily challenges of running a business,” says Mumpreneur Marketing’s Director, Kate Miranda. “Our workshops aim to give business women the time and tools to develop creative and compelling marketing ideas that will make an impact.”

Learn the fundamentals of online marketing, direct marketing, writing press releases and more in these great value 3-hour sessions, £40.

Contact Kate Miranda 07557 796 906 kate@mumpreneurmarketing.com

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New Year Fitness Regime – how to get and stay motivated

by Soraya Emment

It’s a new year and everywhere the buzz is about taking on a new fitness regime, a more active lifestyle, and different fitness goals.

But how motivated are you? And what is motivation and why does it change periodically?

Motivation may be described as the driving force to achieve desired goals. However, to stay motivated I encourage you to understand your personal motives to get fit, bearing in mind that your personal motives depend on your background, experience, ability and lifestyle. To illustrate, start this process by asking yourself why you would like to start a new fitness regime then establish an strategic plan around your needs, likes, desires, and present situation including work, home and family life. Why? Because motivation is about human behavior and so it fluctuates from time to time. Because of this, you need to be patient, flexible, committed, engaged and less hard on yourself when life becomes hectic.

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Once your plans are clear, specific and written down, ask for help and assistance from everyone around you. Get the family together and share with them your weekly, daily commitments. Hire babysitters in advance, speak to neighbours and others in your local community. Tell everyone how important this new journey is for you and get them excited with you!

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a) have more energy throughout the day? b) become more competitive and run a 5 km race in 30 minutes within the next 6 months? c) enjoy playing with your children without feeling totally exhausted afterwards? d) feel healthier overall?

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Here are my 10 tips to keep your motivation in good shape throughout the New Year.

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Commit yourself for at least 28 days Why? Because lack of commitment and task orientation has a negative effect on motivation, therefore causing it to drop drastically. Besides, if you stop your new exercise regime in less than 28 days, it is most likely because you did not plan or prepare yourself well enough in advance, rather than lack of motivation itself. In order to modify any behavior a person needs to be committed for at least 4 weeks. This is the length of time necessary for adaptation.

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Be flexible and have fun while juggling all your commitments There is no need to get stressed out, upset or even give up your workout or training session when emergency or inconvenience strikes. Be resourceful, find alternatives and try to have fun in the process.

Set yourself a Macro and Micro plan How? How about buying a diary to write your new fitness plan? Decide when will be the beginning and the end of your fitness journey for that specific goal. Say you would like to start your new fitness training in January or February 2013 – write it down. Your short term goal also called micro plan refers to your workouts daily, weekly and monthly. Preparing your macro and micro plans are essential to maintain your motivation. Most highly motivated athletes and recreational sports people follow a systematic plan.

Control your emotions and feelings Although emotions and feelings are vital to human performance, they can have a negative impact on your motivation if not controlled. For example, if you are feeling sad, angry, too excited or lacking energy to exercise, try stopping for 5 minutes to validate your emotion (s). But, avoid dealing with it just before your workouts or training sessions.

Do this instead – park you emotion to one side, do your exercise routine, then go back to the emotional state you left parked before the session. You will cope much better with your emotions afterwards, specially if you do medium intensity cardio exercise for at least 25 minutes. Studies have found those who engage periodically in 25/30 minutes of medium intensity cardio exercise are more creative, positive minded, and better at coping with their emotions than those who do less of cardio exercises regularly.

One of the best way to avoid drops in motivation in your New Year fitness regime is to be specific. Why? Because research has found that motivation is enhanced when your goal is more specific. To simplify, ask yourself why you would like to engage with fitness, sport or exercise in the New Year, is it because you would like to:

Once you are clear and specific about your reasons to engage with fitness then you will be more inclined to follow the necessary steps to achieve your goals without too much struggle.

Get a network of support and assistance – in the family, work place or local community

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Be 100% engaged with your workout – no multitasking please!

You will benefit so much more if you are 100% engaged with your activity. No reading, watching TV, answering the phone or playing with your iPhone apps while exercising.

Instead, pay attention to your breathing, your posture, your technique, your learning curve, your movement, or ability to execute certain physical skills. Tune in to yourself and I can guarantee you will feel amazing afterwards, even if you only have 10 minutes to exercise!

7. Hire a specialized and qualified professional Whether you decide to join a gym, an exercise class or do exercise at home, you will benefit from hiring a competent qualified, and certified fitness professional to assist you at least at the beginning of your journey. Keep in mind that no coach or trainer will be able to assist you if you are unclear of what you want to achieve. Having said that, a qualified professional will help you to narrow down your options and make it specific. .

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Choose an activity that you really enjoy Exercise is meant to be fun, energizing, invigorating, mind blowing and not something you dread doing. Find something close to your heart and mind, engage with it and you will see results. There is no such a thing as the “perfect exercise”, “perfect fitness program”, or “best way to get fit”. The perfect physical activity for you is the one you’re totally engaged with! If you chose an activity just to get fit without enjoying it, then your motivation will be shaky.. Motivation is linked with your likes and achievement => the more you like and achieve from the activity, sport or exercise, the higher your motivation!

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Learn to say NO How many times have you missed your training sessions because you could not say “no” to a loved one, to your boss or to your friends? The truth is that people are willing to compromise with you but you need to be assertive and tell them what your needs are. Do not be afraid to share your goal and explain why it is important to you. In the end, people will admire and support you for it.

10. Reward yourself Positive reward works better than negative. Try talking to yourself and give yourself a pat on the back after each workout. Find the words that best represent an encouragement to you. This is called “self-talk”, one of the most prominent techniques used by sport psychologists to keep sports people aware of their hard work and achievements.

Fitness is a skill thus it requires time, effort, dedication, lots of practice, body and mind commitment, persistence, focus, and determination. You will only achieve fitness through hard work.

Cycledelik Thanks to the successs of Team GB in recent years, interest in cycling has increased considerably and more people have been inspired to get on their bikes, whether for casual bikes rides, commutingg or for competitive riding. The obvious benefit of cycling is that it is an excellent form of exercise that is relatively inexpensive. Furthermore it is a sport which all members of the family can participate in and is simply a great way of getting out and about. There are also the financial benefits of cycling; you can dispense with the need to join a gym and swapping public transport for two wheels will save you travel costs. Best of all, cycling is the quickest way to get around in a busy town or city-be it a business meeting on a folding Dahon or school run on a Backfiets or Christiania.

Looking after your bicycle does not have to be a chore. A handful of reputable companies are now offering 'Mobile bicycle mechanics'. General repairs, servicing, parts, accessories and bicycle sales are now just a click away with smart online booking systems so hours wasted in traffic queues with bicycles jammed in the back of the car trying to find a bicycle shop are long gone.

Try Cycledelik based in West London. Bookings can be made on 0800 0910500 www.cycledelik.com

If you need a hand with clarifying your goals, fitness consultancy, to draw a macro or micro plan or professional support, get in touch with Soraya Emment e:soraya0205@hotmail.com or call 07961 190911. Soraya also runs group fitness classes in Ealing at All Saints Hall, W53JH. She also runs the following classes: Mondays 7.30pm, Zumba at Arts Ed School, 14 Bath Rd, Chiswick W41lY Fridays 8pm, Zumba at Ealing Town Hall Saturdays 11am, Pilates at Ealing Town Hall Saturdays 12:10 – Zumba Toning for Women at Ealing Town Hall

Come and join in our fun and energising Zumba Fitness® classes based on various Latin and international dance styles! Zumba Toning® uses easy-to-follow fitness dance moves with light hand-weights to improve strength, coordination, body toning and muscle endurance.

Everyone is welcome.

Fitness classes & courses starting in the 1st week of January 2013 in Ealing at All Saints Hall – W5 3JH including: Zumba Regular – Fri 8pm Pilates – Sat 11am Zumba Toning® – Sat 12:10am (hand-weights)

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New Year New You

Are you sitting comfortably?

The Alexander Technique shows you how to protect your child's back

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Alexander Technique offers family inspiration for 2013 It’s a new year, a new start and the next few weeks will see many of us doing our level best not to break the all important New Year’s Resolution that we’ve made.

And actually, that’s no bad thing, being in the great outdoors. Whether you’re a child or an adult, many of us are said to spend far too much time inside the home – in front of the television, surfing the net, on the phone, playing computer games.

Sounds good. STAT recommends working with one of their teachers who is able to equip children and adults with the tools to prevent poor habits creeping back in to daily life. And it should come as no surprise that children and young people benefit quickly from AT lessons, having acquired fewer bad habits than adults.

Research by the Society of Teachers of the Alexander Technique (STAT) supports this theory. Its recent survey of parents shows how concerned they are about the impact on their children’s health and wellbeing as a result of spending up to four hours every day – and more in some cases – using gaming devices and computers.

Poor posture, headaches, back problems and lack of concentration are all reported as issues by both mums and dads who feel their children spend too long indoors with too little time spent enjoying outdoor activities and generally being in the fresh air.

So back to that New Year’s Resolution.

STAT suggests making it a family affair.

After all, how many parents, just like their youngsters, are guilty of spending long periods of time using computers, smartphones and other gadgetry?

“The benefits become apparent by improved posture, less pain and discomfort and generally feeling better in themselves.”

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moving. People gain an understanding of the problems they are experiencing and learn how to prevent them.

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Some people will have set themselves major challenges, such as losing weight or stopping smoking. Others will have their sights set on doing more exercise and spending more time in the great outdoors.

New YOU LEARN • the Alexander Technique for: – Back pain – stiff neck/ sore shoulders – RSI/Arthritis – Headaches/ confidence

• to be properly balanced • to walk & sit properly and drop bad habits

START NOW! Rome Godwin M.STAT West Kensington, nr Olympia 020 7603 2250 www.romegodwin.net at@romegodwin.net

The skills and awareness they learn now stand them in good stead for the rest of their lives, preventing their bad habits from re-emerging. So the Alexander Technique becomes an invaluable skill for a lifetime.

Now that’s a New Year’s Resolution worth keeping.

Find an Alexander Technique teacher near you by contacting www.stat.org.uk or telephone 0207 482 5135.

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The Alexander Technique has universal appeal in its ability to improve health and wellbeing across the ages – supporting children, young people and adults to undo poor habits learned as a result of spending long hours in front of screens.

A few, simple measures learned through the Alexander Technique can deliver solid, effective results, correcting rounded shoulders and curved-back sitting as well as improving focus and concentration – in both children and adults.

Angela East of STAT, explains: “Learning the Alexander Technique involves appreciating how to use your body appropriately in everyday tasks like sitting, standing and January/February 2013

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Nurseries

Is a nursery right for your child (and you)?

By Joanna Moorhead

Nurseries aren't the cheapest form of childcare according to the latest figures, the average cost of a nursery place for a child under two for 25 hours a week is £103.19 a week. But prices vary dramatically, and in some areas nurseries charge as much as £15,000 a year for 25 hours' care a week.

Is a nursery the right choice for you?

Studies show, though, that attending nursery can increase a child's confidence, because it involves mixing with adults, and other children, from outside the family group. It gives children social skills, and experience from an early age of an environment outside the home. The nursery 'key worker' scheme, under which each child is allocated a special member of staff with whom they can bond, helps provide security.

Healthy food and menus are another big plus of nursery provision: staff work hard to ensure children are given a balanced diet. And as your child gets older, play and learning opportunities will be targeted appropriately: staff are trained in what young children can do when, and will be conscious of a child's likely interests and potential.

Nurseries work best for parents who have regular working hours, because it's difficult or impossible for staff to deal with erratic patterns of collection and drop-off: nurseries often open early in the morning and some close late in the evening, but they are not as flexible as, say, a nanny or a childminder. On the other hand, they have the big advantage that only very, very rarely will they be closed at short notice – so they're more reliable than one carer who may be ill or have to cope with a sudden family emergency.

They may be prohibitively expensive if you have more than one child, although many nurseries do offer a sibling reduction. But if you can fit around its opening hours, if your budget stretches to the fees, and if you like the idea of a social environment and a place with plenty of activities and trained carers, a nursery could be the place for your child and for you.

How to reduce nursery costs The government is currently considering cutting staff-to-child ratios in nurseries as a way of reducing what many see as unsustainable

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prices – but the move is controversial, and organisations such as the Preschool Learning Alliance is warning such a change could risk children's safety and well-being. Under current regulations, there must be one staff member for every three under-twos, and one for every four children aged two and three.

Most nurseries provide funded places for three and four year olds under the government Free Early Education scheme, which will start from the beginning of the term (1 September, 1 January or 1 April) after your child’s third birthday. If your child is younger, check whether your employer can offer help towards your nursery costs through the childcare voucher scheme.

Under this, money is taken out of your pay packet before deductions, giving you savings on tax and National Insurance – in return, you are given a voucher or e-voucher that you forward to your nursery, and the amount is deducted from your bill. So it's a way of getting more childcare for your money – though it requires your employer's co-operation.

How to choose the right nursery Start your nursery search well ahead of the time when you're actually going to need to leave your child: the more confident you are of the choices you make, the happier you'll be when it comes to the day you have to head back to the office. Ask around so you get other parents' views on what nurseries are like in your area. Make a shortlist of ones that might work for you (remember to take geography into account: how easy will it be for you and/or your partner to do the drop off/collect?) and don't hesitate to ask to visit a second time.

Make sure you read the most recent Ofsted inspection report for the nurseries you are considering, and ask whether they have any awards of excellence. Be guided by your instincts when looking at a nursery: it may seem a cliché to say do the children look happy, but it is an important barometer of whether a

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nursery is good. Be aware of the quality of both indoor and outdoor play areas: are the spaces pleasant, bright, welcoming, and do they seem safe? Ask about meals, how the food is prepared, and what time meals are served. Are you able to provide input for your child's food – suggestions for what s/he would like to eat, or recipes? What kinds of snacks are provided and how often are they available?

Watch the children while they're playing, and pay attention to how much they're interacting with the staff. How do the staff come across – do they seem happy, relaxed, fun to be around?

Do you feel comfortable talking to them? Do they seem interested in your child and his/her likes/dislikes and interests?

Ask about organised play sessions – weekly music groups, perhaps, or storytelling. Are there trips to the library, and to the park? How are these organised, and how often do they take place?

Make sure you understand what the nursery charges, how payment is made, and exactly what the fees include (for example, do they cover meals, nappies, outings). How many weeks a year is the nursery open? How are parents involved in the nursery, and are there opportunities for parents to meet up?

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For children aged from 2 to 5 years. The nursery follows the Montessori method. We also offer, French, Ballet, Music, IT, Art and Drama.

Full and part time sessions are available. Qualified and experienced teachers maintain a high standard of learning and care. * Excellent academic record * Caring and nurturing environment * Happy, considerate and confident children

Tel no: 0208 579 2304 Mobile no: 07956 228 959 Email: info@stmatthewsmontessori.com Website: www.stmatthewsmontessori.com

Some nurseries have webcams which allow parents to see live images of their child at play from their desk at work. But while some parents welcome this idea, others are sceptical - they say they want their child's nursery to know they trust its workers, and worry that they'll be seen as a way of spying on care workers. Others say they like the idea of watching their child at play so much that they'd spend too much time doing it - and wouldn't ever get any work done!

As your child is settling into nursery, trust your instincts about how well it's going. You know your child better than anyone else, so if your hunch is that your child is happy and contented , that's almost certainly the case. Remember that in the early days, he or she will probably get more tired than usual -nursery is a big change, emotionally as well as physically. Both your child and you need time to adjust to the new set-up.

Try not to drag out your goodbyes: leaving your child will be difficult, especially at first, but keeping it brief will help you both.

Remember that your child may cry every day when you drop them off (and so might you!) for quite a while; this is a normal part of getting used to this big change in your lives. Cope with it by emphasising the positives: think about why you're working (to make money and provide a better standard of living; to ensure you have an interesting life, and income, in the longer term) and how much your child will benefit from a wider social network.

Troubleshooting Fingers crossed, you'll never have a problem with a nursery your child attends. But what happens when there IS an issue? As every working parent knows, nothing undermines your ability to work more than a nagging suspicion that your child isn't happy, or isn't being looked after as well as possible or even – worst scenario of all – isn't safe.

If you have any worries at all about your child's nursery you must resolve them, and as quickly as possible. So as soon as something strikes you as 'not right', talk to the nursery manager or your allocated member of staff – many niggles are simply down to a lack of communication. Explain what's up, and the chances are you'll never have to mention it again, and things will all be smoothed over.

But if you're not satisfied that all is well, put your concern in writing to the nursery manager. All nurseries should have a protocol for dealing with complaints – ask to see this if it's not spelled out in the nursery handbook.

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How can parents support their child’s PSED?

The personal, social and emotional development of children

By Farah Virani

I am often asked by parents, “what exactly is personal, social and emotional development? “ This article provides an insight into this broad but critical area of learning and development.

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The PSED of each child can be affected by various factors in the child’s life. Babies and young children are vulnerable and totally dependent on others for survival. When they learn that they can depend on and trust one person who is consistently responsive and sensitive to their physical and emotional needs they have what is called a ‘secure attachment’. Securely attached infants are more sociable, more positive in their behaviour towards friends and siblings, less aggressive and disruptive and more emotionally mature. They also develop more connections and have welldeveloped brains.

Attachment behaviour begins in infancy and lasts a lifetime.

Through holding items, physical contact, breast feeding, eye contact, nurturing, affection and early interaction between infants and carers, attachments are formed. Infants have primary needs which need to be fulfilled, and through consistent and predictable care the infant knows that they will receive water, food, care, love and security which in turn will help to build a strong emotional base.

However, no one person can provide everything a growing child needs and children can form close attachments with several people such as their grandparents or key worker at pre-school.

Parents should recognise these connections and nurture those that encourage PSED.

Parenting tips: Parents can help their children by being aware that:

As a mother of a two year old and a teacher of children between the ages of 2-5 years I firmly believe that successful personal, social and emotional development is critical for very young children in all aspects of their lives. It gives them the best opportunity for success in all other areas of learning.

It is therefore crucial that parents provide the experiences and support to enable children to develop a positive sense of themselves.

■ For children, feeling special to someone and well cared for is vital for their physical, social and emotional health and well-being.

■ Being acknowledged and affirmed by important people in their lives leads to children gaining confidence and inner strength through secure attachments with these people.

■ Exploration within close relationships leads to the growth of self-assurance, promoting a sense of belonging which allows children to explore the world from a secure base.

■ Children need adults to set a good example and to give them opportunities for interaction with others so that they can develop positive ideas about themselves and others.

■ Children who are encouraged to feel free to express their ideas and their feelings, such as joy, sadness, frustration and fear, can develop strategies to cope with new, challenging or stressful situations.

Why should parents take notice of PSED? The new Early Years Foundation Stage curriculum highlights personal, social and emotional development as being of utmost importance and elevated it to a prime area of learning.

‘Starting the process of successful personal, social and emotional development is essential for young children in all aspects of their lives.

It helps them to relate well to other children and adults; to make friends and get on with others; to feel secure and valued; to explore and learn confidently; and ultimately to feel good about themselves.

Early personal, social and emotional development has a central impact on later wellbeing, learning, achievement and economic circumstances.’

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Being me – how children come to understand who they are and what they can do = personal development Being social – how children come to understand themselves in relation to others, how they make friends, understand the rules of society and behave towards others = social development Having feelings – how children come to understand their own and others’ feelings and develops their ability to ‘stand in someone else’s shoes’ and see things from another’s point of view, that is, developing empathy = emotional development.

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Parents can further support their child’s PSED by: • • • • • • • •

Providing a healthy and varied diet for their children.

Ensuring that their children have an adequate amount of sleep.

Spending quality time with their child on a daily basis including reading and playing Being a positive role model – happy parents usually means happy children Acknowledging children’s achievements – no matter how small.

Reassuring children when appropriate.

Providing opportunities for them to play and to be around other babies or young children.

Allowing them to express their feelings freely and talking to them about the reasons they are feeling a certain way.

Farah Virani – Head Teacher at St Matthew’s Montessori School, North Common Road, Ealing. W5 2QA January/February 2013

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Nursery News

Little People Day Nursery in Shepherds Bush rated outstanding by Ofsted The nursery are continually working to enhance the children's development at their nursery.

Ofsted was especially impressed by the children's multi-sensory learning activities whcih contribute to pre-school maths and language skills.

The range of activities offered at the nursery have also now been extended to include dance, music, french, football with Fulham football club, swimming and baby massage. They welcome visitors to see the nursery in action so call and book a visit.

Little People Shepherds Bush 020 87492877 or Fulham 020 7386 0006 www.littlepeople.co.uk

Bi-lingual nursery in Ealing goes from strength to strength Having a second language is such an asset in all aspects of life. Consider it for your child at the Ark of Noah Bilingual (French/English) Nursery School. It has been running successfully for five years in W13.

Children need no prior knowledge of French and staff find that they are soon picking up both languages quite easily. The nursery work closely with the French school, A. Malraux, which now accepts more English children. A Mother and Toddler group takes place on Thursdays with French songs and movement and there is an afterschool club on Wednesdays for older children (ages 4-10).

Find out more on www.arkofnoah.net e: info@arkofnoah.net or call 07925 833359.

Buttons Day nursery school h l installs biometric access systems Buttons Day Nursery, which takes children from birth to 8 years, regards the safety of its children as a top priority. It has just received a very positive Ofsted affirming this. In line with this thinking biometric access control systems have now been installed which ensure, with 100% confidence, that only authorised people have access to the nursery.

To find out more about this and all the other areas in which the nursery excels contact them on 020 8840 3355 or e:info@buttonsdaynursery.co.uk. Buttons is located at 99 Oaklands Road, Hanwell W7 www.buttonsdaynursery.co.uk

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Early Years at Clifton Lodge School Following a ÂŁ1/4m investment to expand and upgrade its provision of Early Years learning, Clifton Lodge School will be opening a Lower Reception class (ages 3+) in September 2013.

The school benefits from small classes and excellent pupil to teacher ratios which enables it to focus on teaching within small groups, with clearly differentiated work, to ensure each child is taught at the correct pace for their own ability.

From Lower Reception onwards learning and challenge is introduced through English, Mathematics and topic work with a strong focus on reading. The aim is to inspire, to encourage a spirit of enquiry and exploration and to provide an exciting, stimulating and safe environment in which to learn.

Clifton Lodge is a co-educational preparatory school for children aged from 3 to 13 years. A member of the Cognita Group of schools since 2008, the school prides itself on its small, friendly, inclusive atmosphere that ensures that pupils develop into confident, independent, well-mannered individuals who reach their full potential. www.cliftonlodgeschool.co.uk January/February 2013

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Little Stars Crèche At St Andrew’s Church, Greyhound Road, W14 9SA

www.littlestarscreche.co.uk For children aged 2-5 years old Tuesdays and Fridays 10:00-12:00 Please email rachel@littlestarscreche.co.uk for more information

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Active Learning

A different kind of nursery We asked Active Learning nursery what made them stand out from the rest. “Active Learning is completely different from any other nursery in the UK. Alongside the usual nursery curriculum, we teach a full pre-school curriculum through a programme of performing and cultural arts, and sport. Each nursery is equipped with its own dedicated Art Studio, Music Studio, Science Studio and have fully qualified teachers in all these area.” See it for yourself – Active Learning is at Quintin Hogg Memorial Ground, Hartington Road, London W4 3AN. Call them on 0800 081 1620 or directly on 020 3167 4994

You can support your nursery child's learning at home in a variety of ways.

Talking with them and sharing ideas are the most natural way but also do make time to: • • • • • • •

Read to your child Take your child to the library Play games with letters Help your child learn the alphabet Introduce your child to numbers or counting Share songs, poems or nursery rhymes with your child Paint and draw with your child

Parents at the London Early Years Foundation nurseries are invited to evening workshops to develop their understanding of how children learn. They welcome parents asking what children have shown interest in during the day and using this information to extend learning at home. Look for more parenting tips and advice on their website. www.leyf.org.uk

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Nurseries ‘Books, glorious books’

St Augustine's Priory School

Book week at St Augustine’s Priory School The children in the EYFS (Nursery and Prep I) at St Augustine’s Priory School, Ealing were transported into an exciting world of stories and make-believe during their recent Book Week. Staff planned inspiring child-centred activities to promote and encourage enjoyment of books and reading.

Book fever swept through St Benedict’s Nursery last term.

Author Kathy Henderson read her stories and poems, encouraging the children to join in with drum beats, marching ideas and drawing. A ‘School Read In’ saw everyone stop and read for half an hour, with a cushion and their favourite book.

For Dressing up Day the children came into Nursery dressed as their favourite book character. A rousing rendition of the Book Week song, ‘Books, glorious books! We love to read them!’ rounded off the week. www.stbenedicts.org.uk St Benedict's Nursery

The week got off to an exciting start with a visit from the Gruffalo who came to school to see the children and to give them all bookstart treasure chests. This was followed by a visit to the Book Fair, members of the school community dropping in to read to the EYFS children and a visit to the Central Library for a story-time. The week finished with Book Character Day, the highlight of the week!

The St Augustine’s Priory Nursery accepts boys and girls aged 3-4 years. Prep I (Reception) accepts girls aged 4-5 years. There are currently places available for this academic year and for next academic year 2013-2014.

Contact: admissions@saintaugustinespriory.org www.saintaugustinespriory.org.uk

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Education Youth finds its Voice Thames Christian College pupils have been fortunate to be involved in a new social enterprise Podium.me, which represents the voices of the under 20s across the whole of the UK. Thames pupils were invited to pilot the idea last year. Podium.me enables young people aged 13-20 to express their views on a wide range of topics, anonymously via podcasts. Recent stories include social networks, piracy, gambling and the new GCSEs.

Cooking Parties!

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Camilla Byk, journalist at Podium.me comments: “Podium.me was so impressed with the articulate and well considered views of the Thames pupils that we now visit the school monthly to talk to students who wish to take part.”

• Fun, cooking parties • For boys and girls aged 5-16 years • Cooking classes

Hannah, a Year 9 pupil at Thames Christian College comments: “Podium.me really got me thinking about different issues such as whether or not Facebook reduces social skills. I really enjoyed debating the different topics.”

Give your child the best party ever!

Podium.me are linked with many youth organisations including the Princes Trust, Childline, The Challenge and Radio 4 extra. Parents and other adults can listen to Podium.me stories and they actively encourage government to listen to the youth view through links with MPs.

whisking, baking, giggling, rolling, making, laughing, turning, licking, joking

A great way to learn while having fun!

Call for details:

0208 876 9912 email: info@cookiecrumbles.co.uk www.cookiecrumbles.co.uk

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From primary to academy 400 primary schools judged to be among the weakest in England and Wales are set to become academies, the Prime Minister announced. David Cameron plans to pair these schools with sponsors, taking them out of the control of their local authorities in a drive to improve education in the poorest-performing schools. “The driving mission for this government is to build an aspiration nation, where we unlock and unleash the promise in all our people,” he said. “A firstclass education system is absolutely central to that vision. Time and time again we have seen how academies, with their freedom to innovate, inspire and raise standards are fuelling aspirations and helping to spread success. So now we want to go further, faster, with 400 more under-performing primary schools paired up with a sponsor and either open or well on their way to becoming an academy by the end of next year." At the time of the previous general election there were 203 academies, all secondary schools. There are now 2,456, with 823 more in the pipeline.

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For more information call: Hermione on 0208 933 9997 or Louise on 0208 840 4452 Email: twisters@btinternet.com

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Education 11+ tutor in West London We are coming into the dreaded secondary school entrance exam time with this issue. For parents who are planning ahead, you could give Gwenda Jones a ring. Gwenda runs Mrs Jones Education has over 25 years teaching experience throughout the 7-18 age range. Gwenda has taught in both state grammar and independent private schools in London and the home counties. It is this accumulation of knowledge and experience that has enabled her to successfully set up Mrs Jones Education. Tuition is specifically geared towards the 11+ entrance examinations for both grammar and independent schools. Children are taught in small groups and are given plenty of practice with timed mock exam papers. Her success rate is impressive – over 92% of children that start with her in Year 4 end up gaining a place to one of their first choice schools. Find out more by calling her on 020 8390 6076.

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Success at Heathfield School for Girls Heathfield School for Girls Junior department received excellent SATS results with 95% Level 5 in Maths and English. The school is in the final stages of achieving Forest School status and has designated areas within the grounds with a pond and forest to enhance learning. Pupils have already been toasting marshmallows!

The Junior school is innovative in its Heathfield School for Girls use of parent communication through their daughter’s online learning journeys. To visit, termly open days are available or you may book an individual tour.

Chess is back!

Chess is making a dramatic comeback in primary schools, 30 years after it all but disappeared from the state school scene.

In the past two years, a total of 175 schools, including those serving some of the most deprived areas of the country, have reintroduced the game to the curriculum. Now the charity behind its revival, Chess in Schools and Communities, is optimistic the take-up will spread to 1,000 state schools within the next three years. CSC is pushing for all primary school children in the country to have the chance to learn how to play chess, and has already taught over 6,000 children in schools, as well as providing schools with chess sets, a chess curriculum and a weekly visit from a chess trainer.

Academics are agreed the game is a major stimulant for improving pupils’ concentration and believe it can also be used in other subject areas, such as maths, to improve skills. It is easy to see why heads are keen to encourage it – a report

by Chessmaster Jerry Myers on why it should be encouraged in schools says, “We believe it directly contributes to academic performance. Chess makes children smarter.” www.chessinschools.co.uk

For further information, visit www.heathfield.gdst.net or email admissions@hea.gdst.net.

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Caroline Lester School of Dance offers ballet classes for girls & boys from 3+ following the ISTD syllabus.

New for September: Zumba Classes.

Classes take place every Wednesday during term time. Examinations are taken in the ISTD syllabus with a 100% pass rate.

We are happy to take on new starters throughout the school year. For more information and to book a place please see our website: www.carolinelesterschoolofdance.co.uk

London Ice Sculpting Festival - Canary Wharf

DIARY DATES/EVENTS LONDON ICE SCULPTING FESTIVAL Canary Wharf, Isle of Dogs E14 4HJ Canarywharf.com/visitus 11-13 Jan. Ice sculptors get their chisels out to welcome in the new year. Over the course of 3 days, the pros will compete to create chilly works of art, plus there are free masterclasses where you can learn the basic techniques of ice sculpting, age 12+ YOUTH MUSIC THEATRE UK Lyric Hammersmith W6 0QL Youthmusictheatreuk.org 12 Jan. WORKSHOP & AUDITION TOUR Book your place in this search for the best actors, singers, dancers, musicians and back stage crew to join the company in 2013. Ages 11-21, sessions 9.30am, 12.15pm and 3.45pm REDI PAEDIATIRIC FIRST AID TRAINING COURSE 16 Jan and 13 Feb at Maggie and Rose in Kensington, W8. All participants will receive a first aid certificate and book. All courses are taught by paediatric A&E nurses. 020 7348 7117 www.redi-training.co.uk INSTITUT FRANCAIS 17 Queensbury Place SW7 2DT 0207 871 3515 institut-francais.org.uk 12, 19 and 26 Jan, 2, 9, 16 and 23 Feb. BABY AND KIDS TALES Travel back to the times mystical legend with the help of Arthur and his brave knights. Gallop on gallant horses, save the damsels in distress and search for the secret whereabouts of the round table.

12 and 26 Jan – ages 0-3; 19 Jan - ages 3-5, £5/£7 PROFESSOR QUANTUM’S MAGNIFICENT TIME TOUR Meet at the bus stop, 6 Northumberland Ave WC2N 5BY 0844 318 7655 timetour.co.uk 12, 13, 19, 20, 26 and 27 Jan, 2, 3, 9, 10, 16, 17, 23 and 24 Feb. Combing theatre and technical trickery with an insightful look at London's rich past, aboard the Professor's 'Incredible Time Bus'. All ages, 2.45pm, £22

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What's On BFI SOUTHBANK W1T 1LN bfi.org.uk 13 Jan. MONSTERS, INC FUNDAY WORKSHOP Create your very own Monster. Take inspiration from the likes of Pixar’s Sulley and Mike and see if you can draw a creature even scarier! 11.30am, followed by screening of the 3D movie at 1.30pm 27 Jan. 50TH ANNIVERSARY FAMILY SCREENING: THE PINK PANTHER This special 50th birthday screening is the perfect opportunity to introduce a new generation to the genius of Peter Sellers in his most iconic role. 1pm 27 Jan. SCHOOL OF SLAPSTICK AND KIDS ANIMATION WORKSHOP Dress up as Inspector Clouseau to search for the Pink Panther diamond, and make your own mini-Pink Pantheranimation.

Ages 7-12, 11.30am, see locofilmfestival.com RSPB BIG GARDEN BIRDWATCH 2013 Rspb.org.uk/birdwatch 26-27 Jan. The RSPB's annual bird count is the world's largest wildlife survey, with over half a million people taking part. Spend an hour noting down the number of each species of birds in either your garden or local park CITY OF LONDON DOLLSHOUSE FESTIVAL The Tower Hotel, St Katherine’s Way E1 1LD Dollshousefestival.com 27 Jan. See hand-made miniature works of art, ranging from a gilt console table to a humble clothes peg. Plus children’s activities and workshops given by some of the best known names in the field.

SNAKES AND LADDERS Syon Park, Brentford, Middlesex TW8 8JF 020 8847 0946 snakes-and-ladders.co.uk To 31 Jan. TOY AMNESTY A great way to start the New Year by supporting a worthy cause! Make room for your children’s new presents by bringing unwanted good quality toys to the Shooting Star CHASE donation station at Snakes and Ladders.

KENSINGTON MUMS VALENTINE'S PAMPER SESSION 9 Feb. A morning pampering with Neil's Yard remedies where you will have a one to one consultation with a specialist, meet other local Mums, receive a goody bag, discounts and off course get pampered. www.kensingtonmums.co.uk e: info@kensingtonmums .co.uk SOUTHBANK CENTRE SE1 8PX southbankcentre.co.uk 10 Feb. FUNHARMONICS: THE ROARING TWENTIES A day of music aimed at children and young people. In Clore Ballroom at Royal Festival Hall, £5-£18 IMAGINE CHILDREN’S FESTIVAL 11-24 Feb. Vampires, giant dinosaurs and the Queen’s Knickers… It’s the return of the Imagine Festival with a range of theatre, music, film and comedy alongside readings by some of the UK’s top authors.

There are activities for all ages, from opera for babies to vampire-themed Valentine’s Day celebrations for teens and interactive shows for adults.

10.30 – 4.00pm daily www.southbankcentre.co.uk OLE KIDS AND JAJAJA BOOKS EVENT La Tasca, 23-24 Maiden Lane, Covent Garden WC2E 7NA 07734 900221 / 020 7386 0376 info@olekids.com 17 Feb. Sing, dance and open the pinata with Ole kids WARNER BROS STUDIO TOUR: THE MAKING OF HARRY POTTER Warner Bros Studio, Aerodrome Way, Leavesden, Watford, Herts WD25 7LS 08450 840 900 wbstudiotour.co.uk To 6 March 2013. Walk through sets including the Great Hall, Dumbledore's office, Gryffindor common room and Hagrid's hut. £28/£21

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What's On FEBRUARY HALF TERM WORKSHOPS 18 -22 Feb HOLLAND PARK ECOLOGY CENTRE A mixture of outdoor activities based in the wooded wildlife area, like shelter building and scavenger hunts, plus animal themed art and crafts such as charming snakes and mask making for ages 5-10. www.rbkc.gov.uk/ecology 18-22 Feb CORNER 9 ART Workshops exploring nature through art for ages 5+ in W10. 10am-noon www.corner9.com 18-24 Feb ARTPEGGIOS 3hr Art and music workshops for children aged 8+ including drawing, drama, rock band, jazz group, DJing and French pop music www.artpeggios.com 19 Feb CUCINA CALDESI Italian cooking class for ages 6-12 in W1 www.caldesi.com

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HMS BELFAST SE1 2JH iwm.org.uk 19-20 Jan. HISTORY IN YOUR HANDS An interpretive activity examining objects and spaces in and around HMS Belfast and the stories behind them.

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DAYS OUT BARBICAN CENTRE Silk Street EC2Y 8DS 0845 120 7550 barbican.org.uk To end Jan. EVERYTHING WAS MOVING: PHOTOGRAPHY FROM THE 60S AND 70S New exhibition surveying photography from across the globe, featuring work from renowned photographers including Bruce Davidson, William Eggleston and Li Zhensheng.

To 28 Feb. RAIN ROOM An astonishing installation giving visitors the chance to experience what it’s like to control the rain.

16-24 Feb. SLANG AT SEA Take a look at navy slang and the origin of popular phrases that link to life at sea and the importance of the navy in British history and culture. 11am and 2pm GUN TURRET EXPERIENCE - A chance to see what fighting at sea would have really been like.

INTERACTIVE OPERATIONS ROOM – Imagine what it would have been like to control HMS Belfast from the Operations room, the nerve centre and brain of the entire ship.

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11, 18 and 25 Jan, 1, 8, 15 and 22 Feb. EERIE EVENING TOUR Hear chilling tales of mysterious sights, eerie encounters and strange stories as you are guided through the shadowy State Apartments and regaled with chilling tales from the palace’s historic past. 6.45-8.15pm, £25

Throughout Jan and Feb - With a zoo, animal encounters, play area and café, a visit to the world famous Battersea Park Children's Zoo is a must.

CHELSEA PHYSIC GARDEN 66 Royal Hospital Road SW3 4HS 020 7349 6453 chelseaphysicgarden.co.uk 2-10 Feb. SNOWDROP DAYS Come to London's oldest botanic garden for a snowdrop extravaganza. Discover dozens of fascinating types on the Snowdrop Trail and on display in the Snowdrop Theatre

HAMPTON COURT PALACE KT8 9AU hrp.org.uk To 13 Jan 2013. ICE SKATING Celebrate 10 years of winter skating at the truly splendid setting of Henry VIII’s Tudor Palace To 28 March. MAKE HISTORY HAPPEN Meet Henry VIII and his Tudor courtiers. The King intends to marry again, but who is the lady his affections have fallen on?

2-3 Feb. HISTORIC COOKERY The Historic cooks are toiling in the Kitchens of King Henry VIII, preparing the exotic dishes for his majesty as well as the plainer, yet still lavish, food for the court 16-24 Feb. HORRIBLE HAMPTON The Tudor court is recruiting children as apprentices for the dirty jobs needed to make the beautiful palace run smoothly. Have you got what it takes to be a good scourer or a laundress?

16-24 Feb. THE KING’S COFFEE The theme for February half-term activities is the world of William III and Mary II in the late 17th century at Kensington Palace. Make blue and white china mosaic works of art, paper tulips and learn about the exotic goods such a chocolate, coffee and tea coming in from the Dutch and British empires.

ROYAL OBSERVATORY GREENWICH SE10 9NF rmg.co.uk To Feb 2013. ASTRONOMY PHOTOGRAPHER OF THE YEAR EXHIBITION See the spectacular winning images from this year’s competition – from distant galaxies to our very own Milky Way and neighbouring planets, the entries reflect our enduring fascination with the night sky.

9, 11, 12, 16, 18, 19, 23, 25, 26 Jan. EVENING WITH THE STARS Popular after-dark experience including a show in London’s only public planetarium.

7yrs+, £16, from 5.30pm 26 Jan. SATURDAY SPACE EXPLORERS Make simple cardboard instruments including constellation finders, planet finders and lunar calendars. 5yrs+, free, from 2pm Throughout Jan and Feb. THE UNIVERSE EXPOSED: PHOTOGRAPHING THE COSMOS Showcasing how anyone with a digital camera can capture spectacular images of the night-sky. 5yrs+, £6.50/£4.50 Throughout Jan and Feb. MEET THE NEIGHBOURS Meet our neighbours in space in this entertaining interactive show, where you decide which planets to visit. 5yrs+, £6.50/£4.50 Throughout Jan and Feb. SOLAR SYSTEM, GALAXY, UNIVERSE Exploring the scale of the Solar System, Galaxy and Universe and how we measure it. 5yrs+, £6.50/£4.50 Throughout Jan and Feb. SPACE SAFARI Join Ted the teddy bear for live music and rhyme as he journeys throughout the solar system looking for the Great Bear in the sky in this show designed especially for younger children. Age 7 and under, £6.50/£4.50

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Throughout Jan and Feb. SKY TONIGHT LIVE A live show presented by a Royal Observatory Astronomer takes visitors on a tour of what can be seen in the night sky on the day of their visit and the months ahead. 12.30, 2 and 3.30pm, 5yrs+, £6.50/£4.50 January/February 2013

What's On TOWER OF LONDON EC3 hrp.org.uk 9, 16, 23 and 30 Jan, 6, 13, 20 and 27 Feb. TOWER TWILIGHT TOURS Dare to take an evening tour of the Tower, taking in the gruesome sights and spooky stories which make it famous. 12yrs+, £25 To 15 Feb and 25 Feb – 28 March. LIFE IN THE MEDIEVAL PALACE Step into a world of gallant knights and beautiful damsels, of brutal lords and sturdy peasants. As King Edward I extends his fortifications and royal lodgings, there are skills to learn and friends to be made. Age 12+, £25 16-24 Feb. BEAT THE BLOCK – THE WARS OF THE ROSES As the nobles of Medieval England take sides, it can be difficult to keep your head!

Who do you support and who do you betray? The choice is yours.

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MUSEUMS, GALLERIES AND EXHIBITIONS BRITISH MUSEUM Great Russell Street WC1B 3DG 020 7323 8299 britishmuseum.org 19 Jan AWESOME AZTECS! Find out more about the objects and beliefs of the Aztecs. Take part in a musical workshop and create your own Aztec keep-sakes based around the mosaics in the Mexico gallery. 2-7pm, £12/£15.

7 Feb – 26 May ICE AGE ART: ARRIVAL OF THE MODERN MIND Masterpieces of Ice Age sculpture, ceramics, drawing and personal ornament from across Europe.

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26 Jan. THE BIRDLIFE OF PORTUGAL Join Portuguese birding expert João Jara for a fascinating talk on the birdlife of Portugal. 2.30pm, £3

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19 Jan and 16 Feb. STORYTELLING FOR FAMILIES, followed by a fun art activity. 10.30am and 1.30pm for age 3+ 19 Jan and 16 Feb. FAMILY ART WORKSHOP Explore portraits in the Collection followed by an art activity. 11.30am and 2.30pm for age 5+ 9 Feb FAMILY ART WORKSHOP – Faces of Changing Fortune. Join artist Hale Man exploring Chinese Zodiac to celebrate Chinese New Year. BSL event. 1-4pm.

18-22 Feb HALF TERM ACTIVITIES. A week exploring painting inspired by Humphrey Ocean. Ticketed events and drop-in sessions throughout the week. 11am-4pm.

40 Brunswick Square, Camden Town WC1N 1AZ foundlingmuseum.org.uk 25 Jan – 19 May. FATE, HOPE AND CHARITY Bringing to light the untold stories of the Foundling Hospital tokens, small everyday objects, left by mothers with their babies at the Hospital between c.1741-1760.

16 Feb. BADGES AND BUTTONS Drop-in activities exploring current exhibition, Fate, Hope & Charity.

NATIONAL ARMY MUSEUM Royal Hospital Road SW3 4HT 020 7730 0717 nam.ac.uk To March 2013. WAR HORSE: FACT AND FICTION A major new exhibition exploring the true history behind the popular War Horse novel exciting interactive displays, exclusive costumes and props from the Spielberg-directed film, and material from War Horse author, Michael Morpurgo and the National Theatre.

VICTORIAN SOLDIERS ACTION ZONE Quizzes, games and hands-on activities help you learn about life as a Victorian Soldier and the part they played in the shaping of Britain’s Empire.

KID’S ZONE A new children’s play area exploring aspects of army life from camping to clothing, with a dedicated soft play space for babies, art and crafts and dressing-up costumes. Small fee applies.

NATIONAL GALLERY WC2N 5DN nationalgallery.org.uk 6, 12, 20 and 27 Jan, 3, 10, 17 and 24 Feb. FAMILY SUNDAYS Activities designed for families to enjoy and learn together.

MAGIC CARPET STORYTELLING for children aged 2-5. Sundays 10.3011am and 11.30am–12pm. Fly away on the magic carpet, coming to land in front of a different painting each day

NATIONAL PORTRAIT GALLERY St Martin’s Place WC2H 0HE 020 7306 0055 npg.org.uk Until 17 Feb 2013 TAYLOR WESSING PHOTOGRAPHIC PORTRAIT PRIZE A collection of 60 portraits showcasing the work of talented young photographers and gifted amateurs alongside that of established professionals and photography students.

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What's On Also, pick up a Back-pack filled with jigsaws, stories and games, an agent animal bag developed especially for under 5’s, or get creative at a drop-in design station. Look out for the activity cart full of hands-on art fun for children to create collages and pictures.

V&A MUSEUM OF CHILDHOOD Cambridge Heath Road E2 9PA 020 8983 5200 museumofchildhood.org.uk

Natural History Museum

NATURAL HISTORY MUSEUM SW7 5BD nhm.ac.uk 19 Jan. CUTTING EDGE WORKSHOP Investigate teeth and diet by looking at amazing animal skulls. Handle real specimens, take part in group activities, and see how Museum palaeontologists use skulls to find out about dinosaur diets. 10.45am, 11.45am and 12.45pm 12 and 26 Jan. ANIMAL VISION FOR FAMILIES Can we really see everything that goes on in our environment? This show featuring live animals reveals a world only visible to certain reptiles and invertebrates.

10.30am, 11.30am and 1.30pm 19 Jan. DINO SNORES FOR GROWN UPS Ever wondered what happens when the doors close at one of the world’s most famous natural history venue?

Now you can find out, with highlights including the opportunity to sleep under Dippy, the Diplodocus skeleton in the Central Hall. 7.30pm, £160/£175 To 3 March. VEOLIA ENVIRONMENT WILDLIFE PHOTOGRAPHER OF THE YEAR Revealing nature photography in its purest form, this collection of images combines the work of talented young photographers with leading lights of the profession from around the globe.

8 Feb-8 Sept. EXTINCTION: NOT THE END OF THE WORLD? Explore the crucial role extinction plays in the evolution of life. Images, specimens and interactive installations bring to life species that disappeared long ago and looks at today’s endangered species. £9/£4.50, family £24.

SCIENCE MUSEUM Exhibition Road SW7 2DD 0870 870 4868 sciencemuseum.org.uk A COCKROACH TOUR OF THE MUSEUM Visitors take on the form of cockroaches, dressing up in realistic costumes to begin a journey through the Museum, exploring the impact on the climate of scientific and technological developments from the perspective of a cockroach. The humorous tour takes visitors through the Museum’s world-class galleries.

The Cockroach Tour is an artwork by a Danish art group called Superflex, a group of artists and designers whose work highlight global issues and suggests alternative ideas and solutions. The Cockroach Tours run every Saturday and Sunday, to book a place call: 0870 870 4868.

TATE BRITAIN Millbank SW1P 4RG 020 7887 8888 tate.org.uk/Britain 21 and 22 Feb LIMINAL Engage with sculpture through touch, interaction and collaboration. All ages, 11am-3pm.

TATE MODERN Bankside SE1 9TG 020 7887 8888 tate.org.uk Weekends in Jan and Feb. OPEN STUDIO Explore, experiment, play and create with ideas and materials from artworks in the collection. 11am-4pm, all ages UNDER 5S ZONE A play space for under 5s, inviting children on a creative, physical and sensory exploration of themes inspired by Cubist art works. Free

V&A MUSEUM Cromwell Road, London SW7 2RL 020 7942 2211 www.vam.ac.uk Until 27 Jan HOLLYWOOD COSTUME Some of the greatest costumes designed for the most well known cinema characters over a century of film making. From Judy Garland’s blue and white gingham pinafore dress featured in The Wizard of Oz (1939) and the little black dress designed by Hubert De Givenchy for Audrey Hepburn in Breakfast at Tiffany’s (1961) to Johnny Depp’s outfit from Pirates of the Caribbean (2011), it explores the art of costume design. £14 26

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Until April 2013 MODERN BRITISH CHILDHOOD 1948-2012 The transformation of childhood in Britain during the 64 years between the London Olympic Games of 1948 and 2012. Displays of artworks, clothing, toys, books, childcare items, television programmes, film and photography with objects ranging from a pair of 1950s children’s NHS prescription glasses to the 2005 Teddy mobile phone designed for the under 5s, highlighting the huge changes that have occurred in children’s lives over the decades.

V&A MUSEUM OF CHILDHOOD Cambridge Heath Road E2 9PA 020 8983 5219 museumofchildhood.org.uk To 14 April 2013. MODERN BRITISH CHILDHOOD A major new exhibition at the Museum exploring how childhood has transformed in Britain during the period between the London Olympic Games of 1948 and 2012.

VICTORIA AND ALBERT MUSEUM SW7 2RL vam.ac.uk To 27 Jan. HOLLYWOOD COSTUME Gathering together over one hundred of the most iconic costumes designed for cinema characters over a century of film-making.

To 7 April. LIGHT FROM THE MIDDLE EAST: NEW PHOTOGRAPHY The first major museum exhibition of contemporary photography from and about the Middle East.

THE WALLACE COLLECTION Hertford House, Manchester Square W1U 3BN 020 7224 2155 wallacecollection.org 12 Jan. A DAY IN THE 17TH CENTURY Go double Dutch with an Asian twist for a free fun-filled day packed with talks, performances and activities celebrating Dutch masterpieces and Journeys East: A Discovery of Hidden Treasures exhibition. 10.30am-4.30pm 19 Feb. FAMILY DROP-IN ACTIVITY: BUILD A BOAT Take inspiration from Canaletto's paintings of the Venetian canals in the collection and create a 3D gondola to take home. Age 5+, 10.30am-12.15pm and 2pm-3.45pm, free 20 Feb. FAMILY ACTIVITY: PIECE OF CAKE Design and create your very own cake stand, using the Wallace Collection's world renowned collection of S'vres porcelain as inspiration. Age 7+, 10.30am-12.30pm, £7 per child

Theatre BLOOMSBURY THEATRE WC1H 0AH thebloomsbury.com 7-19 Jan. TOM’S MIDNIGHT GARDEN When the grandfather clock in the hallway chimes thirteen, Tom is transported to a secret garden from the past. Birmingham Stage Company’s production from the book by Philippa Pearce. Age 4+

LONDON COLISEUM WC2N 4ES ballet.org.uk To 19 Jan. THE SLEEPING BEAUTY Kenneth MacMillan’s production of the popular classic is the perfect way to bring some sparkle into your New Year.

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12 Jan. MAZYMEG AND THE HONEY BEES Albert lives alone with his beloved honey bees. When a stranger steals Albert’s bees, will the brave Mazymeg come to his rescue? £8, age 4-7

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What's On

19 Jan. MY BIG LITTLE SISTER Tom says he can’t understand his little sister Ruby, who wishes she were a grown-up with no one telling her what to do. Age 4-8.

26-27 Jan. THE SELFISH CROCODILE When a very selfish crocodile gets a nasty toothache, all the other animals are too scared to help him. Age 3-7

2 Feb ARTHUR’S DREAMBOAT Sail away with Arthur and his magical dreamboat in this original tale about a little boy with a very big dream. Age 2-7.

9 Feb MAVIS SPARKLE Discover the magic and wonder of the universe with Mavis and her friends. Age 5-10.

11am and 1pm.

16 Feb JACK AT THE BEANSTALK CAFÉ A nourishing feast of stories told with puppets and live music at the Beanstalk Café. Age 4-8.

11am and 1pm.

ROYAL ALBERT HALL SW7 2AP royalalberthall.com 5 Jan – 14 Feb. KOOZA Cirque du Soleil return to the Royal Albert Hall with their sensational show KOOZA, coming to the UK for the first time.

ROYAL OPERA HOUSE WC2E 9DD roh.org.uk

SOUTHBANK CENTRE SE1 8PX southbankcentre.co.uk 16-22 Jan. LEO A solitary man invents games to while away the time. Part of London International Mime Festival. Age 7+, £16, in Purcell Room 24-27 Jan. LETTER’S END An old toy falls out of a torn parcel and one man's life is changed forever in this physical comedy, illusion and puppetry based show. Part of London International Mime Festival. Age 7+

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19-23 Feb HOW TO CATCH A STAR One night, a little boy who loves stargazing decides to try and catch a star. Age 3-7. 11am and 1pm.

12 Palace Street SW1E 5JA 0844 264 2140 stjamestheatre.co.uk To 26 Jan. CINDERELLA Sure to captivate audiences with its modern take on one of the best-loved fairy tales. Age 6+

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LYRIC THEATRE W1D 7ES nimaxtheatres.com/lyric-theatre / roomonthebroomlive.co.uk To 13 Jan. ROOM ON THE BROOM Spellbinding family show flies into the West End for an unforgettable adventure, from the creators of The Gruffalo. Age 3-8

NATIONAL THEATRE To 26 Jan. HANSEL AND GRETEL Katie Mitchell directs the classic fairytale in an intimate and magical new production. Age 7-10

25-26 Feb CHINESE STATE CIRCUS:YIN YANG Combines all the great Chinese artists’ traditions with modern production values.

16-19 Jan. HARLEKIN Muscovite theatre company Derevo calls in on the London International Mime Festival with this spectacuar show exploring the darker side of commedia dell'arte character Harlequin. Age 7+

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8-10 Feb MOSCOW CITY BALLET – THE SLEEPING BEAUTY

WC2B 5JF shrekthemusical.co.uk To 24 Feb. SHREK THE MUSICAL® Don’t miss out – it ends in February!

UNICORN THEATRE SE1 2HZ unicorntheatre.com To 13 Jan. THE PRINCE AND THE PAUPER Age 6+

POLKA THEATRE SW19 1SB polkatheatre.com To 16 Feb. TOO MANY PENGUINS? How many penguins are too many penguins? Polar bear thinks one is more than enough, thank you very much!

1-4yrs, £8-£10 To 16 Feb. THE WIND IN THE WILLOWS When Mole abandons springcleaning for the delights of the riverbank, he has no idea of the adventures that lie ahead. A delightful adaptation with songs. Age 5-11

PUPPET THEATRE BARGE Little Venice, Blomfield Road W9 2PF puppetbarge. com

19 Jan -17 March. JOEY’S FIREWORKS A marionette spectacle celebrating the arrival of the New Year and featuring traditional characters such as Burglar Bill, Dog Toby, Joey the Clown and Mr Punch, with the Beadle keeping an eye on the goings on. 3yrs+

30 Jan – 7 Feb. A THOUSAND SLIMY THINGS A wedding, a party, a perfect day. What could possibly go wrong?

Beware! The Ancient Mariner is here and will be heard! Age 10+

31 Jan-6 Mar LIAR LIAR A contemporary tale about the world of Grace, a young girl who knows the truth can be dangerous. Age 13-16.

13-17 Feb THE PRESENT A participatory theatrical game exploring the mystery and pleasure of wrapping, receiving, giving and sharing. Age 4-6.

5 Feb-17 Mar 1001 NIGHTS Using everyday objects that you might find in your bedroom, the bookish Shahrazad transports her sister and father night after night to an imagined world of kings, viziers, and jinns. Her stories help them to make sense of the world they live in here in London. Age 6-9

8-10 Feb LITTLE RED…YOU KNOW WHO! Puppets and music for age 3-5.

RICHMOND THEATRE TW9 1QJ atgtickets.com/Richmond To 13 Jan. ALADDIN A treasure filled adventure that promises to be pure panto genie-us. Rub the magic lamp, enter the cave of wonders and be transported on a flying carpet ride into the mystical world of the Far East.

6-7 Feb MOSCOW CITY BALLET – SWAN LAKE Follow the fate of Prince Seigfried as he falls in love with the beautiful Swan Queen, Odette.

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19-24 Feb SENSACIONAL Performed on a white square, watch as your child puts on a white suit and becomes part of a digital world of ladybirds, shapes, squiggles and squarks that won’t keep still, no matter how hard you try to catch them. Age 18 months-4 years.

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Health

Gluten Sensitivity and Coeliac Disease – is your child affected?

The prevalence of Coeliac Disease has increased five-fold overall since 1974. Yet testing for the condition has been plagued with difficulties and inaccuracies especially in children. Nutritionist Christine Bailey who specialises in digestive disorders and allergies in children discusses new tests available and the signs and symptoms to look out for.

Coeliac Disease (CD) is one of the most common lifelong diseases in both Europe and the US. Its prevalence is estimated at around 1% of the population. This equates to approximately 3 million Americans and 620 000 people in the UK. The problem is that it is seriously under-diagnosed especially in children.

Approximately 78% of sufferers don’t realise they have the disease – in fact only 10-20% have been diagnosed. What is also shocking is that there has been an increase in its prevalence over the last 50 years – one study suggested CD has increased by up to 400 percent (elevated Tissue Transglutaminase TTG antibodies). While classic symptoms include diarrhoea, intestinal bloating and stomach cramps the majority of people including children do not experience any digestive symptoms making detection harder. Left untreated, it can lead to the malabsorption of nutrients, damage to the small intestine and other medical complications.

Coeliac Disease is an autoimmune condition triggered by gluten, which is found in certain foods (wheat, barley and rye). It is a life long condition and requires the complete avoidance of all foods and drinks containing gluten. If your child has coeliac disease, eating gluten will cause a reaction in their bodies that damages or destroys the villi (small projections in the intestines that help us absorb nutrients). When this occurs, the surface of the small intestine is flattened and a child's body can't absorb vitamins and nutrients from food.

You’re not necessarily born with coeliac disease, – although the condition is linked to certain genetic markers there is normally an environmental trigger that causes the immune system to lose tolerance to gluten.

For children it can be particularly difficult to diagnose – classic blood tests are accurate only when the villi are severely damaged and in children this may not have occurred. However if left undiagnosed it can lead to development of other autoimmune conditions as well as affecting the growth and development and overall health later in life.

If there is a family history of autoimmune conditions and / or coeliac disease then it is recommended you get your child tested. Until recently this would involve a standard blood test from the GP to look for a range of antibodies. (e.g IgA anti-gliadin antibodies, IgG anti-gliadin antibodies, IgA anti-endomysial antibodies, Tissue transglutaminase antibody and total IgA antibodies). If positive, an Intestinal biopsy is often performed. The trouble is these are not particularly accurate and blood tests can be distressing for children. Thankfully there are new private laboratory tests, involving saliva collection. This is not only sensitive and accurate but also easier to undertake for young children. There are also more comprehensive blood tests, which are available privately for older children. Even if your child does not appear to be showing any symptoms (see list below) if you have a family history of the coeliac disease it is recommended you get your children tested for the genetic markers (HLA DQ2/8). This blood test will identify whether or not your child has the genetic markers that make it more likely

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they will develop the disease if they continue to eat gluten. Ask your practitioner or qualified nutritionist for the most appropriate tests for your family.

Because symptoms in children are often subtle and mimic other intestinal diseases, like Irritable Bowel Syndrome or lactose intolerance, the disease is often difficult to diagnose. Some children experience symptoms the first time they are exposed to gluten, while others develop symptoms later in life.

Signs and Symptoms Typical symptoms include: • • • • •

Diarrhoea, constipation Abdominal pain Poor appetite A bloated or painful belly, gas, flatulence Weight loss or difficulty gaining weight

These symptoms can begin during infancy (between 6 and 24 months), after the child begins to eat glutencontaining foods.

Additional symptoms, which may develop later, include: • • • • • • • • • •

Slowed growth, failure to thrive Iron deficiency anaemia, fatigue, low energy Skin rash – dermatitis herpetiformis Tooth enamel changes Bone thinning Joint aches and pains Headaches Mouth ulcers Mood changes, depression Delay in menstruation

If your child is diagnosed with coeliac disease it is important they receive nutritional advice to help with planning a gluten free diet, ensuring they are optimally nourished and also to ensure their gut heals. In many cases nutritional supplements will be recommended. While there are obvious sources of gluten such as breads, pastas, flours, cereals, cakes and biscuits. It is often used as an ingredient in many favourite foods such as fish fingers, sausages, gravies, sauces and soy sauce. Working with a qualified nutritionist can help you plan a healthy gluten free diet. However in some cases simply removing gluten may not be sufficient as many children with Coeliac Disease also react to other foods such as dairy so additional testing and support may be needed.

For further information about testing, nutritional support, cookery days and recipes contact Christine Bailey www.advancenutrition.co.uk January/February 2013

Parenting

Was Christmas the Last Straw?

Lizzie Iron of Oxfordshire Family Mediation says that Mediation offers a constructive way forward after family break-down.

We all know that Christmas can be devastating if life isn’t going too well – poverty and loneliness feel all the more acute when we think that everyone else is surrounded by loving families and seasonal good cheer. Yet for some families, that image of togetherness and jollity hides the pain of broken relationships.

Getting through Christmas just postpones the day when they must face the difficult reality that divorce is on the cards.

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Children are too often the innocent victims of family break-down, and the impact of separation can affect the rest of their lives.

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Between 30 and 40 per cent of marriages now end in divorce, and there are no accurate figures for how many unmarried couples split up, but demographics show that 25 per cent of families are headed by single parents, and figures suggest that up to 50 per cent of children in the UK may experience parental separation by the age of 16.

Children are too often the innocent victims of family breakdown, and the impact of separation can affect the rest of their lives. Research suggests some frightening statistics, such as: children who have experienced family breakdown are 75% more likely to fail at school, 70% more likely to have problems with drug abuse and 50% more likely to have alcohol problems. Other studies show, however, that the most detrimental element of separation is not separation itself, but conflict. The way separation is handled is therefore critical in finding a positive way forward after break-down.

This is where mediation can really help: mediated solutions are usually quicker, cheaper and last longer than orders imposed by the Courts – simply because couples agree the solutions together. The aim of mediation is to find practical solutions to the problems of separation: how to split the money; what to do about the house; and how to provide for the children. Even if ex-partners are angry and hurt, a skilled mediator will help them communicate constructively, so they can discuss their needs and wants, and explore a range of solutions, eventually leading to a mutual agreement, which can be turned into a legal document by a solicitor. It is still a common instinct to turn to a lawyer from the outset, but the traditional route of lawyers fighting things out is much more likely to escalate the conflict between partners, and increase the costs. Many more lawyers now work in collaboration with mediators in the interests of achieving the best outcomes for the family as a whole.

Judges in a family court will give the highest priority to any children in the family, and will frequently advise couples to explore mediation. In fact, it is now compulsory for at least one partner to have been to a ‘MIAM’ – a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting – before they can bring a case to court.

Mediation is strongly encouraged by the Government and the Courts system and if a client is eligible for legal aid, mediation will be provided free of charge. You will be means-tested for eligibility at a MIAM, but you can go online to estimate whether you might be eligible for legal aid: http://legalaidcalculator. justice.gov.uk/calculators/eligiCalc?execution=e2s1 January/February 2013

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... mediated solutions are usually quicker, cheaper and last longer than orders imposed by the Courts – simply because couples agree the solutions together.

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Mediation is a professional skill, and while the learning modules can be covered in three weekends, the strength of the current training commitment is that trainees must spend several hours observing and co-mediating in order to build up a portfolio of experience before they will be accredited to the standard required by the Legal Services Commission to mediate in legal aid cases.

Oxfordshire Family Mediation is a not-for-profit mediation service, and is a member of National Family Mediation (NFM).

NFM is an umbrella body for not-for-profit services and has over 40 member services throughout the country, all with fullyaccredited professional mediators. Go to the NFM website – www.nfm.org.uk – to discover more about the benefits of mediation, and to find your nearest Mediation service. Many of our services offer additional help, such as counselling, or childcentred services designed to help children and young people deal with the impact of family separation.

If you or someone you know is facing the devastation of divorce or separation, try mediation first, for a positive and constructive way forward, which could make all the difference for the future.

NFM information: Phone: (0300) 4000 636 Fax: (01392) 271945 Email: enquiries@nfm.org.uk Opening Hours: Mon - Fri, 9am - 5pm Families West PO Box 32231 London W5 1JR

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By Joanna Moorhead

How to have your best family holiday ever: our top five secrets

Joanna Moorhead, who has been planning her family’s holidays for Where to go... the Alps the last 20 years, shares TThe Alps are much too good to save for your skiing her insider tips to help you holidays – in fact, those who’ve tried the area plan for a summer to summer su and winter often say summer is the best time remember in 2013 to to be b there. For a wonderful family Alpine holiday, you’ll

Fantastic family holidays don’t just happen. They’re crafted, often by hours of work from one or both parents, who spend endless amounts of time planning, plotting, budgeting and making sure safetyy nets are in place to stop hiccups becoming disasters. Of course everyone loves spontaneity – but for spontaneous decision to be possible, especially where a family with children are concerned, a framework amework has to be in place...and getting that framework right is the backbone of every holiday.

So how do you do it? Here are our top five secrets 1. Don’t cut corners. To get the right holiday, you may have to spend a long time on research. Don’t begrudge this time, and don’t expect the perfect holiday to fall into your lap without it: after your mortgage, your car and (if you’re paying them) your child’s school or university costs, the money you spend on your holiday is your biggest outlay. So doing the homework matters. Start with a list of what sort of holiday you’re looking for – the location you’re after, what facilities you need close by, what sort of accommodation you need, how far it needs to be from the airport, and so on. Give yourself parameters, and then get googling. Keep a list of possible resorts/ villas/hotels; whittle it down to a shortlist; and then make a decision.

2. Don’t expect a bargain. After two decades of planning holidays for my family (my children are aged between ten and 20), I’m sure of one thing: where school holidays are concerned, bargains are as rare as hen’s teeth. Far better to start from the premise that you’ll get what you pay for. Look for the best deal, the best quality that you can possibly afford: but if somewhere seems a lot cheaper than other places, scrutinise it very carefully indeed.

3. Space is crucial. You know those places that say ‘sleep 4/6’ and turn out, on closer inspection, to have a pull-down bed in the sitting room? Avoid them (at full capacity) like the plague. Squeezing as many people as possible in is fine for students, less good for grown-ups. You want a bit of luxury on holiday – and space is luxurious.

4. Location, location, location. Just as when you’re buying a house, this is your number one priority. Some of the villas I’ve looked at for my family’s holiday this year are twice the price of others, simply because of where they are. And guess what: I can understand why. On holiday I want a great view and shops and restaurants we can walk to. If you’ve got younger children, a beach within walking distance may be your number one location priority. Know what you need, and don’t settle for less.

5. Friends matter, so think very carefully about who to holiday with. However close you are, nothing scratches away at a friendship’s weakest points as much as sharing two weeks together. You think you know that couple, and you think you like their kids? Take it from me, you’re going to know a lot about them, hem, and you may have totally reassessed their kids, by the flight home.

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Est Established 21 yyears ago, Ski Famille offers families a range of handpicked properties ties in FFrance and Austria. All chalet ho holidays include 5 days of free childcare and aall properties are ski in/ski out or very close to the piste. Chris Thompson, managing director says: "the business has a high rate of repeat business and the majority of new guests choose Ski Famille as the result of a personal recommendation." The Ski Famille office team are all keen skiers or boarders with young children of their own so they know how to ensure families book the right holiday for their needs.

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be b hard-pressed to improve on the Chilly Powder formula for – choose from a luxurious hotel or a villa, all set in a biscuit-tin picture-perfect location, complete with in-chalet childcare and – for the foodies – an in-chalet chef. Sports on offer include white water rafting, rock-climbing, trekking, tennis and summer tobogganing (which is one of the most fun summer sports I’ve ever tried, and kids adore it). Prices vary depending on what sort of package you’re after, but as a for-instance, Chalet des Amis (three bedrooms; sleeps up to eight) is £1,200 in the midsummer.

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Where to go... north Devon Devon is one of the UK’s most popular holiday destinations, and for good reason: wonderful beaches, plenty to do (even in the rain), beautiful scenery and a wide choice of where to stay. Libbear Barton, a country estate on the north side of the county, hits just the right note of luxury (beamed cottages that are beautifully laid out and furnished) and has everything on hand, from stairgates to babysitters, for the hardpressed family. There’s an indoor pool, games room, play areas inside and out, fishing lake and woods – all on a rolling, 40-acre estate, and with the sea a half hour’s drive away. Perfect for big families or families holidaying together – the farmhouse sleeps up to 14.

Prices vary, but for example Moley’s Place, sleeping eight in four bedrooms, costs around £1,700 a week in high summer.

More information at www.libbearbarton.co.uk

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