Families Thames Valley East Print magazine Sept/Oct 24
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Based in the heart of Windsor, Upton House is a thriving Nursery, Pre-Prep and Prep School for boys and girls aged 2-11 years.
With high academic standards, outstanding sta and excellent pastoral care, Upton House children blossom and have a zest for life, continually learning and developing their abilities, interests and talents. We believe that self-esteem and happiness are paramount to each child’s success, and we pride ourselves on developing confident and happy children with a love of learning. Our enhanced curriculum is rich with cross-curricular digital innovations and our pioneering live-streamed events run by our Broadcasting Club share our activities with our global family online.
proven track record with outstanding scholarship success each year. Based in the heart of Windsor, Upton House is a thriving Nursery, Pre-Prep and Prep School for boys and girls aged 2-11 years.
With high academic standards, high calibre staff and excellent pastoral care, Upton House children blossom and have for life, continually learning and developing their abilities, interests and talents. We pride ourselves on developing confident and happy children with a love of learning.
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From the editors...
We hope you are all rested and ready for the autumn term ahead and we wish all children starting a new school the very best. Remember it can take a little time to adjust to anything new, so treat you and your children with kindness, patience and a few treats along the way. One of those treats could be a day trip, so check out our ‘What’s On’ guide on pages 20 and 21 for some autumn inspiration!
Education is a key topic for September, so do find the time to read our articles on ‘How to be great at spelling’ on page 9 and ‘What does a good state school look like?’ on page 11. We also list independent schools’ open day events on page 8. Our parenting articles look at ‘Overcoming disappointment and bouncing back from failure’ on page 12, ‘Making money real for kids in a cashless society’ on page 15 and ‘Five mindful questions to ask your child about their day’ on page 16.
Finally, read our interview with Aliens Love Underpants author Claire Freedman on page 17 where she talks about her new Underpants book published this month.
Editors: Anna Collins and Rachel Bailey 01628 829761 / 01628 788058
Pumpkin pickers should head to Odds Farm Park this October half-term as the Buckinghamshire farm park has over 7,000 pumpkins waiting to be picked. The Pumpkin Festival kicks off on Sat 26 October and runs until Sun 3 November with acres of pumpkins ready to be harvested by visiting families.
Little ones can grab a mini wheelbarrow and head to the Pumpkin Patch on Odds’ famous Oddlotment where they can carefully choose their own gorgeous gourd to take home and then head to the Craft Barn to carve their very own Jack O’Lantern. Visitors can also get into the Halloween spirit with spellbinding storytime sessions, horror-gami paper crafts, and show off their dance moves at the monster mash-up disco sessions.
And there’s more than just pumpkin fun at Odds Farm Park this half-term. There are also over 30 breeds of different animals to meet, the outdoor adventure play areas, tractor and trailer ride, H2 Odds water play, Marmalade’s Mini Rover rides and giant Indoor Playbarn for guests to enjoy each day. www.oddsfarm.co.uk
Coworth Flexlands Prep School is fully co-educational
Coworth Flexlands is an incredibly happy, nurturing, inclusive, family-friendly school with strategies for well-being and excellence. Nestled in acres of stunning grounds on the Surrey/Berkshire borders, the school brings together families from surrounding villages.
Since September 2023, Coworth Flexlands has gone fully co-educational up to the age of 11 so that more families can benefit from all that the school and nursery has to offer. There is a growing demand and trend towards coeducational settings and Coworth Flexlands very much want to meet the needs of the local families. This is a very exciting change for the Coworth Flexlands family.
The School achieves extraordinary results thanks to its focus on Inspiring Minds and Nurturing Spirit.
Please contact the Registrar for more information and to arrange a visit.
www.coworthflexlands.co.uk
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The perfect day out for the whole family, come rain or shine. Bouncers of all ages can defy gravity on the wall-towall trampolines, practice their tricks into the giant airbag, or challenge their friends on the battle beam, dodgeball court, Airena and Augmented Reality trampolines!
For the little ones, their Toddler Takeover sessions provide a safe and enjoyable environment for ages 1-6. Kids aged 4+ can jump to their hearts’ content during Open Jump sessions or enjoy a cool nightclub atmosphere at their weekend Sunset Sessions. NEW Family Takeover sessions allow the whole family (age 1+) to enjoy a thrilling time jumping and exploring the park and making memories together.
Also, why not book your next party at Jump In! Choose a party package for a 100%-fun-zero-stress experience. There are a range of packages to choose from to suit every budget and need, starting at £17 per person.
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Artwork appears outside Marlow school
Back in July, a potential piece of artwork by Banksy appeared by the entrance to Sir William Borlase’s Grammar School in Marlow.
The artwork, which depicts a child holding a ministerial box commonly used to contain important information involving the government or the monarchy, appeared on the day of the General Election.
Although the Caversham-based artist, Peachy, was quick to confirm the artwork was not his, he did hint that his work could return to Marlow in the future.
A search of the school’s CCTV left residents none the wiser as to the artist responsible, however it did create a bit of a buzz in the town, with people visiting for photo opportunities.
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Introducing the classics to your child
By Erin Miller
At this year’s Hay Festival (the UK’s most prestigious literary event), children’s literature was a hot topic for discussion. Among those commenting were respected and prolific children’s authors, including Antony Horowitz CBE, author of the Alex Rider series, who observed the diminishing quality of children’s literature over the years, stating that ‘proper stories’ are being superseded by ‘silly books.’
There is no doubt that the classics are proper stories, characterised by their originality, complexity and the fact that they have stood the test of time. However, also appearing at the Hay Festival, the current Children’s Laureate, Joseph Coelho, claimed that today’s children would need a dictionary to read classics such as The Wind in the Willows and Treasure Island.
So, if classics are challenging, with sometimes outdated ideas (for example, around gender roles) is it desirable or necessary to get children reading them? My answer is a firm ‘yes.’
As an English teacher with over a decade of experience, I’ve seen hundreds of children connecting deeply with classic texts. I’ve also witnessed children making excellent progress in their reading skills when faced with books that might seem ‘too hard.’
Furthermore, having taught in the Far East, the Middle East and the UK, I know that many of the classics are enjoyed by children across the globe. Universal themes such as friendship touch everyone and are dealt with in the most insightful, exciting and even tragic ways in classic children’s literature.
It is recognised that reading for twenty minutes a day builds vocabulary and academic progress in all subjects. However,
this does actually depend on what your child is reading. With both complexity of plot and language, the classics certainly will ensure vocabulary expansion and provide new or challenging ideas.
In addition, a broad knowledge of classic texts will equip your child with ‘background knowledge,’ which is an essential reading skill that has been proven to compensate for a weaker reading ability.
With AI generative platforms such a ChatGPT, there is a risk that today’s children could struggle with originality and creativity.
By encouraging your child to experience the classics, they will be armed with the stories that built today’s world. They will be exposed to a wide range of ideas to interpret and fuel their ideas in their own writing.
Erin Miller is a teacher with a keen interest in how research can be used in the classroom to improve learning.
How to support your child with the classics
As acknowledged already, the classics can be tough to digest for young readers.
challenge our students to imagine a better world. We then support them to develop the character, confidence and determination to be changemakers.
Retellings for children can be a good way into the classics, as they will likely be written in modern language, with references that your child can understand. If you have a reluctant reader, try audiobooks first. Whilst listening is not found to accelerate academic progress in the way reading does, your child will still be soaking up the complex ideas within the classics.
Using a dictionary seems an archaic skill to some but all children should be encouraged to use physical dictionaries, as it gives them independence in their reading. If you allow screens, then the Kindle does have the benefit of being able to locate word definitions immediately.
Most importantly, have conversations with your child about the stories. Probe them about what they think about characters and what they believe the deeper ideas are in the stories. In my experience, these conversations at home are the most powerful in shaping young readers.
Schools’ Open Days
Autumn 2024
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Saturday 5 October
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Claires Court for girls and boys from 2 to 18 years
Maidenhead locations
Thursday 26 September (Senior Girls) Friday 27 September (Senior Boys) Friday 4 October (Juniors)
9am
Thursday, 10 October
Early years ‘Stay and Play’ afternoon
To book a visit, contact below: 01494 529273 www.godstowe.org
Heathfield School
London Road, Ascot, SL5 8BQ
Sixth Form Open Evening: Wednesday 25 September 6pm-8pm
Whole School Open Morning:
Saturday 5 October 9.45am-12 noon
Leighton Park School
Shinfield Road, Reading RG2 7DE
Open Mornings: Saturday 21 September Friday 11 October
Friday 8 November 9am-11am
Sixth Form Open Afternoon
1.30-3.30pm
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How to be great at spelling
By Zuzu Jordan
For children, learning how to spell isn’t just about passing school tests but being able to write words correctly in their extended writing. As adults, spelling is essential for effective writing, both in the professional world and on social media.
There are many tools that can help, such as auto correct, predictive text and even AI (Artificial Intelligence). However, children do not have ready access to these at school where they are expected to spell independently. Learning is key.
Here are some techniques:
Ensure that they know all the 40+ phonemes
Some children need repetition of the phonics taught in early years. Children will be taught the 26 letters of the alphabet, 44 different sounds called phonemes and the corresponding graphemes (the written symbols that represent a sound). Making sure they are secure in their phonics understanding can make a difference in their ability to spell words that follow patterns and rules.
Learn the exceptions to the rules
The many words that do not follow patterns can be confusing. Knowing what these words are and discussing how they are the ‘tricky’ words brings them to your child’s attention so they are mindful of them when writing. Also choose English over American spellings.
Rhyming games can really help
Children find similarities between words and this expands the number of words they can spell. For example, if they can spell ‘rain’ then they can spell ‘gain.’
Looking for words within words
This is a great way of breaking up larger words eg the word ‘independent’ has the words ‘in,’ ‘pen,’ ‘dependent,’ ‘dent.’ Equally, most words can be broken into syllables and each syllable usually has a vowel (or sometimes the letter ‘y’).
Seeing the shape of the word helps visual learners
For example, the word ‘tall’ has one tall letter and a short letter followed by two tall letters.
For the word ‘because’ use the mnemonic ‘big elephants can always upset small elephants.’
The traditional method of ‘look, say, cover, write and check’ works for some children but comes with a warning
Not all children respond to this method and the words don’t always enter their long-term memory. Practising writing the word out helps your child become familiar with the shape of the word. Rainbow spelling is another visual way of learning spellings: maybe use one colour for a specific sound and different colours for the other letters.
Using technology and apps
The app Squeebles Spelling Test starts with a list from the national curriculum and you can upload your own words. Children can then practise their spellings independently.
Use different materials to practise writing the words
Like with paint or foam or in sand. Scrabble-like tiles can be bought from most hobby shops and are great for kinaesthetic learners as they can physically move the letters into the correct order. Equally, playing games like Scrabble and Hangman is also helpful.
Ultimately a multi-faceted approach will bring the best results when supporting your child’s spelling journey.
Zuzu Jordan is a Mastery for Maths specialist who has taught primary aged children for sixteen years and is interested in early years and home learning. For free homework and home learning resources, find her on Instagram at edumate_uk
Mnemonics is like making up a story to help spell a word
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What does a good state secondary school look like?
By Melanie Sanderson
Choosing a secondary school is one of the biggest decisions you’ll ever make for your child. Very likely, your two priorities are whether your child will reach their academic potential and whether they will be happy there. Here are my tips on what to look for.
Hot-house or greenhouse?
Is the school educationally aspirational and how does this manifest? Look for relaxed and respectful teacher-pupil relations. They are key to successful learning. Is the library well-stocked and busy? Teacher recruitment and retention is challenging all schools. Ask pupils how often they have cover teachers.
Are pupils regularly assessed? Performance measures such as Progress 8 (see www.gov.uk) are good indicators of how a school adds value as they measure academic attainment rates over time. Are there programmes to stretch the more academic children? What about those with special educational needs and disabilities?
Breadth of curriculum
The best state schools offer and value a broad liberal arts education beyond the standard curriculum. For instance, Bohunt School in Hampshire ‘blew the socks off’ the Good Schools Guide with immersion classes in Mandarin. Some of the best state schools invest in top notch sports facilities and coaching, others have outstanding creative or performing arts spaces. Pick a school that suits your child’s strengths. Check out school notice boards and the school’s social media for co-curricular activities and trips the children are doing outside the classroom too.
Pastoral
Good schools have clear systems. Every child is known; nobody slips through the net. Ask if reports and open evenings include pastoral updates. Does the school’s praise/discipline system flex to meet individual needs and align with your family values? Ask pupils what they do at break and lunch. Good schools include spaces for children to seek quiet reflection when needed.
Communication
Good schools also communicate well with parents. The tone of school newsletters and social media feeds can tell you a lot, while an active PTA is a sign of an engaged parent community. If you can, pass by the school at home time and observe pupil behaviour as they leave the site. Another top tip is to talk with pupils higher up the school. Would you be happy for your children to turn out like them?
Melanie Sanderson is Managing Editor of The Good Schools Guide (www.goodschoolsguide.co.uk), which contains frank, impartial reviews of schools. Its writers visit thousands of schools annually, speaking to Heads, teachers, pupils and parents.
Overcoming disappointment and failure
By Lisa Wander and Catherine Loble
Whilst studies show that children learn better when they experience failure, no parent likes seeing their child upset or disappointed. It feels right to want to keep them happy and content by taking steps to avoid anything seemingly harmful they encounter, whether that be through distraction, bargaining or even with a quick credit-card swipe.
However, whilst these quick wins feel better or even just simpler, safeguarding children from disappointment ultimately hinders them from developing resilience and confidence to progress from childhood to adolescence and in their adult life. When children are given the opportunity to struggle and sometimes fail, you are helping them develop essential social and emotional skills.
What is disappointment and failure? Disappointment is a natural response to failure. It involves the feelings of thwarted desire, loss and discouragement when children fail to fulfil their hopes and expectations or those of others. Children are going to feel disappointment when they don’t achieve their goals or believe that they have let you down.
The stigma surrounding failure is a significant issue that impacts a child’s development, confidence and willingness to take risks. Both close family and society place high expectations on children to succeed academically and socially, which can often lead to an intense fear of failure. The emphasis on continual testing in our education system reinforces a narrow definition of success and failure too. If a child does not reach certain
benchmarks, they are often labelled a failure. This can lead to a downward spiral effect with children reducing their efforts, giving up easily and not taking risks. Children who fall into this spiral may subsequently have little confidence, self-esteem and motivation to achieve future goals.
So how do we not feel completely defeated as parents when we have to watch our child suffer?
Placating your children doesn’t allow them to understand the root causes and figure out how to not feel disappointed in the future. Rather we should let them flex their muscles and with support, encourage them to find solutions themselves. In giving our children the necessary skills to manage disappointment, it is important to validate their feelings, show empathy and be mindful of how you react towards your own disappointments.
Lisa and Catherine are co-founders of Emparenting (www.emparenting.co.uk), supporting children, parents and families with the insights, skills and tools needed to nurture the development and well-being of the next generation.
Sarah Rollings Heathfield School
Sarah Rollings is the Headmistress of Heathfield School, a girls' independent boarding and day school in Ascot. Here she talks to Families about the school ethos, how it has evolved over the last few years and what makes a great teacher!
Tell us a bit about yourself?
I am proud to be Headmistress of Heathfield School. Previously, I served as the Senior Deputy Head at Cranford School in Oxfordshire and held key positions including Director of Sport and Head of Year (Sixth Form) at St Helen and St Katharine in Abingdon. These roles have equipped me with a comprehensive understanding of educational leadership and management. I also serve as the Chair of the GSA Sports and Wellness Committee, contribute as an ISI inspector, and fulfil the responsibilities of a Governor at a local school.
I strongly believe in the importance of incorporating laughter and fun into each day. I also believe that kindness and hard work are foundational elements in nurturing the academic and personal development of every student.
How would you describe ‘The Heathfield School’ ethos?
As deeply rooted in our core values of empowerment, independence, and belonging. We are forward-looking, whilst proudly acknowledging our strong traditions. Our primary goal is to empower students to emerge as confident, tenacious, and articulate young women, fostering a positive and can-do attitude. I believe in creating an environment that celebrates both individuality and collective growth. At Heathfield, we champion progress and celebrate achievements across all areas of a student's life to instil confidence and selfbelief.
How has Heathfield evolved over the years and what have been the highlights?
Founded 125 years ago, Heathfield has undergone significant strategic developments over the years, consistently embracing changes, but what always remains constant is the warm and friendly close-knit community.
Heathfield’s achievements include the incorporation of day girls into our community, the completion of St Mary’s Theatre, the creation of a state-of-the-art STEM centre and the recent addition of the Cadogan Sixth Form Centre. Each of these developments represents a commitment to enhancing students’ education.
What are the most rewarding aspects of your work?
The direct interaction with students, whether it's teaching Year 7 Geography or working with the Head Girl Team.
Witnessing their achievements and observing the confidence and satisfaction they gain from these accomplishments is truly fulfilling.
Also, working alongside a fantastic dedicated and professional team. It is gratifying to see how, collectively, we challenge ourselves to provide the best possible education for our students.
What are the qualities of a great teacher?
In addition to outstanding subject knowledge, the hallmark of an exceptional teacher is a deep passion for both their students and their subject. I see this enthusiasm every day, inspiring our students and fostering a genuine interest in their subjects.
A great teacher possesses an abundance of energy and positivity. This not only motivates students but also creates a dynamic and engaging atmosphere within the classroom.
Kindness is another fundamental quality. It goes beyond the curriculum, creating a compassionate and supportive atmosphere in which students feel valued and encouraged. A teacher's kindness contributes significantly to the overall well-being and positive development of their students.
How do you think education will evolve over the next 5 years?
The fast-paced evolution of technology and its application to all areas will be a significant factor. Heathfield students are actively engaged in cutting-edge experiences, such as coding and using a 3D chocolate printer. AI will also play a key role in enhancing and challenging various aspects of education. We are soon going to be hosting a Generative AI and Fashion workshop for students, focusing on augmenting human skill, artistry and craftsmanship.
I anticipate a heightened recognition of the importance of all-round wellbeing for all members of our community. At Heathfield, we have been at the forefront of this movement, introducing 'Flourishing,' our positive psychologybased curriculum designed to nurture the holistic wellbeing of all our students.
Do you have any top tips for parents when they are considering a school for their child?
Choose the right school for both your child and your family. Each school has its unique atmosphere and ethos, and what may be suitable for a friend's child might not be the best fit for your own. It's crucial to find a school where your child can thrive academically and personally. Consider practical aspects too, such as bus routes or wrap around care and whether they offer future flexibility as your child matures.
Visit your shortlist several times. Observe the atmosphere during a normal working day and pay attention to how students interact with each other and their teachers. Assess whether it is a happy, purposeful environment where your child is likely to flourish.
While examination results are important, they should not be the sole deciding factor. Raw results may not fully reflect the quality of teaching. Look for schools that achieve high value-added scores, indicating improvement beyond predicted academic results. The best schools achieve this through a positive culture and appropriate challenges, complemented by a diverse co-curricular program that enriches your child's school experience.
Listen to your child's perspective, but not exclusively. As adults, you hold valuable insights. Consult your current Head Teacher for guidance on the type of school best suited to enable your child to thrive and pay attention to the experiences described by students and staff.
Trust your instincts. If it feels like a good fit for your child, it’s the right place.
For more information contact: Isabel Hutchings, Head of Admissions on 01344 898342 or email: admissions@heathfieldschool.net www.heathfieldschool.net
Making money real for kids in a cashless society
By Tanith Carey
To a young child, money is a magical commodity which allows grown-ups to go into shops and take anything they want. And it’s not just about understanding where money comes from and how it’s used: in an increasingly cashless society, money is even more of an abstract concept for kids to grasp.
In the days of coins and notes, children could see that money was something tangible, used for goods and services; and that it could run out. Now that we can just tap and go, kids don’t even see money being exchanged. So, it’s even harder for them to see that it’s not an unlimited resource. This requires parents to put a little more thought into helping kids understand how finances work. After all, managing money is a lifelong skill, bringing a range of key benefits.
As well as boosting their maths, money teaches kids how to control their impulses, develop patience, delay gratification; and ultimately spend wisely throughout life. Indeed, according to research by Cambridge University, attitudes to money are formed by around the age of 7.
Practical life lessons
Kids first grasp what money represents around the age of 6. Start by paying them their first pocket money in coins to make it tangible. Give them a see-through jar so they can see it disappear when they spend it. When you’re out and about, try to use cash as well as cards. Each time you do use your card, explain it’s the same as having the same amount taken out of your ‘jar,’ aka your bank account. As they get older, start sharing your own spending decisions too.
Talk about it. For example, when you go to buy an ice-cream with them, chat through the different prices for each item. Explain how the higher the cost, the more money will go out of your bank account. When you go to pay, rather than just tap, show your child the amount displayed on the card reader so they link what you’re buying to the money it costs.
Explain that if you spent all your money on ice-creams, you would have less to spend on other more important items you all need, namely food, clothes and travel.
Pocket money is one of the seventy five real world scenarios tackled in the book What’s My Tween Thinking? Practical Child Psychology for Modern Parent co-authored by Tanith Carey with Dr Angharad Rudkin, published by DK books and available now from www.bookshop.org
Five mindful questions to ask your child about their day
By Lorena Bernal
Communicating with our kids is something many of us struggle with. We often think it is just about words but it’s much more than that. Our children are constantly connecting with us on a deeper level, picking up our body language, facial expressions, tone of voice and even how we interact with others in their presence. If our words don’t match our genuine state of being, our kids will see through it, potentially leading to mistrust.
The key here is to be more mindful in your communication style by listening actively, being present in conversations and asking questions that delve beyond the surface level. Here are five examples of mindful questions to help you develop a stronger connection with your kids.
What were the highlights of your day?
Ask with the same enthusiasm a child has for watching their favourite film or sports team’s highlights. Try: ‘Come on, what were the highlights of your day at school?’ and truly listen to their response without judgement. Engage with the emotions they express, whether joy, excitement or even frustration. By avoiding labels like ‘good’ or ‘bad,’ you allow them to share their experiences freely.
Do you know what happened to me today?
Share something interesting about your own day. This encourages them to reciprocate with their own stories. Make your story engaging and show genuine emotion. You might say: ‘You won’t believe what happened to me today!’ and then follow up by asking for their advice, regardless of their age. They’ll appreciate that you value their input.
How is your friend?
Asking about their friends shows that you also care about the people who are important to them. This question is less direct and feels less like an interrogation. It helps build a bond between you because their social circle is a significant part of their world. By showing interest in their friends, you validate their relationships and experiences.
Ask about something specific they were going to face that day
Show them that you remember details about what they have told you. It could be about an activity they had planned or a conversation they needed to have. By recalling specifics, you demonstrate that you pay attention to what’s important to them, fostering a sense of being seen and valued.
Sometimes, don’t ask anything
Simply be present. Kiss them, smile, ask a casual question like: ‘How was your day?’ and then just be with them. Comment on the weather, tell them how much you missed them or how lovely they look. Embrace the potential silence; sometimes, children need a quiet, loving presence more than words. Share experiences, laughter and affection.
Whatever approach you choose, refrain from judging or teaching a lesson immediately. The goal is to create a safe space where your child feels heard, valued and free to express their true selves. Make sure you truly hear them, value them and accept them for who they are.
By asking mindful questions and being present, you build a deeper, more genuine connection with your child, laying the foundation for open and honest communication.
Lorena Bernal is a certified life coach and spiritual life coach and Founder of the events and coaching platform Live Love Better (www.livelovebetter.co.uk).
Interview with Claire Freedman
The Aliens Love Underpants series has always been a firm favourite with preschoolers, so here at Families we were very excited to hear that after eight years, there is a new underpants story publishing this month! Rachel Bailey talks to author Claire Freedman about her new book Dragons Love Underpants and meeting MC Grammar!
Is it fair to say you didn’t plan your writing career? What advice would you give to parents/children who don’t grow up with a clear idea of what they want to do once they leave school?
You are absolutely right! I didn’t plan a career in writing at all. It happened entirely by accident after I joined an evening writing class about 30 years ago. I’d always loved writing and reading and our teacher was so enthusiastic about writing, for children in particular, I was immediately hooked. I knew this was what I really wanted to do. I haven’t looked back since.
Personally, I didn’t have a very clear idea of what I wanted to do after I left school. I had a number of different jobs over the years, which, looking back on, I can see weren’t creative enough for me, even though I enjoyed them. I do think that there is a lot of pressure on young people to decide on their career so early on in life.
It’s wonderful if you know exactly what you want to do, but I think just getting out and working can also help you decide what you like and don’t like about a job. It’s all good experience, and who knows what exciting opportunities might present themselves? It has also made me appreciate just how fortunate I am to have discovered what suits me and gives me the greatest job and personal satisfaction.
I hear MC Grammar is doing a rap read –have you met him? How important do you think it is to keep looking for different ways to encourage children as readers?
I’ve not met MC Grammar but would like to. His presentation of books in rap is such a great way to attract young readers to enjoy books, especially when they might consider reading a chore. Picture books should be fun, engaging and meaningful for children. Trends seem
to change more quickly than ever and if that means thinking outside the box to encourage reading, well that has to be a good thing.
It would be sad for any child to miss out on the joy of reading because it appears boring. Picture books are so essential for new and reluctant readers – the pictures truly tell the story- and even if the child struggles with some of the words, the illustrations help the story along and make the reading experience more fun and accessible. Presentation is so important and fortunately there are always new, exciting ways to champion the love of reading.
You write the books and Ben Cort illustrates them. What’s your working relationship like? Do you ever bounce ideas off each other?
We have a really good working relationship – which is important as we have spent a lot of time together over the years, visiting festivals, book signings and events etc.
However, we don’t generally contribute much to each other’s work. I write and Ben illustrates, although of course we might comment on each other’s work
For your chance to win a copy, all you have to do is answer the question below and email your answer to editor@familiestveast.co.uk
What’s the name of Claire’s newest book?
A - Aliens Love Underpants
B - Dinosaurs Love Underpants
C - Dragons Love Underpants
The closing date for entries is 1 November 2024
and maybe make suggestions. I think that works well for both of us.
Do you have a favourite Underpants book or other book you have written? As fantastic as the Underpants books are, they are just a small part of your portfolio! Are you surprised by how popular they have become?
My favourite underpants book, hands down, is the first one in the series - Aliens Love Underpants! I was totally amazed by its success. I initially wrote the book as a one off, but I’ve been surprised that eight books later, the series is still going strong. I’m really excited about Dragons Love Underpants and hope it is just as successful.
Aside from underpants books, I’ve had around 100 other picture books published. Everything from laugh-out -loud humour to soft and sleepy bedtime stories. My all time favourite would be Oliver and Patch, a story about a lonely little boy who’s moved to the city, and how he finds a little dog called Patch – just as lost as him –and a new friend. It’s beautifully illustrated by Kate Hindley.
Would you ever consider writing books for older children or do you love the freedom to create the zanier characters that perhaps writing picture books offers?
I have considered writing for older children and wouldn’t rule it out, but I feel picture books suit my style of writing and I enjoy crafting them so much. Never say never!
Indoor or Outdoors? Summer or Winter?
Outdoors. Is there an option for Spring?! Dragons Love Underpants publishes on September 26th priced £7.99.
Why snacks are important for toddlers
By Simone Ward
Once your baby turns one, it’s time to think about introducing snacks. Like all transitions, some toddlers are ready to jump in whilst others may need more time to adjust. They may only need one snack for a while or maybe two very light snacks.
Why snacks are important
Many kids would happily eat snacks all day and skip their main meals altogether. But while snacks can be massively appealing to kids (not always for the best of reasons), they are actually crucial.
Snacks keep kids going between meals
Toddlers have high energy needs and small tummies so they quickly burn through the foods they eat. They need an opportunity to fuel up and maintain their energy levels every two to three hours.
Snacks are essential for filling nutritional gaps
This is particularly important for kids who may not eat much at mealtimes. Kids have demanding nutritional needs but also everchanging appetites; they may eat very little at one meal or snack and lots at another or small amounts on each occasion. If they don’t eat much in one sitting, a snack a few hours later means they will not have to rely on limited eating windows to meet their nutritional needs.
How many snacks per day?
Depending on your child’s age and eating habits, two to three snacks a day is the general rule.
Monkey Puzzle Nursery celebrates graduation
and school-readiness
It’s so lovely to see nursery school children celebrating their graduation. Prerna Shah, the owner of Monkey Puzzle Maidenhead highlights why this and being ready for primary school is so important.
Beyond playtime, preschool is a critical launchpad for reception year at school. At Monkey Puzzle Maidenhead, we spark curiosity and build a foundation for lifelong learning. Through play-based exploration, preschoolers develop essential skills including:
Academic Readiness: We introduce basic literacy and numeracy concepts, igniting a love of learning.
Social Butterflies: Preschool fosters cooperation, communication and emotional regulation, preparing children for a classroom setting.
Confident Explorers: We encourage exploration, problemsolving and self-care skills, building confidence and independence.
By nurturing these core skills, preschoolers experience a smooth transition to reception and embark on a lifelong journey of discovery.
www.monkeypuzzlemaidenhead.co.uk
Younger toddlers may take time to build up to this number and all kids have differing appetites. Some children pack in a lot of food at mealtimes and will only need one snack or possibly none. This is okay too; children should never be encouraged to eat more than their bodies are telling them they need.
Be mindful that children’s fuelling needs can change over time or quite quickly, so continue to offer them the option of a snack (or snacks) in case they decide they need more food after all.
What about bedtime snacks?
These can be super helpful in ensuring that kids have had enough to eat but not all kids need or want them. Consider offering a bedtime snack if your child hasn’t eaten much of their evening meal, if bedtime is another couple of hours away or if you just feel your child would benefit from some extra nutrients or calories.
This is an edited extract from the book Feeding Toddlers by Simone Ward, published by Page Street Publishing.
The grown up school for boys and girls of all ages
Ballet, modern, tap, acro and contemporary classes for beginners or advanced students from 3 years and above.
Weekdays: Braywick & Beaconsfield
Saturdays: BCA Maidenhead
www.patsteelschoolofdance.co.uk
What's On Your family guide to
Ongoing
Throughout September and October
The Paddington Bear™ Experience London County Hall, Belvedere Road, Southbank SE1 7GP
Multi sensory interactive adventure for all ages. www.paddingtonbearexperience.com
Until Monday September 23
Marvellous Makers Summer Reading Challenge Local Libraries www.summerreadingchallenge.org.uk
September
Sunday September 1
Norden Farm / Community Kite Festival
Boyn Grove Park, Punt Hill SL6 6JE 12-4pm.
Look out for kite making workshops at Norden Farm the same day www.nordenfarm.org
Sunday September 1 to September 29
Boat Hire
Dinton Pastures Activity Centre, Sandford Lane, Hurst RG10 0SU Pedalos, Kayaks, Paddleboards and Canoes www.wokinghamcountryside.co.uk/boat-hire
Friday September 6
Tiny Talk Time
Wycombe Museum, High Wycombe HP13 6PX 10am. Ages 2-5. £3.75 per child. www.wycombemuseum.org.uk
Family activities take around 2.5 hours. Arrive between 10am and 12pm and bring a picnic. www.bbowt.org.uk/events
Autumn outdoor challenges for families
As the autumn approaches and the nights draw in once more, it can be a challenge to get outside. But fear not! The Outdoor Guide (www.theoutdoorguide.co.uk) is here with some great suggestions for outdoor activities for families to enjoy.
USE YOUR SENSES
It’s great to explore the outdoors using all of your senses. Imagine you have ears as large as an elephant - how many sounds can you hear? Imagine you have long tentacle arms like an octopus - how many different textures can you touch? Imagine you have the nose of a dog - how many different smells are in the air? Imagine you have the eyes of a hawkwhat can you see?
TREASURE HUNTING
A treasure is in the eye of the beholder and the natural world has many treasures just waiting to be found. Wander out and see how many you can find. Perhaps look for treasures that spell out the word NATURE - maybe you’ll find a nut, an acorn, a twig…
NATURE’S LARDER
In the autumn months, the hedgerows and woodlands are abundant with treats. Perhaps you’ll find some blackberries, sweet chestnuts or sloes to take home and make some tasty treats with. Remember not to take all of them from the tree or bush as the local wildlife will want to enjoy some too!
SLOW
IT DOWN
All too often we’re moving too quickly, focusing on our destination rather than where we are. It’s only when we really slow down that we start to notice everything that is happening around us. What’s the slowest animal you can think of? A sloth perhaps or a tortoise? Imagine you’re one of them - moving slowly and just noticing what is happening around you.
SMALL THINGS
Sometimes we’re all too busy looking at the big picture to notice the small details within it. Grab yourself a magnifying glass and go explore the little things that are all around you in the natural world. What’s the smallest thing that you can find?
MAP YOUR PATCH
Maps offer a birds’ eye view of an area, showing all the detail of what’s there. Can you create your own map of the area where you live? What are the things you can see as you walk along the path? Perhaps you could include trees, hedges, ponds, houses and road turnings.
MAKING ART WITH THE PIECES
As the trees shed their leaves for another year, collect those you can find that have already fallen. Clearing a space on the ground as your canvas, use leaves and other objects you might have found to make your own works of art for others to enjoy.
BIRD FEEDERS
As we approach the cooler months, your local garden birds will be grateful for extra food that you can leave out for them. You can make your own bird feeders using things you find in the natural world. Open pine cones are perfect for this. Mix some seeds, oats, dried fruit or perhaps some grated cheese into some suet, lard or vegetable shortening and then smear it over the pine cone and hang somewhere the birds can easily reach it.
Make hanging pumpkins for a twig tree
We asked our friends at Hobbycraft (www.hobbycraft. co.uk) for a spectacularly spooky Halloween craft activity for parents to do with their kids and they’ve come up with these cute pumpkins to hang on a twig tree.
Instructions:
Step 1:
Print off the pumpkin template at www.bit. ly/pumpkintem or get creative and draw out your own pumpkin shape. Cut it out.
Step 6:
Take a 15cm piece of cord and glue it to the front of the pumpkin to make a hanging cord.
You will need black ribbon, A4 felt sheets in orange, green and pink, soft toy filling, black card, a glue gun, scissors and a pen.
(All materials plus twig trees can be purchased at Hobbycraft).
Step 2:
Use a pen to trace your pumpkin template onto a folded piece of felt. Cut this out to give you two identical pumpkins.
Step 7:
Trace the pumpkin stalk onto some green felt and cut out two pieces.
Step 3:
Use a hot glue gun to put a line of glue around the edge of one pumpkin and stick the other on top. Leave the bottom open.
Step 8:
Glue one piece of the green felt stalk to the front and one to the back, sandwiching the hanging cord in between.
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Step 4:
Stuff the pumpkin with a small amount of the soft toy filling.
Step 5:
Use hot glue to close the pumpkin.
Step 9:
Cut face details out of some black card and add to the pumpkins for a spooky finishing touch.
