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Volume 1, 5/16-6/16 Issue 1 Newsletter Date
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DAVID L. PRESENTS… DAVID L. 4 PRESIDENT Column Synopsis: A random and unbiased perspective of what is relevant in the world today – as seen through the eyes of yours truly, David L. A column not to be duplicated… but to be emulated. Because after all, groundbreaking material does not come around every day. A comprehensive “no holds barred” opinion on the literary world, sports & music industry, and current social events of utmost importance. NO structured thought scheme – just some occasional and unbiased HATE towards those that deserve it! One-on-one interviews to include abstract, unconventional questions with individuals of relevance. A Q&A with random readers with answers posted to include hints, tips and breakthrough marketing ideas into either getting into the industry of their choice – and/or surviving it! In conclusion – a breakthrough column to for the ages… none before me. None after my departure. ‘Nuff said.
CAN I HIT IT IN THE MORNING?! (Who Controls The Relationship: Men Or Women?) Intro The Art of War is not just a well known and best-selling read – it’s a way of life amongst men and women everywhere… regardless of race, culture or creed. The art of war is simply put – psychological warfare with the primary intention of getting the most from the opposite sex (depending on your sexual preference). Contrary to popular belief, there are subtle nuances in the concept of “leaders were born to lead and followers were born to follow.” There is a “pecking order” of sorts in this game we call life. My sole objective is to prove once and for all – who is the ultimate “puppet master” in the murky waters of romance and relationship? Who is the true “big baller shot caller” and who indeed “runs the show”? Similar to the various forms of abuse, true power takes on a myriad of forms. Physical power is the ability to overpower your mate through physical coercion and/or downright bullying. Domination via presence and stature, most often accomplished by men. There is also mental power. The ability to outwit your mate. Cunning. Stealth. Wit. Psychological power perhaps? A possible raunchy videotape tucked away somewhere… only to be used at a later date? True “tongue skills” is not a reference to how well you can perform cunnilingus. On the contrary, it is your means to seduce with your words… and manipulate with precision and tact.
Control in a relationship is not etched in stone and power can (and more often than not) shift to the other party. To illustrate my point, the individual who asks for the date doesn’t always decide where the date will take place… or what time it will end. The illusion of control is diabolical in nature and lies dormant within the individual who uses it to the best of his or her ability. Ironically, the one in power may not even realize their true potential. Disclaimer: for all you relationship “purists” that are reading this and saying: relationships are about compromise and flexibility – well… I have three words for you: BLAH! BLAH! BLAH! Adjectives like compromise, flexibility and mutuality are contrived and exist only in familythemed television shows made even more popular from channels like Nick at Nite! It’s a façade. There is no mutuality. It only exists in the minds of those that would love to live life with that commonality of achieving it one day.
Reader’s Thoughts: “Women ultimately control the relationship. While the man may take the lead and be the dominant player, it’s the woman who holds down the relationship.” --- T Pretty Lady __________________ “Women run things. Men no longer wish to wear the pants. They wait for the woman to do everything and act surprised when women turn to other women.” --- Anjela Day