Flourish Digital Magazine: March/April 2021 by Flourish Digital Magazine

SPRING 2021 ISSUE 2

VOLUME 2

GEN Z SELF-CARE Make-up & fabulous fashion finds for a pretty penny Perfecting the image & characteristics to play life & win!

An Intergenerational Perspective

Flowers don't worry about how they're going to

Bloom.

They just open up and turn toward the light and that makes them

Beautiful. —Jim Carrey

Supporting Women & Children

' Let's turn toward the light, Darling; and in doing so, physically and spiritually, we impact our health and overall well-being so that we can take ownership and responsibility. We’ve all been cooped up and restricted way too long—a year, in fact—and now that we’re approaching a beautiful Spring and Summer, I encourage all of us to really pay attention to our mood—our state of mind—which is directly affected by light. The sun is glorious and has a magical healing power; so, absorb your share. And be sure to read what Lyn Ross, our Beauty Editor, has to say about sunscreen. Biologically, light impacts our sleep, cognition, temperament, and whole-life harmony and flow. Light even helps us sleep and rest better at night, stabilizing our circadian rhythms. Psychologically, light can decrease depression and increase energy and joy—and we all could use more joy. I love how Flourish Digital Magazine’s new Gen Z apprentice, Alexandria Lee, along with her girlfriends, created their own outdoor fun to absorb the sun. We can do the same—and in many different ways. We have lots to share in this Spring issue about beauty, make-up and fashion—from high-end luxury with Designer Lizz Russell, to the greatest resale, consignment, and gorgeous thrift finds for a fraction of the cost. Read my own personal story, Divinely Aligned: Through Fame, Fortune, Loss and Divorce — Profile of a fairytale marriage; then travel and experience Cuba—through the eyes of Dr. Gemma Beckley, her daughter and her granddaughter. Our feature articles are always encouraging—from college students, millennials, mothers, businesswomen, Baby Boomers and inspirational leaders alike. Remember to turn toward your inner light to see yourself clearly, brightly and beautifully.

All the best!

Chloé Taylor Brown Editor-in-Chief

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GEN Z SELF CARE Alexandria Lee 20 ATTRiBUTES OF A FEMiNiNE POWER PLAYER

LIFESTYLE

Chloé Taylor Brown

TURN OVER A NEW LEAF THiS SPRiNG Sadiyah Adams

COACH CHLOÉ ARE WE REALLY SPRiNGiNG FORWARD? Jade Cherell

LAVASS SHAW PHOTOGRAPHY LOVE, EXCELLENCE & PEP Joshua Brown

GRACE: FEMiNiNE & DiViNE

Chloé Taylor Brown

LIVE A BRIGHTER LIFE WITH FLOWERS

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A LiTTLE SPRiNG CLEANSiNG AND CLEANiNG FOR THE BODY AND MiND

HEY, MAMAS!

Elena Taylor Bagger

NO PiCTURES, PLEASE

Victoria Moore-McMiller Chloé Taylor Brown

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DiViNELY ALiGNED

Lisa Washington

Profile of a Fairytale Marriage by Danisha Rolle SPRING SOLILOQUY Paula G. Voice

MAKE YOUR CLAiM Laurie Marie Renfro

SPRiNG iNTO THE NEWNESS OF LiFE Donnella Cranford

CUBA: iNTER-GENERATiONAL PERSPECTiVES

Dr. Gemma Beckley, Lisa Beckley-Roberts and Christina Beckley Lampley share their travel memories

DESHAWN SNOW

a conversation with Chloé Taylor Brown

60 A PEARL OF WiSDOM: WANESHA SPENCER P a u l a G . V o i c e 62 PERSONAS: CREATE & LiVE A BiGGER, MORE JOYFUL LiFE 86 Chloé Taylor Brown A MARRiAGE REBORN J a n i s H u n t J o h n s o n 94 SEEiNG THE HARVEST iN THE DiRT Janis Hunt Johnson

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SPRING BEAUTY Nyssa Green

BEAUTY & FASHION

BEAUTY WITH PURPOSE AGING SKIN 4 THiNGS, 6 STEPS...TO PROTECT YOUR SKiN Lyn Ross

FASHiON FiNDS

Chloé Taylor Brown

A BROKE BEAUTi Kailen D. Drayer

DESiGNER LiZZ RUSSELL

a chat with Chloé Taylor Brown

STORMIE'S KLOZEST

Flourish Digital Magazine's Spring Cover Story Stylist, Normie Taylor

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SPRiNG CLEANiNG YOUR FiNANCES Kim Scouller

BETTER ANGELS OF BUSiNESS: DANA BARTLE YVONNE MCCORMiCK, ZURi DESiGN COMPANY

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inspirational interviews with Karen Gamba & Frank Carlisi

LOVE YOURSELF ENOUGH TO ROMANCE YOUR OWN LIFE

GEN Z SELF CARE One for the Books by Alexandria Lee

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Lee ine's a i ndr agaz a x Ale gital M ice h Di pprent s i r Flou First A

2020 was a year that will never be forgotten for many reasons. With that in mind, covid-19 was not going to stop my friends and me from showing ourselves selflove. In the summer of 2020, two of my closest girlfriends and I decided to have a socially distanced picnic at Chastain Park. We all tested negative for covid-19 prior to the event. We had planned on having vegan sandwiches, cookies, fruit, and Italian sodas on a nice sunny day. Fast forward to the day of the picnic, and the forecast was cloudy with a high chance of rain. Knowing that there was a good chance our picnic would get rained on, the three of us still decided to venture out to the park. As soon as we got there the thunder and sprinkling began. This might sound crazy, but we had hopes that it would stay a light drizzle, so we decided to set up our spot. The beginning was fun and full of laughter as we ate, took pictures, and just chatted about life and fond memories. > FLOURISHDIGITALMAGAZINE.COM | SPRING 2021 | 9

Then the lightning started and it began pouring down harder. Someone else might have constituted this as a day ruined. What did we decide to do? The three of us (Alexandria, Jayla and Alicia) had the brilliant idea of moving the picnic to the living room of my house. Honestly, looking back I could not have asked for a more perfect day. I admire our positivity and creativity throughout the entire course of events. We still laugh about it to this day. <

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, Y D O B , D N I M & T I SPIR . . . E S O P R U P D E N ALIG

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The fact that you woke up this morning is a beautiful thing—and as long as you keep waking up every morning, you have an opportunity to be who you were meant to be. We get so caught up in the noise and busyness of our lives that we forget to take the time to just be still. We forget to take the time to resurrect those forgotten hopes and dreams. Stop, be still, listen to your soul, and then be who you were destined to be. It’s Springtime! The time of fresh beginnings! However, perhaps there are some things we need to shed or reset before we spring into the freshness of the season. FLOURISHDIGITALMAGAZINE.COM | SPRING 2021 | 12

Take this scenario: You are in the middle of a big project. Perhaps you are working on your thesis or a business plan. Pages and pages of ideas and thoughts and solutions and research...and what happened? Your computer froze! What?! You panic. You can hit the refresh button, but you run the risk of losing all your work. What do you do? I would dare say that many of us have encountered this experience at least once in our adult lives. However, sometimes, there is a benefit to hitting that symbolic “refresh” button —and wiping out what existed before. >

You can start all over again! What about this scenario: Life can get so complicated, and sometimes we find ourselves in the midst of engaging with “messy” people. For those who may not have heard that term before, it refers to a person who always keeps chaos going by implanting certain comments or actions that cause others to possibly be at odds with each other, especially in relationships. Some other ways to describe a messy person might be a gossip or a tactless person. Some reality shows can be quite messy! If you were to hit the “refresh” button in your life, you could eliminate messy people. Sometimes we find ourselves in the midst of situations that are time-consuming, complex and stressful. This can be an inner conversation where we allow too many individuals to occupy space in our head, and it causes us to be confused. We have difficulty entertaining everyone’s opinions and comments, and we can’t even hear ourselves think over all the mental noise. Refresh! Hitting the “refresh” button in our lives can be a highly effective tool. We may also have to hit the “delete” button to remove the messy individuals as well. I’m just saying! The world is so full of all kinds of noise. Not just audible noise but noise from too much information, too many opinions, too many options—it’s too much noise! Recently having the experience of staying at home for an extended period of time has helped us to evaluate a few things. When we are reduced to only having access to the essentials, we may find that we do not require as much as we thought we did. It’s almost as if a whole new world opens up and we find ourselves exploring new options, that, in some cases, work better in our lives. Maybe it is time to hit the refresh button in your life. What needs to change? What needs to be eliminated? What needs to be done differently? What new experiences are there for you to enjoy? Many people have begun to plant their own gardens during a season of staying at home. As a result, they have been able to grow their own vegetables and thus reduce their grocery bills. They have also found the gardening experience to be therapeutic. Two for one! How about that? Produce and therapy, all in one seed planting! That only happened because they hit the refresh button. Sprang into action, and just did it.

I am Paula G. Voice! I am a sagacious independent lifestyle influencer. I am embracing my own journey and I am sharing a soliloquy of seasons on the journey. I am influencing dreamers to do the same by breathing life into their vison and ultimately living the reality of that vision! It is never too late to embrace your journey and live your dream. Flourish! Visit Paula’s blog at www.paulagvoice.com for additional soliloquies of the journey.

Is it time for you to hit the refresh button in your life? If so, press the button, smile, and do something that gives you joy. This is a new season! Celebrate the things God gives you in life. Flourish! Embrace life itself. Live! Unless of course...you prefer the alternative? I didn't think so. In this season, spring into action and do something that will give you lasting joy. Let us know how it works out. <

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MAKE YOUR CLAIM

The excitement of the new year barely had time to take hold before my postal carrier busted it all up. Mine was a clear case of shooting the messenger—but I was truly heated when Miss Yolanda handed me a pile of mail that included three freshly printed tax documents. “Right,” I thought. “Party’s over. Time to start the tax prep game again.” Looking at the 1099s, I started thinking about charitable contributions I'd made in 2020, my medical expenses, and all the other things I might claim in order to reduce my tax liability. With my children all grown up, I knew claiming dependents, childcare or educational expenses would not be options.

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Then, it dawned on me. I am dependent on me, so, I wondered, can I claim myself as a dependent? Now, before you rush to add a new dependent to your W-4, I must tell you the official answer to that question is a firm “No.” When it comes to the IRS, you cannot claim yourself as a dependent. But, as it pertains to your real life and the self care that a quality life demands, you certainly can claim yourself… and you should. I understand the idea of claiming yourself might be new. Few of us were taught to embrace the power of our being, our unique identity and our individual agency. Even some of the most haughty of us have skipped the foundational step of making a soul-level claim on our lives; we've gone straight to making claims for our lives. This distinction is crucial. >

Failing to make a claim on your life while trying to make a claim for your life is akin to choosing not to buy the life insurance policy but still expecting the payout to your survivors. And, when you don’t have a solid foundational claim on your life—separate from, yet, among the lives of others—you set yourself on a solo path of pure competition that is devoid of the benefits of collaboration. We all know that competition rewards only the winners—even if the win is only by a hair. That approach leaves most of us out— beat out and burning out. Claiming ourselves among others is acknowledgment of distinction and interdependence and allows us to launch cooperative relationships and communities that support and root for our success. I will admit I am just now getting to the nittygritty of claiming myself. Oh, don’t get me wrong. I’ve been “go me!” all these years. But in hindsight I can see the fragmentary claim I’d made on my life was insufficient to empower a full walk of my own talk. Finally at the wheel for real, I am thrilled to know that I’m not too late. I am clear, though, that I have to get down with some specific and practical steps if I’m to avoid losing more time and more opportunities. Inspired by California Representative Maxine Waters, the first step I’ve taken is in “reclaiming my time.” This has required I temper social, cultural and religious indoctrination that casts me as always available and in service to others. Taking to heart the brilliant truth that self care is not selfish has gone a long way toward this end. A resulting and enviable testimony to this is a luxurious six-hour stretch of alone time I now enjoy every Friday despite sharing a home with my two adult daughters. Step two, inspired by simple frustration—plus a good friend’s love for Marie Kondo—was to clean up, clear out and order the spaces where I live my life. No, I mean, for real. Intuitively I’d always known, and even said out loud, that what I really want is a place for everything and everything in its place. But, because I hadn’t made a whole claim on my life, this claim that I was making for my life was never fully realized.

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The third step is still in progress and may just turn out to be an ongoing practice. As a spiritual seeker experiencing the world through the Godin-me, I am making the strongest claim on my life by getting to know and embracing the divine me. I’m talking the “me” that is beyond description and descriptors. The me beneath the costumes and adornment I put on to fit in and to feel accepted. In all actuality, to fool my self and others. I am learning that the journey to my true self includes the challenging process of identifying and laying down expectations that have been put upon me by others, as well as untrue and unrealistic ideas that I have formed on my own. Increasingly free of soul encumbrances, pathways are opening where real promise can bloom. Since I’m a relative novice at this, I can’t call my three steps exhaustive. And, as my life is not the same as yours, I can’t say my steps are the ones for you. What I do know is: We all are doing this thing called Life and we want the best that it has to offer. To get to that flourish of abundance we each must, first, make our claim. <

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Spring into the

newness of life

by Donnella Cranford

When I think about Springtime, there is a freshness, an excitement and an expectation of newness that rises up within me. Spring is one of my most favorite times of the year because the blooming of flowers, the resurrection of green leaves on the trees and the freshness of the grass all remind me that life is continually being renewed. Isaiah 42:9 tells us that the former things have come to pass and new things God now declares. Spring signifies and fulfills this promise outlined by the prophet Isaiah. Think about it. The verb form of spring means "to move upwardly and forward," and that is exactly what God provides for us. Spring is considered a time of new beginnings because old things pass away and become new. It is left up to us to move self-assured as we find joy in this promise of God. What better time to do it than right now, in the Spring of the year. Spring into the newness of life! When we consider newness, we think about renewal, the birth of something new—rebirth. In the Spring of 2021, begin something new. Consider the following: Start with renewing your mind by reading and internalizing a Scripture each day or one per week. Identify positive affirmations to write down and review each day. Explore your creativity and launch a new idea such as taking a class in photography or pottery. Investigate your options.

Donnella Cranford is the author of Encouraging Your Heart and Founder of Women After God's Own Heart. WAGOH.ORG

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Take better care of yourself by eating healthier and taking a walk at least three times a week. Declutter spaces in your living area by giving yourself permission to discard things you have not worn or used in a year. Declutter your mind by allowing the old unwanted ways of thinking or ideas that do not add value to your life to be replaced with new and positive thoughts. Be intentional about this daily. Isaiah 45:3 assures us that God will give you treasures that are hidden—secret riches so that you may know that He is God. This Spring, explore those treasures that are available to you: Welcome the newness of life! Do the work. There are brand new things waiting for you to discover. <

Spring Beauty

BY NYSSA GREEN EMMY AWARD–WINNING MAKE-UP ARTIST THEGREENROOMAGENCY.COM IG@THEGREENROOMAGENCY

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Spring beauty

has so much to offer, there's surely a new product, technique or color for you to try…

makeup: Danessa Myricks Beauty

Spring has arrived, and with it comes a sense of excitement and renewal— especially in the beauty space. Do you feel it? It's the sense that there's time for a change, an update or an edit.

While there is a certain comfort in your favorite lipstick shade or having developed your go-to skincare routine, there is also something exciting about the prospect of thinking outside your beauty box.

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It's here! One of the easiest ways to ease into spring beauty is with a great set of brushes. Using brushes is the key to a flawless finish. You don't need a lot of brushes, just a few good ones. Blending and building are much easier with brushes, so take time to find a few that feel good in your hand and are easy to use. If you're not in the mood to buy new ones—but who isn't?—be sure

But if you are a bit more daring, try a

to give your current ones a really good

different shade all together. It

cleaning with your favorite shampoo or

doesn't have to stop at lips, either.

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Color doesn't have to be extreme or scary. Perhaps just two shades lighter

The smoky eye never goes out of

or darker of your favorite lipstick.

style! For spring? Yes indeed, but we are not going for winter's black, grey, or navy. Instead, think pink, yellow or purple! The key to spring's smoky eye is blending. Simply pick your color, pack it on the lid and blend, blend, blend!

Try a new technique, a new color, or even go pro and hire a make-up artist for a night out. Either way, spring is here, and beauty is reborn. It's your season.

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Make-up Brushes: Beautylish.com

Aging Skin

Lyn Ross and I both know that when it comes to how you feel, look and behave, age is just a number. And when it comes to my skin and smooth complexion, I have taken Lyn Ross' advice and used her products and skincare system for over twenty years. One of my favorite products is the Enhancing Micro Crystal Polish that lightly exfoliates and gives me a natural glow. The Institut’ DERMed™ Renewing product system is formulated with exfoliants, peptides, stem cells, spin traps and anti-oxidants to reduce the appearance of maturing skin. Your skin changes as you age; while aging is inevitable, helping my skin to look and feel radiant is Institut' DERMed's specialty. FLOURISHDIGITALMAGAZINE.COM | SPRING 2021 | 21

spring beauty 4 things, 6 steps... to protect your skin. by Lyn Ross, The Boss at Institut' DERMed™ Flourish Digital Magazine's Beauty Editor, Master Esthetician & Founder of Institut' DERMed™. www.idermed.com

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BY NYSSA GREEN EMMY AWARD WINNING MAKEUP ARTIST THEGREENROOMAGENCY.COM IG@THEGREENROOMAGENCY

Using sunscreen daily helps skin maintain a youthful appearance As we approach sunnier days both figuratively and environmentally it’s time to start thinking about the one product that works immediately upon application: sun protection. Did you know that wearing sunscreen year-round not only helps maintain a youthful appearance, but it also protects your skin from cancer-causing UV rays— which is why it’s imperative to wear year-round sun protection even on cloudy days!

It's so easy these days to incorporate sunscreen into your daily skincare routine, with so many modern formulations in a variety of textures—such as waterresistant, or city blocks in sprays, lotions, creams, gels, sticks, primers, mineral powders, beauty-balm creams and foundations. Depending on your needs there is a sunscreen that is sure to fit your lifestyle!

Things you need to know about choosing sunscreens: 1. Broad-spectrum sunscreen: means the product will cover and shield against UVA and UVB rays. 2. Water-resistant: indicates that the product will protect the skin in water for a specified duration of time.

3. Sun protection factor (SPF): This numerical factor provides information on the level of protection provided. A minimum of SPF 15 or 30 is recommended for everyday wear. When in the sun, it is important to reapply sunscreen to exposed areas every 90 to 120 minutes, or as the product label indicates. 4. Active ingredients: Check to see whether the active ingredients are chemical or physical sunscreens. Physical sunscreens most commonly contain titanium dioxide and zinc oxide, which provide a physical barrier on the skin that reflects dangerous UV rays. Chemical sunscreens contain chemicals, which protect the skin by interacting with and absorbing ultraviolet energy. Both are effective, but chemical sunscreens may have a higher chance of producing skin irritation or allergic reactions in sensitive individuals.

Steps to applying sunscreen: 1. Be generous. According to The American Academy of Dermatology, most people only apply 25–50 percent of the recommended amount. Apply at least “a nickel-sized dollop to the face alone” and approximately a shot glass– full for exposed areas of the body (the equivalent of two tablespoons).

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2. Check yourself in a mirror. Take care to apply sunscreen evenly and don’t forget spots like your ears, hairline and neck. 3. Apply before you leave the house. Plan ahead. Sunscreen should be applied at least 15 minutes before sun exposure. Chemical formulations take this amount of time to reach their full protection potential. While mineral sunscreens begin working immediately, to create good habits I always suggest applying before heading outdoors. 4. Massage it in. When using a cream or gel sunscreen, be sure to massage the product onto the skin for better absorption. 5. Sunscreen must be the closest product to your skin for optimal protection. Apply foundation make-up over sunscreen. Using a mineral foundation, bronzer and blush provides an extra layer of protection and can be reapplied during the day. 6. Re-apply. When exposed to direct sun, be sure to reapply at least every two hours and immediately after swimming, sweating or towel drying. <

Styled by Normie Taylor

Fabulous Fashion Finds Vintage gold and crystal necklace - $50 Tangerine Tahari "Arthur S. Levine " dress - $35 Neiman Marcus handbag $8 Stuart Weitzman Snakeskin Strappy heel - $12

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Consignment, Resale &

Vintage Shopping & Styling If you’re a trendsetter who loves one-of-a-kind pieces from another era, and you hate the thought of showing up looking predictable—or, even worse, being dressed like someone else—then you might like vintage shopping. Real vintage can come from designers’ highfashion collections, women's custom designs, good-quality brand names and goodquality no names. The thread that runs through all vintage is high quality and desirability. Darling, a wonderful way to look fabulous all the time—without breaking your bank account wide open and going for broke to look great—is shopping consignment and resale stores. Like any store or boutique, you’ll want to know which shops suit your taste and fashion personality type best. The best consignment and resale shops provide personal service that you will love. By getting on the mailing list and getting to know the sales staff, you will be one of the first to hear about promotions and sales. Otherwise, you’ll need to stop in often to find the best merchandise. Make sure to try everything on and look in different sizes because some items have been altered and you probably won't be able to return them. Don't forget to look for accessories while you're there. You’ll pay a fraction of the original price for the same quality and style. Two of my favorite shoppers and fashion stylists who offer consignment, resale, and vintage clothing and accessories are Normie Taylor of Stormie's Klozest and Kailen D. Drayer of A Broke Beauti.

dream cherry InstaGram: @TNormie & @aBrokeBeauti

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Kailen D. Drayer Creator of A Broke Beauti

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I Believe A Pretty Penny Can Buy You the World! My first love has always been budgeted fashion. I was never one to go along with the latest fashion trends. Editorial vibes have always been so fascinating to me. Why put on a black skirt with a white top when you can mix it up with fun colors and prints? Dressing up was my go-to relief. But to buy clothes you have to have money. >

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I noticed my gift for creating something out of nothing when I was a teenager. My grandmother took me into a Goodwill store, and I was amazed at how much you could get for so little. I started off just going to Goodwill, to find single pieces for school or parties. >

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When I got to college, it became the thing to show off your thrifted mom-jeans that you got for fifty cents and made your own. What I thought was a gift didn’t make me unique anymore. >

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Then I tried something that no one else had thought of. I decided that instead of just getting pieces from Goodwill, I could go to any thrift store and put together entire looks! People would compliment me on my outfits, and I would go into great detail about how much my outfit cost. Someone suggested that I could definitely help other people find stylish head-to-toe outfits...and this is how A Broke Beauti was born. >

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I created this name based on two things. One: I was a broke college student at the time; and two: Beauti was a spin-off of a YouTube channel my husband and I started. (That is a whole story on its own.) Currently, I assist individuals with virtual styling, shopping, and purchasing vintage/stylish pieces from my website. Thrifting is a means of expression—and a whole different avenue and spin on the word fashion. Not everyone has the eye to turn anything into something. The tagline for my business is “A Pretty Penny Can Buy You The World.” I believe this to be so true. <

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DESiGNER LiZZ RUSSELL

chats with Chloé Taylor Brown

My first fashion rendezvous with Lizz Russell was through a mutual friend in Atlanta, Georgia well over twenty years ago. Lizz was in town visiting from San Diego, California presenting her new fall fashion collections at the time. We hit it off nicely. I even did a photo shoot wearing a few of her amazing pieces that somehow melted on my body and seemed to flow effortlessly with each pose in front of the camera. Lizz is soft spoken, and she smiles with her eyes the way Tyra Banks teaches. She is fierce and intentional about her designs though, and her intuitive side is keen as well—one of many things I really love about Lizz and her work. > FLOURISHDIGITALMAGAZINE.COM | SPRING 2021 | 32

Lizz Russell believes that "every woman should have her own style," and that "individuality and confidence are the pillars of the The Lizz Russell Collection." In my recent conversation with Lizz Russell I asked her what she was most excited about for Spring 2021 with her collection. LIZZ: Chloé, I'm so excited about an idea I had years ago, and it's manifesting and coming to life in 2021. It's very special to me. CHLOÉ: What is it, Darling? LIZZ: I've created a Luxury Scarf Collection and it's here and available! The first collection is a limited edition collection—and perfect for Zoom dressing—and can be worn several different ways. CHLOÉ: Lizz, the last time I spoke with you, you didn't say a thing about what you had up your sleeves about your scarves. Was that on purpose? LIZZ: It's just timing. And now seemed like the right time. CHLOÉ: Isn't it amazing how many creatives took the uncertainties of covid-19 and the time of social distancing to create? >

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LIZZ: Yes, it truly is, Chloé. I just returned from Bahrain, visiting my son and working. While I'm there, I am surrounded by beauty—and my creativity kicks in to a higher gear. I do fashion shows, photos shoots and really enjoy myself, my son, and his fiancé. CHLOÉ: Tell me more about your scarves—and which is your favorite? LIZZ: The LR Luxury Scarves are 100 percent silk. They are size 35 x 34 and $125.00 each. They must be drycleaned only and stored in a cool, dry place. The box these beautiful scarves arrive in is perfect for storage! And, Chloé, my favorite LR Luxury Scarf is the one that speaks "LOVE." But I love them all. <

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Our greatest most luxurious asset is our

Mind. Our greatest most vital task is aligning it back to our

Heart. —Chloé Taylor Brown Discerner of Hearts, Educer of Excellence

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THROUGH FAME, FORTUNE, LOSS & DIVORCE—PROFILE OF A FAIRYTALE MARRIAGE AN INTERVIEW WITH CHLOÉ TAYLOR BROWN & RICK BROWN BY DANISHA ROLLE

Picture this couple: an NBA player and an

Rick entered the NBA draft and was selected by the

international model, both statuesque, and

Golden State Warriors. Chloé joined Rick in the Bay

poised, popular and professional. Rick Brown

Area to complete her college internship in fashion,

and Chloé Taylor Brown are just that. For as

where she started her modeling career. Two years

much as their story is fairytale-like, it’s also just as unimaginable.

later the couple was married. It was just the beginning of their fairytale. After three years, Rick was traded from Golden State

Rick is from Canton, Mississippi, and moved to

to the Atlanta Hawks. Chloé was in Milan at the time

Atlanta when he was fifteen. Chloé grew up in rural

and the news that they were moving from the Bay

Mississippi and was raised by her aunt after her

Area to Atlanta did not come with excitement for

mother died in a car crash when Chloé was only

her. Surprisingly, once settled, Rick didn’t have the

thriteen.

best experience in Atlanta. Although many of his friends were there, with them came many

Their initial meeting left a lasting impression. Rick

distractions. Chloé described the distractions as a lot

saw Chloé for the first time at Mississippi State

of “hanger-on-ers.” There were people looking for

University and thought she was “a nice quiet

handouts, and friends with bad intentions; so as you

homegirl.” They met during their freshman year

can imagine, that led to unwanted stress. Luckily,

through a mutual friend. Chloé thought Rick was too

Rick was later signed to a team in Italy.

shy so she was uninterested. Little did she know Rick’s reserved demeanor had drive and a winning

After a decade of being together overseas, Rick says

mentality. He was persistent, and even though Chloé

their relationship was “strong and everything was

declined his advances over and over, Rick didn’t give

very nice.” Chloé says, “In my mind I lived in a world

up. He wanted to date her. After four years of

that I created.” Even while supporting Rick and his

friendship, in Rick’s senior year, Chloé’s perspective

career Chloé was able to focus on modeling.

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Chloé says she was called a “hell cat” by her father. Rick wanted her to “fulfill her dreams and ambitions of being an international model"— which she did. And even when they began having children, they hired a nanny and Chloé didn’t miss a beat as it relates to modeling. As a result, Chloé says, she was called a “hell cat” by her father. She was known to do what she wanted to do. So she pursued her career, never slowing down or shrinking who she was. Rick was certainly not one to hold his spouse down from doing what she wanted to do. He'd known going into the marriage that she wanted to be a model. Often in relationships one person puts their career or dreams on hold to support the other. Rick and Chloé did not. They shared their dreams before they even started to date. This allowed them to be more authentic and supportive of one another. After moving overseas to play basketball, the couple settled down in Atlanta, where they still reside. When asked to think back over their professional lives and share two highlights, Chloé reminisced about how she loved developing and becoming who she wanted to be in San Francisco. She said a highlight was when they were living in Milan, Italy. "I was at the top of my career and Rick was at the top of his." During one of Chloé’s fashion shows, Rick and Paul—husband of Pat Cleveland, esteemed runway and print model—were walking with their children, "and everyone wanted to know: which models did these children belong to? It was all a fantasy being lived out." For her, the best part was that she was able to show up and simply be herself. While there were many highlights during the couple’s marriage, one of Chloé’s fondest memories was when she saw her dream house for the first time. Unfortunately, she was unsuccessful in securing a chance to see the house again because she couldn’t remember the address or the street. >

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Later, though, with a little grunt work and determination, Rick tracked it down, and they

Justin with Jade weeks before his death

purchased her dream home. To say the least, this was a wonderful time in their lives. It was all they could hope for: They were in love and traveled back and forth to Europe with their children. Rick’s highlight was the NBA draft. He had no idea where he was going but when he found out it was the San Francisco Bay Area it was a big deal because his sisters lived in San Francisco and he hadn’t seen them in several years. His second highlight was hitting the last-second, game-winning shot with Real Madrid. To win in this way was also a career dream come true. People in Spain still send pictures and videos from this game. There is a high that you experience in life when things are going well, and you are truly living your wildest dreams. But we all know that there will be ebbs and flows, highs and lows in life.

After a perfect summer on a perfect Sunday, six weeks before their youngest son Justin’s fourth

Nine months after Rick retired from his fifteen-year

birthday, Justin fell into their pool and drowned. He

career there was uncertainty, yet nostalgia. This was

was revived in the hospital but they eventually took

a challenging time because they had three children

him off of life support. The family wallowed in grief.

—nine-year-old Jade, six-year-old Taylor and three-

It was a hard time for everyone. Chloé had to want to

year-old Justin. Rick had never been at home with

be happy again. They had to pick themselves up.

the children on a regular basis. He had to learn to

Rick felt guilt. Chloé felt forgiveness. It was a tragic

transition from basketball player to family man. And

accident. Together they mourned, they hurt and

his focus had to quickly shift, “since all the kids

they leaned on one another.

played sports.” He got involved and made the big adjustment. He saw that his wife was at times “a

While the hurt, vulnerability and love is evident, it

short-order cook. This one wants this, another one

was Chloé’s strength and resolve that helped sustain

wants that.” Rick became more empathetic and

them. Rick says, “Chloé has always been a positive

present.

person. I can see why people are attracted to her persona because she gives off a radiant glow. People

For Chloé, motherhood was second nature. She was

want that. And I am a direct recipient of that.

well-organized and accustomed to traveling with

Whenever I have something going on, she is the first

three children internationally. She describes Rick as

person I go to. Any problem I have, we can talk it out.

“one of the best fathers. He was there to see

When she gives me her opinion, I take it to heart. I

everything. He has always been a hands-on, really

don’t think I’ve had a person like that in my life that I

good father. His kids really like him.” Reminiscing on

can go and talk to so openly."

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"That is such a big deal," Rick continues. "I’ve always

The man was calling from her gate. She let him in to

wanted that. Some of my friends—people I’ve known

see the house. This was a Wednesday. He came back

most of my adult life and childhood—I don’t even talk

on Friday with his wife and made them an offer that

to on such a deep level. Nothing comes close to me

they could not refuse. He had the money and told

expressing it to her.”

them he would pay for it right then but that they didn’t have to move right away. This would give Rick

From Rick, Chloé gets “truth and vulnerability. Rick is determined to do whatever he can for his family. But mostly I like that we’re friends. That’s the thing. We really do laugh a lot together.” Chloé says, “I am called, and I am chosen. So I have to show up. I have to be bold, powerful, and truthful— and share my knowledge.” But Rick is an introvert who would rather be quiet. Chloé will pull him in and say "let’s do this" or "let’s go here." He will eventually get out of whatever funk he is in and say, “OK, I’ll go.”

and Chloé time to find and purchase a new house. How easy could it be? In December of 1998, The Holy Spirit spoke again and told Chloé she was going to have another baby. They went to church and during the sermon Chloé and Rick knew instantly that it was true. Until that moment, she had had no idea they were four weeks' pregnant with their fourth child, Joshua. At the time, Rick was coaching high school kids, doing basketball lessons and sports camps, and training kids. He was in a really nice gym and helping to develop his own children as athletes as well.

In 1997, almost a year after their son drowned, Chloé was in her big, fabulous closet, where she had taken

Josh was born in August 1999. They were in a great

her Bible. It was actually a Bible that she had found

place. By then they both had witnessed divine

on the street a few years prior. She had a big decision

experiences. They are both very spiritual beings.

to make and did not know what to do. So she did the

Chloé trusts her gut instincts; she has told Rick things,

only thing she could. She prayed. She prayed hard

and they happen. She gets what she calls

about whether her family should move or stay in their

"downloads" or "spiritual musings" that work. Rick

home. She had all the reasons as to why she wanted

says it works in his life, and he sees it happen in her

to keep staying there and how much she loved that

life and with some of the people she works with in

house. But Justin had died there, so should they stay

her coaching practice.

or move? She opened the Bible and the pages flipped to 2 Chronicles 7:14: "If my people who are called by my name will humble themselves, and pray...." She wept and prayed, laying prostrate. She was calm when she finished crying and praying. She had let it all out, and left it in the closet and with God. At the time, she had been writing her first book, which ended up being a memoir. As she sat at her

They are unquestionably divinely aligned—spiritual soul mates. Over the last two years they have become even more spiritually yoked. More precise communication, more meaningful conversations and honesty brought that on. They communicate on a higher level now. This was not always the case. Their communication broke down in 2017 when Rick had a midlife crisis.

desk the phone rang. She answered and it was a man

His life became a monotonous cycle that he wanted

who said, “Somebody told me that you wanted to sell

to escape. He never replaced his professional

your house.” She had just been praying about it. She

fulfillment after retiring from professional basketball;

told the man that the house was not on the market.

he was working jobs he didn’t want to do. He was

He said, “A friend told me to call you.” Chloé was

making ends meet but looking for something else. He

annoyed but then heard The Holy Spirit tell her: “you

became tired of the rat race and became consumed

just finished praying about this.”

by another woman. Rick had an affair.

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Communication between Chloé and Rick was broken. Rick turned to his friends. They advised him to put himself first. Make himself happy. He listened. He thought happiness was having an affair and leaving his wife and children. If someone came to him for advice now, knowing what he now knows, he would tell them to communicate, and get outside counseling aside from your inner circle. He did not seek professional help and didn’t realize he needed it. He thought he had done all he could do. His kids were grown and gone. He had to do some soul searching. He knew what he was looking for—and it was financial freedom. He thought he'd found it in this other woman. The woman Rick met promised him a grand life—and for him she was a “sugar mama.” Rick wanted to go back to Spain to return to the limelight, where he had hit that winning shot. He wanted to hear all the cheering again. Chloé was blindsided. She didn’t know that Rick was having an affair or even planning to leave; she only knew things were falling apart, and sabotaged. Nothing was working out and she was about to have a nervous breakdown, so she went away for six weeks to stay at her sister’s house. While she was rejuvenating and re-centering, Rick was angry whenever he called. Later Chloé realized that an affair speaks on its own: It is secretive and deceitful, and has its own language. Rick was trying to make her wrong.

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While Chloé was at her sister’s, she knew that Rick missed her and wanted her to be home, but she couldn’t figure out what was going on. Until their youngest son, Joshua, told his mother that he had overheard his father speaking with another woman. Everything came crumbling down. Yet again, the Holy Spirit spoke to Chloé. She knew things that Rick could not deny. Chloé released all negativity and forgave. It was then that things started working out for her again. Rick started having unforeseen and unfortunate things happen to him. Rick did not believe in himself or love himself, which is what had made him leave his family in the first place. He had found everything except happiness. He ran from himself into a real-life nightmare. He had to snap out of it. The family lost everything, but Rick was desperate to come back home to start over after just three months of leaving—if Chloé would have him.

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Rick and Chloé's love for each other never died. When Chloé watched him work on himself—with spiritual counseling, therapy, personal development—plus constant begging for a year and a half, Chloé gave him a second chance. Rick wanted to make it right. Chloé did too. They worked it out and got married again on their original anniversary two years later. They were able to come back in every way as a married couple. They are friends and lovers, and

Rick and Chloé at an Atlanta Hawks Basketball game.

doing more of the things they did when they were younger. They now have meaningful, honest conversations, and they’re working on being more adventurous again. It is now just the two of them at home, which hasn’t been the case in over thirty years. The couple sees abundance in their future—getting back to the fantastical life that they once lived. Thoughts about the future bring them closer together. They are even looking forward to grandchildren...one day.

Rick with Jade and Taylor in Venice, Italy.

When asked what he would tell other couples, Rick says it is vital to search your heart, "to see if you feel like this is the person for you. You have to know it in your heart without a doubt. If you find yourself doubting, having second thoughts, experiencing roadblocks or conflict, there is going to be an issue. Pray, meditate and put in the work. "The actual work will come. Life won’t always be a fairytale. How do you truly feel about that person? How do you feel about that person when you are around them? Do you get butterflies?

Taylor, Joshua, Jade and their dog, Leo, at the "Hooch."

Nervous? You can’t just look at outer beauty—but inner beauty too.” He insists that it is what is on the inside, the inner light, that will be needed to sustain your relationship. Chloé says, “Everybody has their own life to live, with their gifts, talents, skills and aspirations to play it out. Not projecting my out-of-the box expectations and way of thinking onto Rick is what I have learned. In addition, I’m working on vulnerability, speaking clearly, intentionally and specifically, which is helpful in any relationship. A person's Big Life Game will come and unfold, especially if they create and follow their own life's mantra." Rick adds, "Because Chloé and I are divinely aligned, I will always be reminded to focus on our shared vision. Together, we'll follow our marriage mantra."

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Jade, Chloé, Joshua, Taylor and Rick at Chastain Park. Read more about Chloé & Rick's early years in Chloé's memoir, I Can Laugh Again: From The Valley of Grief to a Glimpse of Heaven. Available at Amazon.com

Yes, Darling,

I've gone through challenges and

trying times like

everyone else; and I do my best to focus on my

excellence, what's

good about others,

living my life in the spirit of play and good vibes, and

helping others to do the same.

~Chloé Taylor Brown

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20ATTRIBUTES OF A

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SHE IS BEAUTIFUL, KNOWLEDGEABLE & SAGACIOUS— AN INSPIRING WOMAN OF SUBSTANCE WHO GLADLY EMPOWERS OTHERS TO RISE UP AND FLOURISH WITH HER: 1. She values herself and displays IvyLeague confidence with grace and style.

2. She has keen perception. 3. She is decisive.

11. She shows up and delivers what she promises. 12. She duplicates, appreciates and acknowledges others' dreams, viewpoints, skills, visions, plans, and desires. 13. She trusts and respects herself and creates trust and respect in others.

4. She applies her knowledge.

5. She pursues worthy, big dreams. 6. She has the knowledge and discipline

to maintain and expand her dreams— and others' dreams, too.

7. She energizes her mind, body, spirit and soul, and thrives.

8. She has the ability to take action, to

occupy and maintain a position, and to take charge.

9. uses her communication abilities to She communicates masterfully and

speak truthfully, specifically and clearly to direct energy in a positive manner.

10. communication channels, contacts She has abundant, upscale and connections.

14. She is honest. 15. She is a big developer and producer.

16. Those connected to her, to her game of excellence and to her area(s) expand spiritually. 17. She has bigger dreams, visions, plans, skills, and actions. 18. She knows the value of creating her unique brand and projecting a trustworthy appearance that meets the requirements of any occasion. 19. She laughs freely, and sincerely enjoys herself, others and life. 20. She loves operating in a win/win/win manner.

Intuitive, strong, bold, prosperous, successful, healthy, and happy

—a

breath of fresh air.

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Grace FEMININE & DIVINE

by Chloé Taylor Brown

Did you know that spending some time barefoot in the sand, or on the grass or dirt, is what our bodies expect? Of course, as humans we have evolved, with our sophisticated thinking; however, our bodies crave and need earth contact. I grew up in rural Mississippi playing barefoot in the summer dirt. And as I write this piece I am reminded of those hot summer days spraying cool water on my brothers and sisters from the water hose, and then playing and splashing our bare feet in the mud we made. I'm longing for that again, and also to stroll along a long, white sandy beach in Zanzibar, Tanzania. It looks like the one above; or, I could go for one of the beautiful white sand beaches of the Florida Gulf Coast. When I am free to stroll on the beach in my flowing colorful sarong wrap, I feel more alive, at peace, creative, graceful, and grace-filled—from both a feminine and divine point of view. >

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Feminine Grace Divine Grace

Feminine Grace is poise, charm, class, and style; flow; ease of movement; simple elegance. It means to adorn, beautify, embellish and enrich.

Divine Grace is undeserved "divine" assistance; a virtue from God; favor; approval; kindness; regeneration; and charisma.

Charisma comes from the Greek word, Charismata, which means: "grace coming to visible effect." In other words, grace is a gracious gift. A charismatic woman who has embraced her femininity (feminine grace) has a personal magic of leadership about herself. She knows how to attract others to her in a positive way. She is charming, alluring, encouraging, captivating, appealing, magnetic, attractive and enchanting. The word enrich also means "grace; to make rich or richer, especially by the addition or increase of some desirable quality, attribute, ingredient or experience." In other words, enrich means: to add beauty; to make more, to improve. So then, when a woman enriches herself she is doing a beautiful thing for herself by making more of herself and improving herself in areas that truly matter to her. When a woman combines feminine grace with the charisma of divine grace, she acquires a personal magic with arousing leadership and magnetic charm. Indeed, grace is the ultimate key required for self-realization—spiritually, personally, professionally and aesthetically. The goal is to merge feminine and divine grace with our individuality and personality, and our heart's desires. This has the potential to transcend to a gracious gift that actually shows up and manifests in our daily life.

How to Enhance Grace in Your Life:

Own your divine grace and feminine power by knowing who you are as a feminine divine being. Own your grace by valuing yourself highly. Own your grace by being present, self-aware and true to yourself. Own your grace by making a clear decision about what you want, now— especially moving beyond covid-19. Own your grace by knowing how to blend and merge your personality, your individuality, your talents and your gifts to accomplish your heart's desires. Own your grace by speaking boldly and with certainty, and by showing up passionately and purposefully. By owning your grace you will stay focused and in alignment—and you will flourish.

Dirt and Sand Under Our Bare Feet is an Environmental Medicine When I played outside without shoes as a kid I didn't realize I was doing something good for myself then. In fact, it was amazing; and I've been longing to get mud—and especially sand—between my toes again real soon. Even though I couldn't explain that "kid joy," I now know I was actually absorbing environmental medicine as my feet made physical contact with the surface of the Earth. And as a country girl at heart, I know it's long past time for "grounding"—connecting with the world around me by walking barefoot on sand to reconnect with the earth and myself. Why? Because it is one way that I know I can own my grace then blend that with my heart's desire, and flourish. < FLOURISHDIGITALMAGAZINE.COM | SPRING 2021 | 53

Cuba AN INTERGENERATIONAL PERSPECTIVE: Travel to Cuba with Mother, Daughter & Granddaughter

reminiscences from:

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Museo de la Revolución As we walk into the Hotel Inglaterra in the heart of Old Havana, the 1875 neoclassical structure provides a vibrant connection to Cuba’s Spanish heritage. Since we are located in the central corner of Havana and right across the street from the Central Park, the opportunity for constant cultural activity is enticing. Each evening we enjoy the musicians and the daily ritual of Cubans sitting in the café or promenading around the park. Our visit to the Museo de la Revolución begins our adventure. This museum tracks Cuba’s history from preColumbian culture to the present socialist regime, with a strong focus on key revolutions, providing background for when Cuba finally gained independence from Spain, which led to the era of Fidel Castro (since 1959). Though the museum tracks Cuba’s history from preColumbian culture, our interest was on the second floor, which showed us the president’s office where Fidel Castro was sworn in as Prime Minister of Cuba in 1959 after the ousting of then President Batista. Castro was a Marxist–Leninist, and served as the First Secretary of the Communist Party of Cuba from 1961 to 2011. A major force initiating revolution was led by university students. Well described is the struggle of Fidel Castro in mounting an army. In one particularly well-known battle in 1953, Castro made a failed attack on the Moncada Barracks—but obviously others led to success. The events from this time until his presidency frame an interesting era of history, so with our visit we sought more understanding. Heavily publicized during the United States' John F. Kennedy Administration was the Cuban Missile Crisis (in 1962), when the Soviet Union was found to be building weapons sites in Cuba, but

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thankfully nuclear war was averted. By 1976 Fidel Castro was sworn in with the title of President, and stayed in office till 2008. What is well displayed throughout Havana and the surrounding cities and countryside are the ultimate successes of Fidel Castro. In many parks, monuments, and statues, Castro is displayed. There is little question of the vastness of this leader's popularity. Once Fidel stepped down, his brother Raúl Castro stepped in. Raúl had been by his side throughout the revolution, and carried on his legacy. The traditions and statues of the country have remained the same for decades. Miguel Díaz-Canel, who had been Raúl's second-incommand, became President of the Republic of Cuba in 2018. A depth of understanding of Cuba's history and culture will require many visits and study. Ernest Hemingway once lived just outside Havana, from 1940 to 1960. We visited his home—a lively blend of American and Cuban culture. Having known of his famous book, The Old Man and the Sea (published in 1952), it deserved a careful look. Only recently, in the last few years, has there been the freedom to visit the home and grounds of this master. Gemma wished she had known of him through his writings first. But oddly enough, the story of Ernest Hemingway, the famous Nobel Prize–winning author, was actually introduced to her when she was a student of Social Work, "because of his suicide. An unfortunate lesson learned, considering his mental health," she recalls. "His beautiful, openly airy Cuban home presents a calm environment. The surrounding grounds on this day where temperatures were above 100 degrees were representative of accommodating architecture. The home promoted the most creative of circumstances for writing." Gemma's thirst and curiosity had been quenched. A trip to Cuba made the hypothetical a reality for Christian, a twenty-year-old college student—someone who had been participating in talks about "what if'' for many years. For her, the Cuban way of life was intriguing. Cuba has moved through a good number of revolutions—evolving through colonialism, communism and socialism. Christian learned about socialism by having cautious but casual conversations with tour guides, restaurant staffers and people sitting around in the cafés. College graduates talked about the value of serving the community.

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Socialism is defined as a political and economic theory of social organization that advocates for exchange among all, regulated by the community as a whole. With the recent conflicts across the political spectrum, the talks about socialism as a political system had taken on "an idolized gloss" for Christian. "Many Americans think it's the solution to all the problems in the United States," she says. However, when she heard taxi drivers' tales of graduating at the top of their class with law degrees, only to be forced to practice for the government for two years, and then to have to drive a taxi to pay their rent—it provided her with a new perspective. "The idea that there is more money in tourism within the bignamed areas of the island than in their highly skilled trades— which they went to higher education for—was a needed wakeup call," recalls Christian, "one that reminded me that no one system is perfect, even one that is supposed to be regulated by those involved. It can still be crafted in opposition to the working class, as I saw. The more we discussed with workers around the hotels within the pristine tourism district, the more reality came to light.

The rationing of food was another interesting consequence of this governmental structure. A visit to a community near Havana was a lesson in governmental consensus. Food grown in the community through a neighborhood garden became a thriving business. The question of taxes, sharing and a community business is seen uniquely. The use of so many natural methods for growing these gardens speaks to the creative ingenuity of the people.

"Cuba made me face the realities of what we have begun to

For the past twenty years, Lisa has been a practitioner

simplify. Socialism is made by the people for the people, while

of Lucumí, an African-Caribbean spiritual tradition with

democracy has been corrupted by the wrong people gaining

roots in the spiritual practices of the Yoruba of

power and the voice to speak for large groups. But just as

Southwest Nigeria with branches practiced throughout

democracy has proven not to be the pinnacle of freedom,

the diaspora. "It is at the center of my life, my

socialism has shown itself not to be the end-all world solution

philosophy, the lens through which I view the world,

either.

and the way that I have chosen to raise my son,"

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explains Lisa. "On this, my second trip to Cuba, I was filled with anticipation to spend time and energy with members of my spiritual family as we worked together to complete a double initiation of devotees into priests of the Orisha.

"Being an initiated priestess of ten years and the mother of my son who has been initiated for five years, this trip we anticipated would allow us the opportunity to become intimately familiar with the way that our tradition was practiced in Cuba, the birthplace of our lineage in the Americas. "Upon our arrival on the island, I was reminded of how the tradition in Cuba is practiced in the open—without fear of repercussions—very different from the way that it is at home in the United States, and in particular in the Bible Belt of the South. Orisha worship exists as a part of everyone’s daily life here, and, through its syncretism with Catholicism, exists alongside the practice of Christianity in a way that is reflective of the very African ideology: that one need not have to choose between the many ways in which we can grow closer to the Creator. Having been raised Christian, and still striving daily to be Christ-like—without subscribing to some of the cultural practices and ideas that have made Christianity less of how I identify—the Cuban approach to spirituality was and is refreshing.

"Over the course of the two weeks that I was in

Nonetheless, Lisa maintains an abiding love for

Cuba," Lisa continues, "I had the opportunity to

Cuba. "The love that I felt—and the genuine

grow more deeply in love with my faith walk and

welcoming and giving spirit of the people I

spiritual practices, while deepening my

worked with—more than compensated for any

knowledge of practical means of doing the work

creature comforts that I missed. My son played

that is critical to the success of empowerment and

with children who embraced him, I made lifelong

elevation work, which I have come to understand

friends, and I look forward to a time when my

initiation to be. Moreover, I had the opportunity to

family and I can travel freely to the island."

share some of the public ceremonies with my niece and my mother who are both non-

Clearly there is much to be seen in Cuba. Sadly, as

practitioners. They had the opportunity to witness

this visit came to an end in June 2019, the easing

public ceremonies, meet my spiritual family, and, I

of relations between Cuba and the US, which had

hope, gain a deeper understanding of who I am in

begun under the Obama Administration, had

this part of my life."

returned to a closed relationship due to an announcement from the Trump Administration.

The time spent, however, was not without

These three fortunate women were among the

challenges. Though this was Lisa's second trip to

last American citizens boarding a Delta flight out

Cuba, it was her first experience staying in a home

of Cuba.

in a real neighborhood. "The First-World comforts that I am accustomed to at home were not a part

Nevertheless, a full travel ban did not materialize.

of my stay—so I had the opportunity to really gain

Still, because of the pandemic, travel to Cuba is

an understanding of the challenges of 21st-century

currently somewhat risky. However, perhaps soon,

Cuba rather than the much more sanitized version

as covid-19 travel restrictions begin to ease, a

of the country that is available in Old Havana."

revival of a more open-door policy will return. There is something for everyone in this country. These three women have proven it.

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Turn over a new

Sadiyah Adams

L E A F

Digital/Graphic Designer @flourishdigitalmagazine @sadiyah_adams

this spring Spring is upon us, and it is time to turn over that new leaf—because nothing can hold you back from achieving what your heart desires. In our last issue I spoke of acknowledging our mental health. Now it’s all about moving forward, working smart and pushing yourself to do better. Each day will be a different mountain you need to climb. Therefore, it’s important to know what you can do to make the hike easier. Bring along a way to overcome all hurdles. Nothing comes easy, yet often we expect it to be. But the only way we can achieve anything is by enforcing a habit in our lifestyle. Do you have it in you? It takes dedication, discipline and self-love. It doesn’t cost a fortune or take a lot of time. I believe that anyone of any age or in any situation can make the simplest of changes. When you do, you can become whoever and whatever you want to be. Here is how you can elevate your daily life and mental health. Trust me: this works—but only if you want it to. It's all in the mind, remember? Speak to your mind and the heart will follow. talk about your feelings

Stretch that hand out & Ask for Help

It seems difficult to open up, but trust yourself and trust the loved one you choose to open up to. Talking about your feelings can help you stay in good mental health, ready to deal with times when you feel troubled.

None of us are superhuman. We all sometimes get tired or overwhelmed by how we feel or when things don’t go to plan. If things are getting too much for you and you can’t cope, ask for help. Your family or friends may be able to offer practical help, a listening ear or just a shoulder to cry on. If that’s not an option, contact a local service: Find a professional psychologist or connect with someone to talk to on a mental healthcare line.

WORK IT OUT

Motivate yourself and set a goal that you need to achieve. A healthy body makes a healthy mind. Regular exercise can boost your self-esteem and can help you concentrate, sleep, and feel better. Exercise keeps the brain and your other vital organs healthy. Fill that tummy with all things yummy

Don’t binge on all the junk stuff—but don’t deprive yourself either. Discipline is key. Your brain needs a mix of nutrients in order to stay healthy and function well, just like the other organs in your body. A diet that’s good for your physical health is also good for your mental health. Drink sensibly (Tipsy is not the way)

A lot of people turn to alcohol when feeling low. We often drink alcohol to change our mood. Some people drink to deal with fear or loneliness—but the effect is only temporary and the aftermath never does anyone any good. Look for an alternative—an energy smoothie or just simple H2O. Be responsible for the path you choose, and bring about good changes in your daily life. Your inner circle does not define you. Keep In Touch

Yes! We all can be stubborn about not speaking to people first. Yet there’s truly nothing better than catching up with someone face to face. Since that’s not always possible, you can also give them a call, drop them a note, or chat to them online instead. Keep the lines of communication open: It’s good for you!

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Everyone deserves a Kit-Kat, Take a Break!

A change of scene or a change of pace is good for your mental health. It could be a five-minute pause from cleaning your kitchen, or a half-hour lunch break at work. Grab a book, take a walk in nature or get away for a weekend to explore somewhere new. A few minutes can be enough to de-stress you. Give yourself some "me time" every day. Good at something? Do it!

What do you love doing? What activities can you lose yourself in? What did you love doing in the past? Enjoying yourself can help beat stress. Doing an activity you enjoy probably means you’re good at it, and achieving something boosts your self-esteem. Try something new if you have to. Nothing can stop you except yourself. Accept You for You

No one can be better at being you than you. We’re all different. It’s much healthier to accept that you’re unique than to wish you were more like someone else. Feeling good about yourself boosts your confidence to learn new skills, visit new places and make new friends. Good self-esteem helps you cope when life takes a difficult turn. Care for others

Caring for others is often an important part of keeping up relationships with people close to you. It can even bring you closer together. Taking care of yourself is as important as lending a hand to others. <

Janis Hunt Johnson is a lover of words and the power behind them. An author, editor, spiritual healer, interfaith advocate, and spiritual activist, she seeks to teach, preach and heal through her writing. Learn more from her award-winning book, Five Smooth Stones: Our Power to Heal Without Medicine Through the Science of Prayer. Connect with her on Goodreads, Twitter @CSRenewal, and Facebook & Medium (CS Renewal Ministries).

Plant Seeds Jesus of Nazareth once told a vivid parable about

"Finally, the seed that’s sown in good soil is the

sowing and reaping (see Matthew 13:3–8): “As a

individual who really listens, and takes the truth

farmer scattered seed, some of it fell on the

to heart. This produces a harvest that’s much

road, and birds immediately ate it. Some seed

more than you could’ve ever imagined!”

landed on gravel and sprouted quickly, but it didn’t take root, so in the sunshine it withered. Some seed fell in the weeds, so when it germinated, the weeds strangled the plants. But some seed fell on good soil, and this produced a crop beyond your wildest dreams.”

Then Jesus explained what the story meant (see Matthew 13:18–23): “When anyone hears the God’s-honest truth, and doesn’t take it in, it just sits on the surface. Evil comes along and plucks it right out of that person’s heart: This is the seed scattered on the road. "The seed that’s thrown in the gravel is the

Keep Your Hand On The Plow Dutch painter Vincent Van Gogh was obsessed with Jesus’ parable of the sower. He drew and painted it many times. This spectacular version (seen on the following page) is the most wellknown. In many letters to his brother Theo, Vincent often described wrestling with his faith and his art: “I keep my hand to the plow, and cut my furrow steadily,” he wrote. I myself have seen this remarkable painting in person, but looking at it recently I noticed something new: A row of corn is already growing

person who hears, and instantly responds

in the background. Perhaps we can conclude

with great enthusiasm. But there’s no real

from this detail that despite all his struggles and

character there, so when the emotions wear

torments, Vincent knew deep down that a rich

off, and difficulty arises, that person doesn’t

harvest was certain, even if he couldn’t quite

stick with it.

grasp it.

"The seed thrown into the weeds is the person

Out of what some people may view as a crappy

who hears the good news, but worries take

life, Van Gogh cultivated exceptional beauty.

over—along with selfish desires that twist the

Today his works of art are some of the most

original message—until there’s nothing left.

beloved of all time. Along with sowing the seed— the soil and the toil—there has to be fertilizer: Manure gets things growing. Whether we like it or not, the dirt and the filth are a part of life! It’s

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the way things grow.

And it’s how we grow. It’s not necessarily

Hill eventually surrendered to the authorities.

pleasant. Even so, God always hands us the right

Tuff saved the lives of 870 students and 100

shovel for the job.

employees that day. She believes that everything

God Gives Us the Shovel. We Do the Digging.

she experienced before that day prepared her for

You could say that Antoinette Tuff was suffering

judgment and fear.

that moment. Therefore, she was ready to respond with love and kindness instead of with

under a pile of crap in August 2013. The school year at Ronald E. McNair Discovery Learning Academy had

Since then she’s founded a nonprofit, Kids on the

just begun, and she was deeply distracted wondering

Move for Success. She wrote a book, Prepared for

how she was going to keep her bookkeeping job there,

a Purpose: The Inspiring True Story of How One

now that her car was about to be repossessed. Also,

Woman Saved an Atlanta School Under Siege. A

her husband had just left her after 30-plus years of

short film about the incident, Dekalb Elementary,

marriage.

garnered an Oscar nomination. A Lifetime movie starring Toni Braxton, Faith Under Fire: The

As she reached out to God in prayer, 20-year-old

Antoinette Tuff Story, was released in 2018.

Michael Hill walked through the front door. Armed with an AK-47 and 500 rounds of ammunition, he

You just never know what your seed-sowing may

fired shots and said he intended to kill everyone and

yield.

then himself. When we plant good seeds, let’s look beyond the Although she was terrified, her prayers guided her to

dirt—to the harvest ahead. Depending on where

the right thing to do. She listened to the man’s

things land, some may take root, and some may

anguish, connecting with his pain. She shared her

not. But with diligent stewardship, we’ll keep

own troubles, even telling him about her attempted

making progress. As the Apostle Paul wrote,

suicide after her husband left.

“Let’s not ever grow weary of doing good, for in due time we will reap, if we don’t give up”

Talking him down—with 911 dispatch on the line— she called him “sweetie” and said she loved him.

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(Galatians 6:9).

A Pearl of Wisdom: Inspiring Generations

a Paula G. Voice interview

My Conversation with Poet, Advocate, Liaison Wanesha Spencer She is one of a kind! Her first experience with civil engagement and tear gas was at the tender age of ten. She ministered as a middle-school student through her poetry and spoken word. She’s been called an “old soul” since childhood. She bridges the gap across intergenerational differences. She is an advocate for justice. She’s poised. She’s fierce. She’s beautiful. She is Wanesha Spencer. Here's our conversation. > FLOURISHDIGITALMAGAZINE.COM | SPRING 2021 | 62

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Wanesha: It was completely my norm. But, you know, over the years, I've realized this has afforded me the opportunity to bring some people together who typically wouldn't come together for different conversations. It has also allowed me to translate between generational groups. Sometimes there are things the younger generation may do that leaves the older generation scratching their heads, and vice versa. Whenever there is a generational gap, I can be the middle person. That in itself is a blessing. Paula G.: There is so much to share about you. You are an amazing poet and spoken word artist. Tell us a bit about that. But first of all, tell us the difference between a poet and a spoken word artist—if there's a difference. Wanesha: Sure. Everyone has their own meaning. So, this is mine! But typically, a spoken word is normally memorized, and you are literally performing. It’s your words, your own personal words that you've written, and you're performing it, you're not reading. It is more of a performance—like a monologue-type style versus poetry. Typically, if it's poetry, you're actually reading that. The delivery style is different. So therein lies the difference, according to me. Paula G.: How have you been able to utilize your gift over the years? Wanesha: Oh, yes, that's a great question. Poetry for me over the years—I can honestly say it has opened doors that I know for a fact would not have been available to me otherwise. One of the first things I did as a young poet growing up was to write personalized poems for those who lost loved ones in the community. When I was about fourteen—before I was able to officially get a job and work—my grandparents realized this was a gift. Whenever we lost someone at church, the church secretary would call and ask if I would write a poem of comfort for the grieving family. I remember the first time I did it and I was like, OK, this is different. I was accustomed to writing pieces for special occasions at church. So, when that happened there was a shift. I could look at the life of someone who I've never met and create a full poem as if I knew the person. Within a few months, my Saturdays as a middle-school student were spent going to funerals, giving words of comfort. It started happening so much, my grandparents were like, "OK, this could be something." We came up with a price that we felt was suitable for a fourteen-year-old. And that's literally how I made extra money when I was a kid. And so, from there, it led to other opportunities. One of my favorites, of course, was speaking before the King family in 2017. There was a ceremony to commemorate the 50th Anniversary of the founding of the King Center. >

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Wanesha, cont.: While there, I had the opportunity to speak before the King family. I met Dr. Bernice King and Dr. King's sister, Dr. Christine Farris. I shared the stage with Mr. Hank Stewart, poet laureate who is also one of my mentors. That was an amazing experience. I've participated in a few other events, such as The Hot Chocolate Affair, which is also sponsored by Hank Stewart and the Stewart Foundation, along with so many other groups. There's Tower of Poets, Destinations. There's another group in New York that I was a part of as well—True Voices New York. And Black on Black Rhyme—I've done some work with them. And Poetic Collage. So, it's been an incredible journey.

Wanesha: I will say this—one of my favorite quotes: "Every generation has a responsibility." I take great pride in saying that. I believe that we all have a charge. There's an old hymn that goes, "A charge to keep I have, a God to glorify." I believe that we all have a charge. We all have a responsibility. Every generation has one.

Paula G.: So, you've been able to use this gift of being able to connect the generations. You've been able to utilize your poetry and spoken word to encourage, honor, and inspire from a young age. You're just a phenomenal woman who's using her gifts and using her talents to indeed flourish. Is there anything else that you'd like to share with the audience before we let you go?

Wanesha: Thank you.

Paula G.: And you are taking your responsibilities so seriously. Thank you so much for the conversation. And we wish you all the best as you continue to inspire, you continue to encourage, and you continue to use your gifts and talents to flourish. Thank you, Wanesha. <

Interviewed by Paula G. Voice www.paulagvoice.com

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We are on the cusp of Spring, you know, the time when it’s out with all of the old stuff you’ve not used—or whatever doesn’t serve you and the family anymore—and in with the new. Even though spring cleaning is hard work, we find it somewhat exciting and rewarding. Excited at the possibilities of change, of creating a clean slate to bring in what works for us now, in this season. Why stop at the house, garage and closets? Let’s explore our lives as well—what doesn’t work for us anymore. Every day is a new day filled with infinite possibilities, and springtime is a beautiful time to begin anew. Coco Chanel says, “A woman who cuts her hair is about to change her life.” True, but maybe not necessary. We can take inventory of our time, begin to get to know ourselves as a human being, and not just as a mom. Don’t get me wrong—the word just does not have a negative connotation here; it’s simply an attempt to establish an identity. We, as moms, can also find our place amongst the rest of the humans in this world. Two of my favorite tools when I begin to evolve and start something new, is visualization—and monitoring my thoughts. One of the most powerful tools we can use as moms to activate a new beginning is to practice visualization. It’s not just about closing your eyes and daydreaming. It’s actively envisioning— being detailed and specific about what you’d like your life to be.

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What does it look like, feel like, and taste like? What are your surroundings, who’s there, what are you wearing, and how’s the weather? Yes! Be that specific! Carve out a space each day to do this. It’s a treat for you. You can choose to be still and quiet, and be at one with your thoughts. Write it all down, or create a vision board filled with pictures that are aligned with what you want. Either way, plan for it, look forward to it, and your heart, belief and actions will soon follow. What we tell ourselves is quite powerful. What you say out loud—or what your inner voice says that no one else hears—affects you in a positive or negative way. So be conscious of your thoughts. If your own thought process no longer serves you, then out it goes with the rest the “stuff” you’ve cleaned out. There are many places we will go, many things to do and see—and you, mama, are born of limitless possibilities. Remember, motherhood isn’t an either/or. It’s finding innovative ways of doing both. This is only the beginning—whether your vision includes a change of career, travel, or love, or simply creating an less-hectic organized day, take time out to begin anew. Much love, peace and adventures to you!

I.M. ME!

BY JADE CHERELL STAFF WRITER, FLOURISH DIGITAL MAGAZINE

So, here we are, quarantining and socialdistancing for a year now. None of the 328 million people in this country could have foreseen it. Last year was tough; but now we’re on to bright new horizons! As I push myself to keep focusing on the bright side and on the silver lining of the 2020 wreckage, I realized that I’ve picked up quite a few new hobbies. This alone is so exciting to me—being a Gemini and jack of all trades and all. Out of the stillness of quarantine I found my creative side again. I’ve begun a few amazing art projects and started writing again. There has been time to remember my ten-year-old self sitting in my front lawn with a journal, proclaiming that I was now a writer. One of my favorite discoveries has been Mod Podge. I can actually photocopy, laser print, and transfer images onto wood, fabric, acrylic, and most other materials. I have always wanted to create beautiful colorful things and now I'm finding that I actually can create and give it a shot! I’m also learning how to play chess with my boyfriend and quarantine companion/survivor. He is an avid chess player and it was something that I haven't played since third grade after-school chess club! Springing forward, I’m remembering and cherishing what I've gained during the past twelve months. Yes, this has been a scary time, but we’ve made it thus far. We can all continue to make it. And even add arts and crafts, writing, woodworking, or any hobby that you’ve been itching to give a try. I mean, why not? We’ve certainly all got the time to sit back and think about what would really bring us joy today. And for me, it's been coloring and trying new artistic mediums. Springing forward, I’m springing into things I’ve always wanted to do, no matter how grandiose or humble. <

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SHE IS YVONNE MCCORMICK BEFORE YOU SHINE IN THE LIGHT,

YOU MUST GLOW IN THE DARK.

An ExV Agency conversation with Zuri Design Company owner, Yvonne McCormick EXV: Yvonne, you are a creative designer with a very international background—from North Pole, Alaska to Germany and beyond. What has it been like, hunkering down during the pandemic, and how have you managed to stay creative during such a challenging time? YVONNE: Design is the recognition and response to the world and the creativity within and around me. The impact of the pandemic and the restrictions on in-person interactions challenged me to adapt to everyone's expressions. There were dark times during this pandemic, not only with the lives lost but also the political and racial unrest of 2020. At times, I found it challenging to tap into my imagination and creativity. All of my designs started to take on a sharp, hard-edged tone like the world around me. Even though I couldn't travel or experience the world as before, I reflected on the world in my creative work. >

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AT A FUNDAMENTAL LEVEL, EVERY HUMAN ON THIS PLANET DESIRES TO CREATE A GOOD

CONNECTION WITH OTHERS AT SOME POINT.

YVONNE, CONTINUED: Being creative and positive remained challenging, but I worked hard to keep a healthy routine. I created new designs almost every day. I gained a deeper understanding of creative thinking while adjusting, and watching others adapt their lives and express themselves in new ways. I focused on the human experience and listened to how people felt, and tried to capture the art in it all. Being able to communicate in a visually appealing manner— and have others emotionally experience my art or design, even thru a pandemic—is the ultimate achievement. EXV: How has your international background influenced the way you deal with clients from different backgrounds and cultures? YVONNE: Growing up as a Black American woman from Alaska, who lived and worked worldwide, I benefit from having an entire life of shared cultural experiences. Whether I'm working with clients or other creatives, I understand that every part of a design is an expression of our identity and life experiences.

I am a curious person by nature, and I think it is my go-to when I am faced with a difference, since it allows for a natural engagement. I try to connect openly and fluidly with clients from a curious position— ask questions, listen carefully and find shared concepts or inspirations to build on during a project.

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At a fundamental level, every human on this planet desires to create a good connection with others at some point. I try to tap into this collective desire when helping clients reach their customers—while also understanding that inherently, because of our differences, we may have a varied perspective at times. Design helps us understand who we are by translating our views into a visible or tangible outward expression of shared humanity. That is all design is. In a sense, we are designing our lives every single day. Understanding that every human is creative allows me to observe and respect others while also learning who I am in that observation. EXV: You recently moved from Colorado to North Carolina. What advice do you have for other business owners looking to make similar big changes while running a business and managing their families and other obligations? YVONNE: Creativity requires both physical strength and mental focus, and you only have so much available each day that you can apply to run a business.

When life changes occurred and took up more of my attention, there was less mental space and far less creative quiet time. Still, I stayed on a personal routine that would allow me to focus. I practiced meditation at 5:00 AM on most days, and decided to let go of things I couldn't control. >

YVONNE CONTINUED: I recommend a similar routine for any business owner to help manage stress and prevent burnout. Know when to stop and start working each day, but don't be confined to one way of doing things. Set a routine and establish a business process and then go with the flow. Adjust when needed.

My corporate background helped me understand the value of formal business processes instead of thinking about every step or business action each day. Spending time up front to set up a business routine can save time and energy on administrative work or solve preventable business problems. EXV: Spring is in the air—a time for new beginnings for everyone. Do you have any springtime resolutions or rituals to share that might help us take on the new season with positivity and grace? YVONNE: Choose what makes your heart bloom. Write down what makes you happy, and then do those things. Seeing something written has a specific power to it.

Ask yourself, "Who am I now?" and “Who do I want to be?” and go be that. I've learned that when you take action on a plan, the world around you has no choice but to bend to your reality. Lastly, remember to be OK with only taking on opportunities that feel good in your soul and reflect your values.

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EXV: Do you have anything exciting coming up for Zuri Design Company this year that you'd like to share? YVONNE: I'm looking forward to selecting a company for the 2021 Beautiful Brand Award. The award is an annual campaign where Zuri honors one company with a new and free brand identity or brand identity refresh—as a way of giving back to those who give so much. We do this so that these beautiful brands can focus on their unique products or services that better our world.

Our 2020 Winner, Melanin Library, is off to a great start this year with a new brand identity to complement its mission and vision of creating and promoting books by Black authors that feature Black and Brown main characters. EXV: Any words of wisdom to share with other creatives out there struggling during the pandemic? YVONNE: Practice gratitude. There is beauty in every experience, even the difficult ones. Someone once said to me that you're never in the wrong place; you're always in the right place looking at things the wrong way.

Take care of yourself first. Know that selfcare can be an uncomfortable thing if you're not used to it, but it's worth it. Be kind to yourself. Understand that you are not required to develop the next great business idea or some life-altering concept while surviving a pandemic. Practice being still. For some creatives, not thinking and not doing so much all the time is precisely what is needed. Know that this is temporary. Understand that sometimes before you shine in the light, you must glow in the dark. <

BETTER BUSINESS

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BY KAREN GAMBA & FRANK CARLISI

ATTRACTING SERIOUS BUYERS After a challenging year and a dreary

EXV: You have built a big part of your

winter, our team at the ExV Agency is

career on the ability to forge and grow

looking forward to Spring, new beginnings

relationships. What advice do you have for

and positive insights from more members

professionals looking to build professional

of the business community. We recently

relationships during the pandemic?

sat down with Dana Bartle, who is the Director of Community Experience at RXR.

DANA: At the start of the pandemic, our

RXR Realty is a real estate owner,

company launched a volunteer network

manager, and developer located in New

called RXRVolunteer. The platform was

York City and the surrounding areas of

created to connect local nonprofits and

Westchester County, Long Island, New

businesses impacted by covid-19 with

Jersey, and Connecticut.

volunteers from the RXR community of employees, tenants, vendors, partners,

EXV: How have you continued to build

investors and friends. At a moment when

relationships with your community during

we were all trapped in our houses and

such a challenging time?

disconnected from so much, RXRVolunteer gave me a great, altruistic

DANA: I came on board [at RXR] just

way to reach out to my network and

before the pandemic began, so I only had

encourage participation.

about two weeks in the building before we were all sent home to quarantine.

The contacts I already had in my network

While not an ideal situation, it did mean

were so eager to help in any way, that

that I had to really embrace virtually

RXRVolunteer became a great way to

connecting to our tenants in order to

reach out and stay connected with my

build a rapport. As such, I tried to set up

network, while also giving my contacts a

virtual video meetings with as many of our

great way to give back. It also enabled me

tenants as possible to introduce myself

to grow my network—as I was paired with

and get acquainted. We also relied heavily

four different organizations to help them

on social media and virtual programming

turn their traditional in-person fundraisers

to try and bring some connection to

into virtual fundraisers. That opportunity

everyone. Once we got back into the

really nourished me at a time when we all

building, we worked to create a robust

needed a little hope.

curriculum of engagement to really animate the community. We have also

The team at the ExV Agency was one of

partnered with some great brands to

the contacts that I reached out to, to

bring our tenants nice perks, and we host

participate in RXRVolunteer, and in

frequent lunch-and-learns, which are fun

particular ExV helped the Wendy Hilliard

and engaging.

Gymnastics Foundation in such a tremendous way; it is, to date, one of our biggest success stories!

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CREATIVITY IS A BIG PART OF MY PERSONALITY EXV: What advice do you have for people

DANA, CONTINUED: Creativity is a big

looking to create an impact within their

part of my personality, so I try and do one

communities through volunteering, pro-

creative thing just for me every day.

bono work or other initiatives?

Recently, I created a "365 photography challenge" for myself, where I take one

DANA: There are so many opportunities

photo a day of something that made me

out there to really help, but I honestly

smile. I also try and listen to one new

cannot say enough good things about

album a week from start to finish.

RXRVolunteer. The program really takes

Creativity feeds creativity—so you have to

the time to hand-select the perfect

keep the muscle moving!

partner for businesses and nonprofits to get the help they need. The service is

EXV: Do you have anything exciting

completely free, and our volunteers have

coming up at RXR that you’d like to share

made such an impact in so many

with our readers?

communities. The clients I was paired with still reach out regularly to say hello

DANA: We launched a year-long

and continue to thank me. At a time

exploration of allyship in November, and it

when we all feel so isolated, the sense of

has been a really great initiative thus far.

connection I got from helping those in

Our first iteration was a speaker

need really sustained me.

series moderated by The Darkest Horse and featuring some of our tenants in

EXV: Spring is in the air—a time for new

conversation about the ways in which

beginnings for everyone. Do you have any

they work to build allyship.

springtime resolutions or rituals to share that might help us take on the new season with positivity and grace? DANA: Positivity is really important, and it

is something I try to embody as much as possible, like staying grateful for all the things you do have in your life. Setting your intention every day to have that day be the best it can be. You never know when you wake up in the morning if this day may be one of the days you remember for the rest of your life, so try and make it count.

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STAY CONNECTED TO THE IMPORTANT PEOPLE IN YOUR

DANA, CONTINUED: This month, we are exploring allyship through the lens of history-making with a

lunch-and-learn from Black Gotham Experience founder Kamau Ware. Kamau is discussing the process of unearthing the hidden transcripts of history and his recent commission for The Shed, Fighting Dark , which takes participants through the 1863 New York City race riots.

Being a true ally means recognizing that the work of it is perpetual and meaningful. My hope is to find unique ways to bring the exploration of allyship forth so that people see that being an ally means bringing allyship into every aspect of your life. EXV: Any final words of wisdom to share with others out there to remain positive, creative and

connected? DANA: Stay connected to the important people in your life. Make time for them, even when you are

exhausted and all you want to do is go to bed. It doesn’t have to be a Zoom—it can be a phone call, or a group text or a book club. My friends and I have had a book club we call "Book Expo" for over seven years. Traditionally we got together to share books, drink wine and connect. And while we may not be able to meet in person, we stay connected in other ways. After seven years we have all become really close and we lean on each other for everything from professional support to book recommendations. EXV: What three songs or artists are on your Spring playlist? DANA : This is a list of four—but I love music so culling my list down was hard ! Sault, Rhye, Moses Sumney and Khruangbin.

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It’s Spring! This is a great time to do some Spring cleaning, especially with your finances. Organizing guru Marie Kondo advises us to keep those things that “speak to the heart” and discard items that “no longer spark joy.” De-cluttering your finances will be hard and complicated at times, but the ultimate goal is having enough money to do the things that bring you joy—like taking care of your family, buying the house of your dreams, sending your children to the college of their dreams, or going on your family’s dream vacation.

GET INFORMED Many people don’t review their pay stubs, bank statements, retirement and pension statements, or other investment statements. They also don’t look at their mortgage, student loan, or credit card statements. In fact, most people do the minimum necessary to pay their bills and file their taxes.

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The first step is to review your pay stubs to understand how much money you’re making and how much money is being taken out for employee benefits and taxes. Check with the company’s human resources department to make sure you’re taking full advantage of employee benefits for insurance and retirement. And, consider whether you’re claiming the right number of dependents. You should next review your bank statements. This will give you a clearer picture of what money is regularly coming into your household and what money is regularly going out of your household. Is more going out each month than is coming in? Are you spending every dollar you make, and then some? Next, you should closely examine your retirement and other investment account statements. These accounts represent your investment assets. Do you know what you’re invested in and why? If you don’t understand something, contact your human resources department or your financial professional for answers. >

The final step is to know what you owe. Go through your mortgage, student loan, car loan, and credit card statements. What interest rate are you paying, what is your outstanding balance, what is the due date, and what is your minimum payment? If there is anything you don’t understand, call the lender to have their representative explain it.

ELiMiNATE THE UNNECESSARY Now that you know and understand your current financial situation, look for ways to eliminate the unnecessary. For example, when reviewing your bank and credit card statements, did you identify any streaming, music, or gaming subscription services that you don’t use or you don’t need? It may seem like a small amount, but over a year, a $10 monthly charge adds up to $120. And if you can cancel more than one service, it could add up to hundreds of dollars saved over a year. Late fees and overdraft charges are the next unnecessary things to eliminate. Pay attention to the due dates on your debts. Set up autopay or schedule alarms on your phone so you’re never late again. Check your bank account regularly online or through a mobile app so you don’t end up owing expensive overdraft charges. You should also work on eliminating unnecessary credit card debt. Start with the credit card with the lowest balance, even if it has a higher interest rate. Pay double or triple the minimum amount until the debt is gone. Then, work on the credit card with the next lowest balance until it’s down to zero, and so on with the rest. I don’t recommend closing credit card accounts because this may adversely affect your credit score. But, once a debt has been paid in full, put the card away and don’t use it again unless you can pay the new debt off in full within 30 days.

The last things to consider eliminating are bad financial habits. My weaknesses are expensive lattes and online shopping. While I still treat myself every now and then, not giving into the temptation every week has brought great joy to my bank account. What bad habits can you eliminate that will add up to more money in the bank over the long term?

MAKE A PLAN You now know your income, employee benefits, investment assets, expenses, and debts. Develop a routine to check these items on a regular basis. You’ve also taken steps to eliminate unnecessary fees and charges, credit card debts, and bad financial habits. With this knowledge and freed up money, put together a savings and spending plan, or what some people call a budget, and stick to it. There are several mobile apps to help you do this easily. A portion of your savings should first go to build an emergency fund, which should contain 3 to 6 months of your income. An emergency fund is solely for unexpected expenses like when the refrigerator breaks down or you need new tires for your car. The remainder of your regular savings should go towards building wealth for financial security and doing those things that bring you joy. Consider working with a financial professional to help you make informed decisions based on your particular financial situation and goals. Money is a means to an end, not the end itself. <

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PI T C by Victoria Moore-McMiller I am a Generation Z businesswoman and junior at Cornell University's School of Hotel Administration

UR E S,

PLEASE.

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GET THE SHOT!

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IT'S BUSINESS,

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PERSONAS

A WAY TO CREATE & LIVE A BIGGER, MORE JOYFUL LIFE by Chloé Taylor Brown

A persona is not your real inner Self. Most personas are created by default—and people think that's them. Why? Because we're not taught or trained to create and design our own life. A persona can help us be more intentional. It is a person's social, business or public façade, front or identity. A persona reflects the role(s) we play in life or those we're getting ready to play. When you're ready to elevate and level up, make a decision about what you really want to accomplish; then determine what you need to take away from or to add to your current personality, image, verbal and nonverbal language, and the characteristics you need to project publicly to help you accomplish your goals. Think of Sasha Fierce. She helps Beyoncé accomplish her goals as an entertainer on stage; and together, they win. >

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BLEND PERSONAL GOALS, PASSIONS, COMMUNICATION STYLE, BODY LANGUAGE AND FASHION TO CREATE PERSONAS— TO LIVE A BIGGER LIFE!

With these questions answered, you will have a better understanding of the big picture for your life and how you want to advance and play it out— which determines your ideal wardrobe and what will work best for you. At the same time you will project your authentic image. When you began designing, creating and perfecting your authentic image, it is necessary to take into account the roles

What kind of relationship are you having with

or role you will be playing in your life, as well as

your clothes? Fashion and clothing have the

your lifestyle.

power to influence you in a profound way. This effect can be positive or negative; and it can

If you are the vice president of marketing at a

have a major impact upon your self-esteem,

Fortune 500 Company, your work attire will

your mood and the impressions you make on

probably be quite different from a middle-school

other people. The messages that your clothing

special-education teacher. And no doubt, your

convey can profoundly affect the perceptions of

lifestyle would probably be different as well. If you

others, and they affect you as well. And

are an art dealer you will probably dress differently

because of this, it is always to your advantage

from an accountant or a radiologist. Even a

to dress for effect and to look the part. But

television news anchor would dress differently from

what part are you playing? Have you clearly

a film editor.

defined the “Big Life Game” you want to play? Are you urban, suburban, small town, international As individuals and professionals, though, we

or rural? Are you married or single? Do you have

have a collection of self-images and personas

children? What is your age? Do you work from

to choose from. It is important that we

home? Are you constantly on video conferencing

understand that the choice of image at any

calls? Do you travel often? Do you entertain friends

given time is based on role demands, and on the

and family and/or clients and business associates?

Life Game we have chosen to play.

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lounge, cook, garden or write?

My point is, all of these multidimensional parts of who you are being, or want to be, must be taken into consideration in order for you to be authentic in the way you're expressing yourself visually.

Please: Before

BE AUTHENTIC AND GIVE YOUR WARDROBE A FRESH, ENERGETIC WORKOUT BY:

you take on the task of completing a

closet evaluation, auditing your wardrobe and purchasing new pieces to include into your existing wardrobe, I want you to understand the social significance of clothing. It's important to understand the relationship between fashion, body image, identity

Assessing everything that you have in your closets and drawers.

and personas. As I have indicated, people judge you based on how you look and the clothes you wear. Make your clothes work for you, not against you.

Clearing out everything that is not consistent with your Big Life Game of who you are and where you're headed in your life, now.

Most successful people build wardrobes that take them where they want to go in life. With that being said, I encourage you to sincerely consider the big

Caution:

picture for your life and the Big Life Game you want Unless you’re clear about your direction in to play and succeed in; otherwise, your endeavors

life, you may find yourself creating a persona that may feel superficial, staged and ineffective. is inauthentic, and in fact, incongruent with your true essence and where you really want to go. Now, Like many women I know, you probably have clothes in listen, if your goal is to create characters for your your closet that you have not worn for years, and life then that's fine. Go for it. This can be necessary there are possibly pieces in your wardrobe that you at times. In fact, some careers even demand have not worn at all. Get rid of these clothes, Darling. various personas. But if your objective is to create Someone else can really use them and would be so and project a reliable, trustworthy, approachable very pleased to have them. But, first, I want you to and sustainable appearance which meets the understand why you have these unworn pieces— requirements of any occasion, then let's get down and clothes that misrepresent you—hanging in your to making this happen and getting ready for the closet in the first place. moment.

ask yourself: What do I want to communicate about myself to the world?

In order to do this, I want to show you how your lifestyle—which is created from your Big Life Game, and your fashion personality type, combined with your body type and shape, will give you every advantage to looking absolutely fabulous and appropriate for any

How important is my image to my success in becoming who I want to be and in communicating what I want others to know about me?

and all occasions, Darling. Integrating all of these elements into the way you think about your visual appearance helps you to understand what works amazingly well—and what does not work—in creating your professional persona(s), the wardrobe, and the image to match that helps you accomplish what you

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have intended to accomplish. All the best.

Flowers are a gift to this earth. As Gerard De Nerval once said, “Every flower is a soul blossoming in nature.” They paint contrasting colors along the ground and bring joy to many. Their elegance and delicate touches have us all in awe and exhilaration. This is often why flowers are seen as loving gifts for the special people in our lives, and the reaction of the person receiving the flowers is priceless.

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by Janis Hunt Johnson

My husband and I were married in 1994. Describing life as simply having its “ups and downs” since then doesn’t even cut it. Yet despite our many challenges, somehow we always find a way to survive and thrive—together. Guess what: We keep listening, learning, adjusting, improving—and it gets easier. And then it doesn’t. Again. Does that mean give up? Never. Case in point: When we’d been married about ten years, I thought my husband was having an affair. I’d come across some love letters written to him from his assistant. They were months old, so if something had happened, it was probably over. He and I had gone through a difficult time a year before. But after counseling, prayer, and hard work, our marriage was much stronger.

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The possibility of infidelity still worried me, but for three months I said nothing, because it would have been hypocritical. I’d almost had an affair myself. I recalled Jesus’ words, “He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.” This was Jesus’ answer when Jewish elders surrounded an adulteress and asked that he condemn her to death by stoning. After he spoke, they drifted away, ashamed. Jesus asked: “‘Woman, where are your accusers? Has no man condemned you?’ She answered, ‘No man, Lord.’ And Jesus said, ‘I don’t condemn you, either: Go, and sin no more’” (see John 8:3–11).

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I prayed about this on my walks around a pond near where I worked at the time. While strolling past the resident ducks and Canada geese, I asked God—that is, Love itself—to show me the way. Prayer for me is listening and learning to reflect Love, the true nature of each of us. Mary Baker Eddy, 19th-century spiritual pioneer, wrote in her seminal work, Science and Health: “Know thyself, and God will supply the wisdom and the occasion for a victory over evil. Clad in the panoply of Love, human hatred cannot reach you.” Following a brief separation, our daughter (who was five years old at the time) had innocently mentioned that she wished my husband’s assistant were her stepmom. My heart sank. I again feared the breakup of our family. Yet soon I realized that I had been this woman; I had behaved the same way. Her gushing letters were shameful. I, too, in my past infatuation for another man, had made an enormous fool of myself. If I could be forgiven, so could she. Not knowing whether she was still in love with my husband, I developed compassion for her. I also became aware that I was jealous of all the time she was spending with him at work. But as I prayed about this, I discovered that the word jealousy can also mean vigilance, so I decided to replace any envy I had with attentiveness to my husband and daughter. I doubled my efforts to guard our family’s sanctity. Whenever I thought of this woman, I blessed her, trusting she would do the right thing.

My husband and I had already overcome so much. I wasn’t about to give up now. I treasured this passage from the chapter “Marriage” in Science and Health: “The good in human affections must have ascendency over the evil and the spiritual over the animal, or happiness will never be won.” I persevered, awaiting further divine guidance. The next answer came—from a goose. In early March while on my walk, a goose came flying toward my head. You can’t imagine the imposing wingspan of this creature coming straight at me! I ducked behind a tree, assuring him I would retreat. I saw his mate nesting nearby. He was only trying to protect his family.

I saw his mate nesting nearby. He was only trying to protect his family.

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Days passed, many geese were nesting, the males aggressively defending their posts. I eventually became fearless in the face of the frequent hissing and runs at my head. When I showed respect, they’d let me pass. The more I expressed honor and appreciation for the vigilance of the geese, the less fear and resentment I felt toward the woman. On the first day of Spring—one year to the day after my husband and I had briefly separated, at the time seeing no way out but divorce—we awoke at a campsite with our daughter. Sunshine streamed through the California redwoods, and the promise of a new beginning filled my heart with inexpressible joy. The night before, in front of a crackling campfire, we’d finally talked about the affairs that almost were. (In both, the males had remained steadfast to their mates.) We’d burned the letters and toasted marshmallows to our renewed love, and to our family united. Back at the pond a few weeks later, I saw three new families of geese. The parents strutted as they led their children along the path. “Yes, I agree,” I answered. “You should be very proud!” I knew just how they felt. After another year, my husband’s assistant got married. Love always cares for each of us! Since then, our marriage has deepened even more—yet we still have plenty of problems to handle, especially in the face of the covid-19 shutdown. Our daughter had to leave her college study abroad program early and has graduated from college remotely, quarantined at home with us for a whole year. My husband, an entertainment professional, has been mostly without work. We’ve endured the illness of his mom and the passing of my dad. We wonder when we’ll get our empty nest back—and then what? Through it all, our abiding faith in the power of Love remains vigilant. FLOURISHDIGITALMAGAZINE.COM | SPRING 2021 | 95

LITTLE SPRING

AND CLEANING FOR THE BODY & MIND

There are more signs each day that are telling us Spring is in the air. I look out of my office window and the tree in my front yard is starting to bud. I hear more birds singing, and the days are blessing us with

Reduce the meat. Exchange meat products with whole grains and legumes. Enjoy a meatless Monday. Add quinoa, chickpeas, black beans and lentils to your weekly menu.

more sunshine and warmer weather. This part of Spring I love, but when I hear the words "Spring cleaning," it can be a bit overwhelming. I am thinking about closets, drawers and that space in my garage I have

Reduce the caffeine. Exchange coffee with herbal teas. Enjoy peppermint and ginger tea. These teas help aid digestion.

been ignoring since last Spring. Reduce refined carbohydrates. Fortunately, I have learned to change the way I see it and to make Spring cleaning something a little different. My new

Exchange white rice for brown rice. Enjoy adding sweet potatoes to your recipes, instead of white potatoes.

perspective, is this: “I am releasing what no longer serves my life, body and mind, to make space for what does.” This approach has helped me come into this season with

Now, let’s focus on the mind. How can we REDUCE, EXCHANGE and ENJOY, so we can clean some clutter from our minds?

lovingkindness and more compassion—and a better focus on what needs to happen with the things, situations and people in my life.

Reduce one thing off your to-do list. Exchange it for some “me time.” Enjoy a walk in the park, read a good

I invite you to sit with this perspective as

book, or just take a day to rest.

you continue to read this article. Reduce the noise in your mind. Let’s start with a Spring cleanse for the body.

After a season of eating heavier

foods, being inside more from the winter

Exchange it for a time of prayer and meditation. Enjoy 10–15 minutes praying and meditating, daily.

and not moving as much as we did during the warmer months, our bodies may need a jumpstart. A Spring cleanse may be just the thing. Here are few simple things you can do to get started.

Reduce the expectations. Exchange the mindset of needing to say yes to every project with a no. Enjoy that space of being able to do what truly matters in your life.

First off, think of these words:

REDUCE, EXCHANGE and ENJOY

Reduce the clutter in your home. Exchange the attitude of having to

Reduce the sugar. Exchange sugary desserts with more whole foods. Enjoy fruits—like blueberries, blackberries and strawberries. These fruits are sweet, but low in sugar and calories.

Reduce the dairy. Exchange the diary for non-dairy products. Enjoy almond, cashew and coconut milk. They make

get all done—with focusing on one room, one drawer, one closet at a time. Enjoy the little wins as you go.

Reduce the negative thinking. Exchange one negative thought that plays over and over in your mind, for one positive thought. Enjoy writing it down and putting it some place you can see it daily.

a wonderful alternative.

I hope this new way of looking at Spring cleaning will inspire you to find more ways to release what no longer serves your life, body and mind, so you may have space for what does.

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SPRING 2021

As we approach warmer seasons, we welcome a new opportunity to grow and expand our awareness—to elevate our consciousness. With all that’s going on in the world, it’s imperative that we pay attention and educate ourselves on every level. In order for us to flourish we have to be informed. Take this moment to reflect and refresh in mind, body and spirit. Let’s flourish together. Stay safe and be well! Until next issue! Best, Seane Shaw Chief Creative Officer Flourish Digital Magazine

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