RATE YOUR MATE before its too late
THE PROBLEM 1. Every day 4 women die in the United States as a result of domestic violence. 2. Every year approximately 132,000 women report that they have been victims of rape or attempted rape. And more than half of them knew their attackers. 3. Every year 1.2 million women are forcibly raped by their current or former male partner. 4. 30% of college students report dating abuse. 5. The divorce rate for first marriages is 48% 6. The divorce rate for second marriages is 67% 7. The divorce rate for third marriages is 73% Despite all of the relationship books, relationship therapists, relationship podcasts, we are continuing to spiral downwards when it comes to finding and maintaining healthy relationships.
Why is this happening? And more importantly, what if anything, are we prepared to do about it? RELATIONSHIPS FAIL FOR 4 REASONS 1. If each person is not emotionally and psychologically healthy, it is not possible to have a healthy long-term relationship with anyone. 2. The majority of people have no idea whatsoever, about what ingredients go into a healthy long-term relationship or marriage. 3. If you don’t know (2), you are in no position to be able to assess who’s right (or wrong) for you. 4. The majority of men and women are unfortunately, lacking in emotional communication and problem-solving skills. OUR CULTURE Just look at the television reality shows like the Bachelor, Marriage at First Sight and the Housewives of New York and Beverly Hills. Or tune into any Life Time movie. Dysfunctional relationships are glamorized in the media. We can’t get enough of the celebrity talk shows that talk endlessly about Angelina and Brad’s on-going drama and Jennifer Aniston’s 22
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relationship heartbreaks. Just look at the media coverage and attention that Charlie Sheen and Mel Gibson and Lindsay Lohan and others receive describing their abusive and volatile relationships.
and famous clientele are no different from the people who I have treated from the Inner City areas of Montreal, Providence and Manhattan.
Both groups know virtually nothing about what ingredients go into a healthy On the surface, these television shows can relationship, nor have they learned and be viewed as innocent entertainment. developed the emotional communication However, their messages about and problem-solving skills necessary to relationships and marriage make a maintain and sustain a relationship. mockery of what it takes to have a THE SOLUTION healthy, long-lasting relationship. The 10-Step Fail-Safe Formula That Will Also, how many people were fortunate Change the Way You Look at enough to have positive role models for Relationships Forever- It May Even Save parents to teach them about loving Your Life! relationships? And finally, if we haven’t We spend more time researching cars, been taught about what ingredients go into a healthy relationship and if we rely grams of fat and real estate than we do our partners. Think back to how you often on misleading portrayals of love in thought you knew everything there was to movies, television and popular music, how can we then expect people to be able know about your partner. You believed that the person you were in love with was to make healthy choices about their relationships? The reality is that we can’t exactly whom he/she seemed to be. You were sure that you had found your life and we don’t. partner and perfect match. Then Many people believe that the best way to suddenly without warning you realize build stronger families is to attack the that you are headed for disaster. Your barriers keeping people from achieving relationship is in shambles. Your mind is their full potential. Issues like poverty, spinning. What went wrong? Chances are racism, sexism, unemployment t and the signs were there all along. You just addictions are often cited as primary didn’t know what to look for. reasons for the breakdown of But what if I told that there was a 10-step, relationships. And although these are contributing factors to marital and family fail-safe formula, already successfully strife, removing these barriers alone will used by thousands of men and women around the world for assessing who’s not solve the problem. right or wrong for you BEFORE In the past 35 years I have treated some of committing to any serious relationship? the wealthiest, best educated and most Would you not want to know about it? In successful people in Canada and the fact, would you not want to share this United States. And I can definitively say important information with everyone you that the relationship problems of my rich know and love?
