SSOHO OHO and Self Confidence
Written by Charlotte Falvey Models: Mia Kroeger & Deirdre Merritt Photographer: Mia Pollack Stylist: Carson Waldron Layout by Prutha Chavan
Wandering the streets of Soho last weekend, I had fluttering thoughts pop into my head. The sun was perfectly hitting the pavement—the ideal summer to fall transitional weather. I was wearing jeans and a blouse, paired with white platform sneakers. I was content with my outfit, subtle yet fashionable. My hair was pulled back into a low bun, which my mom hates, but I continue to wear every day. My friends and I were popping in and out of stores, window shopping, and just enjoying a nice day amidst all of the hustle and bustle. As we kept walking and peoplewatching, I felt so out of place. I didn’t feel cool enough, let alone trendy enough to be there. These
thoughts lingered all day. I didn’t have the Dior Saddle bag, the oversized sunglasses, or the size 24 boyfriend jeans. I didn’t have the nude monochromatic look that screamed Hailey Bieber—let alone the confidence to pull it off. These thoughts were so negative and toxic. I wasn’t alone in feeling this way as my friends made comments like, “I feel so out of place” or “do we belong here?” These negative thoughts can take over your day if you don’t turn them around. These thoughts linger in my mind and attack my self esteem. They manifest into feelings that don’t go away in a moment. I always have to remind myself of a few things: at the end of the day everyone belongs, everyone is cool enough, and everyone is welcome. It takes time, but feeling comfortable in your own skin is so important. Style is an extension of yourself, showing off your confidence and sexiness. We have to own our style. It is not meant to mask who we are, but rather to show off who we are. So instead of doubting myself, I am trying hard to rewire my brain through affirmations and positive self-talk. Whether it is standing in the mirror pointing out what you love about yourself, or even setting aside a few minutes each day to journal and reflect. Learning to love from within rather than comparing yourself with others will ultimately change your life. So, the next time I am down in Soho I am going to keep my head up, stand tall, and take the streets by storm. Confidence is never going out of style. 49
