Eros

Part # 1

Physical desire

http://www.psychologycharts.com/six-love-styles.html

Eros is known as “love at first sight”.

Eros is based on a strong physical and/or emotional attraction.

Eros is

passion

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It is the passion which motivates us to act.

https://medium.com/better-advice/sternbergs-triangle-of-love-a8a868468136

http://www.robertjsternberg.com/love

Romantic love is often spontaneous.

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/good-organisations_love-as-a-virtue-activity-6994981990542286848-1CHR

One of the most significant features of sexual desire is that it puts us in the position of needing another very much.

Eros is a passionate and intense love that arouses romantic feelings. Eros is an emotional and sexual love.

http://typesoflove.org/four-types-of-love-greek-style/

Sexual reproduction appeared on Earth because the intermingling of genetic material from two different organisms produced more adaptive results than the self-replication of a single organism.

So variations evolved that made sexual reproduction more interesting than other ways to spend our time. Central to those variations were the evolution of genitals that produce intense pleasure when stimulated. https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/2715340060

In the years after the first world war, the underlying idea was that love was the child of sexual pleasure, and that if two people learn how to satisfy each other sexually, they will love each other.

The idea was that knowledge of the correct sexual techniques leads to sexual happiness and love. https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/2451158545

Because romantic love intrinsically involves a lowering of defences, vulnerability and heightened sensitivity, people are needier, more childlike, more easily hurt, angrier and more jealous than in any other interpersonal situation.

Although it is one of our most common experiences, none of us knows what sex is like for anyone else. https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/2715340060

We think of sexuality as deeply personal and private because it is intense and because it surges from within us.

Part # 2

Oneness / unity

Erotic love is the craving for complete union with another person

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In erotic love, two people, who were separate, become one. https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/2451158545 Pages 47-48.

What characterizes Eros in an urge to hug.

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https://www.linkedin.com/posts/good-organisations_love-as-a-virtue-activity-6994981990542286848-1CHR

Eros also includes a physical desire to be with, be appreciated and be happy together

In desire, we search for missing pieces of ourselves and for something beyond ourselves.

Erotic love is based on polarity.

Today, we experience that men and women become the same. The polarity of the sexes is disappearing - and with it erotic love. Just as modern mass production requires standardization of things, the social process requires standardization of human beings. https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/2451158545

Part # 3

Ego

Sexuality is, by its very nature, antisocial.

http://typesoflove.org/four-types-of-love-greek-style/

Eros focuses more on the self than on the other person.

Among values related to Eros are autonomy and selfishness.

Sex does not unite. It separates. In sex, you are in a relationship with yourself. Each person is, to a large extent, on their own.

The pleasure you feel, when you have sex, moves you away from the other person.

https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/4740106576

Romance can fade by being reduced to purely sexual encounters.

Why does that happen? Because

romance is driven by desire

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Desire is difficult to reconcile with other forms of love such as respect and admiration.

In Christian theology, it was not erotic love that flourished. Christianity turned erotic love into something else – perhaps still the love of one’s wife or husband, but no longer particularly sexual, no longer personal.

On the positive side, love became a form of idealization – an attempt to transform one’s own self interests. On the negative side, the Christian conception of love was inhuman, as it denied our natural impulses.

Part # 4

Objectification

Eros has to do with wanting something.

Eros is related to people’s fondness and passion for objects.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/finding-light-in-the-darkness/201902/what-does-love-mean

Our sexuality is the animal within us. It drives us towards excess and indecency.

Part # 5

Curiosity and novelty

An enemy of eroticism is attachment

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Desire seeks novelty, adventure and surrender.

Among values related to Eros are novelty, curiosity, mystery, adventure and play.