Prevent stress
Question # 1 What is important for you now?
Priority from 1 to 4
How important is your work now? How important is your partnership now? How important are your friends now? How important is your family now? How important is personal life now? Adapted from http://hbr.org/web/2013/06/assessment/are-you-focusing-on-whats-important https://hbr.org/2014/03/reduce-stress-by-pursuing-four-way-wins
Question # 2
Are you focusing on what you can control?
Focus on what you can control.
http://hbr.org/tip?date=083111
Focus on the things you can control such as the way you choose to react to problems. Many things in life are beyond our control - particularly the behaviour of other people. Stop trying to control that.
http://helpguide.org/mental/stress_management_relief_coping.htm
If someone consistently causes stress in your life and you can’t turn the relationship around, reduce the amount of time you spend
with that person.
http://helpguide.org/mental/stress_management_relief_coping.htm
Question # 3
Do you make a to do list?
To do list Things to do
https://hbr.org/2012/12/nine-ways-successful-people-de https://hbr.org/2014/11/how-to-handle-stress-in-the-moment
The act of writing focuses the mind.
https://hbr.org/2014/11/how-to-handle-stress-in-the-moment
Question # 4
Do you talk about your stress?
Talk to a loved one or counselor about your stress. The very act of sharing can provide a much-needed release of anger and frustration.
http://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/learn-to-relax-sleep-like-baby
Providing people with an opportunity to talk about worries can have a positive effect.
http://www.ascd.org/publications/educational-leadership/oct12/vol70/num02/Eight-Things-Skilled-Teachers-Think,-Say,-and-Do.aspx
Recognize that you and your partner may have different ways of dealing with stress, and there isn’t necessarily a “right” way of coping. Try to accept those differences and then find ways to accommodate one another. For example, let a partner who needs downtime after work have 30 minutes in front of the TV or on the treadmill, but ask your
partner to agree to talk more later, for example over dinner or during a walk. https://hbr.org/2014/01/how-couples-can-cope-with-professional-stress/
Question # 5 Have you tried counting to 10?
Counting down from 10 to 1 is a surprisingly effective relaxation technique.
http://youtu.be/k07apxbGjVA
Question # 6
Do you have the skills to solve problems you have?
Performance Effective problem solving Frustration
Low self confidence
Creative problem solving
Fatigue
High self confidence
Unsatisfaction
Satisfaction
Adapted from Levine, Robert: A Geography of Time, location 3432. http://www.hreonline.com/HRE/view/story.jhtml?id=534357064
Exhaustion
Irrational problem solving Low self confidence Illness
Stress hormones
Question # 7 Do you keep your body fit?
Even moderate physical activity can lead to lower levels of stress.
http://blogs.hbr.org/2014/01/how-couples-can-cope-with-professional-stress/
The healthier your body is, the better it can function in all areas.
http://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/learn-to-relax-sleep-like-baby
Question # 8 How is your tone?
People, who use good tone, promote growth for everybody, just as people who wield poor tone can work against human brainpower.
http://www.brainbasedbusiness.com/2006/11/a_silent_killer_in_defense_of_5.html
Question # 9 How often do you play?
3 possibilities to play 1. Joke with other people. 2. Play with a pet, for example a dog. 3. Play with children.
http://www.helpguide.org/articles/emotional-health/benefits-of-play-for-adults.htm
Question # 10 How much sleep are you getting?
Question # 11 Have you tried to forgive someone?
Research shows that forgiving people helps us face challenges and overcome the obstacles ahead.
http://uk.businessinsider.com/forgiveness-helps-relieve-stress-clear-the-mind-2015-1
In a study, researchers asked 3 groups this: They asked the 1st group to recall a time when they forgave the person who offended them. They asked the 2nd group to recall a time when they hadn't forgiven the person. They asked a 3rd group was asked to simply reflect on a neutral experience, like catching up with a friend over coffee. Then they had participants jump as high as they could without bending their knees. Result: The 2nd group, who hadn't forgiven, did not jump as high. They seemed to be physically weighed down. http://uk.businessinsider.com/forgiveness-helps-relieve-stress-clear-the-mind-2015-1
Question # 12 Are you saying that you ”feel stress” instead of saying you are stressed?
When you are feeling stress, say “I notice I am feeling stress” instead of “I am stressed.” Thereby, you create a space between yourself and the feeling you feel at that moment.
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/1918959132 Location 2700:
Other sources of inspiration http://1stholistic.com/Reading/liv_bacci-improve-breathing.htm http://www.brainleadersandlearners.com/general/the-brain-on-cortisol/ https://hbr.org/2014/10/why-leaders-dont-brag-about-successfully-managing-stress/ https://hbr.org/video/2851426216001/how-to-concentrate-under-pressure https://hbr.org/2015/09/manage-stress-by-knowing-what-you-value http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/02/07/mirabai-bush-gps-guide-work-and-mindfulness_n_2632379.html http://marc.ucla.edu/body.cfm?id=22