BEING A VIRGIN

There can be a lot of pressure to have sex or do something sexual as well as a feeling that something is wrong with you if you are a virgin. But we are here to tell you it’s okay to be a virgin. We live in a world that is hyper sexualized and at every corner we are told that life is all about sex.

Most music videos are about sex, being sexy, desired and moving in a sexualized way. Sex is promoted pretty much everywhere, no wonder that we start believing that our life is boring without it!

It’s normal to want to fit in and be a part of a group. It can make you feel accepted and build your self-esteem.

However, never feel pressured to have sex or do something sexual because ‘everyone else is doing it’.

This could lead to being hurt, upset or regretting what you have allowed and what has happened.

If you don’t feel ready or are not interested in sex you don’t have to doubt what you are feeling.

Your sexuality is unique to you and is about how much you value yourself and your body.

Know yourself. A big part of avoiding being pressured into doing something you don’t want to do is knowing yourself and knowing what is important to you and what you value. Being aware of your feelings can help you make the right choice for yourself.

Take your time. There is no rush.

Find someone who genuinely respects and cares about you and who you like and trust – avoid doing anything sexual just to complete a checklist. To enjoy sex with another person is NOT and should never be a challenging process of trial and error.

Self-love is the best foundation for you to know when you are ready for sex. A cherished and loved body tells you when it’s ready.

#Be yourself. #Respect yourself. #Love yourself

What is virginity?

Being a virgin means never having had sex. Many people relate losing your virginity to penis-in-vagina sexual intercourse — but what about people who are not interested in this type of sex? Being a virgin is an idea and it’s up to you to define what it means for yourself and there is no right or wrong definition.