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Balancing act Local mom shares how she juggles family, career n Color, light add life

to window-less space n YOU staff try out slow cooker recipes n Gift ideas for everyone on your list

Nadeen Griepentrog

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he air is cold, and flakes of snow are starting to fall. Get ready for the holiday season!

While Thanksgiving and other holidays conjure fond memories, the time also can be financially and emotionally stressful. We’ve included articles with tips to survive the financial onslaught of gift giving and hints to organize the holiday chores. There’s a piece about navigating the mine-field of family-event table talk. Our Top 10 list has gift ideas for every member of the family, and the opposite sex.

The sparkle and magic of Christmas comes to life in a featured Marshfield home where Victorian decorating rules. Look for ideas on how to re-create the splendor of the Victorian era.

This also is the time of year when our thoughts turn to comfort food. But most of us don’t have hours to spend making meatballs or homemade bread. We have a list of local places to find the best comfort food someone else has made. Since cooking and eating at home are less expensive than eating out, how do you make a meal that fulfills the desire for comfort food? Use a slow cooker. YOU staff tested some recipes, which we have included in this issue, along with the comments from taste-testers and those who cooked the dishes.

As you’re perusing these pages, you might notice the type style is crisper. We are completing a re-design to update YOU magazine so that it retains its appeal for you. The cover of the spring edition will be different.

The look will be fresh and vibrant — at least that’s what we are shooting for as we redesign YOU magazine.

But when shooting for the stars, sometimes you land on the moon. Let us know what you think.

Enjoy the holidays!

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Liz Welter Liz Welter, editor

According to Wisconsin Department of Health Services code, no one under the age of 18 can receive a tattoo, said Harvey Hill, owner of Ace Tattoo, 212 N. Central Ave., Marshfield. This information was incorrect in the YOU magazine Fall edition. Lisa Nichols’ name was misspelled, and Ace Tattoo is a collection site for donations to the House of the Dove.

We regret the errors.

YOU m a g a z i n e S TA F F Publisher Mike Beck General Manager Jonathan Gneiser Editor Liz Welter

Advertising Manager Tara Marcoux

Contributing Writers Ashley Smith, Deb Cleworth, Cherie Tham, Anthony Wolf and Breanna Speth Operations Manager Terri Hansen Photography Dan Young, Tom Loucks and Laura Schmitt

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Design Sirena Mankins

YOU magazine is published by the Marshfield News-Herald and Wisconsin Rapids Daily Tribune. Contents of the magazine are by Gannett Wisconsin.

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CONTENTS: Health, beauty and fashion 9 Exercise Healthy living ideas combined with exercise at the South Wood County Y.

12 Makeover

From before the makeover to the finishing touches, follow Georgia Hoover as she updates her hairstyle and learns some makeup techniques.

16 Memorable gifts for women

Gift ideas for women that are timelessly fashionable.

18 Hot winter wear

Drab black and navy wool coats are old.

Look at what’s hot.

56 Beyond the baby belly

Maternity wardrobe that works after the baby is born.

58 Pajama game

PJ family fun.

62 Mom caves

Carve out a space for you

64 De-stress the holidays

Tips to being organized and stressfree.

features 4 Cover story

Juggling family and career — Marshfield mom shares her story.

10 Restaurant Review

Royal Tokyo offers diners a royal treat.

28 Women to Know

Jodi Ellious of Wisconsin Rapids.

30 What’s in your office?

Window-less office becomes bright, comfortable by using the right paint and accessories.

50 Top 10

Gifts for men, women and children.

52 Gift-giving with less money Tips to stretch your holiday dollar.

Food

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45 Comfort food

22 Victorian Christmas

44 Slow cooker recipes

42 Table talk

The magic of the holiday season sparkles in this renovated Marshfield home.

Recommendations of where to buy it if no time to make it.

Tips to keep the conversation moving and civil during family events.

YOU magazine staff test the recipes.

finance Finance

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8 Holiday savings

The Bookworm reviews “Save the Assistants,” “Ah-Choo!” and “Maybe This Time.”

There’s a reason to use a Christmas Club.

60 Caught You Looking Good!

In the spotlight: Gala to support National Farm Medicine Center and Masquerade! winter 2010

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Balancing act Small-town life fulfills busy family

“Never get lost in the chaos of life.�

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ife can get crazy, especially for a career mom.

Balancing home, work and family can be quite a juggling act, especially if your work hours vary.

Nadeen Griepentrog, a cosmetologist at Hair Technicians in Marshfield, has a wonderful support system made possible through her husband, Cliff, and her two sons.

Nadeen Griepentrog

cosmetologist, wife and mother

Story by Cherie Tham u Photos by Dan Young For YOU magazine

Left: Nadeen Griepentrog cuts the hair of Nicole Daul of Stratford at Hair Technicians in Marshfield. Above: Nadeen with her husband, Cliff, and sons, Ever, 8, left, and River, 4.

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Nadeen makes pumpkin pie with her sons, Ever, left, and River. “It’s what is most important in my life — being able to fit the little things into my schedule for the kids that may not seem like a big deal now, but we all know how fast our children grow up,” Nadeen said.

“This balancing act would never have been possible without my hardworking and supportive husband. He has always had my back with everything I have achieved for myself, even when some of my ideas are crazy,” Nadeen said.

Nadeen has a very hectic business schedule. Renting a chair at Hair Technicians, she has quite a rotation of hours to meet the needs of her clients.

“On Mondays and Tuesdays, I work in the evening from 4 to 8. These are the nights that are on high demand for clients. People love being able to come straight from work to have their chemical, hair cutting or waxing services done. It’s a real treat to have your scalp massaged during your shampoo, or to just sit and relax while your hair services are being maintained,” Nadeen said. “The remainder of the week, I am working 8:30 a.m.

to 4 p.m. Wednesday and Thursday then Friday until 2 p.m.”

Nadeen offers many services and always is looking to stay-up-date with the latest trends. Besides the typical haircuts, chemical treatments, hair extensions and waxing, she will be training to provide permanent cosmetic services such as lip liner, eye brows and eye liner. This is a very popular trend, and she is very excited to bring this service to Hair Technicians.

Being self-employed is very gratifying and has allowed Nadeen to adjust her schedule to best fit and meet her clients’ and family’s needs.

“The nicest thing is being able to have that perfect balance between home and work. It’s what is most important in my life — being able to fit the little things into my schedule for the kids that may not seem like a big deal now, but we all know how fast our children grow up,” Nadeen said.

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“Sometimes I, of course, do get burned-out, just like any other parent.

I just get honest with Cliff and my kids and let them know when I need a break.” would have a lot to offer, Nadeen and Cliff were very excited when they found their perfect house six years ago in Auburndale. While it might be a small community, the school and the neighborhood fulfills the family’s needs, she said.

Auburndale is close to work and close to family.

“My husband comes from a wonderful family, and I have a very extended family. We feel very fortunate that we have so many people in our lives who care about us. We look forward to the holidays to catch up with everyone and share our everyday stories about the trials we go through,” she said.

Staying active and spending time as a family is just as important as her career.

Nadeen’s sons love to stay busy.

They really enjoy baseball, and she likes to get them outdoors so they can run, bike and hike.

While juggling family and career sometimes can feel like

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Nadeen keeps photos of her sons at her station at Hair Technicians in Marshfield. Ever is at left and River is at right. Above: Nadeen takes in a movie with her sons. “We all look forward to Friday nights with a movie and popcorn,” she said.

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speeding along a freeway, finding down-time is important, and Nadeen knows when it’s time to take a break.

“Sometimes I, of course, do get burned-out, just like any other parent. I just get honest with Cliff and my kids and let them know when I need a break. That’s why we all look forward to Friday nights with a movie and popcorn. I also do have Mondays to myself while the kids are in school. On this day, magic happens. While the laundry is washing, and the floors are being mopped, I still find the time to sip on my coffee and watch ‘The View,’” she said.

“My advice to other moms and working mothers out there is to never get lost in the chaos of life. Don’t forget who you are and what you stand for. Do the things that make you happy, and surround yourself with people who contribute to your happiness,” Nadeen said.

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Short on holiday cash? Try a Christmas club

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Claudine Konrardy started with Pioneer Bank in 1969, working in almost every department. Currently she is the senior vice president of operations.

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ou did it again, didn’t you?

Didn’t save a dime for the 2010 holiday season. Now you don’t know what to do when Santa comes to town.

You’re not alone. Historically, the holiday season can be one of the most financially trying times for families.

Many people promise themselves they’ll be better prepared next year, only to find themselves in the same dilemma each new year. It doesn’t have to be that way, if you take action now. Say hello to the “Christmas Club” account. It is simplicity itself — a sweet, innocent and charmingly old-fashioned notion that really works.

A Christmas Club account is basic and requires minimal commitment: 1. You put aside a little bit of money on a regular basis.

2. It adds up during the year.

3. You get that money in a lump sum to spend before Christmas.

Fund it via direct deposit with money deducted from your paycheck starting now, and if you never see the money, you

won’t spend it. If you deposit just $10 into your account each week, you will have saved $520, plus earned a little interest. Wouldn’t that put a grin on Santa’s face?

To set up an account, contact your financial institution to see if they offer such a program. Many still do, but don’t advertise it. Setting up a direct deposit from existing accounts is an easy way to make sure the money gets into the account on a scheduled basis. In the old days, Grandma didn’t have technology to help her. Today, everyone is time bankrupt — let automation work for you.

As quaint an idea as even Norman Rockwell could have conjured, this account provides a convenient way to “hide” money until the holidays. An early withdrawal penalty is just the deterrent you might need to reduce the possibility of selfsabotage during the year.

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Worried the money won’t be available when you’re ready to shop? Depending on the institution, funds generally are paid out in early October or November, in plenty of time for holiday shopping.

Some institutions pay by check, but most automatically deposit the amount into an account you specify. I am unsure what happens elsewhere, but at my institution, the whole process automatically starts over for the next year without you having to do anything.

Some might argue the interest you earn on these accounts is modest. The main attraction isn’t the interest, but the fact you won’t have to worry where to get the money to buy gifts for your family and friends. Even with low interest, a Christmas Club is a far less expensive way to pay for your year-end generosity than credit card financing. You’ll be a happier Santa and make penny-pinching Grandma proud.

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Class can help you reach your fitness goals

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hat is the best way to kick start your workout without being blindsided by your meal plan? We finally have figured it out.

The Look Your Best program combines the best of both worlds for you to make your weight loss, or weight maintenance, a true success.

From 5 p.m. to 5:50 p.m. Tuesdays and Thursday, from Jan. 3 to March 23, a class will be held at the South Wood County YMCA geared toward the beginning exerciser. It will give participants both variety and help with proper technique and form for both cardiovascular exercise and strength conditioning.

Even better, these classes provide you with great moral support by exercising with a group of your peers. Then every Wednesday, from 5 p.m. to 5:50 p.m., we will focus on a different nutritional topic or trend and try to help you shop, prepare foods and eat in a way that will maximize your fitness goals.

One of the great things about Look

Your Best is that we also will track your nutrition and exercise progress throughout the program. The tracking process will help you keep yourself accountable to your exercise goals as well as keep you on track nutritionally.

By using a computerized program, we make it easy to track, and you won’t believe that you didn’t do it sooner. This user-friendly program also allows you to follow your progress either during the weekly nutritional meeting or at home on your own.

This program has evolved during the past several years to make it the most user-friendly and results-driven weight management class we ever have offered. Our goal is to help you achieve your nutritional and fitness goals, but also to help you carry these behaviors on long after the class has ended and make it a true lifestyle change that will benefit both you and your family.

Look Your Best makes it easy for you by giving you the tools along with the guidance and moral support to stick with your exercise program.

Jess Artz is the senior wellness program director for the South Wood County YMCA.

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A seat at the grill

Photos by Dan Young/For YOU magazine

Above: Chef Tony Tsai of the Royal Tokyo makes flames shoot off the grill just before preparing food for the diners at his table. Left: The Royal Tokyo restaurant is near the railroad tracks in downtown Marshfield.

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Royal Tokyo Teppanyaki & Steak House offers entertaining experience for Marshfield diners

Anthony Wolf is a Marshfield man-abouttown who enjoys cooking and traveling.

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ou need to stay out of the kitchen!” — that was the constant refrain from my mom as we kids would try to see where all the yummy smells were coming from and while we waited for the food to appear.

Mom needed to concentrate and bring to the table a dinner for eight people a couple of times of day, and she did it very well. As we were encouraged to stay out of the way, I never did get to see all the work going into it.

That is not the case at Royal Tokyo Teppanyaki and Steak House in Marshfield.

As a guest, you sit right at the teppan, a heated steel grill, and watch the Japanese teppanyaki chef prepare and cook your food.

This is interesting, and at Royal Tokyo it is also very entertaining. The chefs are excellent and love to entertain guests. They are quick to read people, and the joy in your eyes will encourage them to greatness.

I, for one, never tire of the amazing heat from the huge fireballs that make you sit up straight in your chair. Watching a chef spin a raw egg on a spatula, flip it into the air, have it crack open on the side of the spatula and never get a broken shell in the mix is amazing. I will not spoil all the culinary entertain-

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ment, as it is a must-see experience.

The food is amazing. I had the combination of filet mignon and shrimp. The dinner also included an appetizer of flaming shrimp, a soup of the day, the Royal Tokyo salad, steamed rice, fresh vegetables and the dessert of the day. Other menu offerings include ribeye, walleye, salmon, rex sole, scallops, lobster and chicken, as well as a variety of sushi, soups, salads and fried rice. A selection of wines and beers also can be had.

Another Japanese tradition is the Bento Box. These are combination meals, which you can take with you. Royal Tokyo has a “to-go” menu that offers a range of Japanese favorites.

Royal Tokyo is a wonderful and unique place to gather the friends for an enjoyable night out. The huge fireballs are entertaining, and the food is excellent. The restaurant was voted 2009’s Best Fine Dining in Marshfield.

Royal Tokyo is in the Historic Train Depot at 112 E. Veterans Parkway.

Business hours: 4:30 p.m. to 9 p.m. Sunday through Thursday and 4:30 p.m. to 9:30 p.m.

Friday and Saturday.

Reservations are recommended and appreciated; call 715-486-8868.

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New look for the holidays Monroe Center woman gets full-body makeover

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rior to her makeover, Georgia Hoover of Monroe Center said she was a little nervous and unsure about everything.

“But it was wonderful,” she said. “I was truly thrilled with what everyone did.”

The body sculpting was Hoover’s favorite part of the makeover. “I lost 63⁄8 inches!”

At Contours Body Sculpting, the procedure began with getting Hoover’s measurements.

“Everything was explained really well,” she said.

The treatment delivers a detoxifying microcurrent directly to cellular fluids and fat cells. Fats are emulsified, pumped out and magnetically driven to the lymphatic system, where they are filtered and permanently eliminated through natural means, said Jennifer Dragt, owner of Contours Body Sculpting, City Hall Plaza, 630 S. Central Ave., Marshfield.

Body sculpting is not a permanent solution and needs to be maintained with good nutrition and a healthy lifestyle, Dragt said.

Hoover had the body-sculpting treatment about a month ago and continues to notice the difference.

“Besides the lost inches, my skin is so soft.

She also gave me a facial, which was wonderful, too. That skin is still very soft,” Hoover said.

Georgia Hoover of Monroe Center is shown before her makeover, inset, and after.

Story by YOU staff Photos by Laura Schmitt/For YOU magazine

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The nails A manicure with Robin Rode, owner of Forget Me Not Nails, was next.

The business shares the Contours location. “I did a Shellac manicure for Georgia,” Rode said.

“The service starts with a dry manicure, where the cuticles are pushed back dry so as to not get the nail plate wet before the application of the Shellac Hybrid Nail Color. This is a new product, and it’s taking the nail industry by storm,” Rode said.

Shellac is 14-day-polish that is a hybrid combination of UV gel and polish.

“It holds up to most everything without easily chipping, like traditional polish (will),” Rode said.

Hoover never has been able to grow long nails, so the Shellac polish is allowing her nails to grow. “Also, the polish is not wearing off,” Hoover said.

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The hair Following the manicure, Hoover had her hair highlighted and cut at Studio 211, 211 W. Third St., Marshfield.

“Georgia wanted a hair cut that would be easy to maintain. She wanted a fall look. Her natural color is a dark brown, so we kept that to cover the gray and added foils of warm copper, dark red and gold blond — all fall colors — and they look great with her skin tone,” said hair stylist Melissa Jewett.

“I cut about 2 inches and made point cuts for lots of tapered layers for body, but still just long enough to pull her hair back, if she wanted,” Jewett said.

The new hair color and cut are easy to maintain and style every morning, Hoover said.

“I wash my hair, put a little mousse in it and scrunch it, and it stays nice all day. I absolutely love it,” she said.

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Skin care and makeup For her makeup session at Merle Norman, Hoover wanted a natural look and something that complemented her new hair color. Makeup specialist Trisha Palmer began with a toner for normal-to-dry skin. Merle Norman and the Day Spa Boutique are at 249 S. Central Ave., Marshfield.

“We started off by going through the steps in skin care using our foaming normal-to-dry cleaners, (then) toner, with alpha hydroxy fine-line minimizer with pro retinol and vitamin C to help reduce the fine lines. Next, we used a wrinklesmoother moisture formulated with a hexapeptide that helps smooth out existing expression lines and prevent new ones,” Palmer said.

“For the color, we used our new aqua balance foundation with a cream color powder to set the makeup. For eye color, we put on sunbeam sugar plum and earthy eyeliner. (We) wrapped up with a customer favorite — spice sachet lip pencil,” Palmer said.

It was fun learning about the makeup, Hoover said.

“I’m really happy with the eye shadow color,” she said.

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The story of the

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Childhood Christmas provided the most memorable gift

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olidays mark special occasions in our lives. They are times we see loved ones we otherwise might not see. Everybody is in a good mood, and shares delicious food and funny stories. It’s no wonder that gift giving is such a popular ritual. It just fits with the very idea of holiday.

More than gift shopping, endless baking or decorating the house, the true meaning of Christmas comes from within each of us. Gifts from the heart might entail sacrifice — a gift of ourselves, our time, our creativity or appreciation. When the decorations are stored, the cookies eaten and the gifts put away, what remains are the feelings — love, faith and hope.

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Christmas Trivia

The waiting game When I was 11 years old, all I wanted for Christmas was a red shirt. I reminded (pestered) my parents every day that all I wanted was a red shirt. My parents advised me not to expect too much due to financial constraints and three other siblings.

We always celebrated the opening of gifts on Christmas morning. So Christmas Eve was filled with anticipation, starting with our annual Sunday school Christmas program and receiving a bag of goodies from church afterward.

Christmas morning brought the pre-dawn dash to the tree. Each of us looked for our gifts.

I had opened all my gifts — no red shirt. Then a plain, wrapped package with my name on it caught my eye. But it looked like a shoe box — gosh, I had received pajamas, undies, socks, etc. I thought: slippers.

With a heavy heart, I unwrapped the package. Nothing could have surpassed the delight in my eyes — MY RED SHIRT! To this day, the best haute couture designer couldn’t make a red shirt as beautiful as that one was.

All of us have a wonderful memory or memories to share with others about past holidays.

My faith, family and friends are most important to me. However, as a child, that was a Christmas I’ll never forget.

Gift ideas Every family, town, region or culture has its own holiday traditions. At Christmas, the tradition is gift giving. Some gift-giving ideas for you: u A Pashmina scarf will give a fashionable look to a wardrobe. u An Infinity scarf lies in rings around the neck, looks neat and stylish and stays in place. u A handbag adds instant pizzazz to an outfit. u A poncho is versatile, ageless and more elegant and wearable-one size fits all. u Jewelry — look for a “statement” piece. u A fashionable belt pulls an outfit together. u A long scarf (oblong) can be worn in a multitude of ways — tie, wrap, drape or wind; look for one with or without fringes. u Gloves or mittens — look for the new polar mittens or glove/mittens in many colors and textures.

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One of the most beloved of all Christmas carols, “Silent Night,” was written by a priest and hastily arranged by a church organist who had to improvise on guitar because the organ bellow had rusted and couldn’t be played.

The priest, Joseph Mohr, had written the words previously and the organist, Franz Gruber, mapped out the melody shortly before its first performance on Christmas Eve 1818 in an Austrian village. It went on to become a worldwide standard.

On a Christmas Eve during World War I, fighting temporarily was suspended along several fronts in Europe while soldiers on both sides turned on their radios to hear a broadcast of an internationally famous Austrian opera star performing the song.

Her name was Ernestine Schumann Heinke, and she had two sons — one fighting for the Allies, the other on the side of the Germans.

For a few tranquil minutes during the world’s first “great war,” this song’s powerful, hopeful message of “heavenly peace” rang dramatically true.

— By Carol J. Knauf of Rae Baxter’s Fashions

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Get warm for winter with cozy new coats

Button up The weather can turn on you faster than you expect. Prepare for winter now by checking out the new cold-weather coats. u Worthington DB belted coat, $149.99 at JCPenney.

u Hooded wrap jacket

by Tucker for Target, $44.99 at Target. u Ryan checked mohairblend coat by Alice + Olivia, $595 at www.netaporter.com.

u Swing coat, $99 at H&M. Photos and story by Gannett Media Service

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u Tommy Hilfiger peacoat, $179.50 at Macy’s.

u Cooperative fur collar lady coat, $138 at Urban Outfitters.

u Simyonette coat by Diane von Furstenberg, $675 at Nordstrom.

u Heide ruffle front coat by Tahari, $198 at Nordstrom.

u North Face Metropolis parka, $279 at Nordstrom.

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From the shelf: The Bookworm offers her take “Save the Assistants: A Guide to Surviving and Thriving in the Workplace”

By Lilit Marcus, c.2010, Hyperion, $14.99, 241 pages In this economy, you want to do the best job you can at work, and if you’re an assistant, that can be a challenge. “Save the Assistants” by Lilit Marcus will prove to you that there is hope from both sides of the desk.

Without a doubt, “Save the Assistants” will save several shredded self-confidences.

It might save a few jobs. But this book is not just for office support staff: Supervisors, bosses and HR folks should be asked to read it, too, because what’s inside these covers might be going on inside your company’s doors.

“Ah-Choo! The Uncommon Life of Your Common Cold”

By Jennifer Ackerman, c.2010, Twelve Books, $22.99, 256 pages Let’s say you’ve had to take a sick day.

You’re sneezing. And sneezing. And your eyes are watery.

And you can’t wait to crawl to the sofa and watch bad TV. Read “Ah-Choo! The Uncommon Life of Your Common Cold” by Jennifer Ackerman, and you might learn a few things to make you breathe a little easier.

Ackerman sniffs out plenty of facts, including lots of surprising statistics, disgustingly fun facts and the results of scientific studies.

Whether you say apchi (Hebrew), apjo (Swedish), hakushon (Japanese) or apchkhi (Russian), you’ll enjoy reading “AhChoo!” And Gesundheit.

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“Maybe This Time”

By Jennifer Crusie, c.2010, St. Martin’s Press, $24.99, 342 pages In the 10 years since Andie Miller divorced North Archer, Andie thought she’d gotten him out of her system. So it surprised her when North abruptly asked her for a favor: Would she go to southern Ohio for one month to care for two orphaned children who suddenly had become North’s wards?

In a cute, very different and genuinely funny departure from other novels in this category, author Jennifer Crusie presents a whole raggedy castle full of charming rogues, schemers, free spirits and one creepy doll in “Maybe This Time.” When you need a curl-up book, this is a good one to have in your possession.

Terri Schlichenmeyer grew up in Granton, hung out in Marshfield and Wausau as a teenager, and now lives in La Crosse with two dogs and 11,000 books.

She can be reached at bookwormsez@yahoo. com.

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Marshfield resident Shirley Mook is an expert on Christmas decor and the Victorian influence on modern Christmas festivities. The Marshfield resident pays tribute to her 1897 Queen Anne Victorian home through her Christmas decor. Evidence of her enthusiasm is found primarily in her 10 Christmas trees, three of which are shown at left.

‘Everything and more’ Victorian home lends itself to traditional Christmas decor Story by Breanna Speth Photos by Laura Schmitt For YOU magazine

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Queen Victoria’s reign began in 1837, a time when Santa Claus, Christmas cards and holiday vacations were nonexistent. The wealth and technologies spawned from the industrial revolution transformed this special time of year.

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Marshfield resident Shirley Mook is an expert on Christmas decor and the Victorian influence on modern Christmas festivities.

Eli Winch (a friend of the Upham family) constructed Mook’s 1897 home in the Queen Anne Victorian Style. Since buying it in 1984, she has spent years restoring the home to its original design.

Her holiday decorations are no exception and pay tribute to the Victorian era.

“If you live in a Victorian home, you want to decorate it,” she said.

Evidence of her enthusiasm is found primarily in her 10 Christmas trees, including those in her parlor, library, sitting room, dining room, bedrooms and sun room, and on her stair landing.

Mook’s decorations would not look out of place at Victoria’s Windsor Castle.

For those looking to imitate a Victorian Christmas, she offers the following tips:

1 Light it up Victorians used candles to illuminate their trees, but Mook prefers electricity to achieve the same effect. Her brightest tree is in the parlor.

Adorned with more than 3,000 lights and a number of Swarovski crystals, this 9-foot tree takes a week to decorate.

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2 Tinsel and lace Drape everything with old tinsel and antique lace, and weave beaded garland through the boughs. Victorian design can be summed up as “subtle elegance.” The thick tinsel and chunky beads found in today’s stores can be gaudy, so search antique stores for authentic decor.

3 Look to nature Victorians would use bird nests, garlands of roses, fruit and pine cones.

The tree in Mook’s east bedroom applies a woodland theme to reflect this ideal, as well as to honor her late mother’s love of birds. She even freezes cherries for use from year to year. >>>

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4 Look to the past Collect a lot of ornaments that “look Victorian.” Research old Victorian catalogs and calendars for ideas. Mook reveals that the search is part of the fun and adds, “Once you get into (the right) mindset, then you’re looking all the time.”

5 Choose a theme Experiment with color and themes for an “eclectic” look. The Victorian Christmas tree was unique in its elaborate decoration, which included everything from gingerbread men to marzipan candies and small, homemade gifts. The tree was topped with an angel to reflect the Victorian ideal of innocence.

Mook has draped tree branches with an assortment of candles, garlands, ribbons, drapery and ornaments. Mook said that once she got started, her collection “kept mushrooming,” and adds that she no longer has to actively hunt

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for decorations because people constantly are giving her ornaments. Her daughter-in-law, Jodie, is responsible for some of her favorites.

Victorians often would wait until Christmas Eve to decorate the tree, but Mook starts much earlier, beginning right after Thanksgiving. Her decorations remain until the end of January, so that her 11 grandchildren and other guests can enjoy them.

Other Victorian touches around Mook’s home include bells and garland strung from doorways and two mini evergreen “feather trees.” Her feather trees contain ornaments that are older than she can remember.

Aside from the thousands of lights, ornaments, drapery, garland, bows and tinsel, Mook said that her favorite part of the decorations is the stories they tell.

Perhaps a phrase borrowed from Victorian-era writer Charles Dickens’ “Christmas Stories” collection can best describe Mook’s decorations: “There was everything and more.”

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From downturn to opportunity

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Jodi Ellious, owner of Cranberry Creek Treasures, stands near Christmas decorations in her store. Ellious offers in-home decorating services.

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New business finds niche helping others buy, sell furniture

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f Jodi Ellious of Rome had any extra time on her hands, she just might find a new business to start.

In July, the 48-year-old married mother of two opened Cranberry Creek Treasures, a consignment and resale shop in Wisconsin Rapids. When not running that store, she is enjoying redecorating the former Pizza de Action on Highway 13 South in Rome, where her husband, Greg, will be managing a soon-to-be open Cruisers by the Lakes restaurant. Open for breakfast, lunch and dinner, the restaurant will offer a new menu, drinks and homemade pizza.

Ellious said her new business venture at Cranberry Creek Treasures is “a blast.”

“The customers couldn’t be nicer, and interesting items come in every day,” she said. “We consign furniture and home decor — anything from antique to current styles.”

It is that love of antiques and the unique that found a home — and new business — after the couple closed Greg Ellious Motors in 2008. The economy that affected them also affected others, but it opened the concept of Cranberry Creek Treasures. The store is a boon for sellers and buyers. “(People’s) lifestyle changes lent itself to selling furniture or buying furniture,” Ellious said.

“My consignors are thrilled to sell items they no longer need, and customers are thrilled to buy these unique and high-quality items at reasonable prices.”

Christmas items now are gracing the store space, and a Christmas open house was held

the opening weekend of deer hunting, Ellious said.

Ellious’ knack for decorating will be evident at the Riverview Hospital Auxiliary’s annual Christmas at the Ridges event Dec. 11 at The Ridges in Wisconsin Rapids.

A highlight of the often sold-out event is the tablescapes — decorated tables open to viewing before the luncheon.

“My theme will be ‘Christmas Past,’ and I’ll be using items from the store that will conjure up memories of Christmases from the 1930s and ’40s,” Ellious said. “My favorite Christmas memory was decades later, when I received my ‘Velvet’ doll with growing hair. I still have her, but one of my little sisters gave her a haircut, and she hasn’t looked the same since.”’

The holidays are enjoyed by extended family, and they enjoy traditional goodies such as rosettes, Russian tea cakes and lefse. Ellious said her husband shares her love for decorating and having a “huge, real tree.” The family used to go out together to cut down a tree, but now Greg and Jodi buy a pre-cut tree.

“Typically, we get our tree the day after Thanksgiving,” she said.

Admittedly unorganized, she is not quite sure how everything will get done this year.

Armed with prayer, which she said helps her manage her life, and a positive attitude, Ellious said her priorities have changed during the past couple of years.

“You just enjoy life, your friends and your family,” she said. “I think being together is so much more important.”

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What’s in your office?

HOME away from

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Personal touches, color and light create comfort from impersonal office space Story by YOU Staff u photos by Dan Young

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window-less office can be dingy, cold and dark. But Melissa Lake, university relations director for the University of WisconsinMarshfield/Wood County, welcomed the challenge and transformed her space into a bright and comfortable place.

“I used a recycled window frame and mounted a photo of the university’s arboretum and hung that on a wall,” Lake said. While it’s not a real window, it’s a convincing stand-in, she said.

“I embarrass my children horribly because I Dumpster dive. You never know what you are >>>

Above: Melissa Lake works in her office at the University of WisconsinMarshfield/ Wood County.

Right: Lake can look up from her desk and see photos and information on the UWM/WC faculty and staff members.

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going to find. And this old window was one of them. It works perfectly for this,” Lake said.

Wall color also makes the room warm and bright. Two walls are painted a shade of purple called eggplant, and two are beige. Lake chose the colors based on a remnant of upholstery fabric, which features shades of purple, sage green and beige.

“I bought the paint and did all the painting myself.

Everything in this office that I installed I bought. There weren’t any taxpayer dollars used for this,” Lake said.

She added three lights to hang above a table where she

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Clockwise from left: Lake has an artificial window in her windowless office. Photos of Lake’s daughters, Laura and Erin, are featured in her office. A card with Lake’s first name graces her door. Markers find a home in a Hershey’s mug.

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works, and a table lamp sits on her desk.

“The big thing, though, is my rocker.

I don’t sit in it, but everyone else does.

It has a blanket, and people come in to talk,” Lake said. She also keeps a coffee maker going throughout the day.

Two bulletin boards Lake covered in fabric hold notes and reminders. Two more bulletin boards are decorated with playbills Lake designed for university theater productions, while another hold photos of her children and cats.

“I spend a lot of time here. I wanted it to be home away from home,” Lake said.

Clockwise from top: Lake displays keepsakes, such as these name tags, in her office.

Banners show her support for the UW-M/WC Marauders.

Angelic figures rest in front of an award from the Children’s Miracle Network. A lamp graces a small filing cabinet.

A photo of Lake’s daughter Erin shares space with knickknacks above her desk.

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Sweet W options Candy bouquets send a tasty message

ISCONSIN RAPIDS — If you are looking for a gift for the person who has just about everything, maybe you just need to sweeten up your options.

Cindy Ziegler runs Candy Bouquet in Wisconsin Rapids, a tasty option for the holidays.

“This year, I’ve got a little pine tree, probably about 11⁄2 feet tall, and it’s got little chocolate ornaments on it,” Ziegler said.

“It’s nice for people in nursing homes, so they can have a tree and a treat at the same time.

“For someone who doesn’t have room for much, it’s kind of a nice little thing.”

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And there’s no need to worry about bouquets might lose the sweet petals dietary restrictions. almost as quickly as fresh flowers.

“We do have sugar-free chocolates,” “If we’re lucky, (it will last) maybe a Ziegler said. “They’re really not too week.” bad.”

In addition to the bouquets, Ziegler The bouquets not only make nice offers fresh fudge and gourmet chocogifts for residents, but also nurses and late-drizzled pretzels — all of which administrators, she make a nice gift or said. stocking stuffer.

Kristy While business Apuakehau of picks up during the Therapies Plus holidays, customer in Wisconsin satisfaction always Rapids, Marshfield, is forefront for Stevens Point and Ziegler.

Wausau sends She will take her employees the advance orders, Candy Bouquet offers a variety of deliver locally and bouquets for their candies. Left: Cindy Ziegler, owner of send items wherbirthdays.

“They’re unique, Candy Bouquet in Wisconsin Rapids, ever they need to offers a multitude of sweet gift options, go. If the recipient they’re beautiful,” including the Christmas Boot, right.

Apuakehau said. lives in a warm “And the candy is climate, she will delicious. cold-pack the gift.

“My favorite is the green (mint) one.

All-in-all, the most popular is the They’re just really festive, unique and chocolate bouquet, she said. It’s one last longer than flowers.” gift you don’t have to worry about size, Well, that depends, said Mary Pierce, color or personal taste — it’s one gift office manager at Therapies Plus. that fits all and tastes great.

“It’s something you can share with “It’s something that’s easy,” Ziegler everyone,” she said, which means the said.

Candy Bouquet Where: 830 Huntington Ave., Wisconsin Rapids (near Sears) Phone: 715424-4811 E-mail: bloomin chocolates@yahoo.com Web: 5435.shopcandy bouquet.com Store hours: 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. Saturday. Closed Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve and Christmas Day.

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Circle of success A

Success Team Members

Georgette Frazer, certified public accountant, certified financial planner, financial adviser, First Affirmative Financial Network.

Eileen Kelz, feng shui and organizing consultant; owner,

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Dynamic Environments.

Linda Schmidtke, owner, Schmidtke’s Duct Cleaning.

Susan Twiggs, owner, Karuna Yoga Studio.

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common pledge of support made 17 years ago cemented lifelong friendships for the members of Marshfield’s Success Team.

Eileen Kelz had the initial concept in 1990. She threw an Idea Party as an outreach and recruiting effort for a new organization, Wisconsin Women Entrepreneurs. At the party, women came together to brainstorm solutions to each others’ questions and problems.

WWE no longer exists, but the Idea Party inspired Kelz, Joan Weber, Susan Twiggs, Linda Schmidtke and Georgette Frazer to keep meeting. As entrepreneurs, they were attracted by the concept of a small, committed team of businesswomen who could support each other in reaching their individual and business goals.

“We enjoy each other’s company, but most importantly we’ve grown to trust each other’s perspective,” Kelz said.

“We’ve supported each other through career changes, bouts of cancer, family challenges, business obstacles and business successes.”

For the first two months of weekly meetings, the Success Team went through the exercises in a workbook developed

by Barbara Sher, author of “Wishcraft.” The exercises, along with the group’s feedback, helped its members to focus on clarifying and planning for the achievement of their life goals.

“We didn’t know each other well at first, but over the years we’ve become friends. We’ve discussed our personal lives and have helped each other through some hard times,” Schmidtke said. “We’ve bounced new ideas

Women’s network fosters business success, personal friendships off each other and have gotten some great feedback.”

The team’s discussions gradually broadened in scope, and the rules relaxed. As time passed, members shared deeper connections.

“I value the gift of friendship and inspiration that I have experienced within this circle of intimacy,” Weber said.

The Success Team now meets once every two months, revolving between members’ homes.

“There’s a lot of laughter, tears and hugs at our meetings,” Frazer said. “You never know what might come up. I look forward to the next meeting as much as I did the very first.”

At the meetings — which are rarely missed by any of the team — each member speaks for 15 to 20 minutes, seeking solutions or feedback on any number of issues.

“We each have a similar outlook regarding the customer as first in our businesses. I would recommend a Success Team for anyone going into business who wants a more intimate support team with a longterm focus,” Twiggs said.

If you’re interested in forming a team, Kelz is available for consultation. Contact her at 715-387-1405 or EileenKelz@gmail.com.

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Parents can help children lead healthy lives

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hat’s all the hype about childhood obesity? Recent research shows that today’s children will not live as long as their parents and that they are more likely to be obese adults if they are obese as children.

Obesity can lead to several major health problems, such as heart problems, high blood pressure, diabetes, joint problems and depression.

So, what can parents do to help their children in the fight with obesity? u Be a role model to your children. If your children see you eating a healthy diet and being physically active, they are more likely to do the same. u Prepare and eat dinner together. Children tend to eat things they help prepare. Children who eat regularly with their families tend to eat more healthily and are less likely to become obese. u Choose healthy eating habits at home. Provide plenty of wholegrain products, vegetables and fruits. Include low-fat milk and dairy foods. Choose lean sources of protein, including poultry, fish, beans and lentils. Encourage reasonable-sized portions. Limit sugar-sweetened beverages, replacing them with water. Offer foods that are high in fat and sugar on a limited basis. u Encourage 60 minutes of activity per day. This should include activities children enjoy doing on a regular basis, such as playing outside, a family walk or bike ride, swimming, dancing or organized sports. Try to limit screen time to two hours per day. This includes computer, TV and hand-held games. u Make sure your child gets plenty of sleep, which helps regen-

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erate the body. The amount of sleep a child needs depends on her age.

Try to encourage regular bedtime routines. u Become a community advocate. Talk to your local officials about the importance of walking paths, roads with biking lanes and maintaining or building new parks. Lobby for healthier foods in restaurants, including fast-food restaurants, and ask for menu labeling. Talk to school officials about healthy school meals and increasing the amount of physical activity for students. Ask grocery stores for healthier food options.

For more information on childhood obesity and eating healthier, go to www.letsmove or www. mypyramid.gov. Or, you can call the Wood County Health Department at 715-387-8646 or 715-421-8911. — Contributed by the Wood County Health Department.

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Keep holiday table talk safe Avoid these Top 10 land mines

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ince the conclusion of an acrimonious election, potential for bottled-up emotions turning into heated discussions lurks at every holiday table. Politics can be conflict-ridden, but even good intentioned mother-in-laws often produce conversation messes that are hard to clean up. Holidays and family celebrations can mean the ideal family get together — or a day of awkward moments, uncomfortable silences and eruptions of family feuds. sations by offering: “I guess we just do not see eye to eye,” then change the topic.

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n “What’s the name of that woman who came in second on ‘American Idol’ last season?” Uncle Ted asks. Suddenly, the Blackberrys fly out, and the conversation grinds to a clumsy halt while your cousin Googles the answer. Say hello to the new conversation killer: smartphones. Avoid technology at the dinner table (yes, you can wait to learn).

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n “Were your twins natural?” or “Do you plan on breast feeding?” Only at Octo-mom’s holiday table would these topics be up for discussion.

n “Are you two ever going to get married?” Most of us mothers (I am guilty as charged) along with the rest of the planet presume that long-time dating results in marriage.

It ain’t necessarily so. As life’s journey progresses, “When are you two going to make me a grandmother?” is enticing.

Back off! If they wanted you to know their intimate intentions, they would be sure to send you a memo.

n “I knew your candidate did not stand a chance, what do you have to say for yourself now?” Stop gloating, there are plenty of people eating turkey after the election, no need to rub it in. No weaving in witches or tea bags, either.

We are all in this together. Get out of these heated conver-

n “No, thanks. I gave up drinking after I saw the toll it took on you.” This is meant to deliberately point a finger. If you must address someone’s over-indulgence, do it in private. And making someone feel bad about him- or herself does not typically motivate better behavior.

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n “Cool Whip is interesting. Did you ever think of serving the real stuff instead?” Who asked for your opinion? This is the “adviser” at his or her worst. Don’t offer advice unless solicited. That includes telling the upcoming college graduate how to go about job hunting or offering unwelcome tips on how to get through child birth. n “Aren’t you full yet?” or “Why aren’t you eating anything?” Leave us alone about what we eat or don’t eat, and worry about what you put in your own mouth. Just because eating at the holiday dinner table is a marathon of gorging for some, for others it might be an Olympic feat of discipline. Also, just because you slaved over the pumpkin pie or prepared grandma’s traditional stuffing does not mean we are required to consume it. Eating is a personal decision. n “You were too good for her.” This is letting your son know that he has really bad taste. And what will you do, mom, if they patch up their relationship and get back together?

Instead, offer how sure you are that because he is such a prize he will find exactly what he wants. n “I see you still can’t be bothered with ironing a shirt.” Leave her alone.

Her priorities are not the same as yours. As mom used to say, “If you cannot find something good to say, don’t say anything at all.” n “Did you cook this yourself, or did you just thaw it out?” You might be asking because you sincerely wish to know how you can create this dish yourself, but you are putting your host on the spot. Instead, ask for the recipe after the meal. If it was not homemade, he or she either will let you know or will perhaps be coy and say that the recipe is a family tradition that is not shared outside the family.

Debra Fine is the author of “The Fine Art of Small Talk: How to Start a Conversation, Keep it Going, Build Rapport and Leave a Positive Impression” (Hyperion Books). Visit her online at www.DebraFine.com.

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Device takes work out of comfort food When you’re craving comfort food, the slow cooker tucked away in your kitchen cupboard can be your ally in creating delicious, satisfying dinners with little effort. Or is it? The staff at YOU magazine put some allrecipes.com recipes to the test for an office lunch.

Slow cooker chicken and dumplings. See recipe, Page 46.

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MEAL NO. 1

u Awesome slow cooker pot roast and pumpkin gingerbread.

Awesome slow cooker pot roast 2 10.75-ounce cans condensed cream of mushroom soup 1 1-ounce package dry onion soup mix 11⁄4 cups water 51⁄2 pounds pot roast In a slow cooker, mix cream of mushroom soup, dry onion soup mix and water. Place pot roast in slow cooker and coat with soup mixture.

Cook on high setting for 3 to 4 hours, or on low setting for 8 to 9 hours.

Feedback: “Wow, this is good.”

Preparation: Very easy.

Pumpkin gingerbread (baked in the oven) 3 cups sugar 1 cup vegetable oil 4 eggs 2 ⁄3 cup water 1 15-ounce can pumpkin puree 2 teaspoons ground ginger 1 teaspoon ground allspice 1 teaspoon ground cinnamon 1 teaspoon ground cloves 31⁄2 cups all-purpose flour

2 teaspoons baking soda 11⁄2 teaspoons salt 1 ⁄2 teaspoon baking powder Preheat oven to 350 degrees.

Lightly grease two 9-by-5 inch loaf pans.

In a large mixing bowl, combine sugar, oil and eggs; beat until smooth. Add water and beat until well blended. Stir in pumpkin,

ginger, allspice, cinnamon and clove.

In medium bowl, combine flour, soda, salt and baking powder.

Add dry ingredients to pumpkin mixture and blend just until all ingredients are mixed. Divide batter between prepared pans.

Bake in preheated oven until toothpick comes out clean, about 1 hour.

Feedback: “Really moist.”

“Good.” “Can I have the leftovers?”

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Readers share favorite ‘comfort food’ spots It’s the time of year when people like to get cozy and comfortable. That includes everything from watching an old movie on the couch, covered in your favorite blanket, to seeking out good, old-fashioned comfort foods.

Food Network Magazine (food network.com) recently named its top 10 comfort foods from a number of restaurants. The foods included pizza, old-fashioned biscuits, hand-cut french fries, spaghetti, chicken soup, Southern-fried chicken, mashed potatoes, burritos, macaroni and cheese and grilled cheese sandwiches. The list from tasteofhome.com included turkey potpies, meatloaf, beef stew and, believe it or not, tuna casserole.

Here are some favorite foods from readers — and where they go to get them. u “The best mashed potatoes and gravy are at Culver’s,” said Kyle Ruud of Kellner. “My mom (Berniece Steward) loves them so much she has them on Fridays with her fish.”

u Julie Bunt of Wisconsin Rapids tries to recreate her late mother’s ham and scalloped potatoes but also goes for mashed potatoes when eating out.

“The garlic mashed potatoes at Applebee’s ... I could eat an entire meal of JUST those! Skip the steak!” u “My comfort food is going to my mom’s,” said Krista Dhein of Saratoga. “She makes awesome food.

“My favorite food is anything she makes, but I would have to say probably spaghetti or beef tips and noodles. You’re making me hungry thinking about it.” u “Soups are my comfort food, and it is also something I can make and then I don’t have to cook for several days,” said Vicki Natzke of Grand Rapids. “I have a very unusual vegetable soup that is a family soup going back several generations. I have no idea where it came from, but it’s the only vegetable soup my

mother made, as it was the only one her mother made.” u “My parents’ house in Almond has the greatest comfort food,” said Tami Barber of Grand Rapids. “My mom used to be a home ec teacher, and every single thing she cooks or bakes is the best you’ve ever tasted.

“But, if you’re looking for a restaurant, I’d say the Cafe Mulino for pasta — with lots of their wonderful, chunky tomato sauce (and their salad is incredible, too).” u Pam Koeshall of Rome sticks close to home and heads out to the restaurant at Lake Arrowhead for her favorite: homemade clam chowder. u Deb Moore-Gruenloh’s favorite is noodles with shaved parmesan cheese and butter and rolls, which she makes at home. When out on the town, she goes ethnic.

“How about burritos at El Mezcal and chips and salsa?,” said MooreGruenloh of Nekoosa. u Mashed potatoes from Kentucky

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Fried Chicken made the list for Raquel Nowak of Wisconsin Rapids. She said it as the first thing that came to mind. u “My comfort food is turtle sundaes, and I get them from Culver’s,” said Lucille Millard of Kellner. u “My favorite comfort food is Portesi’s Pizza, and I have both their restaurant on Eighth Street South and Silvio’s in the (Rapids) Mall,” said Helen Zimmerman of Wisconsin Rapids. u Melody Gardens in Marshfield has the best meatloaf and mashed potatoes, pork chops and stuffing, biscuits and gravy and beef stew, said a Marshfield reader. u “Hands down the best is the meatloaf sandwich at the Kitchen Table,” said Jenni Yetter of Marshfield. u “Marshfield Cafe by far!

Everything! Probably the breakfast skillets the most. A bit of heaven in every bite,” said Christa Thompson of Marshfield.

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MEAL NO. 2

u Slow cooker chicken and dumplings, pumpkin gingerbread dessert.

Slow cooker chicken and dumplings 4 skinless, boneless chicken breast halves 2 tablespoons butter 2 10.75-ounce cans condensed cream of chicken soup 1 onion, finely diced 1 ⁄2 cup of sliced carrots 2 10-ounce packages refrigerated biscuit dough, torn into pieces Place the chicken, butter, soup and onion in a slow cooker, and fill with enough water to cover.

Cover and cook for 5 to 6 hours on high. About 30 minutes before serving, place the torn biscuit dough in the slow cooker. Cook until the dough is no longer raw in the center. Serve over cooked egg noodles.

Feedback: “Delicious.”

Preparation: Easy to make.

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Pumpkin gingerbread dessert Use the recipe from Meal 1 and put 1⁄3 of the batter into an 8-by-8 inch cake pan. Serve with a sweet cranberry or lingonberry sauce and top with whipped cream.

Feedback: “Forget the sauce.”

Preparation: It’s nice that you get two dishes for the work of one.

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MEAL NO. 3

u Slow cooker Italian chicken Alfredo, baked apples

Slow cooker Italian chicken Alfredo Cooking spray 4 4-ounce skinless, boneless chicken breast halves 1 ⁄4 cup water 1 0.7-ounce package dry Italian-style salad dressing mix 1 clove garlic, pressed 1 8-ounce package cream cheese, softened 1 10.75-ounce can condensed cream of chicken soup 1 cup sliced fresh mushrooms 1 8-ounce package spaghetti 1 tablespoon chopped fresh parsley Spray the crock of a slow cooker with non-stick cooking spray.

Place chicken breasts in crock. Combine Italian dressing mix and water in a small bowl. Pour over chicken; sprinkle with garlic, cover and cook on low 4 hours.

After 4 hours, whisk softened cream cheese and cream of chicken

soup together in a bowl. Pour over chicken; stir in mushrooms. Cover and cook on low for 1 additional hour.

Fill a large pot with lightly salted water and bring to a rolling boil over high heat. Once the water is boiling, stir in the spaghetti, and return to a boil.

Cook the pasta uncovered, stirring occasionally, until the pasta has cooked through but is still firm to the bite, about 12 minutes. Drain well in a colander set in the sink.

To serve, spoon chicken and sauce over hot cooked pasta and sprinkle with parsley.

Feedback: “Kind of dry.”

Preparation: It’s not as convenient as a meal that cooks all day. It seemed to dry out quickly.

Baked apples 6 large cooking apples 3 ⁄4 cup orange juice 1 tsp. grated orange rind 1 ⁄2 cup apple cider 1 ⁄4 tsp. cinnamon 1 ⁄2 cup brown sugar Remove core from apples

and peel a strip around the top of the apple to help prevent cracking. Arrange apples in 3 to 4 quart crockpot.

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to blend. Pour over apples.

Cover crockpot and cook on low for 3 to 4 hours or until apples are tender.

Cool slightly and serve warm with sweetened whipped cream.

Alternative: Core the apples and stuff them with some raisins or nuts before cooking.

Feedback: “I want this recipe.”

Preparation: Fast and easy.

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Airports tighten security What you need to know about new measures

By Samantha Bomkamp The Associated Press

NEW YORK — The process of heading home for the holidays will, for many travelers, contain some new hurdles this year. New measures aimed at thwarting potential terrorists might throw you off course if you’re unprepared.

Here’s what you need to know about body scanners and Secure Flight, a new program that requires travelers to provide more information when booking a ticket.

Body scanners Some travelers and privacy advocates don’t like them, but body scanners are a growing presence in the nation’s airports. Formally known as Advanced Imaging Technology machines, the scanners take overly detailed images of the human frame. One model that uses X-rays has raised health worries.

Security needs have trumped those concerns since last Christmas, when a man attempted to bring down an Amsterdam-to-Detroit flight by detonating explosives he’d hidden in his underwear.

There now are almost 300 scanners at 61 U.S. airports, both big and small. Still, that’s only a fraction of the 382 primary U.S. airports listed by the Department of Transportation.

The Transportation Security Administration, which oversees airport security, aims to have 450 of the machines installed by the end of the year.

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Airports worldwide have installed new technology to thwart potential terrorists. Here, a police woman tests a full-body scanner at an airport in Hamburg, Germany. chemical explosives and nonmetallic weapons.

Here’s good news for the self- or health-conscious: You aren’t required to go through the machine. Any traveler can choose a pat-down instead.

The pat-down is “at a level comparable to what the body scanner would provide,” said TSA spokesman Nick Kimball. In other words, it will be thorough. Because the pat-down will take longer than the 30-second body scan, Orbitz Senior Editor Jeanenne Tornatore recommends the scanner.

There are two types of scanners. One is a six-sided portal that requires a passenger to stand inside, hands over their head, while radio wave technology scans the body to produce a 3-D image. The scanners emit about 10,000 times less radio frequency energy than a cell phone, according to the TSA. The other model uses X-ray technology. It looks like two large boxes, side by side. The traveler walks in and pauses while the machine takes an image on a monitor. The

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TSA says the radiation is equivalent to what a passenger is exposed to in two minutes on an airplane.

Secure Flight Secure Flight is a behind-thescenes effort by the TSA to better match potential terrorists with watch lists. The program, which has been rolled out in phases, formally started Nov. 1. It requires airlines to collect a passenger’s full name, birth date and gender at booking.

Passengers who don’t provide that information at least 72 hours before a flight won’t be issued a boarding pass.

All the airlines and most of the third-party sites such as Hotwire and Orbitz already require this information when you book. But you could run into problems when you get to the airport if your name as listed on your government identification is different than on your ticket.

Some suggestions to ensure you’re not denied a boarding pass or held up at security: u Check for misspellings on your ticket. Contact the airline if you find an error. u Don’t use nicknames when booking. Using “Maggie” instead of “Margaret” could hold you up. u If you recently got married or changed your name, book your

flight under the same name that’s listed on your driver’s license or passport. u Pay attention to details: If your name is listed as “John C. Doe” on your ID, don’t fill out “John Christopher Doe” when you book. A discrepancy like that probably will be resolved, but even the smallest difference could lead a security agent at the airport to do a double-take, slowing you down.

The TSA estimates that only about 1 percent of travelers won’t make it through security because of a discrepancy, Kimball said.

Although it’s unlikely you won’t be able to fly because of a mishap, you still might be delayed if your ID and ticket don’t match up. That hold-up likely will be less than five or 10 minutes while screeners verify your ID and boarding pass, Orbitz’s Tornatore said.

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Top 10 gifts that won’t break the bank For children If you, like many parents, hope to keep the holidays affordable this year, you might be worried about finding gifts that will thrill your child, but not break your budget.

1. Remote-controlled items have been popular for decades and, thanks to advances in electronics and technology, it’s now possible to find an affordable remote-control toy to tickle the fancy of almost any child.

Younger children who are dinosaur aficionados might enjoy a Remote Control Dino Buddy — a stylized TRex that stomps around and swings his tail.

Nature lovers might adore a remotecontrolled skunk that pretends to “spray” without the stink. And of course, who doesn’t love remote-controlled classics such as robots, cars and airplanes?

2. Personalized gifts are fun for children of all ages, not to mention adults.

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of receiving a gift with their name on it, as many of them are learning to recognize their own names. You can have a child’s name printed or embroidered on numerous items, from piggy banks and sleeping bags to rocking chairs and even wallpaper murals.

3. If your youngster loves kids’ spy movies, he might jump at the opportunity to play with some fun spy gear.

Items such as the Wild Planet Spy Gear Lie Detector, toy night vision goggles, a Stealth Voice Changer and even a Lazer Tripwire will encourage kids to act out their secret agent dreams.

4. If you have a budding artist on your holiday list, art supplies such as a big pad of blank paper and a case of colored pencils or markers can be an inexpensive way to foster creativity.

5. Emerging thespians might enjoy playing dress up. Instead of pricey store-bought costumes, consider taking a trip to the secondhand store to stock up on hats, dresses, coats and accessories.

For adults These are gift ideas that a man or woman will appreciate.

6. Our lives are becoming filled with gadgets. And all those gadgets need power, so consider a USBcompatible solar charging device. These chargers use solar power to juice up virtually any gadget that has a USB power port. You can find ones made for cell phones, MP3 players and practically any other digital product.

Google “solar charger� to start your search.

7. Universal charging devices are handy, too.

New to the market is the Duracell myGrid, which is a pad that simultaneously charges multiple handheld devices.

8. The gardener will appreciate new tools. Composting uses leftover vegetable scraps and other items to create a nutrient-rich, all-natural fertilizer.

Tools, books and composting kits can be found online.

9. The camper will enjoy gear such as backpacks that convert solar power into electricity. Hand-cranked radios and flashlights that power up with a few good shakes are all great options.

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10. An array of palm-sized devices is available to help track personal fitness level. Some measure and record calories burned or miles walked. Others check and record heart rate, blood pressure, body mass index and other health indicators. Look for one that will monitor the fitness measure most important to the recipient. — ARA Content

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5 ideas for the person who has everything

Why not make a donation in their honor to one of the following organizations? Wrap up a card explaining the donation so there is something under the tree. u Donate to the South Wood County Humane Society or the Clark County Humane Society. Information for South Wood County is at the website www.swchs.com/donations.asp or call 715-423-0505. For Clark County, go to www.cchs-petshelter.org/index. html or call 715-743-4550. u Community Foundation of Greater South Wood County. Donations can be made to a number of organizations for any amount. Go to www. cfswc.org. u A donation to the Marshfield Area Community Foundation can be designated to help a local charity or organization. Go to www.marshfield areacommunityfoundation.org/ u A donation to United Way goes a long way to help people in our communities. The Marshfield Area United Way website is www. marshfieldareaunitedway.org; 156 S. Central Ave., or 715-384-0043. In the Wisconsin Rapids area, contact the United Way at www.uwiw.org; 351 Oak St.; or 715-421-0390. u While some struggle with what to put under the tree, others struggle with finding ways to put food on the table. Make a donation to the South Wood Emergency Pantry Shelf, the Marshfield Soup or Socks or St. Vincent de Paul Food Pantry. You can make a monetary donation or give nonperishable food items.

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Simple ideas can cut gift-giving costs Story by Cherie Tham u For YOU magazine Gift-giving doesn’t have to cost a fortune. In fact, in this economy, we are all looking for a good bargain and ways to cut costs. Finding unique gift ideas only takes a little imagination, creativity and a lot of love. Here are some ideas: 1. Skype. If both people or family have a computer and even a Web cam, what a surprise it would be to wish family across the miles happy holidays in person without even stepping foot in the door. How? Through Skype, a free service with which you can make calls and communicate via Web cam. It even works for family overseas. Both people will have to download Skype, but it can be a fun way to say Merry Christmas — and best of all, it’s free.

2. Most kids are savvy with computers. Ask them to compile a collection of pictures in a fun video slideshow. Choose from many features to add music and graphics to make it more personable. There are many sites from which you can download a free trial version or purchase software from a store. You can burn the slideshow to a CD or e-mail it to family.

3. Ask the kids to create their own Christmas album for grandma and grandpa. They each could have a solo or play a particular song on an instrument. This, too, can be burned to a CD or e-mailed.

4. Scrapbooking has become quite a trend. Create a scrapbook as a gift from pictures during the past year or two. Write down some of the key events that took place.

5. Baking is always fun, and much appreciated. Place goodies on decorative or plastic plates, or in baskets. Make one big cookie on a pizza sheet and decorate it. Make pies or breads and wrap them with extra

fabric from craft projects.

6. Create specialty baskets. Combine items for a movie night, such as popcorn, movie, candy and soda. Try an Italian basket with noodles, sauce, wine glasses, seasonings, napkins, etc. Create a football game basket with chips and dip, crackers, even a stress ball. Hint: Baskets are very cheap at thrift stores.

7. Check online specials at your favorite stores. Many times, shipping is free if a certain amount of money is spent. If you do not reach that limit, ask a friend or a co-worker to help round out your order.

8. Still stumped? Make a donation to a charity or organization the recipient supports.

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Headed to Vegas, baby!

Mom, daughter find fun and adventure in The City That Never Sleeps

By Ashley A. Smith For YOU magazine

Earlier this year, my mother, Rosalyn Boyle, e-mailed me at work with a statement: “I want to go to Vegas. I’m going to plan a vacation there this year.”

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years taking care of my ailing grandmother up until her death in August, always had talked about taking a vacation. But she never had the chance to actually do so.

I decided to play along.

“Sure, OK, go to Vegas. Can I come, too?”

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There were other people she could have planned the trip with, such as my dad, or my aunts, or even her friends. But, as my mother’s only child, I knew if she was requesting me to go, I would have to. Not that I would complain about joining my mom for a four-day trip to sunny Las Vegas, but for my first time traveling to “The City That Never Sleeps,” I

never imagined it would be with my mom.

When I told my best friend about the trip, she said, “You know, you’re not going to have as much fun with your mom as you would have with your friends.”

I didn’t say it then, but my best friend couldn’t have been more wrong.

Sure, Vegas is known for gambling, adult entertainment and late-night activities that could rival “The Hangover,” but The Strip has become so all-inclusive that even a 55-year-old mother and her 24year-old daughter can have fun together.

My mom and I met up in Milwaukee and flew out the Thursday after Labor Day to fly to Paradise, Nev., to begin our vacation.

Once we arrived and settled into the Treasure Island Casino and Hotel, my mom and I spent our first day in Vegas shopping and walking The Strip. Obviously, no mother-daughter or even girls-only trip would be complete without stopping at the nearest shopping center — and The Strip has more than its fair share of department stores. From The Fashion Show Mall, which was connected to our hotel, to Caesar’s Palace Forum, we spent hours shopping.

The interesting thing about Vegas is that every shop, venue or restaurant has some entertainment feature. Shopping at Caesar’s Forum, we got a chance to view the “Moving Statues” show, which uses a lot of splashing water and fire to tell a story about the Roman god Jupiter and two of his children.

That night, we caught our first Vegas show — comedian George Wallace at The Flamingo. Wallace is an old-school comedian, whose jokes managed to satisfy and reach a very age-diverse crowd.

We didn’t stay out long our first night, since the next morning we had booked an all-day trip to visit The Hoover Dam, Route 66 and the Grand Canyon. This side trip turned out to be one of the highlights of our vacation. We decided to do a walking tour with Grand Adventures Tours after reading the reviews of the company on

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Ashley Smith and her mother, Rosalyn Boyle, visit the Grand Canyon, above, and Madame Tussands wax museum while on a trip to Las Vegas. tripadvisor.com the week before we left.

The 17-hour day trip started at 6 a.m. when we were picked up by our tour guide, Eric, at the hotel. To our surprise, we were the third mother-daughter pair in our tour group of eight. The two other mother-daughter groups hailed from Seattle, Wash., by way of China, and Atlanta, Ga. The six of us later were joined by a couple from Mumbai, India.

Once we reached the canyon, we spent a few hours lunching and hiking along the South Rim. It’s cliche, but the canyon is really one of those places where neither words nor photos can do justice to the natural wonder’s beauty and serenity.

This trip exceeded our expectations, and it wasn’t long before we completely forgot about the long day.

We made it back to our hotel at 11 p.m., and while my mother and I aren’t big gamblers, we decided that, at every casino we visited, we would play $20 in the slot machines. So we wrapped up our evening playing slots at The Mirage, which directly connected to Treasure Island.

Sleeping in that Saturday, we decided to travel to the opposite end of The Strip and visit the MGM Grand, where we got a look at the Lion Habitat, before touring Madame Tussauds wax museum outside of The Venetian Hotel. We

had our photos shot next to wax figures of Frank Sinatra, Elvis, Muhammad Ali, George Clooney and President Barack Obama. We even managed to make it through the “Scream!” section of the museum, where zombies leap out, grab and scare the show’s tourists.

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thing every visitor to Vegas should do: attend a Cirque du Soleil show.

Fortunately, “Mystere” was playing right in our hotel, and we had pre-ordered tickets before leaving home. The show was an excellent combination of acrobatics and comedy that involved the audience and used the entire theater.

For our last day in Vegas, we attempted to use up our monorail pass and visit New York, New York, the Luxor, Mandalay Bay and Excalibur. We topped off our vacation with a ride up the 1,149 feet to the Stratosphere’s observation deck. The night view of the city with mountains in the distance was spectacular, and we got a big laugh out of watching people bungee jump from the tower.

Once we returned to Wisconsin, we finished our mother-daughter trip with a drive to the Twin Cities to visit the Mall of America.

If there was one thing I regret not doing on our mother-daugther trip, it was stopping by The Bellagio to view the fountain light show.

My mom and I decided we would save that stop for our next trip.

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Beyond the baby bump

Maternity wardrobes can last past the 40 weeks

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uch is made of the non-maternity clothes an expectant mother can wear during pregnancy — the wrap dresses, the leggings, the boxy shift dress-turned-tunic top — but some maternity clothes also do double duty once the baby is born, especially in the period not always affectionately dubbed “the fourth trimester.”

“For the four months after the baby, most women are in their fourth trimester. It’s camouflage-clothes redux,” said Amy Tara Koch, author of the new book “Bump It Up,” published by Ballantine Books. “You don’t want to look fat, but you don’t have the bump to hide behind.”

The loose, long cardigan is a must.

“The beauty of a draped cardigan — look for one without buttons — is it hangs down off you,” said Paula Motte, senior editor at BabyCenter.com. “It’s the wardrobe essential that takes you through pregnancy and beyond. You look for one with drape-y, forgiving fabric in a cotton-stretch blend, and you wear it over everything.”

Koch likes the look of the sweater, especially post-baby, because as your shape slims, the sweater just looks longer.

“The biggest mistake most women make is proportion. It’s an understandable mistake — you feel gigantic, so you wear gigantic

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clothes. But that makes you immediately look frumpy,” she said.

With that key sweater, wear leggings, Koch suggests, which also complement tunics. The opposite silhouette also can work: a long maxi skirt with a slim tank top. “You need volume control,” Koch said.

Actress Leigh-Allyn Baker started work on her new Disney show “Good Luck Charlie,” in which she plays the mother of an infant, right after her own son was born.

“I had to invest when I was pregnant in great jeans. I got Joe’s Jeans, which are made for curvy people anyway. I wore them up until a few months ago — long after the baby. They

don’t press on your belly because they’re low-slung and have no waistband, but they show off the legs,” Baker said.

Some premium denim lines have maternity lines, Koch said, but you also can take jeans you already own to the tailor and have them put in a panel of pantyhose fabric or Spandex over the belly. Those will become your go-to jeans, even post-pregnancy, she said.

And if you buy them a little bigger than your pre-pregnancy size, no one has to know, Motte said. “Your tailor is your friend. Buy clothes that fit you now — even if it’s not the size you wore before being pregnant.

You’ll have clothes to go the distance, and you can always remove side stretchy panels or have seams taken in or out.”

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the summer, Baker bought bikini separates to accommodate the vastly different sized top and bottom of her body. Her biggest “expansion” came at the bustline, so she sized up there and bought bottoms that she’s still able to wear. (If the occasion rises again, Baker adds, she’ll buy two tops for that same pair of bottoms — one in her pregnant size, and the other in her regular size.)

And she’s still wearing maternity tank tops, which now hit well below the hip. Again, she likes the elongated look they give. The key, she said, is that throughout her pregnancy — and now beyond — she is looking for fitted, stretchy, comfortable fabrics.

“It’s not about ‘maternity,’ it’s just about the right material. Fabric is much more important than shape,” Baker said.

Motte agrees about the fabric.

Choose blends that literally bounce back into shape, she said, which are often those infused with Lycra. Any fabric that sags and bags can leave you looking that way, too, she said.

The same looks that work well in the first few months of pregnancy are your best bet after the baby, Koch said. Use a scarf or long, layered necklace to draw the eye upward, add a pop of color near the face — or maybe near the feet — to a mostly black wardrobe, and stylish wedge-heel shoes.

“New moms are often surprised by post-baby pooch. They thought they’d bounce back in pre-pregnancy clothes a few weeks out,” Motte said. “The right clothes are a great way to trick yourself: You fake it until you make it.”

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u Twin pack of long johns for kids, $48 at www. bodenusa.com.

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pajama game

Families get closer in fun sleepwear

On cold nights, snuggle up with loved ones in comfortable pajamas.

u Sparkly graphic sleep top for girls, $12.50 at Gap.

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u Fruit and Veggies snuggly pajamas, $33 at www.new jammies shop.com.

u Silly Skulls footed pajamas for women, $44.99 at www. jumpinjammerz. com.

u BedHead classic PJs for men, $116 at www. zappos.com.

u Carole Hochman Designs pima cotton gown in plus sizes, $76 at Nordstrom.

u Men’s Wabi Check slippers by Camper, $50.55 at www.asos.com.

u Juicy Couture Teddy slipper for women, $60 at www.endless.com. u Women’s sweater-knit house boots, $19.50 at Old Navy.

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cylg! caught you looking good! ... Sept. 23 at the Auction of Champions for the National Farm Medicine Center, part of the Marshfield Clinic Research Foundation.

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Erin Anderson, left, Diane Doine and Heather Wucherpfennig.

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Jessica LeMoine, left, and Vicki Hinson.

... Oct. 16 during Masquerade! at the Chestnut Center for the Arts in Marshfield.

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Kathy Sutterer, left, Eileen Krall and Anne Schmidt.

Kristy Yaeger, left, and Amy Nienast.

Nancy Schultz, left, and Debra Youso.

Roxane Hutchins, left, and Sandi Knetter.

Beth Bliven, left, and Debbie Podbelsek.

Sara Foemmel, left, and Char Wilson.

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Searching for the ‘mom cave’ Women earn updated rooms of their own

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“A Mom Cave is where the woman who nurtures everyone goes to nurture herself,” said designer Elaine Griffin, who created this look. Right: This Homegoods black lamp features a lively, colorful fabric shade. Far right: IKEA’s red bookcase adds a pop of color. Designer Elaine Griffin suggests covering the back of an open bookcase with patterned wallpaper or wrapping paper for added style.

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By Kim Cook

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oxanne Jacoby has a guest room in her Pennsylvania home that no guest has ever slept in. It’s really her “mom cave.”

Outfitted with mementos and comfort items, it’s the only room in the house she really calls her own.

“I’ve put in an alpaca throw, down pillows, a fan, my favorite scented candle, and a whole bunch of stuff that I want to read,” Jacoby said.

It’s not like she couldn’t set all that up in a corner of the family room.

But that guest room has an important feature: “I can close the door.”

Many women — and not just moms — are taking over some of the fallow ground at home and turning it into a haven to pursue personal pursuits. They stake out an unused closet, basement nook or extra bedroom.

Lori Remien, a teacher in Evanston, Ill., took over an unused nook off her daughter’s room when she needed a place to work on her National Boards exams a few years ago.

“I went to Ikea and bought a comfy wicker chair, a plush red rug, some pretty black and white curtains. It’s still a great retreat where I can watch the shows the rest of my family doesn’t watch,” she said.

New York designer Elaine Griffin embraces the mom cave concept and recently partnered with Homegoods in Manhattan to show some decor and space suggestions. She said, “A mom cave is where the woman who nurtures everyone goes to nurture herself.”

It’s different from the quintessential man cave, where men do manly, messy and sporty things, often involving a recliner. Griffin said mom caves are fun, frankly feminine spaces, and they’re personalized.

Here’s what you need for your mom cave: u A place to sit. u Storage space. u An area to do what you want to do. u Room for occasional visitors.

“Organizing your stuff makes your space feel bigger. I love bookcases — you can hide in plain sight,” Griffin said. Colorful boxes and file folders work well; group an array of favorite photos in fun frames on the shelves.

Griffin has a penchant for color — the mini-rooms she created for Homegoods were lively and welcoming. A reading corner with chaise and bookcases was painted vibrant fuchsia. A closet had been transformed into a tiny, yet functional, office, swathed in a warm caramel hue and accented with dramatic touches such

as rattan lamps and black furnishings, including a chair with a nice wide seat.

No extra rooms available? Griffin suggests turning a stair landing into a mini-sanctuary using narrow console tables, a luxurious rug and a couple of armchairs.

These spaces aren’t exclusive to women with families underfoot; all ages appreciate what Virginia Woolf termed “a room of one’s own.” In her social circle of women age 60-plus, Barbara McDonald of Nova Scotia, Canada, said the getaway room is no longer needed but such a space still serves many purposes.

“It’s invaluable as a project room.

Close the door and leave the mess for next time,” she said.

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De-stress the holiday rush Do you feel frazzled trying to do it all during the holidays? Relax, take a deep Tips can help breath and spend a little time planning and getting organized. you manage your Plan now. Get a calendar and mark out the times, dates and events of everyone in the family. it in a place where everyone can see on a daily basis so there are no surprises or “I forgots.” holiday to-do list 1 Post Family planning meeting. Whether it’s caroling with neighbors, visiting Santa or giving back 2 to the community, make a date with your family to talk about how you will spend the holidays this year.

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Decorating day. Schedule a family decorating event so you don’t delay getting up the holiday 3 display — and so you don’t have to do it alone. Also, minimize decorating. Instead of the entire house being decorated, pick one room where the family gathers most.

Make out your Christmas shopping list and keep it with you. That way, if you are in that area 4 of town or near the store you need, you know what you need to get. Advance purchasing will save time.

Bake ahead and freeze. Since Thanksgiving usually brings lots of family together, get 5Cookie the kids together in the evening or during the holiday weekend and bake for Christmas. walks and drives are other time-saving events. your holiday dinners a pot luck. Ask family members to each bring a particu6allMake lar item. It’s enough hosting a holiday celebration, but it is also added stress to do the preparations as well. If you are not hosting, ask what you can do or bring. This also helps when you are on a budget.

OK to hire a baby sitter. Even if you are at home, having a baby sitter for a 7 It’s night so you can get things done around the house can take off some stress. during non-peak hours, such as a Monday night, or shop on the 8dayShop Internet. Many times, you can find really good deals throughout the holiseason. It also saves travel time, fighting traffic and standing in lines at stores. You even can have your items gift wrapped and shipped right to the home of the person for whom you are buying the gift.

Planning of holiday events and tasks will let you enjoy the season, instead of continuously running through your to-do list in your head.

And sharing your calendar and tasks with the family will help get everyone involved.

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Are we raising a generation of nincompoops?

By Beth J. Harpaz The Associated Press

NEW YORK — Second-graders who can’t tie shoes or zip jackets. Four-year-olds in PullUps diapers. Five-year-olds in strollers. Teens and preteens befuddled by can openers and ice-cube trays. College kids who’ve never done laundry, taken a bus alone or addressed an envelope.

Are we raising a generation of nincompoops? And do we have only ourselves to blame? Or are some of these things simply the result of kids growing up with push-button technology in an era when mechanical devices gradually are being replaced by electronics?

Susan Maushart, a mother of three, said her teenage daughter “literally does not know how to use a can opener. Most cans come with pull-tops these days. I see her reaching for a can that requires a can opener, and her shoulders slump and she goes for something else.”

Teenagers are so accustomed to either throwing their clothes on the floor or hanging them on hooks that Maushart says her “kids actually struggle with the mechanics of a

clothes hanger.”

Many kids never learn to do ordinary household tasks. They have no chores. Takeout and drive-through meals have replaced home cooking. And busy families who can afford it often outsource house-cleaning and lawn care.

“It’s all laid out for them,” said Maushart, author of the forthcoming book “The Winter of Our Disconnect,” about her efforts to wean her family from its dependence on technology.

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has led to this situation — the Velcro sneakers, the Pull-Ups generation. You can pee in your pants, and we’ll take care of it for you!”

Lenore Skenazy, who writes a popular blog called Free-Range Kids, based on her book by the same name, has a different take. Skenazy, whose approach to parenting is decidedly anti-helicopter, agrees that we are partly to blame for our children’s apparent incompetence, starting when they are infants.

“There is an onslaught of stuff being sold to us from the second they come out of the womb trying to convince us that they are nincompoops,” she said. “They need to go to Gymboree, or they will never hum and clap!

To teach them how to walk, you’re supposed to turn your child into a marionette by strapping this thing on them that holds them up because it helps them balance more naturally than 30,000 years of evolution!”

Despite all this, Skenazy thinks today’s kids are way smarter than we give them credit for: “They know how to change a photo caption on a digital photo and send it to a friend. They can add the smiley face without the colon and parentheses! They never took typing, but they can type faster than I can!”

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Tips to solve the gift giving puzzle

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feel a little guilty giving away some of the secrets of the male population in regards to gift giving — but someone needs to say something. My only motive is to help everyone involved in the puzzling search to find the perfect gift for that special someone.

Most men see this as a requirement, to keep our significant someone happy.

Please note: Your special man does it because he loves you deeply and appreciates everything you do. And he wants to show how you have made his life with you the best thing this world offers.

He knows what makes you smile, and has listened to your every word, and knows the inner thoughts of your heart. No gift could ever be as precious as you in his life. Yes, that is what most women want to believe, and many men know that is the expectation when buying gifts for those dear to him.

I have to say this is a high bar to set, and one that I don’t believe should be lowered to let us men off the hook. Men do want to give the “perfect” gift and make their special someone smile. Speaking with my male friends, we do really count on “hints” to get that special gift. Yes, you do need to tell your man what you want. We are afraid to make a mistake and send the wrong message.

“If I have to tell you what I want, then forget about it,” does not work for we men, because we will forget about it, or get you the first thing we see pre-boxed at the convenience store checkout. Be honest about what you want, or at least give us some serious hints, because then you will have

a better chance of getting it.

As the holidays approach, we will be flooded with advertisements of every sort. When looking through the papers, shoppers and catalogues, please winter 2010

comment on the stuff you would like or need. This might also be done by writing it down or circling it in the shoppers, then leaving it where your man will see it. This reportedly works

great with my men friends.

For the men who read this: She also loves anything you took the time to make because it shows how much you appreciate her in your life.

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Things to do Marshfield area Exhibits & Museums

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LuCille Tack Center Gallery (300 School St., Spencer; 715-659-4499) Exhibits may be viewed during opening receptions, at the time of a performance and by appointment. u Student artwork: Runs Dec. 1 to Dec. 22, featuring a variety of original arts and crafts created by students at Spencer Elementary School. u Laura Newman of Marshfield: Integrated various mediums as well as life experiences, this exhibit will include a variety of paintings, ceramics and photography. Runs Jan. 7 to Jan. 28. Opening reception 5 p.m. to 7 p.m. Jan. 7. u Carol Tully of Wisconsin Rapids: Reflecting the spirit and energy of nature, pet portraits, wall murals and wildlife images will grace the gallery walls. Runs Feb. 4 to Feb. 25. Opening reception 5 p.m. to 7 p.m. Feb. 4.

New Visions Gallery (Marshfield Clinic lobby, 1000 N. Oak Ave., Marshfield; 715-387-5562) Gallery hours are 9 a.m. to 5:30 p.m. Monday through Friday. u “Paintings by John R. Davenport and Sculptures by Gene Reineking”:

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Many of Davenport’s oil and pastel paintings depict images of the Ice Age Trail area. Reineking transforms wooden burls from America’s West into one-of-a-kind sculptures. Stylized representations of birds and mammals form the backbone of his work. Runs through Dec. 31. u “Glass from Bromberg Collection” runs Jan. 10 to Feb. 25. Collection debuts to celebrate the opening of the Bromberg Cultural Art Center within Marshfield Clinic.

Thomas House Center for History (103 S. Central Ave., Marshfield; 384-5867) u A military exhibit, “Lest We Forget,” is the special feature. Open 1 p.m. to 4:30 p.m. Wednesday, 11 a.m. to 2 p.m. Saturday, or by appointment.

Upham Mansion (212 W. Third St., Marshfield; 715-387-3322) u Restored home of former Wisconsin governor William Henry Upham, this house represents mid-Victorian architecture at its finest. The featured exhibit for the month of December will be “I Heard the Bells On Christmas Day” bell display. Open 1:30 p.m. to 4 p.m. Wednesday and Saturday.

Music Chestnut Avenue Center for the Arts (208 S. Chestnut Ave., Marshfield; 715-389-8999) u Guitar Workshop with Pete Neuman: 3 p.m. to 4 p.m. Feb. 19; call for details and fee. u Pete Neuman and the Real Deal: 7:30 p.m. Feb. 19; blues-influenced rock band. Advance tickets: $10 adults/$7 students and seniors; at the door: $12 adults/$9 students and seniors. u Green Tea-Celtic Infusion: 7:30 p.m. Feb. 26. Tickets: TBA. LuCille Tack Center for the Arts (300 School St., Spencer; 715-6594499) u The O’Neill Brothers Holiday Show: 3 p.m. Dec. 5. A Christmas performance with an Irish flavor. Reserved seating: $15. u John Mueller’s Winter Dance Party: 7:30 p.m. Jan. 22. A tribute show for Buddy Holly, Richie Valens and the Big Bopper. Reserved seating: $28. u “A Closer Walk with Patsy Cline”: 3 p.m. Feb. 20. Musical traces the legendary singer’s rise to stardom. Reserved seating: $15.

Pittsville Auditorium (5459 Elementary Ave., Pittsville; 715-8846694) u The Memories Christmas Show: 7:30 p.m. Dec. 4. Warren Petryk and Tim Stevens sing a mix of traditional carols, sing-a-longs, comedy and special surprises. Tickets: $10 adults; $8, seniors; $5 students.

UW-Marshfield/Wood County (2000 W. Fifth St., Marshfield; 715389-6534) u Music @ the Wood: Halcyon Days Concert: 7:30 p.m. Dec. 10, Helen Laird Theatre. Enjoy an evening of choral and symphonic music to celebrate the Halcyon Days of peace and tranquility traditionally associated with seasonal holidays and the winter solstice.

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On Stage LuCille Tack Center for the Arts (300 School St., Spencer; 715-659-4499) u “Doktor Kaboom!”: 7 p.m. Feb. 9. An interactive one-man science variety show. Reserved seating: $8 adults, $5 youths.

UW-Marshfield/Wood County (2000 W. Fifth St., Marshfield; 715-389-6534)

u “Blame It On the Movies — a Musical”: 7:30 p.m. Feb. 3 to Feb. 5 and 2 p.m. Feb. 6, Helen Laird Theatre. This nostalgic treat features unforgettable tunes from “The Wizard Of Oz,” “Meet Me In St. Louis,” “Gone With The Wind,” “Goldfinger,” “The Color Purple,” “Footloose” and others. Tickets: $12 for the performance; $29 for dinner and the performance at 6 p.m. Feb. 5.

Other UW-Marshfield/Wood County (2000 W. Fifth St., Marshfield; 715389-6534) u Marshfield Cultural Fair: 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Feb. 26; UWMarshfield/Wood County. The event comes with music and dance, demonstrations, international food, family fun and a children’s activity area. Entertainment will feature the HoChunk Native American Dancers and Singers, the Lincoln High School Mariachi Band, Riverfront Clogging, Shuvani

Belly Dance, Bhahgra Asian-Indian Dance and the Mexican Dance Group-Carlos Escudaro. An array of international foods from Mexico, India, Germany, Asia and other cuisines will be available. Samples and demonstrations as well as interactive exhibits will offer experiences in new areas. For more information, call Julie at 715-389-6514 or go to www.marshfield culturalfair.com.

Bhahgra AsianIndian dancers will be at the Marshfield Cultural Fair.

Miscellaneous u Wagon and Buggy Rides: Nov. 26 to Dec. 17, downtown Marshfield. u Rotary Winter Wonderland: Nov. 26 to Dec. 31, Wildwood Park & Zoo. u Christmas Open House: 1:30 p.m. to 4 p.m. Dec. 5, Upham Mansion, Marshfield. u Rudolph’s Country Christmas: 9 a.m. to 5:45 p.m. Dec. 11, downtown Rudolph; fireworks and lighted parade at 5:15 p.m. u Reindeer Day: 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. Dec. 11, M&I Bank parking lot, Marshfield. u Bridal Extravaganza: 10 a.m. to 7 p.m. Jan. 8, Shoppes at Wood Ridge, Marshfield. u Wedding Fantasy 2011: 1 p.m. to 4 p.m. Jan. 16, Holiday Inn & Conference Center, Marshfield. Go to www.shoppesatwoodridge.com. u Fun d’ Arts, 5:30 p.m. to 11 p.m. Feb. 5, Holiday Inn & Conference Center, Marshfield. u Dance and Romance Weekend: Feb. 11 and Feb. 12, American

Legion and Eagles Club, Marshfield; www.visitmarshfieldwi. com. Polka bands at the Eagles Club 8:30 p.m. to 12:30 a.m.

Feb. 11 and noon to midnight Feb. 12. u The BriTins (a Beatles tribute band) performs 8 p.m. to midnight Feb. 11 at American Legion (admission $15 in advance, $20 at door). GL Wesley (Elvis impersonator) and Elaine Grant Wesley (a tribute to Patsy Cline) perform 8 p.m. to midnight Feb. 12 at American Legion ($15 in advance, $20 at door). For ticket and hotel information, call 800-422-4541 or 715-384-4314. u State Championship Ice Races: 11 a.m. Feb. 21, Lake Dexter, Dexterville. (Registration 8 a.m. to 10 a.m.; practice 9 a.m. to 10 a.m.; riders meeting 10:30 a.m.) Go to www.cwira.com or call 715-323-2954. u 31st Annual Farm Show: 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Feb. 23 and Feb. 24, Shoppes at Wood Ridge, Marshfield. u Marshfield Home Show: 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Feb. 26 and 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Feb. 27, Marshfield High School Fieldhouse.

Wisconsin Rapids area u Dec. 3 and 4: Whimsy Sisters & Mary O’s Wearable Art Show, 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. Dec. 3 and 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. Dec. 4. Shop for unique clothing, jewelry, purses, children’s wearable art and lots of hand-created, artful items. While you are there, enjoy holiday treats and beverages. Meet the artists. New location inside Golden Eagle’s model log home, 4421 Plover Road, Wisconsin Rapids. Free admission and parking. 715-424-4064; www.WearableArtShow.blogspot.com. u Dec. 4: Rapids Mall Holiday Art and Craft Show, 10 am. to 5 p.m., 555 W. Grand Ave., Wisconsin Rapids. 715-421-3500. u Dec. 4: 2011 South Wood County Humane Society Christmas Bazaar — new location. The Annual Christmas Bazaar and Bake sale will have a new location. It will be held 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. at the old Movie Gallery, 1845 Eighth St. S., next to Rocky Rococo’s.

Please call the shelter with any questions. 715-4230505. u Dec. 31: New Year’s Eve Dinner and Dance, 5 p.m. to 9 p.m. Lake Arrowhead Pines Clubhouse, Rome. Music

by Rumours. Special buffet from 5 p.m. to 9 p.m. u Feb. 11 to 13: SnoBlast 2011: Music by Wayne Jaworski and more Note: Events are subject to change.

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The BriTins will perform Feb. 11 at the American Legion. winter 2010

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