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special LGBTQ edition

gay weddings from invitation etiquette to planning the procession,

has everything you need to make your own traditions. For more information, go to: www.theknot.com/gayweddings

inspiring real weddings planning & etiquette tips from the PROS

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e’ve been cheering each victory as more and more states continue to legalize same-sex marriage. And hopefully, very soon, recognizing this human right will become just another part of our cultural framework. In the meantime, we champion our friends, like Lance Bass, who was accompanied down the aisle by his Southern Baptist parents (page 42). We also know that samesex weddings have their own set of particulars—and our third issue is full of all the support, advice and ideas to guide you every step of the way. Get ready for some serious inspiration ahead!

editor in chief

Send me questions at rdolgin@theknot.com

click on these photos to see even more gorgeous same-sex weddings online

#theknot cofounder

Carley Roney

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36 contents Get Ready, Set, Plan!

Your go-to wedding checklist.

By the Numbers

Gay Weddings 2014 survey results.

Ask Carley

Our cofounder answers your questions.

Wedding Etiquette 101

Michael Russo, celeb planner and newlywed, shares his expert tips.

My 7 Favorite Things

Shawn Rabideau dishes on what’s inspiring him now.

Color Report

Refined style options for classic grooms.

Shore Thing

Dream Destinations

116

Check out these honeymoon hot spots.

122

When it comes to your last name, the choice is all yours.

Last Look

123

Down-Home Flair

Hadija & Nicole, Finlayson, MN

Old-World Charm

Whimsical Woodland

Bright & Buzzy Eclectic Garden

One couple’s sweet shot.

Modern Luxe

Lisa & Nic, Sanbornton, NH

Nick & Ricardo, Chicago

Crissy & Renee, Sedona, AZ

Antique Appeal

100

Mikie & Richie, Huntington, NY

Joey & Michael, Charleston, SC

Ginny & Kim, Potomac, MD

Warm & Worldly

Graphic & Glam

Emily & Ericka, Brooklyn, NY

Playful Picnic

John & Marc, Sonoma, CA

Contemporary Class

Rustic Elegance

Backyard Bash

Fred & Robert, Minneapolis

Funky & Fresh

42 Work of Art

Richard & Steven, Chevy Chase, MD

Jeannine & Robin, Philadelphia

Beachy keen ideas for an engagement shoot.

What’s in a Name?

Lance & Michael, Los Angeles

Emily & Rebecca, Idledale, CO

Proposals worth reading about.

Vintage Glamour

Regal & Romantic

Jeff & Josh, Pasadena, CA

Inspiration in teal, navy and blush tones.

Love Stories

real weddings

104

Corinne & Whitney, Santa Rosa Beach, FL

Aviation Affair

108

Robb & Sean, Weston, CT

Vineyard Chic

112

Alisha & Kelley, Healdsburg, CA

planning

Finalize your guest list. Settle on wedding colors and style. Research stationers and choose one. Pick a caterer and start thinking about the menu. Research and book your florist, photographer, videographer, ceremony musicians, reception band or DJ, and cake baker. If any of your attendants are wearing dresses, decide on the dresses and let them all know, so they can order them and get them fitted. Choose and order formalwear. If you’re wearing a gown and veil, order them now and schedule fittings—one at six weeks and another at one or two weeks.

6–8 MONTHS

What to do, and when, on your way to the altar.

12+ MONTHS Think about when you’d like to have your wedding. Enter your budget into TheKnot.com. Outline the initial guest list and keep track of it with our guest list manager at TheKnot.com. Research and book ceremony and reception locations. If same-sex marriage isn’t legal where you live, think about having a destination wedding. Go to TheKnot.com or download The Knot Wedding Planner app and enter your wedding date to get a free personalized checklist. Book any pros you have to have, like a DJ or planner. Set up a wedding website at TheKnot.com. Start shopping for your attire. Reserve hotel room blocks. Easily book them on TheKnot.Jetaport.com. Decide on and book an officiant.

9–11 MONThs Choose your wedding party (if you decide to have one). Also consider roles for other key people (ceremony readers, ushers).

4–5 MONTHS Finalize your flower proposal with your florist. Book a room for your wedding night. Address invites or bring them to the calligrapher. Complete your cake order. Consider ordering customized toppers from TheKnotShop.com. Shop for and buy your wedding rings. Purchase or start making your favors.

2–3 MONTHS Work on your vows (if you’re writing them). Attend food tastings and decide on the menu. Send out your wedding invitations at the six- to eight-week mark. Finalize the ceremony details and lineup with your officiant. Confirm your hotel room blocks. Create a day-of schedule to time out all of the wedding details (hour by hour). Pick out any wedding accessories you plan to wear. Order or start making your ceremony programs.

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get ready, set, plan!

Send out your save-the-dates. Plan out the ceremony with your officiant and discuss any requirements. Book your honeymoon flights and hotels. Iron out the rehearsal dinner details. Order your invitations and thank-you notes.

1 MONTH Compile a photo list for your photographer. Prepare welcome bags for out-of-town guests. Send out invites for the rehearsal dinner.

2–3 DAYS

If your caterer or planner will be arranging the escort cards, place cards, menus, favors and/or the guest book, hand them off to him or her. Confirm last-minute details like flower and cake deliveries and what time and where you’re meeting your photographer.

Bring ceremony accessories and décor to the site. Rehearse the ceremony and attend rehearsal dinner. Present your parents (and each other) with gifts. Give an attendant an envelope with the officiant’s fee, to be handed off after the ceremony.

Follow up with any missing RSVPs. Create the seating chart and give it to your caterer, site manager, planner and photographer. Give your caterer the final head count. Include your wedding pros, such as band members and the photographer, who will expect a meal. Confirm all final details with all your pros. Write your wedding toasts. Pick up your marriage license.

DAY BEFORE

1–2 weeks

Plan the processional/recessional. Steam your dress or suit if wrinkled. Go over any last-minute details with the ceremony and reception sites. Pack an overnight bag for the wedding night. Deliver welcome bags to the hotel.

NEWS

41% PROPOSE WITH AN ENGAGEMENT RING 97% THE ENGAGEMENT

THE PREP

of couples live together before getting married

20%

50%

71%

of which are a surprise

83% HAVE OTHER PRE/POSTWEDDING EVENTS

hire a wedding planner

split wedding planning responsibilities

60%

of those are a formal proposal

39%

37%

25%

after-party, day-after brunch

wedding shower, rehearsal bachelor(ette) party, couple dinner, party, engagement party welcome party

THE WEDDING MODERN & SLEEK Cocktail style, good music, limited décor and flowers

DÉCOR STYLES CASUAL & UNIQUE No rules and fun... very go with the flow

47%

female couples 59% are escorted by a family member

CLASSIC & TRADITIONAL Tables, centerpieces and dancing

11%

plan to walk down the aisle together

male couples 39% are escorted by a family member

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WALK DOWN THE AISLE

39%

23%

56%

21%

weddings by the numbers

THE HONEYMOON

26%

Curious about how other couples are getting hitched?

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plan to walk down the aisle together

63%

go on a honeymoon

17% 4%

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HAWAII

AVERAGE ENGAGEMENT LENGTH

AND YOU GET SERIOUSLY CREATIVE WITH YOUR PROPOSALS...

Mount Vesuvius

hot air balloon

months

Great Wall of China

Jumbotron

The Seattle Great Wheel

Rockefeller Center

Machu Picchu

ATTIRE

16%

of female couples

49%

of male couples

91%

WEAR MATCHING OUTFITS

Eiffel Tower

WEDDING SEASONS

of couples know what one another is wearing in advance

sunset on a sailboat in Portugal

38%

35%

17% 10% WINTER DEC. JAN.

49%

guests on average

of couples write their own vows

42%

tie religion into their ceremony

FEB.

SPRING

SUMMER

MAR. APR. MAY

JUNE JULY AUG.

FALL SEP.

OCT. NOV.

EVENT BREAKDOWN

11%

only have a ceremony

72%

have a ceremony and reception

simply host a reception

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THE NAME GAME TO CHANGE OR NOT TO CHANGE? US

53%

EUROPE

We’re both keeping our given names

CARIBBEAN

One of us is changing our name to the other’s

24%

We’re hyphenating and using both names CENTRAL & S. AMERICA

We’re combining our names into a whole new last name

15% 2%

We’re creating an entirely new last name

Source: The Knot same-sex wedding traditions survey. (Conducted in partnership with The Advocate, July 2014)

EXPERT Q& A

money matters Q So, we were wondering— who pays? A Good question! In straight weddings, tradition calls for the bride’s family to pick up the ceremony and reception tab, while the groom’s hosts the rehearsal dinner. But even that’s changing, and more couples are footing the bill or sharing the costs in a variety of ways. According to the latest study by The Knot, about 85 percent of same-sex couples are paying for the majority of the wedding themselves. Maybe you and your partner equally split the bill. Or if you feel comfortable and your parents support your plans, ask them if they’d like to contribute.

ask carley

Our cofounder answers your questions

ring rules

Q A

We bought each other rings a while ago. Can we just use them to get married even though we’ve been wearing them?

Exchanging some form of rings at your ceremony is a symbolic gesture (the circular shape, with no beginning or end, references eternity). If you already have engagement or commitment rings and you don’t want to buy new ones, it’s fine to wear what you have. But why not do something special with them to commemorate your marriage? Consider engraving the wedding date or a meaningful quote, or have a jeweler add a stone. You could even have a ring warming, where your rings are passed among guests in blessing before you exchange them.

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pro predicament Q What do we do if a vendor we love won’t work with us because we’re having a same-sex wedding? A Unfortunately you may encounter this kind of discrimination, as we’ve seen with cases like the Oregon couple who brought a successful discrimination suit against the bakery that refused to make their wedding cake. It’s sad to think there are wedding pros out there who won’t work with same-sex couples—but there are plenty who will. It’s not worth giving your money to someone who doesn’t support your union. It’s a smart idea to check with friends who’ve had a same-sex wedding for great vendor recommendations. Also, use your local Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce as a resource, or browse pros on TheKnot.com/gayweddings who specialize in same-sex weddings (and honeymoons!).

shower solution Q We want to have a wedding shower but we’re not sure how to approach it. Should we have a joint party, or is it best to have separate showers? A If most of your friends are mutual, it’s probably practical to have a couple’s shower so you avoid duplicates on your guest lists. But if you have mostly separate social circles, it makes more sense to each have your own shower with a theme that fits your individual personalities. (By the way, if you’re having a bachelor or bachelorette party, which more gay and lesbian couples are doing, consider joining forces for a modern twist on the traditional last hurrah.)

dress dilemma

money

etiquette

ceremony

vent

aisle approach Q Neither of us wants to meet the other at the altar during the ceremony. Do you have any nontraditional suggestions for walking down the aisle? A If your ceremony space has three aisles, you could walk down opposite side aisles and meet at the altar. Afterward, you can go up the middle aisle together for the recessional. This also works well if you’re each having a family member or close friend escort you down the aisle. Other ideas: If your venue allows for it, create a wider aisle to accommodate four people and walk down together, with each of your escorts, or create an alternative seating setup, like two facing U-shaped rings, and walk in from different sides to meet in the center.

fashion

parental guidance Q My parents don’t seem pleased with our decision to get married, and I’m not sure whether they want to come to the wedding. Should I invite them? A This is a really tough situation and, unfortunately, a common one. First, don’t assume anything. Base your decision on how comfortable you are with your parents attending your wedding, not on how comfortable you think they are with being there. If you really want them to attend, invite them. Doing so lets them know that you want them present on your special day, but it also shows them you’re entirely confident making this commitment to your partner. That might help your parents understand how important the relationship is to you and give them some perspective on the meaning of this event. In the end, if you still sense negativity, let them know you appreciate any support they can give, but that you’ll understand if they don’t feel comfortable coming. The last thing you want is for

party picks Q Who should we include in the wedding party? A Anyone you want—your closest friends and family are obvious choices. Traditionally, the maid of honor and best man are “witnesses” who sign the legal marriage document (though not all states require witnesses). If you’re getting married in a state where same-sex marriage isn’t legal, you could create your own marriage contract and have two of your nearest and dearest sign, along with the two of you and your officiant. If you want to have an all-female or all-male bridal party, go for it—just coordinate their attire and flowers.

Q My partner is set on a white ball gown. I, on the other hand, am not quite as outwardly feminine. It’s not that I don’t ever wear dresses; I’m just most comfortable in a nice shirt and pants. Should I wear a wedding dress to match her, or a suit instead? A Wear what you feel most comfortable in. If you’re not generally the dress type, don’t force yourself to wear one just because it’s your wedding. In fact, white suits were all over the bridal fashion runways and are available in bridal salons now. We love a lace one from Rivini with a tulle train, and more structured styles from Pamella Roland and Carolina Herrera.

More questions? Find answers at TheKnot.com/ askcarley

them to show up and spend the day miserable or make you and your guests feel uncomfortable.

etiquette

wedding etiquette 101 Celebrity event and wedding planner Michael Russo shares his expert advice on what to keep in mind as you plan your day. (And he’s a newlywed too—check out his own wedding on page 100!) I’m constantly asked about the difference between planning a

embrace being different

celebrity event versus a “regular” couple’s event. To be honest,

When making decisions about your wedding, you may find yourself

there’s no difference whatsoever—celebrating the love between

having to choose between newer trends and timeless traditions.

two people far transcends their financial or public status. The same

In a gay wedding, for instance, you might not toss the bouquet

goes for weddings in the gay community: I treat every one the same,

or throw a garter, but instead of looking at this as a negative, use

because love is love. But planning a wedding can certainly be stress-

the opportunity to come up with clever, unconventional ways to

ful, especially when it comes to etiquette. In the LGBT community

incorporate your personality and style as a couple.

in particular, wedding etiquette is a somewhat unfamiliar concept lished. Furthermore, every couple is different in many ways, so what

think twice before accepting a check from either of your parents or loved ones

may work for one couple might not apply to another, making it tricky

Monetary gifts can come with an additional, unexpected price tag

to strike a balance. All that said, there are a few general rules that

since typically, whoever contributes to the wedding budget will

exist across the board. Here are some tips on etiquette guidance.

want a say in the planning process.

for everyone; the ground rules have essentially not yet been estab-

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accessories to make it your own,

come to you.

as opposed to completely over-

keep your guests in mind when planning a destination wedding

hauling a space into something you want. (Transformations of this nature equate to big bucks!)

send out save-thedates soon after booking the venue

Typically, couples will pay

The objective of the save- the-

hotel rooms for the duration

date is to ensure that

of the event, but it’s uncom-

your guests have ample time

mon to foot the bill for your

to make the necessary

other guests’ airfare and

arrangements so they can

lodging. Having a destination

attend. This is especially

wedding may be costly for

true for a destination

your guests, but they’re often

wedding, which will require

weekend-long events, and

advance planning to book

the people closest to you

travel and lodging.

don’t make your seating chart until you’ve received your guests’ RSVPs dinner, this will help make the process go much more

“Delegate tasks to eliminate as much stress as you can. Being a control freak will only hurt you in the end.”

exactly how many units will be needed for printing purposes (think menus, escort cards, wedding programs and favors).

keep in mind that most wedding venues have a maximum capacity

the expense.

delegate small tasks and projects to your attendants Eliminate as much unnecessary stress as you can. Don’t be a control freak—it will only hurt you in the end.

don’t try anything new a month before the wedding! Don’t overdo it in the tanning salon, don’t get an intense facial or chemical peel, don’t try any new medications or workout

Most of the time, maximum capacity also means a very tight

supplements, and so on. It’s easy to fall into the trap of trying

floor plan or a cramped dance floor, so try to stay under that

something dramatic so you look your best, but more often than

number by 20 to 30 guests.

not, it falls short of expectations, or leaves you with results that

give your guests a favor at the end of the event as a token of your appreciation

can impact your appearance in a negative way.

While it’s customary, you can have fun with it. The favor should

above all, remember that it’s one day and it goes by faster than you could ever imagine!

be something you love as a couple, and could possibly tie into

Don’t forget to relax and enjoy every moment.

the theme of your wedding.

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Michael Russo has been planning events for celebrities and influencers for over 10 years. He’s been featured on The View, Entertainment

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Tonight and Access Hollywood, and his work has appeared in People

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my 7 favorite things

New York– and Charleston, SC–based planner Shawn Rabideau wed his longtime partner last fall

Noted event planner Shawn Rabideau shares what’s inspiring him right now. By elizabeth roehrig

1 garden magazines “I like to bring organic elements into my designs,” Rabideau says. His parents live on seven acres, surrounded by nature. When he can’t spend time among plants and flowers, magazines are the next best way to get ideas.

2 store window displays Some of Rabideau’s favorites are shops that literally put their creativity on display, like Bergdorf Goodman (pictured), Anthropologie and West Elm. “I might take a piece I saw in a vignette and transform it into something else for one of my events.”

3 cakes with dress details For a recent wedding, Rabideau took photos of the bride’s dress to cake designer Ron BenIsrael and had him incorporate the lace and

crystal details into the confection. “It was such a striking gown—and the cake turned out amazing!”

4 textured stationery Rabideau is super-passionate about paper— he even has his own line, which includes the invitation above, at FineStationery.com. “I like using wood grains, burlap and other textures that people normally wouldn’t think to use,” he says. Another surprise element? Having the designs carry through on the backs of pieces, from invites to table numbers.

5 comfort food hors d’oeuvres “I think cocktail hour is where you should really have fun with food,” Rabideau says. While you may not want to get too risky with the entrées, why not serve “junk food” with

an elegant twist, like lamb sliders or truffle pizza bites? And, future trend alert: “I’m dying to do a cheese-straw bar at a wedding, featuring all different flavors of the Southern staple in a cute display,” he says.

6 Instagram inspiration “I never copy other event planners, but I do like getting a peek at what sparks their imaginations. I follow destination wedding planner Michelle Rago (@teamrago, pictured) on Instagram. She has a great eye.”

7 marsala flowers “I’m loving that Pantone’s Color of the Year, marsala, is so bold. For a light, bright and airy summer wedding, I’m picturing rich, deep, wine-colored peonies paired with lighter accent flowers.”

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color report 2

5 4

t eal Here’s a color that has a regal feel.

pantone 3145

pairs well with

pantone 1795

pantone 324

pantone 876

1 Jewel-tone plates accented with teal napkins bring a royal feel to the table. Charger, $95, Anna Weatherley, MichaelCFina.com; dinner and dessert plate in Syracuse, from $210 each, Robert Haviland, MichaelCFina.com; napkin, NuageDesigns.com; menu card, RegasStudio.com 2 Rock candy sticks, as favors or table accents, are a creative way to match your shade. $90 for 120, CandyWarehouse.com 3 Forgo a flower boutonniere in favor of an unexpected peacock plume. 4 White lettering against a teal background creates an elegant contrast. $214 for 100, WeddingPaperDivas.com 5 We love the modern-meets-deco feel of these drop earrings. $248, ThomasLaine.com 6 Want to jazz up a plain white wedding cake? Try a fondant ruffle. 7 These printed paper straws are festive—and biodegradable. $7 for 25, TheKnotShop .com 8 A sly reference makes for a playful table. PeanutPressCreative.com >>

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pantone 187-1

pairs well with

pantone 1795

pantone 320

pantone 877

1 Spot-on style: A navy polka-dot pocket square is a luxe touch. $10, TheTieBar.com 2 In lieu of classic black, a navy suit is equally as chic. Jacket and pants, MassimoDutti .com; shirt, Canali, MRPORTER.com; tie, BananaRepublic .com 3 A deep blue eye shadow lends drama to your lids. Use it as a liner or shadow. Chubby Stick in Massive Midnight, $17, Clinique, Sephora.com 4 Go for a midnightblue invitation to up the formality. $234 for 100, Minted .com 5 Blue suede shoes get our vote for funkiest footwear. $90, Bar III, Macys.com 6 Fondant initials double as a unique design and monogram in one. TheCakeStudioNYC .com 7 Amp up the table presentation with plates that offer a fresh take on florals. Dogwood Orchard accent plate, $19, AERIN, Lenox.com >>

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pantone 107-8

pairs well with

pantone 876

pantone 23-9

pantone 181-7

1 Graphic pink twill is the perfect summer statement. Shirt, from $139, JHilburn.com 2 The easiest way to dress up an understated ensemble is with a bold necklace. $58, OliveandPiper.com 3 Printed pocket squares add a classic touch and a hint of color to any suit. $10 each, TheTieBar.com 4 This invitation is equal parts elegance and whimsy. $140 for 50, LoveVsDesign.com 5 A pretty metallic overlay lends shimmer and lightness to this bridesmaid dress. $210, Jim Hjelm Occasions, JLMCouture.com 6 Black piping in a swirling motif provides an unexpected edge to a sweet cake. 7 What adds spirit to an ordinary cocktail? Fun flamingo stirrers. $5 for 24, KegWorks.com

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real proposals

love stories

Now these are proposals worth reading about. BY jennifer tzeses

josh & matt • Cape Cod, MA photograph by abby jiu Photography

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For Josh’s (left) birthday, Matt planned a trip to Cape Cod. “Cape Cod is very special to Josh,” Matt says. “He spent many summers there when he was a child.” Matt proposed on the beach and the two enjoyed the moment over champagne and charcuterie. Afterward, he had another surprise—a sunset cocktail party and dinner with their nearest and dearest. “We were very lucky that our closest friends and family were able to share in the day with us,” Matt says.

john & scott • San Diego, CA photograph by derek chad photography

During the dessert course of John’s (right) birthday dinner in Palm Springs, California, the waiter presented him with a jewelry box on a plate. “I immediately grabbed for it thinking it was another birthday gift, but Scott stopped me and got down on one knee and told me he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me,” John says. “It was the best and most memorable birthday I have and will ever have in my life!”

megan & mikayla •

Portland, OR photograph by katy weaver photography

While in Rome on vacation, the couple hiked up the Quirinal Hill, the highest of the seven hills of Rome. “We stood overlooking the city, and while I inspected our map, Mikayla (left) took my hand and dropped to one knee,” Megan says. “With the sweetest words that I will never forget, she proposed—and as we kissed, church bells rang.”

laura & nadira •

Grand Rapids, MI photograph by WIllow noavi photography

Nadira (right) planned a trip to Traverse City, Michigan, but Laura thought it was only a late birthday present. “Right before we left, I told her that we were actually going to celebrate our first trip as an engaged couple,” Nadira says. She proposed right then, at home. “It was the most adrenaline-pumping and amazing thing I’d ever done—aside from asking her parents for their blessing!”

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Designed with a horn motif and packaged in a wooden box, this stationery set starts the festivities on a high note. Etched escort cards bear guestsâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; names in a distinctive fashion. Stationery, PaperBirchDesigns .com; calligraphy, MonVoir.com >>

vintage glamour

classic touches, old-world charm and a neutral palette set a sophisticated tone. photogr aphy by art direction by

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JOY PROCTOR design

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Dapper duo Express your personality in the details. Differentiate a classic black suit with a vest or slim necktieâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;or even your favorite pet. Suits, Zegna.com; ties, AlexanderMcQueen.com; shoes, Ferragamo.com

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cocktails, anyone?

A lounge area that evokes a classic men’s club— complete with a leather Chesterfield sofa and crystal decanters—creates a posh, 19th-century vibe. Decanters, RefineryVintageRentals.com >>

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In keeping with the textural look, each place setting is outfitted with black matte plates topped with wooden menus. Modern gold-plated flatware and gold-rimmed stemless glasses up the glam factor. Tabletop, WestElm.com; napkins, LaTavolaLinen.com

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organic chic

Rustic meets refined, with a long wood table adorned with a monogrammed runner and vintage details like brass candleholders. Urns overflowing with greenery and white florals further the luxe farmhouse feel. Runner, PaperBirchDesigns.com >>

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A vintage convertible is the ultimate fashionable getaway. Suits, HugoBoss.com; ties, TommyHilfiger.com; shoes, Ferragamo.com

sweet simplicity

A touch of greenery adds a pop of color to the fondantcovered, four-tier confection. Cake, AnaPazCakes.com

Fashion Stylist: Danny Santiago Assistant Fashion Stylist: Desiree Di Tomaso Grooming: Bo Satayakul using Mac cosmetics and PrivĂŠ Rentals: Unearthed Vintage Florals: Ines Naftali Floral & Event design

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Dog (Kent), from the Humane Society of Greater Miami; car: 1957 Porsche 356 speedster, courtesy of Greg Poland, Islamorada

models: Manny at Next Models Miami; nico

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A beachside wedding is a no-brainer for a couple who loves the seashore, so why not shoot your engagement photos there too? Take your cue from the locale itself and choose a save-the-date that reflects your upcoming nuptials. Sending guests a few thoughtful gifts along with itâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;say, sunscreen, some saltwater taffy and a pair of sunglassesâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;will get them extra excited about your event. Save-the-date, LazaroPress.com; sunglasses, CutlerandGross.com; white tank, Theory.com; skirt, FernandoGarciaDesigns.com; gray tank, Joie.com; shorts and hat, JCrew.com >>

shor e thing share your happy news—and love of the beach— with these simple, stylish engagement photo ideas. KT MERRY art direction by JOY PROCTOR design photogr aphy by

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act natural

Instead of standard, static portraits, let your photographer follow you throughout the day, capturing intimate moments between the two of you. Imagine you’re on vacation and let loose a little, doing the things you’d normally do—walk along the beach, laze in a hammock and even snap photos of one another—so your personalities really shine. Don’t forget to bring along a few different outfits to slip into as you change locations. OPPOSITE Metallic oxfords, JilSander.com; trench, Armani.com; dresses, SantikaDesign.com

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michael segal photogr aphy

From casual backyard parties to grand ballroom affairs, youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll find plenty of inspiration in each coupleâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s unique celebration.

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the venue The lavish ballroom was cast in purple lighting. Vibrant high and low floral arrangements decorated tables.

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lance & michael december 20 â&#x20AC;˘ los angeles

regal & romantic photo credit

photography by Michael Segal photography event design by sacks productions

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the attire The grooms looked handsome as they posed with their parents. They wore classic tuxedos that they designed themselves. Lance opted for a white shirt with a black bow tie, while Michael chose a black shirt and black bow tie. the ceremony Lance and Michael were wed in front of 300 guests by two of their best friends, actresses JoAnna Garcia Swisher and Jamie-Lynn Sigler. “It was a gorgeous view of all our favorite people in the world,” Lance says. The couple wrote and recited their own heartfelt vows. the rings The couple had matching gold and black engagement rings designed by David Yurman. The ring was the second one Lance gave to Michael, when he proposed again a year later in South Africa. “I wanted to make sure he still wanted to get married,” Lance says.

riendship paved the way to love for Lance Bass (top left, 36 and a singer and television personality) and Michael Turchin (28 and an artist and actor). The two met and became fast friends, though each secretly had feelings for the other. Everything changed when they took a trip together and spent the entire time hanging out in onesies—that’s when Lance knew he had found the perfect partner. Two and a half years later while in New Orleans, Lance’s favorite city, he spontaneously proposed to Michael with a ring he had bought 20 minutes earlier. “I was stunned,” Michael says. “And just as Lance dropped to his knee, a man came up and asked for a photo—right in the middle of the proposal!” Despite the interruption, Michael accepted. With its regal vibe and Gatsby-like ballroom, The Legendary Park Plaza Hotel in Los Angeles was the couple’s ideal wedding location. Rich hues of purple, deep green and red set the royal tone. Each groom was accompanied by his parents down the aisle. “It was so meaningful to have my parents, who are from the deep South, by my side,” Lance says. “It speaks volumes about love, acceptance and change.” —Jennifer Tzeses

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the huppah

To acknowledge Michael’s Jewish heritage, the two said “I do” beneath a lush huppah on the hotel’s grand staircase.

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the cake The modern, colorful cake design featured paintings Michael had created of the couple.

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Ceremony & Reception Site The Legendary Park Plaza Hotel, Los Angeles Photography Michael Segal Photography Wedding Planner Sharon Sacks/Sacks Productions Flowers Studio Fiore Officiants Jamie-Lynn Sigler; JoAnna Garcia Swisher Attire J.Yunger Rings David Yurman; Lauren Turchin/ Meridian Avenue Jewelry Hair & Makeup Ginny King; Kyle Krieger; Sabrina Wilson Dresses Oday Shakar Stationery Natural Impression Design Rentals Town and Country Event Rentals Catering Buca di Beppo Cake The Butter End CakeryMusic DJ Tracy Young Transportation Wilshire Limousine Accommodations The Standard, Downtown LA

the party Lance and Michael were lifted on chairs during a lively hora. DJ Tracy Young spun dance musicwell into the night. the reception Instead of traditional seated tables, guests sat themselves for the buffet-style dinner. the details As a nod to Lance’s Mississippi roots, Ole Smoky Tennessee Moonshine cocktails were served. After the wedding was over, the couple donated their flowers to nearby organizations and nursing homes.

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hadija & nicole september 21 â&#x20AC;˘ finlayson, MN

down-home flair photography by emma freeman photography

the attire With finger waves, vintage jewelry and an empire-waist tulle number, Hadija channeled a â&#x20AC;&#x2122;20s vibe, while Nicole rocked a bespoke gray suit. "It really fit her style and curves," Hadija says.

the stationery suite

For a warm, personal touch, the couple designed their own invitations, which included separate envelopes detailing the who, what, where, when and why, plus vintage postcards for RSVPs.

the pocket watch

Nicole accessorized her suit with a vintage timepiece.

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ometimes finding love can feel like hitting the bull's-eyeâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;literally! Hadija Steen (opposite, right; 27 and a restaurant manager and server) and Nicole Mills (35 and a youth social services program director) first bonded at a mutual friend's birthday party. Nicole was carrying a BB gun ("I'm just a kid from Nebraska," she says) and offered to teach Hadija to shoot. "She perfectly shot three cans off of a haystack," recalls Nicole, who proposed two years later. After finding the venue, a secluded site in a forest two hours north of their Minneapolis home, details started coming together. Using the fall hues as a natural backdrop, they chose a neutral palette with pops of color and carried out a "snail mail" theme, with letters, packages and stamps incorporated into the day. "It was awesome!" Hadija says. â&#x20AC;&#x201D;Elizabeth Roehrig

the details Envelopes marked "who" held adorable photo booth shots of the couple. the ceremony

Flanked by vintage pews, the flagstone path led to a small stage where the pair exchanged vows. the bouquet A loose arrangement, which included anemones and ranunculus, created the wildflower feel Hadija wanted. The handkerchief wrapped around the stems was a sweet addition.

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the reception The

DJ played funk, soul, salsa and bachataâ&#x20AC;&#x201D; "and there was even an impromptu swing dance-off!" Hadija recalls. the shoes Their wedding was the perfect excuse for Hadija to spring for a new pair of cowboy boots she could wear again and again.

the boutonnieres

A mix of blooms in various vibrant hues complemented Hadija's slightly wild bouquet.

the letter station

Vintage typewriters, pens and paper were set out for guests to write letters to loved ones; the couple then mailed them after the wedding.

the guests of honor Headphones

and a Jimi Hendrix record saved a seat for Hadija's brother, who had recently passed away. A cowboy hat sat on another chair to honor Nicole's late father.

the reception de´cor Bunches of wildflowers in salvaged glassware dotted the tables. Brown paper packages and bundles of letters tied with twine denoted the table names, which were each a different street in Minneapolis. the setting "It felt

like us," Hadija says of the wooded location on a pond. "Smalltown class," she adds.

the desserts

Instead of a traditional wedding cake, the couple served apple pies, chocolate beer cakes and ice cream.

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Ceremony & Reception Site Juliane James Place, Finlayson, MN Photography Emma Freeman Photography Flowers Juliane James Place Officiant Patricia Hampl Attire Hadija: ceremony: Tara LaTour, L'Atelier Couture Bridal, Minneapolis; reception: Ted Baker, Nordstrom; Nicole: Top Shelf, Minneapolis Shoes Hadija: Tony Lama; Nicole: Allen Edmonds Engagement Ring 3 Jäg Design Wedding Rings Hadija: Wixon Jewelers; Nicole: heirloom Jewelry Hadija: Brides of France; Nicole: pocket watch, Wixon Jewelers Stationery DIY; Sarah Albinson Rentals Midway Party Rental Catering New Scenic Café Desserts Cakes: Salty Tart; ice cream: Izzy's Ice Cream; pies: Tonka Grill and BBQ Music Ceremony: Good Night Irene; Paul Brekke; reception: DJ Simone DuJour Favors Ames Farm Transportation Pine City Bus Registry Williams-Sonoma Accommodations Sand Lake Resort

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jeff & josh September 14 â&#x20AC;˘ pasadena, Ca

old-world charm photography by Gina & Ryan Photography

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the huppah The couple had an outdoor ceremony beneath a huppah held up by long branches and decorated with lush arrangements of hydrangeas and greens. Josh (opposite, left) and Jeff took a moment to bask in the joy of the day.

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the ceremony Jeff and Josh’s ceremony was held on the grounds of the historic Castle Green. Iron stands with rustic arrangements decorated the aisle. the couple’s style The grooms opted for navy and gray suits and coordinated them with matching tan-hued ties. the reception d´ecor “The tables were named after cities that were important to us and represented with an old postcard from each of those cities,” Jeff says. “A description on the back described why that city was important to us.” Centerpieces were repurposed from the ceremony and fit into wooden boxes.

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effrey (Jeff) Moskowitz (38 and a producer at Walt Disney Imagineering) and Joshua (Josh) Shaver (33 and a project coordinator at Walt Disney Imagineering) celebrated their five-year anniversary with a trip to Hawaii. While there, Josh took Jeff for breakfast on the beach, followed by a romantic walk along the water. Upon returning to their blanket, Josh pulled out a photo album titled “You and I,” filled with memories of their lives together. The last page had a photo of the beach where they sat, along with the caption “Now it’s just you and I, so what do you say? With the sand at our feet and as witnessed by the deep blue sea…” Josh asked Jeff to spend forever with him. “I said ‘yes’ before he even had a chance to get the ring out,” Jeff says. The couple chose a historic estate to celebrate their nuptials. “We are pretty classic guys, and the turn-of-the-century beauty of the castle spoke to what we envisioned our wedding day as: classy, elegant and masculine,” Jeff says. —Nicoletta Richardson

the celebration The wedding party raised a celebratory glass in a festive toast to the happy couple. the invitations Classic navy-and-white invitations featured a bow tie graphic. the rings “We picked our wedding bands to match our individual styles,” says Jeff. Josh chose a simple white gold band, and Jeff opted for a similar band set with a single diamond. the dessert Custom cookies made to match each groom’s suit served as a sweet and cheeky finale. the escort cards Classic tented cards featured an antique-postcard design; Josh wrote the guests’ names and table assignments on each one.

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Ceremony & Reception Site Castle Green, Pasadena, CA Photography Gina and Ryan McNulty/Gina & Ryan Photography Videography JA Drop Productions Consultant La Bella Dia Weddings Flowers Tea Rose Garden Officiant Addi Gaash Attire Nordstrom Hair Drybar Makeup Audra Tucker Shoes Kenneth Cole Wedding Rings Robbins Brothers Invitations WeddingPaperDivas .com Catering Simply Elegant Catering Cake SusieCakes Dessert Rhett Monson Music Coastline Music Favors Stand Up to Cancer Accommodations Hilton Pasadena Registries Crate & Barrel; Target Honeymoon Europe

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the bridesâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; styles Emily (left) topped her vintage-inspired gown and capelet with a blusher veil. Rebeccaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s dress featured an illusion neckline.

emily & rebecca September 20 â&#x20AC;˘ Idledale, Co

whimsical woodland photography by Sarah Rose Burns Photography

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the cake The cake, made by a bridesmaid, featured purple ombré icing, a cascade of sugar flowers and vines, and a custom bird and bunny topper. It was presented on a rustic wood round pedestal. the ceremony de´cor Sweetheart chairs were spruced up with graphic paper silhouette cutouts tied with ribbons. the details Tiny wood birdhouses filled with candy served as escort cards. Purple paper tags bearing guests’ names and seating assignments were decorated with a bird punch.

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mily Bennett (29 and a supervisor at Anthropologie) and Rebecca Heinrich’s (34 and a laboratory supervisor at LABS Inc.) proposal had all the storybook ingredients. During a trip to Walt Disney World Resort, Rebecca made a reservation at Cinderella Castle. After their meal, the waitress appeared with a little glass slipper bearing an engagement ring for Emily. Their love story continued 18 months later with a forest-themed celebration at Dunafon Castle, near Denver. Woodland-influenced details, many of which were made by the brides or gathered from estate sales, were woven throughout the tented outdoor reception. “We did a significant amount of DIY projects to help keep our décor unique and personal,” Rebecca says. Rustic wood elements were balanced with plenty of flowers and a feminine palette of purple and pink. —Carmen Huff

the reception de´cor Paper lanterns and flowers lent a festive feel to the reception, which was held under a tent. the ceremony The brides wed underneath an arch decorated with fabric petals, strands of butterflies and greenery. Rebecca carried coral tea roses, hydrangeas, purple lisianthus and freesias. Emily’s bouquet had coral dahlias, purple calla lilies, hydrangeas and freesias. the centerpieces Tables included an eclectic mix of mason jars with flowers, straws in milk bottles, animal figures and vintage Reader’s Digest volumes decorated with decoupaged numbers, which Emily cut from old fairy-tale books.

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Ceremony & Reception Site Dunafon Castle, Idledale, CO Photography Sarah Rose Burns Photography Consultant Annie Schumacher/Dunafon Castle Flowers Style & Stems Floral Design Officiant Rev. Kim Tavendale Attire Emily: BHLDN; Rebecca: Enzoani, d’Anelli Bridal, Lakewood, CO Hair Emily: Beauty Brands; Rebecca: Salon Foushee & Spa Makeup MAC Cosmetics Veil BHLDN Shoes Emily: Betsey Johnson; Rebecca: ModCloth.com Engagement Rings Emily: Brilliant Earth; Rebecca: Etsy.com Wedding Rings Emily: Amazon.com; Rebecca: Kay Jewelers Bridesmaid Dresses David’s Bridal Stationery WeddingPaperDivas .com Sign-In Book Shutterfly.com Rentals Bella Calla; Butler Rents Catering Three Tomatoes Catering Music Reception: A Music Plus Entertainment Transportation Denver Limo Inc. Accommodations The Brown Palace Hotel Registries Amazon.com; Macy’s

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Richard & steven October 24 â&#x20AC;˘ Chevy Chase, MD

bright & buzzy photography by Merkle Photography and Jon Mold Weddings event design by evoke

the setting The couple exchanged vows in an outdoor ceremony in front of 89 guests.

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fter 14 years of dating, it only made sense for longtime loves Richard (right, 46) and Steven (40) to tie the knot in an intimate outdoor ceremony at Woodend Sanctuary. “We just wanted everyone to feel comfortable and relaxed,” the couple says of their tucked-away celebration. Armed with a bold bee theme (a nod to Steven’s interest) and a cheery yellow and gray color palette, the pair worked to incorporate some seriously sweet details throughout their tented reception, including a honeycomb-shaped wedding cake, beeswax candles, jarred honey favors and wooden honey dippers that doubled as escort cards. Richard and Steven even paired classic gray suits with craspedia boutonnieres, bee-print ties and—what else?—bright yellow Converse kicks. —Saffa Khan

the ceremony A close friend officiated the couple’s intimate, outdoor ceremony. the coasters Steven created kiln-fired coasters as a gift for each member of their wedding party. the stationery A custom-made

invitation suite included a classic black-and-white color scheme along with pops of yellow and gray. the shoes “It only took 11 iterations to finalize that shade of yellow!” Richard says of their bright sneaker choice.

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the escort cards

Wooden honey dippers served as a fun alternative to traditional escort cards (and paired well with the couple’s honey-jar favors!). the first dance The newlyweds shared a first dance to Sam Smith’s “Latch.” the details Richard and Steven accessorized

their gray suits with bold, bee-print ties and yellow sneakers.

the reception

Tables were set with striped napkins, yellow menus, whimsical flatware and bold, printed china. the

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Wooden table numbers added rustic flair to the setting.

the cake The honeycombpatterned cake was decorated with bees and a fondant replica of the coupleâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s dog, Mojo. The color palette:

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Ceremony & Reception Site Woodend Sanctuary, Chevy Chase, MD Photography Katie Merkle/Merkle Photography and Jon Mold Weddings Planner Jeannette Tavares/EVOKE Flowers Amaryllis Inc. Floral + Event Design Rings Brent & Jess Shoes Converse Stationery Invitations: The Dandelion Patch; programs & menu cards Emily Baird Design; escort cards: Kaitlyn Hostetler Rentals DC Rental; La Tavola Catering Occasions Caterers Cake Kendallâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Cakes Music Cocktail hour: Chris Dunn/Classical Guitar Ceremonies; reception: DJ Neekola Favors Capital Honey Co.

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jeannine & robin August 9 â&#x20AC;˘ Philadelphia

eclectic garden

photography by Tara Beth Photography

eannine Sloane (right, 32 and a teacher) and Robin Wilby (36 and a freelance filmmaker) met on OKCupid.com. “Sparks flew the moment our eyes locked. It was the first and last ‘blind date’ I ever went on,” Jeannine says. After considering a number of far-flung, lavish locales for their nuptials, they decided on one of Jeannine’s favorite museums, Philadelphia’s iconic Magic Gardens. “It became an integral part of creating a unique, whimsical and intimate wedding,” Jeannine says. A primary color palette of teal, magenta and canary yellow complemented the mosaic sculpture garden and lent a serious dose of cheer to their one-of-a-kind day. “It was important to us to be able to craft our wedding from the ground up, so it didn’t fit into any traditional structure that we couldn’t fit into,” Jeannine says. —Meghan Overdeep

the ceremony The couple’s ceremony was officiated by Jeannine’s sister Daniella. the jewelry Jeannine wore a custom seaglass necklace. the centerpieces Dried bunches of Russian sage filled a mix of

painted vessels. the attire Robin paired her light gray suit with teal-soled, blue boots. the

child attendants The two flower children, Finn and Abby, each carried a single yellow daisy.

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the dress “My

blush, mermaid-style Vera Wang gown was the inspiration for everything that followed,” Jeannine says. “It was just one of those dresses.”

the bouquet

Jeannine carried a colorful bunch of orange ranunculus, magenta dahlias and succulents.

the first dance

Robin’s good friend Ryan Cassata performed a cover of “Ho Hey” by The Lumineers for their first dance. the dessert Ice cream took the place of a wedding cake. Guests helped themselves to a variety of flavors from Little Baby’s Ice Cream.

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Philadelphia’s Magic Garden is a 3,000square-foot indoor gallery and outdoor mosaic sculpture garden created by Isaiah Zagar. the brides Jeannine and Robin fed each other

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ice cream in lieu of a traditional cake cutting. the rings Robin proposed with a moonstone engagement ring. the veil Jeannine’s cathedral-length veil was dip-dyed to match her pink-tipped hair.

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Ceremony & Reception Site Philadelphia’s Magic Gardens, Philadelphia Photography Tara Beth Robertson/Tara Beth Photography Flowers Almeidas Floral Designs Officiant Daniella Sloane (Jeannine’s sister) Attire Jeannine: WHITE by Vera Wang, David’s Bridal; Robin: Topman Hair & Makeup Headhouse Salon Shoes Jeannine: Style & Co.; Robin: Clarks Engagement Ring Nora Kogan Wedding Rings Rumanoff’s Fine Jewelry & Design Jewelry Necklace: Katie Bloodgood; earrings: Eye’s Gallery; bracelet: Morgan Wallace Invitations PaperlessPost.com Bridesmaid Dresses Choke Thai, Etsy.com Rentals Feast Your Eyes Catering; Sound Spectrum Entertainment Catering Feast Your Eyes Catering Desserts Little Baby’s Ice Cream Music DJ John Rozz/Sound Spectrum Entertainment; Ryan Cassata Registries Target; West Elm Accommodations Penn’s View Hotel Honeymoon Martha’s Vineyard, MA

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fred & robert June 28 â&#x20AC;˘ minneapolis

modern luxe photography by kendra oxendale photography event design by simply elegant group

or Fred Stachnik (opposite left, 32 and an analyst) and Robert Seger (52 and a web developer), it all started with a washing machine and a vacuum cleaner. “Robert collects vintage washing machines and I collect vintage vacuum cleaners,” Fred says. “When my collector’s club needed a new website, they just happened to hire Robert to build it. We later met at one of the club’s conventions and had an instant spark.” Since the two wanted to highlight their shared love of Minneapolis, they chose the Millennium Hotel for its stunning views of the city skyline and its “cool, early ’60s design and feel.” After exchanging vows in the dome on the top floor, the newlyweds added a personal touch to their ceremony: They poured vintage Tide detergent on a piece of carpet and vacuumed it up using a 1955 Hoover. “It represented the uniting of our lives,” Robert says. “We got laughs, cheers and even a standing ovation. It was pretty amazing.” —Rachel Sylvester

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the venue The couple said “I do” in a dome above the city against a skyscraper backdrop. the attire The dapper grooms donned matching Calvin Klein suits

and yellow craspedia boutonnieres but opted to wear color-coordinated bow ties.

the de´cor Reception tables featured delphinium and hydrangeas dotted with craspedia and hypericum berries in small square glass vessels. the aisle A white

runner lined with yellow and cream petals elegantly showed the way to the ceremony.

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the wedding cake The couple’s whimsical three-tier cake featured cheery yellow and blue polka dots and a monogram topper. the wedding party Fred’s sister and best friend wore dark blue dresses to complement the grooms’ bow ties. the details The couple’s invitations and ceremony programs were printed with a navy bow tie motif, so it was only fitting that they reflect the design on the wedding day by wearing bow ties to complete their looks.

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Ceremony & Reception Site Millennium Hotel, Minneapolis Photography Kendra Oxendale Photography Planner Simply Elegant Group Flowers Festivities Officiant Don Shier Attire Calvin Klein, Men’s Wearhouse Shoes Fred: Kenneth Cole; Robert: Joseph Abboud Rings Diamonds and Gold International Bridesmaid Dresses J.Crew Stationery Carlson Craft Rentals Festivities Catering Millennium Hotel Cake Buttercream Music Adagio Djay Entertainment

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emily & ericka september 20 â&#x20AC;˘ brooklyn, ny

funky & fresh

photography by Bryan Sargent Photography

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the bouquets Friends of the

couple fashioned bouquets in coordinating red shades for each bride. Ericka (opposite, right) carried a bunch of ranunculus, while Emilyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s bouquet was made of calla lilies.

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mily Humphrey (30 and a health coach) and Ericka Hart (29 and a sexual-health educator) met while serving in the Peace Corps in Ethiopia. Almost six years later, the two wed by the lake in Prospect Park in Brooklyn, New York. They invited their guests to be part of their ceremony by saying “we do” together—a way to hold the couple accountable for their vows. “We wanted each element of our wedding to have a touch of the people we love,” the couple says. Their reception at Bat Haus, a nearby loft, was a lively party set to punk, R & B and hip-hop tunes. Ericka even surprised Emily with a rendition of the Beatles classic “Eight Days a Week.” At the end of the night, guests went home with succulents “so they had something that would keep growing forever.” —Shelby Simon

the attire Ericka paired her gown with a flower

crown, while Emily opted for a white and black tuxedo. Members of the wedding party wore red dresses and classic suits. “Our theme for the wedding was funky elegance, so we focused on that as we chose our clothes,” the couple says. the photo ops The couple used whimsical props to strike a pose with friends and family. the escort cards As a twist on tradition, the seating assignments doubled as a guest-book setup. Guests searched for their picture on the shutters and replaced it with words of wisdom for Emily and Ericka.

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Ceremony Site Prospect Park, Brooklyn, NY Reception Site Bat Haus, Brooklyn, NY Photography Bryan Sargent Photography Videography Jason Crouse Officiant Dawn Speaks Attire Emily: jacket: My.Suit, New York City; shirt: Uniqlo; pants & bow tie: J.Crew. Ericka: Nicole Miller, Lovely Bride, New York City Hair & Makeup La Shawn Evans Headpiece Greenery NYC Rings Artisan Originals Inc.; Etsy.com Bridesmaid Dresses Reformation Programs Gary Montalvo Catering Thomas Joseph Catering Cake Amy’s Bread Music Gabe and Malcolm Royal Registry Bed Bath & Beyond; CB2; MoMA Honeymoon Thailand

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the dessert table Sweets included cupcakes in different flavors and a mini cake topped with replicas of the two brides. the transportation Emily and Ericka, along with their guests, hopped aboard a school bus to take them to the reception. the details Guests dropped their cards and well wishes for the couple in a small suitcase with bright pink lining. the reception Bat Haus loft served as the space for the celebration. It was decorated with twinkling string lights and gold balloons that spelled out “love.”

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the attire Joey (left) donned a sleek black suit, while Michael wore a Full Dress White uniform. the setting The couple opted for a modernchic affair at the South Carolina Aquarium. â&#x20AC;&#x153;We wanted something special and unique,â&#x20AC;? the couple says.

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Joey & Michael August 30 â&#x20AC;˘ Charleston, SC

contemporary class photography by stephanie W. Photography

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ne year after marrying in an official ceremony in San Francisco, newlyweds Joey Brown (25 and a manager of teacher leadership at Teach for America) and Michael Balistreri (25 and a naval officer) invited guests to witness them exchange vows and take part in a celebration at the South Carolina Aquarium in Charleston, South Carolina. Each groom was escorted down the aisle by his mom before Michael’s dad officiated the waterfront nuptials using the same wording from the couple’s original city hall ceremony. A modern yellow and gray color palette enhanced the simple yet chic aesthetic, and the couple worked sans planner to truly personalize the day. “We were just surprised everything went as smoothly as it did!” —Lauren Levy

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“We really loved the wording of our wedding in San Francisco, and we got a copy of the language and gave it to Michael’s dad,” Joey says of their ceremony. the flowers Yellow calla lilies, craspedia and gerbera daisies added a pop of color to both the boutonnieres and

ceremony chairs. the stationery “We took a chance using an Etsy shop— and we’re so glad we did!” the couple says of their canary-colored paper goods. the details The cake knife and server commemorated the grooms’ special day. the menu The vegetarians served lasagna along with a brie-and-leek tart.

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newlyweds shared a kiss surrounded by sparklers. the

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Joey and Michael went for a simple, chic wedding style. “We didn’t want to

compete with the fish!” the venue “We were looking for something that could provide us with both a ceremony and reception space, but give us two different feels,” the couple says.

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Ceremony & Reception Site South Carolina Aquarium, Charleston, SC Photography Stephanie Whisler/Stephanie W. Photography Flowers Tiger Lily Weddings Officiant Tom Balistreri Attire Joey: J.Crew Shoes Joey: Cole Haan Rings Tiffany & Co. Stationery Little Things Favors, Etsy.com; invitations: Invited by LamaWorks, Etsy.com Sign-In Book Bleu de Toi, Etsy.com Rentals & Catering Hamby Catering & Events Cake Ashley Bakery Desserts Peter Sciortino’s Bakery Music Ceremony: CMtheDuo; reception: D&M Productions Registry GoFundMe.com

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ginny & kim August 30 â&#x20AC;˘ Potomac, Md

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The couple got married under a vibrant paper flower arch.

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hen Kimberly (Kim) Sabet (opposite left, 35 and a director of pricing) proposed to her girlfriend of two years, Ginny Schoenauer (36 and a program analyst), on a bike ride, her question wasn’t met with an immediate answer. “[Ginny] thought I was seeking reassurance that we would eventually, one day, get married,” Kim says. It wasn’t until she pulled out the ring that reality set in. Months later, Ginny surprised Kim with a tiny pumpkin carved with the words “Will U Marry Me?” The duo had a picnic-style celebration with casual fare, such as kebobs and ribs, at the trail head of one of their favorite hiking spots, and they DIY’d much of the décor. “We felt loved by everyone around us,” Kim says. —JT

the cake Bicycles were a running theme

throughout the wedding. Fittingly, the couple’s purple and pink ruffled ombré cake was decorated with a bicycle topper and filled with peanut butter and chocolate. the guest book Ginny and Kim’s guest book featured a colorful array of balloons attached to a tandem bike. the flowers Kim’s lush paper flower bouquet contained an array of pink peonies in varying tones that ranged from dark to light.

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the favors “We found cute bicycle bottle openers on Etsy that came with a tag that read, ‘Let the adventure begin,’ ” Kim says. the de´cor A paper garland above the bar was strung with round punches and decorated with the couple’s monogram and a bicycle motif. the details A

playful pillow had the names of all the great couples throughout history—including Ginny and Kim, of course. the reception Farmhouse-style reception tables were dressed with burlap table runners and topped with lanterns, a string of LED twinkle lights and small clusters of paper flowers made by the brides themselves. Table numbers were written on small chalkboard signs and nestled in the vases containing paper arrangements. the extras The bicycle theme was carried through many details, including a cheeky flask.

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Ceremony & Reception Site Old Angler’s Inn, Potomac, MD Photography Carolyn Scott and Geoff Brown/Carolyn Scott Photography Paper Flowers Mazziflowers, Etsy.com Officiant Rev. Bonnie J. Berger Attire Ginny: Twobirds; Kim: Sue Wong Hair & Makeup Brooke Williams/Makeup by Brooke Shoes Ginny: Impo; Kim: Havaianas Engagement & Wedding Rings Mervis Diamond Importers Invitations Splash of Silver, Etsy.com Rentals L&A Tent Rentals Catering Old Angler’s Inn Cake Cupcakes Actually Desserts Pie Gourmet Music DC Synergy/Entertainment Exchange Accommodations Hyatt House Falls Church Registry Crate & Barrel

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john & marc june 21 â&#x20AC;˘ sonoma, ca

rustic elegance photography by Carlie Statsky event design by Leftwich Events Specialists

the venue The vineyardâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s barn, clad in paper lanterns, served as the party space for dancing and dessert.

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or John Pamintuan (left, 36, in e-branch/operations support at San Francisco Federal Credit Union) and Marc Brewer (39, a pediatrician at Palo Alto Medical Foundation), love just clicked. The two met online and dated for five years before Marc proposed on a cruise in Mexico. When it came time to choose a venue, once they saw Cornerstone Sonoma vineyards, it was an obvious choice for their celebration. “We loved the idea of having the ceremony on a vineyard lawn, dinner under the big white top and dancing in the barn all in the same venue,” John says. They chose a modern and sophisticated palette of gray and orange. “It felt like a destination wedding even though it’s only a 45- to 60-minute drive from our home in San Francisco,” John says. —NR

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the grooms’ style The guys wore the same light gray three-piece suit, which John accessorized with an orange bow tie and yellow socks and Marc paired with a skinny orange tie and green socks. The grooms and groomsmen sported socks in different hues to reflect the colors of the rainbow. the guest book Avid travelers, the couple decorated their guest-book table with a photo from one of their many adventures together as well as a modern, square flower arrangement featuring a vibrant mix of orange calla lilies, billy balls and succulents. the extras Playful signs attached to a post painted with the couple’s initials pointed the way to all the important places.

the ceremony John and Marc had their ceremony on the vineyard lawn, under a birch arch

adorned with calla lilies and succulents and next to a pool filled with floating water lilies. Clusters of flower-filled vases were hung along the aisle. the wedding bands The couple switched their platinum engagement rings to their left ring fingers to serve double-duty as wedding bands. the stationery Invitations were emblazoned with the couple’s initials in a modern typeface. the wedding party Pops of orange accented the wedding party’s attire and flowers.

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Ceremony & Reception Site Cornerstone Sonoma, Sonoma, CA Photography Carlie Statsky Consultant Christopher Lee/ Leftwich Events Specialists Flowers Tesoro Flowers Officiant Patrick Unemori Attire Indochino Hair & Makeup Beauty by Maile Hair & Make-up Design Shoes John: Paul Smith; Marc: Ted Baker Rings Giraux Fine Jewelry Bridesmaid Dresses J.Crew Stationery Minted.com Sign-In Book Carlie Statsky Rentals Atmosphere Lights; Hartmann Studios Catering & Desserts Sage Catering Cake Sweet on Cake Music Reception: DJ Cams Favors Curry’s Leather Products Photo Booth Nstabooth Registries Honeyfund.com; WilliamsSonoma Honeymoon French Polynesia

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Lisa & Nic july 26 â&#x20AC;˘ Sanbornton, NH

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the ceremony Lisa and Nic held a sand unity

ceremony beneath a birch arch decorated with ivy. Nic paired her gown with a faux floral hat made by her grandmother, who had recently passed away. the guest book table Friends and family signed a photo book with pictures of the couple in traditional Vietnamese attire. A stack of rice paddy hats was set out for guests to wear. the attire The attendants wore traditional áo dài dresses, paired with jade bracelets and earrings made in Vietnam (jade is thought to be a lucky stone in Vietnamese culture), or donned the same-style Vietnamese silk shirt as Lisa but in a darker tone.

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t was her first (and last) blind date that determined Nicole (Nic) Marchetto’s (right, 32 and a behavior analyst) fate. She was set up with Lisa Truong (36 and an athletic trainer). “Nic texted me to go out for drinks but I was reluctant after going on a string of very bad blind dates! But within the first hour, I knew I made the right choice,” Lisa says. A year and a half later, Lisa proposed to Nic with a game of “find the string.” Nic followed clues Lisa had written about moments of their relationship, which led her to a proposal. “I was completely blindsided and lost for words, but somehow managed the single most important one: ‘Yes!’ ” Though the couple lives in Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam, they wed at a farm in New Hampshire near Nic’s hometown. Elements of Nic’s Italian and Lisa’s Vietnamese heritages were woven throughout the day. “We wanted to pay homage to our roots and show our cultures complementing one another in a whimsical, very us, kind of way,” the couple says. —JT

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the wedding party Lisa and Nicâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s attendants all wore coordinating Vietnamese wedding garments. the reception deÂ´cor Tables were dressed in Vietnamese silk tablecloths and adorned with natural, rustic touches to complement the barn setting. Each centerpiece included moss, birch candleholders (tying back to the ceremony arbor) and an arrangement of orchids. the details A wood round showed the ceremony program and order of events.

the reception The celebration was held in a rustic barn. the details Yellow and white florals brightened up the space. the bridal shoes To feel more like herself, Nic balanced her “conventional” gown with unexpected footwear—gold, metallic oxfords. the extras Nic posed in a modern version of the traditional áo dài wedding coat with a two-foot train and a wedding crown. She carried a bouquet of orchids and greenery.

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Ceremony & Reception Site Longlook Farm, Sanbornton, NH Photography Chris and Stella Poore/Mon Petit Studio Flowers Prescott’s Florist Officiant Rev. Ruth Martz Attire Nic: Pronovias, Madeleine’s Daughter, Portsmouth, NH Stationery Invitations: Zazzle.com; programs: Spartaco Margioni Rentals Hart’s Turkey Farm; Longlook Farm Catering & Cake Hart’s Turkey Farm Desserts Mike’s Pastry Music Ceremony: Ensemble Aevia; reception: Sugarfoot Accommodations Longlook Farm Honeymoon China; Mexico; Provincetown, MA; Sri Lanka; Thailand

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the attire â&#x20AC;&#x153;We wanted a

daytime summer look, so we stuck with lighter colors,â&#x20AC;? the couple says of their laidback wedding style.

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nick & ricardo June 2 â&#x20AC;˘ chicago

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fter a mutual proposal over a celebratory glass of champagne, Nick Kluding (right, 45 and a real estate broker) and Ricardo Mendoza (45 and a pediatric dentist and professor) were chosen as one of 15 couples to marry at the Museum of Contemporary Art Chicago as a gift to celebrate the passage of the Illinois legislation guaranteeing all couples the right to wed. In an intimate, modern ceremony, Nick and Ricardo exchanged vows in the Kovler Atrium before retreating with guests to the venue’s Kern Terrace to enjoy a music-filled celebration with a Latin DJ, Brazilian caipirinhas and bites, courtesy of famed Wolfgang Puck Catering. Studio AG Design was on even on hand to help decorate the airy, contemporary space. “It was the exact look we wanted,” the couple says. —RS

the setting Nick and Ricardo were one of 15 couples selected to exchange vows in a ceremony within the museum’s Kovler Atrium. the cake Bittersweet Pastry Shop created a sweet Bert-andErnie-topped confection for the newlyweds. the flowers White orchids were displayed in geometric silver bud vases for a chic look. the ring bearers Dressed in navy ties and buttondowns, the couple’s sons, Mateo and Marcelo, served as ring bearers.

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the reception Postceremony, guests joined the pair on the museum’s Kern Terrace for drinks and dancing. the seating Plush gray furniture and marble-topped tables lent a modern aesthetic to the open space. the tablescapes Sleek silver wire chairs were paired with light wood tables on the museum’s terrace for additional seating. Low arrangements in geometric, white vases served as simple centerpieces.

Ceremony & Reception Site Museum of Contemporary Art, Chicago Photography Bethany Fritz/Maypole Studios Photography Consultant Carli Milstein/Wolfgang Puck Catering Flowers Studio AG Design Officiant Rev. Linda Nelson Attire & Shoes Banana Republic Rings Jan Dee Jewelry Sign-In Book Maypole Studios Photography Catering & Desserts Wolfgang Puck Catering Cake Bittersweet Pastry Shop Music Luis Flores Rentals Museum of Contemporary Art Chicago Registry Crate & Barrel

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the location The alfresco gathering included a barbecue buffet and picnic-style tables to complement the rustic feel of the wedding celebration.

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Crissy & Renee August 23 â&#x20AC;˘ Sedona, Az

backyard bash photography by Cameron & Kelly Studio

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hen Renee Massey (left, 24 and a detention officer) proposed to her girlfriend of less than a year, Crissy Saint (28 and a senior communication strategist), with a ring made from an olive tree, she had a very special sentiment in mind. “[Renee] told me that olive trees were in the front yard of her childhood home and that her home was with me now.” That feeling of home carried through to the look of their wedding, held at a ranch in Oak Creek Canyon. The teal and yellow color palette, which was included in details such as the flowers, bridesmaid dresses and table décor, popped against the red rock scenery. “It was the most beautiful backdrop we could have wanted,” the couple says. —SS

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the bridal style Renee had her veil added to her strapless gown for a sheer overlay effect; she

paired the look with cowboy boots. Crissy opted for a tailored tweed wool suit complete with a bow tie and oxfords. the bridal party The bridesmaids looked vibrant in varying versions of Alfred Angelo teal gowns, while their cowboy boots added a casual Southwestern flair. Each carried a bouquet of yellow gerbera daisies, yellow billy balls, white freesias, white stock and white Monte Casino asters, all tied with burlap ribbon. the reception de´cor Chalk signs, handcrafted by a friend of the couple, marked the brides’ seats of honor.

the favors The couple crafted a wooden crate to house honey jars tied with cloth and twine, which served as fitting favors for their guests. the cake Each of the cake’s three round tiers was wrapped in burlap to further the rustic feel of the wedding, and fresh yellow roses added a splash of color. the location The stunning scenery of Sedona set the stage for the couple’s ceremony, which was held in an open-air enclave beneath the red rocks of Oak Creek Canyon.

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Ceremony & Reception Site Segner Ranch, Sedona, AZ Photography Cameron Clark/Cameron & Kelly Studio Flowers Flowers by Jodi Officiant John Tyler Attire Crissy: Fine Handmade Clothing, Etsy.com; Renee: Tara Keely, Destiny’s Bride, Scottsdale, AZ Hair Salon Virtu Shoes Crissy: Frye; Renee: Justin Boots Wedding Rings Crissy: Chasing Victory; Renee: Kristin Coffin Bridesmaid Dresses Alfred Angelo Invitations Minted.com Rentals Verve Events & Tents Catering The Wild Bunch Catering Cake Sedona Cake Couture Music Windy City DJ’s Accommodations El Portal Sedona Hotel Registries Amazon.com; Crate & Barrel Honeymoon Ireland; Paris

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found his navy tuxedo right away, while Richie tried on about 20 before deciding on a dapper black one. Mikie wore an heirloom pin and Richie chose a white silk flower with black crystals.

mikie & richie july 26 â&#x20AC;˘ huntington, ny

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the escort card table Bright flowers, including roses and orchids, added a happy burst of color.

the attendants Sky-high chevron pumps gave their look serious wow factor. the lapel pin

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Mikie had his grandmother's engagement and wedding rings made into a pin, which he wore on his tux. the lounge de´cor Pillows monogrammed in yellow punctuated the outdoor space. the inspiration These striped kicks gave Mikie the idea for the day's theme! He changed into them, along with a sequined vest, for the reception. the aisle Each groom's mother escorted him past planter boxes filled with wheatgrass and phalaenopsis orchids.

nspiration can be found anywhere. Just ask celebrity event planner Michael (Mikie) Russo (36), who found his in a pair of designer sneakers—yes, really! "I loved the stripes and wanted to carry them throughout the entire event in a glamorous and sophisticated way," says Mikie, who met Richard (Richie) Piana (38 and a public relations director for a salon and spa) years ago at the Brooklyn, New York, dance club where John Travolta did the hustle on a light-up floor in Saturday Night Fever. The pair fell for a Long Island harborside venue, and since Richie loves the water, they held the ceremony on the club's outdoor deck. To create a timeless look with a modern edge, they used a black-and-white palette with touches of crystals and sequins for just the right amount of sparkle. At the reception, "I told the DJ to play Mariah, Britney, Beyoncé and Madonna only—and it was a pure dance party!" Mikie says. Which seems only fitting considering how they met. —ER

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the cake "It was epic!" Mikie says of the glittery

silver and white confection, which had alternating chocolate and vanilla layers with fresh raspberries. A heart displayed replicas of charms the two wear. the centerpieces Strands of orchids cascaded over white roses and hydrangeas. “Each arrangement had 400 roses at the top and on the base of the table,” says Mikie, who designed the flowers. the reception de´cor A custom marquee sign, paper straws and table numbers all reinforced the bold stripe theme. the photo booth The newlyweds goofed around with a few props.

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Ceremony & Reception Site Harbor Club at Prime, Huntington, NY Photography Anthony Vazquez Photography Videography Joseph Edwards Films Planner Michael Russo Events Flowers Pedestals Floral Decorators Officiant Diane Turdik Hair Kristan Serafino Makeup Karen Dupiche Attire Mikie: J.Crew; Richie: Theory Shoes Saint Laurent; Mikie's sneakers: Christian Louboutin Rings & Jewelry Jacob & Co. Stationery The Wedding Company of Manhasset Catering Harbor Club at Prime Cake Taste Rentals Table Wrap Custom Aisle Boxes The Showplace Music Steven Retas Entertainment Group Favors Varietals Wine & Spirits Transportation Designer Limousine Service Accommodations Melville Marriott Long Island Honeymoon Gansevoort Turks and Caicos, Turks and Caicos

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Corinne & WHITNEY November 23 â&#x20AC;˘ Santa Rosa Beach, FL

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the dresses No surprises here! The couple shopped for their dresses together.

the flowers Bunches of blooms in a

variety of shades dotted the tables.

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ometimes “something borrowed” can go a long way, especially when it came to the unique details in Anna (Corinne) Mixon (opposite, right, 32 and principal at Mixon & Associates) and Whitney Ginder’s (31 and a PhD student) vintage-inspired waterfront wedding. Aside from an antique diamond pin (passed down from Corinne’s grandmother) that Whitney rocked as a barrette, the couple incorporated mismatched oil lamps, colorful dessert plates and their favorite books, which doubled as table numbers, throughout their reception décor. These repurposed details—along with a romantic color palette of cranberry, gold and blush—helped tie the entire aesthetic of their beachfront celebration together. “Our refined, rustic vision came together seamlessly.” —RS

the ceremony The couple had a minimally decorated, waterfront ceremony. the escort cards

Succulents added a fresh touch to the rustic display. the desserts Different flavored cupcakes were set out on The color palette:

mismatched plates. the dance The newlyweds shared a sweet first dance to “Heavenly Day” by Patty Griffin. the photo ops Guests could pose as “Corinne and Whitney.” the reception White folding chairs and

white tables were accented with bright blooms. the bouquets The brides carried matching bunches that included calla lilies and roses. the tablescapes Oil lamps and books added vintage flair to each DIY centerpiece.

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Ceremony & Reception Site 331 South, Santa Rosa Beach, FL Photography Shannon Griffin/Mi Amore Foto Flowers Celestine’s Wedding & Special Event Design Officiant Amity Gay Attire Corinne: Nicole Miller, Vocelles, Tallahassee, FL; Whitney: Anna Sui, BHLDN Shoes Seychelles Hair Sierra Patterson/Parlor 113 Salon Rings Lang Antiques Bridesmaid Dresses Anthropologie Invitations Minted.com Sign-In Book BHLDN Rentals 331 South; Celestine’s Wedding & Special Event Design Catering 331 South Desserts Lucy and Leo’s Cupcakery Registries Anthropologie; Bed Bath & Beyond, DepositAGift.com; Target Honeymoon New York City; Santa Rosa Beach, FL

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the ceremony The couple said â&#x20AC;&#x153;I doâ&#x20AC;? beneath a garden arbor. the attire Robb (right) and Sean wore matching gray suits with different colored ties.

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robb & sean MAY 31 • Weston, CT

aviation affair photography by Athena BludÉ Photography

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t’s hard to have more in common than Robb Quirk (33 and a pilot) and Sean Crawford (37 and also a pilot) do. After meeting at a National Gay Pilots Association event, it was clear that love was in the air. A couple of emails, Facebook messages and a layover later, their relationship was off the ground. Although they have the freedom to travel nearly anywhere for free, Robb and Sean chose to host their day in Sean’s brother’s spacious backyard in Weston, Connecticut. An aviation theme was a no-brainer for the couple, which they subtly wove throughout their wedding— from the plane ticket invitations to the aviator sunglasses favors—without it feeling over the top. A classic black-and-white color palette and buffalo-check details pulled it all together. —Meghan Overdeep

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Tall arrangements of flowering quince branches topped the reception tables. the details Robb and Sean wore tie clips engraved with their initials and the date.

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Each table was given its own airport code.

the love notes

Guests left messages for the grooms on Polaroid pictures.

the place settings The menus were folded into paper planes. the dessert Because they’re “obsessed” with cupcakes, Robb and Sean served them

instead of cake. the first dance The

couple danced to “Your Song” by Elton John. the lounge Vintage suitcases served as tables in the lounge area.

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Ceremony & Reception Site A private residence, Weston, CT Photography Athena Bludé Photography Consultant Amy Champagne Events Flowers Fleurescent Officiant Elisa Chase/Tapestry Ceremonies Attire Express Stationery Roseville Designs; invitations: emDOTzee Designs Rentals Abbey Tent & Party Rentals; La Tavola; New England Country Rentals; Shindig Lighting Catering Garelick & Herbs Desserts Taste & See Music Bock & Blu Favors Fairwind Sunglasses Trading Co. Transportation Gateway Limousine Accommodations Hilton Garden Inn Norwalk Honeymoon Four Seasons Maui, Wailea, HI

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alisha & kelley May 25 â&#x20AC;˘ Healdsburg, Ca

vineyard chic photography by JennaBeth Photography

the attire Alisha (right)

wore a knee-length dress with a plunging V-neck and sheer, lace sleeves. Kelley chose a sleeveless gown with an illusion neckline.

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s fate would have it, Alisha Sare (33 and in global business marketing at Facebook) and Kelley Rochna (35 and director of marketing at Vine Connections) first bonded over broken hearts. Coworkers at the time, both were going through breakups and leaned on each other for support. As time went on, feelings grew and the two started dating. Five years later, Kelley proposed to Alisha on the Golden Gate Bridge at the halfway point, symbolizing compromise. The two chose Healdsburg Country Gardens, since it had the vineyard setting Kelley envisioned as well as a barn, which was what Alisha imagined. The brides walked each other down the aisle and recited their own vows. “We broke from tradition a bit and just did things how we felt most comfortable,” Kelley says of their memorable ceremony. —NR

Ceremony & Reception Site Healdsburg Country Gardens, Healdsburg, CA Photography & Videography JennaBeth Photography Flowers Lilibet Design Officiant Eric Webber Gowns BHLDN Headpiece Kelley: Chloe & Isabel Shoes Jimmy Choo; TOMS Rings & Jewelry Sausalito Jewelers Invitations Minted.com Catering & Rentals Grapevine Catering Cake American Girl Baking Co. Desserts Chantal Guillon Music DJ Saint Patrick Registries Crate & Barrel; Honeyfund .com Honeymoon British Virgin Islands

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the table d´ecor Tables were dressed with white linens and a burlap runner and decorated with recycled wooden wine boxes filled with pale arrangements of hydrangeas, roses and succulents. the reception The couple served a variety of wines for guests to sample during the celebration. the stationery The wedding invitations were printed on black card stock and featured a floral wreath design. the cake Baked by a friend of the couple, the cake had three tiers, with fresh flowers on the top and ombré ruffles decorating the bottom. Each layer was a different flavor: lemon poppy seed and raspberry; espresso, Kahlúa and chocolate; and a Funfetti tier.

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vieques, puerto rico Why Go The island has a charmingly laid-back atmosphere that’s hard to beat. Case in point: There are no traffic lights, and its 40 beaches are unspoiled by high-rise buildings. Where to Stay The newly opened design hotel El Blok (ElBlok.com) will make you do a double take with its playful and oh-so-modern aesthetic. The El Blok restaurant is a musttry. Helmed by chef Jose Enrique, the menu serves up innovative Puerto Rican dishes, freshly caught fish and grilled meats to perfection. What to Do Check out the natural neon light show at Puerto Mosquito in the bay off the southern shore of the island. Each gallon of water holds more than 700,000 bioluminescent microscopic organisms that glow blue-white when they are disturbed—either by a kayak paddle or your limbs when you dive in for a leisurely swim. —Maridel Reyes

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Why Go This island is one of the most upscale destinations in the Caribbean, and its French background provides an elegant appeal similar to the French Riviera. Where to Stay All of the suites and villas at the intimate Le Sereno (LeSereno.com) have private terraces and gardens—and most have an ocean view. What to Do Head to the beautiful Colombier beach (the water is the most gorgeous shade of aquamarine you’ve ever seen), which is only accessible via boat or by foot. For some serious French-infused Latin food, try Bonito restaurant overlooking Gustavia harbor. —MR

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sedona, arizona Why Go Romance seekers have flocked to Sedona’s alluring red rocks for the ultimate spa, wellness and outdoor adventure. (And it’s an easy drive to Phoenix if you’re looking to get in a little city time too.) Where to Stay Nestled in a canyon within Sedona’s red rocks, Mii amo (Miiamo.com) offers an experience grounded in Native American traditions. Enjoy spa treatments themed around moon phases, walks to the “Vortex” energy center and even a meditation labyrinth. What to Do Hit the hiking trails (like Cathedral Rock trail) for can’t-miss views, then indulge in the Inner Quest, a 60-minute treatment where you’re wrapped in a blanket—mimicking the warmth of a sweat lodge—while sweetgrass is burned. When hunger strikes, try nearby Elote Cafe for authentic Mexican eats. —MR >>

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Why Go If you’re up for adventure, Peru is home to some of the world’s greatest sites (Andes, Cloud Forests, Machu Picchu Citadel), making it the trip of a lifetime. Where to Stay Set on 12 secluded acres at the base of Machu Picchu, Inkaterra Machu Picchu Pueblo Hotel (Inkaterra.com) offers luxury amenities as well as a vowrenewal ceremony performed by a shaman. Sample the hotel’s Peruvian fusion fare in the glass-walled dining room with its spectacular scenic views. What to Do A sunrise trek is worth the early morning wake-up call. Insider tip: The first trainload of tourists arrives around noon, but before that, the place is all yours. The city of Cusco is also a popular pit stop for tourists heading to Machu Picchu, but it’s still full of authentic Peruvian charm. —MR

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Our friends at Why Go Located at the northern edge of Italy just a few kilometers from Switzerland, Lake Como feels like the quiet, landlocked cousin of the lively seafronts of southern Italy. The lake, one of the deepest in Europe, is shaped like an inversion of the letter “Y” and is surrounded on nearly every side by steep mountains: Bregagno, Grigne and San Primo. Still waters, craggy slopes, and quiet shores make this an idyllic destination. And though cold in winter, come spring, when the mountain snow melts, and on through autumn, there’s an activity and adventure for every type of traveler. Wander the hillside streets and shops of Bellagio, swim the lake’s refreshingly chilly waters, hike one of the many mountain trails, explore the length of the lake in a chartered boat, or simply lounge outdoors.

Where to Stay The Grand Hotel Tremezzo (GrandHotelTremezzo.com), a 105-year-old art nouveau palace on the elegant west side of the lake, has a storied history. Choose the honeymoon suite, Suite Maria, as an extravagant home base. It features a Jacuzzi, multiple rooms and a balcony overlooking the water. What to Do Locanda La Volpe, a farmhouse restaurant, is situated in Plesio, perched high in the mountains above Lake Como’s west edge. As “volpe” means “fox,” there is a vulpine motif everywhere, from the interior decorations to the china. Selections include pasta, meat and fish dishes made from the finest regional ingredients. Some of the most stately properties in Lake Como are only visible from the water, so the best way to see them is by sea. Board

recommend Lake Como for its scenery! a ferry, rent a taxi boat, or hire a private skiff to glide you along. A few standout landmarks include Villa del Balbianello with its terraced gardens, Isola Comacina in the middle of the lake and the glorious Villa Melzi d’Eril in Bellagio. If you want to really get out and discover the great outdoors, the paths around and up the region’s mountain ranges warrant an ascent. For an unparalleled view and workout, hike to the San Martino church. —Scott Hocker for OUT magazine

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18 countries* The Netherlands was the first to do so in 2001.

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Whether you stick with your own surnames, make them match or pick something entirely new, when it comes to a last name, the choice is yours. by jennifer tzeses One of the many great things about marriage today is there really are no established rules—selecting a surname is completely up to you. “The lack of precedence for gay marriages means there are no ‘tradition police’ to say whose name to take,” adds Mark O’Connell, a licensed clinical social worker and author of Modern Brides & Modern Grooms: A Guide to Planning Straight, Gay, and Other Nontraditional Twenty-First Century Weddings. Here’s how to navigate the naming process.

decisions, decisions So—how do you figure out the best name for your family? Careful consideration is a must. This is a big commitment and shouldn’t be a rash decision. Think about your entire family. One partner may have a negative association with his family name. Another may have built a career on his moniker. “The point is to find a clear balance between individual and family identifications,” O’Connell says.

sticking with the originals Keeping your own individual surnames is a popular practice among same-sex couples. Many go this route as a way to show gender-neutral equality within the marriage, O’Connell notes. And, legally speaking, it’s also the easiest option. “Currently, the only case in

which a spouse can take a partner’s surname without complicated paperwork is when a woman takes her husband’s last name,” he says. “Every other case—including a husband assuming the surname of his wife—involves court approval, the DMV and tons of legal paperwork depending on where you live.”

matching monikers “Some couples prefer to have one last name for the sake of coherence and for recognition by the rest of the world,” O’Connell says. “This may be particularly useful in states in which same-sex marriage is not currently legal.” It’s also a good idea to have one common name if you have kids. This way, no matter where you are, you’ll instantly be recognized as a family. Choosing which of your names to take can be as simple as going with the one you both like best.

naming anew Here’s the fun part: Since there are no guidelines, you can come up with an entirely different surname that both of you take. You might create something using the letters from your two names, pick a name that best represents your new family or, if you don’t want to lose your original names, consider keeping both by putting a hyphen in between.

percent of couples change their names* Are you one of them? Try HitchSwitch.com, a service that helps streamline the legal process (and cut down on the piles of paperwork). *Source: The Knot same-sex wedding traditions survey, July 2014

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“Being in your finery can take the spontaneity out of a moment. The freedom of jumping on the bed was in contrast to that—being unconstrained and bringing us out of our heads to literally jump for joy,” Nat says. Nat & Nix; January 26; Richmond, New South Wales, Australia photograph by lara hotz photography