December 2012

Created by a woman, empowered by all

Vol.2 Issue 35 December 2012

Real People, Real Issues, Real Talk

GIRLFRIENDSTalk Merry Christmas

Congratulations President Obama

African Americans & African Relations What's really going on?

Héctor Luís Camacho Matías (May 24, 1962 – November 24, 2012)

Letter To Family And Friends Of Girlfriends Talk From Founder And Editor –IN Chief

Janice L. Carter

Hello everyone. Happy Holidays! I hope and pray that everyone is in good spirits. So it is finally here, the end of 2012. It has been one heck of a year for me, I cant even lie so many things went so wrong. At times it seemed like giving up was my only option. This magazine was already my baby but it became my best friend because at the end of the day it seemed, as this was all I had, mistakes and all. To be honest with you, out of anything I've ever tried to do, this magazine is the only thing I ever stuck with in my life. Although it's not how I really want it to be, it still represents me and in a great way. The pressure of trying so hard to have complete accuracy and realizing after print… I still made a mistake, is discouraging but I take it in stride and try to always be aware and do better next time. The constant hustle and bustle of trying to get people to support and believe in me. The craziest thing is when people ask me about the magazine, they think it is a team of us, when I say it is only I, it seem they respect me even more. I'm not taking away from my contributors because they add that extra spice that Girlfriends Talk Magazine desires and need. I'm talking about the entire concept of figuring things out. I didn't go to school for this, I just decided one day to follow one of my dreams and stick with it. Shout out to DeRomeo, because if I am ever stuck on something he comes through and those first two years I know I got on his nerves!

People will always have ideas, comments, and criticisms and tell you what you should have done… but 9 times out of 10 these are the last people that will support you or lend you a helping hand.

Three years later, I'm still standing! Not perfect but progressing.

So like i always say I truly, truly appreciate any and everybody who has ever supported me in any kind of way. I hope you enjoyed Mr. Columbus and checked out his music. Enjoyed the articles, (your feed back are more than welcomed).

Big shout out to Racquel "Rokki" Bonner - of My Rokki "Personal Fitness Navigators”, Nikki Ransom -Author, Coach, Speaker and Media Personality. My Chicago touch… Mr. Blk Abyss, Frank Comer and Chaquilla Barn "Birthday Lady ".

Also in December’s issue welcome our new contributors Ms. LaTasha Renee Holbert -Succcess Coach at Successimo; Radio Personality on Blogtalkradio; Published Author and Owner of DISK, Inc. (Dependable Internet Solutions & Knowledge, Inc.) and Ms. Brittany L. Browne (Ms. Browne is reaching out all the way from Geneva Switzerland)- Advocacy & Solidarity Officer in Geneva, Switzerland. Working with the World Student Christian Federation.

Merry Christmas, remember to be a blessing to others this holiday season.

Did You Know?

1st Female African American Millionaire Madame C.J Walker Page 8 For The Less Fortunate Page 9 By:Cimara Poem What’s Going On By: Frank Comer

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Get Familiar …

Latasha Renee’ Holbert

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Lost Ones Of 2012

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Study: Working the Night Shift WillProbably End YourLife Early

Page 17 Internal scars, external warfare: African-American & African relations By; Brittany L. Browne Page 18 Nikki Ransom Page 19 Melody Moments: "Woman To Woman "- Keyshia Cole Page 21 Why Do You Self - Sabotage?

By; Rocky Bonner

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Astrology

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December 2012

Contributors  Racquel Bonner Fitness Navigator Columbus, Ohio

Nikki Ransom Life Coach Columbus, Ohio

Brittany L. Browne Geneva Switzerland Advocacy & Solidarity Officer in Geneva, Switzerland. Working with the World Student Christian Federation.

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What’s Happening In The C.O?

Congratulations President Obama

She was born Sarah Breedlove two days before Christmas in the year of 1867. Breedlove

Did You Know?

was born in Delta, Louisiana, a sleepy little village in Madison Parish. In addition to Sarah, a sister and two brothers rounded out the family. Her parents, Owen Jr. and Minerva had been slaves, but they were free after the Civil War ended. Breedlove grew up with her family

The First African-American Millionaire:

Sarah Breedlove (Aka Madame C.J. Walker)

until, at age seven, both her parents died from Yellow Fever. When Sarah was ten years old, she and her sister Louvenia moved to Vicksburg in an effort to escape the fever epidemic and find work. They found work as maids, but Sarah Breedlove's life would change dramatically after that. Even her name would change. To find out how she ended up becoming the first African-American millionaire, read about the interesting life and times of Madame C.J. Walker.

In the eighteen hundreds, it wasn't unusual for young girls to marry young. In fact, it was the norm. Sarah Breedlove had been living with her sister and brother-in-law, but the arrangement wasn't working out. Louvenia's husband was a cruel man, and Sarah wanted desperately to escape from his abuse. When she was fourteen years old, she found her chance and Sarah married a man named Moses McWilliams. The union produced a daughter, Lelia.

When Lelia was two, McWilliams was murdered, leaving Sarah a twenty-year-old widow and a single parent. Sarah McWilliams remarried in August of 1894 when she was twentysix. This marriage, to a man named John Davis, was a rocky one. It ended less than ten years later.

Sarah and her daughter Lelia then relocated to St. Louis, Missouri to start life over again.

She worked in the daytime as a laundress, and attended school at night.

In 1905, Sarah's life changed dramatically once again, but this time for the good. She invented a hair straightening process for African-Americans. It involved using brushes, combs and heat, and her invention quickly became a successful business. Sarah and her daughter moved to Denver, Colorado where she met Charles Joseph Walker. After the two married in January of 1906, Sarah began to market her invention under the name of Madame C.J. Walker. Unfortunately, the marriage was to end just four years later.

Before that time, though, Madame C.J. Walker opened a business office in Denver. She and her husband traveled extensively to promote her hair care products in 1906 while daughter Lelia handled the mail-order end of the business at home.

Madame Walker opened a training school for beauticians in 1908, and she oversaw the operation in Pittsburgh for the next two years. It was named the "Lelia College for Walker Hair Culturists". The college taught women how to become "Walker Agents" and sell Walker's hair care products door-to-door across the United States. By 1910, Madame Walker had more than a thousand women working for her selling her products. Even though she was successful, Walker moved her company's headquarters to Indianapolis, Indiana. It was a sound business move. Because, in Indianapolis, her hair product business boomed.

In 1914, at the age of 47, Madame C.J. Walker became the first African-American millionaire. She moved to New York two years later, and opened another office there.

Madame C. J. Walker died on May 25, 1919, at the age of fifty-one, from hypertension. She left behind a thirty-four room mansion that had been built on the Irvington-on-Hudson. Not only was she the first African-American to become a millionaire, but Madame Walker was also the richest African-American woman as well.

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To those less fortunate...

By Cimara ‘Tis the season to be jolly, so the carol sings.

‘Tis an exchange of presents, from flowers to golden rings.

Little children come to mind, Anticipating the arrival of Santa.

Family members reunite, And enjoy some friendly banter.

Food is bought weeks before, For the feast that is Chrissy Dinner.

Food fit for a king to eat, Grandma’s turkey is always a winner.

It’s a time of laughter and enjoyment, And smiles are seen all round.

It’s a time of pure happiness, And it’s extremely rare to see a frown.

Yet if you look deep beyond all that, If you look beyond the Christmas cheer.

I’m sure that you will realize, The are millions unhappy each year.

If you really do think about it, I’m confident that you will see.

That there are so many people less fortunate, Than you and I happen to be.

There are the people in third world countries, Who are starving and highly malnourished.

They’ve sadly had no education, No chance to let their minds flourish.

They are lucky if they have a house, The bare necessities they cannot afford.

Nothing in their lives is concrete, Their death is all that can be assured.

Christmas is just another day to them, Another day they have to try and survive.

Trying to preserve their remaining family members, Fighting to keep themselves alive.

Or perhaps you could consider, Those who don’t have a roof over their heads.

Those forced to sleep in the gutter, Rather than sleep in comfortable beds.

To receive a gift from another, Would be a luxury of the greatest kind.

The thought of ANY home cooked meal, Would be constantly on their minds.

And while it’s not your fault, That these people have to live this way.

Surely you could think of them, On such a special and joyous day.

Surely you could take the time, To thank the lord above.

Thank him for the things we take for granted, And thank him for our family’s love.

So when you raise your glasses, High up into the air, Consider those who have been dealt, A hand that’s not so fair.

By all means enjoy you Christmas, I hope it’s the best one yet!

But remember all these people, I BEG you not to forget!!

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What’s Going On???

By: Frank Comer

Black males have an inability to resolve conflicts, an inability that keeps them deployed in war against each other that is more likely to end in death. The legendary soul singer Marvin Gaye once sung they lyrics of a song that served as an advance indication about the present conditions we are forced to realize as a mass multitude of Black people today. "Brother, Brother, Brother there is far too many of "us" dying, war is not the answer, only love can conquer hate." We as a whole in almost a daily ritual observe through media outlets the untimely demise of so many of our youth and young adults who systematically participate in the act of Black genocide. This debilitating act of destructive behavior gives validity to the continuous rise of the homicide rate among Black males, which is the direct result of Black on Black crime. These numbers are not an exaggeration, but are indeed a symbol of both a crisis and tragedy in our Black communities like Cincinnati & Columbus Ohio and Chicago Illinois, where the victims are always young, Black and all too often buried too soon.

It's sad to see young Brothers representing and standing firmly on their genocidal beliefs and misconceptions that black male lives are devoid of any value. These dysfunctional beliefs which were born out of conspiracy, supremacy and inferiority ideologies allows them to remain unknowingly in submission to standards, situations and allegiances that are designed to entrap and remain perpetual. Many of our young are ignorant to the fundamentals of knowledge, awareness and consciousness that becomes essential in resolving conflicts with peaceful resolutions that build the foundation of humbleness, respect and the Brotherhood of unity. Those who continue to impair the quality of life in our communities and threaten our existence with extinction are involved in a continuation of a negative physical force of violent destructive behavior that undermines our need to survive and become a living force of positiveness that is to be reckoned with. This negative behavior contaminates our trust of each other with dishonor, selfishness and the lack of dignity. This negative behavior also instills fear into our children and older adults making them victims of reckless projectiles.

Our disharmony is glorified through language and the interactions among ourselves that demeans, disrespects and often is derogatory and gives the illusions of endearment, thus continuing to create strong dislikes and meritless excuses that originate from some "Willie lynch" like prejudices that causes us to hate one another even though we are racially and culturally alike. How are we as a people to rid ourselves of a self destruction that places sorrow and pain in our hearts, voids in our families and a darkness of senseless murder within our communities and return to a commitment of unity??? We can generate common sense and a responsible mentality that removes the disease of annihilation from the conscience giving those a moral commitment and reasons that preserves life instead of taking life, this formulates as motivating factors and principles that restores the value of living. Abandoning the components of self -destruction behavior empowers those eagerly wanting to live and make positive contributions as to how they live, instead of just merely existing in a cycle of self-destruction.

Through reasoning and rationalization we create the abilities to solve a combination of negative circumstances that would otherwise become detrimental to each other and to the overall success of our Black communities. The first obligation in resurrecting the community is to wake up…and to make a conscience effort to stop the killing.

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L. Renee’ Holbert Words of Encouragement for Entrepreneurs Website: Build Your Business w/L. Renee’ Email L. Renee’ “The Road to Success Is not easily paved, but I want you to know that there are plenty of good walking shoes available “ Says Entrepreneur, Radio personality, Success Coach, and four time Published Author, L. Renee’ Holbert.

The number one killer of entrepreneurial spirit is procrastination. You have to be the person to take action and stay the course. Project value in what you do every day and it will pay off. Set goals for yourself personally and your business and do things each and every day that will eventually lead to your successful completion of those goals. If you have to, put post it notes on the fridge, the bathroom mirror, the dashboard of your car…wherever you most frequent, that’s where it needs to be.

The main thing to remember is never give up, keep your eye on the prize and set constant reminders around yourself about what inspires you to keep pushing, and hold on. There is always a brighter and better day ahead.

My wish is…

That everyone in our communities and families has the support and resources they need to grow and thrive in whatever area they choose. That’s why I founded Turn it Up Tuesdays: The Networking Movement. This is a once a month event at different venues around Columbus, Ohio that will utilize S.N.A.P. (Super Networking Accelerates Potential) that utilizes the most important muscle the body possesses…the mind. On Turn it up Tuesdays, you can visit

www.facebook.com/LReneeHolbert, LIKE the page, then post your business ads, specials, events and more.

Network with the other 1,500 members on the page and let’s start to recycle dollars back into our communities by utilizing each other’s services/products and referring each other’s businesses to clients and potential clients.

The key to networking is building win/win relationships and leveraging each other’s networks.

The important thing to remember is that you are not alone. There are many, many people who have traveled the road before you and know the shortcuts and where the water stations are. So to speak. All you have to do is ask; The only requirements is that you pay it forward.

Peace and blessings to you and to your success!

Make sure you tune in each and every Tue and Thurs. mornings from 8am to 10 am to The Water Cooler Radio Show on www.wtmhradio.com to Listen in on guest interviews, tips, strategies and advice on how to build your business, website or brand with L. Renee’!

L. Renee’ Holbert Your Net-WORTH is a direct reflection of your Net-WORK...This is the business philosophy, L. Renee’ Holbert uses in growing her business and her brand, and helping you Build Your Business. L. Renee’ also believes that in order to Build Your Business, wealthy minded people, when presented with an opportunity ask the question, “How much is this going to Make me” and people who aren’t ask the question, “How much is this going to COST me”.

Her goal is to get people to think like the wealthy.

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Certified Success Coach Business Coach Entrepreneur Radio Personality Published Author Mobile App Developer Recent “Today’s Honoree”

L. Renee’ Holbert is the owner/founder of Dependable Internet Solutions and Knowledge (D.I.S.K.), a Virtual Office Management company that helps businesses save 50%-70% off their bottom line by outsourcing non core business functions. She has published four books, To Walk With Grace is to Run With God and an eBook, Where to Find Tons of Hot Leads, and Making Money Online for Newbies, and Blogging Blueprint (How to profit from blogs).

Renee’ owns an E-Store that sells products, that help Build your Business, It Is My Business Builder E-Store, and she also has a Discover your Financial Freedom DVD that teaches the basics of tapping into your potential and discovering financial freedom.

L. Renee’ was recently nominated as “Today’s Honoree” as someone to watch. View the article here: Net Worth Education L. Renee’ Holbert is “Today’s Honoree” L. Renee’ is a graduate of Franklin University with a Masters Degree in Business Administration and is also a Radio Personality on Blogtalk Radio, “It Is My Business Radio: Where Everything is My Business”.

L. Renee’ is a strong believer in paying it forward with tools, strategies, knowledge and resources for anyone looking to improve on their business, and their personal development, so she is now a Certified Success Coach and offers her Success Coaching to anyone FREE of charge, contact her for more information on how to take advantage of this invaluable opportunity.

It Is My Business Radio Website: If you are looking for resources to grow your home based business or website, It Is My Business radio is the perfect media outlet for you to hear expert interviews, resources, tips and tricks. Follow L. Renee’s radio show at BlogTalkRadio.

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L. Renee’ Holbert’s Eco Power Site: DISK,Inc is proud to partner with Eco Power Partners! Our members show residential and commercial clients how to lower their electric and gas bills by switching their energy supplier, while remaining with the local Utility for delivery, billing and service needs. We also provide people with a partnership opportunity. Simply share the energy savings programs with businesses and or residential clients and earn amazing residual income on a parttime or full-time basis.

Lost Ones Of 2012 Joe Avezzano, 68, American football player (Boston Patriots) and coach (Dallas Cowboys, Oakland Raiders), heart attack.

Mike Wallace, a journalism pioneer known for his reporting on '60 Minutes' died Michael Hossack, a drummer for the rock band The Doobie Brothers, died at age 65 David Jones, leader singer of The Monkees, David Kelly, an Irish actor known for role in 'Charlie and the Chocolate Factory' Whitney Houston has died at age 48, Don Cornelius Robert Hegyes, who is best known for portraying Jewish Puerto Rican student Juan Epstein on the '70s sitcom 'Welcome Back, Kotter' Etta James, Bob Anderson, a British stunt actor and Olympic fencing trainer who played Darth Vader Slim Dunkin, a rapper whose real name was Mario Hamilton, was shot to death on the evening of December 16, 2011 Harry Morgan of 'M*A*S*H' and 'Dragnet' Dick Clark Donna Summer, died at 63 after a battle with cancer.

Junior Seau, At 43 years old, NFL legend Junior Seau was founded dead in his home in Oceanside, CA, from an apparent suicide by gunshot. After playing for USC, Seau was a first-round NFL draft pick in 1990 and played in the league for 20 years for the San Diego Chargers, Miami Dolphins, and New England Patriots.

Adam Yauch, was better known as "MCA" from the iconic hip hop group The Beastie Boys. He was 47 years old.

Yauch had been diagnosed with the cancer that eventually ended his life in 2009.

Chuck Brown, Godfather of Go-Go" music, typified by his 1970 hit "Bustin' Loose."

Robin Gibb, Member and co-founder of the universally popular disco mega group "The BeeGees", passed away after a long bout with cancer. He was 62.

George Lindsey who played Goober on the classic TV show "The Andy Griffith Show," died Sunday morning after an extended illness. He also appeared on "Gunsmoke" and "Hee Haw", he was 83.

Yvette Wilson 48, cervical cancer Rodney King Andy Griffith Kathryn Joosten – Desperate Housewives Rep. Donald Payne Of New Jersey Rapper Ms. Melodie of Boggie Down Productions Sylivia Woods, soul food mongul Sherman Hemsley better known for his character George Jefferson Orenthal James Murdock Tennesse Titians

Neil Armstrong American astronaut first person to walk the moon.

Chris Lightly The powerhouse behind Violater Records and management guided the careers of hip-hop heavyweights like 50 Cent, Busta Rhymes and Missy Elliott.

Michael Clarke Duncan (December 10, 1957 – September 3, 2012)[1] was an American actor, best known for his breakout role as John Coffey in The Green Mile, Ted Kazanoff (August 30, 1922 – October 22, 2012) was an American actor best known for playing Judge Scarletti on the original Law & Order series Thomas James "Tom" Kenny (born July 13, 1962) is an American actor, voice actor, singer, and comedian. He is known for his long-running-role as SpongeBob SquarePants in the television series of the same name, as well as the live-action character Patchy the Pirate, Gary the Snail and the French narrator based on Jacques Cousteau.

Emanuel Steward (July 7, 1944 – October 25, 2012) was an American boxer, trainer, and commentator for HBO Boxing.

Natina Reed was born October 28, 1979 and departed on October 27, 2012. American actress, rapper, singer, teen idol and songwriter in the R&B trio Blaque Alex Karras, who gained fame as an NFL defensive lineman for the Detroit Lions and later as an actor on the sitcom 'Webster,' died Oct. 10, 2012 Antoine Ashley, who is better known as Sahara Davenport from 'RuPaul's Drag Race' died at age 27 on October 1, 2012 Leo O'Brien (November 12, 1970 – October 10, 2012) was an American television and film actor, best known as "Richie Green" in the 1985 film, The Last Dragon. Also, the younger brother of Guy O'Brien, better known as Master Gee of the pioneering rap group, The Sugarhill Gang.

Larry Hagman is seen at a photocall ahead of the UK broadcast of Dallas on Tuesday, August 21, 2012 in London, UK. Hagman, best known for roles on 'Dallas' and 'I Dream of Jeannie,' died at age 81, sources said Friday, Nov. 23, 2012 Emily Squires, a longtime television director and writer who worked on "Sesame Street" and other series, died at the age of 71 on Wednesday, November 21.

Ernest Mateen, 46, American boxer (born June 3, 1966-November 6, 2012, Bedford-Stuyvesant, Brooklyn, New York), nicknamed 'M-16', was a former United States and world Cruiserweight (boxing) champion. He was shot to death by his wife in a case of probable self-defense.

Sammi Kane Kraft, who portrayed Amanda Whurlitzer in the 2005 remake of 'Bad News Bears,' has died in a car accident in Los Angeles on October 9, at age 20.

Major Harris, 65, American R&B singer ("Love Won't Let Me Wait"), member of The Delfonics, heart and lung failure.

Kansas City linebacker Jovan Belcher shot and killed his 22-year-old girlfriend, Kasandra Perkins, then drove to the Chiefs' facilities at Arrowhead Stadium and took his own life in front of some team employees, including coach Romeo Crennel and general manager Scott Pioli Yao Defen-World's tallest woman dies in China at age 39 Ravi Shankar, sitar master, dies at 92 Héctor Luís Camacho Matías (May 24, 1962 – November 24, 2012), nicknamed Macho Camacho,

Getting Ready For Christmas Parties?….Try this….

Party potatoes

PARTY POTATOES This recipe for Party Potatoes is actually supposed to serve 30 3 32-ounce containers Ore-Ida Hash Browns (either Southern- or Country-Style), defrosted 3 large onions, diced (about 6 cups) 4 large garlic cloves, crushed 1 tablespoon black pepper, plus more to taste 1 1/2 pounds Gruyère, grated 1 1/2 pounds Havarti, grated 4 5-ounce containers Boursin with herbs, crumbled 1 pint half-and-half 1. Preheat the oven to 350. Grease a large roasting pan.

2. In a very large (8- to 13-quart) bowl, combine the defrosted potatoes, onions, garlic, and pepper with your (clean) hands, tossing until well combined. Now mix in all the cheeses thoroughly. Taste for seasoning, adding more pepper if you want. (It’s not likely that you’ll need salt with all this cheese.) This can all be done a day ahead and chilled until baking time.

3. Pack the potato mixture into the roasting pan,

7-Up Cranberry Punch 2 cups water 1 1/2 cups sugar 4 cinnamon sticks 3 cups cranberry juice 2 1/2 cups orange juice 1 cup lemon juice 42 fluid ounces 7-Up soda ice cube Directions: 1.Chill fruit juices and 7-Up. 2.Simmer water, sugar and cinnamon sticks together for 10 minutes.

3.Set aside for several hours to allow the mixture to develop the cinnamon spiced flavor.

4.Prior to serving time, remove the cinnamon sticks from the sugar syrup.

5.In a large punch bowl, combine the sugar syrup, cranberry juice, orange juice, and lemon juice.

6 Slowly pour in the 7-Up. 7.Add ice-cubes and garnish with lime slices if desired.

smoothing the top. Pour the half-and-half evenly over the potatoes. Sprinkle a little more pepper on top.

4. Bake the potatoes for at least an hour, uncovered, depending on how brown you want them. (I like to bake them for 2 hours, myself.) Halfway through the baking, stir the potatoes up from the bottom to get the already browned bits mixed throughout. After that, leave the potatoes alone. If they start to brown faster than you want, cover the roaster again or lower the heat. If you have the opposite problem, turn the heat up.

Party Potatoes are just plain forgiving. If, for some reason—a big ol’ baked ham, say—you need to cook the potatoes at a lower temperature, that will also work.

I’ve done them at 300 for 4 hours with no trouble at all.

You can also take them out midway through the baking process and finish them a couple of hours later.

Study: Working the Night Shift WillProbably End YourLife Early The way you work could be impacting your health. According to a recent study, people who work night shifts, rotating shifts and other irregular shifts have an increased risk for heart attack and stroke. The finding matters a great deal to those who think that we can miss sleep each night and still be OK. Not getting regular rest not only increases the chances that you might suffer from depression, it also changes your bodily functions, increases your heart rate and stresses you out in ways that you might never imagine.

The report showed that shift workers had about a 25 percent increased risk of having a cardiovascular problem, a 23 percent increased risk of a heart attack and a 5 percent increased risk of a stroke when compared to non-shift workers. So, the question becomes, “Is the higher paycheck worth it?”

“Given the commonness of shift work in modern industrialized nations, and industrializing nations, many heart attacks and strokes are likely directly attributable to the effects of shift work,” Dr. Daniel Hackam, a clinical pharmacologist at the Stroke Prevention and Atherosclerosis Research Centre said. The international organization is based in London and Ontario.

The study involved more than 2 million people. Of them, more than 17,000 suffered from some kind of cardiovascular problem. More than 6,500 had heart attacks and almost 1,900 had strokes. The work style in the US is very different from other parts of the world. In Europe, for example, workers are given annual vacations for as long as 6 – 8 weeks, compared to just two weeks for many companies here in the United States. Other countries also advocate taking a nap during lunch if you work during the day.

Hackman recommends that these workers, their employers and the doctors who see them become more aware and seek ways to reduce their risks. Exercise and eating right can go a long way to reducing the risks. Also, getting plenty of sleep when you’re not working can make a difference as well.

“Shift workers should receive cardiovascular risk factor screening and prevention, and this should be ongoing and regular,” Hackam added.

He suggests paying particular attention to blood pressure, cholesterol and diabetes concerns.

Internal scars, external warfare: African-American & African relations

By Brittany L. Browne

African-American and African relationships are still, in the 21st Century being dismantled from right within our own communities. Although, the relationships between both groups exist between male and female, we see most of the divide specifically among the women. Particularly, with women due to issues of jealousy, and lack of appreciation for each other’s values and traditions. But, nationality, culture, and education are often the basis for separation between these two groups, in general, among others.

Many African-Americans feel that Africans are closed minded, rude, and do not completely acknowledge their struggle of slavery into the America’s, while Africans feel strongly that AfricaAmericans are ignorant, lazy and complacent, and do not take full advantage of educational opportunities.

What is interesting is that no one is talking about it! Instead, we are complaining and allowing stereotypes to grow. We are so quick to talk about issues that infringe on our communities from the outside, but are slow to talk about issues that need to be dealt with right from the inside. Major AfricanAmerican and African media outlets such as: Black Entertainment Network (BET), The Africa Channel, and more should be highlighting these conversations with every opportunity that comes their way. Perhaps, there are very few opportunities that do come their way, as there is also a lack of research that has been conducted in this area compared to other studies that we consider high priorities for our communities.

Therefore, while this is not a new topic it is certainly not something that we should shake the dust from our feet on but instead, we should develop the conversations further and rally more support within.

In an article by Tracie Reddick titled, African vs. African-American: A shared complexion does not guarantee racial solidarity, Kofi Glover, a native of Ghana and a political science professor at the University of South Florida, says "A shared complexion does not equal a shared culture, nor does it automatically lead to friendships, whether we like it or not, Africans and African-Americans have two different and very distinct cultures."

The question in response to this becomes, while they may be two different and very distinct cultures, how do you take these two cultures and appreciate what both of them have to contribute to our collective community? We should not be taking away from each other’s cultures, in fact, if we dare tried, the divide would be much greater and in fact, we would simply be perpetuating the origins of history in its form of stripping culture, language, and much more away from us.

As an African-American preparing to marry into an African family, it is my hope that both of our communities open their eyes and stop being blinded by such negligence and pride for our own sake.

Source Tracie Reddick, Article, African vs. African-American: A shared complexion does not guarantee racial solidarity, 1998 Yale Library: http://www.library.yale.edu/~fboateng/akata.htm

Dating Tip: Do not expect to be seen as "wifey" material if you are exhibiting the behavior of a "hoochie mama". I think you know what I mean. At the end of day, we want to be loved and cherished as we deserve to be, and if you are looking for a potential life mate; it's imperative that you do not go hopping into one man's bed, after the next, after the next. With each of these ending in disappointment because you were seeking love and he was just seeking...well, you know. So single ladies, if you are looking for a committed relationship with a man, you shouldn't have to have sex with him FIRST before he wants to commit to you. More times than not, we have sex too early and they treat us like 'just another "hoochie mama"', but really you can't blame him because you behaved like one. Then this only creates more emotional baggage for us to work through and you know heavy that ish is...

As I stated before, Do not expect to be seen as "wifey" material if you are exhibiting the behavior of a "hoochie mama".

Nikki's Quote of the Week "In dreams and in love, there are no impossibilities" - Janos Arany.

Sincerely, Nikki Ransom, CEO, Certified Life, Relationship & Sex Coach LoversEd, LLC Romance Tip of the Week Ladies, when's the last time you sent HIM some flowers to work? I'm just sayin...

Sex Tip of the Week The coronal ridge and frenulum are known to be as a man's "sweet spot". The coronal ridge is the base of the head of his penis and the frenulum is the area directly under the head of the penis. Be sure to pay a little extra attention to his "sweet spot". **NEWS** Free class on February 8, 2012 9:00 pm on our website "How to Enhance Your Orgasms". I will also teach the Bi- and Trigasm so be sure to tune in! You will receive your access code in your Inbox the day of the class. If you haven't joined our mailing list and would like access to this free class, you may join below. Be sure to pass to your friends as well so they can join in the fun.

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Melody Moments In my opinion the new Kyeshia Cole album "Woman To Woman" was …lets just say bitter sweet. We were happy to see her back, after "Calling All Hearts" quickly came and went in 2010. So much has changed for Kyeshia Cole there's marriage, a child and now she's back to work! We excitingly welcomed her as she sold us on "Enough Of No Love " feat Lil Wayne, followed by "Trust and Believe". These first two singles and videos she dropped from the latest album were Kyeshia Cole classics, but at a creeping pace, she drifted off. Unlike the last album Kyeshia just seemed as if her heart just wasn't in it. This album is hot and cold. I know you have to make music that you think would appease the consumers… but if it's not you(Kyeshia) and the type of music that you (Kyeshia) brings to the table , As a true Kyeshia Cole supporter …your delivery would be returned to sender! I'm just saying , it is clear that some of the songs on this album just doesn't fit her.

I seen the episode on "Family First" where she said she could no longer sing sad songs because she is happy now. So she brought in a team of writers. Well we all seen this play out with Mary J. Blige. She felt the same way, got the same response… and some how she mixed the old Mary with the new Mary and was able to find a sincere common ground where people began to feel her and appreciate where she'd been , where she's going and where she's at!

Kyeshia Cole needs to stay true to herself.

Happy or not…We notice the growth in Kyeshia Cole and just because she is married and a mother now it do not mean she doesn't go through changes and from the look of the show it's not all peaches and cream, no marriage is perfect…I'm just saying I know Kyeshia Cole still has it and she should bring it!

Enough Of No Love - True Kyeshia Cole song. Great way to return! Sincere, song that a lot of women can feel. Also added that extra spice to grab the men attention. I like it!

Zero Feat. Meek MillsMissing Me Trust And Believe- Another great song…I got chills listening to this. Hell I got inspired. Woman's Anthem for sure!

Get It RightWoman To WomanWonderlandI Choose YouStubbornHey SexyForeverNext MoveWho's Gonna Hold Me DownWhy LieSignature-

O ur Condolences To The Families Of...

Ernest Mateen, 46, American boxer (born June 3, 1966-November 6, 2012, Bedford-Stuyvesant, Brooklyn, New York), nicknamed 'M-16', was a former United States and world Cruiserweight (boxing) champion. He was shot to death by his wife in a case of probable selfdefense.

Major Harris, 65, American R&B singer ("Love Won't Let Me Wait"), member of The Delfonics, heart and lung failure.

Sammi Kane Kraft, who portrayed Amanda Whurlitzer in the 2005 remake of 'Bad News Bears,' has died in a car accident in Los Angeles on October 9, at age 20.

Héctor Luís Camacho Matías (May 24, 1962 – November 24, 2012), nicknamed Macho Camacho, was a Puerto Rican professional boxer.

Emily Squires, a longtime television director and writer who worked on "Sesame Street" and other series, died at the age of 71 on Wednesday, November 21.

Larry Hagman is seen at a photocall ahead of the UK broadcast of Dallas on Tuesday, August 21, 2012 in London, UK. Hagman, best known for roles on 'Dallas' and 'I Dream of Jeannie,' died at age 81, sources said Friday, Nov. 23, 2012

Why Do You Self-Sabotage?

How long have you been trying to lose those last 10 or 20 or 30 pounds? Been awhile now, hasn't it? You know how to lose weight - eat healthy and exercise - so why are you still living in a body that you're disappointed with? In my experience, people hold on to "unwanted" pounds for very specific reasons. These reasons are on a subconscious level, which is where things get tricky. Self-sabotage is your subconscious mind's way of protecting you. Seems counterproductive, but it makes sense when you realize that it is a defense mechanism meant to keep things from changing. Your conscious mind says it wants to lose weight to look and feel amazing, but your subconscious mind is pulling the strings behind the scenes, keeping your goals just out of reach. As long as your subconscious mind thinks that you are safer being out-of-shape then you'll be stuck. Your most valiant efforts will be undermined by self-sabotage every single time. But don't give up. There's a way to turn everything around, and it all starts with finding out the reason that your subconscious mind equates being out-of-shape with being safe. Once you turn the light on to that reason then it will no longer have any power over you. So lets dig around for your reason.

Do you believe... You don't deserve it? Has someone in your life made you believe that you aren't worthy of success? Or that they wouldn't accept you if you were more successful than they are?

• Do you believe... Change is bad? It's common to fear the unknown, but this could very well be the reason that you're not reaching your goal. Being comfortable with where you are today could be the reason that you sabotage your efforts to improve your life through change.

• Do you believe...Success will bring loss? If you met your weight loss goal, would it bring out resentment and jealousy in your friends and family? Are you supposed to be the ‘screw-up'?

• Do you believe...You're not capable? Are you unable to imagine yourself at your goal weight? Does the possibility of achieving your goal not seem real?

Spend time diving into your own mind to discover why it is that you aren't meeting your goals. Once your whole mind is primed for success, then nothing will be able to stop you.

What the mind believes the body achieves. Exercise is a huge part of the equation when it comes to achieving weight loss. I am passionate about seeing my clients achieve results - without wasting time, energy and effort on mistakes. Call or email me today and we will get you started on the exercise program that is right for you.

Tropical Salad with Teriyaki Chicken This salad is fun and full of flavor, made with nutrient-packed micro greens, sweet mango, tender teriyaki chicken and guilt-free onion rings. Eat this and give your body the protein it needs as well as a healthy serving of fiber. Servings: 6 Here's what you need...

• 4 organic, free-range chicken breasts • 1/4 cup Organicville Island Teriyaki Sauce • 1 large yellow onion, cut into 1/2 inch slices • 1 cup almond meal • dash of salt • 1/4 teaspoon garlic powder • 1 cup coconut milk, full fat • 1 omega-3 egg • 4 cups organic micro greens or mixed greens • 1 fresh, ripe organic mango, sliced • 4 Tablespoons organic goat cheese, crumbled 1. Rinse the chicken breasts. Place in a large ziplock bag with the teriyaki sauce, mix until all the chicken is coated. Place in refrigerator for at least 30 minutes. (Do it overnight for even better flavor!)

2. Preheat oven to 400 degrees F. Lightly grease a baking sheet with coconut oil.

3. In a shallow bowl combine the almond meal, salt and garlic powder. In another shallow bowl whisk the coconut milk and egg.

4. Dip each onion ring in the milk mixture and then coat with the almond meal mixture. Place on prepared baking sheet.

5. Bake for 20 minutes. Remove from oven, flip each onion ring, then return to oven for an additional 10 minutes.

6. Heat a grill pan and lightly coat with coconut oil. Place the chicken breasts on the grill pan, and cook 4 minutes each side, until there is no longer any pink in the middle.

7. Remove chicken from heat and slice.

8. Prepare each plate with a pile of micro greens, sliced mango, goat cheese crumbles, a few onion rings and then top with teriyaki chicken.

Nutritional Analysis: One serving equals: 366 calories, 2g fat, 268mg sodium, 23g carbohydrate, 4g fiber, and 40g protein

December 2012 Astrology

Aries December Horoscope 2012-these people will look for new beginnings in their love life. December will be a month that will bring with itself some disputes for these people from the family side.

Taurus December Horoscope 2012-Taureans are expected to boost up in their professional life due to a promotion or salary hike in December. States meeting of an old friend that will rekindle the love life of these people.

Gemini December Horoscope 2012-Marriage is predicted for many eligible Geminis in December 2012, also predicts rise in the stress level of these people due to work pressure.

Cancer December Horoscope 2012- Cancerians might plan a family reunion in order to sort out old issues in the family in December 2012, also states traveling for profession for these people in this particular month of 2012.

Leo December Horoscope 2012-According to Leo December Horoscopes 2012, these people will need to keep up their patience level in order to avoid disputes at home or office. Leos might also suffer from some stomach or teeth problems in December 2012.

Virgo December Horoscope 2012-Virgos are expected to express their love feelings to the one they love in this particular month of 2012. States highly motivated determination in these people in December 2012.

Libra December Horoscope 2012- Librans will look for a new job or career in the middle of December due to lack of promotions, also states some diplomatic people surrounding these people in this month that might harm them.

Scorpio December Horoscope 2012- these people will get new creative ideas to set their career on the right path. December will be a month when these people will be full of passion to fulfill their dreams.

Sagittarius December Horoscope 2012-these people will have an average month ahead that will pass working to achieve the old work goals. These people might face some minor health problems in this month.

Capricorn December Horoscope 2012-Capricorn people will try to figure out what is going wrong in their love relationships in December 2012. Predicts a smooth life ahead in the coming year.

Aquarius December Horoscope 2012- suggests some traveling is on cards for these people either for business or leisure purpose. These people will take time out to understand their partner better in this month.

Pisces December Horoscope 2012-Pisceans will take time out to improve their lifestyle finally after a long period of hard work and stress in December 2012,also predicts meeting old friends in a function or event.

Ohio Missing Children

DAMIEN BECKETT, Age Now: 17, Missing: 09/27/2012. Missing From FAIRFIELD, OH. ANYONE HAVING INFORMATION SHOULD CONTACT: Fairfield Township Police Department (Ohio) 1-513-785-1300.

MATTHEW TROUTMAN, Age Now: 16, Missing: 09/23/2012. Missing From WOOSTER, OH. ANYONE HAVING INFORMATION SHOULD CONTACT: Wooster Police Department (Ohio) 1-330-287-5700.

BREANNA BREWSTER, Age Now: 17, Missing: 07/24/2012. Missing From FAIRFIELD, OH. ANYONE HAVING INFORMATION SHOULD CONTACT: Fairfield Police Department (Ohio) 1-513-829-8201.

CLEVELAND, Ohio — Authorities in Cleveland say that they believe that a body found in a suburban Cleveland landfill is that of a missing three-year-old boy. Emilliano Terry was last seen Sunday around 5:05 p.m. at Kossuth Park at East 121st Street and Williams Avenue in Cleveland. The boy’s mother said she only took her eyes off of her son for a minute to tend to another child, and the next minute, the boy was gone. A 5-year-old boy told police he saw Emilliano get into a black car. The boy was unable to provide any specific details about the vehicle, so police were unable to issue an Amber Alert. Investigators say they contacted the boy’s father. They say there are no custody issues and don’t believe he had any involvement in the boy’s disappearance. (Fast forward days later) The 20-year-old mother of slain 3-year-old Emilliano Terry was arraigned this morning on an aggravated murder charge and held in lieu of a $2 million bond.

Prosecutor Brian Murphy told the judge that Emilliano died of blunt force trauma to the head. His skull was fractured, according to the Cuyahoga County Medical Examiner's Office, Murphy said.