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EDITOR’S NOTE The Goliath guys are not resting on our laurels for 2017, and we refuse to just settle in and let winter defeat us. No, our February issue comes for your seasonal doldrums, and we take no prisoners. Like the rest of gay Atlanta, we have resolved to better ourselves this year, and we pledge to take steps every month to reach new heights for our readers. Keep turning the page to find refreshed layouts, doubly informative content, beefed up shopping and outing guides, and all of it even more chock full of the style and substance you expect in Goliath. For Valentine’s Day, our feature story looks at how to make love last in gay relationships that never have played by the rules, and our own Lady in Red Deven Green dishes relationship advice. For the big night, embrace the swag of bright suits in a fashion layout by photographer Gastohn Barrios, and double down on
what to wear and where to eat in Atlanta in a date night spread based on how long you’ve been together. But we get it. Winter can be hard. Take on Ferocious February in our guide to emerging victorious this spring. These survival tips gather ways to wile away winter’s indoor homo home time, as well as some clothing and luxuries to help you master the cold weather when you do venture out. Always looking out for you, we run down the month’s best event options in the Agenda calendar, as well as the gay offerings at Atlanta Jewish Film Festival. Then we look ahead and work out with a sexy Midtown trainer to help you get Glorious Glutes by swimsuit season. Don’t miss our Appearances pages featuring your own bright faces, and be sure to smile for our cameras when you see our photographers out and about. Until next time, drop me a line any time with any ideas for future coverage. Mike Fleming Editorial Director Mike@GoliathAtlanta.com
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MUST ATTEND EVENTS CUPID’S UNDIE RUN Possibly the most fun you’ve had on Valentine’s Day, this charity fun run strips you don to your pink, red and Valentine-themed skivvies to run through the streets for Children’s Tumor Foundation. Partying hard before and after is an inherent part of the plan. This year’s fun takes place February 11 at Big Sky. cupidsundierun.org
SEISHUN ANIME CONVENTION LOVE ON THE ROCKS Joining Hearts presents one of its signature events as it raises a glass to single guys and allied couples for Valentine season. Cocktails, great guys aplenty, plus music and fundraising to build toward the organization’s HIV-focused beneficiaries. The fabulous showroom at Cantoni returns as host for this year’s February 11 shindig. joininghearts.org
Get with your geeks in celebration of Japanese anime and manga with cosplays, panels and industry guests, as well as a buzzing dealer’s room and an all-night dance. Atlanta Marriott Perimeter becomes a welcoming wonderland February 10-12 with something for everyone, whether you’re new to fandom or a seasoned veteran. seishun-con.com
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OYSTERFEST The more famous one shucks at Steamhouse on February 25-26, but our guys turn out on February 11 for this annual event at Park Tavern. Enjoy live music, DJs, beer and literal tons of fresh raw, steamed and fried oysters with plenty of cocktail sauce and crackers. Not into oysters? Shrimp, fries and more keep you munching to the beat. parktavern.com, steamhouselounge.com
R A I N B OW T RO U T Atlanta’s gay and allied water polo team invites everyone to a water polo skills clinic on February 5 at Georgia Tech Campus Recreation Center. No previous experience necessary to don our speedo and give a new sport a whirl with the Rainbow Trout, who also work out and compete in swimming and triathlons. atlantarainbowtrout.com
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Dig into the costume trunk or your personal archives, because it’s time to bowl for equality with HRC Atlanta. Come to Midtown Bowl on Saturday, February 4 for two rounds of bowling, prizes and music to benefit the cause while you hobnob, eat, drink and bowl. Prizes for best getups and other fun surprises. Registration rounds at 12 noon and 2:30 p.m. HRCatlanta.com.
Fashion hounds and clotheshorses are going to love finding 200 years of fashion at SCAD-Atlanta’s exhibit featuring historical garments through March 19. Soak in the inherent commentary on shifting values as you walk through menswear and women’s garments from the ornate Rococo period, to the glitzy Roaring ‘20s, to the elegant New Look revolution after World War II. scad.edu
J E W I S H F I L M F E S T I VA L The largest film festival in Atlanta returns through February 15 with its always-gay-inclusive lineup and three weeks of movies. This year’s gay-specific titles include the Out On Film-sponsored documentary The Freedom to Marry, the heartfelt Family Commitments and the female-focused In Between. Read our full preview in this issue. ajff.org
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in the United States finally became a reality nationwide with 2015’s historic Obergefell v. Hodges case. What’s new is the behind-the-scenes strategy and maneuvers among those responsible for championing the case for marriage equality. Among them is this story focusing on openly gay attorney Evan Wolfson, whose roots in Pittsburgh’s Jewish community helped develop his passion for social justice, including in the creation of the now-ubiquitous national organization Freedom to Marry. Thursday, Feb. 2, 2:30 p.m. Regal Perimeter Pointe *Sunday, Feb. 5, 7 p.m. Regal Atlantic Station Monday, Feb. 13, 7:50 p.m. Lefont Sandy Springs *Tuesday, Feb. 14, 7:50 p.m. Woodruff Arts Center *Gay Atlanta’s own Out on Film leads panel discussions following these screenings.
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hen it comes to LGBT representation at film festivals in Atlanta, we’re used to seeing our lives represented. With gay and allied festivals like Out on Film and the Atlanta Film Festival, our blue city in its increasingly less-red state knows how to treat its gay moviegoers. It’s nice to know that the city’s premiere festival, the Atlanta Jewish Film Festival, stands tall among them. Founded in 2000 by the American Jewish Committee, it took only 17 years to become the city’s largest single film festival, and the largest Jewish film festival in the entire world. AJFF uses the power of cinema to showcase stories that bring together a diverse array of Jewish stories to examine their interconnectedness with other parts of Atlanta’s cultural, ethnic and religious landscape. That dedicated outreach includes our vibrant LGBT culture. For 2017, AJFF’s loyal 38,000+ attendees will find three gay-specific entries, plus a fourth that focuses on an infamous Broadway production created by a legendary gay man. Each film is scheduled to screen multiple times at different venues across Atlanta, and some are included as part of special events. Here’s a sneak peek. F A M I LY C O M M I T M E N T S After dating for two years, David and Khaled
(Maximilian von Pufendorf and Omar El-Saeidi, photo this page) are ready to shatter a taboo in their German society: a same-sex Jewish/Muslim marriage. The couple faces obstacles in the form of David’s overbearing mother, Khaled’s homophobic father, and an old acquaintance who comes from out of nowhere claiming to be pregnant with David’s child. Heartfelt hilarity ensues. Saturday, Jan. 28, 9:30 p.m. GTC Merchants Walk Sunday, Jan. 29, 2:30 p.m. UA Tara Friday, Feb. 3, 12:40 p.m. Regal Perimeter Pointe Saturday, Feb. 4, 2 p.m. Lefont Sandy Springs
B E S T W O R S T T H I N G T H AT E V E R C OULD HAVE HAPPENED Legendary Broadway composer Stephen Sondheim is one of the most prolific in the history of the Great White Way. After composing a number of hits during the 1970s – A Chorus Line, Company, Sweeney Todd, Into the Woods, and more – it was a shock when his Merrily We Roll Along shuttered after only 16 performances in 1981. The musical, about the disillusionment of adulthood, confused audiences and critics alike with its unusual structure – the story unfolds in reverse – and the decision to cast unknown teens as adults. In this documentary from original cast member Lonny Price, audiences can now go behind the scenes of one of the Great White Way’s most legendary flops. Sunday, Jan. 29, 11:15 a.m. GTC Merchants Walk Saturday, Feb. 11, 1 p.m. Lefont Sandy Springs Saturday, Feb. 11, 8:30 p.m. Regal Atlantic Station Atlanta Jewish Film Festival runs through Wednesday, February 15. For a complete lineup, or to purchase tickets, visit ajff.org.
*Saturday, Feb. 11, 8:40 p.m. Woodruff Arts Center *This screening presented American Jewish Committee’s young leadership division is reserved for festival attendees 40-years-old and younger. A pre-party starts at 7 p.m. THE FREEDOM TO MARRY We already knew that same-sex marriage
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What is TRUVADA for PrEP (Pre-exposure Prophylaxis)?
uYou may be more likely to get lactic acidosis or serious liver problems
TRUVADA is a prescription medicine that can be used for PrEP to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection when used together with safer sex practices. This use is only for adults who are at high risk of getting HIV-1 through sex. This includes HIV-negative men who have sex with men and who are at high risk of getting infected with HIV-1 through sex, and malefemale sex partners when one partner has HIV-1 infection and the other does not. Ask your healthcare provider if you have questions about how to prevent getting HIV-1. Always practice safer sex and use condoms to lower the chance of sexual contact with body fluids. Never reuse or share needles or other items that have body fluids on them.
Who should not take TRUVADA for PrEP?
IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION What is the most important information I should know about TRUVADA for PrEP?
Before taking TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce your risk of getting HIV-1 infection: uYou must be HIV-negative. You must get tested to make sure that you do not already have HIV-1 infection. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 unless you are confirmed to be HIV-negative. uMany HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently become infected. If you have flu-like symptoms, you could have recently become infected with HIV-1. Tell your healthcare provider if you had a flu-like illness within the last month before starting TRUVADA for PrEP or at any time while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches, headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged lymph nodes in the neck or groin. While taking TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce your risk of getting HIV-1 infection: uYou must continue using safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP may not keep you from getting HIV-1. uYou must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP. uTo further help reduce your risk of getting HIV-1: • Know your HIV-1 status and the HIV-1 status of your partners. • Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months or when your healthcare provider tells you. • Get tested for other sexually transmitted infections. Other infections make it easier for HIV-1 to infect you. • Get information and support to help reduce risky sexual behavior. • Have fewer sex partners. • Do not miss any doses of TRUVADA. Missing doses may increase your risk of getting HIV-1 infection. • If you think you were exposed to HIV-1, tell your healthcare provider right away. uIf you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA alone to treat HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. TRUVADA can cause serious side effects: uToo much lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious medical emergency. Symptoms of lactic acidosis include weakness or being more tired than usual, unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, nausea, vomiting, stomach-area pain, cold or blue hands and feet, feeling dizzy or lightheaded, and/or fast or abnormal heartbeats. uSerious liver problems. Your liver may become large and tender, and you may develop fat in your liver. Symptoms of liver problems include your skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow, dark “tea-colored” urine, lightcolored stools, loss of appetite for several days or longer, nausea, and/or stomach-area pain.
if you are female, very overweight (obese), or have been taking TRUVADA for a long time. In some cases, these serious conditions have led to death. Call your healthcare provider right away if you have any symptoms of these conditions. uWorsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. If you also have HBV and take TRUVADA, your hepatitis may become worse if you stop taking TRUVADA. Do not stop taking TRUVADA without first talking to your healthcare provider. If your healthcare provider tells you to stop taking TRUVADA, they will need to watch you closely for several months to monitor your health. TRUVADA is not approved for the treatment of HBV. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP if you already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. If you are HIV-1 positive, you need to take other medicines with TRUVADA to treat HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP if you also take lamivudine (Epivir-HBV) or adefovir (HEPSERA).
What are the other possible side effects of TRUVADA for PrEP?
Serious side effects of TRUVADA may also include: uKidney problems, including kidney failure. Your healthcare provider may do blood tests to check your kidneys before and during treatment with TRUVADA for PrEP. If you develop kidney problems, your healthcare provider may tell you to stop taking TRUVADA for PrEP. uBone problems, including bone pain or bones getting soft or thin, may lead to fractures. Your healthcare provider may do tests to check your bones. uChanges in body fat, which can happen in people taking TRUVADA or medicines like TRUVADA. Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP are stomacharea (abdomen) pain, headache, and decreased weight. Tell your healthcare provider if you have any side effects that bother you or do not go away.
What should I tell my healthcare provider before taking TRUVADA for PrEP?
uAll your health problems. Be sure to tell your healthcare provider if you
have or have had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis virus infection. uIf you are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. It is not known if TRUVADA can harm your unborn baby. If you become pregnant while taking TRUVADA for PrEP, talk to your healthcare provider to decide if you should keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Pregnancy Registry: A pregnancy registry collects information about your health and the health of your baby. There is a pregnancy registry for women who take medicines to prevent HIV-1 during pregnancy. For more information about the registry and how it works, talk to your healthcare provider. uIf you are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed. The medicines in TRUVADA can pass to your baby in breast milk. If you become HIV-1 positive, HIV-1 can be passed to the baby in breast milk. uAll the medicines you take, including prescription and over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements. TRUVADA may interact with other medicines. Keep a list of all your medicines and show it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist when you get a new medicine. uIf you take certain other medicines with TRUVADA for PrEP, your healthcare provider may need to check you more often or change your dose. These medicines include ledipasvir with sofosbuvir (HARVONI). You are encouraged to report negative side effects of prescription drugs to the FDA. Visit www.FDA.gov/medwatch, or call 1-800-FDA-1088.
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The once-daily prescription medicine that can help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 when used with safer sex practices. • TRUVADA for PrEP is only for adults who are at high risk of getting HIV through sex. • You must be HIV-negative before you start taking TRUVADA. Ask your doctor about your risk of getting HIV-1 infection and if TRUVADA for PrEP may be right for you.
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This is only a brief summary of important information about taking TRUVADA for PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection. This does not replace talking to your healthcare provider about your medicine.
MOST IMPORTANT INFORMATION ABOUT TRUVADA FOR PrEP
POSSIBLE SIDE EFFECTS OF TRUVADA FOR PrEP
Before starting TRUVADA for PrEP to help reduce your risk of getting HIV-1 infection: • You must be HIV-1 negative. You must get tested to make sure that you do not already have HIV-1 infection. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 unless you are confirmed to be HIV-1 negative. • Many HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently become infected. Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include flu-like symptoms, tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches, headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged lymph nodes in the neck or groin. Tell your healthcare provider if you have had a flu-like illness within the last month before starting TRUVADA for PrEP.
TRUVADA can cause serious side effects, including: • Those in the “Most Important Information About TRUVADA for PrEP" section. • New or worse kidney problems, including kidney failure. • Bone problems. • Changes in body fat.
While taking TRUVADA for PrEP to help reduce your risk of getting HIV-1 infection: • You must continue using safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP may not keep you from getting HIV-1. • You must stay HIV-1 negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP. • Tell your healthcare provider if you have a flu-like illness while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. • If you think you were exposed to HIV-1, tell your healthcare provider right away. • If you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA alone to treat HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. • See the “How to Further Reduce Your Risk” section for more information. TRUVADA may cause serious side effects, including: • Buildup of lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious medical emergency that can lead to death. Call your healthcare provider right away if you have any of these symptoms: weakness or being more tired than usual, unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, nausea, vomiting, stomach-area pain, cold or blue hands and feet, feeling dizzy or lightheaded, and/or fast or abnormal heartbeats. • Severe liver problems, which in some cases can lead to death. Call your healthcare provider right away if you have any of these symptoms: your skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow, dark “tea-colored” urine, light-colored stools, loss of appetite for several days or longer, nausea, and/or stomach-area pain. • Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. If you have HBV and take TRUVADA, your hepatitis may become worse if you stop taking TRUVADA. Do not stop taking TRUVADA without first talking to your healthcare provider, as they will need to check your health regularly for several months. You may be more likely to get lactic acidosis or severe liver problems if you are female, very overweight, or have been taking TRUVADA for a long time.
ABOUT TRUVADA FOR PrEP (PRE-EXPOSURE PROPHYLAXIS) TRUVADA is a prescription medicine used with safer sex practices for PrEP to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection in adults at high risk: • HIV-1 negative men who have sex with men and who are at high risk of getting infected with HIV-1 through sex. • Male-female sex partners when one partner has HIV-1 infection and the other does not. To help determine your risk, talk openly with your doctor about your sexual health. Do NOT take TRUVADA for PrEP if you: • Already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. • Take lamivudine (Epivir-HBV) or adefovir (HEPSERA). TRUVADA, the TRUVADA Logo, TRUVADA FOR PREP, GILEAD, the GILEAD Logo, and HEPSERA are trademarks of Gilead Sciences, Inc., or its related companies. All other marks referenced herein are the property of their respective owners. Version date: April 2016 © 2016 Gilead Sciences, Inc. All rights reserved. TVDC0050 09/16
Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP include stomach-area (abdomen) pain, headache, and decreased weight. These are not all the possible side effects of TRUVADA. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you have any new symptoms while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Your healthcare provider will need to do tests to monitor your health before and during treatment with TRUVADA for PrEP.
BEFORE TAKING TRUVADA FOR PrEP Tell your healthcare provider if you: • Have or have had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis infection. • Have any other medical conditions. • Are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. • Are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed if you become HIV-1 positive because of the risk of passing HIV-1 to your baby. Tell your healthcare provider about all the medicines you take: • Keep a list that includes all prescription and over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements, and show it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist. • Ask your healthcare provider or pharmacist about medicines that should not be taken with TRUVADA for PrEP.
HOW TO TAKE TRUVADA FOR PrEP • Take 1 tablet once a day, every day, not just when you think you have been exposed to HIV-1. • Do not miss any doses. Missing doses may increase your risk of getting HIV-1 infection. • You must practice safer sex by using condoms and you must stay HIV-1 negative.
HOW TO FURTHER REDUCE YOUR RISK • Know your HIV-1 status and the HIV-1 status of your partners. • Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months or when your healthcare provider tells you. • Get tested for other sexually transmitted infections. Other infections make it easier for HIV-1 to infect you. • Get information and support to help reduce risky sexual behavior. • Have fewer sex partners. • Do not share needles or personal items that can have blood or body fluids on them.
GET MORE INFORMATION • This is only a brief summary of important information about TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection. Talk to your healthcare provider or pharmacist to learn more, including how to prevent HIV-1 infection. • Go to start.truvada.com or call 1-800-GILEAD-5 • If you need help paying for your medicine, visit start.truvada.com for program information.
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NEW ROMANTICS TOGETHER: ONE YEAR OR LESS Every night with him is just like a dream, but you’re too busy dancing to seem too serious too fast. T H E M E S O N G : N E W R O M A N T I C S B Y TAY L O R S W I F T
W H E R E T O E AT For your first Valentine’s Day or your first “real” date, take him to Folk Art in Inman Park. The vibe is eclectic and cool, the food is on point, and there’s plenty to look at and talk about if conversation wanes. Afterwards, head to nearby Edgewood for Joystick Gamebar and Sister Louisa’s Church FOLK ART 465 North Highland Ave NE folkartrestaurant.com
W H AT T O W E A R Dressed up, with an edge. Wear a collared shirt and sweater or jacket that says you’re taking it date-serious, but edgy boots that keep it casual. Hints: Wear the item in your closet you’re most excited about to look and feel your best. Also consider a statement hat or bold pop color. T O P M A N S U E D E C H E L S E A B O O T S , $70
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WE GOT THIS TOGETHER: ABOUT 5 YEARS You help each other get up from down, and Valentine’s Days have come and gone. You know where you stand, and you love him way more now than the first time you said it.
W H AT T O W E A R As you are, with a twist. Take work or workaday basics into nighttime with a statement blazer or topcoat. A S O S P E A C O A T , $84 us.asos.com B E TA B R A N D Q U I LT E D T R AV E L B L A Z E R , $198 betabrand.com
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W H E R E T O E AT Keep the magic happening at Beetle Cat, a fun oyster bar and cocktail lounge where you can get out, kick back, and enjoy each other. Afterwards, go see ‘A Kid Like Jake’ at Out Front Theatre, or hold hands through Ponce City Market while you walk to the I Love Vino five-wine tasting at Bellina Alimentari. B E E T L E C AT 299 North Highland Ave. beetlecatatl.com
DEVOTED TOGETHER: 10 YEARS OR MORE You finish each other’s sentences, and he may know you better than you know yourself. Date night comes with security in your devotion for each other and the life you continue to build.
W H AT T O W E A R A suit. Yes, really. He’s seen you at your best and worst, and this is Date Night. You still don’t have to be boring. Don’t wear a tie, lose the socks, and splurge in a signature color.
THEME SONG: “DEVOTED” BY ELLIE GOULDING
W H E R E T O E AT You say he never takes you anywhere, well it goes both ways. Remind each other what a lifetime of devotion feels like in the elegant surroundings at Marcel. Executive Chef Brian Horn is serving a four-course Valentine dinner with optional wine pairings. Make reservations and make a whole night of it. MARCEL 1170 Howell Mill Road marcelatl.com
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MAKING LOVE L AST IS JOB ONE FOR G AY M E N T H I S V A L E N T I N E S E A S O N , WHE THER YOU AND YOURS ARE JU S T GET TING IN THE GAME, BEEN TOGETH E R F O R E V E R , O R S TA R T I N G O V E R F R O M S C R AT C H . If 2015 was all about marriage, and 2016 found us weathering the storm of backlashes against our relationships, it follows that this can be the year when gay men can settle in, truly define our relationships to suit ourselves and not ideals, and finally figure out how to make love last. This Valentine’s Day, gay men can redouble our commitment to marriage as only one of the gay relationship options. But once you’ve found and embraced every iteration of monogamy, dating, open relationships, or polyamory, how do you make love stick around?
By Mike Fleming
Start by setting parameters. Yes, even if for you and yours that means a distinct lack of traditional boundaries. The path to relationship meltdown is paved with crossed wires and unfulfilled expectations. But it’s not good enough to decide where you stand and hope you’re on the same page. You need to communicate those expectations – with words, not assumptions that he surely must know how you feel. Talk about what you each want, and come to agreements about how that should look. Say what you mean and ask for confirmation, then listen to him and repeat
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what you think you heard. This will save hours over miscommunication, hurried texts and hurt feelings.
YOU MIGHT NOT BE RESPONSIBLE FOR CHANGING THE WAY HE FEELS, BUT YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR LISTENING TO HIM AND HELPING HIM PROCESS HIS FEELINGS. Commit to check back in on your agreements every once in a while to make sure nothing has changed. Open relationships, for example, are not in any way a mistake that guys make – it’s not agreeing on them in advance and acting indignant when one person interprets the rules differently than the other. Once you’re comfortable with the ground rules, now you have to work on how go about sticking to them. Your mission, should you choose to accept is to balance ‘All About Me’ vs. ‘All About Us.’ Most gay men are pretty good at the “Me” part at the beginning, but somewhere between meet-cute and key exchange, you may face down the urge to be clingy – or worse, the equal and opposite reaction, to be too aloof. Balance comes as you make time to enhance what you bring to the table as an individual, while you stay abreast and respectful of his interests, as well as keep an eye out for opportunities to enjoy each other beyond the bedroom or dinner table. So many breakups come down to one thing. No matter what you think the reason for one split or another is, the word your looking for is ‘trust,’ or more accurately, lack thereof. Practice trust. Become an expert. If you’re looking to make love last, trust is Job One. If trust is a problem for either of you, or if trust freely given is betrayed, you may not be working with the right person. Once broken, getting trust back, while possible, may be the hardest thing you ever decide to try and do. If communication is the key to happiness, trust is the door it opens, and balance is the living room of your relationship, then life’s hot buttons are like landmines that block your way to the bedroom sooner rather than
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later. That’s why it’s crucial to talk about money and sex. If you can’t talk about the big stuff, there’s not much worth talking about at all. Don’t nickel and dime each other’s spending habits, or keep score on who picks up the most checks, but do talk about the division of resources and contributions, and how to save for things you both want. In the bedroom, say what you want out loud. Tell each other what turns you on. Be playful and flirt. Be creative. Keep it sexy. Entertaining each other’s fantasies increases intimacy, and intimacy keeps love sticking around. Speaking of your House of Love, most gay men will take it all the way and move in together. No one would suggest that you to rent a U-Haul tomorrow and press a warp-drive button to your final destination before you’re ready. But if you’re interested in a life together, you’re eventually going to be interested in living together. When the time comes, be brave and take the plunge. Now, after all this great work getting things in order, it may seem so obvious that it should go without saying, but it’s crucial to the health of your relationship to put it to the test. Every healthy relationship gets tested. Otherwise, it wouldn’t be a healthy relationship. We push buttons, ignore needs, and think we’re the only one not getting the attention we desire. Assuming your relationship is above being tested is incorrect, but viewing normal tests as dealbreakers could be worse. Think of challenges as bumps in the road and lessons learned. When issues arise, resolve conflicts as soon as possible. Don’t stew too long, and when you do come back together after a disagreement, be ready and willing to compromise. Resentments can destroy relationships so clear the air. As long as you both approach your relationship with integrity and good intentions, remember that there are no mistakes that can’t be fixed, only catalysts for growth as you go along. Keep an open mind, a grateful approach, and a forgiving heart, and you too can make love last. Sources: GayTherapist.com, Psychology Today, YourTango
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GLORIOUS GLUTES SWIMSUIT SE ASON IS CLOSER THAN YO U T H I N K , S O W E S O L I C I T E D T H E H E L P O F A N E X P E R T T O H E L P YO U G E T B O O T Y L I C I O U S B Y M E M O R I A L D AY.
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Photos by Russ Youngblood Even as you stack on layers against the winter chill this month, it’s time to think about what’s underneath if you’re going to show it off this summer. That means training now to reach Optimal Swimsuit Level before summer. Yes, really, says Atlanta fitness guru Christian Aguirre, who trains his clients at Urban Body Fitness in Midtown. “Now is a good time to start, because it takes about 8-12 weeks to notice any changes in weight, health and appearance,” Aguirre tells Goliath.
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BRIGHTEN UP
AS VISIONS OF WONDERLAND TURN TO ICE AND SLUSH WITH NARY A S U N D AY F U N D AY P AT I O P A R T Y I N S I G H T, ENDURING WINTER GETS REAL THIS MONTH. COZ Y UP TO THESE S U RV I VA L TOOLS.
B U N D L E Y O U R S E L F I N C O L O R P O P S T H AT P E R K YO U R PA L E T T E – A N D YO U R O U T L O O K . MONCLER PUFFER VEST In Atlanta at Nordstrom or at moncler.com $247
F R AT E L L I O R S I N I T E C H G L O V E S Italian Leather, Cashmere Lined, Touchscreen Fingertips fratelliorsini.com $165
ORIGINAL PENGUIN MR. KEY S C A R F & H AT S E T In Atlanta at OPG or originalpenguin.com $ 8 2 , or sold separately
B E TA B R A N D TOASTER HOODIE betabrand.com $168
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HUNTER A L L - W E AT H E R CHELSEA BOOTS In Atlanta at Bloomingdales or hunterboots.com $145
READING LIST
NETFLIX CRUSH
CURL UP WITH A GOOD MAN AND A GOOD BOOK & EMERGE ENRICHED THIS SPRING. TITLE
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VERSION CONTROL
By Dexter Palmer
What happens if guys could tweak their timelines with quick little do-overs?
Time travel techie-fi that could make you cry
W H AT BELONGS TO YO U
By Garth Greenwell
Gay American hooks up with a sexy Bulgarian hustler and begins a manipulative international affair.
Stirring, understated and keenly observant
PA R T Y OF ONE
By Dave Holmes
Former MTV VJ’s memoir of a perpetual outsider fumbling towards self-acceptance with ‘80s and ‘90s as his soundtrack.
Funny, poignant and full of pop culture references
QUICKSAND
By Henning Mankell
The late author’s real-life journey from child to man to old age, about what it means to be human.
Unusual, uplifting and inspirational
TENDER IS THE NIGHT
By F. Scott Fitzgerald
Forget Jay Gatsby. You’ll want Dick Diver more after this classic by the same author.
Lush, vivid, totally insane
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V I TA S C I E N C E S MAXASORB D3 LOTION Supplement the sun during the short days with this moisture-locking line. $19 vitasciences.com
SENSE8 International gay- and trans-inclusive cast, sensual plotlines and delicious sci-fi. Crush x 2: Max Riemelt as Wolfie and Miguel Angel Silvestre as Lito.
THE CROWN Queen Elizabeth II’s early life rich with royal history and behind-the-scenes drama. Crush: Matt Smith as Prince Philip, Duke of Edinburgh
N E C E S S A R Y AT - H O M E L U X U R I E S F O R W I N T E R S U R V I V A L .
T H E G AY C O O K B O O K By Chef Lou Hogan Written in 1965, the retro reading is fantastic, the vintage comfort recipes are great, and the camp factor is on high. Cook your way out of the cold-weather doldrums. Shop the Collectors Hardcover online, $ 1 5 0 - $ 3 0 0
Chill on demand and escape the cold in these series featuring your next leading mancrush.
TB12 SLEEP RECOVERY PA JA M A S Get in Tom Brady’s PJ’s. The quarterback invented this bio-ceramic tech-imprinted line to rebuild worked-out muscles while you sleep. Short-sleeve and shorts $160 Long-sleeve and joggers $200 underarmour.com CALIFORNIA WINE CLUB Several options to choose based on your palette profile, but to wile away winter, we recommend the Signature Series of Red-only bottles. Two bottles per month $134 + SHIPPING cawineclub.com
UNBREAKABLE KIMMY SCHMIDT Uproariously funny Tina Fey joint about a young woman adjusting to NYC after being held in a cult for 15 years. Crush: Ki Hong Lee as Dong
THE OA Supernatural mystery about a young woman who resurfaces after being missing for seven years. Crush: Patrick Gibson as Steve
JOURNEY VIDEO GAME Out a while, but perfect to escape cabin fever and relieve winter stress with soothing graphics, beautiful music and gorgeous characters. For PlayStation 3 and 4 $14 LUKE CAGE Superheroes don’t get more real than an indestructible man with a good heart and a score to settle. Crush: Mike Colter in the title role
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IT’S DEVEN GREEN DEVEN GREEN is an award-winning comedy performer. You know her from the “Welcome To My Home” parodies, as the satirical Betty Bowers – America’s Best Christian, and performing her live music shows in brothels across America. Fact: Deven is taken. DevenGreen.com Dear Deven: In my head, I want sick revenge on my ex. How do I release these nasty thoughts? – “Unforgiving” Pointed, angry attention to your ex is at odds with giving and receiving love. Make revenge more about being a better you and living with an effortless pursuit of perfection. Being vindictive is simply beneath your usual high standards and will ultimately sully your good family name. Dear Deven: I am still friends with my ex, but my new boyfriend is crazy jealous of him. How do I nip this in the bud? – “Disbanding” Either your new boyfriend is creating drama for absolutely no reason at all, or he is picking up on something unresolved with your ex. The bloom has already fallen off the stem. Dear Deven: I still invite my ex to everything, and he never invites me to anything – ever – other than sleep overs. What is that about?– “Scheduling” He wants you there at night but expects you gone in the morning – that is his agenda. Dear Deven: I’m trying to work it out with my ex, but he won’t go to therapy with me. I have anxiety every day until he calls. I’m a mess. How can I feel better? – “Undermining” Your self-esteem is based 100% on his whims. You have given him all the power in your relationship. Go to the therapist to heal you, not to fix him. Dear Deven: I want my ex the more he says “no.” – “Coveting” You didn’t ask a question because you are telling me a fact. The reality is that this situation is turning you on way more than it should. And the truth is that when he finally does say “yes,” you will shrug and walk away because you no longer want what you thought you wanted. Player. Dear Deven: I fall in love again every time I sleep with my ex. I don’t want to, but I can’t help it. How can I keep it casual? – “Yielding” Imagine you are sleeping with someone else! PS: Smarten up. Dear Deven: Why did he give up on us so easily? – “Hurting” I know you are in pain, dear. Examine your reasons as to why you invested so heavily in him. If two people have very different expectations, someone will end up dissatisfied. You can’t figure him out, so figure you out. I won’t give up on you. Dear Friends: This column is for entertainment purposes...mostly mine. Send me your questions: DevenGreen@gmail.com PS: Would you like me to read this to you? Go to GoliathAtlanta.com and listen!
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