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EDITOR’S NOTE There are as many types of gay men as there are types of people in the world, and the opinions between us are just as varied. That goes for everything from the issues of the day to August’s intense heat. Whether you think summertime is the absolute worst, or definitely the best, part of the year depends on your perspective, so we packed this issue of Goliath with a little something for every one of you. Speaking of a diversity of opinions, check out my feature story on HIV stigma. We hope it starts or expands some conversations. If you’re one who’s down for the weather, especially with a body of water in the mix and an opportunity to wear cute clothes, you’ll love this month’s shoot with our favorite fashion photographer Gastohn Barrios. He and his models, with the help of the sun-washed colors of Ca-Rio-Ca Sunga swimwear, hit the beach in a sexy Summer Sizzle spread that even winter-loving snow bunnies won’t soon forget. The dog days of summer also bring on our Pampered Pets shopping guide. We picked out premium accessories for your furry friends that you will want to show off, not hide in a corner, even when they’re not in
use. And what could be more appropriate while you’re out walking with your pooch and your pals than a cold drink and a delicious bite? Welcome to Cactus House, Midtown’s new taqueria with a rainbow twist.
Of course, some of us would rather be anywhere than in this heat and would do anything to get into some air conditioning and stay there. That’s where this month’s Man About Town comes in. Clifton Guterman talks about trodding the boards in local theaters for over a decade, loving and living in Atlanta, and the shows of the gay-centric season at his workplace, Theatrical Outfit. What’s more, Broadway Baby Robert Ray will hit the same venue with a cabaret revival of his Too Marvelous show this month. We interview him in our theater column. If even air conditioning at restaurants and theaters isn’t enough to sate your hate, we also travel to gay-friendly Quebec City. We explore Canada’s 400-year-old town, from historic sites, natural wonders and a vibrant gay scene, while enjoying temperatures averaging in the 70s. Of course regular features always include the Agenda calendar of the month’s best events, photos of our readers having fun in gay Atlanta, and advice from the hilarious Deven Green. Start turning the page to discover an amazing August with us. Mike Fleming Editorial Director Mike@GoliathAtlanta.com
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MUST ATTEND EVENTS Blondie at Chastain Gays of a certain age can tell you where they were every time a new Blondie album hit the market. Some 30 years on, the gays still stand at attention as Debbie Harry and the boys hit Chastain Amphitheatre on Sunday, August 6. With all the old hits and new ones off Pollinater in tow, fans are sure to keep buzzing after the show. blondie.net
Leader s for Equality P e a c h AT L L a u n c h P a r t y With a fresh name and juicy content, Atlanta’s new gay nightlife resource celebrates its debut on Saturday, August 5. The magazine’s debut cover model will be behind the bar at Ten Atlanta with Peach Bellinis, Fuzzy Navels and other Peachy specialties, as well as a few other surprises. Peach ATL is Goliath Atlanta’s sibling publication. peachatl.com
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Are you looking for a way to get more involved in the fight for LGBTQ Equality? Join HRC Atlanta on August 19 at the offices of Jerusalem House. Come for a discussion of the organization’s local, national and global work, and stay for the opportunity to meet local committee members and find out how you can get involved and make a difference. hrcatlanta.org
An American in Paris Think Gene Kelly floating on air through iconic backdrops. Now picture the movie that launched a Broadway musical that turned into the tour you won’t want to miss. Come to the Fox Theatre August 15-20 to see the show that puts you in vintage Parisian fabulousness with a killer score and awesome production numbers. foxtheatre.org
Piedmont Par k Ar ts Festival As summer winds its way through its dog days, hit the great, gay outdoors in our community’s go-to park. The gay-run Atlanta Foundation for Public Spaces hosts you along with 250 art vendors, live music, and food vendors for an all-weekend excuse to kick back and enjoy summer while it lasts. piedmontparkartsfestival.com
Guys & Dolls This fifth annual drag-stavaganza benefits Joining Hearts and its grantees AID Atlanta, Jerusalem House and the Living Room. Hosted by Terra Cotta, sponsored by Berlinda Wall’s The Crown Is Mine, and featuring a dozen popular performers, this early evening show on August 26 at Jungle is sure to be as entertaining as it is supporting such great causes. jungleatl.com, joininghearts.org
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What is TRUVADA for PrEP?
Who should not take TRUVADA for PrEP?
TRUVADA for PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) is a prescription medicine that is used together with safer sex practices to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 through sex. This use is only for HIV-negative adults who are at high risk of getting HIV-1. To help determine your risk of getting HIV-1, talk openly with your healthcare provider about your sexual health. Ask your healthcare provider if you have questions about how to prevent getting HIV. Always practice safer sex and use condoms to lower the chance of sexual contact with body fluids. Never reuse or share needles or other items that have body fluids on them.
Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP if you: ® Already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. If you are HIV-1 positive, you need to take other medicines with TRUVADA to treat HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. ® Also take certain medicines to treat hepatitis B infection.
IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION What is the most important information I should know about TRUVADA for PrEP? Before taking TRUVADA for PrEP: ® You must be HIV-negative before you start taking TRUVADA for PrEP. You must get tested to make sure that you do not already have HIV-1. Do not take TRUVADA to reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 unless you are confirmed to be HIV-negative. ® Many HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently become infected. If you have flu-like symptoms, you could have recently become infected with HIV-1. Tell your healthcare provider if you had a flu-like illness within the last month before starting or at any time while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches, headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged lymph nodes in the neck or groin. While taking TRUVADA for PrEP: ® You must continue to use safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP may not keep you from getting HIV-1. ® You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP: ® Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months. ® If you think you were exposed to HIV-1, tell your healthcare provider right away. ® To further help reduce your risk of getting HIV-1: ® Know your HIV status and the HIV status of your partners. ® Get tested for other sexually transmitted infections. Other infections make it easier for HIV to infect you. ® Get information and support to help reduce risky sexual behavior, such as having fewer sex partners. ® Do not miss any doses of TRUVADA. Missing doses may increase your risk of getting HIV-1 infection. ® If you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA alone to treat HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. TRUVADA can cause serious side effects: ® Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. TRUVADA is not approved to treat HBV. If you have HBV and stop taking TRUVADA, your HBV may suddenly get worse. Do not stop taking TRUVADA without first talking to your healthcare provider, as they will need to monitor your health.
What are the other possible side effects of TRUVADA for PrEP? Serious side effects of TRUVADA may also include: ® Kidney problems, including kidney failure. Your healthcare provider may do blood tests to check your kidneys before and during treatment with TRUVADA. If you develop kidney problems, your healthcare provider may tell you to stop taking TRUVADA. ® Too much lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious but rare medical emergency that can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: weakness or being more tired than usual, unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, stomach pain with nausea and vomiting, cold or blue hands and feet, feel dizzy or lightheaded, or a fast or abnormal heartbeat. ® Severe liver problems, which in rare cases can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow, dark “tea-colored” urine, light-colored stools, loss of appetite for several days or longer, nausea, or stomach-area pain. ® Bone problems, including bone pain, softening, or thinning, which may lead to fractures. Your healthcare provider may do tests to check your bones. Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP are stomach-area (abdomen) pain, headache, and decreased weight. Tell your healthcare provider if you have any side effects that bother you or do not go away.
What should I tell my healthcare provider before taking TRUVADA for PrEP? ® All your health problems. Be sure to tell your healthcare provider if you have or have had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis. ® If you are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. It is not known if TRUVADA can harm your unborn baby. If you become pregnant while taking TRUVADA for PrEP, talk to your healthcare provider to decide if you should keep taking TRUVADA. ® If you are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed. If you become HIV-positive, HIV can be passed to the baby in breast milk. ® All the medicines you take, including prescription and over-thecounter medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements. TRUVADA may interact with other medicines. Keep a list of all your medicines and show it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist when you get a new medicine. ® If you take certain other medicines with TRUVADA, your healthcare provider may need to check you more often or change your dose. These medicines include certain medicines to treat hepatitis C (HCV) infection. You are encouraged to report negative side effects of prescription drugs to the FDA. Visit www.FDA.gov/medwatch, or call 1-800-FDA-1088.
Please see Important Facts about TRUVADA for PrEP including important warnings on the following page.
We're open, not unprepared. We know who we are. And we make choices that fit our lives. TRUVADA for PrEP™ is a once-daily prescription medicine that can help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 when taken every day and used together with safer sex practices. ® TRUVADA for PrEP is only for adults who are at high risk of getting HIV through sex. ® You must be HIV-negative before you start taking TRUVADA for PrEP.
Ask your doctor about your risk of getting HIV-1 infection and if TRUVADA for PrEP may be right for you. Learn more at truvada.com
IMPORTANT FACTS
This is only a brief summary of important information about taking TRUVADA for PrEPTM (pre-exposure prophylaxis) to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection. This does not replace talking to your healthcare provider about your medicine.
(tru-VAH-dah) MOST IMPORTANT INFORMATION ABOUT TRUVADA FOR PrEP Before starting TRUVADA for PrEP: • You must be HIV-1 negative. You must get tested to make sure that you do not already have HIV-1. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 unless you are confirmed to be HIV-1 negative. • Many HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently become infected. Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include flu-like symptoms, tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches, headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged lymph nodes in the neck or groin. Tell your healthcare provider if you have had a flu-like illness within the last month before starting TRUVADA for PrEP. While taking TRUVADA for PrEP: • You must continue to use safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP may not keep you from getting HIV-1. • You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you think you were exposed to HIV-1 or have a flu-like illness while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. • If you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA alone to treat HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. • See the “How To Further Reduce Your Risk” section for more information. TRUVADA may cause serious side effects, including: • Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. TRUVADA is not approved to treat HBV. If you have HBV, your HBV may suddenly get worse if you stop taking TRUVADA. Do not stop taking TRUVADA without first talking to your healthcare provider, as they will need to check your health regularly for several months.
ABOUT TRUVADA FOR PrEP TRUVADA for PrEP is a prescription medicine used together with safer sex practices to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 through sex. This use is only for HIV-negative adults who are at high risk of getting HIV-1. • To help determine your risk of getting HIV-1, talk openly with your healthcare provider about your sexual health. Do NOT take TRUVADA for PrEP if you: • Already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. • Take certain medicines to treat hepatitis B infection.
HOW TO TAKE TRUVADA FOR PrEP • Take 1 tablet once a day, every day, not just when you think you have been exposed to HIV-1. • Do not miss any doses. Missing doses may increase your risk of getting HIV-1 infection. • Use TRUVADA for PrEP together with condoms and safer sex practices. • Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months. You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP.
POSSIBLE SIDE EFFECTS OF TRUVADA FOR PrEP TRUVADA can cause serious side effects, including: • Those in the “Most Important Information About TRUVADA for PrEP” section. • New or worse kidney problems, including kidney failure. • Too much lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious but rare medical emergency that can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: weakness or being more tired than usual, unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, stomach pain with nausea and vomiting, cold or blue hands and feet, feel dizzy or lightheaded, or a fast or abnormal heartbeat. • Severe liver problems, which in rare cases can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow, dark “tea-colored” urine, light-colored stools, loss of appetite for several days or longer, nausea, or stomach-area pain. • Bone problems. Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP include stomach-area (abdomen) pain, headache, and decreased weight. These are not all the possible side effects of TRUVADA. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you have any new symptoms while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Your healthcare provider will need to do tests to monitor your health before and during treatment with TRUVADA for PrEP.
BEFORE TAKING TRUVADA FOR PrEP Tell your healthcare provider if you: • Have or have had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis. • Have any other medical conditions. • Are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. • Are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed. If you become HIV-positive, HIV can pass to the baby in breast milk. Tell your healthcare provider about all the medicines you take: • Keep a list that includes all prescription and over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements, and show it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist. • Ask your healthcare provider or pharmacist about medicines that should not be taken with TRUVADA for PrEP.
HOW TO FURTHER REDUCE YOUR RISK • Know your HIV status and the HIV status of your partners. • Get tested for other sexually transmitted infections. Other infections make it easier for HIV to infect you. • Get information and support to help reduce risky sexual behavior, such as having fewer sex partners. • Do not share needles or personal items that can have blood or body fluids on them.
GET MORE INFORMATION • This is only a brief summary of important information about TRUVADA for PrEP. Talk to your healthcare provider or pharmacist to learn more, including how to prevent HIV infection. • Go to start.truvada.com or call 1-800-GILEAD-5 • If you need help paying for your medicine, visit start.truvada.com for program information.
TRUVADA FOR PREP, the TRUVADA FOR PREP Logo, the TRUVADA Blue Pill Design, TRUVADA, GILEAD, and the GILEAD Logo are trademarks of Gilead Sciences, Inc., or its related companies. All other marks referenced herein are the property of their respective owners. Version date: April 2017 © 2017 Gilead Sciences, Inc. All rights reserved. TVDC0127 07/17
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By Mike Fleming
DEBUT
You already know Atlanta is a real peach, and you might even be as thankful as we are that its gay community is among the most vibrant in the world, including a rich LGBT media landscape that outpaces even larger cities. To that world, Atlanta welcomes Peach ATL, the city’s newest weekly gay nightlife magazine, which hosts a launch party this month. Atlanta is in exclusive company with only the world’s largest cities when it comes to gay media. The sheer number of LGBT publications in print and online beats most metropolises except for places like New York and London. Access to information, interviews, coverage and calendars is so plentiful, locals take fierce ownership of their content, and might even take them for granted. For that, the men of Goliath and our new sister publication, Peach ATL are eternally grateful. Publisher William Duffee-Braun and myself, Goliath Editorial Director Mike Fleming took our know-how from a combined 26 years in local gay media and launched Peach ATL on July 12. Every week, Peach brings you discussions of gay pop culture, nightlife and event previews, interviews and fun features. The magazine also features opinion pieces by local guys, party pics from gay happenings all over town, and the popular Hey Daddy! advice column. It also offers new features like the sassy Peach List and a map of the must-stop destinations in our hometown, the Big Peach.
William and I are confident that our combined experiences are the right mix to keep the good traditions of gay men’s entertainment zines like Etc., Buzz, Eclipse, and David alive, while forging new ones in print, online and on social media. Our commitment also extends to participating fully with the community, its leaders, and its organizers. To that end, Peach ATL welcomes you to a cocktail party on August 5 at Ten Atlanta. The Peach of the Week cover guy Travis Russo will be there, as will, entertainment, surprises, and of course the staff of Peach ATL, which includes our shared sales staff and art director as well as ourselves. A suggested $10 donation at the door goes directly to Joining Hearts. “We couldn’t be more enthusiastic to be part of Atlanta’s social scene with Peach ATL,” Duffee-Braun says. “We are even more excited to let our hair down and celebrate the readers, advertisers and supporters that make it happen on August 5.” You already know our staff’s work through Goliath Atlanta, as well as our former careers at publications including Southern Voice, Fenuxe, David magazine, David Atlanta, and Project Q. Now we can all take some Saturday downtime to chill together at Ten and get to know you even more at one of our favorite places. The Peach ATL Launch Party takes place Saturday, August 5, 8 p.m., at Ten Atlanta, 990 Piedmont Ave. NE. peachatl.com
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Tidbit: The word taqueria combines the word “tacos” with the Spanish phrase queria, or “I want.” You know you want tacos, too.
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F O L L OW T H E R A I N B OW S TO C AC T U S H O U S E F O R E A S Y E AT S , B I G TA S T E S A N D A U T H E N T I C M E X I C A N FA R E By Mike Fleming
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lmost as eye-catching as the rainbow crosswalks just steps away is a glossy new rainbow-painted bench in front of a new Midtown eatery. But don’t just stop for another rainbow selfie. Go inside to Cactus House Midtown. You’ll be glad you did.
when they officially hung out their open-forbusiness sign. “Family dinners and homemade recipes inspired this love, and our menu puts a modern twist on those family recipes.”
Before this 1020 Piedmont space opened in July, our gay brethren had to venture over to Buford Highway for true taqueria taste treats, or brave the Beltline for a fancy-schmancy version. Now less adventurous Midtown diners can find out what they, and our neighbors further south in Florida and Texas, already knew about the easybreezy vibe and the hearty deliciousness that comes with the taqueria style concept.
“We believe in serving a responsibly sourced and sustainable meal, so we handcraft our tacos from only fresh, natural, and local ingredients,” they say. “Cactus House isn’t a restaurant; it’s an experience.
But it’s more than that.
All that’s required is your appetite, and by the way, forget Taco Tuesday. This is the place for fresh, natural and slightly upscale street-style tacos every day of the week.
Craft tacos include yumminess, like the best veggie-avocado taco you’ll ever try. With standard options like steak, shrimp and chicken, each specialty comes with its own distinct ingredients and sauces that work perfectly with each taco. The Lamb Barbacoa is the bomb, and the Chicken Pastor taco alone is like a party in your mouth. The portions are a little small, but go in knowing that ordering lots of options to try and share is part of the fun. Add the tortilla soup, and speaking of sharing, definitely do chips and dips to help complete the meal and leave fulfilled. On top of that, nearly two-dozen sodas, including exotic choices just like real taquerias, are an adventure in themselves.
“Cactus House was born out of our love for tacos,” co-owners Dane and Emilio told diners
One more thing that is a must-add to your meal is three words, and we want you to remember
Start with welcoming and casual atmosphere. No pretense means that you’ll fit right in wearing shorts when walking over from Piedmont Park with friends, but you’re also at home in jeans and date shirt with that special man in your life. Park in the deck at Azure on the Park, and Cactus House validates
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them: Mexican. Street. Corn. If you’ve had it before, you’re already in. If you haven’t, it may be the thing that keeps you coming back here for more. Traditional crumbled white cheese, and a layer of melted pepper jack sauce make this onthe-cob treat sweet, spicy and savory. Beyond the menu, the staff is super friendly, the décor is contemporary and modern, and the outdoor area is going to continue as a draw well into the fall. This is the perfect spot to grab a bite or a drink with a great location, fun atmosphere, and Mexican street corn. Did we mention the street corn? Cactus House Midtown is at 1020 Piedmont Ave. in the Azure building. cactushouse.com, and on both Facebook and Instagram @chtacos.
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Tidbit: Cabaret means ‘small room.’ An intimate venue is typical, allowing artists to interact with the audience.
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Robert Ray
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ans of the theater, of classic Americana and amazing talent: Listen up. Broadway veteran and gay Atlanta entertainer Robert Ray is reviving his critically acclaimed original show, Johnny Mercer…Too Marvelous for Words at Theatrical Outfit for two nights only, August 4 and August 5. The musical revue of the prolific, Oscar-winning composer of songs like “Moon River” originally appeared at Atlanta’s Libby’s Cabaret in 2002. The show follows Mercer’s illustrious career, highlighting his greatest hits, with accompanied dialogue and audience interaction. “I don’t want newcomers who aren’t familiar with the show to think it’s only a concert singing each one of Johnny’s songs one after the other,” Ray explains. “Too Marvelous has interspersed dialogue, comedy and heartwarming moments allowing it to be a fully-realized, well-rounded production from start to finish,” he promises. Ray’s two costars in his first production, the sizzling diva vocalists Marsha Dupree and Shawn Megorden, return this time around, along with three new male singers, Truman Griffin, Forrest Flemming and Chris Saltalamacchio, as well as a six-piece orchestra. “Seven years ago, I had my first ever voice lesson with the legendary Robert Ray,” Griffin recalls. “We immediately struck up a friendship and ever since that lesson, he has been an incredible friend, mentor and has given me so much advice that has shaped me into the person I am today. It’s truly an honor to share the stage with him in this concert.” Ray says the men were missing from his first production of the show. “I felt these three would be a perfect balance to the rapport Marsha, Shawn and I have,” Ray tells Goliath. “Plus, who doesn’t love some good eye candy? I know what Atlanta likes.” Mercer’s history, and the impact he’s had on music we listen to today will be on full display during the cabaret. The Savannah native won four Academy Awards out of the impressive 18 nominations he received for Best Song. He’s responsible for songs like the one in Ray’s show title, “Too Marvelous for Words,” and the classic “Moon River,” among so many more. But Too Marvelous for Words isn’t only a testament to Mercer. It’s a celebration of Ray, an award-winning New York City cabaret artist. Ray performs several times a week on the piano at Campagnolo, and he stole the show
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Forrest Flemming and Truman Griffin in Too Marvelous
in OutFront Theatre’s Priscilla Queen of the Desert: The Musical. Next to his love of the stage, Ray also has an undeniable passion for giving back to the community. Over the years, he has raised money to combat AIDS and support those affected by it in the best way he knows—through show business. Among others, he was musical director and writer for sold out fundraising productions of HEARTSTRINGS at the Fox. AJ Stevenson, Theatrical Outfit’s Marketing Manager, attests to how much hosting Ray means to his theater and the community as a whole. “I am thrilled to have Robert Ray performing in association with Theatrical Outfit,” Stevenson says. “He’s a staple in the gay community, and as we extend our artistic reach this season to include LGBTQ themes, we could not be more pleased to include his Johnny Mercer revue on before our own season kicks off.” When asked what he hopes to convey to gay Atlanta with Too Marvelous for Words, Ray offers sage words to the next generation. “My wish is that young gay men attend this production honoring the life of this great icon with an open mind,” he says. “Although they might not be familiar with his entire songbook, they will leave the theater content with having been truly entertained by truly magnificent art. It is what I and my accompaniment do best.” Johnny Mercer… Too Marvelous for Words stages Aug. 4 and 5 at Theatrical Outfit. Visit robertrayproductions.com
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MAN ABOUT TOWN CLIFTON GUTERMAN T H E AT R I C A L O U T F I T P R I N C I P A L R O C K S A N AT L A N TA S TA G E R E S U M E A L L T H E W AY T O A N LG B T- I N C L U S I V E FA L L S E A S O N . By Mike Fleming Gay Atlanta theater buffs of any tenure already know the name Clifton Guterman. The Georgia-born actor and artistic director has seen steady work on stage and off with companies from New York City to Atlanta’s own Actor’s Express, Alliance Theatre, and now Theatrical Outfit. After memorable roles in all those places, it’s the latter company, which has had the privilege of his know-how since 2012, that brought him to our attention yet again as the theater gears up for its fall season. Always gay-inclusive in its staffing and its productions, Theatrical Outfit redoubled its efforts to present LGBT fare as part of its 2017-2018 roster of shows. As Associate Artistic Director, Guterman is integral to the process. With both Anna Ziegler’s Boy and Topher Payne’s A Perfect Arrangement in the lineup, the 41-year-old Ormewood Park resident took some time to tell us a little about the theater, as well as a few tidbits about his personal version of living out and proud in the ATL. TELL US A LITTLE ABOUT YOURSELF. I’ve lived in Atlanta off and on since 1994, and I’m from teeny-tiny Iron City, Georgia, population 350 (or so). I’m married to my best friend, Chad, since 2013, and we’ve been together since 2008. Tell us about your role at Theatrical Outfit. As Associate Artistic Director, I manage our casting and work very closely with our Artistic Director, Tom Key, on season planning, literary management and community engagement. I also contribute to the marketing efforts for our programming
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WHAT’S ON TAP FOR THE FALL SEASON? Our Season of Character is thrilling, with all shows featuring protagonists who might be labeled “other” in some way. Two plays will speak directly to the LGBTQ community and put “us” front and center. Boy, this fall, is based on a true case about a child born a boy but raised a girl after an accident, and the complexities around gender identity in adulthood that unfold. It’s tender, humorous and oh-so-timely. I’ll play the lead, and I cannot wait to share it with Atlanta.
In late winter, we’ll present beloved local playwright Topher Payne’s Perfect Arrangement, a Mad Men-era comedy about four neighbors, a gay couple and lesbian couple, who pass as each other’s spouses under the chilling glare of the Lavender Scare of 1950s Washington politics. Expect high style, gorgeous decor and costumes and cocktail party quips. And a big dose of poignant realism too! WHAT OTHER AFFILIATIONS DO YOU HAVE OUTSIDE THEATRICAL OUTFIT? I’m an Associate Artist with Actor’s Express, serve on our local Actors’ Equity Association liaison committee, am an adjudicator for the Georgia High School Musical Theatre Awards, and a Rainbros Peer Coach (and helped found its Gays for Plays). In addition to stage work, I’m also a film, TV and commercial actor represented by Atlanta’s Houghton Talent. WHAT DO YOU DO FOR FUN? My husband and I love to dine casually at bars or chef’s counters because we met at one in NYC. We enjoy walking our Miniature Schnauzers, Baxter and Boris, to our very chill neighborhood dog park, and when we’re able, we escape the city and de-stress in quaint and gay-friendly Blue Ridge, Georgia. IF YOU WERE TO DIE TOMORROW, WHAT WOULD YOUR LEGACY BE? I strive daily to make Atlanta theatre welcoming, compassionate, inclusive and celebratory. The performing arts can be so competitive. It’s a business, but it’s made up of creative and brilliant souls. People first is my motto. WHAT ELSE? ANYTHING YOU WANT GAY ATLANTA TO KNOW? Atlanta theatres need your beautiful butts in our seats. Subscribe to our full seasons. Serve on our boards. Donate to institutions whose work moves you. We come together and connect over universal truths, no matter our race, gender, sexuality, citizenship status or place of origin. And boy, do we need that unity now more than ever. Theatrical Outfit is at 84 Luckie St NW. Visit theatricaloutfit.org. Read more of our full interview at goliathatlanta.com.
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Tidbit: Quebec City dates back to 1608 with a fortified colonial core of stone buildings that still stand today.
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While in Old Town, don’t miss at least a snack and cocktail at the Hotel Frontenac. Its 1608 Wine and Cheese Bar – so-named to match the founding of the city – includes local selections of the titular wine and cheese. While you’re fine on foot while in Old Quebec, it’s fun and practical to ride the Old Quebec Funicular to get to other attractions between the upper and lower city. The railway offers breathtaking views as you scoot between fine dining on Rue Saint Louis, shops in the lower town on Rue du Petit Champlain – named after the city’s founder – and in the upper town on Rue Saint Jean. Once you’ve explored the upper and lower parts of town, a few side trips are absolute musts. A St. Lawrence River Boat Trip down the city’s lifeblood waterway takes about two hours, and you’ll never forget it. On the outskirts of town, Montmorency Falls is a spectacular of the regions gorgeous natural waterfalls. After days like these, you’ll be tempted to crash, but save room for some night moves at a plethora of gay and mixed bars. We recommend Le Drague Cabaret for dancing, entertainment and just plain terrace-sitting, Bar St. Matthews for a neighborhood pub feel. Adventurous types may like ForHom, a gay men’s social club and bar next to the gay Sauna Bloc.
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ust because we love Atlanta doesn’t mean that we love it in August quite as much, or that we don’t at least deserve to get away from it long enough to regroup and reenergize with Arctic summer breezes. Say salut to Quebec.
With its narrow cobblestone streets, old city walls, a friendly gay scene, and high-mercury temperatures hovering around 75º in summer, Quebec City has everything you need to recharge while the rest of gay Atlanta steeps in temps at or near the century mark.
The mostly French-speaking Canadian province is home to places like Montreal, of course, but its capitol Quebec City may be even more inviting for gay travelers looking to beat the heat. The friendly locals speak predominantly French, but in tourist areas, gay bars and restaurants, you’ll manage fine with English.
Your own two feet and a pair of good walking shoes are all you really need to see sites in Old Quebec, the city’s historic central district surrounding the Vieux-Québec and Place Royale, where you can have a martini on the plaza and watch the people.
Nestled on the St. Lawrence River, its rich in urban history as old or older than any other city in North America. You can fly directly into Jean Lesage International Airport about 12 miles northwest of downtown, drive in from Montreal in about three hours, or take regulary scheduled trains or buses.
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Don’t-miss tourist attractions include the singular experiences of the Notre Dame de Victoires Eglise, the oldest continually operating church on the continent, and The Citadel, a still-active military base with centuries of history. You might want to spend a whole day or rainy afternoon at the Musee de la Civilisation, with collections showcasing the region’s indigenous First Nations people.
Gay and gay-inclusive accommodations like Le 253 Bed and Breakfast, Coureur Des Bois, and La Maison du Cocher are definitely available, but we highly recommend getting an Airbnb in one of Quebec City’s many centuries old lofts. The Canadian dollar translates well to American one, so it’s a great time to travel. In fact, a Quebec City getaway couldn’t be better timed right now, because the gay Fête Arc-en-ciel, aka Rainbow Festival, takes place in September. Think Pride, with a Canadian twist. Visit the local guidesgq.com, gay travel guides frommers.com, gaycities.com, or your favorite gay Atlanta travel agent.
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Despite advances in the prevention and treatment of HIV, the shadow of HIV stigma still looms large, affecting many of those of living with the disease. So profound is the fear of not just the disease but our fellow gay men who have it, some of the conventional presumptions and assumptions even fly directly in the face of public awareness. To some guys, it is easier to avoid HIV testing, for example, than to risk exposing themselves to discrimination or disapproval. For others, the fear is so deep that they make not just the topic taboo, even with sex partners, but they also ostracize the HIV-positive men they meet the moment they find out. And hello, those very behaviors are putting gay men more at risk of being exposed to the virus. Not talking about it is so dangerous that it feeds stats and reports that HIV rates coming down – unless you’re gay, or that HIV infections among gay men in the U.S. are highest in the South, or that Atlanta is a hub for new cases of gay and bisexual men being diagnosed with HIV. Or that more than half of gay men who had sex last night did not use a condom or any other preventative measures widely available to them. Ignoring the information is what’s really scary, deciding not to utilize our ability to stop its progression by ignoring our resources – all because HIV is a topic that’s too off limits.
ORIGINS OF STIGMA Of course, attempting to minimize the fears and stigmas, or even rationalize them, fails to take into account the complex dynamics that both trigger and perpetuate stigma against the disease, and discrimination against the gay men who already have it. While the quality of life has improved enormously for people with HIV in the past 30 years, many of the same social and psychological barriers remain. Ultimately, HIV is not like any other disease in the way that the public perceives it. What separates it from other illnesses is that, as a communicable disease, those infected are often seen as vectors for transmission.
Blame is assigned, and not just to the infected individual but to an entire population, whether they be gay men, injecting drug users, or people of color. That means that some gay men who are HIV-negative get a fight or flight response. In an effort to say “that’s not what all gay man are,” they try to separate themselves from their brethren. Rather than a united front, we splinter into “us and them.” It’s not helpful, not to mention that it doesn’t even work. We are all in this together whether we shun other guys or not.
EVEN BEFORE THE AIDS EPIDEMIC BEGAN IN THE E A R LY 19 8 0 S , W E W E R E A L R E A D Y S T I G M AT I Z E D , A N D LABELED BY SOME AS BEING EITHER PROMISCUOUS OR IRRESPONSIBLE. By the time the first wave of infections hit, the rapid spread of the disease through these communities only helped reinforce that negative stereotype. As a result, the people most at risk of HIV were often sent into hiding, either for fear of abandonment, discrimination, or abuse. And the cycle was set for more abandonment, discrimination and abuse. Discomfort with sexuality in general, especially in the puritan South, also plays a major role in the stigmatization of HIV. Even in otherwise progressive cultures, sexuality can often incite intense feelings of embarrassment or shame, particularly when related to sexually active gay men, or sex between youth under 18. At the same time, so-called “secondary disclosures” (“How did you get it?”) further prevent many from stepping forward when faced with such fears as having to admit an affair, reveal a drug problem, or come out about one’s sexuality. HIV criminalization in states including Georgia only serve to reinforce these fears, casting guys with HIV as “blameworthy” while suggesting that those without it are “victims.” All of these issues can’t help but contribute to feelings of stigmatization, both real and perceived, and may explain why 20% of the 1.2 million Americans living with HIV remain wholly untested.
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SO WHAT CAN YOU DO? Learning to overcome HIV stigma is not easy. It requires a degree of self-reflection, as well as an honest assessment of your own personal biases and beliefs. One of the aims is to understand which of your fears are perceived and which are based on actual experience. By separating the two, we’re better equipped to lay out a strategy to not only overcome our fears but to better protect ourselves against possible, real acts of discrimination or abuse. In the end, overcoming stigma is not so much a decision as a process, one that takes time and patience. More importantly, it’s about not being alone. Sharing your fears with others can often put things into better perspective, providing you a sounding board rather than isolating yourself in your deepest, darkest thoughts.
WHERE TO START Here are a few tips on how to begin breaking HIV stigma, whether as an individual or in groups, whether you’re already HIV-positive and blame yourself, or are currently negative and are terrified of the disease and the people who have it. Talk about HIV openly, especially with potential sex partners. Try to remove blame from any discussion. Remind yourself and others that HIV is a disease and not a moral consequence. HIV-negative guys who are sexually active should realize they are very likely having sex with HIV-positive guys, and that is OK. You can have sex with HIV-positive guys and avoid HIV transmission. Educate yourself about HIV using quality reference materials. Atlanta is filled with great community-based organizations that offer brochures, pamphlets and reading lists that are not only accurate and plainly written, but culturally relevant to the experience of gay men. They also have access to support groups and counselors with whom you can speak freely and confidentially. If you find out someone is positive, think about how you would feel if you were in his shoes. How would you want someone to react? Thank him for being honest and having the courage to tell you. It is very difficult to tell someone you have HIV, especially in a sexual situation. Talk about the kind of sex you enjoy and want to have. Understand your rights under the law. Community-based organizations can often put you in touch with legal services to assist you when faced with discrimination at work, in housing, or with healthcare providers. Get an HIV test if you’re a sexually active gay man, and discuss any confidentiality concerns you may have with your provider. Leaving any concern unspoken will only add to your anxiety. Work with a professional if necessary to try and figure out in advance how you’d answer questions like, “How did you get it?” or “Did you use a condom?” If you’re one of the people who would ask such things, think about that being insensitive. Accept that you and others, who haven’t done their research or come to the realization that they need to, might ask stupid questions. Try not to be too defensive. Remind yourself that it’s more a reflection of their own fears and that they’re going through a process, too. If you can, use it as an opportunity to educate and enlighten. You may be surprised how little people know about the disease. Give them the benefit of the doubt. If you are experiencing prolonged depression or anxiety, or have a substance abuse problem that either stems from or is exacerbated by HIV in yourself or someone around you, seek professional help. Don’t go it alone if you don’t have to. There is help.
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PETCHATZ VIDEOPHONE SPACE-THEMED PET CARRIER Of course this gay guy has the coolest backpack you’ve ever seen. Oh wait! It’s his cat carrier. Just stop. No wait. Where can I get one? Comes in various colors and is perfect for small dogs too. u-pet.co, $100
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IT’S DEVEN GREEN D E V E N G R E E N I S A N AWA R D - W I N N I N G M U S I C A L C O M E DY P E R F O R M E R . YO U K N OW H E R F R O M T H E “ W E L C O M E T O M Y H O M E ” A N D “ W E L C O M E T O M Y W H I T E H O U S E ” PA R O D I E S , A S T H E S AT I R I C A L B E T T Y B OW E R S A N D P E R F O R M I N G A S A COMEDIC CHANTEUSE IN LOUNGES ACROSS AMERICA. DEVENGREEN.COM. DEAR DEVEN: I correct my friends’ grammar online. They are irked, but when I see non-words like “anyways,” I don’t want others to repeat the same mistake. Am I wrong? - “Exasperated”
You are not wrong, you are incorrect. When you see words such as “anyways,” privately message them. When you correct others publicly, there is a hint of superiority and shame and less of wanting to kindly educate them.
DEAR DEVEN: I don’t mean to be rude to customer service people on the phone but I just lose my temper very quickly. I spend hours on hold then get no resolution so I have to call back. In this sitch, it’s okay to let loose, right? - “Aggravated”
If you mean making a smart choice by taking your business elsewhere, then yes. Try calling back a few times and eventually you will find an employee who can actually help you. If not, call up the competition.
DEAR DEVEN: I haven’t been sleeping well because of anxiety. Any thoughts on getting some rest? - “Vexed”
Yes, have no thoughts at all! If you spend so much time indulging anxiety in your bedroom you must spend an equal amount of time alleviating it by doing things such as taking a long bath, exercising, getting a massage or discussing the root of it with a professional.
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DEAR DEVEN: My partner and I are getting married this summer and would like a classy way to exclude kids/children/infants/ toddlers. What words do we use? - “Annoyed”
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“Both the ceremony and reception are strictly adult only / no children.” This is very clear with no room for confusion. Even more exact is to put specific names on the wedding invites with no “plus 1” next to it.
DEAR DEVEN: I’m dating a younger guy and thought it would be nice to take him on a walk through Piedmont Park. He was on his phone the whole time filming it instead of enjoying it live as it happens! What do I do? - “Exasperated”
Hold his hands so he can’t use his phone.
DEAR DEVEN: I’m in a musical choir, and one of the performers is brown-nosing so much I worry that he is going to get some benefits. I feel like I should start doing it too. I need your advice! - “Over It”
Stop competing with him. You loathe his behavior, so don’t emulate it. The musical conductor knows what is going on. Have faith that talent will triumph. Now go sing your heart out!
DEAR DEVEN: I am a simple man in a new relationship with someone who does not say, “Thank You.” This may be a deal breaker. Worth sticking around? - “Bothered”
Stop competing with him. You loathe his behavior, so don’t emulate it. The musical conductor knows what is going on. Have faith that talent will triumph. Now go sing your heart out!
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