Winter 2015 Issue of Green Child Magazine

Winter 2015

A health & family focused digital magazine & community.

Everything you need for a Natural Pregnancy & Better Birth Avoiding Anxiety Prenatal Yoga Safe Herbs for Pregnancy and which ones to avoid!

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Breastfeeding Myths 1

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Contents 8 EcoFab

A few of our favorite finds, inspired by nature & health

10 It’s Never Too Early To Read

The benefits of reading to your baby in the womb

12 Small Person, Big Changes

Encouraging your child through a new sibling transition

15 Guided Relaxation

A beautiful meditation for your child on the essence of self-love

16 Help! The Internet is Giving Me Anxiety

How to keep social media & internet dianoses from stressing out your pregnancy

18 Herbs & Pregnancy

Your guide to a safe, comfortable pregnancy... plus what to avoid

22 Welcoming Baby

Our tips for hosting a baby shower in ecofriendly style

24 Natural Fertility Tips

Advice for getting pregnant naturally plus a delicious fertility tea recipe

28 New Mama Essentials

Our top picks for Preparing for Baby and Caring for Mom

32 Vaccines: Putting the Judgment to Rest Anne Michelsen takes a deep look at the benefits and risks of baby & childhood immunizations

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Contents 38 Look Listen Read

Our editors’ top picks in books, apps & more

40 Prenatal Yoga

How yoga can set you up for an easier natural birth

42 Encouraging Mindfulness in Children

Find out how to support your child’s intuitive sense of living in the moment.

84 DIY Craft

How to make a gorgeous baby shower decoration / keepsake

86 Community Marketplace

More great green gift ideas from our collection of artisan shops & resources

88 Your Green Child

A peek into the families of our readers

46 Mi Amour: A Greener Valentine’s Day

94 Little Artists

48 Nutritional Nuggets

On The Cover

Supporting eco-conscious businesses this Valentine’s Day

From picky eaters to your grazing, expert Christina Towle answers your questions

50 Sage Spoonfuls

Chicken chili, zucchini chia seed muffins, and golden turmeric milk

54 Conscious Kitchen

Almond cream, homemade ghee, paleofriendly cupcakes, & blueberry macaroons

Sharing the talents of our youngest community members.

Avoiding Anxiety p14 Prenatal Yoga p76 Pregnancy & Herbs p30 Breastfeeding Myths p30 Winter 2015

60 Beyond Morning Sickness

Jessica Martin-Weber shares her struggles with hyperemesis gravidarum and her complicated journey into motherhood

64 10 Breastfeeding Myths

Amy Spangler RN IBCLC, explains the 10 most common myths about breastfeeding

68 Birth Without Fear

Heidi & MaryEllen Welcome Baby Sequoia at Home, plus a Fast, Natural Hospital Birth

76 Move Yourself to the Front Burner

The case for “me time” and how to help you carve out time for it

80 Baby Items You Can Live Without Laura of The Soft Landing shares her list

83 Ask Green Grandma

Questions from our readers answered

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Publisher & Editor Amity Hook-Sopko

Creative Director Amanda Hearn

Advertising Director Tracy Carter

Copy Editor

Megan McCoy Dellecese

Columnists

Liza Huber Mellisa Dormoy Megan McCoy Dellecese Christina Towle Hana Haatainen Caye

Contributors

Kelly Bartlett Lauren Zerweck Jessica Martin-Weber Susie Bryan Anne Michelsen Jensen Wheeler Wolfe Monisha Vasa, M.D. Maggie Chilton Karolina Eleonóra Amy Spangler Bess O’Connor Laura Saville

Media & Other Inquiries

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from our publisher & editor Each year our Pregnancy & Birth issue brings thousands of new readers to our community.

If this is your first time reading Green Child… welcome! We’re certain you’ll find something here that resonates with you, no matter where you are along the path to natural living.

For many women, pregnancy is the springboard into a healthier lifestyle.

Suddenly, you’re caring for someone in addition to yourself, and you become even more conscious of what you put on and in your body. It’s one of the first steps in a lifetime of loving and protecting this miraculous gift of life. And that’s why Green Child was created.

Since 2010, we’ve been honored to serve as a parenting roadmap for families just like yours… sharing support and advice, and encouraging you to develop your “mama’s sixth sense” and always trust your instincts.

Along the way, we’ve evolved into an active community of more than 100,000 members.

We’d love to take this opportunity to show you around our community.

Learn more about Green Child Magazine.

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And here’s just a peek at what you’ll find inside the pages of Green Child: • Natural Discipline for the Early Years • School Lunches Made Simple • The 10 Easiest Vegetables to Grow from Seed • What You Need to Know About Radiation • Our Annual Baby Gear Guide If you have questions or just want to get to know more like-minded parents, join our Facebook community.

One last thing – don’t ever feel like you’re not “green” enough to be here. We truly believe sustainable living and natural parenting is a worthy pursuit, but we live in the real world.

Some days there will be a neon green birthday cupcake, a Made in China cheap plastic toy, or a fast food burrito… and guess what? On those crazy days, we’ll choose sanity and simplicity over green guilt in a heartbeat.

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EcoFab

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It’s Never Too Early to Read The benefits of reading to your baby in the womb

|by Megan McCoy Dellecese

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We all know the benefits children can reap by being exposed to books. Especially when you start early, reading is proven to help with a child’s language development and increased word recognition, create a positive bond between parent and child, provide a great winddown before bedtime, and spark an early interest in learning that carries over to later years.

But, what about the advantages for your unborn baby?

We’ve all heard about talking, singing or playing music to a baby while in the womb (and whether or not it’s worth it), but there’s also something to be said for reading to a child in utero. There are numerous advantages to be had, both for baby as well as for the parents.

The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more you learn, the more places you’ll go.” -Dr. Seuss

It is unclear whether there’s a connection to any later educational benefits, but numerous studies show that reading (particularly from the mother’s relaxing voice) causes a baby’s fetal heart rate to drop. Also, the bond that is experienced between parent and child later on can start to occur while Mama or Papa read to the baby prenatally. Participation in reading is also a great way for other family members to connect with the baby.

Sometimes we’re so focused on the preparation for the coming of new life and the general health needs of the mother and baby. However, early attention through reading builds a wonderful foundation to solid future relationships. It also helps parents slow down, relax and experience the fun moments of early parenting, all while enjoying the sweetness and simple lessons (which can be great at grounding adults in times of stress) of a good picture book.

So, at what point should we try reading to the little one?

According to EarlyMoments.com, at about six months along, a baby is already quite familiar with the sounds of the womb, from the mother’s heartbeat to digestive sounds. From outside the womb, sounds are extremely clear, although about 10 decibels lower. From week 25 forward, a baby’s primary connection and information to the outside world comes in the form of sound. By this point, the soothing, rhythmic sounds of a simple story should be quite audible, although the tones and cadences of the voice are more important than enunciation of the actual words.

Which books are best for little ones in utero?

You can use any of the books that are collecting for baby. Particularly, books with a clear rhythm and perhaps rhyme patterns provide a soothing, almost melodic listening experience. Anything from Dr. Seuss and Eric Carle to Goodnight Moon and Guess How Much I Love You work well for this. Predictable books like Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See? or Chicka Chicka Boom Boom (both by Bill Martin, Jr.) are also perfect for prenatal reading, as well as classic repetitive nursery rhymes and fairy tales.

But, don’t feel that you need to stick to the classics. This is your chance to experiment with newer characters and authors, especially if you haven’t read a picture book since your own childhood. There are fabulous modern stories that are equally enjoyable to parents as they are babies. Some newer favorites include Mo Willems (while his characters, Pigeon and “Elephant and Piggie,” are particularly popular, try some of his others for a hilarious surprise), the Llama Llama series by Anna Dewdney, and any irreverent book by Jon Klassen.

Whatever text you choose to share, be it funny or classically heartwarming, it’s the process of prenatal reading that matters. The experience of reading will surely benefit your little one just through the sharing time spent together and the soothing rhythm of familiar voices. It also provides some intentional calm time and peace for the parents and siblings that get to read their favorite books to the little one. You’ll be sure to set a book-loving precedent that will last into your baby’s life.

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encouraging children through a new sibling t r a n s i t i o n

Small Person, Big Changes |by Kelly Bartlett Adding a new baby to the family is an exciting time for families. Children especially feel that eagerness as they hold their new baby brother or sister for the first time; they finally get to see who has been inside of mom’s growing belly all these months! Their initial enthusiasm may fade, though, as the weeks go on and the reality of a baby’s needs sets in. Most parents see changes in behavior in their older children sometime during the first year after a new sibling is born. Parents may see a onceagreeable child acting out, becoming defiant, or beginning to show behavior struggles at school.

This is normal; a child’s natural growth compounded with the stress of adjusting to a new family member can be overwhelming. It can cause her to think differently about herself and to behave differently as she tries to find her place in the family. When a new sibling comes home, an older child’s place in the family has changed, and she has difficulty understanding that it’s not a replacement, but simply a re-adjustment. Like everything in child development, this transition takes time.

According to Dr. Jane Nelsen, parent educator and author of Positive Discipline, what kids need most is a sense of significance and be-

longing, and this need is often most persistent after the birth of a new sibling. Nelsen says, “Significance and belonging are what all children and adults strive for; we want to know that we matter and that we have an important place in the world.” To a child, that ‘world’ is his family, and the arrival of a new sibling can disrupt any sense of security that he had in it. When he no longer feels that he belongs, those feelings are inherently reflected in his behavior.

Dr. Nelsen says, “A misbehaving child is a discouraged child.” Misbehavior is the result of a child’s subconscious belief about himself that he is unloved or unimportant. He may act out to try to reconfirm his parents’ love, or try to reestablish his own sense of significance. “It is important for parents to realize that a child’s difficult beMisbehavior is the result havior is the of a child’s subconscious result of feelbelief about himself that he ing discouris unloved or unimportant. aged about He may act out to try to his place in reconfirm his parents’ love, the family. or try to reestablish his own Rather than sense of significance. being punished, that child needs to be encouraged,” says Nelsen. And there are many ways to offer it.

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Small Person, Big Changes Verbal Encouragement The most recognizable form of encouragement is the use of verbal statements like, “Thank you for helping me make dinner. I really appreciate it!” or, “Wow, you sure worked hard on that Lego tower.

That was a lot of work,” or, “You must feel so proud of yourself right now!” Encouraging words like these are more effective than statements of blanket praise like, “You’re such a good sister,” as they focus on the child’s efforts and help her develop an internal sense of pride.

Emotional Encouragement A less obvious, yet vital kind of encouragement is the validation of feelings.

Anytime a parent validates a child’s feelings—whether those feelings are positive or negative—they are telling that child, “It’s OK to feel that way; it’s normal,” and children need to hear this. It lets them know that they’re unconditionally accepted in the family: exactly what a newly older sibling needs. Parents can help children feel secure by allowing, articulating, and accepting all of their feelings—pleasant or not.

Encouragement through Self Confidence

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When kids begin to act out after a new baby comes home, what is most likely happening is that they are mistakenly thinking that they must regain Mom and Dad’s attention to secure their place in the family. The message coded in their behavior is, “Notice me! Involve me use-

fully!” Parents can give even very young children jobs to help out; opportunities to be noticed and become involved. They can help set the table, wash the windows, prepare food, shop at the store, get themselves dressed, take charge of their routines, help themselves to their own snacks, pour their own drinks, wipe the table, and many other age-appropriate tasks. These are the kinds of activities that give kids confidence and help them feel like valued, contributing members of the family.

One-on-One Encouragement When a new baby comes home, give your child a gift: the gift of time. The best gift for an older sibling is simply a parent’s regular focus connecting with them during this difficult transition (and beyond).

After the birth of a new sibling is a perfect time to start scheduling regular “special time” together, during which the child leads the play for 15-20 minutes every day. It is a daily opportunity to ensure some valuable one-on-one time with older children, and kids look forward to this regular part of the day with each parent. It communicates to a child, “I’m here for you. You are important.”

When children become new older siblings, parents can help kids feel secure by understanding and responding to the motivation behind their behavior—that instinctive pursuit of significance and belonging—more so than the behavior itself.

Children need to be encouraged to realize their place in the family. They are significant and they do belong, and they need to know that.

guided relaxation

“Our Inner Kingdom”

I’m going to tell you a story. Get comfortable.

Close your eyes, and imagine that you’re inside this story.

Take in a very deep breath and let it out slowly.

As you continue to breathe deeply and calmly, think about something you do well. What do you really love to do? This is called a talent, and we all have something that we’re really good at doing.

Now just feel those good feelings of doing what you enjoy and continue to focus on your breathing. Feel yourself getting lighter and lighter. Take another breath, and feel yourself rising up higher and higher. Take another breath, and feel yourself rising up so high that it feels like you’re floating. Now keep breathing calmly, and fly through the sky, gliding around in the air.

with Mellisa Dormoy of Shambala Kids

You walk toward the gate and go inside. A man in a funny looking suit is standing there to greet you. “Welcome to our kingdom!” he says.

“You’re our new ruler! We’ve been waiting for you!”

This kingdom is a place where they really love and admire people who can do all the awesome things that you can do, and since you do things so well, they want you to be the new ruler of their kingdom! All the people love you and desire to be like you. You are a role model and inspiration to every single person here! How does it feel knowing this? Perhaps you have a huge feeling of gratitude welling up in your heart!

You can come back to this kingdom any time you forget how amazing you are, and all the people here will remind you how incredible and amazing you are. For now, it’s time to go back When you’re flying like this, if you want to go to home, but you can carry all the wonderful feelings back with you and enjoy them every day. a place, all you have to do is think of it. Think about a kingdom where everybody loves your Now, I’ll tell you a secret about this kingdom talent. It’s a special place where everyone admires you so very much for your special talent! of yours. The people from your kingdom - the people who think that you’re amazing and aweYou are like the queen or king of that castle! some - are actually all around you! They’re just As you approach the castle gates, you see a kind of scattered in the waking world, so you big banner that says, “We love you!” All of the might have to look for them. But if you keep townspeople are lined up on the side of the being awesome and looking for those special streets with flags and banners, and they’re all people, you’ll find a lot of people around you cheering for you as you walk toward the gate. who know the truth of how special and wonEverybody’s shouting and saying, “You’re awederful you truly are! some!” and “You’re FANTASTIC!” For more meditations and guided relaxation audios, visit Shambala Kids online.

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Help!

The Internet is Giving Me Pregnancy Anxiety! |by Lauren Zerweck

Raise your hand if you’ve ever googled your way into an obsessive parenting frenzy.

Whether it’s a strange pain during pregnancy or baby’s first fever, today you can access a million answers in mere moments. Some of the answers you find will put your mind instantly at ease. Others might just have you rushing to the ER with your newly acquired fear of flaky red blotches.

While it is common to worry, especially while pregnant, one might wonder if moms worry more today than they did before the rise of the Internet. Today’s connected landscape provides an endless stream of unthinkables. Navigating through the slew of information, opinions, and advertising can be a real challenge.

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So what’s an expectant mama to do when one of her main sources of information may send her down a rabbit hole of surprising fears and unrealistic ideals? Read on for stress-reducing methods for new mothers.

Stressing About Stress High amounts of stress can be damaging to new mothers, mentally and emotionally, especially during pregnancy. Doctors tell expecting mothers all the time to relax and manage their stress, but many do not realize the stress they take on when roaming cyberspace. Some women may even find themselves reading an article on the adverse effects of stress on an unborn baby and suddenly become stressed out about stressing out. This is truly a vicious cycle, and one that requires consciously safeguarding oneself as they peruse the web.

Dr. Hobel is an obstetrician that has studied the effects of stress in pregnant mothers and the baby. He shares that one of the most notable factors in managing stress for pregnant women is their support network and providing enough information about prenatal care and the pregnancy itself to ward off worries.

With your life and body in transition and everyone busy with their lives, it can be easy to feel isolated. No wonder so many new moms end up online. One great use of the Internet and social media is to use it to strengthen your real world relationships.

Finding Credible Sources

On the one hand, there may be a great online community of mothers out there that can offer support and personal experiences. But, it’s important not to rely solely upon your online community because negativity has a way of seeping in and status updates and photos often don’t necessarily portray the truth, and unrealistic comparisons can arise.

In a survey released by Redbook and Huffington Post, mothers revealed that the most judgment in their lives comes from themselves.

It’s important to keep in mind that no one is perfect... even if social media posts seem to say something different.

Try mixing in some more relatable, sites while you are searching around online such as, Pinterest Fail, Momastery, and Scary Mommy.

It’s important to have realistic expectations of yourself as a mother, which is why having a solid, supportive community offline is so helpful.

Yes, the Internet can provide useful information and right when you truly need it, but it’s important to be sure that the sites are credible. For example, pregnant women hear a lot about what to eat and what not to eat. Some reasons behind the dietary rules are obvious, like adverse effects from alcohol or too much caffeine. Others may be a little more confusing, such as why to avoid soft cheeses and certain types of fish. Ask your doctor to recommend some information sources and if you do come across information that looks valuable, check to see where they got their information. This Food Safety Guide for Pregnant Women is a great example. Not only is it simplifying dense information, it also has its sources listed at the bottom of the page.

You will also find a lot of information on different exercises and products. If you come across something that has you worried or you have more questions about, write it down.

Sometimes just getting the thought out of your head and down onto paper can provide some relief from worry. Then, the next time you see your doctor, bring your list of questions. Talking to your doctor and having that open communication is key in making your transition into motherhood as smooth as possible.

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Herbs & Pregnancy

Your guide to a safe, comfortable pregnancy

plus what to avoid |by Susie Bryan

The process of conception, gestation and birthing is the beginning of all things - the beginning of life. Is there a more natural process?

To complement the ultimate natural process, doesn’t it make sense to remain as close to nature as possible? A great way to do that is to care for your body during your pregnancy and after giving birth with nature’s medicine chest – herbal remedies.

Herbal remedies can be used for everything from morning sickness to varicose veins.

common herbs and their uses Ginger – Great for relieving nausea and the symptoms of morning sickness – just add a couple of slices of organically grown ginger to a cup of hot water and sip it as needed. Ginger should be used sparingly during pregnancy so if you have frequent or prolonged morning sickness, alternate with chamomile.

Lavender – One of the most calming and soothing of the essential oils. Lavender essential oil can be used to relieve discomfort after childbirth, just add 4 or 5 drops to your bath water and soak. Three or four drops of laven-

der essential oil on a warm compress will help relieve symptoms of mastitis.

Dill – Drinking a dill seed infusion helps promote breast milk and relieves colic or gas in the baby. You can also use dill essential oil – use 1 drop in a teaspoon of honey.

Chamomile – Soothes the nerves and is wonderful for the digestive system. A cupful of chamomile tea will relieve morning sickness, help you relax and ease any digestive issues you may be having.

Jasmine – There is a long tradition of using jasmine essential oil during labor for relaxation and to instill a feeling of calm confidence.

Dilute the essential oil with a good carrier oil (olive oil, coconut oil, almond oil) and have your partner massage it into your lower back.

Witch Hazel – Long valued for its astringent properties, witch hazel will help shrink and tighten inflamed veins. Keep a bottle of distilled witch hazel in your refrigerator. Pour some on a cotton ball and apply it to tired, sore legs, varicose veins and/or hemorrhoids.

Linseed – Linseed oil acts as a gentle laxative and bowel lubricant to help relieve constipation. As an added bonus, it’s loaded with omega fatty acids. Add a tablespoon to your

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Herbs & Pregnancy morning meal (in cereal or oatmeal) and drink lots of water during the day.

Raspberry Leaf – A strong uterine tonic only for the last trimester of pregnancy to help the body prepare for childbirth. Drink a raspberry leaf infusion daily in the last trimester and for 2 to 3 weeks after giving birth to help the muscles contract and promote breast milk. Do not use this infusion during early pregnancy.

Calendula – Calendula oil is very nourishing to your skin and helps promote healing.

Massage macerated calendula oil (available on Amazon.com) into your skin during pregnancy to prevent stretch marks.

Now having said that, just as there are beneficial herbs to be used during pregnancy and childbirth, there are also herbs to be avoided.

You’ll notice that some of these herbs are culinary herbs.

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These can be used as you normally would use them in cooking but don’t take them medicinally while you’re pregnant or breastfeeding: • Aloe vera • American spikenard • Angelica root • Ashwaghanda • Bearberry • Black cohosh • Borage • Catnip • Cayenne • Celery seed • Comfrey • Common sage • Crampbark • Feverfew • Ginseng (ANY) • Goji

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Golden seal Hemp agrimony Juniper Lemongrass Liquorice root Mistletoe Mugwort Oregon grape Red clover Rosemary St. John’s wort Thyme Turmeric Vervain Wormwood Yarrow

When the birthing process stays as close to nature as possible it’s a win/win for both mother and child. Using these herbal remedies will go a long way toward doing exactly that and keeping you and your baby happy and healthy before, during and after birth.

“Making the decision to have a child - it is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. �

Photography by Alana Beall

- Elizabeth Stone

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Welcoming Baby 22

What’s a baby shower without a delicious sweet treat?

And extra points to the host if it’s a healthier version, right? This cupcake recipe from Maxwell Designs (find it in our recipe section) uses coconut baking ingredients, so it’s completely grain-free. If you opt for cupcake papers, get creative and match the shower’s theme.

Eco Tip: Buy all of the party food locally and choose organic or Fair-Trade when you can.

A festive - and most importantly - useful decoration, this diaper cake is made from gorgeous cloth diapers, rather than disposables. When the shower is over, the mom-tobe has 24 prefold diapers ready and waiting for her new bundle of joy. It’s easier than you might think! Find the step-by-step tutorial by clicking here.

Eco Tip: Embellish this chic diaper cake with coordinating non-toxic baby items.

Elements of nature add life and beauty to any gathering.

Whatever is in bloom (or even recycled silk flowers) will work for these stylish centerpieces. Most likely there’s a cloth diaper color palette to compliment your shower theme. Find this festive DIY by clicking here.

Eco Tip: Potted plants and small trees make a great backdrop for photos of the proud mom-to-be.

The grandmas and great aunts will adore sharing their Wishes for Baby! And the mom-to-be will be happy you’re not asking everyone to guess how many squares of toilet paper will reach around her belly. This project can be found at the back of this issue and serves as a decoration, a game, and even a keepsake.

Eco Tip: Look for recycled paper or card stock with a high (70% or more) post-consumer recycled content level.

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natural Fertility Tips In our “instant everything” world, it’s not always easy to have the patience to handle things that are beyond our control. So when we make the decision to have a baby, it can be frustrating and confusing when it doesn’t happen on our own terms.

The perfect conditions to make a human life are intricate. You can’t rush a miracle.

But through diet and lifestyle changes (and just a better working knowledge of natural fertility) you can make a huge difference in your overall health and likelihood to conceive.

know your body

If you haven’t become familiar with your own cycle, now is the time to do so. Taking Charge of Your Fertility is truly the definitive guide to reproductive health. This book can help you navigate the fertility waters, whether you hope to conceive, avoid, or just become more familiar with your own body.

ovulation

Charting is a great way to get to know your body, but it does require some discipline (there are

apps to help with that!) Simpler methods, like using ovulation test strips or Cycle Beads can help you identify your fertile days. Keep in mind that while these simpler methods may help, they cannot give you a “big picture” look at your cycle. If you find that your cycle is erratic, short or long, you may want to chart to get a more detailed look at what’s going on. A “smart” fertility monitor, such as Daysy, learns and tracks your menstrual cycle on it’s own and makes charting simple with the help of an iOS app.

whole health

Set yourself up for success by starting with a healthy, well-functioning body. Eating more organic vegetables and fruits while avoiding added sugars and processed food is key to good health. Paying attention to your diet, along with the following factors, can also lead to greater odds of getting pregnant.

sleep

Sleep is a natural hormone regulator. Women with low levels of melatonin and serotonin were found to have a shorter luteal phase (time between ovulation and menstruation). Take 25

natural Fertility Tips some time to wind down each night before bed.

Instead of screens, read a book or enjoy lavender tea to help fall asleep and rest soundly.

nutrients

Our soils contain less minerals and nutrients than they did a generation ago. Food-based prenatal vitamins, like New Chapter (Certified Non-GMO & Organic) & RainbowLight, can help provide the nutrition your body will need to create and sustain a pregnancy.

teas

You can make your own tea with the recipe below, or purchase a pre-made organic fertility tea to help nourish your body.

Homemade Fertility Tea Recipe • 1 Tbsp. each of the following herbs: • Red Raspberry Leaf • Nettle • Alfalfa • Dandelion Leaf • Optional: peppermint or spearmint Pour boiling water over loose herbs, let steep for 15-20 minutes and strain. Tea can be enjoyed hot, iced or frozen into ice cubes and blended into a smoothie.

For continued wellness, be sure to check out Earth Mama Angel Baby teas for pregnancy, along with out very own recipes on our website.

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essential oils

Organic plant oils take just 26 seconds to reach your bloodstream. Clary Sage & Frankincense essential oils are both helpful in balancing hormones. These oils have also been helpful for relieving fibroids, cysts and other cervical issues. Apply to the bottoms of your feet or over your pelvic area. Always use high quality oils.

(Our editors love Young Living oils.)

yoga & chiropractic

Restorative yoga reduces stress and helps to oxygenate the body. Plus it leads to overall relaxation, which is important when trying to conceive. There are also several postures to help balance hormones. And don’t overlook the benefits of seeing a holistic chiropractor.

Nerves pass from the spine and pelvis on their way to the reproductive organs and lack of movement of joints of the spine or pelvis can lead to fertility or hormonal roadblocks.

more water, less caffeine

High quantities of caffeine have been linked to decreased fertility. For every 100 mg of caffeine you consume (i.e. the approximate amount in one cup of coffee or two cups of black tea) be sure to drink an additional cup of water to offset the diuretic effect of the caffeine.

vaginal health

You may not think of it, but the environment of your vagina is very important in the babymaking process. If the environment is hostile to sperm, your chances of conception can decrease drastically.

natural Fertility Tips

sperm-friendly lubricants This is a great first step. You might be surprised, but even saliva can be hostile to sperm, along with most standard lubricants. Choose a natural lubricant that well help the sperm reach their destination, like Coconut Oil or Olive Oil. If store-bought lubricant is a must for you, consider a product like Pre-Seed. Remember to also be mindful of how you clean yourself. Douches and other internal cleaners can throw your natural pH off, so it’s best to stick with water.

menstrual cups

Unlike other internal menstrual products, menstrual cups do not harm the vagina and do not create a hostile environment for sperm.

Tampons often contain synthetic fibers and harsh chemicals as the result of manufacturing. These fibers can be left behind that can cause microabrasions on the vaginal walls, dryness, and sometimes other more serious complications, like TSS. Consider switching to a cup for your overall health, but especially when trying to conceive. You can read more about these cups (including what cup might be right for you) on this safe feminine care resource guide. Some cups (like the Instead Softcup) are even used by some women to help hold sperm closer to the cervix after sex.

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Vaccination:

Let’s put the judgement to rest. |by Anne Michelsen Any debate can get ugly. The vaccine debate just did. Recent stories in the mainstream media stories – including articles published by USA Today and The Washington Post – dish out the blame, accusing parents who don’t vaccinate of being “hysterical,” “hostile,” “irrational”, and a threat to public health. Horror stories abound, featuring babies and children maimed for life or killed by vaccine-preventable diseases.

On the other side of the issue, anti-vaccine proponents offer plenty of horror stories of their own. The entire scene has begun to resemble a football game, where parents are expected to root for one team or the other.

Bring on the nachos!

Pressure From Both Sides Unfortunately, when the “ball” is your child, it’s hard to know which side to take – or whether to take sides at all. No matter what decision you make, someone is bound to tell you you’re wrong – implying, of course, that you’re a horrible parent. No wonder so many parents feel pressured and confused about vaccination.

The problem is that instead of supporting parents to weigh the evidence and make the best possible decision for their own families, this “ball game gone bad” atmosphere tends

to pressure them into choosing a position and defending it. Sadly, children are rarely the winners when this happens.

The following true stories illustrate my point.

Possible Vaccine Injury Goes Unreported When I first met McKenzie,* she was a bright, active two year old. She was highly verbal and loved to play and laugh. The next time I saw her, she could not speak or even swallow on her own. Her muscle control was erratic, and she no longer responded to her name. McKenzie had suffered a bout of encephalitis, shortly after a routine MMR vaccination.

Was the vaccine at fault? No way to know.

McKenzie’s mother refused to question her doctors’ and nurses’ assertion that there could not possibly be a connection. She undoubtedly couldn’t face the thought that her decision to vaccinate could have led to her child’s injury.

This is totally understandable, but what if there really was a connection? If so, allowing the incident to go unreported could potentially contribute to additional tragedies, since vaccine safety improvement depends largely on feedback from the field. Also, if McKenzie’s illness was determined to have been vaccine-related, her family might have

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qualified for much-needed assistance through the National Vaccine Injury Compensation Program. On the other hand, if an investigation revealed that there truly was no connection, that also would be valuable information that could help others make sound decisions in the future. Alas, we’ll never know for sure.

Also, I don’t know if McKenzie had had any adverse reactions to prior MMR inoculations, but if she did, it might have prompted a more cautious parent to delay or refuse additional shots.

Mom Expresses Second Thoughts About Vaccine Refusal On the other side of the playing field, one mother of three who decided to delay vaccinating while her children were very young recently confided in me that she wasn’t sure she’d do it the same way again. “I wanted to delay vaccinating when they were very little. I just got used to fighting the medical establishment about it. I also was part of a community that was very anti-vaccine. Looking back, I wish I’d started the shots earlier, when my kids were past infancy. Our family did get the whooping cough, twice. The first time was awful.

The second time we caught it early and got on antibiotics right away, but we still ended up in quarantine for days. And my daughter ended up getting a ton of shots at once (before entering college), which is what I wanted to avoid in the first place!”

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It’s easy to point fingers at parents when things go wrong. But doing so is both unfair and counterproductive.

The real problem lies with the polarized atmosphere of debate that surrounds the entire vaccine issue. The Great Vaccine Debate marginalizes parents’ real concerns and pushes them into either unthinking compliance or knee-jerk defiance.

Let’s do a reality check. Why don’t we start by admitting that both points of view regarding vaccines are valid:

Vaccines are effective at reducing incidence of contagious disease in large populations.

When vaccination programs are put into effect the incidence of widespread disease generally goes down – often to the point of regional elimination of the disease. This has occurred time and again in every region of the world.

While some argue that certain diseases were naturally declining anyway due to increased sanitation and other reasons, no other cause can explain a 98-100% decline in the incidence of 9 out of 10 highly contagious diseases in the U.S. since widespread vaccination programs were implemented. In addition, a quick look at WHO’s global track record of combating disease through vaccination programs is pretty convincing evidence that these programs do work. It’s also good to remember that many of these diseases do carry a significant risk of serious complications and/or death amongst those who contract them.

Vaccines can and do cause injury and/or death to some individuals. If this were not the case, we would not have a governmentfunded Vaccine Injury Compensation Program or Vaccine Adverse Event Reporting System (VAERS). Even the Institute of Medicine’s highly publicized report, Adverse Effects of Vaccines: Evidence and Causality, which did

not find any link between vaccines and autism, states: “(E)vidence convincingly supports a causal relationship between some vaccines and some adverse events—such as MMR, varicella zoster, influenza, hepatitis B, meningococcal, and tetanus-containing vaccines linked to anaphylaxis.” In addition, the CDC estimates a VAERS reporting efficiency ranging from only 68% to under 1% for various adverse events, so the actual occurrence of vaccine-related injury could be much higher than the medical establishment would like to admit.

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for their children - and then support the parents in making the most informed decision possible for their unique family.

This requires the medical provider, above all, to cultivate an open mind. The history of science is full of cases where what we now accept as fact was once violently opposed. Rather than dismissing information that challenges our views, why not hear out the opposing point of view, and strive to understand it? Do the necessary research to come to your own question conclusion. Research deeply – isn’t black and white, don’t just rely on the party line.

The vaccine question isn’t but shades of gray.

“When you do research and black and white, but shades of read books, be sure to find out gray. Isn’t it time to abandon who the author is, their backthe all-or-nothing game and ground and who commissioned them to write begin a thoughtful and respectful dialogue the book…You should know this relationship, instead? There will probably never be a vacalso you should consult alternative practitioncine solution that satisfies everyone. But by ers to the get another point of view,” suggests exploring the research and options with open Dr. Tyran Mincey D.C., a Board Certified minds and with an attitude of mutual respect, Applied Kinesiology practitioner who deperhaps we can minimize the risk and heartscribes himself as “not anti-immunization, just ache for all involved. pro-information”. Most parents will respect a medical provider’s opinion when given with A Call to Medical Providers compassion and thoughtfulness.

As much as we all want to protect our children, the reality is that either course of action Finally, it’s important for medical professionals could bring them harm. Most parents know to acknowledge that parents have the right to this intuitively. Sometimes medical providers decide for their own families. When parents brush off a parent’s concerns because the risk are allowed to take the time to thoroughly reis “so small.” However, statistics don’t matter search their choices without feeling pressured, when your child is the one afflicted. Ridiculthey are more likely to stay open minded and ing or brushing aside a parent’s concerns can make the best possible decisions for their erode their trust, and can even lead to their families. And if the worst should happen, this seeking medical care elsewhere, or not at all. approach can also minimize feelings of guilt, blame and anger at times when families and A much better approach is to acknowledge communities are better served through supparents’ concerns as real, and driven by love port and understanding.

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Let’s put the judgement to rest.

There is a Middle Ground The basic question in every parent’s mind is: “Do the benefits of vaccinating my child exceed the risks?”

By seeking out medical providers who are willing to spend time addressing their concerns – and by keeping an open mind themselves - parents can begin to make sense out of the vaccine scene, and determine a course of action that is right for their individual child.

As Aileen Marty, M.D., FACP, Professor of Infectious Diseases at Florida International University Department of Medicine’s Health Travel Medicine Program and an unapologetic proponent of vaccine use, states:

“It is unfortunately, ridiculously overly simplistic to say, “Vaccinate or don’t vaccinate”.

The reality is that vaccinations, like medications, have to be tailored to the individual, the community, and the circumstances regarding exposure and risks... There is a middle ground, but it involves recognizing the risks of not vaccinating and having a scientific and rational understanding for when for a particular child there may be particular vaccine-preventable disease that should not be given. It should never be “all” or “none”, it has to be tailored for the risk.”

Here are a few tips to help parents make sense of the vaccine scene: Know your diseases: For most of us, the diseases we’re asked to immunize our children against are simply funny-sounding names. Do some research and find out for yourself:

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• What are the actual consequences of contracting these diseases? For instance, the

CDC reports that about half of infants younger than 1 year who get pertussis end up in the hospital.

• How is the disease transmitted? Does vaccinating your child in infancy make sense for a disease like hepatitis B, which is transmitted primarily through needle sharing and unprotected sex?

• How likely is exposure? Certain diseases, such as measles and pertussis, which once were extremely rare in the U.S., are making a comeback. Then there’s tetanus, which is present in many soils and can persist in the environment for decades.

Know your vaccines: Some vaccines are safer than others. One of the best ways to find out about vaccine safety is by reading the pharmaceutical manufacturer’s package inserts for each individual vaccine. Many of these include documented percentages of incidences of adverse reactions. You can also research vaccines online. Keep in mind, though, that vaccine companies do update their products, so look for recent research. (One prominent anti-vaccine website posts reams of studies pointing to various vaccine dangers. However, virtually all the studies are dated before the turn of the 20th century. In a field that is constantly changing it’s impossible to make decisions based on 20, 30, or 40-year-old research.)

Follow the money: Money doesn’t always corrupt, but it can. It doesn’t hurt to find out as much as you can about who funds what when making decisions on behalf of your child.

Know your child: Does your child have any acute or chronic conditions that could affect their reaction to a vaccine? Some reasons to refuse or delay vaccination include:

• An underlying condition (such as an immune problem or cancer) that precludes live vaccines • Illness on the schedule vaccination date (a quick read through VAERS reports – which are public record and available online – indicates that a high percentage of vaccine adverse reactions occur in children who have a cold or other previous condition) • Allergy to any ingredient of the vaccine, or to the ingredients used to culture the virus or bacteria

intelligence. Preventive care alternatives are a powerful tool to approach the medical field as a whole. That, and learning to disagree without fighting.”

You can also delay administering any given vaccine. Parents concerned about vaccinating very young infants or giving multiple vaccines at one time putting undue stress on a child’s immune system may want to explore this option.

Amy Baxter MD FAAP, Director of Emergency Research at Scottish Rite Children’s Healthcare of Atlanta, is pro-vaccine, but she is quick • A prior history of reacting to the particular to point out that the CDC’s recommended vaccine vaccine schedule is also hard on children psy• A strong family history of a bad reaction to chologically. “The incidence of fear of needles a particular vaccine. has increased 252% in the past two decades, keeping pace with the number of vaccines Taking Charge of Your given. Kids get 6x the number of injections, Own Vaccine Schedule and this results in a fear that can last a lifetime.

Needle pain, and the relentless number older Once you’ve taken all this into account, it’s kids get at once, affect how they feel about time to choose your approach. There is no preventative healthcare. While the injections right or wrong. You can use the CDC’s before age 2 don’t correlate with any adverse recommended vaccine schedule or abstain problems and the schedule is good, between from vaccines altogether, but it’s also OK to ages 4-6 kids do better with no more than 2 at take the middle road. a time. They’re already protected, and the CDC allows It’s within your rights to for the boosters to be given The best we can do is make choose certain vaccines and at any time between age 4-6, the best of our available refuse others. resources. And by choosing so there is no reason to give dialogue over debating the them all at once except conAs wellness coach and mom issue, you’ll be doing just that. venience (and possibly health of four Aida Adams puts it, insurance policy).”

“Never rely on a fear based decision. Ever. For medical or any choice for that matter. I believe that the main vaccines are a good thing, (but) some diseases (can) be avoided with preventive care medicine, supporting and building your immunity and strengthening what I call your body health

Regardless of your ultimate decision, it’s important to realize that no decision is foolproof. Life involves risk, in this as in everything else. The best we can do is make the best of our available resources. And by choosing dialogue over debating the issue, you’ll be doing just that.

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Birth, Breath, & Death: Meditations on Motherhood, Chaplainry, and Life as a Doula

by Amy Wright Glenn

Part skillfully penned memoir, part philosophical life study, this book is a moving read spanning in topic from religious journey to the intense lows and highs of motherhood to general existentialism.

You won’t be able to put this well-crafted narrative down. $5 eBook / $11 Paperback at Amazon

Surviving Baby Colic: Support for You and Your Crying Baby

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And Tango Makes Three

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Guess How Much I Love You

by Sam McBratney, illustrated by Anita Jeram The perfect shower gift for a new mother (or even as a gift for a seasoned mom), this is a positive, peaceful book touting the true love between a child and her parent. Truly a classic that will help storytime double as a great opportunity to bond. $5 at Amazon

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Prenatal Yoga for an Easier Natural Birth |by Jensen Wheeler Wolfe Little Yoga Mat

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You already know how yoga can help improve flexibility and calm your nerves. But, did you know a prenatal yoga practice can also set you up for an easier birth?

The National Institute of Health reports that mothers who practiced yoga during pregnancy experienced decreased preterm labor, fewer instances of low birth weight, and significantly lower cases of hypertension.

The health benefits are plenty. Plus, it’s fun to spend time with other women who have the same hopes, enthusiasm, cravings, fears, aches, and pains.

breathing During the different stages of labor, sometimes the only aspect you can control is your breath.

Prenatal classes help prepare you with calm, focused breathing. You’ll learn basic meditation and deep diaphragm breath work, reducing anxiety and helping you stay centered and focused. This will keep your energy in check and give you stamina for the long labor haul. And if your birth doesn’t go exactly as planned, your yoga practice will help you surrender to the situation and field what comes with less anxiety.

muscle control Standing poses, a core part of any prenatal class, ground the body, strengthen the legs and focus on posture. The extra belly weight can throw your alignment out of whack. Pregnant women need to learn how to carry themselves differently to protect their backs. These abilities, plus the breathing techniques and added flexibility, are invaluable in the throes of contractions when you’ll need to relax and keep the birth channel open.

managing discomforts Many moms experience physical discomfort when pregnant and have a tough time getting the rest so badly needed. According to the Mayo Clinic, studies suggest that prenatal yoga can improve sleep and decrease lower back pain, nausea, headaches, and shortness of breath.

what to expect with prenatal yoga A good prenatal yoga class is vigorous and gentle. Class generally begins with a check in where expecting moms share their due dates and stats. Stretching, kneeling, and standing poses get the heart rate going. A certified prenatal teacher knows what’s safe; but you should always be cautious and listen to your body.

Don’t do anything that feels uncomfortable.

Twists, backbends, lying on your belly and inversions are not wise. If you are not feeling up to class, give yourself permission to go home.

Sometimes a nap is a better idea.

Class ends with Savasana, a restorative (resting) pose. The modification for pregnancy is to lie on one side with plenty of bolsters, blankets, or props to protect the belly and joints.

Savasana is quite rewarding after a physically challenging class. You’ll appreciate the rest!

The benefits of a steady practice (once or twice a week) during your pregnancy can really impact your pregnancy and birth. Your body can even tap into the reserve of strength you’ve built and give you energy for weeks afterwards.

And pretty soon, you can sign up for your first Mommy and Me Yoga class!

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Encouraging M indfulness

in Children |by Monisha Vasa, M.D.

Can we actually teach our children how to be mindful? Or are we just trying to preserve the inherent consciousness that they already seem to have? In other words--is mindfulness truly taught, or is it just “unlearned” over time?

I remember watching my children eat when they were four or five years old. If given a cookie, they would turn the cookie delicately over and over in their hands. They would study the texture and composition with their eyes. They might inhale the chocolaty scent.

All before taking a single bite. And when they started to eat, they would savor each mouthful, thoroughly enjoying themselves. And the most amazing thing--when their tummies were full, they would put the cookie down and move on, not feeling compelled to continue eating if they were no longer hungry.

I find that young children often already have the inherent knowledge of how to live mindfully—it’s often simply what they do without knowing any differently. They linger on their walks, observing the flowers, turning over rocks, running when their bodies feel like accelerating, spinning around when their hearts feel like turning.

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But these days, when I take them on walks, I am aware of the homework that needs to be completed, or bedtime looming. I urge them to hurry. I start to accelerate in my head. If we don’t get back home in time, we won’t fin-

ish dinner and homework in time. If dinner and homework don’t get done, bedtime will be delayed. If we miss our window of opportunity for bedtime, they won’t fall asleep.

If they don’t fall asleep, they won’t wake up in time for school. If we are late for school, I will be late for work. And so on and so forth until I am spinning into the catastrophic implications for the next day, rather than being present for the walk that we are on in the here and now. With the tension in my body and my rushed voice, I put a screeching halt to searching for roly-polys and blowing the dandelions.

Of course we have to balance our mindfulness practices with the logistical needs of day to day life. But I realize I often start to fall into a pattern of hurrying them when hurrying isn’t necessary, rushing them when we have time.

Part of this frantic pace is because our kids are often over-scheduled or over-committed. Part of this rushing comes from feeling frazzled ourselves, and projecting that onto our kids.

So these days, my goal isn’t necessarily to teach my kids how to be mindful. It’s to get myself out of their way. I try to allow them time to play. To explore. To rest. To breathe.

To just be.

It is not easy as they get older, and they are pulled in multiple directions, as are we. It often feels like we are juggling a million balls in the air at once and they are all about to come

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crashing down. But we try our best to honor the time and space for them to just be who they are, because that is when we find their most centered selves emerging. Or perhaps that is when we are most able to notice.

Here are five tips for preserving mindfulness in our children: 1. Allow for plenty of unscheduled down time:

Kids may complain of getting bored, or you may see them get restless. It is important for children to become aware of these emotional states and see them through on their own.

Consider refraining from stepping in with solutions or ideas. This process helps them to learn that they can sit with all sorts of emotions, and that emotional states come and go. Often periods of intense creativity arise from boredom and quiet.

2. Model mindfulness:

Make time for your own mindfulness practice.

Whether you have a formal sitting practice or try to implement conscious awareness throughout your day, make it a priority. Kids will do what they see us do, more than they will listen to what we say. Use your practice as a springboard to discuss setting intentions, or cultivating gratitude for the small and big blessings of our lives: “I am grateful for the fact that we are all able to sit down together for dinner today.”

3. Ask lots of questions:

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Ask questions that encourage children to connect to their senses. “What does the air after today’s storm smell like to you?” or “What do you see in the clouds today?” Using our senses or awareness of our breathing is a way to connect immediately to the present moment. We can also ask our kids questions to consider

other people’s feelings, or their impact on others. For example, “There was a new boy in class today? What do you think that was like for him?”

4. Manage your expectations:

Kids may not always be in the mood to discuss big picture ideas like gratitude and compassion. Use kid friendly language and consider bringing up such topics in casual passing, or at night before bed when they are relaxed. Some kids may even be open to short meditation practices, like focusing on breath or the flame of a candle. Some kids may not be. It is ok to be brief, or to let it go if they are not receptive in a given moment. We are just planting seeds.

Even the introduction of mindfulness to their developing minds can be helpful.

5. Discover opportunities for compassion:

Mindfulness ultimately is one tool to recognize our interdependence, and find ways to relate to one another with an open heart. Discover opportunities for kindness and compassion within your family, and in the larger community. This could mean involving children in a simple service project, or making it a point to use positive, kind language with those we come across.

The amazing thing about the process of “teaching” kids mindfulness, is that it is a journey for child and parent alike. Teacher becomes student becomes teacher, as we together deepen the process of occupying our bodies and living our lives as they unfold before us. There are no mistakes, no right ways or wrong ways, just the ways that work for each family. Let us encourage our children, just as they encourage us, to cultivate a more curious and fully lived life.

The process itself is a gift and a blessing for all of us.

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mi amour Valentine’s Day can be a tricky holiday among natural parents. Some hate the commercialism and waste…. not to mention the unrealistic expectations on the men in our lives. But others see it as a chance to turn consumerism on its ear and show Mother Nature some love, by giving no-waste gifts or supporting Fair Trade or eco-conscious businesses.

So if you “heart” shopping on February 14th, here are some of our sweeter, greener picks!

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Flowers: Give a potted plant instead. Think of a stunning orchid or lucky bamboo. Lilies and ivy reduce indoor air pollution. If only a bouquet of cut flowers will do, go organic with a company like Organic Bouquet.

Fair Trade Chocolate: The Fair Trade certification lets you know that farming families earned a fair wage for their work and that environmentally sustainable practices were used.

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Cards: Make your own! Handmade is from the heart. Pull out the construction paper and get creative! Or try printing our Valentine’s Day lollipop covers and pair with your child’s favorite organic lollipops.

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E Sweeter Treats Treats are fun, but they don’t have to be completely awful for you too. In moderation, these sweet treats are a better choice. A) LÄRABAR minis B) YumEarth Organics Gummy Bears C) Enjoy Life Not Nuts Mountain Mambo D) Don’t Go Nuts Snack Bars E) Brothers-ALLNatural Fruit Crisps Prices vary.

Mimi Rattle Bright hearts of pink and red bring vibrant color to this water-based stained wooden rattle. All HABA toys exceed international safety regulations, and the company was the first toymaker in Germany to pass the ecological audit, using sustainable forestry. $12 at HABA

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Colorful & Fun Recycled Tableware Made in the USA from recycled milk jugs, and designed with early eaters in mind, Re-Play tableware is never made with BPA, BPS or other phenols of concern.

With a color to match any event theme, decor, or color-loving child, you can be sure that they will stay vibrant and not fade over time. Prices vary at Re-Play

Pink Elephants Elephants represent strength, wisdom, and good luck - perfect for tomorrow’s trailblazer. This darling pink dress is made from soft and comfortable organic cotton. $32 at Tumblewalla

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Nutritional Nuggets Expert Christina Towle answers your questions!

Tabitha R: Our sons, ages 5 and 3, are going through a picky stage. My mother-in-law said my husband went in and out of being a picky eater a few times growing up. She always let him eat what he wanted (within reason), and he came around to where he likes a great variety of food and is overall a healthy eater. While I mostly agree with her philosophy, I also know that their growing bodies need nutrition. What can I do to balance this situation? Thanks!

Dear Tabitha, A struggle for us moms for sure—making carrots, cucumbers, & chickpeas as appealing for our children as cake, cookies, and candy!

Here are a few tips that I’ve practiced that will give you some control over your boys’ eating habits so you won’t have to depend completely on hope for the future...

1. Train taste buds. Start early and introduce

kids to plain tastes. Best case is upon introduction to solid food, but it’s never too late.

Choose foods like steamed broccoli with a little sea salt and pure butter, mashed sweet potato with a hint of maple syrup, cucumber with lemon & avocado. If children are exposed to sweet simplicity (rather than overdressed, artificially sweetened dressings, dips, entrees etc.) they will lean toward healthy food because junk food will taste too

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sweet, heavy, or unnatural. Win! 2. Mistakenly, some children have been

turned off from healthy eating by being offered food that doesn’t taste good. If a child is introduced to an apple that is shipped across borders, bruised, and chalky, the child’s opinion of fruit will not be favorable. However, if a child is introduced to an apple that is local and in-season [with perhaps a dusting of cinnamon], they will enjoy the taste and will then choose fruit going forward.

3. If it’s not possible to introduce high-qual-

ity foods all the time and/or you’re like most of us moms and on-the-run, discover brands that supply nutrition along with taste. There are some “taste like dessert” protein and green powder brands I use for my son - mix them with a banana and milk-of-choice and you have a great smoothie that’s complete with nutrition. There are also all-natural gummy supplements that can help round out your child’s nutrition.

Kristi M: I’ve typically been a grazer when it comes to food. However, I just started the Whole30 eating plan, and it encourages eating more like 3 meals a day. They say snacking can disrupt the normal functioning of leptin, insulin, and glucagon and can inadvertently cause you to overeat when your hormones are out of sync. At first I was worried I wouldn’t be able to make it

without snacks, but I’m experiencing less of that jittery feeling when I needed to eat. In fact, I’m feeling sustained longer. I guess it’s working properly. My only concern is that I thought grazing was better for your metabolism. Can you shed some light on this?

Great question, Kristi! With so much conflicting nutritional advice out there, I understand that it can certainly be overwhelming and confusing. That is why I tell clients to try their best to listen to their bodies; have confidence that the body will tell you when it feels hungry, full, vibrant, light, or slow. It takes a little time to tune in, but once you do, you’ll naturally practice what feels best and is best for your body.

Most of us use the word, “metabolism” without really knowing what it means. It’s not a place in the body that you can pinpoint or control. Rather, it’s a fluctuating process of how the body absorbs and breaks down foreign substances – from food, chemicals, pollution, etc.

Metabolism functions best when the body is running on good fuel (high-quality food; fresh oxygen; sunlight). Metabolism functions poorly when it has too much toxicity to process, break down, and eliminate. So as long as you’re doing the best you can for your body and living well (as you seem to be with whole eating) you’re metabolism will function at slimming speed!

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|by Liza Huber

Chicken Chili with Black Beans & Veggies Ingredients • 1 pack of nitrate & nitrite free Turkey or Pork Bacon - cook & chop (reserve some for garnish) • 2 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil • 2 pounds ground chicken • 1 lg yellow onion - chop • 1 lg organic green bell pepper - wash & chop • 1 large organic red bell pepper - wash & chop • 6 cloves garlic - minced • 1/4 cup organic chili powder • 1 tablespoon organic ground cumin • 2 teaspoons organic paprika

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2 teaspoons dried organic oregano 3 tablespoons organic tomato paste 2 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa powder 1 28 ounce glass jar organic crushed tomatoes 2 ½ cups organic low-sodium chicken stock, plus more if needed 2 15-ounce cans organic black beans - drain and rinse well few dashes organic cayenne pepper (optional) Kosher Salt or Pink Himalayan Sea Salt organic avocado, scallion, jalapeno and grated cheddar cheese for garnish (optional)

Directions

water if the mixture begins to clump. Add 1. Pour 1 tablespoon of extra virgin olive oil into a the chicken stock and bacon, simmer for 5 mins. large pot or a dutch oven and heat on medium- 4. Add the chicken, cocoa powder, tomatoes and high. Add the ground chicken and cook until beans. Bring to a boil over medium-high heat. no longer pink, about 4 minutes. Constantly Reduce heat to low, partially cover and let break up the chicken while cooking with a simmer for about 1 1/2 hours. Add a little more wooden spoon or the end of a spatula so the chicken stock if chili is too thick. pieces stay nice and small. Transfer the cooked 5. Before serving, season to taste with salt and chicken to a bowl and wipe out the pot. add a few dashes of cayenne pepper if you 2. Add the remaining 1 tablespoon of extra virgin like your chili spicy (I do!). Serve topped with olive oil to the pot and heat over medium-high. chunks of avocado, bacon, chopped scallion, Add the onion and chopped peppers. Reduce and, if you really like it spicy, some chopped heat to medium and cook for 5 minutes, or jalapeno. If serving to a toddler, leave out the until softened. Add garlic and 1 teaspoon of cayenne and jalapenos. salt, cook for another 2 minutes.

6. Enjoy! This chili will stay fresh in an airtight 3. Add chili powder, cumin, oregano, paprika and container for up to 3 days in the fridge and up tomato paste. Cook for 5 minutes. Add a little to 3 months in the freezer.

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Zucchini Chia Seed Muffins These muffins are so delicious and a great way to sneak in some extra veggies! Perfect for breakfast or as an afterschool snack.

Ingredients • 1 ½ cups organic unbleached all-purpose flour • 1 cup organic cane sugar • 2 teaspoons baking powder • 2 tablespoons organic ground chia seed • 1/4 teaspoon baking soda • 1/4 teaspoon salt • 1 teaspoon organic cinnamon • 2 organic eggs • 1/3 cup organic canola oil • 1 teaspoon organic vanilla extract • 2 large organic zucchini - wash & shred - about 6-8oz (soak up excess water with paper towels) • ½ cup water

• 1 cup chopped organic walnuts, with a little extra to top muffins • organic cooking spray

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each spot about 3/4 full. Add some of the Pre-heat the oven to 400 degrees and lightly extra chopped walnuts to the tops of the spray a muffin pan with the cooking spray. muffins. If you have any empty spots, fill In a large bowl, add the flour, sugar, baking halfway with water. powder, baking soda, chia seed, salt and 6. Place muffin pan into the oven on the cinnamon. Sift mixture with a fork to middle rack and bake for 18-20 minutes, evenly distribute the ingredients. until golden brown and a toothpick In a separate bowl, add the eggs, oil, vanilla, inserted into the center of the muffin comes water and zucchini. Stir to blend. out clean.

Add egg mixture to the flour mixture and 7. Remove from the oven and let stand for 5 mix with a wooden spoon until ingredients minutes. are evenly distributed. Add the walnuts and 8. Enjoy! These zucchini muffins will stay stir. The batter will be somewhat thick. fresh wrapped tightly or sealed in an Spoon batter evenly into muffin pan, filling airtight container for 3-5 days.

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Directions

Golden Turmeric Milk This delicious drink is packed with nutrients and antioxidants. While all of the ingredients are healthy, the Turmeric is the nutritional powerhouse. It is anti-inflammatory, aids in digestion, improves skin, fights Alzheimer’s, reduces bloating and can help prevent cancer. I try to have this drink 5 times per week – it’s really nice before bedtime.

Golden Turmeric Milk has been around forever and you can find many different variations on the recipe. This is how I like to make it:

Ingredients

Directions

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1. Place all ingredients into a small pot and warm over low heat for 2 minutes. Stir well with a wire whisk to incorporate ingredients.

2. Enjoy!

Makes one serving.

1 cup organic unsweetened coconut milk 1 teaspoon organic turmeric 1 teaspoon organic cinnamon 2 dashes organic cayenne pepper 1 heaping tablespoon organic raw honey

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Conscious Kitchen Almond Cream Ingredients & Supplies • • • •

2 cups raw almonds 4 cups water High powered blender Nutmilk bag, or cheesecloth/single layer cloth napkin and a fine mesh strainer • Large glass measuring cup • Glass storage container(s)

Directions 1. Soak raw almonds overnight with a pinch of sea salt.

2. Rinse the almonds and place into the blender with the water (divide the nuts and use a total of 7 cups of water if you’d prefer almond milk) 3. Pulse until finely pureed. Try not to blend so long as to heat the blender.

4. Strain in a nutmilk bag or lined strainer and store!

5. Fresh almond cream is delicious and will last for about a week in the fridge.

Freeze into cubes for perfectly portioned coffee creamer or for use in recipes and a longer shelf-life.

6. Separation is natural. Shake before using.

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Homemade Ghee Ingredients & Supplies • 2 lbs unsalted organic and/or grass-fed butter • Fine mesh strainer • A clean, fine natural fabric (a single layer cloth napkin or lightweight hand towel will do!)

Directions 1. Slice butter into smaller, more easily melted chunks. Place fabric into the strainer and set it on (or near) large measuring cup.

2. Place chunked butter into pan.

3. Melt over a medium heat, stirring occasionally to help evenly melt the butter.

4. The butter will begin to separate and start to bubble (this is good). Give it a stir and reduce the heat to medium-low.

5. The butter will begin to bubble more, increasing in size. The milk solids will start separating out, causing the butter to become clearer. Stir occasionally if you like, and it may be helpful to stir around the edges of the pan to keep the solids from sticking.

6. Watch as the bubbles become clearer, and

• Large glass measuring cup • Medium saucepan • Glass storage container(s)

clearer. They will nearly disappear as the milk solids sink to the bottom and filter out of the clarified butter above. Continue to stir and scrape the edges of the pan.

7. At this point, the pan will begin to bubble once more, first larger bubbles and then smaller. When it comes to an almost frothy bubbling, remove the pan from the heat.

8. Allow the pan to cool for just a few minutes and then pour through fabric-lined strainer.

You’ve just made ghee!

9. Pour into clean storage containers and you’re all set!

Ghee, unlike butter, will not spoil when left out.

Store in a cabinet (or other dark, cool space) for up to three months (though it may last longer!)

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Paleo-Friendly Cupcakes Recipe by Maggie Chilton of Maxwell Designs

Completely paleo-friendly and perfect for a baby shower — or just because! These cupcakes are moist, coconutty, and have a lovely texture.

A #846 piping tip is suggested to give height and sophistication to the cupcakes. Add a touch of fun with embellishments from India Tree and you’re set!

Cupcakes Ingredients

Ingredients

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• 16 oz bag of organic fair trade icing sugar (or 4 cups) • 1/2 cup grass fed butter, salted • Reconstituted powdered coconut milk • A dash or two of flavouring (Vanilla or hazelnut would compliment this cupcake!)

1/2 cup plus 2 tablespoons coconut flour 4 eggs 2 egg whites 1/2 cup coconut sugar 1 cup coconut milk 2 teaspoons vanilla extract 1/2 teaspoon baking soda

Directions 1. Preheat oven to 350°F . Line pan for a dozen cupcakes.

2. Mix together all ingredients until evenly mixed.

3. Scoop equal amounts batter into a tin with paper cupcake linings.

4. Bake for 25-30 minutes, or until the tops are firm to the touch.

5. Remove and let cool completely before icing.

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Icing

Directions 1. Start with 1/2 a cup of soft butter, use a paddle and cream the butter to get it smooth.

2. To prevent lumps, put sugar through a metal sieve before adding. Add a half cup at a time until you have added 2-3 cups, add a dash of milk and 1-2 teaspoons of flavouring depending on taste.

3. If it tastes too “buttery,” add another half cup of icing sugar and taste again. I prefer this method to a recipe, as your taste buds will tell you when the taste is just how you like it.

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Blueberry Macaroons Recipe by Karolina Eleonóra

of The Raw Desserts Kitchen

These sandy macaroons have a high melt-in-your-mouth factor. Small bites are recommended.

Great with tea!

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100 g cacao butter 1 cup cashew nuts 1/2 cup + 1/4 cup coconut flour 1/4 cup lúcuma 1/4 cup blueberry powder

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2 pinches Himalayan salt 1/8 t vanilla from pod 2 T banana 3 T agave nectar frozen blueberries

Directions 1. Slowly melt the Cacao butter in a water bath.

2. Make a flour of the Cashews in a blender.

Add all of the ingredients except the frozen Blueberries to a food processor and process until you have a dough.

3. Using an ice cream scoop, form macaroons

and put 4-6 frozen blueberries into the macaroon (as many as you can fit) and put extra dough underneath to seal.

4. Dry them in a dehydrator oven for 4-5 hours.

5. You can also put them in the fridge for 4 hours before eating.

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Beyond Morning Sickness

Understanding Hyperemesis Gravidarum |by Jessica Martin-Weber The Leaky Boob Being careful not to jostle me, my nurse expertly uncapped the extra port on my PICC line and screwed on the syringe with 4mg of Ondansetron (brand name, Zofran), a powerful antiemetic commonly used for cancer patients going through chemotherapy to help control their vomiting.

The emesis basin next to me wasn’t even half full. I hadn’t had enough by mouth yet that day to fill anything, but after properly disposing of the syringe, she charted the little bit of bile and water in the basin before rinsing it and putting it back within my reach. She asked me if I thought I could eat yet, but she and I both knew that wasn’t likely. I told her I would try anyway. In an optimistic attempt at getting food in me, she asked what sounded good and suggested the one food that had stayed down for me the day before.

Willing to try, my reply was cut short as heaves started, and I reached for the basin knowing my stomach wouldn’t rest until whatever happened to be in there, at this point just bile, had been evacuated. When I finally laid back on the pillow again, worn out, sore, and having deposited bile and blood in the emesis basin, she suggested we give the Ondansetron a little more time in my system before we talk about taking anything in by mouth. We both knew I would

have to try eventually. My morning weigh-in showed I had lost another 2 pounds, bringing my total weight loss that week to 12 pounds.

Things were getting serious.

I didn’t have cancer. I was just pregnant. And I didn’t have morning sickness, I had hyperemesis gravidarum.

Before we ever get pregnant, most women have an idea of how we will spend our time gestating. We envision planning out our space to welcome our growing family. Conscientious, many of us intend to eat well, have regular prenatal care, remain appropriately active, and move forward with our lives with the addition of knowing we are growing another person even as we deal with some minor discomforts that go along with the privilege of carrying and growing life.

Our intentions are to do everything “right” from the very beginning, to give our offspring the best possible start in life. We do our research, learn how to arrange our lives accordingly for this little person we already love so much, purchase the safest products, explore how to reduce the toxins our families are exposed to, and educate ourselves to make informed decisions that will help make space for

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Beyond Morning Sickness the healthy, happy homes we imagine for our loved ones.

That was certainly my plan. I looked forward to the care of a midwife and a planned home birth, imagining what it would be like to eat a healthy, balanced diet to grow my baby. Already a physically active person, I was certain I would maintain my activity level and even learn new ways for me to engage my whole mind and body not only for my well being but for my children-to-be. In my mind, there was no doubt that I would have a drug-free pregnancy and birth. Everything would go according to the books, I would be mindful of everything I put in my body and eliminate any unnecessary risk. A headache would be something I could suffer through before risking exposing my baby to some pharmaceuticals that 20 years from then would turn out to have caused her some kind of brain damage or given her cancer. I would do everything natural and avoid putting any pharmaceuticals into my body as I grew my babies.

It was a good plan. But it couldn’t be my reality.

All the ginger, crackers, small frequent meals, essential oils, slippery elm, papaya enzymes, wild yam root, acupuncture, chiropractic, and every other sage advice that helps ease morning sickness failed me. My midwives, obstetricians, naturopath, herbalist, friends, and my husband looked into and tried everything to help me.

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Over the course of 16 years and 6 children, yes, I was crazy enough to do this 6 times, I have tried every remedy, every herb, every cleanse between pregnancies, every gut healing diets (gluten-free, GAPS, you name it), had every test (no, I have not tested positive for h.pylori the three times I’ve been tested), thyroid levels,

meditation, therapy, and more, without relief from HG. Some of my friends on the support boards for moms with HG found relief with these protocols. Most of us had to go for those big, scary, pharmaceuticals though. My personal drug protocol cocktail doses me with more medication in a single day of my pregnancy than I would take in a year of not being pregnant.

Recently the Duchess of Cambridge, Kate Middleton, has brought attention and awareness to hyperemesis gravidarum through her two pregnancies though even with official announcements from the royal family and her medical providers, much of the media continued to call it severe morning sickness.

An understandable mistake to a degree, however, HG isn’t just bad morning sickness with a little bit of nausea and vomiting. It isn’t comforting to a mother that it is a sign of her pregnancy sticking due to strong hormones, HG has proven fatal for some women and has ended many very wanted pregnancies. There is nothing comforting about feeling your body die and fear for your growing baby. If you’re wondering what the difference is and if you could possibly be suffering from something more than morning sickness on a kind of ego trip, here are some indicators of hyperemesis gravidarum as put forth by the Help HER (Hyperemesis Education and Research) Foundation: HG often recurs and follows similar patterns in future pregnancies, though severity may vary each time.

• Anemia • Body odor (from rapid fat loss & ketosis)

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Confusion Decreased urination Dehydration Dry, furry tongue

• Excessive salivation • Extreme fatigue • Fainting or dizziness • Food aversions • Gall bladder dysfunction • Headache • Hypersensitive gag reflex • Increased sense of smell • Intolerance to motion/noise/light • Jaundice • Ketosis • Liver enzyme elevation

• Loss of skin elasticity • Low blood pressure • Overactive thyroid or parathyroid • Pale, waxy, dry skin • Rapid heart rate • Rapid weight loss of 5% or more (from pre-pregnancy weight) • Secondary anxiety/ depression • Vitamin/electrolyte deficiency • Vomiting of mucus, bile or blood

inside me, and acknowledge the risk I took in taking medications not intended for pregnancy.

A risk I made peace with, without it my babies and I most certainly would have died of starvation and dehydration induced organ failure. I had to settle for us just surviving. For me, my 5 beautiful home births and holding my 6 strong and healthy daughters have been healing and powerful in reclaiming my journey into motherhood back from HG . I feel incredibly blessed by that, but not all of my HG sisters get that opportunity to heal.

If your pregnancy includes any combination these indicators, you can find help at helpher. org and with your health care provider. With proper and aggressive care management that focuses on prevention and treatment, often the mores serious risks of HG can be controlled.

Whether we find ourselves facing pregnancy induced hypertension, preeclampsia, placenta previa, HELLP syndrome, PUPPP (Pruritic urticarial papules and plaques of pregnancy), gestational diabetes, or anything else that drastically alters the course of reality from the vision we had is difficult.

Even though we know things will be different than we had imagined, it is a tangible loss to have what should be an exciting and beautiful time with minor discomforts turn into something frightening and alienating. I have had to grieve, several times over, the loss of the pregnancies I had always hoped for, the time of health and bonding with my baby as she grew

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Breastfeeding Myths

“Breastfeeding is natural.” Sound familiar?

If you assume that breastfeeding is natural, it doesn’t take a leap of faith to accept that breastfeeding must be easy.

Why, then, do so many mothers describe breastfeeding as hard? In reality, making milk is natural, but breastfeeding is a skill that babies (and moms) must learn. Some babies enter this world knowing just what to do, but most need a bit of practice. Knowing that myths masquerading as facts can undermine the success of even the most ardent mom, we aim to separate fact from fiction regarding the 10 most common myths.

1. “Engorgement is normal.”

It’s easy to confuse breast fullness—which is normal—with breast engorgement, which can hint at a problem that will only worsen if ignored.

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After your baby is born, your blood carries the fluid and nutrients needed for milk production to your breasts, causing your breasts to swell.

Frequent breastfeeding or milk expression (by hand or with a pump) relieves the swelling and softens the breasts. If feedings are infrequent, delayed, or missed, your breasts can overfill and engorgement can occur. Classic signs of engorgement include swollen, hot, painful

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breasts and a low-grade fever (less than 100°F or 37.7°C).

You can prevent engorgement by breastfeeding as soon as possible after birth; breastfeeding “on request,” in response to your baby’s first signs of hunger (sucking on fingers or fists) rather than on a strict schedule; breastfeeding at least 8–12 times in each 24 hours; and hand expressing or pumping to relieve fullness.

2. “Pain is normal.”

Many new mothers describe breastfeeding as “painful” or “uncomfortable,” but the feeling should occur only at the start of a feeding and last only a few seconds. Once a mother gets accustomed (after several days or weeks) to the stretching sensation that occurs when her baby latches on, breastfeeding will cease to hurt.

If the pain persists throughout the feeding, it can signal a poor latch. Trying to breastfeed “through the pain” will only result in a still-hungry baby and a damaged nipple. Break the suction by sliding your finger into the corner of your baby’s mouth, remove your baby from the breast, and try again. Mothers who are unable to achieve a pain-free latch are urged to get help from someone trained to help moms and babies breastfeed, such as an international board certified lactation consultant (IBCLC).

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3. “Babies cry when they need to be fed.”

While it’s true that your baby’s cry can signal hunger, crying is a late sign of hunger. Watch, instead for early signs of hunger, such as sucking on fingers or fists, smacking lips, squirming, and fussing. Feed your baby before she starts to cry.

If you baby is calm, she is more likely to latch on well and breastfeed. Babies who reach the point of crying before they are fed often fall asleep at the breast after a short time and miss out on the nutrients and calories they need to grow.

4. “Latch is more important than position.”

Position and latch go hand-in-hand. It’s hard to achieve a good latch when your baby is positioned poorly. The best breastfeeding positions are the ones that work for you and your baby. Regardless of which position you choose for a feeding, make sure your baby is well-supported and facing your breast. Consider how you position yourself to eat—facing your meal—and place your baby the same way. This will allow your baby to get a good and deep latch, the necessary mouth full of breast, and a belly full of milk.

5. “Many moms don’t make enough milk.”

“Not enough milk” is one of new moms’ top fears (see the whole list here).

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It is also the number one reason moms say they stop breastfeeding sooner rather than later.

While it’s hard to measure (and easy to worry about) what you can’t see, there are other ways to know that your baby is getting enough to eat.

From day 1 you can watch your baby’s poopy diapers. Remember, nothing comes out the bottom unless something goes in the top! You can be sure your baby is getting enough to eat if your baby has at least one stool a day on days 1 and 2 and three or more stools a day by day 3.

A stool is a stain at least the size of your baby’s fist or at least 1 teaspoon of solid material. The

color of your baby’s stool is just as telling as the number of stools. Your baby’s stool should be black on days 1 and 2, green on days 3 and 4, and yellow by day 5.

6. “Inadequate weight gain is common.”

Knowing how much weight babies typically lose and gain during their first weeks of life can help you know if your baby is gaining too little, too much, or just the right amount of weight.

Newborns lose, on average, 5 percent of their birth weight during the first five days after birth.

Some babies lose as little as 0–2 percent and some lose as much as 7–10 percent. Weight loss greater than 10 percent or continued weight loss after day 5 can be cause for concern and should be reported to your baby’s health care provider.

Most babies are back to their birth weight by 10 days of age and gain between 4–8 ounces a week during the remainder of the first three months. It is important to remember that every baby is different and some will gain more slowly than others. Unless there are other signs of illness, slow weight gain alone is usually not a cause for concern. If you are worried about your baby’s weight, talk with your baby’s health care provider.

7. “A lot of breastfed babies will need for-

mula supplements.”

Although 9 in 10 mothers initiate breastfeeding, less than 2 in 10 breastfeed exclusively for six months (as recommended by health care organizations worldwide). Despite compelling evidence of the benefits of exclusive breastfeeding, work/school demands, illness of mom/ baby, pain, and low milk supply are among the many reasons mothers cite for giving formula supplements. The fact is, most mothers are able to breastfeed their babies exclusively. Although formula supplements are widely used, their use is seldom medically indicated. If a mother or

Breastfeeding Myths baby is unable to breastfeed, a mother’s own milk (MOM) in a bottle is the next best option, followed by donor milk.

If these options are not viable, artificial infant formula can be used. However, mothers are urged to talk with their baby’s health care provider before offering formula supplements, so that, together, you can develop a feeding plan that best meets your needs and the needs of your baby.

8. “How much milk you pump is how much milk you make.”

It’s easy for a hungry baby to trigger a let-down; it’s a different story, when the “trigger” has to be plugged in and turned on. How much milk a mother expresses from her breasts (by hand or with a pump) is seldom a reflection of how much milk she makes—or her baby takes—at a feeding. When it comes to milk removal, nothing beats a baby! It’s not unusual for a baby to consume 4 or more ounces at a feeding, even when her mom can express only 1–2 at a session.

Like breastfeeding, milk expression is a skill that requires patience, practice, and persistence. In the beginning, you may get only enough milk to cover the bottom of the collection container.

Don’t worry. It can take days or weeks before you see an increase in the amount obtained.

Whether you are pumping one breast at a time or both breasts at once, you will want to pump for 3–5 minutes (or longer if milk is still flowing), then rest for 3–5 minutes. This will allow more milk to accumulate before you trigger another let-down. Repeat this process two or three times, until both breasts are soft. “Handson pumping” can also increase the amount you pump.

9. “You need to wait at least 2 hours after

you pump to breastfeed.”

The same rule that applies to breastfeeding applies to pumping: Watch your baby, not the clock, and feed your baby at the first sign of hunger. Your breasts are constantly producing milk, so there is no need to wait for even one minute after pumping before feeding your child.

In fact, the more milk you remove from your breasts by breastfeeding or pumping, the more milk you will make. Ongoing production ensures that there is milk available 24 hours a day 7 days a week—whenever your baby is hungry or thirsty.

Moms often mistake “soft” breasts for “empty” breasts, but breasts are never truly empty, they’re simply more or less full.

Moms, especially those returning to work or school and wanting to stockpile milk for later use, are urged to breastfeed first and pump afterwards. You can also pump in between feedings or whenever your breasts feel full. This will ensure that your baby gets the nutrients and calories she needs to grow, while you fill your freezer with milk!

10. “‘No leaking’ means ‘no milk.’”

Milk dripping (leaking) from your breasts is a sure sign that your body is making milk—hooray! Now you simply need to get the milk out of your breasts and into your baby. Once your baby acquires a feeding routine (about 6–12 weeks of age), leaking usually stops. Don’t panic! You’re not losing your milk. Your breasts have simply learned how much milk to make and when to make it.

Parents today have access to unlimited amounts of information—good, bad, and everything in between. Learn to separate fact from fiction and you will gain the knowledge and confidence you need to meet your breastfeeding goals.

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Heidi & MaryEllen

at home

Welcome Baby Sequoia

We’re delighted to share this birth story courtesy of Birth Without Fear. Birth Without Fear is an online treasure trove of real life birth stories from mothers of all walks of life.

Founder January Harshe started BWF as a simple passion to let women know they have choices in childbirth. It then evolved to become an inspiration and support to women and their families through their trying to conceive, pregnancy, birth and post partum journeys.

Photography by Santa Cruz Birth Photography

On Thursday at 12:30 a.m.

Heidi woke me up saying “Uh baby, my water broke.” I sat up to see the soaked sheet on her side of the bed. We did a few things around the house to get ready for labor and having everyone in our house, and then we tried to sleep. She was having regular contractions for a while, about 7 minutes apart consistently. Everything was too exciting for us to sleep, so we stayed in bed in the dark and talked for a while. I fell asleep for a bit before waking up around 6. We let our bosses know that we wouldn’t be showing up,

and talked to our midwives, doula, birth photographer, and acupuncturist.

The contractions almost stopped around 8:00, so we made an appointment with our acupuncturist for 9:15. She had worked with us throughout the conception and pregnancy, and we had planned to see her during labor as well. We stayed there for a couple of hours, and she worked on different acupuncture points to help encourage contractions and labor. She told us to go home and go on a walk, and do some pumping to get contractions started up again.

Heidi had also set up a visit from the woman who runs her prenatal singing circle Wombsong, so she came around 1:00 p.m. We expected to be laboring at that point, but since contractions were still pretty stalled, we were able to have a beautiful singing session with her and prepare ourselves mentally and emotionally for labor. It was a wonderful thing to do, and we are so grateful she was able to come to us.

After she left, we did some more pumping and walking and were able to get contractions going again, but they were not very regular.

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and what they would do (slow things down or speed them up). She is always so calm and reassuring, so it was nice to have her there. She was able to be there for a contraction or two and see how hard they were, but they were still 10-15 minutes apart. She had suggested Heidi take some valerian to help her sleep, and told her to rest and she would most likely see us in the morning.

After she went home, our doula Giselle arrived. Pretty soon Heidi started having very regular contractions, and throwing up after each one. The contractions got pretty serious, and Giselle and I started thinking Sunshine should come back. We timed the contractions and they were consistent every 4-5 minutes, so we told Sunshine she should come back. It had only been an hour since she left! She said she’d let her assistant Angela and our birth photographer Paige Driscoll (santacruzbirthphotography.com) know and they’d be at our house soon.

Right before they got to our house, Heidi was pretty desperate to be in the tub, which we’d started filling just a bit before that. Sunshine checked her and told her to get in, and Heidi told me to get in too. We stayed in the tub for a long while, getting through contractions and breathing. Heidi was doing what she needed to do, and Giselle was such an amazing support as well. She knew the right thing to say and do to help us both, and was great at encouraging Heidi and me through each contraction. There were times Heidi felt like giving up, but having the support of Giselle, Sunshine, and Angela seemed to help her.

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After a while in the tub (about 2 hours at that point), she was getting ready to push. Heidi started feeling like she didn’t have enough traction in the birth tub, since there was nothing to really hold onto, and she wanted to move. With the help of our very strong doula, we moved The midwives from the tub to the bed and Heidi placed her in our pushed some more. arms, and the I kept saying she first thing we did needed to go on was sing to her. the birthing stool so gravity could help her, even though her pushing was making some progress. After an hour on the bed, Heidi moved to the birthing stool and Sequoia was born on the stool after just 8 minutes. Sequoia was born at 3:21, 7 lbs. even and 19.5” long. The midwives placed her in our arms, and the first thing we did was sing to her. We sang a Kundalini Yoga chant, Long Time Sun, to her.

“May the long time sun shine upon you all love surround you and the pure, pure light within you guide your way home”.

We went back into the nursery bed with all 3 of us, and held her and both nursed her (this is possible because I induced lactation using the Newman-Goldfarb protocol). I was able to cut her cord. Eventually we all moved to our bigger bedroom and got cozy in bed together. Our midwife sat on our bed and did Sequoia’s exam there. Before we knew it everyone had cleaned up and left, and there we were… a family.

Photography by Santa Cruz Birth Photography

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Christina & Christopher

Welcome Christian Alexander

a fast, natural hospital birth

My second pregnancy was going fine until I got to 34 weeks. I had already started to dilate, but I had also been experiencing contractions.

At my 36 week visit, I was sent to labor and delivery to be monitored as I had dilated further and my contractions were 3 to 5 minutes apart.

We all thought that I was going to have the baby by the end of the day.

and 2 hours of pushing. I went about my day only having mild contractions here and there and feeling a lot of movement, all of which I chalked up to the pelvic. I decided that it was a great day to get Chloe out to the park before the storm rolled in that evening. I walked a mile and played on the equipment and still felt great.

By the time we got to L&D, my contractions slowed down to 8 to 10 minutes apart and I was showing no signs of progressing, so I was sent home. I had my mom pick up my 23 month old toddler, Chloe, for the night because at that point we all agreed that my contractions were being caused by stress and exhaustion. As the next couple weeks went by, I progressed more and I was still having on and off contractions, which they said was being caused by an irritable uterus.

Later that night, the the lightning lightning started to flash beautifully across started to flash beautifully the sky and I even stepped out on to the across the sky deck to take a video of it. Soon after I started feeling the urge to use the bathroom but each time I went nothing would come. The final time I sat down to try, I felt a gush of fluids come out. I figured with the little pushes that I had done to try to go to the bathroom it was probably just pee. I stood up and even more came out. My water had broken. I started making attempts to call my husband, who was working 2nd shift in a factory, as well as call my mom to get Chloe. After 6 attempts and one call to the security desk, I finally got a phone call from my husband that he was on his way.

On June 30th, 2014, I had my 38 week appointment and for once went in not feeling like I wanted to say, “Let’s get this baby out.” I hadn’t made much progress from the week before which disappointed me some but I was at least progressed further than I had with Chloe, who I went into labor and delivery only 1 cm dilated and had her after 17.5 hours of labor

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Contractions hadn’t really started yet, but with the storm rolling in I wanted to get to the hospital before things started getting wild. We were under a tornado warning and a severe thunderstorm warning.

On the way to the hospital, I wanted a quick drink and snack before I wouldn’t be able to eat anymore (darn you hospitals for torturing the pregnant women), and the attendant made the mistake of saying that I looked about due.

That’s when I said that I was in labor and we were on our way to the hospital. Meanwhile, my husband was asking me, if I was sure I was in labor. My water was leaking all over the place, so if I wasn’t in labor, then I was about to be.

We made it to the hospital at 1:30 am

We made it to the hospital at 1:30 am after driving through down pouring rain and a lot of bright lightning. I was 5 cm dilated and I was still doing great. They got us up to our room and the nurse (who was ever so patient and kind) started asking all sorts of questions. It was at this point that my contractions were to the point where I just wanted her out.

We finally finished, and I was at the point of considering an epidural (my original plan was natural), but the nurse (who remembered my birth plan, thankfully someone did!) insisted that we try the bath first. I agreed and she checked me again and I was still only 5 cm. Ugh, not another repeat of my daughter’s birth. No!

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I got into the bath and after a few minutes the nurse left to get some ice chips and water for me. That’s when things got really crazy. My

contractions were back to back and I started telling my husband that I felt like I needed to poop. I started feeling an involuntary bearing down sensation as well as a stretching sensation going on down below. I naturally started positioning myself for delivery even though I was very much oblivious to the fact that I was about to deliver because I had an epidural when I delivered Chloe.

I naturally started positioning myself for delivery even though I was very m u c h oblivious to the fact that I was about to deliver

My senses kicked in and I yelled at my husband, who was in a state of disbelief to get help and before I knew it there were people crowding into that tiny little bathroom as I was bracing a head in my hands.

They immediately tried to transfer me out of the tub but the baby was already coming out as the midwife stepped in.

The midwife tried to reassure me that “she” was ok. All I could say at the moment was “I thought I was having a boy!”

I was still standing in the tub as he was born and whisked out of the room by the staff. I was able to freely walk out of the tub (with umbilical cord still hanging) over to his warming table to see him.

Christian Alexander was born at 3:54 am July 1st, 2014 weighing in at 7 lbs. 2 oz. and 20 inches long.

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5 Ways to Move Yourself

to the Front Burner |by Bess O’Connor

We mothers mean well. We’re used to thinking of others and putting their needs first. Is my husband happy and satisfied in our marriage? Are the kids getting their fair share of my attention? Am I planning enough family activities? Are my home cooked meals healthy and delicious?

We are famous for putting everyone else first. And ourselves, well, we’ll get around to a massage for Mother’s Day, maybe. There’s something terribly wrong with this picture.

Yes, it is our duty to be the nurturer and caretaker of the family. But we also have a duty to look after ourselves. This does not mean taking anything away from the growth and success of the family that needs our care – it insures it.

Putting yourself first does not have to equate with putting anyone else last. By taking care of ourselves, physically, emotionally, and mentally, we become better mothers, better wives and overall better people.

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Balance is the key.

You know the saying; “You can’t love someone else if you don’t love yourself.” It’s a cliché, but one that deserves some thought.

What are the messages we are sending our children if we leave our happiness and health for very last (if at all)? What advice will you give your kids when they grow up about self-care? Actions speak louder than words – walk the talk.

I learned this lesson the hard way. With a husband and 3 kids under the age of 6, I was constantly catering to the needs of others and letting my own fall by the wayside.

It took a toll on my health and happiness and left me searching for a solution.

By the time my fourth baby arrived, I knew I had to do something different.

Here are a few things I discovered that still that work for me today:

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Taking Care of You 1. Wake up early and meditate. I know what you’re thinking. Many moms already have poor sleep habits. If you are one of them, try and experiment with different sleep methods to find a strategy to get your younglings to snooze through the night. My four kids were horrible sleepers. Truly the worst. Now they sleep soundly through the night from 8pm-7am. It took some trial and error, but there are solutions out there.

Morning is a very sacred time between the dream realm and waking life – a perfect time to meditate. Meditation is a way to clear the mind from the worries of the day and experience present moment awareness.

When you wake up early in the morning, simply lie there or sit down with your eyes closed and begin to breathe deeply and fully. If your mind begins to wander just bring your awareness back to the breath.

It’s as simple as that. Even if you don’t think you are meditating, you are still receiving the benefits.

2. Put ‘Mommy time’ on the schedule. Whether you’re a stay-at-home or working Mom, it’s important to make some ‘you’ time.

This can be an hour while the baby is asleep or if the kids are old enough, set up some boundaries around ‘mommy time.’ I typically give my kids a task and have them practice silence during this time for my peace of mind. This is not a chance to get caught up on work or complete a ‘to-do’ list, but more an opportunity for a muchneeded yoga DVD or even a hot soak in a salt bath with essential oils.

3. Self-massage. It can be difficult finding time to get a massage. Between childcare and the expense of going to a spa, we’re more likely 78

to trash the idea. Self-massage is an easy and practical way of receiving the benefits of massage without the hassle. This can be done before and/or after a bath. Start at your scalp and spend time consciously massaging each area of the body from head to toe. My rule for oils is that if you can eat it, then it’s safe for your skin. This routine has become so important to me that I’ve made a point to instill it in all my kids by teaching them (sans the 14 month old) how to practice self-massage. Sometimes I catch them during the day massaging their own feet and I can’t help but smile.

4. Tea time. This is another opportunity in the day when everything stops to settle down for tea time. Have your kids sit in a circle with you and enjoy a spot of warmish tea.

Just make sure their tea is herbal tea without caffeine of course. It’s a time to connect, check in with one another, express gratitude and set intentions for the rest of the day.

5. Ask for help. There are times when stress levels reach their peak. Hopefully before this happens you enlist the help of your family, friends or husband to pitch in.

Again, spend this time doing things that nourish your whole being, like going out into nature to get some fresh air and sunlight, walking on the beach, gardening, painting, or reading an inspirational book.

In the same ways that kids respond to loving attention, we too as adults reap emotional benefits from receiving care – even when we are our own caregivers. Pay attention to how you’re feeling throughout the day and listen to the signals your body is giving you. Take care of yourself, so you are able to properly take care of your precious tribe.

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The Top 10 Baby Items

{ You Can Live Without } |by Laura Saville

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The Soft Landing

It’s been a while since I had a wee one, but I can remember several totally useless things I thought I needed as a new mom, when what I really needed was to not buy them at all.

These are the top 10 baby items that say, “hello landfill!” all too often: 1. Matching crib bedding set with bumpers: Yeah, that went into storage about a week after we brought the baby home. Totally impractical. And the bumper pads are actually dangerous. As a matter of fact, the crib didn’t get used either…

2. New clothes: They were only used a handful of times before little boo grew out of them, so I should’ve just bought pre-owned. I’m SURE my baby wouldn’t care, and I would’ve saved a ton of money.

3. Diaper keeper: You know, I’m talking about that pretty thing that hangs on the outside of the crib. It was really the last thing I needed in my baby care routine. And just for looks??

Nah, I’ll pass.

is usually sprayed with brominated flame retardants. Obviously nothing I wanted to keep around.

7. White noise maker: Why did I spend $35 on this chunk of plastic when I could’ve used my extra air cleaner??

8. Baby bath tub: ALMOST useful, but not really. My pre-installed sink does the job just as well and that way we skipped the wasteful plastic (including those inflatable rings made from toxic PVC).

9. Changing table: Well, it looks pretty, but my couch and floor got WAY more attention.

Goodbye!

10. Peepee Teepee: The marketing says, “Place it over your baby boy’s area to prevent unexpected showers from making a mess during changing time.” We say just throw a towel over it. Sheesh!

These next gems are the especially grievous runners up that I did NOT purchase, thank you very much!

4. Specialized diaper pail: Expensive, stanking-diaper contraption is more like it. It was the thing I gave the most chances to. It never redeemed itself.

• Crib Dribbler: Good gosh, it’s an infant sized hamster waterer.

5. Plastic baby bottle sterilizer: Whoa, so unneeded and a bit scary. Hot soapy water gets the job done fine without microwaving plastic and causing hot spots and plastic breakdown.

• Crying analyzer: We all just need to learn how to speak baby. How hard is it?? I kid, I kid.

6. Breastfeeding pillow: The toxic fumes coming off of it almost knocked us both out.

Most are made from polyurethane foam, which is known to release formaldehyde and

• Giant hand pillows: I understand the sentiment, but just get a weighted blanket, okay?

• Gro-Hush: I’m pretty sure the babe wants you more than that noisified pad.

• Infant Safety Helmet (like the Thudguard): Baby really only needs a helmet if he’s riding his skateboard.

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Ivy writes: I have a cleaning question for you. We have a tub with sliding glass doors, sealed in with silicone or some similar substance. Unfortunately it has mold in it now and I can’t get it out. I’ve tried vinegar, tea tree essential oil, baking soda and more. Is there any hope to get rid of it, or would the silicone need to be redone?

GG: That’s a tough one, Ivy, in that you’ve already tried what I would recommend.

Normally, I would suggest filling a spray bottle with vinegar, adding a few tablespoons of baking soda and spraying it on the moldy surfaces. After letting it set for about an hour, scrub the area with an old toothbrush.

However, as is the case with commercial, bleach-based solutions, there is the issue of hidden mold lurking where you cannot see it – underneath the silicone. Your best option would be to remove the old, treat the area with the vinegar mixture, and then reseal.

Sorry I can’t give you more encouraging news than that, but mold can be a serious issue and I’m sure you want your family to be safe.

Good luck!

Sue writes: I get so confused about all the “green” jargon out there. My 12-year-old throws around words she hears at school and I nod, pretending to know what she’s

talking about, but the truth is, I’m not always sure. Can you explain what the word “sustainable” means? My daughter keeps pushing my husband and me to “adopt a more sustainable way of life.”

GG: I’m with you on this one, Sue! I even get confused sometimes. The thing is, sustainability can mean different things to different people. Some will say, “We have to shop locally to maintain our sustainability.” Others claim, “Zero waste is the only thing that will ensure a sustainable future.” Perhaps my favorite definition is “Meeting current needs without compromising the ability of future generations to meet their own needs.” In other words, as a parent, you take care of your family’s actual needs while keeping in mind the needs of your grandchildren. For me, that translates into eliminating as many disposable products and replacing them with reusable. From diapers to napkins to paper towels to paper/plastic dinnerware, I’m thinking of future generations by not depleting natural resources or adding to the growing landfill problem. Does that make sense?

It takes a little more effort, but after awhile, it all becomes second nature. I hope I cleared up a bit of the confusion for you and you’re able to meet your daughter’s sustainability expectations.

Hana Haatainen Caye, is a wife, mother, grandmother, and author of the book Vinegar Fridays, who shares her passion for common sense greener and healthier living.

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Baby Shower Craft

DIY : Wishes for Baby What better way to share the anticipation of a new little one than to have your baby shower guests write a keepsake for the Mother-to-Be! These well wishing cards add to the theme of the party, and they’ll be something Mom will treasure for a lifetime.

Materials: • A Printer • Cardstock (colors to match your theme) • Scissors • Ribbon • Tiny Clothespins • Fine Glitter & Craft Glue

Instructions: 1. Print this Template PDF file (Diaper, Bunny, & Monkey are included) on quality card stock. If you have trouble accessing the PDF, you can download the JPG here.

2. Cut out shapes and gather any additional supplies – pins, writing utensils, ribbon, etc.

3. Optional: Add glitter! Tiny glittery clothespins are a bit pricey, but their plain counterparts are not. With a little glitter and glue, you can make a bundle of your own for a fraction of the cost! Paint one side with craft glue and dip into glitter, then let dry.

4. On the day of the shower place the cards on a table or in a decorative box for guests. Use a small container to hold the pins and place them next to the cards – along with pens or pencils.

5. Securely hang a line or two of ribbon for your guests to hang their well wishes and predictions.

6. Save the cards for mom to put in baby’s keepsake box!

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