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2020! December 2020 • Volume 9 • Issue 4
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leading off: publisher’s note Well, one of the longest years ever has finally come to an end. 2020 will be no more when we print our next magazine. It has been a rough year and we have not been able to host any of our normal events. We have not been able to go to any events and meet our readers face to face. Schools are still closed or in hybrid mode and quite honestly, I think we are all going to be thankful when the ball drops on New Year’s Eve. Speaking of New Year’s Eve, we have made the decision to postpone our New Year’s at Noon Event this year with the idea that sticking 2,000 people in a room to end one of the worst years in recent memory could possibly be an even worse way to welcome in 2021.
Alongside our partner, Freedom First Credit Union, we have come up with New Year’s at Noon at Home, a virtual version of our annual celebration. We will be selling New Year’s bags around town throughout December for you to get your own bouncy balls, homemade noise makers, party hats and more. Then on New Year’s Eve, tune in on Facebook for a ball drop that will take place in homes all around the Valley! Stay tuned to our facebook page for more information on where you can get your kits. So one last time for 2020, Thank you for your support and thank you for reading! Merry Christmas!
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Inside December
Tween Daughter & Dad
How to connect and communicate with blossoming adults. Read on page 36
Kids to the Rescue Does your child know how to handle a medical emergency? Read these inspiring stories of children saving lives and learn how to help your child learn first aid safety skills.
ADHD & Exercise learn how to calm your child’s mind with proper exercise
Read on page 32
8 Local Events & Fun At Home
We urge families to be safe and carefully consider as they attend holiday and community events this winter. We want everyone to be able to celebrate AND be safe.
6 In The CommUNITY
Discover 4 great local organizations to donate time, money and supplies for this holiday season.
Read on page 24
38 Real Estate in 2021
Curtis Burchett explains what the market may look line for buyers and sellers in 2021.
44 Crystal Snowflakes
Grow your own magical snowflakes with this simple DIY science experiment
30 Rachel Reads
Holiday stories to share with your family.
21 Downsize Children’s Belongings
How to save space in your home
42 Kid Activities
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‘Noke Noteworthy news from around the Valley
Dickens of a Christmas 2020 Dickens of a Christmas has been a holiday tradition for the past 37 years. It’s an event that the community enjoys together and one that our downtown businesses rely on to bring a large audience to their doorsteps to shop and eat local. This year to comply with local mandates
Dickens of a Christmas has been reimagined as The Roanoke Times 25 Days of Dickens, November 24 - December 18, 2020!
Highlights include: The Elf on the Shelf® Adventure sponsored by Gentry Locke, Kids Pass for free admission into museums and attractions, Festive Downtown Lighting, Local Arts organizations performances in Elmwood Park, Santa’s Workshop featuring live Zoom with Santa, and much more.
This 100% FREE event will bring fun, festive activities and events to Downtown Roanoke.
More details can be found at DickensRoanoke.com.
and protect our community,
Santa’s Winter Wonderland Friday and Saturday Nights throughout December, Santa and Ms Clause will be hanging out at the Blue Ridge PBS Elf Village! Drive through the decorations on Tuesday through Thursday and Sundays.
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This is a FREE event and following stringent policies to maintain health. No one will be out of their cars and Santa will be speaking directly to each car as they pull by via FM Transmitter they can tune in on their car radios. The only one of its kind during the holiday season!! Blue Ridge PBS is trying to bring some joy and happiness to our communities during these stressful times. visit blueridgepbs.org/wonderland for more information.
We heard it online! “The show will go on! Southwest Virginia Ballet and Blue Ridge PBS have partnered to bring this Christmas classic gift to you. Watch The Nutcracker Ballet on December 11 at 7:00 p.m., Sunday, December 13 at 4:30 p.m., Thursday, December 24 at 7:00 p.m. and Friday, December 25 at 1:00 p.m.”
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ChefBot Dinner Recommendations Chefbot is the latest innovation from Kroger, created to reimagine the cooking experience by using artificial intelligence technology to make the most out of what’s already in your fridge How Chefbot Works Snap: Users snap a photo of three ingredients from their refrigerator or pantry
Tweet: Users tweet their photo to @ KrogerChefbot. Through artificial intelligence, Chefbot identifies ingredients and then scans thousands of unique recipes on Kroger.com Cook: Within seconds, Chefbot responds to the user’s original tweet to deliver a list of personalized recipe recommendations based on the selected ingredients.
Women’s Foundation announces $360,000 in grants “Perhaps in no other year in the Roanoke Women’s Foundation’s history have its members stretched to do as much as we could for as many people as we could,” President Nancy Dixon said in an announcement. “The COVID-19 pandemic amplified the critical needs our communities face. We are gratified to fund these worthwhile organizations in a year like none other,” she added.
education, the environment, and health and human services through a competitive grants process. This year’s recipients are:
Bradley Free Clinic: $100,000 to complete a new behavioral health wing, helping meet the sharp uptick in demand during the pandemic.
Roanoke Women’s Foundation supports nonprofit arts and culture, education, the environment, and health and human services.
The mission of the philanthropic organization is to connect the power of women and their pooled financial resources to enhance the quality of life. It supports nonprofit arts and culture,
Western Virginia Workforce Development Board: $55,000 for the Envision Center-Roanoke to train low-income workers, particularly those hit hardest by the pandemic, and to connect them with employers.
ARCH Roanoke: $52,000 for the Trust House Renewal Project to renovate bedrooms, upgrade the kitchen, replace furniture and
add health and safety measures for area homeless people.
Children’s Trust: $50,000 for Court Appointed Special Advocates to hire a parttime staff person to manage a caseload and supervise volunteers due to increased need in Botetourt and Craig counties. Science Museum of Western Virginia: $41,000 for The Eye: The Planetarium of Tomorrow, an educational, 3D, fully immersive digital experience program. Habitat for Humanity in the Roanoke Valley: $32,000 for the Habitat ReStore to repair and replace floors, ceiling and outdated heating, air conditioning and ventilation systems. Virginia Hunters Who Care: $30,000 for its Venison for the Hungry project to increase its processing capacity to provide 96,000 additional servings to food agencies.
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FREE December 1-22
Letters to Santa Come by the Roanoke County libraries or go to our website to pick up a letter to Santa kit. Kids can write their letters and then drop them off at their library for delivery to Santa. Pick up a goody bag Santa left for you when you bring us your letter! Ideal for all ages. roanokecountyva.gov December 3-4
Star City Santa Drive Thru with CHIP Put on your Christmas pajamas, jump in the car and drive downtown to grab some hot chocolate and a curbside photo with Santa. Each family will receive a Santa’s Breakfast in a Box so you e om H can continue the beloved Breakfast with Santa tradition in the comfort of your home. Drive thru is open from 4pm through 7pm
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and costs $35 per box. Visit chiprv.org for more information. FREE December 4-5
Holiday Craft and Vendor Fair Come out to the Berglund Special Events Center and shop the largest Craft & Vendor Holiday Show in Virginia! Here you will find 175 vendors to help you complete your Holiday shopping! Bring a new unwrapped toy for the Salvation Army Angel Tree! 50/50 Raffle, concessions and more! Parking is FREE. Admission is $7 per adult and kids under 12 are FREE. FREE December 4
Winter Wonderlot- 2020 Salem Christmas Parade The annual Christmas Parade, sponsored by the Kiwanis Club of Salem, will shift to the Salem Civic Center parking lot December 4th from 6:30 - 8:30 pm. Floats and performers will be positioned in designated
locations throughout the Taliaferro Complex, allowing citizens and visitors the ability to drive through and enjoy each entry without leaving their cars.
Bank of Fincastle Tinsel Trail, which features Christmas trees decorated by community businesses and organizations. FREE December 3
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Vinton Christmas Parade
ONLINE Christmas Kid-Made Market
Support local kids that have created their own art, food, jewelry, gardening, music, sewing, crafts, toys, woodworking or any creative creation that they want to sell to the community for Christmas. Visit www. facebook/ KidMadeMarket for more information. FREE December 3 - 31
Bank of Fincastle Tinsel Trail Step back in time and enjoy Bank of Fincastle Tinsel Trail and Botetourt County Historical Museum. This year the Museum open house includes the unveiling of the
Unique Drive-through Christmas Parade. Watch Christmas Tree Lighting on Facebook Live. Parade starts at 7 PM through 9 PM on Highlight Road, Downtown Vinton. December 4 & 5
Holiday Craft & Vendor Fair Come out and shop the largest Craft & Vendor Show in Virginia! 175 vendors to help you complete your holiday shopping! December 4th from 11am to 8pm and December 5th from 9am to 4pm. $7per adult admission and under 12 are free! Visit theberglundcenter. com for details.
FREE December 4
Salem City Lighting of the Christmas Tree
Start the holiday season by singing along with Carolers before the Farmers Market Chirstmas Tree is lit! 6:00 PM at the Salem Farmers Market. Details can be found at salemva.gov FREE December 4-6 & 11-13
Live Nativity Enjoy a music and lights prelude, then walk the road to Bethlehem on our outdoor drama tour and be immersed in the wondrous story of the birth of Jesus Christ. This event is entirely outdoors. Shenandoah Baptist Church from 6pm through 9pm. Learn more at www.sbcfamily.org
December 5
Salem Sox Cinema Series The Polar Express All aboard!!! Join us for a special screening of The Polar Express. Gates will open up at 4:00pm and the movie will begin at 6:00pm. The Red Sox Grill will be open throughout the event. Visit www.salemsox. com for details. December 5
Gingerbread Festival Citizens, friends, and neighbors are invited to join in the fun as we celebrate an old-fashioned
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Salem Christmas. While you’re there, enjoy hot cider, roasted marshmallows on the open fire pit, and roasted chestnuts while you stroll through the always popular Gingerbread House Competition. Visit with Santa, enjoy children’s activities, and check out our craft vendors! Longwood Park in Salem, from 10am to 2pm. For more details please visit www.salemva.gov. December 5
Drive-Thru Santa Pictures
Santa and Mrs. Claus are headed to the Salem Civic Center from 1 PM through 5 PM to spread some safe holiday cheer in early December. Visits are $10 per family. Visit salemciviccenter.com to learn more. FREE December 7-14
Gingerbread House Kits
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Stop by any Roanoke County Public Library and pick up your own Gingerbread House kit while supplies last. Learn more at www. roanokecountyva.gov FREE December 7
Annual Roanoke County Tree Lighting Join library staff and County Parks and Recreation department at the Tanglewood Mall from 6:30 PM through 7:30 PM to celebrate and come together this holiday season. Comfort and Joy Carols, Crafts and Refreshments. Visit roanokecountyva.gov for details. FREE December 7
MYO Snowglobe Ornament Teen Program Join Roanoke County Libraries for a zoom call and make a snow globe ornament! Register in advance and pick up your supplies at your home library. Visit roanokecountyva.gov. December 11-13 and 18-20
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Experience Natural Bridge State Park like never before. Featuring new light systems, roaring fires and refreshments provided by the Friends of Natural Bridge State Park, the park is awash in holiday spirit this December. Admission is $6-$8. dcr.virginia.gov/state-parks/naturalbridge
FREE December 12 2020 Salem Holiday Market Come join a great shopping adventure at the Salem Civic Center from 9 AM through 4 PM and find the perfect gift for anyone! Unique crafters, Artists, and Direct Sales vendors will have just what you need!. This is a FREE event but please bring a nonperishable food item for the Salem/Roanoke County Food Bank. December 12
Gift Local Holiday Market
40 craft vendors, live music provided by the talented Marc Baskind, kid’s activities, free warm mulled cider, fresh produce, hot food, baked goods, all inside a beautiful, holiday stocked nursery PLUS Santa appearance! 9am - 2pm at the Greenbrier Nurseries, 5881 Starkey Rd. Please call 540-989-2122 for more information. FREE December 12
Salem Sox Cinema Series - Elf You’d have to be a real cotton headed ninny muggins to miss this! Join us for a special screening of Elf. Gates will open up at 4:00pm and the movie will begin at 6:00pm. The Red Sox Grill will be open throughout the event. FREE December 19
Salem Sox Cinema Series Christmas Vacation We’re gonna have the hap-hap-happiest Christmas! Join us for a special screening of the greatest holiday movie EVER, National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation. Gates will open up at 4:00pm and the movie will begin at 6:00pm. The Red Sox Grill will be open throughout the event. December 17
Night Howls Bundle up and bring your friends to the zoo to hear the wolves howl, the owls hoot and the big cats call! Participants will enjoy snacks while learning about nocturnal animals then they will proceed outdoors for a guided tour of the zoo in the dark to observe the creatures and enjoy spectacular views of the city at night. The class runs from 5:30pm - 7pm at the Mill Mountain Zoo in Roanoke. Admission is $9-$12. Reserve your space at www.mmzoo.org
At home Holidays By Sarah Lyons
Make cookies for Santa
Bake some special cookies for Santa but set aside a few dozen for local firefighters or police officers and deliver them with your kids.
Have a Christmas movie marathon
Watch your favorite Christmas movies as a family while enjoying some popcorn, hot cocoa, and candy canes.
Make an ornament
Make a new ornament, as a family, each year. When the kids move out they will have a box full of decorations for their own tree. Easy ideas could be salt dough ornaments or filling a plastic ball with photos, ticket stubs, or glitter and adding the date.
Christmas countdown Create a homemade advent countdown with construction or scrapbook paper.
Holiday tunes
gifts to children in need. Also consider sorting through old toys and clothing to donate to charity before any new gifts arrive.
Write to Santa
write the big man a letter and mail it. It’s a great way to practice letter writing and mail skills for younger kids!
Coat drive - Start a coat drive by going through your coat closet and donate items no longer needed with those less fortunate. Collect new socks, hats, and gloves in your community to donate as well.
Go on a nature walk - Get into the
holiday spirit by spending time together outside! Don’t forget the hot cocoa.
Holiday hunt
Fill Easter eggs with Christmas candy or hide candy canes around the house and let the children find them.
Play Christmas music each morning as you are getting ready for your day.
Make reindeer food
Mix rolled oats with red and green sugar sprinkles. Have the kids sprinkle it on the lawn before bed for the reindeer to snack on while Santa is visiting your home.
Lights tour
Load up the family car and go on a tour of Christmas light displays in the area. Check out Roanoke Valley Family Magazine’s Facebook page for an up-to-date list of our favorite local displays!
Provide a meal
Check the needs of a local food pantry and help them stock up on items that can be used for holiday dinners.
Family Pajamas
Pick out matching pajamas for the whole family to wear on Christmas morning. For a low-cost options, use plain colored t shirts and basic flannel pants.
Bless others
Have the kids pick out a new toy to donate to a local charity that provides
Christmas reads
Collect Christmas books, wrap them in festive paper, and have the kids open and read one each day leading up until Christmas. Consider adding one new book each year.
Campout
After trimming the tree, get out the sleeping bags and “campout” under it for the night.
Christmas breakfast
Make a big breakfast Christmas morning. Make a breakfast casserole that can be prepared night before lets you enjoy the morning with your family.
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Meet Your Neighbor
Dr. Misty Lenk, DDS
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r. Misty Lenk loves smiles! She loves giving smiles to others and creating smiles on her patients! Dr. Lenk is an orthodontist and operator of Lenk Orthodontics in Daleville. She is also a wife, mother, basketball coach, volunteer, and whatever else is needed to support her family, patients, and community.
Dr. Lenk grew up in Richmond, Virginia where she became interested in healthcare. She later decided to become a dentist. “I became introduced to the idea of dentistry as a career option after talking to my dentists, both of which were females. Talking to them and shadowing them at their office made me realize the dental field offered me everything I could dream of - an ability to provide a healthcare service, the ability to have a family and work, and the ability to incorporate my love of science and art in my everyday working life,” Dr. Lenk said. She attended Notre Dame for her undergraduate degree and then came home to Virginia for dental school at VCU/MCV. While there, she discovered her love of orthodontics and then studied at University of Florida and the Ohio State University to obtain her orthodontic specialty. Their love of family drew Dr. Lenk and her husband back home to Virginia. With relatives in Richmond and Martinsville, they decided Roanoke was the best place for their young family. She said, “Roanoke and its surrounding regions fit our needs and desires perfectly! It’s not too big. It has culture and personality. It has a lower cost of living. It is absolutely beautiful and offers a ton of outside activities, and most of all, it is filled with an amazing community of people that love and support each other!” Dr. Lenk supports everyone from her family to her patients. She has operated Lenk Orthodontics for twelve years now! Dr. Lenk said of her practice, “My patients and their parents are not ‘numbers’ or ‘dollar signs.’ I know every single patient by name and often know the names of their best friends and pets! I don’t value my success based on how many offices I have, how many patients I see, or how much money I make. Success is when I make a difference in a person’s life when I use my education, experience and talents to give my patients reasons to smile.”
She tries to make patients and families smile no matter what. She said she decorates her office for each season and holiday. Her staff keeps the office full of quick wit and laughter. Dr. Lenk says she understands how braces and orthodontic care can cause stress on a family. She tries to alleviate that. Dr. Lenk said, “I had to work 1-3 jobs while in school in order to get my education and pay for my living expenses. I had to build my own building and start my business from the ground up right out of school. As a result, I value my practice, and I probably understand the families of my practice more than the average professional. I struggled at the beginning creating this business while growing my young family. I struggled to learn the craft of running a business and managing staff, while perfecting my orthodontic skills. My practice is now twelve years in the making. Although I’m always striving to improve things, I can honestly say the effort and work has been worth it. I now have a seasoned practice that produces the most amazing smiles out there. We make our patients smile by fixing their orthodontic problems, and we make the families of our practice smile because we work hard to ensure they receive the care they want without breaking their bank!” Dr. Lenk’s smiles extend outside of her building. She donates time and money to numerous organizations in the Roanoke Valley. They range from nonprofits to schools to athletic groups. “My job is to create beautiful smiles. Community service is as important to creating smiles as braces in my mind!” she said. Dr. Lenk and her husband also stay very busy at home and with their four children, three daughters and one son, plus their two dogs, a cat, a hamster and a hedgehog! She said the entire family loves animals and desires more pets!
The family loves the outdoors and hiking most of the trails in the region. They also enjoy going to Smith Mountain Lake. Dr. Lenk says her family enjoys watching basketball, volleyball, and cross country events. Their four children are involved in several activities, and Dr. Lenk and her husband support them all and spend a lot of time going to games or events to help or cheer on their child. She says their family just likes to spend time together from extracurricular activities, outdoors, or at home.”When we are at home we do a lot of cooking and baking. Eating is really our favorite thing to do,” she joked. Dr. Lenk says the family’s love of outdoors, both land and water, and food make the Roanoke Valley the perfect spot to live and work. “I love the fact that Ronaoke is big enough to have two Indian restaurants, but small enough to maintain a small town warmth. I have everything I need in Roanoke. I have patients that drive from every region of the Roanoke Valley to receive care at my office. One of the reasons they are able to work with me is because our community is not too large and congested. In my eyes Roanoke is not a small town, but it has that special something every small town in the movies has - character and amazing people that love and support each other,” she said. Love and supporting each other is exactly what Dr. Lenk does at Lenk Orthodontics and the Roanoke Valley! “My primary focus is being the best wife, mother, and orthodontist possible. I treat my practice like they’re my fifth child. I put everything I have of myself into the things I love, my patient and practice is included,” she said. Dr.. Misty Lenk, D.D.S., M.S. Lenk Orthodontics 228 Commons Pkwy Daleville, VA 24083 Phone: (540) 966-3990
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Celebrating the Holidays During Quarantine By Sarah Lyons
As flu season approaches and the risk for coronavirus continues to rise in most states, families are wondering how to celebrate the holidays this
season. According to the CDC ”The holidays is a time when many families travel long distances to celebrate together. Staying home is the best way
to protect yourself and others.” Making the holidays feel special will require creativity and even more advanced planning this year. Here are some ideas
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to spark inspiration to help you plan a memorable lower risk celebration.
Take it outside If weather allows, host your holiday gathering outdoors. With social distancing, outdoor events are safer than social interactions indoors. Forgo the typical holiday meal and consider roasting hot dogs and marshmallows on a fire pit and enjoy the fresh air.
Host a cooking challenge If you decide to stay home and would like an alternative to the big traditional holiday meal, try Kansas City mom Kara Thomas’s idea, and host a cooking challenge at home. Have each family member prepare a meal (or part of a meal) and vote on a winner. Take the photos to social media to see who gets the most votes.
Downsize One of the best parts of the holidays is spending time with extended family. This year, try downsizing and limit the amount of people you have over. For the lowest risk, do not have anyone outside of your household. If you do decide to host others, keep it to a few people and have them quarantine prior to attending. Ask others to stay home if they have any flu-like symptoms, fever, or are not feeling well.
Travel safely (if at all) The holidays have historically been the biggest travel weeks of the year. This year, avoid travel as much as possible. If you must, use best known practices to keep your family safe. Consider driving instead of flying. Stay in a hotel rather than at a family member’s home. Wear a mask when visiting with family. Wash hands frequently and quarantine before returning to work or school.
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Shop differently The biggest shopping weeks of the year are in December, they will look very different this year. Instead of heading out to the stores for your holiday shopping, order online and ask for no contact pickup or have gifts shipped directly to the recipient. When shopping for your holiday meal groceries, try to do so at non-peak
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Gift exchange It is great fun to gather for gift giving during the holidays. This year, consider having gifts directly from the store to your loved ones or play Santa and leave a bag of gifts on the porch for a special surprise. Host a video call so you can watch their reactions as they open gifts.
“For the lowest risk, do not have anyone outside of your household. If you do decide to host others, keep it to a few people and have them quarantine prior to attending.”
It’s hard to miss out on the yearly tradition of gathering with family over dinner. Consider delivering a no contact meal to friends or family who are alone on the holidays and then hosting a virtual dinner so you can socialize while you eat.
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As you plan your holiday celebrations please take into consideration the guidelines set by the CDC and your local government. Wear a mask, wash your hands, stay home if you are sick, and be extra careful if you are in the high risk category. The safest option is to stay home, but if you would like to gather with the lowest risk possible, consider these ideas or get creative and come up with your own way to celebrate this year.
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DOWNSIZING
CHILDREN’S CLOSETS by Tricia Mikesell
“How in the world do my children own this many shoes and clothes?” I used to ask myself this question every time I searched for a specific outfit or put away laundry. When our family adopted a minimalist(ish) lifestyle, I knew the issue of clothing needed to be addressed for my children. Today, each child has a three-drawer dresser and a clothing rack in her closet. Prior to minimalizing, they had an abundance of clothes of various sizes, for all seasons, and shoes to last two to three years. When we went minimal, my goal became narrowing their wardrobes to a more practical amount. I wash clothes in my house three to four times per week, and my children have freshly washed outfits readily available every few days. Technically, based on this, my kids could own only four outfits apiece and be perfectly fine. We’re not that minimal, though! I have to factor in that children enjoy sleepovers and a few nights at Mimi’s house from time to time. I also have to keep holidays and special occasions in mind. Ultimately, I decided to keep two weeks’ worth of clothing per child per season. I went with a two-season format of spring/ summer and fall/winter to avoid keeping too much. The major problem I had when starting this process was realizing that my kids owned about sixty outfits each, and had a couple years’ worth stored for future use.
At first, I questioned my actions and feared I might regret downsizing too much. I decided to lend the clothes to my friends whose children were a couple years older than mine. This was a win-win solution, because someone could use clothing I was not using, and if I needed them back I could easily ask in the future. This freed up so much space. My second goal was eliminating clothing my children would never wear. Itchy, ruffled items were out. Eliminating stained and torn items was easy; they’d been held onto for use as play clothes, paint clothes, and spaghetti night attire—all of which I never utilized. Finally, I had a basic amount of clothes to sort through and pair up for two solid weeks of outfits, and a giant stack of clothes to sell and donate. Seeing so much space in the closet takes time to get used to, but feels amazing. I wash less, the kids have an easier time selecting clothes, and the free space makes cleaning a breeze. Their drawers are neat and spacious; nothing falls out when I open them. I encourage all parents who are overwhelmed with an abundance of children’s clothing to take the plunge and minimalize. Tricia Mikesell lives in the Bonsack area with her husband, Adam, and three daughters, Avery (11), Charlotte (6), and Emma (2). She works at a memory care facility for seniors, and also runs a photography business with her husband.
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s there anything better than dropping the kids off at your parents’ house for a well-deserved night off? The kids are happy, your parents are happy, and you are definitely happy. It’s a win-win situation for all. Far from just being reliable, free babysitters, however, grandparents can play a vital role in the upbringing of your children. The role of the grandparent is vastly different from your job as a parent, and to a child, it helps complete the circle of a wellrounded life. So why are grandparents this important? What do they offer that you can’t? Take a minute to think back to your own childhood. How did you feel when you found out you’d be spending the afternoon at Grandma’s house? Ecstatically wild with joy? You knew there would be cookies and games and hours of imaginary tea parties. All that time spent at her home would be focused on you, playing whatever you wanted to play. Made you feel pretty special, right? The reason you were so excited might’ve been because your grandparents had the ability to concentrate solely on you. They didn’t have to go to work, or buy groceries, or do laundry, or pay bills, or do the other nine million tasks that can eat up any busy parent’s day. Grandparents are pure play, and to a child there is nothing better.
Grandparent and Grandchild: A Special Bond by Karen Fusco
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It’s also important to realize that as your own parents get older, they become more like children themselves. Their sense of fun and imagination are coming full circle, and your children, especially, pick up on that magic and respond in very powerful, positive ways. For them, it’s like having a best friend, only one who has the ability to drive and buy candy and milkshakes! Grandparents can offer your child experiences that, as a parent, you might not have time to do—like spending an afternoon fishing or a whole day walking through a forest, collecting leaves. Of
course, you play with your child, but sometimes you just can’t do it for an entire day. Grandparents can and do help shape your children’s memories growing up, and as kids grow older, those memories become rich with love and experience.
can weave tales of magic for your kids and pass along family history at the same time. This enables your children to realize that they are part of something bigger than themselves, part of a history that goes back generations. Grandparents can help your children discover their roots.
when you were growing up.
They can also reinforce the values you’re trying to teach them. Important characteristics you learned growing up, like honesty, fairness, and integrity, had to come from somewhere, right? Grandparents help pass along these important lessons to your children just as they were passed along to you
Karen Fusco is the co-founder of SilkBow.com, which supports busy moms and dads with free gift ideas and helpful tips to meet the challenges of parenthood.
Grandparents also help pass on important family history.
Grandparents also help pass on important family history. How many times has your dad told your son about his experience growing up during World War II or about the student strikes during the Vietnam War? Or how many times has your daughter begged your own mom to recount the tale of when you set the living room rug on fire? Grandparents
Grandparents can help shape your children so many major and minor ways. They are at a place in their own lives where they see the world as a child sees it in many ways. That kind of unity and connectedness is something that can’t be duplicated anywhere else , just as nothing can replace your role as a parent and the bond you share with your kids. It’s a magical relationship that your children will never forget.
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Kids to the Rescue By Sandra Gordon
Would your child know what to do in an emergency?
Watch program, conducted by the National Fire Protection Association.
Meet five young heroes who acted fast when it mattered most.
“Still, it wasn’t as if Courtney had full instruction,” says Michelle. “Her teacher had only demonstrated the technique on a classmate to show what a grown-up would do if someone were choking.”
Speedy First Aid Five-year-old Courtney Maxfield and her 2-year-old brother, Zackary, were enjoying their Charms Blow Pops at home when the toddler suddenly began to choke. “I was on the phone, and I heard Courtney say, ‘Zack, you’ll be Okay. Let’s go see Mommy,’” says their mom, Michelle. “I spun around and saw that Zack’s mouth was open, but no sound was coming out.” Just as Michelle realized her son was choking, Courtney, standing behind Zackary, wrapped her little arms around his tummy and gave it a firm squeeze. He coughed up a thick wad of gum and began to cry. In amazement, Courtney asked her mother, “Did I just save Zack?” “I said, ‘Yes Courtney, I think you did,’” Michelle says. “That’s when it
dawned on me how truly serious the situation had been—everything happened so fast, before I even had a chance to react.” How was this shy kindergartener able to think and act so quickly? Courtney had just learned about the Heimlich maneuver through her school’s Risk
The lesson? Kids can be information sponges, absorbing more than they get credit for. “I’ve taken a firstaid course, and I think I could have done the Heimlich maneuver to help Zack,” Michelle says. “But Courtney was faster than I was.” --“Hello, 911?” One morning, Kelly Baker, 34, was hurrying to get her 4-year-old daughter, Eva, ready for the day. “I was in the kitchen running an iron over one of Eva’s dresses when I had a small seizure,” says Kelly, who suffers from epilepsy. She collapsed to the floor, knocking the ironing board on top of her. The hot iron slammed into her, searing the skin on her chest and rib cage. Little Eva, who heard the crashing sound, ran in from another room, where she had been watching TV. She immediately grabbed the cordless phone and dialed 911. It was exactly what her mother had taught her to do just a few months before. “I need help,” Eva declared in her tiny voice to the 911 dispatch operator. Then she calmly verified her telephone number and recited her address. Within minutes, paramedics arrived at the Bakers’ home and rushed Kelly to a local hospital, where she was stabilized and successfully treated for secondand third-degree burns. “By showing Eva how to dial 911, I was trying to prepare her for anything,” says Kelly, who had been motivated by concerns about her epilepsy and her elderly mother’s health. “I thank God every day I took
the time. If it weren’t for Eva’s quick actions, our situation could have been much worse.”
Lifeguard on Duty While their mom, Brenda Parkman, ran errands one spring afternoon, 10 year old Theresa and her brother, Michael, 18 months, were visiting their grandmother in her home. The kids seemed content watching cartoons in the den, so their grandmother left the room for a few minutes to get an aspirin for her headache. “When she came back, Grandma asked, ‘Where’s Michael?’” recalls Theresa, who noticed that a patio door in the next room was slightly open. Michael must have unlatched it and snuck out, she thought, as she tore through the backyard. Outside, she spotted her little brother floating sideways in their grandmother’s pool, unconscious. “He’s out here!” Theresa screamed. She plunged into the chilly water and pulled Michael to the pool’s edge, where her grandmother grabbed him from her. Once out of the pool, Theresa began performing cardiopulmonary resuscitation, which she had learned from a Red Crosssponsored course at her school the previous year. “I was worried, but I just concentrated on what I had learned,” Theresa says. “I pushed on his chest five times and gave him a breath. Then Michael moaned, and water gushed out of him.” Meanwhile, Theresa’s grandmother called 911. Brenda was stunned to learn of the near horror that her family had experienced. “The paramedics said that if Theresa hadn’t performed CPR, Michael could have had severe organ damage or even died,” Brenda says. Today, Michael is a healthy 2-year-old. Says Brenda, “We’re truly blessed that Theresa was able to remember CPR and perform it like a professional,” she says.
A Good Neighbor Nine-year-old Matthew Mitchell suspected something was wrong when he noticed that Mrs. Strasberg, an elderly customer on his paper route, hadn’t picked up the newspapers from her back porch for two days. “I knocked on the door of one her nextdoor neighbors and asked if anyone had
seen her,” he says. No one had. Always outgoing, Matthew had spoken with Mrs. Strasberg on several occasions while delivering her daily newspaper—and the exchanges weren’t always pleasant. “Mrs. Strasberg was particular about where she wanted her paper placed,” says Matthew’s mother, Amy. But, Matthew says, “I was worried because I knew she lived
alone and she wasn’t feeling well.” By Sunday morning, increasingly anxious, he told his mother, “Mrs. Strasberg has three papers outside.” Amy called the police. The responding officers went to the back of Mrs. Strasberg’s house and spied her through a window, lying on her kitchen floor. “They knocked
on the window, and she raised a hand,” Amy says. Mrs. Strasberg was transported by ambulance to a local hospital, where she was treated for a broken hip and later released to a nursing home. “The police said that Mrs. Strasberg had fallen two days earlier. Our neighbor could have died if she’d remained there much longer,” Amy says. For his valiant efforts, Matthew was honored with the National Medal of Merit by the Boy Scouts of America and with the statewide hero-of-the-year award by a local Veteran’s association.
Help on the Highway One October day, Pamela Dehart was driving her two children, Tyrah, 8, and Hubert (“Bubby”), 1, to the store. The car skidded on a rain-soaked highway and struck a tree. It then flipped upside down into an adjacent creek. As muddy water filled the car, Tyrah yelled, “Mom! Mom!” but heard no answer. Pamela had lost consciousness upon impact. Unable to free her, Tyrah swam out and scrambled through waist-high murky water and up the embankment, screaming for help. Fortunately, a nurse, who was driving by stopped and called 911 before spotting Bubby floating down the creek in his car seat. She and a second motorist managed to grab and unbuckle him. Although the screaming tot had a cut on his head that required stitches, he was otherwise unharmed. Fire-department volunteers arriving at the scene cut away the driver’s-side door and extracted Pamela from the watery wreck. She had been trapped in the car for nearly 30 minutes. “By the time the paramedics got to me, I wasn’t breathing,” Pamela says. It took several tries to resuscitate her. Pamela had suffered a concussion and internal injuries but was released from the hospital after nine days. “Tyrah’s quick thinking saved my life and her little brother’s,” says Pamela, who suffers from memory loss and epilepsy as a result of the accident. For her heroism, Tyrah made local newspaper headlines and got an award from her Girl Scout troop.
What Your Child Should Know
As soon as your child is old enough to learn his numbers, you can prepare him to help during an emergency. Here, the lifesaving lessons to teach.
Dialing 911 “From age 4 and up, your child should be able to dial 911 in the event of an emergency,” says police department communications manager Julie Dutton. First, define what an emergency is for your child, so she doesn’t think it’s okay to call for help as a game, for example. “Tell her to use 911 only under one of the following circumstances: if Mommy, Daddy, a baby-sitter, or another adult passes out and you can’t wake him or her up; if there’s a fire and an adult isn’t present; or if you see an accident and it looks like people are hurt,” Dutton says. Rehearse mockdialing 911 with your child, and teach her to answer the operator’s questions simply and not to hang up until the operator tells her to.
Aid for a chronic illness If you or your spouse has a chronic illness, start mentioning
it to your child at about age 5, and talk to him about what he can do in an emergency, says Charles F. Pattavina, M.D., a director of the American College of Emergency Room Physicians. “Simply calling 911 is key,” Dr. Pattavina says. “But in many cases, your child can do things to help while the rescue vehicle is on the way, such as getting juice or sugar for a diabetic parent who is having an insulin reaction.”
Basic water safety School-age kids should learn basic water-safety skills (particularly important if you have a backyard pool). Teach your child how to assist someone who needs help in the water without putting himself in danger (reach out with a kickboard or a towel); how to open someone’s airway; and for older children, how to give resuscitating breaths.
The Heimlich maneuver Children as young as 5 can learn this important technique for saving someone from choking, says Connie Harvey, a health and safety expert for the American Red Cross. For information on lifesaving and water-safety classes for kids as young as 4, contact the American Red Cross. Check the white pages of your phone book, or log onto www. redcross.org.
In the community
by Sandra Pratt
“It is better to give than to receive.” The holiday season is sure to look different for most of us this year. For some it may not even feel like a time for celebrating if they are worried about paying rent, putting food on the table, and just trying to make ends meet. Remember growing up we were always told “it is better to give than receive”? This year more than ever is a great time for you and your family to experience that joy that comes from giving! There are so many opportunities right here in our community to do just that and I would like to share just a few of those with you.
The Salvation Army’s Angel Tree program Every child deserves to experience the joy of Christmas morning and this program helps to do just that by providing gifts of new clothing and toys. The wishes and needs of disadvantaged children are listed on cardboard “angels” and placed on Christmas trees throughout the valley. You can find Angel Trees in malls, churches, and local businesses. Choose an angel off one of the trees, do the shopping together as a family and return the items back to the Salvation Army – you don’t even have to wrap any of it! The gifts will be distributed to the family to place under their Christmas tree.
This year more than ever is a great time for you and your family to experience that joy that comes from giving!
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Local Office on Aging The LOA has been supporting older persons in our community for over 45 years to remain as independent as possible for as long as possible. The Meals-On-Wheels program, where volunteers deliver a hot, nutritious lunch daily to homebound senior citizens, relies heavily on contributions from the community. Their biggest need currently is Boost nutrition drinks, canned good like soup, tuna, beans, and toiletries (toilet paper, paper towels, tissues). For many of the recipients of this program it is about more than just
the food and supplies. The volunteers are also delivering a few minutes of conversation and connection for those they visit daily. Rescue Mission of Roanoke There are many ways to get involved during the Christmas season. First by providing toys and gifts to children within their community along with the children of the men and women participating in the Way Forward Recovery Program. There is always a need for warm weather gear (hats, scarves, and gloves) along with a variety of toys, art and craft supplies, puzzles, and games. Everyone that
spends the night at the Mission on Christmas Eve will wake up Christmas morning to a wrapped Christmas gift. Donations of bags of chocolate candy, lip balm, tubes of hand lotion along with $5 fast food gift cards will be accepted in their main reception area daily. Also, volunteers will be needed to help prepare for the feast the week of Christmas which will include lots of slicing, dicing, and baking! On Christmas Day volunteers will be needed to help serve the meal.
can make a difference in someone’s holiday this year. This is also a great time to teach your children gratitude and appreciation. After the holidays, encourage them to send thank you notes or pictures to people who gave them gifts. Stressing gratitude helps children grow into adults who feel appreciative and will want to continue the tradition you have started of giving rather than receiving. Happy Holidays!
If you did not see the right one for your family, I hope this at least sparked some ideas as to how many ways you
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Rachel’s Reads By Rachel Levine
December is here with all the light and joy of Chanukkah and Christmas! One of our family’s most treasured traditions during this season is reading (and rereading) our favorite holiday tales. These Christmas and Chanukkah books are perfect for getting you in the holiday spirit!
The Parakeet Named Dreidel by Isaac Bashevis Singer
The Christmas Day Kitten
Hanukkah Bear
James Herriot’s stories are like a hot cup of tea on a rainy day and The Christmas Day Kitten is no exception. James is a country vet in England and on his rounds one day he meets a stray cat who visits a local farm family. The shy cat will slip into their house to enjoy the fire for a few moments, and then slip back outside again. One Christmas the cat arrives at the farm extremely sick and carrying a tiny kitten. The mother cat’s act of love during her illness saves her kitten, and brings joy to the whole family.
Bubba Brayna, who cannot see well, has been frying up yummy potato latkes all day when a hungry bear follows the delicious smell to her front door. Bubba Brayna doesn’t realize her guest is a bear and warmly welcomes him in. Before you know it, the bear has happily eaten all her latkes and even tried a hand (or paw) at playing dreidel. This charming tale will (almost) make you wish you have a bear to celebrate with!
by James Herriot
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by Eric Kimmel
Can you imagine looking out your window one cold snowy night and finding a parakeet there? On the eighth night of Chanukkah, David saw just that! He and his father quickly let the bird into their house and decided to name it Dreidel. The family put up posters and published notices in the newspaper to find Dreidel’s family, but had no success. Dreidel ended up becoming part of their family and they loved him for 9 years. I don’t want to give too much away, but a Chanukkah miracle happens and it turns out Dreidel is a perfect match maker!
Hershel and the Hanukkah Goblins by Eric Kimmel
Hershel is excited when he arrives in a village on the first night of Chanukkah. He can’t wait to light the candles on the menorah and eat crispy latkes. Unfortunately, Hershel finds the town quiet, cold, and dark. Evil goblins have prevented the whole town from celebrating. Hershel volunteers to face the terrible goblins. He must confront one a night for all eight nights of
Chanukkah to defeat their power over the town. Kids love the creepy goblins, and the whole family will be cheering Hershel on as he frees the village to light their menorahs.
This delightful classic is sure to become a family favorite.
Mr. Willowby’s Christmas Tree
Life on a farm involves hard work for everyone in the family. At age 15 Rob already has a lot of responsibilities. This Christmas Rob longs to give his father a really special present. He decides to get up at 3 in the morning on Christmas Day and milk all the cows before his father wakes up. His thoughtfulness enables his father to spend Christmas morning with the family for the first time. This heart-warming tale teaches that the best gifts are gifts of time and love. Be prepared to get a little misty eyed!
by Robert Barry
Mr. Willowby has ordered an extremely large Christmas tree for his entryway. The tree is so large, in fact, that it doesn’t fit! They have to cut off the top of the tree to make room for the star on top. What will become of that poor discarded tree top? It turns out the tree top’s story has just begun! It ends up on a great adventure and brings Christmas cheer to people, bears, bunnies, and even a little mouse family.
Christmas Day in the Morning by Pearl S. Buck
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ADHD & EXERCISE by Gabriel Villarreal
Let’s get something out of the way: Exercise is medicine. Unequivocally. How can I make that bold statement? My name is Gabriel Villarreal. I own and coach at LostBoys Strength & Conditioning, which is an affiliate of Mash Elite Performance. I also host Informed Consent , a podcast created to support community mental health
professionals. I have my master’s in clinical mental health and am soon to be a Licensed Professional Counselor. Lastly, I own and run ADHD Counseling in the Roanoke Valley, a private practice all about helpingADHDers unlock their strengths — or, as I call it, their “superpowers.”
health issues. For those of you who say, “That’s not me,” the CDC states that approximately 75% of Americans will at one time have a diagnosable mental health disorder, but that is for another article. Today, we are simply going to talk about how exercise helps ADHDers — arguably, to a point where medication may not be
necessary. First, we have to talk about what ADHD is, where it comes from, and what issues it places upon the person diagnosed with it. Within an ADHDer’s brain, there is a malfunction that affects his or her attention system. That system is a linkage of neurons that connect or hitch together other parts of the brain that are responsible for, among other things: arousal, motivation, reward, movement, and executive functioning. To get this right out of the way, there are people who believe ADHD is made up. To those readers, I’ll say only this: It’s not about a belief system; it’s about science. FMRI scans of ADHDers and non-ADHD individuals show a clear difference in the functioning of the person’s reward center, which is entirely responsible for a person’s motivation and drive. For the ADHDer, that reward center is not as
Allow me to address my first statement: Exercise is medicine. Exercise is medicine for those with a mental health diagnosis or mental
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strong or does not produce the appropriate or normal amount of chemicals/neurotransmitters responsible to help motivate and/ or drive him. To be 100% clear and concise, the label of “attention deficit disorder” is not entirely accurate, primarily because it is not an issue of a deficit of attention, but rather an issue of consistency. We all know the ADHDer who can hyper-focus on things she really enjoys. The simple example is kids and video games; however, as they grow older and strengthen this ability, it can be a gamechanger. As an example, I built my business on the weekends for a year and a half by hyper-focusing for 6 to 12 hours straight, only taking breaks to walk the dogs and eat. Seriously. The “attention system” begins at the locus coeruleus in our brains and is regulated by two chemicals/neurotransmitters: norepinephrine and dopamine. From the locus coeruleus, a web of connections feeds out to the rest of the brain, primarily into the parts of the brain that govern the tasks I talked about before, like movement, attention, and executive functioning.
Dopamine: For the longest time, dopamine was believed to solely be responsible for rewards, as the study below attests. We know and have heard that things like narcotics, sex, and even chocolate release a lot of dopamine, which triggers our brain to want more of that “thing” (reward). However, dopamine is released for all the
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“The widespread belief that dopamine regulates pleasure could go down in history with the latest research results on the role of this neurotransmitter. Researchers have shown that it regulates motivation, causing individuals to initiate and
Exercise is medicine. Exercise is medicine for those with a mental health diagnosis or mental health issues.
But what are these two chemicals, and why did I bring them up?
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things we like — it may be a cool movie or a funny joke. Dopamine is released and it helps us keep doing things we enjoy. However, more recently, the neuroscience journal Neuron published a 2013 study that concluded:
persevereto obtain something.” If you’d like to know more about dopamine and its role in ADHD, I wrote an article on my ADHD blog (at roanokeadhd.com)all about dopamine function in the brain. Norepinephrine’s role: This is also a neurotransmitter, which means it transfers information from one part of the brain to another. However, it is also a chemical that acts as a stress hormone affected by lack of sleep, high stress, anxiety, and emotional volatility.
All of these are signs of ADHD, and they come back to this one chemical that is not produced as abundantly in the locus coeruleus in individuals diagnosed with ADHD. So now we finally jump into exercise’s role in ADHDers: Across all people, regardless of diagnosis, continual exercise improves the tone of the locus coeruleus. But not only that, it also increases all neurotransmitters (norepinephrine and dopamine, which we talked about before) immediately! What is particularly interesting to note is that the increase in dopamine is not “turning up the faucet,” but it is actually creating new faucets, or new pathways by which dopamine can be pushed out into the brain! This creates more drive and motivation in an individual, which is why we typically have a high after we work out. We feel very productive and want to get more things done — thanks, dopamine! Additionally, if we’re talking about norepinephrine specifically, increased neurotransmitters would cause an individual to be less likely to be startled, act emotionally inappropriate (a higher temperament), and less irritable. Again — all signs and symptoms of someone diagnosed with ADHD. Now let’s talk about the more stereotypical ADHD behavior — primarily fidgetiness. This is caused by an overactive cerebellum, which research has shown to be balanced out through medications (stimulants) that target norepinephrine and dopamine. What we know is that exercise balances those out, as well. Despite the lack of specific
research on exercise and ADHD, it is not at all a stretch to say that exercise corrects the production of the two neurotransmitters to “normal” levels. All of this begs the question: If I chronically exercise, can I get off my meds? The answer is that it depends from person to person. There are many factors that need to be in place for your doctor, or even myself as an ADHD counselor, to feel comfortable suggesting that someone could come off medication. As a strength and conditioning coach, the first question I hope all of you are asking is “How do you define exercise?” In John J. Ratey’s book SPARK, the majority of the research he cites and reviews is all cardiovascular movement — specifically, running. Now, running may or may not work
for an individual; it’s all about experimentation. I have met millionaires that swear marathons keep them sane and successful. For me, running is terribly boring, so I lift. However, Ratey concludes that intense sports are best because they tax the brain and promote focused attention in short bouts, essentially strengthening and lengthening the ADHDer’s ability to have sustained attention. Ratey goes on to cite martial arts and dance because of the nature of balance and focus that one needs to engage in those activities. With that in mind, my initial addition to the list would be Olympic weightlifting, because it involves short movements that require a small duration of focused attention. Additionally, the amount of proprioception, balance, timing, and movement
in space are all checked off in Ratey’s criteria of quality exercise for the ADHDer to receive the benefits. Ratey concludes that the above activities and sports keep attention rapt and are selfperpetuating, which means they are organized and easier to stick to after weeks and weeks. If you’d like to learn more about the effects of exercise on ADHDers, please reach out to me at gabriel@RoanokeADHD.com. If you’d like to your child to getinto a specifically designed class based on all the above and even more research, email me at gabriel@ lostboyssnc.com.
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Tween Daughter and Dad
Music to my Ears By Patrick and J.L. Hempfing
Jessie and I have different tastes in music. With Jessie now almost a teenager, she often rides in the front seat of the car. As a result, control over the car radio has become an issue. Jessie calls it, “channel chaos.” Let’s begin with her thoughts. Today, we have been talking about the difference in opinion that Dad and I have in the best type of music
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to listen to in the car. Dad likes Christian music, and don’t get me wrong, I do too, but I have other preferences. I like listening to today’s pop and country. As soon as I get in the car, I change the station to pop or country. That’s not exactly Dad’s thing, but he puts up with it. Another reason he should feel
inclined to change is that I recently rode in the car with my granddaddy. I realized that the station he was listening to was one of the pop stations I listen to! I asked him if he wanted me to change the station, as I figured it wasn’t his thing, but he wanted to keep it on that channel. Later, I told Dad that Granddaddy was ahead on the new music, and he wasn’t. I figured that would convince him to enjoy my music, but it didn’t.
Now, let’s get back to Dad. I am sure he will have something to say about this. I do have something to say, and it’s not that I’m afraid that Granddaddy is more hip than I am. First, when Jessie said she changes the radio station to “pop or country,” she neglected to breakdown the percent of time she chooses each. I like country music, but this is a small fraction in comparison to her pop choices. Apparently, pop is a pretty broad category. The Barry Manilow ballads I enjoyed as a teenager sounded a lot different than the rapping stuff Jessie likes. When I listen to music, I want to understand the words. I have no problem that Jessie and her granddaddy have similar tastes in music, though I doubt he would like everything she plays. Let them rock on with quality grandfathergranddaughter visits.
Several weeks ago, Jessie and I drove home from a visit with her grandparents. As soon as we got in the car, Jessie reached for the radio button. “No, let’s talk for a while.” We talked throughout the half-hour trip home. No radio. As I parked the car, I said, “Wow, we talked the whole way home! Wasn’t that great?” It turns out the chat was more exciting to me than her. But quality communication time with Jessie is something I don’t want to lose.
Jessie’s phrase that bothers me is, “As soon as I get in the car, I change the station.” Somehow, Jessie has become dictator of the radio. As soon as the ignition key turns, Jessie’s index finger hits the radio scan-seek button, pressing it at warp speed, until she finds a song to her liking. Jessie has a strong personality, like her mother, and is a take-charge kind of person, also like her mom. However, I’m still Dad, so though
I often give Jessie great leeway in music selection, volume, and frequency, I can still set boundaries. Okay, Jessie might be able to extend those boundaries by twinkling her pretty eyes, but I don’t want her favorite artists to replace communication with Dad.
With a daughter who loves all kinds of music, I’m confident music will continue to fill our days. Some of the time I’ll like her choices and sing along. Other times, I’ll tell Jessie to turn down the volume, change the station, or I’ll do it myself. She might be faster, but I’m still capable of operating all parts of my vehicle. And there will be more times when the radio will stay off and we’ll talk. Who knows, depending on the topic of conversation, I might be the one
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who wants to hit the radio button and turn up the volume. Tween girls can be more difficult to understand than rapping pop music. But whether our car trips are filled with music or conversation, or conversation about music, one thing is certain ’tween daughter and dad, I love my girl and my girl loves me. That love will show in our daddydaughter talks. I might not like everything I hear, but more times than not, our conversations will be music to my ears. Until next month, remember to cherish the moments. Happy Holidays! Enjoy listening to some of your favorite songs during the holiday season. Patrick Hempfing had a 20-year professional career in banking, accounting, and auditing before he became a father at age 44. He is now a full-time husband, stay-at-home dad, and writer. Follow Patrick at http://patrickhempfing.com. J. L. Hempfing, now 15, began writing with her dad in kindergarten. Her current hobbies include playing clarinet, saxophone, and piano. She also enjoys marching in her high school band. If you enjoyed this column, you’ll like Patrick’s first book, MoMENts: A Dad Holds On. The book compiles favorite stories and new material and is available for sale on Amazon.
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Real Estate in 2021 Curtis Burchett of MKB Realtors gives us his insight into what next year looks like for buyers and sellers.
2020 was one for the real estate record books - why do you think that was? 2020 has been a very interesting year - interest rates have been historically low, and inventory is as low as I can ever recall. It’s a great year for selling a house but it’s been challenging if you’ve been looking to buy. Interest rates are below 3% for a 30 year mortgage - an all time low. Adding the COVID pandemic into the mix, means that some sellers are hesitant to put their house on the market because of fear of having strangers inside their home. So when you combine historically low interest rates with historically low inventory, you get an environment like we’ve not seen in many years - and causing many buyers to over pay for their home. I have seen several buyers this year offer full price or over full price and we still missed the deal. Personally, I refuse to allow a buyer to significantly overpay for a house. What surprised you the most about this year in real estate? The demand in certain areas was surprising to me. Location was never more important than this year. If you wanted to buy a house in southwest city, southwest county, Botetourt county or Smith Mountain Lake, you were going to pay a premium. Raleigh Court and Grandin Court were very hot areas that commonly sold above asking price this year.
and sellers are not giving in. In 2020 sellers loved it, but buyers hated it - but buyers were willing to pay the price because interest rates were so good. The interest rate is the wild card for 2021. If it remains 3% or below, the market will continue to be a phenomenal. So what does that mean for buyers? For one, the days of 100% financing are long gone, unless you have certain special qualification, like a VA or 1st time home buyers loan. Banks are wanting more cash up front, so buyers will have less cash to put into updates. How about sellers? For 2021, sellers will continue to have a strong market and as long as inventory stays low. What updates or improvements should a seller focus their attention on if they plan to sell in 2021? The bottom line is buyers today and 2021 will want an updated, move-in-ready house. If you need to freshen the paint, or update the kitchen, or bathroom, do it in advance, and you will get a premium for it. Today’s buyers will pay a premium if the home is move-in-ready.
What are your predictions about 2021, do you anticipate the market to continue at the pace of 2020? Next year, the federal government is talking about keeping interest rates about the same as now, but most of the experts say for the next 12 to 18 months the market will continue to be as strong. It will still be a phenomenal market as a seller, but buyers may continue to pay a premium price for a desirable property. 2020 had a bit of political uncertainty that will be not be an issue in 2021. I predict 2021 will finally be a year of “I’ve been stuck in my house and now I’m tired of my house and I want a new one.” Economically the best market is when buyers are not overpaying
A native of the area, Curtis Burchett has more than 18 years experience as full-time Realtor. He currently lives in Southwest Roanoke County with his wife and 3 children.
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Knock, knock! Who’s there? Oh, Chris. Oh, Chris who? Oh Christmas tree, Oh Christmas tree! Knock, knock! Who’s there? Snow. Snow who? Snow time to waste. It’s almost Christmas! Knock, knock! Who’s there? Canoe. Canoe who? Canoe you help me bake some Christmas cookies?
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Directions: • Let sit in a warm place overnight, and then remove it from the container to dry.
• Create a snowflake shape by twisting pipe cleaners together. • Attach your snowflake to the pencil or popsicle stick so that it is able to hang into the container without touching the bottom or sides of the container.
What’s happening? When you heat the water and borax, you are creating a super-saturated solution. Essentially, you put more borax into the water than it could normally hold. This happens because by adding heat, the water molecules move away from one another — creating more room for the borax.
• Remove your snowflake to the side. • Boil the cup of water and transfer it to the container you are using.
However, when the water cools, that space goes away because the water molecules move • Stir Try experimenting with the places closer together. This in ¼ you leave the snowflake overnight to means that all of the cup of see if that changes the crystal shape. extra borax will fall borax If you leave your snowflake in a dark out of the solution until place, are the crystals bigger? as the water starts to it all What happens if you leave it in cool. When it does this, a warmer place? Or a cooler the borax needs dissolves. place? somewhere If you are to go. Pipe using more cleaners than 1 cup of Share your results have lots water, add ¼ cup with us of places of borax for each cup for the @Roanoke.Family you are using. borax to on Instagram stick, so • Add 20+ drops of food it grows coloring if desired. into crystals. • Place the snowflake into the borax water so that it is hanging and not touching any of the sides or bottom of the container.
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Bring the Taubman Museum of Art to you with this fun activity inspired by the exhibition From Spain to Virginia: The Art and Times of Pierre Daura, on view through March 7, 2021. The exhibition features over 30 paintings and watercolors with subjects ranging from still lifes and landscapes to expressive portraits.
A self-portrait is a portrait of an artist produced or created by that artist.
Everyone’s face is different and beautiful, but most faces follow these basic proportions:
Materials: Paper Pencil Mirror Ruler
This is a self-portrait of the artist Pierre Daura. Notice his serious expression and the many colors that make up his face, clothes, and hair! Pierre Daura (Catalan-American), 1896-1976, Daura, Olive Shirt, 1960-1969, Oil on canvas, Taubman Museum of Art, Gift of Martha Randolph Daura, 2003.025
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Lightly draw an oval shape near the center of your paper.
Using a ruler, lightly draw a horizontal line through the middle of the oval. Draw another horizontal line through the middle of the bottom section you just created. Then draw one more horizontal line through the middle of the very bottom section. As you draw your facial features, make sure to look at yourself in a mirror and observe the different shapes that make up your face. Draw your eyes on the top horizontal line. The bottom of the nose should rest on the second horizontal line and the lips should be drawn on the bottom horizontal line. Adjust these as necessary for your own face! Continue adding more details (hair, ears, eyebrows, etc.). Consider adding color with markers, paint, or scraps of paper!
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