Roanoke Valley Family Magazine January 2020

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leading off: publisher’s note Another year has gone by and another New Year’s at Noon celebration is in the books. As we reflect on 2019 and the good and the bad that we experienced throughout the year, we are reminded of the symbolic nature of the start of a new year.

A new year gives us an opportunity to start again. A new opportunity to set forth resolutions that we intend to keep in order to better ourselves, our family and our environment. When the page flips over to January on the calendar, we have a lot to be grateful for from the past twelve months, but even more to be hopeful for in the next twelve.

You see, it may be symbolic and it may start off with two dreary, dark months in January and February, but a new year gives us the motivation to aim to be the best we can be and ultimately try to get right what we came up short on in the past year. The staff at Roanoke Valley Family magazine is no different. We are eager for the New Year to begin so we can reach our next milestones, create our next big event and reach all of the new parents in our region. We invite you to come along

for the ride and challenge yourself to be the best mom, dad, grandparent, aunt, uncle or teacher you can be.

We look forward to bringing you, our readers, quality articles and content in the year to come and continue our growth in the region. We are encouraged by the strength and growth of our region and we know that it will help lead the Roanoke Valley to bigger and better things in the years that follow.

Happy New Year!

“Be always at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let each year find you a better man.” - Benjamin Franklin.

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Andrea, Josh, Anika and Evelyn Publisher, Josh Eagan, teaching his daughter Anika....to drive! She was in kindergarten when this magazine debuted!

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the valley News // Local Events // Reviews

the valley: around town

In the ‘Noke

News from around the valley Valeria Dancea, a middle schooler at North Cross School, was selected as one of three winners in Sandy Hook Promise’s Student Voices contest in the Middle School / Written category. Student Voices is part of the Sandy Hook Promise “Start With Hello” week. Students from across the country submitted entries, and Sandy Hook Promise staff and Promise Leaders chose Valeria’s as an award-winning submission.

Sandy Hook Promise will be showcasing Valeria’s work in a local press release as well as during the 2020 National Youth Summit for SAVE Promise Clubs in Cleveland, Ohio. Great work, Valeria!

In partnership with Book City Roanoke, Roanoke County Public Libraries is hosting lively book and movie discussions on a variety of social issues important to the community.

The location for all meetings is the South County Library at 6:30 PM.

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River’s Edge Complex Progress Chances are you’re well aware of the changes taking place at River’s Edge North in Roanoke City. Progress is being made! In mid-November, 100 percent of the base grading work and new athletic facilities were complete. The two new multi-use fields have been outfitted with Bermuda grass, and once open, will alleviate the overuse on the south side of the park.

While not as obvious, crews have completed the majority of the

Hate: Why We Should Resist It With Free Speech, Not Censorship by Nadine Strossen January 23 discuss the Intro - Ch. 4 January 30 discuss Ch. 5 Ch. 9

In Pain: A Bioethicist’s Personal Struggle with Opioids by Travis N. Rieder February 6 discuss part 1 February 13 discuss part 2 February 20 discuss part 3

underground work. Eighty percent of the hidden elements of the park have been installed. This includes underground conduit and electrical cabling for security and architectural lighting, electrical utilities for food trucks, lighted bollards, and decorative fountain operations, plus string lines for curb radius for drive lanes and parking areas.

Roanoke Parks & Rec is now moving into the concrete/masonry and paving components of the work. This includes curb forming, bollard base footers, seat-wall development, and new magnolia-esplanade forming. If the weather pattern cooperates, the park renovations should be completed

by June 2020, just in time for the Ironman race!

NAACP Leader Visits Roanoke

The 69th NAACP Freedom Fund luncheon was held in Roanoke last month, and the featured speaker was Leon Russell, chairman of the National Board of Directors for the NAACP. Mr. Russell, who is a Pulaski native and serves as the Chair of the 110-year-old NAACP, came to address the lunch attendees. According to Brenda Hale, president of the Roanoke Branch of the NAACP, this was the Chair’s first visit to any branch in Virginia. Mr. Russell has served on the NAACP Board of Directors for more than 27 years, serving as its Chair since 2017. He has been a member of the organization since he was a teenager. The NAACP has, for 110 years, sought to secure the political, educational, social, and economic equality of rights to eliminate race-based discrimination and, in turn, ensure the health and well-being of all persons. Mr. Russell provided a heartfelt defense of that mission, advocating for attendees to get out and vote, help educate and inform folks about the issues that matter, attend and participate, and hold those elected to public office accountable. The Roanoke Branch NAACP, chartered in 1933, stands ready under the leadership of Brenda Hale, a longtime advocate for civil rights and a military veteran, to take up Mr. Russell on his charge.

Helping the Homeless Students at Patrick Henry and William Fleming High Schools raised nearly $1,400 for the Help the Homeless Fund in December As a result, Principal Frazier of PH, Principal Freeman of Fleming, and Ms. Duncan of PH took pies to the face at the PH/WF Boys Basketball Game.

2020 will mark 40 years of Community School’s annual Strawberry Festival.

From their website: We’ve come a long way in nearly 40 years! The Strawberry Festival is now a welloiled machine with mechanized berry slicers, an industrial kitchen, and reams of notes that detail timelines and volunteer needs. We now cap and slice approximately 7,000 pints of strawberries and make nearly 10,000 shortcakes!

Join us this year for Community School’s 40th Annual Strawberry Festival.

Always the first weekend in May!

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the valley: business Talk about a super-heroic, tireless, Roanoke-loving, community-serving, all-star mom — whew! Allison’s the complete package, y’all.

Unlike neighbors we’ve highlighted in this column in the past, Allison isn’t a small business owner; however, she works hard for our community in her professional and personal capacities just the same.

As Kroger Mid-Atlantic’s corporate affairs manager, Allison oversees all things community — for instance, Kroger’s Zero Hunger | Zero Waste initiative, which works to end hunger in the community and end waste by the year 2025.

But that’s only the beginning. Allison is also a member of several nonprofit boards. She sits on the board of the Blue Ridge Continuum of Care, a local planning group to end homelessness. She’s also on the boards of the Central Virginia chapter of the American Heart Association and Feeding America – Southwest Virginia.

To Allison, it’s all about community — it’s one of the things she loves about the Roanoke area. “There is such a community feel here,” she said. “People are there for you, and that’s so important.”

That’s not all she loves about the Valley, though.

There is so much to experience here, Allison said — culture, the arts, the outdoors — and she and her husband, Charlie, strive to make the most of it with their two young children.

Both 5-year-old Jackson and 9-(almost 10!)-year-old Kinley are involved in sports throughout the year — and Allison even coaches Kinley’s volleyball team.

The family loves being outdoors together; they spend time hiking at Explore Park, hit the greenway system, and go to local sports games. They also take advantage of arts and culture opportunities like the Taubman Museum’s Art Venture, live children’s theatre, and the downtown Roanoke farmers market.

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To completely round out her awesomeness, Allison makes sure to teach her kids the value of serving others. “I feel strongly about giving back and want to encourage that,” she said. Every chance she gets, she includes Jackson and Kinley in activities that help people in need, like choosing gifts for kids on the Angel Tree, donating change to the Salvation Army bell ringers, participating in the Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure, and filling Kroger’s Feed The Hungry boxes.

It makes sense that Allison’s favorite quote is Teddy Roosevelt’s famous “Believe you can and you’re halfway there,” because her attitude is all about positivity, limitlessness, and following your heart.

So if you bump into Allison on the greenway, at Kroger, on the volleyball court, or perusing the farmers’ goods downtown, stop and say hello to this treasure of a neighbor. And if you can figure out how she fits it all in (and keeps that glowing smile on her face!), pass it on to us!

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Elonda Clark

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Teacher of the Month Elonda’s favorite thing about teaching this formative age group is being able to provide children with “a solid foundation for the love of learning.” The preschool year, she pointed out, is often a child’s first experience with education outside of the home.

Congratulations to Elonda Clark, January’s teacher of the month!

Elonda teaches pre-K at Round Hill Elementary in Roanoke City, and has been teaching preschool for almost 32 years!

She graduated from Bridgewater College in 1988 with a bachelor’s of science in sociology. “I was twenty years old and really didn’t have any idea of what I wanted to do with my life — other than to help others,” Elonda said. She applied for several positions and was finally offered a job teaching preschool at Yellow Brick Road Early Learning Center, a private preschool located on the campus of Washington and Lee University in Lexington.

“The director of the school, Hunter Mohring, took me under her wing. She coached me to develop my talents and believed in my abilities to nurture young children.” In 1989, Elonda decided to return to school to earn a degree in early childhood education. Then, in the spring of 1990, she began her career as a preschool teacher.

“It was all because others believed in my abilities,” she said, “the abilities I didn’t even realize I possessed.”

“Preschoolers are still very innocent and full of curiosity. They love learning.

Their eyes light up with excitement as they discover new information — and they believe their teacher is amazing!”

Teaching a room full of four-year-olds — who aren’t used to the rules of the road when it comes to classroom learning (and even if they were, don’t yet have the kind of self-control to sit quietly in desks all day) — would be a daunting task for anyone. What’s Elonda’s secret to avoiding complete chaos? “Consistency, routine, and a caring, understanding relationship with each student,” she said.

“I try to treat each student as I would want my own child or grandchildren treated. I also have a secret weapon I use very often . . . I whisper. When I want to get a child’s attention, I whisper.

Try it. It works.”

Elonda’s passion for giving children a good foundation extends beyond her classroom. Four years ago, she opened her home and became a foster parent.

Since then, she’s had seven different children in her home. Right now, she has two children living with her — a five-year-old girl and her three-year-old brother.

“I guess I have a weakness for making a difference,” she said. “And I really do love children.”

She’s a dog lover, too. Elonda’s family also includes Tucker Joe, a 13-year-old dachshund, a 9-year-old terrier mix named Lacie (whom she rescued from Angels of Assisi), Sadie, a 5-year-old chihuahua mix from Franklin County Planned Pethood, and a 3-year-old chocolate lab mix named Rio — an RVSCPA rescue.

In her free time, Elonda enjoys going camping with family and friends. “I love campfires, fishing, and floating on the lake,” she said. “I also love going to the beach, taking naps, and watching football or the Hallmark channel.”

However, Elonda’s most favorite thing to do is spend time with her son, daughterin-law, and three grandchildren: Jeremiah (4), Ava (3), and Hazel (8 months). “I LOVE being a grammie!” she said.

It’s Elonda’s kind of love and dedication that sets kids on track for a lifetime of learning, curiosity, empathy, and exploration. What a fantastic educator to highlight as we kick off another year — may she be an example for all of us in our interactions with the little ones in our lives, and with each other.

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JANUARY

Stop by Elmwood Park in Downtown Roanoke for Ice Skating and Ice Sliding!

On days that Roanoke City Schools are out, the rink is open 11:00AM – 10:00PM! Limited hours on Thanksgiving and Christmas Eve. Closed Christmas Day.

Railyard Dawg Games Berglund Center Railyarddawgs.com

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Monday & Tuesday - Closed Wednesday & Thursday - 4:00PM - 9:00PM Friday - 4:00PM - 10:00PM Saturday - 11:00AM - 10:00PM Sunday - 12:00PM - 7:00PM Skate Admission: $6 | Skate Rental: $2 | Ice Slide: $3

Waitress Jan 13 | Berglund Center theberglundcenter.com

Combined Skate, Slide & Rental: $10 Season pass available for $75.Private Rentals are available.

Visit www.ElmwoodOnIce.com for more information.

Daniel Tiger Live!

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Ice Age Festival Jan 25 | VMNH VMNH.org

Downtown Roanoke

Upcoming Events

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Elmwood on Ice presented by ValleyStar Credit Union Open Through February 2 - Elmwood Park

Downtown Roanoke Restaurant Week

January 17 - 26 - Many Participating Restaurants in Downtown Roanoke

For details, visit DowntownRoanoke.org

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January 2

Bookies & Cookies

10:30 AM, Salem Public Library Enjoy a cookie-themed storytime & a delicious snack! salemlibrary.info

Berglund Center will be completely transformed, for one weekend only, into a Home and Garden Extravaganza. From the front door to the backyard you’ll find it all at the Greater Roanoke Home & Garden Show. theberglundcenter.com

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January 3 Kids Night Out

5 PM- 8:30 PM, Taubman Museum of Art, Roanoke

Rail Yard Dawgs Home Games

7 PM | Berglund Civic Center, Roanoke Tickets are $11-$22

Parents drop off your little ones ages 5-12 for three hours of artmaking, galleries, and fun in Art Venture! taubmanmuseum.org

January 7

12/7 - Star Wars Night 12/12 - Thirsty Thursday 12/14 - Teddy Bear Toss 12/21 - Dawgs Fight Cancer 12/31 - New Years Eve* 1/3 - Wine Glass Giveaway 1/10 - Nickelodeon Night *Game Starts at 6:05PM

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DIY Snowflakes & Hot Chocolate

2 PM - 3 PM, Glenvar Library Enjoy a cup of hot chocolate while you create snowflakes. yourlibrary.us

January 10-12 11th Annual Greater Roanoke Home & Garden Show Berglund Center, Roanoke

We can help you get your Projects Solved! The entire

Glow Night at the Indoor Pool

6:30 PM - 8:30 PM, Green Ridge Recreational Center, Roanoke Experience the Green Ridge indoor pool with glow sticks, music on and the lights turned down low. Advance registration is required due to limited space. roanokecountyparks.com

Virginia Tech Ice Hockey vs.

West Virginia University 7:30 PM, Lancerlot Sports Complex, Vinton

Come see Hokie Hockey face off against the Mountaineers! $5 adults, kids under 12 are free. virginiatechicehockey.com

January 11 Fire & Ice - Polar Plunge and Family Fun 1 PM - 4 PM, Green Ridge Recreation Center, Roanoke

The final anniversary week event combines the icy chill of a polar plunge, with the

Happy Birthday Beethoven!

February 15 • 7:30 PM February 16 • 3:00 PM

Shaftman Performance Hall Jefferson Center

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the Valley: things to do warmth of a campfire! It’s an afternoon of fun for spectators and participants, with s’mores and food trucks on site. Taking the Plunge? Jump in at 2 PM. Your $5 registration fee will be donated to Therapeutic Recreation Services of the Roanoke Valley to help serve individuals with disabilities in our area. $5 per person. roanokecountyparks.com

Virginia Tech Ice Hockey vs. University of North Carolina 7:30 PM, Lancerlot Sports Complex, Vinton

Come see Hokie Hockey face off against the Tarheels! $5 adults, kids under 12 are free. virginiatechicehockey.com

Free Fanciful Fairy Tales Master Class 10:30 AM, 3rd Floor Mill Mountain Studio, Roanoke

Immerse yourself in fantasy characters while developing a fairy tale using writing, improvisation, and movement.

Fairy tales are stories about magic, enchantment, and adventure! Students will explore tales and characters from their imaginations through music, games, improvisation, and performance! This workshop will end with a miniperformance and is geared towards 2nd – 6th graders.

Registration required. millmountain.org

January 13 Waitress

7:30 PM, Berglund Center, Roanoke Meet Jenna, a waitress and expert pie-maker who dreams of a way out of her small town and rocky marriage. Pouring her heart into her pies, she crafts desserts that mirror her topsy-turvy life such as “The Key (Lime) to Happiness Pie” and “Betrayed

By My Eggs Pie.” When a baking contest in a nearby county — and a satisfying run-in with someone new — show Jenna a chance at a fresh start, she must find the courage to seize it. Change is on the menu, as long as Jenna can write her own perfectly personal recipe for happiness.

Tickets start at $42. theberglundcenter.com

January 13 & 22 Trauma-Responsive Parent Community Meeting January 13, 6 PM at William Flemming High School January 22, 6 PM at Patrick Henry High School

Roanoke City Public Schools is a trauma-informed district. We

realize parents/guardians play an important role in preventing Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs). The District is hosting two community meetings called “The Trauma-Responsive Parent.” Dinner will be served at both meetings.

January 15 Pete the Cat Party!

10:30 AM, Main Library, Downtown Roanoke

Hey, cool cats! Come party like Pete the Cat at the Main Library! We’ll read some of our favorite Pete stores, do some crafts, and dance the Cool Cat Boogie! roanokeva.gov/library

January 17 Sensory Night

5:30 PM - 7:30 PM, Salem Public Library This is an opportunity for individuals with special needs to visit the library after hours!

Come check out books, DVDs, and more, and enjoy fun activities with our fantastic event partners. salemlibrary.info

January 19 Night Howls

5:30 PM - 7 PM, Mill Mountain Zoo, Roanoke Bundle up and bring your friends to the zoo to hear the wolves howl, the owls hoot and the big cats call! Participants will begin the night indoors enjoying hot cider and cookies while learning about nocturnal animals and the noises they make. Guests will then proceed outdoors for a guided tour of the zoo in the dark to observe the creatures and enjoy spectacular views of the city at night. Admisison is $9-$15. mmzoo.org

January 22 Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood Live!

6 PM, Berglund Center, Roanoke Daniel Tiger and all of his friends from the beloved PBS KIDS television series are hopping aboard Trolley to our town! Along with “O” the Owl, Katerina Kittycat, Prince Wednesday, Mom and Dad Tiger and many more, Daniel Tiger will take live audiences on an interactive musical adventure to the Neighborhood of MakeBelieve, sharing stories of friendship, helping others and celebrating new experiences.

This live theatrical production filled with music, dancing, laughter and “grr-ific” surprises will warm the hearts of multiple

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the Valley: things to do generations. Admission is $25-$75. theberglundcenter.com

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Free Screening Narrated by Matt Damon, this feature-length documentary explores the growing privatization of public schools and the resulting impact on America’s most vulnerable children. Filmed in Philadelphia, New Orleans, Nashville and other cities, BACKPACK FULL OF CASH takes viewers through the tumultuous 2013-14 school year, exposing the world of corporate-driven education “reform” where public education -- starved of resources -- hangs in the balance. grandintheatre.com

5:30 PM, Kid’s Square Children’s Museum, Center in the Square, Roanoke RSVP is required, limited seating. abcsofaba.com

Virginia Tech Ice Hockey vs. James Madison University 7:30 PM, Lancerlot Sports Complex, Vinton

Come see Hokie Hockey face off against the Dukes! $5 adults, kids under 12 are free. virginiatechicehockey.com

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January 25 Harry Potter Night Ice Age Festival 2020

9 AM - 4 PM, Virginia Museum of Natural History, Martinsville A giant ground sloth, a mummy mammoth, and Ice Age fossils from Madagascar highlight the 2020 Ice Age Festival!

Interact with paleontologists and other Ice Age experts as you marvel over their Ice Age fossils and displays!

Children will have a blast taking part in Ice Age themed games and crafts throughout the day, as well as face painting and balloon animals!

Admission is $5-$10. vmnh.net

January 27 Movie Night

5 PM, South County Library, Roanoke Enjoy a cult classic inspired by some of our favorite video game characters!

Popcorn and movie showing in the teen center. yourlibrary.us

4 PM, South County Library, Roanoke Celebrate this international event with all things Harry Potter!

This year’s theme is the Triwizard Tournament - join us for themed activities, challenges, costume contest, and more!

Witches, wizards, and Muggles of all ages are welcome.

February 8-9 Big Lick Comic Con

Berglund Center, Roanoke

Featuring a massive experience of comics, vendors, artists, guests, gaming, cosplay, creators and fun. Celebrity Guests include actor Jason David Frank of Mighty Morphin Power Rangers, James Marsters of Marvel’s Runaways & Buffy the Vampire Slayer & Pro-Wrestling star Lisa Marie Varon. Guest creators include Bob Mcleod, Graham Nolan, Christian Gossett and Tom Cook!

Special exhibits include a 1966 Batmobile & Batbike replicas and more to be announced! biglickcomiccon.com

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Every Day • Mama Maria’s 11 AM - 2 PM • 3 & under free buffet with paid adult W. Main St., Salem (540) 389-2848 • Golden Corral All Day • 3 & under free buffet with paid adult 1441 Towne Square Blvd., Roanoke (540) 563-8826 IHop 4PM-10PM • 12 & Under All Locations

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• Shoney’s All Day • 4 & under, free kids meal with adult entree purchase. Drink not included 2673 Lee Highway, Troutville (540) 992-6400

Monday • Country Cookin’ 4 PM - Close • 10 & under, 2 children per paid adult All Locations in Roanoke (540) 774-0199

• Famous Anthony’s 3 PM - Close • 1 child per paid adult All Locations in Roanoke, Salem, & Vinton (540) 362-1400 • Buffalo Wild Wings 4 PM - 9 PM • 12 & under, 1 child per paid adult All Locations (540) 725-9464 • El Rio Mexican Grill All Day • 10 & under, 1 child per paid adult 4208 Electric Rd., Roanoke (540) 685-4343 • Firehouse Subs All Day • 11 & under, 2 children per paid adult combo,dine in Blacksburg (540) 961-0371 • The Green Goat All Day • 12 & under, 1 child per paid adult 802 Wiley Dr. SW, Roanoke (540) 904-6091

Tuesday • Denny’s 4 PM - 10 PM • 12 & under,

1 child per paid adult All Locations Roanoke & Salem (540) 389-5074 • Macado’s 4 PM - 9 PM • 12 & under, $1 child meal per paid adult All Locations in Roanoke & Salem (540) 776-9884 • McAlister’s Deli 5 PM - Close • 2 children per paid adult 2063 Colonial Ave., Roanoke (540) 204-4407 • Town Center Tap House All Day • 12 & under, 2 children per paid adult 90 Town Center St., Daleville (540) 591-9991 • Firehouse Subs All Day • 12 & under, 1 child per paid adult Colonial Ave, Town Square & Salem only (540) 345-3131

• Pizza Hut 5 PM - Close • 10 & under, free buffet per paid adult 1016 Hershberger Rd., Roanoke (540) 362-3834 • Ruby Tuesday 5 PM - Close • 11 & under, 1 child per paid adult Electric Rd., Roanoke (540) 265-9301 • K&W All Day • 12 & under, 1 child per paid adult Hershberger Rd. Roanoke (540) 563-4977

Wednesday • Dogwood 4 PM - Close • 10 & under, per paid adult 106 E. Lee Ave., Vinton (540) 343-6549 • The Quarter All Day • 12 & under, 1 child per paid adult 19 Salem Ave., Roanoke (540) 342-2990

Thursday • The Roanoker 4:30 PM - Close • 10 & under, 2 children per paid adult 2522 Colonial Ave., Roanoke (540) 344-7746 • Jerry’s Family Restaurant 4 PM - Close • 6 & under, 1 child per adult meal purchase 1340 E. Washington Ave., Vinton (540) 343-4400

Friday See Everyday Deals!

Saturday • Tokyo Express 11 AM - 3 PM • 4 & under free buffet per paid adult 1940 W Main St., Salem (540) 389-6303 • Famous Anthony’s 12 PM - Close • 1 child per adult meal

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Sunday • Pizza Den 5 PM - 8:30 PM • 10 & under free buffet per paid adult buffet and drink purchase Salem (540) 389-1111 • Local Roots 5 PM -7 PM • 5 & under eat for free, discount for ages 5-7 per paid adult 1314 Grandin Rd., Roanoke (540) 206-2610 • T.G.I.Fridays All Day • 12 & under 1 with paying adult 4869 Valley View Blvd., Roanoke (540) 362-1475 • Jimmy V’s Restaurant All Day • 4 & under kids meal only $2.50 3403 Brandon Ave., Roanoke (540) 345-7311

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My Birth Story

by Jen Marie Cliff

There have been two important women in my life: one who bore me and gave me up, and one who found me and raised me as her own.

My parents adopted me in Manila, Philippines in February 1984 at 6 months old. The unique part was that my American mom knew me before she adopted me.

She volunteered at the American Women’s Association through a program called CRIBBS, where she played with the babies at my orphanage. Apparently, I was one of her favorites.

As an adopted person, I have an unconventional perspective of family and motherhood. I don’t believe that “blood is thicker than water,” but I do know that our relationship with ourselves reflects how we treat others and how we face life’s challenges. I’ve had some negative experiences as a new mom, but to me, they were lessons, not scars.

I remember thinking pregnancy must be a magical time for women. Then, when I was actually pregnant, I discovered​t​ hat’s a load of crap. (Ask any pregnant woman in her third trimester.)

So before I tell you about my birth story, let’s go back about two months before the day my son, Liam, was born: I was sitting in my follow-up appointment after an unexpected premature labor scare.

I was working nights as a neurotrauma critical care nurse. I was on my feet for 12 to 14 hours each shift.

I was exhausted.

My OBGYN is a man who once told me he had “an honorary vagina.” His rationale for this was being in the proximity of

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many vaginas and having seen many births.

Meanwhile, the combination of my nurseself and my pregnant-fat self was sitting there all uncomfortable, wanting to pee every five minutes, and all I wanted was a damn hot dog!

I grabbed a bath towel, shoved it between my legs, got the go-bag and drove to the hospital by MYSELF — partly because my mind was like, “You’ve done this five times already.” And partly, like a true feminist, I was like, “You can do it!”

When I told him I thought my job was possibly connected to my baby trying to come out early, his response was, “Studies have shown that pregnant physicians who worked twenty-four-plus hours didn’t show any concerns with the baby’s condition...”

After that, all I heard was “blah, blah, blah.” Clearly, he wasn’t listening to me.

I was admitted at eight centimeters dilated.

Then my husband showed up at around three a.m. Finally, the nurse wanted to know if I planned on having an epidural.

You have to understand something about me. I’m a mutt when it comes to belief systems — a blend of science and spirituality; nurse and healer; a mixture of type A and B personalities. For the most part, I don’t like taking pharmaceutical drugs.

In addition, my strapping husband looks like a Viking at six feet two inches, with dirty blond hair and green eyes. I’m a four-footeleven Filipino woman — just shy of the legal height of a dwarf.

So, you could say I had my ​concerns​about the baby’s size coming out of my ​area​.

Fast-forward the following weeks: I was admitted to the hospital FIVE times before I actually gave birth — each attempt on a Tuesday. Twice, I had to have a magnesium drip for 12 hours each. (The two main reasons for this drug is to prolong preterm labor and to protect the baby’s brain.)

As for m ​ y​side effects: Basically, I was drooling out of my mouth and staring into the unknown, daydreaming about nothing while having hot flashes and trying not to throw up.

At some point between the third or fourth hospital visit, my physician smartened up and told me, “Maybe you should stop working.”

Then came the BIG day: June 20, 2017.

Yes, it was on a Tuesday. It was around one in the morning. I was by myself since my husband was working a 24-hour shift at the fire station. I was on the toilet, thinking about my dead cat of 10 years, whom I’d had to put down a month earlier.

I was crying my eyes out. I felt so pathetic because I’m not a super emotional person, but between the pregnant body that looked like I was carrying twins, the constant pain, lack of sleep, and now the loss of my dear cat, I was a hot mess.

I stood up from the toilet, and as I walked forward, a massive amount of fluid burst onto the floor... and my first reaction was to ​mop it up​. So, I was mopping ​and trailing all this fluid around the house, and finally, I snapped out of it. “What the hell am I doing!?”

I’d felt minor contractions for the past two months, but the real contractions started, and holy cow I couldn’t breathe! In that moment, my nurse-self came out: “YES, I’LL TAKE THE DRUGS, PLEASE!” I was so glad I did.

I was in labor for 12 hours. The last two of those hours I was pushing. When I tell my birth story in front of my husband to a group of people, he normally likes to add that he, too, was pushing with me. Every time I pushed, he’d squeeze the bed railing as he watched me push. He likes to add how tired​he​was during this time.

What is with the men in my life taking all the credit!? First my physician, now my husband? Seriously? (To my husband, I say: “Did you get hemorrhoids? Did your vagina tear? Did you feel like you were delivering a bowling ball out of your area? NO! Go away — this is my story!”)

The last 30 minutes were the most interesting . . . I vaguely remember the female doctor telling me, “We have fifteen minutes until I take you to get a C-section.”

When I set my mind to something, I do it — and oh baby, this kid is coming out ​right​ NOW. I pushed like my life depended on it, and funny enough, that’s exactly what had to happen.

I remember pushing — pushing hard — and I all wanted to do was take a freakin’ break.

Then, all of a sudden the doctor yelled, “​ We have a shoulder!​” (My heart dropped; the baby was stuck.)

A swarm of nurses burst through the door, and my vision started to narrow.

As a nurse, in my world, when you see a team of nurses surrounding the patient’s bed that typically means someone is going to die or is dead.

My nurse pushed my husband out of the way, took down the side rail, stepped on it, and said, “Sorry, honey!” She jumped in the air, and for a split-second, everything slowed down.

She looked like a WWF wrestler in mid-air.

Her fist dropped down and stabbed my pelvic area, and I remember making a “HHHHHHHHHHH” sound as all the air got knocked out. There were nurses all around me. One at my left ear was shouting, “PUUUUSSSHHHHHH!” Another nurse was yelling on my right, and the doctor was yanking the baby’s head. Meanwhile, my husband and mom were in the corner, speechless.

In the last few seconds, I started uncontrollably crying — not because I was scared, but it was like my body knew it was ending. I was still pushing for my baby’s life, and then POP! Sweet relief, the pressure was gone.

A few seconds later, I heard the baby cry.

I’d imagined my day being a lot more peaceful, intimate, and not lifethreatening. Life likes to give us surprises, keep us on our toes, and make us really appreciate the unexpected moments.

The best moment of my life was holding that little troublemaker in my arms, all wet and funny-looking. Now I was crying because I’d never felt so much love for something that was so small and delicate.

I felt reborn in that beautiful and speechless moment. I was now responsible for this little guy’s life, this person I barely knew but would do ​anything​for. I’m grateful for not having to give up my child for the sake of survival, like the woman who bore me. I’m grateful for my mom who raised me as her own, and now I’m so grateful to be a mom.

Jen is a mom to a wild toddler and wife to a firefighter/AEMT/paramedic student.

Her diverse experiences in nursing include Resource Pool, Neurotrauma Critical Care, and Home Hospice. Currently, she holds a per diem position on an Oncology/Palliative care unit. She has been a Usui and Karuna® Reiki Master Teacher (RMT)/practitioner since 2011, a Shaman apprentice since 2018, and she opened her small holistic business in 2019, focusing on self-care and heart-centered living. She is one of the founders of Huddle Up Moms, a new local organization dedicated to empowering women through education and connection.

She is passionate about health, wellness, and alternative methods, and hopes to inspire moms to love their body, mind, heart, and soul.

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Don’t let the weather get your family down — there’s no better Try some of these ideas to brighten everyone’s spirit an Make a fort. Indoor tents and forts make fun play areas as well as cozy retreats for reading or watching movies. To build a fort, take several bed sheets, tablecloths, or blankets, and hang them over tables or backward-facing chairs. For a more permanent structure, connect PVC tubing into the shape of a box. Then drape it with sheets.

Hold an art workshop. Gather the basics such as paper, paint, and markers. Then scrounge for a variety of recyclables such as boxes, toilet paper rolls, plastic bottles, caps, old magazines, and anything else you can think of. If you have any crafting supplies such as yarn, fabric, or glitter, pull those out as well. Then let your family’s inspiration flow, and create to everyone’s heart’s content.

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Do a family read-in. First, head to the library and have everyone pick out some books. When you return home, pull out pillows and blankets in the family room, and spend the day lounging and reading.

Another option is for everyone to take turns reading aloud from a book that’s geared toward all ages.

Learn self-defense. Rent or buy a martial arts DVD on basic self-defense. Then gather the whole family to practice techniques that could help them escape a dangerous situation.

Hold a magic show. Pick up magic trick books or watch magic videos online. Then practice up and invite the neighborhood kids to come and watch your act.

Have a dance-a-thon. Crank up the volume to some pop, hip-hop, or whatever your kids› favorite music is, and see whose energy holds out the longest.

Play bakery. What better way to warm up on a chilly day and enjoy family time than to bake up some tasty treats? Make a day of it, and get all your baking done in advance for an upcoming gathering or so you have treats to store. After you’ve sufficiently sampled the goodies, freeze the remainder.

Sizzling science fun. Search online for fun experiments you can conduct at home with basic household products and ingredients.

Perform a few. Then make a video of a really cool one to post on YouTube.

Have a family workout. Physical fitness is vital for the entire family. Look for a HIIT, Zumba, or other cardiovascular exercise

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Paint a wall mural. Is your family artistic? If so, choose a wall in your basement, garage, mudroom, or playroom in need of a personal touch. Before you begin, draw your mural idea on a piece of paper. Then buy three or four quarts of primary color paints plus a quart of white and black. You can mix the colors at home to create additional colors and shades.

Hold a family game night. Pull out the cards and board games and gather some snacks.

Then start keeping score to see who will be the night’s grand winner.

Enjoy a picnic. Who says picnics are only for outdoors? Put together all the fixings of a picnic complete with a picnic basket, if you have one. Then spread out a blanket in your family room and enjoy the grub.

Tell stories. Write a dozen or so story prompts, each on a separate piece of paper, and toss them into a bowl. Then take turns pulling out a story prompt and telling a story. Another option is for one person to start the story. Then, go around the room, and each of you adds a sentence to the story. See how long you can keep the story alive.

Get cultured. Choose a culture your family would like to experience and learn more about. Look for recipes from that culture online as well as mealtime customs for a fuller experience. Then have everyone pitch in and help cook the international fare.

Perform a puppet show. Pull out old socks or brown paper lunch bags and make your own puppets. Draw on the faces and use yarn or string for the hair. Then take turns performing your acts.

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Fuel Their Minds & Bodies

Nutritious Foods and Beverages Set the Stage for Optimal Learning

by Susan Baldani

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any variables contribute to a child’s academic success. Focus is often on student-teacher ratio, parental involvement, and access to support services for kids who are struggling. Of course, all these factors are very critical, but one that is often forgotten is the importance of good nutrition when it comes to learning.

Research has proven that children who eat healthy breakfasts and well-balanced lunches are often more alert, more productive, and less tired and jittery during the school day. Foods and beverages that children often prefer for breakfast, like high-sugar cereals and juice, can initially lead to a burst of energy that quickly dissipates, leaving them hungry and irritable. Lunch foods like chicken fingers and cheeseburgers are also detrimental.

According to the Society for Neuroscience, recent studies revealed that diets with high levels of saturated fats actually impair learning and memory.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) report that “eating a healthy breakfast is associated with improved cognitive function (especially memory), reduced absenteeism, and improved mood.” They also found that “empty calories from added sugars and solid fats contribute to 40% of daily calories for children and adolescents age 2–18 years.

Approximately half of these empty calories come from six sources: soda, fruit drinks, dairy desserts, grain desserts, pizza, and whole milk.”

Schools are trying to do their part to give their students a nutritional advantage.

An initiative called the Healthy Schools Program has been incorporated into schools across the United States, replacing many of the processed lunch foods with fruits, salads, and lean proteins. Low-fat milk and water are also being offered.

So, what can parents do at home? Mornings are often hectic with parents trying to get

to work and kids to school, and children often skip breakfast for many reasons.

Some have early-morning extracurricular activities or have to make an early bus.

Others may be trying to finish homework or a project from the night before.

Shredded white meat chicken with chopped-up vegetables like celery and baby carrots.

Tuna pouches packed in water, or tuna mixed with low-fat mayonnaise and vegetables.

Because parents and caregivers cannot always control what their children choose for lunch, breakfast is even more important. So, why not set the alarm clock for 15 or 20 minutes earlier? This way, both parents and kids have more time in the morning and can choose meals that are fast and nutritious, like the combinations below: Low-sugar, whole-grain cereal, low-fat milk, and sliced banana.

Oatmeal with fruit and low-fat milk. Choose plain quick oats and add in a small amount of honey and fruit, and pop into the microwave. Most are ready in minutes.

Whole-wheat toast with peanut butter.

Yogurt (buy it plain, since many yogurts have a surprisingly high amount of sugar), and mix in honey, nuts, and fruit.

These are all quick and easy, and if necessary, can be eaten in the car or on the bus.

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Add in some tasty but nutritious snacks, like nuts, nectarines, grapes, and dried fruit (with no sugar added).

Besides providing the right foods for optimal learning, it’s also important for children to consume enough liquids. The CDC found that “adequate hydration may also improve cognitive function in children and adolescents, which is important for learning.”

Because of the high sugar content, juice should be limited or cut with water. Look for alternatives for your child. Some children may find plain water distasteful, but drop some blueberries or strawberries into the cup, and they may find it more appealing. Give them a straw, and then let them poke holes and mash the fruit to release its natural flavors.

Once children get into the habit of taking the time to eat a healthy meal, it will become another part of their routine.

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New Year, New Budget, New Memories!

by Leslie Butterfield Harrop

New Year’s resolutions are undoubtedly filling up your newsfeed and taking front and center at the office water cooler! As a single mother, my resolutions are usually twofold: Make fun and lasting memories with my kids (yay!) and stick to a budget (nay!). Sometimes, these two goals can seem to conflict with each other: I would love to take my children on a world-class cruise to make amazing memories, but unless there is a cruise line that accepts Monopoly money, that won’t be in the cards for us this year.

Is It Possible to Make Lasting Memories on a Budget?

Yes, yes, YES! As a single mother, I am always looking for ways to save on expenses overall. I have used couponing apps, worked a side hustle, and even bartered for goods and services. To save in this day and age, you must be willing to ask, research, and get creative. Here is a breakdown of these budgeting basics:

Ask, ask, and ask again.

It is amazing to me just how much it can help to ask for the best deal. Any time you

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are booking airfare, hotel, or lodging, or seats for the orchestra, call the ticketing office directly and speak to a live person.

Ask if there are any deals going on, if there a coupon that is current, and ask about upcoming promotions that can save you money! A personal connection is always beneficial. You do not have to give them your sob story, just be polite and courteous and genuine. I promise that a bit of kindness can be paid forward to translate into some good fortune that saves you the moo-lah! Pro Tip: Always ask to be put on the waiting list if there is an event you are wanting to attend but that is sold out.

Oftentimes, prices are cut for tickets at the last minute.

Research.

Budgeting takes time, persistence, and research! There is a trade-off giving your time to save the bucks. In other words, put in the work and enjoy the payoff. When researching budgeting tips, it helps to learn about prime buying times and how variations on something like travel dates can impact price. For example, if you are looking to take a weekend trip, you can bet that airfare flying out on Thursday and returning on Sunday is going to run you in the red! But flex those days a bit, by trying Wednesday to Saturday or even Friday to Monday, and you’ll see a difference in price that is worth the wait. Know when specific retailers mark down their inventory. Pro

Tip: Make friends with the sales associates at your favorite store and get even more of the insider scoop, like when sales are coming up and where the clearance items are stockpiled.

Get creative.

Okay, this may be the most important basic tip of all. Think outside the box when it comes to budgeting those dollars! Is there a way to trade a service you can provide for a service you are wanting from someone else? Bartering is a two-way street, and you would be surprised at just how much it can benefit both parties equally. Remember to ask, offer, and get creative to find a solution that works. If it is a business that you frequent, offer to share and post about their services and do a social review for them. If you have your sights set on taking a special vacation but lack those funds, clean out your closet and take your discarded items to a consignment sale. There was even a time I gathered loose change from a Wendy’s parking lot, which bought dinner for all of us with those lucky pennies. There is no limit on creativity! Pro Tip: Work to partner with other like minds in your community to find ways to trade and barter services — this will build a network of savvy savers at your fingertips!

Memorable Moments Make Life Meaningful Now that we’ve covered the basics, let’s get to the bulk! Building memories with your family that are beloved and treasured can sometimes be a challenge, especially if you have a pre-teen and a toddler in tow. Finding budget-friendly activities that sustain attention and offer enough stimulation for everyone at all ages is not always easy. There are a few rules that I try to follow when planning for fun with my kids. Namely, I try to aim for learning, incorporate sensory experiences, and strike while the iron is hot (don’t worry, I’ll explain below)!

Aim for learning.

Look for activities that enhance learning opportunities for kids. Learning takes place at any age, so age does not matter too much when it comes to this rule. A toddler can learn just as much as a pre-teen at the same place, but what they learn will be different. For example, I took my all kids to walk through the art museum recently. We saw sculptures, paintings, impressions, and drawings. My older kids were interested in reading the titles of the artwork and finding meaning in the expressions, while my younger kids liked to point out what they

The Taubman Art Museum has free daily admission and their interactive children’s space, Art Venture is $5 per person and free for museum members! saw within the paintings themselves. Pro Tip: Art museums often have free admission or discount days — find out when and plan ahead. Check out the art museums at local colleges, which are almost always free and offer artwork that is beautiful and always very inventive!

Incorporate sensory experiences I have an autistic child who has sensory processing challenges, but this is not the only reason why I focus our fun on things that provide sensory stimulation. My other kids also have sensory needs — in fact, ALL kids have sensory needs. Kids can learn and engage best when their senses are stimulated. Their minds wake up! This primes minds for perceiving and brains for retaining. We routinely take nature walks around the beautiful sights we have here in Southwest Virginia. During nature walks, we engage our five senses by listening, seeing, smelling, and touching what nature has to offer around us. My kids enjoy the input that walking provides while learning about nature at the same time. You can do this at the beach, at arboretums, or even any neighborhood park. Pro Tip: The library has children’s adventure packs that can be checked out, which include landmark info, guidebooks and even free admission to national and state parks. Happy hiking!

Strike while the iron is hot.

Have a kiddo that cannot stop doing cartwheels? Take them to open gym at the local gymnastics arena for Saturday

afternoon! Have a kiddo that sings Disney songs to her stuffed animals? Get tickets to a performance by the local children’s choir.

Have a kiddo that is slightly obsessed with planes, trains, and automobiles? Go to the library and check out books, movies, and audio-materials on this topic. Have a kiddo that wants to be a vet? Go to the local animal shelter and talk to the vet techs and love on those cute and cuddly rescue animals. My point is that let your child lead the way when it comes to making memories together. When we as parents notice the interests of our children and provide opportunities to ignite that spark they already have, our kids feel special, loved, and cared for in a way that is as unique as they are!

Overall, you can see that family fun does not have to break the bank. No matter what your goals are this year, rest assured that you can have the best of both worlds and bargain that budget and make those memories!

Lesley Butterfield Harrop is a registered nurse, specializing in community health and mental wellness. Lesley is passionate about increasing literacy about emotional intelligence, and she has contributed to several websites, blogs, and national publications, including the Salt Lake Tribune, BYU Magazine, and BTR.org. She has certifications and trainings in trauma-informed care, disability advocacy, familial mental health, and resiliency. Lesley serves on the board of directors for NAMI-Virginia and is a single mom of four kids and a feisty Chihuahua named Chaos.

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TEN HABITS OF

HEALTHY FAMILIES

by Susan Baldani

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Between school, work, sports and technology, it’s sometimes hard for families to connect and spend meaningful time together. An important characteristic of healthy families is that they spend time doing enjoyable activities with each other.

“Healthy families tend to select activities that promote the family as being important and help the family to grow closer,” said Richard L. Sale, Ph.D. There are ways to ensure that this quality time happens regularly by fitting it into the family schedule, the same way you fit in a dentist’s appointment or a baseball game.

After a while, many of these activities will become habitual.

“Try planning family ‘dates.’ Enter an official family date on the calendar where everyone can see it. The date can be anything from going to see a movie together to spending an afternoon at the park,” said Karen Kleinschmidt, who has worked with children with ADHD, sensory issues, and behavioral problems.

Here are some positive habits every family can incorporate into their routine: Play together.

Get down on the floor and play with your child. Or, run around the house playing hide and seek. It doesn’t matter what game you play; your child will be happy to be doing one of his favorite pastimes with you.

“A child just wants to interact with the parent more. That’s the whole point.

Playing with other children may be fun, but nothing beats the joy and satisfaction of getting one’s parent to play with you.”

- Darcia F. Narvaez, Ph.D., professor of psychology at the University of Notre Dame.

Eat together.

Whether it’s home-cooked food or takeout, sitting down to eat as a family creates an opportunity to find out about each other’s day. For children, it’s a chance to rejoice in their successes, ask for help with their failures, and share their worries. For parents, it’s a chance to be a part of their children’s everyday lives and to talk about their own experiences.

“When families come together to eat, they create an emotional harmony that I think is pretty sacred for long-term health.” - Dr. Mehmet Oz Volunteer together.

Giving of your time as a family creates a sense of accomplishment and pride in helping those less fortunate. Have each family member choose a cause meaningful to him or her, and support that person by getting involved. Once everyone sees the differences they’re making, volunteering will hopefully become a family tradition.

“Whether repairing a wall, cleaning up a trail, or staffing a food booth, there is something very satisfying about working together. The banter, laughter, and problem-solving that go on strengthen and deepen family relationships.”

- Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D., psychologist and marriage and family counselor.

Laugh together.

Yes, sometimes laughter is the best medicine. Whether it’s watching a funny movie, telling corny jokes, or acting silly, having a good chuckle is something a family can enjoy together.

“In the long term, regular bouts of laughter can lessen anxiety and depression, in addition to inducing the body to produce its own natural painkillers.”

- Maryn Liles, editor, Parents magazine.

Exercise together.

Choose something that the whole family can do. It can be as simple as taking a 20-minute walk around the neighborhood or gearing up for a hike in your favorite national park. Leave all electronics in the car and soak up the peace and beauty of nature.

“Today’s parents often bring work home, text on their phones, and complete other activities instead of truly being with their children. Turn off the gadgets, have them do the same, and truly spend time together.

Your family’s health depends on it.”

- Maureen L. Daniels, M.Ed., Director of Wellness at Work at Berkshire Health Systems.

Cry together.

Sadness and grief are a part of life, but when shared with others, it can help lessen the pain. It also reinforces that it’s okay to show emotion, and not everything always turns out the way we hope.

Read together.

Whether it’s a bedtime story, the Bible, or a chapter book such as Harry Potter, reading out loud allows children and adults to visualize the actions taking place. It also strengthens a child’s aptitude in literacy and helps build a love of books.

“Through reading, we learn empathy, compassion, respect, and understanding.

How lucky we are as parents to be able to give our children those skills by doing something as simple and enjoyable as reading.”

- Corinne Canning, editorial and marketing specialist at National PTA. Be affectionate together.

There’s something about touch that relays love and caring. Sometimes when words are not enough, a warm embrace can make the world a nicer place.

“Make sure your loving arms are always open. They will become a powerful, lifechanging security blanket.”

- Sue Atkins, parenting expert.

Learn a new skill together.

Whether it’s yoga, painting, or a foreign language, show your children that it can be fun to learn something new. Pick something that works with everyone’s schedule and make a point to attend every class until the skill is mastered. Children will not only learn a new skill, but also recognize how dedication to a task equals success.

“Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I remember. Involve me and I learn.”

- Benjamin Franklin

“Children are resilient, but they have feelings too. Adults can help children identify and process what they feel.

Validate that what they are experiencing is real. Let them know they are not alone.”

- Dr. Christina Hibbert, clinical psychologist.

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by Kimberly Blaker

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he New Year is a great time to take inventory, set goals, and take charge of your life. But if you’re like most, making resolutions is much easier than keeping them. Rather than focus on the idea of a new beginning, which can lead to disappointment at the first slip, keep in mind that self-improvement is an ongoing endeavor. Setbacks are not failure; they bring wisdom and insight for future success.

Before making a split decision on this year’s resolutions, make a list of goals and changes you’d like to make. Then review your list and cross off any you don’t feel genuinely devoted to.

Maybe you want to resolve to spend more time with your family, quit smoking, or lose weight. You’re more likely to succeed if you feel a strong personal commitment rather than ‘I should.’

One reason people don’t keep resolutions they make is the resolutions are often made to silence the pestering of a loved one.

If you decide to quit smoking to get your husband off your back, you’re less likely to succeed. If you choose to quit smoking to feel healthier and be able to enjoy physical activity without being winded, you’re more likely to experience success.

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Choose one or perhaps two of the resolutions on your list that you feel most committed to. Then choose one or two you feel confident you can do with ease.

These last couple can be used as positive reinforcement for the more challenging first choices.

Next, make a clear plan for adhering to your resolutions. Put each resolution in writing and write down the steps to achieve them. Let’s say your resolution requires a routine or schedule such as an exercise routine, a new diet, or steps toward completing your education. Create a goal chart, a detailed plan, and a checklist to track your progress.

Also, post notes in strategic places such as the refrigerator, bathroom mirror, or steering wheel as reminders of your resolutions with tips on how to overcome temptation.

Make sure your family understands the importance of your resolutions. Family support and their positive reinforcement can be most helpful. If your resolution is something your family has been nagging you about, ask for their encouragement.

But explain that pressure and pestering, particularly during setbacks, could undermine your resolve. Determine how each family member can help you to

achieve your goal, perhaps by taking on additional household chores or through affirmations of your continued success.

Adjust your environment to enable success.

If eating healthier is your goal, don’t fill the cupboards with junk food for other family members. Find healthy snacks they’re willing to substitute. If you’re trying to quit smoking, avoid people, places, and things that remind or tempt you, at least until you have it well under control.

Don’t go it alone. If you have a friend with a similar resolution, make a pact. Work together to create a plan and then make a point to check in with each other regularly for encouragement, praise, and support.

If you resolve to get more exercise, do it together. Having a commitment and someone to accompany you will go a long way in helping you succeed.

Finally, reward yourself, not just once you’ve achieved your goal, but periodically for your success so far. Small, periodic rewards can be motivation enough to keep you strong when you’re ready to throw in the towel.

Remember, whatever New Year’s resolutions you choose, success awaits you if you resolve never to give up trying.

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Trauma-Informed Care: You’ve no doubt heard of this phrase, but what does it mean? Many organizations are adopting trauma-informed policies in order to ensure the health and well-being of their members. In my work as a registered nurse, I specialize in community health, which is the synthesis of the practices of nursing and public health to promote and protect the health of population in all areas, including physical, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing.

A paramount principle of my work is identifying, unpacking, and treating trauma, in any and all forms, then mitigating the effects of that trauma. This approach is referred to as trauma-informed care, and it is becoming more used and implemented across many platforms — schools, churches, neighborhoods — as research shows that the impact of trauma is widespread AND resilience can be fostered to lead to healthier, better outcomes.

What Is Trauma?

Trauma is a term used to describe a disturbing event. A traumatic event is something that causes harm to someone, whether it be physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, or psychological. Examples of trauma can be a car accident, death of a loved one, parents divorcing, abuse, illness, injury, homelessness, racism, or sexism — and many other things. It is important to note that trauma is whatever a person feels it is. Two people can experience

the same event and one can find it to be deeply traumatizing, while the other does not. Trauma can also be subjective and perceived differently by different people.

The effects of trauma can be devastating and long-lasting. Traumatic experiences can lead to things like anxiety, depression, fear, loneliness, isolation, challenging behaviors, addiction, insomnia, physical symptoms and ailments, and PTSD. Studies show that resiliency can be an antidote to trauma, empowering people who have experienced trauma to overcome the negative effects of it. A big part of building resiliency involves understanding trauma and working to provide trauma-informed principles in any setting.

Why Is Trauma-Informed Care so Important?

Trauma-informed care involves operating with the knowledge that every person has experienced trauma and also interacting with each person so as not to cause further trauma or pain.

Oftentimes, we want to help, but we lack the skill set and knowledge to know what may be helpful and what may be hurtful to someone who has experienced trauma.

Depending on where you work, play, or frequent, chances are you will encounter someone who has experienced trauma. This can be a student, a friend, a coworker, or that person ahead of you in line at the grocery store.

We can make our

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community more trauma-informed by each doing our part to bring awareness to our surroundings and provide positive interactions for those that need it most.

to the assistance he or she receives at this time.

• Seek out training opportunities on cultural competency.

Empowerment

• Research the effects of Adverse Childhood Events (ACEs).

What Are the 6 Principles of Trauma-Informed Care?

After experiencing a traumatic event or even a series of traumas, many people feel a sense of mistrust in their own intuition.

Helping people know their own strength and learn to trust themselves again can be vital in assisting after trauma. Offer encouragement and validation when the opportunity arises.

They may feel fear, anxiety, and confusion at what the future will hold.

If the trauma was caused by another person, forgiveness should never be pushed on a victim; instead, the focus should be on healing.

Safety Providing safe spaces where people can feel comfortable disclosing their feelings, no matter what they may be, is essential in helping someone who has experienced trauma. We can avoid asking intrusive questions and instead use reflective listening. Restate what the person is telling you to let the person know that they are being heard. Notice any discomfort, respect it, and be aware and cognizant of this moving forward. Emphasizing that their safety is paramount can create a feeling of security for anyone who may be struggling with trauma.

Transparency and Trustworthiness Laying the foundation of trust is key in helping anyone who has experienced a traumatic event. Remember, it is likely that their world changed in an instant or that mistrust has become necessary for them because of their trauma. They may be experiencing an extreme sense of hopelessness and confusion. They may be trying to determine who to trust and how much to trust them. We can offer a listening ear and keep the person’s confidence by not sharing details that he or she may disclose.

Choice Emphasizing freedom of choice for someone who has a history of trauma is essential.

We can provide judgement-free guidance as a friend and instill a sense of personal decision-making in the person that may feel powerless. Validating that they have choices can be empowering. We can refrain from offering our own opinions about what they should do since this is often not helpful in the context of support. Simply reiterate that they have a choice and that no matter what choices they make, they are supported.

Collaboration and Mutuality Trauma survivors’ spouses can feel alone and isolated. It is important to provide them with a sense of support, assist in building their community, and help them to navigate resources. Ensure that the traumatized person is aware and agreeable

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Cultural Competency

• Donate to causes that fund community service organizations.

“Helping people know their own strength and learn to trust themselves again can be vital in assisting after trauma.”

Examining our own cultural biases and working to remove preconceived notions or stereotypes from ourselves is essential in responding in a healthy and safe way to those who have experienced trauma.

We must work to understand cultural barriers that exist and interact in a way that does not discriminate against race, gender, sexual orientation, culture, age, or ethnicity. A knowledge of historical and generational trauma is also highly useful in this area.

• Volunteer at a local organization that serves vulnerable populations.

• Elect leaders that have an understanding of trauma and its lasting effects.

• Join a local board or committee and share your knowledge of trauma-informed care.

• Share or post an article on resiliency, trauma, racism, sexism, discrimination, or addiction.

• When in doubt, always be kind, considerate, and compassionate!

When we all work together to do a small part, we can foster and build up trauma-informed care principles within our own communities, which can help others achieve healing, peace, and safety. This should be he goal of all places!

Using Trauma-Informed Approaches Can Foster Healing.

Overall, incorporating the principles of trauma-informed care within a neighborhood, school, or workplace can create a safe and healthy community. It is simple enough, but does take intention, practice, and awareness. Ten ways you can impact your community to foster traumainformed care may be: • Join a social awareness book club.

• Provide input on community or workplace policies.

Lesley Harrop, RN-BSN, has over ten years of experience in the areas of community wellness and public health. She is passionate about raising awareness of trauma-informed care within communities, organizations, and faith communities.

Lesley serves on the Board of Directors for NAMI-Virginia, among other leadership positions. Lesley is also a content editor at Betrayal Trauma Recovery, www.btr.org, a non-profit organization that aims to help women find safety and peace.

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by Adrian Suppes

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ountain biking is a sport that was developed on Mount Tamalpais (in Marin County, California) in the sixties and has grown to be a staple of action sports in the modern world. For almost five years now, I have been mountain biking in the Blue Ridge to stay healthy, both physically and mentally, much to my enjoyment.

Mountain biking is a very physically demanding sport. The sport requires

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to pedal both yourself and your bike up the mountain (though one bonus is that there is no stress on the knees, as opposed to most sports and exercises such as running that are terrible for your knees). It uses almost every muscle in the body; even when you are not pedaling, the descents back down the mountain work your arms and your core. You must maintain the use of these muscles for every second on the bike — there is no letup, and it requires an endurance rivaled by few other sports. However, the physical demands do not solely include the use of muscles; they also include the skills required to successfully maneuver your way through the trails. Every root, rock, compression, and feature on a trail will demand that you move yourself and the bike underneath you with great skill to safely make it through the woods.

The sport may seem difficult to get into because it is so difficult and requires a great deal of skill, but most of the fun in the sport comes from progression.

There is no feeling like that of learning

a new technique, such as learning how to jump on the bike, and using it out on the trails.

The joy from clearing your first jump or getting through your first rock garden only gets better with time as you progress. You will learn new skills, ride more fluidly, and learn how to move the bike underneath you, and all that progression will allow you ride new and more challenging trails. It is the sport that you can never peak in, as there is always room for progression. Everything will stay with you, as it is quite literally just like riding a bike. The physicality of the sport will always remain difficult, but only because there are always new challenges on the horizon to push your skills and fitness.

In my opinion, the largest benefit of mountain biking is not the physical health, but rather the mental health.

When you are out in the woods, whether alone or with friends and family, you enter a Zen-like state. The sport demands all your focus and strength, and there is no room to think about anything else. The only thing that matters when you are in the woods is you, the bike, and the trail in front of you. You are surrounded by trees, soil, creatures of all variety, and it is simply peaceful. Even when on rowdy and technical descents when you are absolutely exhilarated, the only thing that matters is you, the bike, and the trail in front of you. The trail will wind you through large forests, over grand mountains, and to breathtaking views. Mountain biking is one of the few ways I have found to make oneself truly happy and carefree.

Your child will outgrow a lot of things.

Dyslexia isn’t one of them.

Every child with a language-based learning difficulty is different, but they do have one thing in common: given the right tools, they can reach their full potential. At the CrossWalk Program at North Cross School our Orton-Gillingham approach:

Empowers students with language-based learning differences.

Equips students with the skills to develop academically, socially, and emotionally.

Most workouts are not fun. When people say that they want to get in shape, most of humanity thinks of the gym, running, and dieting. While these are great ways to get in shape, they are not construed as fun by the population. With mountain biking, you get in even better shape and do something incredibly fun at the same time.

You cannot get the satisfaction in the gym that you would out in the trails conquering massive rocks, roots, and jumps. The sport is dangerous, yes, but done properly can be the best and most important thing in your life. If you take your time to learn slowly, grow your skills on a mountain bike hitting bigger and more challenging trails and features, the sport will bring you nothing but smiles. The fitness required to mountain bike is so high that once you fall in love with the sport, you will have to be fit to keep doing what you love. Mountain biking has brought me to the best mental and physical health I have ever been in, all while bringing me along for the most fun ride of my life.

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Adrian Suppes is a junior at Patrick Henry High School in Roanoke. He is a writer and editor at the school newspaper, the Patriot Banner.

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• 5 ice cubes • 5 containers (as similar in size and shape as possible) • Cotton balls

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Leave the fifth ice cube uncovered in the container to track how fast the ice cube melts without any insulation.

Place all of the ice cubes in an area where they won’t be disturbed and check them every few minutes. Which ice cube melts the fastest? Which one melts the slowest?

• Aluminum foil • Newspaper • Feathers Directions: Place each ice cube in a separate container.

Completely cover the first ice cube in a piece of aluminum foil and replace it in the container.

Completely cover the second ice cube in cotton balls and replace it in the container (be sure to rest the ice cube on cotton balls as well).

Completely cover the third ice cube in newspaper and replace it in the container (be sure to rest the ice cube on newspaper as well).

Try this: Are there other materials that might stop the ice cube from melting?

Are there any that speed it up? Try testing other materials and see what happens.

What’s happening: This experiment is exploring insulation. Insulation is something that reduces heat transfer or stops heat from moving into or out of things. Insulation can be used to keep things hot (like a thermos) or cold (like a cooler). Some materials work better as insulators than others.

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Rachel’s Reads Happy Chinese New Year! The Year of the Rat begins on January 25 this year, and New Year celebrations will last for 15 days. Chinese New Year is a time for banners of red, family reunions, dumplings, dancing dragons, and good luck. Join in the joyful festivities and hope for a favorable and prosperous year to come. You can enhance your family’s holiday celebration with some delightful Chinese New Year picture books! Look for The Dragon’s Tale and Other Animal Fables of the Chinese Zodiac in Free Little Libraries around Roanoke this month.

Cat and Rat: The Legend of the Chinese Zodiac

by Ed Young

Have you ever wondered how the Chinese Zodiac came to be? Ancient Chinese legend tells us it all stems from a race long ago between all the animals of the earth. The animals were challenged to run through a dark forest and then swim across a vast and deep river. The 12 competitors who completed the race first were rewarded by having a year named in their honor. Twelve animals won their spots in the Zodiac, but there was a cost — before this test, cat and rat were actually best friends. Read the book to find out what happened to end their friendship and make them eternal adversaries!

The Nian Monster

by Andrea Yang

In this exciting tale, Xingling is busy preparing Lion’s Head Casserole for the New Year when the terrible Nian Monster appears on her balcony. Nian plans to eat all of Shanghai, and it is up to Xingling to save both her city and the New Year Festival. Xingling is a young child up against a powerful beast, but with cleverness, creativity, and the support of her community, she is able to triumph over the Nian Monster and save the holiday.

Goldy Luck and the Three Pandas

by Natasha Yim

The story of Goldilocks has always gotten under my skin. Why do we read our children a story about a burglar and vandal who gets away scot-free? This delightful retelling of the story of Goldilocks fixes these issues with a wonderful Chinese New Year twist. Goldy Luck goes to her neighbors’ house during the New Year and ends up making a HUGE mess. She spills turnip cakes all over their floor, eats their congee, breaks a chair, and sleeps in their beds before being caught and running home. This is where the traditional story would end, but Goldy’s conscience gets to her and she returns to make amends. Goldy helps clean and repair the damage she has done while building relationships with her friends. Now that is a satisfying ending!

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My First Chinese New Year

by Karen Katz

This sweet introduction to Chinese New Year for little ones follows a young girl’s celebrations with her family. Traditions and time with family create a warm and happy celebration. Together, they clean the house to sweep away bad luck from the year before, hang festive red decorations, and build an altar to remember their ancestors.

They cook soup, dumplings, and fish for a festive family feast on New Year’s Eve.

A New Year’s Reunion

by Ye Li-Qiong

In China, over 200 million people work as migrant workers far from home.

The Chinese New Year is a time for family reunions, and for some families, it is the only chance they have to see their families all year. In this story, Maomao cannot wait for her father to return home for the holiday. When he arrives, she is a little shy and nervous, but they get comfortable with each other again and start making memories. Maomao even finds a way to send a special gift with her father to carry with him on his journey when he has to leave. A New Year’s Reunion addresses the painful topic of family separation in a moving and beautiful way.

The Dragon’s Tale and Other Animal Fables of the Chinese Zodiac

by Demi

There is something special about a good fable: a memorable story, succinct, and packed full of wisdom. The Chinese Zodiac assigns each year an animal on a twelve-year cycle, and each animal has its own character and attributes. Each of these 12 animals also has its own fable and life lesson. Come and learn how to be true to yourself with the rat, how to be wary of the contagiousness of lies with the rabbit, and acknowledge the insight of youth with the dog. These marvelous tales are a wonderful opportunity to discuss time-tested wisdom with your children.

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Little Libraries are a great way to spread literacy and entertainment throughout our communities. Every month Roanoke Valley Family will restock the little libraries with great books for your whole family and we welcome your donations as well! Stop by our locations to see what surprises we have in store, and maybe leave a gently used book for someone else to enjoy.

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We Love It: January 2020

By Elena Epstein

Wyatt’s Leftover Candy Cookies Ingredients: 1/2 cup oil 1 cup sugar 1 cup brown sugar 2 eggs 1 tsp vanilla 1 tsp baking powder 1 tsp baking soda 1 tsp salt 3 cups flour Leftover chocolate candy 1/2 cup butter, softened Directions: 1. Preheat oven to 350. Cream butter, oil, and sugars in mixer.

2. Add eggs and beat until fluffy.

3. Add dry ingredients and mix well.

4. Add cut-up candy and mix until all combined.

5. Roll into 1-inch balls and place on greased cookie sheet.

6. Bake for 6-9 minutes.

7. Cool & ENJOY!

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