Roanoke Valley Family October 2020

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leading off: publisher’s note Fall is upon us and this year, it is going to look a lot different.

School is in full swing and everyone is getting used to the hybrid structure that most schools have been forced into.

Halloween may look vastly different as well. At the time of printing, we are still not sure of what each locality will be doing in regards to trick-or-treating.

Lastly, our presidential election is almost upon us. While we never get political in these pages, and we NEVER will, we will encourage you to vote.

position. We owe it to ourselves, and most importantly, our children, to read up on the issues at hand, learn about the canidates and VOTE!!!

Please spend some time and read repuatble news sources for factual information, make up your mind which candidates align best with your views and then VOTE. Our country and our children are depending on it!

Local elections and national elections this year could shift our government quite a bit over the length of the terms for each

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Inside October

Happy Halloween during a Pandemic Celebrating holidays will look different this yearbut they don’t have to be any less fun!

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Jack-o-Lantern & Cheese

Sugar Rush

Discover a devilish delicious and spooky seasonal dinner!

a sweet way to fundraise Run for Donuts is holding their 4th annual race this November!

Read on page 10

Read on page 16

8 Fun At Home

The seasons are slowly shifting from the long lazy days of summer to crisp bright afternoons of autumn- and we have all the local outdoor events, fundraisers and athome celebrations to launch the fall festival season for your family.

14 Teaching Your Teen to Drive Safely

October hosts Nation Teen Driver Safety Week- did you know car accidents are the number one leading cause of death for teens?

25 First Crush

Handling your child’s first crush or bout of puppy love is a minefield of new emotions, reactions and broken hearts. Learn how to help them navigate this new world of romance.

44 Dancing Drawings

Did you know you can make your own moving doodles without a single app, camera or technological device?!

34 Interior Color Trends

Get ready for all of the trending colors taht are about to be everywhere! See which fits your family’s taste

41 Kid Activities 39 Cover Kids Search Presented by Bower Heating and Air Condtioning

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‘Noke Noteworthy news from around the Valley

GET OUT AND VOTE!!!

To ensure citizens are able to take part in the November 3 election, the Roanoke County Department of Elections is offering additional avenues for voting: SATELLITE ELECTION OFFICE IN SOUTHWEST COUNTY: The Brambleton Center, located at 3738 Brambleton Avenue, will open as a satellite location for the Department of Elections. Voters can vote early in person or drop off their completed absentee ballots. It will be open from 8 a.m.–5 p.m., Monday through Saturday, October 19 – October 31 only.

ADDITIONAL BALLOT DROP OFF LOCATIONS: Two ballot drop-off only locations will be available for voters to bring their completed mail-in absentee ballots from 10 a.m. –5 p.m., Monday

through Friday, October 19 – October 30 only.

Hollins Library located at 6624 Peters Creek Rd, Roanoke Parks & Recreation Administrative Offices located at 1206 Kessler Mill Rd, Salem ELECTION DAY DROP OFF POINTS: Voters will also be allowed to drop off your completed mail-in absentee ballots at ANY Roanoke County polling location on Election Day. You may visit https:// voterview.roanokecountyva.gov/ VoterView/ to find the polling place closest to you.

Voters may also utilize the existing voting options: VOTE EARLY IN PERSON OR DROP OF YOUR MAIL-IN ABSENTEE BALLOT AT OUR OFFICE IN VINTON. Our office in Vinton is located at 900 Chestnut St. and is open Monday – Friday, 8 a.m.–4 p.m. and will be open on the two Saturdays prior to Election Day (October 24 and 31) as well. If you have requested your absentee ballot by mail

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and decided that you would rather vote early/absentee in-person instead, please remember to bring your unused mail-in ballot with you.

VOTE ABSENTEE BY MAIL. Visit vote. elections.virginia.gov and click “Apply to Vote Absentee by Mail” to submit your request online or complete the application available at https://tinyurl. com/y23xmwjq and email it to elections@ roanokecountyva.gov.

VOTE IN PERSON AT YOUR ASSIGNED PRECINCT ON ELECTION DAY. Visit https://voterview.roanokecountyva.gov/ VoterView/ to find directions to your assigned Election Day polling place and view your sample ballot for November 3rd.

More information is available online at https://www.roanokecountyva.gov/2726/ Voting-Options.

2020 Citizen of the Year Award The Council of the City of Roanoke invites nominations for the 2020 Citizen of the Year.

Information describing the criteria and nomination form are available at www.roanokeva.gov/ citizenoftheyear and in the City Clerk’s Office, Room 456, Noel C. Taylor Municipal Building, 215 Church Avenue, S. W., between the hours of 8:00 a.m. and 5:00 p.m., Monday through Friday.

Arches Project Celebrates Community Diversity on Roanoke River Greenway

All nominations must be submitted to the City Clerk’s Office by 5:00 p.m. on by Friday, October 9. Nominees must be City residents.

The Arches, a new public art project under Memorial Bridge, is a re-imagined space that brings opportunities for community, art, and mindfulness. Neighbors from Mountain View, Norwich, Raleigh Court, and Wasena neighborhoods worked together on this project.

Gainsboro Library Closed for Renovations Ten amazing years after its renovation, the City of Roanoke will again refresh the amenities available at the Gainsboro Branch Library. Beginning Tuesday, Sept. 15, curbside service ceased and the bookdrop closed at the Gainsboro Branch so that work can begin.

We heard it online!

Jamil Preston sells water & other treats daily on 10th street. Principal Duncan of Round Hill Elem. stopped by to congratulate this rising 4th grader. She also bought some snow ice. Great job Jamil. @RoanokeSchools

There’s no place quite like the Harrison Museum of African American Culture! Their commitment to preserving and celebrating African American history and art, for all who pass though their doors, is simply inspiring! @centerinthesquare

Congratulations to Uyen Tran (RVGS/Fleming) and London Paige (RVGS/Fleming) for their recent awards at the NAACP National ACT-SO competition!

Uyen won a Gold medal in the Chemistry/ Biochemistry division. London won a Bronze medal in the Biology/MIcrobiology division. Both students represented the local Roanoke Branch NAACP at the National competition for these prestigious awards. @RVGSLabRats

What do you call a weekend in Roanoke with family and friends? I call it priceless. @VerlettaWhite

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Adopt a Shelter Dog Month Consider saving a furry friend at your local shelter this month- these pups will give you unconditonal love for your trouble!

October 5

Do Something Nice Day

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Today is Do Something Nice Day. Go ahead, do something nice, anything nice. And, do it to, or for, another individual. It won’t hurt; we promise. Doing something nice for someone almost always evokes a very pleasant response. At the very least, it results in a smile.

More likely, that person will do something nice to, or for you. And, best of all, doing something nice just might be contagious. In keeping with the spirit of this day, set a goal to do something nice for someone.

Perhaps, you can do this for several people. Then, sit back and watch the results!

October 21

International Nacho Appreciation Day Eating Mexican or Tex-Mex tonight? Have it your way. A pile of nachos is all but certain to be included with the meal. We may not know anything about who created International Nacho Day, why it was created, or exactly when it was first celebrated. But, the creation of the nacho itself is well documented. The inventor is Mexican Agnacio “Nacho” Anaya in 1943. Anaya lived and worked in the Mexican border town of Piedra Negras. After a long day

of shopping, several U.S. Army wives entered the restaurant looking for something to eat.

The kitchen staff had left, so Anaya went into the kitchen and went to work creating a snack for them. He cut tortillas (some say he cut up tostados) into triangles, placed some cheese and jalapenos on top, then put it into the oven to melt the cheese. When he removed it from the oven, the nacho was born.

October 25

International Artists’ Day Artists of all kinds are celebrating around the world today, as it is International Artist Day. On this day, we can and should honor and recognize all of the artists who enrich our lives and society in so many ways. It is important to recognize the contributions of artists around the world.

It certainly makes sense that this should be an international event. There’ are so many famous artists from virtually

every corner of the world.

It would be shame, had the creator of this special day limited it to one area or a single country. Celebrate International Artist Day by recognizing artists in your community. Take an active role and support them, if possible. Spend a little time today, to appreciate all of the art that surrounds you. Visiting an art gallery, attending a symphony, or watching a movie at the theater, are just a few ways to enjoy the day. during this holiday.

October 31

Halloween It’s absolutely Halloween. And, Halloween is absolutely the best holiday of the year. It is the favorite for many of us, as there is no stress or overload, It’s just absolutely fun.

“Home is where the haunt is!”

Did you know? About 9 t of 10 parents admit to sneaking a treat from their kids treat bag.

Happy Birthday to RL Stine creator of

Goosebumps

November 7

Run for Donuts 5K Sherwood Memorial Park Bring your family and friends to run, jog, and even walk

through the beautiful grounds at Sherwood Memorial Park in Salem. Strollers are welcome.

YES, this is an IN-PERSON EVENT that will be COVID-friendly with staggered starts in small groups. The 5k will be timed by Mountain Junkies.

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Spider Cheese Balls

cheese and olive oil until smooth. Then beat in the goat cheese, green onions, garlic, dill, oregano, salt, and pepper. Chill for 30 minutes.

Jack-oLantern & Cheese

Ingredients: • 16 oz cream cheese, softened • 3 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil • 4 oz goat cheese • 4 green onions chopped • 3 garlic cloves minced • 1 tablespoon dried dill weed • 2 teaspoons dried oregano • 1 teaspoon kosher salt • 1/2 teaspoon black pepper • 1/2 cup black sesame seeds • 2 cups pretzel sticks • Additional pretzels and crackers

2. With your hands, roll the cheese mixture into 1 1/2-inch balls (for small spiders) and 3-inch balls (for large spiders). Then roll the balls in the black sesame seeds to coat.

Ingredients: • Kosher salt • 6 orange bell peppers • 8 oz elbow macaroni • 1 1/4 cups half-andhalf • 8 oz cream cheese, at room temperature • 4 oz mild Cheddar, shredded (about 1 1/2 cups)

Directions: 1. In a bowl, beat together the cream

3. For the small spiders, use four pretzel sticks broken in half to create eight legs (four on each side of the ball.) For the large spiders, use eight pretzel sticks to create eight legs (four on each side of the ball.)

4. Cover the Spider Cheeseballs in plastic wrap and refrigerate for at least 30 minutes or until you’re ready to serve them. Serve with crackers or additional pretzel sticks.

Directions: 1. Bring a large pot of generously salted water to a boil. Fill a large bowl with ice water.

2. Cut the tops off the peppers and reserve.

Remove the seeds and membranes. Put the peppers and the tops in the boiling water and cook until just tender, 2 to 3 minutes. Plunge the peppers into the ice bath.

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3. Once cool, remove them and use a sharp knife to carve a jacko-lantern face into one side of each pepper.

5. Heat the half-andhalf in a large saucepan over medium heat until it just comes to a simmer.

4. Return the water to a boil, add the macaroni and cook until al dente, about 6 minutes. Reserve 1 cup of the pasta water and drain (don’t rinse the pasta).

6. Continue simmering until reduced to about 3/4 cup, about 10 minutes. Add the cream cheese and stir until melted. Whisk in the Cheddar until all the cheese is melted and the sauce is smooth.

7. Off the heat, add the macaroni to the saucepan and stir to combine. Stir in some of the reserved pasta water to thin the sauce if needed. Season with salt if needed. Let sit for 10 minutes, then divide the mac and cheese among the peppers and cap each with a pepper top.

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Teaching Your Teen How To Drive Safely Tanni Haas, Ph.D.

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arents often like to supplement their teens’ official driving lessons with their own lessons behind the wheel, and that’s a great idea. Studies show that teens who receive additional driving instruction from their parents have fewer accidents than teens who don’t get any extra help. What can parents do to ensure that their teens get the most out of their time together in the car? Here’s what the experts say:

Let Them Take The Lead Once you’ve told your teens that you’re willing to give them driving lessons, back off a bit and don’t push the issue. “If your teen isn’t driving you crazy about teaching her to drive,” says Carleton Kendrick, a family therapist who works with teens, “she’s probably too nervous to begin the process.” Wait patiently until they’re ready for your help. As Wayne Parker, a certified life coach and author of Power Dads, puts it, “an overly anxious teen driver can be a dangerous thing.”

Give Them Advance Warning Give them some advance warning when you’re ready for the first lesson.

Talk with them about, as Mr. Parker puts it, “where you’re going and what you’re going to do.” Teens don’t like surprises, especially from their parents. Get together to plan the route and the skills you’ll be working. It’ll put you on a more equal footing.

Treat Them Like Adults Teens like to be treated as adults.

That includes when they’re learning how to drive. Ms. Kendrick says that parents should avoid talking down to their teens, making any negative comments, or treating them like little children.

She suggests that parents “praise specific progress and improvement, while offering non-judgmental, optimistic, and encouraging words.”

The goal is to make your teens more aware drivers, not to make them feel shamed or judged.

“An overly anxious teen driver can be a dangerous thing.”

Talk Before You Get Into The Car Even when your teens say they’re ready to learn how to drive, it’s likely that they’ve heard horror stories in the news or from their friends that are making them scared. Nicole Runyon, a social worker who deals with teens, suggests that parents “create a calm and peaceful space for them to talk.”

Try to alleviate any fears by listening carefully and reassuring them that you’ll support and help them become competent and safe drivers.

Another way to guide your teens is to ask them questions instead of giving commands. Instead of saying slow down or “you’re going to get a speeding ticket,” Mr. Parker suggests asking “what’s the speed limit here?”

Studies show that teens whose parents ask questions rather than make critical statements get into fewer accidents.

Put Yourself In Their Shoes Studies also show that many parents focus their instruction more on skills that they had difficulty mastering when they themselves learned how to drive than on the skills that best prevent teen accidents. Instead of spending

much of your time teaching your teens how to parallel park (a maneuver that can make many parents break into a sweat), focus on skills like how to safely merge on and off highways, which is in fact a major source of teen accidents.

Stay Calm It can be stressful teaching your teens how to drive, but don’t show it. Ms. Kendrick encourages parents to hand over the reins to someone else if they can’t keep their “anxiety in check and it’s turning the teaching experience into a tension-filled meltdown zone.”

Try to stay calm, even if your teens are creating the tension in the car.

“Just role with it,” says Dr. Corinne Peek-Asa, a professor of public health and expert on vehicle injury prevention. Studies show that when the atmosphere is tense, parents offer less constructive feedback and even less feedback that’s focused on safety.

Be A Good Role Model All kids, including teens, learn more from what they watch their parents do than from anything parents tell them.

Be a good role model and drive safely when you’re in the driver’s seat and your teens are the passengers. Jen Stockburger, director of operations at Consumer Report’s Auto Test Center, puts it well: “The example you set for them behind the wheel may be the most important in terms of actually keeping them safe, more so than any other safety message you’ve given them in their entire life.”

Tanni Haas, Ph.D. is a Professor in the Department of Communication Arts, Sciences & Disorders at the City University of New York – Brooklyn College.

National Teen Driver Safety Week is October 18-24, 2020 Motor vehicle crashes are the leading cause of death for teens (15-18 years old) in the United States, ahead of all other types of injury, disease, or violence. In 2017, there were 2,247 people killed in crashes involving a teen driver, of which 755 deaths were the teen driver - a 3% decrease from 2016. Parents can be the biggest influencers on teens’ choices behind the wheel if they take the time to talk with their teens about some of the biggest driving risks.

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Sugar Rush A racing tradition that ends in a sweet treat Join Sherwood Memorial Park for our 4th Annual Run for Donuts 5K and Fun Run (with a virtual option) on Saturday, November 7th as we raise funds for SVH Services to meet the needs of individuals with unique learning challenges across their lifespans.

Bring your family and friends to run, jog, and even walk through the beautiful grounds at Sherwood Memorial Park in Salem. Strollers are welcome. YES, this is an IN-PERSON EVENT that will be COVID-friendly with staggered starts in small groups. The 5k will be timed by Mountain Junkies.

Registration: https://runsignup.com/ Race/VA/Salem/RunforDonuts5k.

“Sherwood is pleased to provide an enclosed and beautiful setting for those wanting to honor loved ones while supporting a wonderful cause.

It will be a great event!” stated Sherwood Memorial Park President, Susan Mini.

The Run for Donuts 5K and Fun Run will be supporting the three programs offered by SVH Services: SVH Adult Services, Blue Ridge Autism and Achievement Center (BRAAC), and SVH Family Services. These programs are geared toward accomplishing goals associated with meaningful employment, social relationships, enjoyable hobbies and independence.

All SVH Services’ programs can work

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4th Annual

Run for Donuts

Benefiting SVH Services

November 7 8:30 AM Sherwood Memorial Park 5K, Fun Run and Virtual Race options available

independently or together to achieve goals for each individual client’s goals.

“Because adults with unique learning challenges usually do not have funding sources after completing high school, they are often staying home, disengaged with their community and unemployed,” said SVH CEO Angie Leonard. “SVH Services depends on fundraisers, like our Run for Donuts 5K, to provide the financial resources for these wonderful men and women who DO become contributing active members of our community with our help.”

The first 150 people to register for either the 5K, the Fun Run, or for the virtual option will receive an exclusive race knit beanie cap. All participants will get to pick out a yummy donut from Dunkin’ Donuts to munch on at the finish line.

Eating donuts isn’t required to complete either course; however, it will definitely be a lot of fun if people do! Participants are encouraged to dress up in their

best donut attire to be entered in our “Best Costume Contest”.

The 5K race starts at 8:30am, with the Fun Run (1 mile) starting at 8:45am. Registration before September 30th will allow $5 off the registration fee of $30 for the 5K and $20 for the Fun Run. The virtual option is $20 flat donation.

Sherwood Memorial Park,our Title Sponsor along with WFXR, our Presenting Sponsor, along with our sponsors and partners: Dunkin’ Donuts, Servpro, Business Solutions, Effectv, Berglund Center, RunAbout Sports, Roanoke Valley Family, Mountain Junkies, The Great 611 Steak Company, Roanoke Valley Orthodontics, Shrader Wealth Advisors, Jefferson Surgical Clinic, Atlantic Union Bank, and Steve 104.9FM, are extremely excited for this fun family event!

For questions about the race, please contact Teri Nance at (540) 366-7399 or teri.nance@ svhservices.org. You may also go online to www.svhservices.org to learn more and register.

“Because adults with unique learning challenges usually do not have funding sources after completing high school, they are often staying home, disengaged with their community and unemployed...

SVH Services depends on fundraisers, like our Run for Donuts 5K, to provide the financial resources for these wonderful men and women who DO become contributing active members of our community with our help.”

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My Teens Have It Better Than I Did in the 80s

By Cheryl Maguire

“I’m so jealous of you!”

Writing Research Reports

That was me speaking, not my teen.

We signed up for a music subscription service and within minutes she had all the latest hits on her iPhone playlist. I was in awe but also jealous of her easy access to music. As a teen growing up in the 80s, I would have loved to have the ability to listen to a song of my choosing within seconds. Even though technology can have its downfalls, I’m envious of all the ways my teen will have it better than I did growing up.

Me in the 80s: Thumbing through the library card catalog, I found a book related to my research paper. I then searched through the library for it and check it out. Usually, I needed at least three or four books which meant repeating the process. I then had to handwrite the paper (we didn’t have a typewriter or word processor which I didn’t use until college) and used my mother as a spell checker since I was horrible at spelling.

Music

My Teen Now: A quick Google search reveals over a hundred different links related to her research topic. She then types up her paper in a Google Doc using spell check although unlike her mother (more like her grandmother) she is an incredible speller and doesn’t even need it.

Me in the 80s: I loved all types of music. One of my favorite things to do was create a mixtape. Using my dual cassette Boombox, I recorded a mix of songs onto a cassette tape to later play on my yellow waterproof Sony Walkman player. Sometimes it would take over a week just to make one mixtape.

If I didn’t own the album I waited for the song to come on the radio and record it onto the cassette tape which often had a little bit of the DJ introducing the song or the song cut off in the end. If I wanted to change a song, I would have to rewind the tape and record over it which would really only work for the last song since you would end up recording over other songs. Mostly you are stuck with it.

As you can see it was a cumbersome, elaborate process that by the time you were done making a mixtape you were sick of most of the songs and ready to make another one.

My Teen Now: Within in seconds she downloads twenty songs onto a playlist to her phone which she can bring with her anywhere. If she becomes tired of a song, clicking delete will eliminate it instantly or she can hit next to forward to the next song without waiting for the tape to move along or without trying to figure out how long to fast forward until the song is over.

Making a Phone Call

My Teen Now: Everyone in the house has their own phone line and can easily make unlimited phone calls (or Facetime) anywhere in the USA without paying additional fees. Although she hardly ever makes “real” phone calls— she mostly uses text messages or social media. I doubt she has ever heard a “busy single” or understands how great it was when “call waiting” was introduced (she probably doesn’t even know what that is either).

Taking a Picture Me in the 80s: I loved taking pictures, but similar to the mixtapes it involved many steps. You had to buy film, use it up by taking 24 pictures and develop it by bringing it to the store which could sometimes take a week. It also could add up costing a lot of money buying the film and developing it.

My Teen Now: She snaps pictures of her friends, her sister or the wall without “Even though costing anything and technology can have gets to see it instantly.

Me in the 80s: After I finished shopping at the mall with my friends I needed to find its downfalls, I’m a payphone (along with The next time your envious of all the a quarter) to ask my teen says, “I’m mom to pick us up. She bored,” you can wow ways my teen will gabbed away for over them with your stories have it better than I about how you created three minutes which required me to feed mixtapes, needed did growing up.” the payphone another a payphone to call quarter since she home or used a library card catalog. went over the time limit. I thought to I recently did this with my niece who myself I should have used the collect said, “I know and you didn’t even have call trick—when they ask for my name I electricity!” which made me laugh would say, “Pickup Mall.” since she really thought that was true.

My Teen Now: She sends a quick text from her phone, “Please pick me up now,” without needing any quarters or searching for a payphone or using the collect call trick.

Communicating with Friends Me in the 80s: One phone in the house and me, my two sisters and my mom was not a good combination since we always seemed to want to use it at the same time. If you wanted to make a phone call outside of our town, you would be charged per minute.

If nothing else it will ensure you don’t hear the phrase “I’m bored,” ever again.

Cheryl Maguire holds a Master of Counseling Psychology degree. She is married and is the mother of twins and a daughter. Her writing has been published in The New York Times, Parents Magazine, Upworthy, Chicken Soup for the Soul: Count Your Blessing and Your Teen Magazine. You can find her at Twitter @CherylMaguire05

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Halloween Safety during a Pandemic Hosting a Halloween Celebration If you will be hosting a celebration, follow these CDC tips for hosting gatherings. Below are some additional considerations for hosting a holiday celebration: • Host outdoor activities rather than indoor activities as much as possible. If hosting an outdoor event is not possible, and you choose to host an indoor event, avoid crowded, poorly ventilated, or fully enclosed indoor spaces.

• Increase ventilation by opening windows and doors to the extent that is safe and feasible based on the weather.

• Host activities with only people from your local area as much as possible.

• Limit numbers of attendees as much as possible.

• Provide updated information to your guests about any COVID-19 safety guidelines and steps in place to prevent the spread of the virus.

• Provide or encourage attendees to bring supplies to help you and others stay healthy.

For example, extra masks (do not share or swap with others), hand sanitizer that contains at least 60% alcohol, and tissues.

• If you are planning in-person holiday gatherings with people outside of your household, consider asking all guests to

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strictly avoid contact with people outside of their households for 14 days before the gathering.

household for 14 days before the gathering.

Attending a Halloween Celebration

Follow these tips to reduce your risk of being exposed to, getting, or spreading COVID-19 during the celebration:

If you will be attending a celebration that someone else is hosting, follow CDC Considerations for attending an event or gathering. Below are some additional considerations for attending an in-person holiday gathering: • Outdoor activities are safer than indoor activities. If participating in an outdoor event is not possible, and you choose to attend an indoor event, avoid crowded, poorly ventilated, and fully enclosed indoor spaces. Increase ventilation by opening windows and doors to the extent that is safe and feasible based on the weather.

• Check with the event host, organizer, or event venue for updated information about any COVID-19 safety guidelines and if they have steps in place to prevent the spread of the virus.

• Bring supplies to help you and others stay healthy. For example, bring extra masks (do not share or swap with others), hand sanitizer that contains at least 60% alcohol, and tissues.

• If you are planning to attend in-person holiday gatherings with people outside of your household, consider strictly avoiding contact with people outside of your

During the celebration

• Social distance and limit close contact • Maintain a distance of at least 6 feet or more from people you don’t live with.

Be particularly mindful in areas where it may harder to keep this distance, such as restrooms and eating areas.

• Avoid using restroom facilities at high traffic times, such as at the end of a public event.

• Avoid busy eating areas, such as restaurants during high volume mealtimes, if you plan to eat out at a restaurant.

• Minimize gestures that promote close contact. For example, do not shake hands, elbow bump, or give hugs. Instead wave and verbally greet others.

• Wear a mask at all times when around people who don’t live in your household to reduce the risk of spreading the virus.

• Avoid singing, chanting, or shouting, especially when not wearing a mask and within 6 feet of others.

• Do not use a costume mask as a substitute

for a cloth mask unless it is made of two or more layers of breathable fabric that covers your mouth and nose and doesn’t leave gaps around your face.

• Do not wear a costume mask over a cloth mask because it can be dangerous if the costume mask makes it hard to breathe.

Instead, consider using a Halloween-themed cloth mask.

• Limit contact with commonly touched surfaces or shared items • Clean and disinfect commonly touched surfaces and any shared items between use when feasible. Use EPA-approved disinfectants.

• Use touchless garbage cans if available.

• Use gloves when removing garbage bags or handling and disposing of trash. Wash hands after removing gloves.

• Wash your hands often with soap and water for at least 20 seconds, especially after you have been in a public place, or after blowing your nose, coughing, or sneezing. If soap and water are not readily available, use a hand sanitizer that contains at least 60% alcohol. Cover all surfaces of your hands and rub them together until they feel dry.

Keep safe around food and drinks Currently, there is no evidence to suggest that handling food or eating is associated with directly spreading COVID-19. It is possible that a person can get COVID-19 by touching a surface or object, including food, food packaging, or utensils that have the virus on it and then touching their own mouth, nose, or possibly their eyes.

However, this is not thought to be the main way that the virus is spread. Remember, it is always important to follow good hygiene to reduce the risk of illness from common foodborne germs.

• Make sure everyone washes their hands with soap and water for 20 seconds before and after preparing, serving, and eating food.

• Use hand sanitizer with at least 60% alcohol if soap and water are not available.

• Instead of potluck-style gatherings, encourage guests to bring food and drinks for themselves and for members of their own household only.

• Limit people going in and out of the areas where food is being prepared or handled,

such as in the kitchen or around the grill, if possible.

• Wear a mask while preparing or serving food to others who don’t live in your household.

• If serving any food, consider having one person serve all the food so that multiple people are not handling the serving utensils.

• Use single-use options or identify one person to serve sharable items, like salad dressings, food containers, plates and utensils, and condiments.

• Avoid any self-serve food or drink options, such as buffets or buffet-style potlucks, salad bars, and condiment or drink stations.

• Use grab-and-go meal options, if available.

• If you choose to use any items that are reusable (e.g., seating covers, tablecloths, linen napkins), wash and disinfect them after the event.

Lower Risk Halloween Activities • Carving or decorating pumpkins with members of your household and displaying them • Carving or decorating pumpkins outside, at a safe distance, with neighbors or friends • Decorating your house, apartment, or living space

your hands with soap and water for at least 20 second before and after preparing the bags.

• Having a small group, outdoor, open-air costume parade where people are distanced more than 6 feet apart • Attending a costume party held outdoors where protective masks are used and people can remain more than 6 feet apart • A costume mask (such as for Halloween) is not a substitute for a cloth mask. A costume mask should not be used unless it is made of two or more layers of breathable fabric that covers the mouth and nose and doesn’t leave gaps around the face.

• Going to an open-air, one-way, walkthrough haunted forest where appropriate mask use is enforced, and people can remain more than 6 feet apart • If screaming will likely occur, greater distancing is advised. The greater the distance, the lower the risk of spreading a respiratory virus.

• Visiting pumpkin patches or orchards where people use hand sanitizer before touching pumpkins or picking apples, wearing masks is encouraged or enforced, and people are able to maintain social distancing • Having an outdoor Halloween movie night with local family friends with people spaced at least 6 feet apart

• Doing a Halloween scavenger hunt where children are given lists of Halloweenthemed things to look for while they walk outdoors from house to house admiring Halloween decorations at a distance

Higher Risk Halloween Activities

• Having a virtual Halloween costume contest

• Having trunk-or-treat where treats are handed out from trunks of cars lined up in large parking lots

• Having a Halloween movie night with people you live with • Having a scavenger hunt-style trick-ortreat search with your household members in or around your home rather than going house to house Moderate Risk Halloween Activities • Participating in one-way trick-or-treating where individually wrapped goodie bags are lined up for families to grab and go while continuing to social distance (such as at the end of a driveway or at the edge of a yard) • If you are preparing goodie bags, wash

• Participating in traditional trick-ortreating where treats are handed to children who go door to door

• Attending crowded costume parties held indoors • Going to an indoor haunted house where people may be crowded together and screaming • Going on hayrides or tractor rides with people who are not in your household Using alcohol or drugs, which can cloud judgement and increase risky behaviors • Traveling to a rural fall festival that is not in your community if you live in an area with community spread of COVID-19

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First Crush

By Sandra Gordon

“Oh, how cute.”

That’s what crossed my mind when a boy from summer camp asked my oldest daughter, who was in the 4th grade at the time, to go to the movies. (She said “No!” then ran from the phone.) But as I witnessed, a first crush—whether it’s initiated by your child or she’s on the receiving end of the romantic attention--is definitely anything but adorable from her perspective.

“Crushes are serious,” says Julia Simens, a family therapist, now living in Thailand. Like me, Simens knows from experience. When her son, Grant, was 11, he wrote a children’s book, “Spirit of Saint Valentine: An Expat’s Tale of Love,” available on Amazon, which is about love in an international elementary school. “I hadn’t given crushes much thought until Grant opened my eyes to how important they are from a kid’s point

of view,” Simens says.

Fact is, Cupid’s arrow can aim low, striking kids as early as 7 or 8. And though it’s easy to trivialize this experience, a child’s emotions are just as real as the fervor we might experience when we’re infatuated.

“Kids can fall in love by all developmental measures as soon as you can begin to measure their

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feelings,” says Carleton Kendrick, EdM, a Boston-based family therapist and author of Take Out Your Nose Ring, Honey, We’re Going to Grandma’s.

“There’s no such thing as puppy love.”

Crushes are a healthy part of life. Besides being good practice for the future, they can teach kids a lot about relationships and themselves.

On the other hand, they can also be a source of pain and difficult for your child to handle, especially into the preteen and teen years.

“When the hormones kick in, kids have more of a physical response to a crush and that can be confusing because they’ve already got so much going on emotionally—from trying to figure out their identity to how to fit in socially, academically, and within the family,” says Stephanie Haen, a licensed clinical social worker.

Though you may not always need to get involved, there are things you can do—and things you shouldn’t--to help your child deal with love’s first blush. After counseling hundreds of parents on this issue, our experts weigh in on the dos and don’ts of managing this tender milestone.

DO: Have talks, not “the talk.” Help your elementaryage child prepare to deal with a crush, which is a distant cousin to dating, by having an ongoing dialogue from a young age in a way she can understand about being

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respectful of her own body and herself. Then, as your child ages into the pre-teen and teen years, keep talking. These days, pre-teens and teens can put pressure on each other to add sexual exploration to the equation under the misguided notion that if they don’t have sex with their crush, it’s not really love. “This is a big change from what it used to be like with kids 10 or 15 years ago,” says Kendrick, who has been in practice for 30 years.

Be aware of what’s going on, and acknowledge it with your child. “You might say, ‘You might feel pressured.

But you don’t have to do anything. You need to trust your feelings of being uncomfortable.

And even if you’re a little bit curious, that doesn’t mean you have to say yes,’” he says.

To bring up tough subjects like these and get your child talking, a good way to start, is “Gee, I’ve read that”…then fill in the blank with what you want to address, such as “girls are having oral sex and they’re only 13. Do you think that’s going on at your school?”

Keeping the discussion going—despite all the eye rolling--lets your child know that you know what she might be going through and builds trust so she is more likely to come to you for advice if she needs to.

Let your child learn from the experience. If your child has a crush and it’s unrequited, don’t

trivialize it by saying things like, “Oh, you’ll get over it,” or “Well, that was just puppy love.” Instead, console him and let him be upset and grieve the loss. But also stress that rejection is a normal part of life, that that’s what dating (teens), is all about that you don’t always find the right person and it’s not always reciprocated, Haen says.

Teach your child how to deal with unwanted romantic attention. If another child has a crush on your child and it’s not mutual, encourage your child to politely nip it in the bud.

Roleplay at home and have him practice an “I’m not interested” script, such as “Thanks for all the notes, but I really wish you wouldn’t give them to me anymore because they’re upsetting me.”

If that doesn’t work, call the other child’s parents. (If you’ve got a child in middle school or beyond, talk to your child first, before making that phone call.) Unwanted attention feels like pressure for children of all ages. Kids on the receiving end of crushes can suffer from psychosomatic symptoms such as stomachaches and headaches and not want to go to school. “It’s the same kind of thing I’ve witnessed with kids who’ve been bullied,” Kendrick says.

Monitor the situation. Kids, especially tweens and teens, in reciprocal crushes can take things to the extreme by, for example, texting until all hours or spending lots of their free time with each other because they’re mimicking what they’ve observed in their older siblings or the adults around them.

So be sure to set boundaries, such as curfews and limits on computer and phone time, to help your child balance his responsibilities with his social life.

If you get the sense, though, that your child must have contact with his crush to get through the day, or that he’s no longer spending time with his friends or concentrating on his school work because he’s so focused on his crush, or that his behavior could change into stalking, he may need professional help to sort out why the crush has become obsessive. “It could be a sign of something else that’s going on in his life,” says Haen. “Kids might cling to a crush if things are rocky at home between their parents, they’re struggling in school for the first time or something’s going on in their social circle.”

DON’T: Out your child’s crush. “One of the most dangerous things I see parents do is comment on their child’s crush in front of the child to other adults or horrors—to their child’s friends,” says Simens.

Such insensitivity leads to embarrassment and undermines the confidence your child has in you.

If your child can’t trust you with that sensitive information, how can he come to you with other important stuff in the future? “You want your kids to know they can come to you with questions and talk to you without being judged or made fun of,” Haen says.

Micromanage your child’s love life. If you know your pre-teen or teenage-child has a crush on someone, don’t fan the flames by suggesting, for example, that she tell that person how much she likes him. “Imposing your more adult-oriented behavior onto the situation can lead your child to go further with a crush than she was wishing or contemplating,” says Kendrick, which can make her feel uncomfortable.

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SAVINGS.

If you’ve got a child in elementary school, however, it may be appropriate to suggest and arrange a play date with the object of your child’s affection, if your son or daughter would like that. But it’s not healthy for kids in elementary school to “date.” That sort of exclusivity with another person limits your child socially.

“Kids need many options to make connections with people beyond the boy or girl they have a crush on,” says Kendrick.

Say yes to sleepovers. “Today’s parents struggle with setting limits in general,” says Haen. So if your child asks to say, have a sleepover with her mutual crush (it happens), say no, but in a respectful way. (Sleepovers with crushes of the opposite sex, in elementary school and beyond, aren’t age appropriate.) Keep it neutral by saying something like, “It’s really nice that you like hanging out with Jimmy, but a sleepover isn’t going to take place.”

Keep in mind that when it comes to crushes, your child can be crushed by your reaction to it. No matter what happens, “It’s never instructive or healthy to belittle or shame your child about it,” Kendrick says.

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El Dia de los Muertos: Una Oportunidad de Recordar Nuestra Cultura y Antepasados

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ara los Latinx, el meses de Septiembre y Octubre son mejor conocidos como los meses de la herencia Latinx, en el cual se celebran las tradiciones, las historias, las culturas, las contribuciones y los logros de las personas Latinx-Americanos (as) con ancestros de España, México, el Caribe, Centroamérica y Sudamérica.

“La semana de la herencia Latinx” se estableció en el año 1968 bajo la presidencia del Presidente Lyndon B. Johnson. En 1988 el Presidente Ronald Reagan lo extendió de una semana a un mes.

Me facina esta época del año porque me hace sentir muy afortunada de poder enseñarle a mis hijos acerca de los (las) Latinx-Americanos (as) que han llegado a ser gran parte de la historia de los Estados Unidos. En mi casa hemos estado aprendiendo acerca de Ellen Ochoa (la primera mujer Latinx astronauta), Sonia Sotomayor (la primera mujer juez Latinx en la Corte Suprema) y César Chávez (Latinx activista de los derechos civiles- que logró mejorar las condiciones para los trabajadores agrícolas). Nos encanta ir a la biblioteca y pedir prestados ciertos libros en Español sobre estos temas.

Además, estos meses son meses de fiesta. No cabe duda que para los Norteamericanos (as) el festejo tradicional de Halloween o la Noche de Brujas se celebra a lo grande.

Durante este día las casas de los vecindarios abren sus puertas para regalar dulces o caramelos a niños (as) y jóvenes que se han vestido con disfraces carismáticos de sus

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personajes preferidos. También, muchas iglesias locales organizan un evento llamado “trunk or treat (celebración de Halloween en el estacionamiento)” para la comunidad en el cual las familias se estacionan y reparten los dulces desde las cajuelas de su automóvil. A mi familia les encantan los “trunk or treats” porque es más fácil pedir dulces o caramelos para los niños pequeños de esta manera.

Pero también, en muchos de nuestros países latinoamericanos se celebra el Dia de los Muertos, Difuntos, Santos o Antepasados. Esta celebración tiene raíces prehispánicas y religiosas y festeja a los difuntos con ofrendas llenas de fotografías, veladoras, calaveras de azúcar, flores de cempasúchil y más. ¡Los altares son muy coloridos y extremadamente hermosos!

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Tal vez para nuestros vecinos y amigos que no hablan Español, piensan que El Dia de los Muertos es solamente la versión Latinx de Halloween pero puede ser algo aún mucho más especial. Es un dia para recordar el amor que sentimos por nuestras familias; ambos los que ya fallecieron y los que viven. Debemos expresar gratitud por los sacrificios que han hecho para que salgamos adelante y hay que compartir esta importante herencia con nuestros hijos (as) y amigos (as). Les animo

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a que, mientras que disfrutemos las fiestas de Halloween que tal vez son nuevas tradiciones para muchos de nosotros, que también busquemos la oportunidad de compartir nuestras hermosas tradiciones con los que nos rodean. A pesar de que muchos de nosotros nos sentimos lejos de casa, podemos tratar de siempre conmemorar a nuestros antepasados e inculcar un amor por nuestras costumbres en nuestros hijos (as). ¡Espero que todos tengan un feliz mes de Octubre seguro y divertido y que encuentren una forma de recordar y honrar a sus antepasados! ¡Felices fiestas! ¡Hola! Me llamo Paola y tendré el privilegio de compartir un mensaje mensual en Español con nuestros lectores.

Estoy muy agradecida y emocionada por esta oportunidad. Soy originalmente de Mexicali, Baja California, México y como muchos de ustedes, tengo poco tiempo viviendo en esta hermosa ciudad de Roanoke. Para alguna pregunta o comentario favor de enviar un correo electrónico a esta dirección: paoladehart@gmail.com.

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Interior color trends for 2021 Give your home a fresh look for the coming year

Many of us spent time in quarantine doing home improvment projects - deep cleaning long neglected areas, purging the garage or attic or even fresh paint in a room or two. Color has the power to completely transform the feel of a room. The right palette can add energy to a room or convey a sense of calm in a busy home.

When many of us have spent the past several months at home, a fresh coat of paint might be just what you need. If you look around and see that your home could benefit from some spruced up paint, here’s preview of what the paint experts are predicting for the color trends of 2021.

According to Real Simple, “Sherwin-Williams has selected four color palettes that are all about balance and rhythm for its ColorMix Forecast 2021.

As we reexamine our country’s past, deal with the present pandemic, and plan for the “new normal,” Sherwin-Williams has chosen palettes that are all about rhythm and “the balance between fast and slow, quiet and expressive, and virtual and physical.’”

Sherwin-Williams created four unique palettes for 2021 that blend calming greys and warm tones with “bold blues, muddy greens, muted reds, bright pinks, and warm whites” into workable color schemes for any home. Learn more about the palettes and see all the shades for 2021 at www.swcolorforecast.com.

Behr introduces their Color Trends 2021 Palette as “21 colors to elevate your comfort zone.” Behr highlights six different color schemes ranging from “Casual Comfort” - featuring light warm neutrals and whites that create an inviting feeling in entryways, kitchens and open living spaces, to “Subtle Focus” with light hues that feel sophisticated and inviting, creating an atmosphere that is effortlessly serene.

Behr also highlight a more daring pallete called “Optimistic View” with “A pop of bright color that lifts the mood in any space you want to feel energized.” Lean more about all of Behr’s 2021 picks at www.behr.com/consumer/inspiration/2021-colortrends/.

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The First Tee more than just an introduction to golf

By Gene Marrano

The First Tee is an international youth development organization that introduces the game of golf to many young people, some of whom may not have any other exposure to it. At the same time First Tee programs like the one here in Roanoke help instill values like integrity, respect and perseverance – the latter recalls that Mark Twain once called golf “a good walk spoiled.”

The First Tee of Roanoke Valley is based near Westside Elementary School in northwest Roanoke.

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The Scott Robertson Memorial Junior Golf Academy, home of The First Tee program , includes a clubhouse, a driving range, a synthetic turf putting green and a practice bunker area. The prestigious Robertson tournament (held annually every spring at Roanoke Country Club right next door) attracts some of the best young amateur golfers nationally and even internationally, with proceeds benefitting the local First Tee program.

Caroline Gilreath has attended classes at The First Tee of Roanoke Valley since age 7.

There are about 150 chapters nationwide. Jennifer Blackwood is executive director for The First Tee of Roanoke Valley, which opened for classes in 2005. She says families from all over the region bring their children (ages 5 to 18) to First Tee to learn the game. Then there are partnerships with area youth service agencies (Boys & Girls Clubs, YMCA, 4H etc.) and local schools, “where our pros go in and teach through [physical education] classes.”

With the school-based programs First Tee strives “to introduce the sport.” Life skills that the game lends itself to are another important component adds Blackwood, including “conversations about honesty, perseverance and respect.

Those lessons are built into our golf curriculum.”

On First Tee the putting green for example while working on stance and distance control, children may also hear about showing respect to golf team members – and to coaches or their family. “No lectures,” promises Blackwood, who says they have seen positive changes in kids – even in reports sent back from parents. An annual parent-child golf tournament is one highlight for the program every year. September’s event at Roanoke Country Club included designated tee times – a first – in the name of COVID social distancing.

Caroline Gilreath has attended classes at The First Tee of Roanoke Valley since age 7. Blackwood says Caroline “worked her way through our program and is currently at the Ace Level (the highest certification) We are very proud of the Gilreath family.” Her 11-year-old brother Carder is also a First Tee participant and yes says Caroline, the matches are very competitive when they play against each other.

Caroline “really didn’t take to the game until I was around 12.” Two years later she was a freshman

player on the Patrick Henry High School varsity squad. “Our team is great … it’s a lot of fun.” Now as a 15-year-old sophomore waiting for the scholastic golf season (pushed to early 2021 from this Fall due to pandemic precautions) she’s also looking at possibly playing in college.

Being at the First Tee ACE level also means assistance with college planning and the recruitment process already underway for her.

they taught me today. I’ve [also] expanded my social life because of golf.”

She’s the only girl on her PH team and while starting each hole “two tees up,” from the boys she sees it as an advantage of sorts – Caroline normally doesn’t play the ladies tees at Roanoke County Club, where the family is a member. During matches she will often be paired off against the few females at opposing schools, “which is nice.”

Caroline recommends First Tee to families considering it for their children: “they give you a great start to golf … and so many good tips you can carry with you the rest of your life.” See more on First Tee at firstteeroanokevalley.org.

First Tee “core values,” have taught Caroline Gilreath about “respect for everything. They’ve taught me to be a really good person on and off the golf course. I still use everything

She finds the outreach to local children via scholastic and afterschool programs “amazing,” and has worked camps, teaching the game to kids from Boys & Girls Clubs for example. “They have so much fun and they would never do it on their own.”

Do you know a young student-athlete between 10-18 years old worth highlighting, and/or a worthy youth sports program? Send story suggestions to jackie@virginiafamily.com.

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Rachel’s Reads

By Rachel Levine

Colored pencils, crayons, markers, scissors, and paint are essential staples of childhood. Children come into the world with an innate desire to create. As Pablo Picasso said, “Every child is an artist.” Celebrate that natural creativity by sharing these marvelous art books with your children!

something absolutely amazing. Through clever flaps and pop-ups, the book shows ways of turning a tear, spill, or other oops, into something new and incredible. It’s great for all, but especially for those kids (and adults too) who struggle with frustration when their art projects don’t turn out how they imagined.

Mouse Paint

by Ellen Stoll Walsh Someone has accidentally left out a set of red, yellow, and blue paint pots. Three very curious little mice have found them and simply can’t resist climbing inside and dunking themselves in the wet paint. The now red, yellow, and blue mice soon discover they can mix the colors and create orange, green, and purple too. This gentle introduction to the color wheel is lovely.

Beautiful Oops!

By Barney Saltzberg

Making art is all about experimenting and exploring. Beautiful Oops shows how to take what appears to be a mistake and repurpose it into

Chalk

by Bill Thomson What would happen if your art came to life? Three friends find out when they happen upon a bag of magical chalk. They begin drawing together and suddenly their art starts rising from the pavement, vivid,

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alive, and real. The friends start exploring their new power by drawing sunshine and butterflies, but then they go a step farther and draw a Tyrannosaurus Rex. Creating a living dinosaur, as we know from Jurassic Park, is generally a very bad idea.

Chaos reigns until the kids figure out how to use their art to save the day.

Dog Loves Drawing

by Louise Yates

Dog received a blank sketchbook as a gift. At first, he wasn’t sure what to do with it, but then he started doodling and a world of storytelling and adventures opened up! Dog creates new friends (duck, owl, and crab), and together they ride trains, explore the sea in boats, and find a desert island.

For every problem that arises, Dog draws a creative solution. Be warned — after reading this book you should have some blank sketchbooks on hand for your newly inspired kiddos!

I Ain’t Gonna Paint No More!

By Karen Beaumont

It is time for pure absolute silliness.

This goofy adaption of the song “It Ain’t Gonna Rain No More” is fabulously colorful and messy. A young boy has been forbidden to paint anymore after painting on the walls of

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Crafts for Little Artists that Aren’t a Pain to Clean Up

I think there’s still glitter on my floor From 5 years ago.

Arts and crafts have a way of sticking around, and while I want to encourage creativity in my kids, I hate cleaning up the aftermath.

Yes, we can make them clean up. I know. But seriously. Do they ever really clean it all up? If you’re going to be the one picking up from the latest craft session, here are 13 crafts that will make your job easier and allow your little artist to be creative.

Melissa & Doug Deluxe Combo Scratch Art Set I love this. Still. And kids are drawn to it. Scratch through the black surface to reveal amazing colors. Reveal as much or as little as you want. This favorite comes with 16 boards, 2 stylus tools and 3 frames. Kids love the rainbow and metallic backgrounds.

Boogie Board Jot LCD eWriter A small notebook sized LCD drawing panel, the Boogie Board Jot is perfect for drawing anywhere, even in the car.

No mess and endless possibility. Kids love the erase button and the ability to

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start fresh. Great for keeping in your purse for kids to play with on the go.

Alex Toys Craft Color a House Children’s Kit

Made By Me Build and Paint Your Own Wooden Cars

Cardboard box play taken to the next level, kids can easily construct a house and then decorate it with crayons.

Toddlers love this and it keeps them busy for hours!

This one does involve paint, but it’s all pretty self-contained. Spread a piece of newspaper and grab a cup of water.

Kids put together small wooden cars and then decorate using the stickers and paints provided. This one is great for keeping boys busy and giving them a chance to create.

Fashion Angels Portfolios & American Girl Doll Fashion Design Portfolio Set Kids design outfits and unique looks on the doll like outlines provided. Tons of great activity books with stencils for those who love to create fun fashion looks. Makeup, fashion and even home decorating books give kids great ways to draw and imagine as they get older.

Melissa & Doug Paint with Water Sometimes the little ones just want to paint. A great compromise that just involves water! Watch images and colors appear magically as your little artists swipes a wet brush across a page!

Crayola Color Wonder Magic Light Brush & Drawing Pad Half the fun of this amazing toy is the magic! Kids use the special brush to paint on their paper. It lights up with each color they pick and they create a masterpiece. Plus, it doesn’t leave marks on hands, the table or clothes!

Rainbow Wikki Stix These bendy, twisty sticks quickly become a favorite of kids and adults.

You can link them together, twist and create without making a mess to clean up. Another great toy for the traveling creative!

Sidewalk Chalk Let nature take care of the cleanup!

Kids love the ability to leave their mark and draw outdoors. A bucket of sidewalk chalk fits the bill, and all you

have to do is wash hands when it’s done!

Creative Hands Foam Kit Beads 2 Lace Fun and great for fine motor development, Beads 2 Lace give kids the chance to string chunky foam beads in different shapes and colors to create one of a kind masterpieces.

While there are a lot of pieces, this one is easy to clean up. You can even make a game out of tossing the foam pieces in the bucket when you’re done!

Alex Toys Little Hands Mosaics Using the color coded stickers kids place them on the template and create a beautiful picture. These are great for hanging up when they’re complete!

Also offers fantastic color and shape matching and fine motor development.

Crayola Model Magic Softer and airier than the traditional play-doh, Model Magic is a great way to let kids mold and shape with less mess! It also air dries solid, giving little artists the chance to create forever masterpieces!

Crayola Bathtub Finger paint and Crayons When you can’t avoid the mess, at least make it in the easiest place to clean up! Finger paints and crayons specifically designed for the tub, give kids the chance to make a mess. And cleaning up when they’re done is contained and fun.

What mess free crafts do your kids love?

Rebecca traded the classroom for writing when she stayed home with her three children. Passionate about authenticity, faith, and family, you can find her at RebeccaHastings.net and on Amazon. In real life, she can often be found typing words, driving her kids places or wherever there is chocolate.

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Directions: 1. Make sure your plate is dry and then draw a shape or figure on it with the dry erase marker — anything you want!

2. Let your drawing dry.

3. Carefully add room-temperature water to the dish so that it gently flows over your drawing.

What do you notice happening? Your figure should lift up from the surface of the dish.

Try moving your figure around by blowing on it or gently touching it with your finger.

What’s happening?

If your figure doesn’t lift up, wait a few moments to see if anything changes. If your figure still does not move, try a different dish. (Editor’s note: For us, non-Pyrex dishes worked best.)

Dry-erase markers, unlike permanent markers, are designed to be able to be easily wiped away from smooth, non-porous surfaces like whiteboards or glass. In order to make this happen, the ink has a special oily silicone polymer added, which helps make sure the ink

doesn’t stick to surfaces.

The ink used in dry-erase markers is also not soluble in water, so it won’t dissolve. If you add these two things together, you get an ink that won’t stick and won’t dissolve, which is why your drawing separates from the dish when you add water.

The dry-erase ink also has one more special property: it is less dense than water. That’s why your drawing floated and moved on the water’s surface.

is! h t this same experiment but then place your hand Try Try straight down on the floating shape. What happened?

Did it transfer to your hand?

Alternatively, try picking your drawing up out of the water. Can you lift it up?

What happens when you put it back in the water?

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THIS MONTH:

Sculpture

Bring the Taubman Museum of Art to you with this fun activity inspired by the exhibition In a Decade: Recent Acquisitions to Our Collection, on view through January 3, 2021. The exhibition features a variety of media, including sculptures like this one!

Materials Needed: Model Magic or Playdough Hard, Flat Surface Scrap Paper

EXPERIMENT WITH TECHNIQUES

Try to make these shapes with your clay! Once you have these techniques down, you can make all kinds of things!

PINCH

SLAB

Make a ball and then flatten it.

TIP: Use the palms of your hands to roll the clay!

COIL

Start with a ball and gently press your thumb into the center, about halfway through the ball.

Pinch the edges with your fingers to make a little cup or bowl, also known as a pinch pot.

Image Credit: Steve Bickley (American, born 1953), Flor de Consugra, 2008, Powdercoated steel, Gift of Ray Kass, 2012.009

PRO TIPS • Protect your work space with a sheet of scrap paper, wax paper, or a scrap piece of fabric!

• If you want your clay to dry, just leave it out in the open!

It may take one to three days to harden completely.

Start with a ball and roll it between your hands until it looks like a hot dog.

Place on a table or hard surface and continue to gently roll until it looks like a snake or rope!

Now that you know some sculpture techniques, see what you can make! Try something abstract, like the sculpture Flor de Consugra, or mold your clay into a tiny creature, a yummy cupcake, or a fancy car—the possibilities are endless!

• If you want to reuse your clay, keep it in a sealed bag or cover it with plastic wrap until you’re ready to play again.

• Add color with markers! You can add color whether the clay is wet or dry.

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