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Hildegarde Turk ( Werner) March 2, 2022 LIMA - March 2, 2022, at age 95. She is survived by her loving daughters, Christine Turk, Lisa Rowe; grandchildren, Lea (Ryan) Lown, Christopher ( Jeane) Rowe, Lindsay (Peter) Campbell. She was predeceased by her husband, Paul J. Turk. Hildegarde served on the Lima Town Board for 16 years. She was a member of the First Presbyterian Church in East Avon, and the Lima Golden Agers. Her Memorial Service will be held Sunday, March 13, 2022 at 2pm at the First Presbyterian Church of East Avon. Private interment Oak Ridge Cemetery, Lima. In lieu of owers memorials may be made to the First Presbyterian Church of East Avon, PO Box 189, Avon, NY 14414 or Lima Public Library, 1872 Genesee Street, Lima, NY 14485. To share a memory or send a condolence visit oconnelldoughertyfuneralhome.com Helene B. Beuler Februar y 28, 2022 Conesus Lake: At age 94, Helene passed away peacefully on Monday, February 28, 2022 at her home in St. Petersburg, FL. She was born in Bu alo, NY to the late August and Mary Guppenberger. Helene is predeceased by her beloved husband, John R. Beuler; along with her son, omas Beuler; her great-granddaughter, Mary Grace and her siblings, Francis (Carol) Guppenberger, Mary (John) Yunker, Rev. August Guppenberger, and Joseph Guppenberger. Survived by her children, Robert (Colleen) Beuler, Barbara (Lawrence) Ashcro , Eileen Beuler, her daughter-in-law, Carolyn Beuler; her siblings, James Guppenberger, Lois (John) Gringer, Barbara Guppenberger; her 12 grandchildren and 28 greatgrandchildren, along with several nieces and nephews. A memorial mass will be announced at a future date. Interment will be held at St. Joseph Cemetery in Batavia, New York. To share a memory or a condolence, please visit: www.doughertyfuneralhomes.com (585) 346-5401

COPING WITH THE SUICIDE OF A LOVED ONE

Honor the deceased. Don’t hesitate to share memories, photos and stories about your loved one who committed suicide. The Suicide Prevention Lifeline notes that some people fi nd it helpful to write to a lost loved one, as doing so can provide a means to say some of the things survivors were unable to say before a loved one’s death.

Ruth E. Traynor (Laida) Februar y 15, 2022

Geneseo: At age 100 years Ruth passed peacefully on February 15, 2022 at Noyes Memorial Hospital in Dansville, NY. She was born on March 16, 1921 in Skaneateles, NY to the late John and Susan (Wedarena) Laida. In addition to her parents she was predeceased by her husband, James Traynor; daughter, Dianne Whitacre; grandson, David Hanna, and siblings Ann McArdell, Helen Cook, Mildred Timko, and John Laida. Survived by her daughter, Donna (Alfred “Tim”) Cole Jr. of Avon; grandchildren, Daniel Hanna, James “Jaimie” (Audrey) Cole, and Jennifer (Daniel) Korpanty; 4 great-grandchildren; son-in-law, Steve Whitacre, and many nieces & nephews. Ruth was the h child of John D. and Susan Laida, and entered this world on March 16, 1921 in Skaneateles, NY where she graduated from high school. She then studied for a short while at Geneseo State Normal (what is now SUNY Geneseo) and resided in the Geneseo area for nearly all of her life. Ruth was an avid reader and an accomplished seamstress and quilter. She loved to play Scrabble, cards, especially the game of bridge, and even played a little gin with her devoted caregivers until recently. She also spent several years working with ceramics and cra s. Her greatest joy was her family, and her presence in their lives will be sorely missed. A private memorial service will be held for immediate family on Saturday, March 19, 2022 at 11am at the Kevin W. Dougherty Funeral Home Inc., Livonia, NY. For all others it will be live streamed at: https://youtu. be/D7Ds66bVrec. Interment will be held privately. In lieu of owers, memorial contributions may be made to the GraceLife Church, PO Box 237, Avon, NY 14414 or to Teresa House, 21 Highland Road, Geneseo, NY 14454.

To share a memory or a condolence, please visit: www.doughertyfuneralhomes.com (585) 346-5401 Gabriel David Crissy 02/27/2022 Gabriel was born in Rochester, NY at Strong Memorial Hospital on September 4, 2004. He spent his younger years through middle school living in Avon, New York. As with many children these days, he was able to participate in various sporting activities from soccer to baseball, swimming to wrestling and also taekwondo. He also participated in the drama program while there. His family relocated to Denver, NC in 2018 and he was most recently a member of the choir and drama programs at North Lincoln High School. Yearly trips to the Adirondacks were a highlight of Gabriel’s summers where he thoroughly enjoyed kayaking, canoeing, shing and hiking. In North Carolina, he enjoyed hosting his friends at his home where Nerf wars went on for hours, grappled each other in the sand pit and conversational camp res. At family events, Gabriel relished the role of activity coordinator with his cousins. He was active in online gaming with friends and also adhered to a strict Friday night schedule of D&D with his sister and her cohort of college friends. Gabriel was a beacon to so many around him. Holding the door for everyone, asking how your day was and simply going through life with an overall cheery disposition was the face we knew. He was the handshake type to acquaintances but genuine Gabriel hugs were frequently distributed. When he hugged you, you knew how much you were loved. Based on the outpouring of emotion we have seen in such a short time, he touched many lives and his impact will be felt for some time. He is survived by his parents, Nathalie and Luke, older sister, Isabella and grandparents, Mercedes and Edward Hanbach. ere are many, many uncles, aunts, nieces and nephews who also grieve his departure. At the family’s request, there will be no formal calling hours. In lieu of owers, donations to the National Suicide Prevention Hotline would be graciously acknowledged. https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/. Online condolences may be made at www.jamesfuneralhomelkn.com

COPING WITH THE LOSS

OF A LOVED ONE Reach out to others. Grief often can turn a person inward, and your feelings may be bottled up. Talking about your emotions, whether it’s with a trusted friend or even a therapist, may help. Online message boards that cover grief and loss may provide the support you need. Leaning on others who have been in your shoes may help you recover more quickly.

Tips on planning a memorial service • Set the date and time. Memorial services should be planned in consideration of any family members who have traveled from out of town. Set a date close enough to the funeral or anniversary event that visiting friends and family can attend. •␣Choose a location. Arrange a memorial service at a location that is large enough to accommodate the number of people you’ve invited. Know how many chairs you need, tables for food and arrangements and a podium for a guestbook. •␣Compile a guest list and send out the invitations. Stay organized when planning a memorial service by making a list of all friends and loved ones of the deceased for sending out invitations. •␣Personalize decorations and music. Make the memorial service a reflection of the person whose memory you’re honoring by choosing decorations and music the individual would have liked. Use floral arrangements with the person’s favorite flowers or colors and compile a play list of favorite songs or types of music to be played throughout the service. •␣Get input from loved ones. Ask friends and family members of the deceased individual for input about special touches that will best help remember their loved one. •␣Arrange for guest speakers. A key component of many memorial services is having a series of guest speakers who can provide their personal perspective on the deceased person’s life and the legacy being left behind.