Haute Life Magazine, Issue 4

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Photo by Grace Sarris In this Fall issue, we chose “Risk Taker” as our theme to focus on as we wrote our articles, and I think it sounds appropriate when you start turning the pages. What does being a risk taker mean to you and your life? Each of us will have very different answers, I’m sure, but I hope that whatever resonates with you personally, you’ll seek it and find what you’re passionate about, whether it’s personal or in business. My hope is that some of these articles make you stop and think about how important it is to take risks and see where your path will take you.

Fall is the perfect time for late-night porch talks/dinner parties, like the one we are featuring on page 25 from the lovely Gretchen Kraut from Sycamore Farms. We hope that her style tips will help you plan your next intimate party with family and friends.

We also have a great article on how you can decorate with a “vintage flair” throughout your home from the one and only Kristy Robb from Robb Restyle. She is talented with decorating and repurposing, and she loves bringing back the old and making it new again. You’ll get to meet both of these two very talented women, who will show you how to be creative on a budget with everyday items you can find at home or at your local antique shop. Each share their talents with us and hopefully inspire you to host your very own party or redecorate your own space.

As you move through the magazine, we have a “special edition” dedicated to “Best Friends.” In the feature “Memories Are Made of This...,” we highlight some amazing women who started their own business together and are rockin’ it. Take a peek on pages 54-64 and see what sets them on fire, and why they love being small business owners. Lastly, we share our love for women in education and salute them for tirelessly working to educate our children. Make sure to see who the winner is for “My Teacher Rocks” on page 68, and see what risk taking is all about and how she stands out from the rest.

We hope you enjoy this issue of Haute Life Magazine as we end our Fall issue. So, sit back and relax. Grab a hot cup of coffee or tea, and read about all these amazing women who have fought hard, worked hard and took a “risk” in their lives.

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Haute Life Magazine was created to celebrate, inspire, and uplift women in every aspect of their lives. Our mission is to recognize their courage and bravery in all that they do. We hope that Haute Life inspires you to seek your own passions.

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Editors Welcome P.I.N.K. of Terre Haute Our Contributors Making Lemonade Out of Lemons Beautiful Braids Lash Out! Unveiled Turning Point Celebrating Small Victories Vintage Never Gets Old Dream Chaser Let’s Party!

Simple Sophistication Haute Sycamores Fall Fashion Little Love of LOK Confessions of a ShopGirl: Seize the Night Designs Makers Gonna Make Against the Grain Haute Women in History The Ladies of the First Floor Fall Jar Lunches on the Fly Sweet as Honey Brave Mom’s Club Fall Front Porches Fan Girl Friday Charmed Life Sincerely, Millie Lydia, Lady Boss 20 Things I Love About Fall Re-Fitting LIFE My Teacher Rocks!

Boss Ladies Leah’s Thoughts Fashion-Able: Branded Collective Living with PCOS Tricked: A Living Legacy of Hope Bearing it All A Moment of Gratitude8 Haute Life Gratitude Challenge

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To Infinity and Beyond Alchemy Spa and Beautique Fit For a Queen Southern Hospitali-TEA Paradise in Our Own Backyard Friendship Focus

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Project P.I.N.K.

Community Support The 6th Annual PINK Golf Scramble took place on July 21, with the proceeds benefiting Wabash Valley breast cancer patients and their families. As PINK is entirely a volunteer charity, they are completely dependent on the generous support of the local community, individuals and businesses. PINK has enjoyed several years of blessings bestowed upon them by local supporters, and this year was no different!

Event Coordinator Natalie Overton lined up 22 teams who took to the links at Idle Creek Golf Course, in a heat-soaked day of laughs and good times. The crew certainly did not disappoint, with a host of teams vying for the top spots. The team of Chad & Scott O’Neal, Jeff Moore, and Larry Russell brought home top honors, tallying a 20-under par score. They were gracious and quick to donate their entire $600 winnings right back to PINK, in a show of additional support for all that PINK does for local women, men, and families battling this terrible disease.

Sullivan Auto Group continued their annual sponsorship of the Par 3 challenge holes. Unlike last year’s event, this year held no lucky winner of a new car. The beautiful Chevrolet Cruze they brought up will have to find a home the old fashioned way, with someone actually buying it this year. Sullivan Auto also donated a weekender’s dream RV rental valued at $800, which provided PINK with additional monetary support. Thank you to a generous donation from Mr. Dennie McQuire and his family. PINK’s best silent auction ever was Mr. Chase Contri who received $1,000+ of “booze-in-a-barrow.” He was kind enough to make a sizable donation to PINK as well, as a show of support to the cause and mission of PINK.

Not to be outdone by the generosity of others, the Medical and Dental Staff of Terre Haute Regional Hospital made history, and a made a tremendously generous donation to PINK of an additional $5,000, showing their own support of the work done by PINK and its host of volunteers.

This year’s outing was graced additionally by seemingly unbelievable pledges of support from Terre Haute Regional Hospital, as well their Medical and Dental Staff. Regional Hospital was kind enough to serve as a corporate sponsor again in 2017, and sponsored the amazing food and beverages for the day. PINK was again blown away by, and forever grateful for, their generous support.

A cheering crowd of golfers and event volunteers received their generous pledge as the scramble teed off around 1 p.m. The gratitude of PINK, their patients and families, and their volunteers lies heavily with Terre Haute Regional Hospital, Sullivan Auto Group, their wealth of friends and contributors for their continued support of the mission of PINK – to serve the needs of all Wabash Valley breast cancer patients and their families. They cannot possibly find enough words to fully express their gratitude for everyone who played, contributed, and donated their time and efforts to make the day an amazing success.

- Darren Brucken

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Kristy Robb

Leah Singer

Robb Re-Style

Writer/Editor

Vigo County Historical Society & Museum

Angela Tapy

Marissa Martinez

Charm School

Haute Sycamores

Mallory Eilbracht

Kasy Long

Photographer

Jennifer Schwab Editor

Writer/Editor

Darren Brucken

MaryAnn Millard

P.I.N.K. of Terre Haute

Fashion Contributor

Liv Curtis Haute Sycamores

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Susan Tingley

Carrie Evans Health & Fitness

Yvette Morgan Co-creator

Our Contributors

Nicole Osborne Writer

Candi Snyder

Grace Sarris

Gentiva Hospice

Photographer

Cheryl Salyers Serendipity Salon

Brittany Molinder Clabber Girl

Brysta Moore Beauty

Lori Mitchell

Craig Mitchell

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Graphic Artist

Samantha Ripperger Intern

Samantha McGranahan Unveiled

Tracey Sarris Writer/Inspriational

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Know Your Lemons Making Lemonade Out of Lemons When I was asked to write a piece on breast health, the first idea that came to mind was the #knowyourlemons campaign that has been traveling around Facebook and social media sites. If you aren’t familiar with this, I’m glad you’re here!

According to breastcancer.org, about one in eight women in the United States will develop invasive breast cancer over the course of her lifetime. Even more shocking is that “about 85% of breast cancers occur in women who have no family history of breast cancer. These occur due to genetic mutations that happen as a result of the aging process and life in general, rather than inherited mutations, such as BRCA1 and BRCA2.”

So how can we be proactive with our breast health? To answer this question, I reached out to Worldwide Breast Cancer, the charity behind the #knowyourlemons campaign. They put me in touch with Corrine Ellsworth Beaumont, founder/creator, who has spent several years researching that very question.

Corrine’s journey began in early 2000. She was getting her master’s degree in graphic design and needed to come up with a big project for her portfolio. Around that time, her second grandmother passed away from breast cancer. Still looking for a master’s project, and with many questions about breast cancer, Corrine decided to go to the cancer library in search of answers. Originally, she thought her questions were really simple: “Do I have an increased risk for breast cancer because my grandmothers had it? When should I get a mammogram? What does a cancerous lump feel like? Am I doing a breast self-exam the right way?”

Oddly enough, she couldn’t find the answers she was looking for. At that time, Corrine was in her early twenties and was told no one really asks questions like

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that at her age, so the library gave her a few leaflets, along with some other materials to look at. The problem was, that just left her with more questions. She did, however, notice there were quite a few myths about breast cancer. So she thought, “That’s what I will do. I will illustrate the myths about breast cancer!”

But that task didn’t end up being a simple one either. When she set out to do her research, she guessed there would be close to ten symptoms of breast cancer.

However, she ended up finding closer to 40! So she did what many of us do when we want to know more about something … she got on the computer and began Googling. “Honestly I was nauseous for a couple of days from looking at these images of advanced disease,” she said. “Some even had warnings on the graphic nature of the content. It made me think that if others looked at this, they would say, that’s gross, rather than these are the signs I should look for.”

That’s when she decided she needed to find something other than breasts as her representation. She started with jugs, cones, melons and muffins. “Basically, for several months, anything that was round and came in pairs looked like breasts to me!” Corrine said.

And then one day, while she was in church, she thought, “What about lemons?! Lemons would be perfect! They have nipples and real indentations that look like skin pores … and if I cut the lemon navel to navel, it looks like the interior anatomy of a breast!”

Later that week, Corrine went to the store, bought a bunch of lemons, cut them open, and decided she could use them to illustrate the symptoms of breast cancer.

This discovery, along with her research, led her to 12 different ways breast cancer could present itself.

But she wasn’t finished. She needed a way to communicate these 12 symptoms to others quickly. Since eggs come in a dozen, an egg carton was a fitting holder. So she bought several small lemons, observed them, put them in the egg carton, and took a lot of pictures.

Before finalizing her design, Corrine shadowed an OB/ GYN for a few days. She observed breast exams, talked to patients, and spent a day in the imaging center, where the lemon seed became her metaphor for a cancerous lump. It was the first time anyone had told her a lump was hard like a nut and, in her words, “everything became complete in that moment.”

Corrine finished her designs, shared them with medical professionals, earned her master’s degree, and began teaching at the university. However, she wanted more.

She wanted to start an international/global campaign, so she decided to quit her job and move to London to work on her Ph.D. Eventually she founded the charity, Worldwide Breast Cancer.

But it wasn’t until January of this year that her work started getting international attention. It all started when a California nursing student posted a picture of Corrine’s “12 Signs of Breast Cancer” on Facebook saying, “Hearts don’t raise awareness, but these lemons do!”

She made her post public and it got about 600 shares. From there, Corrine said it was a whirlwind. She was contacted by journalists for online magazines, MSN, BBC, CNN, and her website got so many hits that it crashed. Within hours, she was invited to be on BBC Breakfast and in papers all over the world. At its peak in January, the image was viewed more than 166 million times. Corrine said her friend joked that it only took her 14 years to become an overnight success.

So how does all of this help us in being proactive about our own breast health?

Well, Corrine’s designs and her charity are helping women all over the world find their cancer earlier, which is huge in this fight. Because of these images, women know exactly what to look for while doing a self-exam and if they find something suspicious, can seek help from a medical professional right away. Also, much of the downloadable information on the website has been translated into more than 20 different languages. So between the images, educational kits and other language options, there is no technology or literacy barrier, giving access to anyone worldwide, including you.

And YOU are the person I am trying to reach today! First and foremost, DO YOUR SELF EXAMS! This is so important. Study Corrine’s images and know what to look/feel for. If you aren’t sure how to do this, you can utilize the “Five Steps of a Breast Self-Exam” that can be found on breastcancer.org. If you notice any changes, contact a medical professional. It may be nothing, but it just may save your life.

I also encourage you to share these images with your medical professionals. I couldn’t believe how many of mine had never heard of the #knowyourlemons campaign. And keep posting, sharing, and talking about it on social media. You never know who’s watching and some of our friends need to see things more than once to action.

Right now, funding is HUGE in order for Corrine to continue her work. All monetary donations go directly towards her projects, which now include: research, educational products, toolkits, and an app that will be coming out soon! On their website, knowyourlemons.com, it says, “Donate. We can’t do it without you.”

Let’s join Worldwide Breast Cancer on their mission to: 1. Reach every woman in the world to educate them about the signs of breast cancer, so we can help reduce deaths from the disease by 25% by 2025.

2. Use the power of design to create images that educate, empower and speak in a way that go beyond words.

3. Support the only global breast cancer education campaign - knowyourlemons.com - that works across barriers of literacy, taboo and fear around the world.

The Optimist: Clarence Edwin Flynn “Life handed him a lemon, As Life sometimes will do.

His friends looked on in pity, Assuming he was through.

They came upon him later, Reclining in the shade In calm contentment, drinking A glass of lemonade.”

Life has given us lemons, let’s make lemon-aid!

Take the challenge at knowyourlemons.com

- Nicole Osborne

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Beautiful Braids

Hair styling trends come and go throughout the years. From curly hair to straight, to the big hair from the 1980s to the sleek straight hair in the late 90s. Many of these trends come from styles worn by celebrities like Charlie’s Angels and Jennifer Aniston. One of the biggest hair trends right now are braids. And they’re not just for little girls.

You see braids on runways, weddings, at the beach, school and the grocery store, and they’re being worn by women of all ages. You will see pigtail braids like those worn by Laura Ingalls on Little House on the Prairie to crown and fishtail braids.

Not since the 1960s and 70s have we seen more braids.

A modern, artistic approach to a classic french braid adds elegance to formal styles.

Braids are one of the oldest hairstyles dating back as far as 5,000 years. Many women in the Renaissance Era braided their hair to keep it clean longer since bathing and washing their hair regularly was not an option. Throughout history, braiding was also considered a social event for women in other cultures.

To best explain the most modern braid trends, I talked with a leading local hairdresser, Emily Bohman, Salon Coordinator and bridal expert at Serendipity Salon, and Rita Perna-Allor, Global Artistic Director for Alterna Haircare and a world-renowned expert and educator in the haircare industry. Hairdressers like Emily get their inspiration for style and design from creations from industry leaders such as Rita.

Emily says that the trend of braids has greatly influenced both bridal and formal styling in the past few years. “Since January, the majority of formal styles I’ve seen at the salon have incorporated a braid in some form,” she said.

Here, a braid adds adornment to a more simple style

She also stated that up-styles have transitioned from very sleek styles to more of a “boho” inspired look, consisting of loose wand curls and different forms of a braid including both the French and fishtail styles.

“I wouldn’t say that sleeker up-dos are no longer in style, but now incorporate some style of braid.” Emily goes on to say that there are endless possibilities when it comes to braids and how to wear them on a daily basis. “Some of the most wearable styles I see are single, loose French braids worn straight back or to the side.

My personal favorite style to wear is a small side braid around my face,” she said.

This look is especially convenient for women who are growing out bangs.

Referring back to trends being influenced by celebrities, she talked about the trend by saying “most recently, younger girls have been requesting tighter boxer style braids, a look that has become popularized by the Kardashian/Jenner ladies.”

Ever wonder where trends begin and how they come to a salon near you? Creative geniuses like Rita create, design and teach the latest trends worldwide. Rita is a true master of her craft, which is seen in her brilliant work as she travels around the world.

The use of braids adds a classic, timeless look for bridal and other special occasions.

“As I traveled the runways, red carpets and salons of the globe, I recognized the need and demand to go beyond the classic 3-strand braid,” said Rita. “Not to disregard the classic braid but looking to it for inspiration, I combined inspiration from architecture, nature and fabrics to create classic, modern and contemporary looks. I feel it’s important to celebrate style while giving homage to the past, using classic techniques and making them relevant.”

All of these elements can be seen in her intricate designs. From the classic braid to a beautiful style that includes adornment to a bridal style, or to the intricate stylings of those like Rita, braids are as fashionable as ever. We must pay tribute to the lovely ladies from the Renaissance for giving us a hair styling technique that has adorned women’s heads for centuries. So wear that beautiful braid, no matter what your age!

- Cheryl Salyers

Photography by Rita Perna-Allor Global Artistic Director, Alterna Haircare

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Braids have made their way to stages and runways world-wide.

Lash Out

Tell me about yourself and your family?

I am a 2013 graduate of Harrold’s Beauty Academy. I was a stylist at Vivid Salon in Marshall, IL for one year. I then moved to Elements Salon & Spa in Terre Haute, IN. I left Elements in 2016 to work for myself. I now work in two locations: Polished Day Spa in Marshall, IL and West Tease in West Terre Haute, IN. My most precious work is being a wife and a mother. I married my husband, Landry, in 2015. We have two boys, Kyden, 11, and Remy, 10 mo. They keep us busy but we wouldn’t have it any other way!

As women, we tend to take care of everyone else before ourselves. So, to take time to pamper yourself a little is so important. I’m happy I get to be a part of that!

Who is your customer?

I have clients of all ages! From college girls who want full dramatic lashes to the grandmother who just wants to feel pretty again.

What type of services do you offer?

I offer Lavish Lash Extensions, SugarLash Lash Lift, and Facial waxing.

Have you always loved the beauty industry? When did you know that you wanted to make it a career?

How do you care for your lash extensions?

My true love has always been fashion and makeup. I started teaching myself how to do makeup after my mom gave me her purple eyeliner when I was in the 7th grade. I’ve been hooked ever since. I never really thought about becoming a Cosmetologist. I just fell into the beauty industry. I remember hearing a commercial for beauty school and thought, “I could do that!” Attending Harrold’s Beauty Academy is one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

How can future customers contact you for an appointment?

The best way is to keep them clean. Rinse with soap and water twice a day, but avoid any type of oil around the extensions.

They can call/text me at 812.870.3327 or reach me at my two locations at Polished Day Spa in Marshall, IL and West Tease in West Terre Haute.

- Yvette Morgan

What made you want to step out on your own?

The beauty industry is very demanding. You do the most work when everyone else isn’t at work (evenings and weekends). I had a new baby at home and needed a more flexible schedule. I loved the previous salon I worked at because that is where I was given the chance to learn and grow. I was able to figure out where my niche was and I’ll be forever grateful for that! Leaving and becoming your own boss is so scary but it has been so worth it!

What is the hardest part of owning your business?

The hardest thing at first was getting organized. You have to find a system of scheduling and keeping up on the income that works for you. Once I figured that out, everything just fell into place. Having been out on my own for almost 11 months now, my biggest issue is telling people no! I will work crazy hours to keep my clients happy but it is worth it! I have great relationships with all of my clients.

What type of training or schooling did you take to learn about eyelash extensions?

I became a cosmetologist in 2013. Then, in 2014, I attended a one-day class in Indianapolis. I keep up on my training by taking classes and watching tutorials online.

What is the most rewarding?

I love to see clients light up when they see the final result in the mirror. Whether it is a fresh set or they’ve been filling for six months, the excitement is always there.

Photo by Mike Ellerman

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Unveiled

Why I Broke Up With Wedding Photography Most people in Terre Haute know me as a wedding photographer. If I didn’t shoot your wedding, I’ve probably met you at someone else’s.

I’ve shot big, chaotic weddings and small, intimate weddings. Once I led a team of four photographers to cover a wedding at Lucas Oil Stadium that had more than 500 guests, a video team, and drones flying overhead.

I’ve shot countless weddings in churches, courthouses, and backyards.

I’ve even shot a surprise wedding, disguised as a Fourth of July cookout. The guests thought I was an awkward mutual friend until the couple announced they were getting married “right now, and she’s our photographer.”

I’ve gotten to know the people of Terre Haute through the biggest parties they’ll ever throw, with the people they love the most. I can even remember some of your anniversary dates.

But the truth is, I haven’t attended a wedding in months, and I don’t plan to unless I’m invited as a guest and there’s an open bar. Instead, I’m running a boudoir photo studio in another city, where no one knows my name.

Entrepreneurial risks I left my day job to shoot weddings full time in 2007, the same year I had a baby and bought a house. That baby is now 10 years old, and I’ve shot almost 400 weddings in my lifetime.

So why start over?

Like most entrepreneurs, my entire career is built on risk. The risk pushes me to be creative, to keep learning and growing as a photographer and a businesswoman.

One of the things I noticed in my years as a wedding photographer—one of the things I’ve been inspired by—is the power that photography has on the way women see themselves. Light, angles, and a little makeup can go a long way in emphasizing the beauty that’s already there. Not just on your wedding day, but every day.

I wanted to photograph more than weddings. I wanted to photograph women. I wanted to capture confidence and beauty at every stage of life. The young bride, the newly divorced mom, the fierce grandma. I wanted to give these women personalized photo shoots that made them feel like a million bucks—for a fraction of the cost.

And then, the idea became impossible to forget. So did the risks.

What if no one books a photo shoot? (What if one person does, and it changes her life forever?)

What if I can’t find a makeup artist? (In the meantime, learn how to do it yourself.)

What if I fail? (What if you don’t?)

I opened Unveiled in January 2014, in a small studio space in Bloomington with low ceilings that made my first shoots hilariously awkward. Today, I have two part-time assistants and an expanded studio that feels more like an upscale spa (it even has a Victorian tub).

Every single client has taken this risk with me. Many are doing it for themselves, to celebrate a milestone or document where they are in life. They are leaving their insecurities at the door, or washing them away in a milk bath, and that’s how I know my risk was worth the reward.

- Samantha McGranahan

Photo by Courtney Sinclair

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Turning Point Strengthening Courage and Confidence

Tell us a little bit about yourself and how you got involved in teaching pole fitness?

My name is Shandi McDurmon. I am 24 years old. I work as a full-time property manager, as well as own and instruct classes for my business, Pole Fitness Terre Haute. I am a mother and a wife. My husband and I have three children together.

We are a busy family who loves to stay active. We enjoy spending time outside, riding four-wheelers and mini bikes.

I got involved with pole fitness a few years ago. I had a couple girlfriends who had poles at their houses. When I got on the pole, I never wanted to get off. I knew two definite things about pole fitness at this point. One, it made me feel really good.

I felt more empowered and I had more confidence. There was less stress and anger. Second, my body hurt so bad, but in the good way. I felt like I finally found a fitness regimen that would keep me motivated. Then came this crazy idea: what if I can partner up with a local gym and bring pole fitness to Terre Haute? What if I could help others follow their fitness goals with a new form of fitness? So, I reached out to Zach Taylor, the owner of Terre Haute Fitness Center, and proposed my business idea. He was enthusiastic with the idea and we immediately put our plans into place. We were able to open Pole Fitness Terre Haute in November, 2016 and it has been booming ever since!

Can you tell the reader what pole fitness is and how they can join your class?

Pole fitness is fun, exciting, and a little different than your normal fitness routine.

We use a vertical pole to cover a variety of spins, moves, and climbs. It works the whole body, improving muscle tone, flexibility, coordination, posture, as well as upper body and core strength. It also helps to improve confidence and helps to maintain stress levels (which I know from experience). If you are interested in booking a class, you can visit our Facebook page facebook.com/polefitnessterrehaute and click the ‘book now’ button!

How much are your classes and where are you located?

Classes are $10 per session. We do have a loyalty program which awards you a free class for every ten classes you take (and it’s free to sign up for the program).

Do you offer different level of classes?

We offer beginner, intermediate, and open pole classes, so we have a class that is suitable for everyone’s needs. We also are planning to offer some exotic dance, strength conditioning classes, and boot camp classes in the near future.

What muscle groups do you need to strengthen for pole fitness?

You don’t need any specific muscle groups to start pole classes. As this is suitable for all fitness levels, we will get you to where you want to be.

Do you have any tips for beginners?

Don’t think too much about it! This is the advice I give to all my pole students.

Of course, it is easier said than done, but don’t think too much! Aside from that, don’t wear lotion to class and bring a grip aid until you build your strength up. Dry Hands and TAC 2 are awesome grip aids that can be purchased through Amazon.

What inspires your movement?

Music!

What is your favorite song to listen to while you work?

Any dubstep music works great for pole fitness.

What is your favorite move?

There are so many different moves that I love doing, so it is hard to choose just one. But, if I had to, I think I would chose the Gemini.

What’s one pole fitness stereotype that you wish would go away?

For anyone who takes pole fitness, I think we would all answer the question the same way...STRIPPERS. We are not strippers. We do not dance in lingerie and walk around half naked. Let’s be honest, most of what we do in class is sweat and whine about the pole bruises we obtained from the previous class.

How has pole fitness affected your life and the ladies that have taken your class?

Pole Fitness has affected my life in such a positive way. It is my escape from everyday worries.

If I am having a bad day, or if I am upset, you can bet that the pole studio is where you will find me! As for my students? I get text messages all the time from students saying that they can’t wait for the next class so that they can release some steam, or this is what they have to look forward to when they haven’t had the best day.

Overall, pole fitness has made me work to become a better woman, friend, wife, and mother.

We empower each other and build each other up, and in this day and age, we need all the positivity we can get.

- Yvette Morgan

What type of calories can you burn in a class?

One hour of pole fitness burns approximately the same amount of calories as other group fitness classes. On average, you will burn about 350 calories in an hour session.

Photography by Mallory Eilbracht

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Celebrating Small Victor ies Whoa. It’s hard to believe that this is our 1 year anniversary issue. Time sure does fly – we all know that. The hard work (blood, sweat and tears, really) we’ve put into this magazine from conception is nothing compared to the reward this creation called Haute Life has given us. We are so blessed, and feel that God put this idea in our noggins for good reason. We hope our magazine has touched you in some way, encouraged you to make a change, or driven you to do something you never thought you’d do.

We decided to ask each other the same questions for the heck of it. This is how we feel about Haute Life Magazine a year later.

- Lori Mitchell

How has the magazine changed your outlook on life?

Lori Mitchell - It has made me a more positive person. In the past, I would tend

to worry a bit too much about what others were doing. Then, I saw a quote. It said “I’m too busy working on my own grass to notice if yours is greener.” That stuck with me for personal reasons, but it also made me think, we want to feature these ladies who are working on their own grass. The magazine is all about lifting each other up and promoting other women who are rocking it. We all have s**t we’re going through – most of us are dealing with the same issues and we don’t even realize it. Why not tell those stories so we know we’re not alone?

Yvette Morgan - For me this magazine has been a “gift” to me professionally and

personally. I have learned so much this year about myself and that this wonderful life I get to live is only temporary and time is precious and to never take things in life for granted. It’s so easy to get caught up in the world that we don’t take a minute to be thankful for just waking up in the morning…it’s the little things.

The ladies that we have interviewed and wrote about are truly the heroes in Haute Life Magazine. Their stories have given me a better outlook on what were here to do and that there’s so much more to do in our community and in the world. We have to surround ourselves with positive and nurturing women, and stand up for what you believe in. It’s given me confidence to do anything that’s put in front of me.

What direction do you see the magazine going in future issues?

L - I see it getting BIGGER – more pages, more stories, more contributors, more readers. We will continue to share women’s stories, but we’re not trying to copy or compete with anyone. We will ALWAYS have unique stories to tell. Real stories from real women with real issues. That’s how we connect.

Y - My head may explode with all the ideas floating around, but I’d love to grow outside of our four walls here in the Haute. I see introducing women throughout Indiana and the Midwest, continuing to feature women entrepreneurs, highlighting the struggles and the victories that impact our lives, while moving forward in the midst of fear and taking a leap of faith. Our goal is to empower women and giving them the right tools and information to encourage growth.

We are currently getting the magazine ready for a digital download in 2018, to reach a broader audience, expand our boutique shop, and consistently blog on the website to create more communication with our readers. This is certainly a movement that I hope motivates our community of women to feel inspired, revitalized and to support our goals… I’m dreaming big for the future!

Photography by Grace Sarris

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How has the magazine changed over the course of the year?

Y - We are consistently growing in the number of pages in the magazine each quarter, and have gotten some great feedback to help us create a more wellrounded magazine. We have a lot of submissions from women who want to contribute and help us grow.

L - Well, I would say we’ve gotten a little better at it. When we first started, we had no idea even where to begin. We just figured it out – as most of us do in everyday life. Craig and I spent many a late night laying it out, making sure every. single. word. was perfect. We’ve grown in the past year just with learning how to reach out to people, write, edit, layout, and LET THINGS GO. We’ve realized over the course of a year with moving, opening a new location and all that goes with it, trying to just keep up, that we are only 2 people. You’ll still get 4 issues a year, you’ll still get an awesome magazine. It just might not be on time. Then again, when have Yvette and I ever been on time?

What is your favorite thing about creating Haute Life Magazine?

Y - This was merely an idea that has come full circle for me, so actually seeing it come to surface has been extremely rewarding. My business partner, Lori, has been huge asset to the magazine, and I honestly wouldn’t be able to do this without her or her husband.

• The “hustle” is necessary to get ahead and I love working toward something • that will inspire others.

L - Meeting so many AMAZING women in our community. I’m learning about women and telling stories I never thought I’d tell, let alone even know about. The connections that we’ve made this past year both with the magazine and through our shops has been nothing short of amazing. That’s the only word for it. I fully believe you learn something from every single person you meet – good or bad. I have learned to much from these women I’ve had the pleasure to connect with. We all have something to give that we may find out we love to share, and that others can learn from. It’s also helped me to realize, again, that we are all not so different.

We all have our struggles, most of them similar, and we need to band together and just be open and there for one another.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years with the magazine?

L - Sold at Magnolia, of course. Honestly, I see us expanding further into the Midwest, and hopefully, eventually, across the country. We began by telling stories of women in our community, and we will still do so, but really, aren’t we a community of women? We could seriously go global. Think BIG. Y - In 5 years, I still see myself networking and dreaming of a team of women to work with from all over the country. It would also be a gift to be able to pay our contributors, photographers, editors and ourselves for the work we’ve all done.

Haute Life Magazine is a huge, collaborative effort of women who believe in what we’re doing, even though it’s all done by volunteering their time with no pay. I’d also love to see in the future donating a percentage of sales of the magazine to other women’s organization that fosters women in need.

• Celebrating your successes and accepting that you had a little bit to do with it • makes it even more real and fulfilling.

• Enjoying the experience where you’ve worked tirelessly toward a goal in • hopes it makes a difference in other women’s lives.

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Vintage Never Circa 2001. The young couple earnestly pulls up to the house.

Living in a 250-square-foot apartment, these last few months has been trying. At first glance, the two-story structure looks both foreboding and promising at the same time.

The couple was eager to begin their lives in a house with more than a little history.

They weren’t looking for something perfect, just something they could fill with thrifty finds, painted furniture, and eventually 2.2 kids.

It was our American dream.

There are so many things we loved about this particular home. We knew at first glance this was going to be a place to define our style, grow our family, and ultimately shape into our own eclectic space. Unlike the average couple on HGTV’s “House Hunters,” we could see beyond the dated wallpaper, the ancient appliances and yes, even the rust-colored shag carpet.

We could tell this house had good bones. Our hope was to restyle and update this home on a budget while also keeping the integrity of the charm and character that attracted us to this house from the start.

I fully believe that DIY is good for the soul. In those early years, before kids and blogs, we devoured DIY projects like it was our job. We both had demanding day jobs but we also found solace and peace working to make our house into a home.

I clipped pictures from magazines and filled binders with our ideas. I didn’t know it at the time but it was my own version of Pinterest.

It was then that we discovered that we had a hard time finding home decor pieces that embraced the eclectic aesthetic and also fit into our budget. We also unearthed a passion for making. We enjoyed searching for thrifty vintage pieces or architectural salvage - like rusty metal, chippy paint, and aged wood - and also repurposing them into unique home furnishings and accessories.

For some, a house is just a place to live. For us, it’s a well-curated gallery of finds that make us happy, tell a story, and cost far less than what we could find in a store. Here are a few rooms in our home that assert our vintage obsession and maker talents.

Farmhouse-Inspired Kitchen To create a unique farmhouse-inspired kitchen, we mixed equal parts rustic salvage, metal textures, pops of color, and hand-picked vintage accessories into a recipe that fit both our storage needs and diverse style.

When we told people our plans to cover a wall in our kitchen entirely with old chippy barnwood, we got some questionable looks. But the wood paneling we salvaged from a 1800s farmhouse porch blends effortlessly with galvanized metal, pendant barn lights and granite countertops. Using the chippy beadboard as a backsplash gives our kitchen a sense of farmhouse, while also feeling rooted in our community’s history.

For a more casual look, we combined traditional schoolhouse lights and barn light pendants instead of canned lights all over our beautiful tin ceiling.

One of my favorite details in the kitchen is this old corbel as a bracket for our kitchen island-peninsula countertop. This counter has long been a gathering spot for breakfast, conversations, cocktails, and homework. We tried to create a flexible and engaging place to gather that also had that vintage vibe we desire. This old found corbel was the perfect solution.

Gets Old

Cast iron shelf brackets turn two pieces of chippy scrap wood into a beautiful set of shelves. An old frame becomes a chic piece of hand-lettered art.

We purchased a lot of old school maps and I thought it would add a vibrant punch of color to the television wall. These are just simple ways that inexpensive finds can be converted into unique home decor.

Retro Eat-In Kitchen Space

We are lucky to have this little space next to the kitchen. It’s a cozy place for a table. I recovered this old Formica dinette with sparkly aqua vinyl.

Nothing says vintage charm like beadboard paneling. It’s not just pretty; it’s incredibly practical - especially in a high-traffic area. It looks more chic than shabby with a coat of bright white semigloss paint.

The design inspiration for this space is more 50s retro than farmhouse. I love the juxtaposition of the farmhouse light with the atomic-era dinette.

Vintage camping-theme accessories blend the two looks.

Hardworking Dining Room

Old paper travel maps are full of color and nostalgia. We simply tucked one behind an old window for a unique piece of art.

Where there’s whimsy, there’s fortitude. Your ability to be confident in your own style choices must prevail - like hanging paper fans on a wall. We used these decorations for a pop-up market but I couldn’t put them away after the market was over. Instead, I created a wall sculpture by stacking and staggering them. This created such a playful element over my desk. I absolutely adore it.

It’s not uncommon for rooms in old houses to serve more than one purpose. This house does not have any downstairs closets, or a home office. So we used our creativity to carve out a home office in the corner of our dining room.

Bold and Bright Living Room When you step inside this room, vintage treasures abound. I swoon for flea market finds like vintage metal fans, toy trucks, globes, and anything aqua. And it shows around here.

Bold color combinations seen at a traditional summer flea market are the inspiration for this room’s style. I’ve always felt like this room gave off a cottage lakefront sensation - not so much for the decor - but rather the long shape of the room paired with several wide windows across the front of the house. It doesn’t leave me a lot of wall space for decorating but provides necessary light.

One way we tried to make a bold impact in this room without painting the walls a bright color was with a colorful rug. Because we decorate with an eclectic mix of vintage goods, I was initially afraid that a bold-hued rug would be too much.

The rug not only anchors this room, it pulls out the colors of my accessories and seamlessly harmonizes the industrial vintage furnishings with old house charm.

Photography by Kristy Robb

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I used to have globes sprinkled all throughout the house. Obviously this is another one of my flea market obsessions. But, when you cluster similar items together (even if they are different shapes and sizes) it creates a bigger statement. Wellated, everyday collections are elevated simply by grouping them together.

Decorating with Vintage in Your Home

of our vintage finds have been in the family for decades (like some of my grandmother’s old cameras). Other finds are simply things we found to be beautiful or unusual. It’s the unexpected combination of both that tells your home story.

Mixing in vintage finds or architectural salvage makes the spaces you use everyday feel less ordinary. And we could all use a little of that in our daily life.

I think the saying goes, “Walk a mile in my shoes… and you’ll end up at the flea market.” But seriously, it’s not about where you shop but how you use what you find. For us it’s flea markets. For you it could be eBay, yard sales, or thrift shops.

Obviously minimalism doesn’t work for us. But there is an art to layering your finds so that they feel like they’ve been collected over time rather than something you hoard. There is a very fine line that separates the two - and we’ve probably crossed it a few times. The key is to group like items or similar textures together.

Try to arrange in groups of odd numbers like three or five. And, create varying heights in your display.

Whatever your personal style, add objects that you love or find interesting. Some

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- Kristy Robb

I love reading, scrolling through Instagram and checking out new ways to get inspired. I’m really loving podcasts lately and have added three that I listen to while I’m in the car running errands, doing housework, or having some alone time All are free, so take a listen and let me know what you think. I also included three books and blogs I enjoy reading and are filled with great information. So, the next time you have a minute, check out these awesome women doing what they love.

- Yvette Morgan

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Let’s Party! Backyard and Patio Being outside on your porch is one of my favorite things to do in the evening, no matter if it’s Spring, Summer or Fall.

Our family has spent many nights relaxing by the fire, cooking out on the grill or just taking it easy with our friends and family.

Here are some of my favorite pieces to include to help you create a space that is inviting, easy on the pocket and feels comfortable for you and your guest.

- Yvette Morgan

Lighting is key when you set the stage for some backyard fun. You can find varying styles at many different locations and price points. Find these Edison lights at Lowes Department Store.

Check out Pinterest to repurpose something you may already have at home.

With a little elbow grease you can turn something old into something new again.

Succulents are on trend and a great add on to your outdoor table when entertaining.

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Target carries a variety of outdoor rugs in various textures and styles.

Pillows and blankets are a must in the fall season.

You can find many styles and patterns at local shops or online. It’s a great way to bring the indoors outside and make a cozy spot to relax with family and friends.

This little red stool is a must have for your porch. It can be used as a plant stand, end table, or for extra seating while entertaining.

You can find these at Big Lots, Lowes, Target and Amazon.

Swings are a BIG trend and how could you not resist?!

They come in many different styles and colors and can be found at Pier One, Lowes, Target, Amazon, and Houzz.

Another must for your patio or yard is a fire pit. This one has a copper tub and an iron base, which is portable if you need it to move. You can find a wide variety of fire pits online and at many local businesses that carry outdoor furniture. This particular one you can find at houzz.com.

Bring some ambience to your patio by setting the stage with an assortment of lanterns. These also look great at your front entrance or poolside. Find lanterns like these at Pier 1 Imports.

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Simple Sophistication Have you ever wanted to have friends or family over for a get-together and felt overwhelmed, not sure where to begin?

I’m sure most of us have felt like that at some time or another.

Like most families, weekends are for gathering and fun, and we crave those simple decorating tips that won’t break the bank.

Gretchen Kraut from Sycamore Farms has several different ways to set up an outdoor table using simple decorating ideas that you may already have in your home, and tips for which type of flowers to use during a dinner party. I’m sure you’ll enjoy reading how she does it while learning from one of the best in the business.

- Yvette Morgan

Tell me your first memory of your love for flowers?

My grandmother was really the green thumb of our family and she lived across the driveway from us on our farm. She had phenomenal black hollyhocks that grew along the side and back of her home, and in the summer, they came up to her shoulders.

What is your favorite flower?

Boy, that’s a really tough one! It would probably have to be a serious tie between peony’s, gladiolas, and tulips!

When entertaining, what are three “Must Haves” when throwing a party?

You need creative centerpieces, fun music (not too loud), and delicious food!

What’s your favorite wine or summer adult beverage?

I am an all-year-round moscato fan! But, in the summer, I really like fruit-based sangrias. They are super fun to display in a glass pitcher with large chunks of fruit and mint.

When decorating your patio space for an outdoor event, what type of floral centerpiece is best to use when dinner is involved?

When putting together centerpieces on a table, especially a large one, it is very easy to build a tall centerpiece because of the scale of the table. However, when guests are seated at a table with a tall centerpiece, it often gets moved to the side or on the floor so guests can chat across the table. Instead, try building lower and more scattered centerpieces with clusters of vases and candles that will still give a big impact on the table, but they won’t make socializing difficult.

What’s the easiest flower to take care of for an outdoor patio setting?

I love Boston ferns on patios and decks! They add a soft texture to the hardscape of decks and patios, and they are really easy to care for.

If you’re on a budget, what type of flowers are most cost effective, but also add style and color to your table setting?

Tulips are very reasonably priced and come in a rainbow of colors! They have long stems that can be used in tall arrangements, or you can cut them short for smaller bud vases.

Where do you get your inspiration when planning for an event?

I would say the time of year and season are the biggest inspirations for planning a party. Flowers don’t have to be used just in the spring and summer. There are so many year-round options for florals and fillers.

How much does color and theme help when picking out your flowers?

A lot! I think it is important to consider your surroundings when choosing flowers for entertaining. For example, if you are hosting an outdoor party with colorful patio furniture and textiles, take those colors into consideration when choosing your flower colors to coordinate.

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Grateful and Thankful HAUTE SYCAMORES

I am about to enter my final year of living young, wild and free. It never occurred how the saying “time flies” would become so real. I never would expect to come face-to-face to my final year of college. I vividly remember moving into my freshman dorm yesterday.

Not many people have this perspective and I wish so many more do. I believe in taking as many chances and adjusting to change. We forget that change is good because we are so used to the norm. There is no such thing as life staying the same.

Take a look around you. There is always that one thing different above all the rest in your environment. It may be one small thing, but the small things in life is the best part of life.

During my freshman year, I let my freedom own me. I did everything and anything that everyone else was doing because I wanted to. Peer pressure… is not a thing.

We all make choices and we can regret them, but we can’t change them. In the end, we learn from them. How many times have we’ve been told that “we learn from our mistakes?” Take that into account. College is a huge milestone that we take because of the amount freedom we are given.

As a freshman, I joined a sorority. I became a member of Alpha Chi Omega, which stands for Domestic Violence Awareness. Sorority life changed me and I never thought it would. I always looked at it as another organization or just a way to get involved on campus. But it turned out to become a lot more than that. It was a sisterhood. It brought me to meet more people that I would never thought of considering my best friends. I learned that I have the potential to become a leader.

I was always a follower and I’m a laid back person so I’m always down to do anything. I stepped out of my comfort zone and took up small positions in my sorority.

I was Newsletter Chair, Alumni Chair and the Assistant Philanthropy Chair. I got to work with sisters that I never usually talked to or hung out with and gave me the utmost respect for them.

My junior year was around the corner and I stepped up my game. I became the Vice President for Public Relations of Panhellenic Association and also became the Director of Alumni Relations for State DM for Riley’s Children Hospital. Being a part of a sorority brought me to these opportunities and to help me strive to be my best every day.

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A small chance like this, brought the best of me. The perspective I gained was to “don’t knock till you try it.” You’ll never know what kind of people you’ll meet, what ways to build your resume, where you’ll travel to and the memories you’ll make. But most of all, you’ll never know the lessons you’ll make from the mistakes you took. Everyone makes mistakes because it’s the way of life. Life isn’t perfect, and everyone should learn to remember that.

- Marissa Martinez

Greek Life is an Honor, Not a Privilege HAUTE SYCAMORES

Sorority life on the Indiana States University (ISU) campus is not like what you see in movies. The Panhellenic community at ISU is as diverse as Indiana itself.

The nine different sororities each have their own vibe, but we are one large community. Alpha Chi Omega, Alpha Omicron Pi, Alpha Sigma Alpha, Delta Gamma, Gamma Phi Beta, Chi Omega, Zeta Tau Alpha, Alpha Phi, and Sigma Kappa are different in their own ways, but each have amazing values, and selflessly give their time to not only their own philanthropy events, but support others.

Alpha Chi Omega was founded at DePauw University in Greencastle, Indiana.

Being only 45 minutes away from your Alpha Chapter is a great experience. When I was initiated I was at the Alpha Chapter, it was like the founders were there with us. Alpha Chi’s are also known as Real Strong Women, and I can say from first hand experiences every single Alpha Chi is a Real Strong Woman. Our open motto being: “Together let us seek the heights,” and every sister pushes each other to be the best person they can be. During my senior year, we had a sister lose her father.

None of us could imagine what she was going through. But to support her and her family, we organized a 5K to raise money for her. We also had lots of support from other sororities and fraternities.

The other eight ISU sororities are just as wonderful as Alpha Chi. While society has put a stigma on Greek life, we strive to break it. Each sorority is so proud to raise money for a great cause that they believe in, they put their whole hearts into their philanthropy events. Each chapter president has worked their butts off submitting their Greek awards, listening to each concern that a sister might have, and somehow still have time to study and maintain the highest GPAs on campus.

Greek life is not all about themed parties (even though we all look forward to them) and wearing dresses. We kick butt at keeping our GPAs up, getting those library hours in, and logging as many community service hours as we can.

Through Greek Life I have made lifelong friendships, with my sisters, and sisters in other sororities. This was not just for the four years while I was in college but for a lifetime. I do not think I would have made it through college without the support of my sisterhood and my Panhellenic sisters. I didn’t just find my future bridesmaids; I found my people.

- Olivia Curtis

I can speak from experience when I say Greek Life was one of the best decisions I could have made while attending Indiana State. I had the chance to become a part of the wonderful sisterhood that is Alpha Chi Omega. I never thought I would be a sorority girl. I don’t fit the mold of what you would think of when you think of a sorority woman. I have tattoos, change my hair every few months, and I’m not stick skinny. I don’t drive a brand new car, and I worked while in college. I was able to find a sisterhood that was just like me, but a little different with welcoming hearts.

I was asked why I chose Alpha Chi, and most of the time when I answered, I was with other sisters. I would look around and say because were all a little different, and the values we were founded on are ones I lived by before becoming an Alpha Chi. Alpha Chi’s values are: academic, character, financial responsibility, leadership, and personal development. Each one of those values touched on something I was working on myself, or wanted to better.

I knew Alpha Chi was the place I could do that.

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Fall Fashion Fall is one of the most well liked seasons. It’s not blazing hot anymore, and you don’t need to lug around a heavy coat yet.

The leaves turn, the coffee gets spicier, and your clothing gets darker. Fall is simply put, majestic.

I overheard my boyfriend say that it’s the “fashion season” at the mall the other day. Of course, I was surprised he would ever say such a phrase and asked why he thought that. His response, “That’s when you see people dressing the best.

All my guy friends have the coolest stuff on in the fall.” This had me thinking about my favorite fall clothes.

There are a few basics every girl knows she needs for fall: a scarf, cute jacket, just to name a few.

Here are some must have fashions for fall 2017.

- Mary Ann Millard with Samantha Ripperger

Things You’ll Need This Fall Tailored Jeans Nothing looks better than a pair of jeans that fit just right. Most women need their pant legs shortened and do not even realize it. A simple pair of tailored jeans can take a basic outfit and make it a classic. Most tailors charge a small fee for hemming pants, and it’s totally worth it. I got my jeans tailored for the first time a year ago and never looked back.

Ankle Boots If you haven’t invested in a good pair of ankle boots yet, now is the time. Classic black Chelsea ankle boots are popular right now, and the best part is that they are a staple piece. This is something classic and basic you can keep in your wardrobe all the time, so it is a good idea to invest in a nice genuine leather pair. I suggest wearing a leather jacket with them for an edgy, fun look.

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Hats The best accessory to compliment your favorite fall outfit is a stylish hat! Two great hat options for fall are wool fedoras and knit beanies. Wool fedoras pair well with a more dressed-up outfit.

Wear it with a fall colored dress, tights and a cardigan. Knit beanies are a great option for a more casual outfit. Add it to your flannel and jeans look to stay cozy.

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Flannel A comfy oversized flannel screams fall, comfort and chic. Pair it with your tailored jeans and ankle boats, and you’ll be set. Don’t have a flannel? Steal one from your dad, find one at Goodwill, or even buy one new in the men’s department. Just know that a flannel is a jack-of-all-trades, you can dress it up or down believe it or not. Throw some waves in your hair, a little bit of lipstick, and rock that flannel.

The Perfect Sweater My biggest pride and joy is the 100% wool gray sweater I invested in last fall. It was my first “responsible” buy. Meaning I spent more than I would normally, and knew it was something I could keep throughout the years. Having an amazing goto sweater makes the fall that much more enjoyable. I like to put collared shirts under my sweater, or just style it with fun accessories. A simple sweater can be made into many different looks, which is why this versatile piece is a must for fall.

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Little Love of LOK Tell us about yourself and your creative business.

What is your earliest memory as a creator?

I was born in Hong Kong. I studied in New Zealand for four years, and lived in Barcelona, Spain for two years when I was 16-years-old. I moved to Indianapolis six years ago to marry my hubby. I met him online while I was traveling for work in Switzerland in April 2011. Then we met in Las Vegas in June 2011 when I was there for a jewelry exhibition.

As soon as I learned how to sew and make the first outfit for my son, I tried to put it on him and he cried so much.

I started my little handmade sewing business in 2014. When I first started, I wanted to make some fun and funky outfits for my little man so I taught myself sewing by watching/reading tutorials online of any source I could get my hands on. I NEVER thought I would be a “sewer” ever because I had never touched a sewing machine before three years ago.

A lot of customers ask me what my business name means. LOK is actually my name in Cantonese. It means happy. And it’s also the name of my son, Sawyer, and my daughter, Lucia. I have the Chinese symbol 樂 in my logo.

Any advice or tips for someone who loves to create?

Creating is something that does not have a definition of right or wrong, or good or bad. It is art and what you make represents you. So if you LOVE to create and it makes you happy, keep doing it because anyone who appreciates your work can feel the happiness in it.

Describe your studio space.

It’s my happy place! It’s messy and I work inside a cave of fabric.

What are three things you can’t live without in your studio?

My cutting table, my Singer sewing machine, and serger sewing machine.

When I first started my business, my thought was to spread happiness to all kids.

That’s why I donated to Riley Children’s Hospital. To me, all kids deserve to be happy, healthy and should have color in their lives.

What is your most functional piece you make?

Who is your customer?

Where does your style come from?

My customer is anyone! I love to make, so anything I think I can do, I will make.

My main customer is probably a woman. But to me, anyone that appreciates my work is my customer.

I like unique and weird (that’s what my hubby says) things. I guess I’m going for a one-of-a-kind look.

A car seat cover that can also be used as high chair or nursing cover, or a baby wrap.

Where do you see yourself in five years?

We are actually looking for a new spot for our shop where we can bring in a coffee shop area, playroom for kids (so mom can have coffee and shop), workshop area for kids, and an area that’s for women with low income that provide showers, a relaxation area, and a pantry eating area with snacks and beverages. I want parents to be able to come in feed their kids and feel safe and not judged.

Any tips for women entrepreneurs wanting to start a handmade business?

I’m not a pro, but all I know is if you work hard, you will get there. Just keep your head up and DONT GIVE UP!

- Yvette Morgan Photo by Lacey Clagg Photography

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ShopGirl: Sieze the Night Designs Helping women thrive and doing what they love is one of my favorite things to highlight when it comes to this section in the magazine.

It’s important to uplift, share and see what other women business owners are doing to “make it happen.” I have the pleasure of carrying so many handmade items in my business, and I get to meet some amazing women who make beautiful things and make a living doing it.

I want to introduce you to my friend, Sarah Fentz. She owns and operates her own boutique, Seize the Night Designs, and specializes in vintage assemblage and hand-stamped jewelry. I hope you are inspired by Sarah’s story and start thinking about where your passion lies.

- Yvette Morgan

Tell us about yourself, where you’re located and how long you’ve been in business?

My name is Sarah Fentz. I’m a newlywed and mother to a cute fur baby named Magnolia Beanblossom. My shop is on the south side of the historic courthouse square in Danville, Indiana. I’ve had my brick-and-mortar shop for almost threeyears, but have had my jewelry business itself for about nine years.

How long have you been making jewelry?

I’ve been making jewelry since early college. A friend told me about this new website for handmade items and supplies called Etsy, and it opened a whole new world for me. Etsy was in its infancy and had tons of supplies that you couldn’t get locally, and yet, not a ton of jewelry sellers so it felt like you could stand out against the crowd fairly easily.

Where can customers find your work?

You can find my work online at my Etsyshop: www.seizethenight.etsy.com, or in my boutique in Danville (51 W Marion Street). I currently have about 25 boutiques/shops that carry my work around the country. Some of the most notable local businesses are EnRoute Spa at the Indianapolis Airport, The Indiana Store at the Indiana State Museum, and The Indiana Historical Society Gift Shop.

How did you get started?

When I first heard about Etsy I started playing with the idea of making jewelry as a hobby. My boyfriend at the time (now my husband) really pushed me to go for it and gave me the confidence to try and sell my designs. I started with simple charm designs and evolved into repurposing vintage items. One day I came across a metal marking set. It was simple block letters and numbers and I thought, “Hey, I could do that!” And I started practicing hand stamping. Now it’s the main focus of my business with custom orders being my biggest seller.

What is your favorite thing about being a designer and shop owner?

I love the freedom that comes with being a maker. Getting to make something every day is incredibly therapeutic. Taking custom orders can be challenging but it’s fun to see what ideas my customers come up with. My absolute favorite feeling about being the owner of this business is the look on a customer’s face when you know you nailed their vision for a custom order. You can tell when a piece is going to mean something to someone and will be passed down as an heirloom.

Who inspires you creatively?

My husband. He is constantly coming up with new ideas and ways to market myself. Anytime I start to doubt myself or a direction I’m leaning my business in he’s always there with inspiring words to keep me going. I affectionately refer to him as my “idea man.”

What sparked your interest in opening a brick-and-mortar store?

I dreamed of opening a brick-and-mortar shop for years. I sat in my home studio all day (and most nights) thinking of ways to get my name out more. I wanted a sort of studio/retail space where I could work and also have my items on display for people to shop at the same time. When a spot opened up on the Danville Square, my husband was there to give me a couple pep talks and build up the nerve to call the number in the window. The rest is history.

Where do you think you’ll be in five years?

Oh gosh! I see myself still running my business on the Square in Danville. Maybe expanding? Maybe learning how to balance entrepreneurship and motherhood?

Who knows!

What tips or advice can you offer readers?

Do your best and put your all into whatever you’re doing. Don’t let yourself get discouraged by people who say you can’t. I had this quote hanging in my home studio for years as a reminder: “Work joyfully and peacefully, knowing that the right thoughts and right efforts will inevitably bring about right results.” – James Allen

What does success look like to you?

Success to me is so much more than financial. Yes, success means stability and paying the bills, but it’s also being content. I look back at where I started with this business to where I am now and it still amazes me. I’ve achieved what I set out to do with this business and so much more. I’m incredibly proud of where I’m at, and at the end of the day that brings contentment.

Sarah’s Favorite Things

Favorite drink: Morning: Coffee Evening: Bourbon Silver or Gold? I say both. Some of my favorite pieces of jewelry are mixed metal.

Band: Dave Matthews Band Denim or Shorts? Denim, always Ice Cream Flavor: Chocolate

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Photos by Ellen Joy Photography

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Against the grain Revive That Risk Taking Adventurous Girl!

I’m sure you have read the saying, “Dance like no one’s watching, Love like you’ve never been hurt, Sing like no one’s listening, Love like Heaven is on earth.”

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve told myself this is how I’m going to live every day, but then the day starts I get distracted or don’t have the energy. I often reminisce about the days I was adventurous and spontaneous. I can remember having half the grass mowed and a friend would say let’s go out and with no hesitation I would leave the yard half done with no regrets or worries.

The responsibilities of life lessen our drive to be adventurous and risk taking. Researchers from the Max Planc Institute for Human Development have found ways for risk-taking to be revived. The study shows that by seeking out new hobbies and interests in your daily life can recharge your openness to adventure and creativity.

The study suggests openness to allowing new experiences fosters a personality trait that brings a higher achievement in the arts and sciences.

Attempt a new hobby, read a book on a topic you wouldn’t usually choose, introduce yourself to new people. I am proof that these theories work! Two months ago, I went zip lining an adventure that I used to fear. Since overcoming my fear of zip lining, I now feel motivated to take on new challenges. Heck I’m ready to leave a task incomplete for the invitation to go out with friends.

Let us step into the night and pursue that flighty temptress, adventure.

- J.K. Rowlings

I challenge you to face a fear, start a hobby, or simply take time to enjoy the breeze it only takes one step forward to revive that adventurous, risk taking girl! Life was meant for good friends and great adventures.

- Candice Snyder

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Haute Women in History Bertha Pratt King In 1906, Bertha Pratt King founded the King Classical School at Sixth and Park Streets in Terre Haute. As an advocate of education for both boys and girls, she had a special affinity for helping girls – through education – break free of the confines that society created for them. King took her cause on the road as a lecturer on the Chautauqua circuit, with lecture titles such as “What the 20th Century Offers Women,” “Wage-Earning Women” and “Woman Suffrage.” She felt so strongly about one of her lectures that, in 1916, she published a book by the same title, “The Worth of a Girl.”

The book outlines King’s beliefs that “every girl should be able to earn her own living, that she should be trained to some pursuit of her own happiness, and that she should become a useful member of society.” It’s hard to imagine today what a girl’s life was like in the early 1900s, and many take for granted the freedoms that women have today that did not exist 100 years ago.

Thanks to King’s excellent writing skills, the reality of these girls comes to life: “How many different kinds of girls there are! Girls in stores and factories, working girls with their brave fight for existence, girls in high school, girls in boarding school, girls in college. Girls lifeless, girls ambitious for life; girls strong in the pride of youth, stirred with strange dreams; girls in the cities; girls in the town; girls on the farms, looking beyond their fathers’ fields and meadows towards the alluring gaiety of big cities. In the keeping of all these girls of today are the generations of the future.”

Keep in mind, King’s lectures and writing were very controversial at that time. She was critical of the way society treated boys and girls differently and believed that, from the start, there was a “humiliating distinction between the worth of a girl and the worth of a boy.” She wrote, “as soon as children leave babyhood we give dolls to the girls, but to the boys we give every manner of mechanical contrivance. We give the boys in miniature nearly all the things that men concern themselves with in life. We tell the little girl that she is to dress and undress her doll, put it to sleep, but never to pull it to pieces. We tell the boy that the machine is his to do with as he pleases. If he pulls it to pieces to see how it works, the fond parents see a career in the applied sciences.” It is interesting how this argument continues today, over 100 years later.

This book is a fascinating portrait of girls and women in the early 20th century and an interesting look at how one Terre Haute woman played a part in changing the future for so many of them. It’s a tiny book with only 32 pages, stuffing some huge ideas into a tiny package.

King went on to marry her long-time companion, Max Ehrmann, shortly before his death in 1945. As Bertha Pratt King Ehrmann, she was the force behind the publication of his poetry and prose. She died in 1962 and is buried with her husband at Highland Lawn Cemetery. Of their relationship she wrote, “He had his work; I had mine … We had each other.”

- Susan Tingley

Photos Courtesy of the Terre Haute Historical Society and Museum

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The Ladies of the First Floor Many people are familiar with Clabber Girl Baking Powder, many have fond memories using it while being in the kitchen with family members baking and some remember that “one time they needed it for that one recipe”. While the baking powder is well known throughout the country and the corporation calls Terre Haute home, many are not as familiar with all of the things we do here at our headquarters. From museum tours to chocolate demos, from a full breakfast and lunch menu in our café to a perfect venue for a rehearsal dinner, Clabber Girl’s first floor has a little something for everyone. And it’s all overseen by women… 4 women to be exact. Most wouldn’t think twice about that, but in the food industry it’s still the exception to see women in management roles and as executive chefs. I am one of those women, and I’m proud of all the work we do day in and day out. To celebrate that, I want to share a little bit about myself and the amazing team that I work with.

My name is Brittany Molinder and I am the Culinary and Events Manager at Clabber Girl.

I started at Clabber Girl, when my (now) boss took a chance and hired a girl terrified of public speaking to teach cooking classes. Four years later, here I am booking and hosting all of our events. From tour groups to business meeting to bridal showers to private classes, we offer a variety of ways to showcase our historic building and make it perfect for any group wishing to visit us. When I’m not booking our events, you can often find me in our museum giving a tour or teaching some of our cooking classes.

I work closely with our Executive Chef on our catering events and our Chef’s Night events. I have a great passion for food photography, so if you spot me in our classroom kitchen taking pictures of our chef’s latest creations, stop in and ask what we’re up to that week!

Morgan Ross is our Bake Shop Café Manager, and the youngest and newest member to our team.

She’s been a member of our Bake Shop for over 5 years now, and is likely the familiar face you’ve seen behind the counter over the years. She manages all staff at the Bake Shop and is charged with delivering quality service to our customers daily.

Lately she’s been creating some pretty delicious new specialty cookies and desserts for our bake case, as well as some tasty new fall drinks.

Amanda (Mandy) Shook is our Executive Chef and someone I have come to call friend.

She is charged with creating daily specials for the Bake Shop Café, as well as menu development and testing for both the café and catering menus. She works closely with our marketing departments on various cookbook and blog projects. She is the talent behind our monthly Chef’s Night events, creating unique menus each month for everyone to enjoy. With 20 years of experience, she has a passion and knowledge for food that I am fortunate enough to learn from, and has opened my eyes and our customers to a world of different cuisines during some of her famed cooking classes.

April Osburn is the Food Operations Manager and the glue that holds the first floor together. She’s been with Clabber Girl 13 years - starting out as a member of the Bake Shop when it first opened to now overseeing all of the first-floor operations.

She is the creator of some of the most delicious desserts I have ever tasted, and the mastermind behind building our team to take our Bake Shop Café and Catering to the next level. Often times you’ll see her friendly face in the Bake Shop Café, hosting our monthly Chef’s Night events, filling in as one of the chef instructors for our cooking classes and demonstrations, or helping the catering team prepare for an event. She finds the individual strength in her team and supports and encourages them to strive for the best of themselves.

- Brittany Molinder

Fall Lunches on the Fly! With school back in full swing and the warm summer days starting to fade away, everything seems so GO GO GO! Having a made from scratch, healthy lunch can be hard to do with everything else going on, which is why I’ve recently turned to make ahead lunches!

Perfect for making and assembling in advance, you can customize them any way that you want while taking that hassle out of your day.

With fall right around the corner, what better way to ease into the season than with two easy to make lunches on the go.

- Brittany Molinder

Asian Noodle Salad with Peanut-Sesame Dressing

Fall Salad with Apple Cider Dressing

Makes 2 quart-sized Mason Jars

Makes 2 quart-sized Mason Jars

Ingredients:

Ingredients:

Peanut-Sesame Dressing:

Apple Cider Dressing:

3 ½ tbsp. creamy peanut butter

1 tbsp. apple cider

1 ½ tbsp. sambal oelek

4 tbsp. apple cider vinegar

1 ½ tbsp. rice wine vinegar

1 ½ tsp. Dijon mustard

1 tbsp. soy sauce

1 tsp. honey

1 tsp. sesame oil

1 tsp. salt

For the Salad:

½ tsp. black pepper

¼ cup extra virgin olive oil

1 ½ tsp. garlic powder

1 ½ tbsp. black sesame seeds

For the Salad:

3.1 oz. package soda noodle; cooked as instructed, drained and cooled

2 large sweet potatoes (2 cups); cubed, roasted and cooled

1 bell pepper, thinly sliced

2 cups kale; washed, ribs removed and roughly chopped

1 ½ cups shredded carrots

1 cup mixed greens

1 cup shelled edamame

1 apple; thinly sliced

4 green onions, thinly sliced

½ cup dried cranberries

½ cup cilantro leaves

¼ cup pumpkin seeds ¼ cup feta cheese

Directions: Directions: 1. Place all of the ingredients for the dressing in a medium sized bowl and whisk to combine. Divide evenly into two mason jars.

2. Begin layering your salad ingredients, starting with the soba noodle and moving down the ingredient list on top of the dressing into the two mason jars. Seal with mason jar lid and store in refrigerator up to 5 days.

When ready to eat, shake ingredients in the mason jar to combine and transfer to a bowl.

1. Place all of the ingredients for the dressing in a pint size mason jar and seal tightly.

Shake mason jar thoroughly until ingredients are fully combined. Divide the dressing evenly between 2 mason jars.

2. Begin layering your salad ingredients in the 2 mason jars on top of the dressing in the following order: roasted sweet potato, apple, kale, mixed greens, cranberries, pumpkin seeds and then feta cheese.

Push down ingredients as you go to ensure they all fit into the jar. Seal with mason jar lid and store in refrigerator up to 5 days. When ready to eat, shake ingredients together in the mason jar and transfer to a bowl.

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Sweet as Honey Jodi Lohrman has dreamed of owning a restaurant since high school, but not just any normal restaurant. By locating the establishment inside her house, diners would feel like guests.

This dream became a reality in 2016 when Lohrman’s husband, Andy, built a woodshop and supply store on their property at 6367 N. Murphy Rd. in Brazil, Indiana for his beekeeping operation, Honeysuckle Hill Bee. The bee supply company specializes in building beekeeping equipment and providing valuable information to help beekeepers maintain healthy productive hives. The business’ success brought the opportunity for Jodi to realize her passion of finally having a restaurant.

“We both realized we could marry both of our passions and dreams—his being honey bees and the beekeeping supply store, and mine being cooking and owning a restaurant—into one building,” Jodi shared. “We both enjoy practicing hospitality and making guests feel at home. Several guests tell us they don’t feel like they are at a restaurant, but they are at grandma’s house.”

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The restaurant, appropriately named Honeysuckle Hill Bee-stro, utilizes meals whose recipes have been passed down from Jodi’s aunt, mother and grandmother.

Those meals are named after the person who developed the recipe: Dollie’s Potato Salad is named after Dollie Corder Phelps, who gave Jodi’s mother the delicious mixture of potatoes, onion, sweet pickle slices, eggs and mayonnaise.

“Generational recipes are a big foundation of what we serve here,” said Jodi, who designs each dish. “My aunt used to call this type of food ‘Good Old Hoosier Grubb.’ Using the old recipes from past generations is a way to honor those who have impacted our lives.”

While Andy operates the beekeeping supply business, Jodi creatively adds new recipes to the Honeysuckle Hill Bee-stro’s menus for lunch (available from 11 a.m. to 2 p.m.) and dinner (5 p.m. to 9 p.m.) each Friday and Saturday. Three entrees are featured each week, allowing customers to have a new dining experience each visit to grandma’s house. (Contact the restaurant at 812-443-3003 or visit www.honeysucklehillbee.com/bee-stro to see each week’s lunch or dinner menus.)

Current Hours: Thursday lunch 11:00-2:00 Friday lunch 11:00-2:00 Friday dinner 5:00-8:00 Saturday Bee-stro Breakfast Buffet 7:00-10:00 Saturday dinner 5:00-8:00 Our lunch meals run between $7.50- $10 Dinner meals run around $15 Bee-stro Breakfast Buffet is $9.99. There are over a dozen items on the buffet including biscuits and gravy, fried mush, and carrot cake pancakes with cream cheese sauce.

We do private openings for groups of 15 or more.

The Bee-stro will be closed January and February, but will reopen in March.

One-third of the menu items utilize honey as an ingredient.

A special element to the dining experience is the observation beehive located in the Bee-stro, giving customers the unique opportunity to watch bees at work producing the honey that will be featured in future meals. The restaurant’s Company’s Coming honey oat bread comes with honey cinnamon butter. Such homemade salad dressings as poppy seed, honey mustard and a special house dressing incorporate honey into the recipe. Guests are surprised to learn that there’s a touch of honey in the restaurant’s popular pie crust.

Other popular menu items include Mee and Ewe broccoli cheese soup, mandarin chicken salad with honey, pan fried chicken, John’s marinated turkey breasts, meatloaf, Marjorie’s ham, and Joyce’s mashed potatoes. continued on page 42

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Jodi credits her husband’s commitment to making both sides of the business successful. While Andy built the structure for the beekeeping maintenance and operates the supply store, he also can be found helping in the kitchen whenever assistance is needed.

“His love and knowledge of honey bees is the backbone of the business,” Jodi said.

The couple’s two daughters, Judah and Sophie, also work in the Bee-stro, making it a true family endeavor.

After enjoying each special dining experience, diners can walk the nearby grounds of the restaurant’s “hill” to smell the honeysuckle from the aromatic bushes grown naturally on the property.

The Bee Supply Store is open Thurday, Friday and Saturday from 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. The restaurant sells honey, natural soaps and lotions, t-shirts, pillows and additional items.

- Kasy Long

Photo by Cassandra Parkins at Inspired Studios

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Brave Mom's Clu b When we were thinking of who to feature as our Brave Mom for this issue, we wanted to feature someone who has used their faith, spirituality, and strength to get through some of the toughest trials of life. Yvette and I immediately thought of my friend, Deana Conner.

Deana is the single mother of two beautiful girls, Ellie and Sophia, is a Speech Pathologist with Vigo County Schools, and recently lost her mother, Sandy Mershon, who was truly a shining light in our community. I sat down with Deana in what proved to be one of the most tearful, yet humorous conversations I’ve had thus far with Haute Life. Deana uses her faith and humor (whether she knows it or not!) to get her through some of life’s toughest situations.

- Lori Mitchell

You are a great role model for single mothers. When you became a single mom of your 2 girls, what was the first thing you decided to do, mentally?

Ending a marriage is hard, and deciding that it is over is not an easy choice. What makes it even more difficult is when children are involved. My ex-husband experienced issues that he couldn’t deal with while we were married. Realizing that I couldn’t solve all of the problems was hard to accept. I chose to leave my marriage because I thought that was best for my girls. Daddy needed to take care of himself without us. When I became a single mother, I was terrified! How can I do this on my own? What if I screw everything up? My parents were there to help me as they had been all my life. The girls and I moved in to their house and stayed until we found our own place, which was a wonderful place for my girls. My parents were the rock when I wasn’t able to be. I was blessed with my parents, as well as amazing family and friends, and was surrounded by so much love and support that gave me the strength to keep going. When we moved into our own home I wanted to make sure it was a place full of trust, faith, and love. Mentally, I needed to work on me. With the help of my support system I was able to do just that.

began after I finally confronted my ex-husband about everything that he had done in the past that made me angry. After I was done letting it all out, he said “I’m sorry” … it was the first time he had said it to me since the divorce. I think we minimize the importance of those two little words. It seemed that he genuinely was sorry. After that day, our relationship started to improve. He began dating a woman that my girls loved, and they got married. His new wife makes him very happy and has made a very positive impact on his relationship with our daughters.

For that, I am thankful. They have blessed my girls with a little sister and asked me to be the godmother, which was a blessing! Forgiveness has been a long road that I couldn’t have traveled down without my amazing support system and my faith. One of my favorite people, Oprah, once said, “Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could’ve been any different”. Did everything turn out the way I planned? NO! Would I go back and change things? No, because after everything that we went through, the girls and I are strong. We have all learned so much about ourselves and have become better people. So, I would tell women going through a similar situation is that you can do it! There is a light at the end. The process will be hard, but the reward with be worth it.

I know your girls are super active. How do you balance work, home, and activities with your girls?

It’s not easy. We are usually at an activity four nights a week. My dad and my exhusband help pick up from school and take them to practices, games, etc. They are currently involved in soccer, tumbling, cheer, and student council. We have to stay organized. On Sundays, we look at the calendar and figure out the plans for the week: who is picking up who, where are they taking them, and when does it begin and end. Before or after the activities we do homework. Bedtime is the same every school night. We have a routine because in our house structure is so important.

Even though we are busy we still try to find time to help others. Some our favorite ways to give is by helping at the St. Patrick Soup Kitchen, serving dinner at the Ruthmarie Bauer Newport Thanksgiving Day Dinner, and ringing the bell for the Salvation Army just to name a few. My parents have always been kind and giving, and I want to raise my children to do the same. Mother Teresa reminds us, “It’s not how much we give, but how much love we put into giving.”

You have managed to remain friends with your ex-husband. What advice would you give other women going through a similar experience?

When marriage ends it is easy to blame one person for everything bad that happened; the difficult part is accepting your role in the situation. Nobody is perfect, and especially not me. A very wise man once told me that “expectations are just premeditated resentments”. Because my ex-husband didn’t meet my expectations for how I wanted him to be as my husband, I resented him. As the resentment grew, I became more and more angry. I was the angry wife because he wasn’t the husband, partner, or friend I wanted him to be. At the time, he was doing the best he could, but it wasn’t what I needed and wasn’t good enough. Even after the divorce there were many years of anger and resentment. As I raised my daughters alone, I prayed that I would have the strength to forgive him one day. That forgiveness didn’t come easily. I went to counseling on a regular basis. I became more involved in my church and even attended retreats. I sought out other women who had lived through similar situations and found peace. The process of forgiveness

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Photo by Kara Howard

You lost your mom Sandy a year ago. I think we all felt like we were fighting right along with her, and her strength was inspiring. What kinds of things did you do as a family to strengthen your bond before she passed?

My mom passed away a little over a year ago after a two year battle with ovarian cancer. She was always the strongest woman I knew, but truly amazed me throughout her fight. The support that my mom and family received was extraordinary. God sent so many angels into our lives to help us.

a bunch of decorations, and everyone that visited that day got a lei. We played Hawaiian music, the girls danced, and mom just loved it. The next day, we had the “Grammys”, and my brother got all new decorations (even a red carpet). We all dressed up with fancy jewels and gowns and gave speeches about Mom when we were presented a Grammy.

People were coming in and out and it was unbelievable – the more people that came, the stronger we were. My mom wanted people around, and the more love she felt the more peaceful she seemed. When we’d get visitors, we gave them paper and markers, and said just write anything, inspirational, pictures, bible verses, memories... The whole wall in the living room, where she rested, was covered in those loving messages, and it was just awesome. She was surrounded by the wall of faith and love which comforted both her and all of us. Over the two weeks that Mom was home with hospice care our house was full of love and light.

When I think about everyone that came to the visitation, you can only hope that at the end of your life you have that many people that love you. It was awesome to see how many people loved my mom and hear their kind words.

But everyone was so supportive and did that because of who your mom was…

My mom was the most giving and selfless person that I have ever known. For our family, her patients she worked with as an oncology nurse, and friends she cherished…she was a light. She brought love and hope to all that crossed her path. Losing her was a loss felt not only by our family, but many people in our community.

During her illness, my dad was my mom’s primary caregiver. Their love story is beautiful and he took such good care of her. The girls and I were right by his side to help out. Watching Ellie and Sophia read to her when she was tired, hold her hand and rub her head when she felt sick, and do everything they could to brighten her day on the worst of days was unforgettable. My brother and sister live away, but they were only a phone call away. One of the reasons that I documented so much of her journey through pictures and Facebook posts was to keep distant family informed. I had no idea how much support and love that we would receive. I read Mom every comment and they always made her smile. The journey was long and difficult, but she handled it with such grace. We lived life to the fullest, and every day was such a blessing. She was in remission for a time, but when her cancer returned, Mom told me that she would not survive the cancer. My first response was “How am I going to live without you?” Her response was “I raised you to live without me. You are strong.” Now that she’s gone, I miss her so much, but I realize that she was right, and I’m ok. She knew, better than I did, that I would be ok. She is still with me every day guiding me through life.

When it was time to get hospice involved my siblings came home and we all surrounded her with love. My big sister made sure everything was taken care of, papers signed, and Mom was comfortable. My big brother was our strength. He planned activities that would bring us all together and celebrate Mom. He planned a Hawaiian Luau because Hawaii was my mom’s favorite place. My brother got

You are very strong in your faith. Tell me how that has helped you stay strong through many of life’s trials?

My mom’s faith was so strong and I followed her example. I converted to Catholicism in my early 20’s, following her lead. Through prayer, reading the bible/daily devotionals, and actively participating in fellowship opportunities at St. Patrick Church…my faith has grown. On my hardest days, God helps me through. My mom had a book called “Jesus Calling”, which is a daily devotional that her best friend gave her when she found out she had cancer. She highlighted her favorite parts of the book, and she wanted me to have the copy when she passed. I treasure that book and one of my favorite passages reads, “When I am frightened by the enormity of my problems, may I see them as opportunities to recognize that Jesus is by my side. After all, if he took away everything that frightens me I would have no need for courage.” Mom gave Ellie and Sophia the children’s version of the book, so that’s what we read every night together before bed. With our faith, we are confident that we can make it through anything.

What things have you done to remember your mom this past year, and what things will you do to continue her legacy?

We had a Luau party recently to celebrate with family and friends the memory of Mom. At the party we announced that we intend to start the Sandy Mershon Memorial Scholarship that will be awarded to a student planning to go into nursing. We’re also looking into donating something to put in the chapel at Union Hospital because she worked there for so many years and it was such an important place for Mom.

Your daughter Sophia is quite the songwriter. Tell us about the song she wrote for your mom.

My daughter, Sophia, loves to write stories and songs. She wrote a song the day Mom came home with hospice care. We had explained to the girls what hospice meant, and Sophia disappeared to the porch for a while, then came in and said she wrote Mamaw a song. She sang the song to Mom privately. My brother picked up her song and read it. He looked at her in disbelief and said, “Did you just write this?” It was so beautiful. Sophia said, “I just felt it, it was in me, so I had to write it down.” My brother called one of his co-workers on his radio show in LA and said I’m going to send you some lyrics, can you put this to music? The next day the completed song was sent to us. It’s called “Open That Door”. The song is still available for purchase at www.sandystrong.org, and the money goes to the American Cancer Society. The song continues to bring us peace and joy. Mamaw would be so proud!

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Let’s Get Cozy!

Front porches are a “must do” in the fall, and everyone I know takes to the porch to create a cozy and inviting space for your family and guests. You can easily incorporate your “indoor style” into an outdoor entrance that’s unique and beautiful.

Instead of the traditional orange, brown, and rust colors that most of us are drawn to during the fall season, I think it’s important to mix it up and step outside the box.

You can add layers, height, and a color scheme you wouldn’t normally go with to create a fun space that will take you through the fall season. I’m usually drawn toward things that are a little “off the beaten path”, and I love mixing patterns and a punch of color. I get my inspiration from magazines, Pinterest, and some of my favorite home decor bloggers. No matter where you get your inspiration, I’ve chosen a few of my favorite looks that spoke to me and I hope you find something that appeals to you.

Here are some tips that I have found helpful: 1. Walk outside, look at your front porch and check out your front door… does it need repainted or retouched? Look at the siding and the brick color and think about your color scheme before you go out and splurge.

5. Take a good look at what you already have before you go out and spend more money. You can always retouch and add new life to anything with just spray paint.

6. Greet your guest with something beautiful on your front door... either a handmade wreath, faux or fresh, and think about different elements to create instead of a grapevine or straw wreath.

7. Make the most out of your space even if you have the smallest front porch in your neighborhood. Re-purpose an old chair by painting and reviving the seat with a punchy fabric. Stack pumpkins on them to add a whimsical touch, or go bold and do the corner of your porch with a wheelbarrow filled with pumpkins.

8. Remember that you can buy a lot of fun items at different price points to add to your porch. Use lanterns, mini pumpkins and gourds, mums, branches, apples, feathers and sticks to add drama. You don’t have to spend a fortune to get these looks - just roll up your sleeves, see what you already have and go from there.

Be creative and enjoy the transition from late summer to fall.

2. Bring some unexpected items out from the garage or basement like an old ladder, planks of wood or old dresser. These pieces can be a fun way to add character to a small or large space.

3. Stacking and layering are key to creating small vignettes. Stack hay bales to add height, use old frames, re-purpose old wood planks by painting and/or stenciling them.

Photos Courtesy of Pinterest

4. The front porch can also be a place to read, drink your morning coffee or spend time with family. Depending on the size of your porch, I love to incorporate indoor items to my outdoor space. I love bringing in a throw to place on a chair, and pillows add a coziness to the space. Stools are always a great place to display a book or use as extra seating.

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Holiday Greenery

Pine Cones Add Punch

- Yvette Morgan

Whimsical Holiday Entranc eS

Grey Tones Set The Stage

Natural Elements Winter Wonderland Traditional Fall Jewel Tones With a Punch

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Fan Girl Friday

It is such an honor to introduce you to my sweet friend and fellow maker from Imy’s Joy, Sarah Kruer.

She creates inspirational hand-painted signs, unique cards, and recently added a variety of soft tees to her product line.

Whether it is at home, in her community, or through her work, Sarah’s message to “be the good” has made a difference in so many lives here in Indiana and all over the country. Her family adores her and her friends can’t get enough her.

So go grab a cup of joe, curl up in a cozy blanket, and get to know this amazing soul sister of mine.

I guarantee you’re gonna love her just as much as I do!

- Nicole Osborne

Why the name Imy’s Joy? I get asked A LOT if my name is Imy. Which I secretly love, because Imy’s Joy is actually named after my sweet grandmother, Imogene. I chose “Imy’s Joy’’ to honor and celebrate the incredible woman she was and how special she was to me and so many others. She was a shining example of joy to all she encountered. Whose smile always lifted my mood even on the saddest of days and who always believed in me and encouraged me in all things. Her positive attitude was infectious, her hugs uplifting…and I knew that’s EXACTLY how I wanted others to feel when they read the words I’d placed before them, whether it be on a hand-painted sign, an IJ tee, or a handmade card. Creating one-of-a-kind pieces brings me joy, and my hope is that it will not only inspire and speak to you, but others as well.

How do you balance owning a business and taking care of three boys, a husband and a dog?

I’m still working on that one! When your “office” is at home, the lines can blur and keeping work and family life separate can be a big challenge. It takes commitment to stick to a schedule, which is something I’m constantly working on! Also, I think I’ve learned to prioritize things. Number one, I’m a wife/mom/friend/daughter/ sister over everything else, so business owner takes a backseat to all of those.

And for sure, giving myself some grace. I’ve learned that I can’t “do it all” all the time, nor can I expect not to make mistakes along the way...definitely something to embrace. I’m constantly learning.

Where do you see yourself and IJ in five years?

What do you enjoy most about owning a small business?

I love the freedom of what I do. I get to be as creative as I want, when I want. If the creative mood strikes me at 10 p.m., then I can just get to work! I also love the way the maker community supports and cheers on one another. I feel like I’m really good at the heart stuff, but not so good with the business stuff. I’ve found that because I’m not naturally business-minded, there’s been a pretty big learning curve for me in that area! But I’m working on it! Most of all, I love that I truly love what I do. And I never, ever take that for granted.

Where do you get your inspiration?

I can find inspiration from almost anywhere, anything! Nature, music, friends, family, experiences, books, quotes – it can all lead to inspiration. I also tend to get inspired when I read or see people doing incredible things for others. It is SO true that random acts of kindness have a domino effect. If I read or hear of someone doing something good for others, it just inspires me to do the same. This often leads me to create something positive in my work, as well. I also tend to be a night owl and do my best work at night when the house is quiet. When looking for new ideas for signs or designs, I like to pop in my earbuds, turn on good music, get out my sketchbook, look through my journals of favorite quotes, brainstorm, and get creative.

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I’ve been asked that a couple times recently and I have the hardest time answering it. I think it’s because I really try my best to live in the present. Not worrying about what tomorrow may hold or planning the future away. So, I think I would just say that my hope is that Imy’s Joy continues to grow but stays true to its purpose. That it somehow inspires people to do good, to feel good, to be encouraged, motivated, inspired and thoughtful. And hopefully through signs, tees and writing I can continue to do just that. As for myself, I hope that I’m still finding joy in the ordinary, loving life and “living big” with my family and friends.

What advice would you give someone who is just getting started?

Oh gosh. I think I would say to be sure you have a great support system. And if you don’t have that, seek out people who are like-minded. Social media is a great tool. I feel like I connected with so many other makers, creatives and women business owners when I first started out and it proved to be so valuable.

We were able to learn from one another, bounce ideas off each other, and support each other. And it also proved to be helpful when seeking guidance in areas I wasn’t as familiar with. Another thing, don’t take yourself so seriously. I feel like you’ve really got to learn to be flexible and roll with the punches when you’re first starting out. Over time, you will get your business to where you want it to be. You just have to have patience and not compromise your mission.

A Few Fun Facts

Instagram feed you love: @ourvintagenest I love Alicia’s IG feed because she has incredible taste and talent for home décor.

All of her photos make me want to redecorate my entire home!

Fave music: Sleeping At Last, Pearl Jam, Judah & the Lion, Lumineers, DMB….pretty much ALL the music EVER--I have a love for it all!

Fave colors: mint, pale blue and yellow Fave sweet treat: Snappy Turtle ice cream from Handel’s Someone you admire/why: Jen Hatmaker. Because she isn’t afraid to stand up for what she believes in and she speaks/writes straight from her heart.

Fave book and/or author: Hmm...can I choose one fiction and one nonfiction?! :) “Rising Strong” by Brene Brown (love all her books) and “Anne of Green Gables” by L.M. Montgomery (I read it once a year).

Something you collect: I’m not a big collector of anything specific, though I do have a love of unique pieces of art and home decor from fellow makers/artists.

I love supporting other creatives/makers and I love a good collage wall.

Finish this sentence: Happiness is…hearing my kids and husband laugh!

Laughter is so good for the soul and pure joy has a way of being contagious, and there’s nothing better.

If you’d like to shop for Sarah’s products online, check out the Imy’s Joy website at www.imysjoy.com. For the most recent updates and exciting news, including more information on how Jen Hatmaker is sharing her tees, follow Imy’s Joy on Instagram and Facebook.

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Because we connect the dots for you, getting well and staying well is easier. We partner with you for better health and well-being throughout your life. Why? Because we’re healthier, together.

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C har med L ife How to Keep Up with Social Media and Have a Small Business

There is one thing I love about being a small business owner: I have many resources, platforms, and choices to use to promote my small business.

As business owners, we have many options when it comes to advertising and letting our customers know who we are as a business and what our brand stands for in the boutique world. It’s not an easy task, but I can tell you that it can be done.

I have a lot of people ask me how I have time to post material on social media consistently and run a boutique, Charm School, Haute Life Magazine and Mack’s New Market. My answer may surprise you, but it’s very simple.

You have to schedule time in your day, just like you would with anything else.

My alarm goes off in the morning at 7:30 or 8 a.m. The first thing I do is read my e-mail, check all my social media sites, and then start posting while I’m in my bed drinking coffee and getting ready to start my day. I try to get this task out of the way before I even get to work, so it’s one less thing I need to do there.

One of my favorite platforms to use is Instagram. I love it because your photos can convey emotions, ideas, and thoughts to your audience. Your photos say a lot about you and your business, and that’s huge when you’re trying to stand out from everyone else. You can show your personality with the people that follow you and photos of your business, merchandise you carry and maybe a glimpse into your personal life. I love showing my customers new items hitting the sales floor. I love doing live videos and connecting with my customers on a more personal platform and following people I admire and love. It’s important to surround yourself with like-minded people who love Instagram as much as you do. It’s a community of business owners, entrepreneurs, artists, makers, and of course, friends.

Remember, numbers don’t matter. You need to cultivate relationships with your followers. You will then create more followers and gain support from your Instagram community. It’s not necessarily the quantity but the quality that will grow your business. Lastly, well-done photos are important when you’re trying to sell an item or convey a message to the Instagram world.

Here are a few tips that might help you when it comes to your next posting: 1. Lighting is Key: Natural lighting is the best! If you’re not comfortable taking your own pictures, hire or use an intern who’s studying photography, especially if you own a business.

2. Take Multiple Shots: You will have several choices when it comes to posting. Look for ideas on Pinterest and try something different. Use texture, angled pictures, or a cool backdrop.

3. Edit Your Photos, but Try Not to Over Edit Them: I usually pick one filter for all my pictures and brighten them up with my iPhone.

4. Stay Focused, Experiment and Have Fun: I’m certainly not an expert when it comes to taking photos, but I do have an eye for what I like and enjoy. The one thing that makes me stop when I’m scrolling is a creative photo, whether if it’s a boutique, product, or just for fun.

I hope these tips make your Instagram posting easier and helpful.

- Yvette Morgan Make sure to follow me on Instagram: @moderncharmterrehaute @charmschoolTH @hautelifemagazine

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Sincerely, Millie

The Art of Customer Service

Maybe I’m just old school. Maybe it’s because I’ve worked retail for 25 years (literally, the minute I turned 16 I got my first job in retail). Or maybe I just have high expectations.

Have our expectations of great customer service diminished over the years? Are we just all so busy in this day and age of social media, cell phones, and not having a minute of peace that we don’t have the time to offer great service – our minds going 100 miles per hour? Or have we become so accustomed to not-so-great customer service that we’ve lowered our expectations? Either way, I have left many of the businesses I’ve patronized in the past few years disappointed.

In my retail career, I’ve learned from some of the best, many of whom had high expectations of their employees. When I began managing, I then had high expectations, and boy did my employees know it. And I had some AMAZING employees (along with my share of not-so-amazing employees!). Lots of jokes were shared over the years regarding my “Lori Look.” My staff knew if I shot them a certain look, they needed to straighten up and fly right. My staff also hated for me to be disappointed in them – it came along with a mutual respect. As a manager, I always felt it was super important to take five minutes out of your day to ask an employee how school/life/baby/boyfriend was going. For them to be productive, they needed to know that I was invested in not only their gig (or career) with me, but also their life. Between that and the management team leading by example, we were consistent with great customer service. It’s what makes a team successful, in turn making the store successful.

“Leadership is about making others

better

as a result of your

presence

and making sure

that impact lasts in your absence.”

- Sheryl Sandberg Facebook COO

Which brings me to my next question. Is this in part why we’re seeing so many chain retail businesses close? I think it’s a factor, along with many other factors (boutique and online shopping is in, ya’ll), but do we not cease to shop/visit/dine at places that don’t offer great service? It’s something to think about…

I’m definitely not trying to toot my own horn, but rather illustrate what I think it takes for a team of people to offer great customer service to their customers. Now that I’m a boutique owner, I try to remember my customers’ names (though I’m not always successful!), remember their likes and dislikes, and contact them when something I know they’ll love comes in. They’re happiness makes me happy. I’m genuinely delighted to see my customers when they visit.

I don’t feel that warm and fuzzy when I shop at your mall retail stores, especially.

If you want me to come back, please be kind. At least pretend that you’re happy to see someone shopping in your store, that you care to assist someone with their potential purchases, and that maybe, just maybe, you like your job. This goes beyond just retail, too – it goes for anyone in any sort of customer service position.

Alternately, let’s think about how WE’RE treating the people that are in the position of serving us. Are we being kind to them? Or have our presumptions taken a turn in the wrong direction, and we assume we may receive poor service before we even give them a chance? There’s something to be said for reciprocity, friends.

It all boils down to kindness and appreciation. If we all tried to be humble, considerate, courteous … our customer service world has the potential to return to those “old school” values. And I think we have the potential to do just that.

- Lori Mitchell

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Lydia, Lady Boss Tracey Sarris is a Follower of the Way. She has been married to her husband, Nick, for 31 years.

They have three children, Grace 23, Samuel, 19 and Alia, 15. She has homeschooled her children for the past 17 years and works as a Speech Language Pathologist. Her passion is telling others what Jesus has done in her life through writing and blogging.

For more of her musings check out Tracey Sarris: A Woman on a Mission on Blog Spot or follow her on Facebook.

The Sarris Family attend First Baptist Church North on Hall Ave in Terre Haute, Indiana.

So, when I sat down to do my Bible Study this morning the last thing I expected to find was a New Testament Lady Boss. Yet, there she was, right in the middle of the Book of Acts, doing her merchant thing in a time when women were strictly wives and mothers. Not only was she in the market place, she was making it in the business of selling purple cloth. Some people also think she made it with her own hands. That has to be the equivalent of a slamming Etsy shop by today’s standards.

Purple cloth was a huge deal back in the day. It was a sign of royalty and nobility.

That means this gal was hobnobbing with the upper echelon of the Bible days. Her name was Lydia of Thyatria, a seller of purple cloth. It was like saying she was Lydia, Lady Boss. This woman had to have an education. Some research says she was part of a guild of fabric dyers. This was practically unheard of in her day. She had to be smart with a strong level of business savvy. She was truly making a name for herself in a man’s world. All that AND she made it into the World’s most read book....of all time. Way to go, Lydia!

So why was she in there? I don’t think it was for her Lady Bossidness in the business world, although we all have to see how cool that was. She was in there because she was a few other Lady Boss-like things. She was in the Book because she was looking for answers to hard questions. She went to the place of prayer to find Paul. Paul was not just a regular guy. He had made a name for himself, first as a persecutor of people who followed Christ and second as Jesus’ biggest supporter after his conversion. He was controversial, maybe even feared by some and yet Lydia is seeking him out in a place that mostly men frequent. She listened to Paul and Silas preaching by the river. She was looking for answers and went to great lengths to find them. Lady Boss! The Bible goes on to say that she heard what Paul was sharing and believed and here’s another biggie...all of her family believed too.

She was influential in her family and community. When Lydia spoke people listened! Wasn›t that the tagline for an E.F Hutton commercial in 1985 or something?

Well, it started with Lady Boss chicks like Lydia. She listened, believed, shared and people were influenced by her words. I love it!

One more thing I think adds to her LB status. Right after her baptism she has a party and invites the disciples, then they all get thrown in prison and there’s this big earthquake and they all get out. When Paul and his other disciples got out of prison, she didn’t shy away from their status as ex-cons or escapees. She really did the opposite. She extended this high-level hospitality and grace. You know how she did this? She served them again. Now they aren’t these sought after guys, but fugitives and runaways. This high powered executive president and CEO of her own hugely successful company fixed them a meal and served them. She had status but cared for them when they were at one of their lowest times. Strength and compassion...what more could we ask for in a Lady Boss example. So, here›s to you Lydia, of Thyartria, Seller of Purple, we crown you Bible Lady Boss!

- Tracey Sarris

Acts 16:13-15 NLT 13 On the Sabbath we went a little way outside the city to a riverbank, where we thought people would be meeting for prayer, and we sat down to speak with some women who had gathered there. 14 One of them was Lydia from Thyatira, a merchant of expensive purple cloth, who worshiped God. As she listened to us, the Lord opened her heart, and she accepted what Paul was saying. 15 She was baptized along with other members of her household, and she asked us to be her guests. “If you agree that I am a true believer in the Lord,” she said, “come and stay at my home.” And she urged us until we agreed.

Acts 13:38-40 NLT 38 When the police reported this, the city officials were alarmed to learn that Paul and Silas were Roman citizens. 39 So they came to the jail and apologized to them. Then they brought them out and begged them to leave the city. 40 When Paul and Silas left the prison, they returned to the home of Lydia. There they met with the believers and encouraged them once more.

Then they left town.

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...Memories Are

When Lori and I decided to have a ‘Best Friends’ section in the magazine, I wanted to show our readers how important it is to have women in your life that support your ideas, have your back and fight for you no matter what, when, or where. I mean that’s what we do for each other, right? Writing about this has me all warm and fuzzy, because I get to tell you how my best friends have guided me through life and have given me immense joy, laughter, happiness, and more loyalty than I have ever experienced. Over the course of my life, and throughout every stage of my life, I have had many girlfriends, and I love each of them dearly. But I do have 3 girlfriends presently who have always been by my side and have been such inspiration to me. The pictures that you see on this page are the ladies that have seen me at my darkest and have seen me at my best. I don’t know about you, but calling these ladies my best friends is a privilege and an honor, and I couldn’t do life with them.

Photo by Grace

Amy is private, giving, athletic and super stylish.

Tracy is hilarious, on the go, jokester, and my favorite traveling buddy.

Candi knows everyone, is compassionate, quick witted, and my guardian angel.

So, ladies, here’s my heartfelt thank you with much gratitude and love, and knowing you will always be part of my awesome life just being exactly who you are.

Dear Friends,

Sarris

Each are unique and different, and that’s what makes them so very special to me.

I have known them for over 25 years, and although things have changed through years with children, marriages, and life, I always fall back to them. We travel together, cookout with our families, meet up for coffee, game night, lunch dates, workout, or a manicure in between work schedules. Here’s a peek at their personalities and I’m sure you can see why I love each of them.

Life has a funny way of bringing you all to me in this thing we call life, but I want each of you know how much I treasure our friendship and our time together. Sometimes life has a way of pulling us away, and we sometimes find ourselves broken, lost, and swept up in a whirlwind where we lose touch with each other. Regardless, if it’s been a week or a couple of months, we always seem to find each other again without ever missing a beat. You guys have been there for me in unexpected ways, supported me when I needed to hear the truth, talked me through some of my darkest days, called or texted me when I needed your opinion, and of course been the anchor I needed when I wasn’t sure I could go any further. I have experienced many heartaches and trials in my life and each of you have played such a significant piece in that over the years.

Thank you for letting me feel vulnerable and scared and insecure with no judgement.

Thank you for our memories, and God knows we have plenty of them. Thank you for the late-night pep talks of encouragement when I didn’t know I could go one more day. And thank you for being my partner in crime, drinking buddy, dance partner, sharing road trips, and all of the awesome memories we have all shared together.

So, to my beautiful friends, I hope this finds you with much love, gratitude and peace for our future, and cheers to the next 50 years!!!

- Yvette Morgan

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Made of This...

Best friends. BFF’s. Sisters from another mister. Everyone should have that one person they can look at, and without a word, know what the other one is thinking.

You barely look at each other, because if you do make eye contact, you may just DIE laughing.

Before the 8th grade when my best friend Laurie entered my life, I didn’t know that connection could even exist. Oddly, she’s Laurie Ann and I’m Lori Anne.

Our moms are Patricia Ann and Patricia Anne. We always thought that was weird.

Anyway, she moved here from Long Island, which to me at the time, was a magical land far, far away that made her this special unicorn with rainbow hearts and stars coming out the top of her head. I was kinda jealous, but also super interested.

My friends and I lovingly nicknamed her ‘Feck’, as her maiden name was Feckete.

Feck and I quickly became a unified front against any other Joey McIntyre fans (even though she really liked Jon but wouldn’t admit it), and connected over late night games of ‘Girl Talk’ and Saturday Night Live marathons (It’s Pat!) full of potato chips and loads of chocolate. Like most best friends, we would do really stupid things and laugh until we cried.

years, and I know she listens with an open ear, mind, and heart, giving the best, sound advice, always. Sarah started out as a “work friend”, and through working together, has now become a friend I can confide in, ask questions and advice of, and meet for fancy breakfasts at the last minute. She is one of the funniest people I’ve ever met, and literally has me crying with laughter every time we get together.

I have become a braver person by knowing her. Wives of the hubbies’ friends have become some of my closest friends; Nicole and Amy have been there for us through some of our darkest times, are my concert buddies, “band wives”, and huge supporters of my business.

My point is, every girl needs a Feck (and Amanda and Sarah and Nicole and Amy) in her life. Those friends who are like family, who likely know too much, and have each other’s backs for life.

- Lori Mitchell

Her family became my second family, and my mom her second mom. Growing up, we had our ups and downs, as most BFF’s do, but now as adults, there is no one I’d rather call my best friend.

Looking back, I think about how proud I am of her. We’ve seen each other through high school, boyfriends, the death of a close friend, college (Masters for her!), work opportunities, “riding bull incidents”, weddings and marriage, illnesses, giving birth to our beautiful girls… I see her now as a mom and a School Counselor, and am just SO DANG PROUD. We now have busy lives – families, homes, work (so much work), and might go a couple of weeks without chatting. But when we do chat, we pick right back up where we left off. I know that I could call her in the middle of the night if I needed to. I know that she would watch my kid at the last minute if I needed her to. I know that she’d be at my doorstep within seconds if I needed it. And she knows I would do the same for her. It never has to be said.

We just know.

Many other friends have entered my life throughout college and adulthood. My friend Amanda, who I met in college through my now husband, is a soul sister that I can literally talk to about anything. We’ve spent some time venting to each other over the

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Pure Magic

Alchemy Spa and Beautique I’ll admit it. I haven’t had a spa day in YEARS. Like, years.

I used to take care of myself – a massage on a fairly regular basis, most definitely a facial on a regular basis, mani/pedi (even if I did it myself), regular hair appointments… then life happened. Family, a child, work, home – all of the things that we as women tend to pour ourselves into, rightfully so, and put US on the backburner.

Of course, I wouldn’t trade my family time for anything, and my work is hugely important to me, but sometimes Mama needs a spa day. So, when the opportunity arose to spend the day at Alchemy Spa and Beautique, I was more that excited.

Owner Marta Stephens has created a Spa that truthfully makes you feel like you’ve stepped outside of our little town and into a big city “Beautique”. By Dictionary. com’s definition, alchemy is “any seemingly magical process of transforming or combining elements into something new.”

Once my massage was over, and I was able to take my time as I was “massage drunk”, I was offered a robe, and walked down the beautifully lit hallway to the Esthetician, Emily Richards. Now, I love a good facial. To say this was a “good” facial is putting it lightly. It was amazing. After asking lots of questions in regards to my skin and how I care for it, she got started. Emily uses only Farmaesthetics products, an organic skincare line made without synthetic chemicals that can affect our health and the environment. Farmaesthetics products are sold in only the best spas and retailers in the world, with recipes based on American herbal traditions, utilizing organically grown herbs and flowers. One of the products Emily

Well, Dictionary.com, you got that right. I’m pretty sure what happened that day was pure magic. And definitely transforming. I loved my pampering experience, so I thought maybe it would be best to give you a sort of play-by-play of my “mini spa day” at Alchemy.

I’m a huge proponent of good customer service. The minute I walked in to Alchemy, I knew. Their service is nothing short of top-notch, and it’s apparent from the second you walk in the door. I was greeted by the Spa Concierge, Emma Price. She asked if I had any questions about anything, and promptly called the Massage Therapist, Christine Norris.

used on me was the Sweet Milk Facial Exfoliate. Containing orange peel, chamomile flowers, and lavender buds, my skin honestly felt like silk and was glowing afterwards. The Farmaesthetics collection, named the “Most Influential Green Design in Beauty” by Time Magazine, is sold at Alchemy. Other services provided

by Emily include an Anti-Aging Treatment, Dermaplaning Facial, and Chemical Peels. Body Masque treatments are also available.

After my amazing Spa Facial, I was introduced to Bailey Allen, their Nail Technician. I chose my colors, and Bailey took care of my nails and feet in their relaxing and beautifully designed, private nail and pedicure space. The huge comfy chairs, the aesthetic of the room, the modern design of the bowl, Bailey’s fun and relaxed personality, all add to the calming experience the pedicure offered. Using all-natural products, my favorite of all that was used was a cinnamon scrub that literally left my feet feeling cool, refreshed, and smelling like a cinnamon roll! To top it all off, Bailey did an amazing job painting both my nails and toenails. During my mani/pedi, Emma checked in several times to make sure I was doing ok.

Photos by Ryan Pinkston of Hip and Humble Photography Christine, whom I’ve known for quite some time, was extremely professional, showed me several products they carry, and discussed with me the oils she uses with her work. Massages aren’t the most comfortable thing for many, but Christine made me feel super relaxed as we discussed the different types of massages she can provide. The atmosphere was tranquil and calming, as I almost fell asleep at one point. One of the latest types of massage Christine is specializing in is Vibrational Sound Therapy, done with Himalayan Singing Bowls. This helps you achieve a deep relaxation, almost a meditative state, to help relieve stress and improve emotional well-being. Christine shared with me that she had a client who was experiencing digestive issues who tried Vibrational Sound Therapy, and afterwards, her problems completely dissipated.

Cupping is another type of massage therapy Christine specializes in. By lifting and separating layers of compacted tissue, cupping increases blood flow to release toxins and knots, leaving you relaxed and rejuvenated. Other services offered include Swedish Massage, Hot Stones, Himalayan Salt Stones, Bamboo Fusion (one I want the hubs to try!), Deep Tissue, and Mom-To-Be Massage. I can’t wait to go back and try several of these!

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To finish my day, I was offered an amazing blowout by Carly Ring. A young entrepreneur, Carly really loves being there and learning from the other ladies at Alchemy. Though young, I could tell that she was mature, eager to learn and create a name for herself, and was not afraid to chat with me while in her chair. I’ll admit, I’ve never had a blowout done. My naturally curly hair has changed over the years, so while not as curly as it used to be, it’s still a pain to blow out straight. I have to use products, curling irons, flat irons, and then more product to keep it that way.

Carly on the other hand, used just her blow dryer and a round brush, and like an old pro, created these incredible waves with the round brush. I mean really, had I used that brush, she would’ve been cutting it out of my hair! My blowout lasted for nearly 4 days. Ladies, if you have half an hour, schedule yourself a blowout with Carly – right now they’re just $20!

Marta

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Angelia

- Lori Mitchell

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I graduated from Indiana’s Premier Academy in Indianapolis. For the past 12 years, I have been studying my craft and have been fortunate enough to have various mentors that have helped to guide me in my journey. About 4 years into my career I moved down to Naples, Florida, and with that was able to have great opportunities that pushed my career to the next level. I studied in depth study the science behind hair color, and that became my passion. I worked in a very high-end salon that made customer service its top priority and I studied this as well, taking everything I could from the experience that I was being presented with.

Angelia

This day, for sure, would be something I would LOVE to do with a friend. Grab a lady friend or two, make an appointment for your spa day, and treat yo’ self!

Christine

A Little About Marta…

Carly

One thing that stood out to me more than any of the amazing services, was how much these ladies love their jobs. They love being there, they love Marta, and they are a TEAM. And even though they’re a team, they all take ownership in their businesses. I was so impressed, and their pride was so noticeable that I mentioned it to Marta. She appreciates her team, and the fact that through this team atmosphere, they support and promote one another, all while focusing on their own businesses.

Alchemy was first created as a salon studio in a 400-square foot space. I wanted to give my clients a level of customer service that they hadn’t experienced before.

I wanted to create a safe space where women felt comfortable to let their guard down, relax, and let someone take care of them. When I was choosing a name, I came across the book called the Alchemist. It is a story of finding your journey.

The words straight from the front cover of the book sum it up with “transforming power of our dreams and the importance of listening to our hearts”. Emma came on to help with the handling of client services after I had been open for a year, and the business boomed. Having an amazing salon concierge is the key to running and organizing Alchemy, and we grew 100% in a 3-month period.

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I was then able to take master color classes at the Phyto Academy in New York City, and worked continuously behind the scenes, working with some of the greatest colorist in the industry on a daily basis.

I became an American Board-Certified Hair Colorist in 2011. This is an organization designed to raise the level of education on the science of hair color and to give the consumer a sense of relief, that a certified colorist has been put to the test of science, professionalism, and overall extended knowledge of hair color. According to the US Labor and Statistics in 2014, there were 656,400 cosmetologists in the US. As of today, there are currently only 1,919 nationally certified colorists.

After moving back to the Wabash Valley in 2011, I began working as an Educator with Joico. This experience keeps me passionate and up to date on the everchanging technology in hair color.

As you can see, my bio is less made up of academies, classes, or cities I’ve visited.

My bio and my work history comes more from the amazing artists I’ve encountered and the handful of people that have committed to helping me grow.

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Sandy

Lauren

Our space is designed to provide clients with the option to purchase amazing products! Most of our products come from companies who are like-minded when it comes to ingredients. Our Farmaesthetics skin care line is a “farm to face” company. Owey is an amazing all natural hair bath, conditioner, and styling line, and Joico is one of the industry›s leaders as a green company. Green Circle Salon our partner for recycling, and we encourage all salons to use this service.

It was a few more years when the thought to expand into a salon and spa started to progress. The original driving force into growing the business was “how do I give Emma Saturday’s off to be at home with her daughter?”, and “How am I going to create time to plan my own family?”

I believe the universe brings you gifts just when you need them, and that proved true with the group of women that began showing up in our lives. These women were already professionals in their field, they had a great work ethic and frame of mind that matched ours. They just wanted a place to share their talents and nurture their clients. We have created a sisterhood of women that extends to all of our clients and friends that come into our space.

- Marta Stephens

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Fit For a Queen

When we were younger, one stop for us after-hours was the tattoo shop...and that was when tattoo shops were just becoming a thing.

Now we have several tattoo shops in town, but one stands out as an eccentric, interesting, and quirky businesses here in the Haute, and we love it.

Having opened 4 years ago, Queen City started out with a specific focus and “brand” that they wanted to portray.

Now they are expanding their space and their services to offer not just amazing art and piercings, but aesthetic services to make us look and feel our very best.

We were thrilled to speak with owner Carrie House-Clarke and new team member Ceci Spoonmore to find out more about their business and services…

- Lori Mitchell

Tell me a little about yourselves and how you decided to open Queen City…

Carrie: I’m originally from Cincinnati (commonly known as the Queen City) and moved to the Terre Haute area when I was a kid and have been here ever since. I started getting interested in American tattoo culture shortly after college and became obsessed with the history and intrigue surrounding tattoos. I started tattooing in 2007, and my husband Jeremy and I starting dreaming of owning our own tattoo shop and doing things a little bit differently. That dream became a reality in August of 2013 when we opened the doors to Queen City. We had a very clear vision of how we wanted to present ourselves to the community and how we wanted to set ourselves apart. We take a lot of pride in our team and are really grateful for what has grown to be a pretty huge Queen City family!

We really felt like there needed to be a shop that focused on the client’s story, and really tune in to the fact that they are coming to a tattoo shop for far more than a piece of art. They are commemorating a story, a legacy, or a chapter in their life. To say that it is an honor to be a part of our client’s experience is an understatement.

Every day we have clients that give us access to a really personal and significant part of their story and it’s a really special thing. Our clients are amazing, and it really does make our day to get to know them. Fortunately for us, that’s a pretty easy feat to accomplish. Nothing distracts from the feeling of getting a tattoo like a good chat :)

How do you differentiate yourselves from the other tattoo shops in our area?

Carrie: We’ve really tried to create an environment that is friendly, inviting and comfortable. One huge piece of that puzzle is the layout of the building itself.

We’re located at 1323 Wabash Avenue in what used to be Artisan Glass. The way the building was set up when we bought it had a lot of small individual rooms with a large workspace in the back. Fortunately for us, there were no supporting walls so we were able to open it up completely. We wanted to make sure that we had a space that was wide open and super bright.

The fact that we are a tattoo shop means some people may have reservations about the nature of what we do. We completely understand and respect those concerns, so we wanted to make sure that the cleaning room was above and beyond the standard and in full view. We take an enormous amount of pride in the safety and sanitation practices that we implement.

Obviously I’m biased, but I really feel that what sets us apart more than anything is the fact that we make it a point to excel in every part of the experience - from the building itself, to our top notch desk staff, to what I believe to be the best artists in the area.

What services do you offer besides tattoos?

Photography by Mallory Eilbracht

Carrie: While the official name is Queen City Classic Tattoos, we also offer a wide variety of piercings, including micro-dermals, and with the recent addition of Ceci Spoonmore to the family we now offer eyebrow micro-blading, lash services, permanent eyeliner, freckles, and ombre lip tinting. Ceci is the first member of the growing team at Queen City Signature.

Many don’t realize this, but my now 9-year-old daughter had her ears pierced there, and it was an amazing experience.

Can you share with our readers why it’s safer to get our children’s ears pierced there, rather than the alternative?

Carrie: I’m so glad that you asked! This is something that a lot of parents don’t consider, and there really is quite a difference. There are a number of reasons why it’s much better to get your ears pierced by a professional piercer rather than the alternative. The first would be the fact that, as a tattoo shop, we are regulated by the Department of Health. They do not differentiate between a piercing and a tattoo, and neither do we. That means we use the same practices when performing a piercing that we do when performing a tattoo. The needle used is brand new, sterile and single use, and the tools that are used are sterilized for each use as well.

By adhering to these standards it also means that the piercing jewelry that we use is sterile and hypoallergenic. The alternative is barely regulated at all, with not so much as a hand washing sink required, and no requirements at all to clean and sterilize the piercing gun itself after each use. Another difference between a professional piercing and the alternative is in the equipment itself. A piercing needle is just that - a piercing needle. That means it comes to a point and is designed for piercing, or separating, the tissue. A piercing gun uses the jewelry itself to perform the piercing, for which it was not designed. The jewelry is blunt on the end, which means it removes the tissue during the piercing rather than separating it. That is the very definition of blunt force trauma to the tissue. Think of this as an analogy: Run a sewing needle through a piece of paper versus a hole punch.

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Lastly, a professional piercer is trained. Not only are they trained in the art of piercing, which is important not just for ears but especially for body piercings.

They are also trained in the anatomical nature of those tissues being pierced. They understand the physiology of the tissue and how to care for it. When you add all of these factors together, it really makes a big difference for both the experience itself and the healing of your piercing.

perfect shape for your specific features, you are then numbed completely. Depending on your existing brows, length of the actual procedure will vary. After all spaces are filled with new ‘blades’ and the desired look is achieved, you are given an after care package complete with instructions and a quality recovery product to aid in the healing process. After 3-4 weeks, you’ll be scheduled for a full retouch that is included in the upfront cost. Generally you will have great color for 1-2 years, sometimes longer. Some clients may have their results fade quicker than others depending on their skin, sun exposure, the quality of after care they give them, etc. It’s absolutely an investment, but one that is totally worth it for years to come.

You’re expanding your space to accommodate all of your new clients – tell us about that?

Carrie: This is our most recent development and definitely an exciting one!

We’ve been bursting at the seams for some time at Queen City, and with the addition of Ceci in May, it became apparent that we needed to expand beyond tattoos and piercings.

Queen City is a two-story building and we’ve never utilized the upstairs portion.

Now that we offer such an extensive line of services that go beyond tattoos and piercings, we’ve decided to completely renovate the second floor and launch Queen City Signature. Queen City Signature shares the same standards of excellence of Queen City Classic Tattoos, but with a completely different aesthetic and atmosphere.

You recently introduced Ceci Spoonmore to your staff.

Ceci – tell us a little bit about what you do at QC? Ceci: My focus is on building the Queen City Signature brand, while bringing luxury permanent and semi-permanent cosmetics to our list of services. Coming from an extensive training and professional makeup background, I’ve been able to take my knowledge and love for the beauty industry, combine it with a tattoo license, and give women another way to feel great about themselves. We are working hard to bring in beneficial, quality services that our area may not have been exposed to or had access to. I’m excited to offer brow micro-blading, lash extensions, semi-permanent lip tinting, lash enhancement liner and more! I will also be heading up our upcoming makeup and skin care classes that will be held in our new studio! My goal is to offer women a safe, clean place for these services, combined with a lavish, superior experience that make them feel their most beautiful!

How have you seen your work change women’s lives?

Ceci: Everyone has something that when they look in the mirror, they don’t LOVE about themselves. There are certain things that are harder to change and those that are an easier fix. Something as simple as losing eyebrows or lashes as we age, can be a significant source of stress for a woman, and most do not feel comfortable creating a penciled in look themselves. I am so grateful for the outpouring of the texts, calls and referrals from happy clients. Looking in the mirror and feeling more confident, more youthful, and generally happier about their looks is life changing. It seems to give them the confidence that they may have not realized they were lacking, and for a busy woman who might generally put herself last, that’s huge for everyone around her.

Tell us a bit about the micro-blading process?

Ceci: Micro-blading is my absolute favorite service to offer because of the sheer transformation and solution it provides. It’s much more simple than it even seems.

During the consultation, we discuss the clients concerns, needs and wants. Color, shape and thickness all come into play. After mapping and measuring to find the

Queen City Signature offers a wide variety of services and can be thought of as a permanent cosmetics studio and a salon of sorts. Ceci Spoonmore will be offering eyebrow micro-blading, lash services, permanent eyeliner, freckles and ombre lip tinting. We’ve also added esthetician Maranda Zanandrea to Queen City Signature. Maranda will be offering derma-planing, facials, brow tinting, eyelash tinting, and eyelash extensions, in addition to a number of other services. Queen City Signature will also feature the area’s only full spectrum infrared sauna. We’re really excited about this evolution in the Queen City journey, and the opportunity to present an atmosphere and experience to the Terre Haute area that is above and beyond anything that they will experience elsewhere.

What advice would you give someone who is contemplating a tattoo, micro-blading, lips, etc?

Carrie: What a great question! The first step would be to do your research. With social media, it’s never been easier to dig into your options and get an idea of what the result will be, see which artist would best fit the style of what you’re looking for (in the case of a tattoo), and ask questions. The second step would be to come to the shop! There is nothing that can replace your intuition and the feeling that you get when you walk into a tattoo shop. You should feel welcomed, not intimidated, and you should feel like a customer, not a burden. Visiting the shop of your choice will do so much to ease whatever anxieties you have about the procedure, eliminate much of the confusion and/or miscommunication that can sometimes happen online or over the phone, and more importantly, a visit will give you the opportunity to meet the staff and ask whatever questions you might have.

Whether you visit Queen City or not, it’s really important to go to a reputable shop that knows what they’re doing, practices safety, conducts themselves professionally and takes care to make sure that you leave with something that you cherish, not regret. Remember, a tattoo is permanent; you want to make sure that you do it right. And while a piercing may not be permanent, there is a big difference in the result that you’ll get with a trained professional, both aesthetically and hygienically.

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Southern Hospitali-TEA There’s something about the South that I love, and when it comes to barn sales and markets, I will be the first person to attend. A few years ago, I decided to do my first BIG market in Hartsville, Tennessee, at Starlite Farm, which is just an hour from Nashville. My friend and I packed up my shop and headed down to the fall market with the excitement of being part of this show, and to meet Christy Jo, the creator and brains behind the Strawberry Patch. I truly admire and love everything about Christy and her ability to build a barn business from the bottom up, when no one was doing it at the time. She puts her heart and soul into this show, and has many followers who love her unique style and passion for her budding business.

- Yvette Morgan

Tell our readers a little bit about yourself and where you’re from?

Hi, I’m Christy Jo, mommy to three children and a doggy named Stella. I’m from a small town in Tennessee called Hartsville, which is where I currently live.

What inspired you to start your barn sale business?

In 2010, after twisting a few arms, I began hosting a glorified yard sale in my backyard with a small group of girls who have since become my best friends. I’m proud to say that it was the first barn sale of its kind in the state of Tennessee! We quickly outgrew my backyard space, so in the spring of 2011, we decided to step things up a notch and move the sale to my family’s farm in Hartsville. Starlite Farm is approximately 200 acres and is nestled in the rolling hills of Trousdale County right on the Cumberland River. It is one of the most beautiful farms I have ever seen and my heart yearns to be there.

Tell us where you came up with the name of your market and your mobile tea business?

I started sewing and “making” back in 2003 after I quit my job to be a stay-athome mom. I always loved “fruity” names and always wanted my own strawberry patch, so hence the name of my business.

The Strawberry Patch (TSP) Barn Sale has become the main event on this farm and in my life. It is an indie-arts and design type outdoor marketplace. I put my heart and soul into this show and I look forward to each one! I strive to find artisans who have a creative and unique style and are passionate about what they do. I know you will love TSP Pop-Up Sale and everything it has to offer!

I have to give credit for my tea business name, Fruit Tea Chicks, to my daughter, Kailen. I had tossed the idea around about starting a tea business for quite some time. In fact, I recently found a journal entry from back in 2009 where I talked about wanting to sell tea at my barn sales. The dream kind of fizzled out and then resurfaced a couple of years ago when I decided it was time for my children to learn how to work and make their own money. The “chicks” were my two daughters and my friend Janis Dooley’s daughter, Mary Grace. It was going to be their own little business at TSP. Last spring, I finally decided to was time to put the vision into reality. However, it quickly became my business and not the kids’. They weren’t as ready to work as they thought. So, I started buying equipment, booking shows, and getting my product out there. My first year proved to be very successful, so I decided to invest in a vintage-inspired mobile camper so that I could make tea onsite instead of making it all at night after the event was over. This has made the experience much more enjoyable and lucrative. I’m currently in the process of bottling my tea so that I can sell it to small specialty stores and boutiques. It’s an exciting time for me!

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Any tips or advice to share with other women who want to start a business?

Start small but aim for the stars!

How do you think the barn sale business has changed over the last five years?

I have seen the market in my area become completely saturated. It’s bittersweet.

It reminds me of the show Friends. They got out before it got them out, so I am currently reevaluating my market plan. (continued on page 62)

Photos by Alissa Saylor, Angela Vaden, & Keshia Wright

What is the most challenging obstacle you face as a barn sale promoter?

Staying unique and being different than my competitors is a constant struggle!

It’s also become increasingly harder to keep “market” goods out. I want my market to be strictly handmade and vintage with the exception of the three boutiques I let in. It’s hard for a handmade artisan to compete with the prices of market goods.

Barn sales are popping up everywhere it seems...How do you separate yourself from other markets and keep yours fresh and new?

I have talented members on my team that help me brainstorm for every event to come up with different props and themes for every market. I have staple props, like my Volkswagen and my dog, Stella, that are signature TSP pieces, but I try to make it fresh and exciting at each event.

Who inspires you to keep going?

My children. They keep me on my toes and give me the drive to provide.

What do you do personally to take care of yourself and relax?

I love to garden and decorate. It’s my therapy, although I don’t seem to get to do it much right now. My house, my yard, and my studio at the farm are my happy places.

Do you have a hobby?

I also love trying new restaurants and traveling. I was fortunate enough to backpack the east coast of Australia for four months in ‘98, and I hope I can instill the traveling bug in my children, as well. Traveling abroad is so educational on so many different levels.

True fr iends are never apart. Maybe in distance, but never in heart.

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Paradise

in Our Backyard

We met Jayme Bidamin, owner of Paradise Nails at an event hosted by the Wabash Activity Center. We connected by talking about the magazine, and I just love driving by her quaint salon on South 25th Street. She recently purchased the building and has it looking just amazing!

You can follow Jayme on Facebook @ParadiseNailsbyJayme, or contact her at the number listed below!

Tell us a bit about yourself and how you started Paradise Nails?

I’ve been doing nails for 16 years. I always rented a booth at salons until I drove by and saw the little building empty and said to myself “That would be perfect for me!” Wasn’t in the greatest shape, but the owner did a few things to make it workable for 10 years. He finally let me buy the building last year (after I asked from day 1 to buy it) and since then I think we have made it look amazing!!!

What services do you offer?

I offer Tammy Taylor acrylic nails, Gel polish, manicures, and spa pedicures.

You recently purchased your building… what things have you done to make it “your own”?

Well, I have totally redone it, minus the roof! Lol. It doesn’t even look the same as before inside or outside!!

You’re a busy mom…how do you manage your business, clients, Nerium business, and family life?

Well most the time I think I’ve lost my mind, but with AMAZING CLIENTS, it makes my nail business easy. Nerium is very easy to manage. I work it on the go most the time. All from my phone!! My family adjusts well to crazy, so I think it all runs as smooth as it could. I love what I do, and my family is very supportive!

My kids like working the Nerium business with me. I’ve told them I’m doing it to make extra money so we can get a pool. So they say let’s go sell Nerium!

What advice would you give women wanting to begin their own business?

GO FOR IT!!! It was the best choice I made. I’m lucky to have AMAZING clients that work with me if I need to change up my schedule to be with the kids and their activities. I wouldn’t trade what I do for anything.

Photography by Mallory Eilbracht

If someone would like to make an appointment, how can they contact you?

They can call/text me anytime at 812-240-9794. If I don’t answer, please leave a message.

- Lori Mitchell

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It’s the Friends We Meet Along Life’s Road Who Help Us Appreciate the Journey Honestly, I can’t think of one person, one best friend, who has helped me get through the last few years of life. The truth is, I have had an army fighting with me, and a village taking care of my family and me. Without the support of all of these people, I may not have had the strength to heal from heart surgery, to get rid of the cancer, or to be sitting here writing today.

My husband, Chad, has been my rock. Our parents have done more for us than words can even begin to thank them for; and my sweet therapist, Ruth, taught me so much about God, His love, and His plan for me. I cherish every single one of my friendships and know I wouldn’t be who I am today without them.

However, after spending some time reflecting on the past year or so, I’ve come up with three friends that have been crucial to my recovery. These friends have served different purposes on my journey, but they have all been helpful in getting me through the tough stuff and for that, I am extremely thankful.

I’ll start with my lifelong best friend. We’ve known each other too many years to count. She has been there through thick and thin. She’s seen me on my worst days and been with me to celebrate the best days. It doesn’t matter how long it’s been since we’ve seen each other, we can pick up right where we left off like no time has passed. I know I could call her day or night and she would drop everything to help me. She has loved me through this medical journey and been a huge part of my support network!

The next best friend came to me by the grace of God. I often refer to our meeting as serendipitous— a fortunate happenstance. From day one of our friendship, we just “got” each other. We dream big together, encourage and support each other, and lift one another up in nearly every aspect of life. She completely understands my feelings, usually shares my emotions, and quite possibly is the only person who can talk me through an upsetting or stressful situation. Though we’ve only known each other for a short time, I’m incredibly grateful for this friendship of a lifetime.

And last, but definitely not least, is my cancer best friend. We actually started off as colleagues several years ago and remained acquaintances through social media.

That is, until we were diagnosed with breast cancer. That commonality, which neither of us would wish upon anyone, brought us together. This friend probably knows more about my outward body and all it has been through than even my husband, because she has been through it too. She understands the nausea, the fatigue, the pain, the fear, the hot flashes, the guilt, and the emotion that comes with all of it. She inspires me daily with her strength, with her zest for life, and with her commitment to her family and job through it all. I definitely couldn’t have made it through the last year without her and I am so very thankful for our friendship.

I praise God daily for blessing us with many friends who feel like family.

- Nicole Osborne

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Fall Favorites This time of year is one of my favorites. Maybe because it’s my birthday and anniversary month, or that I love the feeling of change that the season brings.

Most people either dread the fall season or embrace it. Since I’m pretty much a supporter of cooler temps, boots and bonfires, I’ll take this time of year over any season throughout the year.

I’ve compiled a “Fall Bucket List,” which is full of my personal favorites autumn things. I hope you enjoy them and it gets you in the mood for this beautiful time of year.

- Yvette Morgan

20 Things I Love About Fall: 1. Cool crisp air in the morning. I love to grab my cup of coffee and enjoy it on my back porch and give thanks.

2. We have an awesome apple orchard and I love to spend an afternoon with my family and pick apples and then come home and make a homemade pie.

3. I’m a huge fan of anything pumpkin, caramel and latte. So when it’s available at Starbucks or Dunkin Donuts, I’ll be the first one to order.

4. As the days get shorter, we try to spend a lot of the time outside catching the last few glimpses of summer.

5. I love dressing in layers, wearing jackets, sweaters and cardigans. Boutique shopping or attending a barn/market is high on the YES list!

6. I may not know a lot about football, but I love everything about getting together with family and friends making appetizers rooting for your favorite team … totally worth it.

7. My husband loves a bonfire in our fire pit and making s’mores with the kids while talking and laughing.

8. Decorating for the each season is one of my favorite things to do, but as soon as Labor Day is over, I get all my fall decor out and deck the house and patio.

9. Pumpkin carving contest. Make an evening of it and invite family and friends to join in the fun!

10. Soup is a staple in our house, especially chili, vegetable and homemade chicken and noodle. There’s nothing better than coming home from a long day at work and have dinner already done in the crockpot.

11. If you ever get a chance to ride on a Harley and take an afternoon to ride the back roads, I highly suggest it. Especially when the leaves have turned – there’s nothing like the wind in your hair and enjoying the outdoors.

12. Raking a bunch of leaves and jumping in a pile has always been a fun activity for my son when he was younger. But now we are passing that down to my grand daughter to enjoy.

13. Everyone should attend a Halloween party and dress up in their favorite costume and party the night away.

14. Watching classic scary Halloween movies are must in the month of October, paired with all the popcorn you can make.

15. When we have friends over, I usually like to fix a festive drink like a spiked mulled wine. You can’t go wrong and everyone likes it and very affordable.

16. I have a pair of UGGS that I’ve been wearing for some time and if it’s cold, you can bet I have them on with my skinny denim and chunky sweater. It’s the little things.

17. Hot chocolate and rum chata = heaven in a cup 18. I used to work at Bath and Body Works and I absolutely love all the fall fragrances they carry during this season. It’s basically the only time I escape to the mall.

19. Creating and booking fall classes at Charm School Creative Studio. Everyone has so much fun!

20. Fall season premiers on TV are my absolute favorite time to tune in and set my DVR. My list is long, but fall just wouldn’t be the same without 1-20. I hope this inspires you to create your fall bucket list and make lasting memories with your family.

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Re-Fitting LIFE I didn’t care about my health. And wellness was a completely alien concept. I was a pack-a-day smoker who didn’t give any thought to what I ate, and you could forget about trying to get me to exercise. I was a far cry from the once-active high school cheerleader/dancer I once was. I’d always been a curvy girl, but dance had been my everything from the time I could walk. Then 1992 happened.

My senior year of high school, my father was killed in a tragic accident. In addition to this grief, I began struggling with body image issues after a coach told me to lose weight in order to join my college dance team.

I had simultaneously lost two important things: one that meant security, love and safety; and one that had always been my identity and joy. I stopped caring about my health and had an “anything goes” attitude. I gained more than the Freshman 15, and a few years later, I started socially smoking while out with friends at the bars, which quickly turned into addiction.

By the time my husband and I found out I was pregnant years later, I was 130 pounds overweight, had high blood pressure and horrible cholesterol to top it all off. Despite numerous warnings from loved ones and friends, I continued smoking for half of my pregnancy. My addiction to nicotine superseded reason. And despite successfully quitting smoking halfway through my pregnancy, I went back to it after maternity leave.

It wasn’t until I went back to school and did an internship with Chances and Services for Youth, which housed the Tobacco Prevention and Cessation program, that I was given the right tools to finally and forever quit smoking. Shortly thereafter, I was offered the position of director for the very program that saved my life. It was during my time in that position that I petitioned for and – along with an incredible coalition of individuals and organizations – secured our community’s clean indoor air law. Now, the bars in which I developed a smoking addiction are smoke-free.

During my time at Chances, I was introduced to dance fitness when the director hired someone to come to our facility to teach classes. That initial class was the first time I had danced since high school, and instantly I felt I had come home. I began losing the weight that had accumulated all those years.

It’s one thing to turn your life around. It’s another thing entirely to reach back into the darkness you’ve been pulled from and start grabbing the hands of others to bring them along. I have been given the incredible blessing of being able to do just that. My life’s work is also my purpose and passion, and its not just one “job,” it’s two.

Of course, I lived with a lot of guilt from smoking during my pregnancy. I’ve been able to turn that around through my current work as the Director of Baby and Me Tobacco Free. Run through Union Hospital, this program is grant-funded by the Indiana State Department of Health. Through this wonderful program, I work with expectant moms and their support partners who want to quit smoking. Because I’ve lived what they’re experiencing, I’m better able to walk alongside them in a manner that doesn’t make them feel judged, which is something they’re all too used to experiencing.

In addition to cessation support and education, I provide clients with up to one year’s worth of free diapers provided they stay smoke-free for the first year of baby’s life. It is the most incredible feeling to be able to actually hold the fruit of one’s labor, and it’s such a joy to watch these little ones grow and thrive, and to see their moms discover strength within themselves they never knew was there.

Since the program’s inception in October 2013, we have enrolled more than 400 participants (312 women and 93 support-partners). Of the women who have enrolled, 192 are smoke-free, which gives us a 61 percent success rate. Our program also has one of the lowest preterm birth and low birth weight percentages in the state.

In addition to using my experience in quitting smoking to impact others, I’m also able to draw on my weight loss and love of dance. After falling in love with dance fitness through the classes offered at Chances, I decided to become a certified instructor. I still had 75 pounds to lose, so this felt very risky. Questions swirled in my head: “Who would want to take a fitness class with an overweight instructor?

What if nobody comes and all of this was for nothing?” Did I mention I historically have trouble with self-esteem and worry?

But I plunged in anyway. Classes were slow at first, but then grew somewhat.

Around this time I started feeling there needed to be more to these classes, but I couldn’t identify what was missing. I knew I wanted music that would empower my participants, and I craved a positive feel. Enter REFIT®.

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As I was looking for new choreography on YouTube, I came across a routine that I immediately connected with due in part to the fun and positive feel of the song.

The choreography was by three women from Waco, Texas who are the creators of REFIT®. I started plugging in more and more of their choreography into my classes, and my participants loved the change.

A few months later, on a whim, I sent a Facebook message to Angela Beeler, one of REFIT®’s creators, asking her if they had considered branching out to open REFIT® up to other dance fitness instructors. At that time it was only the three of them and a handful of others in Waco. She responded that they were actually about to roll out their new certification process and asked if I’d like to host a training in my area.

On November 9, 2013, Angela Beeler, Catherine Ballas and Emily Field walked into the Booker T. Washington Community Center to train me and 11 other women in the first-ever Indiana REFIT® instructor training. At that time, there were only 75 instructors nationwide. Now REFIT® has more than 2,000 instructors in the United States, Canada and Australia, and Indiana has close to 90!

Now I have the privilege of being one of six instructors chosen as REFIT® REPS. We are responsible for continuing the training process with newly certified instructors, and mentoring instructors who are working to build their classes.

I now have a following of close to 400 people for my classes. They range from 15 to 40 people, depending on the time of year and location of the class. I have been teaching in two locations (Booker T. Washington Community Center and the YMCA) for the past three years.

Photography by Mallory Eilbracht As for that weight loss I’ve fought to obtain? I’ve lost close to 100 pounds. My body isn’t perfect, but I’ve learned to appreciate and love myself and my body right where I’m at. This is something I’m working hard to instill in my class participants, my fitness tribe. This is something my own daughter has witnessed me doing through her tween and teen years, and its paid off BIG in how she views herself.

I attribute the success of my classes to two things: God’s faithfulness to bless what we dedicate to Him, and REFIT® itself. REFIT® is unique in that it’s not just a fitness class, but a fitness COMMUNITY. By embracing our participants as they are –any size, fitness level, walk of life, and belief – everybody is welcomed and every body belongs. We seek to love people as they are and where they are. And when people feel seen and valued, watch out! THAT’S when real change occurs.

I’ve had many participants reach weight loss goals. But for me, the stories of being able to go off of medications for blood pressure and high cholesterol, lowered blood sugar levels, and even the ability to end or reduce counseling sessions is what gets me most excited. That’s the power of a loving community. It’s the “why” behind what I do.

Life is full of choices. The choices of my past haven’t always been the greatest.

Some have been awful. But I’m a believer that God will use the dirt in our lives, to help bring others out of the muck and the mire. And if that’s what enables me reach the women and men I’m blessed to help in both of my “jobs” daily, I’m grateful for the wisdom those choices gave me.

- Carrie Evans

My Teacher Rocks!

When we were looking for nominations for this article, we got several emails about some outstanding teachers in our community.

They all stood out, but one stood out in particular – a teacher that we haven’t had the joy of actually being in her class, but her enthusiasm and caring attitude is apparent in every hallway at St. Patrick School.

St. Patrick’s mom, Devon Kinne, nominated Mrs. E, as three of her boys have had her as their teacher. Devon says that Mrs. E “finds the absolute best in each student and empowers them to be the best that they can be. She practices inclusivity in the classroom without fanfare, so that the playing field is fair for everyone.” She added, “My son has cerebral palsy, and has a hard time sitting on the floor.

Our accommodation in the past has been that he sits in a chair during ‘floor time’, which has been fine and we have had no complaints with that situation.

Without saying anything, she brought benches into the classroom so that there was not ‘floor time’ anymore, but instead everyone was on a bench.”

Devon says that the students in Mrs. E’s classroom have formed a strong community that is apparent outside of the school as well, adding “The respect, care, and love that she demonstrates in her interactions with everyone is something that we should all emulate in our daily lives.”

- Lori Mitchell How long have you been teaching and where did you get your start?

This year will be my 20th year of teaching in the Archdiocese. I started teaching at Sacred Heart of Jesus here in Terre Haute in 1989, took some time off to be at home to with my 2 young children, and then began teaching at St. Patrick School in 2004.

I feel becoming an educator was definitely God’s plan for me, for I never thought about becoming a teacher until I entered college. When asked what I wanted to be when I grew up, I always thought I would be an artist, and then an architect or actually a draftsman. I loved to draw and print words. (That came in handy as a primary grade teacher!) It wasn’t until my senior year high school in the early 1980’s that I realized I was the only girl in the drafting class of 20 guys. That was the longest semester of my life, but with a lot of determination, I aced the class. I felt completely out of my league and didn’t have the guidance to pursue a career path in this field. I know now it wasn’t meant to be.

I hadn’t ventured out too far from home, so when I scoped out the campus of St. Mary of-the-Woods, I fell in love with the entire place. I had rarely been out there and immediately felt at home. I was drawn to the education department and I was sold when it was time to declare a major. I consider my years at the Woods a true blessing. I attribute my years there of undergraduate study the best foundation I could have experienced as an effective teacher.

How many years have you been teaching? Which grade levels?

I have taught 20 years in the primary grades, Kindergarten – 4th. It has taken me 18 years to finally get to teach 2nd grade and I love it! There are so many teachable moments at this age that I find makes my job fun and challenging.

How long have you been at St. Pats, and what keeps you there?

I feel it is impossible for a teacher to thrive without the support of one’s coworkers, parents, and the community around them. It’s been said over and over, but it does take a village to educate each and every child put in a teacher’s path. I am blessed to have such a great support team that has helped me teach here at St. Pat’s

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for 15 years. From the supportive staff all the way to our administrative staff, we truly work as a team for the betterment of our students. St. Pat’s has a unique way of allowing you to become part of family. I am proud to be part of the St. Pat’s Village. I also feel a little luck of the Irish has always helped!

Tell us about the culture in your classroom and your philosophy on teaching.

After many years of teaching, you think one day you will have it all figured out.

For me, I reinvent myself year after year after year. The field of education changes, our group of students change, and our own life experience changes. I guess that is what makes teaching exciting for me. I am forever challenged with what each new school year brings.

The culture of my classroom first and foremost, is that I try to give my students ownership of our classroom. From as little as organization and cleanliness (I teach them to respect the area in which we use to learn), to the discipline and rules we all must follow in order to create a safe learning environment. When an appropriate circumstance arises where I can hold “classroom court”, we as a class determine what fair and just consequences should be enforced for misbehavior. I assign a judge, jury and bailiff to assist me as the prosecuting attorney listen to the witness and plaintiff of actions that have been brought forth. For me, this has been the best way for my entire class to understand life situations and become part of the decision-making process of our classroom. In almost every single case, the students make a spot-on judgement of consequence and the misbehavior diminishes.

them as they grew into the adults they become. It is also quite rewarding when a student remembers you in a positive way and felt I sincerely wanted the best for them.

What is the funniest thing a student has ever said to you?

I do remember some time ago, a child asked me to tie his shoe. Waiting for him to say “Please”, I would say, “What’s the magic word?” He said, “I’ve tried a magic word and it doesn’t work.”

I also implement a mini economy program as a life skill for our classroom. Students fill out a job application and get paid weekly for jobs fulfilled with a bonus for above and beyond. Students get fined for certain infractions and are responsible for saving and spending their earned money.

There are many ways to spend their money on classroom coupons and at the end of the year, we have a large “Market Day” when students can set up a business and learn about how to become an entrepreneur and all that goes with creating a business.

For 18 years, I have spearheaded the school wide “Wee Mail” postal system. I started the program the second year I began teaching and have adapted and changed it through many years. This program gives students, teachers, staff, and parents a great way to communicate to each other through letter writing (which is becoming less used every day due to technology). The 2nd grade classes get to pick up mail, sort, stamp, and deliver mail every week. It’s a fun way to learn and build community.

In a nutshell, the culture of my classroom is creating opportunities that teach life skills and give ownership to the students in our classroom. My philosophy is to bring out the best in each of my students because it brings out the best in me.

Why did you want to become a teacher?

I feel becoming a teacher was definitely a calling. I can’t imagine a better profession, even though I am not a fan of grading papers! Truly, it is a gift to watch kids discover their talents and become the superheroes in ordinary and extraordinary lives they were called to be. It’s pretty wonderful to think you had some time with

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Boss Ladies

HELPING HANDS, TREATING YOUNG MINDS Gibault Children’s Services has changed drastically in nearly a century of meeting the ever-changing needs of America’s troubled boys and girls.

Founded in 1921, as a home for disobedient boys, the Terre Haute institution has provided life-changing opportunities for more than 10,000 children and their families. The treatment center’s main objective is to help children grow into productive members of society.

Today, Gibault serves 108 children needing a variety of special needs. This list includes mild emotional disturbances, aggressive and oppositional behaviors, substance abuse issues, and learning disabilities. Some of the children have been victims or perpetrators of physical and sexual abuse or are children with a variety of clinical care issues.

“There are a lot of children who suffer from trauma. Our job is to help these children overcome these traumatic events,” said Malea Crosby, who serves as Gibault’s chief compliance guard.

As a former counselor at the center, Crosby worked individually to help students overcome their traumatic backgrounds. Now she finds satisfaction in establishing and reviewing the institution’s policies, outcomes, licensing and accreditation, records, and overseeing training of new staff members to meet ever-changing job expectations.

“Each work day is different,” she said. “I love getting to see the big picture. I see pieces of one idea come together with another. We have lots of great ideas and it’s great to see how everyone works together as a team to complete the project.”

Meanwhile, as Gibault’s president, Michele Madley focuses on improving relationships between the organization and its sponsors, along with helping the Wabash Valley community better understand and appreciate the center and its mission.

Malea Crosby - Chief Compliance Guard

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“We wish to continue to participate with other similar organizations toward a common goal of helping those in need. We encourage outside organizations to tour our facility so that we can share our mission and permit others to see the great work we do daily,” said Madley.

Throughout 25 years of working at Gibault, Madley has overseen the Terre Haute campus, as well as group homes in Shelbyville, Indiana and a nursing home facility in Carmel, Indiana. She is director for the National Association for Children’s Behavioral Health and routinely works with state legislators and the Department of Children’s Services, through the Indiana Association of Resources and Child Advocacy, to improve the treatment of children throughout Indiana. Madley also ensures that Gibault follows all federal and state accreditation procedures.

Indiana witnessed an increase of 10,000 children in need of services provided by Gibault and other agencies in 2016, according to Madley.

“The resources to assist children have to be readily available. We must educate legislators about our operations and the struggles we face in making those decisions that directly impact our students. No one has a crystal ball to see what the future holds,” she said.

But, while it is difficult to accommodate each student’s specialized needs, Madley is blessed to work for an organization that “feels like family.”

“Gibault has many dedicated and professional staff members,” she shared. “Every day is not the same and it keeps all of us busy and focused. I have a team that focuses on organizational health and the future of Gibault. Our goal is to make sure Gibault continues long after I am no longer here.”

Learn more about Gibault Children’s Services at www.gibault.org.

- Kasy Long

Michele Madley - President

Want to Take Your Business to the Next Level?

Start a Blog!

I have been an entrepreneur and have owned my writing and editing business for the last five years. The question I’m most often asked is how I was able to start my own business.

It was a process that took place over several years. But when people ask me how they can do the same, I always say the same thing: start a blog.

Before we go into the reasons why a blog will help you, let’s first define the concept. A blog is a regularly updated website or web page, one typically written by an individual, and is written in an informal or conversational style. If you go to your favorite business’ website, chances are there’s a “blog” link on the site that has insider information about the company, products and helpful tips for the customer.

Blogs are not new. But many people think of them as personal websites, and don’t realize how helpful they are for businesses, too.

If you want to start a business – or build your personal brand – here are four reasons why writing a blog will help you accomplish your goal: Blogs help people get to know the person behind the business.

There’s an old saying that people do business with people. While we certainly buy things because we need (or want) them, where we choose to put our money is a decision more based on preference than necessity. Blogging is a great way to introduce yourself to your customers. Let them go “behind the curtain” and tell them about yourself, and give them a behind-the-scenes look at the inner-workings of your business. Remember, most of the time we do business with someone – especially small, local businesses – it’s because we want to support the person behind the brand.

Blogs are great for SEO. And by SEO, I mean search engine optimization.

This is when you type a word or name into a Google search, and a page of relevant results comes up. What’s happening behind the scenes is Google (or any other search engine) is mining all the websites for popular words and topics, and pulling up the most relevant sites. Having regular blog content is one way Google deems your website as important. Having a lot of words in your content that people are searching for also helps. And including your location is key! So, if you’re a financial planner for women in Terre Haute, you want to make sure you use words in your blog posts like Terre Haute, Indiana, women, financial planning, finances for women, etc. This brings your blog – and you – front and center in search results.

Blogging is easy and inexpensive marketing. It’s pretty simple to start a blog. There are a variety of platforms available (WordPress, Blogger, Squarespace, Weebly) that are either free or have very little cost. The sites are easy to set up and have pre-created templates that do not require an HTML web programmer to create. This leaves you with the time to write and create content. Once you have your posts written, don’t forget to share them on social media. Sharing your posts on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter helps you build your audience and brand. It also gives your readers a chance to share the content through their social networks, which, in turn, builds your audience and gets your name and writing exposed.

So, if you’re ready to take your business or brand up a notch, I encourage you to start writing a blog. You’ll be surprised how, over time, it will transform your life.

- Leah Singer

Blogs build brand identity. If you want to position yourself as an expert in your given niche – whether it’s interior design or financial planning – blogs are a great way to do this. You want to write and share content that showcases your strengths in business, while helping others learn. For example, if you’re an interior designer, write blog posts that focus on how to redesign your living room for fall, or how to give your home an inexpensive makeover. How about a post that includes your favorite stores for buying home goods? Blog content like this helps you showcase your knowledge and gets people coming back to learn more from you.

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Fashion-ABLE: Branded Collective Please tell our readers a little about yourself and your business?

What do the numbers and letters mean on the jewelry?

My name is Lauren Carpenter, and I’m a social entrepreneur living in Nashville, Tennessee. I started BRANDED Collective in 2012 with my friend and co-founder, Emily Mahoney, and it has been an adventure! We actually started selling tshirts and have morphed into a jewelry company over time. We provide job training and employment for survivors of human sex trafficking, teaching them the art of jewelry making, administrative skills and also setting goals with them as they move forward in their careers. I LOVE my job and feel so blessed to do it!

Each item that we sell at BRANDED Collective is stamped with initials and a number. The initials represent the survivor who made the piece, and you can actually read a little bit about that person by visiting the “Survivors” page on our website and clicking on her initials. The number is the number of pieces that we have made and it also becomes your unique number in our collective of abolitionists.

You can actually register your number on our website voices.brandedcollective. com and share a message of hope with the survivor who made it. We love reading through these. If you have a minute, go check it out! Our collective voices are so inspiring and empowering.

Tell us your “why” and “hope” for your company?

Our mission is to empower survivors of trafficking through meaningful employment and economic independence. We hope each employee will be inspired to rediscover the dreams she has lost and be motivated to go forth and pursue them.

We also seek to unite a collective of survivors and patrons to advance the abolition of human trafficking.

So many of us are unaware of the extent of sex trafficking in the United States. What can you tell us about it?

The sad fact is it’s happening all around us, in large and small cities alike - all across the country. It’s the second largest and fastest growing crime on earth after drug trafficking. It’s estimated that 600,000 - 800,000 people are trafficked each year, half of them minors under the age of 18, and 80% of them female.

My city (Nashville) is a hub because it’s located at the intersection of three major interstates and also has a lot of things traffickers look for: tourism, truck stops, a military base, new businesses, and a thriving economy. We are also close to Atlanta, which is one of the major child sex trafficking hubs in the United States. The statistics are absolutely astonishing and the problem is huge.

Protecting the identity of survivors is crucial, but can you describe the process and how it works when you employ these survivors?

And how it creates professional and economic empowerment?

We work with a local non-profit called End Slavery Tennessee (ESTN) that provides rescue, restoration and safe housing for survivors of trafficking. ESTN helps us hire the women who are ready to be employed. We employ two survivors at all times so that we can provide ten hours of work per week to each survivor and really make a deep impact in her life. We work with each employee to train them in job skills like punctuality, teamwork and the detail-oriented art of making jewelry.

We are there to help them learn and grow.

For some women, it might be the first time they’ve had a job like BRANDED. So we teach them basic skills that they can use as they move forward in their lives.

One of our greatest joys is seeing women move forward to other careers and being able to provide good job references for them.

Tell us about how you came up with the name of your business.

We wanted to raise awareness about branding, which happens quite frequently in trafficking. Many victims are branded by their captors with a marking, scar or tattoo, which is typically the trafficker’s name, a number or a symbol. When Emily and I first learned about branding, we were shocked and wanted to find a way to redeem the story for those who have been branded. So we ask our patrons to “wear a number to restore a name” and become a part of our collective, which stands against the brutal practice of branding.

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Where can readers purchase BRANDED Collective pieces?

We sell online, at shops around the United States and at events. Visit our website at and can check out the “Shop” page to buy online, or scroll through the “Shop Local” page to see the shops near you sell our products.

What is your hope for the future of your company?

We hope to grow to employ survivors both part-time and full-time. We want to keep adding products and keep branching out into different retail locations to raise awareness about trafficking and cultivate a community of abolitionists. Our longterm dream is to duplicate our model in other states to provide more jobs for survivors who need them.

Who inspires you?

I’m truly the most inspired by our INCREDIBLE survivor employees. They face so many more obstacles and setbacks than I have personally experienced, and I’m constantly encouraged and inspired by how they are able to rise above and move forward with hope and determination.

What advice do you have for families that are going through this with their children?

Be vigilant. Be determined. Contact local law enforcement for assistance and use every single network you can to find your daughter or your son. They’re out there, somewhere, and they need you more now than ever before. So don’t give up!

- Yvette Morgan For more information and to purchase items, visit the BRANDED Collective website at www.brandedcollective.com.

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An Informational Guide to PCOS Imagine you’re sitting in the doctor’s office, waiting to hear results from a recent examination with your gynecologist. You’ve known for some time that something wasn’t right with your body. Your menstruation cycles have been irregular. Your hormones have been imbalanced. You feel tired and you have gained weight for unknown reasons. But, most importantly, you’re suffering from infertility. You desperately want to have a family, but it’s not working out for you.

That’s why you’re here at the gynecologist’s office. You have questions that need to be answered. You postponed coming to the doctor for as long as you could. The symptoms seem like ordinary symptoms that you can ignore.

It’s just a phase and you’ll outgrow it.

But, you won’t outgrow it.

The doctor walks in and delivers the news you’ve been dreading for weeks. But, no matter how you were feeling or the thoughts swirling around in your head, you never anticipated what the doctor was going to tell you.

You have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS). You’re a young woman—seemingly healthy on the outside—but now you have a syndrome that will greatly affect you, both physically and mentally.

Your first question is, “What’s PCOS and how can I treat it?”

PCOS is a health condition that affects nearly 10 million women in the world.

When I first heard the statistic, I was shocked at how many women suffer from this illness. PCOS is often referred to as the “invisible syndrome” because the signs and symptoms aren’t visible to others. A woman doesn’t look sick when she has PCOS. Similar to mental illnesses, PCOS occurs within the body. It’s easy to hide the warning signs and cover up the pain for others. Patients can lead seemingly normal lives, but at the same time, they are battling a severe health condition that is a secret to their friends, family and loved ones.

While the exact cause is unknown, the syndrome is considered to be a hormonal problem. Genetics and environmental factors are involved in the development of PCOS. It is the leading cause of female infertility and is responsible for a number of symptoms that can affect the body. For example, women suffer from uncontrollable weight gain, fatigue, unwanted hair growth, thinning hair on the head, acne, mood changes, pelvic pain, headaches, sleep problems, and infertility.

Symptoms may begin shortly after puberty. Because the symptoms are common to other illnesses, PCOS is often undiagnosed. Women ignore the warning signs of PCOS because they think they are just going through a phase or they will outgrow it. A woman might think she is simply maturing during her puberty years and isn’t on a “regular” menstruation schedule yet. However, these symptoms shouldn’t be ignored. If PCOS is left untreated, women will suffer from diabetes, heart disease, stroke, endometrial cancer, abnormal cholesterol, obesity, and sleep apnea. Those are incredibly scary health conditions that can easily be prevented if a woman would seek treatment.

It’s no secret that every woman is different. Our bodies differ, so while PCOS is the leading cause of female infertility, not every woman with the syndrome will have the same symptoms. Some will experience more weight gain than others, as well as more unwanted hair growth. Some women with the syndrome are able to conceive naturally, but for others, seeking fertility treatment is the only option to conceive a child (see side bar for more information).

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Doctors offer multiple medications that treat the symptoms associated with PCOS, including the irregular periods, acne, excess hair, and elevated blood sugar.

There’s no cure for PCOS, but treatment is available to ease the stress associated with the syndrome. In addition, losing as little as five percent excess weight can help women ovulate more regularly and lessen other symptoms. In my experience, it’s difficult to lose weight and keep it off, but it’s important to continue the effort and develop a regular exercise schedule to help reduce the risk of developing the serious and life-threatening health conditions.

I recommend speaking to your gynecologist immediately if you are experiencing any of the symptoms linked to PCOS. If you have irregular menstruation cycles or suffer from unwanted hair growth, fatigue, headaches, and thinning of the hair on your head, then schedule an appointment with your gynecologist before the symptoms worsen.

September is National PCOS Awareness Month. In order to raise awareness, the PCOS Awareness Association began a national social media challenge, similar to the 2014 ALS Ice Bucket Challenge, called the Lemon Face Challenging. To complete the challenge, take a photo or record a video of yourself sucking on a lemon. The concept behind the challenge is that PCOS “sucks” for thousands of women across the globe. Participating in the challenge shows that you are willing to suck on a sour lemon in honor of the thousands of women who are daily suffering from an uncontrollable syndrome. The challenge raises awareness on this mysterious illness, as there are multiple people who have never even heard about PCOS and its complications for women.

I’ll be participating in the challenge this year. I challenge you to suck on a lemon for a woman in your life who may be battling PCOS. Share your challenge on social media, using the hashtags #PCOS and #LemonFaceChallenge to help raise awareness.

- Kasy Long

Ways to Receive Infertility Help in Terre Haute There are infertility clinics located in the Terre Haute, Indiana area that provide advanced infertility treatment for PCOS patients. Reproductive Care of Indiana (located at 1429 N. 6th St. in Terre Haute) wishes success for each patient. During your first visit, doctors ensure that they will do everything they can to make your family-building dream come true. The infertility clinic offers treatment that includes IVF (in-vitro fertilization), egg donation, surrogacy and more.

Other treatment clinics include Advanced Women’s Healthcare (located at 1530 N. 7th St. in Terre Haute), where doctors specialize in PCOS treatment, infertility treatment, and more.

Union and Regional Hospitals in Terre Haute.

While it may seem impossible when you are first diagnosed with PCOS, there are options available for you to consider.

Follow the Lemon Face Challenge on Instagram at #lemonfacechallenge

PREPARE: Provide women with information and resources COMMUNICATE: Increase general public understanding about PCOS OVERCOME: Help women with PCOS to overcome the syndrome and decrease health problems SUPPORT: Be an organization that offers support and knowledge

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Tricked: A Living Legacy of Hope Gina’s mom sold her to a biker gang when she was 12 years old.

I’m going to let that sink in for a minute.

After her parents’ divorce when she was 8, Gina, her sister and mom moved around about every 6 months, mostly in South Florida. Gina has not one good memory of her mother. What she does remember, however, is her sister crying in the bathtub after her father left. “My mom walked by and said, ‘Well I don’t know why you’re crying, he wasn’t your father anyway’”, Gina recalled, which was obviously devastating to her sister. She did stay in touch with her father over the years, except during her years of being trafficked, but he was careful not to reveal his address, since her mother was so vindictive.

At one point, her mother dropped Gina and her sister off at her aunt’s house to live. They had 3 children of their own, so they never felt really “wanted”, and slept on the screened in porch. Her sister, only one year older, became like a mother to her, making her sandwiches out of saltines and pickles for school lunch. “My great grandmother was my life… when I was like kindergarten age my sister and I would spend weekends and sometimes summers there,” Gina recalls. “She would send us to the church around the corner, and that is where I met Jesus. My Sunday school teacher made Him real to me, and we knew she loved us.” Gina says that is when she accepted Jesus into her life. Within the 2 years at her aunt’s home, they did have the opportunity to catch the church bus on Sundays and it was in the lake behind that church that Gina felt compelled to be baptized. This is where Gina reinforced her faith in God which she counted on later to get her through her ordeal.

thought I could trust him. He offered me a ride home one evening, and I don’t remember why my sister wasn’t with us, but I was scared to walk home alone,” Gina says. She took him up on his offer, and this was where her nightmare truly began.

“He got into the back seat on her right side and another man got in on her left, and he had a pair of leather chaps in his lap.” Gina says, “I knew he didn’t have the money for leather chaps, so I asked, ‘Where did you get those?!” He told Gina, “I traded them for you.” Confused and not understanding what was happening, the girl in the front seat then turned around and started telling her the “rules”. They were a national gang, and Gina was now their property. She no longer had any say over any part of her life – she didn’t own anything, not even her own body, and these people had bounty hunters. The girl was probably in her early 20’s, and she was a few months pregnant. As it turns out, they would have the older girls give the “rules” to the new girls. Gina was 12.

Shortly thereafter, her father picked her up from school and took her to her grandparents’ home. “I had a bedroom and a bed, and there was food, but I missed my sister a lot”, says Gina. Several months passed before they went to court, and Gina’s mom got Gina back. “I remember the judge asking me who I wanted to live with, and I said my dad, but he sent me with my mom anyway.” It would be four short years before she would be bought and sold ten times.

Gina, age 12

Gina and her Father Since they moved around so much, Gina never finished a school year anywhere.

“School was my sanctuary, and I loved gymnastics.” Gina goes on, “I had a basketball coach in Jupiter, Florida, who started a gymnastics team because he knew I really loved it. He made such an impact on me, and I wish I could tell him now.” They then moved back to Daytona, and her mom worked around the corner at a bar, so she’d be gone all night, while the girls were 11 and 12 years old.

“She would give us $3-4, then leave for work around 4-4:30”, and the girls would walk several miles towards the beach to get food, Gina remembers. Her mother would also send them to other bars with her male friends. Because $3 or $4 wasn’t enough money for dinner, they would stop and play pool to try to win money for food. “There was a man that I had played pool with for several months, so I

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“I was scared, but they took me to my house first, to get my birth certificate”, Gina says. She recalls thinking, “ok, this is life now.” The girl told her, “We know where your sister is, and if you try to get away or don’t do what we say, then we have bounty hunters who will hunt you down and bring you back, but one of your family members might die.” Adding, “If you do run away, and if you don’t die, you’re going to get the beating of your life.” When they did beat or torture girls, they would bring the other ones in to see, so they knew what could potentially happen to them.

Gina has always been the kind to sit back and watch others, and she tried really hard to learn from others’ mistakes. She was very careful to do what they said.

The gang, however, had what they called “trick bags”. “We weren’t allowed to say “no” to any member, but if they told you to do something you weren’t allowed to do, then you had to decide what punishment you wanted to get”, Gina says. Typically, that would mean every guy present could have a “turn”, or taking a beating was an option. Gina recalls, “I was very blessed to not ever have to go through that.”

“I prayed a lot during that 4 years I was with the group. But there were times I would get mad at God and not talk to Him for a few days, but that’s what got me through”, Gina says. They went down to Key West first, where they had Gina start dancing to make them money. Then they took Gina out west. One of Gina’s jobs here was to obedience and attack train the Great Dane. Gina didn’t connect with many of the other girls, because they would tell on one another to get out of trouble. There was one girl who got away that was kind to Gina, but she never knew what happened to her. When the new girls would come, and would have an emotionally difficult time with what was happening, they would send Gina in to talk to them and calm them down. “I would tell the other girls you just have to do what they say, you have to decide that you’re going to just live this out”, Gina would tell them. “There’s nothing else you can do… I saw girls dig their own graves, and then I’d never see them again.”

Gina recalls hearing that her mother would actually put pictures of her in the newspaper, claiming she was a runaway. She had no idea her mother knew her whereabouts, but the authorities from three cities knew where she was when she was 13 years old. As it turned out, it was a drug trafficking investigation they were more concerned with. “The police knew I was there, but they needed their drug raid, so they didn’t do anything about me. The prosecutors lost their drug trafficking case.

They knew where I was, but they left me there.” Gina recalls, “All they had to do was come in anytime, there was cocaine all over the house and I was made to do horrible things.”

telling her. “He came to the house with a 9mm in hand and walked me out, and that was it. The other guys were there, but they didn’t say a word”, Gina recalls.

He took her to his home, saying he wanted to marry her, but went to jail within a year for drug trafficking and fireworks (illegal in that state). “I wouldn’t say I was happy at that time, he just really wanted me for sex. But I didn’t have to dance anymore.” While he was in jail, another man took over his drug business and came around a lot.

“My cousin, Carolyn, lived here in the Wabash Valley, so I came here in 1997.”

“Everything Carolyn did was to help others, whether she knew them or not. She gave me a legacy that I can leave for my kids – doing for others”, Gina says. “I lost Carolyn when she passed away in 2009”. She was like a mom to Gina, and her children called Carolyn “Memaw”.

Years later, Gina met the captain of the Ft. Lauderdale Sheriff Department, who also appeared in an Unsolved Mysteries interview for another girl who was taken 5 years before her, and she’s still never been found. “They flew me to California to do the interview, and Captain Carruthers was there, and he was like ‘Oh my God Gina, it’s you’!” He said, “We always wondered what happened to you, we didn’t want to leave you there but we didn’t want to blow our investigation either,” Gina recalls.

Gina remembers being forced to do drugs. “He wanted all of his girls very skinny and would feed us scrambled eggs and cottage cheese. There was a point where a size 1 was too big on me.” She also observed that many of the girls were from troubled homes. They target troubled and vulnerable girls who are hungry for love, and usually girls aged 12-15 are easiest for them to control emotionally. Some misconceptions are that you expect to see a girl shabbily dressed or black and blue, but they don’t give beatings that show. “Most were always extremely well dressed, because having bruises or being poorly dressed would mess with their money,” Gina says. It may be the case for other traffickers, she says, but with them, the beatings didn’t show. “It was more the emotional piece, or if they did beat you, it was on your kidneys where it didn’t show.”

The place that Gina worked in one city was next to a convenience store. “I went in to get cigarettes, and my cousin happened to walk in.” “I was afraid to talk to him for fear they’d hurt him, but he came and picked me up and hugged me”, Gina recalls. She says the fear factor is very powerful, and there isn’t always someone with the girls. They went to stores by themselves all the time, but never knew when they were being watched. The gang would send in ‘plants’ who were well dressed and obviously very wealthy. They would take a girl for a ride in a Ferrari or Porsche and offer us our freedom. However, if you took them up on their offer, they’d take you straight back to the clubhouse where you would endure a beating.

“My cousin took me to my moms, and within a few days, the biker who owned me showed up.” “My mom told him right in front of me, if you take her back, you’ll have to rob the bar I work at and split the money with me”, Gina said. They sat right down at the coffee table and planned it out. Her mother closed at the bar, so she knew where the night’s receipts were kept outside the package store window.

“She had an affair with the owner, so when he caught her stealing, she used that as blackmail so he wouldn’t press charges.” The two got about $386 each, and Gina’s “owner” took her back.

They ended up moving to the north-east coast, so Gina could continue working for him. “I was almost 16. He had someone take me right to the license branch to get my license so I could drive myself to work since I had to commute”, Gina recalls.

“It wasn’t too long before my owner at that time was arrested for a gun charge, and in that state, it was a mandatory year for a gun charge.” But he still had people watching her. Gina ended up befriending the owner at one of the bars where she worked. “He was in his 40’s; I was 16.” “I had never trusted anybody, so it was odd. It was out of character for me, but I just blurted out, ‘Do you think my license says the age I actually am?’” She took the chance that he wasn’t part of the group or a plant, and she told him everything. He pulled out a key to his house, and said “if you want to leave, I’ll help you.” Gina didn’t understand it at the time, but he told her he had Mob ties. The girls knew that they couldn’t go to the authorities, as they were used to ‘service’ politicians, judges, and lawyers, but something told her she could trust this man, though she didn’t understand the depth of what he was

Gina after coming home It was her FBI dad however, that gave her the drive to make a difference. He said, “You have a story to tell and need to take this on like a crusade.” “I’ve wanted to do Living Legacy of Hope for decades, since I was trapped, I just never thought it was something I could accomplish,” Gina says. Her pastor, Jeff Lee, met with her regularly, building her up and really encouraging her to believe that she could accomplish this since she was so passionate about helping others find freedom and healing. “I started researching how to do this in 2012, the 501c3, etc., so everything is new to me and I’m learning as I go.” “I’m really trying to make a difference for as many as possible”, says Gina. She adds, “This is my path now, and one thing I’ve learned is everyone has trials. The intensity of our trials aren’t what matters, it’s our reaction to them.” “We all go through different things… sometimes it’s to bring up the character flaws in ourselves, sometimes we’re put in positions where we can help others through their difficulties, and sometimes it’s both.” Gina said, “The trials I’ve endured have definitely caused me to be more sensitive to others; especially as a mother, I’ve strived to learn to be the best mother possible that my children can look back on their childhoods and know their mom loved and did her absolute best for them”.

One of the biggest points Gina likes to share is no matter what we go through on this earth we can overcome. “If we allow God’s healing into our lives, so that we don’t become bitter or resentful, we can overcome all things. Everyone has their own stuff, it’s what we do with it that matters.”

- Lori Mitchell

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Living Legacy of Hope

Red Flags and What to Do

The priority of Living Legacy of Hope is to bring awareness to human trafficking, but most importantly prevention. The goal is to be able to share with our kids what to look for, and let them know that there are reputable organizations now that were not available when Gina was trapped. There are safe places that help girls get away. Help is needed with LLOH’s website, making Hope bracelets and necklaces to raise money, making brochures, and getting the word out. Gina’s short-term goal is to renovate a safe/restoration apartment where girls can come to attend college or career training while having a sense of family. Then as soon as possible Gina wants to have safe houses where girls can come directly from traffickers to have the opportunity to reach their full potential. Gina believes everyone should have someone to watch them shine, and every child is important. Gina has had the opportunity to speak at several functions, most recently at Toledo University, where there were service providers, researchers, and students from over 30 states and 15 countries. She is looking forward to more speaking engagements, and would like to talk to parents, potentially at schools or through the PTO’s, and has different presentations for different age groups and providers. Internship inquiries are welcome, and Gina can be reached at legacy1hope@live.com.

The most important thing we can do is talk to our kids, and if anything like that happens, get to a phone no matter what someone tells you or what threats they make. Many threats are made so they’re too afraid to call, but they must call. Most of the children taken into trafficking are taken by someone they trust, but children taken by strangers does happen as well.

Sometimes you’ll see a man and/or woman acting odd. Don’t let children wander a store without you not only because of trafficking but there are also reports of children being led away and hurt or killed. Use your instincts. If you have red flags going off, don’t ignore them. Many of us are afraid to be rude, but at the same time if you have a gut feeling, it’s ok to be rude, don’t make yourself a victim.

The Polaris Project is a leader in the fight to eradicate human trafficking. Their model puts victims at the center of what they do, helping survivors restore their freedom, and preventing more victims. They use data and technology to pursue traffickers where they operate. They provide the National Human Trafficking Hotline, 1-888-373-7888, as well as an option to text BeFree (233733) if you find yourself in a trafficking situation. To find out more, visit www.polarisproject.org.

Gina’s Makeover Photo by Joseph Andrew

At Haute Life, we want to recognize women that have gone through the worst possible things in life, yet continue to persevere and reach out to help others.

We wanted Gina to not only feel great on the inside for sharing her story, but feel like a new person on the outside, while she prepares to speak at many functions.

Cheryl Salyers from Serendipity Salon took time out to meet Gina, and make her feel beautiful again.

Gina - Before

Cheryl Salyers, working with Gina

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Photo by Joseph Andrew

Gina - After

Photography by Grace Sarris

Bearing it All Jennifer Christman is just like her mother; she’s a terrible hunter. This doesn’t mean she can’t shoot a gun, because she can and she’s talented at the craft, but she can’t bring herself to kill innocent animals. After all, as her mother always taught her, Christman should love and respect all animals. So instead of hunting, she turns to another practice—target shooting.

Students receive the Basics of Pistol Shooting handbook, NRA Gun Safety Rules brochure, and take the Basics of Pistol Shooting Examination. At the end of the course, each student will receive a NRA basic course completion certificate. Registration fee for the course is $100.

It’s through family that Christman learned how to shoot a gun—from her father, grandfather, and uncle—and a love of the outdoors brought her to the exciting sport of target shooting. She began attending competitions at seven years old, and bringing home prizes for her precision rifle marksmanship.

“I have always loved improving my skills and enjoying the camaraderie that shooting sports has given me over the years,” she said.

Christman is sharing her love for target shooting through Bear It All Arms Training, which she founded in Rosedale, Indiana in 2016 after being laid off after working at a company for over 12 years.

“It really got me thinking about what I wanted to do in life. I have always wanted to do something meaningful that would help people. Bear It All Arms Training is my opportunity to do just that,” Christman shared. “I took my love for shooting sports and decided maybe I could make a career out of it. I hope that by educating people how to properly handle and shoot firearms in my Basics of Pistol/Carry Concealed classes, or by teaching them how to avoid possible threatening situations all together, I could possibly help to save someone’s life.”

Besides offering classes covering the basics of pistol and carrying concealed firearms, Christman holds a National Rifle Association (NRA) Instructor Certification (and she hopes to add more certifications each year) to provide Refuse to Be a Victim seminars that teach people how to avoid possible life-threatening situations. Her classes are open to any person seeking information about how to handle guns and learn self-defense skills.

“You stand a much better chance of preventing a criminal attack if you develop a safety plan before you need it,” Christman shared. “I provide easy to understand methods that you can use to increase awareness and prevent a criminal confrontation.”

Her 2-4 hour seminars provide the tools needed to develop an individual’s own safety strategy and avoid dangerous situations, including information about the psychology of the criminal mind. There are tips and strategies for home, workplace, and travel situations; lessons covering phone, automobile, and technology securities; and, providing self-defense tools and training options. These topics pertain to men and women, and young adults to senior citizens.

The seminar registration fee is $35 per person.

Christman’s Basics of Pistol course teaches the basic knowledge, skills, and attitude for owning and safely operating a pistol. This six- to eight-hour demonstration includes classroom and shooting range instruction, giving students an opportunity to shoot revolvers and semi-automatic pistols in a safe environment. Students learn the NRA’s rules for safe gun handling and operation, shooting fundamentals, range rules, and shooting positions. Other important topics include an in-depth description of the parts of a pistol, information about ammunition, how to clean a pistol, and opportunities for skill development.

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Describing her position as a female instructor in a primarily male-dominant field, Christman admits that women are more comfortable with a female instructor rather than a male instructor, mainly because she is able to teach both classes from a different perspective than male instructors.

“I think the fact that I am small in size offers that aspect of ‘anyone can learn to defend themselves,’” Christman said.

That being said, one of Christman’s most memorable moments has been teaching a group of men serving in the United States military.

“I was flattered when they told me they learned quite a bit from my class,” she shared. “Even though they were in the military and were familiar with firearms, the majority of their training is with rifles, not pistols. I have the utmost respect for our men and women of the armed forces, and it’s very rewarding for me to be able to share my knowledge with them.”

In September, Bear It All Arms Training sponsored an event, Shooters for Hooters, at the Blanford Sportsman Club in Clinton, IN. Proceeds from the successful event benefited P.I.N.K. of Terre Haute. In all, a donation of $1,500 was presented by the club. (pictured at right)

- Kasy Long

For more information about Bear It All Arms Training and to register for an upcoming class, visit: bearitallarms.wixsite.com/training

Ways Women Can Protect Themselves Jennifer Christman, owner/founder of Bear It All Arms Training, offers the following tips on how women can protect themselves: Awareness: True self-defense begins long before actual physical contact takes place. Be aware of your surroundings and situations. If you are aware of your surroundings and situations, you are a lot less likely to ever be attacked. A criminal’s primary strategy is to take advantage of the “act of surprise.” Studies show that criminals target people who appear to be unaware of their surroundings. Being aware of your surroundings and looking people in the eye shows the criminal that you have seen him/her.

If you find yourself in a situation where you feel like you’re going to get attacked, make as much noise as possible. Scream as loud as you can to draw attention.

Trust Your Gut Instinct: Listen to your instincts in every situation. Your subconscious feelings will tell you whether a situation poses to be a possible threat.

Don’t ignore those instincts. Either leave or look for a way out of the situation as soon as possible.

Get Training: Christman cannot stress this point enough. Find self-defense training that best fits your needs. With proper training, you will not only feel more confident, but you will exhibit that confidence. Criminals are on the lookout for possible victims that are uncomfortable or not confident within a situation. There are so many options for training available, like Bear It All Arms Training. Find out what courses/seminars are right for you and commit to attending those sessions.

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Terry Ball 15 South 16th Street Terre Haute, Indiana 47807

Free Estimates 812-244-9565 otbc1998@yahoo.com Facebook: On The Ball Cleaning

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We’re Thankful for Our Contributors....

I’ve been reflecting a lot on gratitude lately with the tragic hurricanes that affected the southern portion of the U.S. this fall. I’m grateful I have a home with my family, and that I’m experiencing new adventures in life with the people I love most.

-Kasy Long

I am grateful for the most beautiful life that God has given me.

-Nicole Osborne

I’m very grateful for my spiritual growth.

-Yvette Morgan

I am grateful for my awesome dogs.

-Candi Snyder

I’m grateful God loved me too much to leave me where He found me, and that I can use my life-experiences to help lead others to health, happiness, and restoration.

-Carrie Evans I am grateful I was given the chance to move to an entirely new state, experience a new way of life, enjoy snow and a real fall, and make new friends.

-Leah Singer I am grateful for my family and friends who support and encourage my dreams.

-Mallory Eilbracht Right now, I’m really am thankful that I’ve been able to have a good relationship with my family and actually become friends with my parents as I get older. I’m thankful for how they support my dreams and business.

I am very grateful for Chi Omega.

-Grace Sarris -MaryAnn Millard I am grateful for my family - their love and support is essential to my well-being.

-Kristy Robb I am grateful for my family and friends, a healthy daughter, and the ability to run my own business.

-Lori Mitchell

I grateful that I am able to share my love of art with the community and that I have the support from my family to continue to do so.

-Angela Tapy

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21 Day Gratitude Challenge Won’t you join us for our Haute Life Magazine 21 Day Gratitude Challenge?

Here at HLM, we’re grateful ALL year, not just the month of November. But we thought we’d challenge you with some unconventional and creative thinking… sharing what it means to be truly grateful.

Starting November 1st, share with us your answers to these questions daily on Facebook and Instagram @hautelifemag, and be sure to #HLMgratitudechallenge!

- The HLM Team Day 1: What memory are you grateful for?

Day 2: What is one negative thing that happened to you last year that you are grateful for today?

Day 3: What is a gift you have been given that you are grateful for?

Day 4: What is a talent you are grateful for?

Day 5: What about your body are you grateful for?

Day 6: What holiday are you grateful for?

Day 7: What nostalgic item in your house are you grateful you haven’t thrown out?

Day 8: What daily routine in your life do you normally hate but you’re grateful for today?

Day 9: What family tradition are you grateful for?

Day 10: What smell are you grateful for today?

Day 11: Which school teacher are you grateful you had that helped you become the person you are today?

Day 12: Which food item are you grateful you can enjoy today?

Day 13: What sound are you grateful for today?

Day 14: Whose shoulder have you cried on recently that you’re grateful for?

Day 15: What in your local community are you grateful for today?

Day 16: What is something about your heritage that you’re grateful for?

Day 17: What is something about your job that you’re grateful for?

Day 18: What technology are you grateful for?

Day 19: What friend/family member are you grateful for today?

Day 20: What is something you’ve done to help others that you are grateful for?

Day 21: What is something you are grateful for today that you weren’t grateful for 21 days ago when you started this challenge?

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night before you fall asleep,

give heartfelt thanks for the

wonderful day you just had, no matter

what kind of day you had.

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the next day, and intend that it is

going to be wonderful.

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that is

going to be the best day of your life.

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that it is going to be filled

with love and joy.

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Then when you wake in the morning, BEFORE you get out of bed, again declare your intentions for the day and give deep thanks as though you have received them all.

As

you do this, you will

begin to create your life deliberately, and you will experience firsthand the power that is within you to create the life you want.

- The Secret

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