Her Story Magazine Issue 5 - April 2018

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Mindset: Your Untapped Genius

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Feminism in 21st Century

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THE EDITOR I can’t believe this is our 5th Edition!

I have had the privilege to meet amazing women and men and feature life changing stories of individuals whose strength and resilience is truly inspiring.

I have learnt that growth often looks and feels different from what we envision, the right perspective is necessary to recognise growth and mindset is key to maximising it.

2019 is definitely a year of manifestation of years of labour in places of obscurity and anonymity. It’s a time to stretch forth and conquer new heights that seemed impossible.

May we move forward with unwavering courage and determination to see those things fulfilled and make impact in society Am thankful for all the contributors who work tirelessly to write great content, to women who share their stories and our precious readers who keep us going.

We look forward to your feedback as we love hearing from you!

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Born in the early 1970’s to a 17-year-old mother in North West London. My father was not absent but didn’t live in the same house as me from when I was about 2 years old but was always available to me and visited on a regular basis. I wasn’t missing male role models; my mother has three brothers, all surrogate fathers at some point in my life. I had a grandfather who would show his love by letting me sit high on his shoulders while he walked with me to the High Street.

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knew it was tough for us.

From the age of 14 I worked in a sweet shop on a Sunday morning to try and buy things I wanted. I would peruse catalogues in which you could pay £2 per week for items over a number of years and this is how I purchased new mirror doored wardrobes with a gold trim, and an abstract patterned foam sofa bed for my room which I was very proud of.

At the age of 8 the best brother I could have wished came a long and my step father some time before that. I lived in council accommodation, starting off in an estate with flats twenty stories or so high.

I held the ethos that I would need to work very hard to get anything I wanted and even then, there might never be enough money at the end of the month to cover the bills. This was not seen by me as negative, neither did I nor have I ever felt like a victim, it was just the way it was.

I am not sure at which point in my childhood I became aware that it was me and Mum against the world, but I think I was still in single digits.

I did ok in school, studied A Levels and then went on to do a series of office jobs. I landed a job in marketing and decided to study in the evening

I know from that point onwards I was fiercely independent, not wanting to burden my Mum with asking for things and definitely not demanding anything that cost money because I

for a degree in business. My Mum had paved the way she had studied for a degree and become a teacher while bringing up my brother and me.

While studying and working full time, I also held

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a weekend call centre job. Life was busy, I saved money and at the age of 24 bought my first flat, I was on the ladder.

Since those early days, I completed my degree part time in the evening, got married, had my daughter, and held various jobs in the field of marketing. In early 2000’s I became interested in coaching thanks to a great friend, strong, inspiring and determined woman Dr Barbara Banda. Stumbling on coaching has been a major transformation in my life. A number of transformations took place from attending coaching programmes which encouraged me to be more self-aware, in particular a programme led by Dr Simon Western who was at the time at Lancaster University and also an e book that I read on living life in Abundance by Davide DeAngelis allowed me to change my attitude and relationship to money and life.

This change created space for me to encourage my husband who had been unhappy at work to seek opportunities more aligned with his values.

He did this successfully and became a college lecturer. During which time my work took off as a Leadership coach and facilitator and I took a Masters degree in Management Learning and Leadership.

This shift and change is at the heart of me as a female breadwinner and the female breadwinner

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experience. My husband’s new role brought in less income and he was happier, my work took off and I was bringing in more income and was also happy. So why worry?

Well certain situations made me realise that I needed to worry...

We never, ever, ever spoke about money. My husband never asked me for any and I never brought it up, it was the elephant in the room.

Plus, I am not proud to say that my ego got the better of me, I’d make big decisions about our home without consulting him, because it was ‘my’ money.

I’d go to a restaurant with my husband and at the end of the meal, the waiter would always give the bill to him, of course. We’d awkwardly crack a joke about it being a birthday treat and never return, or sneak the credit card under the table.

I realised that couples generally don’t want to discuss anything that could lead to an argument.

The sensitive topics are in-laws, household chores and money. I see some of you nodding your heads knowingly. Unfortunately, these things need to be spoken about. Writing my book Rocking Your Role, which is a guide to success for female breadwinners, gave me the opportunity to really explore what it means to be a female breadwinner not just from my perspective, but from others too.

Did you know that a third of all the mums in the UK are earning the same or more than their partner, or are single parents? That’s more than 2.2 million, the population of Paris. The number of stay-at-home dads has also increased to 229,000 - the population of Aberdeen, Scotland’s third largest city.

I have now been married for almost 19 years and been the main earner for a major proportion of that time, here are 5 of my tips to making it work for both of you.

1. Check Your Ego The combination of your role at work and being the breadwinner at home can become a heady cocktail. If you notice yourself thinking that your opinion is the only one that matters, because you’re the one holding the purse strings, it’s time to check your ego.

5. Ditch the Guilt Torn between many roles, such as: spouse, carer, mother, home-maker, career woman, guilt will drain your energy and take away the freedom you do have to enjoy your life and time with loved ones. Guilt is a set of rules that you create, that you decide that you cannot break, it’s time to rewrite those rules.

2. Drop the Superwoman Syndrome Take off your superwoman cape. Listen and listen carefully, it’s OK not to be able to do it all. Repeat after me, it’s OK not to be able to do it all. Get help, get your family to pull their weight or get other support.

3. Talk About Money Don’t let money be the elephant in the room, talk about money with your partner. Decide who manages money, how it’s managed and how you will make financial decisions.

4. Look After Your Spiritual, Physical and Mental Well-Being Your physical, mental and spiritual health are critical, investing in you now will avoid painful derailment of your work and family life later. Take time for you - do whatever restores balance, gives you space to breathe and let go of all the roles you play in life. A retreat is the ideal opportunity to renew and refresh and focus on your goals.

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About the Author:

Jenny Garret Is an Award winning coach, speaker and trainer with over 12 years’ experience of running a Global Business. She is a freeman of the Guild of Entrepreneurs - City of London and was listed in Brummell Magazines top 30 City Innovators 2016

We may not feel it, but the cells in our

“You are what you eat” goes the famous

bodies are constantly repairing, renewing and healing. Your skin, your muscles, your

phrase, but many of us actually think

bones, your hair, your digestive and immune

that the saying is literally true? …

the nutrients from the food we eat. A diet

system are all relying on the foundation of

but don’t just take my word for it, let

filled with processed food and no nutritional

us have a look a little bit behind the

with. With our energy levels low, dragging

science, a basics of nutrition, and how it effects our body.

value doesn’t give our bodies much to work ourselves out of bed every morning. In search of our coffee or sugary breakfast just to get us through the morning. Loosing concentration during lunch time hours, could nap about any time given the opportunity however our sleep quality during the night is not great either.

How many times you have cleaned up your diet, ate whole foods, and noticed almost just after a week, that your energy level goes up, your skin looks more radiant, you sleep better, and you might also have the energy to hit the gym in the morning or after work.

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This is the power of nutrition! It’s amazing

unprocessed, or minimally processed grains,

don’t you think?

vegetables and fruits which are naturally high in fibre, whole-wheat bread, pasta or quinoa.

So, we covered why it is important to have nutritious food, but what does that look like

Unhealthy sources are highly processed

from day to day? How should your diet - and

breakfast cereals, pastries, sodas, breakfast

when I talk about diet in this article, I mean

bars. To help you to recognise these foods, I

lifestyle of eating, not going on and off from

can tell you, whatever comes in a packet, quick

the newest miracle diet plan you googled -

“grab and go” solutions are all pretty much

look like?

going to be processed, including the quick stop at the bakery and grab your morning

To answer that question, we just need to

croissant or cinnamon swirl. These the foods

understand the basics of macronutrients, and

which will raise your blood sugar quickly, only

within those, always try and pick foods with

to drop it back down drastically, causing you

high nutritional value.

to reach for snacks before your lunch break, starting a never-ending circle of hunger,

Carbohydrate, protein and fat are

lethargy and low energy.

macronutrients, (macro meaning large) so these are the nutrients that we need to eat

Most are not a morning people, and like to

in relatively large amount to get the fuel our

snooze as long as they can, only to jump out

body needs.

of bed last minute, shower and head out

Carbohydrates:

without breakfast, because there are lots of coffee shops around work, which can do the job just fine when it comes to providing your

These are the primary energy source for

breakfast.

the body and can be found in a wide range of healthy and unhealthy foods. They also

The good news is, there are healthy options

can be in different forms like sugars, fibres

to prepare even if you are in a rush. You can

and starches. Bread, milk, potatoes, pasta,

prepare some overnight oats the previous

fruits and vegetables, soft drinks and cake.

evening, with your choice of milk, some chia

Carbohydrates provide the body with glucose,

seeds. Once added together your fridge

which are converted to energy to support your

literally does the job for you, just leave it

body function properly.

overnight, and throw some fruit on the top and you good to go.

Carbohydrates have been the enemy for quite

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some time now for people who are trying

You can also buy freshly made porridge in

to lose weight, but you see they can be part

the morning in almost every coffee shop now,

of a healthy diet. What is most important is

you can add healthy toppings, some honey or

the type of carbohydrate you choose to eat.

fruits, I guarantee you will get the energy you

The healthiest type of carbohydrates are

need and your body will thank you for it.

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Proteins:

the subject. If weight loss is your main goal, trying a higher-protein diet is reasonable, but don’t expect it to be a panacea. If you

Proteins are the building blocks of life. That

train regularly, I would suggest increase that

sounds serious doesn’t it? – It is, and some

amount slowly whilst listen to your body, how

of us still don’t get enough of it. Proteins are

it makes you feel, how much is too much and

breaking down into amino acids which are

how much is not enough. Never increase the

helping our bodies grow and repair. It can be

amount drastically, so your stomach can get

found in pretty much every cell in our body,

used to it. Protein takes the longest to digest,

from head to toe, including your muscles, skin,

makes your body work harder to break it

and hair. There are essential and non-essential

down, which is a benefit for sure, but also can

amino acids, and without getting too scientific,

cause an upset stomach if you overdose. Good

our body can produce the non-essential ones.

source of proteins can include many things

However not the essential ones, so we need to

like beef, tuna, salmon, cod, chicken, poultry,

get those from our diets. From meats, seafood,

- you get it any sort of meat or fish, - but also

poultry, eggs, dairy products, soy, quinoa and

eggs, Greek yoghurt, cottage cheese, quark,

buckwheat. These are complete proteins,

chickpeas, quinoa, beans and legumes, nuts

meaning that they provide all essential amino

and soya based products.

acids.

I might add, it is also important that you Including protein in our diet also helps boost

enjoy what you eat, you don’t need to chew

your metabolism, reducing your appetite,

down chicken breast with broccoli every day

therefore it makes you feel fuller for longer.

to loose fat. Choose a source of protein that

These are the reasons why I suggest to all my

you truly enjoy, if it is steak have that, but if

clients to include protein in every meal.

it is fish that will work too. More of a veggie person? – You can enjoy legumes, yoghurt,

But how much protein do we really need?

quinoa and eggs and still get the benefits. Do

“The Recommended Dietary Allowance (RDA)

not torture yourself with options you do not

for protein is a modest 0.8 grams of protein

like, as you will certainly give it up the healthy

per kilogram of body weight. The RDA is the

lifestyle sooner rather than later.

amount of a nutrient you need to meet your basic nutritional requirements. In a sense, it’s

Fats:

the minimum amount you need to keep from getting sick — not the specific amount you

Fats provides essential fatty acids (which our

are supposed to eat every day.” - According

body cannot produce itself) but it is required

to Harvard Medical School. Research on how

to maintain normal structure within the cells

much protein is the optimal amount to eat for

and for bodily processes too. It also carries

good health is ongoing and is far from settled

essential fat-soluble vitamins and is important

and there are lots of controversial articles

for their absorption. Fats found in foods are

out there especially if you decide to google

typically saturated or unsaturated.

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polyunsaturated or monounsaturated oils, you Saturated fats are found in meat and poultry,

know the product contains lots of trans fat.

full fat dairy products, palm and coconut oil,

Avoid those products.

processed foods like sausages, burgers, cakes, biscuits, and pastries.

What should you eat then? I would suggest not to choose fat free products, as most of the

Unsaturated fats include avocado, nuts and

time they’ve added sugar to make them taste

olives.

nicer once the fat has been removed. Instead of pre-made yoghurts, by quality full fat Greek

Now if there was a macronutrient out there

yoghurt which is naturally higher in protein

which has been made the enemy of dieters

as well, top it up with your favourite fruits,

everywhere, fat would be it. Most people

or maybe honey and that will help to keep

today still believe they must avoid fats in all

you full. Get natural fats from fatty fishes like

costs if they would like to lose weight. Let

salmon and sardines, they’re naturally rich in

me tell you, fat won’t make you fat, it is much

Omega 3 fatty acids which have been known

more complicated then that and what type of

and linked to many health benefits. Don’t be

fat you have in your diet what’s is important.

afraid to enjoy your eggs with the yolk (it is a real nutrition powerhouse in there), have your

Now there is one type of fat we need to

avocado, drizzle your salad with olive oil, have

talk about, and that’s trans fats. As I have

a handful of your favourite nuts.

explained above, naturally found fats in food were saturated and unsaturated….so where is

If you choose natural foods, the chances are,

trans fat coming from?

you won’t over eat fats, just be mindful about it.

Not from nature. Trans fats are a by-product of a process called hydrogenation that is

As you can see, all of these nutrients have a

used to turn healthy oils into solids and to

role in our diets, and none of them are the

prevent them from becoming rancid. They’re

enemy, even when you’re trying to lose some

mainly found in vegetable shortenings

body fat. So, what should we take away from

and margarines but unfortunately, they are

all of this? What is the healthy balance of

present most of the following - snack food,

these macros (macronutrients) to help you

frozen pizza, coffee creamer, pie crusts,

with your goals?

biscuits, fast foods, doughnuts and cakes to name a few. Not sure how to recognise them?

I would say start as many carbohydrates as

There are currently no legal requirements for

you can and see how your body reacts to it.

food manufacturers to label trans fats, but

When I work with my clients, I always set them

have a look at the label, on that they must list

up on the highest carbs possible to start with

the ingredients in order of ascending quantity.

(who doesn’t like them?) and we work from

If hydrogenated or partially hydrogenated

there. Start with 50% carbs, 25% protein,

oils are listed early on the list and before

25% fat, this is typically a high carb lifestyle

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plan. If the fat loss doesn’t kick in for a week then we can re-adjust these macros, gradually taking away some carbs. The important thing is, you need to make sure you balance this out on the other side of the scale, so you increase your fat. Look at it like that: carbs and fats are on the opposite side of the scale, so keep your protein the same and don’t increase them too much, but increase your fat, which will give you the energy you need and keep you feeling fuller for longer.

Remember these are guidelines, not rules, each of us are uniquely created, not one body is the same, so do not worry that something worked for a friend but didn’t work for you.

Listen to your own body, try to write a food diary and note down how you felt after certain foods, how quickly you became hungry after eaten. I know it is time consuming in the beginning, but trust me, once you get into the routine, you will know exactly what food you need to fuel your body to get the best results, the best energy, best health and longevity – even with your favourite foods from time to

About the Author:

Eszter O’Donoghue Is a level 3 qualified personal trainer, fitness model competitor with years of experience in health and fitness, passionate about healthy living and training. She has a degree in communication and journalism and has been working in that industry for 5 years. She loves to motivate people around her to adopt a better, healthier lifestyle, and look after their body.

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Since the beginning of education, entering all levels of school to even attending college and beyond, we are taught how to gather, segment and rehearse information. From learning our ABC’s to algebraic expressions, repetition and practice have served us well. When we think about successful educators who made their mark in history, names like William McGuffey and Anne Sullivan come to mind. While we have those kinds of examples of success, a question comes to mind. Where are the successful individuals in history who taught us about the mind? Never have we been taught how to use our genius, our minds and sadly this has been sorely disregarded.

Not only can we learn the basics, our minds have so much power that we can direct ourselves to any higher level that we choose. Popular quotes such as, “Where you mind goes your energy flows” and “What you focus on, expands” are great examples of what we are capable of and creating the results we want.

The mind is an untapped resource. We use our mind in every moment and in every situation of our lives. According to Dr. Norman Fleet, Chiropractor Healer and Teacher, The mind can be broken down into 2 main sections, the conscious mind and the subconscious mind.

The conscious mind produces thoughts, filters

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the information we take in, and can only process one thought at a time. The subconscious mind runs on auto-pilot and is where your beliefs, memories and feelings are housed.

The subconscious mind magnifies our dominant thoughts and greatly influences our actions. So if you have ever asked yourself, “Why do I do what I do” and “Why do I think the way I think”, now you know.

One great example of the differences between the conscious and subconscious minds can be found in a cruise ship. The conscious mind is the captain and the subconscious mind is the sailor.

Anything requested by the captain, the sailor will do, real or synthetic. According to an article written, The Laws of the Subconscious Mind by Tony Robbins, the subconscious mind is 30,000 times more powerful than the conscious mind which says a lot. Think about it, how you ever been sleeping and experienced a nightmare or very real like dream and woke up in the middle of the night sweating and your heart racing? What happened? That dream triggered something in your subconscious mind that was very real and your conscious mind and body accepted it as truth resulting in your physical response. There was no evidence that suggested that you were in any real danger, but your mind thought otherwise resulting in your actions. The subconscious mind is truly a power to be used for our benefit,

but we must know how to use it.

As we continue to uncover the power of our minds and creating the right mindset for success, as the Upgraders, we have developed 3 simple steps to help you on your journey. These steps set your mindset in the right framework accessing both the conscious and subconscious mind to create success.

what it is you want to create. Major success stories such as Arnold Schwarzenegger used this process to become successful. He grew up in Austria and began lifting weights at the age of 15. He would visualize himself lifting weights and becoming a major success in the US. He won the Mr. Universe title at the age of 20 and went on to win 7 titles. Creating what you want to accomplish is a major step in this process.

It’s called A.C.T. A – Assess C – Create T – Take Action

Assess –

When you desire to take a particular action and accomplish a specific goal, it is necessary to assess where you currently are. What are you currently doing, what do you want to accomplish and where do you want to go. It doesn’t matter your current condition, it just matters that you give an account for where you currently are.

This assessment allows you to not only think of what you have done but consider where you want to go. This is a very simple step but very effective.

Create –

Now that you know where you currently are and what you want to accomplish, now it’s time to create. Spend some time ‘in your mind’ creating the process. This step is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. You need to get in a quiet place with a pen and paper and write out your vision. If what you what to accomplish requires additional education, specialized knowledge or even certain certifications, write that down and be very specific. Set a time line (in pencil for flexibility), and visualize the outcome. Feel the feeling of having already accomplished your goal. I mentioned ‘in your mind’. This process we like to call “The Theater of Your Mind”. It’s where you sit down, close your eyes, and SEE 14 |

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Take Action –

This step puts action to your thought process.

Taking action requires faith because you believe that what you want to accomplish is going to happen. Pick up the phone and make those calls. Visit that business, send that text or email and shake those hands you need to shake to get the ball rolling. One thing we need to be extremely careful about is mistaking creating the vision for action. Our minds are so powerful that

when we create a vision and live from that vision, we can have a sense of already receiving what we desire. We need to be mindful that action is required to make it happen. The feeling of accomplishment is so powerful that we run the risk of limiting the amount of work that needs to take place. Just take action, whether it be baby steps or gigantic steps, it will all work out.

As we continue on our journey of uncovering this powerful tool we have, we are astounded as to how much information is out there for us to harness and learn from. The 3 steps listed above will get you moving in the right direction.

So just Assess, Create and Take Action.

Did you know?

Celery juice is loaded with nutritional benefits and does wonders for your hair, skin, and digestion.

Celery contains a large amount of water and electrolytes, making it useful to stave off dehydration, while at the same time helping your body to eliminate unneeded water, also known as diuretic effect. Celery juice is a wonderful drink to boost your glow while reducing under eye puffiness. It’s great for acne and works wonderfully as an antiinflammatory agent.

About the Authors:

All you need is a blender, water and celery. Place celery and water in blender and blend. (you can add green apples and cucumbers to enhance the taste )

Known as “The Upgraders” and Mindset Development Experts, have spent years motivating and inspiring audiences upgrade their mindset, get out of their own way or comfort zones, and instead; get a front-row-seat in life.

After starting their careers in Government, they are now seen as the go-to couple for helping people shift their paradigm from limited thinking and limited beliefs.

Benefits include.

• Reduces migraines • Lowers bad cholesterol • Helps fight free radicals • Helps prevent kidney stones • Helps digestion • Reduces and controls blood pressure • Helps with skin problems

Dexter and Tonya Scott

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My name is

Karen Brown, and this is my story...

Karen Brown is the founder and managing director of Bridge Arrow LLC, a diversity & inclusion consultancy. She is also a published author, global keynote speaker, and career coach as well as a Governance Fellow at the National Association of Corporate Directors. Karen’s recent publications include a popular Harvard Business Review article, “To Retain Employees, Focus on Inclusion – Not Just Diversity.”

When she’s not engrossed in making the corporate world more diverse and inclusive, you can find Karen writing poetry or hosting dinners in her home that bring together highly accomplished career women to share their expertise and experience with one another.

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Can you tell us a bit about yourself and what it was like for you growing up?

fact, my identity was as “Mother or Brother Brown’s daughter.”

The third important value I took from my I was born and raised in Jamaica, West

upbringing is to have fun and be open to

Indies in the Parish of Manchester, and I’m

adventure. There was always music and

the seventh of eight children. My mother

singing in our house. A vinyl record would

was a college educator and my father was a

be spinning on the record player, someone

farmer. My parents were strict, but for the

hitting the tambourine, playing the piano,

most part I had a very positive childhood

or practising on the guitar. My spirit of

experience. I learned a rich set of values and

adventure also comes from moving so often

standards that continue to guide how I live

from the time I was born through adulthood.

my life today. One of the values that stands

My mother’s career had us moving around

out is to strive for peace no matter what.

regularly, and through this I learned the

When there was an argument in the house,

skill of adjusting to different people and

my dad was always the one brokering for

environments. I can slip in and out of any

understanding, forgiveness and compromise.

situation with ease.

It’s the reason I avoid unhealthy arguments to this day.

In my mid-teens, two of my younger siblings and I immigrated to the United States with

Another lesson I’ve carried with me since

our parents. We landed in Queens, New York

childhood is to believe in God and his might.

and made that our home. Soon after, I went

The core principles of Christianity have

off to college to study hotel, restaurant and

shaped so much of my life. For instance,

institutional management and dietetics at

having integrity. I recall learning that all I

Kansas State University. During that time, I

have is my name and reputation, and no one

began exploring the world on my own and set

shapes this but me — with how I live my

out to discover all the states in my new home

life. As kids, we always left the house with

country. My goal was to visit all 50 states.

our heads held high because our parents

I still have three to go, but I know I’ll check

were upstanding citizens, pillars in the

them all off one of these days.

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Are women empowered in your society? And if they are, how are they empowered?

Women are very much empowered in my society. Several of today’s movements stand out, from #Metoo and Black Lives Matter to #OscarsSoWhite. The effects are reverberating around the world. Walls that have barred women are starting to crumble, glass ceilings are shattering. These movements have given voice to the voiceless and blazed trails for others to follow. They’ve shone a spotlight on the impact inequality, unfairness and mistreatment can have on individuals and businesses. And the movements were all started by women — working independently or with others — to impact their communities.

While we have a very long way to go to get more women into leadership roles, we’re making great strides in terms of education and career achievement. Women are graduating with more advanced degrees, entering the workforce and the leadership pipeline at much higher rates than men.

Also, many women are disruptors in their industries, starting their own businesses and challenging the standard products and services we have grown accustomed to.

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in the United States that is changing the

departments such as housekeeping,

way people buy clothing. The company was

restaurant, front office, and marketing.

founded in 2011, went public in 2017, and

After rotation, and depending on your desire

they’ve already outpaced their competitors.

and expertise, you could either stay in one

Immediately after the initial public offering,

department for the rest of your time or

they were valued at $1.6 billion. As of

become a general manager of an entire hotel.

February 2018, the company was valued at $2 billion. In this environment, the only permission needed to chase after what we desire is from ourselves.

What was your first job?

As an adventurous person who had an endless need to learn and be challenged intellectually, I made rotation choices that took me all over the US, and at times I was general manager of hotels. I found that I loved solving problems and was a quick

Compared to my peers, I was a late bloomer when it came to getting a job. I didn’t start working until age 18, after moving to the United States, and the job was as a housekeeper at a motel called the Kew Gardens Inn in Queens, New York City and my job was to clean the guest rooms.

The money allowed me to contribute to the household and help with university expenses.

Tell us about your career journey...

While I was at Kansas State, I began working at the local Marriott hotel in the restaurant as a cashier to help fund my education. After graduating, I joined the management trainee program for the Courtyard by Marriott brand. The program allowed individuals to rotate to different

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learner. I averaged a move to a new hotel about every two years. Sometimes the roles were ones nobody else wanted, and they were in remote locations that did not fit my lifestyle. But I relished these adventures because they hastened my career growth and opened my eyes to new people and ways of seeing the world. It didn’t hurt that each move included a promotion and increased compensation.

But as someone who gets a thrill from solving new and very provocative problems, I eventually found that regardless of how different the location, department or people, the issues were the same. As such, I became very bored. Luckily, after almost nine years with the company, I was privileged to be appointed to a teaching position in the Department of Hotel & Restaurant Management at Norfolk State University

in Virginia. While I taught classes, I also

of my closest friends and champions.

managed the internship program, which allowed me to coach students and secure internship opportunities for them with a myriad of companies across the US.

A few years after I entered that role, the department was disbanded and I was asked to apply for one of several director of diversity positions in a new department that

Soon that role led me to Washington, DC,

was being formed. Not understanding the job

where I went back into operations, leading

description or what “diversity” even meant,

teams of up to 70 for Sodexo, a global quality

I turned down the opportunity. Twice! When

and life services company. I managed the

the same person, a friend, returned a third

foodservice operations in buildings such as

time to ask me to apply, I said yes just to

the National Air & Space Museum and the

appease her. But from the day I started in

Internal Revenue Service. These roles honed

that new role, I knew it was what I was born

my skills in leading teams, managing profit

to do. Almost twenty years later, I still do

and loss statements, and exceeding customer

this work that makes my heart sing. I get to

expectations. In many ways, that operations

influence business outcomes and effectuate

role was just like the roles at Courtyard

change in the lives of people who are

by Marriott — servicing customers and

excluded.

ensuring high employee satisfaction. But deep down inside, the creative part of my brain was no longer stimulated, and tedium began to set in. Given my years of frontline

What has been the biggest challenge with work and business overall?

experience working with our customers, I was tapped to fill a marketing role in the corporate marketing department.

One of my challenges has been effectively managing office politics and difficult personalities, especially those with great

There I flourished, especially in the gentle

power and influence. Sometimes you have

guiding hands of my supervisor, Wendy Jean

to work with people whose personalities or

Bennett. I learned valuable lessons such as

behaviours run contrary to the respectful,

how a leader can still be her authentic self,

caring and warm culture you want to create.

how to give feedback so that it’s received as a

And when these individuals are revenue-

gift, and how to build relationships with your

generating or cost-cutting types, they are

team while not compromising your role as

lauded and allowed to mow over others.

their leader. Today Wendy Jean remains one

Personalities like that are a challenge for me,

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especially given that I was raised to be kind

in the minds of leaders who have the position

to others no matter what. But I’ve learned

and power to make a difference for someone

to manage these situations by finding others

and in the minds of emerging women so they

who can advise me — people I can be honest

know they can matriculate to any level they

with and who I trust. These confidants may

wish. And lastly, I want to plant seeds of

be inside or outside the organisation I’m

possibility in the minds of young girls and

working with, and many of them sit on my

boys about the role they play in creating a

board of directors.

world that’s equitable for women and men.

What three tips would you give young ambitious women and young businesses?

1.

How do you spend your free time?

Be clear about what makes your heart

sing. Find out what you love to do. There

Exercising — I love to exercise and do so

are signals all around telling you what your

daily by performing weightlifting and yoga to

passion is, whether they come from family,

aerobics, Pilates and travelling the world. My

friends, peers, bosses, or even strangers.

goal is to visit all 196 countries as recognised

2.

by the United Nations. I’ve gone to about

Focus on quality over quantity when

it comes to the people you surround yourself

60 countries on six continents so far, and I

with. Identify people you can go to in both

have a long way to go. I also love allowing my

the challenging times and when it’s time to

mind to wander. Think of carrying a log on

celebrate.

your shoulder and reaching a stream where

3.

Put yourself first — prioritize your

own wellbeing and needs over your career.

Taking very good care of yourself allows you to give to others.

What drives you?

An insane yearning to connect people to people, and people to things, so they are emboldened to make decisions that manifest their dreams. I also have a desire to plant seeds of possibility in the minds of others —

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you put the log down and watch it float downstream, To me, daydreaming is like that - Freeing my mind, I allow new ideas to creep in.

I love to learn, you can always catch me with something nearby to read, attending a talk given by world experts or going to the theatre.

What principles do you live by?

What’s next for Karen?

“Surrender to that which I can’t control.”

I’m keenly focused more than ever on living

By living this principle, I avoid worrying

life more intentionally. As such I care deeply

about the future, ruminating about the

about curating friends and nurturing the

past, or expecting others to do what I would

relationships that matter most to me. Also,

do in a given situation. It’s kind of like air

having just published my white paper,

travel. Somebody tells you exactly when to

“Running Circles Around the Ol’ Boys

board, sit, strap yourself in, get up, sit down,

Clubs,” I’m now working diligently on a book

drink, not drink, and on and on. You have

targeted at C-Suite executives. The book

to surrender to the process. Life is like that,

draws on dozens of interviews I’ve done with

more so than most of us realise.

remarkable women in various industries and illustrates how having women in leadership roles empowers organisations to achieve their business mandates.

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V, has prioritized women’s issues. “Sexual equality is enshrined in the constitution, but Morocco is still a patriarchal society,” said Otmani. Making a reality of what the constitution says “is tough.” She illustrated the cultural barrier that has to be faced in dealing with the resistance to equality by referring to the struggle over a new family code with stronger protections for children.

Meet Morocco’s New Ambassador to Canada Souriya Otmani Souriya Otmani was named Morocco’s ambassador to Canada in 2018.

The appointment of a woman should not be a big surprise, as the efforts of the Moroccan government to improve the status of women are nothing new Nor should it be a surprise that she wears Western clothing. King Mohammed V was the monarch when Morocco gained independence from France in 1956. He made his statement on the status of women when, in a public display, he ripped the veil from his daughter’s face.

Education for women was then an issue for him, as women need to be seen, not just be some exotic hidden specimen, they also need to be educated. The Qu’ranic verse that tells us “Read!” needs to apply to women as well as men.

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The authors of the proposed legislation studied various codes, including that of Quebec. Opponents saw the bill as “too Western.” After all, father knows best. Part of the divide is that of the more sophisticated urbanites as against their rural cousins. The two sides were at an impasse, so it was decided to make the King the arbiter. It needs to be understood that Morocco is now nominally a constitutional monarchy, but the King has more actual power than does the Queen in the countries of the British Commonwealth.

Morocco’s government is actually semiautocratic. In any case, Morocco got its new family code, thanks to the King.

Otmani was one of a family of eight children.

“They didn’t have birth control in those days,” she explained. Besides, large families were the norm at that time.

Her parents were themselves uneducated. Yet, her father, a merchant, saw to it that all his children had schooling. As one might expect with eight children, their mother stayed to care for the home.

As a young person, Otmani attended a French school in Morocco, before heading

off to Belgium to attend the Université Libre de Bruxelles, where she earned a degree in educational psychology. Then she returned to Morocco to earn a diploma in law at the Université Mohammed V de Rabat. After that she began her work career at the Ministry of Education. But that was not for long.

In 1981, she entered the Foreign Service as secretary of foreign affairs. A couple years later she was named counsellor, and soon her responsibilities expanded to include among other things heading up a unit to promote women in development. She worked in this unit for five years. Just as her later experiences in Montreal and foreign capitals extended her horizons, so did this experience, which immersed her in the life of people in rural and remote areas. “I was very fascinated by one special development project that was successfully implemented in 11 villages located in the High Atlas Mountains.” The population of the High Atlas Mountains is largely Berber. The villages she worked with experienced heavy snowfalls. “In this project, 98% of the girls attended school.

Micro businesses generated some money income for families. In spite of the hardships they faced, the women were happy with the little they had. They had the great outdoors, the produce from their limited agriculture, and their family and village social life and celebrations.” She noted that Global Affairs Canada has funded an effort to help women in Morocco establish small businesses.

Otmani was also responsible for a program

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promoting the advancement of women working in the Ministry of Foreign Affairs.

As she benefitted from the earlier strides made by other women in the foreign services, this assignment gave her the opportunity to pay it forward.

She began to take her responsibilities abroad in 1995, attending regional conferences and United Nations sessions. That same year she became number two in the Vienna embassy, soon being transferred in the same position to Stockholm. Then back to Morocco to new challenges in the Ministry of Foreign Affairs till her first Canadian posting, as Council General in Montreal in 2004, where she stayed for seven years. After Montreal, Otmani became ambassador to the Czech Republic, then seven years later ambassador to Canada.

Postings as a diplomat immersed her and her family in the cultures of different countries. Seven years in Montreal and the same in Prague provided a substantial living experience in these places, broadening the outlooks of all family members and bringing a multitude of friendships with people across

cultural divides. Her daughter, for example, had no favourite country. “She liked them all because she managed to make friends and really enjoyed living in each of them.” While the Moroccan embassy is located in Ottawa, currently she and her family live in Gatineau, Quebec, across the river from Ottawa. The

She is married to Merouane Sadqi, who was a colleague in the foreign service. Sadqi has been a loyal diplomat’s spouse, assisting his wife in her responsibilities, especially for cultural events. He also keeps busy caring for their daughter and getting her to school.

Sadqi is the only male in the gathering of Arab diplomats’ spouses. He plays an active role in the group.

According to Otmani, the issue of equality for women is no longer top of the agenda in her country. There are expanding opportunities for women in many spheres, as doctors, pilots engineers, government officials, and so on.

She sees the big issue now as that of domestic violence. “This occurs to 60% of wives, according to government statistics.” The government is working to bring in programs to deal with this serious problem.

large home is the official ambassadorial residence, with the Moroccan flag flying out front. In Gatineau, in alignment with her early schooling in Morocco, her university years in Bruxelles, and with her past placement in Montreal, the ambiance is largely French but with various minorities incoluding Arabs and other Muslims. There are two mosques in Gatineau.

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Why is there so much family violence? It appears that this problem is on the increase.

She thinks that the rate of violence may be due to the strides women have made, a backlash by men who fear a loss of their authority which threatens their sense of masculinity. More women are able to take care of themselves now. They are less dependent on men.

About the Author:

Reuel Amdur

Is a social worker and freelancer living in Val-des-Monts Quebec.

Healthy Eating with

Rachael Kearney Rachael Kearney is director at Grassroots Consultants, a Training Coaching and Consultancy with a reputation for designing bespoke programmes with a c r e a t i v e f l a i r. S h e i s a t r a i n e d C h e f w i t h a passion to demystifying cooking and making healthy affordable food accessible for all, she can turn essential store cupboard ing redients into a feast.

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Super Soup!

This soup is vegan and gluten free, the recipe I’ve given you is thick, almost a stew, so if you prefer something thinner, add another stock cube and 400ml of hot water.

I often cook this soup on a Monday, with basic store cupboard ingredients and using up vegetables in the fridge.

You don’t have to be precious here, there are plenty of things that can be added or taken away and you can see so optional extras below. ingredients: (serves 4)

2 tablespoons olive oil 2 large carrots 1 large onion 1 large leek (you can just use 2 onions if it’s all you have) 2 celery sticks 2 cloves of garlic crushed A handful each of barely & yellow split peas 2 handfuls of red lentils Handful of quinoa rinsed before adding Rounded teaspoon of dried tarragon & oregano Few sprigs of fresh Thyme ( or rounded teaspoon of dried) 2 vegetable stock cubes in 800ml hot water 1 rounded teaspoon of marmite Handful of sliced spinach at the end Optional: If you have any butternut squash, celeriac or swede in the fridge you can add a piece to the recipe.

Like a bit of heat? Add a sprinkle of dried chilli flakes.

method: Add olive oil to a large pan, add the sliced onion and leek and cook for about 10 mins until completely soft, add a little water if they start to stick as you want them soft not fried.

Add the sliced carrots, celery, garlic, herbs and any of the other optional vegetables and stir all together.

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Add stock and marmite to the pan, bring to the boil and add lentils, yellow split peas, barley and reduce the heat to a simmer.

You can pretty much leave this soup to do its thing, stir it occasionally until the yellow split peas and carrots have softened and are almost cooked.

Add the rinsed quinoa and cook for another 15 mins until the quinoa is cooked through and stir in the spinach letting it wilt.

Serve and enjoy this is hearty enough to serve on its own or have with a hunk of bread.

Middle Eastern Stew I love this warming stew, I like it best served veggie but you can add Lamb, chicken or a firm white fish such as haddock or pollock to the dish.

Again, this recipe is something I tend to double up on the amounts and freeze for a later date when I’m busy. ingredients: (serves 4)

2 tbsp olive oil 2 tsp ground cumin, coriander 1 tsp paprika & dried mint 2 medium onion 250 ml white wine 2 x 400g tin chopped tomatoes 1x400g tin chick peas 2 chicken breasts or 300g diced lamb 1/2 teaspoon dried chilli (or more if you like a bit of heat) 1 garlic clove crushed Handful of chopped spinach Salt and pepper to taste To Finish: Feta cheese crumbled Chopped fresh mint Pomegranate seeds

method: Heat olive oil in a pan Add the chopped onion and spices and cook on a low heat for 5 mins, until the onion begins to soften and the spices have released their flavour. If the onions become too sticky, add a little water to keep soft If you adding lamb or chicken add it now ( fish or chick peas should not be added yet) turn up the heat and stir for 10 mins making sure everything is coated in the lovely spices and the meat is cooked through Add the garlic, chilli and white wine and allow to simmer for 10 mins until half of te liquid has evaporated

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Add a 2 x 400g tin of chopped tomatoes and some salt and pepper simmer for 10 – 15 mins with the lid on until the sauce has thickened up.

Add chickpeas, rinsed first, and If adding fish chop into chunks and add now, leave to cook for 5 mins.

Add a handful of spinach and replace the lid for 5 mins.

Serve in bowls with chopped mint, crumbled the feta and pomegranate seeds on top ...lovely!

Pesto topped baked Salmon with sweet potato mash This is my go to, quick easy show off dish….great for when you’ve invited someone round for dinner and you’re running late!

Don’t put pressure on yourself, if you really are in a rush a good shop bought pesto will do.

Even better make some in advanced and freeze it in portions here is my favourite recipe….you don’t need a fancy food processor, you can use a pestle and mortar to crush the ingredients or better still use a smoothie maker or food processor and its done a flash!

Put the following in a smoothie maker/ food processor: (serves 1)

½ a clove garlic peeled and crushed with a pinch of salt 1 big bunch of fresh basil, leaves picked and added to processor 1 handful of pine nuts very lightly toasted in a hot dry pan, added to processor 1 good handful of freshly grated Parmesan cheese, add half to begin with and then slowly to taste Extra virgin olive oil added slowly, to taste, you need just enough to get the loose enough consistency.

Season to taste with salt and pepper.

Now cover the top of the salmon in pesto, put into an oven proof dish and bake at the top of the oven for 15 – 20 mins until the pesto has browned While the salmon is in the oven, drain the potatoes, add a little butter and salt and pepper to taste. Put a lid on the pan to keep warm.

method: Heat the oven to 180c Boil a kettle, peel the sweet potatoes, chop into chunks, add to the pan with boiling water on a medium heat until the potatoes are soft (should only take 20 mins).

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Once the salmon is baked, turn off oven but leave the salmon in until serving.

Serves the sweet potato mash with salmon placed on top

Baked plums with lemon mascarpone and pistachio I love this, fresh, fruity, creamy desert, it feels a bit naughty although it does count as one of your 5 a day honest! ingredients: (serves 2)

8 firm but ripe plums (you can use nectarines or peaches too) I teaspoon ground cinnamon 1 teaspoon light brown caster sugar (or ordinary caster or icing sugar will do ) Desert spoon melted salted butter 4 tablespoons light mascarpone cheese Juice of half lemon Zest of half a lemon and a drizzle of honey to garnish Crushed unsalted roasted pistachios

method: Preheat oven to 200 degrees, wash and then cut nectarines in half, removing the stones.

Sprinkle each with sugar, cinnamon and drizzle over melted butter. Cook for 12 mins Mix mascarpone and lemon juice together.

Serve 2 halves per person (1 won’t be enough!) with a spoonful of mascarpone and sprinkled with pistachios, drizzle with honey and a little lemon zest.

Need energy? Then this juice is for you!

Pineapple,Ginger & Lemon Juice ¾ ripe pineapple cut in pieces ¼ lemon peeled 1.5 inch piece of ginger

Instructions.

Juice all ingredients following the instructions of your juicer.

Drink straight away, or let chill in the fridge

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Nut rit ion al v al ue : 1. Pineapple has a serious inflammatory power, boosts the immune system, aid digestion and strengthen bones.

2. Ginger is among the healthiest spices on the earth by having powerful anti-inflammatory and antioxidant effects 3. Lemon is a rich source of nutrients like calcium, potassium, vitamin c and pectin fibre

Her Story: Cherlene Adewunmi Cherlene Adewunmi has been in the Community Association Management and Real Estate Industry for over 17 years, managed portfolios with assessed values of more than 600 million and assisted with the implementation and management of multimillion dollar amenity centers. She is also Founder of a 501c3 Charitable Organization which assists individuals with housing and life application skills.

Where were you born?

I grew up in a small town in South Florida with my step-grandparents. My childhood was hard because my mother was addicted to drugs and my father lived a life of crime. The obstacles I faced early on in life propelled me to live differently than I was accustomed to seeing. School and education were a passion of mine and even though I didn’t have support from family, I pursued every opportunity to learn more and become greater.

Please tell us about experiences that shaped who you are.

School was a refuge from my home life. It was there that I found people who believed in me, it was there that I found help and friends from both educators and students. These experiences gave me a desire to learn and grow.

What was your first job?

The first job I had was as a waitress which I was fired from, because my boss said that I wasn’t good at it. My second job was in Corporate America as a Special Service Representative. In this position I learned to use my problem-solving skills. It was a large company and the division I was in had only a few people to resolve all complaints before complaints reached the owner. I ended up one of the top problem- solving representatives.

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How did you transition to what you do now?

The journey to owning my own Community Association Management Company, Real Estate Brokerage and Real Estate School started when the company I worked for relocated out of state and I had to enter a new career field. The company I loved provided me with a great severance package which I was going to use to further my education. But through a series of life events, I wasn’t able to get another job as fast as I thought and money was running low. I ended up accepting a job I was overqualified for as a concierge but because that was the only opportunity that was presented, I accepted it. Within three months, I was the Assistant Director, soon after, I was introduced to Builders and Developers who were watching my work-ethic and I began my career

in community management, real estate and property management.

What prompted you to start premium solutions Starting Premium Solutions Group was due to being in the industry for more than 10 years, having been trained by great leaders as well as having some of the largest portfolios in the area, I knew I could do better that most companies that was out there. I began to see huge opportunities to apply my problem-solving skills and experience to an industry where people only lasted a few years. I began to look over all I possessed and Premium Solutions Group emerged. Premium Solutions is to provide the highest solutions to any given situation and is based upon my experience.

having a healthy family, with that being said, when I started my own family I made sure to be there for my children. My career path allowed me to be home, attend school functions and work at the same time. As an entrepreneur and hard worker, I always looked for avenues to generate additional streams 2 / 3 of income to contribute to a better lifestyle for my family. My desire is to show my children they can become whoever they want to be if they set their minds to it and for them to push past all limitations to reach their dreams.

What principles have you used to keep your family close and grounded?

My main principles are, “practice what you preach” and “actions speak louder than words”. I’ve learned that as parents we say many things, but we don’t live it. My life is rooted in Christ and because of where I come from and the life I get to live, I want my children to know that Christ comes first, and God is always there to help along the way in this journey called life. I let them know to never compete with anyone for we are all equally valued by God, yet we are totally different. We all have different callings and when we embrace them, we enjoy life a lot more.

You have been married for a long time what has kept you both going strong?

You have a huge fantastic family.

How has this challenged you and what’s the most rewarding thing about it?

Yes, we have a huge family which includes eight children ages 18 to 27, we also take care of my sister who is 20 years of age and we have three grandkids.

At a very young age I always wanted a large family and I wanted to be a great mother. I know now that God heard my silent prayer. Growing up I hated not

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Give two people the same situation and more than likely they will go about it differently. Instead of allowing my childhood and some parts of my adulthood to define me, I chose to press against the status quo. Sola and I have been married for 17 years now and for both it’s our second marriage. When deciding to get married my desire was to build family where there is a mother and father’s voice. Since, we have children from both America and Nigeria this was extremely hard at times but for the most part, it has been amazing. I had a desire to be a mother, therefore I was use to challenges and I confidently accepted my position as wife/mother. With my role came responsibilities, I know how it felt to not have a mother to raise me, so I did my best by praying and

seeking the help of the Lord with this assignment and that was to make sure I had a healthy relationship with all eight of them.

called to do keeps me going, even when tiredness settles in. In these hard times, God has a way of allowing me to see my sacrifices and this always help, preventing me from giving up and giving in. I have an honor of being able to look over the first phase of my life and see the sacrifices I have made and for the most part it has been well worth it, because destinies have been changed for the better.

I truly believe in living the life God has predestined for me. Once we’re able to recognize that getting up every day has meaning, that fighting and pressing forward has meaning, it makes things a little simpler in this sometimes-complex world.

What are you working on now?

We hear a lot about relationship goals which is a trend now, what advice would you give single people in approaching dating and marriage?

I think many singles are euphoric when it comes to the idea of marriage. It’s hard work. My advice is to define the role of each person wife, mother, business owner, husband, father, minister, etc., and write down the responsibilities these roles require. Use this to ask questions because a major cause of divorce is lack of communication and unmet expectations.

The other is making sure God is at the center of the relationship. This means each person must have a personal relationship with Christ. We go to the Lord first and then we go to each other. This takes most of the disrespect and the selfishness out and helps us to love like Christ loves, unconditionally.

What keeps you going?

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What am I working on now? OMG!!! I think this is the hardest question asked. Well for one, my children are older now so it has given me more time to think about this next phase of my life. There has been a lot of pain, countless mistakes, and great miracles and in the end everything has been worth it. It has drained me so I am taking my time building me again and I plan on giving back to the world things I have learned and help others in business, ministry and family. This time I will be doing it with a lot more wisdom.

Home Remedies to Soothe Dry Lips Chapped lips can be painful and some people experience them all year round. Below are some home remedies you can try to soothe and moisturise dry lips.

Raw honey has amazing benefits. It’s a humectant which means it attracts and retains moisture. Apply honey to your lips several times a day Coconut oil is a natural moisturiser, rub some on your lips several times a day.

Instead of throwing away the rose petals, make rose petal paste by washing petals with water and soak them in milk then mash them into a thick paste. Apply to lips before going to sleep.

Aloe vera not only restores moisture but will ease any pain associated with chapped lips. Apply directly to your lips.

Cucumber slices Cucumbers are primarily composed of water which makes it the perfect solution to dry lips. Apply cucumber juices to your lips and you’ll regain all the moisture you lost!

Rwanda, the small East African country, has been listed among the

1. Gorilla Tracking at Volcanoes National Park

top destinations to visit in the world by several publications - and with good reason. The Land of a Thousand Hills boasts of great scenery, remarkable wildlife and amazing culture. Recently the country became the first sleeve partner of Arsenal Football Club, making it the first country in Africa to do so. Here are five reasons why you should include Rwanda in you travel list.

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Considered one of the most exhilarating wildlife encounters in Africa, gorilla tracking is the primary reason why a lot of people visit Rwanda. Volcanoes National Park is one of only two destinations in Africa where people can track the endangered mountain gorilla. With only about 800 gorillas in the wild, getting to see them is a once in a lifetime experience. Trackers hike through the forest in search of their assigned gorilla

family and once they find it, they get to spend one hour in their presence. Watching these mighty creatures play and frolic up close is an unforgettable adventure. Every year Rwanda celebrates the naming of new born gorillas in a celebration known as Kwita Izina.

and its surroundings feature acres of tea plantations. You can go tea picking with the local farmers who can show you how to brew a perfect cup of tea.

2. Exclusive safari

Unlike neighbouring Kenya and Tanzania, which can accommodate hundreds of thousands of tourists per year, Rwanda’s tourism infrastructure can cater to much fewer numbers. This means that you are guaranteed of less crowds and a more exclusive African safari. In addition, the opening of luxurious boutique properties such as Bisate Lodge and One&Only Nyungwe House make a visit to Rwanda worth every penny.

The star attraction of the forest however is the canopy walkway above Nyungwe Forest.

The 200m walkway found 90m above the forest floor allows awesome views over the birds and the butterflies and allows you come face to face with the chimps.

4. Genocide Memorial

3. Canopy walk at Nyungwe Forest Nyungwe Forest is one of the oldest parks in East Africa. Its ancient trees are home to hundreds of species of birds, butterflies and primates. Chimpanzees in particular can be seen swinging from tree to tree, chasing after each other while chattering cheerfully.

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While Rwanda is thriving today, it has a dark past. In 1994, the country went through a

dreadful genocide involving its two largest communities. Rwanda has through the years worked hard to get over the events of those horrible months and today it is one of the most cohesive countries in Africa.

A genocide center was built in memory of the lives that were lost and to remind the citizens how far they’ve come. A visit to the center, this crucial part of Rwanda’s historic tapestry, is a must-do when in the country.

the drum. Another important part of their culture is Umugunda, which is a day set aside to participate in community service.

On the last Saturday of every month, all citizens come together to clean up their neighborhoods, plant trees and do good deeds for those disadvantaged in their communities. Subsequently Rwanda is the cleanest country in Africa.

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About Author

Sarah Mwangi

Is a marketing Executive bitten by the travel bug that has seen her travel through her home country Kenya.

FREE Weekend Guide to

Fez, Morocco – Complete with Recommendations and Walking Tour

My AMAZING long weekend in Fes, Morocco has truly inspired me to continue my travels through North Africa. Planning a trip is tough, there are so many factors to consider and identifying trusted recommendations is tricky. That’s why I’ve put together this FREE Weekend Guide to Fez, Morocco for you to take advantage of.

It’s complete with: • Flight Recommendations • Hotel • FREE Walking Tour/Guide Recommendation • Spa • Costs Calculator

Flights:

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only flies to Fez on both those days. I booked my flight in November for February during Black Friday/Cyber Monday deal and paid £115 for 2 people That’s LESS than I spend on a big night out in London

Hotel:

I would absolutely recommend staying with Dar 7 Louyat because they made my experience in Fez that much more memorable. Traveling alone as a woman can be daunting. For this excursion, I traveled with one of my best friends (and bridesmaid!) so I wasn’t too nervous about the experience. The staff and packaged experience at Dar 7 Louyat absolutely made the difference because I had nothing to worry about whilst I was with them.

Benefits: Breakfast was included and contained gluten-free, lactose-free AND vegetarian options

Walking Tour/Guide: For every Medina tour, Thami (Tommy) – our guide – buys 100 pieces of small chocolates for the local children and elderly

An affordable Medina guide who spoke perfect English was provided (if so we desired) The riad doubled as a fabulous restaurant so every night, we had dinner at 7pm in the comfort of our own courtyard .

The riad organized hotel/airport transfer with a private taxi service so there was always someone waiting for us Located in the heart of the Medina, we were a short 5 minute walk from everything

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folk. Everywhere we went, he was being hugged and kissed by the masses.

He says that, although he can’t help with money, he can make someone’s day just a little bit sweeter. His popularity is probably less about the candy and more about the opportunity for people to connect with him – albeit briefly – in a fast pace world, which typically favors the powerful over the vulnerable.

Thami is the heart of the Medina and it was such a privilege to be a guest in his world!

Spa: Hammam is very affordable in Fez, but we decided to treat ourselves to an extravagant day filled with spa, hammam, and REALLY intimate body scrubs. We took a 20 MAD cab to the Givenchy Spa for the most intimate spa experience of my life. First, we took a leisurely bathe in their jacuzzi pool as we overlooked the Fez skyline. Then we took a two hour nap in the privacy of our own jacuzzi room. There was no Wi-Fi in the vicinity. So instead, we read, relaxed and enjoyed doing absolutely nothing.

We enjoyed: • Hammam (Turkish Bath on marble tables/tile) • Body Scrum (they bathe you like a baby) • Facial Massage

I felt complete REBORN after my experience and the estheticians were some of the best I’ve ever had the pleasure of working with.

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locals could participate, no tourist allowed.

That should give you a cost estimation when you factor in cost of labor, production, etc.

Now you’re ready to take the plunge!

Cost Calculator It’s technically ‘illegal’ to convert Moroccan Dirham abroad, try to pay for everything as much as possible before you enter the country!

Transport: • Taxis – 15-40 MAD to get around town • Airport Transfer – 90/120 per person (depends on time of night)

Food: Depends on Quality • Breakfast: 10 – 80 MAD • Lunch 20: 100 MAD • Dinner 100: 200 MAD

Souvenirs/Shopping: * Note: top price reflects quotes that were given to me by vendors, lower price is what you can possibly negotiate down to • Wallets/Coin Purses: 20 – 60 MAD • Scarfs: 60 – 120 MAD • Purses (non-leather): 200 – 600 • Leather bags: 1500 – 3000 MAD • Leather Jackets: 1500 – 4000 MAD • Clay/Mosaic Pottery: 200 – upwards

*Note x2 – when we went to a local leather auction, the hides were being sold for 300 MAD per cut of leather (whole lamb). Only 40 |

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About Author Vanessa Menchaca Is a B2B Global Launch Manager at Hotels.com and an accomplished travel writer behind the blog: wanderonwards.co. Originally from Los Angeles, Vanessa has spent the last decade bouncing between Beijing, Boston, and London pursuing a career in tech whilst exploring over 40 countries. When she’s not on a plane, she enjoys learning languages, developing her skills, and cooking with her husband and cat.

Feminism in 21st Century Panel Discussion On 7th March 2019 Her Story Matters collaborated with Fora as part of their International Women’s Day series to bring a panel discussion on Feminism in the 21st Century.

The panel was hosted by Harriet Khataba, Founder of Her Story Matters who was joined on the panel by Angela Muruli, Africa Programmes Assistant at FORWARD UK, Louise Burfitt-Dons , Author of political thriller The Missing Activist, Markella Papadouli , Europe Litigation Coordinator, Registered European Lawyer, Andy Edwards, Senior Executive: music, entertainment, talent management, impacTalent and Faranak Amidi, Women’s Affairs Journalist, BBC. The discussion touched on many topics that help us to understand what Feminism is and here are some of the key points: Different movements formed throughout the years The panel discussed different movements that have been formed over the years from the Suffragettes to more recently #MeToo movement however, what was interesting was the debate surrounding female music artists and how the use of

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their sexuality reflects on feminism. The panel were divided on this as to whether it was sending a positive message or detracting from the strides made to date.

On the whole it was noted that some of the artist mentioned such as Nikki Minaj and Cardi B have agency in being able to bring awareness and challenge patriarchy.

How Feminism differs around the world It was interesting to hear how Feminism differs in practice and progress around the world. The panel touched on the below geographical areas: African continent One of the major issues affecting some countries in the African continent is FGM. An interesting point made by Angela is that we must be culturally sensitive. It is through this we can understand the various factors that underpin the practice within these communities in order to bring change.

Middle East Faranak focused on the progress of Feminism in Iran and how it has been hindered by patriarchal systems. Faranak noted that to advance Feminism in Iran women need to demand change. She also mentioned that women in Iran would need to make use of different mediums available to share their stories such as social media and film.

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Louise explained feminism in the west through two strands, the egalitarian feminist who see men and women as identical and the maternal feminist who see men and women as biologically different. Based on the two different stances Louise believes these two strands have caused a divide and as a result feminism is now looking for a new way through.

The rise of men’s rights movements From Andy’s point of view men already have all the rights they need however, we need to look out for their male fragility as mentioned by Louise. Markella also touched on this agreeing that we should view vulnerable men in the same light we view vulnerable women and to ensure they have access to the assistance they need.

What does Feminism look like in the future?

Key points echoed was that the issues surrounding feminism are deep rooted beyond just gender which means we need to look at the various intersections that contribute. It was also agreed that it’s important to include men in the discussion.

Overall, this discussion has proved timely.

We continue to navigate and unfold the complexities surrounding Feminism in order to tackle the barriers that hinder women’s rights. Strides have been made

however, this highlights the need for continual education to initiate change.

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Key Fora events: • Film and TV: Where Are the Women? – A Thinkin presented by Tortoise, 5:30pm Tuesday 5 March at Borough, London • We Love International Women’s Day – Presented by We Love Print, 6:00pm Wednesday 6 March at Dallington Street, Clerkenwell • Feminism in the 21st Century – Presented by Her Story Matters, 12:00pm Thursday 7 March at Borough, London • #FORAFOUNDERS Balance for Better – Presented by F =, 6:00pm Thursday 7 March at Borough, London

About Fora Fora is leading the workspace revolution, bringing together the best of hospitality, co-working and members clubs to create workspaces that inspire. Fora’s premium ‘proworking’ spaces are beautifully designed hubs for highly skilled people from every industry and business type, creating destinations for collaboration and engagement.

• Will Feminism Change the Face of Wellness – Presented by Balance Magazine, 1:00pm Friday 8 March at Central Street, Clerkenwell • The Label of ‘Women’- Presented by Soho Radio, 6:00pm Friday 8 March at Borough, London

Fora held a jam-packed week of inspiring and informative events centered around International Women’s Day 2019. https://www.foraspace.com/ Co-founder of Fora, Katrina Larkin commented: “At Fora we are committed to supporting women and addressing gender balance in the workplace.

Celebrating International Women’s Day gives us an opportunity to capture a moment in the annual calendar that celebrates female achievements, but we would do this for any group that we felt was underrepresented in the workplace. Thankfully, Fora is in a position to provide a platform for our network of Residents and external communities, giving a voice to the many organisations that are committed to supporting gender balance”.

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