HOLISTIC MANAGEMENT
IN PRACTICE
Providing the link between a healthy environment and a sound economy SEPTEMBER / OCTOBER 2003 NUMBER 91
in this Issue
The Gift of Youth by Ann Adams “Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.”—James Baldwin
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he other day a couple came to visit with their one-year-old daughter. As the husband looked around at the house we had built, he said, “I don’t know how you got all this work done. I can’t even complete a simple household repair.” I looked at him, holding his daughter in his arms, and noticed the budding relationship they were developing with each other. The reason for my ability to complete household projects with what he perceived as alacrity was pretty obvious to me, and I replied, “We don’t have a young child in the house.” Raising children takes a huge investment in time. Perhaps I should repeat that again, just in case you had a small appendage stuck in your ear while you read that sentence, or your sleepdeprived brain couldn’t quite capture the enormity of that sentence, or you were distracted as you watched one of your adolescent children stand in front of an open refrigerator for half an hour trying to decide what to eat. I don’t mean to imply that you have to keep your eyes on them all the time or be at their beck and call, although they seem to like that idea, particularly during the “royal two’s.” I’m talking about the amount of “head” space they can take up as you explore what kind of parent (adult) you thought you were, what kind you want to be, and what kind of relationship you want to have with your children.
A Mirror This realization was brought home this year when I was supporting my son, Ben, through his first year of high school. One thing that disturbed me in his approach to high school was what I saw as a lack of internal motivation to do well in school. While he was taking honors and gifted classes, he wasn’t pushing himself to do as well as he could. I knew he could get A’s if he applied himself, but he kept
saying, “B’s are good enough.” At first I spent some time seeing if there was some way to spark his internal motivation to do a better job. That didn’t lead to any progress. I got different points of view from various people I interrogated on the subject. One of the suggestions was to offer some monetary reward for good grades (a concept I had immediately refused when someone brought it up earlier in the year). My initial gut decision was that I didn’t get paid for good grades, and that wasn’t a form of internal motivation. But somehow, when I heard it a second time, I realized how much privilege I was putting on internal motivation and how much judgment I had about external motivation. If I pulled back from the situation, the larger picture was that I wanted him to experience success, to see he could get good grades if he applied himself. Suddenly I realized I was the hold up, not him. That decision demonstrated to me why it’s so important to have a holistic goal that pushes you to test decisions toward it, moving you beyond gut responses to situations or events. Through the testing process, you may find that you make not only better decisions, but also better understand the situation that led to you making the decision. I was pretty sure this child-rearing thing was about sacrifice. I found out it was more about creativity, humor, patience, and endless opportunity for discovery. Holistic Management has enriched that journey for me by encouraging me to explore the possibilities, see the challenges as opportunities, rediscover my own youth and playfulness as part of the “parenting” process, and to continue to look for the big picture rather than getting mired in the repetition of, “If I’ve told you once…” Ben’s personality is different from mine. He might always require more external motivation. I just hope that if I keep looking at the big picture, responding to life’s challenges creatively, and making decisions thoughtfully, that he’ll integrate those habits in his own inimitable style.
With Holistic Management, we have the opportunity through goal setting, testing decisions, planning, and monitoring, to engage with our children more fully. The writers in this issue share with us what they have learned about life, education, families, and more through incorporating Holistic Management in their parenting and teaching.
A New Path—Teaching Children about Holistic Management Peggy Maddox . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2 Discovering Our Youth Sandra Matheson . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 4
Who’s in Control? Judi Earl . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5
LAND & LIVESTOCK—A special section of IN PRACTICE New Insights into the Grazing Debate Jim Howell . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .7 On Becoming Native Jim Howell . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .10
Savory Center Annual Report . . . . . .14 Savory Center Bulletin Board
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Certified Educators . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .17 Marketplace . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .20