I AM WELLNESS 1 by iammagazinett

MISSION Enlighten, Expose, Educate & Empower. THE I AM FAMILY Creative Consultant/Puzzle Writer: Fleur Wheeler Youth Consultant/Model: Tiffany N. V. Duncan Cartoonist: Miguel Lashley Feature Writer: Ifarounke Deidre Prescod Feature Writer: Shanice Musgrave Feature Writer: Tammy Guy-Granderson Sex Educator: Onika Henry Holistic Health Writers: Kenya Gale & Dr. Caroline Alexis-Thomas Researcher/Writer Elder Issues: Katharine Inniss Neo-Natal Consultant: Marissa A. Callender Head Writer: Patricia Nicole Whiteman Assistant Editor: Shaun Biggart-Hutchinson Editor: Eutille E. Duncan FRONT AND BACK COVERS Photograph by Hilton Grant WAIZ D SCN COVER Photograph by Emerald Star Ashby WHAT’S UP Photographs by Emerald Star Ashby & Patricia Nicole Whiteman MARY AND PEDRO (THE HOOD LAMB) Photograph of Lambie contributed by Aliyah Mohammed GOLDEN OLDEN AND ROOTS & CULTURE COVERS Paintings by Patricia Nicole Whiteman HIDDEN IN PLAIN SIGHT Photographs by Raymond Christopher and Hilton Grant KEEPING IT REAL AND THE MALE BOX COVERS Photographs by Patricia Nicole Whiteman AFTER THE VOWS & BABY TALK Photographs by Arlene Massiah FISHING FOR GIFTS AND TALENTS Photographs by Patricia Nicole Whiteman MY BROTHER’S KEEPER COVER Photograph by Deidre Prescod INSPIRATION INLET Photograph by Fleur Wheeler

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WHAT’S UP? (update on William & Catherine Romeo Reading Hour) by Patricia Nicole Whiteman The saying by advertising executive, Fred R. Barnard, in an ink ad dated March 10th 1927, “One Picture is Worth Ten Thousand Words,” is still very true and relevant today hence the reason why I am leaving these pictures from the William & Catherine Romeo Reading Hour year end Fun and Gift Giving Day to tell all. The event was held December 18th 2017 at the well kept and scenic grounds of Phase Two Calder Hall Tobago, Amusement Park. It was supported by the View Port Supermarket, our usual Divine Helpers; Mr. Walton George & Company , Mrs. Diane O’Neil, Trinidad and Tobago Fire Service, especially the courteous and patient driver, AFF Sheldon Henry and last but certainly not least, Chef Hugh of “The Ultimate Grill” located on the grounds of Stumpy’s Emporium at Canaan. The Bible says in (Mathew 25:40) “in as much as ye have done it unto the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me” also in (Mathew 10:41) “one who receives a prophet because he is a prophet will receive a prophet’s reward.” So may a full prophet’s reward be wrung out to the givers in Jesus’ name. Amen.

CREATIVITY COVE MARY AND PEDRO (THE HOOD LAMB) by Tulani James I am 16 years old and attend Harmon School of Seventh Day Adventists. I like reading, writing stories and photography. Reading Nancy Drew and Enid Blyton books inspired me to write because I loved words and was fascinated by the way you could make them into sentences and then stories. There was a ‘charm’ in their words and whenever I read their books, I felt it. I wanted to feel that ‘charm’ all the time and create it for myself so I started writing and it is now something I just have to do. It is something that is a part of me. "Come on, Mary, things have been pretty quiet for us. We haven't done anything exciting in months. Mom’s okay now, but this hiatus on crime is taking a toll on me", Pedro bleated. "I've had enough Pedro. I'm retiring from this thug life", Mary said in a small voice while petting Pedro. Mary and Pedro have been best friends since he was born. They had parted ways for a few years, then Pedro had come back to Mary seeking help. He wanted to buy a whole football field for himself, just to graze. Mary said she'd help him, but they had to come up with an idea to get the money quickly. Pedro was pretty impatient and after major brainstorming, he told Mary the quickest way he could think of was to steal the money. Mary was not keen but then said it'd be fun to try. They had been successful the first time around and had continued for a while. They'd only amassed half the amount of money that Pedro would need to buy the field because he’d had to give his mother some for her surgery, a lambsectomy. They had taken a break for Pedro to nurse her back to health and now he had decided that they should get back to it.

“Just one more hit. A big one. If we get the rest of the money I need then we'll stop". Mary looked down at Pedro. His pleading eyes boring into hers. "Fine", Mary conceded. So, they began to plan. It took about three weeks for them to come up with a workable plan. They were going to break into Solid Bank downtown. Mary set about surveying the whole building. She found the quickest exits and noted the placement of surveillance cameras. (Is that what they call ‘casing the joint’?) She met up with Pedro at the barn and relayed to him the details of her observations and together they discussed how it would all happen. They were in agreement. Mary said they should be in and out of there before you could say “Call the police”. It was a Wednesday. Why Wednesday? The middle of the week I guess; I don’t know. She threw the duffel bag over her shoulders, pulled down her ski mask and started the engine of the car. In the bag was an AR-15, ammunition and other stuff they would need for the heist. Pedro pulled down his ski mask and leaped into the car. After a few checks, they took off for the bank. Mary pulled into a back street closest to where she and Pedro would be making their exit. It was time. They grabbed their stuff and ran into the bank. "Everybody, get down on the floor now”!! shouted Pedro. He fired a few rounds of his firearm into the air when the customers and workers were taking a bit too long to follow his instructions. That got them down immediately. Mary spoke to the tellers “Open every drawer, now”! And to the supervisor: “The safe”! She ran to each of them throwing money into her bag and emptied the safe quickly. Pedro yelled: “Ten seconds. Come on, we’ve got to go"! Mary zipped up the bag and ran out to the back exit with Pedro closely following. They jumped into the car and sped off. In the distance they heard the faint sound of sirens. Pedro turned his head as Mary looked into the rear view mirror. The police were not yet in sight. "Sayonara, slow pokes"! Pedro bleated, waving his hooves in the air, “Football field heaven, here I come”!

Photograph by Fleur Wheeler

THE NIGHT BEFORE by Nicholas M. B. Duncan Nicholas M. B. Duncan is a 14 year old student of Pentecostal Light and Life Foundation Secondary School. He started writing at the age of twelve because of his love of music. A year later he realized that poetry was just lyrics set to music and he started writing poetry. Everything she does right, she always does it wrong Her parents call her dumb for every slip-up she’s done, They always tell her they don’t love her, They don’t need her, they even tell her she’s a mistake. So every night when she goes to bed and falls asleep she always dreams the devil is lying at her feet. He asks her why compete when you can have your fantasy? Sell your soul to me and I’ll fill your heart with glee. She asked him what to do? He said; “be born again! Kill yourself and gain eternal life!” The next day she gave her parents an unwanted surprise. How could they know that the night before was the last time they would see her alive?

ENVIRONMENTS ON EMOTIONS by Shanice Musgrave BSc Shanice Musgrave wears many hats as she is an educator, mentor, motivational speaker and Biomedical Engineer. She graduated with Summa Cum Laude (highest honours) from New York Institute of Technology with a Bachelors of Science Degree in Biomedical Engineering. Upon returning home, she founded her own Tobago-based organization, I AM LEGACY INTERNATIONAL where she provides academic aid in several subject areas with focus on CSEC and CAPE Chemistry and SAT. As a result, in 2015, Shanice was awarded for her work in Education at the Department of Youth Affairs Youth Awards. One of her goals is to leave strong legacy in the education system and to help young people find their purpose in life. She strongly believes she can have impact on the lives of our nation’s youth and by extension the region. It is paramount that we develop safe spaces for our nation’s youth. There are so many young people walking around with unresolved issues which are a result of toxic environments composed of toxic people. It is safe to say that we, the parents, teachers, leaders in society and society’s citizens are responsible for the possible damage of our youth’s emotions and psychological wellbeing. What we are experiencing today, is the brokenness of such a system. It grieves every time to witness the altering of destinies, purpose and vision of such lives. Where are our elders? Its not easy as a young person to be constantly bombarded with environmental disturbances caused by people in our inner circles because whatever offsets our emotions and psyche would automatically offset our decisions and actions. We, are pleading for help. Help us to fulfill purpose, help us to be sound in mind, help us to be able to adapt and adjust to the cares of life as we embark on our own journeys. Too many times people in our environments short circuit us and what we are working towards. This is not a “blame game”, instead, it is a cry for hope and solutions. On the other hand, this is also a command of strength. To my fellow youth, I charge you, respect your elders, those you truly mean well and value your existence and wellbeing. I charge you to hold strong for these challenges can only make you greater. Affirm within yourself that you are overcomers and you were gifted with the technologies and tools to maneuver through the battles that you are facing. We are gifted with the most powerful tool, our tongues. Speak wealth into your life. Wealth speaks about wisdom, knowledge and understanding and with these you can move every mountain that may stand in your way. Mountains of impossibilities. Mountains that say “No”. Mountains that say “You’re not good enough”. Mountains that say “You cannot succeed”. Mountains that say “You do not have the capacity to do certain things”. Wake up everyday thanking the master for a sound mind even if you don’t feel the best everyday. Look yourself in the mirror and speak to yourself by using phrases beginning with “I am” or “I will” and you’ll see what that can do for you. If it can work for me, it can surely work for you. I remember when I learnt about greatness and purpose

at a conference with the late Dr. Myles Monroe; it changed my life forever. That same month I was able to give it a test run when I was running for student council president. Everyday, I woke up, looked myself in the mirror and spoke success. Along with this, I had faith that the words I was speaking with my mouth over my own life would bear fruit and I did everything with excellence as I campaigned; it was not a walk in the park. I am not here to sell dreams but endorse devices of fluidity and retention to support your best self. Despite the fact that the environments around us are not perfect, there are things we can do to affect change, so take hold of your wellbeing today.

Charlotteville, Tobago. Photograph by Patricia Nicole Whiteman

IN DEFENCE OF THE CHILD. by Patricia Nicole Whiteman. The Old King James Version of the Holy Bible Psalm 127 verses 3-5 “Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is His reward. As arrows are in the hand of the mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is he that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.”

CHILDREN ARE Children are a muse And not to abuse. Children are the fruit of the womb And not to be beaten and given an early tomb. Children are a great part of our legacy So let us treat them with respect and decency. Children are pure and innocent They are heaven sent. Children are lovely and not to be told, “yuh good fuh nutten n’ ugly gwan from in front ah mi face yuh just like ah yuh damn wutless daddy/mammy.” Children need hugs-kisses-love So they can soar as a dove. Children are the future SO PLEASE STOP!!! And instead let us protect and preserve our sons and daughters. Sexual-physical-verbal-emotional-psychological-neglect–it doesn’t matter, they are all abuse and are wrong from all the cardinal points. The Children’s Authority Act Chapter 46:10 was established May 14th 2015 to treat with the above. If you know of any such heinous acts taking place, you automatically have a legal and moral obligation to report the matter. Here is a contact list you can use: 1.Call Children’s Authority Hotline: 996 or 800-2014 send a fax: 625-4986 2.Email a report to Registry@ttchildren.org 3.Mail a report 35A Wrightson Road, Port of Spain, Trinidad. 4 Or please visit the nearest police station. 5 In Tobago the Child Protection Unit is located on the grounds of Old Grange Police Station, presently located at Main Road Carnbee, opposite Penny Savers Super Market.

Fort Granby, Studley Park, Tobago Photograph by Fleur Wheeler

DEMENTIA AND THE STRESS OF CARE-GIVING

EXPRESSIONS

ELDER ABUSE: THE SILENT AND HIDDEN CRIME

EXPRESSIONS My name is Natalie Alexandra Solomon. I am a writer of poetry, songs and other readings. I write because with words I am able to express life. Whether it's a life of pain, joy sadness or other lifestyle behavioral tendencies. It can all be summed up with words that I write in past, present and future.

TRAPPED INSIDE YOURSELF You are trapped inside of yourself, And you can’t seem to find a way out of the hell. You suffer for hating those you are supposed to love who are in your life, And of not wanting the help of those you need so you can strive. But when as a child who have lived most of your life, Oftentimes with fear and your emotions die. And you can’t seem to speak the words to express your hurt, Then you become trapped in your own world. You start living only for yourself, You stop caring so you abuse the help. You act out, you somehow playing the fool, And those around you, they stop caring too. You feel the pain for your behaviour, You cry out to the Lord for favour. And then you realise you have remedial work to do, With yourself, you have to change your attitude. And accept the love of others but also love yourself, And so you shall prosper and all will be well. Written on June 15, 1983.Modified on November 25, 2017.

LONELINESS Frightened, feeling so completely alone, No-one to talk to, nowhere to turn. Drowning myself in a sea of make believe, Hoping that maybe I’d find some relief. I’m slowly dying, I feel it deep inside, An emptiness so great, there are thoughts of suicide. A sadness that seems to be a gruesome disease, Weighing me down, imprisoning me. I am on my knees. Laughter that does not really ring true, I’m restless, searching for odd things to do. Escape from reality, it’s so very hard to find, All I have is weakness in spirit, heart and mind. Give me strength to overcome and strength to bear, All my pent up emotions and all my dreaded fears. Hiding myself behind a mask of false happiness, There are shadows that haunt me, that give me no rest.

Written on March 16, 1983

Photograph by Fleur Wheeler

DEMENTIA AND THE STRESS OF CARE-GIVING by Caroline Alexis-Thomas, PhD, MPH Diagnosis of Dementia turns your world in a new direction. Life as you know it takes on a different dimension. Although dementia appears to be the disease of the decade, many people do not know about it, much less know somebody diagnosed with it. There are currently 10 different types of dementia, and for clarity, dementia is not Alzheimer's. Approximately, seventy percent (70%) of persons with dementia, have Alzheimer's, the remaining 30% of persons have the other nine (9) types of dementia. Despite, the different types of dementia, one thing remains consistent throughout, the risk of experiencing ‘Carer Burnout’. This situation arises from constantly feeling overwhelmed from care-giving activities. So how do you deal with the stress of care-giving? I am advocating the CARE PROTOCOL based on my experience and expertise derived from caring for my spouse with Lewy Body Dementia. Dementia I could just imagine the reaction with this diagnosis but I have grown accustomed to ‘Lewy who?’. The CARE protocol and stress management. Build Your COMMUNITY- The family and friend network before the diagnosis of dementia might not be the same after the diagnosis of dementia. You should build what I call your ‘dementia community of support’ where you may come to rely on people you did not even know before the dementia diagnosis. At the same time, you have to work out what you can do for and by yourself especially for those late nights when no one is available to help you with a situation. Acquire Relevant ADVICE and Information. Advice on care-giving can be obtained from multiple sources but some either lack credibility or general information does not apply to your type of dementia (remember 10 types exist). Although advice and information from the medical fraternity is useful the ‘how to’ advice and information is usually sparse, for example, how do you manage a ‘dementia crisis in a shopping mall?. Medical advice is very limited in this situation hence point #1, know who to call in your dementia community of support when assistance is needed. Therefore, learn as much as you can about dementia and do not dismiss learning from your own personal and unique situation. Be REALISTICREALISTIC You will receive information about how to best manage the diagnosis of dementia. However, you have to be realistic about the financial aspect as optimal care exceeds pension and national insurance contribution. Another aspect that gets the least attention is caring for yourself. A recent study highlighted that care-givers have a higher mortality (40% higher) than the person diagnosed with dementia. So creative strategies for taking care of the person with dementia must include plans to take care of you. You should be realistic of your caring capacity and realize that having ‘bad days’ is not a reflection of you but the reaction to a constant stressful time of your life.

ENJOY More focus should be on the positive dimension of the person and less on the .ENJOY-

dementia because the negatives can be overwhelming and leave you exhausted, irritable with the proverbial â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;Why me?â&#x20AC;&#x2122; lingering in the back of your head. You should seek opportunities in order to enjoy the precious moments of lucidness. Herbs such as lemon balm, lemongrass, soursop, peppermint, rosemary can be found in our CARIBBEAN backyards and usually very helpful in reducing stressful feelings. Massages and outdoor activities are also of great benefit. The identified herbs and massages are readily available at Silk Cotton Holiday Home & Wellness Centre. The facility is also dementia-friendly which means that you can bring your loved one with you, if you desire, to assess services and products.

The following websites provide excellent and updated information on dementia care and caregiving: www.unforgettable.org and www.alzheimersweekly.ccsend.com

CONTACT DR. CAROLINE ALEXIS-THOMAS:

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ELDER ABUSE: THE SILENT AND HIDDEN CRIME Researcher/Writer: Katharine Elizabeth Inniss MSc. Sociology June 15th, marks the annual commemoration of World Elder Abuse Awareness Day (WEAAD). The 2017 theme “Understand and End Financial Abuse of Older People: A Human Rights Issue” followed the 2030 Sustainable Development Agenda and the Madrid International Plan of Action on Ageing which declared, ‘older people have the right to a life of dignity in old age, free of all forms of abuse, which could lead to poverty, hunger, homelessness, compromised health and well-being, and even premature mortality’. It has been acknowledged that while the issue of elder abuse is very much still tabooed, this issue has started to gain visibility across the world. However, much is still to be done in the Caribbean region and by extension Trinidad and Tobago, as it relates to the protection and security of our older adults. Elder abuse remains one of the least investigated types of violence in national surveys, and one of the least addressed in the national plans. This issue is rapidly becoming one of urgent importance on a global stratum given the changes in the population pyramid being from a relatively young population to now an ageing population. Older adults are often dependent on their relatives or caregivers who might be unable to cope with the challenges of providing care and support. Abuse of older people crosses gender, socio-economic, religious and cultural boundaries. This type of abuse is most likely to be inflicted by family members, especially an older person’s adult child(ren). Abuse of older people can be of various forms such as physical, psychological/emotional, sexual and financial. It also reflects intentional or unintentional neglect” (World Health Organization). Elder abuse ranges from domestic violence, financial exploitation and material abuse. Some identified risk factors for the elderly falling victim to these types of abuse range from: social isolation and cognitive impairment to emotional or physical dependence on the perpetrator; financial dependence of the abuser on the older persons; certain living arrangements; poverty; widowhood and lack of institutional support and care networks. World Elder Abuse Awareness Day aims to encourage the public awareness of abuse which often goes unreported, partly due to shame and embarrassment of victims or their inability due to cognitive and other impairments. We must remember that elder abuse undoubtedly is often a hidden crime that takes place within the confines of the home. It is equally important to understand that elder abuse wears no face and as such has no boundaries and can happen to anyone of us. Support the cause as we make “MY WORLD...YOUR WORLD...FREE OF ELDER ABUSE”. ABUSE”.

FOR FURTHER INFORMATION OR QUESTIONS CONTACT: Call: R.E.A.C.H. Foundation for Social Development at 364-3106 Mail: R.E.A.C.H. Foundation for Social Development, P.O. Box. 4895 Tunapuna, Trinidad and Tobago. Email: Reachfoundation2016@gmail.com Attention: Ms. Kathrine Inniss, President

SEXUAL SENSE

SPIRITUAL VIBRATIONS

BABY TALK

AFTER THE VOWS

HEALTH GURU

AFTER THE VOWS with Patricia Nicole Whiteman. Do you ever wonder what happens after the vows? After a long or sometimes short dreamy courtship, when a man decides to propose on bended knee to the woman whom he hopes will be his wife and mother of his children and they will live happily ever after. What really happens after the excitement and frenzy leading up to the glitz and glamour of the fairy tale like wedding day is over? With a romantic ceremony, Hollywood style photo shoot, sounds of over filled long stemmed glasses clashing together, after long fancy speeches and toasts, delectable dishes, cutting of elaborately constructed and decorated cakes and cheek to cheek dancing. What is life like together as Mr. and Mrs. after the music stops and the crowd has gone? What really happens after it is time to slip off the princely suit and princess dress? Below a masterful poem written by K. Arlene Jack gives a view of what happens when a hopeful dream turns into a waking nightmare from which an abused other must find escape..

IF by K. Arlene Jack Honestly? The poem was inspired by some stuff I was going through with a family member. And no-one understood my angst at that person's behaviour. One day I thought; if he was my man I'd leave. The very next day I read a post that said 'If you decide to stay in an abusive relationship, you're no longer a victim, you're a volunteer.' Abuse isn't only physical.... If I should stand up Against the hurt and the shame Will I be told ‘Be quiet!’ Will I be blamed? For his foul mood as he hits me…Again? There are so many things of which he now complains So many things I don’t do right The most important thing I don’t do, I think; is fight… If I should speak out Against the snickers and slights Of those who, uncomprehending or just uncaring Blame me for the situation I’m in (Like I thought he’d be like this when I first met him? When he was gentle and sweet? Thoughtful and loving?) Will I be able to make myself heard? Above their victim-shaming and victim-blaming? If I should strike back Against the damage and pain Will I be told “Why fight it? There’s nothing to gain.” If you leave him where will you go? Who’ll take you in? It’s because he loves you; you should do better by him.” But, this isn’t who I am. This can’t be who I’ll be

Broken in spirit, rejected, dejected. Repressed and regressing because of a bad choice Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s time to right the wrong and let loose my voice To regain who I was And begin to be who I now choose to be Alone perhaps In fact; alone, most likely But finally. Finally! Finally and oh so importantly ...FREE!!

If you or anyone you know is generous enough to open the door, pull the curtains aside and allow us to peek into their married world, so we can share and inspire others, please contact us at email: iammagazinett@gmail.com or call (868)-714-0924/(868)-393-6725/ (868)-707-3668

SEXUAL SENSE. with Onika Henry B.A., M.Ed. Human Sexuality, CSC

HOW DOES THIS STILL HURT?: THE IMPACT OF SEXUAL ABUSE PART 1 A Common Narrative: This following in a very common story: George, a thirty-year-old survivor, had gone to couples counselling with his wife, Maureen, to work on difficulties in their sexual relationship. In recent weeks George revealed to Maureen that when he was thirteen he was sexually abused by a church camp counsellor. It had taken him twenty-two years to admit he was once a victim. Maureen reacted at first with surprise, then sympathy.In the aftermath of his disclosure, George became depressed. He found himself suddenly crying at work. He began having trouble sleeping at night. Maureen began to worry what this could mean for their relationship. One day in counselling, she became agitated and said, “It’s hard to see you in such pain. Can’t you just put the past behind you and enjoy the life we have together?” George straightened up in his seat, took a deep breath, and let loose with a flood of feelings he had long held back. He responded: God knows, I wish it were that easy, but it’s not. Not only did the abuse make me question my sexuality, but it left me with a reduced sense of my value as a human being. It made living a my life with you and the kids seem like a hoax and a sham. What that counsellor did to me back then has made it difficult for me to be able to be intimate with you now. It’s Not Over Yet: Many of us, including some survivors, think that sexual abuse is simply an event that happened, ended, and is now in the past. But this is not how it works. It can have an impact on every aspect of a survivor’s life, including beliefs, attitudes, self-image, relationships, and sexuality. These are not past issues but very real and current ones. It takes enormous strength to learn about, evaluate, and change them. In the last three to four decades, a large and growing body of evidence has been documented about the effects of overwhelming stress. Sexual abuse in any form, is an extremely stressful event which traumatizes survivors. Evidence-based knowledge shows that a traumatic experience impacts the entire person. The way we think, the way we learn, the way we remember things, the way we feel about ourselves, the way we feel about other people, and the way we make sense of the world are all profoundly altered by traumatic experience. For example, victims, often become vic24 timizers and parents who were once victims, have less capacity to be empathetic

Onika Henry M.Ed. Human Sexuality TOBAGO-BASED SEX EDUCATOR AND SEX COACH (CSC): CONSULTS, DESIGNS PRESENTATIONS, PROVIDES WORKSHOPS, TRAINING AND PSYCHO-EDUCATIONAL COUNSELLING, ADDRESSES SEXUAL HEALTH CONCERNS. Contact: (868)-381-3049 Email:ohenrybusiness@gmail.com www.onikahenry.com The partners of survivors also are strongly affected. Spouses or partners often suffer from depression and emotional stress that result from the sexual problems in their relationship. When survivors withdraw from physical intimacy or are not emotionally present during sex, partners can feel rejected, inadequate, and sexually unattractive. But What IS Sexual Abuse? Before I continue, let me first share a working definition of abuse and give a few examples of what sexual abuse looks like. The following is the definition we’re working with for this article: Sexual abuse occurs whenever one person dominates and exploits another by means of sexual activity or suggestion. Sexual feelings and behaviour are used to degrade, humiliate, control, hurt, or otherwise misuse another person. Coercion or betrayal often play into sexual abuse. The abuse can take a direct, obvious and painful course, such as in rape. But abuse can also be indirect and even subtle, such as when a victim is gently fondled by someone who professes love. While touch often plays a part in many episodes of sexual abuse, abuse can occur—and cause sexual harm—even when no touching is involved. For example, a person who has been forced to pose for pornographic pictures, or sexually harassed by telephone, has suffered sexual abuse, even though his or her body may never have been touched by the offender.

Taking Back Your Birthright Sexual healing is very profound, very intense work. It takes great courage, commitment and support to work through problems caused by the abuse. Your body may feel like a battleground, on which you’re fighting demons from the past that don’t want to let you go. Or perhaps your battle is between the mind and the body, each vying for your attention. It seems at first that you have little or no power. But please believe that you have every right to reclaim this territory that is your birthright and that you can overcome the struggle. The decision to reclaim your sexuality is also serious, creating new demands on our time and energy. It requires consistent effort to make important changes. In this process, you need to be gentle with yourself. Cushion this rough journey with self-respect and kindness, honouring your own pace and being honest about your present abilities. According to author Wendy Maltz, three activities can help you in the sexual healing journey: • Identify and tame your fears. • Create realistic goals. • Reclaim sexuality for you. you In terms of sexual healing, spirituality can play a very important role. One of my favourite sex therapists, Dr Gina Ogden, describes the spiritual aspect of sexuality as that which “involves an intimate sense of connection with one’s self, one’s partner, and/or a power beyond one’s self—whatever clients may chose to name that: God, Goddess, Higher Power and so on.” In its most positive sense, the spiritual experience in sexuality, is characterized by ecstasy, increased energy, heightened meaning, and a sense of enduring satisfaction. Do consider including this exploration in your recovery and reclamation. References Ogden, G. Expanding the Practice of Sex Therapy: An Integrative Model for Exploring Desire and Intimacy (pp. 60-61). Taylor and Francis. Kindle Edition. Maltz, W. The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse (Third Edition) (Kindle Locations 1715-1722). HarperCollins. Kindle Edition. Bloom, S. L. (2003) Understanding the impact of sexual assault: The nature of traumatic experience. In A. Giardino, E. Datner and J. Asher (Eds.), Sexual Assault: Victimization Across the Lifespan. Maryland Heights, MO: GW Medical Publishing. (pp. 405-432).

Nylon Pool, Tobago. Photograph by Fleur Wheeler

BABY TALK with Marissa A. Callender DNP, CNM

POSTPARTUM “BLUES” AND DEPRESSION: YOU ARE NOT ALONE! FEELING THE “BLUES”: If you have feelings of sadness after having your baby, you are not alone. This is very common and can affect as many as 4 out of 5 women. These feelings may last several weeks, but should get better. These feelings can increase with stress, lack of support or unhealthy lifestyle choices. They can also be enhanced by lack of sleep, demands of your new baby and family routines. Common symptoms for the “baby blues” include: • Mood swings • Crying • Anxiety • Fatigue • Irritability • Loss of appetite These common symptoms usually go away after a few days or within 1 - 2 weeks of giving birth. If they do not go away, it may be the sign of a bigger problem and you should seek medical advice from your health care provider or doctor. POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION DEPRESSION If you feel sad more intensely for longer than several weeks, you could have postpartum depression. If you feel out of control it is very important to get help. Talk to your health care provider or doctor. Symptoms: • Insomnia • Lack of interest in the baby • Guilt or shame • Feelings of isolation • Hopelessness • Loss of pleasure • Feelings of harming the baby or self • Trouble concentrating or remembering things • Trouble making decisions • Many women describe feelings of overwhelming sadness and despair. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

HERE ARE SOME TIPS THAT THAT MAY HELP YOU FEEL BETTER • Ask family or friends for help • Take a break • Talk to a health professional • Find a support group • Focus on wellness: ∗ Eat a healthy diet ∗ Exercise ∗ Try a new activity ∗ Sit quietly or meditate ∗ Read a book ∗ Go out with a friend or family member HERE IS A SIMPLE CHECKLIST CHECKLIST FOR FEELINGS OF DEPRESSION: I have been unable to laugh and find the funny side of things. I have not looked forward to things I usually enjoy. I have blamed myself unnecessarily when things went wrong. I have been anxious or worried for no good reason. I have been scared or panicky for no go reason. Things have been getting the best of me. I have been so unhappy that I have had difficulty sleeping. I have felt sad or miserable. I have been so unhappy that I have been crying. The thought of harming myself, my baby, or others has occurred to me. If you have marked more than a few boxes, please talk to your health care provider. You may have postpartum depression. If you have marked the final box please seek help immediately – (call 211 if resident in Tobago, 811 if resident in Trinidad or 911 if resident in the USA) or go to the nearest emergency room.

SPIRITUAL VIBRATIONS with Ifarounke Deidre Prescod Researcher and author of Letters From Nigeria : Reflections of An Ifa Initiate. Ifarounke Deidre Prescod spent four years living among the Yoruba people of Nigeria, Africa researching their socio-cultural and religious practices. This experience left her with a heightened awareness of the connectivity of all humanity and the need for balance of the different aspects of our being.

INTERCONNECTIVITY "If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present." - Lao Tzu: philosopher and poet of ancient We are an interdependent species and need each other as we aspire towards healthy physical, mental and emotional lives. Society, community and family are relationships that shape our personal worlds. it is where we acquire our belief systems and role models. Caring, nurturing relationships promote self development, with a sense of hope and belonging that can lead to happiness and contentment. We live in a world of cause and effect that is strongly influenced by our environment, a world governed by polarity where the polar opposites are also made manifest, they identify each other e.g. Up - down , left - right, good - bad etc. Abuse, suicide and depression are fundamentally manifestations of the negative effects of our society. Because of polarity we are bound to experience the both sides of the coin. We need support that is honest, loving, understanding and nurturing. For this support system to be meaningful we need mature societies that do not thrive on the demise of others in its quest for superiority; we need to be our brother's keeper. But also of utmost importance is self care and the development of an awareness of our oneness with the rest of humanity. Everything has a first cause that can spiral into an abyss if not monitored, checked and channeled. If and when we approach life as a unit the 'pitfalls of life' are more likely to be viewed with compassion as opposed to fault finding and ridicule. The ills of society will be looked upon as areas where we have transgressed as a whole as no matter how individual a person's demise may appear it is a direct result of their experiences within society and to a large extent family and friends. We need to communicate in a meaningful way where we leave aside judgment and unrealistic expectations. This is especially so with young unformed minds, as the experiences they encounter in their developmental stages cement in their minds what is acceptable or not. As responsible citizens we cannot sit silent and comfortable as our collective thought patterns erode and destroy who we are meant to be. For, rest assured, be it victim or culprit our beliefs and accompanying actions have a significant role to play. Our thoughts manifest and there are signs as to which way they are heading, long

before anything resembling crisis. Our thoughts and their emanating verbal expressions and actions are in essence who we are. And can clue the keen observer as to the areas where we need support. What is your role? how are you contributing in balancing the tendency to belittle each other and ignore or delight in the unfortunate plights of others by brainwashing ourselves with it is not my business? At whose feet do we lay 'blame' for the abuse be it mental or physical. Our laws, the Church, the Government, the School system, the Financial institutes, Parents, Siblings, extended family members, the list could go on forever. Abuse, depression and suicide are intimate ills. They are personal and will eat at the core of the being. I would like to invite us all to seek an approach that may be able to recognize signs of physical behavior and emotional trends that are contrary and out of one's normal character. These inside observations can be better made by our inner circle, for this to be effective we need to speak openly on all related forums where we educate using all available means to give a very clear understanding of personal space and sovereignty of self. That children are to be kept safe and protected ensuring well grounded and rounded citizens in every aspect of their lives. We should be aspiring to be citizens capable of clear thinking, untainted by the negative effects of life that are inflicted by family, friends and those who wander into our circle for one reason or the next. Maybe identifying the things that lead to abuse, suicide and depression may assist us in curbing its ability to grow and flourish. The first place to look is inwards. Am I abusive in thought word or deed to or about anyone including myself? Are my thoughts words and actions life giving and encouraging? And why are they one way and not the next? What causes me to cling to behaviours that do not increase who I am on the fundamental area of character?

HEALTH GURU 4 FOODS THAT PROMOTE BRAIN HEALTH by Kenya Gale BSc.PH We often focus on the many other organs of the body, and forget the importance of brain health. It is necessary to constantly focus on nourishing and detoxing the brain. The reality is, all of us have lived through stressful situations; however, everyone copes differently. After trauma is experienced, some of us may turn to alcohol, antidepressants, eating disorders, toxic relationships, and self-harming. Various mental states can also develop during or after the experience of traumatic events. Brain damage is inevitable. Fortunately, nature provides us with various foods that are beneficial for healing our brain. SALMON Salmon is filled with the nutrients of vitamin D and omega-3 fatty acids. Vitamin D plays a pivotal role in regulating the functions of the brain. Individuals who are vitamin D deficient are more likely to develop neuropsychiatric disorders. Similarly, those who have low levels of omega-3 fatty acids may also struggle with mood disorders. The omega-3 acids aid in stabilizing stress hormones. Try having salmon for lunch at least twice a week! AVOCADOS Avocados contain high amounts of folic acid, potassium and omega-3 fatty acids, which can combat depression by improving one’s mood. Have an avocado a DAY! CASHEWS The feeling of anxiousness can be overwhelming. Tryptophan and vitamin B6 are found in cashews. These two nutrients work together to regulate the production of serotonin, which reduces anxiety and fear. Eat a handful of cashews every day to stay calm! DARK CHOCOLATE Who doesn’t enjoy eating chocolate? Magnesium and flavonoid are key nutrients found in dark chocolate. Both nutrients contribute to mood improvement and stress relief. Next time you are feeling down, eat a few squares of dark chocolate. It’s sure to make you feel a bit happier!

THE WAY BACK

FISHING FOR GIFTS AND TALENTS

INSIDE SCOPE: A MANâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S POINT OF VIEW

THE WAY BACK by Eutille E. Duncan Located at Fort King George, Scarborough, Tobago, The Tobago Rehabilitation and Empowerment Centre (TREC), was founded by Garvin Cole and opened on the 28th May 2014.. Having been a victim of substance abuse himself Mr. Cole had a clear understanding of the challenges that faced those he and his competent staff were seeking to help. The Mission of TREC is; “to assist persons affected by substance use and dependency to attain and maintain sobriety and come to a better understanding of the nature of their dependency and the path to freedom, while helping their families and support persons to understand the same”, They set out to accomplish their mission by employing various principles and philosophies: Their Operating Principles are as follows: • The Tobago Rehabilitation and Empowerment Centre is the leading agency in the provision of services for persons seeking recovery from substance mis-use problems. • Our staff are change agents who facilitate client development. • Our clients are the centre piece of this operation, the axis around which all revolves. The Treatment Philosophy of the centre is as follows: • Our centre is a microcosm of the wider society • As a family, we strive to maintain order in daily living nurturance, psychological safety and individual acceptance. • Through our programme we expect you to mature just as you would in the real world without the negative influences of drug use and anti social behaviour. • Our approach is self–help using the community to foster individual change. The Resident Philosophy of the centre is as follows: As a resident of TREC I must accept I am here because there is no refuge finally from myself. Until I confront myself in the eyes and hearts of others, I am running. Until I suffer them to share my secrets I have no safety from them afraid to be known I can know neither myself nor any other, I will be alone. Where else but in this common ground can I find such a mirror. Here together I can at last appear clearly to myself. Not as the giant of my dreams or the dwarf of my fears, but as a person, part of a whole with my share in its purpose. In this ground I can take root and grow. Not alone anymore as in death, alive to myself and to others.

Residents sitting outside the centre, in a shed built by one of the current residents, with Adult Literacy volunteer-Louis Vilain

The residents are not only encouraged and assisted in finding their way back by the staff of TREC but by private volunteers and volunteers attached to various initiatives. one such volunteer is Mr. Louis Vilain who is attached to the Adult Literacy Programme headed by Mrs. Susan Sandiford. This programme encourages the men to use writing as a means of healing and self expression. Below are a few of their poetry pieces:

BEING IN THE LIGHT

LOVE

by Kirt Daniel Alexander

by John Bristol

I was born in the light But as life went on I fell into the dark I was lost for a while But now I'm found Back in the light And it feels right Because in the light I can see Ms. White I am thankful to God For meeting Ms. White

Love is caring and sharing Love develops between two people; male and female Love comes through God’s Guidance Love is sometimes unable to be described, When there is real love couples bind themselves together For the goal of building a strong family. Love is like a tree it grows in size and throws out branches, While its roots go deeper in the earth promoting growth

LOVE LETTER by Joel Stout

LOVE IS LOVELY

by Russell Smith When I think of love I think of the love God has for man. Love is lovely His love heals the sick, gives sight to the And everyone wants to be loved. blind, But the truth about love is; His love inspires most men, still it was not Love Hurts, enough and He was left out to dry. And no one loves hurt. Not to be totally negative but loving human beings is not an easy task. Keep in mind pain, because if you do not “How far can the eyes see with a mind that is blind?” know it you will never appreciate love. If you have to fight for love then it becomes valuable And it is worth it.

FISHING FOR GIFTS AND TALENTS with Patricia Nicole Whiteman Tobago waters are revered for an abundance of delectable fresh fish. I recently embarked on another kind of a fishing expedition not in water but still right here on our shores. It was for gifts and talents. Armed with my rods, hooks, and bait in bag, I set out to catch and boy oh boy did I reel in the catch of the day! No, not Mahi Mahi. I threw my rod at the Rehab Centre at Fort King George and my God! something strange happened. Instead of me pulling in the rod, the rod kept pulling me forward, it nearly sent me tumbling down the hill. When I finally steadied myself, I fell back on the grass with my by now broken rod in hand. After conducting a postmortem on my near fatal fishing outing, results showed it was the extreme weight from the myriad of gifts and talents found at the Centre among an extraordinary group of chaps resident there. This taught me to equip myself with a trawler next time. Below is my net, I have opened it so can you can see the fine fish of the day. Kirt Daniel Alexander is a 54 year old recovering substance abuser. He was born and raised in Tunapuna, Trinidad and is the father of one daughter and grandfather of three grandsons. He stands out among the residents for his forthright outspoken nature and his many talents. His hobbies are cooking, gardening , craft, coloring, basketball and meeting people. Kirt has made great strides towards changing his life with the assistance of the staff of TREC. He has reevaluated his outlook on life and states “I’m trying to care more about myself and become a better person in this world by making positive contributions.” and Mr. Alexander has a lot indeed to contribute.

Kirt Daniel Alexander

Cell phone stand, table crafted from reclaimed wood, and leatherette tote bag made by Kirt Daniel Alexander

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Above Colouring done by Kirt Daniel Alexander Below Garden at Centre

INSIDE SCOPE: A MANâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S POINT OF VIEW Why do you think some men verbally/physically abuse their significant others? Some men are insecure within themselves or feel their contribution has little value...or are otherwise inadequate in the bedroom so they may lash out to feel a sense of superiority. I personally donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t engage in those behaviours and really cannot attest to why some men are like that...But then again it is always the man being blamed for hitting why it is we never ask what did she do?... Most people are not crazy and I doubt a man decides to just go home and start beating his wife. I understand it is socially wrong, but is it also socially wrong to ask why he hit her? So to prevent all this more affection should be taught to young men. They should be taught to respect women and live with women...respect and teaching starts at home. Khyle Dumas, age 33 Trinidad Lack of self knowledge enhanced by fear and unhealed familial baggage, a man that does not know who he is may most likely not know who the woman is and what his primary responsibility towards her is. Rodney Piggott, age 58 Tobago Inferiority complexes, horning, miseducation on a lot of issues, especially family roles, money, women insufficiently educated, woman not performing well in bed, cannot cook and keep a home clean, poor with children, poor personal hygiene, body change after children e.g: sagging breasts. These are my top ones. Max James, age 59 Tobago

This is a profound question and there will be thousands of reasons and motives given for why this problem exists globally. Each example, each case, each incident will reflect the unique circumstances of the couples' relationship, their maturity, their personalities, and their upbringing and influences. In my view however there's also something which seems to be at the centre of why some men are verbally and/or physically abusive towards their partners. Patriarchy, the domination of men over women, and manifest as sexism seen in inequality and discrimination against women, has created a culture of supposed male superiority and authority where men are taught to believe in and to enforce their apparent natural right to dominate and control women. This sometimes expresses itself in verbal abuse, physical violence and intimidation. The psychological makeup, and personality of the man in question, as well as his upbringing and influences will shape his attitudes towards women and how he respects and treats them, either as an equal or as inferior to be dominated and controlled These are some ideas to add to the discussion. Shaun Biggart-Hutchinson, age 53 Tobago They may have grown up seeing their father abusing their mother and continued the cycle. Joseph Miller Trinidad

Simply put, these men are men only in age. Mentally and emotionally, they’re stuck in the “Selfish Little Boy” stage of life. Calypsonian Valentino had said, “Life is a stage and we are the actors” The word stage also means –progression step by step upwards or downwards or wherever The mental and emotional growth of a human being is a series of stages of life and knowledge. The most important factor is that one cannot skip a step. Each step must be experienced and the corresponding lesson learnt. Meaning one will remain living in a stage of life until one absorbs the necessary knowledge of life and the grow-up to the next stage. So those mentally and emotionally not finish-grow-up-men lash out in self – frustration having an unconscious knowledge that somewhere, somehow they are lacking. And like a selfish little boy they can only hurt and abuse those over whom they have power. Gregory Diaz, age 56 Tobago Abusers typically want to control and dominate. They use verbal abuse to accomplish this. They are self-centered, impatient, unreasonable, insensitive, unforgiving, and they lack empathy and are often jealous, suspicious, and withholding. To maintain control, some abusers “take hostages” meaning that they may try to isolate you from your friends and family. Their moods can shift from fun loving and romantic to sullen and angry. Some punish with anger, others with silence-or both. It’s usually “their way or the highway.” Vernon Bacchus, age 38 Tobago Control! Nigel Henry Trinidad

You know in my opinion you can choose to abuse somebody or you could choose not. Because it’s a choice if you really love the person you will work around the problem , unless the problem keeps reoccurring then you need to jointly fight the problem. It is a choice. I think some people have un-clarified issues with their significant others I am around pardners and often see them getting vex with their women for non-issues. And have to tell them aye boy calm yourself, if you going to get vex it should be for a real issue not clothes or food or petty things like that. Aleem Mustapha, age 28 Tobago You will verbally abuse your significant other because that is the way you have been cultured to speak to ladies, showing disrespect. Some others ascribe it to the stresses of daily living. Whilst physical abuse comes about as a result of impatience, intolerance and even culture, they saw their mother being abused so that is what they know. Some have a deep seated inability to love and be loved so they figure that that is love Gladwyn James, age 47 Tobago

Grafton Beach, Black Rock, Tobago. Photograph by Patricia Nicole Whiteman

IN T N E IGH D D S HI IN A PL

WHO IS HE?

YUH DID KNOW DAT?

HIDDEN IN PLAIN SIGHT with Patricia Nicole Whiteman Seated majestically to the center top of Flamingo Avenue, Sou Sou Lands, is a wooden cabana, enclosed by a quaint lily white picket fence to the front and a silver wire fence to the back. This cabana presides over lavish houses with various coloured roofs which decorate the parched hills beyond. It contains an, abstract tiled pastel coloured round table with quaint unpainted board benches where couples can sit and picnic, or singles can go and clear their heads while being massaged by the cool, refreshing breeze that constantly blows through the area. The children have not been left out as to the sides, is a well protected fenced in play park with vivid blue swings matching the sky and slides for them to frolic while parents sit on the concrete benches and look on with pleasure. This nook also boast of a breath taking, panoramic view of the world renowned Buccoo Reef and Nylon Pool, both spread out spectacularly before your eyes. Inquiries revealed that the park was constructed by Telecommunications Services of Trinidad and Tobago Limited (TSTT) around 2016 and is maintained by one Mr. Ancil Joefield who resides next door.

When asked why he chose to take the responsibility of maintaining the park upon himself? He replied;“ if I don’t do it the rats etc. that follow the garbage people often leave behind will eventually come over by my place.” Mr. Joefeild kindly requests; “after using the park when your are leaving, please remember to close the gate , because failure to do so will cause the dogs to go in and poop.” And we at I Am Magazine are asking, that you do your utmost best to assist Mr. Joefield in his selfless efforts and Don’t be mean, leave it clean!

I would like to thank Miss Gabriel Fernandes for my discovery of this hidden gem. For taking what I thought was a wrong turn, turned out to be this magnificent right turn.

WHO IS HE? by Patricia Nicole Whiteman Who is he? He is Kaifus Archer Mc Kenely, twenty three year old, born in Boston Massachusetts, currently resident in Tobago. What is he? Free thinker-visionary-visual artist-spoken word artist-musician -motivationalist to black women-agriculturalist. Where did he learn his arts? Self taught. What motivated him to get into the arts? Therapy. What major trails and tribulations has he had to face? The constant emotional pressures being placed on him for not wanting to conform to siblings misguided opinions on conventional rules and ideas, contributed to him having a mental breakdown and subsequently being admitted into a mental health institution. How did he conquer his mental challenges? Learning to let go and let God. What was he doing before the breakdown? Music production, drawing-the arts-fabric designing. What is he doing now? Getting certified as a carpenter–gardening–writing–performing-collaborating with other artists. Why does he continue with the arts? People’s reactions when they see his work, which is usually a positive one. Also to make people feel good and that is what life is all about, making people feel good. Where can you find his work? You can search “Kajfuscre8tive” on Instagram or contact him via cell & WhatsApp 346-2845.

What are his future plans? Building his own home that will look like a work of art, marriage and children. What advice does he have to offer others who might be facing mental challenges? Try to envision as much positivity as you can, try not to push yourself beyond your mental capabilities and avoid allowing other people to think for you.

Below is a piece written under his penname; The Black Tarzan:

HOME by The Black Tarzan It’s like when I’m at home I speak another language And when I’m in the land of my people They think I’m dangerous Too intellectual for the average Too dumb for common sense All I know is love is my passion But I hate payin’ rent All you doing is paying to borrow And if the landlord don’t like you You’re gone by tomorrow So I’m livin’ on the lamb I kinda don’t give a damn They say money can make you happy Well that’s not what I am ‘Cause every time I get a lot I’m always the one to give But that same trait Made me have no place to live Yeah… but some people help me But even they not wealthy

YUH DID KNOW DAT? with Eutille E. Duncan Trinidad and Tobago were first united into one colony by an order in council enacted by Her Majesty Queen Victoria of Great Britain in 1888. The order reads as follows: ORDER IN COUNCIL UNITING THE COLONIES OF TRINIDAD AND TOBAGO made under section 1 of the Trinidad and Tobago Act 1887 Made . . . . . . 17th November 1888 Came into operation . . . . 1st January 1889 WHEREAS by the Trinidad and Tobago Act 1887 Her Majesty is empowered by Order in Council to declare that the Colony of Trinidad and the Colony of Tobago shall from a date to be mentioned in such Order be united into and form one Colony on such terms and conditions as Her Majesty should in such Order in Council or in any subsequent Order or Orders think fit to appoint; Now it is hereby ordered by Her Majesty by and with the advice of Her Privy Council as follows: 1. From and after the first day of January 1889 (hereinafter referred to as “the appointed day”) the Colony of Trinidad and its dependencies and the Colony of Tobago shall be united into and constitute one Colony, which shall be called the Colony of Trinidad and Tobago, upon the terms and conditions in this Order expressed, and the powers and functions of the Governor-in-Chief of the Windward Islands in respect of the Colony of Tobago and of the Administrator of Tobago shall thereupon cease and determine, and the Executive and Legislative Councils of Tobago shall thereupon cease to exist. 2. From and after the appointed day Her Majesty’s Letters Patent under the Great Seal of the United Kingdom of Great Britain and Ireland bearing date the first day of October 1880 constituting the Office of Governor and Commander-in-Chief in and over Trinidad and its Dependencies and all Instructions under Her Majesty’s Sign Manual and Signet to the Governor and Commander-in-Chief of Trinidad and its Dependencies shall, subject to the provisions of this Order, apply to the colony of Trinidad and Tobago, and all the provisions thereof shall subject as aforesaid be construed and take effect as if the Colony of Trinidad and Tobago had been named therein respectively instead of the Island of Trinidad and its Dependencies. 37. From and after the appointed day the Supreme Court of Trinidad shall be the Supreme Court of the Colony and shall be styled the Supreme Court of Trinidad and Tobago. For more on the Laws of Trinidad and Tobago check the following website: www.legalaffairs.gov.tt

TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN

THANK YOU

INSPIRATION INLET

CHILLAX CORNER

TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN: with Patricia Nicole Whiteman

A HAS BEEN Tobago, little sister to big brother Trinidad. Blessed immensely with natural geological beauty, one of the gems in the Caribbean crown. No wonder it was fought over numerous times since being visited by Columbus in 1498, I say visited because he met the indigenous Caribs here. Everyone wanted a piece of this delicious pie, major colonizers such as the French, Dutch, Spanish and English and minor ones such as the Courlanders , engaged in bitter and bloody battles over this rare treasure. After the dust was settled, Tobago was fought over a whopping thirty-one times! Perhaps they all wanted to sink their hooks into and capture the natural goodies the island produced and exported at the time such as: sugar-rum-cocoa-wild coffee-indigo-cotton. Sad to say, since 1498 to date, 2018, Tobago remains a diamond in the rough. We used to be able to boast of a lucrative agricultural sector, supplying Trinidad with goods such as: coconut-lime-cocoa etc. after the end of the sugar trade. Due to laziness and lacadaciousness, the tables have turned and Trinidad is now the breadbasket. We are no longer exporting but importing and therefore consuming more foreign chemicalized stuff than anything. I am tempted to believe those consumptions are responsible for our drastic change in thinking and habits, from kind and gentle to barbaric. We once boasted a booming tourism sector; wooing visitors to our shores from wide and far but again the tables have turned. Due to mishandlings, little to no common courtesy and lack of etiquette, foreigners are scarce these days, we have chased most of them to the neighbouring islands and are now dependent on domestic tourists, removing ourselves from the head of the Caribbean tourism arena and sitting pretty at the tail end. Our exceptional hospitality and good manners were world famous. Now we are notorious for our discourteousness and lack of civility. The slogan; â&#x20AC;&#x153;clean, green and sereneâ&#x20AC;? needs to change because it is no longer true. Presently, when one looks around, from Crown Point to Charlotteville, the place is marred with eyesores, accidents waiting to happen and foul stenches. Just a few years ago, murder on the island was so rare, folks used to be flabbergasted when one occurred. Present day Tobago; you tune in to the local news and it is almost expected as a daily routine. These are just a few, on the long list of things that have gone terribly wrong with our once near utopian society. I am appealing to every citizen to return to our Godly and goodly fundamental principles, so Tobago can go back or even be better than it was. Please, before we reach the point of no return. Thanks in advance for a speedy response. To this URGENT APPEAL! In my search to find out what went sour with sweet Tobago, I am inviting readers to send their thoughts, comments and suggestions as to how we can right some of the wrongs. PLEASE CONTACT US AT: email: iammagazinett@gmail.com or call:(868)-714-0924/(868)-393-6725/(868)-707-3668 48

THANK YOU The old people used to say “ungrateful worse than obeah “ so in light of this fact we at I AM magazine always take the time to thank those within the community who have extended kindness and compassion to others. To T & TEC Scarborough a heartfelt thank you for being the first establishment to respond to the concerns of visually impaired individuals as highlighted in To Whom It May Concern of issue 6 Hair Here I Am. The civic minded persons at T & TEC have started work on highlighting the stairs leading into the establishment. Not only did they do this, when confronted with a situation where a visually impaired individual experienced difficulties with the stairs members of staff courteously and compassionately assisted them. Thank you T & TEC

A heartfelt thank you to Ellis James of Jarrick’s C.Tronics Industries Ltd. for being a business person with a difference. Thank you to all the writers, photographers, interviewers and general well wishers who helped to make our first issue of I Am Magazine a reality.

INSPIRATION INLET with Tammy Guy-Granderson

WHEN HOPELESSNESS STEPS IN When life is painful and nothing seems to be going in your favour don’t give up. Yes the tears will come outwardly or inwardly, but know hope is not lost, because there is always a loving God and Father who understands each tear that falls. So if life is overwhelming don’t give up just try Jesus. God is abundantly able to do more than we could ever imagine. My friends be encouraged and blessed in Jesus’ name. Amen.

PSALM 34: 4-10 (KJV) 4I

sought the LORD, and he heard me, and delivered me from all my fears. looked unto him, and were lightened: and their faces were not ashamed. 6 This poor man cried, and the LORD heard him, and saved him out of all his troubles. 7 The angel of the LORD encampeth round about them that fear him, and delivereth them. 8 O taste and see that the LORD is good: blessed is the man that trusteth in him. 9 O fear the LORD, ye his saints: for there is no want to them that fear him. 10 The young lions do lack, and suffer hunger: but they that seek the LORD shall not want any good thing. 5 They

CHILLAX CORNER QUIZ THE WIZ 1.What was David’s roll before he became King of Israel? 2. Who took up the mantle from prophet Elijah after he was taken up to heaven by a chariot of fire? 3. Who does the Bible say had an excellent spirit and was preferred?

MUMAH USED FUH SEH When yuh see marga goat ah guh wid ‘e half rope , lef’ am leh ‘im guh. Meaning: sometimes it is best to leave those who appear to be in a bad situation alone, as trying to help them may lead to your own demise. Behind back ah dawg in front face ah Mr. Dawg. Meaning: some persons are duplicit and insincere pretending to be for you while they are actually against you. Nuh same time green leaf drop ah water ‘i does rotten. Meaning: It takes time before corrupt behaviour and corrupt practices are exposed.

ANSWERS: QUIZ THE WIZ 1.Shepherd boy 2. Elisha 3. Daniel

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