Utah Valley Health & Wellness January/February 2018

Make Time to Play!

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TA B L E O F C O N T E N T S

Nutrition How You Can Create a Happy, Healthy New Year in 3 Simple Steps

Outdoor Living Life Without Limits

Featured Story Outdoor Adventure Center

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“Smart” Goals 12 The Answer is You!

Health Share a Smile

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Family Wellness

Forced Apologies 23 Pornography Addiction: An Epidemic

Fitness

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On The Cover: UVU’s Outdoor Adventure Center.

Photo by Rich Barrett.

Play Therapy with Teens: Does it Work? 26

The Myth of Multitasking 16 Behavorial Health 17 Looking for Happiness and Finding Addiction 18

Life Insurance Myths & Misconceptions 20

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Financial

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Culture

Changing Lives Through Literacy 30 Longtime Journalist Genelle Pugmire Continues Telling the Human Story

Departments

An Ethic to Live

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Letter from the Editor 5 Meet Our Staff 6 UVU Letter 8 Calendar of Events 28 Featured Directory Listings

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FROM THE EDITOR

The dead of winter can be a little disheartening. Cold and dark, it can be difficult to motivate yourself to do much of anything! A hot cup of tea and a good book by the fire seem like a pretty good idea to me.

In the past I found this approach to winter led to guilt, but I’m gradually discovering that it’s ok to slow down sometimes. Just as the seasons change, so does the ebb and flow of our lives and energy.

Taking time to rest and rejuvenate is a great way to prepare for spring and new beginnings. It not only gives our bodies a rest, it also allows our brains to slow down. A slow brain may not sound like a good thing, but letting go of some of our busy, frantic thoughts, can allow us to go deeper - to really ponder what we want out of life and where we’re going. It can be tempting to turn on the TV or zone out with social media until we’re warm enough to move again, but there are better ways to renew the mind and body. Stillness, meditation, time spent reading or exercising can allow our minds to form deeper connections and recover from the craziness of life.

After one particularly busy holiday season I spent a whole week doing almost nothing. I felt a little lazy sitting around reading and “staring at the walls”, but I needed a break. Amazingly enough, when I got back into things the next week, I knew how to move forward with several projects that had stalled out or reached dead ends. I felt reenergized and ready to take on the world again.

We can’t always take a week off, or even a day, but giving yourself permission to slow down, regroup and rest can make this season of hibernation a lot more enjoyable and may even make your life more productive in the long run! So, take some time to read, to dream, to sit by the fire, and see what great things come from living life at a slower pace!

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Wendy Thueson, MH Author, Nutrition

Travis Lott, CPT, CNS Author, Fitness

Kelli Bettridge, CPT, FNS Author, Fitness

Phil Scoville, LMFT Author, Family Wellness

Triston Morgan, PhD, LMFT Executive Editor

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Join Me in a Path to Prosperity As 2017 comes to a close, I can’t help but reflect on the very core of our UVU Woodbury School of Business ecosystem – faculty and staff who go above and beyond in helping our students’ educational and career dreams come true, and the core gift of our school’s foundation – a generous naming gift from the Woodbury Corporation donated over 10 years ago.

This forward-thinking gift was intended to ensure that Woodbury School of Business students would have access to the people, technologies, and opportunities they would need to change their career trajectories.

Ten years later, the promise of that gift has been more than fulfilled in the legacy of the Woodbury School of Business – a Bloomberg Business Lab, a full-fledged Entrepreneur Institute, a top-5-ranked Personal Financial Planning Program, one of the nation’s most award-winning student chapters of the American Marketing Association and successful graduates in multi-faceted business careers all over the world – all from within the hallowed walls of the original Woodbury School of Business building that has now, unfortunately, outgrown its future.

In 2018, I ask you to join me in a path to prosperity, carrying the baton of our early adopters and believers, so we can build a new building to support our growing business student body of now 6,000 students.

Together we can stand on the shoulders of the generous Woodbury family and other unforgettable donors by providing our students a structure that is as strong and enduring as their future – a future that includes accountants, marketers, wealth managers, entrepreneurs, auditors, hospitality professionals, and many others who will no doubt have their hallmark success in our community and around the world.

Norman S. Wright, Ph.D. Dean of the Woodbury School of Business Utah Valley University Dr. Norman Wright currently serves as the Dean of the Woodbury School of Business at Utah Valley University. He holds a Ph.D. in Management from Wharton and degrees from Brigham Young University. Prior to joining the Woodbury School of Business, he taught and served as an administrator in universities in Saudi Arabia, Dubai, Nigeria, and Hawaii.

Dr. Wright is an active scholar, having served as the editor of the Journal of Microfinance and publishing his own research on cross-cultural management and entrepreneurship in and around protected areas. He routinely engages in consulting and training activities working with such diverse organizations as Dubai Municipality, HSBC, World Wildlife Fund, China Youth Travel Services, Ajman University of Science and Technology, the Polynesian Cultural Center, and the National Entrepreneurship Centre in Saudi Arabia.

Wright also practices what he preaches by running his own entrepreneurial ventures in Hawaii with his wife, Dolly.

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I hope you too will catch the vision that the Woodbury family and others turned into a reality by making a generous donation for a new building that will help take our promising Woodbury School of Business students to the next level.

Thank you for joining me on what no doubt will be a promising path to prosperity.

Cheers,

Norman S. Wright

Norman S. Wright, Ph.D. Dean of the Woodbury School of Business Utah Valley University

2017-18

Celebrated musicians, innovative theatre-makers, and acclaimed dancers— the crème de la crème of the performing arts world—converge upon the stages of the Franklin S. Harris Fine Arts Center in this dynamic new season of exhilarating performances. Join us as we explore the ways in which artists’ work intersects with one another and with us, the audience, and compels us to be moved, inspired, and transformed.

JASON ROBERT BROWN & KELLI O’HARA Thursday, Dec. 14, 7:30 PM | de Jong Concert Hall UTAH SYMPHONY WITH HILARY HAHN Thursday, Jan. 4, 7:30 PM | de Jong Concert Hall THE PEKING ACROBATS Friday, Jan. 19, 10:00 am and 7:30 pm Saturday, Jan. 20, 2:00 pm and 7:30 pm de Jong Concert Hall OFF THE MAP: BYU INTERNATIONAL THEATRE FESTIVAL

THE SECRET LIFE OF SUITCASES AILIE COHEN PUPPET MAKER Wednesday–Saturday, Jan. 24–27 Nelke Theatre OFF THE MAP: BYU INTERNATIONAL THEATRE FESTIVAL

MACBETH | OUT OF CHAOS [ENGLAND] Thursday–Saturday, Jan. 25–27 | Pardoe Theatre

A WHOLE NEW WORLD OF ALAN MENKEN Wednesday–Thursday, March 7–8, 7:30 PM de Jong Concert Hall JAZZ AT LINCOLN CENTER ORCHESTRA WITH CHICK COREA Tuesday, March 20, 7:30 PM | de Jong Concert Hall LAWRENCE BROWNLEE Tuesday, April 3, 7:30 PM | Madsen Recital Hall THE TAMING OF THE SHREW ACTORS FROM LONDON STAGE Thursday–Saturday, April 12–14, 7:30 pm Saturday, April 14, 2:00 pm | Pardoe Theatre THE TALLIS SCHOLARS Wednesday, April 18, 7:30 PM de Jong Concert Hall

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THE FEVER | 600 HIGHWAYMEN Thursday–Saturday, Feb. 1–3, 5:00 & 8:00 PM Pardoe Theatre JAKE SHIMABUKURO Thursday, Feb. 15, 7:30 PM | de Jong Concert Hall WU MAN AND THE HUAYIN SHADOW PUPPET BAND Thursday, March 1, 7:30 PM | Madsen Recital Hall

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In an ever-increasing society of more is better, we need to take time to slow down, breath deep, and create space and time to play. Yes, play, like a child does, without any distractions, being present and enveloped in the moment. What was once innate, playing outside, is now a distant memory for many, due to the fact that we just don’t have time. How can we return to those innate roots and engage in activities where the unknown is part of the adventure?

Utah Valley University (UVU) has a department called the Outdoor Adventure Center. The program has three main goals: facilitate quality and engaging outdoor adventures, provide exceptional equipment rentals, and assist in leadership development.

Some of the adventures offered include: mountain biking, backpacking, whitewater rafting, kayaking, climbing, and skiing.

Whether the excursion is academic or purely recreational, there is always learning that occurs. Through participation, the benefits are numerous; one gains self-confidence, physical strength, mental clarity, social connections, and relief from everyday stressors.

Here is an example of one of the many adventures offered. Every fall semester a group of UVU students leave the Outdoor Adventure Center (OAC), and head south for a sea kayaking trip down the Green River. The excursion is a collaboration between the OAC and the UVU Science Department. The student’s register for one elective Biology or Geology credit. One of UVU’s goals is to provide engaged learning and promote student success, this Natural History excursion provides both. The course consists of a four-day field trip down Labyrinth Canyon and offers the participants with a real-life laboratory to study botany, geology, astronomy, and zoology.

Day #1: Arrive at Ruby Ranch, unload all the equipment, pack individual kayaks, engage in a safety talk and get on the river. The rest of the day is spent paddling, becoming comfortable in the small boat, and enjoying the beauty of the vast sandstone walls. We find a campsite and unload all necessary items for cooking and camping. After preparing dinner, time for a discussion about the night sky. The stars are amazing and we look through the small spotting scope and binoculars at the planets, galaxies, moon and clusters. Time for some zzzz’s.

Day #2: Wake up with the sun, get breakfast, and load the kayaks for another day of paddling and exploring. Today is filled with a hike to a hanging garden where we take advantage of seeing the flora of the canyon such as monkey flowers and globe mallow. Students take pictures to put into their journals that will be turned in at the end of the excursion for credit.

Additional time is spent learning about the local geological elements in the canyon before arriving at another camp ten miles downstream from last night’s camp. A quick debrief of the day’s activities, dinner, and more star gazing and socializing. What better entertainment?

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Day #3: Engage in the splendor of the surroundings through welcoming sun salutation, for those that are willing to leave the warm cozy tent. Today’s agenda is focused on river dynamics and a discussion of geological time. Hiking to Bowknot bend is the highlight for many participants. It is a seven-mile bend in river miles. Alternatively, one can hike up and over the bend and see the other side of the river, the hike is only a mile. Over time, a long time, the river will come together as the rock erodes.

Day #4: A short paddle ending at Mineral Bottom, our take-out point. It is sad to be nearing the end, but a shower sounds wonderful! As does a burger, after eating dehydrated meals and trail mix for four days. Unloading the kayaks and loading them onto the trailer takes some time and effort. Once loaded we head up and out of Canyonlands National Park.

As we drive home, the talk in the vehicle is all about how amazing the whole experience was.

Sitting back in the controlled environment of my office, I have time to reflect on the experience, this was not my first, or last, trip down labyrinth canyon. The beauty of running rivers is that every trip is a different voyage; the river flow varies, natural surrounding change, weather is unpredictable, and the participants are diverse, every trip offers a different adventure. What an amazing opportunity to watch students become more confident in their abilities to navigate a kayak, read the water, slow down, and learn a new skill or two. To me, health and wellness encompass more than just being physically fit. Health and wellness is a holistic combination of physical, mental, emotional, and social well-being. Playing outside merges all aspects of health and wellness, I believe if more individuals took the time to play outside, stress levels would decrease and happiness would increase.

Start the New Year by making time to play. The OAC is open to students, staff, faculty and community. Trips vary from credit to non-credit, day to multiday, beginner to advanced, there is something for everyone. If you want to take your family, but don’t have the equipment, we rent quality outdoor gear at affordable rates. For more information on trips and equipment rentals, visit our website www.uvu.edu/oac or give us a call today at 801-863-7052. Find us on FB and Instagram uvuoac.

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About the Author Kelli is a NASM CPT and is FNS certified. She currently trains clients at Vasa Fitness. Kelli earned her Bachelor of Science Degree in Exercise Science from Utah Valley University where she currently teaches Fitness for Life.

By Kelli Bettridge, CPT, FNS Goals, everyone’s favorite fitness topic, right? Before you tune me out, let me share with you what I have learned about goal setting in my many years in the fitness industry, and see why some goals fail and some succeed.

I’m sure you have heard the importance of setting “SMART” goals. In case you haven’t, it is a guideline for setting goals that stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Time constrained. Now what does that mean in the real world? Let me share with you a few experiences that I had personally and how these principles were applied.

A few months ago, I signed up for a half marathon in St. George. I was excited because I was doing it with a friend. As the date approached, I became more and more anxious. The time that I wanted to finish in was not as aggressive as past races that I had done, because I just wanted to have fun, but I was so busy with work, and family responsibilities that I had minimal time for preparing for the half marathon.

I was worried that I would do terrible. In the weeks leading up to the race, I was able to make my way to the treadmill a few times and managed to do a couple of long runs, so when race day came I anxiously made my way to the starting line, and ran the race. My friend who had prepared made great time. After the first couple of miles, I was no longer able to keep up, and fell behind. Eventually I made it to the finish line, and I got a decent time, but I felt terribly sick! I could not keep anything down, and it took a couple days to recover.

Now, I want to contrast that to another example. A few years ago, I decided to do a physique competition. I had a large number of clients that were interested in doing a physique competition, and in order to best be able to help them I wanted to go through it myself. I signed up for the competition and then began researching the nutrition and workout plan that I would follow. I asked friends who had done competitions in the past for pointers, and even went to teachers at my university and asked them for advice. I knew what I wanted to weigh in at and what I wanted my body fat percentage to be when I stepped on stage. As the date approached, I felt ready and excited! I knew that I had prepared as best I could, and I was happy with myself. I went on to win third place in my division.

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So, what is the big difference between those two situations? I signed up for both so there was a timeline I was following. I would say that I was realistic about what I expected to achieve on both the race and competition. I could specifically measure the goals that I had made, having set a goal for the weight and time that I wanted. So why did I have such a terrible experience on the race, and enjoy the competition so much? I believe the reason is, for the race I was more concerned with what I was doing and with the competition I was more concerned with what I was becoming.

I think that just wanting to do something is not enough to fuel the fire of motivation. It is when we have a goal of becoming something better that we find true enjoyment.

Becoming for the benefit of someone else also amplifies motivation. For example, I have found that clients who have weight loss goals motivated by a desire to have a healthier lifestyle, so they will have more energy to play with their kids, and more energy and confidence to help and love others (becoming for others) are far more successful in reaching their goals! So I challenge you to go and BECOME. I would love to hear about your goals and how you achieve them! (You can message me on social media).

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By Travis Lott, CPT, CES, FNS, WLS

A while back I was playing in a local recreation league soccer game. The game was really fun and really intense. I juked past a couple of players, then halfway down the field, I wound up a full swing to kick the ball, then I suddenly collapsed. I scored! But I had to leave the game immediately afterwards due to a dislocated sacroiliac joint. My left hip was literally 2 inches higher than my right and it was excruciatingly painful. I could barely sit or stand because of the pain. Eventually I was able to nurse it back and slowly get back into shape. Over the next 4 years, the pain would come and go. I would see chiropractors to fix the acute pain I experienced. The times it hurt the most were the times I stopped working out for a bit (it also didn’t help that I had bulged discs in my lower back from previous injuries). Finally, I was fed up after reinjuring it, again, during a basketball game. I went to see chiropractors who temporarily relieved the pain, but never fixed the issue. I couldn’t even sit in a chair for more than a minute it was so bad. I iced it, used anti-inflammatories to reduce swelling, and took it easy. The same old methods helped, but only temporarily.

This time I was determined to fix this on my own. After all, I had a certification in corrective exercise, how could I not fix this? At that point I realized the only person that can help me was me. I was sick of paying chiropractors and doctors to temporarily ease the pain, but never giving me a path forward so that I could enjoy aggressive sports, lifting heavy, snowboarding, or whatever I felt like doing. I thought to myself, shouldn’t these professionals know how to fix this? Well yeah, but their answer was surgery. Not mine. By the way, I realize that sometimes the only answer is surgery in certain cases. And that’s okay. But I wanted to give my body a chance to see if I could figure this one out on my own. Feeling frustrated, but hopeful, I started to study every article about sacroiliac joint pain related to exercise and nursing it back to full strength, if it was even possible.

There was a lot of trial and error, stumbling along the way, and figuring out which exercises were doable and which ones I needed to avoid. I slept different. I changed my posture. Patience was needed because this was a slow process. I slowly began building up my joint strength, my core strength, hip mobility, working in different planes of motion, and finally lifting heavier and heavier weight. I succeeded. I felt as if I had never experienced this injury because I was pain free and felt strong enough that I could do anything. This was probably one of the most satisfying experiences of overcoming something that seemed impossible to do.

I feel like we all have something like this, whether it is losing fat, getting stronger, eating healthier and living a healthy lifestyle, training for a difficult event, overcoming an injury, getting over an addiction, succeeding at a business or career, and so on and so forth. My challenge to you is to be patient and be hopeful. Don’t give up. If it’s worth it to you, then give it all that you can whether that be physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually. Be your best self. You have the potential and you are well worth it!

About the Author Travis Lott is a certified personal trainer, corrective exercise specialist, certified nutritionist, and certified weight-loss specialist at Leantrition. He has trained many diverse individuals and groups over the years including people of all ages, weight classes, and medical histories. Many of his clients have seen very successful results that have changed their lives. Travis is passionate about the health industry and takes pride in helping others achieve a new, healthy way of living.

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The Myth of

Multitasking

About the Author Ryan Anderson, Ph.D., LMFT, MedFT currently works as the Executive Director of the Telos Discovery Space Center, pioneering the art of simulated experiences as a therapeutic modality.

He also serves as the process addiction specialist for all Telos programs. Additionally, he is the author of the book “Screen Savvy: Creating Balance in a Digital World.

By Ryan Anderson, Ph.D., LMFT, MedFT There’s a rather important truth that all of us need to know about ourselves, and it contradicts something that we have been taught explicitly and implicitly for many years now. American business culture and the world of digital media promise us that they can create gadgets and strategies that allow us to multitask, and thus get more done at work and more out of life. This idea is immensely appealing, after all, how often do we have the feeling that there is never enough time for all of our obligations and everything that matters the most to us? Multitasking seems to be an answer for resolving the dynamic tension between our need to be productive, our need for recreation, and our need to find time for the various relationships in our lives.

There’s just one problem. Science has clearly demonstrated that the human brain is not designed to multitask. The best our brain can do is attempt to switch rapidly between multiple tasks, and as we do so, it creates an illusion of sorts that we are actually multitasking. But, as our brain switches between those various tasks, it loses efficiency, accuracy, and awareness. The process that would be 16 www.utvalleywellness.com

necessary for successful multitasking is simply not compatible with our brain structure. We can’t train ourselves to multitask. It simply doesn’t work. Sure, we may feel like we are improving in our ability to multitask as we engage in it more, but the science shows that the better we think we are at multitasking, the worse we actually are at it. Constantly multitasking doesn’t make us better at it; rather, it makes us more self-deceived and more unaware of just how distracted and ineffective we have become. It seems that the first piece of awareness we lose when we

attempt to multitask is self-awareness.

An honest and self-aware definition of multitasking would be, “The art of doing multiple things poorly.” We must resist the urge to think that being with our families while having our phones out and our social media or mobile games on, is the same as being physically, mentally, and emotionally present and engaged. We must recognize the truth that in our efforts to stay digitally connected with everyone, at all times, we fall into the trap of being genuinely unavailable to anyone, ever. There is a saying commonly attributed to Confucius: “The person who chases two rabbits catches none.” The problem with attempting to multitask is - not only do we not catch either rabbit, we end up thinking we have caught both, so we cease any meaningful efforts to catch either one.

On the other hand, there is research that shows that simply focusing on one thing at a time makes us more efficient, more effective, and much happier. There is wisdom in the maxim, “do less, accomplish more.” Make yourself fully available, one task at a time, and get more out of life.

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The term behavioral health has gained exposure and popularity more recently, particularly among medical providers and those involved in healthcare reform in the United States. Burg & Oyama1 define behavioral health as, “the psychosocial care of patients that goes far beyond a focus on diagnosing mental or psychiatric illness… [encompassing] not only mental illness but also factors that contribute to mental well-being”. This is the first of a series of articles which will introduce essential concepts and goals for integrated behavioral health treatment. Why is this important? The correlation between comorbid mental health and medical issues has mounting evidence for impacting healthcare cost, treatment outcomes, and patient satisfaction. Comorbidity in this sense refers to the presence of two co-occurring issues influencing the progression and prognosis of either condition. Well researched comorbid conditions include diabetes & depression,2 asthma & anxiety/panic,3 and chronic pain & psychosocial issues.4 The good news is we are learning innovative ways to effectively treat comorbid conditions concurrently, thereby increasing the likelihood of successful outcomes and improved quality of life for patients.

The sustainable future of healthcare in the U.S. will likely require efforts to improve consultation/communication, crossdiscipline competency, and collaboration among clinical teams. Traditionally, mental health specialists (i.e. psychologists, LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCs, CMHCs, etc.) have operated in relative isolation from the medical community. Aside from psychiatrists, who are primarily trained as Medical Doctors (MD), many practicing psychotherapists have minimal training in the biomedical model of treatment. And the inverse is true as well, wherein medical practitioners often have limited understanding of psychotherapeutic theory, psychosocial problem etiology, and effective behavioral intervention. This is exceptionally problematic for the patient because practitioners involved in treatment may have dramatically different, and often conflicting, beliefs about mental health problems and their respective solutions.

Sperry5 suggests, “the goal of health care integration is to position the behavioral health counselor to support the physician… bring more specialized knowledge… identify the problem, target treatment, and manage medical patients with psychological problems using a behavioral approach”. The future of medicine may very well be found in systems which prioritize such supportive collaboration, encourage patient-centered policy, and deliver on whole-person treatment options.

Hopefully this educational introduction to behavioral health integration can serve as a starting point for further interest and exploration of the topic. While this is a relatively new concept, I predict we will see a dramatic increase of integrative efforts emerge over the next several years as clinicians, administrators, policy makers, and third-party payers (i.e. insurance companies) recognize the cost-effectiveness and clinical efficacy of interdisciplinary collaboration.

We do not live our lives in a vacuum, and our problems are rarely isolated conditions in themselves. Therefore, we will need innovators across various disciplines to create efficient and effective systems which benefit all parties involved with the daunting task of healthcare reform. As patients, we can empower ourselves with education about how the biopsychosocial model might positively influence our role and options in treatment. So, the next time you are at the doctor’s office and they ask you questions about mood and/or behaviors, and you think, “What does this have to do with my medical problem?”, now you’ll know.

Behavioral Health

References 1 Burg, M.A., & Oyama, O. (2016). The behavioral health specialist in primary care: Skills for integrated practice. New York, NY: Springer Publishing Company.

2 de Groot, M., Golden, S.H., & Wagner, J. (2016). Psychological conditions in adults with diabetes. American Psychologist, 71(7), 552-562.

3 Ritz, R., Meuret, A., Trueba, A.F., Fritzche, A., & von Leupoldt, A. (2013).

Psychosocial factors and behavioral medicine interventions in asthma.

Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 81(2), 231-250.

4 Gatchel, R.J., McGeary, D.D., McGeary, C.A., & Lippe, B., (2014).

Interdisciplinary chronic pain management. American Psychologist, 69(2), 119-130.

5 Sperry, L. (2014). Behavioral health: Integrating individual and family interventions in the treatment of medical conditions. New York, NY: Routledge.

Integrated Care and the Future of Treatment

By Daniel Colver, M.A., LMFT About the Author

Daniel Colver is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) at the Spanish Fork Center for Couples and Families, and is completing his Doctor of Behavior Health (DBH – Clinical Track) degree from Arizona State University. His research and clinical interests include individual/couple/family therapy, systems theory, behavioral health innovation, religious studies, and existentialism. Daniel lives in beautiful Utah with his lovely wife, daughter, two dogs, and his motorcycle.

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Looking for

Happiness and Finding Addiction

By Ben Pearson , LCSW

Our community is the epitome of mainstream America. We have deeply rooted family values, safe streets, moral standards, and most families stand guarded against outside influences that threaten our happiness. Recently, however, Utah achieved the 7th highest drug overdose rate in the nation. How can a community named Happy Valley have some of the highest rates of adult mental illness and teenage suicide in the country?

Treating addiction is clearly a necessity.

However, explaining these alarming and confusing statistics may also come down to understanding some myths, or assumptions, about happiness.

Myth No. 1: I Should Be Happy All the Time Some aspects of our local community amplify and reinforce the well-intended message that “good people” or “my kid” should not or would not encounter pain. At times, we may even feel entitled to getting our way and therefore feel betrayed when we stress and we encounter unwanted but normal life struggles. These challenges show up as: loneliness, divorce, work stress, relationship issues, domestic violence, bullying, prejudice, low self-esteem, and chronic pain to mention a few.

Myth No. 2: If I’m Not Happy, Something is Wrong with Me For decades, mental health symptoms have been twisted and misunderstood to the point that painful or overwhelming thoughts and feelings are now presumed to be products of weak, faulty, and unworthy minds. Labels like ‘Anxious’, or ‘Addict’ are now used so frequently and in such negative ways it distracts us from the real issue at hand. Those labels not only build a wall but also mask the reality that we all struggle in similar ways. Combine these objectifying terms with a competitive culture this myth grows more powerful and exponential.

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Myth No. 3: F or a Better Life, I Must Get Rid Of Negative Feelings Every single one of us experiences self-judgment, fear, and shame of not measuring up. It can be overwhelming and discouraging. Unfortunately, we live in a culture that promotes numbing and hiding as the solution to any pain or discomfort.

Anger, over-working, blaming, overbooking schedules, and isolation has been dependable sources of distraction for years.

Some argue how safe and how little impact these behaviors have on themselves and others. Ironically, they assume that dependent or ‘addictive’ thinking and behaviors are only appropriate if describing illicit drugs and alcohol. Recently, more camouflaged options like sugar, caffeine, over the counter medication, smoking, power drinks, and trendy diets have become legal and justified ways to remedy unwanted thoughts or deal with social pressures. All of these behaviors, and others, are designed to alter reality, enhance social performance, and reduce stress. Unbeknownst to us, we end up trading one form of addiction for another.

Everyone considers himself or herself an unwilling and/or unaware accomplice and each would avoid the road of undue suffering if possible. Here are three practical take home ideas that can help you start breaking yourself free from the shackles of these myths and identify and strengthen your core values so you can stay connected with reality.

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Take time and energy to notice core values that you have and may share with others. Write down and/or share thoughts, feelings, and memories that help identify and strengthen your core values. Yoga, meditation, and other quiet activities will improve focus and self-awareness.

2. Compare less. Look for opportunities to learn about and accept the uniqueness of others. Admitting and accepting our weakness and vulnerability to others actually creates meaningful emotional and social bonds.

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React less. Take a deep breath and refocus values that you can practice today.

All of us long for acceptance, empathy, and connection from others but sometimes get stuck in the attractive web of addictive behaviors. If help is needed, reach out to others or professionals. Enjoy the search for happiness in the everyday pursuit of values, not distractions.

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Life Insurance Myths & Misconceptions

By David Mcarthur

Growing up, I would look through the newspaper to find the sports section, the funnies, and any other interesting articles I could find. However, I always seemed to come across the obituaries. I would stop and read them. Most people seemed to live a great life: loving families, great jobs, and lots of extracurricular activities. But, the thing that affected me the most was when at the end of the obituary, it would state something along the lines of, “in lieu of flowers please send money.” Today it looks a little different. There are no more newspaper obituaries, but instead online and social media declarations and announcements. Yet, one thing looks the same; instead of “in lieu of…” it now states “gofundme” or tells where an account has been set up at a local bank. The wording is different, but the intent is the same! That is why I strongly believe we need to address the topic of Life Insurance Myths and Misconception.

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About the Author David and his business partner, McKay Ercanbrack, are licensed insurance agents with nearly 20 years of experience helping families find and procure the right insurances. They own Inside Insurance brokerage and have thousands of clients throughout the world.

1) Life insurance is too expensive.

“86% of Americans say they haven’t bought life insurance because it’s “too expensive,” yet they overestimate its true cost by more than 2X”.* Believe it or not it’s not as expensive as you think. It could be half as much as you think.

2) Life insurance through my employer is enough.

“33% of Americans say they don’t have enough life insurance, including one-fourth who already own a policy”.* Some employers provide some life insurance for their employees; however, they normally offer 1 to 2 times your annual salary. Most likely that number doesn’t include commissions, bonuses, and other income. It is recommended that you have 8-12 times the annual income in life insurance coverage. (You may want to use a calculator to determine specific need.) Also, if you ever change jobs, get terminated, or retire, in most cases your life insurance coverage will not go with you. Depending on age and health, it could be less expensive to purchase and own your own policy.

“Those with life insurance carry enough to replace their income for just 3.6 years.

How would their families get by after that?”* 3) Stay-at-home parents don’t need it.

“Imagine if something were to happen to the stay-at-home spouse in your family. The breadwinner may need to hire someone to clean and take care of the kids, and that can cost a lot of money. Unless your family would have that extra income to spare, you may need life insurance on both spouses,” advises Marvin Feldman, President and CEO of life insurance non-profit organization, Life Happens. This also gives the remaining parent time to grieve, take care of kids, and take time off of work.

4) I’m too old or too young for life insurance.

Life insurance provides for the needs of those left behind.

There are lots of different options for coverage no matter what stage of life you are in. And, as long as there is a need there should be coverage in place. Depending on age and health, different companies will provide different options. Work with a professional to help you cover that need.

“85% of Americans say most people need life insurance, yet only 62% have coverage.”* In fact, “3% say their cell phone is the most important, and 20% have cell phone insurance.”* Every person’s situation is unique and different. Some need a lot of coverage and some may not need any at all. But what I do know is that families need to be informed and educated on their options. Each person needs a plan…and “gofundme” isn’t a plan.

*LIMRA and LIFE Foundation 2013 Insurance Barometer Study (www.lifehappens.org)

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By Wendy P. Thueson, M.H. Life Coaching is the favorite part of my job. I love sharing personal stories and real-world experiences as I help clients overcome addictions to food and other substances. When they understand that challenges with food are just symptoms of greater core issues, often related to emotions, they begin to overcome them as I teach how to change the behaviors for good.

I was a cake decorator for over thirty years. This was my life’s passion, but it ultimately ruined my health. Giving this dream up was a huge sacrifice but one that led to greater health, energy and joy in my life.

From this experience and others, I understand what it feels like to be an addict and the behaviors associated with it. I also understand the emotions and fears that come when giving up comfort and an artificial kind of love.

Food is meant for fuel, nutrition and energy but we take it a step further and use it for comfort, love, and numbing out so we don’t have to feel what is truly going on inside. Emotional eating creates health challenges like addiction, obesity, fatigue, mental instability, and eating disorders of all kinds. It is fine to derive pleasure from food, but that should be a secondary result of making healthy food choices.

We know now that scientists have engineered processed food to increase our cravings and desire to keep coming back and purchasing their products. Sweet tastes, for example are what we are biologically programmed from infancy to gravitate toward. Mother’s milk is sweet and toddlers often choose fruit over vegetables. High fructose corn syrup is added to many products from ketchup to cereal to satisfy the cravings for sweets. The unfortunate consequence of eating it, however, is that it turns off the mechanism in our brain saying we are full, so we continue to eat until we are stuffed or feeling sick.

Processed sugar feeds candida and causes a host of health problems if eaten regularly over time.

So, we are not completely to blame for our addictions, but there are things we can do to change our behaviors around food and make wiser choices that will reap greater benefits. As we enter a new year, I’d like to give 3 suggestions to help you make better decisions before going into the kitchen.

Wendy P. Thueson, M.H. is also known as Raw Chef Wendy. She is a professional Chef, Master Herbalist and Raw Food Lifestyle Coach. She suffered from chronic fatigue for 28 years, debilitating neck and back pain, brain fog, stuttering, and Grave’s disease, to name a few. After eating a high amount of raw foods and using herbs medicinally, she now lives symptom, pain and medication free. She educates all ages through hands-on classes, speaking, on television, radio and in magazines.

She is an author of several books and online programs and helps others learn how to create happier lives. Find her at www.rawchefwendy.com

1. CREATE A PLAN: People who fail to plan, plan to fail right? Look through your recipe books and decide what to make for breakfast, lunch, dinner and snacks. Go shopping and get the ingredients needed.

2. PREPARE AHEAD: Prepare your meals ahead and refrigerate or freeze them for use throughout the week to save time and money.

3. ASK YOURSELF QUESTIONS: Sometimes we eat because we’re bored or tired and we aren’t even hungry. Here is a series of questions you can ask yourself before going to the refrigerator or pantry for a snack. a. What do I want to eat? b. Is it something that will give my body nutrition, fuel and sustained energy? c. Why do I want it? d. What emotion is tied to this food? e. Will _____ serve me for the better or worse? f. What physical symptoms will I feel after eating _______ ? g. Is it worth it?

Asking yourself these questions will help you become conscious of your decisions and help make better ones. If you want to eat it, just because, then own that and don’t make yourself feel bad. Good habits are learned as we practice over time. Taking baby steps forward will help us see and feel the progress. Create a Happy New Year!

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By Tyler Schilhabel When I first became affiliated with Wasatch Adaptive Sports, I didn’t know what to expect. I had worked with a few other adaptive programs and my experience had been good, but not great. I felt like I was just passed off as another client wanting a quick thrill on the slopes and left to go on my way. I immediately found this would not be the case when it came to WAS.

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I finally had instructors who cared and had confidence in my ability to become an independent skier. For the first time, I was able to ski without being tethered. Every instructor I have worked with at WAS has listened to my goals and has actively helped me to achieve them. This is why WAS means so much to me. I came to become a better skier and ultimately ended up with a group of friends who I consider to be like family. WAS employees and volunteers have a deep desire and love for the people they help and see any adaptive athlete as another human being who just likes to shred or bike in a different way. That is what draws everybody into the program, the ability to leave your disability at the door, get away for a few hours and just live.

Being involved in sports has always been my outlet from life and it is no different now that I am disabled. Wasatch Adaptive Sports is my saving grace. I know I would not be in the place I am today if not for WAS. They have helped me become a better skier and a healthier, more active person. I am more independent in all aspects of my life and most importantly I am a happier person because WAS allows me to leave my disability behind and live life without limits.

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By Carol Kim My four-year-old daughter placed herself in the middle of our living room to play with blocks.

She was so engrossed with building a wooden castle that she didn’t notice her two-year-old sister walking towards her with her right arm stretched far back to slap her older sister across the head.

When that slap came, my older daughter went from happy to surprise to anger and then lots of tears. She ran towards me seeking justice. “Mommy, she hit me!” My younger daughter remained still, looking innocent. I immediately walked over to her with my older daughter in hand and said, “Hands are not for hitting. Say sorry for hitting please.” I’m sure many parents can relate to this scenario. Teaching our children the skills for making amends is an important life skill and is not so much about saying the words “I’m sorry”.

There is a belief amongst some parents that enforcing premature apologies on children is not effective. Their reasoning is that premature apologies teach children to lie and encourage insincerity.

It also creates shame and embarrassment. Other studies show that young children have the ability to be empathetic even before they can speak; therefore, parents should encourage apologies (Smith, Chen, Harris; 2010). As I reflected on my research and my knowledge as a Marriage and Family Therapist, I recognized several things we can do as parents to create productive apologies: 1) Keep yourself in check: It’s frustrating to see your children fight, especially when it happens at inconvenient times. However, it’s important to remain calm and model for your children how to handle frustration.

2) Be immediate when possible: When you see an incident occur between your children, address it. The best time for learning and growth is when the incident is still fresh in their minds. However, when there are time constraints and the issue cannot be address right away, it is important to tell your children when and where it will be addressed. Be consistent when using the alternative and follow through.

3) Ask instead of tell: Avoid lecturing. Ask questions instead. “Tell me what happened?” “What were you feeling when you hit your sister?” Validate the expressed emotion and help them to understand that it is okay to feel frustration and sadness; however, it is not okay to hit or throw things. Help them to also make the connection between emotion and action. “Look at her face, how do you think she’s feeling right now?” Asking these types of questions enhances empathy.

4) Problem Solve: Ask questions about what they think they should do when they feel frustrated or sad. Help them to come up with solutions. Ask questions about how they can make things better with their sibling/s.

5) Have them practice a do-over: When your child identifies the solution, have them practice it with the other sibling/s. Praise them for their efforts at the end.

What is more important than the phrase “I’m sorry” is what children take away from the experience. We can facilitate and enhance learning opportunities by not focusing on the phrase “I’m sorry” but instead more on what can be learned from this situation and how can we improve.

About the Author Carol Kim is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist at the American Fork Center For Couples and Families. When she’s not working, she enjoys spending time with her husband and two daughters.

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Pornography Addiction: An Epidemic

By Drs. Matt Brown and Mike Olson Pornography is a big business. Americans spent 97 billion dollars on pornography over the past five years. The monetary cost of this epidemic is only a part of the real cost of this problem in our country. Over the past decade, increasing attention has been given to the damaging effects of pornography on the brain and, by extension, the lives of individuals and families. The accessibility of pornographic material and the multitude of technologic means by which it comes into our lives has brought this issue increasingly into the spotlight. In fact, you may be reading this because pornography has impacted you, personally, or someone you love.

There has been controversy in the psychiatric literature about whether those who struggle with pornography are “addicted.” Whether or not it is formally designated in the professional literature as an addictive disorder, it certainly has been shown to affect the brain and the lives of its users in ways consistent with other addictive disorders.

As with any addiction, an understanding of the process is key. Let’s start with how the brain responds to pornography. Our brains are designed to catalog our experiences with the end goal of preserving life and eliminating threats to our safety. Essentially, our brains are effective at remembering what feels good and what doesn’t. While this process is complex, a basic understanding of a few key brain chemicals is critical.

The brain responds to pornography by releasing a powerful chemical called dopamine. Dopamine is released whenever we have pleasurable experiences. The release of dopamine and another powerful chemical called epinephrine (adrenaline) floods the brain in connection with pornography. With repeated exposure, a neural pathway in the brain is created that links arousal and associated neuro-chemicals dopamine and adrenaline with pornography use. As pornography exposure and dopamine release increases, dopamine receptors are eliminated. This “flooding” of the brain creates habituation or tolerance, resulting in the need for even greater stimulus (more explicit and “hard-core” pornography, novelty and intensity) to achieve the same effect.

Dr. Donald L. Hilton, Jr. MD, a neurosurgeon at the University of Texas, has written extensively about the effects of pornography on the brain. His research and other reviews conclude that the effects of pornography on the brain are comparable to potent drugs, such as cocaine. He also explains that when the body orgasms, the brain produces a particular neurotransmitter called “oxytocin” which creates

About the Author Dr. Mike Olson is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Texas. He graduated with his Master’s degree from Brigham Young University and his Ph.D. from Kansas State University. Following graduate study, he completed a post-doctoral research and clinical fellowship in Behavioral Medicine from the UTMB, Galveston.

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bonding. Oxytocin is also secreted in the brains of babies and moms during breastfeeding. So we are literally bonding to pornography (a digital image) when we reach climax. In an article published in the Harvard Crimson, Dr. Hilton states that “pornography emasculates men—they depend on porn to get sexually excited and can no longer get off by having sex with their women alone. What happens when you are addicted to porn is that you crave it. Real sex even becomes a poor substitute for porn, and you lose interest.” 1 A final neurophysiologic effect of pornography is the damage created to the impulse control center of the brain, the pre-frontal cortex. With constant flooding of the brain with dopamine and epinephrine, there is a reduction in size and control of this area.

Essentially, the ability to self-regulate and exercise impulse control is reduced until, ultimately, the addiction drives appetites, desires, and behaviors. As individuals fall into the grip of this addiction, they often experience other effects, such as isolation, depression, anxiety, sexual dysfunction, and relationship distress, among others – all of which spiral the individual away from resources that can lift and help them toward recovery and healing.

As awareness of this issue increases, so do resources aimed at educating and assisting those affected by pornography addiction.

A relatively new campaign called “Fight The New Drug” (www. fightthenewdrug.org) is an excellent resource for those seeking more information regarding the impact of pornography. There are also many religious/spiritually-based programs available,2 many of which are based on the twelve-step program utilized by Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). http://www.thecrimson.com/article/2011/4/7/porn-men-addiction-pornography/ https://addictionrecovery.lds.org/family-and-friends/help?lang=eng

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About the Author Dr. Matt Brown is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. He holds a doctorate degree from Texas Tech University and a master’s degree from Brigham Young University. He is currently Assistant Professor and Program Director in the Marriage and Family Therapy program at the University of Houston-Clear Lake and the Clinic Manager at the South Shore Center for Couples and Families.

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Play Therapy with Teens:

Does it Work?

By Alexis Lee, LAMFT

As a therapist who works with teenagers, I can tell you that there is often a lot of resistance to therapy and talking about what is happening in their life. In these instances, one effective way of doing therapy is by using play/art therapy. However, I have also heard from a lot of parents and teenagers that they do not think play therapy will work and they take their child to another therapist. So, is play therapy effective with teenagers?

First, what is play therapy and why does it exist? For me, as a therapist, play therapy is any time that games, crafts, music, etc. is used in place of talk therapy. I have found great success in using play therapy because play therapy allows for different ways of expressing what is happening in one’s world. Play therapy allows people to express themselves without being held back by words. Of course, this is very effective for children because they can fully express themselves without needing a complete vocabulary; however, for some problems words are not adequate to express what is happening in one’s world.

With teenagers, there can be many reasons why they are resistant to talking to a therapist (fear, shame/embarrassment, rebellion) but one often overlooked reason is that they do not trust the therapist with their innermost feelings and thoughts. Most people in general do not want to talk to a complete stranger about their problems. For this reason, starting with a game/activity in the first session can help a teenager relax and begin to build a relationship with the therapist.

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might be able to help the therapist fully understand their situation. For example, a teenager may not be able to comprehend why having their best friend ditch them for someone else makes them so depressed.

However, if they can draw a picture of what is happening inside their head, or use toys to build what is happening in their heart, they can help the therapist About the Author understand that they feel alone, betrayed, Alexis (Lexi) Lee is a and worried about losing their social status.

Licensed Associate Marriage Lastly, sometimes it is more and Family Therapist. Her comfortable to talk about what is going on specialties involve play from a distant point of view. For example, therapy, family therapy, adjustment disorders and it may be too painful for a teenager to working with children/ admit that they need help; but, if they are adolescents. Originally from playing a game and the question comes up, Arizona, Lexi earned a “How do you think Sally would feel about Bachelor of Arts degree in needing to ask for help with anxiety?” they Psychology from Arizona State University and a can actually talk about what is going on Master of Science degree inside them without worrying about being in Marriage and Family judged or getting over emotional.

Therapy from BYU. In conclusion, in my experience, play therapy with teenagers does work. It works because it gives them tools to build a relationship with the therapist. It works because it gives them the means to express themselves beyond words. It works because it gives them freedom from judgment and fear. This is why I use play therapy with teenagers.

An Ethic to Live Building Barriers to Suicide Around Ourselves & Those We Love

By Laura Skaggs Dulin MS, LAMFT

In cities throughout the world, notable high buildings and bridges increasingly have additional fencing built atop of them with the specific purpose of preventing suicides.

Suicide fences tend to work because research has shown that suicidal actions are frequently impulsive, hence such fences serve to forestall that impulse and buy individuals precious time to further think about their decisions. In About the Author studies of suicide fences, it appears that individuals don’t Laura Skaggs Dulin holds a leave such barriers to go look for another bridge or tall master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from building to end their lives from, but instead return to the San Diego State University. business of living for yet another day.

She currently sees clients at Presently suicide is the leading cause of death among the Spanish Fork Center for young people ages 10-17 here in Utah, and over the last Couples and Families and at decade, it’s also doubled amongst adults in our state. As Encircle LGBT Youth and Family Resource Center in concerned friends, neighbors and parents, how do we help Provo. our community build more barriers to suicide; protecting and empowering those we love? Over the next year, I’ll be writing a series of articles in answer to this question; offering my perspective as both a therapist, who has stood on sacred ground in helping others walk back from suicidal thinking, and as one who’s felt and ultimately rejected the dark pull to end my life amidst heavy times.

Perhaps you’ve already noted that there’s no way to build suicide fences everywhere or to somehow block all of the endless ways in which someone might consider ending their life. Sound public policies on prevention and physical barriers like suicide fences are only some of the important ways to help. So in addition to these forms of prevention, the focus of my writing will be on how to build barriers to suicide directly into the thinking and values of individuals, and into the culture of our community as a whole. In this first article, I want to introduce how we help foster an ethic to live within ourselves and in others as a key barrier to suicide.

An ethic to live means valuing our lives and holding a commitment within ourselves to continue living — even when we’re unsure of how we’ll cope or move forward. In my experience, helpful conversations about consciously building an ethic to live, begin by first taking care to turn our attention to the reality that to live is to be vulnerable to an array of difficult life experiences, with the potential to evoke within us the thought to end one’s life to escape them. Throughout human history, individuals and peoples have had to confront extremely painful and unjust challenges which have overwhelmed their sense of being able to continue on, and it’s important to acknowledge that when we confront such considerable pain, it is the most human thing in the world to want relief from it. This is real; excruciating human suffering beyond one’s current sense of how to reduce or stop it is real, and in these concentrations of pain, we may find ourselves having suicidal thoughts.

When we acknowledge and honor that such excruciating life experiences do show up for many of us, it’s then that we can locate where we need to begin building internal fences to prevent suicide. It’s here that we recognize the need to develop a strong ethic to live even though there are times that we might not yet fully know how we’ll cope or be able to see brighter ways forward. It’s also here that we find the need to define as individuals what makes life worth living with specificity to our own life experiences, as well as the need to find a listener who we can turn to and voice what’s going on inside of us.

As you navigate life’s difficulties, no matter how hard things may get, make the commitment now to live and identify your personal reasons to do so. Additionally, identify suicidal thoughts as a sign to find a listener who you feel safe enough to talk to. It’s worth thinking about right now who it is you might feel comfortable turning to during your hardest times. By doing so, you’ll begin to build your own internal fence between you and suicide as well as have greater insight as to how to help others you care about to do the same. * If you or someone you care about is currently having thoughts of ending their life, caring help is available 24/7 by texting 741741 from anywhere in the USA or you can call 1-800-2738255 to speak directly with a Counselor from the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.

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FITNESS Kelli Bettridge www.level212.com (435) 559-4133 Travis Lott www.leantrition.com (801) 473-1887

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INSURANCE Inside Insurance 2975 W Executive Parkway, STE 178 Lehi, UT 84043 www.insideinsurance.net (801) 361-2836

LGBTQ SERVICES

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NEWS Daily Herald www.heraldextra.com

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WELLNESS CENTERS

Project Read 550 N University Ave. Provo, UT 84601 www.projectreadutah.org (801) 852-6654

Advanced Wellness Center 205 N Main St. Spanish Fork, UT 84660 www.gethealthyutah.com (801) 798-2515

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InBalance Wellness and Yoga 436 W. 800 N Orem, UT 84097 www.inbalancewellnesscenter.com (801) 691-1090

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EDUCATION UVU 800 W University Pkwy Orem, UT 84058 www.uvu.edu (801) 863-INFO (4636)

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Literacy Changing Lives Through

By Nathan Hubert

Think about your life. Consider each of the opportunities that you’ve had in the past, as well as everything you’re involved in right now. Contemplate the years of schooling you’ve gone through, the various jobs you’ve held, and the successes that you’ve experienced.

Now ponder this question: how would your life be different if you couldn’t read or write?

In a society that is largely built on being able to read and write, it’s difficult to imagine what life would be like without literacy skills. For example, in order to get a job, there is a great deal of writing involved: an applicant must locate a job opening, complete a job application, and write a resume. Then, if an applicant happens to land a job, there’s no telling how much their success in the workplace will depend on their ability to read and write, as it so often does. There are similar difficulties in obtaining a driver’s license, applying for and succeeding in school, enrolling a child in school, going to the doctor, and even going shopping.

People who live in Utah Valley – a place known for its educational values and prestigious universities – often don’t realize that illiteracy is as big a problem here as it is in the rest of the world. In fact, there are nearly 30,000 adults who struggle with literacy in Utah County alone.

Each of these individuals truly understands what an illiterate life is like, and they chillingly describe it as “terrifying.”

Angelica Rowley, a resident of Provo, used to be one of these struggling individuals. In describing her experience, she said: “I felt like I didn’t belong. I always felt inferior and embarrassed. I almost ran away.” Although she did all in her power, Angelica was unable to find reliable employment because she struggled with literacy. Eventually, she was hired to clean houses, but would often get lost on the way to work because she couldn’t read the bus map or schedule.

Luckily, Angelica was able to learn about programs in the Provo area that provide literacy classes and one-on-one tutoring for adults in need.

She sought out Project Read, an organization that has been serving illiterate adults in Utah County since 1984. She studied closely with her assigned tutor for a few years, gaining the literacy skills that she lacked, and applied her newfound knowledge in order to experience a better life.

In the same year that she graduated from Project Read, Angelica graduated with honors from an adult high school and enrolled in college. Later, she found work at a care center, where she was frequently recognized for her excellently-written reports. Angelica was quickly promoted to train the facility’s new employees, and it was through this position that she met and trained the man who would become her husband. At their wedding, Angelica’s maid of honor was her tutor from Project Read.

Project Read’s tagline, “Changing Lives Through Literacy,” is a phrase that Angelica takes to heart. “How did literacy change my life?

In so many ways! I was able to go to school, feel more confident, and not be scared or embarrassed anymore. I was able to read and write perfectly and not have any problems. I was able to communicate with people and actually marry one of those people.”

Angelica and her husband live in Provo with their children, and even though she’s not working outside the home, she’s still able to use her literacy skills. “Sometimes I help [my husband] with his grammar and spelling. He’s like: ‘how do you spell this?’, and I’m grateful to be able to help him.”

About the Author Nathan is an information junkie, a spontaneous adventurer, and a nonprofit advocate. He is currently pursuing public relations and nonprofit management at BYU and works with Project Read to encourage literacy in the community. He lives in Provo with his wife, Sheila, and is hoping this winter won’t be too cold.

If someone you know struggles with literacy, refer them to Project Read!

Office Hours: Tuesday-Thursday from 10 AM – 8 PM | Friday from 10 AM – 4 PM | Saturday from 10 AM – 2 PM | Closed Sunday and Monday 550 N University Avenue #215, Provo, UT 84601 | info@projectreadutah.org | 801.448.READ (7323) 30 www.utvalleywellness.com

Longtime journalist Genelle Pugmire continues telling the human story Many journalists are very talented at what they do, and then there are those select few who truly have a nose for news.

Genelle Pugmire is one of those. She currently covers Provo and Orem cities and faith news for the Daily Herald, but in her 40-year career in news media, she’s covered just about everything.

She went to Brigham Young University on a full-ride scholarship to study communications. She started at BYU’s newspaper, The Daily Universe, just a few weeks out of high school in 1974. In those early years, Pugmire worked with many others who spent their own careers in journalism, including those who worked at the Daily Herald, the Deseret News and beyond.

Pugmire herself actually started her professional career at the Deseret News, when it had a Utah County bureau. She was the administrative assistant to the bureau chief, but started writing feature pieces about six months in.

“I love writing about people, and about their lives, and the contribution different people have made to our lives and the community. In a way, it’s my way of saying, ‘Here’s the good news.’ We should always have at least one good news piece on A-1 every day, because we’re reading so much sad and bad and garbage,” she said.

She wrote features and covered various cities for the Deseret News for 24 years. She was there when Micron announced it was going to build in Lehi, and she was there to uncover a crime by a city attorney in Springville. The Deseret News laid her off in 2008 after closing down the Utah County Bureau.

Pugmire started freelancing for the Daily Herald.

Her work as a correspondent led to a full-time job at the Herald, and she’s been there ever since, funneling her passion for covering important Utah County news into her work.

“Local journalists, here, we are humans. We have children who go to school with the people who have their children go to school here. We pay property taxes and sales taxes,” she said about the local journalism field. “And we are very interested in people - because what we do is tell stories. Even the hard breaking news is a form of a story that is putting out information in such a way that people can receive it.”

That said, she’s been able to tell many people’s stories that have touched her life. Recently she put together a special section focused on the life of LDS President Thomas S. Monson.

Being able to go behind and beyond the title of “prophet” and tell the human life details of Monson’s life was a delight for www. heraldextra.com | Follow us:

Nose for news her. And when his family ordered 20 additional copies of that section, it was an honor.

“I have had grand opportunities to interview wonderful people, and people who have made a difference,” Pugmire said, recalling stories on Shirley and Monroe Paxman, Kay Bradford, and President Matthew Holland. “Their contributions to the community have been great.”

She’s also covered difficult and heartbreaking things in her time as well. And she’s had her share of hate mail - especially when covering local politics (a beat that honestly, really isn’t her favorite.) But when she gets complaints and compliments on the same article, she feels like she’s doing a good and fair job.

“You just flow with those things, as a local journalist doing local stories about local things that change their lives,” she said.

“We are here to tell the human story.”

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